@@blueblack3591 I was silenced at 7, never allowed to speak a word even though I knew my parents knew...my dad did try to defend me, but mum didn't...I later found out she had been abused by her father and everyone knew and did nothing...this is how things repeat. When I came out with this, my family had a meeting about me without me, now they won't pick up the phone...it's gonna repeat and there's nothing I can do, it seems. Now THAT'S sad.
He needs to sell the book, he needs £10million pounds to fund his third divorce. It was over half a century ago, it’s sad for him , his father was a foul tempered wife beating bully. Michael Cole is trying so hard to cling to his relevance by his fingertips, Frances did not abandon her children, she took them with her when she left the wife batterer , he got sole custody of the children but shipped them off to boarding school , he never had anything to do with them, which is why they are so psychologically damaged. Another point, Anne Diamond, Charles Spencer is not Royal, he is sitting in Althorp because his sister married the Prince of Wales, had that not happened it would have been sold, the Spencer’s were in financial difficulties due to crippling death duties.
True, but it was ignored. Priests sexually molesting children. Celebrities taking advantage of children. Boarding schools were notorious for sexual and physical abuse. Parents, if they knew, often ignored because of scandal to the family, they didn't want anything so yukky in their family. Just get over it was their attitude.
This type of behaviour is still going on today within certain religions in the UK and is ignored. ALL children need protecting regardless of their race or religion.
As awful as it may seem to those that do not know the extent of children being abused in the U.K, those of us that work with victims and survivors of sexual abuse know the school is at least being truthful. Everyone will now be using words that make it seem as if they care, or as if sexual abuse is a surprise and unusual, and is not acceptable in the U.K. If these people in the media did care they would be using their platform to do something to help and support the hundreds of thousands of children who are still being abused in the U.K. right now, let alone those that have been abused in the past. The local council made our lives a misery for years because we wanted to set something up in our Borough to support victims and survivors at our own expense, and no MP that were told about it did anything to help us, because everyone in positions of power close ranks and support each other. We need people that actually care, not those that simply pretend they care.
People looked the other way in those days. In my town, there was a Tory councillor who wrote for the newspaper and was also a minor celebrity. Everybody knew he touched little boys. Charges were brought against him. The pre-pubescent boys were fiercely cross-examined on the witness stand. They broke down, their testimonies were ruled unreliable and the trial was discontinued.
Most unacceptable in any era. The religious/ boarding schools were horrendous. The indigenous peoples anywhere in the world were abused by the High and Mighty. Has nothing to do with finances, there were certain professions, teachers, priests, doctors, caregivers, that did this for hundreds of years WITH NO ACCEPTANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY.
It was pushed under the carpet.People just thought it was better not to talk about it and it would just go away.Of course,that is wrong,but it was the way it was in the 70s.
Here in the States, we heard rumors of British boarding schools having this abuse occurring in the 1960s. I certainly believe Charles Spencer’s every word.
@@jennyfairbairn2525She was thrown out of school, failing, screaming, fighting and crying all the time so her parents sent her away to that place. She didnt like being told what to do there. Its fashionable to be a victim now.
As an Irish person who grew up listening to countless people saying they were being sexually abused in school. I am surprised that people are still shocked by this horrible news. Sexual abuse, and harassment, and bullying, is still a daily occurrence in some schools in both the UK and Ireland. I hope Charles Spencer blows the lid off the sexual abuse of pupils in boarding schools in the UK. It's still going on.
Exactly my thoughts. I don't know which world they live on, certainly not the one I'm living in. These things happen all the time, everywhere rich or poor, boarding school or not. It can happen in the church right in front of these very hyped up people. 🐝
I sent my son to a private prep school outside Washington, DC but he lived at home. I drove him to and from the school every day. Nothing shady going on there. Just a good school. I never thought a boarding school was a good idea. I wanted to see my child every day.
Yes, I'm sure parents send their kids, knowing what goes on. Don't be so damn stupid and get off your high horse. The same could happen to your kid wherever you have him/her schooled. Rather be grateful that your child has been protected from these scumbags and realize that there, but for the grace of God, goes your child.
We were all abused at all boarding schools. Whether by bullying, sexually or by teachers or fellow pupils. I spent 5 years at a boarding school. I had to learn very quickly to defend myself against the bullies and the mocking teachers.
From the age of 5-9 it happened to me at a Church of England primary school by a male teacher (the only male member of staff at the school) on residential school trips and swimming lessons, during the in the early 2000's. I have dealt with years of shame about it before telling anyone, which helped me. I know it can completely destroy peoples mental health and lead to things like addiction and PTSD. I would imagine it is still pretty prevalent in schools across the country, particularly in schools with religious affiliations and boarding schools. More needs to be done across society in general to tackle pedophiles, especially by police forces who on many notable cases let many vulnerable children down and did not protect them.
