Giving her whatever she wants so that you feel liked? That’s nuts bro, this will not be a phase if you keep this up. Teasing is no bueno, love her don’t force it and stop giving her whatever she wants. She will end up being an entitled brat when she’s older. You guys have an adorable family and you should cherish every moment! We can all tell how much you love your kids!
This is a young couple living for social media, raising kids in the public eye. Getting attention like this is very addictive and creates unusual family dynamics. Sending them best wishes for a balanced life.
I would set some boundaries for Sunny. Giving her whatever she wants makes her realize she is in control of the situation. I can see how it hurts you Derik!! You are an AMAZING father.
He's only a dad to Jack. He's not the least bit interested in Sunny. Going to be really sad when Sunny is older and watches these videos. She'll see how neglectful they've been been to her. Thank God for her grandparents..
@@dianah.9718 Since they vlog every thing, they haven’t treated sunny the same as they treated jack. It’s been pretty clear & sad that sunny is a second thought,Sarah seems to be gone so much,Derik home with the kids,sunny in the basement?? Sarah’s reaction to sunny when she has to be alone with her? This couple should not have any more children,their focus is on themselves,hair,clothing,TRAVEL, especially Sarah,she’s just really into herself right now,has been for quite some time now. She’s really into LO or is it Tanner? She has to be around them all the time! Her house is 7 miles away from Lo , she’s selling her custom new home, so she can live next door to Lo & Tanner?.. why? Shady!
@FENCES-t2c WHOAH! Them's some pretty harsh words, FENCES-t2c...sheeeesh!? Btw, why are you even here since, clearly, you have no respect at all for these young parents? There's this guy on here who has a channel where all he does is belittle, critisize and laughingly trash other parent's with children here online that he does not like - calls them harsh names for showing their children online. Might that be you, hiding behind the alias, FENCES? Anyway, ya might be more at home on a channel like that.
Daddy she has learned how to be in charge. It's good to give choices. But she is the one controlling the situation. You have to tell her no, she can't treat you like that. BOUNDARIES!
@sthrnbil2u65 I agree! No boundries at all and Sunny runs the show. He treats her like she is his sister rather than his child. Be a parent, not a “buddy”!! Kids need and want guidance and they need to learn life lessons.
@auntkissy520 I know he desperately wants her to be daddy's girl. Bless his heart! She would be more his girl if she feels like he has her back. And I don't think he understands that means he has to be tuff sometimes. Lol I don't think Derrick likes to be tuff with her. Maybe I am missing something. I am on the older side. And we had so be it. Dad said it and that settled it! I tried to raise my kids to feel like they mattered and let them have a say in everything we did. IT DIDNT WORK. Loli learned the hard way.
My two cents worth: if you say yes, say it once and mean it. If you say no, say it ONCE and mean it. If you keep saying no. No. No. They are learning to manipulate you till they get what they want. Imagine now what their teen years will be like! ❤ love you guys! ❤
I think it would help too if Sarah didn’t laugh when sunny is grumpy with Derek. Everytime sunny shows she doesn’t like him, Sarah acts like that’s okay. Instead she should tell sunny to not be mean to daddy
I remember when Derek run away from Sarah & refuse to lay Jack down for naps. At first it was funny a few times but zl started thinking Derek was teaching jack not to respect Sarah's authority as the still MAIN CAREGIVER & derek was competing for jack to LOVE him. I think derek NEEDS to GROW-UP & learn that being a PARENT is NOT a POPULARITY CONTESY nor a COMPETION with your LIFE PARTNER.GOD maybe sending DEREK KARMA through sunny so he can LEARN this IMPORTANT LESSON!!!😢😢❤ LOVE is NOT COMPETATIVE!!! COMPETITION can be DEVISIVE because it is about one person's ego NOT FAMILY UNITY. I🙏🏿 that Derek Sarah's ADORABLE FAMILY HEALS & becomes even Closer!!! I ❤ this family & sometimes when you see something if acknowledged can be mended it is the LOVING thing to say something. ❤❤❤🙏🏿❤🙏🏿❤🙏🏿❤🙏🏿❤ GOD BLESS the BEESTON family Always!!! ❤❤❤❤
@@gabiwonderwall0582this is the truth ...saying no is an act of love ..teaching them that life will not always go to your plan teaches resilience which is so lacking in today's world
"she won't let me hold her" that is your issue right there, Derik. You are the parent , you need to be strict and tell her daddy is looking after her right now not mommy and do not give in to her tantrums. If she screams put her in time out. She will soon learn not to disrespect you like that but he has full control right and is walking all over you now which is a recipe for disaster.
Derek, Sunny treats you like that because she's allowed to. You allow her to boss you around. Children need guidance & taught how to interact & treat their parents as well as with everyone else. Sarah, as a supporting partner, should be teaching Sunny to do things "with" you also. & you should be constructively making Sunny engage with you. Take her places. Stop allowing her to boss you around & be disrespectful to you & start teaching her who the parent is. Her feeling WILL get hurt. As ALL children experience. It's all part of the teaching, learning, & nurturing process
@Rosare yep. That's been for a long while When he and Sunny had the day together things went very well, no sarah I think she ( Sarah) subconsciously feeds it.
@@karenjacobson552 it has nothing to do with her being young. I spent 20 years working with children that did things like this. I have my masters in psychology, specializing in early childhood trauma and development, and that little girl is in control of both of her parents and they are allowing it that’s why instead of when she pushes her daddy away Sarah just smiles or says I’m sorry but it’s kind of chuckling about it. It’s been going on for a few months now but should be sunny. No, we don’t treat daddy that way and hand her over to daddy and walk away yeah her feelings are gonna get hurt because she’s not in control anymore, but it’s gonna make her realize I have to nicely too and also you’ll notice this video instead of Sarah saying it’s a phase she’ll get over it which by the way it’s not a phase anyone that says that kind of behavior is a phase is wrong. Yes, it’s a phase up until about nine months after nine months. They don’t do that kind of phase anymore, so you’ll notice Sarah says that he teases her when they are together and he said I thought every kid which they do. Sarah is just putting the blame on him. This is going to become a big issue between them in their marriage. If they don’t stop it now please go back and watch the video again and him trying to help her at the airport where Sarah is not around and watch how he is treated by sunny, her whining and pushing his hand away and he tries to help her when she’s trying to fix the skateboard and he put his arms out and she runs away. That is not normal. That is her controlling.
Sara is not helping matters by always laughing when sunny hurts Derek's feelings. She's learning that it's cute and funny and that her daddy doesn't matter
Professional here. I hope that you are not discouraged by the bluntness of some folks on here. Most suggestions here make sense-- let me try to communicate its importance. Think of boundaries as a fence. "Setting boundaries" is so easy to say, but the practice of it means not only that you set limitations on acceptable behavior, but also that you CONSISTENTLY enforce them. Consistency is THE KEY! because imagine them in a large field playing, and them sensing the fence transforms into their certainty for SAFETY for as long as they are inside the fence. They can be certain to be acceptable, courteous, proper, secure, safe, and seen for as long as they sense the fence. Inconsistency is the act of arbitrarily moving the fence at different times, and so our kids fail to feel TRULY secure because the fence keeps moving. Consistency must be kept among all caregivers and you must be consistently accepting/intolerant of behaviors that are similar to each other. Kids are also built to TEST the fence and push it ourward as they grow more autonomous. When you are consistent about what is okay and what is not okay, they "roam" more freely and they stop "pushing the fence out so much", until they really feel they need a bigger space. The feeling of safety WITHIN the fence is crucial to growing up happily. Children are more confident to be social, to explore, to discover, be curious, safe even to make mistakes when they feel safe within the boundaries of acceptable behavior. They don't question everything because within the fence, they feel protected, feel in the right, feel entitled to take and receive. Weak boundaries in early life is related to adult anxiety. Boundaries also serve as the best lesson for how people are allowed to treat each other. Getting away with bossing you around teaches her that bossing around people is acceptable behavior, unfortunately, especially because she's been allowed to feel that it is acceptable to boss around even her primary authority figures, you and Sarah. If this doesn't change, she will start to treat Jack and other people this way. It's only cute when they're very little. 😅 Last, boundaries contribute regularly to training our kids in the concept of disappointment and it allows them to develop emotional tools to handle that disappointment. If she hears No only sometimes, disappointment will transform into feelings of resentment and rejection, when in fact disappointment is a big part of life. We must develop a healthy relationship with it. So, Derek and Sarah, we hope you find the power of the gentle and firm NO. Gentle parenting does not mean permissive parenting-- it means finding the most loving and open way to consistently communicate what is acceptable and what is not. Here's your rule of thumb: be mindful of your vision of what ADULT you would like your kids to be-- if you wouldn't let an adult Sunny treat you like that (ex: swatting your hand away, bossong you around), then you've found your boundary and you should enforce it. Teach young Sunny now about boundaries, and Adult Sunny will thank you for it.
Bang on. You articulated exactly what I wanted to convey and it was done eloquently and to the point. Your analogy of the fence is spot on. Gentle parenting isn’t about letting this behavior go unchecked, it is more about setting those boundaries to ensure they understand and respect those set rules. Disappointment is crucial in our growth and development as well as the understanding that those parameters are there for a reason.
i always said when my kids are young . we are raising adults not children ..the comment is bang on ...i set boundaries very early for my own sanity but when you have children so early in life sometimes you don't have enough life experience to realise that saying no is an act of love .
@@tedditeddi beautifully said. One thing I have learned after 40 years of working with children is that even though they buck, they WANT boundaries. Like the OP said, it makes them feel safe. It also makes them feel loved. You set boundaries for their best interest which only proves you love them and care about who they become. I’ve had many children call me mean but when the chips are down it’s me they run to. BECAUSE they know I truly care about them.
Hi guys, I know this is so hard Derek, but most of these people are right; set Boundries! Otherwise you'll have major trouble the older she gets! It's ok to let her know your the boss! She will Respect you!! Love you guys, move back to Hawaii if you can!!! You and Sarah Love it as well as Jack. Have Fun!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
It is very important not to allow children to have anything and everything they desire. Children desire safe boundaries, and they look to adults to set those boundaries. Sure, initially, the child will be fussy because they have become a custom to getting all they desire! If you lay down the law, and provide clear boundaries as-well-as the consequences for ignoring those boundaries, they aren't going to be pleased at first. Once they understand (which happens quickly) that you are keeping them safe, the child will be more apt to gravitate to you for comfort and safety! Good luck, Derek! Hang in there and stand strong! You are the primary safety person in your family! The Dad is the guy who protects the family from any harm! Not necessarily the "buddy" to the kids! Once you have set your position as the protector, your children will be far more apt to come to you for comfort!
Cannot believe you state this is better than your own house in Utah .. you have a beautiful house.. yes, and like everyone else says you are pandering to her, and you need to set boundaries you need to set a routine.
Of course she's just a baby, but that's no reason to allow her to be rude to her Father. Teaching a child manners is an ongoing thing from the very beginning. You can't just start training in the middle of the trip...it creates confusion for them. The sooner you start the teaching the better. If you just accept their rude behavior then you're setting yourself up for a failure. If I was Sarah, I would just nonchalantly say to Sunny, that's not very nice! Trust me when I say that, I learned from experience! My husband was Merchant Seaman, so when he came home from Sea after being away for 4 months, our little girl (about Sunny's age) did not want to have anything to do with him, and he was heartbroken. But he more or less just ignored her bad behavior after the first couple of tries, and went about his business. I don't mean he ignored her completely, but he didn't try to hug her or do anything that might give her a reason to react negatively to him. Then she eventually started to go to him to see what he was doing, or eating...etc. She was curious. They ended up having a better relationship than she and I. 😂
Children need clear and firm boundaries to feel safe. They constantly test these to get a sense of their own limits and to know how contained / safe they are. It’s in essence a negative feedback loop. By the time children come to me with behavioural difficulties (dangerous levels) what they are really communicating is a) who loves me enough to make me feel safe? b) the only way I get attention is if I act out. The more clear cut the boundaries are the safer children generally feel. Simultaneously, they are learning and embedding those limits taught by their parents to self regulate and manage their own wellbeing (safety) and behaviour. The issue with joking/ teasing is it relies on a certain level of emotional understanding to figure out the intent and so it may be causing Sunny confusion. Maybe quit the teasing for a while and just be really clear in your communication - it doesn’t mean it has to be serious, it can still be fun. Just stay calm and be firm, even if you have to sit through some discomfort. It’s also good to be mindful that children go through separation anxiety - normally from one parent - at various stages and just need gentle and clear reassurance. The important thing is that you and Sarah are consistent and preach as it were, from the same hymn sheet. You will be fine. 😊
Great advice I gave 4 kids and 3 are girls. It is a phase and it will pass. We see what they put up and edit not the whole thing. I nursed mine and when they were that age they preferred me because of it. Go with it do the best you can and don’t pay attention to random strangers giving advice. The best is a great therapist if you are overwhelmed and exhausted. Every stage presents new challenges and each child unique personalities and finding the best way to guide them is key. Plus it does help after potty training and sleepless nights are over.
