True, Everyone talks about the modernization of women is responsible for divorce..... But no one talks about an illiterate old mindset insecure women and her traumatized statements towards her daughter in law.... Only a progressive and mature women can give her son and daughter in law a happy family....❤
Educated mil are also insecure in some cases.Maturity to accept a girl as a family member is the key here.Buy often they see the girl as a threat/enemy or a stranger.
@@FunwithPonnuso true , after 32 yrs of marriage my MIL still says ‘ mera beta kaafi hai ‘ I am like should I leave the house or better the world . My family ( minus me ) have closed room discussions . I was / is always the understanding bahu as my husband is the only son of a widowed mother 😢😅
Motherinlaw is happy when her own husband is controlled by her and her daughters husband is controlled by her daughter but when her son listens to his wife phir toh qayamat hi qayamat..
Mother in laws who are supported by sister in laws ruins the family. Daugher in law is totally broken physically mentally emotionally spiritually. And no one stands for her. She has to fight her own battles. Above all the relatives knowing the truth makes situations more worst. Daughter in laws have pressure of her own parents to do compromise And sacrifice. Till then her energy gets depleted. Its imp for every girl to be independent nowdays.
After 11 years of marriage I am still hearing about my skin tone and curly hair from my mother in law and sister in law ( of course not good words) Though in arranged marriage. I can't forget all those words I heard in 11 years.
Don't be speak for yourself. Record it show your parents or or womens NGO. Your peace of mind & mental wellbeing being your women's health is important ❤think about it pray to God how will they respect you as a human first. 🙏🥲
I felt like selling off my freedom and dignity to MIL for getting married to my husband..Father in law and my husband are so much afraid of MIL's anger that they never stopped her from hurting me by her insensitive taunts out of entitlement feeling.. first 3-4 yrs of my marriage were so bad, sad and stressful - I would go to nearby Saibaba temple and would cry in front of Baba for hours...Fortunately in my case my God has protected me by keeping her away from us since last 4-5 yrs
😂 I am a mother in law too ! I do not interfere with my daughter in laws at all ! But still they have problems . I end up doing chores and supporting them always in everything no matter what whenever we gtg ! The trouble is daughter in laws are not my daughters ! Neither am I their mother ! We are learning to understand and adjust every time we come together 😂 Sometimes it’s frustrating to be misunderstood but as a senior have to keep an open mind and try again ! With time , I have a certain bond with my older daughter in law , cannot say the same for the other . She doesn’t stay close ! My say is , women should STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST ANOTHER WOMAN ! UNLESS WE SUPPORT AND UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER , we continue to be the stereotypes saas bahu 😢 It’s difficult but not impossible! Men certainly CAN play a huge role here ! My sons do ! The moment they see me crossing certain boundaries they get in to support their wives and vice versa 😊 Human relations are complex but beautiful ! I love my daughter in laws no matter what ! They are mothers to my adorable grandkids ❤️ They are the lovely daughters I never had 😊 I am proud of them ! God bless my two beautiful girls 🙏🌸❤️
When talking about my sis in law, this is what I emphasis to my mom, stating mother in law has more experience in life so should show more maturity in handling DIL. Where as what we observe in most houses is just the opposite DIL are expected to understand and adjust causing more issues. DIL are not mature enough to understand the complexity of relations. They will definitely learn with time.
I have seen so many newly married couples or couple with little ones migrating out of india not just for fainacial opportunities but social freedom from older generations. They struggle abroad but doesnt want to go back to their parents or inlaws homes.
This is so true and I’m one of that person who moved away from my in laws. Whatsoever the worst situation I face being alone and handling 2 kids, I’m fine with it. But don’t want to be with in laws.
Mother in laws of husbands are equally responsible for divorces they always interrupt in the matters of their daughters internal marital issues and people say men are the problem everywhere women create drama or nautanki
My husband always threatened me to divorce since 2 nd say of our wedding. My mother in law played a huge role in my divorce after 17 yrs. I got so tired of threats that I left the house.
Same here, after he got green card from me , he keep saying get out of this house or he was keep threatening to leave and had multiple affairs. And that too I never utter a single word , still he was doing something or other drama. Had to leave him after 13 years.
@@tp1720 aj kal pati ki bat nhi mano to sidha chodne k h bat krte hai ...wo v extra marital affair k wajah s ...duniya k samne aache bnage taki unpr koi shak v nhi kare aur biwi tang aakr kuch bol de to sidha chodne k dhmaki jaise k pre planned ho sab
Yess you never tolerate this kind of misbehave by any person.if husband bolta hai ki tuje chod dunga ye itna asan nahi hota hai.patni kya kya kar sakti hai kya wo nahi janta ? Kya sas nahi janti ki wo Jail Tak ja sakti hai ? ha aise parents hotae hai ki wo bahu ko kuch nahi samajte but husband acha ho to phir bhi chal jata hai but agar husband hi aisa ho to phir aise aadmi ke saath dar dar ke rahne ka koi matlab hi nahi hai in my point of view.pata nhi ki kab uska man bhar jaye aapse aur dudh me se makhi ki tarah aap ka khoon choose ke asp ki nikal de to use to acha hai ki aise aadmi ko khud hi chod do.atleast aap ka shoshan se to Bach jaoge.aise aadmi ko aap ki kimat kabhi nahi hogi to uske piche ghis jane se acha hai khud chod do
So true.. Mera bhi divorce meri mother in law ki vajah se hua hai.. And same taana sunte the ki main ghar se nikal dungi... Aakhir mein main khud nikal gayi..
Same. Me bhi apne husband se separate ho chuki hu, reasons are my husband's ignorance of each and everything I say, his mother and his sister who both feel it is their right to know every little detail between me and my husband, even the details of our intimate times. My husband somehow feels, it's okay to tell them everything. He in fact, keeps secrets from me. On top of all this, all of them are always ready to kick me out of the house, I left their house one day and we are separated.
@@nanditatiwari7882same problem. But no one stands for me and now i have 9 months old baby girl. Now i can't take divorce. They interfere in everything even about my baby's clothing. Before my baby my sil used to choose my clothes. They says if you don't like us just go but i know they will take my baby. That's why i am staying.....
Be financially independent and don't get married. If you want to experience motherhood then adopt an orphan or be a pet parent. Travel and enjoy life. End of problem.
Yes my marriage was destroyed by my mother in law. She thought she will immediately get my ex husband remarried. Till today he is not married and she passed away as well. She destroyed two lives and also of my parents
@@mallikarjun9796 The guy is unreliable, and of course damaged with no willingness to work on himself, and his inner child wounds. Why go back and traumatize oneself?
Very well said and this is true Some MILs have so much arrogance, immaturity and a narcissistic attitude that they don’t realize that while they are wholeheartedly dedicated towards making their DILs life miserable, they are ruining two families. One their own and second the girls family. All this to satisfy their craziness and ego😢
A little Credit goes to FIL too...as far as I observed...FIL hold every power in house but somehow he never takes stand against injustice happening inside with his bahu...he is literally the man of the house ..who lead the house n his wife for several years till now...took dowry , took final decision of marriage.....who treats his damad like king but when it comes to bahu..hez always silence n plays along with his wife N LETS HIS WIFE DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO DO WITH BAHU...
True. Mother-in-laws are responsible but equally responsible are those sons who think they can ignore their wife like she's a nobody. Why cant these grown ass married sons understand this? They expect so many things from their wives but can't even balance between the 2 or 3 important females in their lives.
