This is what I needed to read. I keep thinking of what I could have done better but maybe the way it stagnated and spiralled was always going to happen, as crap as that is to admit.
Same brother my high school sweetheart relationship was on for 5 years it’s only been 11 days why am I counting ? Because I still love her but I’m the reason I called it off I miss and love her everyday but I felt we kind of grew apart it’s really hard to let go I just want her back I regret everything she told me well never date again because you can expect to leave someone to realize what you’ve lost and then expect to get it back again 😞I thought we could grow together and become stronger but slowly I’m realizing I need to let her go no matter how hard it is because sometimes people have to grow apart in order to be happy or to ever be together again in the future it’ll hurt the day she moves on it I need to accept that fact because it’s my decision and my consequences. how you been holding up ?
@@jakecooley7603 how did you move on past the point knowing that one of you might move on to someone else ? That’s the hard thing I’m struggling with I want both of us to be happy even if that means us being together and moving onto someone else I know it’s inevitable and it’s human nature how did you get past that phase if you did
I don't comment a lot on youtube, but I've written down what Tony said at the end about what his client could tell her wife. I've been through a really bad relationship and a bad break up and I showed courage and strength with prayers to drive to my ex's home and knock on the door. I've said exactly what Tony said and she step up and we talked about 3 hours and half. Just compassion, understanding and love sharing through our past and discovered she's happily in a relationship already. It sadden me, but also deprived me of my thoughts. I'm truly happy for her that she found someone and everything seems very fine for her and love is shared without second thinking. Whatever the reasons of the relationship, you deserve too to be happy for yourself and even for your ex. Thank you Tony.
That is exactly how I feel...I’ve been taking care of people’s needs for so long. It broke me. I started to break down. I’m trying to feel significant in my own way without being told that I should be grateful for doing the same thing that I was already tired of doing. I feel like a horse with a broken spirit...but nobody seems to understand why even when I do explain my pain.
Wow! This truly helped ME identify why I want/need a divorce. I’ve been married for 6 yrs and 3 years of dating. I’ve shared and experienced life with my husband for 9 years but I felt that I’m the one that always needs to take care of things. I have to take care of my mom, my husband, my dog, my environment in general and I became so exhausted that I spent myself. I put pieces of me into my husband to make him whole, and in that process I lost myself. I didn’t want to admit that I’m important too and that I need to take care of myself because I’ve been too busy taking care of everyone else. I want everything to be amicable, I want no fights, I love him and share a bond with him but I felt spent and now I need time for me. I need to figure myself out, I need to love myself and take care of me now.
Yahaira Y why can’t it be fixed without divorce? I’m trying to understand, my wife left me because she needs to heal herself and take care of herself. I would support her and help her. Why can women only heal if there single?
Jeremy King Well, I think not all women decide for divorce either. Everyone is different and in my case, I chose divorce because I was not happy with him as my HUSBAND, but I will always love him as a friend and as someone that knows me very well, but this is my particular situation. Other couples finish hating each other and I didn’t want that to be the case with him. I feel I want to be on my own for my own sanity, I want to be on my own because I want my peace back and sometimes, you can’t have that with who you are because they’re not ready to be at peace with themselves, and you can’t force that. It has to be their choice and I already waited far too long. This is time for me.
Thank you for replying. I was the one that gave all of myself to make everyone else whole. For 17 years this has been my identity. Now that she wants a divorce, I’m lost as far as boundaries and responsibilities. I can’t wait to get it over with, so I can let go and move on. I’m struggling though, because it wasn’t what I wanted.
Jeremy King remember that song that says “you can’t always get what you want, but if you try somehow, you get WHAT YOU NEED” (if it’s not the exact lyric, I apologize!) maybe you could be a bit afraid of being on your own and what to do with yourself? And I don’t mean this in the slightest as a disrespectful comment to you, it’s more of a question I want you to ask yourself. I identify with giving your all to people for however long, and yes! This is part of who you are but it’s also a crutch, IM also a person that much rather take care of someone else than my own self and I have come to the conclusion that it’s a crutch because it’s easier to give your all for someone else because it takes the focus off of our flaws and what WE need to work more to become our best self. Let’s remove those crutches and realize we need to live for us, and if we’re happy and we love ourselves as individuals, it’s easier to open ourselves to a new relationship in which you can be happy on your own without leaving that responsibility to someone else.
