NLP - What to do with your Negative Internal Dialogue

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  • In this video, I talk about how to use NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) to change how you talk to yourself and what to do with your negative internal dialogue. Often critical inner voice leads to negative thinking patterns and it’s important to learn to be able to change and adjust the way you communicate with yourself in order to stop negative thoughts and to change your feelings effectively.
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  • @Roop_15
    @Roop_15 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm halfway through the video and I'm already a fan. This video is enough in itself. Thank you so much for sharing this. 🙏😃

  • @novalynn5837
    @novalynn5837 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Watched this a few weeks ago, and I've noticed a huge change in my attitude. I searched high and low to find this video again so I can save it for future use or as a reminder for myself! You did an amazing job and this was one of the most impactful videos I've seen on TH-cam. Thank you so much Owen. You are awesome.

  • @tizianacallari7446
    @tizianacallari7446 8 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    this guy is hilarious I wonder how I lived until now without him in my life hahahaha

  • @angeloscoach7971
    @angeloscoach7971 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Being Ironic with myself is the key. Thanks Owen.

  • @KingaGorski
    @KingaGorski 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love challenging and investigating my thoughts. Just gotta remember to do it haha that's the hurdle!

  • @junikim263
    @junikim263 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What a coincident!
    I just ordered the book from Amazon yesterday without knowing that you are one of the authors of the book!

  • @karmainternational8909
    @karmainternational8909 10 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    really creative techniques for actually working through personal turmoil. this allows you to take responsibility for your own thoughts and empowers you to overcome them rather than looking to outside sources to place blame (media, upbringing, the universe, "disorders" etc) or to fix it all for us (medication, extensive therapy- distraction).
    thank you!

  • @SuperChristianMiiworld
    @SuperChristianMiiworld 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "(mocked voice) You're such a mess? (normal voice) and how do you know you're a mess? Are you ALWAYS a mess? Nah, you WERE a mess... and HE is a mess... BUT you are fabulous."

  • @pamelasaba7885
    @pamelasaba7885 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow! 8 years ago. This is very helpful. I have my little nice 11 years old that is full of these negatives talks. I will practice this with her. I think we will have fun. Excellent!!

  • @kleiasumwan9100
    @kleiasumwan9100 10 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I love it! I wanna make your mocking voice my alarm clock in the morning!

    • @jordanm6940
      @jordanm6940 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      "wahhh but I wanna sleeeep innnn, wahhhh wah wåhh"

    • @gaspardelbarrio4785
      @gaspardelbarrio4785 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kleia Sumwan MMmmmmMmmm.... wake up now you must

    • @neelonghunglow
      @neelonghunglow 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Be careful. You will feel less certain about your alarm clock! :)

  • @elricbell4662
    @elricbell4662 ปีที่แล้ว

    10 years ago I was using these sorts of techniques regularly. Over time I fell out of these ‘good habits’. A friend suggested I watch this video and I’m so glad to have been reminded of what I’ve been missing. And the really good part? My internal dialogue didn’t berate me; just said I was silly for missing out, and congratulated me on being open to making a positive change.

  • @MichelleIbarraMHAEdD
    @MichelleIbarraMHAEdD 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great material and explanation! Loved your humor, and especially how you say "but" ....adorable

  • @manuelahjelseth3483
    @manuelahjelseth3483 10 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Great video Owen! Both good learning AND humor at the same time. Love it :)

  • @8002new
    @8002new 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Owen for this super powerful techniques.

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very welcome Eliene.

  • @waynemetro-t5u
    @waynemetro-t5u 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is the best video i've see on destoying negative beliefs /self talk !!!Bravo!!!

  • @mharmpie5429
    @mharmpie5429 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Both wise and funny. I love it !

  • @lukemurray7285
    @lukemurray7285 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Owen, great insight here. Hope to see you in Dublin soon. :)

  • @adityasharma8565
    @adityasharma8565 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Saw Many Many videos on this subject...... But He guided a step by step on how to remove negative thinking and negative talking to one own self.... He is Good very very Good.... Thanks

  • @deborahsusswein4398
    @deborahsusswein4398 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just saw this video for the first time. I was looking for some effective ways to help a friend deal with her frustrating and sabotaging internal dialogue. Many years ago, I became a Certified Master Practitioner of NLP, but I have not used it much in all this time. I have had a few successes working with people, but I never took it off the ground professionally. And though I was even successful doing NLP on myself after a hit-and-run crash that put me in the hospital and anchored some real generalized terror on the road that rendered me unable to drive confidently, I have allowed this obstacle of lack of confidence to stop me all this time. It's never too late, so I can still tackle it . . . .but that's not what I'm writing about. Owen, I LOVE this video and will be using the points this afternoon with my friend. The video is precise, humorous, engaging, and I plan to watch more of your videos and visit your site. Thank you for what you do.

