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This line really spoke to me. "You're doing so much for this woman and not realizing she's doing nothing for you." I want a wife and family more than anything and I pray for that... but I keep finding women that aren't worth my attention. All I can do is trust God. Thank you for this.
Same hurting bad I feel I'm being played. Onviously she sees me as a good catch...but the reality is that i'm not her real type...she like loud obnoxious guys and drama.
@@armyparrot9353 drop her bro. As a woman, you wasting your time and she's wasting yours. Being involved with someone that's not her type is not something she can sustain in the long run, she will find that "type" and may play you both. Just pray God will send the right one💕
#5: Sharing the Same Values. This area was the biggest issue in my last relationship. She was a beautiful, upbeat, loving person, but when it came to shared values, morals, and social perceptions, we were very different. Looking back, we were simply raised differently. This eventually caused a lot of disconnect on both sides. My parents often warned me, "get with a woman with the same family background". In my younger days, I perceived that notion as being "pretentious" to others. But now that I desire a wife, family, and a certain quality of life, I realize my parents were right.
listen bro, i am currently in the same situation, at some point because she wanted to move out when we were getting close to getting married and gotten our own place, i wanted to wait for marriage because of my up bring ing in the church and we were a month from marriage. i was always there even stayed late over there, basically staying the night but would leave around 4 or 5 to get a lil more sleep for work..i told about my morals and values and because she wasn't getting her way by me moving in until marriage and causing friction between her and my family she said f my moral and basically my family... but as God would have i was blind to things other people would seee but since God showed the type of person she is through fasting and praying i am glad he saved from what would have been depression and being ensnared
I know this channel is designed to counsel men but as a woman, I'm finding great value in these teachings. I think a lot of the lessons can be applied to both genders plus they help me understand what I can do to be a better partner. As always, thanks kindly for sharing your wisdom. May God bless you abundantly.
I posit that a woman’s ability and EAGERNESSES to bring their man peace and/or enhance his peace is the MOST Important trait to look for. It demonstrates her level of respect, and love for her man that can’t be ignored!
I’m a first generation Asian American Man. 38 yrs old. You are the mentor every man needs. I’ve been only following you for the last 4 weeks and every video I’ve watched so far is Gold. Thank you so much.
Wish I would have found this list before getting married. She failed 6 out of 7 areas. She got along well with my family the rest was horrible. 3 years finally ended in divorce. I thank God that someone has finally made a video that tells me what we should be looking for when we are ready for marriage. I will use this list moving forward. Thank you and God bless you.
*Character shows in the small moments, and paying attention to these details can help avoid future issues. This is practical advice that everyone should consider!*
It is so good that you created another channel only for men. Thanks a lot! I have to say I've never meet anyone in my life who understands the relationship issues as good as you do.
This is golden! I will say though it's very frustrating because people jump from person to person so quickly. Seems like People aren't taking their time to heal or work on themselves. It's almost to the point where it's exhausting trying to find the right one. Great video.
I'm a woman and this is really helping me too, because the good advice is the same for both men and women in a relationship and who actually want a loving, caring, healthy, consistently loyal, faithful and committed, hopefully long-term relationship with their partner. Especially when you've been through a lot of disrespectful language and behavior, cheating and abuse. Right now, I want to go back, but I know the healthier, safer decision is to let go and allow that space for healing and growing. Thank you so much Mr. Stephan for all your compassionate help and great advice! Warmest regards and I wish you and all of yours, always including your non-human animal companions, the best. Thank you.
Listening to conversations like this make me realize how much better i would be if i had a father.. or a older male figure that i could talk this stuff with..i only realize at 28 how important a father is/was.. i never thought it was needed.. until i started listening to talks like this..
Men please don't not be afraid to tell someone about a verbal/physical relationship..its super hard to do as a man and most are raised to not put thier hands on a woman and treat them respectfully..Always full of drama/hate with zero positivity or optimism..she got along with nobody even her own family and friends..I dealt with abuse from my ex for 13 years hoping it would get better..I turned to drugs and alcohol to escape..she was an anchor for my life and the day she asked for divorce was sad but now I see the blessing that it was..I thanked her for our beautiful son and teaching me alot about myself and my faults but setting me free!! Don't waste your life with these people..the longer you stay the more your self worth diminishes and its even harder to leave!!
