The wait is sexy | Yvonne Orji | TEDxWilmingtonSalon
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- “You cannot date until you get married.”
Born to strict Nigerian parents, Yvonne determined to get married and intimate at 18.
But her enthusiasm was diminished by her friends’ low expectations of sex.
After getting “bamboozled by Jesus” in college, today Yvonne is a 33 year old virgin. Suddenly her parents want her to meet someone.
Yvonne gives 5 suggestions for finding love - regardless of your beliefs, values and choices. Because when you find the right person, the wait is worth it.
Yvonne Orji is a Nigerian-American actress, comedienne and writer who continues to display her versatility and passion with each project she takes on. On television, she stars in HBO’s new comedy series “Insecure”. The show follows the friendship of two modern-day black women and all of their uncomfortable experiences and racy tribulations. Orji stars as one of these women opposite Issa Rae, who is executive producing the show along with Prentice Penny and Melina Matsoukas. She is also currently developing a half-hour sitcom, based on her life entitled “First Gen”, that Oprah and David Oyelowo are executive producing. The show is a comedy about a Nigerian girl who trades medical school for a career in stand-up comedy and the adventures that ensue after her strict African mother discovers her plans.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
"People who cant meet your standards feel the need to diminish them."
Joyce Adane This is such a good point.
True. Don't lower you or your standards for someone else's comforts
What if you really have unrealistic standards ?
Very good point!
Wow, that's profound. So many persons I meet diminish my standards, leaving me thinking that I'm crazy or asking for too much. Now I'm seeing that they are the ones who feel as if they can't measure up. Thanks for this comment.
in a world that is obsessed with sex and makes people think they have to fit in, that was so refreshing
Yes ikr
The world wouldn’t be so obsessed with it if religion hadn’t made it taboo in the first place.
So at 33, she hadn’t met a guy who was cool with that and willing to get in a relationship with her? Interesting.
"I don't need to beg anyone to like me, 'cause I like myself"
Boom. Ladies and gents, Yvonne Orji has left the building.
Mic drops! LOLLLLL!
Not with a husband.😂😂😂
“When people show you who they are, believe them”
Yep.
And that's the truth!
Maya Angelou
Believe them the very first time!
"When people first show you they are...."
"I don't get mad if somebody doesn't like me for me, they are just not the one for me."
This. Speaks. Volumes !!
Lol, that's because it is cool!
Juicydelacoca yessss
You said it like a pro
When you're 18 and everyone around you is sleeping with each other, you start to lose faith but then you watch uplifting things like this and it just puts things into perspective. I feel a lot better after watching this
agreed!
Me too girl
@Dark Glow excuse me
Same💛
HIGH FIVE! I CAN RELATE!~ LMAO me n dis girl aint nothin different on this aspect and its important we value ourselves.
“ Wait on purpose and not in fear.” 💛
Amen.
Amen!
@@lexie02jones25 v
Nice
Amen
She makes virginity and believing in God look cool 😍
that s because it is. God is the best thing that can happen to you. You only win.
@@niniwiens8587 preach sister
Well yeah Jesus is best thing that can ever happen to you❤️❤️
well she doesn't, that's just her who is cool regardless of god
@@markoldys
That's your anti Christian secular humanistic bigotry talking but have a great day. Lol
I'm 30 and still a virgin and this is exactly what I needed to hear at the exact right time.
monzorella1 as my sister said: better be single at 30 than divorced at 30. The right one will come around ;)
It's exactly not what you needed to hear. A grown up woman of 30 should have had sex by now. How can you make informed, mature decisions with respect to who you have sex with and under what conditions if you don't have some experience? I'm not suggesting that you be promiscuous but the longer you wait the stranger, more uncomfortable and awkward it's going to be when you do. And I can tell you that there is no man in the world who is comfortable with the burden of being the first for a grown woman whose expectations around sex are not grown up and realistic. The longer you wait, the more baggage you bring to that first experience, the greater the chance it ends up producing an emotional crisis rather than the comfortable good time it actually should.
Brent Pulford - good thing I'm I don't care about what you think. And I have plenty attention from men that know I'm a virgin. So take several seats.
