As an aromantic person who feels ZERO romantic attraction, I LOVE romance. I think couples are cute, I love to see people being happy and in love but I would never in a million years ever want to be in a relationship of my own.
@@ostyne5523That's a wonderful attitude. I know a few aromantic people who make it firmly known that romance isn't their thing. Which isn't very polite. I really appreciate your attitude, both of you. ❤
0:46 THANK YOU for mentioning that aro people can still date, as an aro person myself im in a relationship even though i feel little romantic attraction
@thaloblue woah I didn't expect anyone to ask me about this, but answering your questions: I'm the happiest I've ever been, honestly. We are long distance though, so I've never got a chance to be intimate with them (yet), but I don't think it would overwhelm me. I think I might be demi, because I noticed I developed some romantic feelings after forming a deep emotional bond
I’m think I’m aromantic, and whenever I like someone, it’s not in a romantic way, I just look at them and I’m like “man, I want to be friends with them”
@@OldSoulYoungMindI think that’s called being friendly haha. Pretty sure that’s normal Edit: if it’s more of a deep desire it could be something else :). I just mean in general, wanting new friends is normal lol.
6:45 I’ve Heard that for cupioromatics that it’s absolutely horrible. Some people REALLY really want to be in a relationship but it’s just not possible because for somereason you just don’t feel it :(
Yeah, as a cupioromantic myself I do not enjoy being cupioromantic. I want a romantic relationship, I want to experience romantic attraction but, like you said, don't have the feelings for it. I still want the companionship and affection and overall just a person to spend my life with but our relationship would be different than most because I can't feel romantic attraction. It's not that I don't want to feel romantic attraction but that I physically can't. I want and plan on being in a romantic relationship someday, but it's not a necessity like it is for some people. Feel free to ask me any questions. Also, sorry for the essay :P
I am may or may not be cupioromantic (I'm certainly quoiromantic), but a lot of hesitance for me is that I'm very much content (now) with the idea of never feeling romantic attraction. I would be very very happy in a romantic/queer platonic relationship, and the lack of romantic doesn't bother me because I know I'd love the person, just not romantically. Engaging in romance and romantic activities and all of the cheesiest stuff is something I still want. If I am cupioromantic I definetly have it better than most, and while the definition fits like a glove, I feel guilty putting myself in the same group knowing that I'm not suffering from the same anguish that almost everyone there is To all the cupioromantics, yall are beautiful, never forget it ❤
there's another thing with being aromantic where you think you have a crush on someone, you get all the same feelings as having a crush but with some slight differences, but you really just want to be their best friend... this has happened so much to me and it's so confusing lmao it's kinda like quoiromantic but a bit different
Yeah i had a "crush" on a boy once that was in my class, but i realized i wanted to be his friend after i found out i was aroace, but hes no longer in my class 😢
Yes, it is very strange when you enter a romantic relationship after thinking you are in love but you just want the person around, not as a romantic partner, but as a friend, all you want is for it to be over as quickly as possible. Doesn't help that you don't know the difference between romance and platonic.
Evaluator, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO! As an aromantic asexual person myself this is so important to me as us folks on the aromantic and asexual spectrums try so damn hard to tell people that we’re not broken and that we don’t need to be looking for the right person!
yessir aroace here as well :’) my mom doesnt know im aroace (but shes supportive to lgbtq) yet she makes jokes like “when you have kids” or “i wonder what your kids will look like” “how many kids will you have?” And im just like “well uhh.. im gonna go draw ill get back to you”
I kinda hope I do find the right person though lol. I’m cupioromantic and I don’t just want to do love activities I *want* to have a crush. I just don’t get to :/. So basically I hope I’m wrong and I eventually love someone
As a non aromantic autistic that can get completly overwhelmed by all of this and doubts I even want to be in a romantic relationship ever. I am extremely jealous and I want your power to turn of all those brain chemicals so badly. Why was I cursed with this?
Demiromantic here! I'm so happy to see more representation on the internet. When I realized I was demi(both aro and ace) there was little to no info, thank u
Psst! Another demiromantic here!! There's an anime called 'Bloom into You' that captures quite a few aromantic identities :3 It's one of my favourite stories and I'd 100% recommend it if you're feeling alone in your experience or even just looking for a new show. The music and visuals are great
I think i might be demiromantic too. Do you also get the ick when somebody shows romantic interest in you from the get go eventho you don't really share a connection yet? Basically that person self-sabotages any chance of that ever happening.
@@mayatarapanova3248 Same. When I first realised I'm aromantic I called myself demiromantic because I thought its meaning was what I now know is called grayromantic. Well, even if I had used the right word for it I would still have been wrong, because I'm arospike.
I dated an Aro man once and stunningly he was by far the best person at making romantic gestures I've ever met. He didn't really care one way or the other but he knew it mattered to me and liked making me happy and I adored that about him ❤
Fictoromantic here (also asexual) I don’t really feel romantic attraction, but those fictional characters are people I’d date, real people?… no, absolutely not, I can’t imagine that, but I’d date fictional people, not irl ones😭
YESS FINALLY ANOTHER FICTOROMANTIC I'd rather just be in love with a fictional character and be like "teehee they're so silly" or something like that idk instead of going around dating people who just use you and suck, plus real people are already stinky they're not cool 😭 I'm also asexual, but I'm a hypersexual asexual!!
