I love how Kati mentioned how helicopter parenting can be as damaging as neglectful parenting. Helicopter parents raise children who are fearful of the world and spend the rest of their lives learning to do things on their own and make their own decisions, valuable skills they should have already been allowed the freedom to learn as a child. Allowing children and teenagers to make their own mistakes and learn from them is so important for their development in my opinion.
Ok here is my advice for dodging overly involved/codependent parents. Limit the communication to what you know they can handle- adapt the truth from: I’m dating this girl, we’re emotionally involved but taking it slow physically but we’re doing dating for now to :: me and friends’ name are together in this geographic region doing these safe things, here is how you can contact me, here is the time you will see me again, I’m on my way back at this time- here is my mode of transit and eta. ❤ The knowledge they won’t respect your boundaries with the emotional side of your life and not try to interfere /question your boundaries with anger means you have to reenforce it for yourself from within. Find support in other relationships (aunts and uncles, parents of friends, but be discerning, older means experienced not mature).
I too would like to see that, but Theo is a character, literally. A therapist cannot analyze someone in character. All of Theo’s podcasts and comedy (although very funny) is a carefully crafted character and not who who truly is. I think only the people he chooses to spend his time with in his private life know what he’s actually like.
there is a old tale that if you loved your dog in this lifetime, your pup will be your spirit guide in the afterlife as a light to take you to a safe destination
I related so much to Esther this episode, we have very similar traumas. I’ve been working on mine for awhile now and really needed to hear this. So thank you!! This was very healing for me ❤
Wow I literally teared up… this episode was much needed. Esther and I have a very similar upbringing where I too was always alone in my room, played by myself, and didn’t have the intimate relationship of a mother/daughter bond. This explains a lot of as to why I prefer to be by myself…
Annie’s advice about texting yourself everything you want to text an ex.. this is everything. In my situation, less of a breakup -my partner died so everyday I message a disconnected phone line how much I love and miss him, all the fantastic things about him and romantic last words we couldn’t share with an impossibility of ever getting that love back. But I know for certain he’d want me to love myself that hard and would give me that love if he could. But still I am not receiving it. So going to try and direct those messages to myself to everytime I am messaging him. Everyone go listen to good morning gorgeous by Mary j blidge
One of my past lovers also passed away 8 years ago now and use to text his disconnected phone as well. I like the idea of texting myself. The month before his death anniversary still gets tough on me so this year I’ll def utilize this strategy. Sending love and haling to those whom lost a past lover or ex to death 💗🌹🥀
Commenting for the algo as usual. I've been following Kati since even before TT and her videos have helped me a lot in the past so it's really cool to see her as a guest here. Happy Tuesday sluggies 🐌
I have never related to Esther more hard than I did during this episode. I’ve been listening/watching from beginning and this was my favourite episode so far. Thanks ladies!! ❤
Oh Esther no wonder I feel so close to your mom. My mom is a Finn too. They are very matter of fact people. Most things are not worth much outward emotion. You handle the situation then after you can handle your emotions. Usually alone behind closed doors because you just don’t put your shit on others. But they are very funny and loving.
This pod is super helpful for me and my "mom" issues. My parents were physically "present" as well as abusive growing up, but especially emotionally "unavailable". Putting me in therapy was their way of "dealing with me", without having to. And I eventually chose drugs instead to deal with my emotions. But as an adult I realized I get to make my own choices, got away from my parents. And have been clean (opiates), for going on 11 years. And still in therapy lol, but its my choice this time! ❤️
I wish they had asked more about Kati's background and hobbies. She seemed to want to talk about it, but the girls put her to work throughout the whole ep.