Perhaps you should give it some thought. That's how we grow our minds and broaden our perspectives. And attention isn't what I suggested you lacked. I said you lack a realistic impression of what you're holding out for. And you can't call me wrong on that because I've experienced it and you haven't. Thank you for making a seat available to me but it's not necessary as I won't be hanging around. Wishing you nothing but continued success and happiness.
monzorella1 girl you not alone! im waiting too! and proud to be!
"You cannot date until you get married" I instantly shouted "She's Nigerian!!" 😂😂
Stay Happy lol you know it!
Stay Happy SAMEEEEE
Stay Happy ahahha giirrl, my father told me that few years ago and we are bulgarians... 😂
Same 😃😂😂✌
Stay Happy that's every African parents sis.
Waiting is hard, but so worth it! My first time was with my husband on our wedding day. I was 30 and he was 31 and we were both virgins. The first time was incredible....the physical and emotional connection was unreal and it's been fantastic every time since. I'm so glad I stuck to my guns and never succumbed to peer pressured.
Wow this is so encouraging I am 24 and I am waiting 👌
Ariel Checketts congratulations 💕
That's so sweet.
You are blessed sister❤💓
Ariel that's beautiful!!
“Let’s not excuse inexcusable behavior.” 👏🏾😩
Fr👏👏👏👏
After AAAAA LOOTTTT of pressure, I still waited for my husband, and I DONT'T REGRET ONE SECOND OF IT!!
Who needs tinder when you have a candle lighting African mama 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol
@Brittany Smith ikr
Lmao 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
That one had me rolling too 😂😂😂
Wow. People today make it seem shameful to be a virgin, but she is POWERFUL! What a great role model. Don't lower your standards. In the end, the long-term relationship is worth so much more than the early sex.
AngelPuffCait has
Truth!!
Not always. If you meet the right person, don’t set a timeline.
@@articfoxqueen7550 Yeah, but get married first.
Five things by Yvonne's TEDtalk :
1. The person who sees you for you.. and loves you regardless.
2. The one who sees value in what you value.
3. Wait on purpose, not in fear.
4. Wait on the one who makes you a priority.
5. Wait in the one who meets your standards.
thanks
@@lilmommy31583 my pleasure
🙏🏽
You missed:
* 6. 40 and never married
Is that bad? She wants a quality relationship with a quality partner - why is a bad relationship better than being single at 40?
As she says: “4: Wait in purpose, not in fear”.
I have been married 33 years and this is the BEST advice for singles. Do not lower your standards but continue to wait for your King or Queen 👑 to come. It is worth the wait!
Thank you so much for thisss!!!!!
That being said, while you are waiting, be prepared to perhaps never having your king or queen. I wish someone had prepared me for that.
@@WakandaBabe so true. This is a fact. Women need to understand that sometimes the King doesn’t come along- and that is ok.
I'm 23 and waiting with you girl. God's timing is perfect!!
Rheyana Branch me too gal
Hi Rheyana Branch , would like to meet you text me on m.satwarrior@gmail.com
Rheyana Branch 19 and still
with you guys 😁
Rheyana Branch waiting too
Do you have an instagram?Congrats
She's so pretty and funny. So much wisdom
she is beautiful very lovely woman
JayoJay
what about Ghanaians
nahh, don't start with that, all african's are beautiful
Oh, sit down. Don't start what? I see other Africans calling themselves the most beautiful all the time, and no one says anything. Its always Nigerians that have to be inclusive, when its anything negative other Africans are the first to bash.
JayoJay Ccccc
Saving this to show my daughter. She ain’t even born yet lol
😆
Carla Williams update: my daughter is here! She’s two weeks old and her training starts NOW! ☺️
Janette Desilier That’s awesome! Congratulations.
love your idea... will be waiting for her views on that.. m 24 now..lets see
That’s right girl
“Wait for the one who makes you a priority” got it!
Got it✔️
For women going through this right now this was extremely powerful to listen to. The wait is sexy and I can totally agree that it does remove the raff because they don't want to wait. Thank you for sharing this Yvonne xxx
As a young man I acquiesced to the idea that I needed to be what a woman wanted me to be to have a successful relationship, that servicing her emotional needs was my duty, and to prioritize my own needs was shallow and selfish. Big mistake - but then, I made a lot of critical mistakes as a young man. One mistake was thinking that I was grown up in my early twenties and knew who I was, what I wanted, and that these things would remain constant. Are you kidding me? Only a child can think that way. These days my take would be if a woman wants me to invest in a committed relationship - a marriage even - without first determining that we are sexually compatible - she can wait. Without me. I have no problem with her choosing that course - but it's not gonna be my course. Best that we avoid the pitfalls of poor decision-making before they become traumatic. That's just me - but me is the one person I can't walk away from...
