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  • @preciousstarsvlogs
    @preciousstarsvlogs  ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Very happy to say that this particular regression didn't last too long!

    • @Blueyes05
      @Blueyes05 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What’s the sound machine you have? My daughter has a 15 month old and due Dec 10th with 2nd little girl. We haven’t found a sound machine that we like but very interested in the one you have.

  • @emilyfraser
    @emilyfraser ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I randomly thought of you the other day… The little girl who used to talk about her periods. Came to check on you for the first time in years and OMG?!?!?! You’ve grown up so much and you have your own child… This was amazing to see. I’m so glad you crossed my mind ❤️❤️❤️ Lovely to see you doing well!!!

  • @Jay-oh5yk
    @Jay-oh5yk ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It's really helpful to see you thinking through all the decisions during the day. I thought it was just me that does this and other parents just somehow know what to do! We're all just doing our best aren't we ❤

  • @shaundraevans7559
    @shaundraevans7559 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    As a fan hearing his giggles made me teary eyed. For so long Oryn was just a concept , a longing, a wish you waited for. That little giggle is such a beautiful sign he is here now and he is happy. Especially after all the fighting you did through trying to conceive and prenatal conditions to be his mother. 💜👶I'm just so happy motherhood is now unfolding and blossoming for you . I always knew you'd be a great mum. So many things you went through with your pregnancy journey I experienced as well you've been so helpful for so many girls and women.

    • @ck2d
      @ck2d ปีที่แล้ว

      Try music to get him to sleep. I played the same classical song every time my son went to sleep and after just a few weeks as soon as he heard the music his eyes would slowly close and he would sleep.

    • @shaundraevans7559
      @shaundraevans7559 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@ck2dThank you for the advice but my boys are 6 and 13 now andmy youngest is 2 😊

    • @Whocares158
      @Whocares158 ปีที่แล้ว

      Take it easy it's really not that special.
      😂

    • @shaundraevans7559
      @shaundraevans7559 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're literally a man go away

  • @middleoftheroadmama
    @middleoftheroadmama ปีที่แล้ว +12

    We actually moved the big crib into our room with our third. All 3 of our babies had their best sleep in the big crib and I was desperate for a night's sleep. It was a tight squeeze but it made me feel better having her close still but giving her the bigger space!

  • @hkandm4s23
    @hkandm4s23 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Just a quick tip to try- if they're super grumpy and nothings working, try going outside for a few minutes. Usually distracts them enough to reset their mood ❤

    • @Sarahr98998
      @Sarahr98998 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I second this! Works wonders!

    • @theonlyabberdabber
      @theonlyabberdabber ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Even standing in front of a window works!

  • @alishaalford1562
    @alishaalford1562 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you for reminding me what these early days with a little one were like. Mine is 18 and about to leave home and it really does go by in the blink of an eye. You have such a lovely ability to go with the flow and live in the moment. What a wonderful thing for you both.

  • @SimplyTanika
    @SimplyTanika ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this! My son is 5 weeks today and at his 1 month check up, his weight put him in the 10th percentile and the peed wants him back in 2 weeks. It’s given me a bit of anxiety. He is gaining though! It was nice to hear your journey. I feel much less isolated. Thank you!

  • @jessicavazquez4495
    @jessicavazquez4495 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love these vlogs. Mom of four here and I have nursed them all til about two! It gets so much easier I promise!❤️❤️

  • @adiaspeer2426
    @adiaspeer2426 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everything you said about struggling to breastfeed was spot on! I’m 16 years removed from all this now but I remember how emotional the whole thing was 😭 you’re doing great!

  • @ibu.426
    @ibu.426 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    you are so precious with your baby. it's so heartwarming to see.

  • @peppermae1
    @peppermae1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That's the crazy part about becoming a parent. You don't know what you're going to do until you get there, and things will change

  • @dianacortes7928
    @dianacortes7928 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm a first time mom and this vlog was quite literally the same experience for me during his 4mo sleep regression, now my LO is 9mo, but we still prioritize cuddling over chores lol hes a contact napper too and a velcro baby. Thanks for keeping it real!

  • @rebekah3483
    @rebekah3483 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is such a true representation of a little one that's breastfed a lot of the time! It seems that breast milk isn't as heavy on their tummies so they digest it much quicker and therefore need to eat more often. That's been my experience anyway. I know it's hard with the emotional aspect of it all and knowing when to switch if needed! Hoping all goes well either way with the both of you! Sometimes this is just how it is regardless of how they're fed!

