100% agree, in fact if I was the ex-wife I’d not only be fighting for full custody, I’d make it so that the ex-husband agrees to sign away his parental rights
If a man won't even step up to help care for the pregnant woman, and is so spineless as to let his horrid mother treat said pregnant woman badly, he doesn't deserve any sort of relationship. Not a wife, not a child, not friends or even coworkers to get along with. They'll always be twentieth place out of one. And his mother will always have that number one spot.
The moment he started getting pissy over the baby even when she could pay for things is the point where any sane person would be out the door. He sounds like a bit of a douche, the apple not falling far from his mothers tree.
As the kids say, be so for real right now. Nathan didn't want a wife. He wanted an emotionally obligated future caretaker for him and his mommy. And that whole "apology" was probably a lie, too, and something his mother told him to say to trick OP into coming back. I'm glad she didn't fall for it.
He doesn't want the child, it's manipulation. He wants the child as an emotional "hostage", to continue having control and access to the wife through the child.
The husband's a mama's boi, I swear. So spineless and delusional lol Glad, he's out of her life, heck for all I know, mil would be having the baby do chores at 3 or something, heck probably go and work at 10. She doesn't deserve to see the op's grandchild
Before I got to the update, NTA. The husband said 'I only screwed up once.' Mate, you've been screwing up for 7 months by letting your mother abuse your wife, and now you want to act like you only messed up once? GTFO of here.
Ppl need to realize that staying in a toxic relationship so that your child could have a relationship with the parent that is toxic is not a selfless decision but inherently selfish and will ruin that child mentally and emotionally more than being in 1 parent household ever would. Who in their right mind would want their child to have a relationship with a toxic person who didn’t even want them around in the first place and then started manipulating them after???
Exactly! If the abuser is too abusive for YOU to live with, why would you place a CHILD, who has NO MEANS OF SELF-DEFENSE and NO EXPERIENCE, in that situation?! PROTECT THE CHILDREN! ESCAPE THE ABUSE. Is it hard to live in a single-parent household? Yes, it is. It's a financial struggle, and you may have to face social stigma. However, you are FREE and SAFE and don't have to spend your whole life holding your breath, and waiting for the next round of abuse and tyrrany. If you love your child, PROTECT YOUR CHILD.
Not the asshole. You gave him the option of leaving, gave him multiple chances, and offered to pay for the house. His mom only enabled his true self and he always thought what he said.
Srsly, the guy doesn't have any backbone and seemed to be too egocentric. The mere fact that you are married and will be having a baby is already your chance to be a father while pursuing your dreams with your significant other. Since your father died while you are still young. But you chose to be an ass by even suggesting a termination of your child and a brat who is overly dependent to your narcissistic mother. As for you girl, go for it. You deserved to be happy and chose the appropriate course of action for yourself and for your child. You are strong, brave and will definitely get the blessings soon.
I've seen others point out in the comments that Nathan was looking for a caretaker for him and his mom. He's so spineless like at first he didn't want the baby but NOW when she wants full custody he wants to be a father? His mom is still telling him what to do after all these years, I wonder if an original thought ever existed in that skull of his
Immediate reaction, emotional incest case, signs are all there, husband died while the son was young, mother begins overspoiling the son, gets frigid as the poles when "the competition" shows up in the form of girlfriends and long term partners, she's emotionally husbandified her own son because she couldn't cope with the loss of the man of the house in her family dynamic.
In India the pregnant wife always goes to her parental home till the delivery and it's the husband who has to manage the house alone, take holidays to be with his wife and care for her. It's a pretty good arrangement I suppose
I think it’s like that in other cultures too. Tbh I had a pregnancy where my ex’s mom did a lot for me. Even after. She always yelled at my sons dad to do everything for me. I didn’t have a bad MIL And she thanks me randomly for being a good mom and doing what I always can for my son. But she was also in my life since I was 13 going on 14 so idk if that had anything to do with it.
"He said that he agreed to have a child with me, so now I had to do something he wanted to do." Massive red flag there. Dude participated in the conception of the child, and evidently thought he had as much of a say as she does in whether she kept it or not. Oof.
Yet again, another mother who ruined their son's marriage! I can't understand why women have such an issue with letting go of their sons. It's a mother's job to raise their children to be productive adults and to be able to build their own families.
My mother-in-law is wonderful. We could talk to her if we needed or wanted advice but she didn't stick her nose in our business. My siblings and I all have wonderful in-laws.
It's not your fault it's your husband's and your mil's fault because they kicked him out of the house and he was pregnant and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done.
can you change the voice depending on the gender of the op? sometimes it has me a little confused in stories and would be a little easier ! and i also do think the female voice is a little more soothing. thank you (:
That is absolutely ridiculous and women are just as bad as men. You don’t have to stay single, you don’t have to get married. But don’t use “child free and single” and make it sound wonderful. It’s not. I worked in elderly care, they always cried how they literally had no one. People start loud and proud and then a few good years later, they are married with kids.
