I mean Jordana is damn near a therapist. She's always asking Jared excellent probing questions, she doesn't talk over him when he answers and listens intently, and she always takes an empathetic approach. I wish I could tell her all my problems. 😂
Jared, I attended your show in Tarrytown and had such a great time. When you started gasping to imitate your mother's reactions, I absolutely lost it laughing. My mom does the exact same thing. Thanks for the laughs!
Benefits idea: crossover episode with Dr. Naomi, I always like hearing Jared's takes on those. I end up going to listen to over sharing to choose who I agree with lol
to the emailer asking about the annoying bf - unfortunately, I'm THAT person. for me it's a combo of oversharing, being "quirky", not feeling heard as a child (being the youngest of three with divorced parents and all that) and ADD. I lost a bunch of friends over the years, most likely due to this pattern?, and it seems like people don't wanna speak up and talk it out - which is a shame when u don't even notice how ur sometimes talking over people. my bestie from school once told me that I don't give her enough room to express herself before she hung up on me and it stuck with me. I've really tried to get rid of this pattern but it's hard, esp when it's ADD related. when I don't get to ask or speak while s.o. else is talking, I'm struggling to listen and it's not really for attention in my case. it's a way to connect, engage and relate to others.. I do understand that it can be annoying but unless it's a serious convo, I can be a bad listener when I'm not allowed to open my mouth. my mom shows the same pattern btw and to me it's not a big deal, but I hate that others seem so affected by it :(
Honestly, therapy is only good if you connect with your therapist. I’ve tried a few and just felt I was better at it lol so I did my own therapy. Read countless books, did a ton of journaling based on those books, and I felt I was able to tap into something that set me free from myself as cheesy as that sounds. I hate therapy snobs though that try to act better than you cause they go to therapy lol…. That’s how Kourtney kardashian is and it’s so annoying and she hasn’t gotten any better
I thought that one girl was writing about me for a sec…. 😅 what do you guys think if u do make plans reservations etc the girl says no to those in this case location is it my responsibility to find a new one ? Idk I feel like in that case you counter with what works better for u, u guys are the best ❤
100% agree that if there are no concrete plans I'm out. Also vanlife men are an immediate red flag for me but maybe not for everyone. I'm kind of skeptical of men who pay with cash because I wonder if they're hiding a credit card charge (or if they don't have a basic understanding of getting points or cash back on a credit card). As always, you guys are the best. Thank you.
My credit is "excellent" but I love using cash at small businesses! They have to pay 4-5% in fees. Even if you get charged 2-3% extra, they still end up losing money. I'll get my airline points anywhere but a small business.
I feel like Jordana sounds a bit judgy when it comes to Jared talking about his parents or the way he feels around women. Jared says really transparent things that a lot of people are thinking but don’t say out of fear of judgment. Jordana literally barely says anything about her own life or her insecurities. I’m 100% sure there’s a lot to marriage that I would love her honest opinion on being in a long term relationship as well. My friends don’t talk about the downs enough… and neither does Jordana. I respect her wanting to keep it private, but I just wish everyone could stop with the judgmental tones when Jared says taboo thoughts. He helps so many people feel seen including me. And I’m a woman lol. Like the way Jorge was also sounding a bit judgy on his experience and way of thinking. I just get worried that Jared stops sharing these insights and it becomes all surface level because judgement scares him off. I loveeeee Jordana, but if it were two people as reserved as Jordana… then…. Transparency and vulnerability while it opens you up to judgment for sure, it connects with people too. So obviously whatever you choose is fine, but I get so protective of Jared lol don’t want him to stop sharing because of everyone judging him. You all are lucky you can see into the mind of someone with his thoughts. It has helped me so much because many men are the same. And even I realized I was the same too.
Jared's transparency helps me too! My friends that are >60 are VERY honest about their marriages & tell me "don't do it"! At least I know I won't settle again. (Been single 28 years! 🚩, but after therapy, I know not to settle...I hope)
To be fair, she has shared more personal experiences on the benefits episode and even admitted feeling bad for not being as open as Jared on the podcast. However, deeper marriage issues are more sensitive and serious than dating topics, so it makes sense that she might choose not to share those. At the same time, I think she does a good job of addressing the lighter, more common challenges in marriage-like bickering or minor disagreements-which are easier to discuss publicly!