@@bethanycarlson3097 you absolutely can reason with a toddler. So you can reason with a European toddler, you can reason with a Russian toddler, you can reason with a Chinese toddler, but for some reason, you can’t reason with an American toddler 😂😂
Kids need boundaries and you two are about to reap what you sow. Part of this is that the two of job keep moving and aren’t personally settled yourselves and it’s rubbing off on your children feeling insecure.
As many other people have commented, You both act like her buddy not her parents. Set boundaries and stick to them, stop giving her every single thing she wants or she is going to be an absolute terror as she gets older. A firm but kind ‘No’ when behavior is unfavorable will soon do the job at teaching her. Or time outs, but seriously, both of you need to parent her not act like her friend. And both of you need to stop playing into the stupid ‘Sunny hates me’ narrative. She isn’t even 2 yet, she doesn’t understand what teasing is, Derick, not a smart way to bond with a baby. Sarah needs to stop laughing every time Sunny is ‘rude or mean’ to Derik and stop with the backhanded comments. Sunny is going to grow up into an absolute pain in the rear if you keep doing what you’re doing.
Derek use to run away from Sarah with Jack in fact competing with Sarah & undermining Sarah as a parent. Sarah may have some unacknowledged resentment from Derek's making parenting a competition about who is LOVED more by their kids. Kids shouldn't have to choose between parents.They might anyway but parents shouldn't ask them to. Derek & Sarah may need counseling so they learn to stop competing with each & support each other.Their personal relationship is the glue that holds the family together & gives their children a sense of security so it's really IMPORTANT that Derek & Sarah stop competing for their children's & learn to support EACH OTHER & SET BOUNDRIES with jack & SUNNY. i'm sorry but Derek saying to SUNNY " I hope someday that you won't HATE??? daddy" is JUST CRINGE!!! 🤢🤮😡 He is emotionally manipulating her & trying to make a baby feel guilty for her feelings for HIS EGOS SAKE!!! YUCK!!!🤢🤮😡
Derek use to run away from Sarah with Jack in fact competing with Sarah & undermining Sarah as a parent. Sarah may have some unacknowledged resentment from Derek's making parenting a competition about who is LOVED more by their kids. Kids shouldn't have to choose between parents.They might anyway but parents shouldn't ask them to. Derek & Sarah may need counseling so they learn to stop competing with each & support each other.Their personal relationship is the glue that holds the family together & gives their children a sense of security so it's really IMPORTANT that Derek & Sarah stop competing for their children's & learn to support EACH OTHER & SET BOUNDRIES with jack & SUNNY. i'm sorry but Derek saying to SUNNY " I hope someday that you won't HATE??? daddy" is JUST CRINGE!!! 🤢🤮😡 He is emotionally manipulating her & trying to make a baby feel guilty for her feelings for HIS EGOS SAKE!!! YUCK!!!🤢🤮😡
It’s so crazy how you say the house you booked is nicer than the house you live in… like if you aren’t blessed beyond words to have a beautiful home in Utah…
Right? They've got everything they could ever want and desire and they have no idea bc they are constantly looking for the next thing. They've got:Healthy family, very close extended family, money, safety, security, a gorgeous home, no stressful work like 99% of us do, ability to fly to Hawaii whenever and spend a month at a time.
You guys let the kids be the bosses, so then you’re surprised. There’s not an ounce of discipline or any kind of routine or stability for the children. You can never let the children dictate what you do, how you act, etc. you’re in a classic someone needed to be the boss, kids sensed that it ain’t you - so they became the boss. Good luck. The only way you’re going to deal with it is hard work and discipline and consistency. It’s very hard but it’s worth it when you don’t have horrid adult children.
She is just testing boundaries. I agree that she shouldn't be allowed to cry her way into getting what she wants. She's learning that if i cry and scream, I get my way. The good thing is that every kid goes through this at some point. You are great parents, and they are great kids. It will all work out!!
Poor Sarah; she is tired and cranky because she didn't get home until 2AM getting her hair done. Poor girl has to go to Hawaii today, and she knows that she won't get sleep on the plane. In the meantime, she seems "sassy" to Derek in front of the kids. Don't intend to be mean, but Sarah, it seems that you may be looking for sympathy. You have an incredible life, beautiful kids, and loving father and husband.
Yes, stop those tantrums now, because they will really get worse the older she gets. Learned behavior doesn't go away when you get older, it escalates. 16 year old Sunny throwing fits will not be good to deal with.
@davidcopperfield-notthemag397 if he doesn't put a kibosh on it now, he will be in a Hella trouble when she hits her teens. Like she wants a telsa instead of a toyota. Lol
WTH. Listen if that works for your kids great. In my experience she’s just exercising her right to say no which at her age is normal lol it’s just a tiny phase. If she’s unsafe then redirect her but this whole “don’t be mean to daddy” she’s not being mean she’s just being …… a baby.
It’s a phase ! Don’t worry! I work with families and kids under 3 and have seen this many a time. Boys often connect more to their dads around 2 and girls same . If mom is primary caregiver most days and she is in seperation phase than it would be normal for her or want mommy most . Just play near her and be fun and relaxed and let her come to you.
In my personal opinion which means very little, it might help for Derrick to stop being so “nice” ALL the time. Time to create some boundaries and assert himself. Be stern. It’s wonderful to be positive and kind and such a beautiful quality but when you don’t create boundaries because of it people will start stepping on you. Especially kids who pick up on that. That’s not fair to Derrick. Honestly saying this in the most gentle respectful way. Therapy would help so much. Sometimes I feel like Derrick allows himself to be stepped on. I pick up on the subtleties in the videos. I know that I know nothing about this family at all and only see glimpses and definitely don’t want to act like I know squat. I just think that Derrick is such a kind hearted person and his kindness gets taken for weakness a lot. I think he has a hard time sticking up for himself. The kids pick up on that and he deserves the best. I hope none of this gets taken badly I mean it with the upmost love and respect. I just think that therapy could bring a lot of insight into the situation. If he is already in therapy then maybe talking about that aspect specifically.
You have to remember YOU are the parent and their teacher. They will love you more for it if you are strict when you need to be. You never, never let the kids dictate to you. You after all are the parent.
Sarah also needs to encourage the little girl to be kind, he is her father. The fact that the little girl behaves like that and sarah doesnt react, is not okay.
I agree. Sarah gives my immature vibes. Maybe she likes that she is Sunny’s favourite. But they both need to set boundaries for Sunny, there is nothing worse and more annoying than a spoiled child and the only ones that can do something about is the parents.
@@Danish_girl thats exactly it, its up to the parents to show what is good behavior and what is not good behavior, and not reacting like these people is not how u teach good behavior
@@shelleylynn3033 i personally think the little girl sees sarah boss him around so she treats him the same way. Shes very rude to derik, and hes a very patient guy. I don’t know too many men in crutches thtd be willing to be alone w 2 kids just so the mother can go on a week long vacation, she walks all over this guy
Its a phase! Kids usually will cling to their mothers for the first three years of life . Also, when she acts out, when she's handed to you say something like ( be nice ) or ( no, sunny is nice ) you and Sarah be consistent in this together. It wont work if only one of the two of you, do this . Most importantly she totally loves you ! Relax your both great parents!
Derek, soon as you opened the sliding doors and said how good it smelled, I started to cry. That’s exactly how I feel whenever I land in Hawaii. It’s the smell. It’s fresh and clean and floral. The scent of the flowers says you’re home. Aloha. 🌺
Giving her anything she wants is the problem. She knows how to work you both. And, why don't you just move back to Hawaii? You're the happiest when you're there and you don't like the house you built.
@@sngray11 Things like that happen wherever you live, I think they’re the most happiest when in Hawaii, I don’t know why they left, it’s obvious they don’t like where they’re currently living, even the beautiful home they built they don’t appear to love it either yet as soon as they arrived at the house in Hawaii, Sarah says the bedroom is better than what they have at home, yet they decorated it themselves…I think the next video will be them telling everyone that they’re moving back to Hawaii and this trip is probably them looking around for a home….just my opinion..
It bothered me when Derek said ".. we allow her to dictate ....". Well, then, don't you end up with a dictator? My dad was a loving unconditionally, kind pushover like Derek. It took me a while , and being away, to realize how loving he was and to not take him for granted. Then seeing my appreciation of him my brothers then saw how great he was too . Now we regret every moment we didn't appreciate him. Though my mother never told us to appreciate my dad more, and I think she should have, she never smirked , made jokes, or laughed at him. Though she was a strong, self willed woman, we saw how she always went to him for his opinion and advice. This made us realize how intelligent he was. People and animals, kids especially, learn by example
Love to see you back in Hawaii and enjoying the beach. Derek don't tease Sunny. Most children hate being teased. However, when Sarah needs a break, Sunny is just going to have to get used to that. She's a strong personality - cute as a button but very determined. Both your children have strong personalities. Jack has great co-ordination. ❤❤❤❤❤❤. This break at the seaside will be fabulous for you all. Utah is very beautiful and I adore the mountains but no seaside is huge for me.
This. Sarah’s response to Sunny’s treatment of Derek is almost approval. Maybe Sarah respects Derek, but it feels like Sunny doesn’t think so. I think you all are great, not trying to be hurtful.
The grass is always greener. Live in Utah close to family and visit Hawaii. It will make it even more special ❤ Having lived apart from family when my kids were younger I totally see the benefit of living near grandparents and siblings. Hawaii will always hold a special place in your hearts. Who knows, maybe Jack and Sunny will grow up and go to school there and get married to someone there. That would make it even more special❤
Sunny loves you so so much❤ shes just in a mommy phase right now. Dont try so hard .....when you stop trying so hard she will think " oh daddys not paying attention to me" and she wont have that😉 She will be chasing you😊❤
Unfortunately, he’s already done that this is all about that baby girl controlling her mom and her dad and they need to put their foot down and say you don’t treat daddy like that especially if Sarah tells her that and Sarah says no go to daddy when she pushes him away and goes to her instead then she’s gonna realize OK. I can’t control them anymore but also, she didn’t have the same upbringing as directed in those early emotional and mental formative growth spurts because he had two major surgeries since she’s been born where he couldn’t play with her and run around with her and spend time with her but it’s gotten to a point that now it’s just her controlling both of them and they really need to fix it and if they can’t fix it themselves, they need to go see someone that will help them fix it and there’s no shame in that I spent 20 years helping children through these processes
Even though I think the advice around directing Sunny as parents is sound advice, it is also completely normal for children to be different to one another. I have two boys and a younger girl (plus one more girl due soon), they all needed and responded differently to each of us as parents. All you need to do is keep trying to connect with her in ways she connects with, don’t give up even if it sucks to have that rejection right now. Keep being assertive when necessary with bad behaviours and gently trying to connect with her on her level where you can and she’ll eventually want you more and connect more with you. Phases like this happen and it’s okay. Just be consistent. You’re doing great, both of you! 😊 I’m also your guys age, so I get it all.
My youngest was like that with his dad for a long time. My advice is to just focus on helping Sarah with whatever she needs while she’s busy caring for Sunny. This phase will pass. ❤
No necessarily my nephews or three years apart and the other one doesn’t get as much attention and he gets angry and he gets in trouble all the time he’s always doing something really bad and he’s only five years old. on the other one is better so they treat him better. But they just put my nephew that’s five in karate and it’s actually helping him now so he can learn structure and stuff stop acting bad
@@SarahAndDerik people are only trying to help you as they have experienced it already you only comment to people who don’t tell it how it is appreciate those with facts you may not like it. But don’t ask if you don’t want to hear the answers and then ignore those people it’s not like you comment much anyway I was a big fan up till now it won’t make any difference to you if I’m subscribed or not but listen to the majority of peoples answers not this many can be wrong have a great life with your family🇬🇧
You guys are young, you got married young . The children that you and your wife have together are also young. It is time that you two need to step up to older humans not even with their off spring! Read, talk to older parents,etc... & learn how to parent not just be friends with them. If they don't have boundaries they will never learn how to be good parents like l know you two want to be. Remember to do what you want them to do. They will learn from your example. Hate to say these words, esp when you don't know how, but GROW UP! Learn if you do not know how!!!!!!!😢
Stop laughing at everything she does. You are trying way to hard. Just live your life and stop spoiling them. Make them mind you and stop giving into them. You can show authority without being mean. Boundaries.
Hydrate and make sure your getting enough electrolytes as well. Flying causes dehydration. Which can cause headaches. Nourish and hydrate your bodies. God bless and protect all of you!!❤
Derik Tip: normalize how you wish your relationship with sunny would be until it becomes a habit. Like say I love you 24/7, and treat him as you treated jack when he was a baby, and since she’s always fussing or wanting Sara, distract her with something she loves and already have it ready like food or toys or sing a song like that Rachel girls songs that are so catchy she would start singing along, something to distract her mind!
