I feel like people have really dropped from their graces over the past 4 years. Our society has really become centred on ourselves and not others. I am happy that you addressed this topic... Be one another's cheerleader! Building others up is a net positive... Tearing them down tears us all down.
I love that you are talking about this. Growing up , my mom would warn my sister and me about women who talk “nasty” about other women and even their own husbands… she would tell us steer clear because it’s very easy to be pulled into this and it doesn’t get you any kind of positive results . You don’t realize how many people do this until you get into your adult life , but wow! there are A LOT… and I’m just so grateful to my mom and for people like you , Tracy ,who remind us to stay in our lane❤
I was just saying to my husband that I wish I had taken batter care of myself I’m my early adult years. I am now 53 and have been better on doing just that. It’s never too late and people as yourself truly inspire me to be better to myself. Thank you Tracy 🥰
This is scary. This is the perfect inspiration to not become a nasty middle-aged woman. I guess I have 10 years to make sure this is not so. Thanks Tracy.
The higher road is often a less traveled one. My circle is small, because I protect myself. It gets discouraging at times when the loneliness gremlin starts talking. I remind myself of the alternatives often, and then ultimately feel relieved of having those boundaries. I think one of the toughest skills in life is finding validation in yourself and accountability to yourself, rather than seeking it from others and not getting it. Thanks for making us feel not so alone in our own 'lanes' and 'boxes' ❤
I am so glad that you have done a video like this. Woman should be kind to each other and hold each other up. Jealousy is such a ugly emotion. Thank you for doing this! Too much of this is out there. Have a good week.
I am a therapist and I have female clients who are so unkind to other women. I model right behaviour and we actually get into a discussion as to why they are behaving that way. Usually a lot of inner shame. Whew! It's work to shift such behavior.
Thank you for sharing. I encourage the same in my coaching practice. There are a lot of past internal wounds and scars surfacing with women. It's a lot of peeling back layer after layer. Bless you, for your work. We are needed!
Love this Tracy! "If you type something nasty, and you hit send your not really released of the prison walls that your in" that is the best!!! Thank you for sharing this so many women need to hear this!
Thank you .i so understand where you are coming from.I am a very organised clean and tidy person and for a long time some people made snide remarks about my tidy way of life.Well I learned to ignore them and I love my life.
Thank you Ms. Tracy for tackling this hard topic. I am so tired of nasty women my age (50) just pouring their negativity all over everybody. And I swear if you show up happy and confident in who you are, you can literally just see these people shooting daggers from their eyes at you. I was blessed to be raised by a beautiful woman who knew who she was and make those hard choices everyday while being married, working full time and raising 3 girls. We were taught to lift women up and help each other. Life is not easy and He never said it would be. Wish these hateful women had better influences in their lives. I am as ever so thankful for your smart and thoughtful content. You are an inspiration to me. Please be blessed. ☺️~Sarah
Yes, I'm so happy you covered this typic. Many times, I've had to unplug from gossipy, competitive types of people. I sense that behavior rather quickly now; The domination trying to prove they are better than everyone else is annoying and hard to deal with. It's a transparent reflection on how they feel about themselves. Putting someone else down to try and elevate yourself is a sure way to not make friends with healthy people.
Thank you, this is so true . Your videos are fabulous. I used to be a horrible person but it took me a few years to learn to be the person I want to be, If we are not careful any of us could easily become bitter. Xx
Happy Tuesday! What an incredible message, Tracy. I appreciate it so much. It reminds me of the saying, "You get more flies with honey than you do vinegar." Thank you.
I just got the book braving the wilderness, by Brene Brown The Quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone, I’d rather stand alone at my old age then be around somebody that’s a toxic drama, nasty person . It’s sad when somebody wants to tear you down to make their self look better.
You really light the room. You know yourself and growth with time. Self-awareness is important, know our flaws and how to amend our life when we are not happy.
Wow! I wasn't expecting this video tonight! 😮 What great insight and wise wise words Tracy. When people gossip, I think this immediately, when someone gossips or spews nastiness, I always wonder how they talk about me when I'm not around! So glad you brought this out into the light! The pain they spew, is their pain that devours them inside. I have worked with some of the nastiest women in my career unfortunately!! I used to let it destroy me, now I realize it is fear and deep deep wonds that can shape a personality, and without self awareness and professional counseling, it continues. What a tough tough subject to 4-wheel drive through for you! 🎉😅 I am sorry you had to read other's painful words. Thank you for being brave and beautiful!! ❤🎉❤
Great video Tracy! I am printing a document that says “Choose to light the room” and it is going on my refrigerator as a constant reminder to choose a joyful attitude.
I loved this so much I saved it. I just sat back with my arms/hands behind my head and smile at the truthfulness of it all. This video should be on EVERY. SINGLE. TH-cam. CHANNEL. People need to chill out and just be kind. This was so raw and real and needed! Everyone else has mic-drop when they're done and you just earring-dropped when you were half-way done 😂
Tracy, this is very true!!! Great video. Many women can be very bitter because they did not take care of themselves. Very sad. It is never too late. Greetings from Arizona.
Wonderful video! People that are hurtful and hateful seem to manifest a deep pain that they want to inflict on others. Thank you Tracy for your desire to help those of us who are still growing. 🥰
I agree with everything you said. I also think being nice pays off in the long run. I remember when I was in my 20’s , I went shopping at a store and the sales girls we’re talking about how awful the customer was to them. Who was a woman and they were thankful that I understood them and that I was kind.
Hi Tracy, loved that you covered this topic, I know I can totally relate. Some one told me once, that I was an oddity, that women our age don't look like me, so insulting, I have had people comment on my food, as to why I wasn't eating the bun on my hamburger, I just smiled, and said I'd rather have a few fries, of course they said, oh, just have both! I just thought I would make a request to go along with your news letter, all about weight gain and menopause, that we don't have to gain weight. I'm so happy for you that you are sleeping now, I'm 59, and am struggling with that, if you could share alittke about that as well. I look forward to seeing you everyday on Instagram Instagram, and TH-cam, I have learned so much from you, so thank you!
