I’m a therapist, former Kindergarten teacher, a mom and grandmother. I love watching your videos and following your family because you are wholesome, real and kind. ❤ Some kids are just more easy going than others, from birth. I think that, plus Derik’s injuries keeping him from being as present as Sarah, have made Sunny more comfortable with her mama. Plus, moms usually (not always) take over care of the younger child while dads usually take on the older ones. Now, it’s showing up as a bit of a problem, and it is totally normal and doable! 😉 I would not ask Sunny if she wants Derik. I would make certain routines ones that Derik usually does and some Sarah usually does. Sunny doesn’t get to choose which parent, no matter what (except in extreme situations). Let’s say Derik takes over the bedtime routine. Derik, it will be hard at first, because Sunny is used to fussing and Sarah taking over. She will protest for a while, and you can’t give in. Find a way to make it your own, making your own way of putting her down, certain books you read, or songs you sing, or funny voices you do. It might take a few weeks, or more, for her to get used to this. Sarah, I’m sure you will encourage and support him, and you CANNOT take over, even if she screams. Let Derik figure it out. He has to show Sunny that he is the parent, this is how things are going to go now, and that he will be the one there for her. She will act as if her little heart is broken (kids are good at that) but it isn’t, and you will be helping mend their relationship. Don’t listen to the trolls on here, or ones bashing you as parents. You two are great parents, and will find your way. You are a young family and becoming parents is so so hard. You learn as you mess up and try to do better next time. Your family is thriving and you are loving, present and attentive. Sunny just needs a bit more structure and routine. You’ve got this!!
@@cindibush8880 ummm what, pray tell, is 'foolish information'? How can anyone think that having more information to pull from in ANY aspect of our lives would be considered foolish? She's not telling them how to raise their kids, she's simply sharing her experiences and making some suggestions on what might work. Rather than telling someone "ya, I know" because you've heard it before, take the opportunity to hear a new perspective.
Yes,Derrick. You should start with something simple,like maybe just come to her and tell her (not ask her) in a normal voice : "Sunny,in a minute,Dadda is going to take you to put your shoes on." Then walk away. Sarah should say nothing and just talk about other things. And then,in a minute,just come to her and tell her that you are going to take her to put her shoes on now. Then you pick her up and go and do that. You can maybe give her a choice of shoes,so that she feels she has some say. Ignore the tantrum. Sarah should not interfere. Sunny will learn that you're the boss,not her. Just keep doing that with small things and if you persist,you'll see. She will accept it. Don't make a fuss.
As a momma of two this is exactly what should be done! Sarah is making the situation worse by playing into it like she enjoys the fact... @ragieburger-kc4lo
Ok, some advice from a preschool teacher: 1 - bathroom language is only allowed in the bathroom. If you wanna say poopy pants you can say it as much as you want in the bathroom but then it stops. They can get it out of their system but won’t get the feedback of having someone react to it. 2 - just stop trying with Sunny. Don’t ask her why she doesn’t like Dada, or ask if dada can put her to bed, just put her to bed. You’re giving her a response she’s enjoying (playing hard to get) by spending so much energy trying to get her to like you. She loves you, she just also loves making you work for it. So stop reacting to that! That’s my advice!
Sunny- Tell Sunny "don't say that to me/to dada". Both of you say it when you see her do it. Be united. It is disrespectful and hurtful. She sees it makes Derek sad. Then ignore it, don't plead with her. Then turn it positive and say, "use your words to say nice things". She likes your reaction Derek so say "no" and change the subject. Don't react. I remember the day my gorgeous blonde 1 year old daughter after I asked her to do something and she said, "no!" I was shocked and hurt. I immediately called an older mother friend and ask her what to do?? I was very upset that she was going to get meaner. Without hesitation my friend said, "Tell her no! Don't say that." She quit. Setting boundaries and learning that her actions have consequences was a great thing to teach her.
Take a couple steps back and allow Sunny to approach you. Let her see you interacting with Jack and others without excitedly talking with her. Calm it down. When she finally holds her arms out for you keep calm and just smile. Allow her to get comfortable with your quiet side. This worked really well for my husband and our daughter.
My advice about Sunny would be not to ask “can daddy do this or that with you, please”, but instead let her know a bit beforehand, even if she doesn’t know what 5 or 10 minutes are, and say “in 5 minutes daddy is going to do … with you”, so she is prepared, but doesn’t get to choose that she doesn’t want daddy 🙂 You could also give her 2 choices sometimes, but in things that doesn’t matter to you, so she feels like she has a choice, but about wanting daddy or not. For example “when daddy is putting you to sleep later/in x minutes, do you want to read x or x book?” (Don’t know if you read to her at bedtime, but I hope you know what I mean 🙂) And maybe putting her to bed is not the best area to start, because she is tired and maybe more “touchy” at that time. Just start in the small, and do bigger and more things bit by bit, and she (hopefully) gets used to it 🙂 I’m rooting for you guys and hope this may be of help for you 🤞🏼😊
Or you could just tell her what’s going to to happen your the adult parent she’s to young for choices she may blubber for a bit but just ignore she will soon want attention even Deriks🇬🇧
You give great advice but I bet 1000% that they won't listen to a word. Just like the constantly moving the kids around. They couldn't care less about the effects it has on small children or children in general. They are selfish and should have had kids for a couple more years if at all.
My only advice for Derek and Sunny would be to not let her do it. If she wants mommy and lost it in a tantrum way... Sarah has to step out and let you handle it. Never laugh at those type of antics. It will be hard, but better. (Nursery teacher talking)
It’s no wonder! Right when they start feeling comfortable somewhere ,they uproot them and pull them away! They also dump them on their grandparents any time they get a chance to go on trips. I feel so bad for the kids especially Sunny. The first year is critical to healthy attachments and she didn’t have ANY stability! They decided to be parents and need to act like it!
Honestly, I haven't watched the Beestons for awhile. The kids are now irritatingly free range. You will have issues in so many situations if they do not learn expectations for their behavior.
@@kimberlyhemminger3822Also not to mention that there constantly plastered all over sm and have a camera in there faces. When children do not have some kind of structure and or a schedule they are all over the place and feel overwhelmed. But the parents have to make money right lol smh
Amen to that !!! Crazy Routines !!! Always Moving. AND Trips !!!! Spending that money instead of Investing it to make even more money !!! Saving for the future too !!!! 😊
These children NEED stability. Stop moving! I understand families who are in the military, they don’t have a choice, but this is selfish on your part. I remember moving a couple of times and just hated it. You’re moving literally every year, ridiculous.
@@caliblue2 when I click your pfp I can see you've commented over 100 times on their channel. Something tells me you would make excuses for anything they do
I’m not judging because I’m sure you get a lot of that but when she says she wants daddy to go bye-bye or doesn’t want daddy the last thing you should be doing is encouraging it by laughing not saying make her feel guilty but Kids Continue to do things when we laugh at it, I love you guys and I know that it really hurts, when she denies him just think it could be a different way of doing it
Suggestion: Derek when You approach Sunny don't say things like "are you going to come to daddy today?". Say positive things and simple things like "good morning my sunshine girly". She smiles under her pacifier when she shakes her head no so she knows it's bugging you. When you change to positive words if she shakes Her head no then just say "okay, I love you so very much my sunny girly" and go about What You would normally do... She will want your attention after a few mornings of this. She's a Dolly But she's a female and has already learned her powers 🩷✨.
Stop trying to always be your children's buddy and be their PARENTS. You need to teach that certain actions have consequences. It's unacceptable for him to be calling you names and he needs to learn that. Time out or taking away a privilege or toy. It's called discipline and if your children don't grow up with it they will become little brats that no one will want to be around.
Let him tell about his injury, without interrupting and the comment like ”are you surprised he got invited?” Its so insensitive, Ive always hated when people do that. Some people have more bad luck than others, and some bodies are also more injury prone.
She has always acted like she can't stand Derik, and the constant little shots she takes at him is the best behavior she can manage for videos. Imagine how bad it gets once the camera is turned off. I feel like they have only stayed married because of their kids and their social media revenue. Gotta keep up the happy family act to keep getting subscribers and followers. They definitely have one of the most strained marriages I've ever seen.