    • @KateGladstone
      @KateGladstone 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Then can you help me? I’ve been trying for three years to do what’s in the video, and I can’t make it happen. I don’t know HOW to perform the very first instruction, for instance: HOW to change an internal voice to sound different. He tells us to do that, and he never tells us HOW to do it. Please tell me how to do it - I wasn’t born knowing how, and he sounds as if he thinks everybody’s born knowing how & doesn’t need to be told how. I’ve been trying for three years. Please help.

  • @stewarthunt3563
    @stewarthunt3563 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    outstanding - thanks for that - i use what i call a "flip side" - for any negative there has to be a positive

    • @DJVibeDubstep
      @DJVibeDubstep 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      SAME! I always refer to that word as an anchor I just think "flipside" and my mind flips whatever bullshit I was worrying about or something that was troubling and bothering me.

  • @helenlauer9545
    @helenlauer9545 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This guy is really cool. I felt the intelligence right away. Lots of these coaches on the internet are not, well, if you know what i mean then you also don't say. They are real detractors from the genre, but this guy makes up for it all. Really helpful, you don't feel like you are being taken for a ride or subliminally denigrated. I won't name names, it's so obvious when you fall over one of them. yech.

  • @pessoa288
    @pessoa288 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video is blessing. Thank you Owen!!

  • @DancingStringsGuitar
    @DancingStringsGuitar 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you very much for your videos. This is one of the best. I sent it to my son in law also. We have a very good relationship, and we both deal with some tough things in life. I first heard you in your TED talk. I loved the poetic and rap expressions. I'm glad you're doing this work. Keep making life easier to understand and handle for others.

  • @ismaielwaheed4300
    @ismaielwaheed4300 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Good explanation. Thanks 👍

  • @xxChacaronXX
    @xxChacaronXX 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amazing stuff! Thanks sooo much!

  • @cme1027
    @cme1027 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow I'm so glad I found this. Its 3 am I couldn't sleep and I needed to see this. I'm excited to practice these tips🥰

  • @rex1371
    @rex1371 11 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for giving these tips it's been so helpful and i like your sense of humor..You r an amazing person.

  • @NicoleWijngaarden
    @NicoleWijngaarden 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Owen.

  • @lasairchoille
    @lasairchoille 11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Many thanks, Eoin. Food for thought and digestion there!

  • @sabupurushothamankochupara2860
    @sabupurushothamankochupara2860 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One of the best lesson. Simple but lot of informative

  • @SonicFictionTV
    @SonicFictionTV 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mr. Owen, you are true legend! 😎

  • @UKiakkulu
    @UKiakkulu 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The "BUT" tool is extremely powerful!!

  • @vbnprasad4806
    @vbnprasad4806 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wonderful !!!

  • @emanuelbraga399
    @emanuelbraga399 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this guy in just brilliant. excelent video! thank you.

  • @vJulietm
    @vJulietm 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish I would of knew about you earlier! I feel like I now understand how to help my negative thoughts. I’ve been at war with myself for so long that now I believe I have answers where things will change for me 🙏🏼

  • @cliffllewellyn7623
    @cliffllewellyn7623 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you that was great advice

  • @inthevortex-de1rh
    @inthevortex-de1rh 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing!
    You have a magnificent voice!

  • @lakshmir1333
    @lakshmir1333 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Greatest understanding

  • @itfernag1
    @itfernag1 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Stack it all. Thanks for making this world a better place. Thank you Owen

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks Gustavo

  • @danutam1716
    @danutam1716 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fantastic video! And you are super funny!!! thank you!

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the feedback Danuta!

  • @Paulthompson1981
    @Paulthompson1981 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It is comforting to know that everybody does this at times. it is important to note that stress makes your inner voice louder. The less stress you have, the more quiet the inner voice. The more quiet the inner voice, the better you become at being able to focus on actual physical tasks at hand.

  • @StarlightPrincess70
    @StarlightPrincess70 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That was brilliant. Thank you! 😀

  • @whellockroad
    @whellockroad 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Splendid stuff, Owen - thanks heaps. Funny story: I had turned on the captions so I could read along as I listened. I suspect this transcription is somewhat automated by YT because when you spoke the words "change the tense," the caption wrote it as "change the tents." How fitting, I'm throwing out all my old limiting tents and pitching brocaded silk tents from a distant beautiful land, probably the west of Ireland.

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brilliant, thanks Terrance. Next on the to do list is to review the captions (currently automated). Glad you saw the funny side!