I just feel like we made a commitment. Through sickness and health. Richer and poorer. She was sick and I stayed with her. She was out of work and I supported her. I kept my commitment, I honored my word. I am man of integrity. My problem is I expected her to honor her commitment also. I understand it’s my expectations of other people that is causing my issues right now. I’m bitter that she gave up, I think it’s selfish that she quit. But I understand she wants to be happy. I’ll be better off, she was a bad wife anyway.
When you set goals in your life, it means that you must start working harder towards those goals. Tony thanks for helping people around the world, love your work. 1st comment and looking forward to more videos such as this
I needed this when I felt so lost and hoping it would get better, a week later I let her go, it’s been rough but she wanted to leave and would been selfish from me to keep her. I’m in process of healing I need to apologize for what I did and why I did it. Our ego keeps us from doing it
This definitely helps me right now. Getting over a separation and being cheated on, but also the uncertainty of a new relationship I thought was developing. it seems that she is travelling in a different path than I thought/hoped we were going and recently I've had trouble accepting that whilst maintaining gratitude and compassion for her
That woman sounds 100% like me. I’ve been wondering for years what is wrong with me. My boyfriend has proposed 4 times now, we have 2 kids together but I just can’t bring myself to marry him...now I understand why.
Leaping out into a world I've hidden away from due to my social anxiety from someone who has a severe mental illness and has been abusive in & out of an acute phase of psychosis for nearly a year. We have 3 children who need me to make that step so they have a chance! I'm ready to GO but scared of what's to come, am I ready, will I be okay, who will I lean on? The psychological abuse and the put-downs are awful. But I know I'm strong. I'm sober from a 15 year opiate habit, I got my life back. Then he broke. Today when my daughter admitted she has been feeling suicidal due to dad's outbursts. I knew we had to go. We're leaving in 5 days. I have NO choice. I'm not in love w/him but do care that he gets help for himself, I hope he finally does so his kids can have their father again but I've done SO much I can't give anymore. They good him that he's not their dad anymore. Most fathers would take that very hard. He doesn't care. Well, I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm a stay-at-home mom, and these children are my top priority. Today was a culmination of everything I nearly put him in jail. I recorded an hour of him verbally abusing me in the worst ways in front of the kids. I have many. I told him we were leaving very soon. I'm going to my mom's house and I'll work from there. (Didn't tell him that) Tbh I should've left 2yrs ago! I feel like I'm the cause of my kid's suffering and yes, in part I guess I am. I'm low-income, and I barely get through the month but by God, we will survive. Everyone has started somewhere, right? This next week will be new, uncertain, depressing, hopeful, painful, and promising all at once! But I must not waiver.... Prayers for everyone dealing with relationship issues. 💕🙏🏻 God will provide.
@Marten Dekker - Love is not about attachment or permanence. Love is about spending time with another person, sharing moments, experiences, and each other. The moment we make it about “keeping” another for our own gain, our own need, it becomes about our ego, fears, and insecurities. A mindful, compassionate, kind being only wishes happiness and love for others. Sometimes happiness and love for others is moving on and letting go. - (Alisa Hutton, www.tinybudha.com)
Smothering, ultimately, isn’t about love, but about selfishness. When you love someone, you want what’s best for the person, even if that means the relationship looks different from what you had in mind. In contrast, when you are smothering them, you prioritize your own needs for closeness or connection, as opposed to what the other person wants or needs. - (eHarmony Staff)
Omg tony thank you I just let my ex of 14 years know its ok. Im ok ok. That i have to let her go. I just told her everything I got outbof the pod cast. I feel like a weigh lifted off my chest. Its time to work on myself.
@@veselka.koleva I was so heart broken. When i love someone, i love them with all my being. She wasn't expecting this from me. To let her go. She expected me to beg and come back like i always do. Not this time. I was so sad, one day i needed to distract myself. So i picked up a jump rope. And began to jump for hrs. It felt good. Thats the day i began to work on myself. I feel great! I look great!. Now my ex hates me!!! Because I'm no longer looking for her. I'm no longer begging for her. I loved her so much. It would kill me . To ever have to go through pain again. I cant go back. I realized I wasn't appreciated like I should have been. Im a man raised by a father whom is still married to 1 woman. My mother for 40+ years. My mother is sick and my father is still by her side. I know what love is supposed to be like. Ive seen all my life. My father rsised me to be a helping man. I would do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, sex, work pamper this woman. Im not sure what she expects to find . What ever it is. It wont be this man. Im like a Key once you loose this key, everything else is just a copy. So to answer your question simply. She hates me. Love always turns into hate. But i will always love her. She made me open my eyes. I wish u could see me now. I feel amazing. A before and after!....