I want a man that is open and transparent, so I can empathize, comfort him. Trust is important to me on both sides. I want my man to trust me. I hate drama and arguing.🙏🏽
I believe the right woman brings these benefits. 1. Her presence is a plus. You enjoy talking to her and the conversations builds up. 2. She makes you feel proud of being with her and she respects you and the relationship 3. She knows what to do to put you at ease and gives you fuel tobtackle life. 4. She puts us ahead of me me me... shebis a team player 5. The sex is good and she is open to try what you desire while being faithfull. 6. Her "closets" are clean and organised. Overall she does not frustrate you and mostly makes lofe better.
woo wee! oh how i needed to hear this! just come out a relationship with a suspected a BPD woman! physcially gorgeous Brazilian with much spice. this woman could dance, cook and everything else but absolutely crazy as hell! bought a car and one week later tried to bust the windows and scratched the paint!
Thank you King! I needed to hear every word of this and the one I’ve been dealing with has failed in every area and is extremely toxic but thinks it’s cute or something. I appreciate you 💯
The problem is how society portray love. Society love is this nice feeling thing but the real love is the decisions u make for such person. Love is not a feeling and that is where we get disappointed after.
The best way to ruin a Good Rx, Is to start sleeping with her.... A Spiritual Certainty..... Get to know the inner person first, Creating a Soul Tie will only make matters worse.... Mathew 6:33 must be first! Then everything else will fall into place💯👑🛡️👊💫 Also Vett check, Pay attn to Actions and not empty words or Deeds👊 Semper Fi.....
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Thank you Steven for making a video for a man to find a woman I had made a comment that I think you focus more on women thank you for taking the time to look towards the male figure and cuz I do need help and finding a wife in my future God bless you!
I have to add one more key. "Is she real"? I'm recently coming out of a 10 yr. Relationship to a decent woman but unfourtantly she has been molded by the church. Nothing against the church but we are both human and spirit. You can be this sold out believer for God but if you forget others are human you will not be walking in grace and patients. You will be walking in standards and entitlement. So many people in the church are putting on this facade they are these amazing faith filled believers yet forgetting we are just sinners saved by grace. We will not be perfect until the coming of christ. And God only knows if that will even happen in our life time. Just because I don't speak the word of God with every word that comes out of my lips don't mean I'm not a believer. Just because I don't go to church every Sunday don't mean I am a person without fruit. Personally I been a believer for 28 yrs. To me church is often more shark filled waters than a safe hot tub. So many fake people that won't tell you what they think only what the word of God says.
Thanks for this lesson bro. I’m learning a lot from your videos. I didn’t have a dad or uncle in my life to teach me this stuff and I’m 42. So watching your videos I’m learning a lot so thanks for sharing. Much appreciated
Super valuable video. I felt like I was really getting way too much good info for free on this. Thank you Stephan. For what it's worth, I'm 40 now. I'm divorced and have been in multiple long-term relationships. The reason I'm single right now is because all the past women I was involved with didn't live up to these rules. Not saying it's easy to find a woman who meets all this criteria, but I'm not settling for anything less. Like you said, the relationship is sure to deteriorate over time if she doesn't fit these requirements.
I just broke up with my girl because I felt like I had too. She didn’t respect me or listen to me from the beginning. She stayed in contact with her ex too. I finally had enough after 4 months and just be honest, I feel broken. I knew it had to be done but it still feels like a piece of me is missing
Never date a girl with an ex. If she has an ex, then she should be doing the hard persuing. After 3 dates max to give you her coochie. More than 3 dates and still nothing, move on to the next.
same thing happened with me. she stayed in contact with pretty much all her exes and guys she liked despite the fact i voiced my concerns about it. Eventually it just had to end due to constant disrespect and miscommunication
@@ShegunT yeah man. Gotta respect ourselves more than them. Low quality women are gonna act like that. We gotta do better at seeing them for what they are
Such a great video! I was attached to someone I had been dating definitely for the sex. She had some good values but decided to continue with someone else instead and now in a happy relationship with her that even if sex wasn’t counted, we enjoy each other just as much.
As usual, Stephen, I love your videos.....always helpful and very well explained. I listen to a lot of your woman channel talks..... thought I would drop by and see what you say to the men! I think it's a good idea that you speak to both. And it's good that we get to sorta see the other side too. Thank You.