He's never paid her any attention at all. Couldn't even get her out of her pajamas. They favor Jack and keep Sunny alone in the basement. Not surprised she doesn't like him, he doesn't like HER and makes it clear. He never plays with her, reads, to her or pays her any attention at all. NOW he's surprised she doesn't like HIM??🤦 Rich...
Hey Derek! My son is in the same phase too. Try giving her some space when you’re near her. When you enter the same room as her, smile, wave and then walk away. This way you can still be gentle and loving, but at the same time giving her space. I told my husband to do this with our kiddo who is in the same phase as sunny and it worked for us!
what are y’all saying she is literally a baby stop complaining and commenting on other people’s kids y’all need to stop it’s annoying at this point their are perfectly raised and the parents are going to make mistakes their human no reason to bring them down on one
Why don’t you listen to what Derek asked? He wanted us to comment! Sunny is spoiled and has no boundaries, that is a fact. They are not perfect, nobody is. And you can just stop reading the comments if you don’t like what you read!
@@Danish_girlshe’s a baby. She’s not spoiled. She’s a BABY. She’s slowly starting learn her own little boundaries and choices and that’s normal AND healthy. She can’t even talk to be disrespectful. These are small phases that she’ll ease out of. 😂😂
I still don't understand why they built a beautiful home in Utah and now hate it. Hawaii is so expensive. They must be making tons of money to be able to keep going back to Hawaii. 30 days? must be nice
Sunny needs to learn that Derrick is her dad and he is in control. She can’t be given whatever she wants, and Sarah needs to help her understand this! That Derrick has some authority too …
I was Sunny. I’m 27 and my dad tells me he did not like me as a young one because I didn’t like him. I would scream if he held me. He could never “watch me” on his own. Now I’m a daddy’s girl ❤️
Glad you had a safe flight. Seems you should move back to Hawaii, since you love it so much, and are so comfortable there. It's okay Derek. Sunny will be back to being a Daddy's girl before you know it. Of course, she still loves you Just be patient. Also, she is discovering things she can do as a "big girl" like pushing the stroller. Let her. Let her help pick up.her toys. You can make a game a game of it. Jack can teach her a few things that he's learned as the "big brother." Besides helping Sarah with the kids, you can.also.help.her with other things. Don't know how to do something? Learn, and give her a break. Just ask her what you can do to make things easier.for her. Congratulations on 3 million subscribers, and counting!
Maybe she's not daddy girl she will always stay mommy girl why you say she will be back to daddy girl like it's rule and obligatory and girls have to love their dads more than moms I'm mommy girl and I love my dad there is nothing wrong with girl being mommy girl
Not if they don’t put their foot down and address the behavior she’s controlling both of them because before Sarah felt bad that Sonny wouldn’t go to him or wouldn’t spend time with him and hug on him and play with him now it’s gotten to the point where Sarah laughs about it, which makes sunny think it’s even funnier and promotes it even more and then you’ll notice in this video Sarah has now gotten to the point where she blames and says it’s because he teases her. She’s too young to understand he’s even teasing her and says it’s a phase. It’s not spent 20 years explaining to people how it’s not a phase. It was literally my job working with children through this process, but this is controlling both of her parents and they need to put their foot down especially Sarah and say we don’t treat daddy like that and her over to her daddy and walk away. Her feelings will get hurt but she will learn.
don’t worry about Sunny; i would just truly let her be.. don’t even extend yourself anymore; parenting is tough but children don’t dictate everything and every moment either.. me personally, i wouldn’t be trying so hard, Papa.. she’ll come around.. no peeing and pooping pants either.. Strong Daddy grownup doesn’t play that kind of silly💪
Her eyes tell a completely different story than her face and voice do. Derek’s injuries took a big toll on her and it seems like she is just always annoyed with Derek. I see spite and some other stuff I won’t mention……it’s worrying. I hope they get some therapy and manage to keep their marriage healthy. No hate please.just sharing an opinion like everyone else commenting here
Derek, don’t let it hurt you that Sunny wants only mom. I had a boy and girl two years apart and my daughter was so attached to me. She wouldn’t let anyone touch her. It hurt her dad’s feelings too but she will grow out of it. She may probably always prefer mommy but it’s normal. It’s hard when your son is equally wanting you both bcus it’s fair and more fun. Dads are always going to be more fun, so you got that going for you. Love you guys, 💜 PS - don’t listen to stupid comments below saying, “she treats you like that bcus you allow her to” that is bullshit! She’s her own person and deserves the respect of not being forced or punished for her preferences. I absolutely hate it when parents dismiss their child’s needs by forcing their own beliefs onto them. It’s damaging and causes mistrust in children.
All babies go through phases. I would let her fuss and cry and hold your ground with Sarah's support so sunny sees a united front between both of you. She will get over it.
Derik. She recognises that you try too hard .its a phase. Relax. Just do fun things with her toys but don’t ask her to play, let her come. Do things with her toys that she can’t do. She’ll be intrigued ! But ignore! Let her ASK for your attention!!!
@@deborahjohansen1776 Yep! TO ME RAISING KIDS IS SOOOOOOOOO EZ BREEZY≈ZY. Sunny is going to be a SPOILED BRAT if Derek feeds TOO MUCH into this. SUNNY DOES NOT CONTROL YOU DEREK NOR THE HOUSEHOLD‼️🙅🏼♀️ HECK NO IT'S NOT GOING TO BE A PHASE EITHER "IF" Y'ALL KEEP KISSING HER TINY SHINY HINEY!🤣😂😁🤭🫣 THIS DOESNT TAKE A ROCKET🧐🥸🥽🥼🚀🤓🛸⚗️🧪🧫🔬🔭📡🌡🪐🌠☄️🙈🙊🙉 SCIENTIST TO FIGURE THIS ONE OUT! QUIT KISSING SUNNY'S BACK END. YOU TOO SARAH. LET THAT LITTLE GIRL GO TO "ALL" OF YOU; INCLUDING JACK! HE DOESNT HAVE TO KISS HIS SISTER'S BACK END EITHER! YOU ALLLLLLLL ARE THE REASON SHE & ALLLLL KIDS START THIS THING OUT IN THE 1ST PLACE BCUZ EVERYONE KISSES THEIR 'LIL MISS "CONTROLLER'S' BACK ENDS EVERYTIME THEY LET OUT THE LEAST 'LIL WIMPER WOO WOO OR WAA≈WAA‼️ IT'S THE TRUTH YOU GUYS‼️ JUST CUZ SUNNY'S NOT HAPPY FORSNT MEAN Y'ALL NEED TO JUSY DROP & ROLL WHEN THAT KID LETS OUT A FUSSY WANKER WOO‼️ PLEASE COME KISS MY BUTT & GIVE ME SUNNY SUNSHINE; ALL YOUR GUYS EXHAUSTING; & TONS OF Y'ALL SENSORY WAAAAAY OVER-LOAD SO "I: ; "THE SUNNY BIT OF BEACHY SUNSHINE CAN GO BLAME EACH & EVERYTHING YOU DO TO TRY & MAKE ME STOP CRYING. GUESS WHAT⁉️ IT'S YOUR FAULT! THAT LIL GIRL HAS Y'ALL WRAPPED & WOUND SO GOSH DARN TIGHTLY AROUND HER LITTLE FINGERS; Y'ALL ARW STARTING TO LOOK A BIT STUPID DEREK! YOU ARE SO 🩷LOVED🩷 BY THAT LITTLE GIRL; SHE IS JUST ENJOYING THIS GAME SHE HAS ON Y'ALL BUT ITS NOT NICE AT ALL WHAT SUNNY HAS BEEN DOING SO HOW ABOUT YOU GUYS START BEING THE ADULTS HERE & SHOPPING ALL SUNNY'S SHENANIGANS & MAKE HER COME FOR "YOUR" 🫵🏼 ATTENTION⁉️ I PROMISE SUNNY "WILL" 💯 % GOOOOOOO TOOOO ALLLLLLL YOU WHEN YOU IGNORE EVERY BIT OF HER ANTICS‼️ JUST IGNORE HER CRIES LIKE YOU DON'T EVEN HEAR HER‼️ GO PLAY WITH 1 OF HER FAVORITE TOYS SHE LIKES THAT SHE DOESNT KNOW HOW TO WORK IT OR PLAY WITH IT JUST RIGHT & WHEN SHE COMES TO TRY IT; LET HER; BUT DONT SAY 1 WORD...THEN LAY NEXT TO HER & SMILE...THEN GET UP & EAT SOMETHING YUMMY YOU KNOW DARN WELL SHE LIKES TO EAT...RIGHT NEAR HER SO SHE HAS TO GO WHERE YOU ARE; AND IF SEE IF SHE TAKES THE BAIT. IF SHE WHINES FOR IT....SAY NOTHING. MAKE A HAND GESTURE OUT TO HER. MAKE HER GO TO YOU! DO DONT GO TO HER NO MATTER HOW SHE WHINES. SUNNY IS NOW GOING TO HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO NOT BE A STUBBORN LITTLE 1. SHE NEEDS YO LEARN OF SHE WANTS SOMETHING YUMMY "YOU" 🫵🏼😊😉🥰HER FUSSY LITTLE BACK END IS GOING TO HAVE TO "GOOOOOOOOOOOOO TO YOU GUYS" OR GUESS WHAT⁉️ YOU EAT THE WHOLE DARN THING‼️ YES EAT IT ALL. GO GET ANOTHER ONE & REPEAT THE PROCESS‼️ I'M 😘 TELLING U; LITTLE MISS "WILL" GO TO YOU. YOU LET HER SHARE IT. SHE DOESNT GET THE ENTIRE THING UNLESS SUNNY DOES THE THE MORE "MORE" SIGN. EVERY CHILD SHOULD KNOW THAT HAND SIGN. YOU KEEP SHOWING SUNNY WHO IS BOSS; AND THAT HER RESPECT IS 💯% KEY 🔑 HERE; SHE 💯% WILL COME TO YOU ALL WITH HER LONG LOST 💕LOVIES💕, 🤗HUGS🤗 AND EVEN ALLLLLLLLLL HER SUNSHINY SUNNY 😘SMOOTCHEROOS💋 ‼️ RIGHT NOW ALL THAT 'LIL GIRL IS THINKING ABOUT RIGHT HOW SHE CAN MANIPULTÈÐ AGGRIVATE DONT CARE HOW MANY OF U PEOPLE TRY...IM GONNA MAKE YOU ALL FEEL BAD CUZ IM SUNNY WHO ISNT GETTING ANY...NO ❤LOVE❤ WILL YOU GET FROM ME CUZ I WILL SHOW YOU ALLLLLLLLLL SOOOOOOOO DIFFERENT CUZ IM SUNNY THE BOSS (SHE THINKS SHE IS); AS IN TEENSY TINY LITTLE MISS CONTROL FREAK; CUZ YOU ALLLL ALLOWED ME TO DO 👍🏼 THIS CUZ I'M SUNNY THE CONTROL FREAK YOU; ALL TAUGHT ME IT WAS A-O TO ACT THIS WAY & ITS NOT. DEREK! YOU WANT DADDY RESPECT...DEMAND IT SO TO SPEAK! IT'S SOOO "NOT" OK FOR NEITHER YOUR SON NOR YOUR DAUGHTER TO ACT LIKE THIS NO MATTER WHAT AGE! U JUST NEED THE THE TOOLS & TO KNOW HOW TO TURN THIS LITTLE SASSAFRASS LIL GIRL AROUND. SHE'S ALL ABOUT WANTING ALLLL YOUR ATTENTION BUT ITS A GAME TO SUNNY. YOU MAKE SUNNY GO TO Y'ALL ... NOT Y'ALL TO SUNNY‼️
@@Trust_No_One_0316 Well, that's just it...he's not parenting her. He's groveling for her love, so he's trying to be her big "yes man" buddy...thus allowing her to become a little dictator...Causing her to lose respect for him. Sad to see 😥
@@smooch2955 Again let this man raised his children. Y'all swear y'all know everything that goes on because of these little videos. He does the same stuff with his wife and son. The little girl is no different.
It's so crazy how pe I please comment like they know everything you guys are doing great! She will grow out of it just keep showing your daughter and family love like you always do and all will work out ❤
Sounds like sunny is going through a separation anxiety phase - totally normal! She doesn't hate you at all- mom is just kids go to safe space during these times. It'll end soon & all will be well. Your endurance through it is felt for sure. Yall are doing great ❤
I disagree. Hawaii is not a great place for “white” kids. The school system and racism is terrible. The kids should be growing up with their grandparents and extended family and in “white” Mormon Utah where they will have a better education and more opportunity. Just my two cents as I lived in Hawaii with my kids. That’s why we moved back to the mainland and just visit Hawaii 🎉👍🏻🤙🏻
Sarah, your own kitchen is your house is way bigger and dreamier than this place! I know you all love Hawaii but please don’t take for granted the gorgeous home you have and the blessings in it …
I don't think she was taking her life and house for granted. She was just excited about it. Sometimes, staying in a new place for a while makes you even more grateful for the home you already have. Just a new perspective.
