I am an INFJ Girl who have crush on INTJ. In my friendship circle, all of my INTJ friends are hopeless romantic. they are not able romanticizing any relationship, and the worst one doesn't even want to get married, they tend to focus on their goal and career. I am so afraid that my crush will be the "similar INTJ" too, But, reading this reply give me a little hope that he will have an eye on me sooner or later. please pray for me and my INTJ crush.
@@mschuch❤how you going with your crush on INTJ? I’m INFJ too and I’m having crush on INTJ too, that’s why I watch this video but your comment was 3 months ago, so did you manage to “ crush “ INTJ heart ❤️? I know that they are hopeless romantic but I enjoy the intellectual stimulation of abstract concepts, which not many people are willing or tolerate to engage in. Please let me know
@@mschuch sounds like me 🤣 but here's a catch, maybe if you make him understand how much he means to you, and if he catches that, you'll have someone who is a fiercely loyal person who will stand against the whole world for you. Not saying this in just romantic context, but in general. You make a place in their heart (as in friend or family or a lover) they will do anything for you. I have a friend like that (I just call him a brother from another mother now), and I'll do anything for him.
@@ivanaveltmeyer6373ik it’s been a sec since you commented but I am also an INFJ who had a crush on an INTJ for a couple months and even though we hung out literally every night I was scared to death to ask her out because of those same lack of romantic ideals. When I asked her out earlier this week she said yes in a very neutral way where I could tell she’s not against it, but also hadn’t thought about it much at all despite us hanging out alone late every night for months. I think it’s just difficult to read them which I think is another reason why INFJs might find INTJs attractive. Now that we’re dating I find that the romance aspect hasn’t changed at all so it’s still a bit confusing. Either way, I think asking an INTJ is worth it because it might not be that they don’t like you, just that they hadn’t though about your relationship that way 🤔
Wait... I'm an infj and I actually want to cry. Hearing someone telling me "I notice you and I appreciate what you do" it's something I needed, even though I didn't know I needed it before. Thank you so much💝
@@jakobblazko9015 Of course everybody will die alone, that's not the point, the point it's the process, so, when you die, you know that during your life you had people who cared for you, and gave you external validation because you were someone special for them, that way you can die happy, it's like everything had meaning and was worth it.
Also, as an INFJ, INTJs are my favorite people. They offer clarity, and stability that my sometimes overly sympathetic/empathetic self really struggles with. They understand me, but they offer balance that I need. It’s a treasure. They are rare and hard to befriend, but worth the effort.
“We are able to perceive multiple realities at once.” YES! YES YES YES! That’s me ALLLL THE TIME! As an INFJ, it’s so FREAKING hard to communicate at face value with most of the world 🤦🏻♀️ (sensors). They are so direct and you can tell that they think of one thing only whenever they talk. I have to FORCE myself to be one-dimensional in my communication with them. It feels so unnatural and almost like I internally cringe every time! The more concrete the description, the more I internally suffer lol! That’s why I always feel like people don’t know the real me most of the time and struggle to be felt understood. Being an Ni dom is so freaking weird, but it’s a fantastical mess. It’s like you can think of so many things at the same time that all make sense in the weirdest interconnected ways. I don’t even know how to explain it. Most of the time, I’m not staring at anything in particular; I just perceive the world in an abstract sense-I think of it in colors, feelings, “vibes”, music, symbols, archetypes, tropes . . . I will always be drawn to look beneath the surface and tie everything together. The world is a big mystery and it is MY mysterious oyster! With my INTJ, communication is SO freaking effortless! That’s one of the things I absolutely FREAKING love about him. He’s the best and he just gets me. We can be our cursed, natural forms, without having to dumb ourselves down or excessively explain anything. Long live the Ni doms!
That's how I feel around my Ni user friends as well. It really is a different language talking to Sensors and I agree that it can be tremendously exhausting. Still love them though 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 YES! I work in nursing, and most nurses tend to be sensors (usually SF types). Our communication styles don’t match. 🤦🏻♀️ I have to tailor myself to them while they have no idea how to tailor themselves to me. I come home feeling tired a lot of the time just from the social interactions.
@@TheEmpressNyx I totally understand. I’m an INTJ female and my boss is ISFJ. We interact multiple times daily because our team is small so it’s clear to me that, although I love her, we just don’t mesh well and she rarely tries to understand me. I have to mold to her.
Thank you! I’m an INFJ & one of my bestie’s an INTJ. I totally agree everything you said. I appreciate the INTJ’s honesty and brilliant mind. As well as reminding us, INFJs, that we are not responsible to carry and to solve everyone’s problem to the point that we, INFJs forget to care for our own well-being.
I dated an INTJ in college. Lasted 8 years. Great compatibility mentally and I loved his mind but main issue was he was always a bit emotionally unavailable and undemonstrative with his love. He never even told me “I love you” although I know he did. He was so reserved with emotions that eventually I just had to move on. I desired more affection and emotionally I gave a lot more than I got.
Do what makes the most sense. INTJs really aren't the most emotionally expressive people and it's okay if you need more than what we can provide. I hope you find/found what you're looking for ✊
8 years! Must be really hard for you to break up... Being an INFJ in a relationship with INTJ I completely relate. I hope you've found what you've wanted ❤
I was a shy INTJ in H.S. Met a girl and we hit if off as friends. We would have long conversations and always felt a connection. Lost contact after H.S and found each other through social media 10 yrs later. Had her do a personality test and found out she is a INFJ... our connection makes so much sense.
I am an INFJ woman with an INTJ husband. We've been together for 20 years and we often feel that neither of us could never have lived with anyone else. I wish you all the joy and happiness in the world with your new-found-again friend.
Im an INTJ and my younger brother is an INFJ.. I often refer to us as opposite sides of the same coin.. He is absolutely my favorite person to be around in a social setting.. We have an unspoken language that really freaks people out because we can just look at each other and start laughing.. When I need an emotional perspective on a situation I always go to him.. I truly appreciate him as my brother and my best friend!
INTJ female here. I would describe as more on the emotionally unexpressive side and am often described as detached by those around me. I understand the nature of humans, and thus even through the worst betrayals, I could always find myself understanding why they might have done it, make peace with it, and move on. Nothing usually brings emotions out of me with the exception of a few films like Poetry or City of God, and stories and poems of war. Human diligence, the passion and grit of man, the relentless nature of humans to fight despite odds has always had a way of touching me. Recently, I watched "Culinary Wars" a Korean Netflix cooking competition show. In the 11th episode, 7 contestants had to create new dishes with one ingredient (tofu) every 30 minutes until only one chef remained. There was a scene which cut to an INFJ chef by the nick-name "Triple Star". Watching him quietly cook round after round, exhausted but maintaining his precision, calmness, and focus, touched me. Tears bursting out of my face watching him on that episode. INFJs have the unique ability to stir emotions in me. Their calm and quiet resilience. Humble, self sacrificial, and gentle nature I believe is what attracts me the most to them. I absolutely love them.
Oh my goodness! I am a 31-year-old female INFJ and I’ve been with my male INTJ for 14 years and he’s 32. Thank you so much for that video! I can’t even tell you how many times I teared up throughout it, because of how true it was! I just wanna let you know I just said a prayer to God thanking him for creating you, you beautiful piece of artwork! 🎉
Thank you for your comment, Nicole. I’m an INTJ female who’s always adored INFJs but was afraid they’d never like me due to my poor Fe skills (and an INFJ broke my heart when I was 19 - I’m a lesbian and she is bisexual and went back with her ex boyfriend after 2 years off and on, stringing me along). But I am 55 and still would love to be with an INFJ. I just love our conversations and think we can get each other better than anyone else. ❤ And I’m affectionate and love to let people know how much I love them (through my words and physical touch) which is important to feelers. I used to wonder if I’m a feeler but actually I think I’m just a “jumper” in the OP system, so more in touch with my feelings than most INTJs. It probably helps that I’m female and have the cultural support for that. I’ve had two long-term relationships (8 and 12 years) with INFPs; and, although I adore them, I always feel they don’t appreciate my strengths or craving for music and aesthetics (mainly my Te or Se). And they don’t care about my Ni master plan, beyond just being surface supportive but not really getting it, which hurts. I feel encouraged that it’s possible after seeing yours and a few other similar comments, for an INFJ-INTJ pairing to work.
As an INTJ i think its probably the perfect combination. INTJs are guarded, it very hard to get into our inner circle let alone bring down the protective shield around our hearts - it takes a somebody special to do that. We need to feel safe to do that, the INFJ bring that to the table. Then both have complete worlds of though going thought their heads, conversation would never be boring. The difference allows for learning from each other which both love to do. The INFJ wants to connect on multiple levels like that and they're in a unique position with the keys to an INTJs heart.
I'm an INTJ. I dated an INFJ once for close to a year. It was the warmest, most supportive relationship I ever had the honor of being a part of. Dominant Ni means we pretty much communicated telepathically. We had a reasoned but loving discussion of why the relationship wouldn't work out (different incompatible life stages), and to this day she's the only ex I remain good friends with. She really kick-started my journey toward becoming a more complete, authentic person, and for that she has my lifelong respect and gratitude.
Being an infj who was in a relationship with an intj, I can say this is the best breakdown I’ve ever heard on this MBTI combination. You got everything right. The dynamics of the relationship, the comrade, the depth of conversation, the meeting of two misunderstood minds who come together and feel so comfortable and complete with each other and feeling like they can take on the world together and just be themselves. And when that happens, the physical relationship is through the roof. Being with my intj was the most refreshing thing I’ve ever felt. I felt like I was home. And at 13 minutes, wow that spoke to me. Thank you for your videos.
One of the most stand out things to me as an infj is when an intj just bluntly calls me out and says something along the lines of “then don’t go” “ if you don’t want to then don’t. you don’t have to have a reason just say you aren’t going” no personality type ever puts it to me so blatantly. most empathise with me which makes it worse because then it validates my Fe worries that i’m going to disappoint people. but intjs cut out my Fe so strongly in those moments it sort of jolts me. and i feel brave enough to push for my own wants more. something i really appreciate about intjs that is hard to put into words.
Thank you for the insight! It's so funny to hear that telling INFJs just to say no to things that you don't want to do is helpful because it feels like an automated response for INTJs 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 yeah! haha I thin my that’s what makes it stand out more than when said by others. because infjs are really good a ready people’s intentions. so when an intj says that to me. i can tell. they really mean it. like black and white. “if you don’t want to.. don’t. simple” haha
My best friend is my younger sibling who happened to be an INFJ. And MBTI just made us closer. As the older sibling (INTJ), I find fulfillment in helping her out when indecisiveness gets to her (blindspot Te). Funny story: my father asked me the other day if I contact my sister (she's studying from afar), and I said, "No." He was surprised because we are almost inseparable when she's at home, but apparently, we dont message each other unless we need something. We are like telepaths to each other. We never needed to elaborate our thoughts and we get the signal when one needs their own space. We also feel safe sharing our thoughts to each other because we know the other is listening without prejudice.
