Advice for wedding planning. My husband and I got married in 2018. One thing we found was it is SO EASY to get caught up in all the options / vendors etc. We sat and made a list of our ‘what is important for us for the day’ and used that to help us navigate the planning with our event planner. That way they knew what mattered to us and were able to cater to that. Who knows we may have otherwise had singing waiters and everything imaginable 😁
Got married in 2022 and we did the same so we knew where to spend and where to splash. Danish wedding is not like americans but every year the wedding industri gets bigger here because of the instagram dream and wanting big american castle weddings 😅
blowing bubbles is such a fun and cute eco friendly way to substitute rice or confetti at weddings!! i've done it at a couple weddings and it was so cute
A relative had native flower petals instead of confetti - she kept calling it “nature’s confetti”. She wanted something eco-friendly but the soap in bubbles would have been a problem with the material of the bridal party dresses.
For your wedding: it is YOURS and DANS day, do NOT let anyone tell you what you want or what you should do. It is for you guys, make it yours and memorable. Make it the best day of your lives! But remember to breathe and enjoy every second. Best wishes to you both and can’t wait to hear more updates in the coming months 🤍. Also, amazing build as always!
Wedding planning advice: decide what matters to you and Dan and focus on that. Dont let anyone bully/guilt you into anything you arent comfortable with. Understand that things are going to go wrong, embrace that chaos as they dont really matter much. I used my venue for ceremony and reception to save on cost and travel. Balloons popped during the ceremony, it brought a moment of laughter after having walked the aisle and seeing each other for the first time that day. My moms re-marriage was outdoors, it ended up raining and we scrambled to the reception hall fir the ceremony, my dress nearly caught fire from a falling candle and my step dad never proposed so he "proposed" during the ceremony with a hula hoop diamond wedding ring. Mom handed it to me, who tried to hang it off a fence post. The diamond (made from tin foil) made it top heavy and I didnt think when putting it down. Well we all discovered it was a noisy hula hoop, with beads inside, as the diamond end slid to the ground a loud *shlushshlush* noise happened. Oops. They make good stories now. Also, if you get wax on clothing ..... put an iron on it over wax paper and it should come off.
Wedding thoughts: I love event planning, so I didn’t have a wedding planner (I had so many spreadsheets) but I also made it easy for myself by booking a venue for the ceremony and reception, which was attached to a hotel so out of town guests stayed there, Because I didn’t want people to have to be shuttled around. I did have a friend act as the “day of” coordinator who met all the vendors as they arrived (mainly florist, baker for the cakes, and DJ) and dealt with any issues. I suggest having a list of your wants and don’t wants. Like I didn’t want the DJ to play any country music. Or, my color scheme was purple and silver so I asked the florist for flowers that would match but not be crazy expensive. My 3 bridesmaids picked the style of their dresses in the dark purple fabric I liked. The photographer was a woman so it didn’t feel weird to have her take “getting ready” photos of me. One of the groomsmen showed up late (missed the ceremony altogether bc he flew in from another country from a work thing) so we asked a friend who was serving as an usher to be in the wedding party. So I guess just go with the flow and it’ll be much more enjoyable. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Having an "on the day" role for someone you trust - and it can be a lovely thing to ask of an older relative you respect - is such a good idea, especially if you have a lot of guests. If there's vendors coming in all day, asking one person to cover am, and another pm, so they still get to relax too, could be a good plan.
This is so dorky but I got so excited at 24:05 - 24:09 because that's when the thumbnails for my two shells are visible! I 100% agree about the fun of shells being the variety of things people make! I did a cute little yellow house that got really fixated on one swatch from High School Years for one (Sunshiney Yellow House -- also snuck in a screened in porch by placing new walls to get the windows placed and then deleting the walls). And for the other I did an obnoxious magenta vacation rental in Tomarang (creatively named "Magenta Vacation Rental") that was supposed to be a nightmare for the locals. I also loved in Kayla's build just seeing everything come together. It really it a serene house.
One of the most important things to remember when planning your wedding is to remember that the wedding is for you and your husband. No one else. Do the things, eat the food, and invite the people that you love. My husband and I had a strict rule to only invite people who knew both of us, which cut out a lot of people that we really didn't need/want there. Its really easy to start caving to pressures from other people which snowballs into a wedding planned for someone else. Stick to your guns and only do the things that make you happy. Our wedding was super small, at an airbnb, with a wildly curated menu of foods we both love. We had a fire pit and no real schedule for events or anything like that and everyone had an amazing time. It was super chill and relaxed and just felt like a giant get together with all of the people I love in one place. I think it's important to remind yourself of why you're doing this in the first place as opposed to the spectacle of it all. Also, on the wedding day, my best advice is once you are in the makeup/hair chair getting ready, you are now in bride mode. You are checked out from making decisions or stressing about decorations, guests, whatever. This is your time to tune everything else out and focus on getting ready to celebrate the love you have for another person. Anything that comes up can be handled by other people. It is no longer your problem.
Simsie, so happy for you and Dan! I got married last year and miss the wedding planning process so much! Advice I would give: 1. Get a planner! I ordered one off Amazon and it helped me so much! 2. Sit down and talk about wants, wishes, etc, that each of you see for the wedding. I’m sure others have said this already, but do what you two want! During the process, my husband and I would always refer back to the real reason we were getting married. I know it’s sounds simple, but it’s easy to get caught up in planning and forget why you’re getting married! Don’t loose that! 3. I was also scared to make calls, I would write down what I wanted to say and my questions before calling and that made it so much easier and less stressful!! 4. Lastly, research and Pinterest are your best friend! You can get so many ideas and diy anything if that’s what you want! Best of luck to you both and happy planning😊
My cousin celebrated her wedding in 2022! And one of my favorite things, is they had a bar, and it did serve other drinks, but she had two specially cocktails made and named after their two Dogs, Zeke and Cato! I can’t remember which was which but one of them was like a tangerine honey mule, absolutely delicious. Maybe you could have Stuff named after your cats! Maybe a cocktail named after Shrimp as a double play on words!
Wedding tip: when purchasing something from suppliers that will not access the venue and scheduling services (like your makeup for the wedding day), do not mention you are the bride! Say it's for some other formal event!, not a wedding! People will make things a lot more expensive for brides just because.
Please don’t. There is a reason it’s more expensive. Your hair dresser on the day could stay for all the pictures. Or the makeup artist will give you a bag so you can touch up later on the day. They both do the hair and the makeup before the event to make sure you like it, and you know what to expect. This is all included in the budget they set. They know it’s an important day for you. And they will do their best to make sure you feel taken care of and beautiful.. same for the the flowers. There is special things that make weddings more labour intens for them…
@jpdenboer4365 yes but not everyone wants that extra, some ppl just want a simple look that isn't to much and they don't need someone to stay or extra make up for touchups.
I haven't gotten married yet, but I am this fall! I can already tell one of my favorite touches we're going to do is having little bride and groom ducks "hidden" around the reception for the kids attending to find as a little thing for them to do and then they get to keep the ducks at the end. Bonus, we have a bride and groom duck reserved for the top of our cake too!
advice: something WILL go wrong. but NOTHING will be detrimental. Not to scare you, just prepare you is all. BUT, the wedding planner will handle it and you will be none the wiser. Just let him/her do their job. Leter you can ask so what happened? what did you need to fix? you will laugh not having known.
soooo much to think about while wedding planning, but do not forget to enjoy the process!! getting a wedding planner will be a game changer for you. here is some of my advice/thoughts (: dont go crazy expensive on invites. we got ours from vistaprint and they were super cute, AND they always have sales. so it was extra cost savings. when you are getting flowers, don't say its for a wedding. they will upcharge you try and DIY whatever you can, like centerpieces if you are on a tight budget consider a first look, we ended up doing it because of timing, and it really ended up being the right thing for us. we also did a "sand ceremony" since we arent really religious. basically get two diff types of sand and join it together in one container. think of any games you might want to play during your reception (we did the shoe game) wedding dresses are very expensive, plus alterations, preservations, veils, accessories, etc...but there are so many gorgeous cheap options that are out there if you need to stick to a budget. i broke the #1 Say Yes To The Dress rule and tried on a dress outside of my price range lmao i highly recommend picking a quality photographer and videographer over anything else (mostly photographer), because that is what you will walk away with. we kind of skimped on videographer and we got what we paid for, which is nothing almost lmao. the next important for guests and what they will remember is food and DJ. don't go wild with favors either. and probably skip any glasses or whatever with your names on it (i threw out some glasses from weddings because im never going to use them). something you can eat or something unique would be the way to go imo we had our parents switch sides during the ceremony because you can see the brides face more on the grooms side, and the grooms face more on the brides side. so my mom sat on the grooms side and was able to see me more than just the back of my head if you are going on a honeymoon RIGHT after the wedding, make sure you leave 2 days after the wedding and not the day after. youre going to be exhausted and you'll want to have a day to say bye to your friends and fam from out of town, and just catch your breath. also, Aruba was an amazing honeymoon destination, and cheaper than most, so def recommend. make sure someone leaves a pen at your guest book. the venue didn't leave us out one and no one said anything until way later get an envelope box with a lock for the cards people will give you. we got ours from things remembered or online somewhere RSVP cards: either fill out the guests name yourself (so that they know who specifically is invited) or number the back of the RSVP cards and put it in an excel sheet because yes, people send them back without names for your kiss, 2 ideas: tell the officiant to get tf out of the way, OR have the photographer take a picture from where the officiant is standing so that they capture your guests in the background. i agree the wedding painter thing on tiktok is SO COOL i wish i would have done that looking back, you really dont need to blow a lot of $ for a special day. we ended up spending more than we planned to, and even though i loved my wedding, i know it would have been just as magical if we skimped on some stuff. i really wish i was on tiktok when i got married, so many great pieces of advice, but those are some things i learned from my own wedding (: EXCITED FOR YOU!!!
28:57 KAYLA ARE U INSANEEE I DIDNT EVEN KNOW THAT U’RE THE ONE WHO BUILT IT WHEN I ADMIRED THE HOUSE IN GAME ND PLAYED A LOT W THE FAMILY. U DID SUCH A GREAT JOB PLSSS ESP THIS IS EA’S FIRST TIME OF INCLUDING ASIAN REFS IN GAME AND AS AN ASIAN MYSELF I’M SO GLAD THE BUILDS WERE ALL IN GOOD HANDS!! 💞💞
Wedding planning - got married in 1990 - don't try and please everyone!!! Do what you and DAN want - not what other people want. Coolest thing about my wedding - the church was gorgeous.
Wedding ideas: we hired a sketch artist, cheaper and faster than a painter. She drew the guests spending about 5 mins on each. The guests took their portraits as souvenirs, really nice Next favorite idea was a quiz with a round of questions about bride and groom: when/where we met, eye colours, hobbies etc. Good luck with your wedding planning!
for weddings, you can skimp on food and location. but spend more on photographer and the dj/band. imo no ones gonna remember what they had for dinner at your wedding, they will remember how much fun it was. and you will look back on your wedding photos A LOT.