Yes it's immensely true there's numerous numerous women whom're spiteful+ most surely envious Though I must mention comment too, there's those women whom've been victims of domestic 'buse + do not,,, have the choice to change + yes these types are,,, victims Having worked in a female only gym,I've met numerous women whom are condemned for making positive chnges etc... They're put down by their so called loved ones + threatened blckm@iled etc etc So to be fair their choices are immensely limited It's only right + just to bear these imperitive points...in mind Compassion is essential for everyone
Thank you so much for sharing the truth about "hateful women". I have dealt with these type of people for many years of my life. I have an associate's degree in Medical Office Administration and am well educated. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to hold a job very long because of conflict in the office from other women who have been jealous of my clothes being nicer than theirs or the many different handbags that I use over the course of 2 weeks. Yes, I take great care of myself. I'm 5'4" tall, weigh 109 lbs, have a size 6" shoe. I am unique and others notice that. I am a perfectionist and am very strict-minded, and so many others hold that against me, then they be-friend me because they think I am better than they are. Women are very competitive against one another, and I wish it wasn't that way, but you have to consider the source and rise above their deceitful ways. Thank you for sharing......love you Tracy....xo!
Very needed video, I am amazed how jealous women can be. Even when they achieve and have done very well in many areas of their life - they still pick on attractive girls. I love to see and cherish beauty and progression and I am so glad for you shining your light Tracy 🙌
I really love your videos and I think that the women you are talking about now are completely unworthy of your attention and your response. They will never understand this. Don't waste your time on this! Enjoy life. You are a beautiful lady! Clever and Beauty. Pay no attention to envious people. God will reward everyone according to their deserts.
I have recently (2 days) given up working in UK healthcare where the majority of my patients were female 60+ years of age. Around 15-16 p/ts a day. After 15+ years, I can no longer stand their meanness, venom, spitefulness, anger, frustration and down right rudeness that the majority of these women litter on whomever they come across (I used to see all kinds of people, including many children & gentlemen too.) I tried so hard in this job, bit my tongue constantly, smiled throughout. Remained silent as these witches spewed racism, sexism, tirade after tirade........the list was endless. It wasn't overt bullying where I could ask that woman to leave - these women would go out of their way with their sneering, sarcasm, provoking, talking over constantly, trauma dumping in the extreme. It was like experiencing road rage throughout the entire working day. I was very well paid, fairly 'easy' work, - I even worked part time - but I began to dread a certain type of patient - namely women - coming in. This was private healthcare too! I am a well educated female aged 50+, very experienced in a specialist role, and dread to think how these hags would speak to new graduates, etc. I chose to leave the profession - but if I could only treat men and children - then I would have continued in that role. (Although I might need reminding.....) I am going to make it my mission NEVER to dim the light on anyone else! Sorry - I just need to add one more thing - what I did notice is that sometimes a husband and wife would attend clinic together, and the woman would talk over, be sarcastic, be rude, ugly & nasty towards her husband - on more than a few occasions, these husband went on to develop dementia - I suspect they were quite literally shutting down the impact their wives had on them with dementia as a result.
Turtle shell, light the room, and craft your life ~ love those. Tracy, you knocked it out of the park. Every day, we have a choice. We can start slowly and simply to work on becoming a better person. God is always there to help if we just ask Him. I love and appreciate your videos!
Another gold nugget! I pray all the negative woman who need to see this do. They deserve better, they have forgotten their value somewhere along the way. ❤❤
Tracy, always a fan of your work. Thanks to this channel I have become a different women. The old self would’ve ignored a nasty comments. But it gets to a point were we need to stand up and teach people that, just because we are in a public platform doesn’t mean they have the right to say anything they want with the intention to put us down. You are such an inspiration. What a classy way to show up and prove others what self love, self respect and most importantly: honoring the value you offer to this community 😌👌 ✨💯👏👏👏👏
Tracy this is so true. I had to raise my three boys on my own two weeks out of a month because my husband works out of town. When my boys were young and I took them to school I was talked about by other mother’s because I was always put together early in the morning.. ( well where does she think she’s going! Who ware’s make-up this early! Why is she always so happy! I was told this from someone who l later became friends with. I chose early on that I wanted my boys to always know that their Mom had it together. I never wanted my boys to feel like life was going to fall apart every time Daddy had to leave. My boys are grown now and they have opened up and told me how good they felt seeing me always looking my best. They said they saw so many moms that looked like they had just crawled out of bed and they were moms that seemed to always be in a bad mood… I have always said” it’s a choice people!! We all have a choice.” There is no need to look down on ladies that choose to get it together each day because you have the same opportunity. Thanks again Traci ❤❤
I am working in customer service at a big box store and one of my female co workers asked me why are customers nicer to you. I said experience with dealing with people. I love people to life, however, sometimes no matter how nice I am I need to call a manager on duty to back me up because some customers are triggered over everything. I try to encourage my co workers that when a customer is upset and triggered it says more about them than it does you. The best thing to do is to have grace and realize that they are going through something and ask for help from a coworker, supervisor or manager. I know it's hard to keep calm when someone is being disrespectful to you, but you need to stay calm and when in doubt call me or a supervisor over and remember they will leave at some point and just let it all go. Don't hold onto the negativity that someone gives you! It's not healthy.
Thank you Tracy for this video; difficult topic to talk about but it is necessary. I am glad you do and I also choose to be a positive person. Let's light up this world together. Have a nice day.
First off let me say Tracy is right on target! She’s brilliant! Key to life for myself is balance! My phone cover will not have to coordinate with my outfit, 😅😅I am constantly checking if my priorities are in order. Book of Timothy says bodily exercise profits a little, however if I am going to use that as an excuse to not work out, I am off course, the following statement says Godliness is profitable for all things!! I make sure my walk with the Lord takes priority. I am 56 I am independent and make my own schedule. Sad to say but at this stage of the game I have not come across a woman that doesn’t compete, or is constantly making comparisons. I have young ladies i mentor my closest friend is 26 years old. Tracy your latest videos are truly a work of art and useful,NEEDED!! I miss seeing your friend that did wine Wednesday with you! Thanks for all you do 😘😘
I definitely attempt to light a room…. But when the “dimmers” appear to far outweigh us and have cohorts that are happy to dim us even more, here is a tried and try formula I have learned. Speak cordially, smile pleasantly and keep walking… and never agree verbally or join in, just to fit in. Silence, a pleasantly smiling face or excusing one’s self altogether, speak volumes.