When my kid was that age, I had pretty good luck just totally 100% ignoring any of his annoying/obnoxious behavior. For little kids and for many adults who still behave like children, negative reinforcement is reinforcement, and they the more you acknowlege the bad behavior, the more they'll seek the reinforcement.
Yes…agreed. Ignore potty talk…pretend there is nothing said. If you ask a real question and he doesn’t respond then carry on. It is a stage, but you are prolonging it by giving it attention. Good luck! It’s so evident you love your kids so much.
Best wishes with your move into the new home. I had 5 children and while I truly loved every minute of them being little and grieved when they grew out of being little (they are all adults now) I cannot imagine how I did it all and would not want to do it all again. Now I get to be present and actively watch and interact with the Littles going through the stages. That’s the beauty of being Nonna now and I don’t want to miss a thing in their lives. Cherish these years. Your videos will be your time in a bottle!! ❤❤
My Dad was a kidder and teaser!!! However, I remember as a child that teasing bothered me but I couldn’t understand. Some children maybe more sensitive than others and need quiet reassurance and gentle love.Allow her to come to you maybe she will feel more comfortable as time goes on. You are a wonderful Dad and just adore them!! ❤️
You have to be more firm with them. Not saying to yell etc. Just tell them "No, or That's not nice" in a firm voice. Don't just laugh things off while backing away... that gives them the idea they are in charge, and can do whatever they want. It gets worse as they get older if ya don't get them to listen to you now. Maybe try a Good/bad behavior chart... give him a star for every hour he has Good behavior, But if he calls you poopy pants or does something not good, take a star away... Give a treat at the end of the day if he has kept most of his stars. Same thing with chore charts as they get older, they get a star for every chore done, and get rewarded at the end of day or week. I'm not a "perfect parent" Mine still acts out occasionally, but being firm, and keeping a routine definitely helps.
@@christinavalerio2423 I don't usually give parental advice, but He did ask for it in the video... I know... they act like they want to be more like best buddies instead of setting down the rules. you can still have fun and make them learn what's right & wrong etc. I'm not "old" I just turned 45, lol, but my parents were the age of my friends grandparents, so I grew up old school...my oldest 2 had chores, and rules and knew not to back talk etc. Not bragging but they are 2 amazing adults now. My 3rd is a teenager & I slacked on some things with him where I should've been more Firm... He is a BRAT & can be disrespectful at times! I've been working to get him back under control.. enforcing the chores & saying NO!!! So I know what I'm saying when ya got to lay down the rules etc!!!
"Our crazy day", they say. Spending all day at the beach, taking care of two children with both parents at home all the time, having all the comforts. Oh, let us all have crazy days like you...
Make different choices and have different beliefs. You can also have similar days they have. Being jealous and bitter is wasted energy that could be used to create a better life.
My son’s birthday is September 1, which is the cutoff day for starting kindergarten. I choose to have him do an extra year of pre-kindergarten,and even though he is very smart and they wanted him to skip a grade, I didn’t do it. Best decision ever, He enjoyed school, didn’t struggle, and is now a Captain for Delta Airlines. Boys especially can use that extra year.
Hi, Derik and Sarah. I work with families of gifted kids. Jack is so bright and athletic you might want to allow him to move up instead of repeating preschool. Kids with high abilities need to be around other kids of similar abilities. You might find that Jack is more comfortable around older kids who can challenge him instead of being around younger kids who are still learning things he already knows. Hope this is helpful! ❤❤
@@marciebooth3270 what is it that makes him gifted, more so then any other pre schooler? Is it because they said he went surfing or because he calls them poopy pants?
My oldest grandson was like that,needed to be challenged. My daughter and husband understood that and kept looking g for the school that could do.that. He graduated from college su.ma cum laude with 3 majors and a minor .so go with this adv ice
You need to stop Jack from calling you Poopy Pants. It is disrespectful and rude. Lay your boundaries on what language is acceptable and what is not acceptable. Now is the time Derek, be firm and take charge, or he'll run all over you.
@@laurahandley4621 i agree, but I feel like its for attention at this point. He is barely on videos being good and Sunny is in the most when she is being naughty. This is most time he has had on a video in quite some time.
Add 5 more years of no boundaries and structure they will be little monsters, add 10 years and your going to have juvenile delinquents, add 12 years and you will have highschool dropouts. Your children’s future starts now…
Derek you need an MRI on your cervical spine. I lost the use of my left arm due to the discs pressing on my spinal cord. Im now 100% better after surgery and the results were instant. Dont ignore it it could get worse. Good luck ❤
I completely agree…have fusion at c5-c6, but have disc issue and need another fusion at 6-7. Hand weakness (and down arm) mine is also through shoulder is clear sign.
I have MS, and I have lesions on my C spine, specifically at c4&5. When they were active, my hand did the exact same thing. It was terrible. Thankfully, the lesions are no longer active, but the damage was done, and my hands are always tingly. Especially my right.
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Stop laughing at Sunny’s bad and bratty behavior. Yes, I said it!!! Sarah needs to step up and stop letting her disrespect her father. It’s not cute and they’re going to regret it if they don’t already.
Idk, not my kid not my problem honestly .. I just think she’s a baby and it’s not that big of a deal. I like the family and they can do what they choose with their kids. 🤷🏼♀️
Eating out is WAY more expensive. Spending your money on groceries is a lot more cost effective. Eating out is one and done meal. Groceries provide you with the opportunity to make multiple meals.
Cooking from scratch is the better option. You can choose what ingredients and as a little more of this and a little less of that as you go along. I found that making pasta salad for 2 goes a long way. Can use it for burgers hot dogs and even BBQ ribs. Play around with things and it'll help your grocery bill. Plus you might find more things that the kids will enjoy. Have fun with it. When we were little mom would love making pies. She would get little pans and we would make our own. I miss doing those things. Apple pies would be the easiest with the kids. Have fun
At the 14:28 mark, Derik literally says doesn’t know what saves money more (eating out or buying a lot of groceries and eating at home) so I just responded to his comment.
@@Reneeslife8463Maybe you missed Derik asking the very same question this comment is answering. Pay attention to the video next time before you reply.
Try this . When Sunny wakes tomorrow don't have Derek greet her .do the opposite of what you normally do .I bet she will go to Derek on her own in a New York minute! Good luck!
Cooking at home is much cheaper and much more healthy. Bake your chicken once a week and just warm it up or use it cold in salads or wraps. There's so many things you can make with the baked chicken. My 26 year old Son and His Lady cook on Sundays for the week including Their lunches they take to work. It saves so much money!!!! CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW HOME ❤❤!!! I'M SO EXCITED FOR ALL OF YOU!!!!
You let these kids run the show…skateboard at airport around other people…name calling…slapping you hare…choose between mom and dad??? Your age shows, folks
Children learn what they live, look it up and read it, it’s the only advice you need for your sweet little daughter. And Sarah, when it’s your turn you are going to reflect and feel so badly for how you treated him during this time.
@@coconutfallsyt3030 well , they both need to feel bad for exploiting their kids for a paycheck. What kind of parents want to use their childrens bad behavior for content on their youtube channel?
Tell the boy to stop calling dad "poopy pants" because it's disrespectful and if he doesn't listen he'll have a punishment like time out. I'm just thinking my dad would have it resolved by now and respect restored.
4 was my favorite age. They say and do the most compassionate, hilarious, adventurous, and loving things. There was never a day he didn't put his hands on my cheeks and tell me how much he loved me. He's 17 now, and he still tells me he loves me all the time, and he hugs me often. I'm blessed. I just know Jack will be the same person when he's my son's age, just bigger and even smarter. ❤❤
"Give us a year and we'll probably be moving again." Good grief, those kids need stability!! You had a house built to your specifications and you got tired of it? Just go back to Hawaii where you both were happy and stay there!
I never understood how you water people could live without the ocean. Good that you are correcting that. I believe that this decision was absolutely right and important for you. Congratulations on your new home! I send you lots of love from Germany
But you’re right- I do like the light in Derek’s eyes after spending time in the ocean. It’s so healing. But I think this new place is going to make living in Utah a lot better for them.