I hope he can keep the same energy. A couple years from now when he realizes that his mother played a part in his divorce and he allowed it to I hope he can keep the same energy. A couple years from now when he realizes that his mother played a part in his divorce and he allowed it to happen
What don’t I understand? You need to keep your house clean even if you’re pregnant what’s wrong with doing chores people have 12 kids and clean and work and cook and run in their pregnancies 😅
You didn't have a bad experience as a child because you didn't have a father it's because you grew up poor but now it seems your well off and you'll find another partner who cares about you
dude was a massive red flag, but hot take i think op was too. saw a lot of red flags in her wording of each situation (specifically after she left) where she wasn’t taking any accountability for her actions either. not talking about her issues, invalidating the beliefs of the ex while also sharing the exact same beliefs but it’s okay when she believes them? sus af. both the asshole, op less so tho also just remembered how she forced him to have a kid and was in over her head. no means no, if someone isn’t fully up to the idea of having a kid then they are not going to be able to properly raise them
I had a lot of swelling during my first pregnancy. I was supposed to be off my feet but I still did as much as I could. Luckily my late husband was great about helping.
Im half way through the story, I feel bad for Nathan. He said wasn't prepared for the baby, that clearly shows he wants be a good dad and provide the best for his baby. They could have gone to therapy to sort it out. They could have kept their distance with the mother in law. Now that i have finished the story i feel bad for baby coz he/she is going to grow up without a dad. Nathan just needed time. Maybe he was under a lot of pressure and just needed sometime to sort it out. But seems like he was constantly nagged by his mother & his wife with their problems. Maybe he was just over loaded with all this that he made a stupid decision. I don't know... that's just my opinion. Well i just feel there is another side to this story that we will never know.
He certainly is not mature for a boy playing a man's game. If you aren't prepared to have a child, don't do the actions that lead to it and be surprised when it happens
Never NEVER stay with someone because you want your kids to "have a father" That's bs. That's the worst things you can do to your child if it's a toxic relationship A lot of kids would be have been saved a lot of heartache and abuse if the mothers had left. I would rather have no father than a bad one I would honestly say that's it's child abuse and negligence if the father is something like this guy. Ones who won't contribute to the relationship. Ones who won't stand up for you. Ones who won't have open communication. Ones who don't wanna be dads. Don't let your kids be abused by a toxic partner by staying. Because it WILL happen.
Almost everything he tried doing she turned into an argument only about her, he did have good intentions yea it did lead to her being uncomfortable but means too high standards (it does make since cuz she’s pregnant and want to be safe but come on)
His Mom isn't a Saint here. She convinced him to basically abuse his Wife by having her do so much, and didn't even bat an eye when she said "Either pay up, do even more chores or leave." I know he wasn't doing very much the whole time.
Ok, OP's husband and his mother are awful, but OP is not a saint either. "I will leave if you won't let me keep the baby :\\\" I'm sorry, but having a kid is NOT a one sided contract. Both people must be ready, and blackmailing your partner with a divorce to keep the child is really not it. The two never were meant to be together, and maybe the guy shouldn't have any gfs until he unlearns to be a mama's boy.
I was thinking the same. If money was an issue, they could've waited. People always forget all that involves having a child and money is one of them. The final decision of keeping it or not is hers, but using it to manipulate him is an awful move to get what she wants on her terms and that also makes her an AH in my eyes. Glad they are divorcing tho.
This isn't blackmail. It's the consequences of the man nutting inside her. If you don't want a child, don't nut inside her. Simple. Telling him she'd leave him if he tried pressuring her into getting an abortion is totally reasonable. She wants a child, he doesn't. So, she should logically leave him then, because they wouldn't be compatible. She was upfront and honest. He decided to lie, tell her he was fine with it after all, then proceeded to abuse her, and lose his shit when she got fed up. OP is in no way wrong here. Men, you need to learn to take accountability for your actions. If you aren't ready for a baby, don't nut inside her.
The husband was a mama's boy, no backbone at all. But the first mistake was being careless with protection. And the second was thinking it was the perfect moment to have a baby and not even discussing it with your partner. Unfortunately this type of relationship always ends with problems because of the manipulation of the third party (in this case the mom). Really sad
While overall I think the wife isn't the asshole, I'm going insane over the way she forced the pregnancy on her husband. I'm afab and I would never. I mean, did you talk about kids before you got together? Did you talk about kids before marriage? Did you talk about kids after he quit his job? I don't know, but it sure seemed like she didn't from how he reacted in the beginning. And then staying with him afterwards? When he pretty vehemently didn't want a kid right then and had valid reasons, especially if you're American (time, money, wanting a strong career, etc). I just feel like OP was blinded by her feelings for her mom and went "Oh but I want a baby so no biggie" like no, not no biggie. That's a huge thing that you and your partner should be 100% together with. Not something you have to coerce your partner into wanting.
