Who Knows Kids Better? Mums Vs Maids | Inspirational Video
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.พ. 2021
- Features interviews with mothers children and their maids from Singapore. Through a series of questions and answers, it shows that domestic workers understand their employers' children better than their employers. This film, which calls on employers to allow domestic workers every week, informs mothers about their maid rights in this way.
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“She doesn’t like people to know... so i don’t tell you” respect
Y E S
She's a real one
She'll have your back no matter what
F
Justice for me whos crush always got leaked😭🤚
What is also ironic is that a lot of domestic workers cannot take care of their OWN children, because they are busy taking care of other people's kids in order to raise their families :'(
It's a sad reality. I just hope these domestic workers get paid reasonably.
Sadly truee
@Stella Li (li_1502) it's not strange, it's just normal, like how your mom works and gets money to support your needs too. Maids work normally too, just far from their own children
Why do you have break my heart like that.... I miss my mom
Exactly! It had been 10 years I've been treated as a domestic violence victim in my family. All of them never get along each other. I always tell myself, why did my dad marry a narcissistic jerk woman? Probably the looks? Yeah I guess. In the end, he doesn't know that the reason why I'm so quiet and mute already was part of my mother fault. I got fed up so bad and i wish if i could do the hand signal as a sign of victimized in family. I was an abused and bullied child. I was born with social anxiety ever since I reach my child age. All thanks to my mom, i feel mute now 🤭
You know what's sadder? These nannies know more about these kids than their own children.
Maybe they don’t have kids, that’s way they are with them 24/7
I think they do
@@nemoali2626they have children, and sometimes these maids work with those families until children grow up, have their own children and maids take care of Their children as well , while maid’s own children receive only money from their mom and no attention or presence.
Heartbreaking
So true, for most of them it's a sacrifice they have to make for their children, they're forced to pick between being present or providing.
Maids : What the child wants to be
Moms : What the child will be forced to be
Economy : What the child will actually be
That's why it's better for child to decide what he wants to be and child should know how to deal with economy and family
It's better that parents don't listen to them, parents know best to children
Fact..
Dads: I have a child?
@IamtheMan1111 some really don’t. Take mine for example, they are highly racist and expect me to not interact with people outside my race. Do YOU think that is best for me? No, it isn’t.
She seriously thought her kid just didn’t wake up when she had nightmares
because her daughter went to her aunt(maid) for help. That, just wow.
She said her daughter would cry and scream so why didn’t she go check on her and comfort her??? Terrible mother and terrible person. No wonder the daughter looked for the maid instead! That’s so sad it makes me angry
@@_Lyzzy_ bet the mom angry at her for waking her up 😂 that's why the child went to her maid
This just makes my hurt 😢 it's just like wow😥
Wow
i did that too when i was younger. the contract for the nanny that worked with my family has ended so she has returned to her home :( seeing this made me miss her more
The ending quote is "Let's give domestic workers their legal days off"
This video is about domestic workers' rights and the fact that they have to spend more time with someone else's child more than their own.
This.
Thats susp AMONG US IS HERE 2
Exactly! There's in fact very much this kind of culture in america, and I can think of a few examples off the top of my head. The parents really think they're doing the best thing for their child, but I think our world has really gotten caught up in the materialistic idea of money is love, and I know these particular families were restricted on what they could and could not get, so they got financially gluttonous when they became adults themselves, and then so they perceived love of their children as having a job that takes away all their time from them to make enough money to buy them super expensive toys and such. I know that as a result, the oldest child has behavioral issues due to a sense of feeling unloved and unappreciated, although that was rarely addressed most of his childhood, and mostly treated as if he was purposely trying to be a little devil, which I know he was not, the middle sister is the most mature of all, warmer than her own brother, likely she developed that way because there is no one else mature enough to really be the head, and then there's the baby sister who is just shy in front of everyone in a way that seems, at least from my conversations with her, that she does not trust adults. She did not trust me at first, but after talking to her for a little bit very gently and kindly and openly, she opened up to me as well, and I saw a lot of pain in her heart. I feel bad for all three of them
Well that's because for some reason society is for maids and nannies having a job raising children but not their real parents.
Exactly, also another sad thing is that they get fired when they get too old to work, even if they feel more like a mother than the child's actual mother.
“Shouldn’t we spend more time with our children?” Was such a powerful quote at the end of this video.
firstly, the nannies go home and tada they don't know their kids' preferences JUST as these mothers who hired them don't
secondly, the point was how the nannies are underpaid and overworked, which is nice, but,
*why step on one to lift another?*
mothers, especially in asia, go through enough sh*t as it is
no one even thinks where the f*ck are the fathers, cuz not all these women are single mothers?
*these mother forgot their kids' preferences, being busy making sure their kids won't have to toil like they do, to have a decent life*
this video is VERY tone deaf to mothers. just cuz they wanted to do justice to maids, doesn't excuse being tone deaf to those mothers.
And the maid doesn’t have children of her own?
@@ManiyaVinas probably not. Most travel from their home as soon as they become legal to escape poverty, then they work as nannies till the kids are old enough and them move back home to get married and perhaps start a family. Some don’t end up going back at all, and marries someone in the country they work in or just continue working.
Everyone knows they should but it's a luxury to be able to do that.
where's daddy ?
I had a Vietnamese classmate in college. He was born in Vietnam and spoke English and Vietnamese, but I was surprised to learn that his first language was actually Spanish.
His parents both had demanding full time jobs, so after they had him they left him with a maid for most of his childhood.