  • @hernanperez912
    @hernanperez912 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Plain and simple. Thanks!

  • @oriseon83
    @oriseon83 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow! Thank you for sharing this Owen , It’s awesome and I’ll start practicing it!

  • @tatyanazverinskaya7953
    @tatyanazverinskaya7953 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Such a great technique, thanks

  • @kidronzer7886
    @kidronzer7886 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you very much. This is helpful.

  • @travisbritnor5047
    @travisbritnor5047 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for the video! Great use of NLP practices.

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you enjoyed it Travis.

  • @petradaraban5792
    @petradaraban5792 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks a lot, you are amazing ☺️

  • @mansoorgaulani
    @mansoorgaulani 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks a lot for such powerful video

  • @anthonytaylor2056
    @anthonytaylor2056 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great Video excellent explanation

  • @thestridersadventures1111
    @thestridersadventures1111 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like the way you explain this. And you make me laugh! I love NLP and have been using it for a long time, and now start teaching and sharing it. Still, really good to have a refresher!

  • @MrUMESH480
    @MrUMESH480 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    u have done a great research buddy .... continue the good work .... I'm sure this video will help me a lot in my future.... all d best

  • @HeartEvolutions
    @HeartEvolutions ปีที่แล้ว

    You’re the best! Thank you so much!

  • @EnriquePerez-oh3mx
    @EnriquePerez-oh3mx 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks , I will follow your advice. In my case I start with a internal dialog and quickly or at the same time I see a flash back wich finishes triggering the entire negative thinking . at the present time this core belief has been reduced. It took me 3 years to feel better but still last year or 2 years ago I could not control this negative thinking it turned into high anxiety , social phobia, hyper vigilance etc 24/ 7. I even had to ask for medication for a few months to my psychotherapist. I feel better but still a couple times a day I still encounter with negative core beliefs. I hope with npl I finish with negative thinking because at the end is evil , bad , crazy internal dialog and non real images or movies that we ourselves create in our heads but never put in practice in real world , is crazy how the human mind turns into from our internal thinking behavior.

  • @luxxn
    @luxxn 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    absolutely marvelous video! I had to stop it several times because I couldn't stop laughing.

  • @wintertontoday
    @wintertontoday 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thank you so so so so so much for this!!!! and 100% agree with everyone else who says you're hilarious, you really ARE! Cyber hug to you

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!

  • @videom1
    @videom1 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent excellent excellent advice and well explained

  • @FunFitandWell
    @FunFitandWell 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great information I am learning NLP to help clients change their “self-concept/identity” to achieve their goals. These are very helpful! And the humor and rhymes helps with retention 🙃👍🏽

  • @sosomweendo
    @sosomweendo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brilliant! I really love it.

  • @The186thFloor
    @The186thFloor 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thanks for this fella. Awesome. Beautiful man. Ridiculously good looking too 🤣

  • @posh0610
    @posh0610 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brilliant.Could help a lot of people in a short time,but how specifically?

  • @lankbel
    @lankbel 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderful tips

  • @Qieth
    @Qieth 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    The facial expressions under #1 are fantastic :D

  • @marniebable
    @marniebable 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent!

  • @collinsalunomoh6852
    @collinsalunomoh6852 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for the insight

  • @thoxication
    @thoxication 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You’re awesome ! SO helpful !

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks Martha

  • @jasonwalton6755
    @jasonwalton6755 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Negative internal dialogue is down to outside influences - in the main. Ultimately, kids go 'off the rails' because of these influences and who they are 'influenced' by and communicate with. Think about kids that come from decent families but then end up taking hard drugs or choose a life of crime - simply put - they're led astray or go down the wrong path. Getting them back on track is a completely different conversation and certainly no easy task - achieving that is harder than one might think - but it is possible using dialogue and spoken therapy. PTSD as an example is similarly linked to an extent and that is much dependent on the severity. That said, using spoken therapy can and does bring people back but there are key differences so it's not a 'one size fits all'. In short - an individual could be brought back in a day, others weeks or months - in extreme cases perhaps even years too if their condition / experience is or was that severe.

  • @xxjayxx517
    @xxjayxx517 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why would you want to mock yourself, we say negative things because we feel uncertain about situations. Who wants to be always right and confident in their actions, even more so content with the feeling of joy. I'm glad I feel doubt and self scrutiny at times, all apart of being human. I keep myself in check, and I feel like alot of times we're hard on ourselves because we know we can do better deep down. I think more and more NLP is just a means for people who don't really know themselves to cope with emotions they can't deal with. You can try and trick your brain but you can't run away from the truth of how you really feel about certain things.

