Watched this a few weeks ago, and I've noticed a huge change in my attitude. I searched high and low to find this video again so I can save it for future use or as a reminder for myself! You did an amazing job and this was one of the most impactful videos I've seen on TH-cam. Thank you so much Owen. You are awesome.
really creative techniques for actually working through personal turmoil. this allows you to take responsibility for your own thoughts and empowers you to overcome them rather than looking to outside sources to place blame (media, upbringing, the universe, "disorders" etc) or to fix it all for us (medication, extensive therapy- distraction). thank you!
10 years ago I was using these sorts of techniques regularly. Over time I fell out of these ‘good habits’. A friend suggested I watch this video and I’m so glad to have been reminded of what I’ve been missing. And the really good part? My internal dialogue didn’t berate me; just said I was silly for missing out, and congratulated me on being open to making a positive change.
Saw Many Many videos on this subject...... But He guided a step by step on how to remove negative thinking and negative talking to one own self.... He is Good very very Good.... Thanks
Wow! 8 years ago. This is very helpful. I have my little nice 11 years old that is full of these negatives talks. I will practice this with her. I think we will have fun. Excellent!!
"(mocked voice) You're such a mess? (normal voice) and how do you know you're a mess? Are you ALWAYS a mess? Nah, you WERE a mess... and HE is a mess... BUT you are fabulous."
I just saw this video for the first time. I was looking for some effective ways to help a friend deal with her frustrating and sabotaging internal dialogue. Many years ago, I became a Certified Master Practitioner of NLP, but I have not used it much in all this time. I have had a few successes working with people, but I never took it off the ground professionally. And though I was even successful doing NLP on myself after a hit-and-run crash that put me in the hospital and anchored some real generalized terror on the road that rendered me unable to drive confidently, I have allowed this obstacle of lack of confidence to stop me all this time. It's never too late, so I can still tackle it . . . .but that's not what I'm writing about. Owen, I LOVE this video and will be using the points this afternoon with my friend. The video is precise, humorous, engaging, and I plan to watch more of your videos and visit your site. Thank you for what you do.
Then can you help me? I’ve been trying for three years to do what’s in the video, and I can’t make it happen. I don’t know HOW to perform the very first instruction, for instance: HOW to change an internal voice to sound different. He tells us to do that, and he never tells us HOW to do it. Please tell me how to do it - I wasn’t born knowing how, and he sounds as if he thinks everybody’s born knowing how & doesn’t need to be told how. I’ve been trying for three years. Please help.
This guy is really cool. I felt the intelligence right away. Lots of these coaches on the internet are not, well, if you know what i mean then you also don't say. They are real detractors from the genre, but this guy makes up for it all. Really helpful, you don't feel like you are being taken for a ride or subliminally denigrated. I won't name names, it's so obvious when you fall over one of them. yech.
I wish I would of knew about you earlier! I feel like I now understand how to help my negative thoughts. I’ve been at war with myself for so long that now I believe I have answers where things will change for me 🙏🏼
Thank you very much for your videos. This is one of the best. I sent it to my son in law also. We have a very good relationship, and we both deal with some tough things in life. I first heard you in your TED talk. I loved the poetic and rap expressions. I'm glad you're doing this work. Keep making life easier to understand and handle for others.
SAME! I always refer to that word as an anchor I just think "flipside" and my mind flips whatever bullshit I was worrying about or something that was troubling and bothering me.
It is comforting to know that everybody does this at times. it is important to note that stress makes your inner voice louder. The less stress you have, the more quiet the inner voice. The more quiet the inner voice, the better you become at being able to focus on actual physical tasks at hand.
Thanks , I will follow your advice. In my case I start with a internal dialog and quickly or at the same time I see a flash back wich finishes triggering the entire negative thinking . at the present time this core belief has been reduced. It took me 3 years to feel better but still last year or 2 years ago I could not control this negative thinking it turned into high anxiety , social phobia, hyper vigilance etc 24/ 7. I even had to ask for medication for a few months to my psychotherapist. I feel better but still a couple times a day I still encounter with negative core beliefs. I hope with npl I finish with negative thinking because at the end is evil , bad , crazy internal dialog and non real images or movies that we ourselves create in our heads but never put in practice in real world , is crazy how the human mind turns into from our internal thinking behavior.