Ngl, I always liked fictional characters, and liked the thought of dating a person that was the opposite sexual of me irl, but I somehow hated the idea of doing it too. I had also felt like I was a bit on the aroace spectrum since I was a young, turns out I'm right. HELLO, FICTORMATIC PEOPLE!! 🗣🗣
Bro I dated a girl that I thought I loved then I realized it was platonic so I broke it up then I am here realizing, why do I have so many fictional crushes
Omg I’m so fricking Quoiromantic cause I was watching this like “yeah that kinda sounds like me” “yeah that also sounds like me” “could this be me?” “Why do all of these sound like me but also not??” And then Qouiromantic came up and I legitimately started screaming at the screen like “YES! YES! FINALLY! WTF IS ROMANCE?? WHEN DOES PLATONIC END AND ROMANTIC BEGIN?? WHEN WHERE WHAT HUH??” And honestly I feel so seen rn because “you just know when you’re in love!” NO I DO NOT 😭
WOOOOO ARO REPRESENTATION!!!! i'm demiromantic and aroflux (which is under the greyromantic umbrella), and now also discovered that i'm fictoromantic as well
Yet you might not fall in any of this categories. It's fine to classify, but remember that to define is to limit. Live and love however and whoever makes you happy, as long as you don't hurt others and act responsibly.
to define isn't to limit. in fact i would argue finally finding a definition/explanation for something you've been feeling can be quite freeing. the younger generation seem to have a real distaste for queer labels. it's sad to see so many misunderstand them and paint them as some kind of limiting prison. queer identities aren't limiting, they are flexible and maleable. it's not a one and done label situation. you can use whichever you feel fits the closest, but it doesn't have to fit 100% either. it's your identity, so you get to choose how you use it and how it defines you. for example, personally, while a few of the more specific identities/microlabels in this video (lithromantic and cupioromantic) fit what i experience more accurately, i choose to use aromantic instead as a broader, umbrella term, and then i can either leave it at that if i don't feel like sharing, or explain further if someone is interested in knowing more about my experiences and i feel like telling them. the point of these identities is to use them as descriptors for your experiences (which may or may not change over time), not boxes you're confined to.
@@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF Thank you! Learning about gray romanticism helped me realize there is nothing wrong with how I experience romantic attraction. Using the label is also helpful when describing my experience to other people who aren’t on the aro spectrum.
Yeah this is how I kinda feel about labels :D I don't like the idea if having to choose a specific one so I just call myself aroace as a loose label regardless of other feelings that are there and could technically fit under a microlabel
I've actually been very confused about my romantic attraction for a while. It's always been weird and inconsistent and stuff, but this video actually helped sooooo yea thanks
*platoniromantic description is said* "It's me!!!" I have a friend that fufills the position of platonic soulmate, and we both feel that way, it's amazing.
I think the best way I understood I was on the aro spectrum was when I realized when I thought of the "perfect wedding" there was no groom or even a bride. I couldn't picture me being with someone but could happily help someone else plan theirs out.
definitely cupio lol. Idk if I experience romantic attraction rarely or never, but I know that regardless of that I love the idea of romance and romantic gestures. I will absolutely bring my friends flowers, go on romantic Picknicks, kiss, etc (as long as they're fine w/ it) I just don''t fall in love.
@Supercuteflowermomo I'm EXACTLY the same. Go team lith-fictoromantic. I've had crushes in the past and pursued intensely every time they weren't reciprocated, but the only time one of my crushes eventually was reciprocated, I suddenly wasn't interested didn't want to talk to them anymore. I couldn't understand why, but it just repelled me somehow for no reason, but this explains that there's nothing wrong with me and I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one like this. Whatever, most of my love life existed inside my head with fictional characters, a few string of anime characters as well as a few characters I've made up myself. Maybe a lot to do with real people being untrustworthy as well as finding nobody in real life who share my values and interests.
I am also, but i've known for a while. These two are actually well known to go hand in hand, since a fictional crush cannot reciprocate. It can get hard to come to terms with, so i wish you good luck!
I am the type of person who loves seeing other people being shipped or a couple but I do NOT like the idea of being romantic to someone, I don't want a romantic attraction to anyone but I like seeing other people be a couple
I'm in a weird spot where I'm aro/ace and I didn't like fictional romance. But after reading a lot of it (and I mean A LOT of it) which heavily focuses on the characters and their emotional journeys (so, like, not fluff for the sake of fluff) suddenly I have some small feelings for them and their relationships? But then I imagine a romantic scenario with me involved, even with a fictional character, and I'm like... Hmm. No thanks. Maybe occasionally? Actually, I'm not interested anymore. Anyone else can have them.
@@conspiracypanda1200 the relationship feeling part hits close to home lol maybe it's being cupiromantic or lithromantic but with fictional characters?? maybe it's a good dynamic or trope you would like to explore more on Can't exactly put a label on it, but you could say "I don't like self-shipping" temporarily
Yeah, that’s also how I feel. I have never felt and don‘t really want to feel anything romantic. Friendship and family vibes are all I need for myself. I guess I am kind of platoniromantic with my best friend? But damn, do I like to watch other mostly fictional characters fall in love and be in love.
I'm recipro-romantic-- and it's funny as hell because if I think someone has a crush on me I'll fall for them.. even if they don't have a crush on me. And as soon as that's disproven the spell in which I was under just completely vanishes
damn I've always felt like I'm somewhere in aro-spectrum but didn't know the right label, so i kinda brushed it off.. but damn finally i found reciproromantic. thank you
I am asexual aromantic and honestly, I just can't get romantic attraction, it's not even that I don't know what it is, I've seen enough media to know what it should feel like, I just don't get it. The closest thing I've gotten to even a hint of a romantic feeling was for a fictional character, but even that was because he was one of my hyperfixation characters, and honestly, I'm perfectly happy with how I am.
i fucking love your videos man. They explain so simply yet somehow in a way you wouldn’t need to so needlessly complicate and explain. My therapist says she always learns something new whenever i come over, whether it be this Alexithymia or for me learning about what AroAce is and what i am.
I think I'm a mix between Lithromantic and Fictoromantic. 🤔 This was a really good video. Thank you for that. ❤ I think I understand the Aro side of me even better now. 😊
Also an identity that some would consider an overlap into the aro spec would be abroromantic, which is similar to the varioromantic attraction, but it more refers to your entire orientation shifting in addition to attraction intensity etc.
As a demiromantic, what sucks about it that nobody tells you is that it's extremely hard to move on. Like once you're into a person you're INTO THEM. Even if you get rejected it'll take quite a while for the feelings to fade. And then it'll be a long time before you fall in love again. It's like the amount of time it took you to fall in love is the same amount that it'll take you to fall out of love if feelings aren't reciprocated.