@Tablature Butler You are surely entitled to your own opinion. Whether someone chooses to wait until marriage or just wait until some deeper point in their relationship I don't see how it would be a waste of time. Sexual compatibility, if there is such a thing, shouldn't be primary focus since so much time is spent outside of that space in a committed relationship. Everything has its place, but it just makes so much more sense to connect with a person's heart before connecting with their genitals #imho
+Angelly - "Sexual compatibility - if there is such a thing" - yes, there is such a thing. On many different levels, starting with the very basics, like "sex is very important to me" vs "sex isn't that important to me" - there's a deep tragedy and ruined lives and families in just that simple equation. I was with a woman who used sex like doggie biscuits - if I did what she wanted me to - I got some. If not - she withheld. She didn't love sex - she loved control. "Sit up. Roll over. Stay." Took me a looooong time to figure out where she was coming from - but leaving her was one of the smartest moves I ever made, even though it cost me big time. I found a woman who loved sex down to her bones - the difference was night and day. She didn't want to be in control - she wanted to feel good, and making me feel good made her feel good - she wanted me to be all man, because it made her feel all woman - and she loved feeling all woman. Some like only vanilla sex - some like it a little wilder. Some get off when it feels dirty. Some want to be dominant - some want to be dominated. Some are willing (or hungry) to include others. Sex is a HUGE part of life and intimate relationships - if you find out too late that the one you are with isn't on the same page as you - the suffering and resentment and the feeling trapped will kill the love. Guaranteed. MUCH better to find out up front...
Tablature Butler I recognize your perspective and I'm not seeking to invalidate it. I'm just saying is that primary? Like is that the first or main thing you seek to discover about a person? If you feel that's the only way a relationship can be successful, that is to say having the same sexual drive, maybe we just have a different idea of successful relationships. Which is obviously fine. I just believe the worth of a person in your life is how they feed your mind and spirit before they even have access to you on a more intimate level. You don't have to agree. Something about the opportunity to share my opinion is irresistible, so this is just my 5 cent.
+Angelly - A person can be the best singer (or fastest runner, etc) in the world, but if other aspects of their life - like a strong work ethic, great mentoring/managing, and just plain good luck - don't line up to maximize their strengths, they will not be a star singer or athlete. Not gonna happen. Relationships are similar, in that you can like, admire, respect, and be attracted to another person - and still discover that the relationship is doomed because you are sexually incompatible. Lots of couples struggle through their years together because SOME of the boxes are checked - they're not completely miserable - and never know the true happiness and kind of deep satisfaction only the sexually attuned ever know. Not saying it's easy, not saying it's even as common as one would hope - but my take is that it's infinitely less likely to happen in a "waiting is sexy" scenario. That's more like crossing your fingers and hoping for the best because you heart is pure. Good luck wth that. Ultimately, this is the fruit of deep-seated societal sexual repression, Calvinistic guilt-and-suffering religion - and is partly responsible for so much unhappiness in the USA, which is truly and tragically pandemic. I wish you nothing but the best...
I haven't always been abstinent but I took a year off from sex and dating last year and I found a new value in something I treated so casual. I've recently reconnected with God and decided to save myself until marriage or I suppose now it would be to remain abstinent until then and I've never felt such peace in my relationship with God. I've never found such a deep love and respect for myself. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs and choices but in my personal experience hooking up with someone who would just later be out of my life has left me feeling empty and looking for the next to replace that affection. I found the affection I need within myself and my relationship with God.
well thats unfortunate for the husband who has to wait more than other guys who you let into your pants so easily / soon
its actually a good thing because when the time comes for they, the will indeed now that its the right moment and the right person, no need for regrets anymore!
Its so amazing to hear this beacuse recently I've experience this myself and I can totally understand you. Right now my relationship with God and my inner peace are more important things in my life than pleasing some momentary desire, or even pleasing someone else. God's timing is perfect, keep doing your thing! wish u the best
Same. I’m on the journey right now.