The maid spoke Spanish to him everyday, so that was the language he naturally acquired.
Whether this is a good thing is bad thing is hard to tell, and I think it’s a really hard balance to find.
On one hand, his parents worked hard and earned plenty of money, so they never worried about finances. But in the process they let their son grow up with a someone else.
thats a little sad but still he learned Spanish so its okay
@@graceysarah23as someone who grew up under the care of my maid, once you miss the time spent with your children, it is never the same as trying to compensate by spending time later. i feel more gratitude than kinship towards my parents 30 years today
Its Kind of cool to speak another language like that
@@marimo66666honestly I think it finishes the love of children for thier parents a child develop love at the age of 1,2 till 7 after that they don't usually get attached specially at age of 13 and 14 they become rebellious and a children mindset never change after 12 what they learn before he age of 12 is what going on with thier life for almost forver
that’s kind of sad but actually pretty cool
The fact that the one mom doesn’t even think her kid is waking up when in reality she does and immediately looks to the maid for comfort....
Yeah
You don’t get a maid when you have enough time to spend with your kid
@@diogenesofsinope7465 People shouldn't have kids they don't have time for.
@@dontmindme9046 that’s a progressive belief, these people don’t have the same values as some other countries, they only want to see their child succeed (usually) you shouldn’t tell someone how to parent if it doesn’t really do much harm. They still have someone taking care of them and have someone to look up to so why care?
dont mind me i’ll say it depends an example is like a divorce and the. the mother has to work full time to make enough money and arent able to spend time with there children
The last one, with the nightmares, broke my heart. The fact that she runs to “Auntie” when she’s scared is very telling.
And the mother doesn't even notice which tells me she probably doesn't go check on her child when she is screaming and crying :/
I mean my youngest brother runs to me but that has more to do with the fact that as a seven year old I didn't know what a baby was despite having 3 other younger siblings (born consecutive years except for mentioned youngest brother and my second youngest bro) so I watched him sleep
I wish I had had an auntie to run to when I had nightmares, it could have stopped me getting beaten for it.
Why somone would beat you because you had a night mare? Thats terrible!
I remember doing the exact same thing when I was a child. My parents' room was closer but I'd walk down the stairs and encounter some bugs walking to the maid's room rather than going to my parents' room. Probably because I knew that my parents would be cranky and sent me back to my room while my maid would let me stay there until I'm sleepy again. I'm still grateful for my parents for hiring a maid and not leaving me alone, though.
Mom's "she won't wake up but she'll scream and cry" vs their "she looks for me/I tell my auntie".. that one broke my heart.
The “she doesn’t like people to know” maid seems lovely. You can tell she loves the girl
The saddest thing is that the maid's kids probably miss their mom so much while she's working to be able to feed them
I know right? I mean spending some times with your child should be normal but I understand those mothers that have to work. So seeing people in the comment section saying they're not good mothers or that they should not be mothers is saddening. Like, they can't judge them on a 1 minute video
@@keacarter8392 Yes!! It's a loop that is difficult to be broken
Wow. So very true.
grand parents parent
it happens all over from Singapore to Beirut and Lagos
Whole generations parented by their grandparents and the same the generation before
You don't parent your own you parent your children's
So they can have education
MESSED UP WORKD WE HAVE CREATED
@@f.b.8700 but I think that would lower the maid’s salary income
Low-key feels like the moms are answering what THEY want their kids to be rather than what the kids really want themselves to be.
Yea true
true •́ ‿ ,•̀
Yep
the teacher one, the boyfriend one espically.
At least one of them said that her son's mind is not set yet which is quite nice since it indicates that she's open with her son's decision to pursue in any career
Edit: Just to make it clear, my comment is referring to the original comment about parents projecting their children to pursue in their desire career, not about neglecting their children, which the video talks about.
"No boyfriend for me! Only friends." WHY IS THAT SO CUTE
ikr that girl won so many hearts today ❤
I was raised by maids and I feel like comfortable openly talking with her than my mom. It’s not like I hate my mom or anything, it’s just that she feels like a safest place I can openly talk to and share my interest without any worries
Funny how you don't even think of blaming your dad just because he doesn't have ovaries.
@@Ezra-o666 wtf was that for.. lol
@@Ezra-o666 they said nothing that implies blame, only that they feel safer with someone else then their mom. Also, this is a video about maids and mothers, of course there will be more comments about mothers. They could've omitted their dad for any number of reasons, maybe he's dead or something. And if not, not mentioning him implies that they definitely don't feel as safe with him anyway. You don't know. Your comment implies a lot of assumptions.
Yeah maybe because maid doesn't judge you and always listen to you ..
As a former nanny, this is kind of true. You learn all the secret codes and inside jokes because your job is to be focused on the kid all day
The sad thing is that should be the job of the parents. They are giving you their responsibility.
@@honestfriend767 the real sad thing is parents have to work a lot to be able to afford the roof over their heads let alone a nanny to help care for their kids. I would LOVE to be with my kids all the time but it's impossible, I can't do a lot I want because I can't afford to be at home.
@@3StarLogo I don't think this is the same case for these Singaporean parents.
@@honestfriend767 maybe instead of shaming parents we can start having a conversation about why they need to work so many hours to give basic necessities and opportunities to their children?
@@3StarLogo but the times that you are at home you can spend maybe 30 minutes with them. Kids don’t need you to spend a day, they just need to see you make an attempt and try to be there for them when you can. When they grow up they will remember that you tried.