  • @ajthomas1282
    @ajthomas1282 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I use two sound machines for the infants I take care of. One with lullabies and one with white noise. It helps get them use to sleeping without it having to be completely silent

  • @mcfloater1171
    @mcfloater1171 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Whenever you decide to use a bottle for any supplemental feeding you start to see numbers and ounces and then the worry creeps in. When you are nursing it’s more when your child is satisfied and not about ounces they have drank. It gets into your head very quickly and causes doubt. All moms fell this. Do what you think is best. Your son looks very healthy and happy and you are doing a great job. If it’s mentally and physically draining for you , then transition him to formula. I’ve done both with my children as a single mom and they are now adults and both are healthy and amazing. Good luck

  • @HeidiBidels
    @HeidiBidels ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Sounds like the 4 month sleep regression 🙈 it's the worst one, but there are so many 🤪 thankfully they usually only last a week or two. My little one is going through the 2 year sleep regression at the moment and we are not having any naps whatsoever 🤦🏻‍♀️ but thankfully she sleeps through the night!
    Don't stress too much and take it all one day at a time 🥰 this will soon pass!

  • @amyfoster7182
    @amyfoster7182 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    The baby giggles. 😍 So adorable! Love watching your content!!!

  • @cassandrathonus3915
    @cassandrathonus3915 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He is the cutest when he laughs

  • @hkandm4s23
    @hkandm4s23 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    With all the money people spend on baby items, I think it's crazy that in the uk so few people invest in a window ac unit when they have a baby. I wonder if it might be more common soon with climate change. When our central ac went out last year, I had a 2 week old baby and a toddler and we had to spend a week without ac in 105F heatwave. Once the heat got in the house it was just too much and we had to go stay with family. After that we got a window unit for our upstairs office because our central ac doesn't work well upstairs and in case we have a problem again we have a backup

  • @vintagelace7076
    @vintagelace7076 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are doing a great job..never be afraid to get babies use to noise..i use to vacuum and everything because if you don't they can't sleep with the slightest noise and the world is noisy lol. I was reading the comments that are negative and just ignore them. You have to do what feels right to u.

  • @justathumb
    @justathumb ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my bub is just over a year now, and we had the EXACT same breastfeeding supply struggle timeline! it's actually really reassuring to me, to see someone go through the same situation and get fed up at about the same point 😅 i made it to 5/6 months, at which point the pediatrician said her weight gain was plateauing, so we needed to formula supplement (which helped cos it wasnt my decision), but honestly it was the best thing for all of us. i gained back some time/sanity, and she gained her weight back. ive never second guessed stopping breastfeeding for a second, and in the long run it's such a brief period, don't sweat it! ❤

  • @KatieJane31
    @KatieJane31 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My first was like that with naps. Since she was my first and I was in maternity leave, I just held her and watched tv for all her naps 😂 miss those cuddles. If I needed to get something done I used a baby carried and she napped in that.

  • @Andreamom001
    @Andreamom001 ปีที่แล้ว

    You could try a lact-aid or a homemade version (small tube stuck through a nipple into a bottle) to give him any “top-up” so he suckles while he gets it.
    That increases supply way better than a pump.

  • @coraliedubois5890
    @coraliedubois5890 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your baby is absolutely adorable!

  • @mog-gyveroneill2500
    @mog-gyveroneill2500 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am awe of mums who have c sections..major surgery, AND still getting on with the realities of a newborn!

  • @katleger8484
    @katleger8484 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The little giggle 😍

  • @madhonkas
    @madhonkas ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Have you tried babywearing at all to try to get stuff done?

  • @carolannekimmitt8516
    @carolannekimmitt8516 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I found Bath before the evening bed and feed made mine so relaxed and sleep most of the night.

  • @anikaxmeisel
    @anikaxmeisel ปีที่แล้ว

    Super happy for you! Your soft voice at the end reminds me of when you did some ASMR videos ☺️

  • @MinimumViablePicnic
    @MinimumViablePicnic ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How do you manage the bins with Oryn? Do you leave him alone briefly or put in sling etc? I'm a single mum and never figured this out

    • @dawnsherratt2317
      @dawnsherratt2317 ปีที่แล้ว

      I lived in a tower block and had a bin chute on my floor literally across the hallway but I always took her cos it's the safest. A little more effort but worth it.