Love this! God redeems all things and gives us peace when we follow Him. Thank you for sharing.
I'm a Christian and I was actually debating whether I was going to go through with abstinence
But after this is I want to keep my virginity
It's impowering and if it's for the Lord than I'm down for that
He gave me life and joy so I can give him my promise
Update 3 years later: I lost my v card but I believe in you guys😊
And I am convinced that this decision will bring lots of joy to you in the long run !
God bless!
Wow good for you! I'm a Christian myself! It's all in gods plan🙂🙏
How was it a debate? Like the Bible says no fornication, Right?
Christian here too... I always knew I want to wait, but now I'm not even sure I want to get married amd sometimes I'm like whoooa a life of celibacy dang 😂😂😂
But you can never go wrong giving to God ☺️
I wish you all the best 🤗
I'm 31, my fiancé is 40... waiting until marriage!!! Getting married November 2019
Congrats!
Just married 👏🏻
How were the nuptials???! Congratulations!!
How was the wedding?
Good thing y'all didnt wait until 2020.
The religious female version of Kevin Hart right there hahaha
Esther JE except that she is funnier
Esther JE so I'm not the only one who saw it!! She really is, I love it! Lol
I noticed the Kevin Hart vibes too.
Esther JE yass
i was just saying she needs to do comedy lol
Yvonne is a lovely and beautiful artist on screen and off. Thank goodness for actresses like her standing up and talking about values! #NigeriaStandUp
Tinuke Oyefule Beautiful
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you cannot date till you marry 🇳🇬
ilamosi ekenimoh shout out to fellow Nigerians. My dad said I can't date till I'm ready to get married
Naija🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬
i waited until I was 38 when I got married to an amazing God fearing man. I dont regret it.
pastelesdeyucca You give me hope 😇
I salute all you virgins 💕🙌🏾🙏🏾 I wish I would’ve waited but hey I got my beautiful child out of it but I will be waiting for my husband now ✨
Did ANYONE notice the man's face at 9:26?! Lol, he big mad or little mad?! lol.
Sparks Fly Ikr?! Lol. His girl probably made him come to this seminar.
Sparks Fly he was like that is not my cup of tea lol
he wasn't having it lol
I have died!
I'm cryin he was so salty.
I'm 32 and still a virgin and happily waiting. This was so refreshing to watch. I needed to watch this. God bless you Yvonne 🙂
By the way when she asked where are my Nigerians, I started cheering too. Love my people lol
Nicole: Are you engaged in some religion?
Hope you have found somebody. But out of curiosity, did you have an end date to waiting ?
@@LuigiBaglio
Are you engaged to irreligious secular humanistic religion ?
Awesome!! This is encouraging.
This lady is high value & God will bless her on the level of her integrity. When you honor God He will honor you...guaranteed.
“Faith is the assurance of things hoped for and evidence of things not seen”
hebrews 11:1
Crazy how well she plays her role on "Insecure" and she's virgin. Gotta' respect her talent and humor!
I was thinking the exact same thing.
confidence has nothing to do with it though
She’s an actress. Do you really think a professional actress or actor has to have the lived experiences of every character they play? Come on.
BLESS THIS WOMAN FOR BREAKING THE STEREOTYPES AND VIRGINITY SHAMING
thank you for speaking out the beautiful overlooked and unacknowledged truth
I'm 27 and embarking on the journey of celibacy. This video is encouraging me to continue the good fight.
People did not laugh enough here. She is funny, intelligent and need I say stunning?!! 👌
The Nigerian jokes are tired
People make time for what is important to them. - so much truth.
One of the best TED talks i have seen. Relatable and captivating from the start to finish
Zay ed!! agreed!!! this one and "the person you really need to marry" are my top 2 from ted talk...both are full of wisdom and delivered well!
i love this woman!!! im breaking up with my guy right now! thank youuu! i needed to get rid of him...cause he never values me and he has been agressive
How did it go?
Actually saw this 2 years after you posted this...I feel like I should do it too😇...Some advice please how did it go...
Girl we need an update!
Girl come back and tell us how it went
Im here for the update
And she just posted a pic on insta with her men yall. The wait was worth it, prase Him.
