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Dan is absolute perfection with his teachings. This video was dated 4 years ago, yet is STILL relevant. What a master at his craft and helpful to so many! 🙏💜
Dan, I listen to your channel for two specific people in my life. For one, I can almost feel my limpy backbones calcify into a spine AND for the other person, I’m learning how to listen and speak with love. Thank you so much!!!
I absolutely LOVE you! You make the thought of dealing with these people fun! And I love your humor! So glad I subscribed! Thank you so much! I know someone who gets walked on regurally and have been trying to coach this 20 something person for awhile now, but never got to far. You do it so perfectly and quickly that it is easy to understand and explain your message! Thank you again!
Hey A C: One reason you might take the training/thoughts/solutions/advice I offer is that it is not directed personally and specifically at YOU as an unsolicited critique. As I explained to the woman who believes me to be a misogynist who commits mental violence against women (ahem), advice is empty, hollow, and a waste of time if it is NOT solicited and if it comes from a place of "righteousness." In other words, if someone is judging you or your work and you didn't WANT the critique or comments, you won't be open to them--even from a boss or parent. Two elements of advice being accepted would be: The person receiving it solicits it (which you do by coming here to see whats up), and the person receiving it perceives that the advice comes from a place of love, concern and compassion--and a desire to see the recipient do well. STOP BY AT 3:00 CENTRAL FOR THE LIVE SHOW. I've checked the internet and it actually looks as though it's a GO so spread the word. Dan
@@MK-ih6wp Just Marty and I--and my mother says that is more than enough :) Marty is ten months older than I am. I'm going to have him on live in December when he comes here for a visit.
I know this video is 4 years old but I just discovered your channel and I am absolutely in love with it! You have the best personality your videos are extremely insightful and informative and you get the information across in the best way possible I could not be more thrilled to have been introduced to this thank you for imparting your wisdom and humor with all of us!!
Many thanks for your testimonial, Nicole. You'll find videos much older and you'll find one done yesterday. Hopefully the messages all have meaning for you.
@@TheWizardOfWords Absolutely! I'm really glad you're still posting! I work as a 911 operator at a PD in an extremely high stress environment. I don't know how much knowledge you have of police culture within departments (in addition to interacting and working with Fire and EMS) and the unique challenges we face with all the moving parts, stress, authority, power struggles, ego etc...but I'd love to hear your thoughts and advice if so! I've already been able to apply some of your suggestions and they've worked very well. Keep up the good work!
I love this channel! You are powerful and highly intelligent! This account shows you can have power through tactfulness rather than brute strength and violence 🧘🏿♀️
@@azmomconnection then you can reply: "well, if I feel I am failing, I know there is a wise person like you I can come to for advice" ...most people will get the sarcasm ;)
Hi Dan I find myself in the position of inspecting and trying to get the staff to pick up the pace. Some people are wonderful housekeepers. Others seem unable to follow a routine. They take longer to complete their route and it shows. The customers, the teachers, are unhappy. These random staff members really dislike my comments. I need suggestions for improvements. Of course, who wants to hear their behavior is unacceptable. I know I don’t. The relationship has gone south. I am not the only desperate staff who has tried to communicate with is person who cannot seem to follow a routine. This is classroom cleaning. The quickest routine is: pull the trash, redline the container. Wipe down all horizontal surfaces. Clean the floor. Turn out the lights and close the door. Do the same thing in the next classroom. Of course there are other items to clean, however perhaps that could come later once the above routine is learned and mastered. The fliting from One room to another, never completing each room. I thought I was loving in the 3 step routine delivery, but apparently not. How do I fix this? Thank you A
Lisa, thank you for that compliment. "Smoothly powerful" hopefully means effective while being mindful of the needs of others. I think it should be the communication goal of every one of us. Sometimes we hit the mark. And sometimes we don't. But we should always be aiming to hit the mark.
