Personally don’t want to be a stay at home mom or a house wife but I have such respect for those who are. It is hard work and is ignored often for how much effort and energy it takes to do such a job.
@@theoutsiderspost4982 That depends on how many kids you have and how far spaced out they are in age. My kids are three years apart and I have three kids. It can be hard when they are younger and you have to watch them like a hawk. If you have back to back kids, like a year apart, it can make things even harder. Housework isn't physically hard but what makes being a housewife or househusband difficult is the isolation and the lack of sleep. I felt like I was loosing who I use to be because my whole life became the kids, the home, and my husband. So it can be mentally taxing at times. When kids get older, they were easier to manage because they can dress, feed, and bath themselves and most important, pick up after themselves. I was even able to return to work when all three were in school. So it all depends on the kids' ages and the number of kids, how difficult it can be and believe I worked jobs that were far easier then being a housewife.
My mother decided to be a stay at home mom for the first 12 years of my life. I will always be thankful for that. But the keyword here is "decided". It's not something she was pressured to do, it's not something my dad asked her to do. It was HER decision. I think it's a wonderful thing as long as you decide it's what you want in life. And I think the same for stay at home dads: if you can do it and want to do it, why not? :)
@@ChopChic1 I respect your views, of course. :) My point was mostly that if you CAN (as in have the means) and WANT to be a stay at home mom or dad, it's great. It should always be a choice, and not something that you feel pressured to do. As for stress tolerance theshold differences between men and women, I can't really give an elaborate answer on the matter; I don't really know enough about that subject. I do know men with an extremely low stress tolerance treshold and women who eat stressful situations for breakfast without batting an eyelash, though, hahaha. But when it comes to stay at home dads, I think a lot of them might be depressed because 1) it was not necessarily their first choice (they lost their job, they are sick, their spouse earns enough, so why bother, etc.) and 2) the society has very strong and negative views on the matter. When you think about it, stay at home dads are often viewed like men who didn't go to war during wartimes. Like there is something wrong with them, something broken. I find it pretty sad.
@@ChopChic1 It's my pleasure. :) I see points of views that differ from mine as opportunities to grow and learn. And I completely agree with you: people are happiest when operating in their area of strength. I'm glad you are in a season of your life where you can be a stay at home mom and enjoy it to the fullest. I know my mom is still thankful she was able to spend those precious years at home with my 2 brothers and I. I'm 30 now, and we are all still very close to this day (with my dad too, who was and is still very present in all our lives, don't worry, hehehe). We're all writing the story of our own life, in a way. But when you are a mom or a dad, you get to create whole new books from within yourself and watch the blank pages get filled with laughter and tears, pure joy and hardships... And it's something pretty amazing, if you ask me. :)
@@ChopChic1 I get personal experiences formed your views. However I would urge you to look into the evidence on these topics before holding such views.
As a young woman who doesn't want kids (at all), and is also pretty hesitant to the idea of having a relation with anyone, I kind of live vicariously through your experiences, videos, and life. Thank you for giving me the chance to experience what other people like about being in a relationship and all the homy, domestic, beautiful moments it entails ♥
@@KellyMorita If you're deciding to have a precious, GLORIOUS pretty pretty baby make sure feed him/her vegan products. Animal products, gluten and got milk made from pus and blood will *harm* your baby's health. But unfortunately you don't care of what I suggested you and its fine because it's expected from a know it all person like you lol. Curious abt your husband thoughts by the way of wanting a kid since you want to share y'all audience false dreams. Can't wait for the next video because this is VERY VERY interesting....just WOW! lol.
@@LoveButterfly999 Wow is right. Why are you being so rude and imposing your opinion on Kelly. Vegan diets can be harmful for babies unless they are managed very carefully with supplements. Human breast milk is not vegan, should she not breastfeed?
@@kageyamareijikun That is a subjective standpoint. For some, it may be easy. For others, not so much. Who is to speak for everyone in an objective sense? All I know is, I have children and my wife is a stay at home mother. I see her struggles and I personally would not have the strength she has had in facing them.
This video is so wholesome yet inspiring. You’re living my dream life right now: being married and living in Japan and finding happiness (not saying you find that in a man or in anything material, but the happiness in finding that inner self you mentioned.) Watching this inspires me to believe that it can happen for me too 🙏 Thank you for sharing!
My Japanese wife quit her job immediately after our wedding. I didn’t force it and she didn’t ask my opinion. She just did it. I guess it was a different time back then when that was just the normal thing to do. Also, she hated her job and would complain about it all the time so I wasn’t too shocked. These days I think married couples continue to work out of necessity more than anything else in Japan. If you have the choice to do either, that’s a great thing. Best wishes to you both.
I did what your wife did exactly.Also, I have some health issues so I couldn't continue to work .But I got brutally shamed by my family and friends for this lol
Literally turned 30 yesterday and can’t relate at all. I love my long term relationship, but neither of us want kids. To each their own I guess. I’ve never wanted to be a mom. He’s never wanted to be a dad. I’d rather be a dog mom a million times over having a child. Idk why I’m like this, but I’ve known since I was a teen. I hope you are able to make your dream happen though!
Chill A whatever makes you happy. My wife didn’t think she wanted kids. Now that we have one, we def want more, we are both older so we might adopt. We are both working parents, and it is not easy juggling both but so far ( 1 yr) I love being a dad. All the other things I want to do are temporary on hold say 2-3 yrs. but def not out of the picture. We take out kid hiking, traveling, and one day rock climbing. Having a kid has not prevent me from doing anything. My friend has no kids and is retired at 47. He loves it. There is no right or wrong way.
People have told me my whole life how selfish I am for not wanting kids. Being selfish would be bringing an unwanted kid into this work and not being able to be the best parent when I have zero desire to be one. I know everyone’s priorities and wants/needs are different. That’s fine. Everyone makes it work in their own way. I have no motherly instinct whatsoever. I have two nephews and a niece that I love dearly, but at the end of the day I get to go home with my partner and see our dog and bird. That is what makes me happy. 🙂
@@chilla14_ I was always the same way and people kept telling me I'd change my mind as I got older. I turned 30 and still felt totally unprepared to have a kid and felt no drive to have one. But now a few years later, I've pretty much changed my mind and even though I don't have that deep desire some women do to have a baby, I am self-aware enough to know I will regret not raising a kid of my own. This is just to say that you could catch yourself by surprise is a few years. Maybe you won't and that's ok too but it's ok if you do, too
To each their own. My mom ended up as a stay at home mom when I was 5 due to health issues. She enjoyed being a stay at home mom despite her limitations and it’s a tough job. However, I was always brought up with the idea that women need to be self sufficient. To me having a career of my own relieves pressure off my partner. In that sense I can help relieve stress and take care of him. It also brings in more money for my family so that we can afford things like trips to visit family, and education. I also want my daughter to grow up knowing she too can follow her passions and raise a family of her own (if she wishes). That being said, there is more than one way to take care of a family.
I like how obviously new you to are at being a couple. Your nervous, uncertain laughter and baby voiced "Happy Valentine's Day!" Ahhhh....there's nothing like budding love! Enjoy it while you're still in it's clutches.