Soooo you didn’t want to go to college? While it’s earning potential isn’t necessarily higher but across the board going to college will make you more employable because you don’t need to work in a manual position, but it very much depends on the degree you study.
The OP is in the wrong. So so sad for a child to do be born into this. But at the same time she was raised by a single mother so she can’t know te damage she is doing.
I'm not a pregnancy expert, but aren't women decently competent at 7 months pregnant? I don't blame OP for leaving, but it seems like OP could have done the dishes and maybe vacuumed at least.
“pregnancy expert” more like you’re not a woman, how would you know how it feels? you’re using all this energy to develop a living fetus inside of you. you’re concerned about the wrong thing.
Just stop.... how embarrassing . Back and joint pains, fatigue, raging hormones, breathlessness etc... alll takes a toll on your body and mind...so no, pregnant women don't have to do any housework if their body is telling them to slow down and rest. Wash up your own damn dishes and vacuum yourself 🤡
Yeah, cause MIL’s hands magically stopped working after the wife was forced to move in in response to husband badgering and harassing her until she agreed to. Give me a break lmao.
He literally said he didn’t want the child and that she should get an abortion…I personally see him as a danger to the child since he has made it clear he would literally rather they not exist. I’d be worried about the baby having an “unfortunate accident” while alone with him if he had custody.
I’m also basing this off of a personal experience though. Had a bestie (rip) who got pregnant despite using two different methods of protection. She had to break it off because the bf not only tried to pressure her to have an abortion she didn’t want, he literally said, and I quote, “I hope it dies inside you”, as well as saying “I’d rip that thing out of you if I could.” Considering how unhinged some men seem to get over surprised pregnancies, especially going by the rate of homicide for pregnant women, I’d say it’s plenty grounds.
@professionalinsomniac8338 A parent being unsure about having a child when they find out they are pregnant doesn't mean they lose custody rights to their child, especially since he came around to it in the end. And your personal belief that he is a danger to his child is pretty baseless in this scenario. The examples you provide are unrelated anecdotes that wouldn't weigh in on this case in a court. The wife might be able to use the fact that he didn't treat her well during the pregnancy to her advantage, but other than that, as the father, if he expresses his desire to be an active participant in the parenting of his child then he has that right and shared custody is the most likely outcome.
@@jessehodge4418 He wasn’t unsure, though. He straight up said he didn’t want one and acted like she was ruining his life. He also only “agreed” because he felt like he had to. It’s honestly not since he literally wished them dead lmao.
@professionalinsomniac8338 If he, as the father, expresses an interest in the raising of his child, then that is his parental right even if he didn't want the baby to begin with. Also, at what part did he wish them dead?
I can tell you didn’t watch the video by your completely idiotic comment. It’s stated in the video that she’s the primary breadwinner and is on maternity leave and should be on bed rest. HE argued that they should move in with his mother to save money despite the wife paying for where they stayed before. He badgered her until she agreed, claiming it would be free. But yes, please continue to miss the entire point and make baseless, sexist assumptions.
@@professionalinsomniac8338 Did you miss the part where I specifically stated I didn't watch the video? And that I was commenting on the title only? Maybe get over yourself?
@@amateurcrastinator9523 Did you miss the part where I said what you you said definitely proved itself because your comment was so horrifically stupid and off base that you didn’t even need to explicitly tell us you hadn’t watched? Lmao, and what do I need to get over, how dumb you are?
Just because he’s a bad husband doesn’t me he would be a bad father ur filing for full custody out of spite just be real about it I’m on OP’s side but she’s not done things right either
I definitely agree that OP should get out of the relationship, but OP is stupid for not trying to be as healthy as possible during pregnancy. What you want is not always what you need. She also should've stood her ground because moving in with your parents make them automatically think you're under their control. This is what happens when you have unprotected relations so early into dating. The fault is split 50/50; they're both stupid. Knowing OP, her mother also put OP's father through the same thing, but framed it as him not wanting to be around because bitter do such things.