Sarah and you both need to be on the same page when it comes to Sonny. If you dont nip it in the butt she will turn into a nightmare when she gets older
It is a phase So don’t try to give her everything she wants and let her run the show that’s part of the problem actually still have to have a little bit of boundaries in a firm hand and stuff regardless of if she’s in the Love dad phase or the not daddy faze
Who has ever just been able to tell a toddler something and have them listen. They are 100% irrational. Don't feel bad. My little girl is the exact same way. Mommy is her comfort but you'll all learn how to manage as you go ❤
Awww buddy, I feel your pain! Maybe instead of being so willing to give her everything, try a little playful tough love and tell her "nope you can't have daddy" and scurry away with a couple playful looks back. After a few times of this, make it a game, she'll start chasing you around.
That Hawaii house is so lovely you’re right but you guys please parent your children they aren’t the boss you are it’s good to let them have some independence but you need to teach them what is right and what is wrong and hitting dad is not ok. Please heed everyone’s warning pretty soon other people including yourselves won’t be able to stand your children. I don’t want that for you guys. Children are a blessing but raising them with a firm but loving hand is the difference of them waiting for you to die and inherit your stuff and then loving and taking care of you guys when you’re older. I am a teacher and have seen so much on the job and even in my own family (cousins etc) and you can trace it all back to how they were raised 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 please heed our warnings guys we only say it because we care about you 🥹❤️
How can you make videos saying that your daughter hates you?! That will be around forever! Be a kind, loving, interested Dad, play what your daughter likes. Teasing is not part of parenting! Or being a Dad, my husband never teased our son! He passed away from cancer at 43 yrs young when our son was 4 years old! That will be 26 years ago in December. Enjoy your life, your wife, your children! Stop saying things in front of your children(about them hating you). Children are pure, they do not know what hate is, or even the meaning of the word, especially at their age!😊❤
I hated when my dad and other family members would tease me, which was often. I was a kid so who was going to listen to me? Teasing is a form of emotional abuse. It seems harmless to adults, but young children don’t have the emotional maturity to understand it. I know it comes from a place of love but it’s a habit worth changing for your child.
Um reading some of these comments made my heart hurt. We never force ourselves on our children. If they say "no" their "no" matters and mean something. If we dont teach them that and force ourselves on them when they are not wanting it. It teaches them that any adult that tells them they want a hug or kiss they should give it cause that's what the parents taught by not listening to the boundaries they were trying to set. (I know from experience) As for Derick and Sara this phase will pass. She loves you too Derick just rn a toddler wants their mom's more. It will change tho. There will be a time she will not want mom and it will all be about dad. Just keep doing what y'all are doing..keep showing love to those kids. I enjoy y'all's vids..you are GREAT parents!!
So i'm pretty sure that your daughter's just going through a phase mine did the same thing, But my two youngest daughters are only 11 months apart😮 But, and it's really strange because they both went through this phase with my husband at the same exact time.. So normally we take turns with the girls, because having two little ones so close in age was really hard for me. And when that phase came in when they wanted nothing to do with their dad, I almost lost my mind.. The only thing I can say is let her come to you for things. Don't try to get her attention as much.. Maybe sit down and start playing with her toys and let her come over to you.But don't ask her to play, I know it sounds weird, but it works.. My husband would just get down on the floor and start playing, and they would eventually come to him.
It’s a phase. I don’t like the “be strict” advice. You not training your child like a puppy, you accept and love her, that’s what will bring the best result. It takes courage to go against the stubborn ideas we all still have. Love and respect are the most important. Treat your child as a loved one, you won’t be strict with your wife if she is tired and in a bad mood, same with kids ❤
I feel like Sarah wears the pants and is also having a control issue just like Sunny. I don’t see any love toward Derek either. Sarah can actually seem cold but at the same time immature. I think when you are a Mormon and get married so young and so quickly, it can cause issues later on, they are just not ready and they loose themselves in marriage and kids.
. Yes but something has changed sometime either b4 or after sunny was born but its getting more noticeable. It's like she's falling out of love. . Heck I don't know but something is gonna happen within a yr or so. Sometime she seems like she don't even like derik almost like he embarrasses her. It's weird and all body language
@@kimsims9293I think it’s after he had his leg injury. I feel she lost respect for him after that. She’s been so upset that he got his leg broken and made her the sole provider. She leaves home for weeks on end for vacations. Sometimes even a month and some days. It’s crazy. She did that a lot for a while, though she’s stopped. I get she needed some time out but she talks to him anyhow just cause he had his leg injury. He makes it worse by being a Mr Too Nice Pants to all of them. Sometimes you have to man up. Your family should not be making you depressed. He seems depressed to me. And he feels bad for making her the sole provider. So he lets EVERYTHING fly. She’s never seemed to feel bad for him for his injury. Just angry and embarrassed. I don’t know. Just what I noticed. Injury or not, you are the man of the house. Woke feminism or not, sometimes you should stand on your word and your family should respect that. I am a woman mind you.
I always have thought this. She gets annoyed with him quick and in the podcast with all 4 of them she doesnt listen to him and always cuts him off. He tries so hard to please her but it’ll eventually get tiring
@@Jhanjar12 we only see what they allow us to see, so these little snip its of her being rude to him are likely just the tip of the iceberg. I hate how she mimicked him so rudely then passed it off as some kind of joke. It’s not funny-it’s emotionally abusive. How sad for him. I wish he’d develop a stronger backbone.
Quit allowing this ridiculous behavior! Let her know who’s in charge! If you don’t you’re going to have problems with her when she goes to school. Sunny has to be taught to respect authority! She might throw a few tantrums but that’s way easier than being thrown out of preschool! Yes, that’s a thing! Show her who the parent is!
Your kids will go through phases where they favor one parent or the other. I remember a time when my kids were little that I used to tease my husband and say they would jump over my dying body just to get to him! It’s just a phase.❤
Derik, I’m sorry your going through a disconnect with Sunny right now. It’s hard because you wanted a girl so badly thinking it would be a certain way. Girls are fickle sometimes. Kids will pick a favorite parent at different stages of development. Do not let it go to heart. My daughter has four and the youngest two girls do not get to see dad much so they are real big daddy’s girls but…. it becomes hurtful the way they only want him after mom has done everything for them all day. It’s a give and take. There are so many days ahead and it will change. You are a great dad. Keep your family in church, put God first and everything else will fall in line as it should be, in Jesus name! God bless you guys. Thanks for sharing.
@@Dawn-tv1bk yea I saw that , I just see them glow in Hawaii, not saying they’re not happy in Utah but I believe their hearts are in Hawaii and I don’t think they’ll be in Utah too much longer. 🤷🏼♀️
The "Sunny hates Derik" storyline is ridiculous. There is plenty of footage of her laughing, happy, and completely engaged with you. She has had a super long day.
The fact you guys are always together and all love Hawaii, why don’t you all buy one biggish house in Hawaii and have your two separate homes in Utah? Summer’s in Hawaii and school years in Utah? Then you can rent out the home in Hawaii, while you’re in Utah. Sounds like a win-win to me! ☺️
Sarah...I know taking care of long hair is different (more care all around) & if you color it- bleach, it can be challenging. Maybe the night before isn't the best idea? - Freshly bleached - protect & cover that hair from the strong sun & ocean!!!
Not that you're not getting enough parenting advice ......been wanting to say this for a long time. You are the parents....set boundaries, stick to them. She's got you two doing whatever she wants just by throwing a fit.
Going through a similar phase but we sit down with our child and we both do not allow it - it’s not okay. Choices are fine but disrespect is never going to be okay. We will take away items and or they can sit in the corner. I mean you can’t just give her things to overlook it that’s going to create a bigger issue down the road. But it’s okay you guys got this it will get better!! 💗💗
Love y'all sharing your life with the world and it's not our business. Sarah needs more sleep, more help and more acknowledgement from the family. Sending light & love.
More help?? She has 2 kids, she doesn’t work, and has a husband who doesn’t work. When they aren’t on vacation every other month, they are home playing house with their kids. Exactly what does she need help with? She has it easy compared to 99% of other moms.
Giving her whatever she wants so that you feel liked? That’s nuts bro, this will not be a phase if you keep this up. Teasing is no bueno, love her don’t force it and stop giving her whatever she wants. She will end up being an entitled brat when she’s older. You guys have an adorable family and you should cherish every moment! We can all tell how much you love your kids!
This is a young couple living for social media, raising kids in the public eye. Getting attention like this is very addictive and creates unusual family dynamics. Sending them best wishes for a balanced life.
Another great observation.
I would set some boundaries for Sunny. Giving her whatever she wants makes her realize she is in control of the situation. I can see how it hurts you Derik!! You are an AMAZING father.
He’s a good dad… definitely room for improvement
He's only a dad to Jack. He's not the least bit interested in Sunny. Going to be really sad when Sunny is older and watches these videos. She'll see how neglectful they've been been to her. Thank God for her grandparents..
@@dianah.9718 Since they vlog every thing, they haven’t treated sunny the same as they treated jack. It’s been pretty clear & sad that sunny is a second thought,Sarah seems to be gone so much,Derik home with the kids,sunny in the basement?? Sarah’s reaction to sunny when she has to be alone with her?
This couple should not have any more children,their focus is on themselves,hair,clothing,TRAVEL, especially Sarah,she’s just really into herself right now,has been for quite some time now.
She’s really into LO or is it Tanner? She has to be around them all the time! Her house is 7 miles away from Lo , she’s selling her custom new home, so she can live next door to Lo & Tanner?.. why? Shady!
@@BUTTERFLIESFLEW You got that right. It's all very messed up.
@FENCES-t2c WHOAH! Them's some pretty harsh words, FENCES-t2c...sheeeesh!? Btw, why are you even here since, clearly, you have no respect at all for these young parents? There's this guy on here who has a channel where all he does is belittle, critisize and laughingly trash other parent's with children here online that he does not like - calls them harsh names for showing their children online. Might that be you, hiding behind the alias, FENCES? Anyway, ya might be more at home on a channel like that.
Daddy she has learned how to be in charge. It's good to give choices. But she is the one controlling the situation. You have to tell her no, she can't treat you like that. BOUNDARIES!
@sthrnbil2u65 I agree! No boundries at all and Sunny runs the show. He treats her like she is his sister rather than his child. Be a parent, not a “buddy”!! Kids need and want guidance and they need to learn life lessons.
@auntkissy520 I know he desperately wants her to be daddy's girl. Bless his heart! She would be more his girl if she feels like he has her back. And I don't think he understands that means he has to be tuff sometimes. Lol I don't think Derrick likes to be tuff with her. Maybe I am missing something. I am on the older side. And we had so be it. Dad said it and that settled it! I tried to raise my kids to feel like they mattered and let them have a say in everything we did. IT DIDNT WORK. Loli learned the hard way.
Yeah makes it tough to watch
Phase: It gets better after about 2...My daughter was the very same...
*Boundaries
It’s important sarah supports you in regards to sunny…not just laugh at the situation, but take sunny and talk with her so you two show as partners
My two cents worth: if you say yes, say it once and mean it. If you say no, say it ONCE and mean it. If you keep saying no. No. No. They are learning to manipulate you till they get what they want. Imagine now what their teen years will be like!
❤ love you guys! ❤
I think it would help too if Sarah didn’t laugh when sunny is grumpy with Derek. Everytime sunny shows she doesn’t like him, Sarah acts like that’s okay. Instead she should tell sunny to not be mean to daddy
absolutely true ..they have to be a united front so the kids cannot divide abd conquer.......and i would cut out all the sugar
I remember when Derek run away from Sarah & refuse to lay Jack down for naps. At first it was funny a few times but zl started thinking Derek was teaching jack not to respect Sarah's authority as the still MAIN CAREGIVER & derek was competing for jack to LOVE him. I think derek NEEDS to GROW-UP & learn that being a PARENT is NOT a POPULARITY CONTESY nor a COMPETION with your LIFE PARTNER.GOD maybe sending DEREK KARMA through sunny so he can LEARN this IMPORTANT LESSON!!!😢😢❤ LOVE is NOT COMPETATIVE!!! COMPETITION can be DEVISIVE because it is about one person's ego NOT FAMILY UNITY. I🙏🏿 that Derek Sarah's ADORABLE FAMILY HEALS & becomes even Closer!!! I ❤ this family & sometimes when you see something if acknowledged can be mended it is the LOVING thing to say something. ❤❤❤🙏🏿❤🙏🏿❤🙏🏿❤🙏🏿❤
GOD BLESS the BEESTON family Always!!! ❤❤❤❤
Derek is teasing Sunny…didn‘t you hear what Sarah said?I wrote a comment months ago,where i asked him to stop this….must be so tiring for the kids.
