WOW!!!! Kya himmat ki baat hai Arihant bhai. Badiya topics discuss kiye hai. Yeh sab baatein sab ke mann mein hai par koi discuss nahi karta. Aapne sahi topics uthaye hai. All logical points covered.
Main USA mein hi hon kuch saalo se. yahan ka family system strong hai. Jaise humme China se aage badne ki galat faimi hai vaise humme WEST ke culture se better hone ki galat faimi hai. West practicality or scientific basis pe family manage karte hai. Jaldi shaadi karte hai or 3-4 bacche karte hai. Wealth ko baccho ko dete hai or bacche maa baap se Bahut pyaar bhi karte hai. Family time quality se spend karte hai. Saas bahu ke jhagde nahi hote. Or sabse baddi baat rote nahi rehte.
Middle class family k problems ko bahut hi badhiya se discuss kiya hai..... It is very true about each middle family even in small cities also.... Hats off to Arihant.
I am watching this while cooking for my family after coming from a 10 hour office shift. And prepared lunch before going to the office. This is so relatable and honest one.
Kaun nahi karta. Sab ladies karte. Hum bhi karte12 ghante bahar kaam karne jaate, subah sabka khana juice nashta, raat ko aake bhi sab banake khilake, kitchen saaf karke, homework karaake, khud ki padhayi, 12 baje soti. I sleep only 4 hours. I also do yoga or walk at 5am
One of its kind Guruji. I am huge fan of Amit Sangwan Ji. been following him for almost 2 years now, and from very beginning his new channels Guruji from Gurugram and Saral Jyotish..
Hats off Sir.... finally somebody spoke truth so openly about confused parenting, glorify bachelorhood, clash of interest among family members, power politics in family...I really like the most the idea of staying seprate from parents.....even i have experience that when we stay seprate, we have more love, care and space this gives us chance to develop our independent, unbiased perspectives.......I strongly support this movement, Sir......more so ..I like your thoughts of increasing knowledge with awareness so that we can not be fooled by any so called baba or political leader or celebrity......i totally agree that if India as a nation wants to grow, family members should be happy. This will help to increase GDP too
Another problem I want to highlight is with parents. They want their daughters to be independent, live comfortable and luxurious life and stay away from in laws. But when the topic of daughter in law comes, whole scenario is turned 180°. My very simple advice to parents. Don't expect things from your DIL that you haven't trained your own daughter for.
Salute bro ! I hardly find men who can speakout brutal truth about family politics. Sabko pata hota hai, notice bhi karte hain but bolta koi nahi. Agar galti se bhi muh khol diya iss hypocracy pe ya biwi ki madad kar di toh kalyugi beta kehlayenge aur joru ka gulam !
@@blissful_Life111 Yeah this is true, even my family isn't different from this. That's the reason I am not gonna marry because neither I can go against my parents nor I can keep quiet for the injustice they will do to my wife. Now I can't escape from the role of a son but I can escape from role of a husband so gonna remain unmarried for life✌️.
Bang on! Parents and in-laws have become toxic these days. But nobody talks about it because they're always kept on a high pedestal in our society. That's sad and creates a huge burden on the couple, sometimes leads to divorce as well.
Very easy to blame one side. I think the parents nowadays are most adjusting and girls nowadays don’t want to share household responsibilities but want all the benefits
A very sensible guest who provides alternative thinking at home and in the society and overall life. We as a society have stopped asking questions, we feel comfortable in the echo chamber only. please bring such guests on regularly.
tbh most of the points r random trash and not much different than what old uncles balbber in gatherings and all. Nowadays every second random person is becoming a life advisor.
@@NoOne-kx7zs you are entitled to your response and thoughts! Much appreciated. I value it, if someone makes me look at life differently, I don't seek his or anyone's suggestions. I just want to challenge my social or regular beliefs, so that I can improve on my thoughts and life, therefore uplift my family and friends life as well.
@@Ashish-co4sq if you think his 'advices' help you improve your life then fine..... however they certainly ain't bemificial AT ALL for men in their 20s. nearly all of his audience are older age uncle/aunties...and half of his time is focused on bashing unmarried young men& buying over inflated properties in gurgaon.
I don't know why people are really commenting wrong things.. May be they are not married.. Example given by him ki hamara beta kaam nahi karega is so true.. I have seen married ladies working on dual things but boys wont do anything because of parents.. Hamare bete ko to in kamako ki to aadat hi nahi he.. Jaise ki padhi likhi ladkiya apne ma ke pet se sab sikh kar aati he.. At least now when both husband and wife are working shout help each other.. Its dual responsibility
Uska naam kese le liya..pti ka naam leti ho , use kese bol diya fridge m bottle bhr k rkh do, ab ak aadmi chahiye kya tumhe ghr k kaam k liye b, itnni jldi so k ittni late uth ri ho .. these are common taunts 😂😂 kbi na kbi khi na khi sune honge ya to jhut bol lo khud se 😂
Bhai mai khud bhi job karta hun or wife bhi job karti hai...mai uski puri help karta hun kitchen me bhi subha bacche to ready karne me bhi or room ki saaf safai me bhi....phir bhi wife ko kam Hi lagta hai........maine to Soch liya hai chahe mera budhapa kharab ho jaye par apni wife ko Bhi khush nahi rehne dunga bhudape me...meri jawani barbaad uska budhapa barbaad😂
This is so accurate! Wish I could give this guest a hug 🤗 started my career at Infosys worked like a slave 10-8:00 pm even on weekends. Didn’t have energy used to read a lot of books and finally started my own business at the age of 33 it’s so different working for yourself and working for someone else. Marriage has been greatest asset for me, my husband working helped me get out of the corporate world and try something new.
I wanna ask when you are working for 10 hours, what really are you working on? Are you really working for whole 10 hours or just marking your presence at the office. And if it is the latter.....then this need to need changed.
Really hit the hammer on the nail! Its sad that so much narcissistic behaviour is normalised & in-built into Indian households, if we set healthy boundaries we are shamed & told that we are disrespectful, if we prioritise our mental health, we are called selfish or too sensitive, if we reduce contact with toxic family we are called ungrateful.. This need to be called out & this needs to change..
Will you be a better MIL? I think most women become narcissist as they grow old and the DIL has to bear the mood swings of the MIL. The only way to deal with this is by breaking the generational trauma that starts with you and I.
Sir bilkul logical baate kar rahe hai. Pahle mujhe bhi lagta tha ki meri mummy sab itna ache se shaant dimag se kaise ghar sambhal leti hai par jab bhi Dadi ghar aati ya hum gaon jate the to pura tension hi rahta inn logo ko sab baat phariyani rahti thi phir bhi mujhe lagta tha ki dadi me hi galti hai par abb meri 3 month pahle shaadi hui hai aur abb fir se tension start ho chuka hai ghar me. Har jagah ego clash ho raha hai sabka, pahle Dadi aur mummy ka tha aur abb Dadi, Mummy aur wife ke bich me jhagda hai.Meri to gend phatt jati hai yaar😂
I would just suggest you to take the side of the person who is right. If your mom is right. Then support her. If your wife is right then support her. Because the more you let go of the wrong person, the more empowered they will feel and more the friction will increase. Time to strap your masculinity on and face it head on😂 I know it’s hard. Ek maa hai aur ek biwi. But until you take a stand, ye bawal zindagi bhar chalega😅
Yeah you're right but always do the needful separately. ALWAYS . Coz ek dusre ke samne aap kisi ko bhi nhi samjha paoge alag alag hi baat krni chahiye and dono ko hi samjhana pdega otherwise kalesh will continue to the eternity. @@lakshmikrithika2521
Kuch ceejon ko ignore kiya jaata hai har ek ko. Ap apni wife ko apna pyar jataiye aur kahiye ki aap apni mom ko nahi chod sakte but apki wife ki ek khaas jegah apki life me hai jisko koi fill nahi sakta, meri saas bhi mere saath rehti hain pr mere husband bahot acche se deal karte hain, I also have some issues but life me problems to hoti hi hain kya karenge yahi life hai. Apni mom ko bhi samjhayiye ki apki wife apki life ka part hain aur aisa kuch na bolo jo apki wife ko buri lage dono ko samjhao
I completely agree with the last point... I am a CA, and I love to dance. I feed my soul by dancing so that I am happy and ready to work as a CA. I work as a CA so that I can dance and travel.
Mamas boy is biggest problem for Indian subcontinent men. I have seen in Canada that men talking to their mothers father for hours sharing every incident happen in the whole day.
It's because mamas convince their betas saying that women are very shrewd and smilingly take all your wealth and make you a fool. The real keys are given by betas pitajis to their mamas.
@@harshvirsingh8688 it is both way ? Here I am just criticising about men who r sharing every single minor detail to their parents. From past 2 yrs, I am working from home so I have seen and heard lot of guys who came to shared home talking with their mothers father's as much they talk with their GFS. I started feeling Mamas boy is big thing and it actually makes men mentally unstable, vulnerable they can be easily manipulated by their parents, they lost critical and analytics thinking, can't take decisions on their own. I personally feel that men should not be dependent on their parents too much. I also love my parents but my conversation with my parents never went over 10 min that too on occassional basis. But yeah I have access to my parents home cameras that has audio features so while working, I have one screen specifically for my parents where I saw them daily what they do or see my pets in Indian Punjab. But I can't say I'm Mamas boy as I have my own life, I never talk about who I am dating, what happens in a day, how is my dating life, how is my professional life, neither I ask any advice from them about my GFS over the time nor about anything else. Yeah when sometimes I feel low I call them and talk for hours but that is rare thing. I have seen parents ruining life of their children when they get married or dated a girl that they don't like. Parents usually have a tendency of control freak.