Just because she's old, doesn't make her wise. An early bedtime won't make a difference. Having some snacks won't either. Keeping off your feet as much as possible is healthy
@@jordanwardle11 Not talking about the bedtime (some only need 3hrs & some others need 8hrs. I wouldn't make someone match my exact sleep schedule because I don't sleep for very long), but the snacks & laziness. "Some snacks" genuinely degrades your health- the same goes for staying off your feet, not doing anything productive/moving your body like you should. If we all could eat junk & become couch potatoes while being our 10/10 best selves, some people would- but that's not how things work. You get different results doing different things, and good results reflect good habits & efforts, vise versa. If my spouse were to have a baby, I'd make sure she knew what to do to step up as a mother because it takes more than being the incubator to birth a beautiful, healthy child. I KNOW what I'd have to do as a father, and I'd hold myself to that.
idk if it's pregnancy hormones but her trying to take full custody is just petty. even tho she didn't deserve what happened she is denying a father access to his child.
The same child he already said he wants her to abort because he doesn’t want it? Lmao these comments are full of delulu. He’s more likely to deprive that child of their subscription to life than he is to feel deprived by not having custody. 😂
@@professionalinsomniac8338 Where's all the support if a female wanted to abort you would just say fuck the father. But since it's a male that said it. Fuck him too amiright? :l
@@Steve_Raglan_aka_William_Afton Then why tf did you claim she "forced" him to have a child? He nutted in her, knowing fully that it might lead to a baby. That man-child must learn to face the consequences of his actions.
@@b.k.9797but the child will be here now and they’ll need a father. Keeping him away is childish ave vindictive and will only hurt the kid in the end. These two should not have had a child, they are both immature
@@khayzee62 I never “needed” a father. I preferred the parts of my life where I didn’t have one vs the parts where my mom brought more awful men in her life and by extension mine.
I mean she literally forced the dude to have the baby. What else was she expecting? He said he didn't want the baby. She should have known. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. This is why you shouldn't hastily marry just whoever.
Women don’t HAVE to get abortions just because the father doesn’t want the baby or changes his mind. That’s not how it works. Abortions have their own mental, emotional, physical, and psychological consequences. Don’t want kids, be celibate.
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If a man couldn't even comprehend the gravity of putting a pregnant woman on that situation, he's pretty much underserving to be a father.
100% agree, in fact if I was the ex-wife I’d not only be fighting for full custody, I’d make it so that the ex-husband agrees to sign away his parental rights
@@LouisWarren530lmfao okay weirxo
If a man won't even step up to help care for the pregnant woman, and is so spineless as to let his horrid mother treat said pregnant woman badly, he doesn't deserve any sort of relationship.
Not a wife, not a child, not friends or even coworkers to get along with. They'll always be twentieth place out of one. And his mother will always have that number one spot.
Some men are so desperate to crawl back into the place they come from 🤮
The moment he started getting pissy over the baby even when she could pay for things is the point where any sane person would be out the door.
He sounds like a bit of a douche, the apple not falling far from his mothers tree.
As the kids say, be so for real right now. Nathan didn't want a wife. He wanted an emotionally obligated future caretaker for him and his mommy. And that whole "apology" was probably a lie, too, and something his mother told him to say to trick OP into coming back. I'm glad she didn't fall for it.
The fact that he simply left, instead of making his mom either apologize or be cut off speaks volumes on how much a spineless man he is.
Mum's little pup
In the beginning he didn't want the child, now he's accusing her of trying to take him away by filing for full custody
His mommy wants the baby not him. He's her mouthpiece
@@alexandriawilliams-brooker9475 oh correct me if I'm wrong but he's a doormat basically lol.
He doesn't want the child, it's manipulation. He wants the child as an emotional "hostage", to continue having control and access to the wife through the child.
He's a tramp, and his mother's pathetic. OP is better off without them, so is the baby
The husband's a mama's boi, I swear. So spineless and delusional lol
Glad, he's out of her life, heck for all I know, mil would be having the baby do chores at 3 or something, heck probably go and work at 10. She doesn't deserve to see the op's grandchild
Before I got to the update, NTA. The husband said 'I only screwed up once.' Mate, you've been screwing up for 7 months by letting your mother abuse your wife, and now you want to act like you only messed up once? GTFO of here.
Yes it was 7 Months, but just one time, the entire time.
So basically the ex-husband was/is a mama's boy
His future girlfriend/wife will be a repeat of op story.
His future girlfriend/wife is his mother.
@@MorpheusASmith the thought of it just made it throw up
Ppl need to realize that staying in a toxic relationship so that your child could have a relationship with the parent that is toxic is not a selfless decision but inherently selfish and will ruin that child mentally and emotionally more than being in 1 parent household ever would. Who in their right mind would want their child to have a relationship with a toxic person who didn’t even want them around in the first place and then started manipulating them after???
Exactly! If the abuser is too abusive for YOU to live with, why would you place a CHILD, who has NO MEANS OF SELF-DEFENSE and NO EXPERIENCE, in that situation?!
PROTECT THE CHILDREN! ESCAPE THE ABUSE.