  • @robinc6746
    @robinc6746 ปีที่แล้ว

    I exclusively breastfed my daughter until she was 8 months and after that I fed for comfort until a little after a year old. She was on a cup at that point. I think it's worth it to stick it our for a few more months if you can. If not, you know it's your journey. I never had a pump and I felt exhausted all the time. I totally understand what you are dealing with emotionally and physically.

  • @MinimumViablePicnic
    @MinimumViablePicnic ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'd stop pumping and see how it goes x You're doing an amazing job, Breastfeeding is hard and pumping is so tedious xx I'm tandem nursing a toddler and newborn atm, its bonkers!

  • @charlottesinclair9354
    @charlottesinclair9354 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Does filming like this have to count as a KIT day, or is that only for the editing and stuff of it? Intrigued how it all works in the UK since it works slightly differently here in NZ I think!

    • @lauraelliott6909
      @lauraelliott6909 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm pretty sure her MAT leave is over. She only took 3 months, I think.

  • @heyjewel2029
    @heyjewel2029 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a beautiful baby! He's fabulous

  • @robinc6746
    @robinc6746 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When Bryony becomes not only a great single mama but, the best spokesperson for Hello Fresh on TH-cam!!!

  • @lizzylou19
    @lizzylou19 ปีที่แล้ว

    You should get thermal curtains/ blinds

  • @mcfloater1171
    @mcfloater1171 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fantastic mom !!

  • @Munomanom
    @Munomanom ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What does "going through a leap" mean?

    • @dianacortes7928
      @dianacortes7928 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Growth spurt

    • @planningtolive_thebestlife453
      @planningtolive_thebestlife453 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think it means they’re moving from one baby stage into the next. So they’re developing new skills and it takes some adjustments to their routine. Including sleep😬 I think around 4 months babies start to be a lot more aware and they also start teething. Pretty disruptive to their little worlds.

  • @lovelifeandothers6784
    @lovelifeandothers6784 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was once told by a paediatrician that it was a lucky child who was breastfed beyond a year - and yet less than 1% of UK babies receive any breastmilk by that age…

  • @faithwalker2287
    @faithwalker2287 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She nailed it for me! I thought my baby’s 30 min naps were weird. I thought she was supposed to be sleeping at least an hour. I have 2 boys whom I bottle fed so this was new territory. Another thing she best describes about BFing is “emotional”. “Bonding” sound so mechanical and National Geographic-like. 😂 I only planned on BFing for 6 weeks. Here I am, 16 weeks later and dreading when she wants to start solid foods. 😢

    • @lovelifeandothers6784
      @lovelifeandothers6784 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can breastfeed for years without it being an issue with solid food. It’s the global and biological norm 😊

    • @BhappyD
      @BhappyD ปีที่แล้ว

      Many healthcare professionals recommend breastfeeding for the first two years of life (if possible, of course) because of all the benefits it offers the child, especially the immune system benefits. Once solid food is started, you don’t breastfeed as often each day, as breast milk is no longer making up the only part of their diet, but you can still do feedings several times a day even with your baby eating solid foods. As baby grows, many moms transition to doing just bedtime or morning feedings at the breast as part of your daily routine. There’s definitely no rules on needing to stop at a certain time. Just BF for as long as you and your baby are capable, willing, or wanting to do so. 😊

  • @Raeuberbande
    @Raeuberbande ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're both so lovely together❤ I enjoy your videos for years and you are a wonderful mom. I get teary watching you become an adult and now mom, you do so good💗 I wish you both all luck and love, you deserve it🤗
    I was a single mom with my first child, too. He loved breastfeeding every 1,5-2,5 hours😂 needed in the beginning 45min. to drink and dozed off on me😢 and when i tryed to put him anywhere else he would wake up at once... so after two weeks i got a wrap and he loved it. Beeing so close at my body, he slept and I could do my housework. When I needed sleep, I would ask my mom and she would take him and go for a walk and I could get needed sleep👍 and I let him always sleep until he would wake up on his own. We had no real sleep routin until he was 1y old and co sleeped. Becaus it change so much trough this age. About 14 months old he finally sleeped trough the night😅 11‐13 hours, man the best sleep I had in my life😄🙈 I breastfeed him until he was 20 months old before sleep.
    I married and had my daughter with my husband in 2021. With her it was completly different😂 I breastfeed her too, but she was ok with every 3‐4 hours and weaned off early at 14 month, she did not enjoy the wrap so much and wanted a lot of free moving time. She sleeped for longer periods at 6 months.
    They are nearly opposite personalities😂 a bundle of joy everyday. Both of them are on the small and very lean side, I worried always so much about my sons weight, but i never had to get them any extra milk, luckily. He ist still very lean, but doctors are happy with everything he is fit so, all is good.
    Both my kids love the lovevery box toys. Good quality and fun. My son is 7y old but he plays with his sister and they both enjoy them❤
    These are our experiences. Do whatever feels right for you and your child🤗 XOXO Laura

  • @shymidsib
    @shymidsib ปีที่แล้ว

    “I have new found empathy for my Mother.”