WOW, this sounds like me and my little sister. I’m an INTJ and she’s INFJ. She gives the BEST perspective, most thoughtful gifts, and I value her opinion almost above all else, but we also don’t message each other unless we have an express purpose. Although lately, in my sentimental old age of 31, I have been making more efforts to have phone call dates while she is on the other side of the world. By temperament, I probably get along better on a day to day sense with my little INFP brother because he is just such a sweet and gentle soul, while me and my sister tend to be a bit more edgy/ornery, but I love them both equally and appreciate both of their rare and precious traits. It is so funny tho, when i talk to her that’s when I become INTENSELY aware of my lack of Fe 😂 she has set me straight many times calling me out for my inconsiderate and Fe-blind nature especially in dating situations (and I’d say I’m a pretty feelings-focused and considerate INTJ when i compare to your typical INTJ in the wild)
That sounds like a great childhood! I wonder if things would've been different if you were the younger sister, if it would be more chaotic because she's trying to teach you to calm down more (aggressive Te) 😅
@@justcallmejon22 that’s honestly such a good question! I’ve thought about our dynamic often because in a lot of ways I feel like the younger sibling when it comes to the realm of feelings but when it comes to hard-nosed practical/ logical stuff I am very much in the role of the older sibling. I always thought our personalities are accounted for by our genetics and then are further developed by experiences and in my case especially the polarity in our family and relational dynamics. E.g., my Te intensity and lack of Fe probably set some examples for her of how not to act in her own life, and her lack of Te probably galvanized my existing Te tendencies.
I had many INFJ friends when I was child and younger. Conversation with INFJ are so natural, direct, I don't need to translate the ideas or find the right words, it take no effort, it save my energy, no need to put a filter. With INTJ, we don't need to talk, we understand each other just by observing the eyes, face and body language (sort of telepathy) We understand each other without effort, as if we know each other for the eternity.
I also love how deep INFJs are. They're not privy to who they are due to the lack of Fi but we see it clearly, who they are, their beautiful soul. INFJs really are lovely.
Sooo true 😊 this INFJ here love the INTJs in my life. I love not having to be sooo worried about how they feel bc they will always be true and tell me like: stop thinking about how the whole world will feel and start thinking about how you do 😅 no drama ❤ INTJs are the best ❤
One of my best friends since childhood was an INTJ and I am an INFJ. We were really close for many years, rarely having any conflict or problems and I always appreciated his brilliant mind and the ability to discuss abstract things and concepts with him for hours on end. The kind of discussions you don't seem to be able to have with anyone else even though you try. He could be a little cold and aloof sometimes but we got along well with each other. He was one of my best friends and someone I really enjoyed spending time around. He committed suicide a few years back after having his business fail and getting into opiod drugs due to surgery for back problems. We also had a falling out over money he borrowed and didn't repay before he died so we weren't on speaking terms for the first and only time in our entire history when he died. I miss him despite how things were at the end and I have a ton of great memories that I often reflect on. I think these two personality types are very complimentary and make a great combination for relationships of all kinds. 🤙
My condolences hearing about your INTJ. Mental health (which I group addiction into the same category) is something that I think the world needs to pay closer attention to. Although your relationship soured during the finale, I'm glad to hear that his memory brings more positive memories than negative ones. I'm sure he felt the same about you as well even if he's never been vocal about it ❤
@@justcallmejon22 Thanks! Yes, he needed help from mental health professionals but unfortunately he wasn't willing to try any of the things they recommended or prescribed when he did get to see someone. I think a lot of that is the stigma that surrounded mental health for so many years and that still does to some extent. It was tough to watch. You cannot make someone help themselves and that was why I had to remove myself from the situation at the end. I just know that my friend wasn't the person he was at the end. That was due to addiction, desperation, depression, a lifetime of disappointment, feeling he failed in the great game of life, and other associated problems. I just prefer to remember him when he was how he was for many years. The stuff at the end was like trying to rescue a desperate drowning man. The end was something of a mercy for him unfortunately. Now he is no longer hurting like that so I find solace in that.
You read me like a book! As an INFJ, you REALLY captured the dynamic including my faults and advantages I had with an INTJ ex boyfriend. Even the part about how INFJs begin to understand themselves in their 30s makes total sense. I appreciate the encouragement too. 🙏🏼 Thank you for this video and thank you for seeing me. 😊
Awh, this is such a sweet video. Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad despite you being an INTJ that you have the heart and insight to let INFJ's know they're appreciated. It really means a lot. ❤❤❤
@@justcallmejon22 Thank you so much, I really needed this video today. I know it sounds weird, but I have had a rough day. I appreciate you and this video.
@@justcallmejon22 please don't take it down! WE NEED to be SEEN and know that we aren't invisible! Your words are exactly what INFJs need to hear! And especially after hearing that we are seen telling us to GO FOR IT is really important. The thing is we wouldn't be able to hear you tell us to go for it if we first hadn't felt seen! You did an amazing job!
As an INTJ who rarely meet other INTJs (met a few ppl who got INTJ, but they usually relate to what INTJs are stereotyped as and we just can't vibe as well), thank you for talking about how you process emotions, problems, solutions, and general thoughts. It's so hard for me to explain to people how my brain works, and how I still care for them. INFJs, INFPs, and INTPs are the few people I usually tend to have long-term friendships with, so this hits the mark. I love INFJs, they're very entertaining and inspiring. I find the way they express themselves to people especially admirable.
I am old enough to be your mom so take this comment as such. You are adorable! I am an infj and I got so much joy listening to you today.. You are spot on and I love intj's. You are completely awesome!
I never comment on videos, but your video made tears pour from my eyes because I have never felt so seen in my life! Thank you so much for showing us INFJs that we do matter and that people do see us and understand us. I could feel your love and appreciation for us through the tv. Thank you. I love you and I appreciate you💚😇🙏
I'm in tears too. I wish I had an INTJ in my life. I need so much help with Te and it would be awesome to have the Ni Te perspective on things. Everything said about strengths and weaknesses is true. ❤
As an INFJ I too absolutely love you INTJs and appreciate all that you guys do, even though most people will never know, understand, nor even see it. I am glad to have gotten to know a few INTJs and yes, we are very similar yet very different at the same time. Although both the similarities and differences seem to work perfectly between us. It is rare for anyone to see me at the depth that I reside but you INTJs can reach that depth for you yourselves reside there as well. It is funny, it only happened after I became comfortable with not being seen, not being noticed, and not being understood that I found people that saw me, noticed me, and understood me, seems all IN types can do that. It took me to meet an INTJ online to actually finally feel like there is someone I can truly open up to and feel heard and seen like i do for everyone else. We INFJs are the more feeling versions of you INTJs and you INTJs are the more logical version of us INFJs in a way. I have an INTJ mother and an ENFJ father and sister. The only reason why I don't fully open up to them is they are family and I don't want them to worry about me. I have been finally learning about what I want and need in my life and I understand how you need to Fi into your Fe because I need to Ti into my Te and kinda mix it to use my Te. I can also do the same with my Fe into my Fi. Funny how we need our main functions to transition us into our shadow functions, huh. I feel every INFJ needs an INTJ in their life, you guys just need to watch out for when we go into our extroverted mode, which at least only lasts a few hours, you know, the whole extroverted introvert thing. But at least it will be a few hours of deep conversation and barely any to no small talk. It is always good to have our Ni brethren to understand our struggles.
Thank you for the insight on how INFJs use Ti to Te and Fe to Fi. I had an idea that you guys did that as well but never had it confirmed. Trust me when I say that I understand what you meant when you said you don't want to discuss too much with your family because you don't want to worry them. My ISFJ siblings complain about me not opening up all the time and it's basically that. I'm glad you found your INTJ and I'm sure your INTJ is glad that they found their INFJ. Please take care of them and feel free to utilize their Te power as much as you need it, they'll enjoy it more than you'll ever understand 😁
@@justcallmejon22 It is difficult still to use my Te since it being my blind spot, that is why I mix it into my Ti, still not too well yet. However, combining my Ti with an INTJ's Te would be a bit easier. My Fi is still a bit limited but I can use it when I need it. It takes a while for me to know my own feelings on things, but it is possible at least. For my Ne, all I need is an Ne user around and it is used to help me keep up then organize it with my Ni. Si though, not sure if I will get the hang of that one, I still need to improve my Se yet. And yes, we are both glad we found each other and I know I feel I am truly talking to my equal. And I don't mean to sound condescending nor narcissistic, we just have much to learn from each other. By watching each other, perhaps we can both improve much of our own weaker areas from each other's stronger areas.
@@nickolaszissimos1189 I know. I think the genuine Fe is what I've been looking for in a relationship. While Tj's certainly feel, expressing it outward is difficult. Mostly because we just don't think about it or assume others can see it, which isn't always the case. Challenging ourselves and others comes very naturally which helps work the Fi, although we can get a bit overzealous and become jerks about it. Having a relationship with someone who can meet our IN and helps us challenge or even see our own Fe is immensely rewarding.
This is how I feel about my INTJ in my life, I feel constantly misunderstood. No one knows me, yet I'm friends with everyone. but my INTJ is the one person whos ever tried to know *me* and all of me, not just the parts are convenient to him. he isn't the always best of words, but hes so kind, and has a good heart. Im glad to know my INTJ as a INFJ, I feel seen. though like you said, I'm definitely the more poetic emotional rambling about how good they are type LOL
INTJ here. I transferred to a new workplace last year, met this colleague. We didn’t talk much but I somehow felt comfortable to be around. Told her about MBTI test and asked to take the test. I guessed that she was INFJ even before she took the test. And I was right.
Infj here. Fe and stuff: Other peoples emotions just float into me like a wave. It happened that I cried for no reason, I wasnt really sad over anything and had a great day but I felt sadness. Then I asked myself: whose sadness is this? And I could detect it by remembering who I met some hours ago or a day prior . I do not have a choice, and I cannot force it or stop it. Fe just does whatever it wants.
It sounds like what happens when an INTJ realizes that we're feeling emotions. It's usually delayed but we usually have a difficult time pinpointing where it comes from.
i am INTJ and my boyfriend is INFJ, and this was all spot on. the reason why i liked him in the first place was how caring he was and how he just got people in a way i could never do. we had a few laughs watching this video together because we saw ourselves in many of the things you said, including the advice to INFJs towards the end of the video (which are things i am often telling him myself.) Thank you for making this. on a side note, have you ever considered making a discord server? it would be nice to talk to other INTJs (and other types) about these topics :)
I'm happy to hear that you two can relate! In hindsight, I wish I went more into detail about how cute they are when they engage with Fi because it really does make us proud. I haven't made a discord server because I've heard horror stories. I might one day when I find a mod I trust but no discord until then 🙃
This is my first comment under a youtube video ever: recently met an INTJ friend, so far I can honestly say he is a big blessing in my life for inspiring me to do my best. A huge 'thank you' for making this video. p.s. as far as the reason why we operate the way we do - it's just nature, we're "wired" this way, it's cliche but it's true.
I feel honored to get your first comment! Don't feel like I'm pressuring INFJs or expecting you guys to change as a result of this video, we love you guys the way you are ❤
@@justcallmejon22 Aww, thanks. I just realized something - me giving you my first comment is an actual example of how you guys (the INTJs) can make us come out of our shell and take more action, it's pretty amazing to see how MBTI works in real life. We love you guys too
Update: A new coworker that I took a liking to, I got her to take the MBTI and she is also a INFJ and I’m just having issue telling her how I feel about her, I’m 80% sure she like me too.
INTJ female here. "I don't want to rule the world, but I would like to help rehabilitate it." I had an INFJ neighbor some years ago, and we would met up for meandering chats and emotional processing. He was also my sanity support in dealing with some other neighbors. I could come to him with my feelings of frustration about the lack of cooperation and logic I saw in our neighborhood.