Is it hard to live in a single-parent household? Yes, it is. It's a financial struggle, and you may have to face social stigma. However, you are FREE and SAFE and don't have to spend your whole life holding your breath, and waiting for the next round of abuse and tyrrany.
If you love your child, PROTECT YOUR CHILD.
Thank you many don’t seem to grasp this or something…
Not the asshole. You gave him the option of leaving, gave him multiple chances, and offered to pay for the house. His mom only enabled his true self and he always thought what he said.
Srsly, the guy doesn't have any backbone and seemed to be too egocentric. The mere fact that you are married and will be having a baby is already your chance to be a father while pursuing your dreams with your significant other. Since your father died while you are still young. But you chose to be an ass by even suggesting a termination of your child and a brat who is overly dependent to your narcissistic mother.
As for you girl, go for it. You deserved to be happy and chose the appropriate course of action for yourself and for your child. You are strong, brave and will definitely get the blessings soon.
These are just soap operas in podcast form, lol! They may be fake 🤷🏾♀ They're still entertaining
Fr tho
They might be entertaining if they weren't utterly predictable and extrmeley annoying more often than not.
@@mnomadvfx Touché
Yeah, I just listen to it and it reminds me of how dysfunctional my own was lol
@@mnomadvfxpeople are
Nathan should've married his mother.
His mother sounds like one of those incestuous "boy moms", so true.
MY NAME IS NATHAN💀💀😭
I've seen others point out in the comments that Nathan was looking for a caretaker for him and his mom. He's so spineless like at first he didn't want the baby but NOW when she wants full custody he wants to be a father? His mom is still telling him what to do after all these years, I wonder if an original thought ever existed in that skull of his
OP should’ve left the moment he told her to get an abort b/c he pretty much cared more about nonexistent business than his growing family.
Immediate reaction, emotional incest case, signs are all there, husband died while the son was young, mother begins overspoiling the son, gets frigid as the poles when "the competition" shows up in the form of girlfriends and long term partners, she's emotionally husbandified her own son because she couldn't cope with the loss of the man of the house in her family dynamic.
In India the pregnant wife always goes to her parental home till the delivery and it's the husband who has to manage the house alone, take holidays to be with his wife and care for her. It's a pretty good arrangement I suppose
I think it’s like that in other cultures too.
Tbh I had a pregnancy where my ex’s mom did a lot for me.
Even after.
She always yelled at my sons dad to do everything for me.
I didn’t have a bad MIL
And she thanks me randomly for being a good mom and doing what I always can for my son.
But she was also in my life since I was 13 going on 14 so idk if that had anything to do with it.
Abortion is not birth control! Wow, this guy is a giant red flag.
MIL wanted a maid, that’s what it is
"He said that he agreed to have a child with me, so now I had to do something he wanted to do." Massive red flag there. Dude participated in the conception of the child, and evidently thought he had as much of a say as she does in whether she kept it or not. Oof.
Yet again, another mother who ruined their son's marriage! I can't understand why women have such an issue with letting go of their sons. It's a mother's job to raise their children to be productive adults and to be able to build their own families.
My mother-in-law is wonderful. We could talk to her if we needed or wanted advice but she didn't stick her nose in our business. My siblings and I all have wonderful in-laws.
It's not your fault it's your husband's and your mil's fault because they kicked him out of the house and he was pregnant and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done.
I'm glad he admitted that he was wrong and is ready to work on it
Apologising but not changing means that he isn't admitting that he was wrong. Just that he wants her back
Another man in love with his mother.
"Just because I screwed up once..."
"ONCE?! You think I carried those papers around with me, everywhere I went, because you screwed up ONCE?!"
They were very traditional so they wanted an abortion…what?
can you change the voice depending on the gender of the op? sometimes it has me a little confused in stories and would be a little easier ! and i also do think the female voice is a little more soothing. thank you (:
I second this
I third this
I think the female voice is annoying so i wouldn't prefer this
@@sanjuanfromsomewhereagreed
I think it should be read in AI Shrek voice
Stay child free and single ladies
That is absolutely ridiculous and women are just as bad as men. You don’t have to stay single, you don’t have to get married. But don’t use “child free and single” and make it sound wonderful. It’s not. I worked in elderly care, they always cried how they literally had no one. People start loud and proud and then a few good years later, they are married with kids.
@@maryjane4432I.Said.What.I.Said
@@maryjane4432I SAID WHAT I SAID
My advice-
never not have a job/ money
Never not have a place to stay
Never not have familial/ friend support
Never not be single...
COULD NEVER BE ME 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I hope he can keep the same energy.
A couple years from now when he realizes that his mother played a part in his divorce and he allowed it to I hope he can keep the same energy.
A couple years from now when he realizes that his mother played a part in his divorce and he allowed it to happen
That roach deprived hiself
Love the story’s!❤
Why did she think the boy with no father figure would make a good father?
