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Thank you so much for the support you always give to me - love you all so much ❤
I love when Alex said that he no longer looks back, because it’s all about moving forward. I am so very happy for you both.
I absolutely relate to everything you have said in this video I had ADHD as a kid and was on Ritalin for eight years two and a half tablets a day I was bullied and bashed as a young girl growing up it was awful I still have very low self esteem Im on antidepressants and I take serapax I used to be on Xanax everything you are saying in this video I just keep nodding my head because it's so relatable for me ❤️ Holly in Melbourne Australia
Watching Victoria looking at Alex talking, tugged on my heart. Through it all you both are still together and managed to accomplish much more than some couples who have nowhere near these issues. Alex finding a route to a happier and healthier wellbeing, with new therapist and medication, looks like the beginning of a journey with a positive outlook to the future. You’re both such lovely souls, I only wish you both love, happiness, health and many great moments always! ❤❤
Thank you so so much Angela, means so much to read this xxxxx
You saw that too....they way in which she looked at him with so much compassion.....her silence spoke volumes!!
So many older people are finally getting a adhd diagnosis, and it’s great to see their emotions being validated ❤
Nothing more attractive than people who are willing to put in the work and who are self aware. Keep being true to you and loving each other. xx
I could feel the build up of emotion, Victoria and I burst into tears when you teared up. This was very courageous of you 2 to come forward with this insight into your private life. The example you are showing to others about what it takes to make a relationship satisfying is priceless. Thank you for doing this. You have my utmost respect.
So so kind, thankyou for being so lovely xx
This is so important and so often overlooked. I have a brother who was not diagnosed until his late 30s----after lack of success in school, difficult friendships and relationships, dissatisfaction at work and in his career, a childhood of misunderstanding and bullying. Once he was diagnosed and started on medication, he said 'the noise in my head disappeared and I felt focused and calm'. When he told me that I burst into tears at the thought of all the time wasted, and the torture of his longing to 'belong'. His life changed for the better--at last. Thank you for your honesty.
Alex I hope you read this comment.
Thank you for sharing your struggles with such honesty. My son was diagnosed with ADHD at 17, he’s now 21. He struggled in school for years which destroyed his self esteem. He saw a neurologist who immediately diagnosed him and he also began seeing a therapist. It hasn’t been an easy road but he’s figuring things out. We watched your video together. He was moved by your willingness to share your story. Victoria I understand how hard it’s been , I’ve experienced all you mentioned. With your love and support , you will get through this together.
Take care❤
Thanks for being so vulnerable guys!❤ love that you so supportive to each other.
It was so beautiful to hear Alex thank you for all your support thru his journey. True love
Exactly. There aren't many men & women nowadays who realise the spiritual & psychological damage that's done to men when 'the woman/wife is the Boss'. It totally goes against nature. Thankfully Victoria can now focus on her husband & not just on herself.
Well done Alex for making this soo big she had no choice but to change her perspective. And kudos to Victoria for understanding.
Beautiful honest conversation. Thank you for your willingness to talk about with us. My husband struggles with his mental health, so much of this resonates❤️
You two are so lovely to share such personal struggles. I'm sure being open and honest will help many. I've so enjoyed both of you for a long time. Makes me feel even closer. All the way from the Oregon coast with love.💘💘💘
Thank you so so much, sending so much love xx
Thank you so much Alex for talking about it so openly and publicly. My husband suffers from reocurring episodes of depression and has an unhealthy relationship with work and constantly has to overachieve in order to feel somewhat "safe". We are unfortunately in the "therapie is not working for me" phase so of course it takes a huge toll on our relationship and I am sometimes lost about what I can do to help but not losing myself at the same time. My hope is that my husband will eventually give thearpy a second chance and will be able to talk about it more freely one day, just like you. Thank you for reducing the stigma around mental health problems that is still so prevalent especially for men since they have to "be strong" all the time and are not used to be vulnerable and "weak".