It's def more common in those who are neurodivergent bc of the way we interpret social cues. I'm not Quoiromantic, but I totally relate to the social "norms" that confuse tf out of me.
nebularomantic is a term really similar to quoiromantic, except the difficulty of understanding your feelings is connected to neurodivergency (I'm not explaining it that well but yeah)
5:49 As someone who is Electio aroace, or in different words, someone who is both cupioromantic and cupiosexual, I think this is a great description of it. In simple words, I just don’t feel people attractive. It’s always been hard for me to say “I love you” to people, even my family. I do want to experience having a relationship and the things that come with it but it’s really difficult when I can’t really feel love. I remember it was especially difficult when I was in my pre teen years and everyone was talking about crushes and it was extremely confusing to me because I have no idea what a crush feels like so I ended up sort of forcing myself to have “crushes” on my friends which caused most of those relationships to end. Luckily that was back then and I’ve learned a lot more about myself and found out I was electio aroace which was a huge relief to finally have a word that describes what I feel. I hope others who are struggling with their identity find things like this video that help them find themselves like my best friend did for me. Thank you Axel
YAYY LITHROMANTIC MENTIONED!!!! I'm lithromantic and I don't see too many people talking about it so it makes me really happy to see someone describe it PERFECTLY :D
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they can all be labeled under the Aromantic label :) you can have more than one of these, and thats enough to count as being on the Aro spectrum. You dont have to have it down to a list of labels if you dont want to ♡
It'll happen. I'm demiromantic too and so I really need to trust someone before feelings become possible. I was friends with my partner for a year before we tentatively started dating. He swears he fell in love at first sight, but it took me a while to catch up. We've been together 18 years now.
im not a big fan of this style of video trending but the evaluator makes it work more than any other youtuber. You own this style more than any other youtuber!
For all demis out there, if you want an absolutely adorable slow burn story with an actual demi, check "Your life : beggings and always". It's a free visual novel that let you play a character through 15 years, from the age of 8 up to 23. You will get to know the lovely Cove Holden, the adorable demi romantic neighbour and develope maybe a friendship, maybe a romance ! It's the best romance story I ever experienced, and very good at representing a big specter of people.
ight, just found out i am literally WTFromantic, THANKKK YOUUUUUU i was about to have a goddamn mental breakdown about this whole world of romance, so... damn you saved me one breakdown thx thx
Thank you so much for posting this video! Ive been able to find a label that fits me for every aspect (gender and sexuality) except for romantic. And have struggled with figuring out what I am romantically for almost 5yrs now. But Caderomantic is definitely what I've been looking for for so long, with some grayromantic involved. I've always felt like a mix of many and none of the lables I could find in the aromantic spectrum. But Cade and gray just makes sense and feels right!
Oh, I am so greyromantic. I have only had one crush in my life- surprisingly recently too- and they have the same exact way of talking as me, what games they like, and everything. I usually only feel attraction to people once I know what they like or talk about, and even then they might not be for me. So yeah, that fits pretty well-
Yippee!! I'm on the aromantic spectrum sort of! It's hard to explain because my experiences with romance and attraction are so specific and intense... For me, platonic and romantic attraction are basically the same thing? There are differences in those I see as friends and those I see as partners, but the line is very blurry. I tend to enjoy typically romantic things, such as cuddling or kissing from friends! I experience love so intensely that it's hard to tell what I'm actually feeling! Because of this, I usually focus more on what I'm wanting. Do I wanna be friends, or just partners? Do I want physical affection or something more? So on and so forth. It's very confusing and sometimes troublesome for me and those I'm close with given how much I struggle with differentiating them. Especially since most people want to know "do you like me as a friend or as more?" Rather than "what do you want from our relationship"
3:23 This kinda descripes me. I had two girlfriends. But once we got to the thrid month of begin togheter my feelings vanished. Never knew that I was just maybe Lilithromantic
Maybe I’m this has I had a crush for at least 5 years on this girl and in 6th grade it got to her that I liked her. She did too and we told eachother. My feelings for her left and it was never brought up again unless asked if we liked eachother (fun note we look like we could be related and our names share a pattern our family did “Br[rest of name]”
The thing about varromantisism and other fluctuating aro labels is that I'm sure some people who don't experience it will look at this video and think "wow! How awful! This is just an excuse to be distant/cheat!" But here's the thing: there is never an excuse for cheating, and these labels aren't meant to cover for cheaters! They are legit labels to describe real groups of people and their notable emotional patterns. In fact, someone with fluctuating or dissapearing romantic feelings can feel extreme guilt for these emotions that they can't control! TL;DR: You can blame a person for commiting harmful actions, such as cheating, but you cannot blame a person who does no harmful actions for their _feelings alone._ Attraction cannot be controlled, actions can. So do not go around assuming that having a fluctuating romantic or sexual identity makes a person automatically bad!
@Odd-w3y I'm not even trying anymore. All the years of stress is starting to affect my heart. One of my coworkers is trying to play matchmaker with me. I'll go along with it, but considering my past, I won't hold my breath
wait i didn't think i would be any of these but the second definition of quoiromantic is literally a perfect description of me lmao, im just sat here wondering what the hell counts as a "crush" or what counts as "true love"
My only personal edit would be that I can get that butterflies/anxious/jealous crush feeling for people I'm sexually attracted to and/or people I really want to be friends with. I've never gotten that feeling for someone and felt the desire to start a romantic relationship and be lovey-dovey with them. It makes it kind of complicated because I'll be getting that butterflies/crush feeling for people that I just want to bang and/or befriend. And let me make it clear, platonic love is one of my favorite feelings in the world, I'm committed to my friends and I treat them like royalty
this video is very well explained! as someone who has struggled with my sexuality/romantic life my entire life, going through it feeling broken, it helped me immensely to learn that I was, in fact, part of a group! if this video helps even one single person discover who they are and helps them realize theyre not broken it'll be worth it. i love love love seeing aro/ace representation in media. i love educating people about it. im oriented demiaroace and my sexuality is very close to my heart. its a very special thing and I hope others who are struggling out there can find peace within themselves with these labels, in the same way i did. thank you!