They get you back in that house you'll never leave again,not living anyway.
Were they trying to stress her out on purpose so she would lose the pregnancy he didn't want?
Come on AI, couldn't it be a better ending than a cliffhanger?
She's on maternity leave from a good job, he hasnt even started up the start up yet, how exactly does he plan on winning the case?
He's probably just realising that he's on the hook for child support if she leaves so he wants her back so he doesn't have to cough up the dough.
Nathan is a true blue Mom ma's boy.
He is the son of a toxic “boy mom “. This is how those sons end up. Horrible and selfish.
he never stood up for her wtf
What don’t I understand? You need to keep your house clean even if you’re pregnant what’s wrong with doing chores people have 12 kids and clean and work and cook and run in their pregnancies 😅
Op's mom is the protagonist
Isn't also abuse for making a 5month pregnant lady do house hold chores let alone trying to force her to do it at 7 months?
O I see… Nathan is a ninny baby got it
MIL is at least emotionally incestous with that mama's boy
Why insist on having his baby when you know he didnt want it? And now she is "thinking about her baby's future" what a smart one
W grandparents.
You should have gone to college so you had something to fall back on
You didn't have a bad experience as a child because you didn't have a father it's because you grew up poor but now it seems your well off and you'll find another partner who cares about you
And Nathan seems like a worse option as a father as a non existent father
dude was a massive red flag, but hot take i think op was too. saw a lot of red flags in her wording of each situation (specifically after she left) where she wasn’t taking any accountability for her actions either. not talking about her issues, invalidating the beliefs of the ex while also sharing the exact same beliefs but it’s okay when she believes them? sus af. both the asshole, op less so tho
also just remembered how she forced him to have a kid and was in over her head. no means no, if someone isn’t fully up to the idea of having a kid then they are not going to be able to properly raise them
Pregnant women can't do chores? Now you tell me after I've had four children, including a set of twins.
I had a lot of swelling during my first pregnancy. I was supposed to be off my feet but I still did as much as I could. Luckily my late husband was great about helping.
Are you slow? Didn’t she say she couldn’t do them after 7 months bc she was so tired
Im half way through the story, I feel bad for Nathan. He said wasn't prepared for the baby, that clearly shows he wants be a good dad and provide the best for his baby. They could have gone to therapy to sort it out. They could have kept their distance with the mother in law. Now that i have finished the story i feel bad for baby coz he/she is going to grow up without a dad. Nathan just needed time. Maybe he was under a lot of pressure and just needed sometime to sort it out. But seems like he was constantly nagged by his mother & his wife with their problems. Maybe he was just over loaded with all this that he made a stupid decision. I don't know... that's just my opinion. Well i just feel there is another side to this story that we will never know.
She picked a winner of a husband, and the man to have as the father of her child, didn't she?
He certainly is not mature for a boy playing a man's game. If you aren't prepared to have a child, don't do the actions that lead to it and be surprised when it happens
@@jordanwardle11 Exactly
DAMNNN THIS KINDA MESSED UP 😭😭😭
I was today year old when I got to know that these were fake stories 🙂💔
Never NEVER stay with someone because you want your kids to "have a father"
That's bs.
That's the worst things you can do to your child if it's a toxic relationship
A lot of kids would be have been saved a lot of heartache and abuse if the mothers had left.
I would rather have no father than a bad one
I would honestly say that's it's child abuse and negligence if the father is something like this guy.
Ones who won't contribute to the relationship. Ones who won't stand up for you. Ones who won't have open communication. Ones who don't wanna be dads.
Don't let your kids be abused by a toxic partner by staying. Because it WILL happen.
Almost everything he tried doing she turned into an argument only about her, he did have good intentions yea it did lead to her being uncomfortable but means too high standards (it does make since cuz she’s pregnant and want to be safe but come on)
Finish the story tell us what happens next.
What app do u use for these
Nope
Why is the guys name always Nathan
Nathans a coward
Husband was messed up because he never had a father.
Neither did op not an excuse
His Mom isn't a Saint here. She convinced him to basically abuse his Wife by having her do so much, and didn't even bat an eye when she said "Either pay up, do even more chores or leave." I know he wasn't doing very much the whole time.
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Ok, OP's husband and his mother are awful, but OP is not a saint either. "I will leave if you won't let me keep the baby :\\\" I'm sorry, but having a kid is NOT a one sided contract. Both people must be ready, and blackmailing your partner with a divorce to keep the child is really not it. The two never were meant to be together, and maybe the guy shouldn't have any gfs until he unlearns to be a mama's boy.
I was thinking the same. If money was an issue, they could've waited. People always forget all that involves having a child and money is one of them.