I think it so beautiful how God can put two people who have different strengths and weakness together to help each other out. it’s evident of how much you love each other and how you help each other and that is beautiful and admirable! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing!
Thank you guys for being so open and honest. I went 40 years not being diagnosed and now that I am on the right medications. It feels like I have a new life.
Alex's description of his behavior sounds very familiar. I'm glad that you are putting a priority on meshing your personalities and drawing on each other's strength.❤
As a sufferer of depression im so happy for you both that, Alex, you finally got a diagnosis and the help you needed, im pretty sure this conversation will indeed help many thank you for sharing your pain
This can't have been easy to go through- you two are a shining beacon of love and support and an example of what a kind partner is truly like. Mental illness can be extremely crippling and hijacks all passion and love out of life. Here's to Alex's full recovery and his continuous strength to keep walking towards the light.
Thank you so so much Lana xx
I'm so happy for you both!
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in my early 30s and so many things changed for me when I understood more about myself and that I wasn't broken.
Wishing you the very best of luck ❤
Alex, you should be very proud of yourself for being real and not being afraid to speak of your journey. You two are very lucky to have the support of each other. I'm sure you have both gone through ups and downs over the years, but the fact that you are together and strong means a lot. Never lose that, since it is really precious.
Alex, you are so brave disclosing your struggles openly, you both are. This will hopefully help so many people. This Vlog was truly lovely and so human. Sending lots of love to you both 💖.
Hi both- I’m 45 and have struggled with mental health for over 20 years. Been misdiagnosed with everything from bipolar to recurrent depressive disorder, and even been hospitalised when things got really dark. I was finally diagnosed with adhd (combined), last year and for the first time in my life, things make sense! It’s like seeing through new eyes! So many things you never even thought about, you learn are part and parcel! Just on the treatment journey now, 🤞🏽 so far so good! I hope you find your peace of mind, Alex! You’ve made it this far, which is tough as hell! Keep going buddy!!!! ❤
So refreshing to hear what you had to say, no frills just honesty. You both said your vows and you guys meant it, you can see the love and respect you have for each other.
Thank you for this! My partner also has ADHD, and we were lucky to have been able to build our relationship knowing from the beginning. But it must be a relief to start this journey for you guys! I think one thing we have learned is that he needs to accommodate my neurotypical brain almost as much as I accommodate his neurodivergent brain. We both work with empathy to help each other. I think sometimes people think “well my partner has adhd so I need to compromise more than they do” when really it’s a two way street to have a healthy and empathetic relationship. I can see that you guys have come to that same conclusion, and with the help of modern medicine it’s only up from here!
Thank you both for sharing, and especially Alex for opening up. I love seeing couples making it through mental health struggles, it's so heartwarming ❤
I'm so proud of Alex for sharing his diagnosis. Mental health is never an easy topic to discuss but I'm positive he's already helped many people. Last October I was diagnosed with AuDHD (Autism & ADHD) at the age of 34 and it felt like a weight had been lifted. It felt amazing to finally feel like someone understood me and I'm so happy Alex gets his turn to be validated by professionals and gets to start his healing process. I'm also so happy for you, Victoria because as the people who are struggling, we often don't see how it affects the people who love us the most. Your love and commitment to helping your husband is so beautiful. A lot of people can learn a thing or two from you about true love, patience, and understanding. I'm very happy for you both! On to better times 💕
So happy Alex is doing so well. You are a strong couple x
I'm 63 and have had mental health problems since I was about 12
Like you said I've tried everything but nothing works
No one really understands I feel so alone with it x
Still trying xxxxx
Love that you're still trying - sending you the best vibes for a successful 2024! xx
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You're not alone. Hang in there. I struggle so badly too.. we got this❤
Jesus, try calling on Jesus
He never answers the phone @@wonderingchild1
Thank you both so much for sharing this! My husband has recently realized he's probably ADD or ADHD (at 30 years old) and listening to Alex talk about his experience and the challenges he's faced it all sounded incredibly similar. I think it's so hard when you grow up like that and you think that's all normal and you're just stuck with it. I'm so happy for you both that Alex has found something that works for him to overcome those challenges. Hearing the huge improvement Alex saw has also encouraged my husband to explore his options. So much love to you both and a big, heartfelt thank you for sharing!