Location is a huge part of the photos though. I do agree that photographer and a dj are very important but also I do remember when I go to weddings and the food isn’t good lol
Back years ago, I used to work for a Financial Institution in the UK, and part of my job was Events Management. I organised both of my weddings entirely on my own, and loved every moment. (I've been married twice). The first to my first husband was very traditional, my favourite single thing was the "day musician" I hired, who played bagpipes for the arrival, piano for the processional, and while we were having photos and cocktails, he had an accordion and kept everyone entertained. It was a humanist ceremony (traditional Scottish) with hand-binding etc.
Hi simsie! I haven’t had a wedding yet BUT I see soooo much on TikTok and other platforms, my favorite thing I saw was (if you plan on having a lot of people there) before the reception, have a sort of just you and Dan dinner! So you both eat! My friend who recently got married was SO busy at the reception greeting people and dancing and such and she only had bits and bobs to eat and it’s so important to stay hydrated and eat during that long beautiful day!!!
For wedding planning - a planner is fantastic!! Find one that you get along with and fits your budget, it’s seriously so helpful. My only regret is that it all went by too fast. We did a private dinner during cocktail hour which was great because we got some one on one time and we actually got to eat dinner. Just do the things that matter to y’all. There’s no wrong way to get married to someone you love!
Advice from a wedding planner to be: get your ideas on spreadsheets and give those to her. Colorschemes, flowers, a theme, your perfect dress etc. I actually have 3 google forms regarding that. Just to get to know the couple and have a first look into their wishes. Writing down what the both of you want will make it easier for everyone involved.
Wedding advice: We got married in 2023, and the best choice we made was to book out a restaurant instead of doing catering - that way everyone could pick their own meals & dietary restrictions, but we still had the “privacy” of a catered venue since it was just our guests!
Don't feel like you need a nighttime wedding if you don't want to dance the night away. My wedding started at 11am and we had lunch and some dancing and then everyone took a break and we met for dinner and playing at the barcade later. It was so fun and perfect for me since I'm such a morning person. And the guests liked it because it gave them time to attend a local festival with each other while they were in town
I helped plan my dads wedding a couple years back… it was small, cozy, and absolutely beautiful! They got married at the beach with a small outdoor ceremony. In terms of pictures my absolute favourite pic was of all our family lined up on either side of a path and my dad and his wife walking down the centre. We used a bunch of small plants we already had and fairy lights in jars for table decorations. I was her makeup artist as well and if you’re planning on doing it yourself I’d highly recommend rooting around Reddit for other makeup artists recommendations for wedding makeup, you want something long lasting that won’t budge. Also apply more than you think you need, do some practicing and take some pictures in similar lighting so you can get a picture of how you’ll look on the day. If you’ve got any questions feel free to ask!!
Congrats on starting 'the wedding stuff' ❤❤❤ One thing I did at my wedding is that my husband and I rehearsed a little choreo (none of us are dancers, but I got him to accept doing our first dance with the Barbie and the 12 ballerinas theme song) and it was very cute to rehearse and then do at the wedding ❤ Also, our parents did a little dance too, and we framed a picture of each couple dancing, which they love because there aren't many events in which both you and your partner are dressed up and posing jajajaja I hope you enjoy the process Kayla ❤❤❤
I got married in October of 2014 and my biggest, most important advice is to invest in the memory-saving aspects of the wedding. Ie: photography, videography, keepsakes, etc. My husband and I had a tiny budget of only $5000 for every single thing for the wedding, so we couldn't afford a photographer or videographer. I got SOME photos from friends with good cameras but it wasn't coordinated and it was general chaos. My dad ended up passing away 4 months after my wedding almost to the day and my biggest regret was not having more photos from my wedding day. He went down hill very quickly after that.
We've been married for, 12 years this year, and I have two points from my experience to share: 1) I wish I had not hidden the real me, for the sake of expectation, and to please more traditional relatives - I should have just worn trousers, my big biker boots, piercings, tattoos etc. - because I look at the photographs and I am not there, an imposter is there. 2) I am so glad we had a "reportage" photographer, who only did a couple of traditional group shots, the rest is lots of captured memories, people being themselves, rather than being posed and stiff for the camera. This has become so much more important as the years have gone on, and we have lost many family members, having pictures of them laughing, telling stories, etc is a real treasure. Couple of "things to bear in mind" about photographers - many wedding photographers charge little for the day, but make it up in selling very expensive prints to the family, we preferred to pay our photographer for her time, and then we had complete control over prints. To order prints from my sister-in-law's wedding cost family about £12 each, it cost less than that for people to get a full set of ours, if they wanted. Obviously on very tight budgets it may be a concession you have to make, but worth baring in mind. Second thing - don't have your photographer shooting during meals, nobody wants their photo taken whilst they are eating, and it just dents their enjoyment of the food! Sorry for the essay - hope it helps someone!
As a bride with extreme anxiety I knew the wedding day would be overwhelming so me and my husband planned several events through the day with either just us or a small group. Mostly little photo breaks so I could decompress and breath.
Wedding tips: DIY your florals for the tables if you can- it'll be MUCH cheaper and nobody is going to care much about the flowers. The bouquet you carry is the only one that really matters, and we DIYd mine too since I had a crafty maid of honor. My #1 advice is HIRE A GOOD PHOTOGRAPHER! It is the MOST important thing imo because it's what you'll look back on most.
I got married last year and honestly, having a wedding co-ordinator was the best thing. All I had to do was pick the suppliers and make a list of what we wanted and the co-ordinator did the rest. I could then focus on sorting my dress, hair/make up etc. We had a photo booth as well as a photographer so that we could capture as many memories as possible. The day goes so fast - I actually missed a lot of the stuff we arranged due to being whisked off for photos and making sure I had spoken to all our guests! So having lots of photos and videos to look back on was amazing! (Also encourage your guests to take lots of photos and videos during the reception! My mum and uncle ended up taking some of the best pictures on our wedding day!) It was quite overwhelming at times so I was thankful for our co-ordinator who made sure everything on the day went to plan. If you need to take time out (which we did at one point) speak to your wedding planner/co-ordinator who will be able to make sure you have a place to go where you can both take a moment to breathe! Wishing you both the best of luck!
Wedding Activity!!!! Instead of a Flower bouquet toss, do either a ribbon on (its on TikTok and YT, they cut the ribbon instead of throwing and messing up the bouquet) OR so a (plush) Kitty Toss!
There was this one bride that instead of a bouquet toss, she took apart her bouquet and gave each flower to her bridesmaids and prayed for their success and for them to find a husband (she's christian) The prayer I could do without, but taking apart the bouquet and wishing for your friends' success I thought was pretty sweet
As a single young person, all of my info on weddings comes from the sims and Pinterest so I'm not exactly qualified but I know that your IRL wedding will go A lot better than a sims wedding
My brother and my sister-in-law had two signature cocktails for drink choices. They we're simple and didn't have too many ingredients. They had soda and other drinks but those two signature drinks were cute. If you don't drink you could very easily do mocktails instead and it would still be cute. Like just a drink that would make you look back on the day with fondness.
My husband and I got married in 2021. I feel like it's very easy to get caught up in the details, options, ideas, etc. My advice would be to look at the details and the ideas, but don't try to do everything. Choose things that you feel will be memorable. The best thing you can take away from the day is memories. My favorite thing we did at our wedding was to take photos together (just the 2 of us) after our ceremony and before the reception. The emotions we were feeling right after saying our vows are literally palpable in the photos and they really bring back the memories. We also ate snacks together before going into the reception, and I would highly recommend doing this since you likely won't eat dinner during your reception. Just remember that your wedding day is YOUR wedding day. It's nice to have cute things for your guests, but the most important thing is the experience you and your husband have. And "Everything for weddings is like, a million dollars." is a very accurate statement, haha! 😂😂
Advice for wedding planning. One thing that I wish I would have done was to have a videographer. Additionally, I had custom to go boxes made for my cake leftovers so that others could take some home. Unfortunately mine didn’t get used because no one informed the DJ to make an announcement but I think it’s very useful. Just remember to take it all in. Spend time with Dan to just look around and cherish it for a moment. Best of luck!
Hey Kayla! So glad you got a wedding planner, I wish we would've done that because coordinating all of the vendors was very stressful! Biggest advice is: have the wedding you want to remember (not the wedding guests may expect you to have)
My wedding planning advice: More than anything, make a list of what is most important for you and Dan on the day -- use that anytime you can't make a decision. What suits that list best? In terms of actual logistics: Pick a venue with/very close to (ideally attached to!) a hotel. Then, your guests have a place to stay. Plus, they often have vendors (caterers, bartenders, etc.) they recommend, which narrows down your choices right off the bat, so you have a lot less to wade through. My sister had real flowers and I had fake flowers and we both think fake flowers is totally worth saving that effort (she regrets her real ones). And a fun thing for guests? Ask for song requests on your RSVPs! We did this and our DJ had a whole playlist to work with, right from the start. And it also meant we knew everyone would have at least one song to dance to!
So fun hearing your joy in the upcoming wedding 🥰 tips from me: We planned from a guest perspective. If I would be the guest. What bugs me the most? And we deleted all that from our wedding. (Example: waiting, late dancing start, driving at the end, etc) To this day (5years) people ask us when we will throw a new party because it was so awesome 🥰 Set your max money soon and plan from there. And then start with what’s most important to you and add only if money is left. We started with life music and food and last on the liste were our outfits
this is my all time favourite style of architecture!! this house is so beautiful! I would looove to see more japanese inspired builds like this. maybe something like some japanese townhouses that are very packed, in small city alleyways with lots of street clutter and overgrown plants? theres something i find so peaceful about them :)
Saying this as someone who worked as a server at weddings for over 6 years, less is more. A lot of couples went over the top with things like too many different types of desserts, favors, and even entertainment that end up going uneaten or unused. The live painter is really cool though I only saw it once or twice. It really depends on what local artists charge. Your wedding planner will likely have a few to recommend if you're interested in pursuing it. Also some may say the food isn't important but... it really is. I highly recommend buffet style over plated (you'll pay less per plate and give your guests more freedom to pick out just the food they want to eat and the portion amounts. It results in much less waste. If you do go plated, place cards with their meal choice listed on it is a MUST. Your banquet servers will thank you lol. Anyhow, that's my two cents. I wish you both the best with the planning and the day of!!
Happy 24th anniversary to The SIMS! You're wedding planning will be easier with a planner. Always do what YOU two want for your wedding. Don't let others influence you into doing something you don't want. It's y'alls day, no one else's. Schedule time for you two to be alone after the ceremony, before the reception, to eat in peace and relax before having to socialize.