@@evatripp7788This is what happens when you film 'life' for money....
Correct. SARAH SHOULD ACT BETTER IN THIS REGARD
Yes giving her everything she wants is your problem Derik, you have to say no and mean it, it’s one of the hardest things as a parent
It's only hard in the beginning. Kids learn quickly that a no remains a no and stop trying.
@@gabiwonderwall0582this is the truth ...saying no is an act of love ..teaching them that life will not always go to your plan teaches resilience which is so lacking in today's world
@@Lisa.06.12 its only hard when you don't ever do it.
"she won't let me hold her" that is your issue right there, Derik. You are the parent , you need to be strict and tell her daddy is looking after her right now not mommy and do not give in to her tantrums. If she screams put her in time out. She will soon learn not to disrespect you like that but he has full control right and is walking all over you now which is a recipe for disaster.
Derek, Sunny treats you like that because she's allowed to. You allow her to boss you around. Children need guidance & taught how to interact & treat their parents as well as with everyone else. Sarah, as a supporting partner, should be teaching Sunny to do things "with" you also. & you should be constructively making Sunny engage with you. Take her places. Stop allowing her to boss you around & be disrespectful to you & start teaching her who the parent is. Her feeling WILL get hurt. As ALL children experience. It's all part of the teaching, learning, & nurturing process
Also Sarah allows it, too by confirming that ridiculous „sunny hates me“ bs
Oh stop! She's young and just going thru her phase. She's just a baby❤
Creating a tiny terror😅
@Rosare yep. That's been for a long while
When he and Sunny had the day together things went very well, no sarah I think she ( Sarah) subconsciously feeds it.
@@karenjacobson552 it has nothing to do with her being young. I spent 20 years working with children that did things like this. I have my masters in psychology, specializing in early childhood trauma and development, and that little girl is in control of both of her parents and they are allowing it that’s why instead of when she pushes her daddy away Sarah just smiles or says I’m sorry but it’s kind of chuckling about it. It’s been going on for a few months now but should be sunny. No, we don’t treat daddy that way and hand her over to daddy and walk away yeah her feelings are gonna get hurt because she’s not in control anymore, but it’s gonna make her realize I have to nicely too and also you’ll notice this video instead of Sarah saying it’s a phase she’ll get over it which by the way it’s not a phase anyone that says that kind of behavior is a phase is wrong. Yes, it’s a phase up until about nine months after nine months. They don’t do that kind of phase anymore, so you’ll notice Sarah says that he teases her when they are together and he said I thought every kid which they do. Sarah is just putting the blame on him. This is going to become a big issue between them in their marriage. If they don’t stop it now please go back and watch the video again and him trying to help her at the airport where Sarah is not around and watch how he is treated by sunny, her whining and pushing his hand away and he tries to help her when she’s trying to fix the skateboard and he put his arms out and she runs away. That is not normal. That is her controlling.
Sara is not helping matters by always laughing when sunny hurts Derek's feelings. She's learning that it's cute and funny and that her daddy doesn't matter
I can't agree more
@@sweetbabynrs1 LMFAO OH GOOD LORD
I Agree !!! They are raising a BRAT !!!
Remember, daddy was always Jack’s favorite
Sunny is controlling grown adults. That’s a BIG problem now and later. Put your foot down and be dad not buddy.
I’m nowhere near old enough to have kids but if I had a kid I would out my foot down 100 percent
Professional here. I hope that you are not discouraged by the bluntness of some folks on here. Most suggestions here make sense-- let me try to communicate its importance.
Think of boundaries as a fence. "Setting boundaries" is so easy to say, but the practice of it means not only that you set limitations on acceptable behavior, but also that you CONSISTENTLY enforce them.
Consistency is THE KEY! because imagine them in a large field playing, and them sensing the fence transforms into their certainty for SAFETY for as long as they are inside the fence. They can be certain to be acceptable, courteous, proper, secure, safe, and seen for as long as they sense the fence. Inconsistency is the act of arbitrarily moving the fence at different times, and so our kids fail to feel TRULY secure because the fence keeps moving. Consistency must be kept among all caregivers and you must be consistently accepting/intolerant of behaviors that are similar to each other. Kids are also built to TEST the fence and push it ourward as they grow more autonomous. When you are consistent about what is okay and what is not okay, they "roam" more freely and they stop "pushing the fence out so much", until they really feel they need a bigger space.
The feeling of safety WITHIN the fence is crucial to growing up happily. Children are more confident to be social, to explore, to discover, be curious, safe even to make mistakes when they feel safe within the boundaries of acceptable behavior. They don't question everything because within the fence, they feel protected, feel in the right, feel entitled to take and receive. Weak boundaries in early life is related to adult anxiety.
Boundaries also serve as the best lesson for how people are allowed to treat each other. Getting away with bossing you around teaches her that bossing around people is acceptable behavior, unfortunately, especially because she's been allowed to feel that it is acceptable to boss around even her primary authority figures, you and Sarah. If this doesn't change, she will start to treat Jack and other people this way. It's only cute when they're very little. 😅
Last, boundaries contribute regularly to training our kids in the concept of disappointment and it allows them to develop emotional tools to handle that disappointment. If she hears No only sometimes, disappointment will transform into feelings of resentment and rejection, when in fact disappointment is a big part of life. We must develop a healthy relationship with it.
So, Derek and Sarah, we hope you find the power of the gentle and firm NO. Gentle parenting does not mean permissive parenting-- it means finding the most loving and open way to consistently communicate what is acceptable and what is not. Here's your rule of thumb: be mindful of your vision of what ADULT you would like your kids to be-- if you wouldn't let an adult Sunny treat you like that (ex: swatting your hand away, bossong you around), then you've found your boundary and you should enforce it. Teach young Sunny now about boundaries, and Adult Sunny will thank you for it.
Bang on. You articulated exactly what I wanted to convey and it was done eloquently and to the point. Your analogy of the fence is spot on. Gentle parenting isn’t about letting this behavior go unchecked, it is more about setting those boundaries to ensure they understand and respect those set rules. Disappointment is crucial in our growth and development as well as the understanding that those parameters are there for a reason.
i always said when my kids are young . we are raising adults not children ..the comment is bang on ...i set boundaries very early for my own sanity but when you have children so early in life sometimes you don't have enough life experience to realise that saying no is an act of love .
@Hootncozy i totally agree ...
@@tedditeddi beautifully said. One thing I have learned after 40 years of working with children is that even though they buck, they WANT boundaries. Like the OP said, it makes them feel safe. It also makes them feel loved. You set boundaries for their best interest which only proves you love them and care about who they become. I’ve had many children call me mean but when the chips are down it’s me they run to. BECAUSE they know I truly care about them.
@@sheshe902 solid truth here ..i hope they read it as all of us wanting to help xx
Hi guys, I know this is so hard Derek, but most of these people are right; set Boundries! Otherwise you'll have major trouble the older she gets! It's ok to let her know your the boss! She will Respect you!! Love you guys, move back to Hawaii if you can!!! You and Sarah Love it as well as Jack. Have Fun!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
It is very important not to allow children to have anything and everything they desire. Children desire safe boundaries, and they look to adults to set those boundaries. Sure, initially, the child will be fussy because they have become a custom to getting all they desire! If you lay down the law, and provide clear boundaries as-well-as the consequences for ignoring those boundaries, they aren't going to be pleased at first. Once they understand (which happens quickly) that you are keeping them safe, the child will be more apt to gravitate to you for comfort and safety!
Good luck, Derek! Hang in there and stand strong! You are the primary safety person in your family! The Dad is the guy who protects the family from any harm! Not necessarily the "buddy" to the kids! Once you have set your position as the protector, your children will be far more apt to come to you for comfort!
Cannot believe you state this is better than your own house in Utah .. you have a beautiful house.. yes, and like everyone else says you are pandering to her, and you need to set boundaries you need to set a routine.
Of course she's just a baby, but that's no reason to allow her to be rude to her Father. Teaching a child manners is an ongoing thing from the very beginning. You can't just start training in the middle of the trip...it creates confusion for them. The sooner you start the teaching the better. If you just accept their rude behavior then you're setting yourself up for a failure. If I was Sarah, I would just nonchalantly say to Sunny, that's not very nice! Trust me when I say that, I learned from experience! My husband was Merchant Seaman, so when he came home from Sea after being away for 4 months, our little girl (about Sunny's age) did not want to have anything to do with him, and he was heartbroken. But he more or less just ignored her bad behavior after the first couple of tries, and went about his business. I don't mean he ignored her completely, but he didn't try to hug her or do anything that might give her a reason to react negatively to him. Then she eventually started to go to him to see what he was doing, or eating...etc. She was curious. They ended up having a better relationship than she and I. 😂
Children need clear and firm boundaries to feel safe. They constantly test these to get a sense of their own limits and to know how contained / safe they are. It’s in essence a negative feedback loop. By the time children come to me with behavioural difficulties (dangerous levels) what they are really communicating is a) who loves me enough to make me feel safe? b) the only way I get attention is if I act out. The more clear cut the boundaries are the safer children generally feel. Simultaneously, they are learning and embedding those limits taught by their parents to self regulate and manage their own wellbeing (safety) and behaviour. The issue with joking/ teasing is it relies on a certain level of emotional understanding to figure out the intent and so it may be causing Sunny confusion. Maybe quit the teasing for a while and just be really clear in your communication - it doesn’t mean it has to be serious, it can still be fun. Just stay calm and be firm, even if you have to sit through some discomfort. It’s also good to be mindful that children go through separation anxiety - normally from one parent - at various stages and just need gentle and clear reassurance. The important thing is that you and Sarah are consistent and preach as it were, from the same hymn sheet. You will be fine. 😊
Our kids went through phases of loving mom and then loving dad. Just keep being available to her.
Bad advice
Great advice I gave 4 kids and 3 are girls. It is a phase and it will pass. We see what they put up and edit not the whole thing. I nursed mine and when they were that age they preferred me because of it. Go with it do the best you can and don’t pay attention to random strangers giving advice.
The best is a great therapist if you are overwhelmed and exhausted. Every stage presents new challenges and each child unique personalities and finding the best way to guide them is key. Plus it does help after potty training and sleepless nights are over.
@@bethanycarlson3097 what strange advice. I bet if your kid came from school and said he identifies as a cat now, you’d be ok with it 😂
@@serenasomerset nope! You cannot reason with a toddler though. It all evens out in the end. Just make sure they know you are there for them!
@@bethanycarlson3097 you absolutely can reason with a toddler. So you can reason with a European toddler, you can reason with a Russian toddler, you can reason with a Chinese toddler, but for some reason, you can’t reason with an American toddler 😂😂
Kids need boundaries and you two are about to reap what you sow. Part of this is that the two of job keep moving and aren’t personally settled yourselves and it’s rubbing off on your children feeling insecure.
As many other people have commented, You both act like her buddy not her parents. Set boundaries and stick to them, stop giving her every single thing she wants or she is going to be an absolute terror as she gets older. A firm but kind ‘No’ when behavior is unfavorable will soon do the job at teaching her. Or time outs, but seriously, both of you need to parent her not act like her friend. And both of you need to stop playing into the stupid ‘Sunny hates me’ narrative. She isn’t even 2 yet, she doesn’t understand what teasing is, Derick, not a smart way to bond with a baby.
Sarah needs to stop laughing every time Sunny is ‘rude or mean’ to Derik and stop with the backhanded comments.
Sunny is going to grow up into an absolute pain in the rear if you keep doing what you’re doing.