You're so right. Being a stay at home mother is a job. The most important job in the world to your children. I was a stay at home mom to our 3 children. (Our youngest is a Senior). I'm now a stay at home caregiver to my husband who's battling Stage IV cancer. Someone has to provide care. Who better than the ones that love them most. Xoxo 💕
For The Love of Mike I know that caregiving, while fulfilling and done out of love, is exhausting and very stressful. Please take care of yourself, too. Best wishes to you and your husband.
Been watching your vids for months now. Always great content. I will be moving to japan in 2021, cant wait to return. You and some others have motivated me to get over my fear of cameras and to put out new vids! KEEP IT UP
Good for you! I love hearing other women say they want to be a stay at home mom and wife. It's very counter culture and we are often attacked or judged for the decision to stay home (which doesn't make sense to me.. don't we all have the right to decide what we want to do in life?) I felt embarrassed to say that was my dream for a while, but not anymore. It's much, much harder than I expected, though I wouldn't trade it! I married at 30, also, had my first at 31 and now at 37 pregant with my 4th. My first 3 were born in Taiwan! Your dream for a baby reminds me so much of myself after I got married. All the best to you both!
Ive been a stay at home wife for six years and when people ask what i do and i tell them i get the meanest looks. Even from my own family.. It really sucks that no matter what choice a women makes no one accepts it even other women dont support
The Ristinos Life in Suriname It depends where you live. Often there is judgement either way, if you stay at home people suggest that it is not a job and if you go to work people judge you for not loving your children enough to stay at home. You honestly cannot win. There is serious judgement either way. What is important is that you do what works for you and your family. Sadly some people don’t have a choice in either circumstance, not all countries are as open minded as Sweden.
The Ristinos Life in Suriname I am going through something similar.I completed my masters and don't have any specific career goals.Also,I got married and I am enjoying my "unemployment"as bizarre as it sounds due to serious health issues.But I envision myself to be a stay at home wife and take care of kids when they arrive.However, apparently I get attacked for this from my family and friends .I only work to get by.
A new subscriber saying hi from Taiwan! I can’t stop watching your old videos and am so excited for this new one. “We share problems” and high five, how cute and sweet!
I loved staying home with my kids. The rewards of seeing them grow and spending time with them far outweighed the work. I always had something on the side for me tho which I think is important - a small business etc. I love seeing how happy you are, Kelly. Your husband is so... Decent. Kind. Funny. Look forward to your videos!
I have had many jobs before, and I can say truthfully that being a stay at home Mom IS the hardest job. I have four kids, a big house, husband and giant dog to take care of. Two of my kids have different needs. The pressures of society to be “perfect” are a lot, if you work a full time job people think you should be home with your kids, if you’re home with your kids people wonder how the hell you don’t work. Someone with that attitude is welcome to follow me around for a day and I guarantee you’d be dizzy and tired 😂 On top of it I have Hashimoto’s and still struggle with fatigue. Do what YOU want to do and do what makes you happy. There never is a perfect time to do anything. Just do it.
Kïrsten I don't have kids yet.But I have severe arthritis and I just quit my job recently as I was getting more sick and at 27 I decided to fuck it.But yeah I got a lot of shade for this lol.Now everyone pressuring me to find work again and tbh I can only do desk jobs so it's not that simple.
I'm a stay at home mom with a 2 year old and another on the way, currently 6 months along :) It definitely has its ups and downs and it isn't easy, but it's the most rewarding. I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
It makes me so happy to see you so excited to continue forward in your dreams and life! I remember watching your "alone on Christmas" videos, all but straining to try and send comforting vibes. It's so nice to see you becoming whole. ♡
The spirit box and the reflection gave me chills! I enjoy your all your videos. I find the ghost videos especially interesting! Keep being you and following your dreams! You are an inspiration!
I can understand why she wants to be a stay at home mother (in Japan). Can’t help but wonder if she would feel the same way if she was living in a different country... Working in Japan especially for foreigners isn’t the best... I’m not putting Kelly down in any way, but perhaps a big reason why she wants to become a stay at home mother is not wanting to be a language teacher in Japan forever. Anyway, all the best :) I’m a pharmacist and I’ve been living in Japan for a couple of years. Even for me, I don’t think I’ll be fully satisfied with the work I can do here compared to being back home. I’m in a relationship with a Japanese man myself and even I contemplate being a stay at home mother in Japan. I NEVER would have considered this being back home. You have to be really sure about your decision. I guess it’s easier for some people as they may not have as much to lose). I hope I don’t come across as arrogant. Can any other Western women relate?
So I am a stay at home wife at the moment here because I had to quit my job and move to where my husband lives. I’ve been talking to my husband about finding a part time job, because teaching full time was just hell for me. I had nights where I barely slept because of the stress. BUT part time might be okay or maybe the last company was too much pressure. But my Japanese husband keeps pushing me just to do my own thing since I have hobbies and we did just get a dog. He hasn’t said it but I think it’s because he knows how much I was not happy teaching. I would never have considered it in the US until we had kids...but I don’t think my husband would be happy if I am doing something that just makes me stressed and unhappy all the time. Plus it helps that we can travel whenever we want if I don’t have one. BUT it can be so boring. Usually I’m consistently doing things but I’d feel so much more fulfilled if I had some kind of gig. Especially when you are hanging with friends and they all have work or whatnot to talk about and you Are like...MY LAST JOB..it’s easier to click with people doing similar things as you..you know.. It is what it is but it’s hard to work in japan. You can teach which sucks or you can learn Japanese fluently and work for a Japanese company which is even worse as I’ve heard. I feel like there is no winning. My husband is Japanese and won’t even work for a Japanese company haha so he would never want me to.
Love your vids. One of few channels I watch when I researched for my now third trip to japan. I admire your journey from choosing a profession, sticking with it, realizing it wasnt for you and then having the courage to leap into something else. You are an inspiration to everyone in the world. Ive shared your videos on my FB and I will keep on doing it. Lovely regards from Sweden!
Such a great video. Before meeting my husband I had never even thought of being married or having kids. I was focus on my career. Now I’m a stay home Mama of three beautiful children and wife to my wonderful Husband living life here in Japan, and I love every minute of it 😊
G Nishino is the any age to be a stay at home mom? I face so much discrimination for not working and honestly I have serious health issues so work isn difficult to come by.
moody star I don’t think there is or should be any age where a woman can’t choose to be a Stay home mama. Like the choice to work, it’s completely ours. I also suffer from health issues and have two sons with Autism, so worry is also difficult now for me though if financial we need me too work I will in the future.
Such a good husband taking a bullet for his wife, and finishing those pancakes 😂 You guys... This video was adorable. I'm 23, still in law school, a bit lost.... , and honestly what you said about plans changing really resonated with me... Life's tough... And change can be good, and plans changing is often for the better, it's good to shed a new light on things. You've given me some stuff to think about 😊 And production wise, I loved the filming and the shots and the sceneray it was so beautiful and very calming.
Kelly, it is truly a blessing for me to see the love you and your husband have for one another. This is my favorite video so far because it holds your dreams for the future. You love Ryuji totally for himself. It’s so lovely. ❤️❤️ ... That was definitely a ghost conductor!!!
Your videos inspire me to not worry about my future and how I have absolutely no idea what I want to do. I don't want to just settle for something and later realize it wasn't the right thing for me. It may take a long while but I'll find it someday. Thank you so, so much, Kelly :)
This video touched my soul so much. It is beautiful when you can make those decisions with someone who really cares about you, and themselves. I wish we all could make those choices. It is truly important to have supportive people in your life. ❤ May we all find that.