Wedding advice, definitely get a planner or if you have a “planning” type of friend or family member utilize their skills. My mom has worked in the wedding/catering industry her whole adult life so having her was a god sent! She had everything down to a T, so along with my maid of honor I felt little to no stress.
I always enjoy how you do your interiors. Some of the rooms you've done remind me alot of still life art. A moment captured in tine. Keep doing what you do
I got married a few months ago, and loved the planning process! Here are some pieces of advice 1. Create day-of timelines and lists of tasks for day-of set up. That way people won’t be bothering you, and you can enjoy the getting ready process 2. Have a list of shots you want your photographer to take, we didn’t do this and some important ones got overlooked 3. Take some time during the day just you and Dan. It can be overwhelming to be around so many people, so it’s nice to step aside and reflect together. 4. Just remember, that at the end of the day, you get to be with your person, and that’s what the whole thing is about.
We had a super low budget wedding so planned it all ourselves. Most stressful thing was definitely invites 😅 I was so glad we took a dance lesson beforehand so we new exactly what to do. We sorted out the bar and food tabs in advance so there was no questions on the night (this obviously depends on your situation). Finally, the best advice I got, during your wedding just live in the moment. Forget all the things that could go wrong or pleasing everyone. Just do what makes you happy ❤ Good luck simsie and Dan, I hope you love your day and all the steps leading up to it 🥰
We're the same age, and I got married in October 2022. It was really only immediate family and we booked a huge cabin in the mountains 6 hours away for nearly all of us to stay in, then booked a local restaurant for the wedding and dinner. It was great, but still stressful and it nearly killed me even with how small and *relatively* budget everything was lol. We didn't have a photographer or anything like that and I played a spotify playlist we made through the space's speakers. We bought an AMAZING gourmet cheesecake from a famous local sweet shop because people mark up anything labeled "wedding" one million percent. It was like 70 bucks and everyone was obsessed. Our family still talks about how nice our wedding was since the food was great and it was a mini vacation, so make sure to prioritize the experience over fancy nothings. I couldn't fathom planning some big event of a wedding so good luck to you all!
Wedding tip- absolutely get the day of event coordinator/wedding planner. They handle everything going on wedding day and make sure it all flows. Also, we did a first look. This really helped calm my nerves, gave us some alone time to just be together before all of the festivities. It all goes by SO FAST. Enjoy every moment!
Before the wedding, we took ballroom dance classes. It was a great way to spend time together outside of the home and then we felt pretty confident when we danced at the wedding. We've been married almost 13 years, so it's hard to remember all the planning, but a wedding planner is such a good idea.
A wedding planner is a great idea! My community is all pretty connected and for weddings youll find most catering and venues and singers more based on who your family has used or who is your family so it was a lot of my mom doing it with bc they knew her or her family, otherwise I wouldve needed one! One of my favorite things was my entrance - we first had all our little nieces and nephews walk in first which was really sweet especially the toddlers and then we walked down a staircase together and had those little gold fountain fireworks going off. Also my photographer was incredible - it was her and husband working together and im pretty self conscious and felt worried about not knowing how to pose but they were so good and she would help adjust for more flattering shots but also they just had fun with us and were so creative with things my photos were so personal and perfect. Everyone said this to me - and it was very true - the day goes by sooo fast but just stop to take the moments in when you can. I was so nervous and so was my husband but celebrating with our loved ones was so special
Don’t sweat the small stuff when it comes to your wedding! I was adopted so my favorite thing about my wedding is that I had my birth dad walk me from the brides room to the end of the isle and pass me off to my dad who then walked me down the isle and passed me off to my husband 😊 I even did a daddy daughter dance with him and then my dad ❤
Wedding planning advice: so I also got married for visa reasons in 2020 and we always planned on eventually doing a “real wedding” which happened just last summer! So I am not a planner, luckily my mom and my friends are lol. One of the best things was talking to my florist they asked us like what are some words you would use to describe what you want, and it was really helpful. We said regency, romantic, classic. One of my favorite things is we made a program and themed it to be like a lady whistledown pamphlet to introduce the wedding party and family lol cuz I’m a huge Bridgerton fan. A good thing is also to just get together with your partner and see which aspects are important to you, also if you have involved family what would be important for them. So I really wanted fun specific music, my husband is a big foodie so catering was important to him, also my husband is Swedish and having lots of speeches is really important for Swedish weddings. If photos are important to you, give yourself a solid hour and a half to get through them, it takes way longer then you think, especially the family and wedding party photos. One of my favourite thing was also doing some very basic wedding dance choreography, we didn’t have time to take any lessons but I went on TH-cam and found some really easy tutorials that just made the dance look 10x better then just us swaying back and forth together. I mean planning stage, honestly as a bad adhd planner myself, just get someone you trust who will listen to your wants and will yes and your ideas to full blown plans, whether that’s a professional planner or family member/friend, just having them to help with all the logistics bullshit is so helpful.
My wedding thoughts: Remember it's a celebration of you and your bond. Your guests just want to see you being happy together and having a good time, so don't feel obligated to do anything if it isn't bringing you joy. There's a TON more flexibility in "what has to happen" than most people realize - the govt doesn't care about your ceremony, only that you fill out the paperwork, and that's literally the only thing you technically HAVE to do. My husband and I had a D&D themed wedding, it was wild but everyone loved it and it was very "us". Practical tip: you can save $$ by getting a very modest cake to ceremonially cut for just you and your spouse, and get generic nice sheet-cakes from a local bakery. It opens up flavor options, can more easily cater to different food allergies of some of your wedding guests, is easier for catering to cut and serve to guests, and is generally cheaper than a multi-tier super-decorated monster with the "wedding" price tag. I actually asked my mom make our cutting cake to add an extra level of personal meaning. It was less fancy than a professional could have made, but it was delicious and moist and made with love.
20:17 I am planning my wedding as well, and so far, the advice I would give is to have dinner for you and your fiancé prepared for the wedding, like make sure you have something to eat, maybe even a few snacks because that day you get super busy doing everything, saying hi to everyone and I’ve heard is very common for the bride and groom not to eat anything, AND to make sure you will be comfortable with the weather, I personally HATE being cold so I think I’ll get some kind of outfit change to something more comfortable once all the fancy stuff is done, idk that’s everything I’ve got planned for now 👀
Oh! and also i’ve heard that quoting things like flowers, dresses, arrangements, instead of saying that is for a wedding you can say is for a quinceañera or a sweet 16 party and they give lower quotes 👀👀
Honestly wedding planners charge wayyyyyy too much. Trust me you do not need one or a day of planner. (Haven’t been married myself but been a moh and bridesmaid twice) neither my sister or my friend had one and they both didn’t regret it. They basically charge you to book all the things you would’ve anyway. Unless they are reasonably priced which is rare, I feel like you can do it. Just make a list of things you need to book and do some googling. It’s not as overwhelming as it seems especially if are a chill bride and you don’t strike me as one.
Got married last year and I and my now hubby planned everything alone. First, the most important thing is YOU and DAN should feel happy with what you're doing, don't let anyone dictate how you spend it. I was very content with our venue cause it had a big garden, we also had a bartender who was making custom drinks and soft cocktails for your guests. I wanted a cheeseboard and I got my cheeseboard (hubby is also a cheese enthusiast) Another really helpful thing was to chill out because the most important event was to get married and start a new episode together so we didn't bother much with specific themes or dress codes. Keeping everything in a separate Excel what we wanted, what we were doing, and what was left to be done was easy to manage.
Unrelated to weddings, I think doing a no-base game challenge would be SO cool! I mean of course walls and roofs and floors and stuff that is required for even a basic shell from BG you could use (for obvious reasons) but I think a no-BG item build would be so fun! Just to see what you could make and how much you’d miss base game (like, which flooring you’d miss or which wallpapers or tables or whatever). Great work as always! Thank you for sharing!
I got married in 2022!!! Best advice I have: DAY OF COORDINATION! Have a day of coordinator. This can be your wedding planner, or a family friend that wants to be involved in the wedding but isn’t a bridesmaid or something like that. Have a detailed schedule with plenty of extra time built in. Another time thing that I recommend is doing a “first look” before the ceremony, getting all the family pictures done then, so after the ceremony y’all can just go to the reception and eat without having to stand around and do photos after. I ALSO highly recommend doing a private dinner with just you and Dan so y’all can have a moment to breathe and take everything in before going and socializing with guests because everyone is going to want to talk and take pictures at the reception, and a lot of couples don’t ever have time to eat
I think the idea of a wishing well is fantastic. In lieu of gifts, everyone chucks money into a wishing well. This way, you don’t get a bunch of stuff you don’t need and you get some of the money back you spent on the wedding. My sister only had a small wedding with her husband, but our family is quite generous and they ended up getting a small fortune, which could have paid for the wedding twice. 😂
My basic tip to wedding planning is to follow YOUR heart and liking not someone else's. Cus it is your day and you are getting married for you and not for some mom or something. Those relatives tend to take control over the whole thing, and your feelings and likings easily get lost in it all. You and Dan are the main focus. Don't forget that!
Wedding advice: get a wedding planner! We loved ours, she had so much advice and knowledge about the industry, she coordinated with our vendors, and I could relax with my wedding party because I knew she was handling set up. Favorite part of my wedding: a petal toss as we exited the ceremony. It made the moment feel even more magical, the photos were gorgeous, and guests that needed to leave early didn't feel like they missed out on our exit.
My wedding advice is to make it what you and Dan want. You're going to get a lot of well-intentioned opinions from parents, wedding party participants, other family/friends about what you could or "should" do. It is overwhelming. Do the things that you and Dan want. Everything I wish was different about my wedding is the stuff I gave in on. My favorite thing was that we didn't have dancing. I hated the idea of dancing, and I am really glad I held firm on that.
I got married this past September! I loved the planning part, it was so fun but I’m very much an event planning type of gal. My favourite part of the day to look back on (pics and video) is when my husband saw me for the first time walking up the aisle! I kept going back on forth on doing a first look, and eventually decided we wouldn’t! Another thing I loved is that we had a sweetheart table, it was so nice to have a meal with my husband for the first time- just the two of us. We were so giddy, and we were able to look around and see everyone we loved enjoy their meals. It was amazing. The best day ever!!! Don’t stress too much, I know it’s easier said than done but it will be perfect, whether things go off the rails or not ❤
I'm from the UK, my husband and I were planning a wedding for 2020 but we all know what happened then 😅 so we ended up having to move the date twice because of rules and restrictions. But in terms of general advice, I'm like you in that planning events is not for me, I get stressed by big public events quite easily. So for me it was great finding a venue that offered these 'packages' that included a bunch of stuff like catering, music for the ceremony and DJ for the evening, decor, etc. So it ticked a lot of boxes for us already which was helpful. Then all we needed to find vendors for separately were the cake, makeup/hair, wedding stationary like the invites and table plans and order of the days, wedding party dresses and suits and photographer. It goes by in a BLUR, so do try to take a moment fot just yourself and Dan to take it in as it goes by quickly and it's nice looking back knowing I had a moment for just me and Liam ❤
The best wedding DAY advice I received was to not leave each other's side at the reception. People are going to want to talk to each of you. It's tempting to "divide and conquer". But don't! Otherwise you won't see each other all day. It was such a great advice for my husband and I. We truly spent the whole day TOGETHER 💜. It does slow down your socializing with family. But it's worth it. You got this! It's going to be such a special day where literally everyone you both love will be together 😍 so happy for you!