-> he could be grounded and lead the relationship and lead the talks and discuss the development of his wife and help and explain his vision of family and lead her into his vision together P.-S. Women like a lot solid grounded men with clear vision and leadership
Hi love this video !!! I'm from italy and i speak english ! I wach your videos all the time .i will love that my wife my Kids could get the messenge we need same videos in italian please so can people know how amazing tony is ..thaks for changing my Life see you in Birmingham in may i can't wait
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
I hope you are doing well and had chosen to love you and respect you with deepest gratitude to her! You know what real love means. She only thinks she does.
@@martacorrea2950 this is the weirdest comment ever. You don’t know this guy so why are you assuming so much about him? You have no idea what happened in that relationship or if he knows “real love”. Such a silly thing to say based on his one short comment, especially about a woman you have never met.
What I got out of this was the guy was a boy all this time. A real man, knows what he wants and goes after it. It takes action and is clear of what it’s trying to do. I’ve seen men complain about their wives, become so passive with resentment and then just give up because they are so hurt. They blame the wife for the pain, hey wake up your hurt because of you, not the other way around.
Thank you Tony.i needed this today. Clarity and honesty with myself and understanding these feelings atm aew gonna subside..im happy but my hearts broken..keep ya heads up to all the men out there going thru a break up
In marriage vows the "for better or for worse, until death do you part" section means for better or for worse until only death do you part. For those of you who are struggling, remember your vows, look yourself in the mirror and go get counseling or a support group that will help heal you and your marriage.
Anyone have any suggestions on getting over an alcoholic narcissist? Been though a living hell for 3.5 years. Caught him cheating today. I'm hurting bad
He left and did his own thing. She lost interest and now its her turn to live her life. She's not in love, she's only covering her necessities. As soon as she finds someone he will be useless.
The relationship is not easy for let go when you have a child together, But if you don't feel love and keep hate each other that's a pain. I think people should try to give each other A little more time to think what they want. But if you still want to divorce so that's is the time to be able to move on. And let everyone in family happy, because if you still want to be with each other that's just selfish and don't want to lose what you already have, so that's just Benefits of relationship not love,
Compassion 21 this was so long ago I forgot what he said plus I may have changed sense I’m always trying to develop. My idea of love is taking really good care of yourself. Then you take really good care of your partner. It sounds simple but I mean it in a very complex way.
But she felt repelled by the relationship. She wanted independence, she lacked self-esteem which could never have been found within the relationship. He admitted that, apart from love, the rest of the relationship was average (when he ranked categories). It sounds similar to my last relationship. I lacked self-esteem, self-worth, purpose, direction - and worse - (self-)compassion, empathy and understanding. I grew resentful about my ex, myself and life. I needed more validation. I didn't feel ready to get married and raise a family. A lot was missing that no relationship was ever going to fulfil. It's sad. Sorry for rambling, just helps to relate!
MsLornaMarie It’s a lot more complicated than most people think. I definitely knows how she feels. It’s a position that many people are never going to understand.
@Mike Tiwaz I agree with that 100%, I tried for so long tho, I've already left my abusive family and went into a relationship with someone right away, luckily we didn't get married or anything otherwise it would've been a lot more difficult for me. I am a committed person, but when I don't feel respected it makes me want to turn away and leave
Hello to whom it may concern i can recomend you to someone great and powerful who helped me fix my broken relationship ,I believe he can also help you too
Thank you, Tony. There's something about hearing your guidance that has me take a deep breath and makes my shoulders raise, go back and align. It makes me feel like when I was in my early 20s and did not have much responsibility, which made me think that I could take on the world's challenges and make a better place for my love ones and myself. I love that feeling, thank you.
🙏 Please share more of these interventions. Not only do we learn so much about ourselves but it helps to better equip ourselves to help others. 🙏 It takes the abstract lessons of life and puts it into real world, practical examples we can learn and grow from.