Just a reminder that you have NOTHING to be ashamed of , you were a child and a victim, it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. I hope you've gotten the help you need and I'm wishing for you all the best
Same here church of England school the only male teacher it transpired done the same never to me but years later a girl came forward and he got arrested 20 years later, turned out he had picked he's favourites over the years, a sickly looking bloke.also we had a big dug out paddling pool at school in summer after using it we would dry off in class by jumping up and down naked girls and boys,women teachers were also oddballs to encourage this😮
@@evieshore3270 Thank you, now I accept it was totally unacceptable and nothing to be ashamed about. I previously felt like I wasn't worthy of calling myself a victim compared to what other people have gone through, as without being too graphic I only experienced fondling and grinding behaviours. This added to the shame a lot.
So sorry to hear what you went through. Hope you can work through it, and glad you know the crime is on them. Big time. How sick and perverted some people are.
How dare they call it normal back then!! Child abuse is abhorrent, sick and disgusting, and this school want to be thoroughly ashamed of themselves. I'm so sorry he went through something as horrible as that, and if these teachers or whoever are still alive, I hope he can get justice
My dad was in boarding school by the time he was 6 years of age. That class of people thinks nothing of putting children away and seeing them only for school holidays . People in those days never even thought about things like abuse.
Excuse me. "that class of people"! In some countries, families live hundreds of kilometers away from towns and cities and have absolutely no choice but to send their children to boarding schools.
By Jove this statement! It was never ever Normal and Acceptable. I grew up at that time, we as children were warned by our parents for such dirtbag paedophiles and my father ... he did go after them already with the slightest inappropriate behavior towards one of us and not only for our sake. That Earl Spencer could not talk about this trauma with his parents so to seek protection, is another shock.
That does not mean it doesn't happen all the time. It does and it did, everywhere, schools, churches, anywhere where adults are in charge of children since the beginning of time and will only stop at the end of time. 🐝
yes it does happen at certain places but at way more place it does hardly ever happen! And you know why? Because there the parents are ON it. And Spencer was clearly left for the lions. Terrible situation when you also cannot speak out at home. @@amandadassonville4043
Once one becomes a parent, the strongest instinct is to protect one's child, a parent's worst nightmare when the people that you should be able to trust betray that trust and do the unthinkable, beyond shocking.
Early Spencer is a very clever and respectful man, he has gone on to become a successful historian-writer and custodian of his family home, it sickens me to think these people can, and do get away with such vile crimes to our children, they are put in such privileged positions,I hope if they are still alive he names and shames them,vile people!!
I do agree on the naming and shaming. Those crimanals family must know exactly what type of people they are. These people will also not change their behavior, just continue doing now may be with their own grand children, while every one looks up to them.
Yes a dreadful shock to hear this..how could anyone put a small,innocent child through such trauma for the rest of his life..however the upside is that, as you say,Earl Spencer is a very clever & intelligent man..I recently watched a youtube video with him taking us on a tour of his ancestral home,Allthorp...such an eloquent speaker & charming man with impeccable manners but seems so approachable with no side to him despite his title...how wonderful to be so down to earth & at the same time so well educated..how i would have loved to obtain these attributes...all power to him in naming & shaming these despicable people who have left such a sad mark on him ..thankfully his further education made him the strong,determined & well brought up man he is today...he wasnt afraid to say it as it was after his sister's demise & this book shows he is not afraid to shed light on yet another distressing subject.
The father beat the mother regularly that's why she left, leaving the kids though is not acceptable she could have taken them too as the father was a violent man
It was NEVER acceptable in the 70s , certainly not in Oz . It was well hidden and never spoken about but was definitely frowned upon as a perverse and sick act .
@@evieshore3270the confusion is a 💯 on you. As what that school wrote ain't NORMAL! In what universe you live is another question! My great grandparents, grandparents and parents protected all of us children!!!
The question to me, is how we can help our children to open up if anything like this happens to them. I wasn't sexually abused as a child, but emotionally and told I was stupid for my whole last year of primary school. That feeling went with me for decades. I wouldn't have dreamed of talking to my mum about it. If she had known she would have caused hell at the school. At that age you just feel it's normal or you may deserve it 😢
I definitely don't have all the answers, but I think creating an environment where it's OK and encouraged to talked about anything really helps. Where it's OK to ask any kinds of questions. I think sometimes parents can have a negative reaction to some questions, but being curious and having questions isn't a crime. Children literally don't understand, that's why they're asking. Having open and age appropriate discussions about these things and what is not acceptable is a good idea. The same as we teach stranger danger. Being present at their school and other activities too. Pick them up and drop them off from the classroom/ activity so you can get a feel for how the adult (and other children) interact with your child and other children. Make sure to ask how their day was? What made them happy? What made them excited? What made them sad? Scared? And why? Always ask why. Help them to understand these emotions if they young do they can express them. Help them develop vocabulary necessary for them to express if something isn't right. I've seen abused adults say they didn't tell their parents because they didn't know how to express what was going on. Never trust any adult or child, even if they seem absolutely fine. Don't allow them an opportunity as best as you can. Make sure you ask your child ask about their friends and their parents. All this to say, keep communication lines open. I hope that can be a starting point to further develop a plan to combat this. It's so important.
Diana's mother did NOT "walk out"on her children. Frances wanted a divorce from Earl Spencer, NOT a divorce from her children. Frances fought hard in court to be able to keep, see her children. IT IS ABUSE to keep children away from EITHER parent.