I started to get teary eyed when the women said “she doesn’t like people to know, so I don’t tell you.” she got her back, we should all have each other’s backs
Same
🥺 omg i completely agree, and this comment is so wholesome, i dont even know you but i got your back, we should all do this, we must, please people ✌🏽💜
Auntie passed the vibe check and we're all sobbing😭😭😭
*woman
i started crying too when she said that
This happens everywhere. My mother has no idea what my degree is in, and she would tell people she didn't believe in my school instead of saying she didn't believe in me. The janitor woman at work knew what classes I was taking, and she was so encouraging! Shout out to Julie!
“A teacher.”
“A princess.”
There is such a big change between those two answers.
And the cruel thing is, some of peoples still treat a nanny just like a slave even when that woman loves their kids like their own
Yea and it’s really sad people think that way cause I have a nanny and I see her as kinda like my second mom
It's been more than 20 years and I can still remember vividly when my mom told that a lady was coming to work for us. She was going to clean, cook, and take care of me and my sister, but above all to care for our grandparents that lived with us. "She is going to care of our home and our family, and that makes her very important person. I don't even want to hear about you being rude or disrespectful to her!".
A decade passed, grandparents passed away, we grew up, and my parents decided to move to another city.....how my mom and her cried holding each other. My mom had no illusions of the role she played in her daughter's lives over the years.
Yeah its hurt me. At restaurant in family dinner. They just make a nany or house keeper sat on the other table just to hold their litle baby and dont even treated them meals. The family just make them wait and watch the family having a good times enjoy the food.
Rich peoples!
what about grand parents? ur parents dont live with em?
@Patronus what a horrible thing to say about these lovely women in the video
“A teacher”
“A princess”
You can see something in their answers
Yeah, the Mom seems to be projecting what she wants her child to want
@@PyroGothNerd Projecting is really bad its a form of sickening control. Control land order is important for children but not these stupid fantasies such as princess or astronaut. Lets be honest they aint opening astronaut positions every 15 days
@@jesusRamirez-xv7xp damn you really felt the need to burst someone's bubble.
@@gnap6051 Exactly people live in a little bubble and cant see things clearly. Bubble
That one didn't surprise me actually and I can see her saying both. Most young children have a dual image of themselves and what they want to be in the future. Typically one aspiration is responsible, well-regarded, and positively contributing to society (teacher, doctor, fireman) and the other unrealistic, fanciful, and without limits (unicorn, batman, fairy) Fun activity, ask any 5-year old what they want to be when they grow up and after they answer say, "or....?". Unless you have a child with unusual psychology, you tend to get at least one of each. 🥰
In America a lot of kids with nanny’s first language ends up being the language their nanny speaks. One of my friends is fluent in mandarin because his nanny was from China and she spent 12 years with him and mostly spoke to him in mandarin. She spent more time with him then his own parents. Apparently he knew mandarin before he knew English 😂
I grew up with an abusive mother who would hit me call names and scream at me. But I always have my nanny and this video made me cry so so much thank you. I love her so so so so so so much she is my real mom
“She likes the boy Darius”
“She doesn’t want people to know so I won’t say”
idk I found that really sweet of the maid to respect the kid even if they’re super young
When the impostor is sus!!!!!!!!!!!
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That's a basic idea that, believe it or not, many adults don't understand: children are people, not pets. They deserve respect.
And also that's a kid, it's kinda weird when the mom said "she likes a boy" when the kid is like 10 and herself said she just wants friends
"She likes the boy Darius"
And that is how the rebelling phase started.
Something that I find really interesting is a couple of the moms were really unsure with their answers, while the maids all had little to no hesitation.
It shows who truly is involved in the kids life :/
I hereby give you the award of having the audacity to comment two comments in one video and have both of them blow up. (This ain't sarcasm, seriously, congrats lmao)
Yeah it does show
almost like the maids were coached and were told the right answers to make a point mmmmm
Well they especially hired them for that
That "No boyfriend for me. Just friends." Was precious. Omg. ❤
My mom is a full time babyssiter and it's incredible how much kids bond with her rather than their parents. Thing is most parents won't even take the time to know their child..is sad
It's wonderful to hear that your mom is able to create such strong bonds with the children she cares for. Even if it's just spending a few minutes each day to talk, read a book together, or play a game, those small moments can make a big difference in a child's life. It's never too late to start building that bond, and I encourage all parents to make the effort to do so.
“She wakes up and asks me to sleep beside her”
really speaks a lot
If I am the mother, I'd feel a little hurt. Reality bites...
@@skyazullopez6726 i can tell that kid doesn't trust her mother, so she asked the "maid" Instead.
@@skyazullopez6726 i mean, why did the child said that because her mom probably didn't give her much attention, so the mom shouldn't feel sad, i mean its her fault tho
Yes. Definitely her fault.
😭🫂🥺
"she doesn't like other people to know, So I won't tell you"
Seriously everybody need someone like her in they're life
Some parents can’t fathom not showing their kid off to the world and this maid has enough common sense not to talk about it
that is so deep
I really respect that.
The amount of respect that this maid gives this child is so admirable.
Not to be that person, but to be that person- it’s THEIR
When I was a nanny, I was taking care of this girl (an only child). When I first came to her family, her parents constantly get a note from her school teacher of how poorly she behaved at school. She was a very emotional girl. She would even kick me or spit at her mom whenever she doesn’t get what she wants. Whenever I would put her to bed, she gets restless and anxious; she doesn’t want me to leave her room. I didn’t know how to deal with it so I would just tell her Bible stories to divert her mind, and pray for her. Later on, she would pray on her own. She also liked to ask me about God.