Insta please🙇♀️
the guy at 9:24 is not picking up ANYTHING she is throwing down 😂 sitting there all stale face like 😒 while all the ladies in the house are clapping
HAHAHA i'm not the only one that noticed!
littlemonkey246able lol his face was so sour. "I won't be mad if you don't love me for me". Lol who dragged him there
Bet he's mad every lie he's told his girl to get her Virginity is being exposed!😂
and he was KILLING that gum!
the wait is sexy, yes.. waiting is Spiritual, self discovery, personal evolution, sensuality, honor, abundant self love, and empowering obedience to God and your own self worth ❤
Leah Christine Wordddd
"I don't have to beg anyone to like me because I like me" YEAH GIRL YOU GET IT
Ohhh the power of the tongue. Oh the power of positive thinking. Sis got her a God-fearing, intelligent, successful, supportive and fiiiiinnnneee man. Look at what happens when you are obedient! Go Yvonne!
I love this woman ❤❤❤
I can't wait to see her in a couple of years, with the men of her dreams and her beautiful family
I thought the same, but i looked her up at shes 36 and not married yet, not that is a bad thing but makes me wonder and question many things
@@MariaGuzman-sw4hs A lot of people are emotinally drained and scarred for life because of past relationships because they settled for less than what they deserved. If she still hasn't met the person for her who's going to recipocate her energy and feelings, why should she settle for less?
@@heyyou3609 in my opinion she shouldn't settle for less. Or anyone lol . idk I was just thoughtful I'm still in my own journey and life path and dont have the truth about anything.. evolving perception everyday. But thank you for your input its refreshing
Maria Guzman and thank you for a nice response (usually people get defensive when you give another point of vue). Anyways good luck with your journey 💛
@@heyyou3609 Yeah I believe that as humans we should listen not just respond defensively and thank you, you as well 🌼💗
I really enjoyed watching this !!! I'm 25 and a virgin I'm waiting too
I feel like she definitely gave me words of encouragement. God wanted me to hear this. Nothing he does is by mistake.
Amen.🙏🏽✨
"Why ACCEPT, UNacceptable behavior?" Good question!
The only phrase I remember is "Sometimes people who can meet your standards feel they need to diminish them" THAT'S RIGHT YVONE ! I'm so glad that somebody like her finally say it. She is brillant. 👏👏
16 and still going to wait I know it's nothing compared to 33 but there is not alot of girls in this society that is willing to wait.
Update:I'm 19 now and still waiting by the grace of God. Thanks for the kind words everyone I wrote this 2 years ago and I've grown so much. Looking back at this is truly inspiring.
Mikaelia Cornwall congrats, sweetheart. I hope you make it. I'm rooting for you!
Mikaelia Cornwall YOU 👏🏼 CAN 👏🏼 DO 👏🏼 IT 👏🏼💞
As a 16 yr old who didn’t wait, I support you and your decision! Make sure you build a strong trustful and loving relationship first, because physical intimacy changes things
@@erinbathie-moore8478 thank you. Trying to build that love with God first 🙏.I really appreciate the kind words.
Mikaelia Cornwall you’re amazing for having that conscious to wait. I regretted not doing that at your age, the road will be challenging but you got this! Praying for you!
"It's never too late nor too early, God's time is the perfect time."
“ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.”
Not sure if anyone needed to hear this, but I hope it will make at least a slight difference.
Yes, my parents aren’t from Nigeria but, same sentiment. I was raised in a Christian household. I’m a PK and it was instilled in me to wait. But then my mom, my senior year of college was like “I can’t wait to have grandkids. I want to be a grandma soon.” And I’m like “Mom, I’m almost finished with undergrad and about to go to grad school ...” and she was like “Okay then by 24, you should be finished so, I want grandkids by then. It’s on my bucket list” I was so shocked like you’re putting a time clock on my womb and I’m trying to sort out the next phase of my life. Safe to say I’ll be 30 in a few months, still waiting and no children. I also told her (being petty) if you ask me again, I’ll add 5 more years.
You are reaching geriatric pregnancy stages.
Check the dude at 9:27. He's chewing gum and looking at his date all upset, as if to say, "So does this mean I'm not getting any tonight?"
Kyla Aquino Irving 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭
I saw that too!! Lol!
Marian Moore i saw that too. Looked like he was being offended!