I disagree that the only way to inspire your kids is to be a stay at home mom. I have friends who are stay at home moms and do an excellent job, and I know others who are raising brats. It depends on the mother, not on what the mother does or doesn't do for a living.
@@KellyMorita you said 'I want to become a stay at home mother because I want to inspire my kids'. It's early on in the video. It's ok if you believe that. I am just saying I disagree. That's all. 😉
@@pheenobarbidoll2016 it's not an interpretation. It's a thing called logic. If A then B. If I become a stay at home mom (A) then I will inspire my kids (B) that is what she said. To make an analogy. If I said 'I want to follow a keto diet because I want to lose weight'. I am saying that if I follow a keto diet I am going to lose weight. I am not saying at all that also doing caloric restriction, or being vegan, or being paleo will also help me lose weight. I am saying keto and nothing else. Which is fine.
@@IRunThings It's still not saying " nothing else will help me lose weight". It's simply stating the diet you're choosing in order to lose weight. You're adding subtext when there is none.
Your videos constantly give me hope that I can achieve my dream of moving to Japan. I look back to your "Goodbye Lovelyzkelly" and I relate to it so much, and it's awesome to see how life has unfolded for you. Your content is an honest reminder that we are never truly alone in this world and there is adventure waiting for us all, along with a one of a kind story that only you to tell as long as you're open and willing to try. With those lessons learned I'm finally going to Japan this summer for my 30th birthday on a 10 day solo trip that starts in Osaka and ends in Tokyo. I want to take the 10 days to reflect, soak up the culture (and all the food), and evaluate if I would be truly happy living in Japan. Based on how I feel at the end of the trip I'll start getting my things in order and begin the process of looking for a job in Japan. My skills are easily transferable in my field (I work in TV and music) I just need to focus on learning the language. Thank you for all the inspiration you've given. Keep being awesome!
I was a completely career driven busy woman for all my early adult years . I got married and we knew right away what we wanted to do . I am now a stay at home mom to two kids and a homeschooler at that ! Not what I thought I’d be doing at all but I find it so rewarding and I wouldn’t change a thing
I love how you said going out and meeting new people will give you more experience. I felt like this relate to me as I'm always just sticking to a routine of going to a place and home. I follow this channel as I can relate to you and learn so many mess things
Ah! The dream! ❤ I have always wanted, before all other dreams, to be a housewife and stay at home mum. I also want to be a writer and sell/teach handmade traditional Japanese crafts that I've learned how to others. Good fortune cats! I think I heard or read somewhere that the left hand can also mean fertility - literally bringing in people 😂 Totally excited for future housewife vlogs! ❤❤❤
I want to be and currently am a housewife, love it but going to do a part-time teaching for a little while because I didn't have the working experience here yet and want to save some money so I can go out and do things I couldn't do my first times in Japan at my money was so tight. I wish you luck in becoming a housewife, and a mommy. I find the West is really anti-housewife or SAHM when it is the biggest and most important job you can have. They would call you a free loader. I love how you can be a housewife here a it's normal. And it should be. It's the most important job and most fulfilling. Caring for those you love over a soulless company that takes and has no love for you.
I love the way you take us on a tour of the lovely places you visit, it’s so enjoyable for anyone who has never been to Japan and they all look so beautiful, I’m so happy you have a lovely man in your life to share all your experiences with 😊
I love your videos. it is very interesting for me. housewife is sometimes hard because everyday is working in the house. no holiday. but probably you can enjoy ! good luck! from Japan ^^
Your guys are such a sweet couple. I also knew right away that I was going to marry my husband. We just celebrated 25 years, we also were long distance. I lived in Philadelphia and he lived Boston. I moved to Boston almost 30 years now. My daughter is a teacher too! My son is a junior in college. I loved being a stay at home mom! It was the rewarding thing I have done to date. Much love from USA❤️
Watching you grow as a person and then seeing you and your lovely husband grow together makes your channel one of the sweetest and most enjoyable on TH-cam. I started following you on Insta as well. Happy almost spring Mr and Mrs Morita💜
When I was little, I wanted to be Sailor Moon. Then a meteorologist. Then a veterinarian. Now, I'm an ESL/EFL teacher overseas, living the dream my college self had, while nurturing and working towards my dream of one day settling down in a good job with a person I love. Dreams change, and if it's what YOU want, there's nothing wrong with them
Well kids are expensive so trying to do it on one income is admirable. I'm sure people will slam me and say you will earn money from TH-cam but I'm doubting you'll have the time or the energy.
soo happy for both of you.. Follow your heart... It cannot be wrong ..I moved to Japan with my husband and worked for two years and i have a 5 months old and all i want to be is a good house wife..i never regret the decision I made to give up all that hard work anf years of work.. Im at a very happy place of my life rightnow..im becoming so good at house keeping and im so proud of myself
You have such wise words beyond your years. I wish you and your husband and your future children all the best in the world! I'm so glad I found your channel! 💜
Hello I just found your channel in the recommended videos whirl I was watching a Japanese lesson. Love this ❤️ I'm also living in Japan, since almost 4 years ago.
I am a homeschooling stay at home mom to four kids...we definitely make sacrifices to make it work but I do think it is important that we are teaching are kids to value family and our relationships over money and stuff!
Wow, how you are with people in general and how you are with your husband, you are going to be an AMAZING role model for your children X I will wish and wish for your hopes and happiness. You deserve a beautiful life at home ❤️
I decided to be a stay at home mom when my daughter was born. Yes, it can be a struggle with only one income but it was the best decision ever. BTW I love your earring collection!
I know what you mean about things changing. I find myself going through quite the change as well. As long as it's what fulfills you, and makes you happy, that's all that should matter. Life is short! No use wasting time on things that don't make you feel like life is worth living. ❤️❤️❤️
Loved this video ❤️ find yourself videos so relaxing and seeing a happy couple is just cute haha going to Tokyo for the first time in March and I cannot wait!!
I get really sad and depressed and kinda hopeless while watching videos related to Japan. And yet I watch them. Idk why. Like right now I feel extremely sad and sick idk why
Just recently I have come to the same conclusion as you. I think I alwys wanted to be a housewife and mother, but never dared admit it, because in today's feminism and culture, it was expected of me to want to have a successfull career. I can't freely admit this yet, but I am now starting to search for ways, to prepare myself for the future I want. Good luck to you who as well! It's inspiring to see you develop over the years!
steffi2922 I asked my friend about this and her reply was “ there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home parent” but it should not be expected that it is the mom. Dad’s could do it too. If you wanna stay at home, power to ya. Being a feminist doesn’t mean you can’t just means you should not be forced to. Like if you made 200k and your husband made 100k it makes more sense for him to stay home
Hey I just wanted to clarify that (true) feminists are not against women following the more traditional routes of having children and being a stay at home mother. If one is a true feminist they would encourage women to do what makes them happy - whether it be being a stay at home mother, being child free and focusing 100% on a career, or somewhere in between.
Not strange at all. Check the science. The prime biological directive of any species is to reproduce and our bodies play a huge role in shaping our minds to that end. Side-stepping it isn't strange either, as a certain percentage of the population does not reproduce in order to take on other social roles. It's important, therefore to truly know that what we "wish for" is something we have consciously examined rather than unconsciously absorbed through social conditioning and biological programming.