I've been with the father of my kids for the past 9 years. He hasn't bothered to marry me . It is really beginning to bother me . Everyone else and everything else is always a priority but I always come last. It makes me sad because I put all my effort into trying to make it work and make him happy that I feel like maybe I was just wasting my time . I have to learn to let go . Hes obviously not the right person for me . I can't be stubborn and pretend he is just because we have three kids together.
Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly
I was in a relationship for 8 years and have 2 kids with her. She left me after I got sentenced to 6 years in prison. She is seeing someone new and I feel so depressed and have nobody to talk too. I stumbled upon this podcast hoping it will give me hope..thanks tony
I have been so blind. I am here to say I love you and I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. This is not a game. I'm not trying to get you back. You deserve whatever you want. I want to be with you every moment, but if you don't, I love you too much to constrict you. I'm going to respect your wishes. I would love to grow old with you. If you go on, I will always be here for you. I would hate to go be with someone else. But I'm respecting Where you are and you're going to do what you're going to do. b But I am here always for you. t That's my love for you.❤
If anyone's out there... I need help right now. I need to reframe things to detach from my relationship ending right now. I need a reframe. I need something. I'm in panic phase and can't handle it. Not self harm level, but I just can't...i just can't. I need to just see her for the negative right now. I can't heal through it later, but just right now. I need help from someone to get through the next few days. I'm immobile in my room panicking.
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
This was the worst advice I have ever heard in any marriage relationship. Sure he has to let go because she has let go of her commitment to him but he is not obligated whatsoever to be on standby for someone who isn't committed and seeks to persue her own desires.
I’m in the middle of the hardest breakup of my life and listening to this made my cry my heart out but gave me so much perspective. I needed this
Me too dear
Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different
...and stop going back to it, when you know its not good for you
This is what I needed to read. I keep thinking of what I could have done better but maybe the way it stagnated and spiralled was always going to happen, as crap as that is to admit.
That’s where I have been struck for so long! Glad I found this!
Amy LeBlanc yes stuck for years for me! I keep going back to figuring out what could have been different.
This! Exactly this! You hit the nail on the head Authentic Self Growth
My high school sweetheart relationship of 5 years just ended 4 days ago. Thank you, Tony.
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Same brother my high school sweetheart relationship was on for 5 years it’s only been 11 days why am I counting ? Because I still love her but I’m the reason I called it off I miss and love her everyday but I felt we kind of grew apart it’s really hard to let go I just want her back I regret everything she told me well never date again because you can expect to leave someone to realize what you’ve lost and then expect to get it back again 😞I thought we could grow together and become stronger but slowly I’m realizing I need to let her go no matter how hard it is because sometimes people have to grow apart in order to be happy or to ever be together again in the future it’ll hurt the day she moves on it I need to accept that fact because it’s my decision and my consequences. how you been holding up ?
@@justinbonachita8934 thank you for asking. I’m doing incredibly well. The amount of personal growth for the better that happens is remarkable.
@@jakecooley7603 how did you move on past the point knowing that one of you might move on to someone else ? That’s the hard thing I’m struggling with I want both of us to be happy even if that means us being together and moving onto someone else I know it’s inevitable and it’s human nature how did you get past that phase if you did
I’m going through a breakup right now, did you get over it ?
I don't comment a lot on youtube, but I've written down what Tony said at the end about what his client could tell her wife. I've been through a really bad relationship and a bad break up and I showed courage and strength with prayers to drive to my ex's home and knock on the door. I've said exactly what Tony said and she step up and we talked about 3 hours and half. Just compassion, understanding and love sharing through our past and discovered she's happily in a relationship already. It sadden me, but also deprived me of my thoughts. I'm truly happy for her that she found someone and everything seems very fine for her and love is shared without second thinking. Whatever the reasons of the relationship, you deserve too to be happy for yourself and even for your ex.
Thank you Tony.
That is exactly how I feel...I’ve been taking care of people’s needs for so long. It broke me. I started to break down. I’m trying to feel significant in my own way without being told that I should be grateful for doing the same thing that I was already tired of doing. I feel like a horse with a broken spirit...but nobody seems to understand why even when I do explain my pain.