Very well said Mam! I have seen Mother in laws are self obsessed! They just want to control their son n daughter-in-law 's life. But why this type of typical old mentality still exists.
Because of insecurity. Also, in many cases some mothers in law themselves did not stay with their own Mil but expect their daughter in law to be under control, face their tantrums and stay with them. Hypocrisy
Exactly. Those times there were 5-6 sons in the family and only elder stayed with the parent. Rest all had nuclear family. So most of them did not go through the harrassment by their in laws but still hate their in laws even in the limited interaction they had with them. But same person now wants to control her DIL. So most of the cases they are not the victims of the past as it is being portrayed. They are just narcisstic. @@mukulsharma2413
When they are DIL they are angels When they become MIL they become devil's Why= By the age fifty onwards almost all the feel good hormones and chemical are lost, most of the organs would have shrunk including the brain 🧠 up to thirty percent. So the normal rational thinking is lost they become irritable bad tampered. If society can replenish the feel good hormones and the chemical through good life style and diet with plenty of sunshine 🌞 the issues will be very much less severe it's geriatric issue.
I agree and they also talk ill about the daugher in laws with relatives ,they create such a imression of the daughter in law that she is bad in every thing But they ´do not understand that way you are spoilinng your own Family reputation. ,at the same time their daughters are expert and so good in everythingI went through it for so amny years but not uttering the word - result you spoil your mental and physchical health
It’s there in western societies as well. Men usually don’t care about their parents as much but it still takes one visit or a thanksgiving dinner at in-law’s place. Wife takes that once in a while visit and puts an incident into an echo chamber and drags the husband down. They have domestic violence and higher divorce rates too so it’s not always the in-laws..it’s the women most of the time.
Ye sab ki wajah se aajkal ladkiyan single rehna pasand karti hai. Maine husband hi aisa dhundha jo pehle se job ki wajah se dusri city me rehta hai kyuki mujhe in laws ke sath rehna hi nahi tha.
Don't sacrifice soft, kind and sweet nature for wrong people.. instead learn skills to identify, filter people, make better decisions for life, building a good life for yourself, handle people and situations but never ever change your good qualities.
That's the reason I refused all proposal from men who wants to live with their parents under same roof after marriage. Some of my female friends used to look me down as if they are so kind to accept the groom's parents, but they are also ready to fight and their entire family are also ready to fight with the in laws. I hate fights and very proud now.
You have done the right thing. There are many people who would give you moral science lecture but themselves are in a very bad relationship with their in laws. People don't honour live and let live policy in our society. They want people to suffer in the name of sacrifice. If you resist suffering you are a house breaker and a bad person.
@@anuraoy90 I am so happy I felt like I am not alone in this planet 😍😍 God bless you thank you for existing I wish you live longer with full of prosperity and health wealth, luck and fate love you so much
Its my case.... mere hi saamne vo mere husband ko bol rahi thi k me meri beti ki thik se parvarish nahi kar rahi hu... mere papa k baare me bura bolti hai... aur mera pati bolta hai k tum 1 kaam se sun k dusre kaan se nikaaldo q k vo budhi hai... mene 1 baar meri saas ko jawab diya tha tb mere pati ne raat me hi muje boldiya k tum ghar se nikal jao aur mere sasur meri saas ka side lekr khade the... aisa lag raha tha k me sabke bich bohot akeli hogayi hu
Husband ko yad dilao ki saas sasur aj bhi sath hai qki sasur ne side li thi tumhari maa ki. Hum shayad sath ne rhe agar aise hi hal rhe to. Rakh ke marna seekho. Apke pas bhi dimag hai, zubaan hai. Gharwale bhi hai support ke liye. Aur jo galat hai wo galat hai chahe pati ho chahe saas
@@Sc123-z2z Bring husband on your side,.....respect in laws, but take a stand for yourself,....I know it's easier said than done,.....I have gone through same things,with a monster in law , plus 3 conniving sisters in law,.....I treated everyone well, but today my husband understands and is on my side,....be a little cunning.....be good to everyone, but be a leader......respect yourself n they will ,respect u......
@@renna120I'm glad that you're out of that situation and your husband now supports you. Kya wo pehle aapke against rehte thy? I'm facing a terrible situation and my husband stops talking to me and displays passive aggression to teach me a lesson. Also, with time he's becoming more manipulative, disrespectful and inconsiderate and forces me to visit his family (toxic mother & abusive unmarried elder sister) regardless of how they treat me while he stays quiet on the matter and even supports them.
I am going to treat my daughter in law like my own, wont let her life be like my alway doing housework. My son needs to help her equally. Hope I get a daughter in law like a daughter.
Daughter-in-law can never become a daughter. She will have her own mother for that equation. It becomes one sided love which is never reciprocated and then the disappointment and bitterness comes. Just understand that only the son has found a wife. Everyone else's life should carry on as usual. Better to accept this and adapt oneself, by changing the way we think of our grown children, and the high value we attach to a couple's marriage. Marriage partners form an inner circle, and everyone else falls in the outer circle.
They are much more dangerous than single mil. She may be dangerous but will stop atleast when things start to worsen for her son but these are like vultures only full destruction mode on seeing bhabhi in their life and will stop until he divorces her or she dies.if he dies again they will blame her new drama starts.very dangerous
Shravan here is that poor lad who was so devoted to his parents that he carried them literally on his shoulders in old their old age. He was unfortunately killed when an arrow from King Dasarath's bow, unwittingly struck him, while he was drawing water from a well to quench the thrist of his parents. Even in his dying moments his thoughts were on his duty towards his parents, who died on hearing of the death of their son. But not before cursing the King to face the same fate as theirs on his death bed
True,then y marriage happening,if u want to be mom's boy everytime,never get married then, respect caring parents too imp, but don't be dominating every time
@@sweetswatshorts Both need to understand their boundaries,.....like we do with our own parents.....when women want to work, in-laws can look after house n children......
Ghar ghar ki kahani as couple husband wife should understand eachother after marriage ur life happiness imp,u can't change negative people so better ignore
@@RojaJaneman you are also generalizing, I live in the US and not every family is like that!! But here the topic is mother in law, our Indian boys are more of “mamma’s boys” so that gives her an upper hand in all matters. Thereby creating issues.
That 'Shravan Kumar' example was so true! The reason I am still rejecting marriage proposal, (I am 31 yrs) is the fact that I have spotted "mama's boy". There are guys who will clearly have big expectations from the girl and mainly one of becoming 'the ideal daughter-in-law for his parents. There are guys, who if we fought over something will tell every detail to their mother and sisters. There was a brilliant scene in Rocky and Rani movie also, where Alia Bhatt is trying to confront Ranveer's father and Ranveer gets furious at her. To which Alia says "you can't even look into ur father's eyes"....Many men have been raised like that.
@@karthikkannan4086 don't worry today s women are not like traditional women to torture their daughter in law for dowry ect today's women are educated and well mannered I guess they follow the policy of live and let live unlike uneducated women from the past
@@karthikkannan4086 don't worry today s women are not like traditional women to torture their daughter in law for dowry ect today's women are educated and well mannered I guess they follow the policy of live and let live unlike uneducated women from the past
My mother in law once said that she can make me out of the house and my mother needs to beg for me to come again.. I said go ahead if u can😂 my mother in law is horrible n she needs the power always..
And what about the frequent interferences of the mother of the bahu? Now a days it has become a severe problem for a couple also. Today's parents of the girl have become more aggressive.