Wow this video just blew my mind, I am in the darkness and trying so hard to move forward. I have my first NHS therapy this month but lacking my hope of change as a woman in my late 40’s the school issues struck a cord with me and the way I was dealt with at school and how my life is on a path I didn’t want or enjoy. I never even considered adhd. I have been reading everything I can since watching about 7 hours ago and my mind is blown. I am crying as I cannot believe the information I have read or the processes that are just there but I didn’t know. I can’t go private but will read more and find out what I can do next. Thank you, you just created a pathway I couldn’t find x
So relatable and great that Alex can be so reflective and honest 🙌🏻 no doubt this will help lots of people and their relationships ❤
Thank you both for sharing. My husband deals with ADHD and I deal with OCD and both of us deal with depression and insecurity. Mental health is so important to talk about and for people to have safe spaces and mutual respect from either partners or somebody close to us and trustworthy. Love and blessings!
This video speaks to my soul. At 28 I was diagnosed with ADHD after a history of anxiety and depression. Tried antidepressants for 8 years, had horrible experiences going on and off them and never finding the right one. It clicked for me I had adhd after seeing someone on ig talk about how it shows up differently for women and I knew I had to get an assessment done. Sure enough I was right and diagnosed a month later. Stimulant medication and my adhd diagnosis is what changed my life in the best possible way. I’m really happy for you both and Alex I wish I could give you a hug because I can relate so much. My diagnosis actually helped me realize my husband has it too and he was diagnosed a few months later! It’s changed both our lives ❤ So grateful
Omg I am crying
So happy Alex is in a better place and that he has your support. ❤
You guys are amazing for sharing this incredibly personal journey. Much love to you both.
I'm so proud of both of you for being open and honest about this. More people than you ever know are struggling with mental health and suffer quietly, one of my 34 year old son. I wish and pray that he would seek help like you did. I'm so very proud of you. Keep pushing forward Alex, you're on the right path, and you will be just fine, especially with Victoria by your side. You are very much a valuable human being. You are NOT less than anyone else. Please allow me to say, I love you both and I wish you a lifetime of health and happiness.
Hey guys,
I was diagnosed at 35 (now 36)
Now you know about it you will see it everywhere. I see it in so many content creators.
So many myths around adhd need to be corrected. You don't grow out of it. Girls and women have it. You're not dumb if you have it, quite the contrary you're likely more intelligent and creative.
My psychologist totally missed it. When I raised it with her that I thought I had it (at 35) she screened me and then just apologised. and keeps apologising that she missed it and kept treating the symptoms and not the cause.
Diagnosis is life changing!!!!
Good on you for exploring it Alex and for supporting him Victoria. People can be so dismissive, especially at the moment "everyone is a little adhd"😡.
Love you guys xx
My son has ADHD, he is the most wonderful little boy that is celebrated for who he uniquely is. I’m so glad he’s growing up in a generation that understands this condition. I was that kid, I’m 36 and still undiagnosed due to the NHS having such long waiting times, I’m just being treated for depression and anxiety. Thank you for speaking up, it’s so easy to look at peoples lives online and feel like you are on your own in not managing life the way others do. I follow both you and your husband, I love seeing the creativity from Alex, his photos are stunning. I hope this brings life some stability and understanding x
Thanks for sharing this! It is super important! ADHD often gets misdiagnosed as depression, even more for women than for men. And that experience with the anti depressants sounds so damn familiar, I'm sorry Alex had to go through that. I myself was diagnosed at 28, after realizing I might have it. I hope Alex can find the silver lining in his Adhd further down the line! Also it is well known that neurodivergents attract each other in relationships and friendships, not to forget that if your sibling or one parent has it there's a 50% chance you got it too. Big hugs for you guys !