M 2 saalon se Amij ji ke saare channels dekhti hu . Unke videos ka yahi Saar h k apni family ko khush haal bana lo by healthy commnunication in family then baaki sab apneaap sahi ho jayega .
Lekin jin families me respect k naam pe distance hi maintain karne ka chalan ho waha kaise hoga ye?! Jaha baap baccho se ghulne Milne unke sath baith k unki do baate sunne ko parampara k khilaf manta ho waha kaise hoga ye?!!
In Older times Joint Family 👪 System works better because of Big House's At that time our Population was less than 40 Crores & People knows some Activity like Dance, Music, Art, Sport, etc Which they do Jointly according to situations If People don't know these things they will discuss Money, Assets Discussing Money is not Bad but discussing only Money & making it as a Top Priority then Toxic Competition will come in 🇬🇧 Education 📚 System has big hand in destroying Joint Family System - Toxic Competition Classmates fighting like Animals Only Money Oriented Mindset (NEP will change this in 10 - 15 Year's) Not everyone can Buy Separate House or Afford Renting a House It needs too much money for a Good Size House 🏡 Otherwise they will have to adjust in a Small House Until Population is Reduced much can't be done in this Situation If they have Money they can make Big House for Joint Living but with Privacy Big Room's & Enough Space for Everyone Personal Moments I agree People need Space If House is too small there Privacy will be Exposed But Nuclear Family or Semi Nuclear Family System will not help It will solve Some Problems but it will Create New Problems too Members can join for Food & Fun Other thing's can be done Separately or Jointly according to there like & dislikes If any member falls ill 🤧🤒🤢 they can help eachother Women will get help in Periods Men will get help in Outside Threats - (Currently Our Environment is not Crime free By Good Education, Law & Order it will improve but Some Part of Crime will remain there) Children grown in Joint Family are more Wise & Caring I know some of you will say Joint Family Members are Toxic They don't care for Privacy Everytime some kind of Fight is Happening in the house This is not because of the Joint Family System It is because of 🇬🇧📚 System, Cinema Effect, Only Money 🤑 Oriented Society Once these things will change Peace 😊 will Come If Family is Toxic you can live Separately You can get apart from them - No issues Now People have Choice in this But I will say before moving out try to solve issues if issues didn't solved after applying all ways then move away But Currently People start thinking of getting apart from Childhood & Parents, School doesn't teach us - How bundle of Sticks are more stronger than Single Stick They teach in Books not on Ground Level
I am glad you are doing such podcast. Aise Or bhi podcasts hone chahiye❤❤❤❤ Basic communication skills nahi hai Indian middle class families me. I also feel that some kind of hobby and activities should be made mainstream for our elders in families . Like mummy, papa ki ek social life honi chahiye through some kind of activities.
Best remedy would be to give everyone some relaxation time in a day. Men should start helping in household activities. In laws should start understanding that a girl comes from another family and is staying with them. So they have extra responsibility to make her comfortable. But we see is reverse. In laws are on ego trip. Men dont care about family members and their problems . Just want to things to automatically solve. Even in nuclear families husbands dont do any household work most of the time even if wife is working . Will make execuses of needing time to relax but wont think about wives relaxation time. Biggest villan is Men who want their wives to do seva of in laws but will never do that themselves even of their own parents.
I am a married working woman , constantly struggling mentally between my will to grow in my career and grow my family !! I want both and i feel this burden everyday!! 🥺
@@tarunsharma8460 it is not easy to do that when u join a workforce after taking a certain gap period from your career especially in white collar jobs .The women have to start there career from scratch and u cannot explain the gap jn your resume because from work point of view you have done nothing to gain experience and acquire new skills. I am saying this because my mother also took a 4 year gap in hee career for raising Me and my sister and tried to resume her career
u r a hindu its ur dharm to hv kids atleas 1 career chahiye 6 month ka ML hai.. train ur mind to b calm n kind to urself n the baby u vl hv 😊.. then get physically fit go for walk min 45min get physically strong n then plan kids😊 believe me its a diff experience that cant mtach n thg.. just shared wht i did... hope it helps😊
@@priharahj5515aap fees admission bachhe ka sab help karenge na😂 inko because she wants money and time to raise her kids baaki gyaan usko pata hai. Jab vo job pe jaaye tab safety k sath bachhe ko sambhaloge na? And yes bachhe ko school tution classes vagera safely time lene jaana. Help her in house hold chores. Agar bachhe chahiye to ek environment banana padta hai puri family ko mil k. Akeli aurat kya kare. Uske husband ko bhi salaah do help kare ghar k kaam mai. Aur saas sasur ko bolo khud ka kaam kare.
You want both, feel burdened about that why? Time is limited always remember. Did you ever solve/attend two different kind of questions at a time in exam/ interview? I am not saying somebody can't but the time it will take. To satisfy family you need to handle emotions to handle your career to you need to be smart to be yourself and happy you need somebody? Does earning make you independent completely? Maybe financially but can we ever be independent socially? The answers will be different for everyone according to what they want. We learn about life as it goes. New things uncertainty tough times will need a self reflection hold yourself & emerge bigger better Good Luck (20%)😅😅
Agree with you 200% on every issue. Problem of middle class insecure parent- na jiyo na jeene do😃 You are the first person on Indian platforms who speaks my mind. Seen it all though remotely from USA🙏
This saas-bahu drama is a scary thing that is restraining me from marriage even at the perfect age. I am a boy & I don't like to involve in such chaos.
भाई यहा तो सास को नौकरी भी करानी है बहू से फिर घर के कामों का ताना भी मारना है और ऊपर से बेटे पर भी फुल कब्जा चाहिए। ऐसी भी सासें दिख रही हैं जो बेटे को अपने पास सुलाती है व संतान की डिमांड बहू से करती हैं। काफी मा बाप अपने investment का रिटर्न बहू से वसूल लेना चाहते है ।
Clarification: मा शादीशुदा बेटे को अपने कमरे मे सुलाती है प्यारे बेटे की तरह( कोई अनैतिक समबन्ध नही होता ) मगर बेटे और बहू मे निकटता न आये दूरी बनी रहे इस का पूरा इन्तजाम किया जाता है। ये सोचो कि बेटे बहू का रिश्ता 1 -2 या बहुत@हुवा 4 साल पुराना है और उसमे सास मट्ठा डाल रही हो। बेटा भी ढीठ ; बहू के मुह से अपनी माँ के बारे मे एक शब्द नही सुनेगा ।यानी बहू अगर बदमाश ना मिले तो लड़के वाले भी बेटे को बसने नही देते ।
Also the people who are married but behave like bachelor are always given more priority in corporate world. People look down on people who speak about work-life balance in corporate world. Everyday during lunchbreak my husband calls me and people have a problem with that, they are like, 'are woh milegi shamko gharpe'! Are pati patni ek dusre ko milte hi hai 12-14 ghante ke badh, uske badh fresh hona, khana peena, thoda TV isme kuch waqt jata hai and then we are so exhausted that we have no energy to give quality time to our relationship, woh relationship joh hume akhari saas tak nibhana hai..usko hum neglect karte hai or the job that replaces us overnight. This is exploitation to the worse level and the worse disease in today's environment and majorliy we 90's born are stuck in this.
Saas is the Only Bahu ke Jeee ka janjal. I m a nanad and i am telling from the behalf of my bhabhi. I always take her side no matter what, she is just too naive. But girls you have to be strong. Not everytime someone will come to save or defend you all the time.
same to same lines at my house. except that few months ago bhabhi died of brain hamrg leaving two young daugters, and bro.. cnsidring marriage again. ladkiyo ko apne liye stand lena aana hi chahiye.
आचार्य प्रशांत जी की बात वेदांत से आ रही है और आपकी आजके परिदृश्य से उनकी अलग ऊंचाई है आपकी बात प्रैक्टिकल है लेकिन जो ऊँचा है वो ऊँचा ही होता है. आपकी जो अच्छी सिख है समझ गया हूँ 🚩
Aisa nhi hai...meri jab shadi Hui to meri saas sirf 47 years old thi...now 55 years old...very helping...very kind nature...taali dono hath se bajti hai...kamiya bahuo me hi bahut hoti hai... freedom ke naam pe kuch jyada aaltu faaltu expect karne lagi hai...kaam to karna hi padega naa ghar me...baithe baithe kon khilayega bahuon ko...khud financially independent bano aur House help rakho...kyun saas sasur ke bharose rahate ho ghar ke kaamo me. . House help khud ke paison se rakho...ab aajkal ladkiya kaam bhi nhi karna chahti...aur expect karti hai saas sasur unhe nokar laga ke de...kyu denge Bhai vo
@@khushbookhushi5642 ji ho sakta hai aapko Aisa lagta ho ki saas se aapki Khushi bardasht nhi hoti...kya unhone khud bola aapse kabhi ki mujhe Teri Khushi bardasht nhi...ho sakta hai ye khud ki soch ho...kyunki aajkal log extra jyada sochte hai...thode bohot adjustment to karne hi padte hai...jinki age already ho chuki hai unhe samjhana mushkil hai...hum to samajh hi sakte hai atleast
But agr maid b khud lgao uski payment b bahu kare and ghr me contribution b kare job b kare ghr pe kaam b kare or financial support b kare or fir b mother in law tane mare fir? Sabki situation ek jaisi nhi hoti or kabi kabi tali ek hath se baj jati h in cases me@@mikkunmummaworld9895
Amit sir ,aapne bhut hi bhadhiya baat kahi h,aajkl middle class ki yahi subse badi problem h.young generation aapki baat se sahmat h.butsaas sasur ko ye baat samaghni hi nahi h.