Her parents were very busy so I was the one who would also help her with her homework most of the time. We played a lot and spend so much time together just having fun and be silly at times. I saw how she changed so much. She eventually became a role model in her classroom. Her mom cried when she first became a role model in her class.
Eventually, I had to leave the family because I was to get married and had to move to another state. The girl told me that I was her mom. It really touched my heart but I had to explain to her that her parents loved her so much and that they were doing their best to give her a good life. I also told her that I was not her mom but I could be her sister from another mom. She told me to not forget her even when I become a mom myself. She said that she was my first child.
I’m a mom of two now, and up to this day, I still think of her and pray for her. I hope she’s happy and well.
Children just want to feel loved. They want to feel that their parents like them, want to be with them, and enjoy being with them.
Even as a teacher in public school I know a lot about my kids than the parents know and I know A LOT about the parents that they don’t know I know 😂 I got the tea on the entire family.
😂😂😂
Little kids don't have a filter...you'll learn stuff about the family that you don't want to know. Or they'll say weird stuff like "I'm gonna grow arm hair like my Dad!" completely out of nowhere.
I love how the maids says "i think" even if the kids probably tell them directly, cause probably they considered that the kids maybe change their minds already
They also might feel more comfortable telling their secrets to a friend or a maid (in this case) cause there are subjects we prefer to share with friends rather than our parents mostly because of the age/generation gap.
it also meant that they’re being considerate and careful as well as being understanding to what the kids thinking while the mothers on the other hand might just say things that they want their children to be
Parent: She wants to be a teacher
Nanny: She wants to be a princess
that says so much-
Feels like the mom was mostly speaking her own preferences and not the child's.
@@RacingPepe yeah!
@@multi_stanp1699 Engene-?
@@zaxriyah_edits2828 YESSSSS
Yea even that one mom “what’s his fav subject?” mom- “oh it SHOULD be English” the kid- “Chinese”
This is why I homeschool my kids. Your time is more valuable than anything this world can offer.
Wow. After watching this video, I’m going to give my maid weekends off, and hire a part-timer.
Thank God they raised awareness for all of us maid employers out here.
smart!
Why was she working seven days a week to begin with?
@@korruptnovellst4751its a maid they clean the house and live in it.... respect to them tho
“She doesn’t like people to know... so I don’t tell you.” That woman’s got your back
You find few trustworthy people like that.
@@chocolattefeverdreams4228 Yea! When I find people like that they are always so nice :D
yes
@Hun Bun yes
My mom would tell the whole world my business which is exactly I don't say shit to her no more😐
The one maid that said "she doesn't like other people to know" has my respect.
Right!! Finally someone said it
She really cared about the kid's feeling and respect than the mom
Same
Same, I almost got emotional with this one, pure love, while the mom gave the name without thinking about it.
The maid kept her secret 😔
Yep total loyalty , Alfred pennyworth level
The fact that majority of maids knew more about the children than their own mothers is both really sweet and sad at the same time
The maid not sharing the child's crush because the child didn't want her to is amazing. That child will come to her with everything and be able to be guided, because she knows she can trust her.
I love the last kid for she calls their maid "Auntie" it sounds so endearing than calling someone as nanny.
I'm just gonna assume this is Malaysian (because I see Chinese Malay and Indian representating this) and I wanna share another thing, we usually don't call maids as maids but we rather call them kakak as in "big sister" and idk but it sounds kinda sweet to me.
umm not to be rude, but asian's do not really call their "maids" "maids", but auntie. It is just a name and a way to respect
YUP Asians just call every woman older "auntie" I do when I visit mt parent's boyfriend
I call my nanny "mama"
@@emilynshimmi785 yeah, it's actually weird when I see people call maids as "maids".
"She doesnt like other people to know"
Ma'am i think you dropped this 👑
Yes
Fr
@@lokifrostpaw2976I hate that guy
exactly
This may not be true but since I have seen some like that i say this theory :-
While the mother was occupied with winning that she knows everything about her thus saying what she shouldn't, the maid more cared about the child's feelings and it literally breaks my hearts when these nanny's are first doubted for anything bad happening to child but that's how it goes.
Absolutely
Mom used to be the breadwinner of my family. She was a banker, highly respected by her subordinates and coworkers due to her integrity and achievements in her work, even climbed the corporate ladders. But it always amaze me how me and my two siblings are really close to her, despite of the most part of our childhood was taken care by nannies (we each got one nannies, they took care of our school needs, laundries, cooking, housekeeping, etc). I witnessed her commitment for her family, all I remember is that she is always present in my childhood memories. She drew the clear barrier that nannies are not family. She changed our nannies every 3 years, or if she found out redflags. These kinds of videos set as a reminder that she's the best mother I could have had. I love her and misses her so much everyday and now that I am also a banker and a wife, how I wish she's still here to advise me how to be like her.
Wow, what a shitty parent. You fire someone so they can't form an emotional bond with someone they spend most of their time with. The fact you don't see how fucked up that is, shocks me.
@@jendubay3782 nope, we moved across the country every 3 years, so most of the time it's because the dont want to move with us 😭💀🤣
They were saying that nannies are paid to take care of laundries, cooking, and cleaning, and not people to reach out when you need emotional support or any sort of that.. so I always come to mom and dad if I have difficulties or to share things that makes us happy 💕 and I'm glad I dont end up like the kids in this video hehe
@@jendubay3782 we also still kept in touch with our nannies and they are still as kind as I remembered. I'm so sorry if my family story hurt you btw, seeing you can judge people without knowing the full story :)
I get you. I'm sorry you lost your mentor and mother. It's awesome that you understood what she was trying to do. ❤
@@jendubay3782 wow way to assume negative things
I saw this video years ago and it made an impact in my life. I made sure to get to know my child and spend more time together despite my busy schedule. She is 10 and thinks of me as her “bestest friend” and i thank this video for our wonderful mommy-daughter relationship. ❤
Got teary eyed when the nanny protected her little girl's secret. Too precious.