Beautiful video! Sunny laughs and teases Derrick. She loves her Daddy. It's a faze. You are excellent parents! Never forget that! Excited for you with the new house and Jack's preschool! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Please stop asking the kids to choose between their parents. It’s kinda like making them deal with the emotions of divorce without the actual divorce. Way beyond their understanding
@@marybaudouin8778 I just don’t think they realize it. I have raised 4 kids and now am helping with 9 grandchildren. There’s a lot of experience that comes from just being. It was not meant as anything other than a heads up to save them the hardship of trying to fix something that they don’t have to break in the first place
Sara have to say i like the natural look on you. Easy maintenance 😁😍 Derik i wouldn't stress someday soon she'll be clinging to you. Some lil girls go thru this and want momma all the time. It's natural. My suggestion is when you do something special with lil man include her too,at times..so its not just daddy daughter..til she sees how much fun it can be. You both are doing amazing,great parents and allowing your kids set their boundaries of their personal space/hugs. They will remember that as they get older. Congrats on the new home,glad it all worked out! Hope it provides the homey feel for y'all and the forever home.
Congratulations on the house you guys. So exciting. I think it will be amazing for Jack to go and make some new friends and get some energy out at his new school. I just wanted to say, on the topic of Sunny, quit asking if she likes you or wants you. It’s a game to her. Just let things be and she will come around. With children, if you are making a big deal out of things they will pick up on that. You are good parents and I should say that Sunny loves you both. You don’t need to worry about that. Let it go and stop trying so hard to impress her. Yes, I have experience. I have 6 grown children. Love you guys!! ❤😊
There’s a dynamic in the house that Sarah kind of runs the show, and talks down to Derik a bit, and he is constantly feeling the need to defend his actions or over explain them. She also constantly laughs and says right in front of Sunny “she doesn’t like dad” or “she’s so sick of dad…” that is reinforcing the behavior and then Sunny laughs at it herself. She is being taught to disrespect him. I don’t think it’s intentional, and I’m not perfect, no one is… but from the outside looking in… the dynamic is obvious and it is one hundred percent what Sunny is picking up on.
Also again… I don’t think they’re bad parents and this is not me saying I’m a perfect mom. But your kids pick up on the dynamic. They also pick up on what’s “funny” and it’s made a joke by mom how much Sunny says no to Derik, so it’s like a game. But the truth is she is being subconsciously taught… dad is less I want mom… dad is the lesser parent.
Be the parents that don't give too many choices. Children have need for less stress not more ! Glad you had good time this trip. A new home in your favorite places. Of course Hawaii is vacation fav.
Disapline is the hard part of parenting, but if you let them have the upper hand, there will be no going back. You are the boss, the protectors, the example of good behavior, and the voice of reason. If you dont; other parents won't want their kids to be around yours. Do your kids a favor and guide them in the direction they need to go. You are great parents, and it's not mean to displine them.
Problem with him calling you Poopy Pants is that it is name calling and he'll probably get in trouble at school. You asked him to stop and he didnt. I would have a calm timed Time Out, one minute for each year old he is, so 4 minutes. Put it on a timer so it's not connected with you and he has to stay quiet until the timer goes off. If he fusses or gets loud, calmly add more time. Don't talk to him when he's in time-out it's a time for him to be quiet. You will be surprised how good it works. I raised a daughter and 3 boys 😲
Explain that he’s going to time out because of whatever he chose to do. He has time to think. After time out, sit him down and ask him if he understands why he was in time out.
You are lucky you will have so much video of your childrens’ adventures and day to day lives….more than most people, so in reference to your wishing you could bottle up Jack at this age, well, you already have!
ALL great advice! As a school bus driver for 27 years and I had my own daycare at home and I have three daughters. But I would also maybe include just a separate day or two days a week where it's just maybe an hour or two with Sunny and it's just daddy and daughter date..you can make something special like a movie or just playing at the park. Maybe take things out ahead of time and you can give her a choice of maybe two things to choose from, that way she feels like she's still in control a little bit. Be consistent so she looks forward to that special time with you! And I agree, you guys are doing a great job, and you're awesome parents!!
Hey D...I have an idea you might want to try with Sunny. Instead of asking her if she 'wants' you....Try just sitting on the floor and kind of ignore her while you do things that will interest her, like build something with blocks or color in a book or just play with some toys she likes.........let her come to you. Let her start the conversation and get involved with what you're doing. I really think this might work. Love your family.
Letting Jack call you Poopy pants is unacceptable. You need to be the parent and tell him not to call you that. If he continues to, then ignore him. Do not respond to him, explain to him that your name is dad, or daddy, not poppy pants.
Ya I agree, you have to be the parent, if you raise little kids letting them get away with everything, you will really have a hard time putting your foot down as they get older...
I love your family. You have an exciting and wonderful life. I understand that people can be jealous. Please continue to do what makes you happy. Many of us would make different decisions if life experiences were put in our path. Have fun!
I'm so excited for you guys!! I love seeing you changing and growing together especially with the kids. By the way, a tip from my late grandma, raise your kids your way. In your heart you know what you're doing and your kids are happy and well adjusted! You've done great with them. ❤❤ Congratulations on your new house!! I can't wait to see it! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉 Love you guys!
Everyone on here offers advice & I'm sure its appreciated. But can we all try to remember parenthood has no manual. What may work in your life, whether a professional or stay at home mom , doesn't mean it'll work for others. Lets just offer support by encouraging them to just be the best parents they can be. Even if it is engagement for them , we get a snippet of their lives. We don't know these people outside what they share. I love this family, all of them. They are all good people. Lets just support & encourage & be kind.
@@aterryadg asking for advice is 1 thing people degrading their parenting is another. I'm not speaking on his advice. Take your rolled up face emoji & get a life.
Hii long time nanny here! Just wanted to say i’ve been watching since the beginning and Love your family dearly and wanted to give advice based on my experience with littles being picky with the parents, it’s SO common for littles to pick one parent and attach, so don’t feel like your alone and also something that could help i’ve seen first hand is having Sarah hold Sunny while Derik reads her a book or sings her a song little steps and eventually it will click! 💓💓💓
17:21 she’s a Derrick disliker because you laugh at it and have made it a joke, and then she does it more because she knows it gets her attention. Then he gets in her face and tries to do things with her and laughs while doing so, and now it’s just annoying to her and she knows that’s the role you all expect her to play. You all aren’t doing her any favors.
So excited you got the house‼️ you’ll be closer to Lo and Tanner and that will be so helpful for all of you💜 can’t wait to see it- moving is fun (once it’s over lol). So glad you mentioned the Kent’s- they are going through major stuff and need all the help and prayers they can get. Good on Sarah for cooking for them💜 my advice is don’t ask for advice. Respect and love each other regardless and everything will work out.
Don’t try too hard to Sunny. Ignore a little here & there. Also, don’t ask if you can, let her know the two of you will be going to store or whatever in 5 minutes. Sarah shouldn’t laugh when Sunny denies you. Try to keep it positive. Don’t force the hug. She will come around, eventually.
No tricks. Tell them what is acceptable and that is not it. Respect needs to be expected. The games of who they want is crazy and mixes them up. They are both old enough to know what is acceptable and the reason why they do it is for the reaction which is proof they know what they are doing.
@@wilmatravaille1640 we never see video of them learning abcs or numbers , just video of potty talk and manipulation, parents emphasize the wrong thing
Sarah has to stop allowing Sunny to disrespect her father. Stop laughing at her screaming bloody murder at her dad. It’s so disrespectful and not funny and Derick is too nice, but you can tell deep down hurt. It’s learned bratty behavior that keeps getting rewarded by giving her whatever she wants as long as she throws a fit.