Derek use to run away from Sarah with Jack in fact competing with Sarah & undermining Sarah as a parent. Sarah may have some unacknowledged resentment from Derek's making parenting a competition about who is LOVED more by their kids. Kids shouldn't have to choose between parents.They might anyway but parents shouldn't ask them to. Derek & Sarah may need counseling so they learn to stop competing with each & support each other.Their personal relationship is the glue that holds the family together & gives their children a sense of security so it's really IMPORTANT that Derek & Sarah stop competing for their children's & learn to support EACH OTHER & SET BOUNDRIES with jack & SUNNY. i'm sorry but Derek saying to SUNNY " I hope someday that you won't HATE??? daddy" is JUST CRINGE!!! 🤢🤮😡
He is emotionally manipulating her & trying to make a baby feel guilty for her feelings for HIS EGOS SAKE!!! YUCK!!!🤢🤮😡
Derek use to run away from Sarah with Jack in fact competing with Sarah & undermining Sarah as a parent. Sarah may have some unacknowledged resentment from Derek's making parenting a competition about who is LOVED more by their kids. Kids shouldn't have to choose between parents.They might anyway but parents shouldn't ask them to. Derek & Sarah may need counseling so they learn to stop competing with each & support each other.Their personal relationship is the glue that holds the family together & gives their children a sense of security so it's really IMPORTANT that Derek & Sarah stop competing for their children's & learn to support EACH OTHER & SET BOUNDRIES with jack & SUNNY. i'm sorry but Derek saying to SUNNY " I hope someday that you won't HATE??? daddy" is JUST CRINGE!!! 🤢🤮😡
He is emotionally manipulating her & trying to make a baby feel guilty for her feelings for HIS EGOS SAKE!!! YUCK!!!🤢🤮😡
@@evatripp7788 fully agree! Excellent point 👍🏻
It’s so crazy how you say the house you booked is nicer than the house you live in… like if you aren’t blessed beyond words to have a beautiful home in Utah…
They come off ungrateful. They actually have a choice, not many people are that lucky.
No it’s because they don’t clean their house lmao
Right? They've got everything they could ever want and desire and they have no idea bc they are constantly looking for the next thing. They've got:Healthy family, very close extended family, money, safety, security, a gorgeous home, no stressful work like 99% of us do, ability to fly to Hawaii whenever and spend a month at a time.
@@nikkivenable73absolutely!
I mean, usually when I am on holidays the room is nicer. But I can't afford living there for the whole time
You guys let the kids be the bosses, so then you’re surprised. There’s not an ounce of discipline or any kind of routine or stability for the children. You can never let the children dictate what you do, how you act, etc. you’re in a classic someone needed to be the boss, kids sensed that it ain’t you - so they became the boss. Good luck. The only way you’re going to deal with it is hard work and discipline and consistency. It’s very hard but it’s worth it when you don’t have horrid adult children.
She is just testing boundaries. I agree that she shouldn't be allowed to cry her way into getting what she wants. She's learning that if i cry and scream, I get my way. The good thing is that every kid goes through this at some point. You are great parents, and they are great kids. It will all work out!!
Sarah blaming the problem on Derek instead of helping him by telling sunny to treat her dad nicely is insane
Poor Sarah; she is tired and cranky because she didn't get home until 2AM getting her hair done. Poor girl has to go to Hawaii today, and she knows that she won't get sleep on the plane. In the meantime, she seems "sassy" to Derek in front of the kids. Don't intend to be mean, but Sarah, it seems that you may be looking for sympathy. You have an incredible life, beautiful kids, and loving father and husband.
Tell Sunny "No! Do not treat daddy like that." She is in her brat phase. Do not bribe her. Get on top of it.
Yes, stop those tantrums now, because they will really get worse the older she gets. Learned behavior doesn't go away when you get older, it escalates. 16 year old Sunny throwing fits will not be good to deal with.
@davidcopperfield-notthemag397 if he doesn't put a kibosh on it now, he will be in a Hella trouble when she hits her teens. Like she wants a telsa instead of a toyota. Lol
Exactly!! And sarah should also tell her NO WE LOVE DADDY!!! Be kind!
@@nicolewade160 agreed.
WTH. Listen if that works for your kids great. In my experience she’s just exercising her right to say no which at her age is normal lol it’s just a tiny phase. If she’s unsafe then redirect her but this whole “don’t be mean to daddy” she’s not being mean she’s just being …… a baby.
She needs boundaries and don’t let her know you are bothered by her rejection.
Giving a child whatever it wants is not gonna help.Because that's just gonna make it anxious.It has to know where the boundaries are 😮
ITS A BABY SHUSH!!!!
She’s not an “IT”
It’s a phase ! Don’t worry! I work with families and kids under 3 and have seen this many a time. Boys often connect more to their dads around 2 and girls same . If mom is primary caregiver most days and she is in seperation phase than it would be normal for her or want mommy most . Just play near her and be fun and relaxed and let her come to you.
@vlogswalice. Actually, Sunny's not a baby anymore - she's a toddler.
@@WesternSkies-us7xw whatever
In my personal opinion which means very little, it might help for Derrick to stop being so “nice” ALL the time. Time to create some boundaries and assert himself. Be stern. It’s wonderful to be positive and kind and such a beautiful quality but when you don’t create boundaries because of it people will start stepping on you. Especially kids who pick up on that. That’s not fair to Derrick. Honestly saying this in the most gentle respectful way. Therapy would help so much. Sometimes I feel like Derrick allows himself to be stepped on. I pick up on the subtleties in the videos. I know that I know nothing about this family at all and only see glimpses and definitely don’t want to act like I know squat. I just think that Derrick is such a kind hearted person and his kindness gets taken for weakness a lot. I think he has a hard time sticking up for himself. The kids pick up on that and he deserves the best. I hope none of this gets taken badly I mean it with the upmost love and respect. I just think that therapy could bring a lot of insight into the situation. If he is already in therapy then maybe talking about that aspect specifically.
Utmost
You have to remember YOU are the parent and their teacher. They will love you more for it if you are strict when you need to be. You never, never let the kids dictate to you. You after all are the parent.
Sarah also needs to encourage the little girl to be kind, he is her father. The fact that the little girl behaves like that and sarah doesnt react, is not okay.
I agree. Sarah gives my immature vibes. Maybe she likes that she is Sunny’s favourite. But they both need to set boundaries for Sunny, there is nothing worse and more annoying than a spoiled child and the only ones that can do something about is the parents.
Completely agree, Sarah needs to back up daddy too, united parenting. ❤🙌🏻
thats a great point. Let sunny know how that hurts his feelings and its not ok to treat daddy that way.
@@Danish_girl thats exactly it, its up to the parents to show what is good behavior and what is not good behavior, and not reacting like these people is not how u teach good behavior
@@shelleylynn3033 i personally think the little girl sees sarah boss him around so she treats him the same way. Shes very rude to derik, and hes a very patient guy. I don’t know too many men in crutches thtd be willing to be alone w 2 kids just so the mother can go on a week long vacation, she walks all over this guy
Wow, Sunny needs some rules and boundaries. There is absolutely not anything cute about a child that acts like that. It is actually annoying!
Agree, these are the children teachers have a difficult time with because they take more individual attention.
Its a phase! Kids usually will cling to their mothers for the first three years of life . Also, when she acts out, when she's handed to you say something like ( be nice ) or ( no, sunny is nice ) you and Sarah be consistent in this together. It wont work if only one of the two of you, do this . Most importantly she totally loves you ! Relax your both great parents!
Thank you!!
It’s not always a phase. Most often it’s learned behavior that needs to be corrected properly. I think it’s the later in this situation.
Both of you need to grow up!
Massively!
the baby voice derrick uses is annoying and he is almost begging for Sunny s love .....
Oh good yes they do !
Derek, soon as you opened the sliding doors and said how good it smelled, I started to cry. That’s exactly how I feel whenever I land in Hawaii. It’s the smell. It’s fresh and clean and floral. The scent of the flowers says you’re home. Aloha. 🌺
Oh bless Derik's heart ... "maybe you'll love me one day" she obviously does, you will get there 🥰
Giving her anything she wants is the problem. She knows how to work you both. And, why don't you just move back to Hawaii? You're the happiest when you're there and you don't like the house you built.
Because they will probably hate it after being there. They had their two e-bikes stolen not too safe but no place is very safe anymore
@@Coffeeislife33They also had their car stolen there.
@@sngray11 Things like that happen wherever you live, I think they’re the most happiest when in Hawaii, I don’t know why they left, it’s obvious they don’t like where they’re currently living, even the beautiful home they built they don’t appear to love it either yet as soon as they arrived at the house in Hawaii, Sarah says the bedroom is better than what they have at home, yet they decorated it themselves…I think the next video will be them telling everyone that they’re moving back to Hawaii and this trip is probably them looking around for a home….just my opinion..
They are happy around Lo and family. @@-nellie-m3711
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It bothered me when Derek said ".. we allow her to dictate ....". Well, then, don't you end up with a dictator? My dad was a loving unconditionally, kind pushover like Derek. It took me a while , and being away, to realize how loving he was and to not take him for granted. Then seeing my appreciation of him my brothers then saw how great he was too . Now we regret every moment we didn't appreciate him. Though my mother never told us to appreciate my dad more, and I think she should have, she never smirked , made jokes, or laughed at him. Though she was a strong, self willed woman, we saw how she always went to him for his opinion and advice. This made us realize how intelligent he was.
People and animals, kids especially, learn by example
Love to see you back in Hawaii and enjoying the beach. Derek don't tease Sunny. Most children hate being teased. However, when Sarah needs a break, Sunny is just going to have to get used to that. She's a strong personality - cute as a button but very determined. Both your children have strong personalities. Jack has great co-ordination. ❤❤❤❤❤❤. This break at the seaside will be fabulous for you all. Utah is very beautiful and I adore the mountains but no seaside is huge for me.
This. Sarah’s response to Sunny’s treatment of Derek is almost approval. Maybe Sarah respects Derek, but it feels like Sunny doesn’t think so. I think you all are great, not trying to be hurtful.
I agree Sarah needs to step it up to encourage sunny to go with her father...
The grass is always greener.
Live in Utah close to family and visit Hawaii. It will make it even more special ❤ Having lived apart from family when my kids were younger I totally see the benefit of living near grandparents and siblings. Hawaii will always hold a special place in your hearts. Who knows, maybe Jack and Sunny will grow up and go to school there and get married to someone there. That would make it even more special❤
thats the plan! (for now......🤔)
@@SarahAndDerik next to Tanner 🔥
Your comment is one of the few kind ones on this video. You are a very kind person
Sunny loves you so so much❤ shes just in a mommy phase right now. Dont try so hard .....when you stop trying so hard she will think " oh daddys not paying attention to me" and she wont have that😉 She will be chasing you😊❤
Unfortunately, he’s already done that this is all about that baby girl controlling her mom and her dad and they need to put their foot down and say you don’t treat daddy like that especially if Sarah tells her that and Sarah says no go to daddy when she pushes him away and goes to her instead then she’s gonna realize OK. I can’t control them anymore but also, she didn’t have the same upbringing as directed in those early emotional and mental formative growth spurts because he had two major surgeries since she’s been born where he couldn’t play with her and run around with her and spend time with her but it’s gotten to a point that now it’s just her controlling both of them and they really need to fix it and if they can’t fix it themselves, they need to go see someone that will help them fix it and there’s no shame in that I spent 20 years helping children through these processes
Completely agree
It’s not a phase. There is a very easy way to deal with this that works every time, and they just don’t want to do that.
@cindyoffaithful4469 Spot on, Cindy! That's the truth! ❤
Even though I think the advice around directing Sunny as parents is sound advice, it is also completely normal for children to be different to one another. I have two boys and a younger girl (plus one more girl due soon), they all needed and responded differently to each of us as parents. All you need to do is keep trying to connect with her in ways she connects with, don’t give up even if it sucks to have that rejection right now. Keep being assertive when necessary with bad behaviours and gently trying to connect with her on her level where you can and she’ll eventually want you more and connect more with you. Phases like this happen and it’s okay. Just be consistent. You’re doing great, both of you! 😊 I’m also your guys age, so I get it all.
My youngest was like that with his dad for a long time. My advice is to just focus on helping Sarah with whatever she needs while she’s busy caring for Sunny. This phase will pass. ❤
@cherimichelle2473 100% agree.
great advice
No necessarily my nephews or three years apart and the other one doesn’t get as much attention and he gets angry and he gets in trouble all the time he’s always doing something really bad and he’s only five years old. on the other one is better so they treat him better. But they just put my nephew that’s five in karate and it’s actually helping him now so he can learn structure and stuff stop acting bad
@@SarahAndDerik people are only trying to help you as they have experienced it already you only comment to people who don’t tell it how it is appreciate those with facts you may not like it. But don’t ask if you don’t want to hear the answers and then ignore those people it’s not like you comment much anyway I was a big fan up till now it won’t make any difference to you if I’m subscribed or not but listen to the majority of peoples answers not this many can be wrong have a great life with your family🇬🇧
You guys are young, you got married young . The children that you and your wife have together are also young. It is time that you two need to step up to older humans not even with their off spring! Read, talk to older parents,etc... & learn how to parent not just be friends with them. If they don't have boundaries they will never learn how to be good parents like l know you two want to be. Remember to do what you want them to do. They will learn from your example. Hate to say these words, esp when you don't know how, but GROW UP! Learn if you do not know how!!!!!!!😢
Stop laughing at everything she does. You are trying way to hard. Just live your life and stop spoiling them. Make them mind you and stop giving into them. You can show authority without being mean. Boundaries.
Hydrate and make sure your getting enough electrolytes as well. Flying causes dehydration. Which can cause headaches. Nourish and hydrate your bodies. God bless and protect all of you!!❤
Thank you so much!!