Mother in laws in the sense, both the mother in lawssssss.... daughter ki mummy also plays a pivotal role in a divorce by indulging herself in the trivial household issues of the daughter. They don't let her live the life in her terms.
Most mother in law never agree to what daughter in law does . She always finds some mistakes as if her son is married to some machine. Whatever the achievements daughter in law does she never praises as his son does. Overall she feels as if she comes from the outer world. In the early days women used to endear these but now all are educated and have jobs.
23 years and still an outsider... but now i say you look after your kind.. 😂😂😂 i have no one on mine.. i have my peace of mind finally ... they are too old to do or to mattter anymore...
Madam better to say mother in laws from both side... Now a days girls family destroys her family.. Now they openly says dusri achi wali shadi karwayenge kisi ache ladke se😅
Exactly exactly exactly its the real and main point of divorce,, meri MIL v yahi kehti hai Mere bete k liye to 100 line lagi hui hai ye nhi to koi or sahi leke aajau mai.....😢😢😢😢😢 so sad for myself cant say anything
In my own family ive seen chudail bahu n bechari saas... Dian saas n chupchap bahu...so can't blame everyone isnt same but their upbringing matters..if u learn to live peacefully in a family while ur growing n learn basic values then u wint think of torchuring other person...
The problem is Power struggle. Whose household is that? Who gets the decision making power!! Absolute power to Veto!! Two Alpha females cannot be under one roof continuously… clashes will happen and it will get ugly!!
True, mai itna pyar karti hu apni mother in law ko, but wo kabhi accha nhi bolti mujhe.. phir mera pati bhi mujhe bolta h tum kabhi kuch nhi bologi, nhi to divorce ki dhamki dene ko bolta rehta h… mai dukhi rehne lagi hu., mujhe ab kuch accha nhi lagta… mera pati bhi kabhi nhi bolta ki wo sabke liye kitna karti h, to isko mat bola karo.. wo bhi mujhe hi bolta rehta h… everyone want bahu bas sehti rahe, sabk katu vachan… but koi ye nhi bolta ladkiyo k liye ki jarurat se jyada mat saho, apne liye bhi kuch karo
Actually vo apni betiyon Ko aur beton ko sikhana chahiye pehle se.bura maat maniye ga ye har ghar ki kahani hai aur vo kabhi appreciate nahi karenge they just treat us like a maid without salary . So dont attach urself emotionally
So true parents ko or society ko ek limit rkhni chaaiye bas itna hi sahna h usse jyda nhi..... I think ek aurat sehati aa rahi h tbhi ye duniya chal rahi h jis din usne sehna band kar diya na to bawal ho jna h fir mard tarasta reh jaega aurat ki mohabbat ke liye 😅😅😅
Ye schai h mera dada 30 saal se meri mummy ko galiya de rha h daru pikr kyoki meri mummy sunti h ro leti h pr dada ko ghr se nhi nikal skti kyoki mummy ko pta h ye ghr uska nhi h sadi k 30 saal baad bi mummy ko lgta h ye ghr uska nhi h m unmarried hu or muje abi ye kha jata h ye ghr Tera nhi h sala kon sa ghr h hm ldkiyo ka smjh nhi aa rha h😢😢😢
True, it has happen to me. Within 36 days of marriage my mother in law and sister in law sent me to my brother house.... Still case in court she is not ready to take me back bcoz I don't match her status... I have no parents staying in my brother home.
I am very lucky in this matter…I don’t live with them …our interactions are very limited that is only on festivals through phone …although they talk to my hubby daily !!…and my husband never bitches abt me …whenever he talks he talks good things about me to them😊😊 . I go to their house like for 10 days once a year since they r very far and we both are working . So we take long holidays 3 times a year …one time I go to my mother’s house , othet on in laws and the 3rd one we go for vacation. I don’t do any fasting or wear sindur on daily basis and no one tells me to do those things!!… My husband big brother’s wife (his bhabhi) is so bad nature wise that I automatically have gone into good book list 😂😂😂 …i guess i am very lucky!! Since they don’t interfere in my life or say anything hurtful ever ….i also never stop my husband to help them financially or buy things for them (i don’t even ask how much money he sends and why ) …if he wants to tell that is fine ..it doesn’t bother me 😁
It's not bahu's duty to cook. She has her own office, work , career and her own children. If you cannot take care of your children from 25 years . Why are you troubling nahu??
I've been saying this for a while, whilst we focus in raising strong daughters, we have to sons with a strong mindset to accept strong women. If a man sides his mother or his wife, there's going to be an issue. Have you wondered why joint families largely became nuclear, simply because we don't learn how to draw boundaries. Mothers want to possess their sons even after their marriages. There's so much that needs to change in this spectrum!
Time has changed, if the boy Listen to his parents he's shravan kumar and if he listens to his wife he's joru ka gulam.... A mother in law was once a daughter in law ... Hence proved you cannot understand a woman when and how she will react... Depends on the circumstances. This topic is undebatable. I'm a women I have been through this , my kids unmarried right now but i have seen different examples in different families.
It' s literally 3 am and I am crying because of the insults and domestic violence my father's mother and my father did to my mom in front of everyone or alone! I am just asking how worse daughter I am that I can't even stand up for my mom who is the reason of every good thing to my life ...May god never give such weak daughter to anyone 🙏🏻..if my father can become a wild animal for his mother then I should have atleast stood up for my mother !
So why u here....go and talk nd otherwise take action....yanha comment karke,sympathy milegi.....khud ko week accept karne mein koi bahut acha kaam nahi hai....stand for ur mother who raise u...we don't want ur comment...ur mother want u
@@niharikathakur-jf3wu The thing is I stood up for her once and they insulted ,abused both my mom and me for days even more worse than they did that time for what I stood up...also I have my hard competitive studies with me so it really affected me ,my mom and my studies for that many days....then my mom suggested me to apologise as if this continued I would have been only crying and not studying...and I did what my mom suggested even when every single word I said were purely true, just for the long -run...they also can change their statements when you tell them their truth and make you the liar ..but I and God knows that I have never lied when I stood up...they can go beyond any limits just to make u silent and loose your stand(any abuses,any violence, I mean just anything)...also the situation are much more hard for facing in real life than the others may interpret !
@@astha03714 see...I don't know u nd I don't know whole scenario....nd I have no right to comment u..okey....but I said the more you cry, the weaker you will look...30 years ago my mother was in ur mother situation...but at that time I m only 2 year old ...my grandparents tortured my mother so much...but at that time I don't know what's going on.....now she is suffering from schizophrenia depression today..nd u can't imagine families ki kya situation hoti hai jinke family mein kisi ko depression hota hai....that's why I told u pls take stand...because agr baat hath se nikal jaaye toh situation sambhalna bahut mushkil hoti hai
To those facing domestic violence: please go for counseling. There are narcissistic, sociopaths, personality disorders, etc in these in-laws. So seek help on how to deal with them. There are NGOs that help women facing domestic violence. Try communicating with them. Be strong and fight back. Remember law is on your side, if you can prove violence torture, and you seek divorce, then you can demand alimony too. Indian domestic violence laws favour the women.but don't trust the police.