Wow, congrats on the new house! 🎉 It's so cool how quickly things can change, right? I can't wait to see how you turn your new place into a home. 🏡 Also, love following along on your journey! Keep being awesome! 😊✨
I don’t mean this is a bad way, but it’s gonna sound like it. Sorry, but I really don’t think Sara thinks of Derik as an equal. It’s like she’s got 3 kids and Derik is the most compliant child. This needs to change immediately but you can’t decide to respect somebody more. It takes time and work. It’s going to take big changes for Sara to avoid being resentful. I think she already is and takes it out on him by putting him down. He doesn’t seem very responsible and she needs an equal partner. I think they need to be in intensive couple’s counseling. It’s hard to even imagine Derik being competitive in sports. It seems like he is way too much of a people pleaser and it comes across as wimpy. Sara needs Derik to step it up!! She would respect him more and so would the kids. I definitely believe they can do this if they start ASAP. I hope so.
Your parents, not friends or buddy! Set solud boundaries and stick to them...both of you. Those kids consistency!They need bedtimes and naps (the baby especially). Dont acknowledge "poopy whatever.
So excited for your new house! Love your videos and family time. My 4 kids are officially all adults now and I miss these phases lol. I have ages 28-18 and I remember them this age. Enjoy the journey! ♥️♥️♥️ love from California Edit: chicken is icky but it’s also good with McCormicks Montreal Chicken seasoning…I heavily coat fillet chicken breasts (basically cut in half flatwise) on both sides and drizzle with olive oil on a sheet pan. Bake for 25 minutes at 350
i have nerve damage on my cervical spine from C4 thru C7 and had a spinal fusion from C3 thru C7 and all my discs replaced with cadaver discs. It basically affects my entire upper body. You should see your doc they will most likely start with an xray/cat scan then mri. Something is definitely pressing on a nerve.
Loved the video guys... The kids are growing up so fast and everyone is so tan. ❤ Kudos on another home, you have to keep trying until you find your forever right. 😊 My opinion is, you don't have a common leave home job and Sunny sees you all day and night most days and nights so she doesn't have time to miss you, but I bet when she gets a bit older that will change... Don't worry she will come around. Good bless you all ❤
Derek deserves someone who appreciates him as a dad. She acts like Derek could not have found someone better than her. Sarah. You know you're pretty but there are alot of other women out here way hotter . Lol Bc there is akways someone more prettier than soneone else. And LOOKS aren't everything. Heart is. Derek has a good hewrt. He married you. So treat your husband better.
❤I’m sending you this from my heart. I did the same thing with my winter-born son that you plan to do with Jack. It broke his heart. He made real buddies in pre-school. Then they were all a year ahead of him in school from that point on. My son ended up testing in the 99th percentile, and your Jack is also a bright boy. But our school system NEVER let children skip a grade. Anyway, watch him carefully. Find out where his buddies will be. Make the decision based on all the knowledge and wisdom you have in your family. After all, he’s the oldest in HIS family. Perhaps that’s all he needs. ♥️🌺♥️
You’ve asked for advice about Sunny being rude to Derrick in multiple videos and people have shared thoughtful advice, and most of it is consistent across the board (be the parent and don’t let her treat you that way, don’t encourage it and laugh at it, etc.), but then in the next video it’s not shown to be implemented or acknowledged at all…but you ask for advice again. You obviously don’t have to take the advice of random people online, but please stop asking for it then.
They ask so people will comment, then engagement is high and their channel is suggested to new people that haven't seen it before. I HIGHLY doubt they read these comments.
I hope Derik and Sarah can stop the kids ruling the roost, or it's going to get worse as the kids get older. Set the rules whilst they are young. Good luck guys and happy parenting. Be a team.
I am so glad to hear you say that you want Jack to be in preschool for two years. Being the oldest in Kindergarten, rather than the youngest, is so beneficial! I am a retired elementary school teacher and have seen the benefits of being the oldest. It may not be evident until Junior or Senior high school, but the advantage of being the oldest shows up dramatically in academic ability and in sports. You have made a very wise choice for your son!
Derrick, just stop trying. She will come a running when you stop trying so hard. Good luck guys, congratulations on the better home. See you in your next video.
Well advice for sunny is this. When she was little Sarah didn't spend alot eith her and derik did. Now sarah is bonded eith her more and she is latching on to that. In the beginning sarah was always with Jack or gone doing trips. It makes a differense now that you are staying home more Sarah. That is what i see. But stop moving so much its not good for the kids even at their young age.start being more home for them it is not good for them at their age. They need stability.❤
I’m a therapist, former Kindergarten teacher, a mom and grandmother. I love watching your videos and following your family because you are wholesome, real and kind. ❤
Some kids are just more easy going than others, from birth. I think that, plus Derik’s injuries keeping him from being as present as Sarah, have made Sunny more comfortable with her mama. Plus, moms usually (not always) take over care of the younger child while dads usually take on the older ones. Now, it’s showing up as a bit of a problem, and it is totally normal and doable! 😉
I would not ask Sunny if she wants Derik. I would make certain routines ones that Derik usually does and some Sarah usually does. Sunny doesn’t get to choose which parent, no matter what (except in extreme situations).
Let’s say Derik takes over the bedtime routine. Derik, it will be hard at first, because Sunny is used to fussing and Sarah taking over. She will protest for a while, and you can’t give in. Find a way to make it your own, making your own way of putting her down, certain books you read, or songs you sing, or funny voices you do. It might take a few weeks, or more, for her to get used to this.
Sarah, I’m sure you will encourage and support him, and you CANNOT take over, even if she screams. Let Derik figure it out. He has to show Sunny that he is the parent, this is how things are going to go now, and that he will be the one there for her. She will act as if her little heart is broken (kids are good at that) but it isn’t, and you will be helping mend their relationship.
Don’t listen to the trolls on here, or ones bashing you as parents. You two are great parents, and will find your way. You are a young family and becoming parents is so so hard. You learn as you mess up and try to do better next time. Your family is thriving and you are loving, present and attentive. Sunny just needs a bit more structure and routine. You’ve got this!!
I agree with the retired school teacher. She's been a mom grandma and Teacher. She knows children.❤❤
Couldn't agree more!!
Solid and sound advise!
@@brainee8998 50/50 in agreement... Some is foolish... Some spot on
@@cindibush8880 ummm what, pray tell, is 'foolish information'? How can anyone think that having more information to pull from in ANY aspect of our lives would be considered foolish? She's not telling them how to raise their kids, she's simply sharing her experiences and making some suggestions on what might work. Rather than telling someone "ya, I know" because you've heard it before, take the opportunity to hear a new perspective.
Stop asking her. Just do. Stop giving her (sunny) options. And deal with the cries.
Yes,Derrick. You should start with something simple,like maybe just come to her and tell her (not ask her) in a normal voice : "Sunny,in a minute,Dadda is going to take you to put your shoes on." Then walk away. Sarah should say nothing and just talk about other things. And then,in a minute,just come to her and tell her that you are going to take her to put her shoes on now. Then you pick her up and go and do that. You can maybe give her a choice of shoes,so that she feels she has some say. Ignore the tantrum. Sarah should not interfere. Sunny will learn that you're the boss,not her. Just keep doing that with small things and if you persist,you'll see. She will accept it. Don't make a fuss.
@@ragieburger-kc4lo love it.
As a momma of two this is exactly what should be done! Sarah is making the situation worse by playing into it like she enjoys the fact... @ragieburger-kc4lo
My advice is to stop asking her what she wants! Don’t talk about it, show her!
This one💯
@@cindywolf-yx4sp they just think it's cute and it's part of their content
@@christiinohio681 If they only knew it is not cute at all! Neither parent has any control over their kids behavior.
I love the both. Best wishes moving 😊
Kids don’t realize it and sometimes parents don’t either, but setting boundaries and limits is what makes kids feel safe. Not choices….
Ok, some advice from a preschool teacher: 1 - bathroom language is only allowed in the bathroom. If you wanna say poopy pants you can say it as much as you want in the bathroom but then it stops. They can get it out of their system but won’t get the feedback of having someone react to it. 2 - just stop trying with Sunny. Don’t ask her why she doesn’t like Dada, or ask if dada can put her to bed, just put her to bed. You’re giving her a response she’s enjoying (playing hard to get) by spending so much energy trying to get her to like you. She loves you, she just also loves making you work for it. So stop reacting to that! That’s my advice!
Great advice! I hope they take it.
