Accountability in relationships: taking stock in your own development as individual or whole and seeing value in it With that - whatever collective of thoughts feelings emotions fulfillment or disenchantment. You're correct - it does not pay off to find "the missing piece" to your puzzle So become whole first before making connections in the world
There comes a point in personal development where u've reached a wall, and no longer progress can be done with just yourself and "sitting in a room on your own" so to speak. You would have to get out in to the world, and with people and a relationship u experience, u learn and pain and grow and learn about yourself. That's what happened to me too. You dont need to put that much pressure or expectation on yourself to be perfect before u make a connection with someone. (Also, the work doesnt end per se, it's just a process of life. We can always find more elements in our subconscious mind to work on) Also relational trauma can only be healed in relational settings or relationship. On everything u can work on ur own, but trauma regarding people and connection is healed through a connection. Just with a higher consciousness, and self awareness and willing to improve.
My wife and I are two wound mates who have struggled through and grown from having to confront ourselves and each other for over a decade. It is literally only this year that we have blossomed and benefited from bettering ourselves. The fights have lessened along with the confusion as we understand each other better. The passion and open emotion has come back , and the confidence we felt towards each other in the first year has returned but is now based in good faith and honesty instead of uneducated infatuation. When I hold her hand now, I'm doing so because the idea and touch of her hand energizes me like I fell in love all over again. We've healed each other, fought each other, and grown alongside each other. I had to send this video to her because 'Wound Mates' is the perfect description of our lives together.
Both my fiance and I did the work before we even started dating. I can vouch that with less time dealing with past wounds, we've had a trust and confidence in a better future together. Less time healing past hurts = more time building together. Best relationship I've had by leaps and bounds.
Love your content. Love the variation of higher realmed consciousness between finance and material succession. Not many do it in the way you chose to execute it. Bring the awareness of both sides. Thank you, Anti Prophet. ♥ Peculiar name as well.
Whilst I highly agree with the idea that we attract people with similar levels of trauma, baggage and in general "wounds". And I also agree that if we work on ourselves as a priority, we will attract people that are working on themselves as a priority. I disagree with the sentiment that one should be dissuaded from relationships, simply because they still have a lot of personal growth left. Yes, if you're in a state where you can't manage focusing on yourself as-well as balancing a relationship, then for sure, you might need to stay single and do a bit more healing before you are ready. But I do believe that a major part of a solid and healthy relationship is two people sharing each others lives: The good, the bad, and the ugly. But that's just me, overall this video is a though provoking sentiment, but a message overall that I don't agree with entirely.
There comes a point in personal development where u've reached a wall, and no longer progress can be done with just yourself and "sitting in a room on your own" so to speak. You would have to get out in to the world, and with people and a relationship u experience, u learn and pain and grow and learn about yourself. You dont need to put that much pressure or expectation on yourself to be perfect and wound-free before u make a connection with someone. Or attempt to make a connection with someone... (that's a receipe for disaster) Also, obviously the work doesnt end per se, it's just a process of life. We can always find more elements in our subconscious mind to work on. Also relational trauma can only be healed in relational settings. You can work by yourself on everything but on trauma regarding people and connection. It is healed through a connection. Obviously with a higher consciousness, and self awareness and the willing to learn and improve it becomes better
About that I want to clarify something, going into a relationship with the mindset to be healed by that it's a big lie you told yourself, when I met my now fiance I had this mindset, and it was slowly destroying our relationship, but then I went into therapy and he helped me see the problem I had and he also opened about the problems he had, and we were patient with each other and learned how to control ourselves and now we are in a beautiful healthy relationship, but the reason why is that it's because we worked through it together and without expectations, as adults you understand the perfect prince doesn't exist, but what exist is people who are willing to make an effort and find compromises to make the relationship a good one. So my add-on on this video is just to say be willing to be open about yourself and don't be hypocritical about yourself wanting someone that's not you to help yourself, it's a journey that you can do alone or with someone who loves you and want the best for you.
This is really tough for me, My girlfriend and I broke up a couple days ago, but both of us still want to be together. Both of us had many wounds and we did kind of rely on each other, I told her I think we should sort out our lives first and then try again and she dumped me. She still tells me she misses me though, it’s like we were soul mates and wound mates. This is really tough for me.