I really enjoy listening to Annie and I feel like she's hella funny but I sometimes feel bad that she keeps interrupting others unintentionally and disrupts the flow :( anyways I love u all
You know, I think I like the non-comedian guest appearances more than the comedian guest appearances. I certainly love to laugh, but I do enjoy these more serious(but not too serious)-toned episodes a lot
Alright y'all. Stannies, orphannies- I think we should start a new nickname for our beloved Annie: our sweet girl. Let's reinforce that feeling from her Mom's card. Hit like if you're on board ❤️
This was my absolute favourite podcast and I really do love each of the hosts. But I’m bouncing off so many episodes currently with the therapy guests. Maybe it’s useful to some people I don’t know, but for me it’s not particularly insightful and a bit of a chore to get through. There’s been moments when each of them, especially Annie, have dropped some incredible wisdom in episodes, in between being hilarious. That’s seems to be really missing now, and it feels like just another one of a thousand quasi self help podcasts. Not sure if it’s bad, or just my tastes, but feels so stale compared to episodes I absolutely fell in love with where you could be laughing hard, shocked or sometimes shedding a tear and a heartfelt moment.
just think about you friends: are they a blast everytime you see them? or do they have insightful days, or curious about more serious topics in other days? i see this podcast the same. they're usually a blast with a dash of interesting and insightful topics. complex, just like any well rounded person out there
What I meant but maybe didn't convey, was not so much that I just want jokes, and no serious talk or subjects covered, that's obviously one of the podcasts strengths. I just find the shift and direction off. Almost like the show kind of bedding down into just another self help pod. At the start it was brilliantly chaotic, not just in terms of being funny, but some refreshing and quite raw emotions. Maybe this is the show maturing and it works great for others. Ultimately, I'm a guy, and it's one of very few podcasts I watch with my wife. In a low-key way it's nice to have shared laughs and encouraged discussion about sex etc in our own relationship. But it just doesn't seem to do that now. But that's just my response. Not saying it's objectively worse or wanting to diminish anyone else's enjoyment.
@@hemmefatale1 couldn't agree more. Also they rehash the same trauma they've talked about before. I miss the chaos of earlier shows as well. I'll still watch but you nailed it.
rise and fall?....beside special guest bumps, they have consistently the same amount of views every episode. They are very similiar to tigerbelly in that way.
Ngl I'm glad Annie came. Because the last time they had someone talk about something educational and Annie's not there, the mood of the whole room felt really low. Same thing happened during the first part of the show.
esther!! i completely relate to having a finnish parent and how the culture DEFINITELY affects emotions and closeness with how reserved they tend to be. My whole fam is finnish 😅
Love you Annie ❤❤❤ I don’t know why I feel more connected to you but it might be the add always rushing not organized that’s me also😅 heard you talking about it. I got so happy to see you walk in the room!!
I loved this episode so much! I really did not expect to relate so much to a lot of the topics, and I think I gained a lot of insight towards my own childhood trauma. I would def love to see more videos like this in the future. One suggestion I have is that you guys talk a lot about your sexual trauma-- which as a 20 yr old female who has been through my own share very recently-- I would love to see an episode where you guys talk with Kati about aspects of it, how to heal, and how you all have overcome your struggles with it (ofc only sharing as much as you're comfortable with). Love this podcast! It's great to see successful, funny women spreading love and kindness towards each other in a world where you don't often see that.
I love my ladies, but you can tell they need to do more preparation for these interviews. I get that they’re busy so they have to wing it sometimes but I think a little more preparation would be beneficial. ❤
I'm a 36 year old guy from the Bronx. I needed this episode. I've seen Kati on Where My Mom's At a couple times, but this was a nice surprise. I've both realized that I was emotionally neglected as a kid, and have forgiven my parents for being perfectly imperfect people in one episode of a podcast.
There's a general rule out there when it comes to sibling hierarchy that a significant age gap between siblings, I believe it's 6 years, means that that child born will most likely have a lot of personality traits of an only child. The theory behind that is that you don't grow up with your sibling(s) that are 6 plus years older than you. I would have to find the literature about it to get exact numbers and info but that's the basics. My mother was really into sibling order traits and I vaguely remember reading about it in my college psychology class. Esther's behavior is typical of someone who has a significantly older sibling and no other siblings near her age. She essentially grew up by herself with her parents.