I think I have a platoniromantic relationship with my best friend. We do a lot of “couple” things like talking or texting all the time, cuddling, being there for each other and always the first one we turn to. It’s gotten to the point multiple people have thought we’re a couple, and I’m pretty sure like a third of acquaintances still think we are
As someone on the general aro spectrum this is a really nice video, it made me realize there’s a lot of overlap in the labels under the umbrella. Partially a lot of these because yea idk what romantic attraction feels like, but if someone falls in love with me im more likely to fall for them- except that’s like a .0056% chance of happening- but also all those dates sounds cute and fun to go on. It’s been nice being confident in saying im aromantic, but at the same time it’s so hard to explain to people :,)
I didn't know Caedromantic was a label. Because it's something I've always described when explaining my aromanticism to people. Glad to know now, I suppose
MAN!! thank you so much for explaning about us with care and depth! Im an aro ace and im just so fed up of people telling me i will die alone... like, and?? It's simply how i am xd
Fictoromantic/Fictosexual here!!! Im actually shocked to see represtation because i usually fear that ill simply be made fun of or not taken seriously because of thefact that i fall for fictional characters more easily.... THANK YOU!!!!
My aromantic experience is just friends with benefits, but the benefit is just me living life easier. Like for example i am fine with finding a life partner or going on dates, but thats only for the benefit of "having someone taller than me so i can grab that one snack on the upper corner of the shelf", "opeen that one bottle, bc i am too weak to snap it open", "an excuse to go outside"... Im still unsure whether i can call myself aro, but I'm slowly realizing that my view of romance is different than nost people. Like thinking about your type, daydream about the best couples in your head, the perfect date, prince charming, etc. When a friend asked me at which age i want to start dating (was around 10, 12) and i said 18, bc i didn't felt ready currently and thought maybe when i reach adulthood, then id be ready. I was surprised that they were surprised, bc it sounded logical to me. When i think about romance now, its not like im disgusted or anything or cant understand people when they say i are so in love to want to do anything for that person. I thought about it and id be ok if i were to get into a relationship, the benefits definitely helped with realizing that it might be good hahhahaha. But I'm also content with being single or at least for a long time. (Like im surprised that people tend to stress you about finding a life partner. Like if it happens it happens, if we vibe we vibe. Ok i do think i have an attraction towards male characters, but thats more like aesthetic attractions or i just like their personality. For example i have a obsession with hawks from mha in a way, like i love that man's personality, wings, every frame hes on screen, have hundreds of his fanarts saved on my phone (to use as profile pics). But the second i think about dating him, kiss him or anything romantic or intimate at all, it feels uncomfortable, weird and also kinda disgusting in some aspects. Even if i dig a real life mens aesthetic, it feels more cosplay than anything, and i have a more stronger desire to BECOME him than actually dating him. Like who tf doesn't want to become a sexy man with dope as drip??? Anyways its 4 am, im tired, i like ranting and its probably bc of my adhd idk.
There's also orchidromantic where you feel romantic attraction but dont want a romantic relationship, like i have a big crush on this person but i dont want to be romantic with them at all
I honestly love to see couples happy, and have helped make a relationship be, but I have ZERO idea on what the heck liking someone is suposed to feel like and keep wondering "Okay do I like that person or do I just really trust them"
As an aromantic person who feels ZERO romantic attraction, I LOVE romance. I think couples are cute, I love to see people being happy and in love but I would never in a million years ever want to be in a relationship of my own.
Same here, I guess!😐
@@ostyne5523That's a wonderful attitude. I know a few aromantic people who make it firmly known that romance isn't their thing. Which isn't very polite. I really appreciate your attitude, both of you. ❤
same aaaaaaaaa i think its cute but i would absolutely never get into a relationship lol!! i think its called “bellusromantic”
That's literally me but I make excuses
Yuhs, it's freaking ADORABLE but for me? Nah nope, noooo thanks
Slight correction: Cupioromantic can want to fall in love, they just can’t
I was abt to write it,bc I was super happy that someone knows what cupioromantic is and the I was like: WHAT
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Nice user!
👌👍 I wish there was some explanation of concepts like queer platonic relationships beforehand.
Thats honestly kind of sad
@@LannyLeArtist i hate my heart :3
The fact that "Quoiromantic" starts with the french word for "what" is actually funny
I'm french and it took me this comment to notice since the video is in English and my brain is, as such, currently set in English
@@fivelike11 that's so real lol
@@DaD4mend being bilingual is both a blessing and a curse...
Sinon comment ça va
I’m French and I clicked on this video only to find out if my instinct was right 😅
Tranquille et toi ? @@fivelike11
0:46 THANK YOU for mentioning that aro people can still date, as an aro person myself im in a relationship even though i feel little romantic attraction
What is that like? Are you happy? What keeps you interested? Does intimacy overwhelm you at all?
@thaloblue woah I didn't expect anyone to ask me about this, but answering your questions: I'm the happiest I've ever been, honestly. We are long distance though, so I've never got a chance to be intimate with them (yet), but I don't think it would overwhelm me. I think I might be demi, because I noticed I developed some romantic feelings after forming a deep emotional bond
I’m think I’m aromantic, and whenever I like someone, it’s not in a romantic way, I just look at them and I’m like “man, I want to be friends with them”
@@OldSoulYoungMindI think that’s called being friendly haha. Pretty sure that’s normal
Edit: if it’s more of a deep desire it could be something else :). I just mean in general, wanting new friends is normal lol.
@@OGCalicant oh, thanks 👍😂
6:45 I’ve Heard that for cupioromatics that it’s absolutely horrible. Some people REALLY really want to be in a relationship but it’s just not possible because for somereason you just don’t feel it :(
As aroflux (that has to do with with cupioromantic), it was absolutely suck 😔
Yeah, as a cupioromantic myself I do not enjoy being cupioromantic. I want a romantic relationship, I want to experience romantic attraction but, like you said, don't have the feelings for it. I still want the companionship and affection and overall just a person to spend my life with but our relationship would be different than most because I can't feel romantic attraction. It's not that I don't want to feel romantic attraction but that I physically can't. I want and plan on being in a romantic relationship someday, but it's not a necessity like it is for some people.