@@SarahAndDerik also could be acclimating to the low elevation! sounds crazy but its a thing
Derik Tip: normalize how you wish your relationship with sunny would be until it becomes a habit. Like say I love you 24/7, and treat him as you treated jack when he was a baby, and since she’s always fussing or wanting Sara, distract her with something she loves and already have it ready like food or toys or sing a song like that Rachel girls songs that are so catchy she would start singing along, something to distract her mind!
He's never paid her any attention at all. Couldn't even get her out of her pajamas. They favor Jack and keep Sunny alone in the basement. Not surprised she doesn't like him, he doesn't like HER and makes it clear. He never plays with her, reads, to her or pays her any attention at all. NOW he's surprised she doesn't like HIM??🤦 Rich...
Hey Derek! My son is in the same phase too. Try giving her some space when you’re near her. When you enter the same room as her, smile, wave and then walk away. This way you can still be gentle and loving, but at the same time giving her space. I told my husband to do this with our kiddo who is in the same phase as sunny and it worked for us!
exactly almost gnore her but not! great advice
never let a child have power over you! at least dont let then know they have!!!
Sunny rules. She's got you both in training.
If you spoil sunny by giving her her own way she will be a nightmare continuously ❤️🇬🇧
❤ amen 🙏
what are y’all saying she is literally a baby stop complaining and commenting on other people’s kids y’all need to stop it’s annoying at this point their are perfectly raised and the parents are going to make mistakes their human no reason to bring them down on one
😂😂😂
Why don’t you listen to what Derek asked? He wanted us to comment! Sunny is spoiled and has no boundaries, that is a fact. They are not perfect, nobody is. And you can just stop reading the comments if you don’t like what you read!
@@Danish_girlshe’s a baby. She’s not spoiled. She’s a BABY. She’s slowly starting learn her own little boundaries and choices and that’s normal AND healthy. She can’t even talk to be disrespectful. These are small phases that she’ll ease out of. 😂😂
Jack is such a cool kid 🫶🏼😁. And hes such a good big brother.
So WOW, Sarah’s been to Hawaii three times in 9 months
They've got a rough life.
WOW !!! 😮 Really???? That's Outrageous !!!!
Are you praising her or hating on her? Like really who TF is counting?
Weird
Umm don't they have family and friends there?
I still don't understand why they built a beautiful home in Utah and now hate it. Hawaii is so expensive. They must be making tons of money to be able to keep going back to Hawaii. 30 days? must be nice
Sunny needs to learn that Derrick is her dad and he is in control. She can’t be given whatever she wants, and Sarah needs to help her understand this! That Derrick has some authority too …
Gosh Sunny is very cute and she will grow out of being clingy to Sarah. Jack has grown up so much and he’s so cute to. Beautiful family genes ❤️
Both growing up so fast!
I was Sunny. I’m 27 and my dad tells me he did not like me as a young one because I didn’t like him. I would scream if he held me. He could never “watch me” on his own. Now I’m a daddy’s girl ❤️
Glad you had a safe flight. Seems you should move back to Hawaii, since you love it so much, and are so comfortable there. It's okay Derek. Sunny will be back to being a Daddy's girl before you know it. Of course, she still loves you Just be patient. Also, she is discovering things she can do as a "big girl" like pushing the stroller. Let her. Let her help pick up.her toys. You can make a game a game of it. Jack can teach her a few things that he's learned as the "big brother." Besides helping Sarah with the kids, you can.also.help.her with other things. Don't know how to do something? Learn, and give her a break. Just ask her what you can do to make things easier.for her.
Congratulations on 3 million subscribers, and counting!
❤️ so true!
Maybe she's not daddy girl she will always stay mommy girl why you say she will be back to daddy girl like it's rule and obligatory and girls have to love their dads more than moms I'm mommy girl and I love my dad there is nothing wrong with girl being mommy girl
Just loving how Jack's personality is getting even cuter. It's funny how Sunny's hair has changed, and soon she will be all over Dada.😊
Not if they don’t put their foot down and address the behavior she’s controlling both of them because before Sarah felt bad that Sonny wouldn’t go to him or wouldn’t spend time with him and hug on him and play with him now it’s gotten to the point where Sarah laughs about it, which makes sunny think it’s even funnier and promotes it even more and then you’ll notice in this video Sarah has now gotten to the point where she blames and says it’s because he teases her. She’s too young to understand he’s even teasing her and says it’s a phase. It’s not spent 20 years explaining to people how it’s not a phase. It was literally my job working with children through this process, but this is controlling both of her parents and they need to put their foot down especially Sarah and say we don’t treat daddy like that and her over to her daddy and walk away. Her feelings will get hurt but she will learn.
Buddy is growing so much!!
@@prbd0985well said I hope they see this
Has nothing to do with love, but allowing. Sarah has a part in this too.
Sunny's not in a phase, she definitely need you guys to parent her.
don’t worry about Sunny; i would just truly let her be.. don’t even extend yourself anymore; parenting is tough but children don’t dictate everything and every moment either.. me personally, i wouldn’t be trying so hard, Papa.. she’ll come around..
no peeing and pooping pants either.. Strong Daddy grownup doesn’t play that kind of silly💪
Huh?
@@labab1048 what are u “huh’ing” about, labdab?
@@lesleyM84 🤣sorry! Just reread yours…
I had misunderstood
@@labab1048 🥰🥰
I am worried about Sarah, it seems like her heart just isn’t in it anymore. I hope it all works out ❤
That's same as I see it
Her eyes tell a completely different story than her face and voice do. Derek’s injuries took a big toll on her and it seems like she is just always annoyed with Derek. I see spite and some other stuff I won’t mention……it’s worrying. I hope they get some therapy and manage to keep their marriage healthy. No hate please.just sharing an opinion like everyone else commenting here
@@shanerogersconner2736 That's exactly how I see it too. I hope they find what they're looking for.
Derek, don’t let it hurt you that Sunny wants only mom. I had a boy and girl two years apart and my daughter was so attached to me. She wouldn’t let anyone touch her. It hurt her dad’s feelings too but she will grow out of it. She may probably always prefer mommy but it’s normal. It’s hard when your son is equally wanting you both bcus it’s fair and more fun. Dads are always going to be more fun, so you got that going for you. Love you guys, 💜 PS - don’t listen to stupid comments below saying, “she treats you like that bcus you allow her to” that is bullshit! She’s her own person and deserves the respect of not being forced or punished for her preferences. I absolutely hate it when parents dismiss their child’s needs by forcing their own beliefs onto them. It’s damaging and causes mistrust in children.
All babies go through phases. I would let her fuss and cry and hold your ground with Sarah's support so sunny sees a united front between both of you. She will get over it.
Derik. She recognises that you try too hard .its a phase. Relax. Just do fun things with her toys but don’t ask her to play, let her come. Do things with her toys that she can’t do. She’ll be intrigued ! But ignore! Let her ASK for your attention!!!
OUTSTANDING advice! You hit the nail on the head!
He is trying too hard!
@@deborahjohansen1776
Yep! TO ME RAISING KIDS IS SOOOOOOOOO
EZ BREEZY≈ZY. Sunny is going to be a SPOILED BRAT if Derek feeds TOO MUCH into this. SUNNY DOES NOT CONTROL YOU DEREK NOR THE HOUSEHOLD‼️🙅🏼♀️ HECK NO IT'S NOT GOING TO BE A PHASE EITHER "IF" Y'ALL KEEP KISSING HER TINY SHINY HINEY!🤣😂😁🤭🫣 THIS DOESNT TAKE A ROCKET🧐🥸🥽🥼🚀🤓🛸⚗️🧪🧫🔬🔭📡🌡🪐🌠☄️🙈🙊🙉 SCIENTIST TO FIGURE THIS ONE OUT! QUIT KISSING SUNNY'S BACK END. YOU TOO SARAH. LET THAT LITTLE GIRL GO TO "ALL" OF YOU; INCLUDING JACK! HE DOESNT HAVE TO KISS HIS SISTER'S BACK END EITHER! YOU ALLLLLLLL ARE THE REASON SHE & ALLLLL KIDS START THIS THING OUT IN THE 1ST PLACE BCUZ EVERYONE KISSES THEIR 'LIL MISS "CONTROLLER'S' BACK ENDS EVERYTIME THEY LET OUT THE LEAST 'LIL WIMPER WOO WOO OR WAA≈WAA‼️ IT'S THE TRUTH YOU GUYS‼️ JUST CUZ SUNNY'S NOT HAPPY FORSNT MEAN Y'ALL NEED TO JUSY DROP & ROLL WHEN THAT KID LETS OUT A
FUSSY WANKER WOO‼️ PLEASE COME KISS MY BUTT & GIVE ME SUNNY SUNSHINE; ALL YOUR GUYS EXHAUSTING; & TONS OF Y'ALL SENSORY WAAAAAY OVER-LOAD SO "I: ; "THE SUNNY BIT OF BEACHY SUNSHINE
CAN GO BLAME EACH & EVERYTHING YOU DO TO TRY & MAKE ME STOP CRYING. GUESS WHAT⁉️ IT'S YOUR FAULT! THAT LIL GIRL HAS Y'ALL WRAPPED & WOUND SO GOSH DARN TIGHTLY AROUND HER LITTLE FINGERS; Y'ALL ARW STARTING TO LOOK A BIT STUPID DEREK! YOU ARE SO 🩷LOVED🩷 BY THAT LITTLE GIRL; SHE IS JUST ENJOYING THIS GAME SHE HAS ON Y'ALL BUT ITS NOT NICE AT ALL WHAT SUNNY HAS BEEN DOING SO HOW ABOUT YOU GUYS START BEING THE ADULTS HERE & SHOPPING ALL
SUNNY'S SHENANIGANS & MAKE HER COME FOR "YOUR" 🫵🏼 ATTENTION⁉️
I PROMISE SUNNY "WILL" 💯 % GOOOOOOO TOOOO ALLLLLLL YOU WHEN YOU IGNORE EVERY BIT OF HER ANTICS‼️ JUST IGNORE HER CRIES LIKE YOU DON'T EVEN HEAR HER‼️ GO PLAY WITH 1 OF HER FAVORITE TOYS SHE LIKES THAT SHE DOESNT KNOW HOW TO WORK IT OR PLAY WITH IT JUST RIGHT & WHEN SHE COMES TO TRY IT; LET HER; BUT DONT SAY 1 WORD...THEN LAY NEXT TO HER & SMILE...THEN GET UP & EAT SOMETHING YUMMY YOU KNOW DARN WELL SHE LIKES TO EAT...RIGHT NEAR HER SO SHE HAS TO GO WHERE YOU ARE; AND IF SEE IF SHE TAKES THE BAIT. IF SHE WHINES FOR IT....SAY NOTHING. MAKE A HAND GESTURE OUT TO HER. MAKE HER GO TO YOU! DO DONT GO TO HER NO MATTER HOW SHE WHINES. SUNNY IS NOW GOING TO HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO NOT BE A STUBBORN LITTLE 1. SHE NEEDS YO LEARN OF SHE WANTS SOMETHING YUMMY "YOU" 🫵🏼😊😉🥰HER FUSSY LITTLE BACK END IS GOING TO HAVE TO "GOOOOOOOOOOOOO TO YOU GUYS" OR GUESS WHAT⁉️ YOU EAT THE WHOLE DARN THING‼️ YES EAT IT ALL. GO GET ANOTHER ONE & REPEAT THE PROCESS‼️ I'M 😘 TELLING U; LITTLE MISS "WILL" GO TO YOU. YOU LET HER SHARE IT. SHE DOESNT GET THE ENTIRE THING UNLESS SUNNY DOES THE THE MORE "MORE" SIGN. EVERY CHILD SHOULD KNOW THAT HAND SIGN. YOU KEEP SHOWING SUNNY WHO IS BOSS; AND THAT HER RESPECT IS 💯% KEY 🔑 HERE; SHE 💯% WILL COME TO YOU ALL WITH HER LONG LOST 💕LOVIES💕, 🤗HUGS🤗 AND EVEN ALLLLLLLLLL HER SUNSHINY SUNNY
😘SMOOTCHEROOS💋 ‼️
RIGHT NOW ALL THAT
'LIL GIRL IS THINKING ABOUT RIGHT
HOW SHE CAN MANIPULTÈÐ AGGRIVATE
DONT CARE HOW MANY OF U PEOPLE TRY...IM GONNA MAKE YOU ALL FEEL BAD CUZ IM SUNNY WHO ISNT GETTING ANY...NO ❤LOVE❤ WILL YOU GET FROM ME CUZ I WILL SHOW YOU ALLLLLLLLLL SOOOOOOOO DIFFERENT CUZ IM SUNNY THE BOSS (SHE THINKS SHE IS); AS IN TEENSY TINY LITTLE MISS CONTROL FREAK; CUZ YOU ALLLL ALLOWED ME TO DO 👍🏼 THIS CUZ I'M SUNNY THE CONTROL FREAK YOU; ALL TAUGHT ME IT WAS A-O TO ACT THIS WAY & ITS NOT. DEREK! YOU WANT DADDY RESPECT...DEMAND IT SO TO SPEAK! IT'S SOOO "NOT" OK FOR NEITHER YOUR SON NOR YOUR DAUGHTER TO ACT LIKE
THIS NO MATTER WHAT AGE! U JUST NEED THE THE TOOLS & TO KNOW HOW TO TURN THIS LITTLE SASSAFRASS LIL GIRL AROUND. SHE'S ALL ABOUT WANTING ALLLL YOUR ATTENTION BUT ITS A GAME TO SUNNY.