This is wrong me and my sister are 7 years apart and very close the difference is her sister didn’t want her prob wanted to keep being an only child and didn’t include her. My sister wanted me so bad she took me to show and tell lol
@Brianna Dash this is based on research and studies. There will always be outliers. It's more about what traits you have. You may be very close to your sister but still exhibit only child/first born characteristics because you never had to compete with another sibling.
@Nuthin But Garlic birth order theory Alfred Adler. Then go from there. Tons of different research and theories regarding birth order and personality traits and parental behaviors.
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I love how Kati mentioned how helicopter parenting can be as damaging as neglectful parenting. Helicopter parents raise children who are fearful of the world and spend the rest of their lives learning to do things on their own and make their own decisions, valuable skills they should have already been allowed the freedom to learn as a child. Allowing children and teenagers to make their own mistakes and learn from them is so important for their development in my opinion.
what do you say to a mum that says I dont want you making mistakes that will ruin your life?
Ik I’m struggling w this rn😢
I'm 30 and going through this so fucking hard rn
@@ebbya1969 Move. Move physically away from them, support yourself financially, make your own decisions
Ok here is my advice for dodging overly involved/codependent parents. Limit the communication to what you know they can handle- adapt the truth from: I’m dating this girl, we’re emotionally involved but taking it slow physically but we’re doing dating for now to :: me and friends’ name are together in this geographic region doing these safe things, here is how you can contact me, here is the time you will see me again, I’m on my way back at this time- here is my mode of transit and eta. ❤ The knowledge they won’t respect your boundaries with the emotional side of your life and not try to interfere /question your boundaries with anger means you have to reenforce it for yourself from within. Find support in other relationships (aunts and uncles, parents of friends, but be discerning, older means experienced not mature).
As soon as I see kati was a guest I knew this was going to be a great episode. I love this dialogue between women and friends.
We need more Kati eps. A lot resonated with me as a daughter AND mother✨
All mothers are daughters :)
@@corybolton5121 and not all daughters are not mothers🙂
Love to see Kati on Theo's Podcast, it be very therapeutic for everyone
Omfg lol yes
I too would like to see that, but Theo is a character, literally. A therapist cannot analyze someone in character. All of Theo’s podcasts and comedy (although very funny) is a carefully crafted character and not who who truly is. I think only the people he chooses to spend his time with in his private life know what he’s actually like.
Feelin' Esther's look today
I turned into a telescope! AYAYAAAAA!
Her style seems to have been really heightened lately I am feelin it as well
Seriously so cute!
@Regis Johnson Brendan Schaub can't end anything, much less his last fight!
Thank you all for all of the laughs! I am even more grateful for them while I grieve the loss of my doggy.
😢 are you okay
🩶🩶🩶
Sorry for your loss
there is a old tale that if you loved your dog in this lifetime, your pup will be your spirit guide in the afterlife as a light to take you to a safe destination
I’m so sorry for your loss, my friend. Losing your dog is so, so hard.
I related so much to Esther this episode, we have very similar traumas. I’ve been working on mine for awhile now and really needed to hear this. So thank you!! This was very healing for me ❤
Wow I literally teared up… this episode was much needed. Esther and I have a very similar upbringing where I too was always alone in my room, played by myself, and didn’t have the intimate relationship of a mother/daughter bond. This explains a lot of as to why I prefer to be by myself…
Kati has a soothing voice and kinda looks like Chloë Sevigny
yes that last part for sure
Annie’s advice about texting yourself everything you want to text an ex.. this is everything. In my situation, less of a breakup -my partner died so everyday I message a disconnected phone line how much I love and miss him, all the fantastic things about him and romantic last words we couldn’t share with an impossibility of ever getting that love back. But I know for certain he’d want me to love myself that hard and would give me that love if he could. But still I am not receiving it. So going to try and direct those messages to myself to everytime I am messaging him.