Feel free to ask me any questions. Also, sorry for the essay :P
As a cupioromantic it really sucks. I want to be able to fall in love with someone but I just…. Can’t 🫠🫠
@CowboyMillie Same...
I am may or may not be cupioromantic (I'm certainly quoiromantic), but a lot of hesitance for me is that I'm very much content (now) with the idea of never feeling romantic attraction. I would be very very happy in a romantic/queer platonic relationship, and the lack of romantic doesn't bother me because I know I'd love the person, just not romantically. Engaging in romance and romantic activities and all of the cheesiest stuff is something I still want. If I am cupioromantic I definetly have it better than most, and while the definition fits like a glove, I feel guilty putting myself in the same group knowing that I'm not suffering from the same anguish that almost everyone there is
To all the cupioromantics, yall are beautiful, never forget it ❤
I LOVE THE AROMANTIC STICKFIGURES AND THE ICONS IN THIS VIDEO BRUHH THEIR DESIGNS ARE SO CUTEEE
Aw man the stickfigures stop appearing after cupioromantic :(
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there's another thing with being aromantic where you think you have a crush on someone, you get all the same feelings as having a crush but with some slight differences, but you really just want to be their best friend... this has happened so much to me and it's so confusing lmao it's kinda like quoiromantic but a bit different
A friend of mine recently informed me that it might be called a "Squish" instead of a crush! and boy do we have squishes 😔
@@the_power_gm yeah, I think that's what they're called! I couldn't remember lmao, they're so confusing 😂
Yeah i had a "crush" on a boy once that was in my class, but i realized i wanted to be his friend after i found out i was aroace, but hes no longer in my class 😢
Yes, it is very strange when you enter a romantic relationship after thinking you are in love but you just want the person around, not as a romantic partner, but as a friend, all you want is for it to be over as quickly as possible.
Doesn't help that you don't know the difference between romance and platonic.
I’m a gecko
I’m comfortable saying most people don’t know what “aromantic” even is, glad you made a video on this topic :)
I'm comfortable admiting I don't have a complete understanding of aromantic people and I'm glad this video was made 😀
Evaluator,
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO! As an aromantic asexual person myself this is so important to me as us folks on the aromantic and asexual spectrums try so damn hard to tell people that we’re not broken and that we don’t need to be looking for the right person!
Yes! I'm not aro, but i understand the irritation you go through^ ^
yessir aroace here as well :’) my mom doesnt know im aroace (but shes supportive to lgbtq) yet she makes jokes like “when you have kids” or “i wonder what your kids will look like” “how many kids will you have?” And im just like “well uhh.. im gonna go draw ill get back to you”
YES!! EXACTLY
I kinda hope I do find the right person though lol. I’m cupioromantic and I don’t just want to do love activities I *want* to have a crush. I just don’t get to :/. So basically I hope I’m wrong and I eventually love someone
As a non aromantic autistic that can get completly overwhelmed by all of this and doubts I even want to be in a romantic relationship ever. I am extremely jealous and I want your power to turn of all those brain chemicals so badly. Why was I cursed with this?
Chat I might be WTFromantic
CHAT IM RECIPRO-ROMANTIC HELP--
oh shit me too
Same
yeah what is romance anyway
Same
Romance is stupid
Demiromantic here! I'm so happy to see more representation on the internet. When I realized I was demi(both aro and ace) there was little to no info, thank u
Psst! Another demiromantic here!! There's an anime called 'Bloom into You' that captures quite a few aromantic identities :3 It's one of my favourite stories and I'd 100% recommend it if you're feeling alone in your experience or even just looking for a new show. The music and visuals are great
@AspynAeraki Thank you so much! I'll check it out :D
I think i might be demiromantic too.
Do you also get the ick when somebody shows romantic interest in you from the get go eventho you don't really share a connection yet? Basically that person self-sabotages any chance of that ever happening.
As a demiromantic person, this little explanation explains it VERY well, nothing more complicated, I love it 💕💕
Luci picture spotted 🦅🦅🦅
I thought demiromantic meant something else but when I hear this definition, I realised I may be a demironantic!
@@Sum_thing_blablabla lil correction: 🐤
Hazbin pfp spotted :D !!!! I'm demiromantic too
@@mayatarapanova3248 Same. When I first realised I'm aromantic I called myself demiromantic because I thought its meaning was what I now know is called grayromantic. Well, even if I had used the right word for it I would still have been wrong, because I'm arospike.
POV: you click on a ‘the evaluator’ vid not knowing what it is about but just watching it for the sake of it
Fr
Heh.. Why yes!
Exactly!!! Love this channel!!!😁😁😁
How'd you know 😰
I'm not a fan of this types of videos, I just click when I know about the subject to fact-check
recipromancy
"do you wanna be my bf?"
"well now i do"
It’s like a win win lol
It’s almost like you literally can’t be rejected and that’s badass
I dated an Aro man once and stunningly he was by far the best person at making romantic gestures I've ever met. He didn't really care one way or the other but he knew it mattered to me and liked making me happy and I adored that about him ❤
Fictoromantic here (also asexual) I don’t really feel romantic attraction, but those fictional characters are people I’d date, real people?… no, absolutely not, I can’t imagine that, but I’d date fictional people, not irl ones😭
YESS FINALLY ANOTHER FICTOROMANTIC
I'd rather just be in love with a fictional character and be like "teehee they're so silly" or something like that idk instead of going around dating people who just use you and suck, plus real people are already stinky they're not cool 😭 I'm also asexual, but I'm a hypersexual asexual!!