I invited a bunch of coworkers from work to my house prior to a wedding that we were all attending. I provided the limo being that my family was in that type of business and I invited them to all come with me no charge. I also invited them to my house for a cocktail I get to work the next day and I hear that one of the girls said that my house was dull! Mind you I live in a beautiful home but I prefer no clutter and i simply said to her, I hope you had a good time tonight but you are no longer welcome in my home. I work really hard to have my home and then I thought look at how unmanageable her work like is I can’t even imagine what her life is like.
All criticism is the tragic result of unmet needs. Unfortunately, your co-worker is not filling her needs and needs to project the unmet needs onto others. Just continue to Keep it Classy!
@@TracyHensel it’s so true, she was always a mess at work. Her hair was always greasy and she was unkempt, so I could understand her jealousy! Have a great weekend and celebrate those wins!
I have a few women on TH-cam that I love, some that have become very successful and I love that from the very start of their TH-cam journey, I have cheered them on all the way and feel in my tiny way I have had their back in their ups and downs.Even though I never met these women I feel a connection sharing virtual positivity to these amazing women. ❤
Very very true. I do not understand that nastiness, I should because I am older then you, I have been bullied as an adult and times as a child, I don’t get it, I am not nasty back . I just wish we had more niceness and there’s a lot of nice people out there. I run into some precious people every day at the store or someplace else in and I don’t understand nastiness I don’t understand women that want to compete against you. We should be each other’s to build each other up but it’s not always like that and I really believe when you say hurt people hurt people, it’s sad.
I'm glad you created this video. Every time I hear a negative comment, I wonder how Tracy handles that. We have someone in our family who is incredibly negative. She consistently finds something hurtful to say, and if you remind her to stay positive, she insists it's her responsibility to point out flaws so they can be corrected. I don't think she realizes that she's hurting people's feelings.
My best guess is that she does realize it and enjoys it. She gets pleasure from hurting others because it distracts her from her own unhappiness. Isn’t that sad. Remind yourself of that and move on. You will never win with a person with that mindset. Expend your energy elsewhere. She probably enjoys the “rise” she gets from you. Don’t give her the satisfaction. A lady can always smile and leave.
Omg ive been SO harassed by JEAAAAAALOUS women at work I couldve sued FOR REAL Sucks They ruined my reputation and ill never move up the ladder bc of the lies they told about me. Its really affected my life. Even with my children/hubby and my personality. Sad to say. U can only “hold your head high” so much…and they know that and love to see you fall/fail/become worn down. But Im still here. I hate that I cannot trust women due to this experience thats lasted for years. Recently though I have met 2 women who seem to not be the jealous competitive type and I am starting to engage with them. Id love to make some new, nice girl friends.🤞🏼I have refused to give up but its been hell for 10 years. Just hoping the truth and the light show through and my name is cleared. 😢❤ Love to you all. Never quit🎉
Choosing to take care of ourselves is a choice and require discipline. Each day you made that choice, your happy with it and sometimes, you are making sacrifices. Getting old graciously is possible. But sadly, when other women cross beautiful ladies who take care of themselves and they don't, they feel envious, sad and hangry. A mix of bad feelings. They have in front of them their opposite and they can't "be" with such happyness. They feel regrets, they are full of bad feelings and envy. Don't stay related to them, it's so negative and destructive. Do not let them to destruct your positive life and expression. I had experienced it with my best friend from college. A long time friendship. Be Happy and don't feel ashamed to be beautiful, positive, resilient and graceful. ❤
Another gem from Tracey! While difficult, it is important for this message to be addressed. Also, I don't want to gender stereotype but such hate and ugliness usually comes from women. Strong women lift each other up and I know many amazing women who have my back. How I look and "feel" is important to me despite having 2 kids and a full time job. It is an investment I am making in myself, my fitness and vanity. I also like that you mentioned towards the end that it is not too late to change and that people can still step into their power. ❤
I’m in my 20’s and I’m lucky I’m surrounded by a lot of positive men and women friends but I’ve experienced and have seen so many middle-age women (old enough to be my mom!) bullying myself and other folks my age and I’m like why though? I have a thick skin and not much phases me but it breaks my heart seeing older women put down younger women cause women already deal with so much from how our world is structured.
So much truth. I appreciate you weighing in. These women's comments are nothing more than an attempt at making someone younger feel small while making themselves feel big. It's a horrible unhappy prison they live in. It's not living a rich, abundant life that is free to everyone.
Thank you for this!!! I haven’t always made the time to show up for myself, but those days are changing because of your beautiful encouragement!! I’m not mean at all tho !! I’m inspired!!!
You are so beautiful and kind, Tracy. I’m sure that’s why you experience jealousy from other women. I experience the same, but as a believer, I choose to be kind and loving. I can also sniff a competitor right away. So unfortunate that women behave this way because they are unhappy with theme selves. One comment I always get is why I’m so dressed up and made up. I have children and I work out daily and work also. I manage my life and I choose my hard wisely. A bit of a perfectionist, but it has definitely served me well in my life. I will not change for any negative Nancy out there who is just insecure with themselves. I will always be myself and stay fit, healthy and positive.
There is confident women who feel good about themselves. They learn and grow and are confident. Then there is the contrast. Those that aren’t happy with themselves. Good one, Tracy. Why do people sit there as keyboard warriors and leave nasty comments?
Not only hard for the people they live with, also extremely hard to themselves as they must speak to/about themselves when no one is around or in their own head. It’s very very sad to be ridiculed because I have chosen time and time again to bounce back from no matter what and come back even more resilient! Too bad the school system doesn’t teach this to every child instead of the false narrative they keep pumping into them.