The well known schools bestow connections eg 'old boy 'network" , guaranteed well paid job no matter how thick eg many Prime Ministers UK are from such schools as Eton which schools train the arrogant, cunning, v v charming manner the pupils acquire no matter how psychopathic they are eg Boris Johnson etc
As children at the time were never believed, they were told to forget it, or it was a " bit of fun"..eg jimmy Saville, those people now should be arrested,
Schools that care have installed an encompassing child protection scheme. The Student Voice, TSV Limited is a breakthrough in this industry and came second to the BBC in the prestigious BETT awards. Some young people are working day and night with the use of technology, to protect children and young adults minute by minute. There’s no need for any school to retreat to the past, or deny there could be a problem.
This explains his outburst at Diana’s funeral, where he declared on the world stage , he would protect his boys from any harm and continue the love and care Diana embraced her sons with… she put her arms around so many … thankyou for sharing and caring for others, now time for you to heal…
Perhaps it explains a few things about his difficult personality. Some boarding schools used to be quite abusive, sometimes verbally and sometimes physically. The punishments for minor infractions could be quite harsh. I personally experienced that. On another topic, does anyone else see a fair resemblance between Prince George and Earl Spencer?
This is heartbreaking, my thoughts are with Earl Spencer. 🙏 Not just boarding schools, I went to a small local primary school back in the 70's. The Headmaster was giving lifts home in his car to various boys and interfering with them, he was convicted.
My friend suffered too. And our king wants to send George to boarding school??? Its abnormal. God created families. I pray for Kate . She like Diana is A MUM. It is mum's day. We should be able to care for our children, NOT MATRONS AND BULLIES!!!
Yes like many kids in or out of boarding were abused children's homes st John's ambulance ect a lot of adults haven't spoke about it. Big hugs for speaking out now it's never too later x
Sounds very truthful I know a lot about it I’m so sorry to hear this it’s an epidemic. Adults our very strange made no sense. Some Adults where very scary and other Adults didn’t want to get involve for fear of repercussion. Their our many of us in the world. Take care Charles.
There mother did not walk out!!! She was abused by her husband and lost her children as he was powerful, and her own mother supported him in court I am very sorry this happened to Charles S its horrible
Earl Spencer is a healer like his Angel sister. His speaking out is going to help thousands to come forward and finally expose this evil. There is another side that’s forgotten and that’s the knock-on effect. It’s forgotten that the effect this has on the victim then goes on to affect their partner/s. Without realising, my ex affected my life because he had been terribly abused at boarding school. He told me yet, as I’d never heard of this, I did not ‘register’ what he meant. He was emotionally in a terrible state and this really hurt my life from the young age of 18 when we met. I believe I suffered secondary ‘abuse’ from this female perpetrator. I’m unsure she’s ever been brought to justice and often feel like I need to go to his school with a report and also to the police. He was among tens of children she abused throughout his time at the boys’ school. Appalling!
Glad Charles us exposing those evil people who abused him.i applaud thus brave man.the truth comes out between the lies.God bless &guide you😢stay strong!!!!!.Anne.x
Well ..was he raped? What kind of this abuse? While everything would be disgusting, the first one would be just terrible disgusting and would make me wonder....it was NEVER normal NOWHERE!
@@KatharinaK117 Prince William and Princess Catherine both do not want to send any of their children to a boarding school. And I totally agree. I've always known in my heart the subject of this film is the reason behind their decision. I have heard they are getting STRONG opposition from the elites to continue the tradition. William and Catherine accepted a compromise. Prince George heir to the throne, will go to boarding school during the week and be home on the weekends. This is why they moved to Adelaide Cottage so they could be near the school in case Prince George wanted to stay at home sometimes instead of being locked away at a British 8nstution. I wrote them a letter long ago begging them not to send George away to boarding school because children should never leave their parents control until 16, after they have matured more. Its NOT healthy for children. Whether they got my mail or not, I'm so happy they chose to ensure George doesn't have to live at boarding school PART TIME. Its obvious they will be watching him like a hawk. They know what goes on in these institutions and have chosen to protect their son instead of sending a 12 year old away to a strange environment 24/7. Im so glad William has the testicles to stand up for Georges and protect him. 😄
Reminds me of that scene from Four Weddings and a Funeral where the wedding guest says he went to school with the older brother of the groom who "buggered him senseless".
How dare the school suggest that this was accepted as normal at the time? Sexual perversion is not "normal" at any time. Sounds like the school has learned nothing.