इंसानियत की समस्या यही है कि वह दूसरों की भावनाओं की इज्जत नहीं करता और हमेशा अपने से छोटों से इज्जत से और सही ढंग से बात नहीं करता ।।। सभी को गाइडेंस की जरूरत है
I have already bought a 2BHK Flat from the walking distance of my parents home (5BHK).. Just want to give space to my wife Earlier everything was smooth when my parents didn't retire but after their retirement of (2 mahine halat jajabaat sab badal gaye)
Young parents should make it a habit to make their children (boys or girls) contribute actively in all kinds of household chores... chores can depend on age and capability... this ensures parity in the sexes and helps in overall development of children...
1:02:37 - Mere umar sirf 33 saal hai aur dimag mai bhi yahi sawal chalta rahata hai, pehlai padai ka naam par jiwan jund kiya fir naukari, abhi pariwar ki chinta, sala marna se pehlai kabhi jini miliga ka bhi ki nahi
I am 41 would suggest you to earn hard money and save maximum for yourself be financially independent and har rishte ko aise dekho ke jaha apko respect mile pyar mile waha aap time do but jaha respect nahi uss rishte se khud ko kaat lo taki ap toxic behaviour na jhelo apko sabse jyada toxic logo se khud ko safe rakhna hai
भाई ख़ुश रोज होना है रोज कुछ अपने लिए अच्छा करना है अगर ये सोचोगे की ये करने के बाद खुशी आ जाएगी कही से तो ऐसा ना होने वाला है। अभी जवान हो तो जवान होने का फायदा लो घूमो फिरो कुछ खाओ पियो जो अच्छा लगता है वो टाइम निकाल के करते रहो अलग से टाइम कभी नहीं मिलेगा ये याद रख लो।
Uncle apko lagta maa baap itne ache hain. Ki bacho ko alag rehne denge . Jao Simran jee lo zindagi? Maa baap emotionally torture karke bete ko apni bahu se alag karwa denge par alag rehne nahi denge 😅
Beta hi bol deta h me alg nahi rahunga . Meri shadi ko 2 sal hue h bas dal chawal khaya h or kuch bnne hi nahi deti meri sas . Or 1 kam me help nahi , office Jana hota h to itna time nahi hota kuch or bana lun . Or pati ko bolun to bolte h maa is Umar me nahi badlegi tum apna taste badal lo 😢
@@nehaaparwani683 तो आप सासूमां को साफ बोलो इतना काम नहीं होता शाम का या सुबह का एक समय का ही खाना आप बनाओं ओर एक समय का वो बनाएंगी या जब खाना बनाओं तो दोनों एक साथ बनाएं काम आसान हो जाएगा ओर अगर सासूमां ना माने इस बात को तो थोड़ा drama करलो शाम को घर आकर कह दो में थक गई ओर बनाओ ही मत खाना एक हफ्ते तक ऐसे ही करलो Fruits खा लो या online मगा लो फिर सासूमां सीधी हो जाएगी
Dhoort is exactly the right word to be used. Your view point about ladies is Bang on !!! Even saas became bad bcos of the real villain who remains in the background
Bhai, life has no purpose. Except meeting your root. Each human gives purpose to life himself or herself , so it is in our hands what purpose we want .
You can not give purpose without realising the inherent propensity to yearn for something, so I think purpose lies in this intrinsic propensity to seek only when we discard it, people realise that life is meaningless
me and my wife stay in next building on rent with our kids .. my parents stay in there own house and hv no problem with arrangement . they know we will go out at least once a wkend and they hv to watch over the kids..we leave the kids with there grandparnts and feel safe .. while my parents are happy they dont get bored because they enjou good time with kids a lot ... we are having a good time ..soon we will buy our own house . my wife cooks and i do the dishes ..jhadu pocha hafte me do tin din hi hota hai ..cant help it lol
Amit g is like no other. Already subscribed to sango life and clarity. Super podcast. He is a realistic superhero and an allrounder. Sir guruji from gurugram shayad nhi chalaana chahiye.
My grandfather never gave property to my father till he die at 89. Till then my father remained pay cheque to pay cheque as a clerk in canera bank. Even my father as a union leader of clerks has dispute with canara bank management as one senior manager was involved in sexual harrasment and my father was helping victims in union so he was even have to resign due to pressure yet still my grandfather gave nothing to him till he died. Now my Father is doing same with me. Our ancestors land was on road so my father sold some land and have 5 cr plis in FD in bank yet if ask him to give me 50 lac to do business, he always said no. Later now on my own, I came to Canada and don't talk to my Parents anymore.
Hello sir, is canada lucrative for doing buisness?... If some one wanna do big...Whats your take? Is there monopoly in every sector especially in construction?
@@SanghPath Punjabis have monopoly in Trucking real estate farming restaurant business. Gujratis r trying their best but they r not as good as Punjabis in labour exploitation. The whole Punjab village is employed by some Punjabi construction farm owners trucking or in restaurant for as low as 9 dollar on cash without sin jobs and 16-20 dollar on sin by cheque. Skill is more important. Our house maid takes 100 dollar per hour works in 5 calls per day she is richer than me. Even lawn mower guy who mostly work in old ppls home earn 40 dollars and hour cash. While white collar PPL don't earn much . If u earn office job at 100,000 per year ,u will get 63 dollars per year after taxes not mention 13% GST for buying anything from after tax money. Mostly those PPL make money who do cash business or who r in labour exploitation and have immigrants as workers at 9 dollar an hour.
Dhritarashtr wali baat ekdum sahi. Maine toh apne papa se bahut bar discuss kiya hai ki papa apke bhai aise kyu hai. Chachiya ladi jaa rahi hai or chachu subah nikal kar ke dono ekhatthe kam kar rahe. Papa bhi koste hai apne chote bhaiyo ko iske wajah se. 😂
In big cities you are all alone no one will come to save you ,observe the parking scuffles and pet issues in high rise buildings in NCR where people are murdering over pets and parking. So living there for a long time may give privacy but cost will be mental health patient
MERE BHAI PARENTS KE AS PAS rehne ka bol raha hai gar mein gus kar godi mein thodi bethuge aap, apni future family bhi to badani hai, ma baap ke agle kamre karoge kya segs
Few things that he told are absolute false and just show 1 set of mind .. 1. living with parents in tier 1 city is also a majboori minimum 20000 rent for a descent 2 bhk flat (Minimum) in Delhi 25k+ in GGN .. 2. Parents grow old and they need someone to help 3. Old parents become kids crossing 65 4. Bahu k nakhre (Papa ki pariyan) 5. job unsecurity .. lets say 1 lac salary plus 20000 as other income .. now in 1.2 lacs per month which is not bad person has to pay for kids school fee, Parents medicine, 3 repair ration phone shaadi byah rishtedaari etc blah blah ..at the end of the month left with nothing .. if parents live separately then 1 extra maid, elec separate meter, separate everyhting which is not just rent but so many other things .. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY love specially for the mother .. This US lifestyle was based on FIAT currency and nuclear setup in big cities .. if this ends then u will see how the family support system would work..
@@tattvamasee You touched the nerve by the term "FIAT currency" Nobody is talking about it. The west is good because fiat currency subsidized their dreams and fantasies, while exporting inflation to the world. Whole world is subsidizing their high lifestyle by bearing the brunt of exported inflation.
Bhai Sango sirji is a real estate dealer and astrologer. It's in his interest to promote all his sayings and philosophy. Nothing wrong in that. But you should be careful and use your own brain while taking advice from capitalists. They promote their own interest and talents. Don't hate him but use your own brain.
Well articulated. He is a half baked property dealer who wants people to buy apartments. Next he would want man to have separate and woman to have separate apartment.
@@ThePolymerisst a person who uses his skills and convincing to skin away the last bit of money from his consumer or costomer is a capitalist. Agar English samajh ati hai to is definition me Sangwan sir ko dal ke dekh bhai agar fit hue to samjh jayega.