In Dutch there is a saying “zelfkennis is het begin van alle wijsheid” translated literally it’s “self knowledge is the beginning of all wisdom” Maybe soul mates or wound mates are just people we resonate with. My wife and me have been trough a lot and I’ve always continued to work n myself (to the point that my psychologist said, you also start to learn to accept who you are instead of keep trying to evolve. I think as you said they key lies in the middle between working on your self and accepting your self. Try to grow together and work together on rich of your points. I think it helps to solidify the base of your relationship with someone.
As a Dutchman I do believe that is the phrase, me and my girlfriend struggle with parental issues. My father was a shitbag as with her mother, if you work on these things together then you build a strong foundation on them. When you heal your own wound that someone else has, it’s a connection
I agree I should focus on myself before I put myself into a relationship with someone. Who she's gonna be I shouldn't focus on it. I might be afraid she can resent me for what I did or I can resent her for what she did. Or each other she would turn the child or more than one child against me I know won't be capable of turning them against her. My parents were born in Somalia. It was a great country until all hell broke loose. Turmoil, mischief and tribalism were the 3 components for disaster. My mom brought my dad here they didn't understand each other she says to me I look like my dad in a bad way. She told me that he said to her that I didn't look like him and that he needed a DNA test to prove I was his son. She said to me that he treated her poorly. And little did she know it affects me she doesn't know or maybe she does know I'm guessing she does. She questions my learning disability? She has a physical one. As a mother or a father for that matter you shouldn't if you're a good one. You should never tell your kids about your past relationships. You know what your mom did or you know what your dad did no unacceptable. Even if they do ask you tell them you just didn't understand each other that's it tell them it's none of their business if they go too far. I do blame one thing for my father is he wasn't there he left me. Now he's living his best life good for him. Imagine how would my mom feel by the way I just call them relatives. Imagine how would my mom feel if I mentioned about my grandpa disappearance from my mom's side all because of what grandma did? How would she feel? Now for me I gonna need some more healing before I put myself into a relationship. Honestly I would rather live alone and die alone. In the Somali community people love tea and coffee they even mix it together. So I'm gonna do something nice I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do so. Hopefully I will. When it's their time to leave on this earth. Imagine if they died at the same time? I want their funeral to be a funeral that will be remembered and one of it will be. The ones who are there for the funeral will be served tea with coffee mix. I'll say somewhere down the lines if only my relatives can drink tea and coffee or mixed coffee type of tea. We'll have a grill and some beverages along the way. I'd be like too bad my supposed parents aren't here for the festival. I know my imagination won't come true but I wonder what would be like if it did? I believe we should heal ourselves from our wounds.
Can I just say that apart from creating world class content with variants of meaningful sentences in each of your videos, you are the most attractive male I hv ever encountered in TH-cam till date ❤. And I mean this, it's so very attractive on so many levels, I mean it just woos you intellectually. You have NAILED it.
So here's my take You will never know just how much you've healed until you do find true love. True love will have God testing you by using your wounds and your partner's wounds as tests to see how much you've claimed to mature. If you fail it's cool you start over again cause God's love is unconditional but time isn't so watch how you spend it. But whoof man... the rewards I've seen God pour out when he sees us pass the test and keep the faith...😭😭🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒 Just the thoughts of a hopeless romantic
@@JenicaBaoigheall lol I'm not sure about the hopeful hopeless cases. My whole thing is I don't do well in casual relationships and that's the time my homies sat me down and we're like my boy... O hopeless 😂😂. At the same time that's not how God programmed the boy and I don't want to change it. I get to know a person fall in love and don't look back. I think that's really really hopeless in the grand scheme of life especially if you live in America 😂😂 luckily I'm South African which is also not too far off from the American culture so yeah hopeless romantic. God has been testing us in this current relationship bro more than a single comment can hold and still I keep the faith. Where I'm at right now... The world is ending soon and this is who I want to fight demons with... And if it's not then this is the womb I want for my offspring to flourish. There is no soul mates my brother in christ... That's some toxic unrealistic demonic shit. Your soul mate is your mother lol. What you need to do is sit down and be honest about your deepest disires and prioritize that. Have fun and be gentle with yourself and dealing with her insecurities if you help her grow out of it instead of neglect or stress about it that's grounds for a loyal wife and a man who knows how to raise a daughter. Lol there's a reason all my exs come back even when I told them I don't do relationships twice
Yeah my husband wishes we had done this before we married young and had a family young.Wishes we had gone through Christian marriage classes that we turned down.Still together almost 50 years whew😂
@@JenicaBaoigheall literally all orthodox priests teach people to fix themselves and be the best version of themselves before they start a relationship. Your personal "experience" isn't objective
Finding the therapy that works for you is also important. Talk therapy didn't work for me. Hypnotherapy works for me. There's EFT, CBT, art therapy. Be honest with yourself. It was hard to tell my talk therapist that it wasn't working. But you pay THEM to help. Don't be afraid to face those wounds and demons, you're stronger that you give yourself credit for. Facing them and admitting you need help takes strengh and courage. Good luck.