INFJs really are one the primary reasons why I appreciate Fe so much. Fe is our blindspot and yet, INFJs knows how to use it to make INTJs feel comfortable. I hope you still keep in touch with your INFJ and I hope he's doing well ✊
INFJ here. Been Married to my INTJ husband for 12 years and have known him for 14 years. 💕🙂 He’s my best friend and we compliment one another so well. He’s strong in the areas I’m not so good at , and vice versa. Yet we agree on fundamentals. We have both gone through things as a couple and as individuals that would have probably broken most people and most relationships. All it did was make us stronger. Cliché, but true. Thanks for the great video.
Wow.. thanks for explaining why my situationship felt so right. Before I knew his MBTI I thought, “this man can help me get the strategy I need to accomplish my goals.” As an INFJ you just made me miss my INTJ even more. 😢
My little brother is the INTJ to my INFJ. He asks me for insight for all his relationships & he inspires me to take my goals seriously.💚 he doesn’t know it but he should thank you!! I’m gonna be way nicer to him now. This made me see our relationship a little differently.
I started a new job recently and it just felt right. My boss and boss’ boss came by and we started talking about plans, etc and it was so enjoyable. Somehow we started talking about Myers-Briggs and they said the entire team took the test. I said I’m an INFJ. Found out my boss is also INFJ and boss’ boss is INTJ. It all made sense.
Amazing video, I felt the love from all the INTJ's in the world jaja INFJ here soon to be marry with an INTJ ✨ there are no words (search for implicit meaning) to describe how grateful I am that we found each other.
I’ve noticed a big difference between INTJ and INFJ is that INFJ tends to dress better - they are very attractive. They put effort in their looks. INFJ are very good with their words I’ve seen them outmaneuver people and being in top management positions easily. I love all the I-J types INTJ ISTJ INFJ ISFJ Signs you are an I-J type 1. A strong desire to plan ahead and to know what’s coming up 2. A strong relationship to safety 3. Preferring to fly under the radar 4. Need for alone time and processing time
@@jessicariddell1976 interesting, same here. I'm infj and I like aesthetics and good clothes. But in life I prefer practicality and buy almost everything in black colour because it's easy to style up and u don't have to go through stress of matching different colours.
My husband is an INTJ and I’m an INFJ. I didn’t know this for years and had him take the test and I was so happy when I found out he was an INTJ! He’s my person and I couldn’t see myself with anyone else. We’ve been together for 13 years and married for 8 and have 2 children. Thank you for making this video! I really enjoy how thorough and in depth you went, I really appreciate all the information of both personalities. This was a breath of fresh air from the other videos I’ve watched. I hope you keep making videos! Sending you good vibes.🌻
Boy, you are on point. Soon to be 40 INFJ here, in a relationship with a 43 yrs INTJ for 10 years now. You are so insightful. This video is amazing. I felt so seen, and it's true, I feel the same with my INTJ, although I sometimes feel unseen from him because I would love so much more feeling-ish reassurances that he actually appreciates me. But he watched this with me and nodded the whole time. So great. Oh, and by the way: my INTJ made a huge difference in my life, made me much more grounded and effective. I made him much softer and open. We fight sometimes, I think I got some Ti fixation, so I want to apply my logic to everything (while still doubting it) so you can imagine the outcome, but we're still here, still standing...
Just tell him when you need attention. He might seem annoyed but we're Te users, it's easier to get us to do something if you just straight tell us to do it 😅
I just wish he could anticipate me so I didn't have to ask and feel like he's just making it out of obligation. To which he usually answer he is not the type to ever do anything out of obligation or guilt if he didn't want to. Which is so out of my character that I struggle to believe it sometimes
Great video, I am the rarest personality type, I am a split INTJ/INFJ. I took the Myers Griggs test while working at Intel as an Engineer. The test coordinator was quite stunned by my result and informed me out of all the people in my group of 500 plus people I was the only one in either INTJ or INTFJ personality types. When I was working or doing projects, I was 90% INTJ and in friendships I was 90% INFJ... In some ways I am my own best friend, so I have really not felt the need for a significant other. I was married in my 20's and always felt like my space was being encroached upon by my wife so I would distance myself. When we were dating, I did not feel this way. After we were divorced, in my 30s I had three or four semi-serious relationships and went out with about 50 different women many from other countries. On paper, several were logically good fits, but emotionally, I never found one that I felt comfortable living with. I realized that living alone, for me personally, is the best result and I am truly content being single and having a few close friends.
I'm happy to hear that you found a way of living that works best for you. If you haven't yet, look into cognitive functions since it's the best way you can figure out which type you are. INTJ and INFJ operates differently so we face different challenges that the other type won't face.
That's interesting. The first time I did the MBTI test I got INTJ. I can tend to be very analytical to the point that I let it "override" my initial feeling response. This is especially true because I thought feeling was a weakness for a long time. About five years later I took the test again and decided to be more honest about my feeling responses and that is when I got INFJ. I'm getting pretty good at spotting both INTJs and INFJs.
Yes, I'm about 80% INTJ, 20% INFJ. You're your own best counsel. I think for the most part, what trouble I can experience comes from the INFJ part, then the INTJ reminds me how this is a small thing in a large pond, etc, and how I'm overreacting again, and then I'm fine. Writing this, I knew the process, and thought it was the INFJ that was the counsel, but it's the other way around. As well, INTJ counsels me into realizing the past, of how many bad things actually work for my benefit, so why should I get all bent out of shape about it? It is not always good that I should get my way, and in the end, I may get my adjusted way anyway. It's only because my INFJ is developed enough, that it makes the INTJ portion able to use it properly for counsel. You might say it's being empathetic for yourself.
Wow. You verbalize my internal monolog and thought process. Far better than any article I've read or video I've seen before. I'm genuinely impressed. Keep up the good work!
13:00 I've noticed that when I go into what people call "sigma" stuff. I'm less recognizable as an INFJ from the outside (we're already social chameleons). BUT, thank you, I do appreciate 🙇
We appreciate you INTJs more than you know. The part about the Fi realization and how proud you are..as an INFJ in my mid 30s finally getting ahold of it..that made my heart swell. THANK YOU
Lol, your description of reverse engineering Fe with Fi had me rolling. I do the same exact thing. Once again, you're giving away all of our secrets! :)
I, as INFJ do like the challenge with you INTJ! It’s awesome. I just feel that you have your feelings in your core just as much as we do, but you not willing to show them off because when you do, you actually feel vulnerable. I love peeling the layers of onion with you INTJ and I feel quite proud that I’m able to get there and you trust me enough to show your vulnerability. We INFJ’s have to be really patient and delicate with you, but the reward in the end makes us feel good.👍
Whoah! Finally! I was waiting for your take on this! Aha Daria and Jane! I am an infj and my bestie is intj. She and I really clicked immediately saying we could just understand each other! Then, I discovered mbti and we we both took tests. There we have understood our deep and amazing complicity! I have also recently made friends with two other intjs! And both said it was this energy that drew them in. I could say the same as I could understand what they talk about that are damn interesting to me. I love how they INTJs do care a lot but they show it in a more practical way. For me, my intj pals are super! They are the people I can trust the most. They say infjs are the warmer versions of the intjs! Salamat Jon! Spot on!!! Keep on going!!!
My best friends are INTP and INTJ and im INFJ couldn’t ask God for a better combo. They balance me so well and help bring these weaknesses of mine to my attention. I love them
Thank you so much for this. I'm an INFJ and have chronic health issues that have been really affecting my self-esteem & belief in finding work I care about, where I'm not further sacrificing my health. It's very interesting hearing your descriptions and thoughts in this video. I appreciate this so much. Hope you have a lovely day ^_^
IXFJs tend to hold on to emotional pain, in their bodies, like a wound up rubber band, often leading to all manner of odd, long lasting health issues. These stored tension is usually related to people giving you too many reasons not to trust…it becomes your walls. 😞
My sister is an INTJ and she is absolutely brilliant. She’s my best friend and I appreciate the fact she helps me find who I am and reflect upon what is my feeling and what is empathetic feeling. We really deep dive to find solutions to problems and we aren’t draining to each other in the process. Thanks from a INFJ ❤️
I love that you pointed out that even when we are upset with people, we are nice enough not to hurt people!. My passion is often viewed as angry, mad, mean... no matter how much tact I use (in a case by case scenario), it's viewed harsh or strong. Which makes it even harder to move forward in life because you have to deal with people who, in many cases, are not self-aware at all. 🤦🏾♂️ I'd probably do well living in England just based on the fact that people are passionately expressive people. Americans, rather you give them honesty in a "polite" way ALL THE TIME rather than look taking in the content that was shared. Maybe it's just me. 😂 Thanks for the kind words bruh.❤
Self-awareness is not common and the sad trust is that most people don't care about it enough because it might conflict with the identity that they built their world around. INFJ, we see you guys, as I said in my video, F* the haters, keep doing you. INTJs will support you the entire way ✊
That was really refreshing! You’ve no idea how freeing it is to have someone shaking you saying, “Wake up & snap out of it!” I enjoyed what your video.🍪
Your infj videos are very touching. Many people see intj as cold and spiky. Even though you have that Fi, i know that there is not a human on this earth that doesn't want to talk it all out once in a while. And i guess i as an infj know precisely when this moment comes, and i know how to talk to a person in a vulnerable state.
Thank you for being that person for an INTJ. It's difficult for us to speak about out feelings so it's a blessing when we find someone who we know doesn't see it as a burden ✊
@@tayyabausman8871 Yes, INTJs are very logical, so you can persuade them to do things with logic. My husband and I divided up our household chores according to interest, and our home functions beautifully. Also, ask INTJs how they feel, and they will tell you. But they are not going to volunteer that information; you have to ask them. Don’t take it personally. They do care, they just don’t express it without prompting sometimes. They are amazing problem solvers, so be prepared for them to offer you lots of solutions. It’s how they show that they care.
That was an awesome video. A lot of it went over my head as I don't know much about Myers Briggs personality traits. I can speak to the last part of the video and say that I agree with you about the INFJ never feeling motivated or prepared. I find that I really have to push myself and tell myself I have to meet goals and get things done. It seems like a cruel world to an unhealthy INFJ as myself at times but then I remember that I am a work in progress. I appreciate you taking the time to share this video with us and expand our knowledge on this subject. 🎉
Thanks for commenting! I always appreciate hearing people's perspectives. INFJs will probably not get as many things done compared to an xNTJ but boy do you guys shine when you're finally ready to make a move ✊
Thank you, sir :,) This might be what gets me out of my self loathing. I met an INTJ who recommended me your channel and I will let her know how thankful I am. God bless you all for seeing us. We don't know how to receive acknowledgement but do know that you changed someone's heart.
Don't ever feel like your kindness or your hard work goes unnoticed INFJ. We INTJs appreciate you guys and we're always rooting for you. Now, go kick some ass ❤
Yes, when we initially became colleagues, just as you explained I felt if he was more self centred but soon enough he opened up to me with his life story and we became best friends. He’s literally my soulmate. He could understand me like no one ever had and we help each other in everything we do. I came to know my personality type only recently and told him about it and got him do the test and knowing our MBTI types finally made sense to us why we function the way we do 🤗
My son is an INTJ and I'm an INFJ and our minds are so on the same wavelength a lot. I totally get where his mind is a lot of the time. It did definitely take me awhile to understand his blunt way of communicating and it used to upset me, but now I understand the personality factor and that there's no negative emotional message with his blunt communication and that really changed how I took it, so now it's not a problem and I don't get offended anymore (for the most part lol- sometimes he just goes on and on too much pointing out what's incorrect or wrong about what I'm saying or doing and at a certain point I'll let him know it's really too much, it just feels crummy, and he'll immediately apologize and pivot- and he's only 13 so he's still learning). It's crazy how we'll even say the same funny thing at the exact same time often.