You are not alone my friend, i feel the same
I feel you 😢
Watch the film The Spirit animation. Might lift you up. I am in same boat, I know how you feel. Hugs xxx
@@Clegane90 *hugs*
@@joannaworrall4792 Thank you I will check it out. *HUGS*
VIDEO starts at 2:20 - I am sick of hearing this woman speak ahead of the content so I linked the time.
use the triad lol (kinda serious)
ScottOne thank u
ScottOne i thought u’d say how much graditude u have for this free video being here for us 🙌
Thank you!
Savage hahahhahaha
Wow! This truly helped ME identify why I want/need a divorce. I’ve been married for 6 yrs and 3 years of dating. I’ve shared and experienced life with my husband for 9 years but I felt that I’m the one that always needs to take care of things. I have to take care of my mom, my husband, my dog, my environment in general and I became so exhausted that I spent myself. I put pieces of me into my husband to make him whole, and in that process I lost myself. I didn’t want to admit that I’m important too and that I need to take care of myself because I’ve been too busy taking care of everyone else. I want everything to be amicable, I want no fights, I love him and share a bond with him but I felt spent and now I need time for me. I need to figure myself out, I need to love myself and take care of me now.
Yahaira Y why can’t it be fixed without divorce? I’m trying to understand, my wife left me because she needs to heal herself and take care of herself. I would support her and help her. Why can women only heal if there single?
Jeremy King Well, I think not all women decide for divorce either. Everyone is different and in my case, I chose divorce because I was not happy with him as my HUSBAND, but I will always love him as a friend and as someone that knows me very well, but this is my particular situation. Other couples finish hating each other and I didn’t want that to be the case with him. I feel I want to be on my own for my own sanity, I want to be on my own because I want my peace back and sometimes, you can’t have that with who you are because they’re not ready to be at peace with themselves, and you can’t force that. It has to be their choice and I already waited far too long. This is time for me.
Thank you for replying. I was the one that gave all of myself to make everyone else whole. For 17 years this has been my identity. Now that she wants a divorce, I’m lost as far as boundaries and responsibilities. I can’t wait to get it over with, so I can let go and move on. I’m struggling though, because it wasn’t what I wanted.
Jeremy King remember that song that says “you can’t always get what you want, but if you try somehow, you get WHAT YOU NEED” (if it’s not the exact lyric, I apologize!) maybe you could be a bit afraid of being on your own and what to do with yourself? And I don’t mean this in the slightest as a disrespectful comment to you, it’s more of a question I want you to ask yourself. I identify with giving your all to people for however long, and yes! This is part of who you are but it’s also a crutch, IM also a person that much rather take care of someone else than my own self and I have come to the conclusion that it’s a crutch because it’s easier to give your all for someone else because it takes the focus off of our flaws and what WE need to work more to become our best self. Let’s remove those crutches and realize we need to live for us, and if we’re happy and we love ourselves as individuals, it’s easier to open ourselves to a new relationship in which you can be happy on your own without leaving that responsibility to someone else.
I just feel like we made a commitment. Through sickness and health. Richer and poorer. She was sick and I stayed with her. She was out of work and I supported her. I kept my commitment, I honored my word. I am man of integrity. My problem is I expected her to honor her commitment also. I understand it’s my expectations of other people that is causing my issues right now. I’m bitter that she gave up, I think it’s selfish that she quit. But I understand she wants to be happy. I’ll be better off, she was a bad wife anyway.
Finding happiness in gratitude for what we have today and not tying our happiness to expectations for the future or on others.
When you set goals in your life, it means that you must start working harder towards those goals. Tony thanks for helping people around the world, love your work. 1st comment and looking forward to more videos such as this
I needed this when I felt so lost and hoping it would get better, a week later I let her go, it’s been rough but she wanted to leave and would been selfish from me to keep her. I’m in process of healing I need to apologize for what I did and why I did it. Our ego keeps us from doing it
This definitely helps me right now. Getting over a separation and being cheated on, but also the uncertainty of a new relationship I thought was developing. it seems that she is travelling in a different path than I thought/hoped we were going and recently I've had trouble accepting that whilst maintaining gratitude and compassion for her
Hi Daniel! Going through something similar right now. How do you feel 2y after your post ?
@@izroda2000 good question
How are you now?
That woman sounds 100% like me.