I choose positive, and I have a lot of ugly in my in-law family, and it's been going on for years and now I mainly just stay away from all of the negative and suspicious people. Like you said it's just ugliness! Good Topic!
Hi Lydia! Thank you for weighing in. I appreciate it. This is a perfect example of making a wise decision to avoid those that do not serve you and your family. I love your focus on the beautiful relationship you and Jeff have created and cultivated with your daughters and grandchildren. They are blessed to have you and you them. Keep being wonderful role models for us beginner grandparents.
I had a coworker so nasty to another coworker finally they fired her, and she told me she looks in the mirror and says to herself you are discussing , fat and ugly, I told her don’t say that to yourself. She said you don’t understand and I left it alone oh I understood then why she was so nasty to everyone else . Sad but I agree with everything you said Tracy . I like to light the room 😀
I have never understood women who are mean to other women. If only they realized how much easier their life would be if they were nicer. It takes so much energy to be in a negative mindset, it must be exhausting. When you are kind you bring things into your life that you want - people are more apt to help you, people are more apt to go out of their way for you, more likely to invite you places or help with big projects. They don’t see how they are getting in their own way to an easier life by being mean. It never makes sense to me. And I always feel inspired by you and other creators to help me be my best also - it wouldn’t occur to me to be jealous and leave a nasty comment.
people can be blunte and so mean, majority of the time this urgliness comes from people you least espect it from. the so called highly professionnale with little or no basic home traning. Thanks for the video. A new subscriber
I've realized over 40 years since I have been overweight that women are hateful when you don't look "hot" the way they think you should, you look different to them, they will treat you differently. I have experienced this because I don't look like the typical hot, sexy female. I don't dress in tight leggings because I don't have the body to show off. I also believe hateful women are constantly jealous of other women that look better than them so they will act that way. It stems from jealousy and other women being different because one thing I know women love to judge other women based off of looks or whether their nails, toes, hair, etc are done. Women are very judgmental and my experience with women in business, they are bossier, and not as empathetic as men especially if you're going through health issues and can't be at work as often. They don't believe you're really sick. It's ridiculous and I wish it was as easy as just be kind but some women choose to live miserably and I believe the hateful attitude stems from the jealousy of how other women look or what other women have that they don't and they can't be kind about it. It's sad but I've seen this for years. This is why I choose not to have women friends because they are too judgmental.
I was also told by another woman after my husband passed away, "why are you still wearing your wedding ring, you're not a Mrs anymore?" That is hurtful as all get out and those are the kind of comments we women don't forget. I'm 40 years old but my hands are the size of a child's, I don't have the normal long fingers probably because of a birth defect from my mom having me at 36 and women have made fun of my nails because they literally look like child size hands even though I'm 5'6" and I've even had nail salons make fun of them. I've never been able to get my nails done because they always say oh you nail too tiny, we can't find nail to fit! Press on nails don't stay on me cause my nail beds are so small and I don't want to wear kids nails because they look goofy. My point is it's women being judgmental because of defects on my body I have absolutely no control over. It's funny how men have never said anything like that to me but women sure will. I've had low self esteem my whole life from knowing I'm not as hot as those beautiful sexy women that all guys want but it makes it worse when women are so judgmental and spewing jealousy all the time. Sad world we live in. It's seriously clown world out there.
Women should be building each other but instead alot of them tear down. I wear wigs and there's alot of that going on in the wig community as well, women always jealous of all the women who can afford to buy $300 wigs all the time and constantly spewing jealousy cause as we all know not everyone can afford that and they will be hateful about it.
God bless you Sincere Soul + thank you very much sincerely for sh aring your experiences, strength plus hope with others No one's got the right to treat you different or unkindly just because you gained some weight It doesn't matter,inner beauty is what is important The Sincere Giving Soul you are Your honesty is appreciated Yes I went to an all girl school + there were immensely Much More enviousness spitefulness there than in the former school I went to,which were mixed genders Please be true to you + I'm delighted you have good solid sincere friends It doesn't mtter what gender they are So long's they're loyal God bless you yours abundantly
I feel like people have really dropped from their graces over the past 4 years. Our society has really become centred on ourselves and not others. I am happy that you addressed this topic... Be one another's cheerleader! Building others up is a net positive... Tearing them down tears us all down.
I love that you are talking about this. Growing up , my mom would warn my sister and me about women who talk “nasty” about other women and even their own husbands… she would tell us steer clear because it’s very easy to be pulled into this and it doesn’t get you any kind of positive results . You don’t realize how many people do this until you get into your adult life , but wow! there are A LOT… and I’m just so grateful to my mom and for people like you , Tracy ,who remind us to stay in our lane❤
My Mom said the same thing .
BRAVISIMO, Tracy! ❤
I was just saying to my husband that I wish I had taken batter care of myself I’m my early adult years. I am now 53 and have been better on doing just that. It’s never too late and people as yourself truly inspire me to be better to myself. Thank you Tracy 🥰
I just found your channel! Loving this discussion and I agree 100%
This is scary. This is the perfect inspiration to not become a nasty middle-aged woman. I guess I have 10 years to make sure this is not so. Thanks Tracy.
I wouldn't hold my breath. They come from all ages, among other characteristics.
Bravo to you for taking the High Road !!! YOU ROCK!!!
The higher road is often a less traveled one. My circle is small, because I protect myself. It gets discouraging at times when the loneliness gremlin starts talking. I remind myself of the alternatives often, and then ultimately feel relieved of having those boundaries. I think one of the toughest skills in life is finding validation in yourself and accountability to yourself, rather than seeking it from others and not getting it. Thanks for making us feel not so alone in our own 'lanes' and 'boxes' ❤
I am so glad that you have done a video like this. Woman should be kind to each other and hold each other up. Jealousy is such a ugly emotion. Thank you for doing this! Too much of this is out there. Have a good week.
Yesss! ❤
I am a therapist and I have female clients who are so unkind to other women. I model right behaviour and we actually get into a discussion as to why they are behaving that way. Usually a lot of inner shame. Whew! It's work to shift such behavior.