I daily listen 2 or 3 topics of Mr. Amit Sangwan sir. And really the knowledge he gives is mind blowing 👍salute to Amit sir 👍super intelligent person 🙏
I don't know who is he, but I am strongly Agree what he said in this podcast.Chahe 100% Sahi ho lekin Apply 50% Bhi Nahi hoga hats off for this Gentleman ❤🌷🙏
Finally someone taking sense in India🇮🇳, this video just pop up I watched it shorts but it’s so interested and true ended up to seen whole episode great podcast watching you from uk 🇬🇧
भारत में वैदिक काल से ही परिवार के सदस्यों के अलग-अलग रहने की पंरपरा रही है बड़े बड़े घर होते थे बच्चे गुरुकुल में शिक्षा के लिऐ चले जाते थे शेष लोग अपने अपने कक्षों में अपनी निजता के साथ रहना पसंद करते थे । वो भोजन के समय एकत्र होते थे या किसी विशेष कार्य की मंत्रणा हेतु बैठक में मिलते थे । पूरा दिन आज की तरह एक ही घर में उपर नीचे नहीं पड़े रहते थे । सबके अलग-अलग कक्ष होते थे बल्कि एक ही घर में सबके अलग अलग घर होते थे सबको अपनी निजता बनाए रखने का पूरा अधिकार था उस काल में ।
@@Priyaykanth2कैसे जनसंख्या कम होती थी पहले वाले दस दस बच्चे पैदा कर देते थे महंगाई नहीं थी बहुए भी मिल जाती थी आज की तरह लडके के लिए बहु लाने के लिए चप्पल घीसने नहीं पढे थे
@@राॅयलराठौड जब देश स्वतंत्र हुआ तो 35 - 40 करोड़ जनसंख्या थी ओर इतिहास में भी भारत के अन्दर 50 करोड़ से ज्यादा जनसंख्या नहीं रही है जनसंख्या कम होने पर जमीन भी बहुत सस्ती हो जाएगी हां real State mafia का भी उपाय करना पड़ेगा पर जनसंख्या का सबसे बड़ा प्रभाव पड़ेगा
आदरणीय जी ने बहुत अच्छी बात बताई है। इनके विचार से परिवार पति-पत्नी है.. सन्तान निश्चित पालन पोषण तक है... कुछ सन्दर्भो तक ठीक हो सकता है।बहुत से ऐसे खुशहाल परिवार हैं जो संयुक्त तौर पर परदादा परदादी तक भी बेहद प्रसन्नता से है। इसलिए यही ठीक है यह आवश्यक नहीं है... बहुत सी समस्याओं का समाधान या परिवारों की समस्याओं का समाधान इनके विचारों से हो सकता है। लेकिन सब ऐसा करने से होगा आवश्यक नहीं..... बुखार होने पर बुखार की दवाई दी जाती है कीमोथैरेपी नहीं की जाती। अलग- अलग समस्याओं के भिन्न-भिन्न समाधान होंगे। यो ही जिम्मेदारी या स्वच्छंदता के लिए अविवाहित रहना..... और निश्चित लक्ष्य के लिए अपने को उत्सर्ग करने के लिए सांसारिक जीवन में प्रवेश करें बिना समाज कार्य करना अलग-अलग बात है। आदरणीय मोदी जी परिवार संस्था के खिलाफ नहीं बल्कि परिवार मजबूत हो उसके लिए कुटुम्ब प्रबोधन का कार्य जिस संघ के माध्यम से होता है उसके हिस्सा है।
पर बेचलर लोगों को शादीशुदा लोग जिने नहीं देते हैं समाज में रहने नहीं देते हैं शांति से रहने नहीं देते हैं अकेला इतना काम क्यों करता तेरे इतने खर्चे कहाँ है क्यो अकेला रहना गुनाह है क्या जरूरी है की वो साधू बन जाए बाबा बन जाए अक्सर लोग मुझे कहते हैं शादी नहीं कर रहे हैं तो समाज में क्यों हो कही आश्रम में चले जाओं भाई मेनें कौनसी तेरी बीवी पर चढ गया हुं जो तुझे तकलीफ हो रही है
Late comment but I appreciate MOST of the message in this video. I have seen so many things playing out in my 19 years with a publicly listed corporate…..
Misogynistic mindset and emotionally abusive men are also a factor in marriage delay. Two of my female cousins got abusive partners. They are happily divorced now.
महिला के बारे जो बात बोली हैं sir ने बडी सच्ची बात हैं जी...कोई ध्यान ही नाही देता इन बातोन पे...अगर घर परिवार बिखरता है तो सिर्फ मर्द ही जिमेवर होता है..महिला को तो यून ही बदनाम किया जाता है.. क्योंकी उनकी बात घर मे कोई सूनाता ही नाही ❤😊😊
U r write thats y we r not having n yur life is also finished no freedom bs unke liye kamate jao Ham to apna kama k retayerment le k beth gaye or guniya ghum rahe h ab life enjoy kr rahe h Vese bhi bache bade ho kr apna chale jate h videsh apne sath koi ni reta
Toh phir paisa bhi Kamana padhega na Jada uski motivation hogi. Kuch toh cheez aapko level up karne pe majboor karegi hi life meh nahi toh comfort zone meh kuch nhi hoga
WOW!!!! Kya himmat ki baat hai Arihant bhai. Badiya topics discuss kiye hai. Yeh sab baatein sab ke mann mein hai par koi discuss nahi karta. Aapne sahi topics uthaye hai. All logical points covered.
Main USA mein hi hon kuch saalo se. yahan ka family system strong hai. Jaise humme China se aage badne ki galat faimi hai vaise humme WEST ke culture se better hone ki galat faimi hai. West practicality or scientific basis pe family manage karte hai. Jaldi shaadi karte hai or 3-4 bacche karte hai. Wealth ko baccho ko dete hai or bacche maa baap se Bahut pyaar bhi karte hai. Family time quality se spend karte hai. Saas bahu ke jhagde nahi hote. Or sabse baddi baat rote nahi rehte.
@@MiddleclassbetaAbe pagal admi tfr kitna hai usa europ ka vo to dekhle
@Middleclassbeta bhai unki condition bhi ese hi hai population decline kar rahi hai
Bhai chcha not iska chaneel hai bhut practical bat bolta hai
I support modi ji with lots of respect and his work done by past years but middle class families pe bahut kam dyan dete hai why ?…..
This man deserves a medal for such sheer honesty! This podcast needs to be spread all over!
Inhone kis archarya ke bare mein kaha ?
@@karthik6442Acharya Prashant
Prashant sir population concern ki baat kr rhe h global warming incomplete Answer dia h inhone
Middle class family k problems ko bahut hi badhiya se discuss kiya hai..... It is very true about each middle family even in small cities also.... Hats off to Arihant.
I am watching this while cooking for my family after coming from a 10 hour office shift. And prepared lunch before going to the office.
This is so relatable and honest one.
Bhn aata maker mngale
Sbji katne k liy
Means to say jo jyada time le rha h vha tech ki help lo
Shabash!!!! you are really a responsible lady.i appreciate you👏👏
Kaun nahi karta. Sab ladies karte. Hum bhi karte12 ghante bahar kaam karne jaate, subah sabka khana juice nashta, raat ko aake bhi sab banake khilake, kitchen saaf karke, homework karaake, khud ki padhayi, 12 baje soti. I sleep only 4 hours. I also do yoga or walk at 5am
To kon nhi krta arrogance kya isme @@kalpananarendra7599
Decision to work was yours, wasn't it? Or, is your husband forcing you to work outside and hand over your salary to him?
I am so happy to have found this genuine nd wise man. Bhot lambe arse baad laga ki podcast dekhna safal hua. Else i used to regret wasting tym.
Feel to puke when somebody talk about sanskars in bahus 🤣🤣
One of its kind Guruji. I am huge fan of Amit Sangwan Ji. been following him for almost 2 years now, and from very beginning his new channels Guruji from Gurugram and Saral Jyotish..
guys as a man, mein khud sabko motivate karunga ki iss video ko sab log share karo specially parents aur relatives sabko bheo bhai, dikhao baitha ke!!
Hats off Sir.... finally somebody spoke truth so openly about confused parenting, glorify bachelorhood, clash of interest among family members, power politics in family...I really like the most the idea of staying seprate from parents.....even i have experience that when we stay seprate, we have more love, care and space this gives us chance to develop our independent, unbiased perspectives.......I strongly support this movement, Sir......more so ..I like your thoughts of increasing knowledge with awareness so that we can not be fooled by any so called baba or political leader or celebrity......i totally agree that if India as a nation wants to grow, family members should be happy. This will help to increase GDP too
बिल्कुल सही 100% सही पहली बार कोई महापुरुष मिला है सच बोलने वाला...बाकी तो नारीवाद पर ही बोलते हैं
Very true.
Another problem I want to highlight is with parents.
They want their daughters to be independent, live comfortable and luxurious life and stay away from in laws.
But when the topic of daughter in law comes, whole scenario is turned 180°.
My very simple advice to parents. Don't expect things from your DIL that you haven't trained your own daughter for.
So true
Salute bro ! I hardly find men who can speakout brutal truth about family politics. Sabko pata hota hai, notice bhi karte hain but bolta koi nahi. Agar galti se bhi muh khol diya iss hypocracy pe ya biwi ki madad kar di toh kalyugi beta kehlayenge aur joru ka gulam !
In our family both sides have same roles ...
Marriage = Honeytrap to Enjoy Whole life on Men's Income 🤑
Alimony 🤑 Maintenance 🤑 Property 🤑 Child Support 🤑
@@blissful_Life111 Yeah this is true, even my family isn't different from this.
That's the reason I am not gonna marry because neither I can go against my parents nor I can keep quiet for the injustice they will do to my wife.
Now I can't escape from the role of a son but I can escape from role of a husband so gonna remain unmarried for life✌️.
Bang on! Parents and in-laws have become toxic these days. But nobody talks about it because they're always kept on a high pedestal in our society. That's sad and creates a huge burden on the couple, sometimes leads to divorce as well.
Women too
Bilkul correct!Sahi pakre Hain😊
Absolutely people take it for granted that the problem will be with kids in reality most Indian parents are toxic
Absolutely!!
Very easy to blame one side. I think the parents nowadays are most adjusting and girls nowadays don’t want to share household responsibilities but want all the benefits
A very sensible guest who provides alternative thinking at home and in the society and overall life.