That's the thing Sir Steph... Having a wrong time picking the right woman means they haven't sought the right Man (God that Is), along with Wisdom. God bless All 🙏
I am very loving but I have realized and can admit that I am not impulsively positive/optimistic. I don’t want to end up draining the battery of my relationship so I am trying to change my mindset
Love your channel bro.. very very helpful and truthfully I watch the videos you post for women as well. Would like to come to your NYC show in September
Hey love the video This is my second vid I'm watching and I can see that I miss guided my self and didn't communicate my feelings to her and I ended up getting disrespectful do you have a video on how a man can learn his emotions
I would like to see something like this for young developing men (17-28ish). I work with young men, I have a son that’s a young man. I see them all struggling through bad advice… terrible advice… from other women (sometimes their mothers)… men… peers. In some of our conversations… where they open up a little about what the want to experience… contrary to what many May think about young men in urban environments… they really do want to experience health within their interactions with young women. Many of them are coming from homes that laid out a lot of confusion. Some of them respect and praise the chaotic models they’ve had however some of them are not with it and want something more… there’s just not a lot of powerful info like this here. I know they need to focus on developing themselves, completing school, building income in proper preparation for relationships… but we gotta be real lol… they are going to be engaging young women… potentially traumatizing and getting traumatized. I’ve been getting the older men in our org to watch these videos… they have been bringing the young men in on watching the videos… so that’s been powerful. However some little specifics for younger men would be Golden!
This is vid supplements where the church doesn’t teach and/ or when men especially young men don’t have a strong (God Fearing) man in their corner to teaching them to take personal responsibility for their choices with women as well as work on themselves to become men who truly respect themselves and have ZERO tolerance for disrespect from their women, address the disrespect and walk away if the women do not accept being called out. Plus a woman who brings peace into your life? This really resonated Thank you, sir
You guys love the type of women that manipulate you and pretend to be something else! You literally ignore a woman that is not all about her! I watch countless couples where the man is just crazy about a woman that is only about her, and demanding! Almost like a badge of honour of how they please her! It looks so disrespectful from outside, but I see it all the time! Baffles me!
@@blacksea1726 CORRECTION some may be attracted to this type of woman BUT when those fools realise she’s that toxic??? HELL NO NOT ALL men gravitate to this type of woman. And those that do as well as stay with this Jezebel spirit, deserve all the misery they get until they wise up from the toxicity and unnecessary pain!
🌈😘🤗😃🌸🙏 Mens Channel ROCK. Stephan your ADVICE IS SO NEEDED .. You know the BAD Advice too many men and women Are getting out there. Thank You For your 💘 love for people and Your prayers 🙏 😍
I am separated 11 yrs living in different cities. And in these 11 yrs of dating and trying to find a woman I have dated 4 times with the longest 4 yrs. All of the woman understood the separation with no problems. Non of the relationships ended because I was still married. I can get into details on why each one ended in order for you to make an educated decision. I have gained several female friends, no one that I have slept with but just real friends. Now in saying this, not one woman was jealous or insecure by me having female friends. The new woman in my life can't understand the level of friendship. I am friends with 2 of the woman I dated and I have a female best friend who I treat as a sister. She was this while I was together with my wife before she left.. My new woman can't understand again and I want to be with this woman but cutting off friends is hard. Anyone in my life is chill non-aggressive and I put out the same energy. My new friend is fire and fun. We are different. In the limited info what do you think?
There IS NO PERFECT WOMAN or MAN!!!!!!🫢🫢🫢🫢🫢 We ARE ALL imperfect individuals THAT have to be WILLING to be INTERDEPENDENT & WORK WITH EACH OTHER. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Man my girl failed all these. It was not always this bad. It seems like as I improved and made progress for her she back stepped and wanted more and got further away from what I need. Until now everything we want and need conflict each other. I have had to tell her no I can't give anything more. I have nothing else to give. I need some things from you in order to Keep going. She refused and kept to her mind that I need to make more changes. So I declined to try anymore
Did you always expressed your wants, needs and set boundaries? Sometimes we aren’t clear enough going into a relationship then as it progresses and challenges present that’s when you see the lack of compatibility or compromise. Best of luck healing your relationship or if you decided to breakup!
@lt.2992 we broke up. I have not healed from it at all. It's been by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through. We have kids together and u love her so I kept hope something would change. But she ran off with a new guy when I started asking her to work with me. She told me she has nothing to work on. It's really a mess they didn't work out and since she has been open to being with me again. But I'm not feeling it like I was before. And to answer your question no I did not set any boundaries early on. Nor did I even really know what I wanted of a relationship. Everything was just so hot and passionate but turned into a very toxic situation for both of us. I became a toxic person dealing with her.