Very much true .. I too have tolerated a lot .. and then it did not take much time for my husband to see the other angle of his mother .. she dug the pit for herself 😅 and then we both kept her away from our married and family life .. we are happy and now she still gives an attempt but scared of doing anything worst .. I believe it’s not mother in law who spoils married life but it’s husband.. he needs to learning taking a stand for whoever is right .. be it mother or wife
My mother in law said the same thing…. I will change my daughter in law if she doesn’t agree to what I say. And I had overheard this over phone telling my then husband. Bad marriage scar you for life.
This should apply to the Mother In Law of a boy as well... These days mothers of women are also interfering unnecessarily in the lives of their daughters.. Don't be biased
Bcz she is not a daughter in first place, she is an outsider. No matter how hard she try to please her inlaws she will be targeted for every small thing. This is new scam calling DILs daughter, it’s just a lip service, in reality deep down all the inlaws has lot of animosity towards the girl, for bo reason.
I disagree, mere brother shravan kumar bhi hai aur apna vivaah bhi achhe se nibha rahe hain.He loves and respects his partner a lot!❤ he loves his sisters and respects his mother as well❤
Hindu muslim sikh isai every mother in law is usually same. In India where the mother earth is godess but Jo Ghar ki Laxmi ko stata hai uppar wala usse se zaroor badla leta hai.
Absolutely true, in some cases MIL is creating the problems n some cases DIL is creating problems... if women sort out their behaviour 80% of issues will be sorted..
In-laws treat dil as employee and they think that their duty is to assign tasks non stoply to dil. Matrimonal house must not feel like a work place. In US people value privacy and let dil stay away and live on their own. Even when they visit they don’t keep ordering them as if they have all rights. Ind is strange in treating woman. Dils must create boundaries with any worry. Mental peace is imp. If money matter then step into work force other than bearing mil or fil mis-treatment. Kids are not an insurance plan to pay off when they mature and grew up. How much work a dil do according to law they don’t have any right to own on house they live-in or even on the husband’s self aquired house. She will be kicked out anytime.
In my mother's home, daughter-in-law threatens mother. Brother supports his wife. Brother, wife n child causing mental harassment. Watching tv in living room till late night, which is where she sleeps, being 1 bhk. Mother spending sleepless nights. She makes breakfast for them, does the food prep for lunch, washes utensils, drying the washed clothes from washing machine n removing them once dried and folding it neatly. After doing all this, daughter -in-law complains sitting whole day on the sofa. Mother reached out to me for help. When I cross -questioned them, they were tongue-tied. Women welfare organisation intervened and now brother with his family are staying separately, having moved out of the house. Before when maid was kept, whenever she does not come, brother after he has come back late from work, at 12 midnight will be washing all the vessels. She everyday religiously, without fail with get ready in the evening n with children go to her mother's house which is nearby, leaving her children there and she goes out with her friend. When I was there, when the maid used to be absent, I used to wash the vessels, mop the house.
@@maumitamajumdar6831true its all about how much does husband respects his wife and their marriage. Most sons nowadays are in emotionally incestual relationship with their own mothers
Not every story is same...... So not every bahu or mother in law should be painted with the same colour..... Every household and their stories are different....
So true...i have experienced this from my mother-in-law and sister-in-law including my husband giving into this vile heinous act. I believe such sons should never get married.
True, Everyone talks about the modernization of women is responsible for divorce..... But no one talks about an illiterate old mindset insecure women and her traumatized statements towards her daughter in law.... Only a progressive and mature women can give her son and daughter in law a happy family....❤
So true
B it literate...it cn b equally disastrous...it has more to do wid d mindset n insecurities
Educated mil are also insecure in some cases.Maturity to accept a girl as a family member is the key here.Buy often they see the girl as a threat/enemy or a stranger.
@@FunwithPonnuso true , after 32 yrs of marriage my MIL still says ‘ mera beta kaafi hai ‘ I am like should I leave the house or better the world . My family ( minus me ) have closed room discussions . I was / is always the understanding bahu as my husband is the only son of a widowed mother 😢😅
Even the literate ones are too dangerous here. Be it literate or illiterate, they want control over the daughter in law
Motherinlaw is happy when her own husband is controlled by her and her daughters husband is controlled by her daughter but when her son listens to his wife phir toh qayamat hi qayamat..
You're right.. 200%
Sehi bola
Mother in laws of husbands are equally responsible for divorces they always interrupt in the matters of their daughters internal marital issues
This is so soooooo true.
Mother in laws who are supported by sister in laws ruins the family. Daugher in law is totally broken physically mentally emotionally spiritually. And no one stands for her. She has to fight her own battles. Above all the relatives knowing the truth makes situations more worst. Daughter in laws have pressure of her own parents to do compromise And sacrifice. Till then her energy gets depleted. Its imp for every girl to be independent nowdays.
Very true, women's health get affected
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True!
How Sister in law destroys families?
After 11 years of marriage I am still hearing about my skin tone and curly hair from my mother in law and sister in law ( of course not good words) Though in arranged marriage. I can't forget all those words I heard in 11 years.
Omg ...this is so true... I am also sailing in the same boat
Bahu remains an outsider always. She is a punching bag for the inlaws, Husband.
Very true
Extremely true
Don't be speak for yourself. Record it show your parents or or womens NGO. Your peace of mind & mental wellbeing being your women's health is important ❤think about it pray to God how will they respect you as a human first. 🙏🥲
These days daughter inlaws r doing the same thing here the victims r both at times sad but true
True
I felt like selling off my freedom and dignity to MIL for getting married to my husband..Father in law and my husband are so much afraid of MIL's anger that they never stopped her from hurting me by her insensitive taunts out of entitlement feeling.. first 3-4 yrs of my marriage were so bad, sad and stressful - I would go to nearby Saibaba temple and would cry in front of Baba for hours...Fortunately in my case my God has protected me by keeping her away from us since last 4-5 yrs
May you have only the loving people in & around you. Be it your husband or FIL. If not MIL
😂 I am a mother in law too ! I do not interfere with my daughter in laws at all ! But still they have problems . I end up doing chores and supporting them always in everything no matter what whenever we gtg ! The trouble is daughter in laws are not my daughters ! Neither am I their mother ! We are learning to understand and adjust every time we come together 😂 Sometimes it’s frustrating to be misunderstood but as a senior have to keep an open mind and try again ! With time , I have a certain bond with my older daughter in law , cannot say the same for the other . She doesn’t stay close ! My say is , women should STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST ANOTHER WOMAN ! UNLESS WE SUPPORT AND UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER , we continue to be the stereotypes saas bahu 😢 It’s difficult but not impossible! Men certainly CAN play a huge role here ! My sons do ! The moment they see me crossing certain boundaries they get in to support their wives and vice versa 😊 Human relations are complex but beautiful ! I love my daughter in laws no matter what ! They are mothers to my adorable grandkids ❤️ They are the lovely daughters I never had 😊 I am proud of them ! God bless my two beautiful girls 🙏🌸❤️
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Word is daughters in law
Aapne to pura letter hi likh diya wow
Same mistake in subtitles also.@@8lata
When talking about my sis in law, this is what I emphasis to my mom, stating mother in law has more experience in life so should show more maturity in handling DIL. Where as what we observe in most houses is just the opposite DIL are expected to understand and adjust causing more issues. DIL are not mature enough to understand the complexity of relations. They will definitely learn with time.
VERY RIGHTLY SAID. SHRAVAN IS SHRAVAN FOR PARENTS..
and nothing for wife
I have seen so many newly married couples or couple with little ones migrating out of india not just for fainacial opportunities but social freedom from older generations. They struggle abroad but doesnt want to go back to their parents or inlaws homes.