Par for the course at almost all boarding schools even today. Johnny Spencer sent his son to a boarding school KNOWING full well what goes on in boarding schools. He had been to one himself. "It was regarded as normal" is NOT "shocking". Never mind the staff which is disgusting enough but it is other kids, boys and girls .... YES, girls' boarding schools as well, with hormones racing, consentual and forced. See the film "Another Country" (1984) starring Rupert Everett and Colin Firth. Listen to Rupert Everett say that if he is to suffer a beating ADMINISTERED BY ANOTHER BOY he will expose half of the staff and every other boy with whom he had "done it" .... a vast number, it is suggested, the inference being that these numerous sexual encounters with other boys and masters were largely consentual. I went to a bog-standard comprehensive where the lives of the vast majority of kids was made a complete and absolute misery by bullies and thugs. What about the hidden misery of kids these days caused by cyber-bullying, and it remains hidden except for the tiny proportion of such victims who commit suicide. Each time that this hits the headlines, there follows a period of national wailing including from these presenters as if it is a complete surprise to them ... They must have had very sheltered childhoods ..... but the bulk of the iceberg remains below the surface. Earl Spencer appears to have got away quite lightly .... it didn't cause him to commit suicide ..... did it ? Wikipedia states of his dad, "According to author Penny Junor "Johnny could be violent, and [Frances] felt she and her children would be safer out of the home". Their daughter, Diana, also recalled "seeing my father slap my mother across the face and I was hiding behind the door and she was crying".
😮 absolutely disgraceful statement by the school! Abuse is abuse and never acceptable.
What are they on indeed!
This is child abuse. No decent person would call it whinging!
That woman comes up with such nonsense on just about every program!
But they do...I have been accused, I was 7.
Yeah i dont think any sane person would call that whinging
@@fay5479what? That is horrific
@@blueblack3591 I was silenced at 7, never allowed to speak a word even though I knew my parents knew...my dad did try to defend me, but mum didn't...I later found out she had been abused by her father and everyone knew and did nothing...this is how things repeat. When I came out with this, my family had a meeting about me without me, now they won't pick up the phone...it's gonna repeat and there's nothing I can do, it seems. Now THAT'S sad.
That was NOT “almost accepted” to be “NORMAL”. This is Gaslighting by the school.
I agree! Such an appallinly inadequate statement by the school!
The school's response is incredibly weak! Who the hell would send their kid there.
He needs to sell the book, he needs £10million pounds to fund his third divorce. It was over half a century ago, it’s sad for him , his father was a foul tempered wife beating bully. Michael Cole is trying so hard to cling to his relevance by his fingertips, Frances did not abandon her children, she took them with her when she left the wife batterer , he got sole custody of the children but shipped them off to boarding school , he never had anything to do with them, which is why they are so psychologically damaged. Another point, Anne Diamond, Charles Spencer is not Royal, he is sitting in Althorp because his sister married the Prince of Wales, had that not happened it would have been sold, the Spencer’s were in financial difficulties due to crippling death duties.
Child abuse has never been normal or acceptable.
True, but it was ignored. Priests sexually molesting children. Celebrities taking advantage of children. Boarding schools were notorious for sexual and physical abuse. Parents, if they knew, often ignored because of scandal to the family, they didn't want anything so yukky in their family. Just get over it was their attitude.
This type of behaviour is still going on today within certain religions in the UK and is ignored.
ALL children need protecting regardless of their race or religion.
Not just certain religions. It's a widespread problem all over.
@@sandie157amen!!!
Not only with certain religions but also certain royals. And I don't mean only Prince Andrew!
It happens all over the world sadly. The Vatican has been covering up for priests for years who commit such vile deeds.
@@pallascat1743 what do you think is going on behind closed doors in many parts of ‘diverse’ UK?
Are you really that thick?!
What sort of school responds to these allegations by saying these things were ‘normal’ for 11 year olds because it was the ‘70’s.’
As awful as it may seem to those that do not know the extent of children being abused in the U.K, those of us that work with victims and survivors of sexual abuse know the school is at least being truthful. Everyone will now be using words that make it seem as if they care, or as if sexual abuse is a surprise and unusual, and is not acceptable in the U.K. If these people in the media did care they would be using their platform to do something to help and support the hundreds of thousands of children who are still being abused in the U.K. right now, let alone those that have been abused in the past. The local council made our lives a misery for years because we wanted to set something up in our Borough to support victims and survivors at our own expense, and no MP that were told about it did anything to help us, because everyone in positions of power close ranks and support each other. We need people that actually care, not those that simply pretend they care.
People looked the other way in those days. In my town, there was a Tory councillor who wrote for the newspaper and was also a minor celebrity. Everybody knew he touched little boys. Charges were brought against him. The pre-pubescent boys were fiercely cross-examined on the witness stand. They broke down, their testimonies were ruled unreliable and the trial was discontinued.
The school is clearly run by dimwits.
Most unacceptable in any era. The religious/ boarding schools were horrendous. The indigenous peoples anywhere in the world were abused by the High and Mighty. Has nothing to do with finances, there were certain professions, teachers, priests, doctors, caregivers, that did this for hundreds of years WITH NO ACCEPTANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY.
@@bonnielee9570 it seems the world is a better place in which to live now. The stories of yesteryear were horrendous.
I don’t care how much money I have, I would never send my children to a boarding school !!!
Amen....
@@KatharinaK117exactly
Agree!
Not every boarding school is guilty of this disgraceful behaviour. I was abused at my secondary school, how does that equate?
Me neither. Why do these people even have children if they don’t want them around?
Sexual Abuse was NOT acceptable in the 70s.
Indeed!
I think he was so ashamed he had to "think that" to survive.
It was pushed under the carpet.People just thought it was better not to talk about it and it would just go away.Of course,that is wrong,but it was the way it was in the 70s.