You're a breath of fresh air! Love your videos! Your willingness to share your heart so openly is a beautiful thing! Keep hold tightly to that beauty within and ALL your passions and dreams... even if it's 9 million children! 💗😅 Unfortunately the ugly side of this world will try to take it all from you in many ways, shapes, forms! I'm looking forward to watch your tender young lives together unfold and welcome with you ALL your new family additions yet to arrive! 😄😉💗 A wise woman once told me your children are the only physical manifestation of your love for one another! 😍💗 Best wishes & many blessings for your new marriage, passions and lives together!
Great video. You have lovely rings. Glad to hear some women still want to mothers and housewives. You don't hear that much this days. Being a mother is a wonderful thing. I listen to you ghostbox for a bit. I think I heard, the words 'appel', 'Anna', 'Jingle', and 'coffee'.
My wife decided to be a stay at home Mom to our 2 boys to raise them as she saw fit. Then, when our youngest was in 6 grade, she decided to chase her dream. To follow in her father's steps and become a firefighter. It was difficult, but she made it in, passed the academy with flying colors and started out as most do, as a volunteer. Then, while deciding she wanted to pursue it full time, started putting out the resumes, and got picked up. The only unfortunate thing, is that it was a county away, meaning 1+ hour one way meaning she would be missing some time. Luckily my job allows me to be home at ~1600 so I can be here if the boys need me and it worked. Then, a bit after working for a while, she was offered a position that she was afraid she was NOT qualified for, however, the Chief of the district and the county directors brought us in and talked to both us of as to why they wanted her to apply for this new position. Luckily for all, she applied, interviewed and got the new job. She is now the Asst. Chief for her district. It is amazing where life took her and us. I could not be more proud and same with her Dad. The gist of this is, do what you want and makes you happy and brings you joy and contentment. However, don't just go with the flow, keep an eye open for opportunities, because, you never know what dreams may come...and if you are not paying attention, you might miss. Love you vids, and glad to see you soooooooo happy. I could not be more happy for you. Congrats!
Kids learn the MOST from their mothers.. if a mom is weak their kids pick tht up & if the mom is strong their kids become strong in EVERY field in future. Mothers matter THE MOST in a kid’s life..so i believe a mother should be a very strong person ( mentally, physically & financially ) with high values & thinking..
I always thought you would return to America one day like all the other English teachers. Many Western guys tend to marry a local Japanese woman and settle down. But you managed to find a rather strapping and young-looking handsome Japanese hubby! Congratulations :) hes cute.
Such a cute couple you both are. I found you recently and I find your latest blogs very calming and sweet. What a fantastic country! So different! I love Ghibli movies. It would be great if you do an episode about the cartoons/comics culture in Japan that I believe it’s very important to them. Best wishes 🤗
Love when a husband says "we share our problems" referring to the wife not being able to finish her pancakes! Lol I feel like that is a tshirt waiting to be made lol a front and back moment!!
Im so happy for you!!❤😊 I know how it feels too find the love of your life , i wish you all the best and keep up the good work ! 💪 love youre video's! 😊 greetings from Holland -xoxo-
Well this is a bit disppointing. I started watching you and there was something really special. I think all the people from around the world that like Japan, like to watch things about it, but your first videos of girl abroad brought something different. I mix of nostalgia, with loneliness, with adventure with independence of that person in a foreign land, conquering it. Now I keep watching but it changed to this couples videos and dates, with the lack of those feelings that brought me here. Housewifes, for me a male that enjoy independent women, is not my biggest interest, unfortunately, I think you had your style, a good one, for a specialized niche of people, from a person that was in an adventure to a person that wants to be a housewife? what happen?
Lavan Volkov Woah clam down! Nobodies saying she owes anybody anything we're all just strangers on TH-cam so if course she has no obligation to us. And yes you can have a job and be a stay at home mother it just that it sounded like in this video she didn't want a job at all and just wants to be a mom which is strange since her whole last video was about quitting her job to start a business. You can do both but starting a business the same time as having a baby seems unnecessary difficult.
She is in the high of being in love and newly married and thus making all these mistakes our mothers warned against - rush into marrige, quit your job, have fast babies and be a housewife.
This makes me sad. lol. I am so happy for you and it was once my dream too but I think you have to also have a bit of luck to find compatible people and apparently I lack that luck.
LOL That high five had me laughing so hard. I can relate to what you say about being a housewife. I fee torn but appreciate my mom for being a housewife for the time she could have. I admire any mother who can do that work. Me and my husband talk about how it would be like and how it would work. Hopefully someday we can have a child.
I follow you for some years now (2015 ? 2016 ?) and you look so happy now ! I wish you everything you could hope for. If you ever come to France let me know I’ll be happy to show you around (I live near Versailles and Paris)
I am a career woman who raised her children and worked as a radiation therapist. My children are grown now, and my son lives in Tokyo and has proposed to his Japanese girlfriend. At 55 I look back and wish that I had been a full time housewife. So follow your dream, it's a solid one
Personally don’t want to be a stay at home mom or a house wife but I have such respect for those who are. It is hard work and is ignored often for how much effort and energy it takes to do such a job.
@@theoutsiderspost4982 That depends on how many kids you have and how far spaced out they are in age. My kids are three years apart and I have three kids. It can be hard when they are younger and you have to watch them like a hawk. If you have back to back kids, like a year apart, it can make things even harder. Housework isn't physically hard but what makes being a housewife or househusband difficult is the isolation and the lack of sleep. I felt like I was loosing who I use to be because my whole life became the kids, the home, and my husband. So it can be mentally taxing at times. When kids get older, they were easier to manage because they can dress, feed, and bath themselves and most important, pick up after themselves. I was even able to return to work when all three were in school. So it all depends on the kids' ages and the number of kids, how difficult it can be and believe I worked jobs that were far easier then being a housewife.
My mother decided to be a stay at home mom for the first 12 years of my life. I will always be thankful for that. But the keyword here is "decided". It's not something she was pressured to do, it's not something my dad asked her to do. It was HER decision. I think it's a wonderful thing as long as you decide it's what you want in life. And I think the same for stay at home dads: if you can do it and want to do it, why not? :)
@@ChopChic1 I respect your views, of course. :) My point was mostly that if you CAN (as in have the means) and WANT to be a stay at home mom or dad, it's great. It should always be a choice, and not something that you feel pressured to do. As for stress tolerance theshold differences between men and women, I can't really give an elaborate answer on the matter; I don't really know enough about that subject. I do know men with an extremely low stress tolerance treshold and women who eat stressful situations for breakfast without batting an eyelash, though, hahaha. But when it comes to stay at home dads, I think a lot of them might be depressed because 1) it was not necessarily their first choice (they lost their job, they are sick, their spouse earns enough, so why bother, etc.) and 2) the society has very strong and negative views on the matter. When you think about it, stay at home dads are often viewed like men who didn't go to war during wartimes. Like there is something wrong with them, something broken. I find it pretty sad.