Thanks for taking the time to understand your son! Regardless of what type he might be, it's nice to hear that you're making an effort to understand him or communicate with him properly since not all parents are like that. I've helped raise a handful of nieces and nephews and I've learned never to take anything they say personally because they're just young with a lack of life experience. However, if your son is an INTJ, the thing we need most is just space. Space to grow, space to make mistakes, and a safe space at home that's less stressful than the outside world. Keep it up mama, I'm sure you're doing great 😁
INFJ here. this is a great pep talk for me, thank you. I work with INTJs that I really like and other INTJs that I struggle to relate to. I feel (ha ha) like maybe we will find our way forward, in understanding and working together. rock on, Jon. awesome message
I am an INFJ but i'm about 52% F and 48% T so i am not actually too far from an INTJ and i really like that, because life is so much easier when you can actually balance out your emotional side when it starts to overwhelm you. My brother and sister are INFJs too but they're so much more sensitive to everybody's opinions, and my mother is an ENFJ and has the same issues, and it's very frustrating trying to find a way to help them overcome it. It is a hard life for us INFJs XD
I can relate to the F and T being extremely close. Too logical at times and people call you insensitive. Too empathetic at times and people call you too caring. Explain both how you see things from both perspectives and people call you complicated😂
I am an infj in my early 20s and I actually what is my passion when I am 17 or 18. When I was younger people were always telling me what to do and I can't say no. But in my teenage I had to go through many traumatic incidents which made me find my sanctuary in my passion. If I love something I give all the energy I have to it. It has always been all or nothing. Really hard to take a middle path. And yes I am incredibly slow to action. I think a lot, and rethink and re-rethink.... Thank you for the kind words in the video. It really means a loooooot!
I've been fortunate to encounter a few INFJs in my time and it's always been a good time. In my gaming circle I know I've got at least a couple and we've always had a lot of great post-game conversations about life and such. I remember in one such conversation we were actually talking about MBTI, and my INFJ friend said he was typed as an INFJ, but he didn't really know if it was accurate or not, and I was like, "No, I can see that. It makes sense." And from there we got into a conversation about how when a topic comes up and he has a view point that makes sense to him, but someone either doesn't understand that view point or heavily pushes an opposing view point, his first instinct isn't to double down or push back, but to ask how that person came to that conclusion or why the feel that way to understand the emotions behind their logic. That and the fact that he was just an easy person to talk to. Even at times when we would have opposing view points, there were never really "heated" moments in those conversations because we both understood we were leading with Ni, so the view points he would see, I could understand how he got there. And the view points I would see, he could understand how I got there. And at it's worst we would just agree to disagree, because it ultimately came down to a difference in life experiences that were driving where we planted our flag on a stance. And since we knew that, it was one of the most genuine forms of "agree to disagree" that I've ever come across. Which is refreshing cause with a lot of other types, that's just the parachute ripcord that gets pulled to either avoid an argument, or end an argument, but because it's not really genuine there's a lot of passive-aggressive feelings you can start picking up on shortly after.
Agree to disagree is exactly how most conversations ends up. It really is interesting to meet another person that uses Ni so heavily that I acknowledge that I don't agree with them but I trust in their process.
I love how he gives voice to more obscure aspects of being an INTJ. And for the record... I find the INFJs the most fascinating and interesting people. I'm kinda on the watch for the patterns that someone might be one. The other types... not so. It's often exhausting trying to frame your thoughts to others, knowing that they still won't get the actual core of your message. So it's refreshing to get a kindred spirit sometimes. Well, not really just sometimes - it's a goddamn necessity. There is a phenomenon I call an "overpressure" when there is so much to say and you still decide not to because you know your words will have no effect. And that's where INFJs come into play. I don't expect understanding from others but I expect it from INFJs. So yeah... something like that.
@@justcallmejon22 I had... for a while. And it was the most beautiful and crazy time ever. The chance to speak your mind freely for the first time, after I learned the hard way that I had to restrict my words to make at least an imperfect semblance of normality, undiluted by all the filters, my mind soaring above the suffocating clouds where there is nothing but clear sky and freedom. Without being frowned upon (y'know I never really cared when I was being ignored but things were usually bad when I wasn't - I never was the archetypical menacing -A type whom no one dared to touch). And I'd do anything to feel this state of mind again. Anyways :D ... she's the only one of my exes I still talk to because she's obviously INFJ and I'm INTJ but there's not this purity anymore. I know at least one other INFJ and though we get along and understand each other well, it was never like this.
Jon, I can't say it enough. You are the frickin bomb. A lot of times when I listen to you, I put my guy into your place and think back on past convos. I really like seeing my thoughts come to some semblance of ... Help me out INTJ lol. I have'nt know G for long, but I have picked up so many things. What you're saying about abstract thinking and no one understanding you. Oh that hit home. My ex used to get so very angry with me bc I often disassociate and shut down with him and spoke in such abstract thinking that his narcissistic personality just went crazy. I literally feel less depressed when I listen to you and I just now realized, it is because you hear me and G hears me. Bloody hell, I need a cupa tea. I did not go to school to become a counselor because I had worked all my life in medical. I knew what you had to do to get a psychologist's degree. And I rebelled and refused bc it makes no sense. Do you look back on your childhood and see your INTJ in you? I've been doing that lately and it's crazy. Thank you for making this video and all your videos. I so appreciate your hard work. One last question. I don't have a problem at all with my man not being all lovey dovey (yuck). You say INTJ show little emotion and that is true. For me, it just makes you more perfect. I don't feel pressured. Is that typical of INFJ?
I'm not sure if it's typical of INFJs but I'm also aware that you guys tend to be pretty patient in waiting for an acknowledgment (that might never arrive). I don't think G will mind if you tell him that you need attention or emotional validation, I actually think he'd appreciate you being straightforward. Thanks again for the kind words and please take care of my INTJ family 🙏
Great video. Im an INTJ female with an INFJ mother. Shes the only one that truly gets my thought process and we talk everyday, sometimes for hours. We love to analyze people and situations and make predictions.
INFJ, been told I talk in parables but everything makes sense in my head😂😂... the not knowing who you are 😂facepalm, me approaching the dgaf phase in a bit, recently embraced it...and not being mean sucks honestly...had to rewatch a couple scenes and laugh cause your expressions were adorable, thanks🌻
I’m an INTJ and I recently hired my two most favorite co-workers of all time. Then I had them take the personality test and they are both INFJ 😂😂😂😂😂
Sounds like a great work environment. Keep pushing them INTJ ✊
Oh no now they gonna compete who is the better INFJ. Drama incoming.
@@TokyoTaisu 🤣😂🤣 you’re not wrong.
The competition is real! 😂
Same here, except for the fact they happened to be my friends, too
INTJs mean everything to INFJs as well 🖤
"Two peas in a pod" 🙂
yes
yes
I'm an INTJ married to an INFJ, we watched this together and laughed the entire time. Spot on.
Happy to hear that it resonates 😀
I am an INFJ Girl who have crush on INTJ. In my friendship circle, all of my INTJ friends are hopeless romantic. they are not able romanticizing any relationship, and the worst one doesn't even want to get married, they tend to focus on their goal and career. I am so afraid that my crush will be the "similar INTJ" too, But, reading this reply give me a little hope that he will have an eye on me sooner or later. please pray for me and my INTJ crush.
@@mschuch❤how you going with your crush on INTJ? I’m INFJ too and I’m having crush on INTJ too, that’s why I watch this video but your comment was 3 months ago, so did you manage to “ crush “ INTJ heart ❤️? I know that they are hopeless romantic but I enjoy the intellectual stimulation of abstract concepts, which not many people are willing or tolerate to engage in. Please let me know
@@mschuch sounds like me 🤣
but here's a catch, maybe if you make him understand how much he means to you, and if he catches that, you'll have someone who is a fiercely loyal person who will stand against the whole world for you. Not saying this in just romantic context, but in general. You make a place in their heart (as in friend or family or a lover) they will do anything for you.
I have a friend like that (I just call him a brother from another mother now), and I'll do anything for him.
@@ivanaveltmeyer6373ik it’s been a sec since you commented but I am also an INFJ who had a crush on an INTJ for a couple months and even though we hung out literally every night I was scared to death to ask her out because of those same lack of romantic ideals. When I asked her out earlier this week she said yes in a very neutral way where I could tell she’s not against it, but also hadn’t thought about it much at all despite us hanging out alone late every night for months. I think it’s just difficult to read them which I think is another reason why INFJs might find INTJs attractive. Now that we’re dating I find that the romance aspect hasn’t changed at all so it’s still a bit confusing. Either way, I think asking an INTJ is worth it because it might not be that they don’t like you, just that they hadn’t though about your relationship that way 🤔
Wait... I'm an infj and I actually want to cry.
Hearing someone telling me "I notice you and I appreciate what you do" it's something I needed, even though I didn't know I needed it before.
Thank you so much💝
❤
I don't need any external validation. Maybe I like it...in my darkest hours. But...at the end of the day.... I will feed the crows and die alone.
@@jakobblazko9015 Of course everybody will die alone, that's not the point, the point it's the process, so, when you die, you know that during your life you had people who cared for you, and gave you external validation because you were someone special for them, that way you can die happy, it's like everything had meaning and was worth it.
Needing too much external validation It's not really healthy either, but as humans we actually need that at least a little
So true. Thank you
Also, as an INFJ, INTJs are my favorite people. They offer clarity, and stability that my sometimes overly sympathetic/empathetic self really struggles with. They understand me, but they offer balance that I need. It’s a treasure. They are rare and hard to befriend, but worth the effort.
INTJs feel the same way about you guys ❤
Ha, well it seems like you hit the motherload of INTJ's here Christy
@@justcallmejon22 I respect intjs! Intjs are the best❤
As an INFJ I agree ! Actually my best friends are intjs , I’m looking for a romantic partner 😂
Me so
As an INFJ, the only time I feel like I’m not insane is when I talk to an INTJ.
I'm happy to hear that you have an INTJ in your life ❤️
You are seen. We are out here mane
so true. it's so darn satisfying and attractive when they understand every weird thing that comes out of the INFJs mouth, ill always love INTJs
I’m an INTJ with an INFJ grandma and whenever we’re together we talk for HOURS, just enjoying each other’s souls. Truly beautiful.
Sounds like a great relationship 🙂
I can sense an INTJ a mile away. They have an energy that attracts me, they are strange creatures and that's why I like them so much.
We're the most normal people we know 😂
“We are able to perceive multiple realities at once.”
YES! YES YES YES! That’s me ALLLL THE TIME! As an INFJ, it’s so FREAKING hard to communicate at face value with most of the world 🤦🏻♀️ (sensors). They are so direct and you can tell that they think of one thing only whenever they talk. I have to FORCE myself to be one-dimensional in my communication with them. It feels so unnatural and almost like I internally cringe every time! The more concrete the description, the more I internally suffer lol! That’s why I always feel like people don’t know the real me most of the time and struggle to be felt understood. Being an Ni dom is so freaking weird, but it’s a fantastical mess. It’s like you can think of so many things at the same time that all make sense in the weirdest interconnected ways. I don’t even know how to explain it. Most of the time, I’m not staring at anything in particular; I just perceive the world in an abstract sense-I think of it in colors, feelings, “vibes”, music, symbols, archetypes, tropes . . . I will always be drawn to look beneath the surface and tie everything together. The world is a big mystery and it is MY mysterious oyster!