We as a society have stopped asking questions, we feel comfortable in the echo chamber only. please bring such guests on regularly.
tbh most of the points r random trash and not much different than what old uncles balbber in gatherings and all.
Nowadays every second random person is becoming a life advisor.
He is indeed very good
@@NoOne-kx7zs you are entitled to your response and thoughts! Much appreciated. I value it, if someone makes me look at life differently, I don't seek his or anyone's suggestions. I just want to challenge my social or regular beliefs, so that I can improve on my thoughts and life, therefore uplift my family and friends life as well.
"improvement" doesn't change overall experience of life it's an illusion to begin with
@@Ashish-co4sq if you think his 'advices' help you improve your life then fine..... however they certainly ain't bemificial AT ALL for men in their 20s.
nearly all of his audience are older age uncle/aunties...and half of his time is focused on bashing unmarried young men& buying over inflated properties in gurgaon.
I don't know why people are really commenting wrong things.. May be they are not married.. Example given by him ki hamara beta kaam nahi karega is so true.. I have seen married ladies working on dual things but boys wont do anything because of parents.. Hamare bete ko to in kamako ki to aadat hi nahi he.. Jaise ki padhi likhi ladkiya apne ma ke pet se sab sikh kar aati he.. At least now when both husband and wife are working shout help each other.. Its dual responsibility
Yes it is, but at the same time in- laws should start promoting and loving their Bahu too. I’m telling this cause I’m married.
'Haaye ram mere bete ko kaam karna pad raha hai ' ye 98-99% gharon ka kalesh hai
Uska naam kese le liya..pti ka naam leti ho , use kese bol diya fridge m bottle bhr k rkh do, ab ak aadmi chahiye kya tumhe ghr k kaam k liye b, itnni jldi so k ittni late uth ri ho .. these are common taunts 😂😂 kbi na kbi khi na khi sune honge ya to jhut bol lo khud se 😂
Bhai mai khud bhi job karta hun or wife bhi job karti hai...mai uski puri help karta hun kitchen me bhi subha bacche to ready karne me bhi or room ki saaf safai me bhi....phir bhi wife ko kam Hi lagta hai........maine to Soch liya hai chahe mera budhapa kharab ho jaye par apni wife ko Bhi khush nahi rehne dunga bhudape me...meri jawani barbaad uska budhapa barbaad😂
Marriage = Honeytrap to Enjoy Whole life on Men's Income 🤑
Alimony 🤑 Maintenance 🤑 Property 🤑 Child Support 🤑
This is so accurate! Wish I could give this guest a hug 🤗 started my career at Infosys worked like a slave 10-8:00 pm even on weekends. Didn’t have energy used to read a lot of books and finally started my own business at the age of 33 it’s so different working for yourself and working for someone else.
Marriage has been greatest asset for me, my husband working helped me get out of the corporate world and try something new.
I wanna ask when you are working for 10 hours, what really are you working on? Are you really working for whole 10 hours or just marking your presence at the office. And if it is the latter.....then this need to need changed.
@ it’s actually working 10+ hours. After a few years you realize work keeps on piling up and hours keep on getting longer.
Really hit the hammer on the nail! Its sad that so much narcissistic behaviour is normalised & in-built into Indian households, if we set healthy boundaries we are shamed & told that we are disrespectful, if we prioritise our mental health, we are called selfish or too sensitive, if we reduce contact with toxic family we are called ungrateful.. This need to be called out & this needs to change..
So true 👍
Will you be a better MIL? I think most women become narcissist as they grow old and the DIL has to bear the mood swings of the MIL. The only way to deal with this is by breaking the generational trauma that starts with you and I.
This is among the best podcast I have ever listened! This person is a gem!
Iss video se 1000 shots ban sakte hain😂, ek ek sentence kamal hain❤
Yes
True😂
Right 😅
Sir bilkul logical baate kar rahe hai. Pahle mujhe bhi lagta tha ki meri mummy sab itna ache se shaant dimag se kaise ghar sambhal leti hai par jab bhi Dadi ghar aati ya hum gaon jate the to pura tension hi rahta inn logo ko sab baat phariyani rahti thi phir bhi mujhe lagta tha ki dadi me hi galti hai par abb meri 3 month pahle shaadi hui hai aur abb fir se tension start ho chuka hai ghar me. Har jagah ego clash ho raha hai sabka, pahle Dadi aur mummy ka tha aur abb Dadi, Mummy aur wife ke bich me jhagda hai.Meri to gend phatt jati hai yaar😂
Bhagwaan apko sehne ki Shakti de ,🙏
I would just suggest you to take the side of the person who is right.
If your mom is right. Then support her.
If your wife is right then support her.
Because the more you let go of the wrong person, the more empowered they will feel and more the friction will increase.
Time to strap your masculinity on and face it head on😂
I know it’s hard. Ek maa hai aur ek biwi.
But until you take a stand, ye bawal zindagi bhar chalega😅
I think you nailed it! Ego and not middle class is to blame.
Yeah you're right but always do the needful separately. ALWAYS . Coz ek dusre ke samne aap kisi ko bhi nhi samjha paoge alag alag hi baat krni chahiye and dono ko hi samjhana pdega otherwise kalesh will continue to the eternity. @@lakshmikrithika2521
Kuch ceejon ko ignore kiya jaata hai har ek ko. Ap apni wife ko apna pyar jataiye aur kahiye ki aap apni mom ko nahi chod sakte but apki wife ki ek khaas jegah apki life me hai jisko koi fill nahi sakta, meri saas bhi mere saath rehti hain pr mere husband bahot acche se deal karte hain, I also have some issues but life me problems to hoti hi hain kya karenge yahi life hai. Apni mom ko bhi samjhayiye ki apki wife apki life ka part hain aur aisa kuch na bolo jo apki wife ko buri lage dono ko samjhao
Bhai Amit ji ki observation aur research itna bhayankar deep hai nah, aur usey words mein usi tarah keh paana bhi .. it's out of this world 🔥🙌🏾
99% times the reason of tension between husband and wife is SAAS.
Means between 2 women
Kamaaaaaal 😂
Sasur plays a very cunning role. Saas should identify.
@@simibarman6994u will also be turned into saas let's see how much u apply ur Gyan on yourself.
@@Hacktivist12kyuki aurat hi aurat ki dushman hai
I completely agree with the last point... I am a CA, and I love to dance. I feed my soul by dancing so that I am happy and ready to work as a CA. I work as a CA so that I can dance and travel.
Finally we have a real man Mr Sangwan speaking the truth.
That's so true and thanx for bringing him to actually highlight these things!!
Mamas boy is biggest problem for Indian subcontinent men. I have seen in Canada that men talking to their mothers father for hours sharing every incident happen in the whole day.
Agreed
1000000% TRUE
It's because mamas convince their betas saying that women are very shrewd and smilingly take all your wealth and make you a fool. The real keys are given by betas pitajis to their mamas.
Did u not come across girls who ensure their whole family follows them to Canada ?
@@harshvirsingh8688 it is both way ? Here I am just criticising about men who r sharing every single minor detail to their parents. From past 2 yrs, I am working from home so I have seen and heard lot of guys who came to shared home talking with their mothers father's as much they talk with their GFS. I started feeling Mamas boy is big thing and it actually makes men mentally unstable, vulnerable they can be easily manipulated by their parents, they lost critical and analytics thinking, can't take decisions on their own.
I personally feel that men should not be dependent on their parents too much. I also love my parents but my conversation with my parents never went over 10 min that too on occassional basis. But yeah I have access to my parents home cameras that has audio features so while working, I have one screen specifically for my parents where I saw them daily what they do or see my pets in Indian Punjab. But I can't say I'm Mamas boy as I have my own life, I never talk about who I am dating, what happens in a day, how is my dating life, how is my professional life, neither I ask any advice from them about my GFS over the time nor about anything else. Yeah when sometimes I feel low I call them and talk for hours but that is rare thing. I have seen parents ruining life of their children when they get married or dated a girl that they don't like. Parents usually have a tendency of control freak.
M 2 saalon se Amij ji ke saare channels dekhti hu . Unke videos ka yahi Saar h k apni family ko khush haal bana lo by healthy commnunication in family then baaki sab apneaap sahi ho jayega .
Lekin jin families me respect k naam pe distance hi maintain karne ka chalan ho waha kaise hoga ye?! Jaha baap baccho se ghulne Milne unke sath baith k unki do baate sunne ko parampara k khilaf manta ho waha kaise hoga ye?!!
Agreed with each n every single suggestion and statement and whole of the talk 👌🏼👏🏼
Real Realist & practical conversation.
Main thing toh Family problems hoti hai.