I got married last year, I'm british so things may be different for yourself but our favourite things about the day were having just our nearest and dearest for the ceremony/lunch and then bringing the evening guests in earlier than convention so they could be there for speeches, having the maid of honour and myself (eep) do speeches so it was a more even male/female split for talking, having both my Mum and Dad walk me down the aisle, having a venue which supplied a wedding co-ordinator so we didn't need to do or think about anything on the day it just ran really smoothly and having a venue which was gorgeous both outside and inside in case of poor weather. We ended up getting super lucky with the weather but it was nice to have the option. My regret was not pushing for a videographer, my husband is very camera shy and we had two photographers who were amazing they were so sneaky all day but took the best pictures, I just wish I had a video. We did video the ceremony on a phone, so we do have that moment. I did manage to rope husband into doing a simple bit of choreography for the first dance (I am a dancer) which was a really nice moment for the two of us practicing the nights before. We also spent the weekend before with family and the bride groom party which was lovely, helped with planning and nerves! The day will go so quickly, things may go wrong, just remember you are there because you are celebrating each other and have fun! I wish I could do it all over again!
Hi! Long time watcher, first time commenter! I was Maid of honor recently for my best friends wedding, a piece of advice I’d share is making sure your taking your time and doing things for YOU! My friend was sooo stressed and was trying to make sure everyone else was happy, she even said close to the wedding, “this wedding isn’t for me, it’s for everyone else” 😕 and she was working really hard to make things too perfect for everyone else. I helped out where I could but she was doing A LOT of work on her own. All this to say do the things that make you happy and excited and forget the rest! Getting a wedding planner is super smart, you’re going to need all the help you can get!! Good luck and hope you have an amazing wedding!! Congrats 😊
Was so great to see the speed build. I got married 2014 and was one of the best days of my life. We were very family friendly so hired a jumping castle for the kids even though adults used it more. We had glow sticks while we danced the night away. We just made it a party basically. My best advise, it doesn't matter what happens on the day, you will be sharing the rest of your life with your bestie
Use wedding wire, it's so useful! I got married in October and I was on a pretty low budget. It can be pretty stressful but it'll all come together. Make sure to have fun with it!
I don't have any particular advice for the process of wedding planning as I have not done that yet (my boyfriend and I are probably going to get married in a few years) but I do think that enlisting as much help as possible is a great move.. anxiety or not you are going to thank yourself for having it. In terms of wedding ideas something that I really enjoyed at weddings I have been to recently have been some of the more non-traditional activities avaible such as yard games and things like that. Not everyone wants to dance so these are great. I wish you and Dan luck in finally getting the marriage ceremony and reception you deserve!
Married my husband this past August and it was stressful, I’ll admit. We didn’t have a big budget AT ALL, so we did everything ourselves as DIY projects and just hosted it in our yard. I was so anxious for so long about it because doing everything ourselves meant there was so much room for error, but on that day, nothing mattered. I didn’t even care anymore about all those little things that I thought were pulling us down or that we had done wrong. We made a lot of choices that a lot of people told us wouldn’t work but we did them anyway. Everything worked out perfectly and everything we made was beautiful and we loved every moment. My best piece of advice is do what you want to only. Don’t make decisions based on what works out or makes sense for the most amount of people, it’s not their day. Do what you want to do, people will have fun anyway because it’s a wedding. To them it’s a party on one day, but you’ll think about it for the rest of your life so do what you want to do. Don’t let anyone talk you out of your wild or out of the box ideas, this is the day to do them.
I’m 16 (so not married) but my mom and stepdad were absolutely terrified about their first dance for their wedding day, but it was important to my mom so they did the first dance but invited everyone to dance with them during it. All the kids danced around taking some of the attention and pressure off of them. Hope you have a lovely wedding ❤❤
Congrats on the Wedding-Wedding! My best friend did something similar, she and her husband got courthouse married with just his family and a couple of mutual friends in June 2020, and then in October 2023 had a full wedding with a party and everyone coming in from out of town and all the bells and whistles. Honestly, I'm in favor of being paper married for a couple of years before having the big party, because that gives you both time to really figure out what you want out of a wedding, without also having the pressure of figuring out what you want out of a marriage looming.
I got married in 2016, so prices for things have surely increased by now, but I did the majority of the planning myself with my mom. It's so easy to be overwhelmed by all the tiny details so a wedding planner should be helpful with that. I had 9 months to plan mine and it went SO FAST. We spent the most money on a photographer and food, and both were SO worth the what we spent. We went cheaper/diy on things like decorations and invites to save money. Another thing we did that people still mention to me that they loved is that we didn't do wedding cake for everyone. Instead we each picked a traditional family dessert and had those options at the table for people. Wedding planning can be exciting, but parts of it are definitely very stressful. I hope the wedding planner takes the most stressful parts off your hands!
Just got married in the fall and my favorite thing we did is have an ice cream cart! We had an “ice cream social” after the ceremony while we took pictures. I also sent my bouquet away to be framed and it turned out lovely. My best friend did a live wedding painter and adored it, it was a few thousand dollars. For advice, it helped me to look up what the average cost of different parts of a wedding were, just for a base line on what might be “reasonable” even though it’s all very overpriced.
Wedding advice: wedding planners can really be helpful! I am not picky at all about things, so it was nice to have someone to help give me options for decorations, food, etc.
Just to add Simsie's monologue about using sims however you want to: As an animation student, I would say that the sims is an important tool for me to visualize my backgrounds. I have built entire sets to use for my storyboards and as references for my 3D environment class. I literally use sims for it's original purpose LMFAO So like, use sims however you want, nobody's going to police you
I get married in May, and it’s in a different state. It has been a LOT of work because I’ve been planning the entire thing. I started planning and booking things very far in advance to avoid being overly stressed. With it being a few months away, it’s now all about making final payments and discussing final timelines with the vendors and venue. I haven’t had anything crazy happen, but it is a lot of work
just got married in october!! something fun we did that you and dan could do was make giant heads of our cats!! one of my bridesmaids created them based off of a tiktok she saw. she just got huge prints of each cat, then cut out the heads, pasted on poster board, then attached them to long wooden dowels. people LOVED dancing around with them! also the foam glow sticks are a huge hit. and we had his/hers cocktails, but also a cocktail for our cats. my biggest advice is to go in with an easygoing attitude! things will go wrong- embrace those things and just have fun!
There was one thing I really liked about my brother's wedding. There was a lit candle on the table and an inscription in the frame "this candle burns for those who would be here with us if heaven were not so far away". We had lost our grandfather a few months earlier and it was truly touching.
From someone who got married in Oct 2023: sit down together and plan it together! I think a wedding planner is the best idea. Make sure what you guys pick there is a clear vision. This is both of you and Dan’s special day so what helped us was making sure the other was always a part of decisions! Understanding what the other wants, likes and dislikes when it comes to the wedding is crucial if a decision needs to made and the other is not available/there. Also it helps the planner in execution. One last thing! Read every single detail! In contracts, invoices, quotes, everything!! It helps keep both parties accountable.
I just wanted to put some critic here: I have the feeling that for long time viewers your videos get a little repetitive and I am not speaking of the shell challenge or how the built looks, I love that. It is more like what you are saying in the videos, it is often just exact the same phrases as in other videos, very few more personell opinion I don't know maybe some of you agree?
My wedding recommendations: I was so nervous about everything coming out right that I was a basket case before the wedding. Then the minister gave me some excellent advice. No matter how bad you think things are going, the chances are 99% that it will all work out. It really helped me to relax so I could be ready to enjoy my special day. Also, my favorite part was group dancing during the reception. We chose songs like “Time Warp” and “500 Miles” to get people doing specific moves and it was super fun! Let your wedding planner do the heavy lifting. That’s their job. You just decide what you like and let it go so you can have the wonderful day you deserve. 🙂
My number 1 tip is to have a cocktail hour between the ceremony and reception. During the cocktail hour eat dinner with Dan. It gives you both alone time and allows you to decompress and actually eat. Then during the reception you are able to freely mingle with your guests!
100% agree with everyone saying pick what you really care about most, and what you don't care about. I got married a long time ago, but for me one of the big things was being able to have all my friends _and_ all my family come in my really tight budget - so we skimped out on the sit-down dinner and reception location (had finger food in a garden). Another thing that was important to me was having nice photos, but not having photos interrupt the ceremony or reception, so we did photos in the morning before the wedding (also meant makeup and hair was fresh). I know some people found that weird, but it worked for us!
Wedding planning advice: I got married in Dec of 2023, and i didn't use a wedding planner (I'm broke), and I also hate event planning. But what i found was helpful was to work backward throughout what i wanted the day itself to look like, beginning by planning our departure and ending with what time to wake up on the day. It helped with decision-making and planning ahead the days leading up to everything.
I got married 6 months ago, my only piece of advice is get a day of coordinator. I regret not doing that so much. Loved my wedding but I know it would have been a bit less stressful had I had someone there day if to take care of things that came up.
My advice would be to get a second dress or outfit. One for the ceremony and another for the reception. I wore my dress for the full day in the middle of August during a heatwave and I really wish I had also gotten a second dress for my reception
Advice for wedding planning. My husband and I got married in 2018. One thing we found was it is SO EASY to get caught up in all the options / vendors etc. We sat and made a list of our ‘what is important for us for the day’ and used that to help us navigate the planning with our event planner. That way they knew what mattered to us and were able to cater to that. Who knows we may have otherwise had singing waiters and everything imaginable 😁
Excellent advice!!
Singing waiters? Sounds cool
That is such great advice, thank you.
Got married in 2022 and we did the same so we knew where to spend and where to splash.
Danish wedding is not like americans but every year the wedding industri gets bigger here because of the instagram dream and wanting big american castle weddings 😅
You start reasonable and all of a sudden you're researching live wedding painters lol
blowing bubbles is such a fun and cute eco friendly way to substitute rice or confetti at weddings!! i've done it at a couple weddings and it was so cute
We did bubbles and the flower girl running through is my favorite pic of the day 😁
A relative had native flower petals instead of confetti - she kept calling it “nature’s confetti”. She wanted something eco-friendly but the soap in bubbles would have been a problem with the material of the bridal party dresses.