As a listener from the inception of the podcast I’d have to disagree. I don’t know if it’s just me, but in my opinion Jared’s comments and views on his parents and fears around relationships have been pretty consistent over the years. At this point, if he felt judged by Jordanna he probably would have stopped sharing a while ago. Honestly I think these past two years have been the first time Jordanna has slightly pushed him to challenge his way of thinking on these topics.
I don’t think she’s being judgy at all, as someone who has similar (maybe worst) parents than jared, someone telling me “hey that’s not okay” made me feel more validated in my feelings rather than judged, idk he also makes me feel seen but i think Jordana’s perspective is more of a call of “hey maybe normalising this is not cool, maybe therapy can help you with that “
@@Williad3756the judging I feel is a new thing. Her demeanor is different, and maybe it’s because she’s been hearing it so much. But trust me as someone who feels exactly like Jared, to others it must feel like “omgggg do something about it, get over it already, go to therapy already”… but to the person experiencing it, it’s not that easy. Eventually I had a breakthrough but that breakthrough took like 20 years lol and part of the reason I was able to have the breakthrough was because of this podcast and Jared being so vulnerable and relatable. I just fear one day the judgement will get to him and he’ll stop, and that’s unfortunate because he’s helped me so much I’m sure he helps so many others.
I mean Jordana is damn near a therapist. She's always asking Jared excellent probing questions, she doesn't talk over him when he answers and listens intently, and she always takes an empathetic approach. I wish I could tell her all my problems. 😂
Not Jared saying he doesn’t want therapy but spending 20min unpacking and using the podcast as his therapy 😂😂
Ugh I hate comments like this.
@@cozy_sundays holy parasocial
CONTENT IDEA: Jared goes to 10 therapy sessions, that should be good for 6 months of subscriber benefits episodes!!! You’re welcome
This one has it all!!!
Jared, I attended your show in Tarrytown and had such a great time. When you started gasping to imitate your mother's reactions, I absolutely lost it laughing. My mom does the exact same thing. Thanks for the laughs!
Thank you!!!
Benefits idea: crossover episode with Dr. Naomi, I always like hearing Jared's takes on those. I end up going to listen to over sharing to choose who I agree with lol
10/10 podcast
Jared- you need to put your parents in their place when they talk to you like that. It's awful.
to the emailer asking about the annoying bf - unfortunately, I'm THAT person. for me it's a combo of oversharing, being "quirky", not feeling heard as a child (being the youngest of three with divorced parents and all that) and ADD. I lost a bunch of friends over the years, most likely due to this pattern?, and it seems like people don't wanna speak up and talk it out - which is a shame when u don't even notice how ur sometimes talking over people. my bestie from school once told me that I don't give her enough room to express herself before she hung up on me and it stuck with me. I've really tried to get rid of this pattern but it's hard, esp when it's ADD related. when I don't get to ask or speak while s.o. else is talking, I'm struggling to listen and it's not really for attention in my case. it's a way to connect, engage and relate to others.. I do understand that it can be annoying but unless it's a serious convo, I can be a bad listener when I'm not allowed to open my mouth. my mom shows the same pattern btw and to me it's not a big deal, but I hate that others seem so affected by it :(
You might need CBT with a therapist that deals with trauma. I didn't figure it out until I'm 65! Seriously... just an idea. It took about 4 yrs 🫤
Honestly, therapy is only good if you connect with your therapist. I’ve tried a few and just felt I was better at it lol so I did my own therapy. Read countless books, did a ton of journaling based on those books, and I felt I was able to tap into something that set me free from myself as cheesy as that sounds. I hate therapy snobs though that try to act better than you cause they go to therapy lol…. That’s how Kourtney kardashian is and it’s so annoying and she hasn’t gotten any better
I would buy any ticket for any shows if Jared goes to therapy and i don’t even live in the US
22:29 is "UB" the brand of these pants?? Need the link/more details
I thought that one girl was writing about me for a sec…. 😅 what do you guys think if u do make plans reservations etc the girl says no to those in this case location is it my responsibility to find a new one ? Idk I feel like in that case you counter with what works better for u, u guys are the best ❤
As a person who is paranoid of flying, I wanna know from Jared how does he fly so often without being scared?