The final decision of keeping it or not is hers, but using it to manipulate him is an awful move to get what she wants on her terms and that also makes her an AH in my eyes.
Glad they are divorcing tho.
This isn't blackmail. It's the consequences of the man nutting inside her. If you don't want a child, don't nut inside her. Simple.
Telling him she'd leave him if he tried pressuring her into getting an abortion is totally reasonable. She wants a child, he doesn't. So, she should logically leave him then, because they wouldn't be compatible. She was upfront and honest. He decided to lie, tell her he was fine with it after all, then proceeded to abuse her, and lose his shit when she got fed up.
OP is in no way wrong here.
Men, you need to learn to take accountability for your actions. If you aren't ready for a baby, don't nut inside her.
The husband was a mama's boy, no backbone at all. But the first mistake was being careless with protection. And the second was thinking it was the perfect moment to have a baby and not even discussing it with your partner.
Unfortunately this type of relationship always ends with problems because of the manipulation of the third party (in this case the mom). Really sad
While overall I think the wife isn't the asshole, I'm going insane over the way she forced the pregnancy on her husband. I'm afab and I would never. I mean, did you talk about kids before you got together? Did you talk about kids before marriage? Did you talk about kids after he quit his job? I don't know, but it sure seemed like she didn't from how he reacted in the beginning. And then staying with him afterwards? When he pretty vehemently didn't want a kid right then and had valid reasons, especially if you're American (time, money, wanting a strong career, etc). I just feel like OP was blinded by her feelings for her mom and went "Oh but I want a baby so no biggie" like no, not no biggie. That's a huge thing that you and your partner should be 100% together with. Not something you have to coerce your partner into wanting.
Soooo you didn’t want to go to college? While it’s earning potential isn’t necessarily higher but across the board going to college will make you more employable because you don’t need to work in a manual position, but it very much depends on the degree you study.
The OP is in the wrong. So so sad for a child to do be born into this. But at the same time she was raised by a single mother so she can’t know te damage she is doing.
I'm not a pregnancy expert, but aren't women decently competent at 7 months pregnant? I don't blame OP for leaving, but it seems like OP could have done the dishes and maybe vacuumed at least.
“pregnancy expert” more like you’re not a woman, how would you know how it feels? you’re using all this energy to develop a living fetus inside of you. you’re concerned about the wrong thing.
Just stop.... how embarrassing . Back and joint pains, fatigue, raging hormones, breathlessness etc... alll takes a toll on your body and mind...so no, pregnant women don't have to do any housework if their body is telling them to slow down and rest. Wash up your own damn dishes and vacuum yourself 🤡
Yeah, cause MIL’s hands magically stopped working after the wife was forced to move in in response to husband badgering and harassing her until she agreed to. Give me a break lmao.
Based on the details of the story, I'm not sure if she would have the grounds to deprive her husband if joint custody.
He literally said he didn’t want the child and that she should get an abortion…I personally see him as a danger to the child since he has made it clear he would literally rather they not exist. I’d be worried about the baby having an “unfortunate accident” while alone with him if he had custody.
I’m also basing this off of a personal experience though. Had a bestie (rip) who got pregnant despite using two different methods of protection. She had to break it off because the bf not only tried to pressure her to have an abortion she didn’t want, he literally said, and I quote, “I hope it dies inside you”, as well as saying “I’d rip that thing out of you if I could.”
Considering how unhinged some men seem to get over surprised pregnancies, especially going by the rate of homicide for pregnant women, I’d say it’s plenty grounds.
@professionalinsomniac8338 A parent being unsure about having a child when they find out they are pregnant doesn't mean they lose custody rights to their child, especially since he came around to it in the end. And your personal belief that he is a danger to his child is pretty baseless in this scenario. The examples you provide are unrelated anecdotes that wouldn't weigh in on this case in a court. The wife might be able to use the fact that he didn't treat her well during the pregnancy to her advantage, but other than that, as the father, if he expresses his desire to be an active participant in the parenting of his child then he has that right and shared custody is the most likely outcome.
@@jessehodge4418 He wasn’t unsure, though. He straight up said he didn’t want one and acted like she was ruining his life. He also only “agreed” because he felt like he had to.
It’s honestly not since he literally wished them dead lmao.
@professionalinsomniac8338 If he, as the father, expresses an interest in the raising of his child, then that is his parental right even if he didn't want the baby to begin with. Also, at what part did he wish them dead?
Dont really neex the back story
I didn't watch the video. But the title is absurd. 7 months pregnant? You can absolutely do some chores or work to pay some rent.
I can tell you didn’t watch the video by your completely idiotic comment. It’s stated in the video that she’s the primary breadwinner and is on maternity leave and should be on bed rest. HE argued that they should move in with his mother to save money despite the wife paying for where they stayed before. He badgered her until she agreed, claiming it would be free. But yes, please continue to miss the entire point and make baseless, sexist assumptions.