For your wedding: it is YOURS and DANS day, do NOT let anyone tell you what you want or what you should do. It is for you guys, make it yours and memorable. Make it the best day of your lives! But remember to breathe and enjoy every second. Best wishes to you both and can’t wait to hear more updates in the coming months 🤍. Also, amazing build as always!
Wedding planning advice: decide what matters to you and Dan and focus on that. Dont let anyone bully/guilt you into anything you arent comfortable with. Understand that things are going to go wrong, embrace that chaos as they dont really matter much. I used my venue for ceremony and reception to save on cost and travel. Balloons popped during the ceremony, it brought a moment of laughter after having walked the aisle and seeing each other for the first time that day. My moms re-marriage was outdoors, it ended up raining and we scrambled to the reception hall fir the ceremony, my dress nearly caught fire from a falling candle and my step dad never proposed so he "proposed" during the ceremony with a hula hoop diamond wedding ring. Mom handed it to me, who tried to hang it off a fence post. The diamond (made from tin foil) made it top heavy and I didnt think when putting it down. Well we all discovered it was a noisy hula hoop, with beads inside, as the diamond end slid to the ground a loud *shlushshlush* noise happened. Oops. They make good stories now. Also, if you get wax on clothing ..... put an iron on it over wax paper and it should come off.
Wedding thoughts: I love event planning, so I didn’t have a wedding planner (I had so many spreadsheets) but I also made it easy for myself by booking a venue for the ceremony and reception, which was attached to a hotel so out of town guests stayed there, Because I didn’t want people to have to be shuttled around. I did have a friend act as the “day of” coordinator who met all the vendors as they arrived (mainly florist, baker for the cakes, and DJ) and dealt with any issues. I suggest having a list of your wants and don’t wants. Like I didn’t want the DJ to play any country music. Or, my color scheme was purple and silver so I asked the florist for flowers that would match but not be crazy expensive. My 3 bridesmaids picked the style of their dresses in the dark purple fabric I liked. The photographer was a woman so it didn’t feel weird to have her take “getting ready” photos of me. One of the groomsmen showed up late (missed the ceremony altogether bc he flew in from another country from a work thing) so we asked a friend who was serving as an usher to be in the wedding party. So I guess just go with the flow and it’ll be much more enjoyable. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Having an "on the day" role for someone you trust - and it can be a lovely thing to ask of an older relative you respect - is such a good idea, especially if you have a lot of guests. If there's vendors coming in all day, asking one person to cover am, and another pm, so they still get to relax too, could be a good plan.
This is so dorky but I got so excited at 24:05 - 24:09 because that's when the thumbnails for my two shells are visible! I 100% agree about the fun of shells being the variety of things people make! I did a cute little yellow house that got really fixated on one swatch from High School Years for one (Sunshiney Yellow House -- also snuck in a screened in porch by placing new walls to get the windows placed and then deleting the walls). And for the other I did an obnoxious magenta vacation rental in Tomarang (creatively named "Magenta Vacation Rental") that was supposed to be a nightmare for the locals.
I also loved in Kayla's build just seeing everything come together. It really it a serene house.
WOW okay, but using that bookshelf with the TV is SO COOL!!! and creative??? I could never
One of the most important things to remember when planning your wedding is to remember that the wedding is for you and your husband. No one else. Do the things, eat the food, and invite the people that you love. My husband and I had a strict rule to only invite people who knew both of us, which cut out a lot of people that we really didn't need/want there. Its really easy to start caving to pressures from other people which snowballs into a wedding planned for someone else. Stick to your guns and only do the things that make you happy.
Our wedding was super small, at an airbnb, with a wildly curated menu of foods we both love. We had a fire pit and no real schedule for events or anything like that and everyone had an amazing time. It was super chill and relaxed and just felt like a giant get together with all of the people I love in one place. I think it's important to remind yourself of why you're doing this in the first place as opposed to the spectacle of it all.
Also, on the wedding day, my best advice is once you are in the makeup/hair chair getting ready, you are now in bride mode. You are checked out from making decisions or stressing about decorations, guests, whatever. This is your time to tune everything else out and focus on getting ready to celebrate the love you have for another person. Anything that comes up can be handled by other people. It is no longer your problem.
Simsie, so happy for you and Dan! I got married last year and miss the wedding planning process so much!
Advice I would give:
1. Get a planner! I ordered one off Amazon and it helped me so much!
2. Sit down and talk about wants, wishes, etc, that each of you see for the wedding. I’m sure others have said this already, but do what you two want! During the process, my husband and I would always refer back to the real reason we were getting married. I know it’s sounds simple, but it’s easy to get caught up in planning and forget why you’re getting married! Don’t loose that!
3. I was also scared to make calls, I would write down what I wanted to say and my questions before calling and that made it so much easier and less stressful!!
4. Lastly, research and Pinterest are your best friend! You can get so many ideas and diy anything if that’s what you want!
Best of luck to you both and happy planning😊
My cousin celebrated her wedding in 2022! And one of my favorite things, is they had a bar, and it did serve other drinks, but she had two specially cocktails made and named after their two Dogs, Zeke and Cato! I can’t remember which was which but one of them was like a tangerine honey mule, absolutely delicious. Maybe you could have Stuff named after your cats! Maybe a cocktail named after Shrimp as a double play on words!
Shrimp cocktail 🤣🤣🤣
Wedding tip: when purchasing something from suppliers that will not access the venue and scheduling services (like your makeup for the wedding day), do not mention you are the bride! Say it's for some other formal event!, not a wedding! People will make things a lot more expensive for brides just because.
I'm actually grateful for stumbling upon this tip, thank you!
Please don’t. There is a reason it’s more expensive. Your hair dresser on the day could stay for all the pictures. Or the makeup artist will give you a bag so you can touch up later on the day.
They both do the hair and the makeup before the event to make sure you like it, and you know what to expect.
This is all included in the budget they set. They know it’s an important day for you. And they will do their best to make sure you feel taken care of and beautiful..
same for the the flowers. There is special things that make weddings more labour intens for them…
@jpdenboer4365 yes but not everyone wants that extra, some ppl just want a simple look that isn't to much and they don't need someone to stay or extra make up for touchups.
@jpdenboer4365 You can absolutely say what you want, and they still can give you extra things for an event...
@@JosieThenFarmerIs it worth it? That's a decision for people to make for themselves
I haven't gotten married yet, but I am this fall! I can already tell one of my favorite touches we're going to do is having little bride and groom ducks "hidden" around the reception for the kids attending to find as a little thing for them to do and then they get to keep the ducks at the end. Bonus, we have a bride and groom duck reserved for the top of our cake too!
advice: something WILL go wrong. but NOTHING will be detrimental. Not to scare you, just prepare you is all. BUT, the wedding planner will handle it and you will be none the wiser. Just let him/her do their job. Leter you can ask so what happened? what did you need to fix? you will laugh not having known.
I’m here in my bed with a fever and I feel horrible but your videos always make me feel better. Thank you.
Get well soon! 💞
@@AZIZAxBLUEthank you!
Hey we're sick together
soooo much to think about while wedding planning, but do not forget to enjoy the process!! getting a wedding planner will be a game changer for you. here is some of my advice/thoughts (:
dont go crazy expensive on invites. we got ours from vistaprint and they were super cute, AND they always have sales. so it was extra cost savings.
when you are getting flowers, don't say its for a wedding. they will upcharge you
try and DIY whatever you can, like centerpieces if you are on a tight budget
consider a first look, we ended up doing it because of timing, and it really ended up being the right thing for us.
we also did a "sand ceremony" since we arent really religious. basically get two diff types of sand and join it together in one container.
think of any games you might want to play during your reception (we did the shoe game)
wedding dresses are very expensive, plus alterations, preservations, veils, accessories, etc...but there are so many gorgeous cheap options that are out there if you need to stick to a budget. i broke the #1 Say Yes To The Dress rule and tried on a dress outside of my price range lmao
i highly recommend picking a quality photographer and videographer over anything else (mostly photographer), because that is what you will walk away with. we kind of skimped on videographer and we got what we paid for, which is nothing almost lmao. the next important for guests and what they will remember is food and DJ.
don't go wild with favors either. and probably skip any glasses or whatever with your names on it (i threw out some glasses from weddings because im never going to use them). something you can eat or something unique would be the way to go imo
we had our parents switch sides during the ceremony because you can see the brides face more on the grooms side, and the grooms face more on the brides side. so my mom sat on the grooms side and was able to see me more than just the back of my head
if you are going on a honeymoon RIGHT after the wedding, make sure you leave 2 days after the wedding and not the day after. youre going to be exhausted and you'll want to have a day to say bye to your friends and fam from out of town, and just catch your breath. also, Aruba was an amazing honeymoon destination, and cheaper than most, so def recommend.
make sure someone leaves a pen at your guest book. the venue didn't leave us out one and no one said anything until way later
get an envelope box with a lock for the cards people will give you. we got ours from things remembered or online somewhere
RSVP cards: either fill out the guests name yourself (so that they know who specifically is invited) or number the back of the RSVP cards and put it in an excel sheet because yes, people send them back without names
for your kiss, 2 ideas: tell the officiant to get tf out of the way, OR have the photographer take a picture from where the officiant is standing so that they capture your guests in the background.
i agree the wedding painter thing on tiktok is SO COOL i wish i would have done that
looking back, you really dont need to blow a lot of $ for a special day. we ended up spending more than we planned to, and even though i loved my wedding, i know it would have been just as magical if we skimped on some stuff.
i really wish i was on tiktok when i got married, so many great pieces of advice, but those are some things i learned from my own wedding (: EXCITED FOR YOU!!!
28:57 KAYLA ARE U INSANEEE I DIDNT EVEN KNOW THAT U’RE THE ONE WHO BUILT IT WHEN I ADMIRED THE HOUSE IN GAME ND PLAYED A LOT W THE FAMILY. U DID SUCH A GREAT JOB PLSSS ESP THIS IS EA’S FIRST TIME OF INCLUDING ASIAN REFS IN GAME AND AS AN ASIAN MYSELF I’M SO GLAD THE BUILDS WERE ALL IN GOOD HANDS!! 💞💞
Wedding planning - got married in 1990 - don't try and please everyone!!! Do what you and DAN want - not what other people want. Coolest thing about my wedding - the church was gorgeous.
Wedding ideas: we hired a sketch artist, cheaper and faster than a painter. She drew the guests spending about 5 mins on each. The guests took their portraits as souvenirs, really nice
Next favorite idea was a quiz with a round of questions about bride and groom: when/where we met, eye colours, hobbies etc.