Very true
This is so true and I’m one of that person who moved away from my in laws. Whatsoever the worst situation I face being alone and handling 2 kids, I’m fine with it. But don’t want to be with in laws.
100% true. Some people leave the country to save their marriage.
@@shilpasrinivas7866yes one can't run from social obligations..u need to stick around family..
absolutely right
It doesnt matter the education or socioeconomic status of the DIL, if the husband is a weak man, the marriage is miserable and unstable
Mother in laws of husbands are equally responsible for divorces they always interrupt in the matters of their daughters internal marital issues and people say men are the problem everywhere women create drama or nautanki
My husband always threatened me to divorce since 2 nd say of our wedding. My mother in law played a huge role in my divorce after 17 yrs. I got so tired of threats that I left the house.
You should have left as soon as he threatened. Never wait years. It has no impact
Same here, after he got green card from me , he keep saying get out of this house or he was keep threatening to leave and had multiple affairs. And that too I never utter a single word , still he was doing something or other drama. Had to leave him after 13 years.
@@tp1720 aj kal pati ki bat nhi mano to sidha chodne k h bat krte hai ...wo v extra marital affair k wajah s ...duniya k samne aache bnage taki unpr koi shak v nhi kare aur biwi tang aakr kuch bol de to sidha chodne k dhmaki jaise k pre planned ho sab
@@tp1720 no not mother in law... husband ka affair hoga jo support nhi krta
Yess you never tolerate this kind of misbehave by any person.if husband bolta hai ki tuje chod dunga ye itna asan nahi hota hai.patni kya kya kar sakti hai kya wo nahi janta ? Kya sas nahi janti ki wo Jail Tak ja sakti hai ? ha aise parents hotae hai ki wo bahu ko kuch nahi samajte but husband acha ho to phir bhi chal jata hai but agar husband hi aisa ho to phir aise aadmi ke saath dar dar ke rahne ka koi matlab hi nahi hai in my point of view.pata nhi ki kab uska man bhar jaye aapse aur dudh me se makhi ki tarah aap ka khoon choose ke asp ki nikal de to use to acha hai ki aise aadmi ko khud hi chod do.atleast aap ka shoshan se to Bach jaoge.aise aadmi ko aap ki kimat kabhi nahi hogi to uske piche ghis jane se acha hai khud chod do
So true.. Mera bhi divorce meri mother in law ki vajah se hua hai.. And same taana sunte the ki main ghar se nikal dungi... Aakhir mein main khud nikal gayi..
Same. Me bhi apne husband se separate ho chuki hu, reasons are my husband's ignorance of each and everything I say, his mother and his sister who both feel it is their right to know every little detail between me and my husband, even the details of our intimate times. My husband somehow feels, it's okay to tell them everything. He in fact, keeps secrets from me. On top of all this, all of them are always ready to kick me out of the house, I left their house one day and we are separated.
@@nanditatiwari7882same problem. But no one stands for me and now i have 9 months old baby girl. Now i can't take divorce. They interfere in everything even about my baby's clothing. Before my baby my sil used to choose my clothes. They says if you don't like us just go but i know they will take my baby. That's why i am staying.....
Be financially independent and don't get married. If you want to experience motherhood then adopt an orphan or be a pet parent. Travel and enjoy life. End of problem.
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Unmarried single woman ko bohot mushkil se adoption ka rights diya jata hai
@@juita9is it so ??
@@juita9don’t then…. Having children is not easy either!!! So much responsibility and emotional attachment. Travel and live life.
Akele raho yaar,ho karna hai karo
The older generation is responsible for breaking the Indian social system becos if their greediness
Very well said. Joint family system should have been a boon for women empowerment but it is becoming a curse for many women
Yes my marriage was destroyed by my mother in law. She thought she will immediately get my ex husband remarried. Till today he is not married and she passed away as well. She destroyed two lives and also of my parents
Karma
As she passed away, you can now remarry him. And you won't have any harrasement in future. Happiness will return into you and your parents' life.
@@mallikarjun9796 The guy is unreliable, and of course damaged with no willingness to work on himself, and his inner child wounds. Why go back and traumatize oneself?
May b he didn't want to get married because he knew, again same saas bahu drama will start.
@@PracheeKorday Her mother in law is no more now. Read her comment again.
Very well said and this is true
Some MILs have so much arrogance, immaturity and a narcissistic attitude that they don’t realize that while they are wholeheartedly dedicated towards making their DILs life miserable, they are ruining two families. One their own and second the girls family. All this to satisfy their craziness and ego😢
My sas said... Me is ghr ki rani hu.. khade khade ghr se nikal dungi.. jab ghr se nikalna hai to bahu kyuu laye
Because of this I stopped talking with my MIL... I had so much mental peace
I have been tortured
100 percent true
A little Credit goes to FIL too...as far as I observed...FIL hold every power in house but somehow he never takes stand against injustice happening inside with his bahu...he is literally the man of the house ..who lead the house n his wife for several years till now...took dowry , took final decision of marriage.....who treats his damad like king but when it comes to bahu..hez always silence n plays along with his wife N LETS HIS WIFE DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO DO WITH BAHU...
True. Mother-in-laws are responsible but equally responsible are those sons who think they can ignore their wife like she's a nobody. Why cant these grown ass married sons understand this? They expect so many things from their wives but can't even balance between the 2 or 3 important females in their lives.
Bro she said this true.. Sasural me to koi apna nhi h.. Pati bhi nhi
💯 agree. After marriage life is hell for a woman. She's looked down upon by in-laws and by husband also.
A woman is all alone after marriage.
@@Elixir569NO she is not. It depends on the persons i.e both the ladies.
Very well said Mam! I have seen Mother in laws are self obsessed! They just want to control their son n daughter-in-law 's life. But why this type of typical old mentality still exists.
Because they hav been controlled by their mil and now they want to do same or more worse for their Dil. Devil mentality.
Because of insecurity. Also, in many cases some mothers in law themselves did not stay with their own Mil but expect their daughter in law to be under control, face their tantrums and stay with them. Hypocrisy
Exactly. Those times there were 5-6 sons in the family and only elder stayed with the parent. Rest all had nuclear family. So most of them did not go through the harrassment by their in laws but still hate their in laws even in the limited interaction they had with them. But same person now wants to control her DIL. So most of the cases they are not the victims of the past as it is being portrayed. They are just narcisstic. @@mukulsharma2413
When they are DIL they are angels
When they become MIL they become devil's
Why=
By the age fifty onwards almost all the feel good hormones and chemical are lost, most of the organs would have shrunk including the brain 🧠 up to thirty percent. So the normal rational thinking is lost they become irritable bad tampered. If society can replenish the feel good hormones and the chemical through good life style and diet with plenty of sunshine 🌞 the issues will be very much less severe it's geriatric issue.
I agree and they also talk ill about the daugher in laws with relatives ,they create such a imression of the daughter in law that she is bad in every thing But they ´do not understand that way you are spoilinng your own Family reputation. ,at the same time their daughters are expert and so good in everythingI went through it for so amny years but not uttering the word - result you spoil your mental and physchical health
A terrible senseless problem in India sadly causing divorces!
It’s there in western societies as well. Men usually don’t care about their parents as much but it still takes one visit or a thanksgiving dinner at in-law’s place. Wife takes that once in a while visit and puts an incident into an echo chamber and drags the husband down. They have domestic violence and higher divorce rates too so it’s not always the in-laws..it’s the women most of the time.