I know this is a man’s channel for now, but I do have to say, it’s not always the pain that brings on her negative behavior it has a lot to do with her upbringing notice how she acts around her family, If her family is out of control which they might be, but don’t judge her because of them..If she tends to get respect from her family by have a pleasing personality with her family and they treat her as such, then she’s OK, but if they don’t and give her that look as if she’s putting on for you then that’s a problem. Yes Mr. Stephan Labossiere is right on this topic..Take her around her family if you decide she’s the one for you, sit back and enjoy you might learn something.
dated a woman for 9 months, nice woman, cooked, and had great sex, most of our conversations were about sex, we texted alot, and if it wasn't about sex it was a bit dry,
Although generally true, a C-PTSD woman may very well be good and fine with you despite not managing the friction of interacting with most other people for the time being. And bad, toxic behaviour can be in someone under tremendous pressure, longetrm sleep-deprivation, muc abuse upon abuse, including that of men, where she has not had the chance to heal, but been withheld the right kind of help professionally .
Guys when choosing a women be aware of your inner desire to have children. Mine was so strong that made me overlook everything. My lust, desire for women were so big it's unbelievable. Now after I had two boys I really don't feel that and I see clear.
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@StephenSpeaksforMen is there a way we can have a conversation about relationship advise
A video won’t do it for me but a conversation would help alot
This line really spoke to me. "You're doing so much for this woman and not realizing she's doing nothing for you." I want a wife and family more than anything and I pray for that... but I keep finding women that aren't worth my attention. All I can do is trust God. Thank you for this.
Same hurting bad I feel I'm being played. Onviously she sees me as a good catch...but the reality is that i'm not her real type...she like loud obnoxious guys and drama.
@@armyparrot9353 drop her bro. As a woman, you wasting your time and she's wasting yours. Being involved with someone that's not her type is not something she can sustain in the long run, she will find that "type" and may play you both. Just pray God will send the right one💕
@@armyparrot9353 sounds like a woman that is not emotionally mature. In short not marriage or relationship material. Greetings from another woman ;)
🧎🏾♂️🙏🏽
I’m in the same boat my friend!
#5: Sharing the Same Values. This area was the biggest issue in my last relationship. She was a beautiful, upbeat, loving person, but when it came to shared values, morals, and social perceptions, we were very different. Looking back, we were simply raised differently. This eventually caused a lot of disconnect on both sides. My parents often warned me, "get with a woman with the same family background". In my younger days, I perceived that notion as being "pretentious" to others. But now that I desire a wife, family, and a certain quality of life, I realize my parents were right.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
listen bro, i am currently in the same situation, at some point because she wanted to move out when we were getting close to getting married and gotten our own place, i wanted to wait for marriage because of my up bring ing in the church and we were a month from marriage. i was always there even stayed late over there, basically staying the night but would leave around 4 or 5 to get a lil more sleep for work..i told about my morals and values and because she wasn't getting her way by me moving in until marriage and causing friction between her and my family she said f my moral and basically my family... but as God would have i was blind to things other people would seee but since God showed the type of person she is through fasting and praying i am glad he saved from what would have been depression and being ensnared
Thanks for sharing man, what exactly was different about your values and outlook? I’m having a similar issue now
I know this channel is designed to counsel men but as a woman, I'm finding great value in these teachings. I think a lot of the lessons can be applied to both genders plus they help me understand what I can do to be a better partner.
As always, thanks kindly for sharing your wisdom. May God bless you abundantly.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and may God bless you as well 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen Thank you for taking the time to acknowledge my feedback and for the blessing 🙏
So true he doesn't comes off a bias .given he speaking from the man vantage point. He try to be as realistic from both sides .
As a man I watch his videos to women. It's good to get understanding from the other side and be able to bring things together.
I posit that a woman’s ability and EAGERNESSES to bring their man peace and/or enhance his peace is the MOST Important trait to look for. It demonstrates her level of respect, and love for her man that can’t be ignored!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Where are these men that are in desperate need of peace by a woman living at?
Truth! Her eagerness to be a good partner is a critical key.
I’m a first generation Asian American Man. 38 yrs old. You are the mentor every man needs. I’ve been only following you for the last 4 weeks and every video I’ve watched so far is Gold. Thank you so much.
Glad to hear that. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Wish I would have found this list before getting married. She failed 6 out of 7 areas. She got along well with my family the rest was horrible. 3 years finally ended in divorce. I thank God that someone has finally made a video that tells me what we should be looking for when we are ready for marriage. I will use this list moving forward. Thank you and God bless you.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
Teachings like this should really be in our school systems, what a horrible job this world has in educational priority
You still wouldn't have listened.lol. All the best going forward.