Transformation transmutt focus and create a positive physical artistique thing to confirm the process of painting a memories or write to a loved on passed on write a song plant a seed sow the beneficial emotional process of letting go forgiving someone bywalking in their shoes ... talk it through help someone in the same similiar needs without inputting jugement ...you got this no matter what take it by the horns face on and breath in and be ready equipped with the intent to sort this out take the time it takes be kind and patient during.this.process No one is gonna tell how its done but be in the right place at the right time to simply confirm you are on the path .... 😊
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That confirms it, I've decided to work on myself before I do anything else.
Good luck to you brother
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Accountability in relationships: taking stock in your own development as individual or whole and seeing value in it
With that - whatever collective of thoughts feelings emotions fulfillment or disenchantment.
You're correct - it does not pay off to find "the missing piece" to your puzzle
So become whole first before making connections in the world
There comes a point in personal development where u've reached a wall, and no longer progress can be done with just yourself and "sitting in a room on your own" so to speak. You would have to get out in to the world, and with people and a relationship u experience, u learn and pain and grow and learn about yourself. That's what happened to me too. You dont need to put that much pressure or expectation on yourself to be perfect before u make a connection with someone. (Also, the work doesnt end per se, it's just a process of life. We can always find more elements in our subconscious mind to work on)
Also relational trauma can only be healed in relational settings or relationship. On everything u can work on ur own, but trauma regarding people and connection is healed through a connection. Just with a higher consciousness, and self awareness and willing to improve.
It is also possible both people challenge eachother to heal the wounds together and ascend together
My wife and I are two wound mates who have struggled through and grown from having to confront ourselves and each other for over a decade. It is literally only this year that we have blossomed and benefited from bettering ourselves. The fights have lessened along with the confusion as we understand each other better. The passion and open emotion has come back , and the confidence we felt towards each other in the first year has returned but is now based in good faith and honesty instead of uneducated infatuation.
When I hold her hand now, I'm doing so because the idea and touch of her hand energizes me like I fell in love all over again.
We've healed each other, fought each other, and grown alongside each other. I had to send this video to her because 'Wound Mates' is the perfect description of our lives together.
Both my fiance and I did the work before we even started dating. I can vouch that with less time dealing with past wounds, we've had a trust and confidence in a better future together. Less time healing past hurts = more time building together. Best relationship I've had by leaps and bounds.
Love your content. Love the variation of higher realmed consciousness between finance and material succession. Not many do it in the way you chose to execute it. Bring the awareness of both sides. Thank you, Anti Prophet. ♥ Peculiar name as well.
Keep posting and don't ever give up. You have quality and valued messages.
Yeah why is his name that? Also, what he said.
I always try not to be involved with anyone with too much emotional baggage.
No more than an emotional carry-on.
*me resisting every urge to send this to my ex*
Whilst I highly agree with the idea that we attract people with similar levels of trauma, baggage and in general "wounds". And I also agree that if we work on ourselves as a priority, we will attract people that are working on themselves as a priority. I disagree with the sentiment that one should be dissuaded from relationships, simply because they still have a lot of personal growth left. Yes, if you're in a state where you can't manage focusing on yourself as-well as balancing a relationship, then for sure, you might need to stay single and do a bit more healing before you are ready. But I do believe that a major part of a solid and healthy relationship is two people sharing each others lives: The good, the bad, and the ugly. But that's just me, overall this video is a though provoking sentiment, but a message overall that I don't agree with entirely.