@@professionalinsomniac8338 Did you miss the part where I specifically stated I didn't watch the video? And that I was commenting on the title only? Maybe get over yourself?
@@amateurcrastinator9523you're commenting, so don't complain about people talking about the video.
@@amateurcrastinator9523 Did you miss the part where I said what you you said definitely proved itself because your comment was so horrifically stupid and off base that you didn’t even need to explicitly tell us you hadn’t watched? Lmao, and what do I need to get over, how dumb you are?
@@jordanwardle11 That's probably the dumbest thing I've read today.
It's ridiculous that women want full custody and child support uhh im not paying shit unless I get too see my kid
Just because he’s a bad husband doesn’t me he would be a bad father ur filing for full custody out of spite just be real about it I’m on OP’s side but she’s not done things right either
Unless he breaks apart from his mil, he will be
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I definitely agree that OP should get out of the relationship, but OP is stupid for not trying to be as healthy as possible during pregnancy. What you want is not always what you need. She also should've stood her ground because moving in with your parents make them automatically think you're under their control.
This is what happens when you have unprotected relations so early into dating. The fault is split 50/50; they're both stupid. Knowing OP, her mother also put OP's father through the same thing, but framed it as him not wanting to be around because bitter do such things.
Just because she's old, doesn't make her wise. An early bedtime won't make a difference. Having some snacks won't either. Keeping off your feet as much as possible is healthy
@@jordanwardle11 Not talking about the bedtime (some only need 3hrs & some others need 8hrs. I wouldn't make someone match my exact sleep schedule because I don't sleep for very long), but the snacks & laziness. "Some snacks" genuinely degrades your health- the same goes for staying off your feet, not doing anything productive/moving your body like you should.
If we all could eat junk & become couch potatoes while being our 10/10 best selves, some people would- but that's not how things work. You get different results doing different things, and good results reflect good habits & efforts, vise versa.
If my spouse were to have a baby, I'd make sure she knew what to do to step up as a mother because it takes more than being the incubator to birth a beautiful, healthy child. I KNOW what I'd have to do as a father, and I'd hold myself to that.
idk if it's pregnancy hormones but her trying to take full custody is just petty. even tho she didn't deserve what happened she is denying a father access to his child.
He originally wanted to terminate the child, lmao.
The same child he already said he wants her to abort because he doesn’t want it? Lmao these comments are full of delulu. He’s more likely to deprive that child of their subscription to life than he is to feel deprived by not having custody. 😂
If a man can do all that and prioritize a mum over his life partner, he would never be good with a child
@@cocogoat2131 so your saying you would keep the same stance if the situation was reversed and he (she) wanted to terminate it.
@@professionalinsomniac8338 Where's all the support if a female wanted to abort you would just say fuck the father. But since it's a male that said it. Fuck him too amiright? :l
These kinds of stories from the body type 2 perspective are always so 💩
She literally forced him to get herself pregnant
No she didn't
How can a man be forced to get pregnant?
Reform that sentence, it makes no sence
Edit: now it makes sence
No, they decided to not use protection, or it failed. She didn't want to terminate the Pregnancy, that's it.
@@Olimar92 I also do not side on terminating the pregnancy as well, what's done is done
@@Steve_Raglan_aka_William_Afton Then why tf did you claim she "forced" him to have a child? He nutted in her, knowing fully that it might lead to a baby.
That man-child must learn to face the consequences of his actions.
Same old story. “Our relationship didn’t work, so I’m gonna do my best to take our child from you.” 👎🏾
A child he didn’t want
He tried to make her kill the baby because it was "inconvenient timing" for him, so it's fair to say he isn't fit to be a father.
A child he wanted her to erase before it became a child lmao. Did you even watch?
@@b.k.9797but the child will be here now and they’ll need a father. Keeping him away is childish ave vindictive and will only hurt the kid in the end. These two should not have had a child, they are both immature
@@khayzee62 I never “needed” a father. I preferred the parts of my life where I didn’t have one vs the parts where my mom brought more awful men in her life and by extension mine.
I mean she literally forced the dude to have the baby. What else was she expecting? He said he didn't want the baby. She should have known. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. This is why you shouldn't hastily marry just whoever.
Yeah
They was dating. Even then if you don't want kids don't have sex he has to either step up or terminate his rights
ikr. the moment he said he's hesistant & wants the kid aborted - she should have run away... LOL
Women don’t HAVE to get abortions just because the father doesn’t want the baby or changes his mind. That’s not how it works. Abortions have their own mental, emotional, physical, and psychological consequences. Don’t want kids, be celibate.
"Play stupid games, win stupid prizes" he did. And he did