@@ChopChic1 It's my pleasure. :) I see points of views that differ from mine as opportunities to grow and learn. And I completely agree with you: people are happiest when operating in their area of strength. I'm glad you are in a season of your life where you can be a stay at home mom and enjoy it to the fullest. I know my mom is still thankful she was able to spend those precious years at home with my 2 brothers and I. I'm 30 now, and we are all still very close to this day (with my dad too, who was and is still very present in all our lives, don't worry, hehehe). We're all writing the story of our own life, in a way. But when you are a mom or a dad, you get to create whole new books from within yourself and watch the blank pages get filled with laughter and tears, pure joy and hardships... And it's something pretty amazing, if you ask me. :)
what a PROGRESSIVE choice. "Mothers ought to be keepers at home" says the good Book....Gods' reward is to have "quiver full".
Thats awsome and people are so quick to judge those who choose to be a stay at home mom.
@@ChopChic1 I get personal experiences formed your views. However I would urge you to look into the evidence on these topics before holding such views.
As a young woman who doesn't want kids (at all), and is also pretty hesitant to the idea of having a relation with anyone, I kind of live vicariously through your experiences, videos, and life. Thank you for giving me the chance to experience what other people like about being in a relationship and all the homy, domestic, beautiful moments it entails ♥
Thank you! 😊
@@KellyMorita If you're deciding to have a precious, GLORIOUS pretty pretty baby make sure feed him/her vegan products. Animal products, gluten and got milk made from pus and blood will *harm* your baby's health. But unfortunately you don't care of what I suggested you and its fine because it's expected from a know it all person like you lol. Curious abt your husband thoughts by the way of wanting a kid since you want to share y'all audience false dreams. Can't wait for the next video because this is VERY VERY interesting....just WOW! lol.
@@LoveButterfly999 what the frick are you high on!?
@@elfaro1607 what are you talking about?? Lol!
@@LoveButterfly999 Wow is right. Why are you being so rude and imposing your opinion on Kelly. Vegan diets can be harmful for babies unless they are managed very carefully with supplements. Human breast milk is not vegan, should she not breastfeed?
Awww, crying over here. It is hard work but worth all the rewards of seeing your kids doing what they truly love.
I was a cute baby lol 👶 🍼
I too want to be a housewife in japan...and im a full grown man.
M W same here. The easiest job on earth lol
Besides of the fact that this job doesn't end in the evening.
kageyamareijikun easiest job on earth ? lol, have you ever babysat 3 kids at once. They are psychotic haha.
@@kageyamareijikun I wouldn't say easiest but the most fulfilling.
@@kageyamareijikun That is a subjective standpoint. For some, it may be easy. For others, not so much. Who is to speak for everyone in an objective sense? All I know is, I have children and my wife is a stay at home mother. I see her struggles and I personally would not have the strength she has had in facing them.
This video is so wholesome yet inspiring. You’re living my dream life right now: being married and living in Japan and finding happiness (not saying you find that in a man or in anything material, but the happiness in finding that inner self you mentioned.) Watching this inspires me to believe that it can happen for me too 🙏 Thank you for sharing!
My Japanese wife quit her job immediately after our wedding. I didn’t force it and she didn’t ask my opinion. She just did it. I guess it was a different time back then when that was just the normal thing to do. Also, she hated her job and would complain about it all the time so I wasn’t too shocked. These days I think married couples continue to work out of necessity more than anything else in Japan. If you have the choice to do either, that’s a great thing. Best wishes to you both.
I did what your wife did exactly.Also, I have some health issues so I couldn't continue to work .But I got brutally shamed by my family and friends for this lol
Literally turned 30 yesterday and can’t relate at all. I love my long term relationship, but neither of us want kids. To each their own I guess. I’ve never wanted to be a mom. He’s never wanted to be a dad. I’d rather be a dog mom a million times over having a child. Idk why I’m like this, but I’ve known since I was a teen.
I hope you are able to make your dream happen though!
Chill A whatever makes you happy. My wife didn’t think she wanted kids. Now that we have one, we def want more, we are both older so we might adopt. We are both working parents, and it is not easy juggling both but so far ( 1 yr) I love being a dad. All the other things I want to do are temporary on hold say 2-3 yrs. but def not out of the picture. We take out kid hiking, traveling, and one day rock climbing. Having a kid has not prevent me from doing anything. My friend has no kids and is retired at 47. He loves it. There is no right or wrong way.
I'm the same. Never wanted kids. We can do what we want without responsibility
People have told me my whole life how selfish I am for not wanting kids. Being selfish would be bringing an unwanted kid into this work and not being able to be the best parent when I have zero desire to be
one. I know everyone’s priorities and wants/needs are different. That’s fine. Everyone makes it work in their own way. I have no motherly instinct whatsoever. I have two nephews and a niece that I love dearly, but at the end of the day I get to go home with my partner and see our dog and bird. That is what makes me happy. 🙂
I am exactly the same as you :)
@@chilla14_ I was always the same way and people kept telling me I'd change my mind as I got older. I turned 30 and still felt totally unprepared to have a kid and felt no drive to have one. But now a few years later, I've pretty much changed my mind and even though I don't have that deep desire some women do to have a baby, I am self-aware enough to know I will regret not raising a kid of my own. This is just to say that you could catch yourself by surprise is a few years. Maybe you won't and that's ok too but it's ok if you do, too
To each their own.
My mom ended up as a stay at home mom when I was 5 due to health issues. She enjoyed being a stay at home mom despite her limitations and it’s a tough job.
However, I was always brought up with the idea that women need to be self sufficient. To me having a career of my own relieves pressure off my partner. In that sense I can help relieve stress and take care of him. It also brings in more money for my family so that we can afford things like trips to visit family, and education. I also want my daughter to grow up knowing she too can follow her passions and raise a family of her own (if she wishes).
That being said, there is more than one way to take care of a family.
I like how obviously new you to are at being a couple. Your nervous, uncertain laughter and baby voiced "Happy Valentine's Day!" Ahhhh....there's nothing like budding love! Enjoy it while you're still in it's clutches.
You shouldnt be messing with the occult, its dangerous.
You're so right. Being a stay at home mother is a job. The most important job in the world to your children. I was a stay at home mom to our 3 children. (Our youngest is a Senior). I'm now a stay at home caregiver to my husband who's battling Stage IV cancer. Someone has to provide care. Who better than the ones that love them most. Xoxo 💕
For The Love of Mike I know that caregiving, while fulfilling and done out of love, is exhausting and very stressful. Please take care of yourself, too. Best wishes to you and your husband.
@@tlb4210 Thank you so much for taking the time to write and for your kindness Tracey 💕
I want to sweep leaves at a Japanese temple.
Haha what a peaceful wish!
I want to do that too!
sign me up too!
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Been watching your vids for months now. Always great content. I will be moving to japan in 2021, cant wait to return. You and some others have motivated me to get over my fear of cameras and to put out new vids! KEEP IT UP
Good for you! I love hearing other women say they want to be a stay at home mom and wife. It's very counter culture and we are often attacked or judged for the decision to stay home (which doesn't make sense to me.. don't we all have the right to decide what we want to do in life?) I felt embarrassed to say that was my dream for a while, but not anymore. It's much, much harder than I expected, though I wouldn't trade it! I married at 30, also, had my first at 31 and now at 37 pregant with my 4th. My first 3 were born in Taiwan! Your dream for a baby reminds me so much of myself after I got married. All the best to you both!
Ive been a stay at home wife for six years and when people ask what i do and i tell them i get the meanest looks. Even from my own family.. It really sucks that no matter what choice a women makes no one accepts it even other women dont support
The Ristinos Life in Suriname It depends where you live. Often there is judgement either way, if you stay at home people suggest that it is not a job and if you go to work people judge you for not loving your children enough to stay at home. You honestly cannot win. There is serious judgement either way. What is important is that you do what works for you and your family. Sadly some people don’t have a choice in either circumstance, not all countries are as open minded as Sweden.