YOU MAKE SUNNY GO TO
Y'ALL ... NOT Y'ALL TO SUNNY‼️
Stfuuuu let that man parent his children
@@Trust_No_One_0316 Well, that's just it...he's not parenting her. He's groveling for her love, so he's trying to be her big "yes man" buddy...thus allowing her to become a little dictator...Causing her to lose respect for him. Sad to see 😥
@@smooch2955 Again let this man raised his children. Y'all swear y'all know everything that goes on because of these little videos. He does the same stuff with his wife and son. The little girl is no different.
It's so crazy how pe I please comment like they know everything you guys are doing great! She will grow out of it just keep showing your daughter and family love like you always do and all will work out ❤
Sounds like sunny is going through a separation anxiety phase - totally normal! She doesn't hate you at all- mom is just kids go to safe space during these times. It'll end soon & all will be well. Your endurance through it is felt for sure. Yall are doing great ❤
I have a feeling you guys will be moving back to Hawaii
It’s much better for the kids that is their HAPPY PLACE
I totally agree with you!
I disagree. Hawaii is not a great place for “white” kids. The school system and racism is terrible. The kids should be growing up with their grandparents and extended family and in “white” Mormon Utah where they will have a better education and more opportunity. Just my two cents as I lived in Hawaii with my kids. That’s why we moved back to the mainland and just visit Hawaii 🎉👍🏻🤙🏻
Not very nice for the Hawaiian natives forced out there own country by rich white Americans
I would much rather live close to family but that’s just me
Yep they’re so in love with hawaii!
Sarah, your own kitchen is your house is way bigger and dreamier than this place! I know you all love Hawaii but please don’t take for granted the gorgeous home you have and the blessings in it …
I don't think she was taking her life and house for granted. She was just excited about it. Sometimes, staying in a new place for a while makes you even more grateful for the home you already have. Just a new perspective.
Don’t forget all the dodgy burgleries there :/
Maybe Sunny just imitates her mother’s energy towards you.
I agree. Sunny is patterning her behavior with Derek on Sarah’s behavior. Derek, you are worth being valued and respected.
She's just in mommy mode. Sooner or later, she switch gears, and it will be all about you.. just mellow out, give her space, she will come around.
I soooooooo agree 👍🏼 with you!
Personally, I would not have my children on camera. I respect the parents who do not allow their children to be exposed. Just my opinion 🤷♀️
Sarah and you both need to be on the same page when it comes to Sonny. If you dont nip it in the butt she will turn into a nightmare when she gets older
It is a phase
So don’t try to give her everything she wants and let her run the show that’s part of the problem actually still have to have a little bit of boundaries in a firm hand and stuff regardless of if she’s in the Love dad phase or the not daddy faze
Who has ever just been able to tell a toddler something and have them listen. They are 100% irrational. Don't feel bad. My little girl is the exact same way. Mommy is her comfort but you'll all learn how to manage as you go ❤
Awww buddy, I feel your pain! Maybe instead of being so willing to give her everything, try a little playful tough love and tell her "nope you can't have daddy" and scurry away with a couple playful looks back. After a few times of this, make it a game, she'll start chasing you around.
Sunny needs to learn what the word " No" means.
Sunny you have the best Dad. She will realize this soon enough. 😊
That Hawaii house is so lovely you’re right but you guys please parent your children they aren’t the boss you are it’s good to let them have some independence but you need to teach them what is right and what is wrong and hitting dad is not ok. Please heed everyone’s warning pretty soon other people including yourselves won’t be able to stand your children. I don’t want that for you guys. Children are a blessing but raising them with a firm but loving hand is the difference of them waiting for you to die and inherit your stuff and then loving and taking care of you guys when you’re older. I am a teacher and have seen so much on the job and even in my own family (cousins etc) and you can trace it all back to how they were raised 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 please heed our warnings guys we only say it because we care about you 🥹❤️
How can you make videos saying that your daughter hates you?! That will be around forever! Be a kind, loving, interested Dad, play what your daughter likes. Teasing is not part of parenting! Or being a Dad, my husband never teased our son! He passed away from cancer at 43 yrs young when our son was 4 years old! That will be 26 years ago in December. Enjoy your life, your wife, your children! Stop saying things in front of your children(about them hating you). Children are pure, they do not know what hate is, or even the meaning of the word, especially at their age!😊❤
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I hated when my dad and other family members would tease me, which was often. I was a kid so who was going to listen to me? Teasing is a form of emotional abuse. It seems harmless to adults, but young children don’t have the emotional maturity to understand it. I know it comes from a place of love but it’s a habit worth changing for your child.
Um reading some of these comments made my heart hurt. We never force ourselves on our children. If they say "no" their "no" matters and mean something. If we dont teach them that and force ourselves on them when they are not wanting it. It teaches them that any adult that tells them they want a hug or kiss they should give it cause that's what the parents taught by not listening to the boundaries they were trying to set. (I know from experience)
As for Derick and Sara this phase will pass. She loves you too Derick just rn a toddler wants their mom's more. It will change tho. There will be a time she will not want mom and it will all be about dad. Just keep doing what y'all are doing..keep showing love to those kids. I enjoy y'all's vids..you are GREAT parents!!
So i'm pretty sure that your daughter's just going through a phase mine did the same thing, But my two youngest daughters are only 11 months apart😮 But, and it's really strange because they both went through this phase with my husband at the same exact time.. So normally we take turns with the girls, because having two little ones so close in age was really hard for me. And when that phase came in when they wanted nothing to do with their dad, I almost lost my mind.. The only thing I can say is let her come to you for things. Don't try to get her attention as much.. Maybe sit down and start playing with her toys and let her come over to you.But don't ask her to play, I know it sounds weird, but it works.. My husband would just get down on the floor and start playing, and they would eventually come to him.
Kids crave stability , rules, boundaries. Don’t b lazy parents, discipline is real love. Mormos r very big advocates for discipline
It’s a phase. I don’t like the “be strict” advice. You not training your child like a puppy, you accept and love her, that’s what will bring the best result. It takes courage to go against the stubborn ideas we all still have. Love and respect are the most important. Treat your child as a loved one, you won’t be strict with your wife if she is tired and in a bad mood, same with kids ❤
I have been watching just a short time. I do not see a lot of love from Sarah to Derek..is that new
I feel like Sarah wears the pants and is also having a control issue just like Sunny. I don’t see any love toward Derek either. Sarah can actually seem cold but at the same time immature. I think when you are a Mormon and get married so young and so quickly, it can cause issues later on, they are just not ready and they loose themselves in marriage and kids.
@@Danish_girlI don’t think the church is the problem
No, it's not new. I've been watching a long time and she has always treated him that way.
. Yes but something has changed sometime either b4 or after sunny was born but its getting more noticeable. It's like she's falling out of love. . Heck I don't know but something is gonna happen within a yr or so. Sometime she seems like she don't even like derik almost like he embarrasses her. It's weird and all body language
@@kimsims9293I think it’s after he had his leg injury. I feel she lost respect for him after that. She’s been so upset that he got his leg broken and made her the sole provider. She leaves home for weeks on end for vacations. Sometimes even a month and some days. It’s crazy. She did that a lot for a while, though she’s stopped. I get she needed some time out but she talks to him anyhow just cause he had his leg injury. He makes it worse by being a Mr Too Nice Pants to all of them. Sometimes you have to man up. Your family should not be making you depressed. He seems depressed to me. And he feels bad for making her the sole provider. So he lets EVERYTHING fly. She’s never seemed to feel bad for him for his injury. Just angry and embarrassed. I don’t know. Just what I noticed. Injury or not, you are the man of the house. Woke feminism or not, sometimes you should stand on your word and your family should respect that. I am a woman mind you.
It’s so obvious Sarah does not like Derrick. Mimicking him is cringe.
I always have thought this. She gets annoyed with him quick and in the podcast with all 4 of them she doesnt listen to him and always cuts him off. He tries so hard to please her but it’ll eventually get tiring
@@Jhanjar12 we only see what they allow us to see, so these little snip its of her being rude to him are likely just the tip of the iceberg. I hate how she mimicked him so rudely then passed it off as some kind of joke. It’s not funny-it’s emotionally abusive. How sad for him. I wish he’d develop a stronger backbone.
Quit allowing this ridiculous behavior! Let her know who’s in charge! If you don’t you’re going to have problems with her when she goes to school. Sunny has to be taught to respect authority! She might throw a few tantrums but that’s way easier than being thrown out of preschool! Yes, that’s a thing! Show her who the parent is!
Your kids will go through phases where they favor one parent or the other. I remember a time when my kids were little that I used to tease my husband and say they would jump over my dying body just to get to him! It’s just a phase.❤
Derik, I’m sorry your going through a disconnect with Sunny right now. It’s hard because you wanted a girl so badly thinking it would be a certain way. Girls are fickle sometimes. Kids will pick a favorite parent at different stages of development. Do not let it go to heart.
My daughter has four and the youngest two girls do not get to see dad much so they are real big daddy’s girls but…. it becomes hurtful the way they only want him after mom has done everything for them all day. It’s a give and take. There are so many days ahead and it will change. You are a great dad. Keep your family in church, put God first and everything else will fall in line as it should be, in Jesus name! God bless you guys. Thanks for sharing.
You guys are so moving back to Hawaii, there’s a definite happy difference. Much love and many blessings
Yes, seems like you two are in your element in Hawaii, happier for sure!
@@Elkeme right, even the kids have a glow to them being there. Little Jack was definitely in his element.
They just bought another house in Utah close to Lo and Tanner. Their offer was accepted but I don’t know when closing is or if it will go through.
@@Dawn-tv1bk yea I saw that , I just see them glow in Hawaii, not saying they’re not happy in Utah but I believe their hearts are in Hawaii and I don’t think they’ll be in Utah too much longer. 🤷🏼♀️
The "Sunny hates Derik" storyline is ridiculous. There is plenty of footage of her laughing, happy, and completely engaged with you. She has had a super long day.
All toddlers sometimes just want to be left alone to learn something for themselves.
Have you ever raised kids💀 clearly not, if you don’t think kids pick favorites sometimes.
Right?! She even sleeps in his arms on the plane, while Sarah was sitting next to her.
It's all in fun. Chillax
You guys are doing wonderful. You have so much unconditional love all the time. Jack and Sunny will be fine adults...
The fact you guys are always together and all love Hawaii, why don’t you all buy one biggish house in Hawaii and have your two separate homes in Utah? Summer’s in Hawaii and school years in Utah? Then you can rent out the home in Hawaii, while you’re in Utah. Sounds like a win-win to me! ☺️
Sarah...I know taking care of long hair is different (more care all around) & if you color it- bleach, it can be challenging.
Maybe the night before isn't the best idea? -
Freshly bleached - protect & cover that hair from the strong sun & ocean!!!
Too late
Not that you're not getting enough parenting advice ......been wanting to say this for a long time.
You are the parents....set boundaries, stick to them.
She's got you two doing whatever she wants just by throwing a fit.
So many smiles. The water play. You definitely missed Hawaii and it shows.
It's so amazing!!
It's so nice to see them grow up, They've grown up so much from the first time I've watched your channel! Hope you guys have a nice time! ❤✨
Going through a similar phase but we sit down with our child and we both do not allow it - it’s not okay. Choices are fine but disrespect is never going to be okay. We will take away items and or they can sit in the corner. I mean you can’t just give her things to overlook it that’s going to create a bigger issue down the road. But it’s okay you guys got this it will get better!! 💗💗
Love y'all sharing your life with the world and it's not our business. Sarah needs more sleep, more help and more acknowledgement from the family. Sending light & love.
More help?? She has 2 kids, she doesn’t work, and has a husband who doesn’t work. When they aren’t on vacation every other month, they are home playing house with their kids. Exactly what does she need help with? She has it easy compared to 99% of other moms.
@@heythere1640Additionally, babysitters, nannies and four grandparents. 🥴
Sunny is just as adorable as jack if not more. She is getting so big and grown up. What a beautiful family! Best wishes on your new adventure!
We're so fortunate! Thank you!!