Sunny- Tell Sunny "don't say that to me/to dada". Both of you say it when you see her do it. Be united. It is disrespectful and hurtful. She sees it makes Derek sad. Then ignore it, don't plead with her. Then turn it positive and say, "use your words to say nice things". She likes your reaction Derek so say "no" and change the subject. Don't react. I remember the day my gorgeous blonde 1 year old daughter after I asked her to do something and she said, "no!" I was shocked and hurt. I immediately called an older mother friend and ask her what to do?? I was very upset that she was going to get meaner. Without hesitation my friend said, "Tell her no! Don't say that." She quit. Setting boundaries and learning that her actions have consequences was a great thing to teach her.
Yes !!
Yes! Say, "those are not nice words to say to Daddy and hurt my feelings"! Use your words! Because if you allow it, he will call others that too! 😊❤
Discipline is hard but so important when they're young
Exactly 💯
Take a couple steps back and allow Sunny to approach you. Let her see you interacting with Jack and others without excitedly talking with her. Calm it down. When she finally holds her arms out for you keep calm and just smile. Allow her to get comfortable with your quiet side. This worked really well for my husband and our daughter.
Thiiiiiiiiis
Exactly
That’s what I was thinking! Pull back and don’t fuss over her and she’ll come running to you Derik! Reverse psychology. 🥰
I was thinking that too
Or google it
My advice about Sunny would be not to ask “can daddy do this or that with you, please”, but instead let her know a bit beforehand, even if she doesn’t know what 5 or 10 minutes are, and say “in 5 minutes daddy is going to do … with you”, so she is prepared, but doesn’t get to choose that she doesn’t want daddy 🙂
You could also give her 2 choices sometimes, but in things that doesn’t matter to you, so she feels like she has a choice, but about wanting daddy or not. For example “when daddy is putting you to sleep later/in x minutes, do you want to read x or x book?” (Don’t know if you read to her at bedtime, but I hope you know what I mean 🙂)
And maybe putting her to bed is not the best area to start, because she is tired and maybe more “touchy” at that time.
Just start in the small, and do bigger and more things bit by bit, and she (hopefully) gets used to it 🙂
I’m rooting for you guys and hope this may be of help for you 🤞🏼😊
What wonderful advice!!!
Or you could just tell her what’s going to to happen your the adult parent she’s to young for choices she may blubber for a bit but just ignore she will soon want attention even Deriks🇬🇧
That is so good!
You give great advice but I bet 1000% that they won't listen to a word. Just like the constantly moving the kids around. They couldn't care less about the effects it has on small children or children in general. They are selfish and should have had kids for a couple more years if at all.
My only advice for Derek and Sunny would be to not let her do it. If she wants mommy and lost it in a tantrum way... Sarah has to step out and let you handle it. Never laugh at those type of antics. It will be hard, but better. (Nursery teacher talking)
These kids are running the household! Pull up your BOOTSTRAPS and be PARENTS.
It’s no wonder! Right when they start feeling comfortable somewhere ,they uproot them and pull them away! They also dump them on their grandparents any time they get a chance to go on trips. I feel so bad for the kids especially Sunny. The first year is critical to healthy attachments and she didn’t have ANY stability! They decided to be parents and need to act like it!
@@debfoxI ave never agree with someone more. And to all the people that say they are good parents, I feel sorry for their kids as well.
Honestly, I haven't watched the Beestons for awhile. The kids are now irritatingly free range. You will have issues in so many situations if they do not learn expectations for their behavior.
@@kimberlyhemminger3822Also not to mention that there constantly plastered all over sm and have a camera in there faces. When children do not have some kind of structure and or a schedule they are all over the place and feel overwhelmed. But the parents have to make money right lol smh
PRO TIP: Parent your kid 👍 Stop being his bruh.
Sadly the children will turn into little monsters.why don't they see this?
Their kids, not yours...❤
A lot of chaos and constant changes for kids.
They need schedule and routine. All these family vloggers are always on a plane, not sleeping or eating right. It's too much for kids
Amen to that !!! Crazy Routines !!! Always Moving. AND Trips !!!! Spending that money instead of Investing it to make even more money !!! Saving for the future too !!!! 😊
I think it’s fun and makes life more interesting 🤔
These children NEED stability. Stop moving! I understand families who are in the military, they don’t have a choice, but this is selfish on your part. I remember moving a couple of times and just hated it. You’re moving literally every year, ridiculous.
@@caliblue2 when I click your pfp I can see you've commented over 100 times on their channel. Something tells me you would make excuses for anything they do
I’m not judging because I’m sure you get a lot of that but when she says she wants daddy to go bye-bye or doesn’t want daddy the last thing you should be doing is encouraging it by laughing not saying make her feel guilty but Kids Continue to do things when we laugh at it, I love you guys and I know that it really hurts, when she denies him just think it could be a different way of doing it
Suggestion: Derek when You approach Sunny don't say things like "are you going to come to daddy today?". Say positive things and simple things like "good morning my sunshine girly". She smiles under her pacifier when she shakes her head no so she knows it's bugging you. When you change to positive words if she shakes Her head no then just say "okay, I love you so very much my sunny girly" and go about What You would normally do... She will want your attention after a few mornings of this. She's a Dolly But she's a female and has already learned her powers 🩷✨.
Stop trying to always be your children's buddy and be their PARENTS. You need to teach that certain actions have consequences. It's unacceptable for him to be calling you names and he needs to learn that. Time out or taking away a privilege or toy. It's called discipline and if your children don't grow up with it they will become little brats that no one will want to be around.
Let him tell about his injury, without interrupting and the comment like ”are you surprised he got invited?” Its so insensitive, Ive always hated when people do that.
Some people have more bad luck than others, and some bodies are also more injury prone.
Yes I think she is so demeaning to him when she does that no wonder the baby girl doesn’t respect her dad her mom doesn’t respect him either
She has always acted like she can't stand Derik, and the constant little shots she takes at him is the best behavior she can manage for videos. Imagine how bad it gets once the camera is turned off.
I feel like they have only stayed married because of their kids and their social media revenue. Gotta keep up the happy family act to keep getting subscribers and followers. They definitely have one of the most strained marriages I've ever seen.
@@JakeKoenigWow. You must know them well. Wth
When my kid was that age, I had pretty good luck just totally 100% ignoring any of his annoying/obnoxious behavior. For little kids and for many adults who still behave like children, negative reinforcement is reinforcement, and they the more you acknowlege the bad behavior, the more they'll seek the reinforcement.
Yes…agreed. Ignore potty talk…pretend there is nothing said. If you ask a real question and he doesn’t respond then carry on. It is a stage, but you are prolonging it by giving it attention.
Good luck! It’s so evident you love your kids so much.
Totally
Best wishes with your move into the new home. I had 5 children and while I truly loved every minute of them being little and grieved when they grew out of being little (they are all adults now) I cannot imagine how I did it all and would not want to do it all again. Now I get to be present and actively watch and interact with the Littles going through the stages. That’s the beauty of being Nonna now and I don’t want to miss a thing in their lives. Cherish these years. Your videos will be your time in a bottle!! ❤❤
My Dad was a kidder and teaser!!! However, I remember as a child that teasing bothered me but I couldn’t understand. Some children maybe more sensitive than others and need quiet reassurance and gentle love.Allow her to come to you maybe she will feel more comfortable as time goes on. You are a wonderful Dad and just adore them!! ❤️
You have to be more firm with them. Not saying to yell etc. Just tell them "No, or That's not nice" in a firm voice. Don't just laugh things off while backing away... that gives them the idea they are in charge, and can do whatever they want. It gets worse as they get older if ya don't get them to listen to you now. Maybe try a Good/bad behavior chart... give him a star for every hour he has Good behavior, But if he calls you poopy pants or does something not good, take a star away... Give a treat at the end of the day if he has kept most of his stars. Same thing with chore charts as they get older, they get a star for every chore done, and get rewarded at the end of day or week. I'm not a "perfect parent" Mine still acts out occasionally, but being firm, and keeping a routine definitely helps.