*Character shows in the small moments, and paying attention to these details can help avoid future issues. This is practical advice that everyone should consider!*
It is so good that you created another channel only for men. Thanks a lot! I have to say I've never meet anyone in my life who understands the relationship issues as good as you do.
This is golden! I will say though it's very frustrating because people jump from person to person so quickly. Seems like People aren't taking their time to heal or work on themselves. It's almost to the point where it's exhausting trying to find the right one. Great video.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
I'm a woman and this is really helping me too, because the good advice is the same for both men and women in a relationship and who actually want a loving, caring, healthy, consistently loyal, faithful and committed, hopefully long-term relationship with their partner. Especially when you've been through a lot of disrespectful language and behavior, cheating and abuse. Right now, I want to go back, but I know the healthier, safer decision is to let go and allow that space for healing and growing. Thank you so much Mr. Stephan for all your compassionate help and great advice! Warmest regards and I wish you and all of yours, always including your non-human animal companions, the best. Thank you.
It is well with you and everyone of us that needs healing in Jesus name.
Listening to conversations like this make me realize how much better i would be if i had a father..
or a older male figure that i could talk this stuff with..i only realize at 28 how important a father is/was..
i never thought it was needed.. until i started listening to talks like this..
A lot of father's won't talk about this stuff with you, and even if they do they may be clueless themselves
so powerful, your teachings have made me a high value man
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Men please don't not be afraid to tell someone about a verbal/physical relationship..its super hard to do as a man and most are raised to not put thier hands on a woman and treat them respectfully..Always full of drama/hate with zero positivity or optimism..she got along with nobody even her own family and friends..I dealt with abuse from my ex for 13 years hoping it would get better..I turned to drugs and alcohol to escape..she was an anchor for my life and the day she asked for divorce was sad but now I see the blessing that it was..I thanked her for our beautiful son and teaching me alot about myself and my faults but setting me free!! Don't waste your life with these people..the longer you stay the more your self worth diminishes and its even harder to leave!!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I want a man that is open and transparent, so I can empathize, comfort him. Trust is important to me on both sides. I want my man to trust me. I hate drama and arguing.🙏🏽
To each his own. I am Not friends with my ex’s. Season over. Healed heart, life saved. TEACH STEPHAN!!!
Season OVER but some dead leaves tend to linger cus they know the grass ain't greener in the other side 🤷🏾♀️
I believe the right woman brings these benefits. 1. Her presence is a plus. You enjoy talking to her and the conversations builds up. 2. She makes you feel proud of being with her and she respects you and the relationship 3. She knows what to do to put you at ease and gives you fuel tobtackle life. 4. She puts us ahead of me me me... shebis a team player 5. The sex is good and she is open to try what you desire while being faithfull. 6. Her "closets" are clean and organised.
Overall she does not frustrate you and mostly makes lofe better.
Her closets are clean & organized? Really? Was you in it looking for skeletons smh
I really appreciate this, Stephan. I pray we all find and choose the right woman
Amen 🙏
woo wee! oh how i needed to hear this! just come out a relationship with a suspected a BPD woman! physcially gorgeous Brazilian with much spice. this woman could dance, cook and everything else but absolutely crazy as hell! bought a car and one week later tried to bust the windows and scratched the paint!
Well said Stephan...another point is that, the woman you choose eventually end up raising your kids,she can't give what she don't have.
You're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing!
Good day Mr. Labossiere I know this advice is for men but as a woman it helps me to keep my own life in check. Thanks so much
Nice work! Men need to hear this! Many thanks!
My pleasure ❤️
Finally, a man that tells men to take accountability for THEIR choice.
🙏 ❤
Hahaha 😆
When are women ever accountable for anything??
And tell women to take accountability for themselves also.
Thank you King! I needed to hear every word of this and the one I’ve been dealing with has failed in every area and is extremely toxic but thinks it’s cute or something. I appreciate you 💯
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
The problem is how society portray love. Society love is this nice feeling thing but the real love is the decisions u make for such person. Love is not a feeling and that is where we get disappointed after.
I love to watch both of your channels. I learn so much about the opposite sex. What men are looking for. How to handle problems and how to solve them
Glad I could help 🙏
What's his other channel?
The best way to ruin a Good Rx,
Is to start sleeping with her....