Tomorrow when😂 my coworker is gonna throw a nasty noodles while "speaking" to her friend in the phone .. I will watch this and I guess i will laugh so hard like i did now😂😂😂😂😂😂
i got talking to a women on fb who proved to be a empath in which she happened to know things about me how ever she started criticizing me in relations to to what she understood about me the joys of dealing with someone like this online is you can just press on block lol
Hi Dan, last time I wrote I was a university student, now I graduated and have my first job as a social worker. I have this grumpy colluege who keeps controlling me, specifically he keeps staring at my screen and sometimes coments on it. He is a coworker, not my boss. Last time my boss asked me to participate on an online class for collecting money for social projects and I was rewatching that class on my computer with headphones when this old grumpy coworker asked me with an arrogant smirk what I was doing. I dont know how to react to him. Also I just want to say that I dont care about age or anything, but I feel like this man is really grumpy and aggresive towards me because he things he has nothing to loose because of being a few years from retirement, and her in germany the older people get the more they feel entitled to be grumpy. My boss is supporting me band told me not to mind him, but it bothers me and my boss avoids direct confrontation with him. And I dont want to have another fight because I sit in a small office with this guy.
"Mark, I just want to point out that every minute you spend looking at my screen is a minute you're not looking at your own and doing your job." I would keep saying that. Don't answer his questions. Don't interact at all. There is no need to interact and no need to fear. Just do your job and use the above line as a broken record. No matter what he says, you respond with "That may be but, I just want to point out that . . . ." Don't let him get you off message. In time, it will no longer be any fun to bug you.
Galliano they are two different things. However, before you buy, write jean@danoconnortraining, tell her what you might be looking for, and see what she can do for you. She's great.
Good idea, spendy, and not on my priority list right now--but under consideration. Are you applying for this job? Will you do it out of the kindness of your heart? If so, let me know Wes.
Oh yes you are speaking truth Dan I've dealt with people like this using passive aggressiveness towards me and they love giving backhanded compliments and starting drama .
Dan...... you are the best....and funny...... even though I really seek the communication skills you share.....I am also crazy entertained with your sarcasm. You make my day!!!!
This is what I learned from your video. People don't give out free advise. They also don't give out really good information unless they love them. If it's not being given with love, then they are just dumping some garbage on you. So just ask yourself, is this message coming from a place of love? If not, you can uncover the hidden motive. Once again, really great information. :-) Thank you for sharing the video. In my personal communication style, I always want to come from a place of love 💕.
Great stuff -- I love the body check and the way you explain that we teach others how to communicate with us. Bonus points for invoking the Rapture and turning over tables in the temple. 😅
Wow! This lesson is chock-full of goodies! I love your videos! Thank you so much Dan! I unfortunately, work with some nasty "know it all" sharks who are "boss wanna-be's." This information will be helpful.
Yes, the Step Out of the Shadows and Speak course that you'll find (either in audio only or audio/video/materials) in the shop at danoconnortraining.com. If you're interested in that course, write Jean at jean@danoconnortraining.com and she'll shoot a coupon to you--save you some money--
The late great Haim Ginott spoke about the importance of describing, versus judging...as it invites anxiety. People who criticize were often themselves criticized & judged by important people in childhood. The book "Between Parent and Child" by Ginott is a real sanity saver for all. Thank you for the aid your videos bring.
And... when you say these phrases confidently... do not react to their reactions. Stay calm, shift conversation to something else, and remove yourself from the room if necessary. Sometimes after the Negative Nancy /Debbie downer has been defeated in their attempted passive aggression, they’ll resent the fact they didn’t get their way or appeared foolish, and resort to other manipulative tactics. Its important not to get side-lined. It’s important to stay grounded, in your body, with an even tone and neutral or light hearted facial expression.
@@TheWizardOfWords Ha that would be awesome! Ajijic might be a stretch but if you ever happen upon Mayakoba or Los Cabos, I'll be vacationing in these locations for part of the winter. I enjoy your content. Keep up the great work!