Negative internal dialogue is down to outside influences - in the main. Ultimately, kids go 'off the rails' because of these influences and who they are 'influenced' by and communicate with. Think about kids that come from decent families but then end up taking hard drugs or choose a life of crime - simply put - they're led astray or go down the wrong path. Getting them back on track is a completely different conversation and certainly no easy task - achieving that is harder than one might think - but it is possible using dialogue and spoken therapy. PTSD as an example is similarly linked to an extent and that is much dependent on the severity. That said, using spoken therapy can and does bring people back but there are key differences so it's not a 'one size fits all'. In short - an individual could be brought back in a day, others weeks or months - in extreme cases perhaps even years too if their condition / experience is or was that severe.
Why would you want to mock yourself, we say negative things because we feel uncertain about situations. Who wants to be always right and confident in their actions, even more so content with the feeling of joy. I'm glad I feel doubt and self scrutiny at times, all apart of being human. I keep myself in check, and I feel like alot of times we're hard on ourselves because we know we can do better deep down. I think more and more NLP is just a means for people who don't really know themselves to cope with emotions they can't deal with. You can try and trick your brain but you can't run away from the truth of how you really feel about certain things.
Great information I am learning NLP to help clients change their “self-concept/identity” to achieve their goals. These are very helpful! And the humor and rhymes helps with retention 🙃👍🏽
you said I am supposed to say it in a silly tone to make it sounds stupid or question it from a strong inner voice but when we use them both that contradicts the power of using each one of them. HOPE YOU GET WHAT I MEAN
Splendid stuff, Owen - thanks heaps. Funny story: I had turned on the captions so I could read along as I listened. I suspect this transcription is somewhat automated by YT because when you spoke the words "change the tense," the caption wrote it as "change the tents." How fitting, I'm throwing out all my old limiting tents and pitching brocaded silk tents from a distant beautiful land, probably the west of Ireland.
I like the way you explain this. And you make me laugh! I love NLP and have been using it for a long time, and now start teaching and sharing it. Still, really good to have a refresher!
I've just discovered your video and whoah, it just blew my mind. I am a teaching in embodiment, and I would love to implement your pointers in my class. Is it alright to do so? I don't want to be disrespectful your knowledge or the time you put in making this video.
Owen , I never knew how to talk to myself or how to correct bad programming ,where can I learn more on my own because I can't afford a therapist and on the internet and even in books I'm finding all kinds of techniques and ideas but It is very confusing and many of the autors either are using over simplified ideas or they are showing off with their understanding and knowledge . Anyone can reply to me I would be really grateful for anything that you can offer me. This video was very supportive and it helped me connect some dots. Thank you! Btw as a side note I have been clinical depressed and I dissociate a lot or I am .
Thank you so much! I will be teaching this to my 9 year old today. I am also preparing to teach school age children confidence skills and mind power techniques. A few months ago when I really became aware of my negative thoughts/beliefs, I thought of repeating the thought or belief and adding "I remember when.".....{I used to think that way} or whatever the thought or belief was. As to say 'I used to think that way but I don't anymore' Would that work the same as the past tense that you mentioned? Thank you so much!
I’ve been trying this, hard, for three years. It hasn’t even begun to work. How many years or decades does it usually require to begin to make it work?
Amazing video, thanks. One question: is it possible to do it automatically? I mean, if we were talking about negative images, we could maybe do a swish and make the changa automatically. How could we do it with internal dialogue? I tried with a friend of mine, he has such a negative inner dialogue, then I ask him to imagine the voice coming from his big toe :D . It helped him a lot, but is not automatic, he has to stop and think about it, but sometimes he is busy working and he just forgets... Any tips about it would be wonderful. By the way, I'm reading your book with Bandler, just get started and I'm already liking! Thanks :) Regars from Brazil. o/
Owen Fitzpatrick I do a podcast to help people heal from emotional pain.. id love to interview you to help people with these NLP techniques if you’re game
Mr Owen this is great, but I am worried about the people who do not know much about nlp and who do not have the attention span of spending 12 min on a video. Please can you make a short video up to 3 min when you can explain people the same as you are doing here. Thank you and good job
Poor Owen, he's a very busy sinner, of the most delightful sort. May I suggest YOU, Alban Al, make the short clip. You're a marvel the way you write and am sure you'd do a splendid job.