A Spiritual Certainty.....
Get to know the inner person first,
Creating a Soul Tie will only make matters worse....
Mathew 6:33 must be first! Then everything else will fall into place💯👑🛡️👊💫
Also Vett check,
Pay attn to Actions and not empty words or Deeds👊
Semper Fi.....
Man, these are some HARD truths. Thanks for the wake-up call, Stephan. This really helps motivate me.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Unique channel. Extremely useful and healthy content. Love this stuff!
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Core values should only evolve not completely change because you enter a new relationship.
Good tips on the wrong woman!
We all need training for what “looks healthy” been learning myself 😉
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen I’m just so grateful you’re out here as a positive source for both men and women ❤️❤️
Thank you Steven for making a video for a man to find a woman I had made a comment that I think you focus more on women thank you for taking the time to look towards the male figure and cuz I do need help and finding a wife in my future God bless you!
I appreciate that and may God bless you as well 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen thank you I already thank God as if if already bless me her I just have to wait on his timing God 🙏 big brother!
BLESS THE MOST HIGH. Peace and Blessings Brother. Thank you for your teachings
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
Thank you for this I listen to all of your segments they’ve been helping me out tremendously. God bless you brother.
I have to add one more key. "Is she real"? I'm recently coming out of a 10 yr. Relationship to a decent woman but unfourtantly she has been molded by the church. Nothing against the church but we are both human and spirit. You can be this sold out believer for God but if you forget others are human you will not be walking in grace and patients. You will be walking in standards and entitlement. So many people in the church are putting on this facade they are these amazing faith filled believers yet forgetting we are just sinners saved by grace. We will not be perfect until the coming of christ. And God only knows if that will even happen in our life time. Just because I don't speak the word of God with every word that comes out of my lips don't mean I'm not a believer. Just because I don't go to church every Sunday don't mean I am a person without fruit. Personally I been a believer for 28 yrs. To me church is often more shark filled waters than a safe hot tub. So many fake people that won't tell you what they think only what the word of God says.
Number 6 was a big one my brother, aw now you talking!!!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
This is the TRUTH!🔥
When you have a great partner never disrespect them!🔥
Listen and speak in love!🔥
Thank you, Stephan!❤️
My pleasure ❤️
Ok this video is hitting. Thanks!
My pleasure ❤️
I just found your channel. You spoke real truth! I felt you were speaking directly to me. Keep up the great content
Thanks for this lesson bro. I’m learning a lot from your videos. I didn’t have a dad or uncle in my life to teach me this stuff and I’m 42. So watching your videos I’m learning a lot so thanks for sharing. Much appreciated
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Yes #4 tricky. Boundaries, owning power.
Super valuable video. I felt like I was really getting way too much good info for free on this. Thank you Stephan.
For what it's worth, I'm 40 now. I'm divorced and have been in multiple long-term relationships. The reason I'm single right now is because all the past women I was involved with didn't live up to these rules.
Not saying it's easy to find a woman who meets all this criteria, but I'm not settling for anything less. Like you said, the relationship is sure to deteriorate over time if she doesn't fit these requirements.
I just broke up with my girl because I felt like I had too. She didn’t respect me or listen to me from the beginning. She stayed in contact with her ex too. I finally had enough after 4 months and just be honest, I feel broken. I knew it had to be done but it still feels like a piece of me is missing
Never date a girl with an ex. If she has an ex, then she should be doing the hard persuing. After 3 dates max to give you her coochie. More than 3 dates and still nothing, move on to the next.
Wishing you the best
@@lt.2992 Thank you and I appreciate it ❤️
same thing happened with me. she stayed in contact with pretty much all her exes and guys she liked despite the fact i voiced my concerns about it. Eventually it just had to end due to constant disrespect and miscommunication
@@ShegunT yeah man. Gotta respect ourselves more than them. Low quality women are gonna act like that. We gotta do better at seeing them for what they are
I had no clue you have a channel about men 😅 anyway already subscribed!
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A heart wants what it wants. Period.
We want a man to say what he means and mean what he says, make us a priority not a thing he has to do or make time for like a chore!
Such a great video! I was attached to someone I had been dating definitely for the sex. She had some good values but decided to continue with someone else instead and now in a happy relationship with her that even if sex wasn’t counted, we enjoy each other just as much.
As usual, Stephen, I love your videos.....always helpful and very well explained. I listen to a lot of your woman channel talks..... thought I would drop by and see what you say to the men! I think it's a good idea that you speak to both. And it's good that we get to sorta see the other side too. Thank You.