Good luck with your wedding planning!
for weddings, you can skimp on food and location. but spend more on photographer and the dj/band. imo no ones gonna remember what they had for dinner at your wedding, they will remember how much fun it was. and you will look back on your wedding photos A LOT.
my husband’s aunt and uncle mention the food at my wedding a year later 😂 We had homemade food though, so that might have made a difference 🤣
Location is a huge part of the photos though. I do agree that photographer and a dj are very important but also I do remember when I go to weddings and the food isn’t good lol
I absolutely remember the food (good or bad) for every wedding I've been to 😂
Danish wedding you should never skimp on food. You will here about it forever
so location i would say is a pretty big thing tho
Back years ago, I used to work for a Financial Institution in the UK, and part of my job was Events Management. I organised both of my weddings entirely on my own, and loved every moment. (I've been married twice). The first to my first husband was very traditional, my favourite single thing was the "day musician" I hired, who played bagpipes for the arrival, piano for the processional, and while we were having photos and cocktails, he had an accordion and kept everyone entertained. It was a humanist ceremony (traditional Scottish) with hand-binding etc.
Hi simsie! I haven’t had a wedding yet BUT I see soooo much on TikTok and other platforms, my favorite thing I saw was (if you plan on having a lot of people there) before the reception, have a sort of just you and Dan dinner! So you both eat! My friend who recently got married was SO busy at the reception greeting people and dancing and such and she only had bits and bobs to eat and it’s so important to stay hydrated and eat during that long beautiful day!!!
19:32 you ARE gonna be so brave and you're gonna have a beautiful wedding!! can't wait to see whatever you feel comfortable showing us
For wedding planning - a planner is fantastic!! Find one that you get along with and fits your budget, it’s seriously so helpful. My only regret is that it all went by too fast. We did a private dinner during cocktail hour which was great because we got some one on one time and we actually got to eat dinner. Just do the things that matter to y’all. There’s no wrong way to get married to someone you love!
Private dinner is so smart! I wish we had done that. I barely ate 2 bites at my wedding 😂
Advice from a wedding planner to be: get your ideas on spreadsheets and give those to her. Colorschemes, flowers, a theme, your perfect dress etc. I actually have 3 google forms regarding that. Just to get to know the couple and have a first look into their wishes. Writing down what the both of you want will make it easier for everyone involved.
Wedding advice: We got married in 2023, and the best choice we made was to book out a restaurant instead of doing catering - that way everyone could pick their own meals & dietary restrictions, but we still had the “privacy” of a catered venue since it was just our guests!
Don't feel like you need a nighttime wedding if you don't want to dance the night away. My wedding started at 11am and we had lunch and some dancing and then everyone took a break and we met for dinner and playing at the barcade later. It was so fun and perfect for me since I'm such a morning person. And the guests liked it because it gave them time to attend a local festival with each other while they were in town
I helped plan my dads wedding a couple years back… it was small, cozy, and absolutely beautiful! They got married at the beach with a small outdoor ceremony. In terms of pictures my absolute favourite pic was of all our family lined up on either side of a path and my dad and his wife walking down the centre. We used a bunch of small plants we already had and fairy lights in jars for table decorations. I was her makeup artist as well and if you’re planning on doing it yourself I’d highly recommend rooting around Reddit for other makeup artists recommendations for wedding makeup, you want something long lasting that won’t budge. Also apply more than you think you need, do some practicing and take some pictures in similar lighting so you can get a picture of how you’ll look on the day. If you’ve got any questions feel free to ask!!
Congrats on starting 'the wedding stuff' ❤❤❤
One thing I did at my wedding is that my husband and I rehearsed a little choreo (none of us are dancers, but I got him to accept doing our first dance with the Barbie and the 12 ballerinas theme song) and it was very cute to rehearse and then do at the wedding ❤
Also, our parents did a little dance too, and we framed a picture of each couple dancing, which they love because there aren't many events in which both you and your partner are dressed up and posing jajajaja
I hope you enjoy the process Kayla ❤❤❤
I got married in October of 2014 and my biggest, most important advice is to invest in the memory-saving aspects of the wedding. Ie: photography, videography, keepsakes, etc. My husband and I had a tiny budget of only $5000 for every single thing for the wedding, so we couldn't afford a photographer or videographer. I got SOME photos from friends with good cameras but it wasn't coordinated and it was general chaos. My dad ended up passing away 4 months after my wedding almost to the day and my biggest regret was not having more photos from my wedding day. He went down hill very quickly after that.
We've been married for, 12 years this year, and I have two points from my experience to share: 1) I wish I had not hidden the real me, for the sake of expectation, and to please more traditional relatives - I should have just worn trousers, my big biker boots, piercings, tattoos etc. - because I look at the photographs and I am not there, an imposter is there. 2) I am so glad we had a "reportage" photographer, who only did a couple of traditional group shots, the rest is lots of captured memories, people being themselves, rather than being posed and stiff for the camera. This has become so much more important as the years have gone on, and we have lost many family members, having pictures of them laughing, telling stories, etc is a real treasure.
Couple of "things to bear in mind" about photographers - many wedding photographers charge little for the day, but make it up in selling very expensive prints to the family, we preferred to pay our photographer for her time, and then we had complete control over prints. To order prints from my sister-in-law's wedding cost family about £12 each, it cost less than that for people to get a full set of ours, if they wanted. Obviously on very tight budgets it may be a concession you have to make, but worth baring in mind. Second thing - don't have your photographer shooting during meals, nobody wants their photo taken whilst they are eating, and it just dents their enjoyment of the food!
Sorry for the essay - hope it helps someone!
As a bride with extreme anxiety I knew the wedding day would be overwhelming so me and my husband planned several events through the day with either just us or a small group. Mostly little photo breaks so I could decompress and breath.
i love this house. your so good at making “sad beige” houses i always love them when you do
Wedding tips: DIY your florals for the tables if you can- it'll be MUCH cheaper and nobody is going to care much about the flowers. The bouquet you carry is the only one that really matters, and we DIYd mine too since I had a crafty maid of honor.
My #1 advice is HIRE A GOOD PHOTOGRAPHER! It is the MOST important thing imo because it's what you'll look back on most.
I got married last year and honestly, having a wedding co-ordinator was the best thing. All I had to do was pick the suppliers and make a list of what we wanted and the co-ordinator did the rest. I could then focus on sorting my dress, hair/make up etc. We had a photo booth as well as a photographer so that we could capture as many memories as possible. The day goes so fast - I actually missed a lot of the stuff we arranged due to being whisked off for photos and making sure I had spoken to all our guests! So having lots of photos and videos to look back on was amazing! (Also encourage your guests to take lots of photos and videos during the reception! My mum and uncle ended up taking some of the best pictures on our wedding day!)
It was quite overwhelming at times so I was thankful for our co-ordinator who made sure everything on the day went to plan. If you need to take time out (which we did at one point) speak to your wedding planner/co-ordinator who will be able to make sure you have a place to go where you can both take a moment to breathe! Wishing you both the best of luck!
Wedding Activity!!!! Instead of a Flower bouquet toss, do either a ribbon on (its on TikTok and YT, they cut the ribbon instead of throwing and messing up the bouquet) OR so a (plush) Kitty Toss!
There was this one bride that instead of a bouquet toss, she took apart her bouquet and gave each flower to her bridesmaids and prayed for their success and for them to find a husband (she's christian) The prayer I could do without, but taking apart the bouquet and wishing for your friends' success I thought was pretty sweet
I did the shell challenge and loved it! I got an excuse to build a steampunk home and I’m proud of how it came out 🙈
Its so refreshing to see you build without restricting to base game or to just one pack, it looks beautiful.
As a single young person, all of my info on weddings comes from the sims and Pinterest so I'm not exactly qualified but I know that your IRL wedding will go A lot better than a sims wedding
I'm currently ill, but seeing your post made me smile! Thanks so much
Me too! I hope you recover soon! ❤
My brother and my sister-in-law had two signature cocktails for drink choices. They we're simple and didn't have too many ingredients. They had soda and other drinks but those two signature drinks were cute. If you don't drink you could very easily do mocktails instead and it would still be cute. Like just a drink that would make you look back on the day with fondness.
So happy to know I’m not the only one getting a last exception warning when I use the dream home decorator and book nook modules.
My husband and I got married in 2021. I feel like it's very easy to get caught up in the details, options, ideas, etc. My advice would be to look at the details and the ideas, but don't try to do everything. Choose things that you feel will be memorable. The best thing you can take away from the day is memories. My favorite thing we did at our wedding was to take photos together (just the 2 of us) after our ceremony and before the reception. The emotions we were feeling right after saying our vows are literally palpable in the photos and they really bring back the memories. We also ate snacks together before going into the reception, and I would highly recommend doing this since you likely won't eat dinner during your reception. Just remember that your wedding day is YOUR wedding day. It's nice to have cute things for your guests, but the most important thing is the experience you and your husband have. And "Everything for weddings is like, a million dollars." is a very accurate statement, haha! 😂😂
Advice for wedding planning. One thing that I wish I would have done was to have a videographer. Additionally, I had custom to go boxes made for my cake leftovers so that others could take some home. Unfortunately mine didn’t get used because no one informed the DJ to make an announcement but I think it’s very useful. Just remember to take it all in. Spend time with Dan to just look around and cherish it for a moment. Best of luck!
Hey Kayla! So glad you got a wedding planner, I wish we would've done that because coordinating all of the vendors was very stressful! Biggest advice is: have the wedding you want to remember (not the wedding guests may expect you to have)
My wedding planning advice: More than anything, make a list of what is most important for you and Dan on the day -- use that anytime you can't make a decision. What suits that list best? In terms of actual logistics: Pick a venue with/very close to (ideally attached to!) a hotel. Then, your guests have a place to stay. Plus, they often have vendors (caterers, bartenders, etc.) they recommend, which narrows down your choices right off the bat, so you have a lot less to wade through. My sister had real flowers and I had fake flowers and we both think fake flowers is totally worth saving that effort (she regrets her real ones). And a fun thing for guests? Ask for song requests on your RSVPs! We did this and our DJ had a whole playlist to work with, right from the start. And it also meant we knew everyone would have at least one song to dance to!
So fun hearing your joy in the upcoming wedding 🥰 tips from me:
We planned from a guest perspective. If I would be the guest. What bugs me the most? And we deleted all that from our wedding. (Example: waiting, late dancing start, driving at the end, etc)
To this day (5years) people ask us when we will throw a new party because it was so awesome 🥰
Set your max money soon and plan from there. And then start with what’s most important to you and add only if money is left. We started with life music and food and last on the liste were our outfits
this is my all time favourite style of architecture!! this house is so beautiful! I would looove to see more japanese inspired builds like this. maybe something like some japanese townhouses that are very packed, in small city alleyways with lots of street clutter and overgrown plants? theres something i find so peaceful about them :)
Saying this as someone who worked as a server at weddings for over 6 years, less is more. A lot of couples went over the top with things like too many different types of desserts, favors, and even entertainment that end up going uneaten or unused. The live painter is really cool though I only saw it once or twice. It really depends on what local artists charge. Your wedding planner will likely have a few to recommend if you're interested in pursuing it.