I saw that too lmaooo
Kyla Aquino Irving insaw that😂😂😂
She might as well be me! I got me a twin on TedTalk
Loves Jesus ✅
Nigerian heritage ✅
33 and waiting ✅
Agree with everything she said except I'm not so bold to talk about it like this 🙈
Yeah, you sound like a REAL catch.
I have the same surname as her.
Well said. I hope she gets her rose petals and candles
What is it with everyone wanting lit candles around them? Those things are a fire hazard.
@@carmensavu5122 🤣😂
And water bed 😄
Wow😘😘 thank you
I'm still waiting I'm 25. I'm proud of my decision, I love God more than my emotions🙌🙌.
"look Jesus, he coming through!" 😂😂
Jazz sooo funny!!
😂😂😂😂
She is great example for young people.
six years later and this is still a gem! thank you Yvonne
I’m 31, Asian in Amercian. Same perspective. Never regret to wait for the RIGHT man, and still waiting. Such a great speech with good sense of humors ❤️
She's awesome! A really powerful Ted talk, brought with humor
After AAAAA LOOTTTT of pressure, I still waited for my husband, and I DONT'T REGRET ONE SECOND OF IT!!
That's amazing!! You're truly blessed
Did he wait for you?
I’m rooting for her cause wow we need to see women like her win.
It's crazy when something that should be normal becomes a stand courage.
Yo, is this where Kevin Hart gets his mannerisms from??? Lol
YESSSS!!! PREACH IT! I'm 16 turning 17 this summer, and I'm a virgin waiting for someone special. Since my mom advised me to not wait until Im married because it's an outdated way of thinking. But this video is so educational and Yvonne is so right! She's inspriring me to wait to until I'm married, thank you so much!!!
Fight the good fight
Keep up the faith
God bless u ❤
Stay strong, pretty girl.
"Don't judge someone else's process because you're in a process as well."
........ wow.
"Let's not excuse inexcusable behavior." Well said.
YVONNE OUT HERE GIVING ME LIFEEEEEE! YES. Thank you for speaking truth boldly and with class. You are a voice to a generation.
I Love her and the message, though with so much weight, was delivered so humorously 💖
Wow! I loved this, it was well needed.
Edit: After reading the comments I just wanted to add this: my godmom had been waiting a longggg time to get married because she wanted to get married to the right person. She got married earlier this year at the age of 46 and she is completely happy and satisfied with her life and my new goddad. Don't listen to anyone in these comments who say that you will miss out if you wait like her- IT'S NOT TRUE! Wait for the right one to come along, keep your standards, and know that there are ladies out here actually waiting with you, too!
Thanks for sharing. I’m 40 and still waiting for the right one with whom to share my precious gift. I have no regrets, specially when I see how women who let go of their virginity so easily wish they could go back
i'm 27 and waiting too girl !! we shall find the one that is worth the wait
she is so funny😂😂😂..so true. Once you know your worth, you don't need to settle for someone who doesn't treat you well!
Yesss, she's my soulmate in values and faith. And my Polish Catholic parents approve. :D
ZosiaSamosiaOo lol, exactly Amen!
ZosiaSamosiaOo i just saw u on the skin deep video lol!
Ha, I'm everywhere on these relationship subjects -- gotta finally move on to the real life lol!! ;)
In a previous video you commented "soulmates don't exist" hah
my Indonesian Catholic parents approve too 😇😇😇😇😇
The fact that you did not settle for less is very inspiring. And I just came for the laughs, leaving with lessons. Grateful.
I would just like to say that she is literally so beautiful. She is STUNNING.
Amazing speaker. Even if you don't agree with HER values doesn't mean you can't appreciate her talk. She touched on things everyone can agree with.
She would be a spokeswoman for waiting for marriage.
I was told no boyfriends untill I get my education by my dad....My mom said no dating till I was 16. Most of my relationships were abusive and I didn't realize it till later. Parents need to teach children about unhealthy relationships relationships.
should have listened to your parents
@@tosinojo7310 the parents should have taught her clearly why No.
Karen C they did. They told you to wait
Helen Enang that's not teaching her about unhealthy relationships.