What I notice about this couple, they don't take advice😮🎉. They're raising the kids without structure. Whatever the kids want they get. Crazy!!
@@christinavalerio2423 I don't usually give parental advice, but He did ask for it in the video... I know... they act like they want to be more like best buddies instead of setting down the rules. you can still have fun and make them learn what's right & wrong etc. I'm not "old" I just turned 45, lol, but my parents were the age of my friends grandparents, so I grew up old school...my oldest 2 had chores, and rules and knew not to back talk etc. Not bragging but they are 2 amazing adults now. My 3rd is a teenager & I slacked on some things with him where I should've been more Firm... He is a BRAT & can be disrespectful at times! I've been working to get him back under control.. enforcing the chores & saying NO!!! So I know what I'm saying when ya got to lay down the rules etc!!!
Maybe you Sarah can correct her in stead of laughing when she says no to Derrick
"Our crazy day", they say. Spending all day at the beach, taking care of two children with both parents at home all the time, having all the comforts. Oh, let us all have crazy days like you...
Make different choices and have different beliefs. You can also have similar days they have. Being jealous and bitter is wasted energy that could be used to create a better life.
They can have the worst days possible, just because they have "the comforts" it doesn't just stop a shitty day!!!
My son’s birthday is September 1, which is the cutoff day for starting kindergarten. I choose to have him do an extra year of pre-kindergarten,and even though he is very smart and they wanted him to skip a grade, I didn’t do it. Best decision ever, He enjoyed school, didn’t struggle, and is now a Captain for Delta Airlines. Boys especially can use that extra year.
Hi, Derik and Sarah. I work with families of gifted kids. Jack is so bright and athletic you might want to allow him to move up instead of repeating preschool. Kids with high abilities need to be around other kids of similar abilities. You might find that Jack is more comfortable around older kids who can challenge him instead of being around younger kids who are still learning things he already knows. Hope this is helpful! ❤❤
... yes but Sarah said they might keep him in preschool again next year so he can be oldest.
@@marciebooth3270 what is it that makes him gifted, more so then any other pre schooler? Is it because they said he went surfing or because he calls them poopy pants?
Oooh, had to there, huh? Feel better? Good, now go "have the kind of day you deserve" 👋
Seriously?
🇨🇦Barbie in Vancouver"
@@Barbara-nv1ll 👍
My oldest grandson was like that,needed to be challenged. My daughter and husband understood that and kept looking g for the school that could do.that. He graduated from college su.ma cum laude with 3 majors and a minor .so go with this adv ice
You need to stop Jack from calling you Poopy Pants. It is disrespectful and rude.
Lay your boundaries on what language is acceptable and what is not acceptable. Now is the time Derek, be firm and take charge, or he'll run all over you.
Yes couldn’t have said it better myself honestly 😣
They won’t ! Those kids especially Sunny run that house and both of them
@@laurahandley4621 i agree, but I feel like its for attention at this point. He is barely on videos being good and Sunny is in the most when she is being naughty. This is most time he has had on a video in quite some time.
Add 5 more years of no boundaries and structure they will be little monsters, add 10 years and your going to have juvenile delinquents, add 12 years and you will have highschool dropouts. Your children’s future starts now…
quit trying so hard Derek, time for her to come to you xo...
Derek you need an MRI on your cervical spine. I lost the use of my left arm due to the discs pressing on my spinal cord. Im now 100% better after surgery and the results were instant. Dont ignore it it could get worse. Good luck ❤
And he really should stop going to chiroprators. It's not doing him any good.
I completely agree…have fusion at c5-c6, but have disc issue and need another fusion at 6-7. Hand weakness (and down arm) mine is also through shoulder is clear sign.
😅@@gebruederflausch
I have MS, and I have lesions on my C spine, specifically at c4&5. When they were active, my hand did the exact same thing. It was terrible. Thankfully, the lesions are no longer active, but the damage was done, and my hands are always tingly. Especially my right.
@katieeighteen me too
I remember when you were so excited about the house you were having built, just like you wanted. What are you going to be when you grow up? 😂😅😊
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Stop laughing at Sunny’s bad and bratty behavior. Yes, I said it!!! Sarah needs to step up and stop letting her disrespect her father. It’s not cute and they’re going to regret it if they don’t already.
She’s one omg get a grip lady!
@@ninas4968literally... I agree
@@ninas4968 she is closer to 2 than 1. If you don't stop it now, when do you stop it?
Idk, not my kid not my problem honestly .. I just think she’s a baby and it’s not that big of a deal. I like the family and they can do what they choose with their kids. 🤷🏼♀️
She’s absolutely right!!!!
Eating out is WAY more expensive. Spending your money on groceries is a lot more cost effective. Eating out is one and done meal. Groceries provide you with the opportunity to make multiple meals.
These people are grown. They do know the difference between cooking & eating out. Not something they need to be instructed on.
Cooking from scratch is the better option. You can choose what ingredients and as a little more of this and a little less of that as you go along.
I found that making pasta salad for 2 goes a long way. Can use it for burgers hot dogs and even BBQ ribs.
Play around with things and it'll help your grocery bill. Plus you might find more things that the kids will enjoy. Have fun with it. When we were little mom would love making pies. She would get little pans and we would make our own. I miss doing those things. Apple pies would be the easiest with the kids. Have fun
At the 14:28 mark, Derik literally says doesn’t know what saves money more (eating out or buying a lot of groceries and eating at home) so I just responded to his comment.
@@Reneeslife8463Maybe you missed Derik asking the very same question this comment is answering. Pay attention to the video next time before you reply.
Cooking at home or eating out both cost a sh*t ton at this point .. doesn’t even matter anymore…
Try this . When Sunny wakes tomorrow don't have Derek greet her .do the opposite of what you normally do .I bet she will go to Derek on her own in a New York minute! Good luck!
she gets it from you... be nice and show respect for Derek.
I’m confused - he said he’s never been in Hawaii in the summer. I thought they used to live in Hawaii?
I'm confused, didn't they just have a house built a yr ago
That's what I thought! No idea why anybody would want to move every year......
Yes, they don’t want an HOA community, and are now moving closer to Tanner and Lauren
@@labab1048What's HOA?
I think its competition . Tanner and Lauren got a better house with amazing views,now they want the same thing.
I disagree l do not think it is a competition it is not lime that with yhe four of them
Derik, you have too much time on your hands, Sunny loves you and will, you're a good father, very hands on. More than most of us had..
People who don't have jobs have a lot of time on their hands.
True
@@JakeKoenig
Wait,.. Derrick doesn’t have a job? What about his brother ?? (does his brother work??)
@@JakeKoenigand yet they make 3 times more $$ than you....
Cooking at home is much cheaper and much more healthy. Bake your chicken once a week and just warm it up or use it cold in salads or wraps. There's so many things you can make with the baked chicken. My 26 year old Son and His Lady cook on Sundays for the week including Their lunches they take to work. It saves so much money!!!!
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW HOME ❤❤!!! I'M SO EXCITED FOR ALL OF YOU!!!!
You let these kids run the show…skateboard at airport around other people…name calling…slapping you hare…choose between mom and dad??? Your age shows, folks
It’s called having fun 🙄
@@ninas4968stop making excuses. Allowing the kids to call their dad names isnt having fun. Its a lack of boundaries
People need to get a life seriously.
It’s not their age, it’s their immaturity.
@@tracys_talkThank you
Children learn what they live, look it up and read it, it’s the only advice you need for your sweet little daughter. And Sarah, when it’s your turn you are going to reflect and feel so badly for how you treated him during this time.
@@coconutfallsyt3030 well , they both need to feel bad for exploiting their kids for a paycheck. What kind of parents want to use their childrens bad behavior for content on their youtube channel?
She laughs at it all the time with both kids, it's like he doesn't have a say so at all😢
Tell the boy to stop calling dad "poopy pants" because it's disrespectful and if he doesn't listen he'll have a punishment like time out.
I'm just thinking my dad would have it resolved by now and respect restored.