Thank you for sharing. I encourage the same in my coaching practice. There are a lot of past internal wounds and scars surfacing with women. It's a lot of peeling back layer after layer. Bless you, for your work. We are needed!
Love this Tracy! "If you type something nasty, and you hit send your not really released of the prison walls that your in" that is the best!!! Thank you for sharing this so many women need to hear this!
As always, thank you 😊
😊 double like!! Love your videos
Thank you .i so understand where you are coming from.I am a very organised clean and tidy person and for a long time some people made snide remarks about my tidy way of life.Well I learned to ignore them and I love my life.
Thank you for sharing!
Aside from this being my favorite video you've put out, side note your hair and makeup look AMAZING in this vid
Thank you, Julie!
Just read this and it is so "spot on" for the women today!! ❤ from GA!
Excellent advice
Thank you Ms. Tracy for tackling this hard topic. I am so tired of nasty women my age (50) just pouring their negativity all over everybody. And I swear if you show up happy and confident in who you are, you can literally just see these people shooting daggers from their eyes at you.
I was blessed to be raised by a beautiful woman who knew who she was and make those hard choices everyday while being married, working full time and raising 3 girls. We were taught to lift women up and help each other. Life is not easy and He never said it would be. Wish these hateful women had better influences in their lives.
I am as ever so thankful for your smart and thoughtful content. You are an inspiration to me. Please be blessed. ☺️~Sarah
Thank you, Sarah! I appreciate you weighing in on a topic that needs to be addressed. Have a beautiful and blessed weekend.
Yes, I'm so happy you covered this typic. Many times, I've had to unplug from gossipy, competitive types of people. I sense that behavior rather quickly now; The domination trying to prove they are better than everyone else is annoying and hard to deal with. It's a transparent reflection on how they feel about themselves. Putting someone else down to try and elevate yourself is a sure way to not make friends with healthy people.
I LOVE you !!! Now I have my daughter hooked on you, too ! We talk “Tracy” talk all the time now !! Keep up your REAL work !!
Thank you, this is so true .
Your videos are fabulous. I used to be a horrible person but it took me a few years to learn to be the person I want to be, If we are not careful any of us could easily become bitter. Xx
Happy Tuesday! What an incredible message, Tracy. I appreciate it so much. It reminds me of the saying, "You get more flies with honey than you do vinegar." Thank you.
I just got the book braving the wilderness, by Brene Brown
The Quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone, I’d rather stand alone at my old age then be around somebody that’s a toxic drama, nasty person . It’s sad when somebody wants to tear you down to make their self look better.
You really light the room. You know yourself and growth with time. Self-awareness is important, know our flaws and how to amend our life when we are not happy.
Wow! I wasn't expecting this video tonight! 😮 What great insight and wise wise words Tracy. When people gossip, I think this immediately, when someone gossips or spews nastiness, I always wonder how they talk about me when I'm not around! So glad you brought this out into the light! The pain they spew, is their pain that devours them inside. I have worked with some of the nastiest women in my career unfortunately!! I used to let it destroy me, now I realize it is fear and deep deep wonds that can shape a personality, and without self awareness and professional counseling, it continues. What a tough tough subject to 4-wheel drive through for you! 🎉😅 I am sorry you had to read other's painful words. Thank you for being brave and beautiful!! ❤🎉❤
Great video Tracy! I am printing a document that says “Choose to light the room” and it is going on my refrigerator as a constant reminder to choose a joyful attitude.
I have learned this lesson...I treat all women kindly and it comes back to me..I am happy with my life😊
I loved this so much I saved it. I just sat back with my arms/hands behind my head and smile at the truthfulness of it all. This video should be on EVERY. SINGLE. TH-cam. CHANNEL. People need to chill out and just be kind. This was so raw and real and needed!
Everyone else has mic-drop when they're done and you just earring-dropped when you were half-way done 😂
Awe, so thankful for the excellent feedback on my addressing the topic. I appreciate it!
Continue to shine your light ❣
You look so beautifully fantastic!!! It shows!!!! ❤👏🌻
Tracy, this is very true!!! Great video. Many women can be very bitter because they did not take care of themselves. Very sad. It is never too late. Greetings from Arizona.
Chose your bright… love it!
Wonderful video! People that are hurtful and hateful seem to manifest a deep pain that they want to inflict on others. Thank you Tracy for your desire to help those of us who are still growing. 🥰
I agree with everything you said. I also think being nice pays off in the long run. I remember when I was in my 20’s , I went shopping at a store and the sales girls we’re talking about how awful the customer was to them. Who was a woman and they were thankful that I understood them and that I was kind.
Hi Tracy, loved that you covered this topic, I know I can totally relate. Some one told me once, that I was an oddity, that women our age don't look like me, so insulting, I have had people comment on my food, as to why I wasn't eating the bun on my hamburger, I just smiled, and said I'd rather have a few fries, of course they said, oh, just have both!
I just thought I would make a request to go along with your news letter, all about weight gain and menopause, that we don't have to gain weight. I'm so happy for you that you are sleeping now, I'm 59, and am struggling with that, if you could share alittke about that as well.
I look forward to seeing you everyday on Instagram Instagram, and TH-cam, I have learned so much from you, so thank you!
Thank you for taking the time to share, Doris. I appreciate you leaving a request. God Bless!
Yes it's immensely true there's numerous numerous women whom're spiteful+ most surely envious
Though I must mention comment too, there's those women whom've been victims of domestic 'buse + do not,,, have the choice to change + yes these types are,,, victims
Having worked in a female only gym,I've met numerous women whom are condemned for making positive chnges etc... They're put down by their so called loved ones + threatened blckm@iled etc etc
So to be fair their choices are immensely limited
It's only right + just to bear these imperitive points...in mind
Compassion is essential for everyone
You are so right about these people. They are sad and miserable people. And they take it on nice and sweet people. I love your program.