That's the thing Sir Steph...
Having a wrong time picking the right woman means they haven't sought the right Man (God that Is), along with Wisdom. God bless All 🙏
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Thank you for blessing us with this knowledge. Love to see the content and the channel grow. 💯 Sending blessings ur way man 🙏🏾💪🏾
Thank you for watching and may you be blessed as well 🙏
I agree, more coaches need to be more like him and Courtney Ryan. They know how to talk to one gender without crapping on the other
@@ksquareshow4480 Exactly. Taking both perspectives, not bashing one or the other. And never heard about Courtney I’ll check it out.
@@Userwhatitdob14 you won’t regret it. Everyone else imo goes too extreme.
Love your videos wish I would have found them sooner. If you could do a video about talking stage issues how to handle mistakes men make etc
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
I am very loving but I have realized and can admit that I am not impulsively positive/optimistic. I don’t want to end up draining the battery of my relationship so I am trying to change my mindset
Great video!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Finally… for the men❤ truly enjoyed and shared
Love your channel bro.. very very helpful and truthfully I watch the videos you post for women as well. Would like to come to your NYC show in September
I appreciate that 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen what venue is the NYC show at? It doesn't have it listed
Hey love the video This is my second vid I'm watching and I can see that I miss guided my self and didn't communicate my feelings to her and I ended up getting disrespectful do you have a video on how a man can learn his emotions
Great suggestion. I'm yet to make a video on that topic. I will add it to my list to get it done!
Yeah man bro you know what you saying. Major love Stephan may god god continue bless you ❤
Massive value loaded here💕💕. Thank you
I'm taking notes for my Marriage ahead ❤❤❤
I’m always here for your videos
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much, I appreciate that!
Thanks man this was really helpful!
Thank you for the great information brother 😁💯👌
I was 100% attached to my ex fiancé over sex she could lay it down 😂, was eye opening once I realized that. Was blinded by the booty
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
That should be the name of a song
Been there experienced that
This point in time I realize it's overrated
The last one about purpose is real facts . Men chase purpose first over women .
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Some of their purpose is a woman especially when they're broke & chose the wrong one 🤷🏾♀️
I would like to see something like this for young developing men (17-28ish). I work with young men, I have a son that’s a young man. I see them all struggling through bad advice… terrible advice… from other women (sometimes their mothers)… men… peers. In some of our conversations… where they open up a little about what the want to experience… contrary to what many May think about young men in urban environments… they really do want to experience health within their interactions with young women. Many of them are coming from homes that laid out a lot of confusion. Some of them respect and praise the chaotic models they’ve had however some of them are not with it and want something more… there’s just not a lot of powerful info like this here.
I know they need to focus on developing themselves, completing school, building income in proper preparation for relationships… but we gotta be real lol… they are going to be engaging young women… potentially traumatizing and getting traumatized.
I’ve been getting the older men in our org to watch these videos… they have been bringing the young men in on watching the videos… so that’s been powerful. However some little specifics for younger men would be Golden!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that. I'm glad the videos are helpful, and I will put your suggestion into consideration ❤️ 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen thank you dearly! 🙏🏽
Man nice to hear your perspective pretty solid points
This is vid supplements where the church doesn’t teach and/ or when men especially young men don’t have a strong (God Fearing) man in their corner to teaching them to take personal responsibility for their choices with women as well as work on themselves to become men who truly respect themselves and have ZERO tolerance for disrespect from their women, address the disrespect and walk away if the women do not accept being called out.
Plus a woman who brings peace into your life? This really resonated
Thank you, sir
My pleasure ❤️
You guys love the type of women that manipulate you and pretend to be something else! You literally ignore a woman that is not all about her! I watch countless couples where the man is just crazy about a woman that is only about her, and demanding! Almost like a badge of honour of how they please her! It looks so disrespectful from outside, but I see it all the time! Baffles me!
@@blacksea1726 CORRECTION some may be attracted to this type of woman BUT when those fools realise she’s that toxic??? HELL NO NOT ALL men gravitate to this type of woman. And those that do as well as stay with this Jezebel spirit, deserve all the misery they get until they wise up from the toxicity and unnecessary pain!
Thanks Bro 💪🏾
My pleasure ❤️
Making sense
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
You are full of great wisdom. Much love ❤
BIG FACTS 💯
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Mens Channel ROCK.