4 was my favorite age. They say and do the most compassionate, hilarious, adventurous, and loving things. There was never a day he didn't put his hands on my cheeks and tell me how much he loved me. He's 17 now, and he still tells me he loves me all the time, and he hugs me often. I'm blessed. I just know Jack will be the same person when he's my son's age, just bigger and even smarter. ❤❤
"Give us a year and we'll probably be moving again."
Good grief, those kids need stability!! You had a house built to your specifications and you got tired of it?
Just go back to Hawaii where you both were happy and stay there!
Moving again.
They need content for the show.
I never understood how you water people could live without the ocean. Good that you are correcting that. I believe that this decision was absolutely right and important for you. Congratulations on your new home! I send you lots of love from Germany
They aren't moving to Hawaii, just closer to Tanner in Utah..
@@dianah.9718, Are You Serious???!!!! They have us all thinking that they are moving to Hawaii !! 😂
@SweetPea6348 no they literally said the next town over in Utah.
But you’re right- I do like the light in Derek’s eyes after spending time in the ocean. It’s so healing. But I think this new place is going to make living in Utah a lot better for them.
@@caliblue2Will be at least better for Sunny if it gets her out of sleeping in that basement storoom
Wow Derik, you are looking healthy and good. Really hope gonna figure Sunny out 🤞🏼
How can you do preschool when you’re constantly going on trips?
It will be ok with Sonny. Just don’t try so hard. Let her come to you no matter how long it takes. She definitely will want her dada eventually.❤
Beautiful video! Sunny laughs and teases Derrick. She loves her Daddy. It's a faze. You are excellent parents! Never forget that! Excited for you with the new house and Jack's preschool! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Please stop asking the kids to choose between their parents. It’s kinda like making them deal with the emotions of divorce without the actual divorce. Way beyond their understanding
Totally agree. It seems immature of the parents to promote this kind of competition😔
@@marybaudouin8778 I just don’t think they realize it. I have raised 4 kids and now am helping with 9 grandchildren. There’s a lot of experience that comes from just being. It was not meant as anything other than a heads up to save them the hardship of trying to fix something that they don’t have to break in the first place
There is no script or playbook for perfect parenting. Continue to love and support them.
I think they are just doing it for engagement at this point
That may be the next announcement with how strangely they’ve been acting as a couple lately
Montessori school is the best!! Our son went in 1988 and loved it. Great start to learning. ❤
My 3 kids were in Montessori from age 3 through 5th grade! Would highly highly recommend!
Sara have to say i like the natural look on you. Easy maintenance 😁😍 Derik i wouldn't stress someday soon she'll be clinging to you. Some lil girls go thru this and want momma all the time. It's natural. My suggestion is when you do something special with lil man include her too,at times..so its not just daddy daughter..til she sees how much fun it can be. You both are doing amazing,great parents and allowing your kids set their boundaries of their personal space/hugs. They will remember that as they get older. Congrats on the new home,glad it all worked out! Hope it provides the homey feel for y'all and the forever home.
Congratulations on the house you guys. So exciting. I think it will be amazing for Jack to go and make some new friends and get some energy out at his new school. I just wanted to say, on the topic of Sunny, quit asking if she likes you or wants you. It’s a game to her. Just let things be and she will come around. With children, if you are making a big deal out of things they will pick up on that. You are good parents and I should say that Sunny loves you both. You don’t need to worry about that. Let it go and stop trying so hard to impress her. Yes, I have experience. I have 6 grown children. Love you guys!! ❤😊
There’s a dynamic in the house that Sarah kind of runs the show, and talks down to Derik a bit, and he is constantly feeling the need to defend his actions or over explain them.
She also constantly laughs and says right in front of Sunny “she doesn’t like dad” or “she’s so sick of dad…” that is reinforcing the behavior and then Sunny laughs at it herself. She is being taught to disrespect him. I don’t think it’s intentional, and I’m not perfect, no one is… but from the outside looking in… the dynamic is obvious and it is one hundred percent what Sunny is picking up on.
Also again… I don’t think they’re bad parents and this is not me saying I’m a perfect mom. But your kids pick up on the dynamic. They also pick up on what’s “funny” and it’s made a joke by mom how much Sunny says no to Derik, so it’s like a game. But the truth is she is being subconsciously taught… dad is less I want mom… dad is the lesser parent.
Spot on.
Why do they keep moving? Never satisfied with what they have.
MRI for sure. Otherwise you'll cause more damage. They could probably fix you before it becomes permanent. Best of luck 😊
Be the parents that don't give too many choices. Children have need for less stress not more ! Glad you had good time this trip. A new home in your favorite places. Of course Hawaii is vacation fav.
Disapline is the hard part of parenting, but if you let them have the upper hand, there will be no going back. You are the boss, the protectors, the example of good behavior, and the voice of reason. If you dont; other parents won't want their kids to be around yours. Do your kids a favor and guide them in the direction they need to go. You are great parents, and it's not mean to displine them.
Omg. That is such a load of crap
Problem with him calling you Poopy Pants is that it is name calling and he'll probably get in trouble at school. You asked him to stop and he didnt. I would have a calm timed Time Out, one minute for each year old he is, so 4 minutes. Put it on a timer so it's not connected with you and he has to stay quiet until the timer goes off. If he fusses or gets loud, calmly add more time. Don't talk to him when he's in time-out it's a time for him to be quiet. You will be surprised how good it works. I raised a daughter and 3 boys 😲
Explain that he’s going to time out because of whatever he chose to do. He has time to think. After time out, sit him down and ask him if he understands why he was in time out.
Alright super nanny 😂
You are lucky you will have so much video of your childrens’ adventures and day to day lives….more than most people, so in reference to your wishing you could bottle up Jack at this age, well, you already have!
ALL great advice! As a school bus driver for 27 years and I had my own daycare at home and I have three daughters. But I would also maybe include just a separate day or two days a week where it's just maybe an hour or two with Sunny and it's just daddy and daughter date..you can make something special like a movie or just playing at the park. Maybe take things out ahead of time and you can give her a choice of maybe two things to choose from, that way she feels like she's still in control a little bit. Be consistent so she looks forward to that special time with you! And I agree, you guys are doing a great job, and you're awesome parents!!
Wishing you all the VERY BEST…
Wishing your new house, a quick transition to becoming a loving HOME!
🙏🏻❤
Congrats guys! I hope this house brings you cozy vibes, adventure and tranquility. ❤
Hey D...I have an idea you might want to try with Sunny. Instead of asking her if she 'wants' you....Try just sitting on the floor and kind of ignore her while you do things that will interest her, like build something with blocks or color in a book or just play with some toys she likes.........let her come to you. Let her start the conversation and get involved with what you're doing. I really think this might work. Love your family.
I do this with one of my granddaughters. It works every time.
Letting Jack call you Poopy pants is unacceptable. You need to be the parent and tell him not to call you that. If he continues to, then ignore him. Do not respond to him, explain to him that your name is dad, or daddy, not poppy pants.
Yes!!
Exactly!
Don't sweat the small stuff...
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@BattyBev if you don't stop it now, it will get worse and you end up raising a brat.
Thank you for sharing the highlights of your paradise-beachy trip with your happy family. And, your new-home news! Best Wishes to you ALL 🎉❤
I am so happy to see you blonde again.. 😊 Congrats on newest place.🎉
Ya I agree, you have to be the parent, if you raise little kids letting them get away with everything, you will really have a hard time putting your foot down as they get older...
I love your family. You have an exciting and wonderful life. I understand that people can be jealous. Please continue to do what makes you happy. Many of us would make different decisions if life experiences were put in our path. Have fun!
I'm so excited for you guys!! I love seeing you changing and growing together especially with the kids. By the way, a tip from my late grandma, raise your kids your way. In your heart you know what you're doing and your kids are happy and well adjusted! You've done great with them. ❤❤ Congratulations on your new house!! I can't wait to see it! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉 Love you guys!
Great video! Derek, Sunny loves you too. She looks cheeky when she says no she doesn’t want to go to you. She’ll definitely come around.
Everyone on here offers advice & I'm sure its appreciated. But can we all try to remember parenthood has no manual. What may work in your life, whether a professional or stay at home mom , doesn't mean it'll work for others.
Lets just offer support by encouraging them to just be the best parents they can be.