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I'm halfway through the video and I'm already a fan. This video is enough in itself. Thank you so much for sharing this. 🙏😃
Watched this a few weeks ago, and I've noticed a huge change in my attitude. I searched high and low to find this video again so I can save it for future use or as a reminder for myself! You did an amazing job and this was one of the most impactful videos I've seen on TH-cam. Thank you so much Owen. You are awesome.
this guy is hilarious I wonder how I lived until now without him in my life hahahaha
Ahahh yes
really creative techniques for actually working through personal turmoil. this allows you to take responsibility for your own thoughts and empowers you to overcome them rather than looking to outside sources to place blame (media, upbringing, the universe, "disorders" etc) or to fix it all for us (medication, extensive therapy- distraction).
thank you!
Being Ironic with myself is the key. Thanks Owen.
What a coincident!
I just ordered the book from Amazon yesterday without knowing that you are one of the authors of the book!
10 years ago I was using these sorts of techniques regularly. Over time I fell out of these ‘good habits’. A friend suggested I watch this video and I’m so glad to have been reminded of what I’ve been missing. And the really good part? My internal dialogue didn’t berate me; just said I was silly for missing out, and congratulated me on being open to making a positive change.
I love challenging and investigating my thoughts. Just gotta remember to do it haha that's the hurdle!
Saw Many Many videos on this subject...... But He guided a step by step on how to remove negative thinking and negative talking to one own self.... He is Good very very Good.... Thanks
Wow! 8 years ago. This is very helpful. I have my little nice 11 years old that is full of these negatives talks. I will practice this with her. I think we will have fun. Excellent!!
This is the best video i've see on destoying negative beliefs /self talk !!!Bravo!!!
"(mocked voice) You're such a mess? (normal voice) and how do you know you're a mess? Are you ALWAYS a mess? Nah, you WERE a mess... and HE is a mess... BUT you are fabulous."
Thank you Owen for this super powerful techniques.
Very welcome Eliene.
Amazing!
You have a magnificent voice!
Both wise and funny. I love it !
Thank you Owen, great insight here. Hope to see you in Dublin soon. :)
Wonderful !!!
Great material and explanation! Loved your humor, and especially how you say "but" ....adorable
I just saw this video for the first time. I was looking for some effective ways to help a friend deal with her frustrating and sabotaging internal dialogue. Many years ago, I became a Certified Master Practitioner of NLP, but I have not used it much in all this time. I have had a few successes working with people, but I never took it off the ground professionally. And though I was even successful doing NLP on myself after a hit-and-run crash that put me in the hospital and anchored some real generalized terror on the road that rendered me unable to drive confidently, I have allowed this obstacle of lack of confidence to stop me all this time. It's never too late, so I can still tackle it . . . .but that's not what I'm writing about. Owen, I LOVE this video and will be using the points this afternoon with my friend. The video is precise, humorous, engaging, and I plan to watch more of your videos and visit your site. Thank you for what you do.
Then can you help me? I’ve been trying for three years to do what’s in the video, and I can’t make it happen. I don’t know HOW to perform the very first instruction, for instance: HOW to change an internal voice to sound different. He tells us to do that, and he never tells us HOW to do it. Please tell me how to do it - I wasn’t born knowing how, and he sounds as if he thinks everybody’s born knowing how & doesn’t need to be told how. I’ve been trying for three years. Please help.
Thank you for giving these tips it's been so helpful and i like your sense of humor..You r an amazing person.
Good explanation. Thanks 👍
Many thanks, Eoin. Food for thought and digestion there!
thank you that was great advice
This guy is really cool. I felt the intelligence right away. Lots of these coaches on the internet are not, well, if you know what i mean then you also don't say. They are real detractors from the genre, but this guy makes up for it all. Really helpful, you don't feel like you are being taken for a ride or subliminally denigrated. I won't name names, it's so obvious when you fall over one of them. yech.
Great video Owen! Both good learning AND humor at the same time. Love it :)
I wish I would of knew about you earlier! I feel like I now understand how to help my negative thoughts. I’ve been at war with myself for so long that now I believe I have answers where things will change for me 🙏🏼
Thank you very much for your videos. This is one of the best. I sent it to my son in law also. We have a very good relationship, and we both deal with some tough things in life. I first heard you in your TED talk. I loved the poetic and rap expressions. I'm glad you're doing this work. Keep making life easier to understand and handle for others.
This video is blessing. Thank you Owen!!