@@fionaforward3358Agree
@@CaliWeHo1:04 It's the school that is claiming it was acceptable in the 70s.
Here in the States, we heard rumors of British boarding schools having this abuse occurring in the 1960s. I certainly believe Charles Spencer’s every word.
I think Paris Hilton has spoken out recently about a boot camp style school she was sent to as a teenager, and the abuse she endured there.
They had Jimmy Saville haunting hospitals too and abusing kids there.
@@jennyfairbairn2525She was thrown out of school, failing, screaming, fighting and crying all the time so her parents sent her away to that place. She didnt like being told what to do there. Its fashionable to be a victim now.
Yes, I believe him, he is so brave to speak out.
Interesting. Thank you!@@halfdome4158
This is APPALLING and to dismiss such behaviour as “normal” is also appalling.
If those people are still alive they should be held accountable.
Both deceased.
There are many well & alive being protected by the shame they trap their victims in forever!
We never know what another person is suffering he has carried this for years.Shame on teachers who abused children shame on them.
As an Irish person who grew up listening to countless people saying they were being sexually abused in school. I am surprised that people are still shocked by this horrible news. Sexual abuse, and harassment, and bullying, is still a daily occurrence in some schools in both the UK and Ireland. I hope Charles Spencer blows the lid off the sexual abuse of pupils in boarding schools in the UK. It's still going on.
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Exactly my thoughts. I don't know which world they live on, certainly not the one I'm living in. These things happen all the time, everywhere rich or poor, boarding school or not. It can happen in the church right in front of these very hyped up people. 🐝
If a non wealthy, establishment figure writes of se ial abuse its ignored mainly...
Disgusting that a school child. Was abused in this manner. I hope the vile perpetrator was punished accordingly.
Just wait, victim Harry is going to come out and claim that he was abused to get attention! 😏
Spare 2.0 by Harold, I was too. 😏
...no chance....
And he never took action against that teacher ,head master or School.🙄😡👎
Both deceased.
I sent my son to a private prep school outside Washington, DC but he lived at home. I drove him to and from the school every day. Nothing shady going on there. Just a good school. I never thought a boarding school was a good idea. I wanted to see my child every day.
Tgat school needs shutting down . Disgusting statement .that was not normal then .
I was sexually abused from the age of 8. It sickens me to know others have been, because it changes us.
Sexual abuse was acceptable in the 70’s? Absolute garbage of a response.
it is shocking that any child endure that
People should look after their children instead of sending them to boarding school i am sorry that he went through that
I can't believe the response from the school.
I have heard many stories of abuse at private schools and care homes.
It can destroy a person's life.
I'm glad.
He had the courage to come out about his abuse because it is an issue in our society that needs to be dealt with and it can happen to anyone
Never Imagine to sent my children to boarding school under age.NO WAY. My children safety is first priority.
Yes, I'm sure parents send their kids, knowing what goes on. Don't be so damn stupid and get off your high horse. The same could happen to your kid wherever you have him/her schooled. Rather be grateful that your child has been protected from these scumbags and realize that there, but for the grace of God, goes your child.
I hope these perpetrators are bought to justice. Even if it was in the 70s. It certainly WAS NOT normal practice.
Amen threefold!
Both deceased.
Heartbreaking. Always think he has seemed such a gentle soul.
Just the tip of the vile evil iceberg. 😢
We were all abused at all boarding schools. Whether by bullying, sexually or by teachers or fellow pupils. I spent 5 years at a boarding school. I had to learn very quickly to defend myself against the bullies and the mocking teachers.
From the age of 5-9 it happened to me at a Church of England primary school by a male teacher (the only male member of staff at the school) on residential school trips and swimming lessons, during the in the early 2000's. I have dealt with years of shame about it before telling anyone, which helped me. I know it can completely destroy peoples mental health and lead to things like addiction and PTSD. I would imagine it is still pretty prevalent in schools across the country, particularly in schools with religious affiliations and boarding schools. More needs to be done across society in general to tackle pedophiles, especially by police forces who on many notable cases let many vulnerable children down and did not protect them.
Just a reminder that you have NOTHING to be ashamed of , you were a child and a victim, it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. I hope you've gotten the help you need and I'm wishing for you all the best
Same here church of England school the only male teacher it transpired done the same never to me but years later a girl came forward and he got arrested 20 years later, turned out he had picked he's favourites over the years, a sickly looking bloke.also we had a big dug out paddling pool at school in summer after using it we would dry off in class by jumping up and down naked girls and boys,women teachers were also oddballs to encourage this😮
@@evieshore3270 Thank you, now I accept it was totally unacceptable and nothing to be ashamed about. I previously felt like I wasn't worthy of calling myself a victim compared to what other people have gone through, as without being too graphic I only experienced fondling and grinding behaviours. This added to the shame a lot.
So sorry to hear what you went through. Hope you can work through it, and glad you know the crime is on them. Big time.
How sick and perverted some people are.
Hmmm , so called safeguarding in schools isn’t always exactly what it seems though.