Also some may say the food isn't important but... it really is. I highly recommend buffet style over plated (you'll pay less per plate and give your guests more freedom to pick out just the food they want to eat and the portion amounts. It results in much less waste. If you do go plated, place cards with their meal choice listed on it is a MUST. Your banquet servers will thank you lol.
Anyhow, that's my two cents. I wish you both the best with the planning and the day of!!
Happy 24th anniversary to The SIMS! You're wedding planning will be easier with a planner. Always do what YOU two want for your wedding. Don't let others influence you into doing something you don't want. It's y'alls day, no one else's. Schedule time for you two to be alone after the ceremony, before the reception, to eat in peace and relax before having to socialize.
Wedding advice, definitely get a planner or if you have a “planning” type of friend or family member utilize their skills. My mom has worked in the wedding/catering industry her whole adult life so having her was a god sent! She had everything down to a T, so along with my maid of honor I felt little to no stress.
I always enjoy how you do your interiors. Some of the rooms you've done remind me alot of still life art.
A moment captured in tine.
Keep doing what you do
I got married a few months ago, and loved the planning process! Here are some pieces of advice
1. Create day-of timelines and lists of tasks for day-of set up. That way people won’t be bothering you, and you can enjoy the getting ready process
2. Have a list of shots you want your photographer to take, we didn’t do this and some important ones got overlooked
3. Take some time during the day just you and Dan. It can be overwhelming to be around so many people, so it’s nice to step aside and reflect together.
4. Just remember, that at the end of the day, you get to be with your person, and that’s what the whole thing is about.
We had a super low budget wedding so planned it all ourselves. Most stressful thing was definitely invites 😅 I was so glad we took a dance lesson beforehand so we new exactly what to do. We sorted out the bar and food tabs in advance so there was no questions on the night (this obviously depends on your situation).
Finally, the best advice I got, during your wedding just live in the moment. Forget all the things that could go wrong or pleasing everyone. Just do what makes you happy ❤
Good luck simsie and Dan, I hope you love your day and all the steps leading up to it 🥰
We're the same age, and I got married in October 2022. It was really only immediate family and we booked a huge cabin in the mountains 6 hours away for nearly all of us to stay in, then booked a local restaurant for the wedding and dinner. It was great, but still stressful and it nearly killed me even with how small and *relatively* budget everything was lol. We didn't have a photographer or anything like that and I played a spotify playlist we made through the space's speakers. We bought an AMAZING gourmet cheesecake from a famous local sweet shop because people mark up anything labeled "wedding" one million percent. It was like 70 bucks and everyone was obsessed.
Our family still talks about how nice our wedding was since the food was great and it was a mini vacation, so make sure to prioritize the experience over fancy nothings. I couldn't fathom planning some big event of a wedding so good luck to you all!
Wedding tip- absolutely get the day of event coordinator/wedding planner. They handle everything going on wedding day and make sure it all flows.
Also, we did a first look. This really helped calm my nerves, gave us some alone time to just be together before all of the festivities.
It all goes by SO FAST. Enjoy every moment!
your videos are legit so amazing, like. Wow!
Before the wedding, we took ballroom dance classes. It was a great way to spend time together outside of the home and then we felt pretty confident when we danced at the wedding.
We've been married almost 13 years, so it's hard to remember all the planning, but a wedding planner is such a good idea.
A wedding planner is a great idea! My community is all pretty connected and for weddings youll find most catering and venues and singers more based on who your family has used or who is your family so it was a lot of my mom doing it with bc they knew her or her family, otherwise I wouldve needed one! One of my favorite things was my entrance - we first had all our little nieces and nephews walk in first which was really sweet especially the toddlers and then we walked down a staircase together and had those little gold fountain fireworks going off. Also my photographer was incredible - it was her and husband working together and im pretty self conscious and felt worried about not knowing how to pose but they were so good and she would help adjust for more flattering shots but also they just had fun with us and were so creative with things my photos were so personal and perfect. Everyone said this to me - and it was very true - the day goes by sooo fast but just stop to take the moments in when you can. I was so nervous and so was my husband but celebrating with our loved ones was so special
Don’t sweat the small stuff when it comes to your wedding! I was adopted so my favorite thing about my wedding is that I had my birth dad walk me from the brides room to the end of the isle and pass me off to my dad who then walked me down the isle and passed me off to my husband 😊 I even did a daddy daughter dance with him and then my dad ❤
Wedding planning advice: so I also got married for visa reasons in 2020 and we always planned on eventually doing a “real wedding” which happened just last summer! So I am not a planner, luckily my mom and my friends are lol. One of the best things was talking to my florist they asked us like what are some words you would use to describe what you want, and it was really helpful. We said regency, romantic, classic. One of my favorite things is we made a program and themed it to be like a lady whistledown pamphlet to introduce the wedding party and family lol cuz I’m a huge Bridgerton fan. A good thing is also to just get together with your partner and see which aspects are important to you, also if you have involved family what would be important for them. So I really wanted fun specific music, my husband is a big foodie so catering was important to him, also my husband is Swedish and having lots of speeches is really important for Swedish weddings. If photos are important to you, give yourself a solid hour and a half to get through them, it takes way longer then you think, especially the family and wedding party photos. One of my favourite thing was also doing some very basic wedding dance choreography, we didn’t have time to take any lessons but I went on TH-cam and found some really easy tutorials that just made the dance look 10x better then just us swaying back and forth together. I mean planning stage, honestly as a bad adhd planner myself, just get someone you trust who will listen to your wants and will yes and your ideas to full blown plans, whether that’s a professional planner or family member/friend, just having them to help with all the logistics bullshit is so helpful.
My wedding thoughts: Remember it's a celebration of you and your bond. Your guests just want to see you being happy together and having a good time, so don't feel obligated to do anything if it isn't bringing you joy. There's a TON more flexibility in "what has to happen" than most people realize - the govt doesn't care about your ceremony, only that you fill out the paperwork, and that's literally the only thing you technically HAVE to do. My husband and I had a D&D themed wedding, it was wild but everyone loved it and it was very "us".
Practical tip: you can save $$ by getting a very modest cake to ceremonially cut for just you and your spouse, and get generic nice sheet-cakes from a local bakery. It opens up flavor options, can more easily cater to different food allergies of some of your wedding guests, is easier for catering to cut and serve to guests, and is generally cheaper than a multi-tier super-decorated monster with the "wedding" price tag. I actually asked my mom make our cutting cake to add an extra level of personal meaning. It was less fancy than a professional could have made, but it was delicious and moist and made with love.
20:17 I am planning my wedding as well, and so far, the advice I would give is to have dinner for you and your fiancé prepared for the wedding, like make sure you have something to eat, maybe even a few snacks because that day you get super busy doing everything, saying hi to everyone and I’ve heard is very common for the bride and groom not to eat anything, AND to make sure you will be comfortable with the weather, I personally HATE being cold so I think I’ll get some kind of outfit change to something more comfortable once all the fancy stuff is done, idk that’s everything I’ve got planned for now 👀
Oh! and also i’ve heard that quoting things like flowers, dresses, arrangements, instead of saying that is for a wedding you can say is for a quinceañera or a sweet 16 party and they give lower quotes 👀👀
Honestly wedding planners charge wayyyyyy too much. Trust me you do not need one or a day of planner. (Haven’t been married myself but been a moh and bridesmaid twice) neither my sister or my friend had one and they both didn’t regret it. They basically charge you to book all the things you would’ve anyway. Unless they are reasonably priced which is rare, I feel like you can do it. Just make a list of things you need to book and do some googling. It’s not as overwhelming as it seems especially if are a chill bride and you don’t strike me as one.
Got married last year and I and my now hubby planned everything alone. First, the most important thing is YOU and DAN should feel happy with what you're doing, don't let anyone dictate how you spend it. I was very content with our venue cause it had a big garden, we also had a bartender who was making custom drinks and soft cocktails for your guests. I wanted a cheeseboard and I got my cheeseboard (hubby is also a cheese enthusiast) Another really helpful thing was to chill out because the most important event was to get married and start a new episode together so we didn't bother much with specific themes or dress codes. Keeping everything in a separate Excel what we wanted, what we were doing, and what was left to be done was easy to manage.
Unrelated to weddings, I think doing a no-base game challenge would be SO cool! I mean of course walls and roofs and floors and stuff that is required for even a basic shell from BG you could use (for obvious reasons) but I think a no-BG item build would be so fun! Just to see what you could make and how much you’d miss base game (like, which flooring you’d miss or which wallpapers or tables or whatever). Great work as always! Thank you for sharing!
I got married in 2022!!! Best advice I have: DAY OF COORDINATION! Have a day of coordinator. This can be your wedding planner, or a family friend that wants to be involved in the wedding but isn’t a bridesmaid or something like that. Have a detailed schedule with plenty of extra time built in.
Another time thing that I recommend is doing a “first look” before the ceremony, getting all the family pictures done then, so after the ceremony y’all can just go to the reception and eat without having to stand around and do photos after.
I ALSO highly recommend doing a private dinner with just you and Dan so y’all can have a moment to breathe and take everything in before going and socializing with guests because everyone is going to want to talk and take pictures at the reception, and a lot of couples don’t ever have time to eat
I think the idea of a wishing well is fantastic. In lieu of gifts, everyone chucks money into a wishing well. This way, you don’t get a bunch of stuff you don’t need and you get some of the money back you spent on the wedding. My sister only had a small wedding with her husband, but our family is quite generous and they ended up getting a small fortune, which could have paid for the wedding twice. 😂
My basic tip to wedding planning is to follow YOUR heart and liking not someone else's. Cus it is your day and you are getting married for you and not for some mom or something. Those relatives tend to take control over the whole thing, and your feelings and likings easily get lost in it all. You and Dan are the main focus. Don't forget that!
Wedding advice: get a wedding planner! We loved ours, she had so much advice and knowledge about the industry, she coordinated with our vendors, and I could relax with my wedding party because I knew she was handling set up.
Favorite part of my wedding: a petal toss as we exited the ceremony. It made the moment feel even more magical, the photos were gorgeous, and guests that needed to leave early didn't feel like they missed out on our exit.
My wedding advice is to make it what you and Dan want. You're going to get a lot of well-intentioned opinions from parents, wedding party participants, other family/friends about what you could or "should" do. It is overwhelming. Do the things that you and Dan want. Everything I wish was different about my wedding is the stuff I gave in on.
My favorite thing was that we didn't have dancing. I hated the idea of dancing, and I am really glad I held firm on that.
it's nice seeing different styles from you once in a while, i really liked the house 🤩
I got married this past September! I loved the planning part, it was so fun but I’m very much an event planning type of gal.