  • @AngelsLieToKeepCtrl
    @AngelsLieToKeepCtrl ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Briony, what's the name of the white noise machine you use? Would you recommend it?

  • @mar13keta
    @mar13keta ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Bryony ❤
    From my experience there is no comparison between breastfed and formula fed babies. Formula fed babies are usually chunkier and my pediatrician always said there should be a different growth graph for each group.
    I breastfed my little one for well over 2 years 🙈 and found out that breast milk is great for an eye infections, small cuts and is being custom made for my baby each time she latches on, including specific nutrients, more water content when hot, more salt if she didn't drink in a while to prevent dehydration....
    Breastfeeding is hardest the first 6 months or so. From then on it's a piece of cake.
    Nature is truly magnificent 🫶

  • @Specter1065
    @Specter1065 ปีที่แล้ว

    The firstborn is doted on quite heavily, by the third one, they usually just call for take out and demand the card to pay while watching football…we are just in their way…😂

  • @MissGarland1986
    @MissGarland1986 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How is he 4 months already! Thats crazy. ❤❤

  • @kestrelhawkins8728
    @kestrelhawkins8728 ปีที่แล้ว

    It sounds like your supply has adjusted to your pumping, especially if you are doing it at the same time every day. We also have more prolactin hormone at night than during the day. So... I don't think supplementing with formula will hurt your breastfeeding relationship.

  • @vintagelace7076
    @vintagelace7076 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wonder if a warm lavender bath would help sooth him

  • @killapatra555
    @killapatra555 ปีที่แล้ว

    Has the hairloss just started for you, or has it been going on for a bit? My baby is about a month behind yours and I haven't had any yet, but dreading it when it comes

    • @KOK-sc8ez
      @KOK-sc8ez ปีที่แล้ว

      I thought I got lucky and it wouldn’t happen to me but my hair started shedding like crazy around 4-5 months.

  • @a0ch
    @a0ch ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi, I don't have kids yet (expecting :)), but I wondered, have you tried wearing him and doing some work at the same time, and does this work?

  • @F5d3hkdhkubst763
    @F5d3hkdhkubst763 ปีที่แล้ว

    I remember watching you when I was a teenager as I had a lot of health issues with my period now you have a baby

  • @griffindoorgirl
    @griffindoorgirl ปีที่แล้ว

    Love Waterloo road it’s Amazing and your baby I soo cute ❤ xx ps im currently watching Waterloo road on bbc player every night on my laptop

  • @laurakinsella1692
    @laurakinsella1692 ปีที่แล้ว

    What were you listening to doing the chorus

  • @laurakinsella1692
    @laurakinsella1692 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Are you using cloth nappies

  • @LauraBidingCitizen
    @LauraBidingCitizen ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Why can’t you baby wear? Is there a reason?

  • @victoriamahon3765
    @victoriamahon3765 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This may be a bit unrelated but it still blows my mind that you guys don’t really have air-conditioning over there. I mean it’s something we’ve had here in the US since like the 50s I think. Even if you don’t want to like retrofit buildings with big air conditioning systems they sell cheaper units you can put in a window and it will cool things significantly. And they run about $100 to start. I don’t know why they don’t sell them over there for you guys, they would make such a difference. I can’t imagine going through summer heat without air conditioning. Hope it cools off for you soon!

    • @ashy2074
      @ashy2074 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Our warmest weather used to be 30 degrees Celsius, which was unusual (86 degrees F I think) at least here in Scotland. But its been getting warmer every year 😅

    • @Shayron1989
      @Shayron1989 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Our windows don’t usually accommodate air con. Windows that slide up/down are uncommon. Personally I only have ‘hopper’ windows that open 6” at the top in my ground floor. 🤦‍♀️ We have some of the oldest housing stock in Europe (mine is over 100y old and that’s not very unusual) so air con was never an option when most of our housing was built and now we’re so used to not having it they don’t even consider it for new builds, except very high end. There’s also not enough room for free-standing cos we also have some of the smallest homes in Europe 🙄And absolutely teeny compared to the USA. So not worth it for the few weeks of hot weather each year. That might change if we continue getting longer hotter summers though cos we cannot cope 😅

    • @nyonpyon8099
      @nyonpyon8099 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Because its "generally" not a hot country. 30 degrees for 2 weeks out of the year, which has only in recent years become somewhat normal. Window ac units are ugly yokes. A lot of people do have a portable little unit though.