There comes a point in personal development where u've reached a wall, and no longer progress can be done with just yourself and "sitting in a room on your own" so to speak. You would have to get out in to the world, and with people and a relationship u experience, u learn and pain and grow and learn about yourself. You dont need to put that much pressure or expectation on yourself to be perfect and wound-free before u make a connection with someone. Or attempt to make a connection with someone... (that's a receipe for disaster) Also, obviously the work doesnt end per se, it's just a process of life. We can always find more elements in our subconscious mind to work on.
Also relational trauma can only be healed in relational settings. You can work by yourself on everything but on trauma regarding people and connection. It is healed through a connection. Obviously with a higher consciousness, and self awareness and the willing to learn and improve it becomes better
‘Trauma Bonding/Binding’
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Your words help a lot, thankyou 💗
About that I want to clarify something, going into a relationship with the mindset to be healed by that it's a big lie you told yourself, when I met my now fiance I had this mindset, and it was slowly destroying our relationship, but then I went into therapy and he helped me see the problem I had and he also opened about the problems he had, and we were patient with each other and learned how to control ourselves and now we are in a beautiful healthy relationship, but the reason why is that it's because we worked through it together and without expectations, as adults you understand the perfect prince doesn't exist, but what exist is people who are willing to make an effort and find compromises to make the relationship a good one. So my add-on on this video is just to say be willing to be open about yourself and don't be hypocritical about yourself wanting someone that's not you to help yourself, it's a journey that you can do alone or with someone who loves you and want the best for you.
Ultimate Wound mate!!! I found youuu ❤ we both wish nothing more than to subvert our ego in the communication of our message!!
This is really tough for me, My girlfriend and I broke up a couple days ago, but both of us still want to be together. Both of us had many wounds and we did kind of rely on each other, I told her I think we should sort out our lives first and then try again and she dumped me. She still tells me she misses me though, it’s like we were soul mates and wound mates. This is really tough for me.
In Dutch there is a saying “zelfkennis is het begin van alle wijsheid” translated literally it’s “self knowledge is the beginning of all wisdom”
Maybe soul mates or wound mates are just people we resonate with. My wife and me have been trough a lot and I’ve always continued to work n myself (to the point that my psychologist said, you also start to learn to accept who you are instead of keep trying to evolve. I think as you said they key lies in the middle between working on your self and accepting your self.
Try to grow together and work together on rich of your points. I think it helps to solidify the base of your relationship with someone.
As a Dutchman I do believe that is the phrase, me and my girlfriend struggle with parental issues. My father was a shitbag as with her mother, if you work on these things together then you build a strong foundation on them. When you heal your own wound that someone else has, it’s a connection
I agree I should focus on myself before I put myself into a relationship with someone. Who she's gonna be I shouldn't focus on it. I might be afraid she can resent me for what I did or I can resent her for what she did.
Or each other she would turn the child or more than one child against me I know won't be capable of turning them against her.
My parents were born in Somalia. It was a great country until all hell broke loose. Turmoil, mischief and tribalism were the 3 components for disaster.
My mom brought my dad here they didn't understand each other she says to me I look like my dad in a bad way.
She told me that he said to her that I didn't look like him and that he needed a DNA test to prove I was his son.
She said to me that he treated her poorly. And little did she know it affects me she doesn't know or maybe she does know I'm guessing she does.
She questions my learning disability? She has a physical one. As a mother or a father for that matter you shouldn't if you're a good one. You should never tell your kids about your past relationships. You know what your mom did or you know what your dad did no unacceptable.
Even if they do ask you tell them you just didn't understand each other that's it tell them it's none of their business if they go too far.
I do blame one thing for my father is he wasn't there he left me. Now he's living his best life good for him.
Imagine how would my mom feel by the way I just call them relatives. Imagine how would my mom feel if I mentioned about my grandpa disappearance from my mom's side all because of what grandma did?