I’ve been wondering for years what is wrong with me. My boyfriend has proposed 4 times now, we have 2 kids together but I just can’t bring myself to marry him...now I understand why.
let go of the addiction that is love. Key words.. LET GO 🤯👏👏👏
Leaping out into a world I've hidden away from due to my social anxiety from someone who has a severe mental illness and has been abusive in & out of an acute phase of psychosis for nearly a year.
We have 3 children who need me to make that step so they have a chance!
I'm ready to GO but scared of what's to come, am I ready, will I be okay, who will I lean on? The psychological abuse and the put-downs are awful. But I know I'm strong. I'm sober from a 15 year opiate habit, I got my life back.
Then he broke.
Today when my daughter admitted she has been feeling suicidal due to dad's outbursts. I knew we had to go.
We're leaving in 5 days.
I have NO choice.
I'm not in love w/him but do care that he gets help for himself, I hope he finally does so his kids can have their father again but I've done SO much I can't give anymore. They good him that he's not their dad anymore. Most fathers would take that very hard. He doesn't care.
Well, I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm a stay-at-home mom, and these children are my top priority.
Today was a culmination of everything I nearly put him in jail.
I recorded an hour of him verbally abusing me in the worst ways in front of the kids. I have many.
I told him we were leaving very soon.
I'm going to my mom's house and I'll work from there. (Didn't tell him that)
Tbh I should've left 2yrs ago!
I feel like I'm the cause of my kid's suffering and yes, in part I guess I am.
I'm low-income, and I barely get through the month but by God, we will survive. Everyone has started somewhere, right?
This next week will be new, uncertain, depressing, hopeful, painful, and promising all at once! But I must not waiver....
Prayers for everyone dealing with relationship issues. 💕🙏🏻
God will provide.
16:42 Youre not dying, you're growing
Im getting there. I want to be selfless in this moment.
I love him and I miss him.
Thoth x Anios how long ago was the break up?
Are you ok? I hope you are. Much love xx
Learning to love without attachment is the key here )
Gurudra - Emotional Health & Peace exactly
@Marten Dekker - Love is not about attachment or permanence. Love is about spending time with another person, sharing moments, experiences, and each other. The moment we make it about “keeping” another for our own gain, our own need, it becomes about our ego, fears, and insecurities. A mindful, compassionate, kind being only wishes happiness and love for others. Sometimes happiness and love for others is moving on and letting go. - (Alisa Hutton, www.tinybudha.com)
Smothering, ultimately, isn’t about love, but about selfishness. When you love someone, you want what’s best for the person, even if that means the relationship looks different from what you had in mind. In contrast, when you are smothering them, you prioritize your own needs for closeness or connection, as opposed to what the other person wants or needs. - (eHarmony Staff)
Namaha
I keep hearing this phrase but I must admit, it seems so hard for my consciousness to comprehend
Yep If you Truely Love Someone Set Them Free:-)
So hard, but true ❤️
Wow!!! This is profound advice.
Omg tony thank you I just let my ex of 14 years know its ok. Im ok ok. That i have to let her go. I just told her everything I got outbof the pod cast. I feel like a weigh lifted off my chest. Its time to work on myself.
OMG. I hope you are well. How did it go? I dont know that to do :(
@@veselka.koleva I was so heart broken. When i love someone, i love them with all my being. She wasn't expecting this from me. To let her go. She expected me to beg and come back like i always do. Not this time. I was so sad, one day i needed to distract myself. So i picked up a jump rope. And began to jump for hrs. It felt good. Thats the day i began to work on myself. I feel great! I look great!. Now my ex hates me!!! Because I'm no longer looking for her. I'm no longer begging for her. I loved her so much. It would kill me . To ever have to go through pain again. I cant go back. I realized I wasn't appreciated like I should have been. Im a man raised by a father whom is still married to 1 woman. My mother for 40+ years. My mother is sick and my father is still by her side. I know what love is supposed to be like. Ive seen all my life. My father rsised me to be a helping man. I would do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, sex, work pamper this woman. Im not sure what she expects to find . What ever it is. It wont be this man. Im like a Key once you loose this key, everything else is just a copy. So to answer your question simply. She hates me. Love always turns into hate. But i will always love her. She made me open my eyes. I wish u could see me now. I feel amazing. A before and after!....
Omg i did the same i too picked up a jump rope and ive lost 60 lb and gained muscle . Email me bro currentrulespn714@gmail.com
I can relate to this event. I was the woman who wants freedom from this relationship
Tears.....for all the reasons associated with love, togetherness, and letting go....