    • @ingweking8748
      @ingweking8748 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because it is expensive ameritard electricity is expensive

  • @pattyfluegel7816
    @pattyfluegel7816 ปีที่แล้ว

    never managed to stay on a centaur line? I can not make out what she is saying about his nursing and metabolism...is she saying he is not gaining weight or?

  • @katesmith754
    @katesmith754 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations on little one, where is your other little boy

  • @dizzycowuk
    @dizzycowuk ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is it weird to be able to actually show Oryn cause he's yours instead of hiding fosterlings?

  • @milkymilkshake244
    @milkymilkshake244 ปีที่แล้ว

    You two are so cute together

  • @AlexImmortal1989
    @AlexImmortal1989 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Idk if it's the postpartum hormones or being covered in breast milk but the first few months after baby I sweat sooo crazy and the smell is sooo different 😅- like a feral woodland critter lol

  • @katleger8484
    @katleger8484 ปีที่แล้ว

    It was 41 here today

  • @biddyomahony-spears5195
    @biddyomahony-spears5195 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do you think you will move to a house?

  • @maddiejoy6619
    @maddiejoy6619 ปีที่แล้ว

    Does the NHS pay for breast pumps?

    • @FoodieForce
      @FoodieForce ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sadly not, you can hire them though

    • @nyonpyon8099
      @nyonpyon8099 ปีที่แล้ว

      If you've a preemie in scbu they will but its a bit of a process

  • @zedhem
    @zedhem ปีที่แล้ว

    What a cutie!

  • @1angel0777
    @1angel0777 ปีที่แล้ว

    Has he been checked for tongue ties by a pediatric dentist?

  • @KatieJane31
    @KatieJane31 ปีที่แล้ว

    Get a pumping bra then you don’t have to hold the pump. They are so nice.

  • @bimbalful
    @bimbalful ปีที่แล้ว

    Never wake q sleeping baby. They know what they're doing

  • @Claire-ld4jl
    @Claire-ld4jl ปีที่แล้ว

    I found I was hotter and had stronger and more sweat when breastfeeding. Tapered off after a year when I stopped.

  • @jeaninevanzantvoort4042
    @jeaninevanzantvoort4042 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is something i wonder. Is every new mum this worried about their baby sleeping or not? I mean is it really wrong to let them cry once in a while? From when i grew up, my mom just did everything in the house hold wether we were asleep or not. I didn't mind to be on my 'own'. Wondering this because alot of people can't deal with this. If we continue to put babies on pedistals... it sure will be hell of a spoiled world. Don't get me wrong though, i understand how precious the baby is and the love. It's just thought flying by.edit: you have a whitenoise machine but you're to afraid he'll wakeup when you take a bath... He's not going to die if you don't respond for a minute.. christ... anyway... not my business

    • @brilliantbutblue
      @brilliantbutblue ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hear you and agree.

    • @dianacortes7928
      @dianacortes7928 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      There's actually quite a lot of research that proves that letting kids cry/making them "cry it out" is actually a detriment to their future mental health and attachment styles. Obviously every family is different and needs to do what's best for them, but if a parent is willing and capable to keep their baby happy and nurtured, that will only be a benefit to the child/world (happy human yay) instead of creating a "spoiled" child. That's actually a myth. You cannot spoil a child by holding them too much or keeping them from crying etc ...

    • @Shayron1989
      @Shayron1989 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Totally depends on the baby. When my 6m old niece is tired and you put her down in her crib, she will have a wee cry and then slowly calm down and put herself to sleep. She just has a bit of a fuss and it’s never ‘serious’ unless she’s unwell, teething etc. My son couldn’t sooth himself until he was much older. He’s just a more sensitive temperament so if he was left he would only escalate until he cried so hard he was sick. I had him just before lockdown so there was times I physically couldn’t hold him and comfort him, and no one else could help. And it always escalated, he never learned to self-soothe, even with that ‘practice’. You cannot train a baby out of their temperament. Some babies will tolerate things that others won’t.

    • @ingweking8748
      @ingweking8748 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You can't spoil a baby