Stephan your ADVICE IS SO
NEEDED .. You know the BAD
Advice too many men and women
Are getting out there. Thank You
For your 💘 love for people and
Your prayers 🙏 😍
Stephan you're speaking about me all through this video. It's been all about this toxic woman. 😪
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I am separated 11 yrs living in different cities. And in these 11 yrs of dating and trying to find a woman I have dated 4 times with the longest 4 yrs. All of the woman understood the separation with no problems. Non of the relationships ended because I was still married. I can get into details on why each one ended in order for you to make an educated decision. I have gained several female friends, no one that I have slept with but just real friends. Now in saying this, not one woman was jealous or insecure by me having female friends. The new woman in my life can't understand the level of friendship. I am friends with 2 of the woman I dated and I have a female best friend who I treat as a sister. She was this while I was together with my wife before she left..
My new woman can't understand again and I want to be with this woman but cutting off friends is hard. Anyone in my life is chill non-aggressive and I put out the same energy. My new friend is fire and fun. We are different.
In the limited info what do you think?
There IS
NO PERFECT
WOMAN or MAN!!!!!!🫢🫢🫢🫢🫢
We ARE ALL imperfect individuals
THAT
have to be WILLING to be INTERDEPENDENT & WORK WITH EACH OTHER. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Man my girl failed all these. It was not always this bad. It seems like as I improved and made progress for her she back stepped and wanted more and got further away from what I need. Until now everything we want and need conflict each other. I have had to tell her no I can't give anything more. I have nothing else to give. I need some things from you in order to Keep going. She refused and kept to her mind that I need to make more changes. So I declined to try anymore
Did you always expressed your wants, needs and set boundaries? Sometimes we aren’t clear enough going into a relationship then as it progresses and challenges present that’s when you see the lack of compatibility or compromise. Best of luck healing your relationship or if you decided to breakup!
@lt.2992 we broke up. I have not healed from it at all. It's been by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through. We have kids together and u love her so I kept hope something would change. But she ran off with a new guy when I started asking her to work with me. She told me she has nothing to work on. It's really a mess they didn't work out and since she has been open to being with me again. But I'm not feeling it like I was before. And to answer your question no I did not set any boundaries early on. Nor did I even really know what I wanted of a relationship. Everything was just so hot and passionate but turned into a very toxic situation for both of us. I became a toxic person dealing with her.
Thanks
I wish every man would watch this there are some good men that have been with women that are not all that great and good women miss out on them
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This is SO TRUE DAMMIT!
I know this is a man’s channel for now, but I do have to say, it’s not always the pain that brings on her negative behavior it has a lot to do with her upbringing notice how she acts around her family, If her family is out of control which they might be, but don’t judge her because of them..If she tends to get respect from her family by have a pleasing personality with her family and they treat her as such, then she’s OK, but if they don’t and give her that look as if she’s putting on for you then that’s a problem. Yes Mr. Stephan Labossiere is right on this topic..Take her around her family if you decide she’s the one for you, sit back and enjoy you might learn something.
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Very informative all men need this advice
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Damn! The woman ive been dating failed ALL 7 POINTS! Crazy how even knowing and acknowledging this , the thought of leaving still hurts
I just got a copy
I believe in eating home cooked meals over eating at restaurants every day, it annoys me eating at restaurants every day.
This is true
Visa versa,
What if family had some bad traits but overall very supporting
Wow the things no one tells Men
thank you @stephan
dated a woman for 9 months, nice woman, cooked, and had great sex, most of our conversations were about sex, we texted alot, and if it wasn't about sex it was a bit dry,
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Although generally true, a C-PTSD woman may very well be good and fine with you despite not managing the friction of interacting with most other people for the time being. And bad, toxic behaviour can be in someone under tremendous pressure, longetrm sleep-deprivation, muc abuse upon abuse, including that of men, where she has not had the chance to heal, but been withheld the right kind of help professionally .
Oh man you’ll never understand that you probably just saved my life ❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Great great man
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Dating market is slim for us guys so we'll just settle for whatever we get. Our needs don't mean anything
A person that is always negative will tear you down. It can strip you of your manhood.
What if baby momma acting up when the man with another girl do it go same both ways or could this situation prove different? Thanks
Guys when choosing a women be aware of your inner desire to have children. Mine was so strong that made me overlook everything. My lust, desire for women were so big it's unbelievable. Now after I had two boys I really don't feel that and I see clear.
Wise man
Og spitting
Were All single
This goes for men too,
What is good for one is not good for another