Any mental heath issue - can ruin your life - it’s so wonderful to see you both working together to find what is right for Alex. Coping with work if you struggle to focus is the hardest. I struggle with my emotion’s - I always have - and I’m 66 soon. Always needed validation of others - it’s often as though I’m almost afraid of being happy - because there always seems something to bring me down. You both love each other very much and it’s wonderful to see you working together on this issue ❤
I could see the lightness in you both as you shared how far you’ve come. 🙏
A huge thanks to Alex for sharing his journey! It can’t be easy but it WILL help people!
Thank you for being so open and honest. Content can get so mundane without transparency❤ takes bravery to open up however hopefully it is cathartic in the same respect.
To your last point on getting rid of those people in your life that aren’t supportive at your worst, I totally agree. It can be very hard to see that happen before your eyes, the lack of compassion and support from those you once trusted or gave so much of your energy to and then to let them go. But it is 100 necessary to cut them out or know how to use your energy with them. It can be a whole other aspect of loss, anxiety, grief etc but it’s part of the growth process.
You are the company you keep after all. Damn why do cliche lessons take learning the hard way to fully grasp 😂
Bravo on your progress and revelations. You two are a great team. Being married is super tough and raw. You choose who you want to go thru the hard stuff with not just the rainbows.
Such a powerful example of a couple’s stick-to-it-ness when things get tough being there & encouraging for one another. May God continue to bless your road ahead & the message you’re giving to help others.
Oh my, now i have to cry ... You two remind me a lot of my husband and I. I wish you only the best for the future. Thank you so much for sharing ♥
I retire from 39 years as a nurse in August and wondered what to treat myself to……. Intro sold me on the Dyson hair dryer. Thanks Victoria Xxx
Ahhh a huge congratulations on your retirement - I hope you enjoy every second of it and thank you for 39 years in such an incredible profession xx
Love you both! Vic, your content has always been a ray of light, and I so appreciate you both sharing with honesty and compassion for each other. Love and respect from NY!
Thank you so so much lovely xx
The one thing I picked up on almost straight away during your conversation about ADHD was the fact that the both of you spoke about it TOGETHER. Without even probably realizing it, you both spoke so respectfully about each other’s journeys and experiences, all the while staying incredibly in-tune and supportive of one another. That’s love. That’s true love.
So happy for you. I’m 66 years old and didn’t find out I had ADD until I was 47 when my daughter was diagnosed. The executive function part of it is paralyzing. Still learning, still becoming more and more aware. You can’t give up…you’re absolutely right.
Alex, I am so happy for you. Finally, someone helped you to see and help you a diagnosis. I was diagnosed with “adult onset ADHD” when I was 30! It was so obvious but the last thing I would’ve thought too. I had no “hyperactivity”. The ups and downs are not fun. The dread of knowing that you’re going to crash it’s depressing. You’re waiting for it. I totally agree that it’s a lack of education on exactly what it is and that it’s not linear. More people need to understand that you can have more than one emotion at once. Once I got into into a doctor that specialized in it and I started getting education on the topic my life was changed. Education is vital. It took me about 2 years before I found a medication that was effective for me.
Just know that y’all are not alone. We are all here for you both! I’m so proud of you both for being so honest about your situations and your mental health. We all got y’all’s backs. Sending love and light to you. I’m so blessed that I have a supportive husband who has loved me through my journey. ❤
"You've got to keep trying"... thank you for saying that Alex, I really felt it! And thank you both for being open and communicating with each other and us so well about this topic.
This is so open and honest. Thank you for this. I so much appreciate this video.
Thank you so much for normalizing your struggle so others realize they might not be alone. It’s so important to get the message out. My son was recently diagnosed with adhd at 17. He does pretty well in school and is the opposite of hyper, so he slipped through unnoticed. But he could never focus or study, had memory issues like he would not remember things from his childhood we all did, etc. I wish the school system taught teachers it’s not just the kids who don’t sit in their seats or are disruptive. I’m so sad that Alex (and my son) had to struggle for so long!