Isiliye in-laws ke sath nahi rehna chahiye.
Tb they cn b Pakistanis n ISI agents
@@shwetaparashar376 learn english first 😂😂
Nhi rhna chahiye mera dada 30 saal se meri mummy ko galiya de rha h m khud sun sun kr thk chuki hu 😢😢😢
@Pinkysuthar158 , Then what in heavens are YOU doing ?? Can't you tell him to stop it & see that he never harasses your mother again ...!😮
Yes, get a house from your father and shift there with your husband.
interference in a couple must stop.
Treating the daughter in law badly , destroys the marriage and also the grandchildren's happiness
Only when MIL grows old, she needs Bahu’s help and support. Then she is willing to get along with the bahu. Ghar ghar ki kahani hai
I have 3 sis-in laws and mother in law-I never feel like home in my in-laws house 😢 I feel like a guest 😢
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Ye sab ki wajah se aajkal ladkiyan single rehna pasand karti hai. Maine husband hi aisa dhundha jo pehle se job ki wajah se dusri city me rehta hai kyuki mujhe in laws ke sath rehna hi nahi tha.
Raise strong daughters not just kind sweet ones.
Don't sacrifice soft, kind and sweet nature for wrong people.. instead learn skills to identify, filter people, make better decisions for life, building a good life for yourself, handle people and situations but never ever change your good qualities.
Finally someone speaking sense to Indian society 🎉
That's the reason I refused all proposal from men who wants to live with their parents under same roof after marriage. Some of my female friends used to look me down as if they are so kind to accept the groom's parents, but they are also ready to fight and their entire family are also ready to fight with the in laws. I hate fights and very proud now.
You have done the right thing. There are many people who would give you moral science lecture but themselves are in a very bad relationship with their in laws. People don't honour live and let live policy in our society. They want people to suffer in the name of sacrifice. If you resist suffering you are a house breaker and a bad person.
@@anuraoy90 I am so happy I felt like I am not alone in this planet 😍😍 God bless you thank you for existing I wish you live longer with full of prosperity and health wealth, luck and fate love you so much
@@sonireddy6696 Thank you for the kind words. I wish you the same. 😊
@anuraoy90 😘😘
Now a.days it is different trend girls parents are playing crucial role in breaking the marriage❤❤
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The girl is narrating all the abuse meted to her In her in laws house. Ghar ki baat bahar nahi jaani chahiye.
Its my case.... mere hi saamne vo mere husband ko bol rahi thi k me meri beti ki thik se parvarish nahi kar rahi hu... mere papa k baare me bura bolti hai... aur mera pati bolta hai k tum 1 kaam se sun k dusre kaan se nikaaldo q k vo budhi hai... mene 1 baar meri saas ko jawab diya tha tb mere pati ne raat me hi muje boldiya k tum ghar se nikal jao aur mere sasur meri saas ka side lekr khade the... aisa lag raha tha k me sabke bich bohot akeli hogayi hu
Husband ko yad dilao ki saas sasur aj bhi sath hai qki sasur ne side li thi tumhari maa ki. Hum shayad sath ne rhe agar aise hi hal rhe to.
Rakh ke marna seekho.
Apke pas bhi dimag hai, zubaan hai. Gharwale bhi hai support ke liye.
Aur jo galat hai wo galat hai chahe pati ho chahe saas
@@Sc123-z2z Bring husband on your side,.....respect in laws, but take a stand for yourself,....I know it's easier said than done,.....I have gone through same things,with a monster in law , plus 3 conniving sisters in law,.....I treated everyone well, but today my husband understands and is on my side,....be a little cunning.....be good to everyone, but be a leader......respect yourself n they will ,respect u......
@@renna120I'm glad that you're out of that situation and your husband now supports you. Kya wo pehle aapke against rehte thy? I'm facing a terrible situation and my husband stops talking to me and displays passive aggression to teach me a lesson. Also, with time he's becoming more manipulative, disrespectful and inconsiderate and forces me to visit his family (toxic mother & abusive unmarried elder sister) regardless of how they treat me while he stays quiet on the matter and even supports them.
I am going to treat my daughter in law like my own, wont let her life be like my alway doing housework. My son needs to help her equally. Hope I get a daughter in law like a daughter.
Daughter-in-law can never become a daughter. She will have her own mother for that equation. It becomes one sided love which is never reciprocated and then the disappointment and bitterness comes. Just understand that only the son has found a wife. Everyone else's life should carry on as usual. Better to accept this and adapt oneself, by changing the way we think of our grown children, and the high value we attach to a couple's marriage. Marriage partners form an inner circle, and everyone else falls in the outer circle.
So true and they even brainwash their son against the bahu 😢 and the couple ends up fighting for no reason
Right
This used to happen in generation before the present one. Now its totally the opposite
Not only mother in law a team of sister in laws aswell do together in this!!
Exactly
Even father in law
True
They are much more dangerous than single mil. She may be dangerous but will stop atleast when things start to worsen for her son but these are like vultures only full destruction mode on seeing bhabhi in their life and will stop until he divorces her or she dies.if he dies again they will blame her new drama starts.very dangerous
Don't generalise. It may be ur case.
Not only mother in low but also father in law .
Yes. Saas bina baat badnaam h. Sasur bhi kum nhi hote
Finally someone bought this up
Sasur act as drishtrastra..yeh kya hora Raha hai.When they perfectly aware what is going in a household.
Correct… finally they know everything yet remained silent 😤
@@swatijuyal73 they r main culprit
It is both ways, mother in law to son is equally responsible
Shravan here is that poor lad who was so devoted to his parents that he carried them literally on his shoulders in old their old age. He was unfortunately killed when an arrow from King Dasarath's bow, unwittingly struck him, while he was drawing water from a well to quench the thrist of his parents. Even in his dying moments his thoughts were on his duty towards his parents, who died on hearing of the death of their son. But not before cursing the King to face the same fate as theirs on his death bed
True,then y marriage happening,if u want to be mom's boy everytime,never get married then, respect caring parents too imp, but don't be dominating every time
@@sweetswatshorts Both need to understand their boundaries,.....like we do with our own parents.....when women want to work, in-laws can look after house n children......
All in-laws not supportive so issue in families
My mother in law and my nanad destroyed my life They had. emotionally tortured me and my husband They ruined my life
Especially if the nanad is a frustrated woman with 2 failed marriages
Same here
@@royshelly7982 y
Ghar ghar ki kahani as couple husband wife should understand eachother after marriage ur life happiness imp,u can't change negative people so better ignore
In my case .. my Mil and my dever destroy my life
This should end now. Thats why I am for western culture
@@RojaJanemanNo they set boundaries in a harsh way!! It’s there because… women!!! But not at India level!!
@@RojaJaneman you are also generalizing, I live in the US and not every family is like that!! But here the topic is mother in law, our Indian boys are more of “mamma’s boys” so that gives her an upper hand in all matters. Thereby creating issues.
That 'Shravan Kumar' example was so true! The reason I am still rejecting marriage proposal, (I am 31 yrs) is the fact that I have spotted "mama's boy". There are guys who will clearly have big expectations from the girl and mainly one of becoming 'the ideal daughter-in-law for his parents. There are guys, who if we fought over something will tell every detail to their mother and sisters. There was a brilliant scene in Rocky and Rani movie also, where Alia Bhatt is trying to confront Ranveer's father and Ranveer gets furious at her. To which Alia says "you can't even look into ur father's eyes"....Many men have been raised like that.