BRO SAME
Yeah! Fanfic reading aces unite! ᕙ(＠°▽°＠)ᕗ
Ngl, I always liked fictional characters, and liked the thought of dating a person that was the opposite sexual of me irl, but I somehow hated the idea of doing it too. I had also felt like I was a bit on the aroace spectrum since I was a young, turns out I'm right. HELLO, FICTORMATIC PEOPLE!! 🗣🗣
Bro I dated a girl that I thought I loved then I realized it was platonic so I broke it up then I am here realizing, why do I have so many fictional crushes
Omg I’m so fricking Quoiromantic cause I was watching this like “yeah that kinda sounds like me” “yeah that also sounds like me” “could this be me?” “Why do all of these sound like me but also not??” And then Qouiromantic came up and I legitimately started screaming at the screen like “YES! YES! FINALLY! WTF IS ROMANCE?? WHEN DOES PLATONIC END AND ROMANTIC BEGIN?? WHEN WHERE WHAT HUH??” And honestly I feel so seen rn because “you just know when you’re in love!” NO I DO NOT 😭
REALLL
Same but it continued until I read this comment
you're so real for this
WOOOOO ARO REPRESENTATION!!!! i'm demiromantic and aroflux (which is under the greyromantic umbrella), and now also discovered that i'm fictoromantic as well
same! but not aroflux
i fell bad for fictoromantics cuz they are in love with something that can't be real.
Real. I think I am, and it’s really depressing sometimes.
im ficto too, help
im fictobi and i have a crush on a fucking robot 😭
At first I misread aromantic as "aromatic" and thought this was going to be about different fragrances. I thought it was kind of weird, lol.
Yet you might not fall in any of this categories. It's fine to classify, but remember that to define is to limit. Live and love however and whoever makes you happy, as long as you don't hurt others and act responsibly.
to define isn't to limit. in fact i would argue finally finding a definition/explanation for something you've been feeling can be quite freeing. the younger generation seem to have a real distaste for queer labels. it's sad to see so many misunderstand them and paint them as some kind of limiting prison. queer identities aren't limiting, they are flexible and maleable. it's not a one and done label situation. you can use whichever you feel fits the closest, but it doesn't have to fit 100% either. it's your identity, so you get to choose how you use it and how it defines you.
for example, personally, while a few of the more specific identities/microlabels in this video (lithromantic and cupioromantic) fit what i experience more accurately, i choose to use aromantic instead as a broader, umbrella term, and then i can either leave it at that if i don't feel like sharing, or explain further if someone is interested in knowing more about my experiences and i feel like telling them.
the point of these identities is to use them as descriptors for your experiences (which may or may not change over time), not boxes you're confined to.
@@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF Thank you! Learning about gray romanticism helped me realize there is nothing wrong with how I experience romantic attraction. Using the label is also helpful when describing my experience to other people who aren’t on the aro spectrum.
Yeah this is how I kinda feel about labels :D I don't like the idea if having to choose a specific one so I just call myself aroace as a loose label regardless of other feelings that are there and could technically fit under a microlabel
AROMANTIC SPECTRUM MENTION‼️‼️ WHAT IS ROMANTIC ATTRACTION‼️🔥🔥🔥🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
REAL 🔥🔥‼️🔥‼️🔥‼️🗣🗣
YES‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
ts shit is so incredibly unfunny it makes me want to cry, js leave it to the americans
YESSIR ‼️‼️‼️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@eyeslanderer ???
I've actually been very confused about my romantic attraction for a while. It's always been weird and inconsistent and stuff, but this video actually helped sooooo yea thanks
I would just like to say, these characters all look so good! I love how you made their clothes look like the corresponding flag
*platoniromantic description is said*
"It's me!!!"
I have a friend that fufills the position of platonic soulmate, and we both feel that way, it's amazing.
OMG YES
I have platonic feelings for someone
I DO NOT know what butterfly in your stomach feels like.
anxiety lmao
being fr though, it's just a silly way of explaining excitement
@@lav-kitty oh is that what it is??? Ohhhhhh okay tysm.
but i DO know what a butterfly in your mouth tastes like
@@grammy_hnngdid u eat butterflies😨
I think the best way I understood I was on the aro spectrum was when I realized when I thought of the "perfect wedding" there was no groom or even a bride. I couldn't picture me being with someone but could happily help someone else plan theirs out.
Lol That just sounds like a fun party! 🎉
definitely cupio lol. Idk if I experience romantic attraction rarely or never, but I know that regardless of that I love the idea of romance and romantic gestures. I will absolutely bring my friends flowers, go on romantic Picknicks, kiss, etc (as long as they're fine w/ it) I just don''t fall in love.
Omg I'm also cupio never actually heard anyone else that is also one :00
I feel that way as well. I'd be okay with doing romantic things, but I don't know if I actually want a romantic relationship
@@BeatUpToyssame here
WHY DID I JUST FIND OUT I'M LITHROMANTIC AND FICTOROMANTIC???
Same
Yeah same here
@Supercuteflowermomo I'm EXACTLY the same. Go team lith-fictoromantic. I've had crushes in the past and pursued intensely every time they weren't reciprocated, but the only time one of my crushes eventually was reciprocated, I suddenly wasn't interested didn't want to talk to them anymore. I couldn't understand why, but it just repelled me somehow for no reason, but this explains that there's nothing wrong with me and I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one like this. Whatever, most of my love life existed inside my head with fictional characters, a few string of anime characters as well as a few characters I've made up myself. Maybe a lot to do with real people being untrustworthy as well as finding nobody in real life who share my values and interests.
I am also, but i've known for a while. These two are actually well known to go hand in hand, since a fictional crush cannot reciprocate. It can get hard to come to terms with, so i wish you good luck!