Oh Vic, I am in tears. Bravo Alex for sharing and being so vulnerable. It breaks my heart that even for a moment you didn’t think you were very smart. It’s always been so clear to me that you’re both highly intelligent, sensitive, kind people. It can be so hard for a partner when the other person is super driven. That can wreck someone’s self esteem. It’s just such a beautiful thing to see you two putting in the work and sharing such hard and sweet moments with us. I adore you both. And Vic don’t hesitate to talk to a therapist as well if you’d like, you’ve been through so much and you’ve carried a lot. You’ve done it all with grace, but I know how hard it can be♥️
So happy for you guys and for Alex to be moving forward and enjoying life more! Wonderful that you two are talking about this.
I could not admire or respect you both any more for using this platform for mental health advocacy. When Bono received his Kennedy Center Award here in the U.S., Sean Penn said that Bono "uses his celebrity as currency." I heard that several years ago and it continues to stick with me. This video, conversation and all you've previously shared is incredibly admirable. By using your platform for advocacy, you are using what you have built as currency and that is a beautiful and encouraging thing to see.
Mental health is such an incredibly difficult thing to understand and manage. I live with anxiety and ptsd and it is so true that finding the right medication is BRUTAL, but yes, you must keep trying. And yes! A good therapist can be so hard to find and the process of doing so can be so mentally draining, but when you find a good one, it really can help. Love how supportive and steadfast you seem, Victoria. I think anyone living with mental health challenges hopes to find a parter with your perspective.
Thank you for having the courage to share this with us. Sending so much love and gentle kindness your way from Oregon, U.S.
Thank you so much for being so honest Alex, so important for everyone to talk about it and to persist with finding a way forward to support your mental health. You guys are so genuine and honest and it's really appreciated x
I'm so, so happy for you, Alex! A diagnosis and meds that work are an absolute game changer. Congrats on figuring it out, and thank you for sharing your story with the world ❤
Thanks for your honesty Alex. That conversation required a lot of courage. Really interesting and informative vlog. Thanks for sharing this info I’m sure it will benefit so many.
Glad you felt able to share both. Great news Alex! Glad you have found some answers and the medication has given you a new lease of life. Well done Victoria for staying strong too. You are so lovely together ❤
Alex thank you for being so honest about your mental health journey and being finally diagnosed with adhd and how you have found taking antidepressants and the horrid Side effects and now you have found a non antidepressant which has been life changing for you. Thank you once again Alex xxx
Thank you so much for sharing this! It’s so lovely to see how supportive you are of each other and how much work you’ve put into your relationship and didn’t just give up.
This made me emotional as I can relate. My boyfriend has recently discovered he has ADHD (not officially diagnosed yet due to the waitlist but doctors are very sure he has), which only became apparent when we bought our house 4 years ago. Apparently the extra responsibility can bring ADHD closer to the surface, and we have struggled a lot, constantly butting heads, disagreements, he bites my head off a lot during his hyper-focus stints which as an emotional cancerian myself I find very difficult! We’ve questioned if our relationship is working but weren’t willing to walk away, so it gives me so much hope to see you guys work through something similar. My boyfriend is worried about taking meds but I really think it would make such a difference to his life, especially as he’s been in a negative headspace the last few months himself. I can’t wait to make him watch this video later🤭
Thank you again, I love you guys together and your videos ❤️
It is so refreshing to see an "influencer" share real life! Life is hard, relationships are hard and mental illness is incredibly hard. Thank you for sharing your struggles and journey Alex. And Victoria thank you for using your platform to offer suggestions, encouragement and help to those struggling.