When?
LOL
@Nic Bai thanks
@@Milky_mans the video is less than 2 mins long...
@@introusas attention spans are no longer existent
The sad thing is, some of the maids probably have their own son/daughters but didnt know much about their own children
Totally agree.
@biny8
The video mentions the maids barely getting time off.
That really sad
Yup, it's usually like that with people in the lower working class. It's really sad, but they don't get the opportunity to do anything about it. :/
You freakin' got it.
full on respect to the maid that wouldn’t tell us her crush
Same when I was a kid. The lady who looked after me called me “my child” and I did chores with her all day and had no memories of ever seeing my mum.
The one who said "she doesn't want anyone to know so I won't tell you" is very trustworthy wow
I know I literally cried that is so wholesome
Yep.
Yeah
Not my children needs her. I NEED HER 😩
I know she’s showing the little girl so much respect that normally we don’t give to children
This hit too close home. For my last birthday, my mother gave me a balloon as a present while the woman who raised me edited a whole 8 minute video with pictures of us through the years.
Wtf a balloon?
A BALLOON. I...
A ballon...
Balloon*.
Damn...a balloon-
Growing up as a 'nanny kid' as well, this hits really hard. I still feel safer around them even as an adult..
Now I think I'm blessed to have a mum who always nag me for every single thing😢
“She doesn't like people to know, so I don't tell you.”
She doesn't want to prove she knows, she just wants the child to be happy. Round of applause
Indeed.
Indeed.
Repent to Jesus Christ
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV
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@@jesusislord6545 shut up
@@jesusislord6545 this has nothing to do with this please excuse yourself
Nanny: she doesnt like people knowing, so I won't tell
Mum: Darius. lol
Mothers often don't care about your secrets 😒 they just say it without even thinking sometimes 🤦🏻♀️
@@taslimaaktershathi7561 yep
@@taslimaaktershathi7561 so true😑
😭😩
@@taslimaaktershathi7561 Looks like u had a bad experience with ur mom exposing you 😂😂😂
I am from Indonesia and it's very common to have at least 1 maid in a house. Some families have 2 or more to take care multiple children. I moved to Australia 17 years ago. My little boy was born 2 years ago, my wife and I struggled really hard to raise him especially when he was still a newborn. Our parents couldn't visit us due to covid so we were under pressure since we are new parents. My wife had a post natal depression so it added an extra pressure for our family but yet we're happy that we give all of our time for little Kenny. I help changing his nappy, bathing him every night, feeding him, etc and this bond is irreplacable. Parents, take care of your kids while you can otherwise you'll regret for not spending time with them when they grow up.
I grew up being closer to my maids than my mother. The fact they kept getting fired meant i had several different "moms" that came and went. My own mother never learned how to be a mother. This video hit hard. I miss them.
Most of the parent's answers are what they want their children to be rather than what children want themselves....
Yea the one mom said "it should be English" very telling
Yes...
Exactly
Rahul Ghatkar
Well maybe the dads should work harder so the moms can afford to stay home with the babies then. Tf? Of course working parents won’t be as close to the kids as the live-in nannies at these young ages. What I’m not seeing though is the fathers being held accountable in any way. I wonder why they didn’t test any of the dad’s’ knowledge of their kid against the nannies’. 🤔
@@AddBowIfGirl They are probably toobusy working.
1:01 "She doesn't like people to know, so I don't tell you."
Ya'll someone give this queen an award cause' she deserves it
@Hello Bruh u cant be serious right now OMGPSJFOS
@Hello Bruh same difference
@Hello Bruh girl bye 💀
@Hello Bruh grab a snickers dude
@@StrongestLibrafluidAlive If one's financial balance decides one's position in this society of 2021 then I'm sorry but you seem like someone from 1396
Used to know a nanny (in the UK, she was English) and she talked about how 'distant' the parents were from their kids. The parents will get a nanny when the kids are small, then send them off to Boarding School when they are old enough, then wonder why there is a lack of close emotional relationships within the family.
And here’s another reason I’m a stay at home mom. My kids deserve to have their actual mother know them
I think motherhood is a universal feeling ....... So real mother or motherly figures shouldn't be a thing . BTW what's the other reasons for you to become an SHAM ?
@@jagritikumari4012 To answer your other question (or both questions, really) I am happier pouring my soul into what matters most to me, and that's my children and husband and God.
@@jagritikumari4012 You know, my mother was murdered two years ago, in a carjacking-gone-worse. She matters to me more than most people just for having given birth to me and taking care of me. So saying that motherly figures shouldn't be a thing, you can live that way, but I believe that families are central to God's plan for his children. I'm sorry if your mother wasn't around or didn't care about you.
@@mansfieldfamily5389 I'm so sorry for your lose , but I firmly believe that God has gave us life to contribute for the world so these things ( if I ever have ) aren't going to be centre of my life .......
@@jagritikumari4012 taking care of your kids and home is contributing to the world
can we appreciate that “maid” that said “she doesn’t like people to know so i won’t tell you” she doesn’t need to prove she knows, she respects the child’s privacy and won’t take advantage of her trust.