Firr Politics, Religion or Career hota hai
बहुत खूब
क़ाबिल ए दीद प्रोग्राम ❤
सभी को अपना space चाहिये, और privacy चाहिये,
आसपास रहें, एक दुसरे को help करें ,लेकिन एकसाथ नहीं रहें
😢😢😅
In Older times Joint Family 👪 System works better because of Big House's
At that time our Population was less than 40 Crores
& People knows some Activity like Dance, Music, Art, Sport, etc
Which they do Jointly according to situations
If People don't know these things they will discuss Money, Assets
Discussing Money is not Bad but discussing only Money & making it as a Top Priority then Toxic Competition will come in
🇬🇧 Education 📚 System has big hand in destroying Joint Family System - Toxic Competition Classmates fighting like Animals
Only Money Oriented Mindset
(NEP will change this in 10 - 15 Year's)
Not everyone can Buy Separate House or Afford Renting a House
It needs too much money for a Good Size House 🏡
Otherwise they will have to adjust in a Small House
Until Population is Reduced much can't be done in this Situation
If they have Money they can make Big House for Joint Living but with Privacy
Big Room's & Enough Space for Everyone Personal Moments
I agree People need Space
If House is too small there Privacy will be Exposed
But Nuclear Family or Semi Nuclear Family System will not help
It will solve Some Problems but it will Create New Problems too
Members can join for Food & Fun
Other thing's can be done Separately or Jointly according to there like & dislikes
If any member falls ill 🤧🤒🤢 they can help eachother
Women will get help in Periods
Men will get help in Outside Threats - (Currently Our Environment is not Crime free
By Good Education, Law & Order it will improve but Some Part of Crime will remain there)
Children grown in Joint Family are more Wise & Caring
I know some of you will say Joint Family Members are Toxic
They don't care for Privacy
Everytime some kind of Fight is Happening in the house
This is not because of the Joint Family System
It is because of 🇬🇧📚 System, Cinema Effect, Only Money 🤑 Oriented Society
Once these things will change Peace 😊 will Come
If Family is Toxic you can live Separately
You can get apart from them - No issues
Now People have Choice in this
But I will say before moving out try to solve issues if issues didn't solved after applying all ways then move away
But Currently People start thinking of getting apart from Childhood & Parents, School doesn't teach us - How bundle of Sticks are more stronger than Single Stick
They teach in Books not on Ground Level
disconnected physically some time so that one can connect with them emotionally
I am glad you are doing such podcast. Aise Or bhi podcasts hone chahiye❤❤❤❤
Basic communication skills nahi hai Indian middle class families me. I also feel that some kind of hobby and activities should be made mainstream for our elders in families . Like mummy, papa ki ek social life honi chahiye through some kind of activities.
Best remedy would be to give everyone some relaxation time in a day. Men should start helping in household activities. In laws should start understanding that a girl comes from another family and is staying with them. So they have extra responsibility to make her comfortable. But we see is reverse.
In laws are on ego trip. Men dont care about family members and their problems . Just want to things to automatically solve.
Even in nuclear families husbands dont do any household work most of the time even if wife is working . Will make execuses of needing time to relax but wont think about wives relaxation time.
Biggest villan is Men who want their wives to do seva of in laws but will never do that themselves even of their own parents.
I am a married working woman , constantly struggling mentally between my will to grow in my career and grow my family !! I want both and i feel this burden everyday!! 🥺
Take 5-10 years of career and grow family. Have 2-3 kids after that reboot career
@@tarunsharma8460 it is not easy to do that when u join a workforce after taking a certain gap period from your career especially in white collar jobs .The women have to start there career from scratch and u cannot explain the gap jn your resume because from work point of view you have done nothing to gain experience and acquire new skills. I am saying this because my mother also took a 4 year gap in hee career for raising Me and my sister and tried to resume her career
u r a hindu its ur dharm to hv kids atleas 1 career chahiye 6 month ka ML hai.. train ur mind to b calm n kind to urself n the baby u vl hv 😊.. then get physically fit go for walk min 45min get physically strong n then plan kids😊 believe me its a diff experience that cant mtach n thg.. just shared wht i did... hope it helps😊
@@priharahj5515aap fees admission bachhe ka sab help karenge na😂 inko because she wants money and time to raise her kids baaki gyaan usko pata hai. Jab vo job pe jaaye tab safety k sath bachhe ko sambhaloge na? And yes bachhe ko school tution classes vagera safely time lene jaana. Help her in house hold chores. Agar bachhe chahiye to ek environment banana padta hai puri family ko mil k. Akeli aurat kya kare. Uske husband ko bhi salaah do help kare ghar k kaam mai. Aur saas sasur ko bolo khud ka kaam kare.
You want both, feel burdened about that why? Time is limited always remember. Did you ever solve/attend two different kind of questions at a time in exam/ interview? I am not saying somebody can't but the time it will take. To satisfy family you need to handle emotions to handle your career to you need to be smart to be yourself and happy you need somebody? Does earning make you independent completely? Maybe financially but can we ever be independent socially? The answers will be different for everyone according to what they want. We learn about life as it goes. New things uncertainty tough times will need a self reflection hold yourself & emerge bigger better Good Luck (20%)😅😅
Agree with you 200% on every issue. Problem of middle class insecure parent- na jiyo na jeene do😃
You are the first person on Indian platforms who speaks my mind. Seen it all though remotely from USA🙏
This saas-bahu drama is a scary thing that is restraining me from marriage even at the perfect age. I am a boy & I don't like to involve in such chaos.
Yeah it can be painful for men as well.
Move out after marriage. Live near by.
Pehle hi alag ho jao. Doosri city mein job le lo. Phir shaadi karo.
@@justathinker8669 brilliant idea!
@@justathinker8669 Ghar se door hi hain.
भाई यहा तो सास को नौकरी भी करानी है बहू से फिर घर के कामों का ताना भी मारना है और ऊपर से बेटे पर भी फुल कब्जा चाहिए। ऐसी भी सासें दिख रही हैं जो बेटे को अपने पास सुलाती है व संतान की डिमांड बहू से करती हैं। काफी मा बाप अपने investment का रिटर्न बहू से वसूल लेना चाहते है ।
फिर पहले आप अपने लिए स्टेंड लो उसके बाद पति को समझाओ कि वह आपका साथ दे लेकिन समझदारी से योजना बनाकर सबकी भावनाओं और सम्मान का खयाल रखते हुए
Bete ko paas sulati hai ....ko explain kijiye details me
Clarification: मा शादीशुदा बेटे को अपने कमरे मे सुलाती है प्यारे बेटे की तरह( कोई अनैतिक समबन्ध नही होता ) मगर बेटे और बहू मे निकटता न आये दूरी बनी रहे इस का पूरा इन्तजाम किया जाता है।
ये सोचो कि बेटे बहू का रिश्ता 1 -2 या बहुत@हुवा 4 साल पुराना है और उसमे सास मट्ठा डाल रही हो। बेटा भी ढीठ ; बहू के मुह से अपनी माँ के बारे मे एक शब्द नही सुनेगा ।यानी बहू अगर बदमाश ना मिले तो लड़के वाले भी बेटे को बसने नही देते ।
Anaitik sambandh nahi hota lekin daah sautiya hoti hai . Possession ki aadat hoti hai ladies me .
@@jp00680 bilkul sahi bole ho aise hai jisme maa bete ko apne room me sulati h ...some moms are really possesive chahe bete ka ghar barbad ho jaye
Also the people who are married but behave like bachelor are always given more priority in corporate world. People look down on people who speak about work-life balance in corporate world. Everyday during lunchbreak my husband calls me and people have a problem with that, they are like, 'are woh milegi shamko gharpe'! Are pati patni ek dusre ko milte hi hai 12-14 ghante ke badh, uske badh fresh hona, khana peena, thoda TV isme kuch waqt jata hai and then we are so exhausted that we have no energy to give quality time to our relationship, woh relationship joh hume akhari saas tak nibhana hai..usko hum neglect karte hai or the job that replaces us overnight. This is exploitation to the worse level and the worse disease in today's environment and majorliy we 90's born are stuck in this.
200% right....faced all these problems practically.....aur problem to middle class ke liye hai ..bachon ki mehngi education....
One of the best videos, I agree with each and every word today
Thankyou so much for this honesty Sir it a rarest quality & U r a Real Hero for showing So much Courage,
Bhai uncle ji ne ek ek line sahi,relatable boli hai.🙏
First time came across his work. Already a fan.
This man is a clever jute (jaat)
I have no word to praise this program
Saas is the Only Bahu ke Jeee ka janjal. I m a nanad and i am telling from the behalf of my bhabhi. I always take her side no matter what, she is just too naive. But girls you have to be strong. Not everytime someone will come to save or defend you all the time.
shabas
same to same lines at my house. except that few months ago bhabhi died of brain hamrg leaving two young daugters, and bro.. cnsidring marriage again.
ladkiyo ko apne liye stand lena aana hi chahiye.
Seriously tum sister in law ho?
@@juhiworld12 Why?
@@juhiworld12 why?
आचार्य प्रशांत जी की बात वेदांत से आ रही है और आपकी आजके परिदृश्य से उनकी अलग ऊंचाई है आपकी बात प्रैक्टिकल है लेकिन जो ऊँचा है वो ऊँचा ही होता है. आपकी जो अच्छी सिख है समझ गया हूँ 🚩
हवाई ज्ञान लेकर खुश रहो 😂
Prashant sir population concern ki baat kr rhe h global warming incomplete Answer dia h aapne
Wah wah 🎉❤😂, kash aap jaise kuch aur log india mai ho jaye , mazze aa jaye
जिन घरों में सास ससुर खुद जवान हों... उस घर में बेटा बहु सुखी नहीं रह सकते...
Aisa nhi bujurg saas sasur bhi Utne hi harmful hai dusro ki mantle health ke liye
Dusro ke grihasti me ghusna hai na shadi baad bhi
Aisa nhi hai...meri jab shadi Hui to meri saas sirf 47 years old thi...now 55 years old...very helping...very kind nature...taali dono hath se bajti hai...kamiya bahuo me hi bahut hoti hai... freedom ke naam pe kuch jyada aaltu faaltu expect karne lagi hai...kaam to karna hi padega naa ghar me...baithe baithe kon khilayega bahuon ko...khud financially independent bano aur House help rakho...kyun saas sasur ke bharose rahate ho ghar ke kaamo me.