Oh my God I Don't get tired of saying you are amazing Good with all this information!!. Can you give an advice on how to handle someone with an terrible attitude, such as patronizing, and kind like arrogant People! Thanks Dan! You are the best!! 👍🙏
Thanks Ade, and check around other videos. I deal with arrogant and patronizing people in my difficult people videos. Remember one thing: Most patronizing and arrogant people are masking insecurity. It is not really that THEY think they are above other people. They are trying desperately to convince OTHER PEOPLE that they (the arrogant people) are superior. It sometimes helps to understand where others are coming from. Having said that, there are several techniques for dealing with them, and you'll find a number of them smattered throughout my TH-cam videos and online courses (which you're welcome to peruse at danoconnortraining.com)
Excellent! Another one I must listen to a few times. I am going to practice e the pregnant blink the rest of the day first. "Elasticless underwear?" I adore you for being so real. Me thinks you have endured as much catty, negative, resentful people as I have. You have learned from it. I am stuck blaming myself for thinking there was something about me that invited it. But, that is too much information. You aren't my therapist. Not YET anyway.
Throughout my life I have seen the behavior of other people as about them, and my behavior as about me. I would never endure "catty, negative, resentful people." I would leave their company and seek out people who add joy and peace to my life. We bring much grief to ourselves by giving people power over us. We don't have to do that. It is not good for us and it is not good for them.
@@TheWizardOfWords Exactly! That is why I have left the mainstream community and gone celibate. My only concern is workplace and you have given excellent advice.
Hi Dan, thank you for your excellent advice and I love your sassiness. It makes me laugh and I so need that at times trying to deal with toxic boss. I'd love to say exactly as you say, but I think I'd have to dumb it down here in Ireland. Any suggestions?
Where have you and these answers been all my life ive been searching for it --just discovered your channel a few hours ago and am binge watching and hearing everything ive felt and said and looked for --finally someone gets why using it statements etc dont work and actually feel like shit bc youre absorbing the negative energy etc their attacking you with and doesnt protect your heart mind and soul-- ive worked so hard to find and figure things out and am sure the fact that you get all these nuances means thatyouve faced the harassment and bullying levels all your life that i have or more bc we learn these things not bc we want to but bc we have to to protect ourselves--and im so grateful that youre sharing all this--you definitely are gifted in understanding and are a brilliant empath and i cant even express how much i appreciate you and your efforts to lead and direct all of us in raising above hate leading with empathy etc and protecting ourselves from the haters in the process
I love that. I find that to be true instead of I think, because people don't realize that is what you actually know, they I want to treat you like you're guessing.
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Outstanding advice. Wish I had access to this when I was working. Since retirement, the toughest critic I have is myself.
How do you know if there the difficult person or you are different oppoion
When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
Thank you
Dan is absolute perfection with his teachings. This video was dated 4 years ago, yet is STILL relevant. What a master at his craft and helpful to so many! 🙏💜
Dan, I listen to your channel for two specific people in my life. For one, I can almost feel my limpy backbones calcify into a spine AND for the other person, I’m learning how to listen and speak with love. Thank you so much!!!
Thanks Trix, I live for the advice you give me so I can re-evaluate my unguided life. Now I can truly focus on what will please and complete you.
That's a pretty funny bit of sarcasm, there, Tom M.
Tom, this is an absolute gem!!!! Keeping this sarcastic retort in my hip pocket for "just such an emergency" (foghorn leghorn voice).
Dan let me be the only one to say this.
That red Shirt is Fly AF. You look great in that.
Beyond Assertiveness training. Thank you! 🙏🏻
I absolutely LOVE you! You make the thought of dealing with these people fun! And I love your humor! So glad I subscribed! Thank you so much! I know someone who gets walked on regurally and have been trying to coach this 20 something person for awhile now, but never got to far. You do it so perfectly and quickly that it is easy to understand and explain your message! Thank you again!
I love your sass! Ive learned I can’t take anyone else’s advice because I personally can’t relate to them as much as I can relate to you. Werq!
Hey A C: One reason you might take the training/thoughts/solutions/advice I offer is that it is not directed personally and specifically at YOU as an unsolicited critique. As I explained to the woman who believes me to be a misogynist who commits mental violence against women (ahem), advice is empty, hollow, and a waste of time if it is NOT solicited and if it comes from a place of "righteousness." In other words, if someone is judging you or your work and you didn't WANT the critique or comments, you won't be open to them--even from a boss or parent. Two elements of advice being accepted would be: The person receiving it solicits it (which you do by coming here to see whats up), and the person receiving it perceives that the advice comes from a place of love, concern and compassion--and a desire to see the recipient do well.