SAMEEEE
Ty for bringing this up and explaining it for many others! It's so hard for me to explain myself sometimes!! 😭
bro will download this on their phone in case of aro emergencies
@@pq44animations56 aromengancies is wild
I am the type of person who loves seeing other people being shipped or a couple but I do NOT like the idea of being romantic to someone, I don't want a romantic attraction to anyone but I like seeing other people be a couple
I'm in a weird spot where I'm aro/ace and I didn't like fictional romance. But after reading a lot of it (and I mean A LOT of it) which heavily focuses on the characters and their emotional journeys (so, like, not fluff for the sake of fluff) suddenly I have some small feelings for them and their relationships? But then I imagine a romantic scenario with me involved, even with a fictional character, and I'm like... Hmm. No thanks. Maybe occasionally? Actually, I'm not interested anymore. Anyone else can have them.
possible aegoromantic spotted
@@conspiracypanda1200 the relationship feeling part hits close to home lol
maybe it's being cupiromantic or lithromantic but with fictional characters?? maybe it's a good dynamic or trope you would like to explore more on
Can't exactly put a label on it, but you could say "I don't like self-shipping" temporarily
Yeah, that’s also how I feel. I have never felt and don‘t really want to feel anything romantic. Friendship and family vibes are all I need for myself. I guess I am kind of platoniromantic with my best friend? But damn, do I like to watch other mostly fictional characters fall in love and be in love.
5:04 two recipro-romantics be in the stalemate of the century frfr /j
Srs tho this vid actually explains things pretty well and I appreciate that!!
😂
I'm recipro-romantic-- and it's funny as hell because if I think someone has a crush on me I'll fall for them.. even if they don't have a crush on me. And as soon as that's disproven the spell in which I was under just completely vanishes
SAME OMG IVE NEVER MET ANOTHER RECIPROMANTIC PERSON HI HI HI@@DasigJack
@@Ranpo_Edogawa954ranpo????
damn I've always felt like I'm somewhere in aro-spectrum but didn't know the right label, so i kinda brushed it off.. but damn finally i found reciproromantic. thank you
I am asexual aromantic and honestly, I just can't get romantic attraction, it's not even that I don't know what it is, I've seen enough media to know what it should feel like, I just don't get it. The closest thing I've gotten to even a hint of a romantic feeling was for a fictional character, but even that was because he was one of my hyperfixation characters, and honestly, I'm perfectly happy with how I am.
tbh as a demi I've felt like this for a long time but ive had a million fictional crushes lmao
@@tabz906Hey, no judgement. Fictional crushes are great fun!
I have questions what’s the dieffrence between a romantic and asexual or are they the same?
@@benji485 they are similar but basically aromantic means no romantic attraction and asexual means no sexual attraction
@@tabz906can you give example im so sorry 😅
i fucking love your videos man. They explain so simply yet somehow in a way you wouldn’t need to so needlessly complicate and explain. My therapist says she always learns something new whenever i come over, whether it be this Alexithymia or for me learning about what AroAce is and what i am.
Yess!! Cupiormantic mentioned!!!!
For me I don’t feel anything but desire it
YOURE POUTING IN YOUR SLEEP IM WAKING STILL YAWNING
PROVING TO EACH OTHER THAT ROMANCE IS BORING
SURE THERE ARE THINGS I CAN DO, IF I WAS HALF PERPARED TO
Prove to eachother that romance is boring
Woah ace attorney
@@wait_thisisntmybedroom FEENIE PFP??? ive met my people omg
Im in a QPR and never had a word for what the hell I even am, finding what Platoniromantic is, is so helpful!!!
Hello! Litho here! THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING USSS!! We are so underrated, I cant even find any Merch of the flag!
I think I'm a mix between Lithromantic and Fictoromantic. 🤔 This was a really good video. Thank you for that. ❤ I think I understand the Aro side of me even better now. 😊
Agree
I'm exactly the same way. Lith and ficto.
Also an identity that some would consider an overlap into the aro spec would be abroromantic, which is similar to the varioromantic attraction, but it more refers to your entire orientation shifting in addition to attraction intensity etc.
As a demiromantic, what sucks about it that nobody tells you is that it's extremely hard to move on. Like once you're into a person you're INTO THEM. Even if you get rejected it'll take quite a while for the feelings to fade. And then it'll be a long time before you fall in love again. It's like the amount of time it took you to fall in love is the same amount that it'll take you to fall out of love if feelings aren't reciprocated.
Quoiromantic sounds like me, probably because of my Autism/Asperger’s
It's def more common in those who are neurodivergent bc of the way we interpret social cues. I'm not Quoiromantic, but I totally relate to the social "norms" that confuse tf out of me.
nebularomantic is a term really similar to quoiromantic, except the difficulty of understanding your feelings is connected to neurodivergency (I'm not explaining it that well but yeah)
5:49 As someone who is Electio aroace, or in different words, someone who is both cupioromantic and cupiosexual, I think this is a great description of it. In simple words, I just don’t feel people attractive. It’s always been hard for me to say “I love you” to people, even my family. I do want to experience having a relationship and the things that come with it but it’s really difficult when I can’t really feel love. I remember it was especially difficult when I was in my pre teen years and everyone was talking about crushes and it was extremely confusing to me because I have no idea what a crush feels like so I ended up sort of forcing myself to have “crushes” on my friends which caused most of those relationships to end. Luckily that was back then and I’ve learned a lot more about myself and found out I was electio aroace which was a huge relief to finally have a word that describes what I feel. I hope others who are struggling with their identity find things like this video that help them find themselves like my best friend did for me. Thank you Axel
YAYY LITHROMANTIC MENTIONED!!!! I'm lithromantic and I don't see too many people talking about it so it makes me really happy to see someone describe it PERFECTLY :D
Absolutely love this and it help me explain aromatic to my best friend
Why do i feel like all of these 😭
Skidibi skidibi🤫 hawk tuah hawk🦅💦 skidibi king👑 who gives out blumpkins💵 edging🔥 and gooning🤪 and learing👨🎓 to munt🌈 dripping💧 cheese🧀 all over my lunch(ly)🤤
Cause you are none of them
they can all be labeled under the Aromantic label :) you can have more than one of these, and thats enough to count as being on the Aro spectrum. You dont have to have it down to a list of labels if you dont want to ♡
Kinda same but not ALL of them tho
If your all of them you could be myr romantic
As a demiromantic person I love romance and when people are in love however for myself I want a relationship one day but not so fast!
