Why Cerebral Narcissist Becomes Somatic (Aging, Death)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ก.ย. 2024
- Cerebral narcissism is a relatively stable construct across the lifespan. It involves early life sublimation so massive and all-pervasive that it renders the cerebral asexual, all but eradicating his sex drive (arrested sexual development).
Sensing his abnormality, potential sex partners shun the often creepy and robotic cerebral. In return, he conjures up a defensive ideology: celibacy is evidence of superior strength and women are contemptible.
Cerebrals become somatic following a collapse: when they can no longer garner supply by placing their intellect on public display or when offered opportunities to obtain quick fixes of narcissistic supply via sex.
As somatics, erstwhile cerebrals resemble sex addicts: from zero to hero.
But there is another reason for such s startling transformation: age and looming death.
The cerebral narcissist attempts to deny his age and fend off his ineluctable demise by having sex, preferably with much younger partners.
The cerebral being a narcissist, the sex is compulsive and autoerotic (masturbatory). The partners are mostly fungible and forgettable except when they are mentally ill (borderlines, for example) and cater to the narcissist’s grandiosity as a “healer” or “fixer”.
The shared fantasies then offered to these partners often incorporate a fresh start typical of younger ages: relocation, marriage, children, incessant travel, or a long-term relationship.
The cerebral turned somatic frantically thrashes about, trying to make up for lost time and missed sexual and romantic opportunities.
But as he inexorably declines, it becomes harder and harder to maintain the delusional self-deception and the cerebral ends up, often alone, in a degenerative schizoid state.
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That movie always broke my heart every time I watched.
Going to watch
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WOW- you just described what happened to my 38 year marriage. He (66) left for a somatic narc (64)-not younger than me, but it let him explore his somatic behavior. 3 years later, he has gone back to work. Changing back to Cerebral? I have gone gray rock. But this does explain a lot for me.
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My 50 year old boss is extremely narcissistic and used to hang out with 30 year olds and pretend to be the same age, I went to a club with her once and she used this scenario to cheat on her husband with a younger guy.. I left within 45 mins of arriving; it was gross
It is gross.
Cheerfull video indeed… but so recognisable. Spot on in explaining what I am going through. My ex partner, as a cerebral Narcissistic, has changed exactly as described. And is now living whith his 15 years younger partner, and her kids, having lots of sex and love (soulmates). And is currenty starting a total new live with her. Leaving a marriage of 25 years, within one week, after faling in love with the new supply. Thanks for explaining so clearly!
It can be a mid life crisis. Many older people date with 20 year old eyes.
It's not love. It's lust and limerance. His pattern will repeat.
It's possible he could have an avoidant attachment.
See Sam's podcast on attachment styles.
And there was me thinking it was the prozac that made my father suddenly develop a taste for nightclubbing.
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How can one watch this video and not feel sorry for a Narcissist. It’s not even in their control and neither is there a cure. And he has to live like this because of a Dead Mother. It’s too sad
It cannot be “healed!” At best, it can be managed. There is no real cure. Watch cold therapy videos by Sam.
U can feel sorry but remain detached
Professor Vaknin has a cure. A form of cold therapy.
Idk but I actually don’t feel sorry for them. I can see a narcissist hungry on the street, straight up rib cage showing skinny and malnourished I wouldn’t give them a single gummy bear to eat.
Don't pity them, they'll use your pity against you
This explains my husband’s affair to a T.
It’s kind of humorous to have “fly on the wall” perspective of his human development…a research study into the bizarre.