My favourite part of the day to look back on (pics and video) is when my husband saw me for the first time walking up the aisle! I kept going back on forth on doing a first look, and eventually decided we wouldn’t! Another thing I loved is that we had a sweetheart table, it was so nice to have a meal with my husband for the first time- just the two of us. We were so giddy, and we were able to look around and see everyone we loved enjoy their meals. It was amazing. The best day ever!!! Don’t stress too much, I know it’s easier said than done but it will be perfect, whether things go off the rails or not ❤
I'm from the UK, my husband and I were planning a wedding for 2020 but we all know what happened then 😅 so we ended up having to move the date twice because of rules and restrictions. But in terms of general advice, I'm like you in that planning events is not for me, I get stressed by big public events quite easily. So for me it was great finding a venue that offered these 'packages' that included a bunch of stuff like catering, music for the ceremony and DJ for the evening, decor, etc. So it ticked a lot of boxes for us already which was helpful. Then all we needed to find vendors for separately were the cake, makeup/hair, wedding stationary like the invites and table plans and order of the days, wedding party dresses and suits and photographer.
It goes by in a BLUR, so do try to take a moment fot just yourself and Dan to take it in as it goes by quickly and it's nice looking back knowing I had a moment for just me and Liam ❤
The best wedding DAY advice I received was to not leave each other's side at the reception. People are going to want to talk to each of you. It's tempting to "divide and conquer". But don't! Otherwise you won't see each other all day. It was such a great advice for my husband and I. We truly spent the whole day TOGETHER 💜. It does slow down your socializing with family. But it's worth it. You got this! It's going to be such a special day where literally everyone you both love will be together 😍 so happy for you!
I got married last year, I'm british so things may be different for yourself but our favourite things about the day were having just our nearest and dearest for the ceremony/lunch and then bringing the evening guests in earlier than convention so they could be there for speeches, having the maid of honour and myself (eep) do speeches so it was a more even male/female split for talking, having both my Mum and Dad walk me down the aisle, having a venue which supplied a wedding co-ordinator so we didn't need to do or think about anything on the day it just ran really smoothly and having a venue which was gorgeous both outside and inside in case of poor weather. We ended up getting super lucky with the weather but it was nice to have the option. My regret was not pushing for a videographer, my husband is very camera shy and we had two photographers who were amazing they were so sneaky all day but took the best pictures, I just wish I had a video. We did video the ceremony on a phone, so we do have that moment. I did manage to rope husband into doing a simple bit of choreography for the first dance (I am a dancer) which was a really nice moment for the two of us practicing the nights before. We also spent the weekend before with family and the bride groom party which was lovely, helped with planning and nerves! The day will go so quickly, things may go wrong, just remember you are there because you are celebrating each other and have fun! I wish I could do it all over again!
Hi! Long time watcher, first time commenter! I was Maid of honor recently for my best friends wedding, a piece of advice I’d share is making sure your taking your time and doing things for YOU! My friend was sooo stressed and was trying to make sure everyone else was happy, she even said close to the wedding, “this wedding isn’t for me, it’s for everyone else” 😕 and she was working really hard to make things too perfect for everyone else. I helped out where I could but she was doing A LOT of work on her own. All this to say do the things that make you happy and excited and forget the rest! Getting a wedding planner is super smart, you’re going to need all the help you can get!! Good luck and hope you have an amazing wedding!! Congrats 😊
Was so great to see the speed build.
I got married 2014 and was one of the best days of my life. We were very family friendly so hired a jumping castle for the kids even though adults used it more. We had glow sticks while we danced the night away. We just made it a party basically.
My best advise, it doesn't matter what happens on the day, you will be sharing the rest of your life with your bestie
Use wedding wire, it's so useful! I got married in October and I was on a pretty low budget. It can be pretty stressful but it'll all come together. Make sure to have fun with it!
I don't have any particular advice for the process of wedding planning as I have not done that yet (my boyfriend and I are probably going to get married in a few years) but I do think that enlisting as much help as possible is a great move.. anxiety or not you are going to thank yourself for having it.
In terms of wedding ideas something that I really enjoyed at weddings I have been to recently have been some of the more non-traditional activities avaible such as yard games and things like that. Not everyone wants to dance so these are great.
I wish you and Dan luck in finally getting the marriage ceremony and reception you deserve!
Married my husband this past August and it was stressful, I’ll admit. We didn’t have a big budget AT ALL, so we did everything ourselves as DIY projects and just hosted it in our yard. I was so anxious for so long about it because doing everything ourselves meant there was so much room for error, but on that day, nothing mattered. I didn’t even care anymore about all those little things that I thought were pulling us down or that we had done wrong. We made a lot of choices that a lot of people told us wouldn’t work but we did them anyway. Everything worked out perfectly and everything we made was beautiful and we loved every moment. My best piece of advice is do what you want to only. Don’t make decisions based on what works out or makes sense for the most amount of people, it’s not their day. Do what you want to do, people will have fun anyway because it’s a wedding. To them it’s a party on one day, but you’ll think about it for the rest of your life so do what you want to do. Don’t let anyone talk you out of your wild or out of the box ideas, this is the day to do them.
I’m 16 (so not married) but my mom and stepdad were absolutely terrified about their first dance for their wedding day, but it was important to my mom so they did the first dance but invited everyone to dance with them during it. All the kids danced around taking some of the attention and pressure off of them. Hope you have a lovely wedding ❤❤
Congrats on the Wedding-Wedding! My best friend did something similar, she and her husband got courthouse married with just his family and a couple of mutual friends in June 2020, and then in October 2023 had a full wedding with a party and everyone coming in from out of town and all the bells and whistles. Honestly, I'm in favor of being paper married for a couple of years before having the big party, because that gives you both time to really figure out what you want out of a wedding, without also having the pressure of figuring out what you want out of a marriage looming.
I got married in 2016, so prices for things have surely increased by now, but I did the majority of the planning myself with my mom. It's so easy to be overwhelmed by all the tiny details so a wedding planner should be helpful with that. I had 9 months to plan mine and it went SO FAST. We spent the most money on a photographer and food, and both were SO worth the what we spent. We went cheaper/diy on things like decorations and invites to save money. Another thing we did that people still mention to me that they loved is that we didn't do wedding cake for everyone. Instead we each picked a traditional family dessert and had those options at the table for people. Wedding planning can be exciting, but parts of it are definitely very stressful. I hope the wedding planner takes the most stressful parts off your hands!
Just got married in the fall and my favorite thing we did is have an ice cream cart! We had an “ice cream social” after the ceremony while we took pictures. I also sent my bouquet away to be framed and it turned out lovely. My best friend did a live wedding painter and adored it, it was a few thousand dollars.
For advice, it helped me to look up what the average cost of different parts of a wedding were, just for a base line on what might be “reasonable” even though it’s all very overpriced.
Wedding advice: wedding planners can really be helpful! I am not picky at all about things, so it was nice to have someone to help give me options for decorations, food, etc.
Just to add Simsie's monologue about using sims however you want to:
As an animation student, I would say that the sims is an important tool for me to visualize my backgrounds. I have built entire sets to use for my storyboards and as references for my 3D environment class. I literally use sims for it's original purpose LMFAO
So like, use sims however you want, nobody's going to police you
I get married in May, and it’s in a different state. It has been a LOT of work because I’ve been planning the entire thing. I started planning and booking things very far in advance to avoid being overly stressed. With it being a few months away, it’s now all about making final payments and discussing final timelines with the vendors and venue. I haven’t had anything crazy happen, but it is a lot of work
just got married in october!! something fun we did that you and dan could do was make giant heads of our cats!! one of my bridesmaids created them based off of a tiktok she saw. she just got huge prints of each cat, then cut out the heads, pasted on poster board, then attached them to long wooden dowels. people LOVED dancing around with them! also the foam glow sticks are a huge hit. and we had his/hers cocktails, but also a cocktail for our cats.
my biggest advice is to go in with an easygoing attitude! things will go wrong- embrace those things and just have fun!
There was one thing I really liked about my brother's wedding. There was a lit candle on the table and an inscription in the frame "this candle burns for those who would be here with us if heaven were not so far away". We had lost our grandfather a few months earlier and it was truly touching.
Easily the prettiest shell challenge you've ever done
From someone who got married in Oct 2023: sit down together and plan it together! I think a wedding planner is the best idea. Make sure what you guys pick there is a clear vision. This is both of you and Dan’s special day so what helped us was making sure the other was always a part of decisions! Understanding what the other wants, likes and dislikes when it comes to the wedding is crucial if a decision needs to made and the other is not available/there. Also it helps the planner in execution.
One last thing! Read every single detail! In contracts, invoices, quotes, everything!! It helps keep both parties accountable.
I just wanted to put some critic here: I have the feeling that for long time viewers your videos get a little repetitive and I am not speaking of the shell challenge or how the built looks, I love that. It is more like what you are saying in the videos, it is often just exact the same phrases as in other videos, very few more personell opinion I don't know maybe some of you agree?
My wedding recommendations: I was so nervous about everything coming out right that I was a basket case before the wedding. Then the minister gave me some excellent advice. No matter how bad you think things are going, the chances are 99% that it will all work out. It really helped me to relax so I could be ready to enjoy my special day. Also, my favorite part was group dancing during the reception. We chose songs like “Time Warp” and “500 Miles” to get people doing specific moves and it was super fun! Let your wedding planner do the heavy lifting. That’s their job. You just decide what you like and let it go so you can have the wonderful day you deserve. 🙂
My number 1 tip is to have a cocktail hour between the ceremony and reception. During the cocktail hour eat dinner with Dan. It gives you both alone time and allows you to decompress and actually eat. Then during the reception you are able to freely mingle with your guests!
100% agree with everyone saying pick what you really care about most, and what you don't care about. I got married a long time ago, but for me one of the big things was being able to have all my friends _and_ all my family come in my really tight budget - so we skimped out on the sit-down dinner and reception location (had finger food in a garden). Another thing that was important to me was having nice photos, but not having photos interrupt the ceremony or reception, so we did photos in the morning before the wedding (also meant makeup and hair was fresh). I know some people found that weird, but it worked for us!
Simsie: just buy a new litter box every time it gets dirty so you never have to clean it! Sustainability doesn’t matter in the sims!
Eco lifestyle: 😐
I'm listening to you while doing my physics homework, and this video is such a pick-me-up!
Wedding planning advice: I got married in Dec of 2023, and i didn't use a wedding planner (I'm broke), and I also hate event planning.
But what i found was helpful was to work backward throughout what i wanted the day itself to look like, beginning by planning our departure and ending with what time to wake up on the day.
It helped with decision-making and planning ahead the days leading up to everything.
I got married 6 months ago, my only piece of advice is get a day of coordinator. I regret not doing that so much. Loved my wedding but I know it would have been a bit less stressful had I had someone there day if to take care of things that came up.
My advice would be to get a second dress or outfit. One for the ceremony and another for the reception. I wore my dress for the full day in the middle of August during a heatwave and I really wish I had also gotten a second dress for my reception