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I actually found that so respectful from her
That truly is beautiful
Up for this.... ❤️
Why would you reveal someone’s crush on the internet in the first place?
The last one, when the girl called the maid auntie was very touching
UwU idk if you know, but Auntie is actually the common term we use when we refer to domestic helpers in sg.
@@creatrotera ohh
In case u didnt know, most people here in south east asia (since i lived here) usually call strangers with common family terms like uncle and auntie
@@nurainnajhan2367 lol yeah, it's always, uncle and auntie no matter if you are taking the bus/taxi or like buying food XD
The same in Zimbabwe
The maids have big hearts, you see clearly how kind they are when they speak about the kid
I was a nanny's kid too. I dont blame my mom for it, tho. She was trying her best to keep our family afloat in tough times.
it is sad that the maid's children problably don't have mother or maid in their side to listen their stories :(
True..this didn't strike me. The maid is a working mom too for her kid.
Apparently their children's well being does not matter cause they're poor. I honestly don't understand what is video is trying to prove.
@@sabibarahman7278 at the very end it says " lets give workers their legal days off"so pretty obvious.
My mom left me (11yrs old) and my brother(7) to Malaysia because of poverty we met her after 9yrs.. currently working as domestic worker in Singapore for 5yrs. it's true they r a mom to other mom's child but for their own children only Hope remains... My mom shared funny things kids said she even cared about their pet too. Entire childhood I had to be mature enough to handle everything alone. We can't blame her. her kindness to those children indirectly we got from other people. Wherever we are someone treat as their children. Luckily my husband pamper me treat me like a baby whenever possible 🙂I am getting mother love from him. My mom's love to other kids comes to me finally😍
Right... It's an ending cycle huh?
I am mexican and both of my parents worked full time so even before I was born my mom employed a woman to help us with the cleaning of the house and taking care of me and my older brothers. That woman I used to call my mom, she taught me how to talk, walk and have fun, she was always there in my life. Every graduation she was there, every presentation of singing or dancing she was there. When I cried she was there.
She passed away last year in October due to a disease. I will never ever forget her or stop appreciating everything she did for me. "Maids" are incredibly important from a child perspective, they know everything.
neither my parents nor helper could attend my graduation cause of covd hahah
She sounds like a wonderful woman. Hope she's happy wherever she is.❤
You mean mums.
yep i know what you mean, having both full time parents lead me to a very lonely life
I’m so sorry for your loss, she sounds like a truly amazing woman 💜
The video summarizes such a sad concept that our society is facing. Because of the hard work ethic produced by a prevailing work-based society, most children grow up without the affection and love which is deemed necessary by their psychological needs. The society values productivity more than individual needs. The society treats people as resources, instruments used for the benefit of a select few. This is our society. A society starved of love and compassion. A parasite.
Therefore to all parents out there, be with your children. Be contented with what you have and do not be overly grandiose of your future. For in your pursuit of that idea, you lose sight of reality itself.
End the cycle of numbness, embrace your humanity.
You are not robots.
You are people.
People who need to produce and reciprocate to love.
God bless to everyone! ❤
When I was young, I hardly recognized my mother's face because she was always a busy woman, but now I spend most of my time with my mother.
“She doesn’t want anyone to know so I won’t tell you” HUGE RESPECT RIGHT THERE!
Yesssssssssss agree
@One of eight billion yea😭
YES
Lmao bkg's soft side 💀 wish to see it even more
yea huge respect for that lady
The one that kept her privacy and said "she don't like people to know so I will not tell you" huge respect!!!
totally agreed😌
Omg, i like ur pfp
Yeah. And the fact the mom said a name, but the maid said that really shows that the maid cares abt the little girl more than her momma does.
this is why i want a maid even when im already 13.. i can tell ‘em everything i have on my heart because i know those people have good hearts
This is actually so sad and wholesome at the same time
_"everyone in your family loves you, but nobody likes you"_
- most pre-teens familes today
That statement hurts, I know, my own mother said it to me
Fr though, and I'd always refute by saying "Then why do I have friends? And why do they always invite me out to hang out?" Such utter bullshit.
That doesn't get better, so you do you. You're the one who has to live with yourself every day. You be who you're most proud to be. Don't be who your family wants to be for acceptance because eventually you'll just visit occasionally and you'll wonder why you ever did that.
im sorry, but what does that statement mean?
@@starryeyed6659 Google it. Type "statement definition".
The fact that the daughter wants the maid to be with her after her nightmares instead of her mom... that says a lot.
The fact that the mom thought she would just wake up, cry and go back to sleep without cheking on her or asking her about it later
Pretty much the only way she could have not known she looked to the maid for confort
In Singapore working hours are among the longest in the world so parents have a hard time having ample time with their kids, esp if they can afford a maid = more time spent in office. That's why maids spent the most time with kids.
@@deliciousnoodles5505 why are the hours so long
@@jakandaxter1 Unfortunately that's just how things roll in Singapore. Like how 44 hr weeks are normal in some areas. 55+ are normal in others
@@sisterspot111 wow 55+ In my country the work weeks are 32-40 hours.
Bless them all “aunties.” You rock!