Our son was diagnosed with ADHD in elementary school. He is also very intelligent. Because teachers knew he was smart, they just couldn’t understand why he couldn’t finish assignments or focus. It was such a struggle. I constantly worried about his mental health. He managed to make it through and graduate high school and did well enough to go off to college. After his first semester, he called and said he wanted to go off of his medication. As a mother, I was very concerned. He was now an adult at 18 and we had to let it be his decision. Honestly he did not like how the medication made him feel. I am so happy to say that he is doing absolutely amazing. He made straight A’s for the first time in his life. When he called to tell us, he literally broke down in tears. He was so proud of himself, and so happy. It was one of the most amazing moments of my life. Don’t get me wrong, he still struggles but he has really learned how to cope and he’s doing so much better. Living on his own, going to school and just living life. It is such a relief ❤❤❤
I really feel for Alex and what he’s going through. It is really hard and I wish nothing but the best for him and I hope that this path he is taking is what he needs xoxo ❤
Love how brave you both about talking about this diagnosis. More visibility to any type of mental or physical disorder is so much needed. Sharing is a good lesson for others. My most sincere respect to y both. Best wishes for a Happy Life from Spain.
Bravo to you and Alex. This is a conversation that needs to become normalized and you have both done a great service by sharing your journey. Happiness and Love to you ❤
Alot of people in there 30s have struggled with depression and anxiety to which then turns to be ADHD or ADD. For myself finding out I have ADHD has helped enormously to understand coping techniques. I'm so glad there has been a huge step in your journey to help you Alex 🤘
Oh guys, the love, support, empathy and patience you have with each other made me emotional. Incredibly brave of you Alex to talk about it so openly and Victoria’s resilience to never give up on the relationship and keep pushing and supporting your partner for life!
This chat made me quite emotional but in the best way. I have struggled with mental health for over ten years and I could really relate to a lot of things you guys talked about. This past year I’ve really been making progress and I can see how numb I was to everything before. It was like I was like I was a shell and slowly I would start seeing glimpses of myself come back. The medication I initially took worked really well for me, but finding the right therapist has taken more time. I’m still looking but like you said it’s so important to keep trying. Alex, I am so happy for you. I’m so glad you are feeling more like yourself and more understood. Feeling that down about yourself and constantly tearing yourself apart really takes a toll and to see you smiling and talking about how good you’re feeling makes me so happy and proud of you 🤍 and Victoria, the encouragement and support and patience you’ve had is really something special. It’s not only hard for the person struggling but also those around you and this was probably really difficult for you too but from someone who struggles with mental health I just wanted to thank you as well 🤍 I’m so so so happy for you both!! Thank you for sharing your stories 🤍
How exciting to find your partner has ADHD. That there is an answer for some of the things that happen for them. As the spouse of an ADHD husband, the more I live with him, the more I learn about how he ticks. It took me about 5 years to figure out when my husband begins to pick at small things, he is struggling with his anxiety. By picking a fight he gets a dopamine spike from it and it would expend energy and relieve the anxiety. But then he’d have to do the clean up work. We’ve figured things out together. He wasn’t diagnosed until his late 30’s and is now 55. I can see where it would be really hard on a young marriage.
Expending the energy is terribly important to help with the energy buildup in the body that makes the mind spin out. Our home motto these days is ‘a tired body is a still mind’.
Many prayers for you on this new journey. Seeing your caring gaze and his ability to be vulnerable not only with you but your community is wonderful. 💝
I am literally in tears right now at the relief in Alex.I feel like you both need to have another holiday and re discover each other.So happy for you both.xx
Thank you both for opening up with us about ADHD. A LOT of what Alex has said resonates with me and I’ve never considered it. Once again absolutely amazing couple! ❤
❤️so glad to hear that Alex is feeling better. So much respect for Alex putting in the work to get to a positive place and so happy both of you stuck through this together ❤thank you both for sharing this one.