. House help khud ke paison se rakho...ab aajkal ladkiya kaam bhi nhi karna chahti...aur expect karti hai saas sasur unhe nokar laga ke de...kyu denge Bhai vo
@@khushbookhushi5642 ji ho sakta hai aapko Aisa lagta ho ki saas se aapki Khushi bardasht nhi hoti...kya unhone khud bola aapse kabhi ki mujhe Teri Khushi bardasht nhi...ho sakta hai ye khud ki soch ho...kyunki aajkal log extra jyada sochte hai...thode bohot adjustment to karne hi padte hai...jinki age already ho chuki hai unhe samjhana mushkil hai...hum to samajh hi sakte hai atleast
But agr maid b khud lgao uski payment b bahu kare and ghr me contribution b kare job b kare ghr pe kaam b kare or financial support b kare or fir b mother in law tane mare fir? Sabki situation ek jaisi nhi hoti or kabi kabi tali ek hath se baj jati h in cases me@@mikkunmummaworld9895
Amit sir ,aapne bhut hi bhadhiya baat kahi h,aajkl middle class ki yahi subse badi problem h.young generation aapki baat se sahmat h.butsaas sasur ko ye baat samaghni hi nahi h.
Watched the full podcast without skipping a second. 👌🏼🙌🏼
Lack of maturity of both husband and wife is the biggest reason of marriage failure
He is 60 percent right
90 ❤❤
इंसानियत की समस्या यही है कि वह दूसरों की भावनाओं की इज्जत नहीं करता और हमेशा अपने से छोटों से इज्जत से और सही ढंग से बात नहीं करता ।।। सभी को गाइडेंस की जरूरत है
Really agree with seniors not letting attention go from themselves ..too much insecurity and jealousy of youngsters
It goes both ways.
Our country really need these kind of people to speak about real problems...
I have already bought a 2BHK Flat from the walking distance of my parents home (5BHK).. Just want to give space to my wife
Earlier everything was smooth when my parents didn't retire but after their retirement of (2 mahine halat jajabaat sab badal gaye)
Kya badal gya retirement ke baad .. are you saying your parents involvement increased after retirement..
Young parents should make it a habit to make their children (boys or girls) contribute actively in all kinds of household chores... chores can depend on age and capability... this ensures parity in the sexes and helps in overall development of children...
King is back to podcast... Gr8 Guruji.
1:02:37 - Mere umar sirf 33 saal hai aur dimag mai bhi yahi sawal chalta rahata hai, pehlai padai ka naam par jiwan jund kiya fir naukari, abhi pariwar ki chinta, sala marna se pehlai kabhi jini miliga ka bhi ki nahi
I am 41 would suggest you to earn hard money and save maximum for yourself be financially independent and har rishte ko aise dekho ke jaha apko respect mile pyar mile waha aap time do but jaha respect nahi uss rishte se khud ko kaat lo taki ap toxic behaviour na jhelo apko sabse jyada toxic logo se khud ko safe rakhna hai
Itna load mt lo bhai focus on your happiness
@DeveshKumar19thank you 83
साल भर में एक बार बहार धुमने जाओं
भाई
ख़ुश रोज होना है
रोज कुछ अपने लिए अच्छा करना है
अगर ये सोचोगे की ये करने के बाद
खुशी आ जाएगी कही से
तो ऐसा ना होने वाला है।
अभी जवान हो
तो जवान होने का फायदा लो
घूमो फिरो
कुछ खाओ पियो
जो अच्छा लगता है
वो टाइम निकाल के करते रहो
अलग से टाइम कभी नहीं मिलेगा
ये याद रख लो।
WoW!!! Bring him every month in your channel. Our society needs him.
Real Gyani Sirji....som1 should be blessed & mindfull to see this podcast....so proud of U...so intellectual ❤
Salute to you, first time kisi ne middle class par baat to kari❤❤❤
Uncle apko lagta maa baap itne ache hain. Ki bacho ko alag rehne denge . Jao Simran jee lo zindagi? Maa baap emotionally torture karke bete ko apni bahu se alag karwa denge par alag rehne nahi denge 😅
Beta hi bol deta h me alg nahi rahunga . Meri shadi ko 2 sal hue h bas dal chawal khaya h or kuch bnne hi nahi deti meri sas . Or 1 kam me help nahi , office Jana hota h to itna time nahi hota kuch or bana lun . Or pati ko bolun to bolte h maa is Umar me nahi badlegi tum apna taste badal lo 😢
@@nehaaparwani683😢
Yahi hota h humare ghr me v yahi hota h saas kaan bharti rahti h mere pati ke
Clear sign that son is dependent on parents, mostly financially.. a man doing financially well will not succumb to such pressure from parents
@@nehaaparwani683
तो आप सासूमां को साफ बोलो इतना काम नहीं होता
शाम का या सुबह का एक समय का ही खाना आप बनाओं ओर एक समय का वो बनाएंगी या जब खाना बनाओं तो दोनों एक साथ बनाएं काम आसान हो जाएगा
ओर अगर सासूमां ना माने इस बात को
तो थोड़ा drama करलो
शाम को घर आकर कह दो में थक गई
ओर बनाओ ही मत खाना
एक हफ्ते तक ऐसे ही करलो
Fruits खा लो या online मगा लो
फिर सासूमां सीधी हो जाएगी
Dhoort is exactly the right word to be used. Your view point about ladies is Bang on !!! Even saas became bad bcos of the real villain who remains in the background
நன்றி!
Bhai, life has no purpose. Except meeting your root.
Each human gives purpose to life himself or herself , so it is in our hands what purpose we want .
You can not give purpose without realising the inherent propensity to yearn for something, so I think purpose lies in this intrinsic propensity to seek only when we discard it, people realise that life is meaningless
me and my wife stay in next building on rent with our kids .. my parents stay in there own house and hv no problem with arrangement . they know we will go out at least once a wkend and they hv to watch over the kids..we leave the kids with there grandparnts and feel safe .. while my parents are happy they dont get bored because they enjou good time with kids a lot ... we are having a good time ..soon we will buy our own house . my wife cooks and i do the dishes ..jhadu pocha hafte me do tin din hi hota hai ..cant help it lol
Sangwan ji s opinions are really practical and progressive❤
Really not progressive
Amit g is like no other. Already subscribed to sango life and clarity. Super podcast. He is a realistic superhero and an allrounder. Sir guruji from gurugram shayad nhi chalaana chahiye.
Such a knowledge powerhouse with crystal clear clarity and impeccable honesty
Kya baat boli yaar, ek ek baat par 100👏👏👏 100 taliya👏👏👏🤣
My grandfather never gave property to my father till he die at 89. Till then my father remained pay cheque to pay cheque as a clerk in canera bank. Even my father as a union leader of clerks has dispute with canara bank management as one senior manager was involved in sexual harrasment and my father was helping victims in union so he was even have to resign due to pressure yet still my grandfather gave nothing to him till he died. Now my Father is doing same with me. Our ancestors land was on road so my father sold some land and have 5 cr plis in FD in bank yet if ask him to give me 50 lac to do business, he always said no. Later now on my own, I came to Canada and don't talk to my Parents anymore.
Hello sir, is canada lucrative for doing buisness?... If some one wanna do big...Whats your take?
Is there monopoly in every sector especially in construction?
@@SanghPath Punjabis have monopoly in Trucking real estate farming restaurant business. Gujratis r trying their best but they r not as good as Punjabis in labour exploitation. The whole Punjab village is employed by some Punjabi construction farm owners trucking or in restaurant for as low as 9 dollar on cash without sin jobs and 16-20 dollar on sin by cheque.
Skill is more important. Our house maid takes 100 dollar per hour works in 5 calls per day she is richer than me. Even lawn mower guy who mostly work in old ppls home earn 40 dollars and hour cash.
While white collar PPL don't earn much . If u earn office job at 100,000 per year ,u will get 63 dollars per year after taxes not mention 13% GST for buying anything from after tax money.
Mostly those PPL make money who do cash business or who r in labour exploitation and have immigrants as workers at 9 dollar an hour.
So sad. But true story
@@gigachad_6862 Thanks. You put effort to reply me.
@@gigachad_6862 (Mera koment $en$or ho jata he english me likhne se)
Dhritarashtr wali baat ekdum sahi. Maine toh apne papa se bahut bar discuss kiya hai ki papa apke bhai aise kyu hai. Chachiya ladi jaa rahi hai or chachu subah nikal kar ke dono ekhatthe kam kar rahe. Papa bhi koste hai apne chote bhaiyo ko iske wajah se. 😂
One podcast, required for today's generation... Thankyou Shriman 🙏❤️
Hats off to you Sir ❤ loved your conversation,way of explaining 🙏
इस बंदे ने सच बोलने की हिम्मत की है ।
Parents are narcissist but In-laws abuse is at another level.