Take a moment to look how proud the last woman is when she says "She looks for me". Very sweet.
its sweet but sad, seems like the mother doesnt pay attention or hang out with their own kid 😔
Her smile... you can see how much she loves that child
@@priam9376 yes
That part almost made me cry
They all look very proud
The ironic part is that these maid probably are also mom who don't know their kids well too, because they also have to work and gain money...
i have had maids (still do) and i remember clearly that they frequently video called with their family/children etc to keep in touch- ofc it's not the same as real life interaction but it's still something
Depends on the maid but ive seen a lot of them live in the house that they work in with their children (dont worry, the kids dont do labour)
and those kid's moms who hired the maids dont know their kids well too😂
Yes! I saw this documentary about a Filipina domestic worker in Hong Kong, her children (who also now have kids themselves) admitted they felt a little bitter that the Hong Kong family’s kids got to be “raised” by their mom. Ofc they understood why she had to, still doesn’t mean it hurt any less :’)
Struggles of a working mom, not knowing what to prioritize 😔
Being loved by my maid was so important to me while growing up that as time passed by I started seeing her son as my older brother 😊❤ Now she's an old nanny and I get to take care of her just like she did with me when I was a kid, I really thank God for that 🙏🏻 She's like an angel to me, no kid should feel lonely at home~
Bruh💀 that last kid broke my heart. Yeah her mom didn't care, if my kid cries I'll be the first to come to him.
"She looks for me"
"She doesnt like people to know, so I dont tell you"
Sweet 💞
Finally, people who don't spoil the kid's privacy
Aw-
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@@Gone29364 yes
The "she looks for me" is kinda me, cause I remember having a nightmare and I ran into my maid instead of my mom...
“A family by heart is a true family, not family by blood”
I agree. Family is not by blood but by choice
You cannot choose your kin, but you can choose your family
Omg Tohru Honda
@@kidabear2434 You watch Fruits Basket too?
Those people who hires maid didn't understand the concept of family at all.
I can relate to this. My three siblings and I were taken care of by others. Three maternal aunts, one paternal aunt, and other three nannies in our whole life.
My parents are both working and obviously have no time for us. We have been passed by many caretakers, most of the reason is due to our aunts start to have their own families.
That's also the reason why we have differing personalities that we got from them. Until now, when an argument arises, my mother questioned us _why are we like this?_ because she can't understand us at all, same with my father.
Due to their busy schedules in my younger years, they only noticed who performs well, hence there are envy and jealousy surrounds us.
As time passes, we realize that we can't agree on the same term, despite being in the same house; we treat each other as roommates. How pathetic is that?
You might wonder the reason why it became worse. Our mother always acts like she knows us well when it is not. She decides most of our likes, and dislikes, and even if you correct her she never truly listens.
It has come to the point that, I _repeatedly_ told her that I can't eat seafood because I'm having a hard time breathing and my tongue is itchy. AND she served it on my _birthday_ last-last week. That's the only food available and she acts like _I thought you liked it._
Not only on my birthday but happened on several occasions as well. I was told to cook whatever I want since I can't t eat it. She's quite getting on my nerves, and wondering why I don't eat that day and blaming me for neglecting my well-being. _Roll eyes._
My husband is from Singapore, and he told me stories about the family maid. She raised my husband. He turned out great.
the fact that the last child would go to the “maid” for comfort after a nightmare instead of her mother really says something
I used to do that too lmao
Of course, when children are afraid they go to their attachment figure who is the one who gives them the most security (in this case the nannies)
@@samanthalau3696 I hope that you find comfort in your heart to love yourself and others unconditionally, to do what you want to do... There is only love or lessons to strengthen you
Right now I feel that I have really been lucky as a child to always have my mom with me .....even though she doesn't usually understand my feelings so I don't tell her , but I am happy atleast I have her by my side
@@animoorimi2858 same here 😊
They call this “inspirational” but I can’t be the only one who found it more depressing than inspirational.
Yeah.
It's depressing... mother don't have to be 24/7 with kids but when they are, even 5min be 100% present.
Yaaa... This is sad
@@_R.T_ Wth are you uttering?!
@@saisantosh8747 you don't understand?? ! Not my problem. 👎
I was born in Malaysia but grew up in Singapore. My father was a surgeon and was out of the house for most of the day until late into the evening. My mother didn't work but she spent most of her day at cafes and tennis clubs. My nanny was called Alma, and she was from Laos. When she began working in our home I was 3 and called her Ah-Ah, but she never corrected me so the name stuck. She would cook for me, took me to school and to the park, and would often sing to me when she put me to bed. When she came to live and work in our home I began to see my mother less and less, and only at breakfast. I called Ah-Ah "Mama" once by accident, but she began to cry so I was careful never to do it again. She raised me until I turned 13, then she got sick and went back to Laos and I never saw her again. I cried every day for a month after she left. I didn't shed a single tear at my mother's funeral.
that mom at 0:59 really thought she'd show that she knows her daughter more by blurting out the boy her kid likes... but it terribly backfired and the maid's answer was like a huge slap to her face
i bet u darius is the mom's friend's son and she's tryna set her child up with him
@@blepblep7245 fr
@@blepblep7245
Woah there,don’t jump to big conclusions.
That’s a really big thing to say don’t ya think?
@@citrus573 They're literally copy-pasting that same sentence in every comment thread, just ignore them
@@brandonchan5387
Yep,I’ve just seen that.
“I am your parent, I know the most about you more than anyone in the world”......ok
For most parents this is probably true until they're teens at least. Parents with maids are a minority.