With my INTJ, communication is SO freaking effortless! That’s one of the things I absolutely FREAKING love about him. He’s the best and he just gets me. We can be our cursed, natural forms, without having to dumb ourselves down or excessively explain anything. Long live the Ni doms!
That's how I feel around my Ni user friends as well. It really is a different language talking to Sensors and I agree that it can be tremendously exhausting. Still love them though 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 YES! I work in nursing, and most nurses tend to be sensors (usually SF types). Our communication styles don’t match. 🤦🏻♀️ I have to tailor myself to them while they have no idea how to tailor themselves to me. I come home feeling tired a lot of the time just from the social interactions.
@@TheEmpressNyx I totally understand. I’m an INTJ female and my boss is ISFJ. We interact multiple times daily because our team is small so it’s clear to me that, although I love her, we just don’t mesh well and she rarely tries to understand me. I have to mold to her.
Twin flames of different colors
Poetic 😉
@@justcallmejon22 Thats why i stole it lol
Thank you! I’m an INFJ & one of my bestie’s an INTJ. I totally agree everything you said. I appreciate the INTJ’s honesty and brilliant mind. As well as reminding us, INFJs, that we are not responsible to carry and to solve everyone’s problem to the point that we, INFJs forget to care for our own well-being.
It sounds like you two make a great pairing! Please take care of my INTJ family 🙏
Wow spot on!
I dated an INTJ in college. Lasted 8 years. Great compatibility mentally and I loved his mind but main issue was he was always a bit emotionally unavailable and undemonstrative with his love. He never even told me “I love you” although I know he did. He was so reserved with emotions that eventually I just had to move on. I desired more affection and emotionally I gave a lot more than I got.
Do what makes the most sense. INTJs really aren't the most emotionally expressive people and it's okay if you need more than what we can provide. I hope you find/found what you're looking for ✊
8 years! Must be really hard for you to break up... Being an INFJ in a relationship with INTJ I completely relate.
I hope you've found what you've wanted ❤
@@zola5653 yes very difficult to break up. Now I’m with an INFP and I can honestly say it’s very good and feels more reciprocal.
@@duchessdelarue5983 Glad to hear that you're doing good! :D
Are you an INFJ? Cuz someone that I know who is INFJ don't really desperately seek for affection, I might be wrong tho
I was a shy INTJ in H.S. Met a girl and we hit if off as friends. We would have long conversations and always felt a connection. Lost contact after H.S and found each other through social media 10 yrs later. Had her do a personality test and found out she is a INFJ... our connection makes so much sense.
I love hearing stories about things making sense especially in friendship/relationships after you learn about MBTI
Ikr, I’m an INFJ girl and my INTJ friend has a crush on me 😂
@@marsofia5549Rip bro
I am an INFJ woman with an INTJ husband. We've been together for 20 years and we often feel that neither of us could never have lived with anyone else. I wish you all the joy and happiness in the world with your new-found-again friend.
I cried when you said "you can do it" I've always wanted someone to tell me that and believe in me.
Thank You so much Jon.
You're welcome. INTJs will always support INFJs, go find one of us if you don't have one yet 🙂
Me too 🥲
Pfff. What is this? Crutches for cripples? INBJb for VBL for KLGH?. Fuck that
Im an INTJ and my younger brother is an INFJ.. I often refer to us as opposite sides of the same coin.. He is absolutely my favorite person to be around in a social setting.. We have an unspoken language that really freaks people out because we can just look at each other and start laughing.. When I need an emotional perspective on a situation I always go to him.. I truly appreciate him as my brother and my best friend!
You lucked out my INTJ brother, it sounds like a blessing to be born next to your best friend 😊
INTJ female here. I would describe as more on the emotionally unexpressive side and am often described as detached by those around me. I understand the nature of humans, and thus even through the worst betrayals, I could always find myself understanding why they might have done it, make peace with it, and move on.
Nothing usually brings emotions out of me with the exception of a few films like Poetry or City of God, and stories and poems of war. Human diligence, the passion and grit of man, the relentless nature of humans to fight despite odds has always had a way of touching me.
Recently, I watched "Culinary Wars" a Korean Netflix cooking competition show. In the 11th episode, 7 contestants had to create new dishes with one ingredient (tofu) every 30 minutes until only one chef remained. There was a scene which cut to an INFJ chef by the nick-name "Triple Star". Watching him quietly cook round after round, exhausted but maintaining his precision, calmness, and focus, touched me. Tears bursting out of my face watching him on that episode.
INFJs have the unique ability to stir emotions in me. Their calm and quiet resilience. Humble, self sacrificial, and gentle nature I believe is what attracts me the most to them. I absolutely love them.
Tell us how you really feel 😅
I'm an INFJ and my husband is an INTJ. He's my favorite person.
I surely hope that you husband is your favorite person 😅. I'm sure he feels the same way about you INFJ!
Oh my goodness! I am a 31-year-old female INFJ and I’ve been with my male INTJ for 14 years and he’s 32. Thank you so much for that video! I can’t even tell you how many times I teared up throughout it, because of how true it was! I just wanna let you know I just said a prayer to God thanking him for creating you, you beautiful piece of artwork! 🎉
Glad to hear that you enjoyed the video and congrats on marrying an INTJ! I hope the best for you two and please take care of him for us 🙏
He is fortunate to have you in his life. I am glad to know that some INTJ males find a worthy match.
Thank you for your comment, Nicole. I’m an INTJ female who’s always adored INFJs but was afraid they’d never like me due to my poor Fe skills (and an INFJ broke my heart when I was 19 - I’m a lesbian and she is bisexual and went back with her ex boyfriend after 2 years off and on, stringing me along). But I am 55 and still would love to be with an INFJ. I just love our conversations and think we can get each other better than anyone else. ❤ And I’m affectionate and love to let people know how much I love them (through my words and physical touch) which is important to feelers. I used to wonder if I’m a feeler but actually I think I’m just a “jumper” in the OP system, so more in touch with my feelings than most INTJs. It probably helps that I’m female and have the cultural support for that. I’ve had two long-term relationships (8 and 12 years) with INFPs; and, although I adore them, I always feel they don’t appreciate my strengths or craving for music and aesthetics (mainly my Te or Se). And they don’t care about my Ni master plan, beyond just being surface supportive but not really getting it, which hurts. I feel encouraged that it’s possible after seeing yours and a few other similar comments, for an INFJ-INTJ pairing to work.
As an INTJ i think its probably the perfect combination. INTJs are guarded, it very hard to get into our inner circle let alone bring down the protective shield around our hearts - it takes a somebody special to do that. We need to feel safe to do that, the INFJ bring that to the table.
Then both have complete worlds of though going thought their heads, conversation would never be boring. The difference allows for learning from each other which both love to do. The INFJ wants to connect on multiple levels like that and they're in a unique position with the keys to an INTJs heart.
I'm an INTJ. I dated an INFJ once for close to a year. It was the warmest, most supportive relationship I ever had the honor of being a part of. Dominant Ni means we pretty much communicated telepathically. We had a reasoned but loving discussion of why the relationship wouldn't work out (different incompatible life stages), and to this day she's the only ex I remain good friends with.
She really kick-started my journey toward becoming a more complete, authentic person, and for that she has my lifelong respect and gratitude.
As an INFJ woman, my INTJ sweetheart keeps me grounded. He’s my favorite human! 💜 It is a very special bond. Great video! Thank you! 🧡
Happy to hear that you both found each other ❤
Being an infj who was in a relationship with an intj, I can say this is the best breakdown I’ve ever heard on this MBTI combination. You got everything right. The dynamics of the relationship, the comrade, the depth of conversation, the meeting of two misunderstood minds who come together and feel so comfortable and complete with each other and feeling like they can take on the world together and just be themselves. And when that happens, the physical relationship is through the roof. Being with my intj was the most refreshing thing I’ve ever felt. I felt like I was home. And at 13 minutes, wow that spoke to me. Thank you for your videos.
Sad to hear that the relationship didn't last but happy to hear that you met someone that made you feel heard ❤
why did you guys break up then? i’m a INFJ
One of the most stand out things to me as an infj is when an intj just bluntly calls me out and says something along the lines of “then don’t go” “ if you don’t want to then don’t. you don’t have to have a reason just say you aren’t going” no personality type ever puts it to me so blatantly. most empathise with me which makes it worse because then it validates my Fe worries that i’m going to disappoint people. but intjs cut out my Fe so strongly in those moments it sort of jolts me. and i feel brave enough to push for my own wants more. something i really appreciate about intjs that is hard to put into words.
Thank you for the insight! It's so funny to hear that telling INFJs just to say no to things that you don't want to do is helpful because it feels like an automated response for INTJs 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 yeah! haha I thin my that’s what makes it stand out more than when said by others. because infjs are really good a ready people’s intentions. so when an intj says that to me. i can tell. they really mean it. like black and white. “if you don’t want to.. don’t. simple” haha
I'm an INFJ and I cried at 14:16. Thank you for seeing us...😭😭😭😭 We appreciate it a lot.. Thank you INTJ's...
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“I’m an INFJ and I cried”
Fax 😂
I'm an INFJ and I cried too. Thank you thank you thank you @justcallmejon22
My best friend is my younger sibling who happened to be an INFJ. And MBTI just made us closer. As the older sibling (INTJ), I find fulfillment in helping her out when indecisiveness gets to her (blindspot Te).
Funny story: my father asked me the other day if I contact my sister (she's studying from afar), and I said, "No."
He was surprised because we are almost inseparable when she's at home, but apparently, we dont message each other unless we need something. We are like telepaths to each other. We never needed to elaborate our thoughts and we get the signal when one needs their own space. We also feel safe sharing our thoughts to each other because we know the other is listening without prejudice.
WOW, this sounds like me and my little sister. I’m an INTJ and she’s INFJ. She gives the BEST perspective, most thoughtful gifts, and I value her opinion almost above all else, but we also don’t message each other unless we have an express purpose. Although lately, in my sentimental old age of 31, I have been making more efforts to have phone call dates while she is on the other side of the world.
By temperament, I probably get along better on a day to day sense with my little INFP brother because he is just such a sweet and gentle soul, while me and my sister tend to be a bit more edgy/ornery, but I love them both equally and appreciate both of their rare and precious traits.
It is so funny tho, when i talk to her that’s when I become INTENSELY aware of my lack of Fe 😂 she has set me straight many times calling me out for my inconsiderate and Fe-blind nature especially in dating situations (and I’d say I’m a pretty feelings-focused and considerate INTJ when i compare to your typical INTJ in the wild)
That sounds like a great childhood! I wonder if things would've been different if you were the younger sister, if it would be more chaotic because she's trying to teach you to calm down more (aggressive Te) 😅
@@justcallmejon22 that’s honestly such a good question! I’ve thought about our dynamic often because in a lot of ways I feel like the younger sibling when it comes to the realm of feelings but when it comes to hard-nosed practical/ logical stuff I am very much in the role of the older sibling. I always thought our personalities are accounted for by our genetics and then are further developed by experiences and in my case especially the polarity in our family and relational dynamics. E.g., my Te intensity and lack of Fe probably set some examples for her of how not to act in her own life, and her lack of Te probably galvanized my existing Te tendencies.
I had many INFJ friends when I was child and younger.
Conversation with INFJ are so natural, direct, I don't need to translate the ideas or find the right words, it take no effort, it save my energy, no need to put a filter.
With INTJ, we don't need to talk, we understand each other just by observing the eyes, face and body language (sort of telepathy)
We understand each other without effort, as if we know each other for the eternity.