The Ristinos Life in Suriname I am going through something similar.I completed my masters and don't have any specific career goals.Also,I got married and I am enjoying my "unemployment"as bizarre as it sounds due to serious health issues.But I envision myself to be a stay at home wife and take care of kids when they arrive.However, apparently I get attacked for this from my family and friends .I only work to get by.
A new subscriber saying hi from Taiwan!
I can’t stop watching your old videos and am so excited for this new one.
“We share problems” and high five, how cute and sweet!
Kelly: I want to be a housewife in Japan
Me: I want to be a manga cafe owner in Japan
Lol
WHY DO I SEE YOU EVERYWHERE
I, too, see you everywhere mate
I loved staying home with my kids. The rewards of seeing them grow and spending time with them far outweighed the work. I always had something on the side for me tho which I think is important - a small business etc. I love seeing how happy you are, Kelly. Your husband is so... Decent. Kind. Funny. Look forward to your videos!
I love when your Ryuji said "we share problems" when eating the rest of your pancakes ☺️
He is such a wonderful Husband!!! I am so happy for you guys. He is always so considerate!
I have had many jobs before, and I can say truthfully that being a stay at home Mom IS the hardest job. I have four kids, a big house, husband and giant dog to take care of. Two of my kids have different needs. The pressures of society to be “perfect” are a lot, if you work a full time job people think you should be home with your kids, if you’re home with your kids people wonder how the hell you don’t work. Someone with that attitude is welcome to follow me around for a day and I guarantee you’d be dizzy and tired 😂 On top of it I have Hashimoto’s and still struggle with fatigue. Do what YOU want to do and do what makes you happy. There never is a perfect time to do anything. Just do it.
Kïrsten I don't have kids yet.But I have severe arthritis and I just quit my job recently as I was getting more sick and at 27 I decided to fuck it.But yeah I got a lot of shade for this lol.Now everyone pressuring me to find work again and tbh I can only do desk jobs so it's not that simple.
I'm a stay at home mom with a 2 year old and another on the way, currently 6 months along :) It definitely has its ups and downs and it isn't easy, but it's the most rewarding. I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
It makes me so happy to see you so excited to continue forward in your dreams and life! I remember watching your "alone on Christmas" videos, all but straining to try and send comforting vibes. It's so nice to see you becoming whole. ♡
The spirit box and the reflection gave me chills! I enjoy your all your videos. I find the ghost videos especially interesting! Keep being you and following your dreams! You are an inspiration!
I can understand why she wants to be a stay at home mother (in Japan). Can’t help but wonder if she would feel the same way if she was living in a different country... Working in Japan especially for foreigners isn’t the best...
I’m not putting Kelly down in any way, but perhaps a big reason why she wants to become a stay at home mother is not wanting to be a language teacher in Japan forever.
Anyway, all the best :)
I’m a pharmacist and I’ve been living in Japan for a couple of years. Even for me, I don’t think I’ll be fully satisfied with the work I can do here compared to being back home. I’m in a relationship with a Japanese man myself and even I contemplate being a stay at home mother in Japan. I NEVER would have considered this being back home. You have to be really sure about your decision. I guess it’s easier for some people as they may not have as much to lose). I hope I don’t come across as arrogant.
Can any other Western women relate?
So I am a stay at home wife at the moment here because I had to quit my job and move to where my husband lives. I’ve been talking to my husband about finding a part time job, because teaching full time was just hell for me. I had nights where I barely slept because of the stress. BUT part time might be okay or maybe the last company was too much pressure. But my Japanese husband keeps pushing me just to do my own thing since I have hobbies and we did just get a dog. He hasn’t said it but I think it’s because he knows how much I was not happy teaching. I would never have considered it in the US until we had kids...but I don’t think my husband would be happy if I am doing something that just makes me stressed and unhappy all the time. Plus it helps that we can travel whenever we want if I don’t have one.
BUT it can be so boring. Usually I’m consistently doing things but I’d feel so much more fulfilled if I had some kind of gig. Especially when you are hanging with friends and they all have work or whatnot to talk about and you
Are like...MY LAST JOB..it’s easier to click with people doing similar things as you..you know..
It is what it is but it’s hard to work in japan. You can teach which sucks or you can learn Japanese fluently and work for a Japanese company which is even worse as I’ve heard. I feel like there is no winning. My husband is Japanese and won’t even work for a Japanese company haha so he would never want me to.
Love your vids. One of few channels I watch when I researched for my now third trip to japan. I admire your journey from choosing a profession, sticking with it, realizing it wasnt for you and then having the courage to leap into something else. You are an inspiration to everyone in the world. Ive shared your videos on my FB and I will keep on doing it. Lovely regards from Sweden!
Such a great video. Before meeting my husband I had never even thought of being married or having kids. I was focus on my career. Now I’m a stay home Mama of three beautiful children and wife to my wonderful Husband living life here in Japan, and I love every minute of it 😊
G Nishino is the any age to be a stay at home mom? I face so much discrimination for not working and honestly I have serious health issues so work isn difficult to come by.
moody star I don’t think there is or should be any age where a woman can’t choose to be a Stay home mama. Like the choice to work, it’s completely ours. I also suffer from health issues and have two sons with Autism, so worry is also difficult now for me though if financial we need me too work I will in the future.
Such a good husband taking a bullet for his wife, and finishing those pancakes 😂
You guys... This video was adorable.
I'm 23, still in law school, a bit lost.... , and honestly what you said about plans changing really resonated with me... Life's tough... And change can be good, and plans changing is often for the better, it's good to shed a new light on things.
You've given me some stuff to think about 😊
And production wise, I loved the filming and the shots and the sceneray it was so beautiful and very calming.
I loved the lay out, presentation, and open honesty in this video. Keep it up!
Every episode is turning cuter and cuter I love your channel so much I can't stop smiling T^T
Kelly, it is truly a blessing for me to see the love you and your husband have for one another. This is my favorite video so far because it holds your dreams for the future. You love Ryuji totally for himself. It’s so lovely. ❤️❤️ ... That was definitely a ghost conductor!!!
"We share problems" what a great concept! Thanks Ryuji!
You two are such a beautiful couple together. You can see how much you love each other. Happy Valentines Day❤️
Your videos inspire me to not worry about my future and how I have absolutely no idea what I want to do. I don't want to just settle for something and later realize it wasn't the right thing for me. It may take a long while but I'll find it someday. Thank you so, so much, Kelly :)
This video touched my soul so much. It is beautiful when you can make those decisions with someone who really cares about you, and themselves. I wish we all could make those choices. It is truly important to have supportive people in your life. ❤ May we all find that.
I disagree that the only way to inspire your kids is to be a stay at home mom. I have friends who are stay at home moms and do an excellent job, and I know others who are raising brats. It depends on the mother, not on what the mother does or doesn't do for a living.
I don’t remember saying that staying at home is the only way to inspire kids 🤔
@@KellyMorita you said 'I want to become a stay at home mother because I want to inspire my kids'. It's early on in the video. It's ok if you believe that. I am just saying I disagree. That's all. 😉
@@IRunThings That still doesn't mean she thinks it's the only way. You came up with that interpretation all by yourself.