STOP BY AT 3:00 CENTRAL FOR THE LIVE SHOW. I've checked the internet and it actually looks as though it's a GO so spread the word.
Dan
I was really lucky to find this channel.I learned alot of things in dealing people who are rude etc....Thank you so much.
You're very welcome, Gemmae.
Dan
I’ve watched this vid several times, and will continue to watch until I master this! Thanks Wiz 😎💖
Damn I would hate to verbally spar with you… LOL I forgot how good this channel is. I need to make sure I keep coming back!!! Thank you
AZ Battle School turn on your notifications 😊 It’s interesting to me that I receive each one right when I need that specific guidance
Please tell that to my brother Marty. He's made it his life's work to spar with me. And he's bigger than I am.
Online Communication Skills Training Courses haha thank you!!!
@@TheWizardOfWords How many O Connor siblings are there?
@@MK-ih6wp Just Marty and I--and my mother says that is more than enough :) Marty is ten months older than I am. I'm going to have him on live in December when he comes here for a visit.
I know this video is 4 years old but I just discovered your channel and I am absolutely in love with it! You have the best personality your videos are extremely insightful and informative and you get the information across in the best way possible I could not be more thrilled to have been introduced to this thank you for imparting your wisdom and humor with all of us!!
Many thanks for your testimonial, Nicole. You'll find videos much older and you'll find one done yesterday. Hopefully the messages all have meaning for you.
@@TheWizardOfWords Absolutely! I'm really glad you're still posting! I work as a 911 operator at a PD in an extremely high stress environment. I don't know how much knowledge you have of police culture within departments (in addition to interacting and working with Fire and EMS) and the unique challenges we face with all the moving parts, stress, authority, power struggles, ego etc...but I'd love to hear your thoughts and advice if so! I've already been able to apply some of your suggestions and they've worked very well. Keep up the good work!
I love your info & presentation! Thank you so much ❤️
You are so spot on! LOVE THIS!😂
I love this channel! You are powerful and highly intelligent! This account shows you can have power through tactfulness rather than brute strength and violence 🧘🏿♀️
Absolutely, domtheedonn. Tact, finesse, mindfulness--and not violence and name-calling, is a winning and powerful communication strategy.
Wonderful, Dan! Really looking forward to hearing about the prophet. Have a bunch of those in my life 😓
Well said.
Thanks you thank you. I can't stand these expert harassers. This helps to know their plan.
"Thanks, Trixie, for the offer, but I got this / want to do it my way / want to do it on my own."
"Thanks, a lot, Aunt Rose, but I got this."
Jerks will respond "you don't"
@@azmomconnection then you can reply: "well, if I feel I am failing, I know there is a wise person like you I can come to for advice" ...most people will get the sarcasm ;)
Trixie. Lol I like his made up names
Hi Dan
I find myself in the position of inspecting and trying to get the staff to pick up the pace. Some people are wonderful housekeepers. Others seem unable to follow a routine. They take longer to complete their route and it shows. The customers, the teachers, are unhappy. These random staff members really dislike my comments. I need suggestions for improvements. Of course, who wants to hear their behavior is unacceptable. I know I don’t. The relationship has gone south. I am not the only desperate staff who has tried to communicate with is person who cannot seem to follow a routine. This is classroom cleaning. The quickest routine is: pull the trash, redline the container. Wipe down all horizontal surfaces. Clean the floor. Turn out the lights and close the door. Do the same thing in the next classroom. Of course there are other items to clean, however perhaps that could come later once the above routine is learned and mastered. The fliting from
One room to another, never completing each room. I thought I was loving in the 3 step routine delivery, but apparently not. How do I fix this?
Thank you
A
Your skin looks great! Lookin good Dan!
I loved this!!!
You’re smoothly powerful. I love your videos.
Lisa, thank you for that compliment. "Smoothly powerful" hopefully means effective while being mindful of the needs of others. I think it should be the communication goal of every one of us. Sometimes we hit the mark. And sometimes we don't. But we should always be aiming to hit the mark.