Thank you so much for sharing the truth about "hateful women". I have dealt with these type of people for many years of my life. I have an associate's degree in Medical Office Administration and am well educated. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to hold a job very long because of conflict in the office from other women who have been jealous of my clothes being nicer than theirs or the many different handbags that I use over the course of 2 weeks. Yes, I take great care of myself. I'm 5'4" tall, weigh 109 lbs, have a size 6" shoe. I am unique and others notice that. I am a perfectionist and am very strict-minded, and so many others hold that against me, then they be-friend me because they think I am better than they are. Women are very competitive against one another, and I wish it wasn't that way, but you have to consider the source and rise above their deceitful ways. Thank you for sharing......love you Tracy....xo!
Amazing Happy Tuesday Everyone
Excellent message Tracy! I always appreciate your guidance!! Hugs ❤️💕
Very needed video, I am amazed how jealous women can be. Even when they achieve and have done very well in many areas of their life - they still pick on attractive girls. I love to see and cherish beauty and progression and I am so glad for you shining your light Tracy 🙌
Thank you for this message. I wish I had heard this many years ago and had paid close attention. Keep up the good work.❤
Very brave, strong post. Keep being you, strong, pretty & a blessing. Hugs from Ohio.
I really love your videos and I think that the women you are talking about now are completely unworthy of your attention and your response. They will never understand this. Don't waste your time on this! Enjoy life. You are a beautiful lady! Clever and Beauty. Pay no attention to envious people. God will reward everyone according to their deserts.
I have recently (2 days) given up working in UK healthcare where the majority of my patients were female 60+ years of age. Around 15-16 p/ts a day. After 15+ years, I can no longer stand their meanness, venom, spitefulness, anger, frustration and down right rudeness that the majority of these women litter on whomever they come across (I used to see all kinds of people, including many children & gentlemen too.) I tried so hard in this job, bit my tongue constantly, smiled throughout. Remained silent as these witches spewed racism, sexism, tirade after tirade........the list was endless. It wasn't overt bullying where I could ask that woman to leave - these women would go out of their way with their sneering, sarcasm, provoking, talking over constantly, trauma dumping in the extreme. It was like experiencing road rage throughout the entire working day. I was very well paid, fairly 'easy' work, - I even worked part time - but I began to dread a certain type of patient - namely women - coming in. This was private healthcare too! I am a well educated female aged 50+, very experienced in a specialist role, and dread to think how these hags would speak to new graduates, etc. I chose to leave the profession - but if I could only treat men and children - then I would have continued in that role.
(Although I might need reminding.....) I am going to make it my mission NEVER to dim the light on anyone else!
Sorry - I just need to add one more thing - what I did notice is that sometimes a husband and wife would attend clinic together, and the woman would talk over, be sarcastic, be rude, ugly & nasty towards her husband - on more than a few occasions, these husband went on to develop dementia - I suspect they were quite literally shutting down the impact their wives had on them with dementia as a result.
Tough love at its finest. Keep cranking out the good stuff, Tracy! 😊❤
I want to leave a good comment so thank you for your video.
It just makes life so much better when we aware kind, helpful and lift each other up especially for women. Great video.
Amen! about time someone addressed this obvious problem, and done so well. You are well spoken and appreciated. Thank you. End the ugliness!
Well said! Very true.
Turtle shell, light the room, and craft your life ~ love those. Tracy, you knocked it out of the park. Every day, we have a choice. We can start slowly and simply to work on becoming a better person. God is always there to help if we just ask Him. I love and appreciate your videos!
Bravo, great video.
Well said. Amen!!
Another gold nugget! I pray all the negative woman who need to see this do. They deserve better, they have forgotten their value somewhere along the way. ❤❤
Well said Tracy!!!! 🎉
Great video!
Light that room up! 😊
Thank you, Rebecca! I appreciate the feedback!
Tracy, always a fan of your work. Thanks to this channel I have become a different women. The old self would’ve ignored a nasty comments. But it gets to a point were we need to stand up and teach people that, just because we are in a public platform doesn’t mean they have the right to say anything they want with the intention to put us down. You are such an inspiration. What a classy way to show up and prove others what self love, self respect and most importantly: honoring the value you offer to this community 😌👌 ✨💯👏👏👏👏
Thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to share and leave such a supportive and lovely compliment.
Amen, and Amen Tracey and you are so right it was a much-needed topic.
Tracy this is so true. I had to raise my three boys on my own two weeks out of a month because my husband works out of town. When my boys were young and I took them to school I was talked about by other mother’s because I was always put together early in the morning.. ( well where does she think she’s going! Who ware’s make-up this early! Why is she always so happy! I was told this from someone who l later became friends with.
I chose early on that I
wanted my boys to
always know that their
Mom had it together. I never wanted my boys to feel like life was going to fall apart every time Daddy had to leave.
My boys are grown now and they have opened up and told me how good they felt seeing me always looking my best. They said they saw so many moms that looked like they had just crawled out of bed and they were moms that seemed to always be in a bad mood…
I have always said” it’s a choice people!! We all
have a choice.” There is no need to look down on ladies that choose to get it together each day because you have the same opportunity.
Thanks again Traci ❤❤
You always impart such great energy and the feeling of empowerment Tracy! Thank you for your wisdom. 😊
Well said, Tracy!
More fantastic wisdom thanks for sharing. Really loved the latest newsletter topics too!
Thank you Tracy, you just put everything in perspective. Bring light.
Love, love, love this!!!!!!
Such a powerful message; thank you Tracy!! Like you, I CHOOSE to light a room. Have a blessed, abundant day! ❤️❤️❤️
I am working in customer service at a big box store and one of my female co workers asked me why are customers nicer to you. I said experience with dealing with people. I love people to life, however, sometimes no matter how nice I am I need to call a manager on duty to back me up because some customers are triggered over everything. I try to encourage my co workers that when a customer is upset and triggered it says more about them than it does you. The best thing to do is to have grace and realize that they are going through something and ask for help from a coworker, supervisor or manager. I know it's hard to keep calm when someone is being disrespectful to you, but you need to stay calm and when in doubt call me or a supervisor over and remember they will leave at some point and just let it all go. Don't hold onto the negativity that someone gives you! It's not healthy.