I also love how deep INFJs are. They're not privy to who they are due to the lack of Fi but we see it clearly, who they are, their beautiful soul. INFJs really are lovely.
"I don't need to translate the ideas or find the right words," Sounds wonderful, I wish I knew what that was like.
Sooo true 😊 this INFJ here love the INTJs in my life. I love not having to be sooo worried about how they feel bc they will always be true and tell me like: stop thinking about how the whole world will feel and start thinking about how you do 😅 no drama ❤ INTJs are the best ❤
We feel the same way about INFJs too ❤
One of my best friends since childhood was an INTJ and I am an INFJ. We were really close for many years, rarely having any conflict or problems and I always appreciated his brilliant mind and the ability to discuss abstract things and concepts with him for hours on end. The kind of discussions you don't seem to be able to have with anyone else even though you try. He could be a little cold and aloof sometimes but we got along well with each other. He was one of my best friends and someone I really enjoyed spending time around.
He committed suicide a few years back after having his business fail and getting into opiod drugs due to surgery for back problems. We also had a falling out over money he borrowed and didn't repay before he died so we weren't on speaking terms for the first and only time in our entire history when he died. I miss him despite how things were at the end and I have a ton of great memories that I often reflect on. I think these two personality types are very complimentary and make a great combination for relationships of all kinds. 🤙
My condolences hearing about your INTJ. Mental health (which I group addiction into the same category) is something that I think the world needs to pay closer attention to. Although your relationship soured during the finale, I'm glad to hear that his memory brings more positive memories than negative ones. I'm sure he felt the same about you as well even if he's never been vocal about it ❤
@@justcallmejon22 Thanks! Yes, he needed help from mental health professionals but unfortunately he wasn't willing to try any of the things they recommended or prescribed when he did get to see someone. I think a lot of that is the stigma that surrounded mental health for so many years and that still does to some extent. It was tough to watch. You cannot make someone help themselves and that was why I had to remove myself from the situation at the end. I just know that my friend wasn't the person he was at the end. That was due to addiction, desperation, depression, a lifetime of disappointment, feeling he failed in the great game of life, and other associated problems. I just prefer to remember him when he was how he was for many years. The stuff at the end was like trying to rescue a desperate drowning man. The end was something of a mercy for him unfortunately. Now he is no longer hurting like that so I find solace in that.
You read me like a book! As an INFJ, you REALLY captured the dynamic including my faults and advantages I had with an INTJ ex boyfriend. Even the part about how INFJs begin to understand themselves in their 30s makes total sense. I appreciate the encouragement too. 🙏🏼 Thank you for this video and thank you for seeing me. 😊
I'm just happy to hear that you're engaging with your Fi 🙂
Awh, this is such a sweet video. Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad despite you being an INTJ that you have the heart and insight to let INFJ's know they're appreciated. It really means a lot. ❤❤❤
You don't understand how many times I wanted to take down this video because I felt like I was being too sappy 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 Thank you so much, I really needed this video today. I know it sounds weird, but I have had a rough day. I appreciate you and this video.
@@justcallmejon22 please don't take it down! WE NEED to be SEEN and know that we aren't invisible! Your words are exactly what INFJs need to hear! And especially after hearing that we are seen telling us to GO FOR IT is really important. The thing is we wouldn't be able to hear you tell us to go for it if we first hadn't felt seen! You did an amazing job!
This INFJ wants to thank you for speaking up! ❣️ Now I want an INTJ friend 😊😁
Not really sure where you can find us but my recommendation is to use Ni as bait 😂
8:31 as an INFJ I can never explain myself to the people!!!... So trueeeee.. Ive even tried it in front of the mirror😭
As an INTJ who rarely meet other INTJs (met a few ppl who got INTJ, but they usually relate to what INTJs are stereotyped as and we just can't vibe as well), thank you for talking about how you process emotions, problems, solutions, and general thoughts. It's so hard for me to explain to people how my brain works, and how I still care for them. INFJs, INFPs, and INTPs are the few people I usually tend to have long-term friendships with, so this hits the mark. I love INFJs, they're very entertaining and inspiring. I find the way they express themselves to people especially admirable.
Friends that makes you feel comfortable are truly hard to come by. Make sure you continue to nurture those relationships ✊
I am old enough to be your mom so take this comment as such. You are adorable! I am an infj and I got so much joy listening to you today.. You are spot on and I love intj's. You are completely awesome!
Thank you Auntie! I'm glad you enjoyed it 🙂
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I never comment on videos, but your video made tears pour from my eyes because I have never felt so seen in my life! Thank you so much for showing us INFJs that we do matter and that people do see us and understand us. I could feel your love and appreciation for us through the tv. Thank you. I love you and I appreciate you💚😇🙏
The love and appreciation goes both ways INFJ ❤
I'm in tears too. I wish I had an INTJ in my life. I need so much help with Te and it would be awesome to have the Ni Te perspective on things. Everything said about strengths and weaknesses is true. ❤
As an INFJ I too absolutely love you INTJs and appreciate all that you guys do, even though most people will never know, understand, nor even see it. I am glad to have gotten to know a few INTJs and yes, we are very similar yet very different at the same time. Although both the similarities and differences seem to work perfectly between us. It is rare for anyone to see me at the depth that I reside but you INTJs can reach that depth for you yourselves reside there as well. It is funny, it only happened after I became comfortable with not being seen, not being noticed, and not being understood that I found people that saw me, noticed me, and understood me, seems all IN types can do that. It took me to meet an INTJ online to actually finally feel like there is someone I can truly open up to and feel heard and seen like i do for everyone else. We INFJs are the more feeling versions of you INTJs and you INTJs are the more logical version of us INFJs in a way. I have an INTJ mother and an ENFJ father and sister. The only reason why I don't fully open up to them is they are family and I don't want them to worry about me. I have been finally learning about what I want and need in my life and I understand how you need to Fi into your Fe because I need to Ti into my Te and kinda mix it to use my Te. I can also do the same with my Fe into my Fi. Funny how we need our main functions to transition us into our shadow functions, huh. I feel every INFJ needs an INTJ in their life, you guys just need to watch out for when we go into our extroverted mode, which at least only lasts a few hours, you know, the whole extroverted introvert thing. But at least it will be a few hours of deep conversation and barely any to no small talk. It is always good to have our Ni brethren to understand our struggles.
Thank you for the insight on how INFJs use Ti to Te and Fe to Fi. I had an idea that you guys did that as well but never had it confirmed. Trust me when I say that I understand what you meant when you said you don't want to discuss too much with your family because you don't want to worry them. My ISFJ siblings complain about me not opening up all the time and it's basically that. I'm glad you found your INTJ and I'm sure your INTJ is glad that they found their INFJ. Please take care of them and feel free to utilize their Te power as much as you need it, they'll enjoy it more than you'll ever understand 😁
@@justcallmejon22 It is difficult still to use my Te since it being my blind spot, that is why I mix it into my Ti, still not too well yet. However, combining my Ti with an INTJ's Te would be a bit easier. My Fi is still a bit limited but I can use it when I need it. It takes a while for me to know my own feelings on things, but it is possible at least. For my Ne, all I need is an Ne user around and it is used to help me keep up then organize it with my Ni. Si though, not sure if I will get the hang of that one, I still need to improve my Se yet. And yes, we are both glad we found each other and I know I feel I am truly talking to my equal. And I don't mean to sound condescending nor narcissistic, we just have much to learn from each other. By watching each other, perhaps we can both improve much of our own weaker areas from each other's stronger areas.
Ah, nickolas such a sweetie
@@andonbailey9656 We INFJs are known for that, and I meant every word both spoken and unspoken.
@@nickolaszissimos1189 I know. I think the genuine Fe is what I've been looking for in a relationship. While Tj's certainly feel, expressing it outward is difficult. Mostly because we just don't think about it or assume others can see it, which isn't always the case. Challenging ourselves and others comes very naturally which helps work the Fi, although we can get a bit overzealous and become jerks about it. Having a relationship with someone who can meet our IN and helps us challenge or even see our own Fe is immensely rewarding.
This is how I feel about my INTJ in my life, I feel constantly misunderstood. No one knows me, yet I'm friends with everyone.
but my INTJ is the one person whos ever tried to know *me* and all of me, not just the parts are convenient to him.
he isn't the always best of words, but hes so kind, and has a good heart. Im glad to know my INTJ as a INFJ, I feel seen.
though like you said, I'm definitely the more poetic emotional rambling about how good they are type LOL
Congrats on finding an INTJ! Please take care of him because I'm sure he values the friendship as well ❤
INTJ here. I transferred to a new workplace last year, met this colleague. We didn’t talk much but I somehow felt comfortable to be around. Told her about MBTI test and asked to take the test. I guessed that she was INFJ even before she took the test. And I was right.
Ni is so easy to recognize, we just feel it 🙃
Infj here. Fe and stuff: Other peoples emotions just float into me like a wave. It happened that I cried for no reason, I wasnt really sad over anything and had a great day but I felt sadness. Then I asked myself: whose sadness is this? And I could detect it by remembering who I met some hours ago or a day prior .
I do not have a choice, and I cannot force it or stop it. Fe just does whatever it wants.
It sounds like what happens when an INTJ realizes that we're feeling emotions. It's usually delayed but we usually have a difficult time pinpointing where it comes from.
i am INTJ and my boyfriend is INFJ, and this was all spot on. the reason why i liked him in the first place was how caring he was and how he just got people in a way i could never do. we had a few laughs watching this video together because we saw ourselves in many of the things you said, including the advice to INFJs towards the end of the video (which are things i am often telling him myself.) Thank you for making this.
on a side note, have you ever considered making a discord server?
it would be nice to talk to other INTJs (and other types) about these topics :)
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I'm happy to hear that you two can relate! In hindsight, I wish I went more into detail about how cute they are when they engage with Fi because it really does make us proud. I haven't made a discord server because I've heard horror stories. I might one day when I find a mod I trust but no discord until then 🙃
"nice to talk to other INTJs" god yes i love that idea
Im intj and my gf is infj, we have been together for 4 months and im impressed by how caring she is, nobody treated me this good before
You're one of the lucky few! Take care of your INFJ Queen 👑
as an infj I appreciate and admire intj
It goes both ways 🙂
This is my first comment under a youtube video ever: recently met an INTJ friend, so far I can honestly say he is a big blessing in my life for inspiring me to do my best.
A huge 'thank you' for making this video. p.s. as far as the reason why we operate the way we do - it's just nature, we're "wired" this way, it's cliche but it's true.
I feel honored to get your first comment! Don't feel like I'm pressuring INFJs or expecting you guys to change as a result of this video, we love you guys the way you are ❤
@@justcallmejon22 Aww, thanks. I just realized something - me giving you my first comment is an actual example of how you guys (the INTJs) can make us come out of our shell and take more action, it's pretty amazing to see how MBTI works in real life. We love you guys too
As an INTJ I dated an INFJ. Although we broke up 2 years ago and I still miss her. I have never had a relationship as strong as I had with her.
Update: A new coworker that I took a liking to, I got her to take the MBTI and she is also a INFJ and I’m just having issue telling her how I feel about her, I’m 80% sure she like me too.
Thank you. You truly know and understand INFJs! - From a random INFJ
Thank you 🙏
INTJ female here.
"I don't want to rule the world, but I would like to help rehabilitate it."
I had an INFJ neighbor some years ago, and we would met up for meandering chats and emotional processing. He was also my sanity support in dealing with some other neighbors. I could come to him with my feelings of frustration about the lack of cooperation and logic I saw in our neighborhood.