Ok
But isnt it supposed to be u knowing the most abt u?-
@az_koala no lol i dont think they know im gay
@@tanigawaisamu 👁️
Isn't that heartbreaking , the workers know children better than their own mother , truly heartbreaking 😢😔
the maids abandoned their own children to work overseas
@@user-wy3xh6mj9t why not the dad find that job then? why should it be the woman that holds her career back 🤡 why not the maids find a job in the home country instead of coming to singapore? they can just work more hours in a cleaning job for the money :)
nanny was very kind I hope they give what they deserve I'm really proud of them❤❤
most people don’t know this but these women they call “maids” make the biggest sacrifice by taking care of someone else’s child to feed their own. now idk bout u but i think that would always be heroic to me
Yes, it's a big sacrifice and also necessities
Bruh even the children's parents work hard to feed them. All parents work hard to feed their children nothing nothing sacrificial
@@arshiyabegum8556 it is pretty sacrificial, you have to put so much mental strength to actually leave your own kid to take care of other, most of maid get paid a shit salary, got to do 4 time what they have to do in their homes, be servicial and clean other people shit, how is that not sacrificial
@Deathbychocolate I don’t really see how acknowledging the sacrifices of the women in this video is dumb. And I clearly did not see anything in my comment that would downplay other people’s struggles whatsoever. You were the one who decided to generalize what I said. Calm tf down
so they aren’t maids? just people who get paid to be family?
Ok.. So the lady who said "she dosent like people to know" has my respect... She literally is so concerned for the kids privacy she wont say anything
@疲れたレズビアン kinda contradictory, people on the internet also exist in real life
yes and actually treating her like a person w secrets
@@aerybirb8748 they mean they havent met anyone like that irl. most people show off a different persona irl than the internet
@@bluiessa2022 eh, fair enough
I know right
I love my aunt so much she's been there for me through tough times
My helper took care of me most of my life and she would bathe me, feed me and do almost everything with me. She fell into a coma back in 2021 and it was a really difficult time for me because she was my comfort she was like my second mother. My parents both worked full time jobs so they always came home really late and my helper was there to help me and care for me. She woke up from her coma in the middle of 2022. She’s all better now and is still on her journey to recovery. I love you auntie Eti❤❤❤
This is wake up call to all parents that your kids need quality time.
@Cassie K And covering everything with plastic.
People think that making money would give the kids a good life and it’s true but also sometimes kids just want to spend time with their family 😭.
Well, it’s not that easy as it sounds. Especially in poor countries. My mom had me and my 2 brothers. My dad left us and gave us very little money per month for the 3 of us. There were times that my mom had to work 15 hours daily. She worked in a school, from 07:00 to 22:00. She had to left us with a neighbor while she was working. In my country is not that expensive to pay for a “maid” or a “nanny”, because they are not working “”legally””, they are not registered most of the times, especially 15 years ago. During our childhood she didn’t spend that much time with us. Maybe she didn’t know who was my best friend or that kind of silly stuffs but she worked her ass off for the 3 of us. I’m not saying this is the case of these moms, but non of us know. It’s 2 minutes long video, you can’t judge, specially if it is a culture so different than yours.
@@florm4193 MAD RESPECT FOR YOUR PARENTS. AND YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING
@@tinybubbles1673 Thank you so much! But just my mom. My dad didn’t even ask if we need new shoes for school. My mom is the only hero. I don’t remember exactly how I felt when I was little, I have some memories of me crying when she had to go to work but that’s all. But now that I’m an adult I understand everything and I’m so grateful.
The fact that the last kid seeks out the maid for comfort after having a nightmare instead of their own mother just tells you everything.
The fact that the mother knows her child cries and screams during the night but doesn't check up on her tells you even more.
@@iulianaghimici7579 it's just straight up neglect at that point.
@@NOOBMASTER-yn6dv how do you know that tho?
@@iulianaghimici7579 more about what all she said was she scream and cry but she never said if she went or not
@@Modishstar She said she screams and cries but doesn't wake up, but the girl said she wakes up and goes crying to the maid. Does that give you the impression that the mother went to check up on the kid?
The nostalgia from this video hits HARD
I remember watching this when I was younger, ❤❤😊
i can relate so so much. when i was younger i used to open up soo much to my maid :) i treat her like she was my bestfriend, mother, world and my everything. i miss her so so much. i hope shes doing well in her home town now with her family
At least these kids got good care takers who love them and understood them.. Not worst ones.. glad
Yeah
Yeah True,not every Child is Lucky enough to have a good caretaker!
yeah thats true
Oh yes I have to agree with you.
@@nuzhasajjad8112 Yes. B4 is was even born my mum hired a type of person like that. At that time she would just cook for the family and I had another person to take care of me.she was nice and all but she got married when I was 2. So the women who cooked for us started taking care of me and my sister. She wouldn't hit my sister but hit me "specifically" and blackmail my sister that if she told our mom she'd get spanked too. My mom worked as a doctor. I told my mom many times, but she never did anything as she had no proof. She believed the maid more than me as she said that I was lying and would leave my mom was desperate for someone to look after us as no one was there to. I still hate the maid for the time she somehow managed to put a cockroach in my water bottle. I opened the bottle in school and I fucking hated it. She did tell me she'd put a cockroach in my water bottle tho- but I thought of it as a joke. I was in playgroup that time and I was thirsty for 5 hours. When I was in nursery she hit me in the shower so hard that I slipped and my back started hurting really bad. She got scared once Someone told her that she might get caught as my mom is a doctor and might figure it out. So many stories- I am happy it's all over with 🙂
“his favourite subject *SHOULD* be English” that sentence alone said a lot
To be fair, from the tone, I think the mom meant "should be English" as in "I'm guessing it's English"
Typical asian parents
@@tracie_c I'm agree with you.
I think she meant like "last time I checked his favorite was English"
kinda like "he should be" is maybe like having too much hope for wat u think ur child will be