I looooved Rose’s impression Hahahahah
Great video, Thank you so much 🙏
I wish I found your videos years ago 😊 thank you.
Great insight: valuable advice is not free!
I agree, so I hope you sign up as a member, Alice :).th-cam.com/channels/5Zb02pmVD2VA7lnx8mV4gw.htmljoin
This channel is actually so good lol
Tomorrow when😂 my coworker is gonna throw a nasty noodles while "speaking" to her friend in the phone .. I will watch this and I guess i will laugh so hard like i did now😂😂😂😂😂😂
Aunt Rose is quite hilarious , I must say.
Thank you!!
You're welcome, maeie4.
This is awesome
i got talking to a women on fb who proved to be a empath
in which she happened to know things about me how ever she started criticizing me in relations to
to what she understood about me the joys of dealing with someone like this online is you can just press on block lol
Absolutely.
Daaaamn I'm gonna be frank with you. Woah lol
which videos are the continuation of this video?
Hi Dan where can I find the workbook to apply the tactics and note my understanding ?
Does this video mention a workbook? Help me out by citing the spot, will you, and I'll have Jean take care of it.
Hi Dan, last time I wrote I was a university student, now I graduated and have my first job as a social worker. I have this grumpy colluege who keeps controlling me, specifically he keeps staring at my screen and sometimes coments on it. He is a coworker, not my boss. Last time my boss asked me to participate on an online class for collecting money for social projects and I was rewatching that class on my computer with headphones when this old grumpy coworker asked me with an arrogant smirk what I was doing. I dont know how to react to him. Also I just want to say that I dont care about age or anything, but I feel like this man is really grumpy and aggresive towards me because he things he has nothing to loose because of being a few years from retirement, and her in germany the older people get the more they feel entitled to be grumpy. My boss is supporting me band told me not to mind him, but it bothers me and my boss avoids direct confrontation with him. And I dont want to have another fight because I sit in a small office with this guy.
"Mark, I just want to point out that every minute you spend looking at my screen is a minute you're not looking at your own and doing your job." I would keep saying that. Don't answer his questions. Don't interact at all. There is no need to interact and no need to fear. Just do your job and use the above line as a broken record. No matter what he says, you respond with "That may be but, I just want to point out that . . . ." Don't let him get you off message. In time, it will no longer be any fun to bug you.
Great comebacks.
Thanks Roger!
Do I have advantages when I become a member here on youtube before I buy a class from your shop? Or are those like two different things?
Galliano they are two different things. However, before you buy, write jean@danoconnortraining, tell her what you might be looking for, and see what she can do for you. She's great.
Love your shirts
Well thank you, Carla.
hahaha "the body check"
I really like you! Rare for me! Ha!Your training is unique and just... good stuff!
Even with your mouth full of food.....oh i understood what you said!!!
can you transcribe or summarize this?
I can't, Ms. T, but I invite you to do so. And btw, look for it on the various podcast sites within the next seven days.
@@TheWizardOfWords this sounds very Trixie-esque
😏
Your looking fantastic ,
I think there's more to this message and I don't think it's about me, so I'll wait for the rest. Was this a back-handed compliment someone gave you??
Trixie and Rose would have received the same response from me which is the word 'no'.
Can you say "ahh mmm 🤔 no thanks, but thanks for thinking of me ".
I think those were many words
Reduce them to a number you would use.
What if the saboteur is the boss?
Check out a few other videos for that answer, Joyce--maybe starting with narcissistic bosses??
Like #777! Thanks Dan!
:) ;) Dan
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3 critics
Mother
Partner and
The mums at school drop off
I work with some horrible people 🙄
Please hire a graphic designer
Good idea, spendy, and not on my priority list right now--but under consideration. Are you applying for this job? Will you do it out of the kindness of your heart? If so, let me know Wes.
@@TheWizardOfWords I have an opening at my place too...😊
TBH, I found some of your snappy responses to me to be cold and rude. So I stopped watching your videos and you lost a viewer.
Well, no discussion about this because you're gone, Christine. We have broken up. Gone our separate ways. Taken different paths. Pax tibi.
@@TheWizardOfWords I just subscribed so I'll take that empty space, please! Thanks.😊
Good riddance 😂
What's this guy mumbling on about? It started great then it went off a cliff.