If parents need to teach children about any relationship they need to model it and teach them about healthy relationships
I want to be friends with her, she seems like a good influence
"YVONNE! I go to church today, I light FIVE candles for you. Maybe God see ONE of them!" 😂
Yvonne-There may be 7.5 billion people in the world. There may be 18 days that pass between texts. There may even be 8 years between us, but if your travels ever come through Northeast Ohio (no disrespect to Wichita), I would love to take you out to dinner. Let me knowwwwww #TheWaitIsSexy
Also, I want to give a major shout out to you, your parents, and that brilliant med student. There are not many ladies today who hold these values, so it is really inspiring to see you live your life the way you do. Much love and thanks again.
Keep being picky,
Donnie A.
P.S. You = still a spring chicken
She's a beautiful woman inside and out. Why wouldn't I want to date her?
Donnie A, I want to give a major shout out to YOU,sir. There are not many men out there today who APPRECIATE a woman with values. Wish there were more of you. Thanks.
Ayyyyyyy
DAdeuceeight aweeeee
@@cartergirl3of3 there'are many men who appreciate them believe me
The WAIT doesn't disappoint... #Powerful
"7.5 Billion people, 1 has to have my name on it..." LOL Thanks for the perspective, God Bless you! :)
"Wait on the One who meets your standards."
She's so funny I LOVE IT and am so glad to find a woman I can relate to
It's amazing how all the people who waited for the very best got exactly that, and their marriages are such high quality and their children are so beautiful and healthy. Even more so than those who settled earlier. It's almost like God overcompensates for those who trust Him
What about all the people who didn't wait and have high quality marriages and beautiful children or all the people who did wait who have low quality marriages? We aren't going to talk about them?
London McElvaine You can talk about them if you want, but this video is about waiting. At the end of the day the quality of a marriage is the sum of each person's willingness to make it work, whether they waited or not. But I'm specifically talking about those who wait on God.
I couldn't figure out if this is sarcasm or not....
Violet&Red can you provide proof on your claim? people that waited for whatever reason got the best life ever? Because stats says over 50% of marriages fail, and over 70% is actually filed by women. I would like to see your source of factual data for this.
Violet&Red Yessss sis! Its because faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen..its the double portion anointing for standing in faith.
I wish I had waited until marriage. My husband truly deserved to be the one.
He is the "one" hence the reason why you married him.
meena jones she means the one to take her virginity
It's not too late! You can still keep as much as you can for your husband!
I feel like this comment is more what I needed to hear than even the video itself
She's so right. I had to travel all the way from Nigeria to Malaysia to find my boo. The funny part of the story was I wasn't even looking.
God really bamboozled me right there with the perfect man for me. 14 years and 2 kids later and I just laugh and say, thank You Jesus. So she is absolutely right. Her boo might not be in the same location as her.
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I love this lady. Spicy, truthful, focused and she loves Jesus
awesome testimony ms. orji, I was a virgin until I married at 28, met my husband when I went to Africa for the first time. Been married 7 years and have a lovely 1 yr old daughter. The wait is sexy!
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I love this so much. I'm so glad she speaks so boldly about core values in a society that doesn't edify that. Im a proud 27 year old virgin waiting for marriage.i just love love love this Ted talk! 🙌🙌🙌💪💪💪💥💥💥💥
Can I just say how inspiring this woman is to me?
I'm 16 and I literally have no idea what is marriage but I will wait until I find the right person to make love.... she's really an inspiration in my journey.
This was fantastic!!! Yvonne Orji, you are GREAT!
Wooow awesome thank you Yvonne Orji thank you for being strong and inspiring me to be strong, you will get the best husband yourself
“Let’s not excuse inexcusable behavior, you are a priority and you are worth somebody that will put you at the top of their list” 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
TheAngeldanielle86 facts sis facts - no one is too busy it’s a matter of priority
Needed this. On a new journey of abstinence, and I can see God more clearly in my life than ever before. ❤️
love yvonne! she has good energy
I love the way Yvonne uses humor to speak the truth. She's great at making people laugh but she also gives you "food for thought".
I love her imitating her parents' accent
I love her... I lost mine at 19 in college (I was rape) because my ex said he can't be a virgin smh I'm 26 now and I'm still waiting... blessings to u n ur family
I'm sorry sis
regine reme
u not waiting
But God is your strength Regine and your wait, by His grace will be worthwhile
regine reme God bless u im Srry to hear that stay strong
I don't think that counts. That's a trauma that happened to you. Not something you did.