INFJs really are one the primary reasons why I appreciate Fe so much. Fe is our blindspot and yet, INFJs knows how to use it to make INTJs feel comfortable. I hope you still keep in touch with your INFJ and I hope he's doing well ✊
Me an INFJ: cries because I feel understood
INFJ here. Been Married to my INTJ husband for 12 years and have known him for 14 years. 💕🙂 He’s my best friend and we compliment one another so well. He’s strong in the areas I’m not so good at , and vice versa. Yet we agree on fundamentals. We have both gone through things as a couple and as individuals that would have probably broken most people and most relationships. All it did was make us stronger. Cliché, but true. Thanks for the great video.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video and I'm always happy to hear stories from this pairing ❤
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Wow.. thanks for explaining why my situationship felt so right. Before I knew his MBTI I thought, “this man can help me get the strategy I need to accomplish my goals.” As an INFJ you just made me miss my INTJ even more. 😢
Dont look back INFJ Queen, you'll find someone that knows your worth ✊
My little brother is the INTJ to my INFJ. He asks me for insight for all his relationships & he inspires me to take my goals seriously.💚 he doesn’t know it but he should thank you!! I’m gonna be way nicer to him now. This made me see our relationship a little differently.
I'm happy to hear that this video provided positive insights! Ya'll can thank me by being kind and continue taking care of each other 🙂
I started a new job recently and it just felt right. My boss and boss’ boss came by and we started talking about plans, etc and it was so enjoyable. Somehow we started talking about Myers-Briggs and they said the entire team took the test. I said I’m an INFJ. Found out my boss is also INFJ and boss’ boss is INTJ. It all made sense.
It sounds like a comfy position to be in! I always seek out introverted managers because they just...get it 😅
I'm an INTJ, and my husband is an INFJ. We have been married almost 20 years. It's amazing how we compete each other.
Always happy to hear about a successful relationship between the two 🙂
I'm INFJ, husband is INTJ. We've been married a little over 10 years, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. Best relationship ever
Amazing video, I felt the love from all the INTJ's in the world jaja INFJ here soon to be marry with an INTJ ✨ there are no words (search for implicit meaning) to describe how grateful I am that we found each other.
Early congratulations on your marriage! I'm truly happy to hear that you two found each other. Please do me a favor and take care of my fellow INTJ 🙏
I’ve noticed a big difference between INTJ and INFJ is that INFJ tends to dress better - they are very attractive. They put effort in their looks. INFJ are very good with their words I’ve seen them outmaneuver people and being in top management positions easily. I love all the I-J types INTJ ISTJ INFJ ISFJ
Signs you are an I-J type
1. A strong desire to plan ahead and to know what’s coming up
2. A strong relationship to safety
3. Preferring to fly under the radar
4. Need for alone time and processing time
I agree that all the types that you listed are amazing in their own ways ✊
True. INTJ tends to be more "function over fashion". I like low-maintenance clothes in darker colors. It's nice to blend in.
@@jessicariddell1976 interesting, same here. I'm infj and I like aesthetics and good clothes. But in life I prefer practicality and buy almost everything in black colour because it's easy to style up and u don't have to go through stress of matching different colours.
My husband is an INTJ and I’m an INFJ. I didn’t know this for years and had him take the test and I was so happy when I found out he was an INTJ! He’s my person and I couldn’t see myself with anyone else. We’ve been together for 13 years and married for 8 and have 2 children. Thank you for making this video! I really enjoy how thorough and in depth you went, I really appreciate all the information of both personalities. This was a breath of fresh air from the other videos I’ve watched. I hope you keep making videos! Sending you good vibes.🌻
Congrats on finding an INTJ! I hope the best for the two of you and your lovely little family and please continue taking care of him for us ❤
❤ I finally got my INTJ male counterpart and I am so excited. Thank you for being so sweet to us INFJs. Really needed to hear that.
Congrats on finding your own INTJ! Please take care of him for us ❤
Boy, you are on point. Soon to be 40 INFJ here, in a relationship with a 43 yrs INTJ for 10 years now. You are so insightful. This video is amazing. I felt so seen, and it's true, I feel the same with my INTJ, although I sometimes feel unseen from him because I would love so much more feeling-ish reassurances that he actually appreciates me. But he watched this with me and nodded the whole time. So great.
Oh, and by the way: my INTJ made a huge difference in my life, made me much more grounded and effective. I made him much softer and open. We fight sometimes, I think I got some Ti fixation, so I want to apply my logic to everything (while still doubting it) so you can imagine the outcome, but we're still here, still standing...
Just tell him when you need attention. He might seem annoyed but we're Te users, it's easier to get us to do something if you just straight tell us to do it 😅
I just wish he could anticipate me so I didn't have to ask and feel like he's just making it out of obligation. To which he usually answer he is not the type to ever do anything out of obligation or guilt if he didn't want to. Which is so out of my character that I struggle to believe it sometimes
Great video, I am the rarest personality type, I am a split INTJ/INFJ. I took the Myers Griggs test while working at Intel as an Engineer. The test coordinator was quite stunned by my result and informed me out of all the people in my group of 500 plus people I was the only one in either INTJ or INTFJ personality types. When I was working or doing projects, I was 90% INTJ and in friendships I was 90% INFJ... In some ways I am my own best friend, so I have really not felt the need for a significant other. I was married in my 20's and always felt like my space was being encroached upon by my wife so I would distance myself. When we were dating, I did not feel this way. After we were divorced, in my 30s I had three or four semi-serious relationships and went out with about 50 different women many from other countries. On paper, several were logically good fits, but emotionally, I never found one that I felt comfortable living with. I realized that living alone, for me personally, is the best result and I am truly content being single and having a few close friends.
I'm happy to hear that you found a way of living that works best for you. If you haven't yet, look into cognitive functions since it's the best way you can figure out which type you are. INTJ and INFJ operates differently so we face different challenges that the other type won't face.
That's interesting. The first time I did the MBTI test I got INTJ. I can tend to be very analytical to the point that I let it "override" my initial feeling response. This is especially true because I thought feeling was a weakness for a long time. About five years later I took the test again and decided to be more honest about my feeling responses and that is when I got INFJ. I'm getting pretty good at spotting both INTJs and INFJs.
Yes, I'm about 80% INTJ, 20% INFJ. You're your own best counsel. I think for the most part, what trouble I can experience comes from the INFJ part, then the INTJ reminds me how this is a small thing in a large pond, etc, and how I'm overreacting again, and then I'm fine. Writing this, I knew the process, and thought it was the INFJ that was the counsel, but it's the other way around. As well, INTJ counsels me into realizing the past, of how many bad things actually work for my benefit, so why should I get all bent out of shape about it? It is not always good that I should get my way, and in the end, I may get my adjusted way anyway. It's only because my INFJ is developed enough, that it makes the INTJ portion able to use it properly for counsel. You might say it's being empathetic for yourself.
Wow. You verbalize my internal monolog and thought process. Far better than any article I've read or video I've seen before. I'm genuinely impressed. Keep up the good work!
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My sister is an INTJ and she’s my best friend. I consider her the only person that truly understands me. Love her!
Came out of the womb with your own INTJ, how lucky 😂
13:00 I've noticed that when I go into what people call "sigma" stuff. I'm less recognizable as an INFJ from the outside (we're already social chameleons). BUT, thank you, I do appreciate 🙇
We appreciate you INTJs more than you know. The part about the Fi realization and how proud you are..as an INFJ in my mid 30s finally getting ahold of it..that made my heart swell. THANK YOU
Lol, your description of reverse engineering Fe with Fi had me rolling. I do the same exact thing. Once again, you're giving away all of our secrets! :)
The world has to know! 🙃
I, as INFJ do like the challenge with you INTJ! It’s awesome. I just feel that you have your feelings in your core just as much as we do, but you not willing to show them off because when you do, you actually feel vulnerable. I love peeling the layers of onion with you INTJ and I feel quite proud that I’m able to get there and you trust me enough to show your vulnerability. We INFJ’s have to be really patient and delicate with you, but the reward in the end makes us feel good.👍
Thank you for being patient with us. Feelings are private to us so it's always difficult to explain them no matter how mature we are 🙂
Whoah! Finally! I was waiting for your take on this!
Aha Daria and Jane!
I am an infj and my bestie is intj.
She and I really clicked immediately saying we could just understand each other!
Then, I discovered mbti and we we both took tests. There we have understood our deep and amazing complicity!
I have also recently made friends with two other intjs!
And both said it was this energy that drew them in.
I could say the same as I could understand what they talk about that are damn interesting to me.
I love how they INTJs do care a lot but they show it in a more practical way.
For me, my intj pals are super!
They are the people I can trust the most. They say infjs are the warmer versions of the intjs!
Salamat Jon! Spot on!!!
Keep on going!!!
You guys are easily the warmer version of an INTJ. Please take care of my INTJ fam 🙏
3 mins in and you gained a friend... 20 y/o INFJ here with a INTJ best friend here
My best friends are INTP and INTJ and im INFJ couldn’t ask God for a better combo. They balance me so well and help bring these weaknesses of mine to my attention. I love them
I'm sure they feel the same way about you 🙂
Thank you so much for this. I'm an INFJ and have chronic health issues that have been really affecting my self-esteem & belief in finding work I care about, where I'm not further sacrificing my health. It's very interesting hearing your descriptions and thoughts in this video. I appreciate this so much. Hope you have a lovely day ^_^
I hope things gets better for you INFJ, I'm rooting for you ✊
IXFJs tend to hold on to emotional pain, in their bodies, like a wound up rubber band, often leading to all manner of odd, long lasting health issues.
These stored tension is usually related to people giving you too many reasons not to trust…it becomes your walls.
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How are you now? :(
I'm a INTJ-A married to a INFJ-A. You explained everything very well!
Glad to hear that you found your mindmate ✊
My sister is an INTJ and she is absolutely brilliant. She’s my best friend and I appreciate the fact she helps me find who I am and reflect upon what is my feeling and what is empathetic feeling. We really deep dive to find solutions to problems and we aren’t draining to each other in the process.
Thanks from a INFJ ❤️
I'm sure she feels the same about you as well INFJ ❤
@@justcallmejon22 ❤️
I love that you pointed out that even when we are upset with people, we are nice enough not to hurt people!.
My passion is often viewed as angry, mad, mean... no matter how much tact I use (in a case by case scenario), it's viewed harsh or strong. Which makes it even harder to move forward in life because you have to deal with people who, in many cases, are not self-aware at all. 🤦🏾♂️
I'd probably do well living in England just based on the fact that people are passionately expressive people. Americans, rather you give them honesty in a "polite" way ALL THE TIME rather than look taking in the content that was shared. Maybe it's just me. 😂
Thanks for the kind words bruh.❤
Self-awareness is not common and the sad trust is that most people don't care about it enough because it might conflict with the identity that they built their world around. INFJ, we see you guys, as I said in my video, F* the haters, keep doing you. INTJs will support you the entire way ✊
That was really refreshing! You’ve no idea how freeing it is to have someone shaking you saying, “Wake up & snap out of it!” I enjoyed what your video.🍪
Glad to hear you enjoyed it 😁
Your infj videos are very touching.
Many people see intj as cold and spiky. Even though you have that Fi, i know that there is not a human on this earth that doesn't want to talk it all out once in a while. And i guess i as an infj know precisely when this moment comes, and i know how to talk to a person in a vulnerable state.