How dare they call it normal back then!! Child abuse is abhorrent, sick and disgusting, and this school want to be thoroughly ashamed of themselves. I'm so sorry he went through something as horrible as that, and if these teachers or whoever are still alive, I hope he can get justice
My dad was in boarding school by the time he was 6 years of age. That class of people thinks nothing of putting children away and seeing them only for school holidays . People in those days never even thought about things like abuse.
Perhaps they were abused too; sick. 😢
Sick!
Excuse me. "that class of people"! In some countries, families live hundreds of kilometers away from towns and cities and have absolutely no choice but to send their children to boarding schools.
@@JenMaram63Thank you, I couldn't agree more.! The abuse is also perpetrated in 'state' schools and 'religion' based schools too...
@@JenMaram63lol. As if at the countryside there exist no schools.
I'm so sorry this happened to him, it's very courageous to write about it it may help others.
By Jove this statement! It was never ever Normal and Acceptable. I grew up at that time, we as children were warned by our parents for such dirtbag paedophiles and my father ... he did go after them already with the slightest inappropriate behavior towards one of us and not only for our sake. That Earl Spencer could not talk about this trauma with his parents so to seek protection, is another shock.
It's tragic. 😢
AMEN threefold!
That does not mean it doesn't happen all the time. It does and it did, everywhere, schools, churches, anywhere where adults are in charge of children since the beginning of time and will only stop at the end of time. 🐝
yes it does happen at certain places but at way more place it does hardly ever happen! And you know why? Because there the parents are ON it. And Spencer was clearly left for the lions. Terrible situation when you also cannot speak out at home. @@amandadassonville4043
Poor little boy, losing his mother and then that😥
Shocking this abuse never leaves you. So sad.Hope that teacher gets put in prison if she is still alive and the headmaster.
Once one becomes a parent, the strongest instinct is to protect one's child, a parent's worst nightmare when the people that you should be able to trust betray that trust and do the unthinkable, beyond shocking.
Early Spencer is a very clever and respectful man, he has gone on to become a successful historian-writer and custodian of his family home, it sickens me to think these people can, and do get away with such vile crimes to our children, they are put in such privileged positions,I hope if they are still alive he names and shames them,vile people!!
I do agree on the naming and shaming.
Those crimanals family must know exactly what type of people they are. These people will also not change their behavior, just continue doing now may be with their own grand children, while every one looks up to them.
And yet he had to wait till he was 59 and had to write a book to expose it. That’s a major shame
Yes a dreadful shock to hear this..how could anyone put a small,innocent child through such trauma for the rest of his life..however the upside is that, as you say,Earl Spencer is a very clever & intelligent man..I recently watched a youtube video with him taking us on a tour of his ancestral home,Allthorp...such an eloquent speaker & charming man with impeccable manners but seems so approachable with no side to him despite his title...how wonderful to be so down to earth & at the same time so well educated..how i would have loved to obtain these attributes...all power to him in naming & shaming these despicable people who have left such a sad mark on him ..thankfully his further education made him the strong,determined & well brought up man he is today...he wasnt afraid to say it as it was after his sister's demise & this book shows he is not afraid to shed light on yet another distressing subject.
Their mother did NOT walk out!!!!
Right!
True!
She did. Her own motye didn,t support her
@@geniawheddon7402do you know what kind of guy her father was?
The father beat the mother regularly that's why she left, leaving the kids though is not acceptable she could have taken them too as the father was a violent man
You can now imagine what a horror itwas & still is at Childrens homes &foster homes where children have no home or anyone or anywhere to go💧💧💧
Sexual abuse is an evil act
This went on at a certain football club in Glasgow and the club still won't pay the victims
Thankfully Prince George is not going to be sent to boarding school
how do you know?
@@glen7318 because his parents said he wasn't going to board
It was NEVER acceptable in the 70s , certainly not in Oz . It was well hidden and never spoken about but was definitely frowned upon as a perverse and sick act .
I’m sorry in which universe is this normal now or at anytime how disgusting.
Amen it was nowhere EVER normal! Maybe to rich ppl lmao ..
NOWHERE..he wants to sell his 📖
@@KatharinaK117 are you confused ? The schools response was that it was "normal " .
@@evieshore3270the confusion is a 💯 on you. As what that school wrote ain't NORMAL! In what universe you live is another question! My great grandparents, grandparents and parents protected all of us children!!!
@@KatharinaK117your attitude is a form of abuse. The type of attitude that makes it difficult for children to seek help.
SHAME on you
What a brave man 😢
It’s not exceptable on any level it’s just heart breaking 💔 🇬🇧💝
The question to me, is how we can help our children to open up if anything like this happens to them. I wasn't sexually abused as a child, but emotionally and told I was stupid for my whole last year of primary school. That feeling went with me for decades. I wouldn't have dreamed of talking to my mum about it. If she had known she would have caused hell at the school. At that age you just feel it's normal or you may deserve it 😢
I definitely don't have all the answers, but I think creating an environment where it's OK and encouraged to talked about anything really helps.
Where it's OK to ask any kinds of questions.
I think sometimes parents can have a negative reaction to some questions, but being curious and having questions isn't a crime. Children literally don't understand, that's why they're asking.
Having open and age appropriate discussions about these things and what is not acceptable is a good idea. The same as we teach stranger danger.