Thank you for the constructive insight.
"It's like you're lifting the veil, and saying, "I see you." to the man behind the curtain. Nice Wizard of Oz poster. :)
I love this comment.
Oh yes you are speaking truth Dan I've dealt with people like this using passive aggressiveness towards me and they love giving backhanded compliments and starting drama .
Dan...... you are the best....and funny...... even though I really seek the communication skills you share.....I am also crazy entertained with your sarcasm. You make my day!!!!
What an attractive and well spoken man
Once again I have to tell you Mom that you aren't fooling anyone. Good grief.
This is what I learned from your video. People don't give out free advise. They also don't give out really good information unless they love them. If it's not being given with love, then they are just dumping some garbage on you. So just ask yourself, is this message coming from a place of love? If not, you can uncover the hidden motive. Once again, really great information. :-) Thank you for sharing the video.
In my personal communication style, I always want to come from a place of love 💕.
Yes, coming from a place of love--you can forgive mistakes if they are made by someone who is loving. Ask any parent. :)
I love you madly 💞💗 Thank you 🙏
I actually had an aunt Rose. Lol
Great stuff -- I love the body check and the way you explain that we teach others how to communicate with us. Bonus points for invoking the Rapture and turning over tables in the temple. 😅
Wow! This lesson is chock-full of goodies! I love your videos! Thank you so much Dan! I unfortunately, work with some nasty "know it all" sharks who are "boss wanna-be's." This information will be helpful.
Do you have an assertiveness training course?
Yes, the Step Out of the Shadows and Speak course that you'll find (either in audio only or audio/video/materials) in the shop at danoconnortraining.com. If you're interested in that course, write Jean at jean@danoconnortraining.com and she'll shoot a coupon to you--save you some money--
Online Communication Skills Training Courses thank you 🙏 thank you - I love what you do
At least aunt Rose asks if you want advice first not just dump the advice on you like people i have in my family.
Come for the excellent content, stay for the wigs.
Lol! I love your videos!! Hilarious and so helpful! Keep it coming! 😄
Techniques are top of the list, friend. One of your most POWERFUL videos! ❤ this Dan! Thank you!
I have really loved watching your videos in the past month or so. Learning so much and you are so fun to watch. Thanks so much!
Thank you so much, Lisa!
yea, wish I'd found you when I was much younger! you've helped a lot but... if only I'd heard your great advice back then!
This advice is awesome!!!! Thanks so much. Don't ever go away 😁🤸♀️❤🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️
Well at least I know THIS message is not from my mother. She spent most of my childhood telling me to go away . . . . :)
So much wisdom in your videos!! Thank you !!
Glad you like them!
Fantastic advice
Great stuff, Dan! Love your recommendations for how to handle the saboteur. Keep up the great work!
I LOVE your personality
Please tell that to my mother.
I kinda liked the muffled "Fkn bitch" to Trixie tho😂
Cause at the end of the day, it's not all about love. Imo.
I really do enjoy watching your content. I'm a new subscriber but your already fast becoming my favourite channel here. Thank you.
Well that's a misnomer. There is NOTHING silly about you, Girl!
The late great Haim Ginott spoke about the importance of describing, versus judging...as it invites anxiety. People who criticize were often themselves criticized & judged by important people in childhood. The book "Between Parent and Child" by Ginott is a real sanity saver for all. Thank you for the aid your videos bring.
You're welcome, Kim, and thanks for the Ginott tip.
Your commentary and delivery is 💪..!!! Glad I stumbled upon your channel..👀👂👣 Very informative..👍👏
Welcome aboard! Thank you and please like and share at will.
You kill me😂
And... when you say these phrases confidently... do not react to their reactions. Stay calm, shift conversation to something else, and remove yourself from the room if necessary. Sometimes after the Negative Nancy /Debbie downer has been defeated in their attempted passive aggression, they’ll resent the fact they didn’t get their way or appeared foolish, and resort to other manipulative tactics. Its important not to get side-lined. It’s important to stay grounded, in your body, with an even tone and neutral or light hearted facial expression.