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
Whtsaap him**
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-> he could be grounded and lead the relationship and lead the talks and discuss the development of his wife and help and explain his vision of family and lead her into his vision together
P.-S. Women like a lot solid grounded men with clear vision and leadership
Yes we do!
Hi love this video !!! I'm from italy
and i speak english ! I wach your videos all the time .i will love that my wife my Kids could get the messenge we need same videos in italian please so can people know how amazing tony is ..thaks for changing my Life see you in Birmingham in may i can't wait
2:18 2:19 2:20 2:20 loving Someone can ultimately mean letting them go
sending healing to everyone who reads this comment
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Wife walked out on the marriage after 14 years. I needed to hear this.
I hope you are doing well and had chosen to love you and respect you with deepest gratitude to her! You know what real love means. She only thinks she does.
@@martacorrea2950 thank you for your kind words. Means a lot.
@@martacorrea2950 this is the weirdest comment ever. You don’t know this guy so why are you assuming so much about him? You have no idea what happened in that relationship or if he knows “real love”. Such a silly thing to say based on his one short comment, especially about a woman you have never met.
What I got out of this was the guy was a boy all this time. A real man, knows what he wants and goes after it. It takes action and is clear of what it’s trying to do. I’ve seen men complain about their wives, become so passive with resentment and then just give up because they are so hurt. They blame the wife for the pain, hey wake up your hurt because of you, not the other way around.
Thank you Tony.i needed this today. Clarity and honesty with myself and understanding these feelings atm aew gonna subside..im happy but my hearts broken..keep ya heads up to all the men out there going thru a break up
In marriage vows the "for better or for worse, until death do you part" section means for better or for worse until only death do you part. For those of you who are struggling, remember your vows, look yourself in the mirror and go get counseling or a support group that will help heal you and your marriage.
I hold my vows very seriously. My husband does not. He's had multiple affairs and he's moved out. At what point do I just give up?
@@GBCA1026 I've left you a message on your channel.
@@martincommunications5381 Sorry, I haven't received it. Thanks for trying though.
Anyone have any suggestions on getting over an alcoholic narcissist? Been though a living hell for 3.5 years. Caught him cheating today. I'm hurting bad
He left and did his own thing. She lost interest and now its her turn to live her life. She's not in love, she's only covering her necessities. As soon as she finds someone he will be useless.
This is where understanding the red pill about women comes in handy. She is 100% doing things with another guy and using her ex in the mean time.
Damn... Going through the same thing but I'm 40 and she is 35. Here's to a new world🍻. Break the addiction with Love.
Great way to say it!
Amazing 😊
Thank you ❤️
Who the hell moves 11 times in 8 years? I’d be pissed off too
Needed this
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imagine the lady that this guy is talking about sees this video :0
The relationship is not easy for let go when you have a child together,
But if you don't feel love and keep hate each other that's a pain.
I think people should try to give each other A little more time to think what they want. But if you still want to divorce so that's is the time to be able to move on.
And let everyone in family happy, because if you still want to be with each other that's just selfish and don't want to lose what you already have, so that's just
Benefits of relationship not love,
The issue here is one, I'm not an Oprah movie, and two, you asked me what it would take.
WOW
My idea of love is just so different then Tony’s
What is your idea of love? I would love to see a well thought out reply! I think you really have something to share?
Compassion 21 this was so long ago I forgot what he said plus I may have changed sense I’m always trying to develop. My idea of love is taking really good care of yourself. Then you take really good care of your partner. It sounds simple but I mean it in a very complex way.
I LOVE YOU. I'M SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME.THANK YOU.
Prenup?
This guy is telling my story word for word except for the boyfriend being murdered.
What is up with the word, “incompatibility”? What happens when one of your kids is incompatible? 😅
It's great to see this... I have also treated myself. Weedborn oils have helped me a lot.
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Oh MY GOD!!! JESUS!!! And I am not christian!
I think this relationship should have been saved. This is disappointing.
But she felt repelled by the relationship. She wanted independence, she lacked self-esteem which could never have been found within the relationship. He admitted that, apart from love, the rest of the relationship was average (when he ranked categories).