  • @mikesaunders2470
    @mikesaunders2470 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was feeling sad before I started watching this video. Now I feel better because I had a good laugh

  • @kaniquairwin225
    @kaniquairwin225 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video! Thank you :)

  • @tonys995
    @tonys995 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed this

  • @Maya-er2pv
    @Maya-er2pv 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much. It very helped for me :)

  • @IsabelleMN11
    @IsabelleMN11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've just discovered your video and whoah, it just blew my mind. I am a teaching in embodiment, and I would love to implement your pointers in my class. Is it alright to do so? I don't want to be disrespectful your knowledge or the time you put in making this video.

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks Isabelle, go ahead. Subscribe to the channel if you wish so that you are notified of future videos. Good luck...

  • @kenfritts7907
    @kenfritts7907 ปีที่แล้ว

    THANK YOU!

  • @susripuja4777
    @susripuja4777 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you ☺️

  • @santanabros5067
    @santanabros5067 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bless you with love

  • @doreenmartin4070
    @doreenmartin4070 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video (as always) Owen.

  • @KolussuslifeKB
    @KolussuslifeKB 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good stuff indeed.

  • @farisamazon7435
    @farisamazon7435 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    you said I am supposed to say it in a silly tone to make it sounds stupid or question it from a strong inner voice but when we use them both that contradicts the power of using each one of them. HOPE YOU GET WHAT I MEAN

    • @farisamazon7435
      @farisamazon7435 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Faris Amazon these tips are supposed to be used selectively and not all together because some of them can cancel the other

  • @romantea3506
    @romantea3506 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice work!

  • @angelag2662
    @angelag2662 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome!!

  • @redpower24
    @redpower24 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Owen , I never knew how to talk to myself or how to correct bad programming ,where can I learn more on my own because I can't afford a therapist and on the internet and even in books I'm finding all kinds of techniques and ideas but It is very confusing and many of the autors either are using over simplified ideas or they are showing off with their understanding and knowledge . Anyone can reply to me I would be really grateful for anything that you can offer me. This video was very supportive and it helped me connect some dots. Thank you! Btw as a side note I have been clinical depressed and I dissociate a lot or I am .

  • @massimilianopirrottina5958
    @massimilianopirrottina5958 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    i like sense of humor of using tone voice for to exceed fear

  • @Mikeonmicrocaps
    @Mikeonmicrocaps 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you

  • @GrowWithRainy
    @GrowWithRainy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video!!

  • @zanskoda1089
    @zanskoda1089 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love it❣ great stuff...thx

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you.

  • @eliasdanielozuna
    @eliasdanielozuna 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    intelligent and simple

  • @merlinHPtwilight
    @merlinHPtwilight 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I LOVE THIS.

  • @MathinusG
    @MathinusG 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks, learned a lot.

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Great to hear that MathinusG.

  • @gratefulvegan5241
    @gratefulvegan5241 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    U r hilarious and so informative !!!! Keep it up!

    • @owenjf23
      @owenjf23  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!

    • @gratefulvegan5241
      @gratefulvegan5241 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Owen Fitzpatrick I do a podcast to help people heal from emotional pain.. id love to interview you to help people with these NLP techniques if you’re game

    • @gratefulvegan5241
      @gratefulvegan5241 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Owen Fitzpatrick calendly.com/pdth/podcast-interview
      If you’re game do book in an interview slot .. would be so honoured !

  • @hrhkeythe
    @hrhkeythe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loving the goofy

  • @cristinaionita4822
    @cristinaionita4822 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    after "but" we should say something that is already happening or an affirmation about the future me?
    great video

  • @Kev80ification
    @Kev80ification 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brilliant, very funny!

  • @zabdiyoab
    @zabdiyoab 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Looks interesting thank you

  • @KateGladstone
    @KateGladstone 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve been trying this, hard, for three years. It hasn’t even begun to work. How many years or decades does it usually require to begin to make it work?

  • @johnr9047
    @johnr9047 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks

  • @frithalewin
    @frithalewin 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    you're a superstar!

  • @teresabulford-cooper3382
    @teresabulford-cooper3382 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your so funny Owen - I just love your persona!

  • @erica7268
    @erica7268 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much! I will be teaching this to my 9 year old today. I am also preparing to teach school age children confidence skills and mind power techniques. A few months ago when I really became aware of my negative thoughts/beliefs, I thought of repeating the thought or belief and adding "I remember when.".....{I used to think that way} or whatever the thought or belief was. As to say 'I used to think that way but I don't anymore' Would that work the same as the past tense that you mentioned? Thank you so much!