Everyone go listen to good morning gorgeous by Mary j blidge
this made me tear up. sending love ♥️
Wish I could give you a big hug! Keep pushing to get out of the hell you’re currently in, you can do it!
One of my past lovers also passed away 8 years ago now and use to text his disconnected phone as well. I like the idea of texting myself. The month before his death anniversary still gets tough on me so this year I’ll def utilize this strategy. Sending love and haling to those whom lost a past lover or ex to death 💗🌹🥀
That disconnected number was actually my number and I was getting all those messages. I always wondered what that was about. Hmm.
❤️
So glad the therapist was here to shed light on prevailing issues for the ladies, and help. Great episode.
I like the last part about not being a victim and learning from your bad relationships.
khalyla absulutely silent during that...
@@vladv709 stop
I love listening to Kati. She don’t give off that therapist vibe. It’s like she just talking to her friends.
Absolutely love this episode! 💚Even wish that it was longer. Please have Kati back she’s awesome.
Oh I love Kati! This was a great episode...self love and understanding is crucial to a happy life! Thanks ladies ❤️✨
Esther’s fit is fire ✨✨✨ also just noticed K’s pants omg! Neeeed!
Episodes like this are 1000x better than having a random comedian on talking about trivial things
Commenting for the algo as usual. I've been following Kati since even before TT and her videos have helped me a lot in the past so it's really cool to see her as a guest here. Happy Tuesday sluggies 🐌
I have never related to Esther more hard than I did during this episode. I’ve been listening/watching from beginning and this was my favourite episode so far. Thanks ladies!! ❤
Oh Esther no wonder I feel so close to your mom. My mom is a Finn too. They are very matter of fact people. Most things are not worth much outward emotion. You handle the situation then after you can handle your emotions. Usually alone behind closed doors because you just don’t put your shit on others. But they are very funny and loving.
This pod is super helpful for me and my "mom" issues. My parents were physically "present" as well as abusive growing up, but especially emotionally "unavailable". Putting me in therapy was their way of "dealing with me", without having to. And I eventually chose drugs instead to deal with my emotions. But as an adult I realized I get to make my own choices, got away from my parents. And have been clean (opiates), for going on 11 years. And still in therapy lol, but its my choice this time! ❤️
Annie, queen of showing up late to her own podcast
That background laugh at 33:50 is insane
Tuesdays>>> 💗💗💗
Happy Tuesday slugs 🐌 ❤
Happy Tuesday to you Mari.
I love Katis channel, its been so helpful. I was so happy to see her on the show💚
I’ve been watching a lot of Katie’s content recently. Cool to see you guys have her on.
I wish they had asked more about Kati's background and hobbies. She seemed to want to talk about it, but the girls put her to work throughout the whole ep.
ESTHER this outfit, the nails, your hair 😍
This should be called Trash Every Day
Love this episode as a superfan of the pod and an LCSW therapist! So potent and relatable.
Annie’s on her ADHD schedule 😂
Thank God for Trash Tuesday ❤❤
This was one of the most profound podcasts for my personal growth as a generational trauma survivor. Thank you !
my fav learning segment: Take responsibility and make changes
I really enjoy listening to Annie and I feel like she's hella funny but I sometimes feel bad that she keeps interrupting others unintentionally and disrupts the flow :( anyways I love u all
So excited for my two therapy channels colliding 🥹🥰🐌
They had Trisha on. They all need therapy to dissect why they thought enabling a mentally ill insane person was a good idea.
You know, I think I like the non-comedian guest appearances more than the comedian guest appearances. I certainly love to laugh, but I do enjoy these more serious(but not too serious)-toned episodes a lot
Thank you for the insight, Kati! This was a great episode. Glad Esther discovered her trauma too.