Today's daughter in law is tomorrow's mother in law.
@@karthikkannan4086 don't worry today s women are not like traditional women to torture their daughter in law for dowry ect today's women are educated and well mannered I guess they follow the policy of live and let live unlike uneducated women from the past
@@karthikkannan4086 don't worry today s women are not like traditional women to torture their daughter in law for dowry ect today's women are educated and well mannered I guess they follow the policy of live and let live unlike uneducated women from the past
My mother in law once said that she can make me out of the house and my mother needs to beg for me to come again.. I said go ahead if u can😂 my mother in law is horrible n she needs the power always..
And what about the frequent interferences of the mother of the bahu? Now a days it has become a severe problem for a couple also. Today's parents of the girl have become more aggressive.
Yes u are so much correct. They want their son in-law to be their servant.
This is true!! My life is testimony! Now that I have a son myself, I know that my behaviour will actually impact my son's marriage...
Loved it. Finally truth being said. ❤❤
Mother in laws in the sense, both the mother in lawssssss.... daughter ki mummy also plays a pivotal role in a divorce by indulging herself in the trivial household issues of the daughter. They don't let her live the life in her terms.
The in-laws who take pleasure in hurting their DIL have booked for themselves a special place in narak.
Most mother in law never agree to what daughter in law does . She always finds some mistakes as if her son is married to some machine. Whatever the achievements daughter in law does she never praises as his son does. Overall she feels as if she comes from the outer world. In the early days women used to endear these but now all are educated and have jobs.
I totally agree with you they have only one line and one power ghar se nikal dungi
23 years and still an outsider... but now i say you look after your kind.. 😂😂😂 i have no one on mine.. i have my peace of mind finally ... they are too old to do or to mattter anymore...
Madam better to say mother in laws from both side... Now a days girls family destroys her family.. Now they openly says dusri achi wali shadi karwayenge kisi ache ladke se😅
Better not to marry 😂😂😂
Exactly exactly exactly its the real and main point of divorce,, meri MIL v yahi kehti hai Mere bete k liye to 100 line lagi hui hai ye nhi to koi or sahi leke aajau mai.....😢😢😢😢😢 so sad for myself cant say anything
To bol do... Dikhao lakey. Mere se acchi to mil hi nahi sakti... 😂😂😂
In my own family ive seen chudail bahu n bechari saas... Dian saas n chupchap bahu...so can't blame everyone isnt same but their upbringing matters..if u learn to live peacefully in a family while ur growing n learn basic values then u wint think of torchuring other person...
The problem is Power struggle. Whose household is that? Who gets the decision making power!! Absolute power to Veto!! Two Alpha females cannot be under one roof continuously… clashes will happen and it will get ugly!!
Exactly
Everyone should learn the basic value to lead the house not just daughter in law
True, mai itna pyar karti hu apni mother in law ko, but wo kabhi accha nhi bolti mujhe.. phir mera pati bhi mujhe bolta h tum kabhi kuch nhi bologi, nhi to divorce ki dhamki dene ko bolta rehta h… mai dukhi rehne lagi hu., mujhe ab kuch accha nhi lagta… mera pati bhi kabhi nhi bolta ki wo sabke liye kitna karti h, to isko mat bola karo.. wo bhi mujhe hi bolta rehta h… everyone want bahu bas sehti rahe, sabk katu vachan… but koi ye nhi bolta ladkiyo k liye ki jarurat se jyada mat saho, apne liye bhi kuch karo
Actually vo apni betiyon Ko aur beton ko sikhana chahiye pehle se.bura maat maniye ga ye har ghar ki kahani hai aur vo kabhi appreciate nahi karenge they just treat us like a maid without salary . So dont attach urself emotionally
So true parents ko or society ko ek limit rkhni chaaiye bas itna hi sahna h usse jyda nhi..... I think ek aurat sehati aa rahi h tbhi ye duniya chal rahi h jis din usne sehna band kar diya na to bawal ho jna h fir mard tarasta reh jaega aurat ki mohabbat ke liye 😅😅😅
Ye schai h mera dada 30 saal se meri mummy ko galiya de rha h daru pikr kyoki meri mummy sunti h ro leti h pr dada ko ghr se nhi nikal skti kyoki mummy ko pta h ye ghr uska nhi h sadi k 30 saal baad bi mummy ko lgta h ye ghr uska nhi h m unmarried hu or muje abi ye kha jata h ye ghr Tera nhi h sala kon sa ghr h hm ldkiyo ka smjh nhi aa rha h😢😢😢
True, it has happen to me.
Within 36 days of marriage my mother in law and sister in law sent me to my brother house....
Still case in court she is not ready to take me back bcoz I don't match her status...
I have no parents staying in my brother home.
I am very lucky in this matter…I don’t live with them …our interactions are very limited that is only on festivals through phone …although they talk to my hubby daily !!…and my husband never bitches abt me …whenever he talks he talks good things about me to them😊😊 . I go to their house like for 10 days once a year since they r very far and we both are working . So we take long holidays 3 times a year …one time I go to my mother’s house , othet on in laws and the 3rd one we go for vacation. I don’t do any fasting or wear sindur on daily basis and no one tells me to do those things!!…
My husband big brother’s wife (his bhabhi) is so bad nature wise that I automatically have gone into good book list 😂😂😂 …i guess i am very lucky!!
Since they don’t interfere in my life or say anything hurtful ever ….i also never stop my husband to help them financially or buy things for them (i don’t even ask how much money he sends and why ) …if he wants to tell that is fine ..it doesn’t bother me 😁
It's not bahu's duty to cook. She has her own office, work , career and her own children.
If you cannot take care of your children from 25 years . Why are you troubling nahu??
😅my ex MIL was super double faced.😅
That's why she became an ex
I've been saying this for a while, whilst we focus in raising strong daughters, we have to sons with a strong mindset to accept strong women. If a man sides his mother or his wife, there's going to be an issue. Have you wondered why joint families largely became nuclear, simply because we don't learn how to draw boundaries. Mothers want to possess their sons even after their marriages. There's so much that needs to change in this spectrum!
Not all are like that.there are also evil daughter in laws and son in laws talking from experience the way my mother was treated
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Shravan Kumar Joke was contextually beautiful and also smiles of both of you
Time has changed, if the boy Listen to his parents he's shravan kumar and if he listens to his wife he's joru ka gulam.... A mother in law was once a daughter in law ... Hence proved you cannot understand a woman when and how she will react... Depends on the circumstances. This topic is undebatable. I'm a women I have been through this , my kids unmarried right now but i have seen different examples in different families.
So true.......
20's kids are diff then 85...so yeah...our generation could be better if we start with us.
My mother-in-law is a total power freak. She tried her best to destroy me and my marriage.
It' s literally 3 am and I am crying because of the insults and domestic violence my father's mother and my father did to my mom in front of everyone or alone! I am just asking how worse daughter I am that I can't even stand up for my mom who is the reason of every good thing to my life ...May god never give such weak daughter to anyone 🙏🏻..if my father can become a wild animal for his mother then I should have atleast stood up for my mother !