How would she feel? Now for me I gonna need some more healing before I put myself into a relationship.
Honestly I would rather live alone and die alone.
In the Somali community people love tea and coffee they even mix it together.
So I'm gonna do something nice I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do so. Hopefully I will. When it's their time to leave on this earth. Imagine if they died at the same time?
I want their funeral to be a funeral that will be remembered and one of it will be. The ones who are there for the funeral will be served tea with coffee mix.
I'll say somewhere down the lines if only my relatives can drink tea and coffee or mixed coffee type of tea.
We'll have a grill and some beverages along the way.
I'd be like too bad my supposed parents aren't here for the festival.
I know my imagination won't come true but I wonder what would be like if it did?
I believe we should heal ourselves from our wounds.
Spot On!
you deserve more subs bro!!!
Lucky me for I never had a relationship. So wounds are no issue
Can I just say that apart from creating world class content with variants of meaningful sentences in each of your videos, you are the most attractive male I hv ever encountered in TH-cam till date ❤. And I mean this, it's so very attractive on so many levels, I mean it just woos you intellectually. You have NAILED it.
Thank you so much
So here's my take
You will never know just how much you've healed until you do find true love. True love will have God testing you by using your wounds and your partner's wounds as tests to see how much you've claimed to mature. If you fail it's cool you start over again cause God's love is unconditional but time isn't so watch how you spend it. But whoof man... the rewards I've seen God pour out when he sees us pass the test and keep the faith...😭😭🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒
Just the thoughts of a hopeless romantic
needed this
@@JenicaBaoigheall lol I'm not sure about the hopeful hopeless cases. My whole thing is I don't do well in casual relationships and that's the time my homies sat me down and we're like my boy... O hopeless 😂😂. At the same time that's not how God programmed the boy and I don't want to change it. I get to know a person fall in love and don't look back. I think that's really really hopeless in the grand scheme of life especially if you live in America 😂😂 luckily I'm South African which is also not too far off from the American culture so yeah hopeless romantic.
God has been testing us in this current relationship bro more than a single comment can hold and still I keep the faith.
Where I'm at right now... The world is ending soon and this is who I want to fight demons with... And if it's not then this is the womb I want for my offspring to flourish.
There is no soul mates my brother in christ... That's some toxic unrealistic demonic shit. Your soul mate is your mother lol.
What you need to do is sit down and be honest about your deepest disires and prioritize that. Have fun and be gentle with yourself and dealing with her insecurities if you help her grow out of it instead of neglect or stress about it that's grounds for a loyal wife and a man who knows how to raise a daughter.
Lol there's a reason all my exs come back even when I told them I don't do relationships twice
WOW!!
Never heard of this concept in this way before!!
THANK YOU!!
Yeah my husband wishes we had done this before we married young and had a family young.Wishes we had gone through Christian marriage classes that we turned down.Still together almost 50 years whew😂
We don't "attract" people to us. We are attracted TO them.
bro really said🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻🧻
This is exactly what christianity is teaching, this guy only rediscovered it.
Convert my friends
@@JenicaBaoigheall literally all orthodox priests teach people to fix themselves and be the best version of themselves before they start a relationship. Your personal "experience" isn't objective
So thats what happened to us...
I feel that
How do I heal my emotional wounds
Therapy. Even if it's just to identify them in the first place
Finding the therapy that works for you is also important. Talk therapy didn't work for me. Hypnotherapy works for me. There's EFT, CBT, art therapy. Be honest with yourself. It was hard to tell my talk therapist that it wasn't working. But you pay THEM to help. Don't be afraid to face those wounds and demons, you're stronger that you give yourself credit for. Facing them and admitting you need help takes strengh and courage. Good luck.
Transformation transmutt focus and create a positive physical artistique thing to confirm the process of painting a memories or write to a loved on passed on write a song plant a seed sow the beneficial emotional process of letting go forgiving someone bywalking in their shoes ... talk it through help someone in the same similiar needs without inputting jugement
...you got this no matter what take it by the horns face on and breath in and be ready equipped with the intent to sort this out take the time it takes be kind and patient during.this.process No one is gonna tell how its done but be in the right place at the right time to simply confirm you are on the path .... 😊