It sounds similar to my last relationship. I lacked self-esteem, self-worth, purpose, direction - and worse - (self-)compassion, empathy and understanding. I grew resentful about my ex, myself and life. I needed more validation. I didn't feel ready to get married and raise a family. A lot was missing that no relationship was ever going to fulfil. It's sad.
Sorry for rambling, just helps to relate!
MsLornaMarie It’s a lot more complicated than most people think. I definitely knows how she feels. It’s a position that many people are never going to understand.
@Mike Tiwaz I agree with that 100%, I tried for so long tho, I've already left my abusive family and went into a relationship with someone right away, luckily we didn't get married or anything otherwise it would've been a lot more difficult for me. I am a committed person, but when I don't feel respected it makes me want to turn away and leave
She gave him freedom to go wanderlust he should give her the same freedom
what if she doesn’t even let me say sorry
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She 60 and the sex is like high school? Hum…. I would like to ask her about that.
Hahah
@@ZFern9390 actually she is 66. 🧐
Sorry this guy doesn’t take ownership for his part he doesn’t own what he has done to cause the relationship to fail ..BIG RED FLAGS
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I love
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
Detachment, if you really love someone and that person wants to leave, let the person go.
This just makes me sad, even though it's probably the only way... :((
Easier said than done 😂
Ok 😔
It’s hard…
I’m seeing that it’s the only way and it’s hard
Thank you, Tony. There's something about hearing your guidance that has me take a deep breath and makes my shoulders raise, go back and align. It makes me feel like when I was in my early 20s and did not have much responsibility, which made me think that I could take on the world's challenges and make a better place for my love ones and myself. I love that feeling, thank you.
TL;DR - if you truly love her set her free.
🙏 Please share more of these interventions. Not only do we learn so much about ourselves but it helps to better equip ourselves to help others. 🙏 It takes the abstract lessons of life and puts it into real world, practical examples we can learn and grow from.
Key words 19:48
That's right, f'her up with unconditional love!!
I've been with the father of my kids for the past 9 years. He hasn't bothered to marry me . It is really beginning to bother me . Everyone else and everything else is always a priority but I always come last. It makes me sad because I put all my effort into trying to make it work and make him happy that I feel like maybe I was just wasting my time . I have to learn to let go . Hes obviously not the right person for me . I can't be stubborn and pretend he is just because we have three kids together.
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This mans wisdom is truly deep and amazing!!!!
I was in a relationship for 8 years and have 2 kids with her. She left me after I got sentenced to 6 years in prison. She is seeing someone new and I feel so depressed and have nobody to talk too. I stumbled upon this podcast hoping it will give me hope..thanks tony
I have been so blind. I am here to say I love you and I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. This is not a game. I'm not trying to get you back. You deserve whatever you want. I want to be with you every moment, but if you don't, I love you too much to constrict you. I'm going to respect your wishes. I would love to grow old with you. If you go on, I will always be here for you. I would hate to go be with someone else. But I'm respecting Where you are and you're going to do what you're going to do. b
But I am here always for you. t
That's my love for you.❤
This guy has many woman. He just wants a main supply. Someone to be his mommy/lover.
If anyone's out there... I need help right now. I need to reframe things to detach from my relationship ending right now. I need a reframe. I need something. I'm in panic phase and can't handle it. Not self harm level, but I just can't...i just can't. I need to just see her for the negative right now. I can't heal through it later, but just right now. I need help from someone to get through the next few days. I'm immobile in my room panicking.
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@@vbav2875 Who do I message tho?
This is me now sry brotha
Ho'oponopono, how beautiful!
I just tried it and it worked! Had nothing to lose.
These invisible relationships on TH-cam are so weird. Really weird. I’m not in a relationship so this is so strange.
This was the worst advice I have ever heard in any marriage relationship. Sure he has to let go because she has let go of her commitment to him but he is not obligated whatsoever to be on standby for someone who isn't committed and seeks to persue her own desires.
Does anyone know what happened with them eventually???
poor editing cut too soon point wasn't made
Wow this is absolutely interesting
14:42 not a punishment
Sow beautiful 😍 Tony Robbins you are light for our
Darkness 🙏🏾
Husband of 6 years left me and our newborn for another woman. :(.. I know
thank
wow
thank you so much for this
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If there are any ladies around, Tony will be like "awaken the giant within...My Pants!"