Amazing stuff! Thanks sooo much!
this guy in just brilliant. excelent video! thank you.
outstanding - thanks for that - i use what i call a "flip side" - for any negative there has to be a positive
SAME! I always refer to that word as an anchor I just think "flipside" and my mind flips whatever bullshit I was worrying about or something that was troubling and bothering me.
One of the best lesson. Simple but lot of informative
Wow I'm so glad I found this. Its 3 am I couldn't sleep and I needed to see this. I'm excited to practice these tips🥰
Thanks a lot for such powerful video
It is comforting to know that everybody does this at times. it is important to note that stress makes your inner voice louder. The less stress you have, the more quiet the inner voice. The more quiet the inner voice, the better you become at being able to focus on actual physical tasks at hand.
Thank you Owen.
Mr. Owen, you are true legend! 😎
That was brilliant. Thank you! 😀
Thank you very much. This is helpful.
Such a great technique, thanks
I love it! I wanna make your mocking voice my alarm clock in the morning!
"wahhh but I wanna sleeeep innnn, wahhhh wah wåhh"
Kleia Sumwan MMmmmmMmmm.... wake up now you must
Be careful. You will feel less certain about your alarm clock! :)
Brilliant.Could help a lot of people in a short time,but how specifically?
You’re the best! Thank you so much!
Plain and simple. Thanks!
Thanks a lot, you are amazing ☺️
Greatest understanding
Thanks , I will follow your advice. In my case I start with a internal dialog and quickly or at the same time I see a flash back wich finishes triggering the entire negative thinking . at the present time this core belief has been reduced. It took me 3 years to feel better but still last year or 2 years ago I could not control this negative thinking it turned into high anxiety , social phobia, hyper vigilance etc 24/ 7. I even had to ask for medication for a few months to my psychotherapist. I feel better but still a couple times a day I still encounter with negative core beliefs. I hope with npl I finish with negative thinking because at the end is evil , bad , crazy internal dialog and non real images or movies that we ourselves create in our heads but never put in practice in real world , is crazy how the human mind turns into from our internal thinking behavior.
The "BUT" tool is extremely powerful!!
Stack it all. Thanks for making this world a better place. Thank you Owen
Thanks Gustavo
Negative internal dialogue is down to outside influences - in the main. Ultimately, kids go 'off the rails' because of these influences and who they are 'influenced' by and communicate with. Think about kids that come from decent families but then end up taking hard drugs or choose a life of crime - simply put - they're led astray or go down the wrong path. Getting them back on track is a completely different conversation and certainly no easy task - achieving that is harder than one might think - but it is possible using dialogue and spoken therapy. PTSD as an example is similarly linked to an extent and that is much dependent on the severity. That said, using spoken therapy can and does bring people back but there are key differences so it's not a 'one size fits all'. In short - an individual could be brought back in a day, others weeks or months - in extreme cases perhaps even years too if their condition / experience is or was that severe.
Wow! Thank you for sharing this Owen , It’s awesome and I’ll start practicing it!
Thank you so much for the video! Great use of NLP practices.
Glad you enjoyed it Travis.
Great Video excellent explanation
Fantastic video! And you are super funny!!! thank you!
Thanks for the feedback Danuta!
Wonderful tips
Excellent excellent excellent advice and well explained
Why would you want to mock yourself, we say negative things because we feel uncertain about situations. Who wants to be always right and confident in their actions, even more so content with the feeling of joy. I'm glad I feel doubt and self scrutiny at times, all apart of being human. I keep myself in check, and I feel like alot of times we're hard on ourselves because we know we can do better deep down. I think more and more NLP is just a means for people who don't really know themselves to cope with emotions they can't deal with. You can try and trick your brain but you can't run away from the truth of how you really feel about certain things.
Brilliant! I really love it.
u have done a great research buddy .... continue the good work .... I'm sure this video will help me a lot in my future.... all d best
Great information I am learning NLP to help clients change their “self-concept/identity” to achieve their goals. These are very helpful! And the humor and rhymes helps with retention 🙃👍🏽
Great video! Thank you :)
you said I am supposed to say it in a silly tone to make it sounds stupid or question it from a strong inner voice but when we use them both that contradicts the power of using each one of them. HOPE YOU GET WHAT I MEAN
Faris Amazon these tips are supposed to be used selectively and not all together because some of them can cancel the other
Thank you very much. It very helped for me :)
Very good stuff indeed.