Thank you, Alex, for being so open and honest about what you've been going through. It has obviously been tough at times for you both. Victoria is so loving and caring this video is very powerful. ❤
Absolutely amazing that Alex has chosen to share, it’s not an easy thing to do. You’re both beautiful humans, so glad you’re able to now navigate this together x
So happy for you both. You are a great team. Enjoy your love to each other with new horizons opening up for you. ❤
Immediately as soon as you got teary, so did I. I'm happy for both of you
A hard topic but so good to talk about it. So glad that you have worked it out and stuck with it. ❤
I am so thankful you have one another! Thank you for your willingness to share this and for being the example to others out there! Truly two amazing people!
Wishing you even more good, love and success in every aspect of yourselves and your lives!
Thank you for sharing.I went through a major trauma as a child in the seventies.Got no help till later in life.Its very hard to keep going but we do 😊❤❤
Thank you to you both. Our Son is struggling he has reached his rock bottom he been prescribed antidepressants as a default, listening to you I feel there is work to do past low mood
Appreciate your raw emotions and openness xx
It’s refreshing to hear about others struggles with mental health and also how it affects your marriage. It happens to most of us but it’s something we don’t talk about.
I can’t thank you two enough for speaking about this struggle. I started crying listening to Alex express himself. My husband has always struggled but his mother passing two years ago and subsequent family trauma has triggered him. I will be sharing this with him and am feeling empowered to help him navigate getting the right help. ❤
Thank you guys for your honesty! I recently at 28 got diagnosed with ASS and I am struggling to get to grips with it. This really helps me to think about it in a more positive light. ❤
My niece was diagnosed with ADHD in her 20's and went through several therapist before she found the right one. I am so glad that Alex is doing better and is speaking out about it. Keep us informed on your journey. We are pulling for you.
The high and low in mood you described sounds like bipolar disease. My ex husband of 12 years suffers from bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, manic depression, ADHD, OCD, and narcissistic personality disorder. He abused alcohol to cope with his illness. It wasn’t until after our divorce that he became formally diagnosed. Many many many trials of meds. Even tried electroshock therapy to treat his bipolar. His bipolar gave him the extreme moods of either over to top high annoying erratic mood (like on drugs) or severely depressed cannot get out of bed. This also manifested in extreme rage he could not control with emotional outbursts at people. Then followed by shame and guilt which just kicked up the alcoholism.
I’d definitely keep being tested for additional disorders because you are correct they often overlap which is why using drug treatment is so tough. But for many of these mental health issues intense behavioral therapy works well but it’s a long term solution. My ex husband always was looking for that magic drug that would make him happy. But we all know that doesn’t exist. You will always have ups and downs in your emotions. That’s part of being human. So it’s learning better coping skills and self soothing techniques that will probably make the biggest impact for you. All those negative beliefs you have about yourself have to be rewired in your brain. As silly as it sounds “I AM” affirmations are very powerful to help rewire those brain paths. I used them after my abusive marriage and still use them to this day. There is a book you could check out too called Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess that talks about the way negative emotions affect our brains from a physiological perspective and how we can form better habits with our thoughts to change those physiological neuro structures. Really fascinating stuff. Definitely worth a read if you feel like you’d like a more homeopathic solution vs chemical. Another thing I’d probably investigate is your hormone levels. Just like women, men’s hormones can also affect mood or cause disruptions. And of course our brain receptor serotonin is a hormone. There might be dietary or lifestyle changes that could be made if it’s a hormone imbalance type of thing.
And lastly dears….prayer and gratitude. While they don’t solve every problem…they do help immensely. Start asking God for peace in your mind. And thank Him for giving you peace. Often when we are disconnected from our spiritual source forgetting our higher purpose of serving, giving, and loving….being bogged down with work, life, and tasks….this can cause huge problems with our feelings of depression. This is coming from someone who wasn’t a believer for 42 years of her life. Now age 46 and a Christ follower, I have more peace in my life mentally, emotionally, and relationally. Allowing God to be a part of your life will bring great and powerful healing to you. And I am not talking about “religion”. I’m talking about a relationship with God. Talk to Him. He loves you unconditionally. Learn to see yourself the way He sees you. His perfect creation. I’ll be sending some prayers your way. And thanks for being so brave to share. ☺️❤️🙏🏻
I’m in tears. Thank you for sharing real and important stories on your platform. So many people go through this so sharing helps the next person take that extra step forward. Seeing how much you guys love each other just warms my heart. Through good time and bad, right!?!Thank you and sending all the love from California. ❤
This is going to be a huge eye opener and aid to so many people watching. The way you both described the problem was so different to how I've ever heard it worded
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 27. The ability to move beyond the shame spiral that I lived with for so long was life changing.