Thank you for being that person for an INTJ. It's difficult for us to speak about out feelings so it's a blessing when we find someone who we know doesn't see it as a burden ✊
On point! An entertaining, engaging and thoughtful dissection of the INTJ & INFJ relationship synergy. Thank you for this, Jon.
Thank you Joyce! 🙏
I'm an INFJ, and my two best friends are both INTJs. Couldn't be more true.
I’m an INFJ and you made me cry man. Thankyou for seeing us and appreciating us.
INTJs see you INFJ ❤
My husband is an INTJ and I’m an INFJ and our relationship is insanely compatible. 🥰
Sounds like an amazing relationship! Please take care of my fellow INTJ King 👑
Could you please sharecsome pointers like do's and dont's
@@tayyabausman8871 Yes, INTJs are very logical, so you can persuade them to do things with logic. My husband and I divided up our household chores according to interest, and our home functions beautifully. Also, ask INTJs how they feel, and they will tell you. But they are not going to volunteer that information; you have to ask them. Don’t take it personally. They do care, they just don’t express it without prompting sometimes. They are amazing problem solvers, so be prepared for them to offer you lots of solutions. It’s how they show that they care.
This was the pep talk my little INFJ heart needed!
Keep showing up INFJ, you got this! ✊
That was an awesome video. A lot of it went over my head as I don't know much about Myers Briggs personality traits. I can speak to the last part of the video and say that I agree with you about the INFJ never feeling motivated or prepared. I find that I really have to push myself and tell myself I have to meet goals and get things done. It seems like a cruel world to an unhealthy INFJ as myself at times but then I remember that I am a work in progress. I appreciate you taking the time to share this video with us and expand our knowledge on this subject. 🎉
Thanks for commenting! I always appreciate hearing people's perspectives. INFJs will probably not get as many things done compared to an xNTJ but boy do you guys shine when you're finally ready to make a move ✊
I think he sharing his perspective is doing a exmendous positive effects on infjs' mental health.
INFJs deserve it 😀
Dude, you're a F'n Rockstar!! Really needed to find this video tonight. Thank you 👍 👍 Cheers to you 🥂
I gotchu brotha ✊
Thank you, sir :,) This might be what gets me out of my self loathing. I met an INTJ who recommended me your channel and I will let her know how thankful I am.
God bless you all for seeing us. We don't know how to receive acknowledgement but do know that you changed someone's heart.
Don't ever feel like your kindness or your hard work goes unnoticed INFJ. We INTJs appreciate you guys and we're always rooting for you. Now, go kick some ass ❤
You explained exactly what’s going on between me an INFJ and my best friend an INTJ 🤗
Sounds like a wonderful friendship 🙂
Yes, when we initially became colleagues, just as you explained I felt if he was more self centred but soon enough he opened up to me with his life story and we became best friends. He’s literally my soulmate. He could understand me like no one ever had and we help each other in everything we do. I came to know my personality type only recently and told him about it and got him do the test and knowing our MBTI types finally made sense to us why we function the way we do 🤗
The closing statement made me cry. Thanks for doing this video #infj
Keep shining INFJ ❤
My son is an INTJ and I'm an INFJ and our minds are so on the same wavelength a lot. I totally get where his mind is a lot of the time. It did definitely take me awhile to understand his blunt way of communicating and it used to upset me, but now I understand the personality factor and that there's no negative emotional message with his blunt communication and that really changed how I took it, so now it's not a problem and I don't get offended anymore (for the most part lol- sometimes he just goes on and on too much pointing out what's incorrect or wrong about what I'm saying or doing and at a certain point I'll let him know it's really too much, it just feels crummy, and he'll immediately apologize and pivot- and he's only 13 so he's still learning). It's crazy how we'll even say the same funny thing at the exact same time often.
Thanks for taking the time to understand your son! Regardless of what type he might be, it's nice to hear that you're making an effort to understand him or communicate with him properly since not all parents are like that. I've helped raise a handful of nieces and nephews and I've learned never to take anything they say personally because they're just young with a lack of life experience. However, if your son is an INTJ, the thing we need most is just space. Space to grow, space to make mistakes, and a safe space at home that's less stressful than the outside world. Keep it up mama, I'm sure you're doing great 😁
INFJ here. this is a great pep talk for me, thank you. I work with INTJs that I really like and other INTJs that I struggle to relate to. I feel (ha ha) like maybe we will find our way forward, in understanding and working together. rock on, Jon. awesome message
I admit that INTJs are tough to handle at times but the struggle is worth it once you get past our shell. It's probably the same way we see INFJs 😁
I am an INFJ but i'm about 52% F and 48% T so i am not actually too far from an INTJ and i really like that, because life is so much easier when you can actually balance out your emotional side when it starts to overwhelm you. My brother and sister are INFJs too but they're so much more sensitive to everybody's opinions, and my mother is an ENFJ and has the same issues, and it's very frustrating trying to find a way to help them overcome it. It is a hard life for us INFJs XD
Watch some videos/learn about cognitive functions, then you will understand better & can operate through the world in a good pace
Agreed with what @animadas said above, cognitive functions will be helpful in helping people improve. Good luck INFJ ✊
I can relate to the F and T being extremely close.
Too logical at times and people call you insensitive.
Too empathetic at times and people call you too caring.
Explain both how you see things from both perspectives and people call you complicated😂
@@Sei1989 exactly xD Nobody really relates to that xD Glad, you replied 😄
@@iskrasretovic4570 😆 and sometimes you just dont say anything anymore to save your breath🤷♂️
Anyways glad I found your comment 🙂
I am an infj in my early 20s and I actually what is my passion when I am 17 or 18. When I was younger people were always telling me what to do and I can't say no. But in my teenage I had to go through many traumatic incidents which made me find my sanctuary in my passion. If I love something I give all the energy I have to it. It has always been all or nothing. Really hard to take a middle path.
And yes I am incredibly slow to action. I think a lot, and rethink and re-rethink....
Thank you for the kind words in the video. It really means a loooooot!
I got you ✊
I've been fortunate to encounter a few INFJs in my time and it's always been a good time. In my gaming circle I know I've got at least a couple and we've always had a lot of great post-game conversations about life and such. I remember in one such conversation we were actually talking about MBTI, and my INFJ friend said he was typed as an INFJ, but he didn't really know if it was accurate or not, and I was like, "No, I can see that. It makes sense." And from there we got into a conversation about how when a topic comes up and he has a view point that makes sense to him, but someone either doesn't understand that view point or heavily pushes an opposing view point, his first instinct isn't to double down or push back, but to ask how that person came to that conclusion or why the feel that way to understand the emotions behind their logic. That and the fact that he was just an easy person to talk to.
Even at times when we would have opposing view points, there were never really "heated" moments in those conversations because we both understood we were leading with Ni, so the view points he would see, I could understand how he got there. And the view points I would see, he could understand how I got there. And at it's worst we would just agree to disagree, because it ultimately came down to a difference in life experiences that were driving where we planted our flag on a stance. And since we knew that, it was one of the most genuine forms of "agree to disagree" that I've ever come across. Which is refreshing cause with a lot of other types, that's just the parachute ripcord that gets pulled to either avoid an argument, or end an argument, but because it's not really genuine there's a lot of passive-aggressive feelings you can start picking up on shortly after.
Agree to disagree is exactly how most conversations ends up. It really is interesting to meet another person that uses Ni so heavily that I acknowledge that I don't agree with them but I trust in their process.
I love how he gives voice to more obscure aspects of being an INTJ. And for the record... I find the INFJs the most fascinating and interesting people. I'm kinda on the watch for the patterns that someone might be one. The other types... not so. It's often exhausting trying to frame your thoughts to others, knowing that they still won't get the actual core of your message. So it's refreshing to get a kindred spirit sometimes. Well, not really just sometimes - it's a goddamn necessity. There is a phenomenon I call an "overpressure" when there is so much to say and you still decide not to because you know your words will have no effect. And that's where INFJs come into play. I don't expect understanding from others but I expect it from INFJs. So yeah... something like that.
You find your INFJ companion yet?
@@justcallmejon22 I had... for a while. And it was the most beautiful and crazy time ever. The chance to speak your mind freely for the first time, after I learned the hard way that I had to restrict my words to make at least an imperfect semblance of normality, undiluted by all the filters, my mind soaring above the suffocating clouds where there is nothing but clear sky and freedom. Without being frowned upon (y'know I never really cared when I was being ignored but things were usually bad when I wasn't - I never was the archetypical menacing -A type whom no one dared to touch). And I'd do anything to feel this state of mind again. Anyways :D ... she's the only one of my exes I still talk to because she's obviously INFJ and I'm INTJ but there's not this purity anymore. I know at least one other INFJ and though we get along and understand each other well, it was never like this.
Jon, I can't say it enough. You are the frickin bomb. A lot of times when I listen to you, I put my guy into your place and think back on past convos. I really like seeing my thoughts come to some semblance of ... Help me out INTJ lol. I have'nt know G for long, but I have picked up so many things. What you're saying about abstract thinking and no one understanding you. Oh that hit home. My ex used to get so very angry with me bc I often disassociate and shut down with him and spoke in such abstract thinking that his narcissistic personality just went crazy. I literally feel less depressed when I listen to you and I just now realized, it is because you hear me and G hears me. Bloody hell, I need a cupa tea. I did not go to school to become a counselor because I had worked all my life in medical. I knew what you had to do to get a psychologist's degree. And I rebelled and refused bc it makes no sense. Do you look back on your childhood and see your INTJ in you? I've been doing that lately and it's crazy. Thank you for making this video and all your videos. I so appreciate your hard work. One last question. I don't have a problem at all with my man not being all lovey dovey (yuck). You say INTJ show little emotion and that is true. For me, it just makes you more perfect. I don't feel pressured. Is that typical of INFJ?
I'm not sure if it's typical of INFJs but I'm also aware that you guys tend to be pretty patient in waiting for an acknowledgment (that might never arrive). I don't think G will mind if you tell him that you need attention or emotional validation, I actually think he'd appreciate you being straightforward. Thanks again for the kind words and please take care of my INTJ family 🙏
Great video. Im an INTJ female with an INFJ mother. Shes the only one that truly gets my thought process and we talk everyday, sometimes for hours. We love to analyze people and situations and make predictions.
This was SO awesome and helpful! Thank you for SEEING us and SAYING it! Also, awesome advice that I needed to hear! Thank you!
I got you ✊
I’m an INFJ….. thank you for the pep talk. Much appreciated.
I am INFJ.. your video made me feel hopeful! How do I meet am INTJ?! That was awesome I feel so validated LOL
I haven't made a video about where to find an INTJ because I don't even know myself 😂
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Wow, I was not expecting to be appreciated today. Thank you so much.❤❤❤
I am an INFJ and I truly appreciate for sharing this video. I am very picky with friends . Looking for INTJ friends..🙂
I'm confident that there are INTJs out there too that are searching for INFJs. The tricky part is leaving the house to find you guys 😅
oh my heart ❤❤❤ this is by far the best explanation in story teller form. INFJ - female Thank you for the information and wicked smart delivery! ☺️🔥🔥
I'm glad you enjoyed it 🙏
I am an INFJ and I truly appreciate you for sharing this video. Looking for INTJ friends 🙂
Please let me know when you find one because I have no idea where to find us 😅
@@justcallmejon22 You might have a better chance than me since INFJ is only 1%. 😁
INFJ, been told I talk in parables but everything makes sense in my head😂😂... the not knowing who you are 😂facepalm, me approaching the dgaf phase in a bit, recently embraced it...and not being mean sucks honestly...had to rewatch a couple scenes and laugh cause your expressions were adorable, thanks🌻