Carlos didn’t even bother to hand Esther her banana because he knew she wouldn’t eat it. This ED is real…
Only a 30% through but this episode is freaking awesome. Such valuable ideas shared and explored in this episode :)
This episode is therapeutic and kati's voice is so soothing and warmth to listen. 😍
love this episode! ☺️💕
Alright y'all. Stannies, orphannies- I think we should start a new nickname for our beloved Annie: our sweet girl. Let's reinforce that feeling from her Mom's card. Hit like if you're on board ❤️
BEST ENERGY EVER 48 MINUTES IN! I AM SO GLAD TO SEE THIS ENERGY!! WHY I BECAME A LISTENER!!!
So many gem moments in this one I kept getting teary eyed out of empathy both happy and sad 🫶🏻💘
we want THEO!!
Ew
I second that
Naw
This is a great bounce back from last week that i had to skip.
Love when the worlds of two of my favorite podcasts collide 💜💜💜
This was my absolute favourite podcast and I really do love each of the hosts. But I’m bouncing off so many episodes currently with the therapy guests. Maybe it’s useful to some people I don’t know, but for me it’s not particularly insightful and a bit of a chore to get through. There’s been moments when each of them, especially Annie, have dropped some incredible wisdom in episodes, in between being hilarious. That’s seems to be really missing now, and it feels like just another one of a thousand quasi self help podcasts. Not sure if it’s bad, or just my tastes, but feels so stale compared to episodes I absolutely fell in love with where you could be laughing hard, shocked or sometimes shedding a tear and a heartfelt moment.
Nailed it 🎯
just think about you friends: are they a blast everytime you see them? or do they have insightful days, or curious about more serious topics in other days?
i see this podcast the same. they're usually a blast with a dash of interesting and insightful topics.
complex, just like any well rounded person out there
What I meant but maybe didn't convey, was not so much that I just want jokes, and no serious talk or subjects covered, that's obviously one of the podcasts strengths. I just find the shift and direction off. Almost like the show kind of bedding down into just another self help pod. At the start it was brilliantly chaotic, not just in terms of being funny, but some refreshing and quite raw emotions. Maybe this is the show maturing and it works great for others. Ultimately, I'm a guy, and it's one of very few podcasts I watch with my wife. In a low-key way it's nice to have shared laughs and encouraged discussion about sex etc in our own relationship. But it just doesn't seem to do that now. But that's just my response. Not saying it's objectively worse or wanting to diminish anyone else's enjoyment.
@@hemmefatale1 couldn't agree more. Also they rehash the same trauma they've talked about before. I miss the chaos of earlier shows as well. I'll still watch but you nailed it.
"Doing what you're doing is enough" ❤
I love Kati ! I hope she comes back
one of my favs we love you healing baddies💗
NGL i think I’ve enjoyed the rise and fall of trash tuesday…
rise and fall?....beside special guest bumps, they have consistently the same amount of views every episode. They are very similiar to tigerbelly in that way.
"Ive seen souls leave on the internet"....Annie that is a Statement of Statements
Love this collab! Wise and hilarious women ♥️ I stan
This was so helpful to me beyond words
I LOVED this episode! 💞
Thank you, I'm back this week with you slugs and Katie, couldn't watch that trisha ep
you missed a good one
Awesome show. Bring her back
havent finished yet but this family trauma stuff b too relateable
yay kati! also love her appearances on where my moms at with christina p
OMG!!! Katie is the best, I'm so happy to see her as a guest 😍
The episode that hit home 🥺❤️ love you girls
Esther's outfit 😘👌
Love the look 💅
She’s so beautiful 😍🥺
Yay! We love Katie!!!
I LOVE THIS SHOW!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️
Ngl I'm glad Annie came. Because the last time they had someone talk about something educational and Annie's not there, the mood of the whole room felt really low. Same thing happened during the first part of the show.