I can’t believe I’ve been following the blog since the purple hair days, and now we are all older and (let’s hope!) wiser, and more grateful for each coming day 🥰
Me and my partner went through a similar thing 2 years ago, them getting a ADHD diagnosis completely changed their life for the better. And improved our relationship 1000%.
So refreshing to see you both open up about this! Me and my husband have had very similar experiences and the video has been really great to watch. This issue needs to be more recognised. Thank you so much for sharing ❤❤
❤ unfortunately, children are still experiencing the negative treatment at school that you described. I'm so glad you are getting the help you need now. thanks for helping to raise awareness ❤
Same. Same. Same. Love you both. It DOES get better with the right treatment! Thank you for sharing.
Honestly this conversation is so important, to see you guys stick together through thick and thin is just so inspiring! I’m so happy to see Alex doing better, and as someone with ADHD herself, I had no idea it was so linked to mental health ❤
My husband was diagnosed on his 41 years old. He suffered for so long. Now, he’s been amazing for almost 2 years straight taking “Venvance” and making therapy. Im genuinely happy for Alex. Don’t give up. And Vic, it’s so tiring, I know, but now you can finally rest and relax. Enjoy it.
I wanted to thank you for sharing such a personal subject. My son is 20 years old and he’s been struggling with depression and anxiety since he was seven or eight just recently we were talking about having him tested for ADD or ADHD watching your video has given me hope that maybe he too, can find the happiness that Alex has found. Thank you again for sharing.
So amazing to finally get this kind of understanding for yourself, and for your lil family Alex and Victoria. I know it's still tricky because there's no "cure", so it's real trial and error. But having that clarity that your brain is different and does work differently is such validation. And it's quite a big hug to yourself to know it was ADHD that caused a butterfly effect throughout life; because of the different life experience people with ADHD have, the different childhoods, interactions etc, and that it wasn't something wrong with you as a person on any level. it's just so reassuring.
I was diagnosed a few years ago at 25, I'm now 28 - female. And honestly, this whole conversation had me bawling. Victoria, the support and love you showed during that conversation was so powerful. And that you've taken some of the burden for your partnership, read up on ADHD etc is honestly amazing. Alex, I absolutely whole-heartedly can relate to the low base line. That's the exact way to describe it. It's so hard to explain just how intense that is to live at a low base line.
I'm so grateful to you both for sharing this with us. I wish you all the best on your journey!! Thank you for the info on the medication options - I've tried a couple of meds and holy moly, awful. I've not been recommended any other options so I've been back at square 1 and now just live back at the base line and kind of forget this isn't the norm. This has given me a kick to keep pushing through bc i deserve a higher baseline. :)
Thank you again both!
Thank you so much for sharing such a private and personal insight into your lives beyond a camera lens. I could feel the crescendo of emotions that you both were feeling individually and as a couple. Your love for one another is palpable. Wishing you two special souls continued strength and a lifetime of peace.
So many parallels with Alex and myself. Thank you for sharing. I am so pleased to see the renewed energy in your relationship and life in general. Wishing you both all the best on this journey to healing.
Remember to look after yourself as well Victoria x Wishing you the best for the future x
I’m so touched by your opening up to us about your mental health. There are so many people that need advice and to hear someone like Alex share his journey is extremely valuable. I’m so happy for both of you. You look like you truly love each other and have overcome a lot. ❤