Being present at their school and other activities too. Pick them up and drop them off from the classroom/ activity so you can get a feel for how the adult (and other children) interact with your child and other children. Make sure to ask how their day was? What made them happy? What made them excited? What made them sad? Scared? And why? Always ask why. Help them to understand these emotions if they young do they can express them.
Help them develop vocabulary necessary for them to express if something isn't right.
I've seen abused adults say they didn't tell their parents because they didn't know how to express what was going on.
Never trust any adult or child, even if they seem absolutely fine. Don't allow them an opportunity as best as you can. Make sure you ask your child ask about their friends and their parents.
All this to say, keep communication lines open.
I hope that can be a starting point to further develop a plan to combat this. It's so important.
@@katyb2793 super tips! Thankyou!!
I found it very rude to see the lady writing notes and on the computer while there was an interview with a very favourite man. Manners help
Diana's mother did NOT "walk out"on her children. Frances wanted a divorce from Earl Spencer, NOT a divorce from her children.
Frances fought hard in court to be able to keep, see her children.
IT IS ABUSE to keep children away from EITHER parent.
Dianas mothers own mother sided with Dianas father in the divorce, ev en in court i believe.
Why do these people send their children to boarding school?
To get them out from under their feet! No, seriously, it's to foster independence and self sufficiency. Character building or something.
It's very common in the upper classes in the UK....unfortunately.
So the parents can justify going about their lives
The well known schools bestow connections eg 'old boy 'network" , guaranteed well paid job no matter how thick eg many Prime Ministers UK are from such schools as Eton which schools train the arrogant, cunning, v v charming manner the pupils acquire no matter how psychopathic they are eg Boris Johnson etc
As children at the time were never believed, they were told to forget it, or it was a " bit of fun"..eg jimmy Saville, those people now should be arrested,
Why are private schools called Public School in UK?
Schools that care have installed an encompassing child protection scheme. The Student Voice, TSV Limited is a breakthrough in this industry and came second to the BBC in the prestigious BETT awards. Some young people are working day and night with the use of technology, to protect children and young adults minute by minute.
There’s no need for any school to retreat to the past, or deny there could be a problem.
Bullies exist and should be a warning that all children should be protected from these monsters.
SO SAD. A PERSON WOULD HAVE NEVER GUESSED. BECAUSE HE IS SO INTELLIGENT AND SUCH A STRONG PERSON. I REALLY RESPECT HIM.
The parents a equally to blame for abandoning their children to let strangers to look after them.
This explains his outburst at Diana’s funeral, where he declared on the world stage , he would protect his boys from any harm and continue the love and care Diana embraced her sons with… she put her arms around so many … thankyou for sharing and caring for others, now time for you to heal…
God bless earl Spencer who is a very brave man , may he now move forward to healing ❤❤❤ it can be done
Perhaps it explains a few things about his difficult personality. Some boarding schools used to be quite abusive, sometimes verbally and sometimes physically. The punishments for minor infractions could be quite harsh. I personally experienced that. On another topic, does anyone else see a fair resemblance between Prince George and Earl Spencer?
Not me.
This is heartbreaking, my thoughts are with Earl Spencer. 🙏
Not just boarding schools, I went to a small local primary school back in the 70's. The Headmaster was giving lifts home in his car to various boys and interfering with them, he was convicted.
Doesnt surprise me in the slightest. Nooooo way? Unbelievable.
My friend suffered too. And our king wants to send George to boarding school??? Its abnormal. God created families. I pray for Kate . She like Diana is A MUM. It is mum's day. We should be able to care for our children, NOT MATRONS AND BULLIES!!!
Do u know how difficult to even say it out loud? Poor man!
The school is talking like this happened in the 40s.... It was not acceptable in the 70s
Disgustingly PROLIFIC...same happened to one who is now DEAD..from the age of 12...EVERY DAY AT SCHOOL QUEEN'S COLLEGE ,TAUNTON ,SOMERSET...
The school should be closed after this statement
These people who sent their children away to school had been there themselves and must have known what was going on at these schools
Yes like many kids in or out of boarding were abused children's homes st John's ambulance ect a lot of adults haven't spoke about it. Big hugs for speaking out now it's never too later x
No One Deserves To Be Abused..Justice Will Be Served..I Admire Him Being Able To Talk About It💌
Criminal...it happened to me age 3...
Bless him how brave for speaking out
why did he not report this when he left as to save other children///////
Don't be such an idiot!
What a brave man. So sorry that he endured this 💔💔💔💔
Bit of a change from gossiping about Meghan and harry and so the stories continue
This is sick
Sounds very truthful I know a lot about it I’m so sorry to hear this it’s an epidemic. Adults our very strange made no sense. Some Adults where very scary and other Adults didn’t want to get involve for fear of repercussion. Their our many of us in the world. Take care Charles.
Just because things are normalised does not mean it is normal.
So sad about it all.
My brother was sexually abused in school as well. It is disgusting and the coverups as well.
I like Earl Spencer very much, and I feel deeply for him.