Absolutely right on! If you're ever in Ajijic, stop by and be my sidekick on a live show!
@@TheWizardOfWords Ha that would be awesome! Ajijic might be a stretch but if you ever happen upon Mayakoba or Los Cabos, I'll be vacationing in these locations for part of the winter. I enjoy your content. Keep up the great work!
Oh my God I Don't get tired of saying you are amazing Good with all this information!!. Can you give an advice on how to handle someone with an terrible attitude, such as patronizing, and kind like arrogant People! Thanks Dan!
You are the best!! 👍🙏
Thanks Ade, and check around other videos. I deal with arrogant and patronizing people in my difficult people videos. Remember one thing: Most patronizing and arrogant people are masking insecurity. It is not really that THEY think they are above other people. They are trying desperately to convince OTHER PEOPLE that they (the arrogant people) are superior. It sometimes helps to understand where others are coming from. Having said that, there are several techniques for dealing with them, and you'll find a number of them smattered throughout my TH-cam videos and online courses (which you're welcome to peruse at danoconnortraining.com)
Excellent! Another one I must listen to a few times. I am going to practice e the pregnant blink the rest of the day first. "Elasticless underwear?" I adore you for being so real. Me thinks you have endured as much catty, negative, resentful people as I have. You have learned from it. I am stuck blaming myself for thinking there was something about me that invited it. But, that is too much information. You aren't my therapist. Not YET anyway.
Throughout my life I have seen the behavior of other people as about them, and my behavior as about me. I would never endure "catty, negative, resentful people." I would leave their company and seek out people who add joy and peace to my life. We bring much grief to ourselves by giving people power over us. We don't have to do that. It is not good for us and it is not good for them.
@@TheWizardOfWords Exactly! That is why I have left the mainstream community and gone celibate. My only concern is workplace and you have given excellent advice.
Rose: "How do you like a little free advice?"
Me: "And how do you like the lunch that I didn’t finish? It's also little, it's also free?"
Good answer :) :)
Hi Dan, thank you for your excellent advice and I love your sassiness. It makes me laugh and I so need that at times trying to deal with toxic boss. I'd love to say exactly as you say, but I think I'd have to dumb it down here in Ireland. Any suggestions?
Take my words and make them your own, Catherine. You're Irish; you can do anything!
Where have you and these answers been all my life ive been searching for it --just discovered your channel a few hours ago and am binge watching and hearing everything ive felt and said and looked for --finally someone gets why using it statements etc dont work and actually feel like shit bc youre absorbing the negative energy etc their attacking you with and doesnt protect your heart mind and soul-- ive worked so hard to find and figure things out and am sure the fact that you get all these nuances means thatyouve faced the harassment and bullying levels all your life that i have or more bc we learn these things not bc we want to but bc we have to to protect ourselves--and im so grateful that youre sharing all this--you definitely are gifted in understanding and are a brilliant empath and i cant even express how much i appreciate you and your efforts to lead and direct all of us in raising above hate leading with empathy etc and protecting ourselves from the haters in the process
Many thanks for your note, Amanda :). And I'll be RIGHT HERE going forward--here and at danoconnortraining.com
Brilliant, well explained and with my sense of humour! Love it.
Thanks, James. I hope you subscribed--and please share these videos.
TRIXIE GOT SO SHADED SHE NEEDED TO PUT ON A DOWN COMFORTER.
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Thanks!
Many thanks to YOU, Paul :). Dan
I wish you were my boss.
Naaaah. I don't pay very well.
Unasked for advice has a very similar effect to criticism. There's a reason it is not asked for...people neither want nor need it.
The Sabateur: the Judy Dench character in Notes on a Scandal. You should parody scenes from that film. I pass OUT from laughing too hard.
Thanks you thanks you thank you!
I had some health issues and needed a refresh on this. Still I can't stand these situations. 😂
*Power stares* I Learn Things.
It's love. Wish there was a double like option, one thumb just isn't enough for this one.
I love that. I find that to be true instead of I think, because people don't realize that is what you actually know, they I want to treat you like you're guessing.
I would just slow blink and say no, then blankly stare at them for three seconds 😂 this is probably a better approach