Even if it is engagement for them , we get a snippet of their lives. We don't know these people outside what they share.
I love this family, all of them. They are all good people. Lets just support & encourage & be kind.
He literally asked for advice 🙄
@@aterryadg asking for advice is 1 thing people degrading their parenting is another.
I'm not speaking on his advice.
Take your rolled up face emoji & get a life.
Hii long time nanny here! Just wanted to say i’ve been watching since the beginning and Love your family dearly and wanted to give advice based on my experience with littles being picky with the parents, it’s SO common for littles to pick one parent and attach, so don’t feel like your alone and also something that could help i’ve seen first hand is having Sarah hold Sunny while Derik reads her a book or sings her a song little steps and eventually it will click! 💓💓💓
17:21 she’s a Derrick disliker because you laugh at it and have made it a joke, and then she does it more because she knows it gets her attention. Then he gets in her face and tries to do things with her and laughs while doing so, and now it’s just annoying to her and she knows that’s the role you all expect her to play. You all aren’t doing her any favors.
So excited you got the house‼️ you’ll be closer to Lo and Tanner and that will be so helpful for all of you💜 can’t wait to see it- moving is fun (once it’s over lol). So glad you mentioned the Kent’s- they are going through major stuff and need all the help and prayers they can get. Good on Sarah for cooking for them💜 my advice is don’t ask for advice. Respect and love each other regardless and everything will work out.
Don’t try too hard to Sunny. Ignore a little here & there. Also, don’t ask if you can, let her know the two of you will be going to store or whatever in 5 minutes. Sarah shouldn’t laugh when
Sunny denies you. Try to keep it positive. Don’t force the hug.
She will come around, eventually.
No tricks. Tell them what is acceptable and that is not it. Respect needs to be expected. The games of who they want is crazy and mixes them up. They are both old enough to know what is acceptable and the reason why they do it is for the reaction which is proof they know what they are doing.
@@wilmatravaille1640 we never see video of them learning abcs or numbers , just video of potty talk and manipulation, parents emphasize the wrong thing
@@christiinohio681 We never see them work with them, just endless play.
Sarah has to stop allowing Sunny to disrespect her father. Stop laughing at her screaming bloody murder at her dad. It’s so disrespectful and not funny and Derick is too nice, but you can tell deep down hurt. It’s learned bratty behavior that keeps getting rewarded by giving her whatever she wants as long as she throws a fit.
Wow, congrats on the new house! 🎉 It's so cool how quickly things can change, right? I can't wait to see how you turn your new place into a home. 🏡 Also, love following along on your journey! Keep being awesome! 😊✨
Your running around sound so much more than normal and it the water and sun will wipe you out! Esp the little ones!! Glad your all having a good time!
I don’t mean this is a bad way, but it’s gonna sound like it. Sorry, but I really don’t think Sara thinks of Derik as an equal. It’s like she’s got 3 kids and Derik is the most compliant child. This needs to change immediately but you can’t decide to respect somebody more. It takes time and work. It’s going to take big changes for Sara to avoid being resentful. I think she already is and takes it out on him by putting him down. He doesn’t seem very responsible and she needs an equal partner. I think they need to be in intensive couple’s counseling.
It’s hard to even imagine Derik being competitive in sports. It seems like he is way too much of a people pleaser and it comes across as wimpy. Sara needs Derik to step it up!! She would respect him more and so would the kids.
I definitely believe they can do this if they start ASAP. I hope so.
Your parents, not friends or buddy!
Set solud boundaries and stick to them...both of you.
Those kids consistency!They need bedtimes and naps (the baby especially).
Dont acknowledge "poopy whatever.
Tune in this time next year for the Beeston Fam moving video: "Surfs Up! Return to Paradise". 😎🤣
😆 could be…but I do know grandparents to help with little ones is always a plus
Right lol 😅 I’m waiting..
Won't take a year.
How About Next Month !!! 😅😂
So excited for your new house! Love your videos and family time. My 4 kids are officially all adults now and I miss these phases lol. I have ages 28-18 and I remember them this age. Enjoy the journey! ♥️♥️♥️ love from California
Edit: chicken is icky but it’s also good with McCormicks Montreal Chicken seasoning…I heavily coat fillet chicken breasts (basically cut in half flatwise) on both sides and drizzle with olive oil on a sheet pan. Bake for 25 minutes at 350
i have nerve damage on my cervical spine from C4 thru C7 and had a spinal fusion from C3 thru C7 and all my discs replaced with cadaver discs. It basically affects my entire upper body. You should see your doc they will most likely start with an xray/cat scan then mri. Something is definitely pressing on a nerve.
MY PRAYERS I HOPE YOUR IS RECOVERING, GO HAVE IT CHECKED OUT ❤
It’s a phase all little boys go through. They will eventually get over it. My grandsons favorite phrase was either poopoo head or poopoo but.
I really hope Derik got his cervical checked at some point after that. I have injuries from a car accident, and it affects my hands.
Loved the video guys... The kids are growing up so fast and everyone is so tan. ❤ Kudos on another home, you have to keep trying until you find your forever right. 😊 My opinion is, you don't have a common leave home job and Sunny sees you all day and night most days and nights so she doesn't have time to miss you, but I bet when she gets a bit older that will change... Don't worry she will come around. Good bless you all ❤
Derek deserves someone who appreciates him as a dad.
She acts like Derek could not have found someone better than her. Sarah. You know you're pretty but there are alot of other women out here way hotter . Lol
Bc there is akways someone more prettier than soneone else.
And LOOKS aren't everything.
Heart is.
Derek has a good hewrt.
He married you.
So treat your husband better.
Derik always compliments Sara. She is always putting him down.
Whatever gives them content. Content equals social media cash.
❤I’m sending you this from my heart.
I did the same thing with my winter-born son that you plan to do with Jack.
It broke his heart.
He made real buddies in pre-school. Then they were all a year ahead of him in school from that point on.
My son ended up testing in the 99th percentile, and your Jack is also a bright boy. But our school system NEVER let children skip a grade.
Anyway, watch him carefully. Find out where his buddies will be. Make the decision based on all the knowledge and wisdom you have in your family.
After all, he’s the oldest in HIS family. Perhaps that’s all he needs. ♥️🌺♥️
You’ve asked for advice about Sunny being rude to Derrick in multiple videos and people have shared thoughtful advice, and most of it is consistent across the board (be the parent and don’t let her treat you that way, don’t encourage it and laugh at it, etc.), but then in the next video it’s not shown to be implemented or acknowledged at all…but you ask for advice again. You obviously don’t have to take the advice of random people online, but please stop asking for it then.
This is SUCH a great point!!
it’s probably just for engagement
They ask so people will comment, then engagement is high and their channel is suggested to new people that haven't seen it before. I HIGHLY doubt they read these comments.
I hope Derik and Sarah can stop the kids ruling the roost, or it's going to get worse as the kids get older. Set the rules whilst they are young. Good luck guys and happy parenting. Be a team.
I love you guys. Life is crazy with little ones but even so much more with y’all’s lifestyle. Enjoy your little ones.
Classic, moving quickly then jetting off. 😊
I am so glad to hear you say that you want Jack to be in preschool for two years. Being the oldest in Kindergarten, rather than the youngest, is so beneficial! I am a retired elementary school teacher and have seen the benefits of being the oldest. It may not be evident until Junior or Senior high school, but the advantage of being the oldest shows up dramatically in academic ability and in sports. You have made a very wise choice for your son!
Some people just can't settle properly, keep moving around. U even built yourselves a brand new house, what's up with that???
Derrick, just stop trying. She will come a running when you stop trying so hard. Good luck guys, congratulations on the better home. See you in your next video.
Sunny’s getting blonder 👱🏻♀️by the day!!
Well advice for sunny is this. When she was little Sarah didn't spend alot eith her and derik did. Now sarah is bonded eith her more and she is latching on to that. In the beginning sarah was always with Jack or gone doing trips. It makes a differense now that you are staying home more Sarah. That is what i see. But stop moving so much its not good for the kids even at their young age.start being more home for them it is not good for them at their age. They need stability.❤