Professor Sam? I’m wondering now, why my soon to be ex Narc started injecting testosterone when the devaluing and discarding was happening…god he really became addicted to sex and could go on and on for a long time!! Ugggh he became discusting I filed for divorce and let me tell you going through mediation is a whole new level of mind fu*^%*-NESS…thank you all the way from Kona, Hawaii🌺
@@esthero1994 oh gosh Esther…unbahleevable these beings exist! I’m 49yrs old! And only now I’m educating myself after 29years married to it! 30yrs together! 3 adult kids and a granddaughter…I’m just now starting to heal and digging myself out of the rabbit hole..10 months no contact except 3x (in court, my second sons Ironman Triatholon here in Hawaii (and yes it brought his insignificant other🙄) and were not even divorced yet! It’s dragging out the mediation process, and the third time was our oldest son‘s wedding this past fridsy 11/11/22… unbelievable how this individual can just be there at our sons wedding and just be like he doesn’t even know who I am I was the mother of his three kids and just living a double life and is happy with his new supply let me tell you I hit rock bottom and I didn’t want to live didn’t know what the hell happened until I was forced to educate myself and learn all about narcissism in order for me to heal and stay alive then everything started to make sense the cheating in the lying I know it’s sad that he has a mentality of a child not older than nine years old no wonder he could never help me around the house if our stairs were broken the tiles were coming off I had to hire somebody to fix the stairs I had to hire somebody to install a new water heater because ours was leaking and it wouldn’t do anything to help me I will water faucet was leaking for a whole year and it just didn’t give a damn of anything didn’t even tent our house it needed tenting because of the termites and pests they just didn’t have the mentality of an adult it couldn’t do the adult things around the house, it
Owned 3 boats over the years and only used it once it just sat and sat until it just got taken from a friend or borrowed and not returned or sold..be going to two boats that never been used couple trucks that was a I believe they are stuck in a child mentality then towards the end he started getting fake muscles from the testosterone injections he started getting huge arms and oh my God his penis stayed so hard for the longest time I couldn’t even keep up I just said to myself this is just crazy and kind of creepy and I just didn’t know who he was anymore I finally had the strength and courage to just walk away after a couple times and I think I read it takes seven times and I do believe that’s around the same time that I tried to leave and I kept on crawling back for bread crumbs
@@jodyhing8557 sending you good vibes and wishing you well on your healing journey! Remember that you are not crazy or going crazy. You have been infected by a poisonous virus that will take time and work in your hurt inner child to heal. Beware that you are at risk of being hoovered back into his mess or ending up with another narc. Take your time to heal.
My soon to be ex also started exercising 7 days a week, living on proteins, growing his muscles. I think they do this to leverage, to confirm their superiority because they can see the damage the relationship is having on us. Look after your self and know that you are not alone ❤
@@HahaT634 aloha to you T T..I appreciate your words! Sending my love & aloha!..please be well & safe!! Jody
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Thank you, Sam.
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Feeling scrutinized, uncomfortable, not quite right.. I have been to Uncanny Valley! Not my favourite holiday destination..
Dr. Sam what happens if they are impotent? Do they turn to pornography and fantasy?
Pornography warps men's brains. It can cause ED. And they'll expect a woman to behave like a porn star.
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Oh my. I think I know a dozen of these. Creepy, robotic. You weave a complicated tapestry. In some ways it is beautiful and sad.
I have to re-watch the video on shared fantasies of the narcissist and borderline.
Video games... He turned his energy to video games
Is it just an impression that there is a high incidence of co-morbidity between cerebral narcissism and psychopathy?
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Dr Sam when you have ASD why is it your mind can sometimes not let something go even when it causes you distress and sabotage?
I’m a lesbian. My ex was a neglectful narcissist who carried our first child. She was home with her the first 6 months while I worked. My daughter never bonded. Always detached her whole childhood. She’s 16 now and shows very strong traits of narcissism. I know she is. We know her biological father. I think he’s communal narcissisti. Def gotta be some genetic link in this too.
I always thought my ex was asexual. She liked receiving but never initiated. Very weird. I think she’d be fine if she never had sex again.
This is Sheldon in The Big Bang Theory
Thought the same thing when watching this video 😄
Wowww…..
can cerebral narcissist become good/interested in sex if he percieve sex as an intellectual process?
Sex can never be perceived as an intellectual pursuit because it involves the body.
🤔👌. Interesting. 🙏✨
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🤣I had my first sex at age 13 and I think my learning disabilities affect my abilities to understand what I have just learn from no.1 professor, but I solemnly swear I will read less books that I already did🙋🧏