Respect for this MAN yr 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 amazing bhot bdhiya❤❤❤❤❤
Bilkul sahi pakde hai, sab kuch. Sara podcast Oscar deserve karta h😊
I think he is the only man whom need our society today
In big cities you are all alone no one will come to save you ,observe the parking scuffles and pet issues in high rise buildings in NCR where people are murdering over pets and parking. So living there for a long time may give privacy but cost will be mental health patient
MERE BHAI PARENTS KE AS PAS rehne ka bol raha hai gar mein gus kar godi mein thodi bethuge aap, apni future family bhi to badani hai, ma baap ke agle kamre karoge kya segs
Few things that he told are absolute false and just show 1 set of mind .. 1. living with parents in tier 1 city is also a majboori minimum 20000 rent for a descent 2 bhk flat (Minimum) in Delhi 25k+ in GGN .. 2. Parents grow old and they need someone to help 3. Old parents become kids crossing 65 4. Bahu k nakhre (Papa ki pariyan) 5. job unsecurity .. lets say 1 lac salary plus 20000 as other income .. now in 1.2 lacs per month which is not bad person has to pay for kids school fee, Parents medicine, 3 repair ration phone shaadi byah rishtedaari etc blah blah ..at the end of the month left with nothing .. if parents live separately then 1 extra maid, elec separate meter, separate everyhting which is not just rent but so many other things .. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY love specially for the mother .. This US lifestyle was based on FIAT currency and nuclear setup in big cities .. if this ends then u will see how the family support system would work..
He's talking very deep things.
@@tattvamasee You touched the nerve by the term "FIAT currency"
Nobody is talking about it. The west is good because fiat currency subsidized their dreams and fantasies, while exporting inflation to the world.
Whole world is subsidizing their high lifestyle by bearing the brunt of exported inflation.
No one will come to save you in a small city too, unless you're a dabang. Reality.
Bhai Sango sirji is a real estate dealer and astrologer. It's in his interest to promote all his sayings and philosophy. Nothing wrong in that.
But you should be careful and use your own brain while taking advice from capitalists. They promote their own interest and talents. Don't hate him but use your own brain.
Well articulated. He is a half baked property dealer who wants people to buy apartments. Next he would want man to have separate and woman to have separate apartment.
@@jitujitu9157omg! Who is giving this worst advice😂😂
Bahut sahi
Heh???
Isme "capitalists" kaha se aa gaye be?
@@ThePolymerisst a person who uses his skills and convincing to skin away the last bit of money from his consumer or costomer is a capitalist.
Agar English samajh ati hai to is definition me Sangwan sir ko dal ke dekh bhai agar fit hue to samjh jayega.
I played your video on tv, my in laws felt that we are running with some motive and it consumed our whole evening in explaining them 😂😢
I daily listen 2 or 3 topics of Mr. Amit Sangwan sir. And really the knowledge he gives is mind blowing 👍salute to Amit sir 👍super intelligent person 🙏
First time itna honest admi dekha jo bolta hai mera dhanda fear p chal raha hai
Yes finally he get some lime light he needed.. Cudos to arihant bhai you Bring him inspite knowing he has very unpopular opinion..
ज्ञान की कोई कमी नहीं है हमारे काका लोगों मैं 😊
Very important discussion
I don't know who is he, but I am strongly Agree what he said in this podcast.Chahe 100% Sahi ho lekin Apply 50% Bhi Nahi hoga hats off for this Gentleman ❤🌷🙏
Finally someone taking sense in India🇮🇳, this video just pop up I watched it shorts but it’s so interested and true ended up to seen whole episode great podcast watching you from uk 🇬🇧
Yeh banda ullu bana raha hai...he wants y to get married and then face the he'll.
Believe me bachelor's single live is too peaceful
भारत में वैदिक काल से ही परिवार के सदस्यों के अलग-अलग रहने की पंरपरा रही है बड़े बड़े घर होते थे बच्चे गुरुकुल में शिक्षा के लिऐ चले जाते थे शेष लोग अपने अपने कक्षों में अपनी निजता के साथ रहना पसंद करते थे । वो भोजन के समय एकत्र होते थे या किसी विशेष कार्य की मंत्रणा हेतु बैठक में मिलते थे ।
पूरा दिन आज की तरह एक ही घर में उपर नीचे नहीं पड़े रहते थे ।
सबके अलग-अलग कक्ष होते थे बल्कि एक ही घर में सबके अलग अलग घर होते थे सबको अपनी निजता बनाए रखने का पूरा अधिकार था उस काल में ।
उस समय जनसंख्या भी कम थी
तो जगह ज्यादा थी
घर बड़े होते तो
सबको गोपनीयता मिल जाती थी
जब तक जनसंख्या कम नहीं होगी तब तक ज्यादा कुछ नहीं हो सकता
@@Priyaykanth2कैसे जनसंख्या कम होती थी पहले वाले दस दस बच्चे पैदा कर देते थे महंगाई नहीं थी बहुए भी मिल जाती थी आज की तरह लडके के लिए बहु लाने के लिए चप्पल घीसने नहीं पढे थे
@@राॅयलराठौड
जब देश स्वतंत्र हुआ
तो 35 - 40 करोड़ जनसंख्या थी
ओर इतिहास में भी भारत के अन्दर 50 करोड़ से ज्यादा जनसंख्या नहीं रही है
जनसंख्या कम होने पर जमीन भी बहुत सस्ती हो जाएगी
हां real State mafia का भी उपाय करना पड़ेगा
पर जनसंख्या का सबसे बड़ा प्रभाव पड़ेगा
Eye opener show...middle class is targeted every day
Yes it is very true even in our religion it is the same rights of bahu but culture of India saas means saans lelene 😪
आदरणीय जी ने बहुत अच्छी बात बताई है। इनके विचार से परिवार पति-पत्नी है.. सन्तान निश्चित पालन पोषण तक है... कुछ सन्दर्भो तक ठीक हो सकता है।बहुत से ऐसे खुशहाल परिवार हैं जो संयुक्त तौर पर परदादा परदादी तक भी बेहद प्रसन्नता से है। इसलिए यही ठीक है यह आवश्यक नहीं है... बहुत सी समस्याओं का समाधान या परिवारों की समस्याओं का समाधान इनके विचारों से हो सकता है। लेकिन सब ऐसा करने से होगा आवश्यक नहीं..... बुखार होने पर बुखार की दवाई दी जाती है कीमोथैरेपी नहीं की जाती। अलग- अलग समस्याओं के भिन्न-भिन्न समाधान होंगे।
यो ही जिम्मेदारी या स्वच्छंदता के लिए अविवाहित रहना..... और निश्चित लक्ष्य के लिए अपने को उत्सर्ग करने के लिए सांसारिक जीवन में प्रवेश करें बिना समाज कार्य करना अलग-अलग बात है।
आदरणीय मोदी जी परिवार संस्था के खिलाफ नहीं बल्कि परिवार मजबूत हो उसके लिए कुटुम्ब प्रबोधन का कार्य जिस संघ के माध्यम से होता है उसके हिस्सा है।
पर बेचलर लोगों को शादीशुदा लोग जिने नहीं देते हैं समाज में रहने नहीं देते हैं शांति से रहने नहीं देते हैं अकेला इतना काम क्यों करता तेरे इतने खर्चे कहाँ है क्यो अकेला रहना गुनाह है क्या जरूरी है की वो साधू बन जाए बाबा बन जाए अक्सर लोग मुझे कहते हैं शादी नहीं कर रहे हैं तो समाज में क्यों हो कही आश्रम में चले जाओं भाई मेनें कौनसी तेरी बीवी पर चढ गया हुं जो तुझे तकलीफ हो रही है
Awesome conversation 😂
Nice podcast. Great points discussed.
Late comment but I appreciate MOST of the message in this video. I have seen so many things playing out in my 19 years with a publicly listed corporate…..
Not just middle class... It's in every class
Misogynistic mindset and emotionally abusive men are also a factor in marriage delay. Two of my female cousins got abusive partners. They are happily divorced now.
महिला के बारे जो बात बोली हैं sir ने बडी सच्ची बात हैं जी...कोई ध्यान ही नाही देता इन बातोन पे...अगर घर परिवार बिखरता है तो सिर्फ मर्द ही जिमेवर होता है..महिला को तो यून ही बदनाम किया जाता है.. क्योंकी उनकी बात घर मे कोई सूनाता ही नाही ❤😊😊
Ommg.. itna satik observation aur bina dare baat ki hai Sir ne.. Im a Fan now❤
💯 right. Ek ek shabad Satya Vachan. Well said Hats off to you SIR. KASH AAPKE JAISE SAB HO JAYE to Samaj ko ek NEW DISHA mil jaye.
Bachhe paida karna or unhe palne me bhut paisa bhi lag jata hai...paida krne me 1.5 lakh...fir education, school drama, toys books, ghumna, dresses sab bhut zyada costly hai...sab pr gst extra..
ha paisa lagta h vo bhi bohot jyada but blaming gst seriously.. jaise gst se pehle to koi tax tha hi nahi
Aapko paida krne or padhane likhane me aapke maa baap ko kitne lage
U r write thats y we r not having n yur life is also finished no freedom bs unke liye kamate jao
Ham to apna kama k retayerment le k beth gaye or guniya ghum rahe h ab life enjoy kr rahe h
Vese bhi bache bade ho kr apna chale jate h videsh apne sath koi ni reta
baccha ek he karo to thik hai jyada nhi hone chahiye jab financially stable hojao tab karlo
Toh phir paisa bhi Kamana padhega na Jada uski motivation hogi. Kuch toh cheez aapko level up karne pe majboor karegi hi life meh nahi toh comfort zone meh kuch nhi hoga