@@pheenobarbidoll2016 it's not an interpretation. It's a thing called logic. If A then B. If I become a stay at home mom (A) then I will inspire my kids (B) that is what she said.
To make an analogy. If I said 'I want to follow a keto diet because I want to lose weight'. I am saying that if I follow a keto diet I am going to lose weight. I am not saying at all that also doing caloric restriction, or being vegan, or being paleo will also help me lose weight. I am saying keto and nothing else. Which is fine.
@@IRunThings It's still not saying " nothing else will help me lose weight". It's simply stating the diet you're choosing in order to lose weight. You're adding subtext when there is none.
Your videos constantly give me hope that I can achieve my dream of moving to Japan. I look back to your "Goodbye Lovelyzkelly" and I relate to it so much, and it's awesome to see how life has unfolded for you. Your content is an honest reminder that we are never truly alone in this world and there is adventure waiting for us all, along with a one of a kind story that only you to tell as long as you're open and willing to try. With those lessons learned I'm finally going to Japan this summer for my 30th birthday on a 10 day solo trip that starts in Osaka and ends in Tokyo. I want to take the 10 days to reflect, soak up the culture (and all the food), and evaluate if I would be truly happy living in Japan. Based on how I feel at the end of the trip I'll start getting my things in order and begin the process of looking for a job in Japan. My skills are easily transferable in my field (I work in TV and music) I just need to focus on learning the language. Thank you for all the inspiration you've given. Keep being awesome!
I was a completely career driven busy woman for all my early adult years . I got married and we knew right away what we wanted to do . I am now a stay at home mom to two kids and a homeschooler at that ! Not what I thought I’d be doing at all but I find it so rewarding and I wouldn’t change a thing
I love how you said going out and meeting new people will give you more experience. I felt like this relate to me as I'm always just sticking to a routine of going to a place and home. I follow this channel as I can relate to you and learn so many mess things
Ah! The dream! ❤ I have always wanted, before all other dreams, to be a housewife and stay at home mum. I also want to be a writer and sell/teach handmade traditional Japanese crafts that I've learned how to others.
Good fortune cats! I think I heard or read somewhere that the left hand can also mean fertility - literally bringing in people 😂
Totally excited for future housewife vlogs! ❤❤❤
OMG! I got a chill with the photo you took on the train! my boyfriend thinks it's just a reflection but I see a person too! 😨😨
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I want to be and currently am a housewife, love it but going to do a part-time teaching for a little while because I didn't have the working experience here yet and want to save some money so I can go out and do things I couldn't do my first times in Japan at my money was so tight.
I wish you luck in becoming a housewife, and a mommy. I find the West is really anti-housewife or SAHM when it is the biggest and most important job you can have. They would call you a free loader.
I love how you can be a housewife here a it's normal. And it should be. It's the most important job and most fulfilling. Caring for those you love over a soulless company that takes and has no love for you.
Very well said. I totally agree!
What was the first couple seconds of the vlog
I love the way you take us on a tour of the lovely places you visit, it’s so enjoyable for anyone who has never been to Japan and they all look so beautiful, I’m so happy you have a lovely man in your life to share all your experiences with 😊
I love your videos. it is very interesting for me. housewife is sometimes hard because everyday is working in the house. no holiday.
but probably you can enjoy ! good luck! from Japan ^^
As you said dreams change - I thought you wanted to be a singer? Have you given up on that dream? You can do that and raise a family too.
Your guys are such a sweet couple. I also knew right away that I was going to marry my husband. We just celebrated 25 years, we also were long distance. I lived in Philadelphia and he lived Boston. I moved to Boston almost 30 years now. My daughter is a teacher too! My son is a junior in college. I loved being a stay at home mom! It was the rewarding thing I have done to date. Much love from USA❤️
Watching you grow as a person and then seeing you and your lovely husband grow together makes your channel one of the sweetest and most enjoyable on TH-cam. I started following you on Insta as well. Happy almost spring Mr and Mrs Morita💜
When I was little, I wanted to be Sailor Moon. Then a meteorologist. Then a veterinarian. Now, I'm an ESL/EFL teacher overseas, living the dream my college self had, while nurturing and working towards my dream of one day settling down in a good job with a person I love. Dreams change, and if it's what YOU want, there's nothing wrong with them
Well kids are expensive so trying to do it on one income is admirable. I'm sure people will slam me and say you will earn money from TH-cam but I'm doubting you'll have the time or the energy.
Lucy Clark many moms have TH-cam channels.
The happiness just radiates from your recent videos. Thank you for sharing your joy!
soo happy for both of you..
Follow your heart... It cannot be wrong ..I moved to Japan with my husband and worked for two years and i have a 5 months old and all i want to be is a good house wife..i never regret the decision I made to give up all that hard work anf years of work.. Im at a very happy place of my life rightnow..im becoming so good at house keeping and im so proud of myself
Your video-shoot and editing are so amazing, with the background music that almost seems like a mini 🍿.
I resonate with Ryuji's broken English! My Japanese boyfriend is exactly the same! Haha it's so cute!!!
Thank you so much for sharing this opinion!
You have such wise words beyond your years. I wish you and your husband and your future children all the best in the world! I'm so glad I found your channel! 💜
everything in this video is overflowing with happiness and love!!!
Hello
I just found your channel in the recommended videos whirl I was watching a Japanese lesson. Love this ❤️
I'm also living in Japan, since almost 4 years ago.
I love your soul Kelly! I always look forward to your videos!! 😍💗💗💗
I am a homeschooling stay at home mom to four kids...we definitely make sacrifices to make it work but I do think it is important that we are teaching are kids to value family and our relationships over money and stuff!
Wow, how you are with people in general and how you are with your husband, you are going to be an AMAZING role model for your children X I will wish and wish for your hopes and happiness. You deserve a beautiful life at home ❤️
I decided to be a stay at home mom when my daughter was born. Yes, it can be a struggle with only one income but it was the best decision ever.
BTW I love your earring collection!
It's just strange to see Kelly Morita notifications instead of lovelyzkelly, love it though❤
I’m so glad I can introduce my channel as this name!
Happy to know that😅
Ryuji has such a sweet and kind smile! It's kind of infectious. You got yourself a good one mam!
I really love your videos recently, plus it's nice too see you so happy
I know what you mean about things changing. I find myself going through quite the change as well. As long as it's what fulfills you, and makes you happy, that's all that should matter. Life is short! No use wasting time on things that don't make you feel like life is worth living. ❤️❤️❤️
Loved this video ❤️ find yourself videos so relaxing and seeing a happy couple is just cute haha going to Tokyo for the first time in March and I cannot wait!!
I get really sad and depressed and kinda hopeless while watching videos related to Japan. And yet I watch them. Idk why. Like right now I feel extremely sad and sick idk why
Your husband comes across as super personable and nice. A lot like my husband! Tomorrow we will be married for four years. Enjoy newlywed life!
Just recently I have come to the same conclusion as you. I think I alwys wanted to be a housewife and mother, but never dared admit it, because in today's feminism and culture, it was expected of me to want to have a successfull career. I can't freely admit this yet, but I am now starting to search for ways, to prepare myself for the future I want.