It's still happening! Children abuse other children, adults as well,
There mother did not walk out!!! She was abused by her husband and lost her children as he was powerful, and her own mother supported him in court
I am very sorry this happened to Charles S its horrible
It does not need to be a boarding school for sexual abuse to occur. I know it also happened at a Church of England School in Coventry in the 60's
Earl Spencer is a healer like his Angel sister. His speaking out is going to help thousands to come forward and finally expose this evil. There is another side that’s forgotten and that’s the knock-on effect. It’s forgotten that the effect this has on the victim then goes on to affect their partner/s. Without realising, my ex affected my life because he had been terribly abused at boarding school. He told me yet, as I’d never heard of this, I did not ‘register’ what he meant. He was emotionally in a terrible state and this really hurt my life from the young age of 18 when we met. I believe I suffered secondary ‘abuse’ from this female perpetrator. I’m unsure she’s ever been brought to justice and often feel like I need to go to his school with a report and also to the police. He was among tens of children she abused throughout his time at the boys’ school. Appalling!
Lmao. Tht dude ain't no healer!
I know what you mean. Abuse effs people up.
Spencers odd family. Troublemakers
Diana was no angel she was a damaged women
Glad Charles us exposing those evil people who abused him.i applaud thus brave man.the truth comes out between the lies.God bless &guide you😢stay strong!!!!!.Anne.x
He needs to sell a book.
Hate to say it but all boarding school's World Wide were rampant 70's - 2000's! Probably still are today.
No way would I ever send my children to boarding school
HAPPY BIRTHDAY Duke of Edinborough! May GOD bless & guide you in your future!!
Britan has a a problem with this a long time. Above average abuse cases. Why? Whats going on?
Well ..was he raped? What kind of this abuse? While everything would be disgusting, the first one would be just terrible disgusting and would make me wonder....it was NEVER normal NOWHERE!
Aristocrats, who sent their children away, as young as 6!!!! For long periods! Sickening!
Rich ppl...who sent their young kids away 👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼
Boarding schools for the rich!
@@KatharinaK117 Prince William and Princess Catherine both do not want to send any of their children to a boarding school. And I totally agree. I've always known in my heart the subject of this film is the reason behind their decision. I have heard they are getting STRONG opposition from the elites to continue the tradition. William and Catherine accepted a compromise. Prince George heir to the throne, will go to boarding school during the week and be home on the weekends. This is why they moved to Adelaide Cottage so they could be near the school in case Prince George wanted to stay at home sometimes instead of being locked away at a British 8nstution. I wrote them a letter long ago begging them not to send George away to boarding school because children should never leave their parents control until 16, after they have matured more. Its NOT healthy for children. Whether they got my mail or not, I'm so happy they chose to ensure George doesn't have to live at boarding school PART TIME. Its obvious they will be watching him like a hawk. They know what goes on in these institutions and have chosen to protect their son instead of sending a 12 year old away to a strange environment 24/7. Im so glad William has the testicles to stand up for Georges and protect him. 😄
This is horrific! Thoughts and prayers to Earl Spencer 😢
People calling in "shocking" is only a testament to their naivety...
Quite right
Reminds me of that scene from Four Weddings and a Funeral where the wedding guest says he went to school with the older brother of the groom who "buggered him senseless".
Courageous of Earl Spencer. Princess Diana would be horrified.
And did he go on to send his kids to boarding school?
I think I saw in an and interview, he has 7 children and only two of his oldest ones , but as teenagers and as their choice.
How dare the school suggest that this was accepted as normal at the time? Sexual perversion is not "normal" at any time. Sounds like the school has learned nothing.
Par for the course at almost all boarding schools even today. Johnny Spencer sent his son to a boarding school KNOWING full well what goes on in boarding schools. He had been to one himself. "It was regarded as normal" is NOT "shocking". Never mind the staff which is disgusting enough but it is other kids, boys and girls .... YES, girls' boarding schools as well, with hormones racing, consentual and forced. See the film "Another Country" (1984) starring Rupert Everett and Colin Firth. Listen to Rupert Everett say that if he is to suffer a beating ADMINISTERED BY ANOTHER BOY he will expose half of the staff and every other boy with whom he had "done it" .... a vast number, it is suggested, the inference being that these numerous sexual encounters with other boys and masters were largely consentual.
I went to a bog-standard comprehensive where the lives of the vast majority of kids was made a complete and absolute misery by bullies and thugs. What about the hidden misery of kids these days caused by cyber-bullying, and it remains hidden except for the tiny proportion of such victims who commit suicide. Each time that this hits the headlines, there follows a period of national wailing including from these presenters as if it is a complete surprise to them ... They must have had very sheltered childhoods ..... but the bulk of the iceberg remains below the surface. Earl Spencer appears to have got away quite lightly .... it didn't cause him to commit suicide ..... did it ?
Wikipedia states of his dad, "According to author Penny Junor "Johnny could be violent, and [Frances] felt she and her children would be safer out of the home". Their daughter, Diana, also recalled "seeing my father slap my mother across the face and I was hiding behind the door and she was crying".
Violent man and his son did the same to his former wife. Whom he wanna fool...not very sympathical...both!
I wonder why he has suddenly decided to tell all. 60 years later.
I wonder .Bit late .
Sexual Abuse. Again??..
I thought that was part of life at public school.
Agreed