Thank you, Mary, for sharing such sage advice.
Powerful message, and one worth sharing with so many.
Thank you Tracy for this video; difficult topic to talk about but it is necessary. I am glad you do and I also choose to be a positive person. Let's light up this world together. Have a nice day.
Great video Tracy.
This is why I love you 💕
Well spoken Tracy.. I think men can use this message also... Tracy God Bless you and your family... Take care my friend...
First off let me say Tracy is right on target! She’s brilliant! Key to life for myself is balance! My phone cover will not have to coordinate with my outfit, 😅😅I am constantly checking if my priorities are in order. Book of Timothy says bodily exercise profits a little, however if I am going to use that as an excuse to not work out, I am off course, the following statement says Godliness is profitable for all things!! I make sure my walk with the Lord takes priority. I am 56 I am independent and make my own schedule. Sad to say but at this stage of the game I have not come across a woman that doesn’t compete, or is constantly making comparisons. I have young ladies i mentor my closest friend is 26 years old. Tracy your latest videos are truly a work of art and useful,NEEDED!! I miss seeing your friend that did wine Wednesday with you! Thanks for all you do 😘😘
I definitely attempt to light a room…. But when the “dimmers” appear to far outweigh us and have cohorts that are happy to dim us even more, here is a tried and try formula I have learned. Speak cordially, smile pleasantly and keep walking… and never agree verbally or join in, just to fit in. Silence, a pleasantly smiling face or excusing one’s self altogether, speak volumes.
Wise Words - Thank you for sharing. As I often say, 'no reply is a reply.'
Outstanding
You always inspire me to do better, Tracy! ❤
Have courage & be kind ❤️
I invited a bunch of coworkers from work to my house prior to a wedding that we were all attending. I provided the limo being that my family was in that type of business and I invited them to all come with me no charge. I also invited them to my house for a cocktail I get to work the next day and I hear that one of the girls said that my house was dull! Mind you I live in a beautiful home but I prefer no clutter and i simply said to her, I hope you had a good time tonight but you are no longer welcome in my home. I work really hard to have my home and then I thought look at how unmanageable her work like is I can’t even imagine what her life is like.
All criticism is the tragic result of unmet needs. Unfortunately, your co-worker is not filling her needs and needs to project the unmet needs onto others.
Just continue to Keep it Classy!
@@TracyHensel it’s so true, she was always a mess at work. Her hair was always greasy and she was unkempt, so I could understand her jealousy! Have a great weekend and celebrate those wins!
Love this video. Great message! ❤
Learned a lot from you Tracy…. Keep going ❤
I have a few women on TH-cam that I love, some that have become very successful and I love that from the very start of their TH-cam journey, I have cheered them on all the way and feel in my tiny way I have had their back in their ups and downs.Even though I never met these women I feel a connection sharing virtual positivity to these amazing women. ❤
That's beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
Very very true. I do not understand that nastiness, I should because I am older then you, I have been bullied as an adult and times as a child, I don’t get it, I am not nasty back . I just wish we had more niceness and there’s a lot of nice people out there. I run into some precious people every day at the store or someplace else in and I don’t understand nastiness I don’t understand women that want to compete against you. We should be each other’s to build each other up but it’s not always like that and I really believe when you say hurt people hurt people, it’s sad.
Preach it!
I'm glad you created this video. Every time I hear a negative comment, I wonder how Tracy handles that. We have someone in our family who is incredibly negative. She consistently finds something hurtful to say, and if you remind her to stay positive, she insists it's her responsibility to point out flaws so they can be corrected. I don't think she realizes that she's hurting people's feelings.
Thank you for sharing. I imagine the family member is harder on herself than anyone else.
My best guess is that she does realize it and enjoys it. She gets pleasure from hurting others because it distracts her from her own unhappiness. Isn’t that sad. Remind yourself of that and move on. You will never win with a person with that mindset. Expend your energy elsewhere. She probably enjoys the “rise” she gets from you. Don’t give her the satisfaction. A lady can always smile and leave.
Omg ive been SO harassed by JEAAAAAALOUS women at work I couldve sued FOR REAL Sucks They ruined my reputation and ill never move up the ladder bc of the lies they told about me. Its really affected my life. Even with my children/hubby and my personality. Sad to say. U can only “hold your head high” so much…and they know that and love to see you fall/fail/become worn down. But Im still here. I hate that I cannot trust women due to this experience thats lasted for years. Recently though I have met 2 women who seem to not be the jealous competitive type and I am starting to engage with them. Id love to make some new, nice girl friends.🤞🏼I have refused to give up but its been hell for 10 years. Just hoping the truth and the light show through and my name is cleared. 😢❤ Love to you all. Never quit🎉
Some amazing women choose to put others before themselves because they are not selfish
Choosing to take care of ourselves is a choice and require discipline. Each day you made that choice, your happy with it and sometimes, you are making sacrifices. Getting old graciously is possible. But sadly, when other women cross beautiful ladies who take care of themselves and they don't, they feel envious, sad and hangry. A mix of bad feelings. They have in front of them their opposite and they can't "be" with such happyness. They feel regrets, they are full of bad feelings and envy.
Don't stay related to them, it's so negative and destructive. Do not let them to destruct your positive life and expression. I had experienced it with my best friend from college. A long time friendship.
Be Happy and don't feel ashamed to be beautiful, positive, resilient and graceful. ❤
Thank you for taking the time to share. Bless you!
Your good ❤😊❤
Another gem from Tracey! While difficult, it is important for this message to be addressed. Also, I don't want to gender stereotype but such hate and ugliness usually comes from women. Strong women lift each other up and I know many amazing women who have my back. How I look and "feel" is important to me despite having 2 kids and a full time job. It is an investment I am making in myself, my fitness and vanity. I also like that you mentioned towards the end that it is not too late to change and that people can still step into their power. ❤
Thank you for weighing in! Keep up the great work despite any noise.