Good luck to you who as well! It's inspiring to see you develop over the years!
steffi2922 I asked my friend about this and her reply was “ there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home parent” but it should not be expected that it is the mom. Dad’s could do it too. If you wanna stay at home, power to ya. Being a feminist doesn’t mean you can’t just means you should not be forced to. Like if you made 200k and your husband made 100k it makes more sense for him to stay home
Hey I just wanted to clarify that (true) feminists are not against women following the more traditional routes of having children and being a stay at home mother. If one is a true feminist they would encourage women to do what makes them happy - whether it be being a stay at home mother, being child free and focusing 100% on a career, or somewhere in between.
Strange how your dreams changed suddenly when you married. Many more changes soon to come I’m sure. 👶🏻
Not strange at all. Check the science. The prime biological directive of any species is to reproduce and our bodies play a huge role in shaping our minds to that end. Side-stepping it isn't strange either, as a certain percentage of the population does not reproduce in order to take on other social roles. It's important, therefore to truly know that what we "wish for" is something we have consciously examined rather than unconsciously absorbed through social conditioning and biological programming.
You're a breath of fresh air! Love your videos! Your willingness to share your heart so openly is a beautiful thing! Keep hold tightly to that beauty within and ALL your passions and dreams... even if it's 9 million children! 💗😅
Unfortunately the ugly side of this world will try to take it all from you in many ways, shapes, forms!
I'm looking forward to watch your tender young lives together unfold and welcome with you ALL your new family additions yet to arrive! 😄😉💗
A wise woman once told me your children are the only physical manifestation of your love for one another! 😍💗
Best wishes & many blessings for your new marriage, passions and lives together!
Being a stay at home mom is the best decision I ever made!
i really love your personality!
congrats on your rings!❣️
I REALLY didn't appreciate the creepy music when you pointed out the conductor! GAVE ME GOOSEBUMPS! LOL! xD
Great video. You have lovely rings. Glad to hear some women still want to mothers and housewives. You don't hear that much this days. Being a mother is a wonderful thing. I listen to you ghostbox for a bit. I think I heard, the words 'appel', 'Anna', 'Jingle', and 'coffee'.
My wife decided to be a stay at home Mom to our 2 boys to raise them as she saw fit. Then, when our youngest was in 6 grade, she decided to chase her dream. To follow in her father's steps and become a firefighter. It was difficult, but she made it in, passed the academy with flying colors and started out as most do, as a volunteer. Then, while deciding she wanted to pursue it full time, started putting out the resumes, and got picked up. The only unfortunate thing, is that it was a county away, meaning 1+ hour one way meaning she would be missing some time. Luckily my job allows me to be home at ~1600 so I can be here if the boys need me and it worked. Then, a bit after working for a while, she was offered a position that she was afraid she was NOT qualified for, however, the Chief of the district and the county directors brought us in and talked to both us of as to why they wanted her to apply for this new position. Luckily for all, she applied, interviewed and got the new job. She is now the Asst. Chief for her district. It is amazing where life took her and us. I could not be more proud and same with her Dad.
The gist of this is, do what you want and makes you happy and brings you joy and contentment. However, don't just go with the flow, keep an eye open for opportunities, because, you never know what dreams may come...and if you are not paying attention, you might miss.
Love you vids, and glad to see you soooooooo happy. I could not be more happy for you. Congrats!
Kids learn the MOST from their mothers.. if a mom is weak their kids pick tht up & if the mom is strong their kids become strong in EVERY field in future. Mothers matter THE MOST in a kid’s life..so i believe a mother should be a very strong person ( mentally, physically & financially ) with high values & thinking..
I always thought you would return to America one day like all the other English teachers. Many Western guys tend to marry a local Japanese woman and settle down. But you managed to find a rather strapping and young-looking handsome Japanese hubby! Congratulations :) hes cute.
I love your Dream bc it's my dream as well to be a stay at home mommy.....
You will be a wonderful mommy with cute ones running around... So gentle and sweet as you are.
Kelly, I really adore your personality. Watching your videos makes my day 10 times better! I want to say thank you!!
Literally wearing a gold sweater 😂 while watching this.. it looks just like yours! We have good taste!💖
Such a cute couple you both are. I found you recently and I find your latest blogs very calming and sweet. What a fantastic country! So different! I love Ghibli movies. It would be great if you do an episode about the cartoons/comics culture in Japan that I believe it’s very important to them.
Best wishes 🤗
Love when a husband says "we share our problems" referring to the wife not being able to finish her pancakes! Lol I feel like that is a tshirt waiting to be made lol a front and back moment!!
“We share problems” 😂 love that
Im so happy for you!!❤😊 I know how it feels too find the love of your life , i wish you all the best and keep up the good work ! 💪 love youre video's! 😊 greetings from Holland -xoxo-
You are such an inspiration to me! I want to be a housewife to a lovely Japanese man.
Well this is a bit disppointing. I started watching you and there was something really special. I think all the people from around the world that like Japan, like to watch things about it, but your first videos of girl abroad brought something different. I mix of nostalgia, with loneliness, with adventure with independence of that person in a foreign land, conquering it. Now I keep watching but it changed to this couples videos and dates, with the lack of those feelings that brought me here. Housewifes, for me a male that enjoy independent women, is not my biggest interest, unfortunately, I think you had your style, a good one, for a specialized niche of people, from a person that was in an adventure to a person that wants to be a housewife? what happen?
Daniel Johnson Didn't in her last video she said she wanted to start a business...... what happened?
Lavan Volkov Woah clam down! Nobodies saying she owes anybody anything we're all just strangers on TH-cam so if course she has no obligation to us. And yes you can have a job and be a stay at home mother it just that it sounded like in this video she didn't want a job at all and just wants to be a mom which is strange since her whole last video was about quitting her job to start a business. You can do both but starting a business the same time as having a baby seems unnecessary difficult.
She is in the high of being in love and newly married and thus making all these mistakes our mothers warned against - rush into marrige, quit your job, have fast babies and be a housewife.
@@Jesusdonttakeitpersonally This is the most intelligent comment on this entire thread
Kadri those aren’t mistakes...
You guys are so cute. You make me want to get married hahahahha
This makes me sad. lol. I am so happy for you and it was once my dream too but I think you have to also have a bit of luck to find compatible people and apparently I lack that luck.
LOL That high five had me laughing so hard.
I can relate to what you say about being a housewife. I fee torn but appreciate my mom for being a housewife for the time she could have. I admire any mother who can do that work. Me and my husband talk about how it would be like and how it would work. Hopefully someday we can have a child.
Watching the vlogs you both do make me smile!! 😊
I follow you for some years now (2015 ? 2016 ?) and you look so happy now ! I wish you everything you could hope for. If you ever come to France let me know I’ll be happy to show you around (I live near Versailles and Paris)
I'm so happy you've found someone so wonderful Kelly you guys are adorable!
I think that you bring out the best in each other. I just Love your "Coupledom".
I am a career woman who raised her children and worked as a radiation therapist. My children are grown now, and my son lives in Tokyo and has proposed to his Japanese girlfriend. At 55 I look back and wish that I had been a full time housewife. So follow your dream, it's a solid one
Staying home with my children was the best time of my life. Best of luck with your future.
Dam I love you guys. Really have something special there. I know life is rough for me rn, and really seeing this sparks a little joy .
Omg! A few years ago I went to a train museum in Pennsylvania and I got a pic of a face of a ghost in a window too!