We listen, and we don’t judge! Parents come in all different shapes and sizes. We’re all a little messed up cause of our parents.
100% agree that if there are no concrete plans I'm out. Also vanlife men are an immediate red flag for me but maybe not for everyone. I'm kind of skeptical of men who pay with cash because I wonder if they're hiding a credit card charge (or if they don't have a basic understanding of getting points or cash back on a credit card). As always, you guys are the best. Thank you.
Omg I get skeptical too when a man only pays with cash. Idk why, but first thought is that they are making money under the table in some way 👀 lolll
My credit is "excellent" but I love using cash at small businesses! They have to pay 4-5% in fees. Even if you get charged 2-3% extra, they still end up losing money.
I'll get my airline points anywhere but a small business.
I feel like Jordana sounds a bit judgy when it comes to Jared talking about his parents or the way he feels around women. Jared says really transparent things that a lot of people are thinking but don’t say out of fear of judgment. Jordana literally barely says anything about her own life or her insecurities. I’m 100% sure there’s a lot to marriage that I would love her honest opinion on being in a long term relationship as well. My friends don’t talk about the downs enough… and neither does Jordana. I respect her wanting to keep it private, but I just wish everyone could stop with the judgmental tones when Jared says taboo thoughts. He helps so many people feel seen including me. And I’m a woman lol. Like the way Jorge was also sounding a bit judgy on his experience and way of thinking. I just get worried that Jared stops sharing these insights and it becomes all surface level because judgement scares him off. I loveeeee Jordana, but if it were two people as reserved as Jordana… then…. Transparency and vulnerability while it opens you up to judgment for sure, it connects with people too. So obviously whatever you choose is fine, but I get so protective of Jared lol don’t want him to stop sharing because of everyone judging him. You all are lucky you can see into the mind of someone with his thoughts. It has helped me so much because many men are the same. And even I realized I was the same too.
Jared's transparency helps me too! My friends that are >60 are VERY honest about their marriages & tell me "don't do it"! At least I know I won't settle again. (Been single 28 years! 🚩, but after therapy, I know not to settle...I hope)
To be fair, she has shared more personal experiences on the benefits episode and even admitted feeling bad for not being as open as Jared on the podcast. However, deeper marriage issues are more sensitive and serious than dating topics, so it makes sense that she might choose not to share those. At the same time, I think she does a good job of addressing the lighter, more common challenges in marriage-like bickering or minor disagreements-which are easier to discuss publicly!
As a listener from the inception of the podcast I’d have to disagree. I don’t know if it’s just me, but in my opinion Jared’s comments and views on his parents and fears around relationships have been pretty consistent over the years. At this point, if he felt judged by Jordanna he probably would have stopped sharing a while ago. Honestly I think these past two years have been the first time Jordanna has slightly pushed him to challenge his way of thinking on these topics.
I don’t think she’s being judgy at all, as someone who has similar (maybe worst) parents than jared, someone telling me “hey that’s not okay” made me feel more validated in my feelings rather than judged, idk he also makes me feel seen but i think Jordana’s perspective is more of a call of “hey maybe normalising this is not cool, maybe therapy can help you with that “
@@Williad3756the judging I feel is a new thing. Her demeanor is different, and maybe it’s because she’s been hearing it so much. But trust me as someone who feels exactly like Jared, to others it must feel like “omgggg do something about it, get over it already, go to therapy already”… but to the person experiencing it, it’s not that easy. Eventually I had a breakthrough but that breakthrough took like 20 years lol and part of the reason I was able to have the breakthrough was because of this podcast and Jared being so vulnerable and relatable. I just fear one day the judgement will get to him and he’ll stop, and that’s unfortunate because he’s helped me so much I’m sure he helps so many others.