I’m in my 20’s and I’m lucky I’m surrounded by a lot of positive men and women friends but I’ve experienced and have seen so many middle-age women (old enough to be my mom!) bullying myself and other folks my age and I’m like why though? I have a thick skin and not much phases me but it breaks my heart seeing older women put down younger women cause women already deal with so much from how our world is structured.
So much truth. I appreciate you weighing in.
These women's comments are nothing more than an attempt at making someone younger feel small while making themselves feel big. It's a horrible unhappy prison they live in. It's not living a rich, abundant life that is free to everyone.
Thank you for this!!! I haven’t always made the time to show up for myself, but those days are changing because of your beautiful encouragement!! I’m not mean at all tho !! I’m inspired!!!
You are so beautiful and kind, Tracy. I’m sure that’s why you experience jealousy from other women. I experience the same, but as a believer, I choose to be kind and loving. I can also sniff a competitor right away. So unfortunate that women behave this way because they are unhappy with theme selves. One comment I always get is why I’m so dressed up and made up. I have children and I work out daily and work also. I manage my life and I choose my hard wisely. A bit of a perfectionist, but it has definitely served me well in my life. I will not change for any negative Nancy out there who is just insecure with themselves. I will always be myself and stay fit, healthy and positive.
Thank you for sharing and for the lovely compliment. Keep staying in your lane, even if it gets lonely sometimes.
There is confident women who feel good about themselves. They learn and grow and are confident. Then there is the contrast. Those that aren’t happy with themselves.
Good one, Tracy.
Why do people sit there as keyboard warriors and leave nasty comments?
Not only hard for the people they live with, also extremely hard to themselves as they must speak to/about themselves when no one is around or in their own head. It’s very very sad to be ridiculed because I have chosen time and time again to bounce back from no matter what and come back even more resilient! Too bad the school system doesn’t teach this to every child instead of the false narrative they keep pumping into them.
I choose positive, and I have a lot of ugly in my in-law family, and it's been going on for years and now I mainly just stay away from all of the negative and suspicious people. Like you said it's just ugliness! Good Topic!
Hi Lydia! Thank you for weighing in. I appreciate it. This is a perfect example of making a wise decision to avoid those that do not serve you and your family. I love your focus on the beautiful relationship you and Jeff have created and cultivated with your daughters and grandchildren. They are blessed to have you and you them. Keep being wonderful role models for us beginner grandparents.
I had a coworker so nasty to another coworker finally they fired her, and she told me she looks in the mirror and says to herself you are discussing , fat and ugly, I told her don’t say that to yourself. She said you don’t understand and I left it alone oh I understood then why she was so nasty to everyone else . Sad but I agree with everything you said Tracy . I like to light the room 😀
I have never understood women who are mean to other women. If only they realized how much easier their life would be if they were nicer. It takes so much energy to be in a negative mindset, it must be exhausting. When you are kind you bring things into your life that you want - people are more apt to help you, people are more apt to go out of their way for you, more likely to invite you places or help with big projects. They don’t see how they are getting in their own way to an easier life by being mean. It never makes sense to me. And I always feel inspired by you and other creators to help me be my best also - it wouldn’t occur to me to be jealous and leave a nasty comment.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts on this sensitive topic. I hope viewers get the pleasure of reading your contribution.
people can be blunte and so mean, majority of the time this urgliness comes from people you least espect it from. the so called highly professionnale with little or no basic home traning. Thanks for the video. A new subscriber
I've realized over 40 years since I have been overweight that women are hateful when you don't look "hot" the way they think you should, you look different to them, they will treat you differently. I have experienced this because I don't look like the typical hot, sexy female. I don't dress in tight leggings because I don't have the body to show off. I also believe hateful women are constantly jealous of other women that look better than them so they will act that way. It stems from jealousy and other women being different because one thing I know women love to judge other women based off of looks or whether their nails, toes, hair, etc are done. Women are very judgmental and my experience with women in business, they are bossier, and not as empathetic as men especially if you're going through health issues and can't be at work as often. They don't believe you're really sick. It's ridiculous and I wish it was as easy as just be kind but some women choose to live miserably and I believe the hateful attitude stems from the jealousy of how other women look or what other women have that they don't and they can't be kind about it. It's sad but I've seen this for years. This is why I choose not to have women friends because they are too judgmental.
I was also told by another woman after my husband passed away, "why are you still wearing your wedding ring, you're not a Mrs anymore?" That is hurtful as all get out and those are the kind of comments we women don't forget. I'm 40 years old but my hands are the size of a child's, I don't have the normal long fingers probably because of a birth defect from my mom having me at 36 and women have made fun of my nails because they literally look like child size hands even though I'm 5'6" and I've even had nail salons make fun of them. I've never been able to get my nails done because they always say oh you nail too tiny, we can't find nail to fit! Press on nails don't stay on me cause my nail beds are so small and I don't want to wear kids nails because they look goofy. My point is it's women being judgmental because of defects on my body I have absolutely no control over. It's funny how men have never said anything like that to me but women sure will. I've had low self esteem my whole life from knowing I'm not as hot as those beautiful sexy women that all guys want but it makes it worse when women are so judgmental and spewing jealousy all the time. Sad world we live in. It's seriously clown world out there.
Women should be building each other but instead alot of them tear down. I wear wigs and there's alot of that going on in the wig community as well, women always jealous of all the women who can afford to buy $300 wigs all the time and constantly spewing jealousy cause as we all know not everyone can afford that and they will be hateful about it.
God bless you Sincere Soul + thank you very much sincerely for sh aring your experiences, strength plus hope with others
No one's got the right to treat you different or unkindly just because you gained some weight
It doesn't matter,inner beauty is what is important The Sincere Giving Soul you are
Your honesty is appreciated
Yes I went to an all girl school + there were immensely Much More enviousness spitefulness there than in the former school I went to,which were mixed genders
Please be true to you + I'm delighted you have good solid sincere friends
It doesn't mtter what gender they are So long's they're loyal
God bless you yours abundantly
I'm sorry, I was so distracted by your beautiful lip combo!! LOL. it looks great on you
I love this video!!!! I will share this!!!
Instead of a mic drop…it was an earring drop!