So why u here....go and talk nd otherwise take action....yanha comment karke,sympathy milegi.....khud ko week accept karne mein koi bahut acha kaam nahi hai....stand for ur mother who raise u...we don't want ur comment...ur mother want u
@@niharikathakur-jf3wu The thing is I stood up for her once and they insulted ,abused both my mom and me for days even more worse than they did that time for what I stood up...also I have my hard competitive studies with me so it really affected me ,my mom and my studies for that many days....then my mom suggested me to apologise as if this continued I would have been only crying and not studying...and I did what my mom suggested even when every single word I said were purely true, just for the long -run...they also can change their statements when you tell them their truth and make you the liar ..but I and God knows that I have never lied when I stood up...they can go beyond any limits just to make u silent and loose your stand(any abuses,any violence, I mean just anything)...also the situation are much more hard for facing in real life than the others may interpret !
@@astha03714 see...I don't know u nd I don't know whole scenario....nd I have no right to comment u..okey....but I said the more you cry, the weaker you will look...30 years ago my mother was in ur mother situation...but at that time I m only 2 year old ...my grandparents tortured my mother so much...but at that time I don't know what's going on.....now she is suffering from schizophrenia depression today..nd u can't imagine families ki kya situation hoti hai jinke family mein kisi ko depression hota hai....that's why I told u pls take stand...because agr baat hath se nikal jaaye toh situation sambhalna bahut mushkil hoti hai
Mere papa jab mami ko marne jate hai to me bich me kada hojata hu 😂 ki agar mami ko marna hai to muje Maro or me 18 saal ka hu 🥲 tab bhi marte hai
To those facing domestic violence: please go for counseling. There are narcissistic, sociopaths, personality disorders, etc in these in-laws. So seek help on how to deal with them. There are NGOs that help women facing domestic violence. Try communicating with them. Be strong and fight back. Remember law is on your side, if you can prove violence torture, and you seek divorce, then you can demand alimony too. Indian domestic violence laws favour the women.but don't trust the police.
After having kids being a working woman we cannot tell our mother in law to always take care of our child
both husband's and wife's MIL plays imp role I feel 😔
Very much true .. I too have tolerated a lot .. and then it did not take much time for my husband to see the other angle of his mother .. she dug the pit for herself 😅 and then we both kept her away from our married and family life .. we are happy and now she still gives an attempt but scared of doing anything worst .. I believe it’s not mother in law who spoils married life but it’s husband.. he needs to learning taking a stand for whoever is right .. be it mother or wife
Bitter but truth....
Lets not forget there are highly toxic daughter in laws who play a role in breaking families.
My mother in law said the same thing…. I will change my daughter in law if she doesn’t agree to what I say. And I had overheard this over phone telling my then husband. Bad marriage scar you for life.
Mam r you aware of daughter in laws who make their mother in law work like maids 😂
@@malinimukherjee8668 oh really I never I show vice versa 😂😂
This should apply to the Mother In Law of a boy as well... These days mothers of women are also interfering unnecessarily in the lives of their daughters.. Don't be biased
Agar beti pareshaan karti hai to usko ghar se to nahi nikaal dete hai usko ..to fir bahu ko kyu nikaalte hai ...
You have asked a very good question
Bcz she is not a daughter in first place, she is an outsider. No matter how hard she try to please her inlaws she will be targeted for every small thing. This is new scam calling DILs daughter, it’s just a lip service, in reality deep down all the inlaws has lot of animosity towards the girl, for bo reason.
I disagree, mere brother shravan kumar bhi hai aur apna vivaah bhi achhe se nibha rahe hain.He loves and respects his partner a lot!❤ he loves his sisters and respects his mother as well❤
Even father in law troubles, tortures, throw away bags
Finally i got d best vdo Relatable to my life.. I divorced my husband just bcoz he was a mummas boy nd never understood me..
Mere Mann ki baat
Definitely this lady has gone through a lot in marriage
Well said. It's a huge problem in Indian society. Mothers- in- law should learn to let go off the reins.
Hindu muslim sikh isai every mother in law is usually same. In India where the mother earth is godess but Jo Ghar ki Laxmi ko stata hai uppar wala usse se zaroor badla leta hai.
No,not all mother in laws are bad,and not all daughter in laws are good,they separate their son from the family..
It is my father in law keeps saying that I will get you divorce... Me and my husband laugh out loud 😂😂😂
Omg... same thing happened to us when we got married.. my fil said he will get us divorced within 6mnths and my husband held my hand more tightly..❤❤
Don't live in their house... Just have your home even if it is rented. I am saying this as a premarital consultant.
@@Partibha.R I wish it was that easy...we are trying though .. in the meanwhile i can only pray everybody gets mental peace.
To fix this saas /bahu issues…people need to stop watching 3rd class “Ekta Kapoor” serials. She’s destroying society.
It is the Sad Reality of Indian Society 😢😢
Absolutely true, in some cases MIL is creating the problems n some cases DIL is creating problems... if women sort out their behaviour 80% of issues will be sorted..
No one tell this too men...😢
Sasural k hum ekele hi rahte hai... husband bhi ghar k hissa nai mahnte, 😢
Efforts loge to Ghar ka hissa ban jaoge, damad wala attitude nh rakho.
Mother in Law for a Husband is no less. They are in fact worse than a Son Mother.
In-laws treat dil as employee and they think that their duty is to assign tasks non stoply to dil. Matrimonal house must not feel like a work place. In US people value privacy and let dil stay away and live on their own. Even when they visit they don’t keep ordering them as if they have all rights. Ind is strange in treating woman. Dils must create boundaries with any worry. Mental peace is imp. If money matter then step into work force other than bearing mil or fil mis-treatment. Kids are not an insurance plan to pay off when they mature and grew up. How much work a dil do according to law they don’t have any right to own on house they live-in or even on the husband’s self aquired house. She will be kicked out anytime.
In my mother's home, daughter-in-law threatens mother. Brother supports his wife. Brother, wife n child causing mental harassment. Watching tv in living room till late night, which is where she sleeps, being 1 bhk. Mother spending sleepless nights. She makes breakfast for them, does the food prep for lunch, washes utensils, drying the washed clothes from washing machine n removing them once dried and folding it neatly. After doing all this, daughter -in-law complains sitting whole day on the sofa. Mother reached out to me for help. When I cross -questioned them, they were tongue-tied. Women welfare organisation intervened and now brother with his family are staying separately, having moved out of the house.
Before when maid was kept, whenever she does not come, brother after he has come back late from work, at 12 midnight will be washing all the vessels. She everyday religiously, without fail with get ready in the evening n with children go to her mother's house which is nearby, leaving her children there and she goes out with her friend.
When I was there, when the maid used to be absent, I used to wash the vessels, mop the house.
Always better to live in nuclear family after marriage
Even in nuclear family also MIL put an impact
@@maumitamajumdar6831true its all about how much does husband respects his wife and their marriage. Most sons nowadays are in emotionally incestual relationship with their own mothers
Not every story is same...... So not every bahu or mother in law should be painted with the same colour..... Every household and their stories are different....
I dont know why...but read the whole comment...i come on only one conclusion...every in laws family is very bad but our family is too good.....nice
Mother-in-law include both sides. There r girls side parents who have also destroy the marriage.
My mother in law is same, very arrogant
So true...i have experienced this from my mother-in-law and sister-in-law including my husband giving into this vile heinous act. I believe such sons should never get married.
MILs vary. Not the same story in every country🎉
Right,mam ap bilkul sahi kaha rahi hai.Mother - in law ka bhut bada role hota hai.❤❤❤❤
Very badly she concluded
Just to gain publicity
True , the main problem is That in laws r interfering in son's life . They don't understand that their son is mature, let allow him to lead his life.