Splendid stuff, Owen - thanks heaps. Funny story: I had turned on the captions so I could read along as I listened. I suspect this transcription is somewhat automated by YT because when you spoke the words "change the tense," the caption wrote it as "change the tents." How fitting, I'm throwing out all my old limiting tents and pitching brocaded silk tents from a distant beautiful land, probably the west of Ireland.
Brilliant, thanks Terrance. Next on the to do list is to review the captions (currently automated). Glad you saw the funny side!
I like the way you explain this. And you make me laugh! I love NLP and have been using it for a long time, and now start teaching and sharing it. Still, really good to have a refresher!
Thank you for the insight
You’re awesome ! SO helpful !
Thanks Martha
Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed this
i like sense of humor of using tone voice for to exceed fear
I've just discovered your video and whoah, it just blew my mind. I am a teaching in embodiment, and I would love to implement your pointers in my class. Is it alright to do so? I don't want to be disrespectful your knowledge or the time you put in making this video.
Thanks Isabelle, go ahead. Subscribe to the channel if you wish so that you are notified of future videos. Good luck...
Nice work!
I was feeling sad before I started watching this video. Now I feel better because I had a good laugh
Excellent!
The facial expressions under #1 are fantastic :D
Owen , I never knew how to talk to myself or how to correct bad programming ,where can I learn more on my own because I can't afford a therapist and on the internet and even in books I'm finding all kinds of techniques and ideas but It is very confusing and many of the autors either are using over simplified ideas or they are showing off with their understanding and knowledge . Anyone can reply to me I would be really grateful for anything that you can offer me. This video was very supportive and it helped me connect some dots. Thank you! Btw as a side note I have been clinical depressed and I dissociate a lot or I am .
Great video!!
after "but" we should say something that is already happening or an affirmation about the future me?
great video
Love it❣ great stuff...thx
Thank you.
Awesome!!
Bless you with love
absolutely marvelous video! I had to stop it several times because I couldn't stop laughing.
Thanks, learned a lot.
Great to hear that MathinusG.
Great video (as always) Owen.
Thank you so much! I will be teaching this to my 9 year old today. I am also preparing to teach school age children confidence skills and mind power techniques. A few months ago when I really became aware of my negative thoughts/beliefs, I thought of repeating the thought or belief and adding "I remember when.".....{I used to think that way} or whatever the thought or belief was. As to say 'I used to think that way but I don't anymore' Would that work the same as the past tense that you mentioned? Thank you so much!
I’ve been trying this, hard, for three years. It hasn’t even begun to work. How many years or decades does it usually require to begin to make it work?
Looks interesting thank you
Thanks for this fella. Awesome. Beautiful man. Ridiculously good looking too 🤣
I LOVE THIS.
Amazing video, thanks. One question: is it possible to do it automatically? I mean, if we were talking about negative images, we could maybe do a swish and make the changa automatically. How could we do it with internal dialogue? I tried with a friend of mine, he has such a negative inner dialogue, then I ask him to imagine the voice coming from his big toe :D . It helped him a lot, but is not automatic, he has to stop and think about it, but sometimes he is busy working and he just forgets... Any tips about it would be wonderful. By the way, I'm reading your book with Bandler, just get started and I'm already liking! Thanks :) Regars from Brazil. o/
thank you so so so so so much for this!!!! and 100% agree with everyone else who says you're hilarious, you really ARE! Cyber hug to you
Thank you!
Thank you
Loving the goofy
Brilliant, very funny!
U r hilarious and so informative !!!! Keep it up!
Thank you!
Owen Fitzpatrick I do a podcast to help people heal from emotional pain.. id love to interview you to help people with these NLP techniques if you’re game
Owen Fitzpatrick calendly.com/pdth/podcast-interview
If you’re game do book in an interview slot .. would be so honoured !
Thank you!
play this video at 2x normal speed for that extra effect :)
intelligent and simple
What is the number 4 technique called?
Number 4 is to "Put it in the third person".
Mr Owen this is great, but I am worried about the people who do not know much about nlp and who do not have the attention span of spending 12 min on a video. Please can you make a short video up to 3 min when you can explain people the same as you are doing here. Thank you and good job
Poor Owen, he's a very busy sinner, of the most delightful sort. May I suggest YOU, Alban Al, make the short clip. You're a marvel the way you write and am sure you'd do a splendid job.