Annie makes the podcast. Its just not the same without her
I will buy the “I have a crush on Tod merch”!!!
I’m at work right now. I can’t be crying like this.
Esther I love this outfit
LOVED THIS EPISODE LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU ALLLLLLLLLLL
Such a good episode! 💖 ✨
Hey, Kati Morton!
esther!! i completely relate to having a finnish parent and how the culture DEFINITELY affects emotions and closeness with how reserved they tend to be. My whole fam is finnish 😅
You ladies should have on David Choe.
When Anne said she was popping out of boxes to surprise her brother she should’ve said she came out breach/ ass first 😂
Thanks Sluggies! ⭐🌹😘💕⭐
Great episode!!!!!
Great show, great great guest
Great guest, good episode. 😎❤️👍
Love you guys❤❤❤
Whenever Annie says sluggies it makes me feel so much better idk y
-Kati rocks 🤘🏼
-Esther has such bad trauma-FOMO lmao.
-thank God Annie showed up.
starting strong!!! lets go!
I love Kati! She’s helped me sooooo much with my mental health. I’m so happy to see her on here ❤
The guests change, but the conversations don't 😩
I love you all beautiful ladies so much 💗
Kati is so great! Y'all get really good guests!
Very informative I got some questions to ask my family Now 😄
Love you Annie ❤❤❤ I don’t know why I feel more connected to you but it might be the add always rushing not organized that’s me also😅 heard you talking about it. I got so happy to see you walk in the room!!
Great discussions here!
I loved this episode so much! I really did not expect to relate so much to a lot of the topics, and I think I gained a lot of insight towards my own childhood trauma. I would def love to see more videos like this in the future. One suggestion I have is that you guys talk a lot about your sexual trauma-- which as a 20 yr old female who has been through my own share very recently-- I would love to see an episode where you guys talk with Kati about aspects of it, how to heal, and how you all have overcome your struggles with it (ofc only sharing as much as you're comfortable with). Love this podcast! It's great to see successful, funny women spreading love and kindness towards each other in a world where you don't often see that.
Kati's voice sounds like Kristen Wiig character
I love my ladies, but you can tell they need to do more preparation for these interviews. I get that they’re busy so they have to wing it sometimes but I think a little more preparation would be beneficial. ❤
I'm a 36 year old guy from the Bronx. I needed this episode. I've seen Kati on Where My Mom's At a couple times, but this was a nice surprise. I've both realized that I was emotionally neglected as a kid, and have forgiven my parents for being perfectly imperfect people in one episode of a podcast.
1 minute in and I'm already loving this ep!
"I want that on my tomb stone "If it doesn't have a cotton gusset im out"
"too much too soon" lol
Esther and her sister only being 7 years apart and she acts like she’s an only child is wild to me lol.
There's a general rule out there when it comes to sibling hierarchy that a significant age gap between siblings, I believe it's 6 years, means that that child born will most likely have a lot of personality traits of an only child. The theory behind that is that you don't grow up with your sibling(s) that are 6 plus years older than you. I would have to find the literature about it to get exact numbers and info but that's the basics. My mother was really into sibling order traits and I vaguely remember reading about it in my college psychology class. Esther's behavior is typical of someone who has a significantly older sibling and no other siblings near her age. She essentially grew up by herself with her parents.
This is wrong me and my sister are 7 years apart and very close the difference is her sister didn’t want her prob wanted to keep being an only child and didn’t include her. My sister wanted me so bad she took me to show and tell lol
@Brianna Dash this is based on research and studies. There will always be outliers. It's more about what traits you have. You may be very close to your sister but still exhibit only child/first born characteristics because you never had to compete with another sibling.
@@JA-ur8cx you made that up.
@Nuthin But Garlic birth order theory Alfred Adler. Then go from there. Tons of different research and theories regarding birth order and personality traits and parental behaviors.
great episode!!!! :,)
Katie is a great guest! Love the healing energy of this ep!