It'll happen. I'm demiromantic too and so I really need to trust someone before feelings become possible. I was friends with my partner for a year before we tentatively started dating. He swears he fell in love at first sight, but it took me a while to catch up. We've been together 18 years now.
Can we just appreciate the cupiotomantic colours for a second. Like that is one of the cutest colour combination ive ever seen
im not a big fan of this style of video trending but the evaluator makes it work more than any other youtuber. You own this style more than any other youtuber!
For all demis out there, if you want an absolutely adorable slow burn story with an actual demi, check "Your life : beggings and always". It's a free visual novel that let you play a character through 15 years, from the age of 8 up to 23. You will get to know the lovely Cove Holden, the adorable demi romantic neighbour and develope maybe a friendship, maybe a romance ! It's the best romance story I ever experienced, and very good at representing a big specter of people.
This vid actually helped me realize I'm aromantic. Thank you for helping me realize this indirectly.
the little characters representing the flags are really cute!! i want to draw them but im terrible at drawing human-like characters
IVE BEEN WAITING AND DREAMING ABOUT A VIDEO LIKE THIS FOR SO LONG, THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU JUST MADE MY DAY!
ight, just found out i am literally WTFromantic, THANKKK YOUUUUUU i was about to have a goddamn mental breakdown about this whole world of romance, so... damn you saved me one breakdown thx thx
Thank you so much for posting this video! Ive been able to find a label that fits me for every aspect (gender and sexuality) except for romantic. And have struggled with figuring out what I am romantically for almost 5yrs now. But Caderomantic is definitely what I've been looking for for so long, with some grayromantic involved. I've always felt like a mix of many and none of the lables I could find in the aromantic spectrum. But Cade and gray just makes sense and feels right!
Me throughout almost all this video: Oh, I'm none of these
*fictoromantic show up*
Me:... oh
3:00 I FOUND MY IDENTITY
Same bestie
Nice !!
yay! :D
Me too :)
ME TOO
Oh, I am so greyromantic. I have only had one crush in my life- surprisingly recently too- and they have the same exact way of talking as me, what games they like, and everything. I usually only feel attraction to people once I know what they like or talk about, and even then they might not be for me. So yeah, that fits pretty well-
This is how I find out I'm Caed and fictoromantic lmao. Can't be traumatized if the person isn't real.
so happy that lithro is mentioned
Omg me
Was not expecting a video about this but it’s a pleasant surprise and I’m glad that this is talked about
Demiromantic, Platoniromantic, And Grey Romantic Are The Most Common Ones For Me With A Smidge Of Aromatic
Yippee!! I'm on the aromantic spectrum sort of! It's hard to explain because my experiences with romance and attraction are so specific and intense... For me, platonic and romantic attraction are basically the same thing? There are differences in those I see as friends and those I see as partners, but the line is very blurry. I tend to enjoy typically romantic things, such as cuddling or kissing from friends!
I experience love so intensely that it's hard to tell what I'm actually feeling! Because of this, I usually focus more on what I'm wanting. Do I wanna be friends, or just partners? Do I want physical affection or something more? So on and so forth. It's very confusing and sometimes troublesome for me and those I'm close with given how much I struggle with differentiating them. Especially since most people want to know "do you like me as a friend or as more?" Rather than "what do you want from our relationship"
“What do you want from our relationship” is such a better question that everyone should be asking.
10:24 🇮🇹 I also identify as sideways Italian
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3:23 This kinda descripes me. I had two girlfriends. But once we got to the thrid month of begin togheter my feelings vanished. Never knew that I was just maybe Lilithromantic
7:30 Or fray romantic
Maybe I’m this has I had a crush for at least 5 years on this girl and in 6th grade it got to her that I liked her. She did too and we told eachother. My feelings for her left and it was never brought up again unless asked if we liked eachother (fun note we look like we could be related and our names share a pattern our family did “Br[rest of name]”
The thing about varromantisism and other fluctuating aro labels is that I'm sure some people who don't experience it will look at this video and think "wow! How awful! This is just an excuse to be distant/cheat!"
But here's the thing: there is never an excuse for cheating, and these labels aren't meant to cover for cheaters! They are legit labels to describe real groups of people and their notable emotional patterns. In fact, someone with fluctuating or dissapearing romantic feelings can feel extreme guilt for these emotions that they can't control!
TL;DR: You can blame a person for commiting harmful actions, such as cheating, but you cannot blame a person who does no harmful actions for their _feelings alone._ Attraction cannot be controlled, actions can. So do not go around assuming that having a fluctuating romantic or sexual identity makes a person automatically bad!
Quiromantic explains so much for me. I’m so glad I found this video.
i love how the first artist creates characters using the colors of the flag omg (quoiromantic is mine)
yeah ngl i wanted to see the designs for the other attractions especially platoniromantic, first artist was cooking
He doesn't want you. He is quoriomantic.
Yayy! So glad you did this one, did a really great job explaining the different identities. Im Demiromantic myself :)
I like the little flag drawings, I hope you do the ace spectrum next!🫶🏽🤍🩶🖤💜
ooh yeah he should
i’m questioning aro ace rn and these types of videos help a lot, i love ur channel!
I'm demiromantic and demisexual. Since there has been no one who has gotten to a point where I feel deeply connected with them is why I'm still single
If I spot thou in thy tavern thy shall clapt the cheeks untill they reach blue color
It sucks, everyone I am close to is in a relationship.
@Odd-w3y I'm not even trying anymore. All the years of stress is starting to affect my heart. One of my coworkers is trying to play matchmaker with me. I'll go along with it, but considering my past, I won't hold my breath
same it feels super lonely when you wanna be with someone but have no friends or when u actually like someone but they can't like you back
Don't give up! I'm demiromantic and asexual, but I've been married a long time, so you're not struck out yet.
recipromantic mentioned!! I'm so happy for this vid, thank you! :3
as someone who is demiromantic, this makes me so goddamn happy
Same
wait i didn't think i would be any of these but the second definition of quoiromantic is literally a perfect description of me lmao, im just sat here wondering what the hell counts as a "crush" or what counts as "true love"
AROMANTIC ACTUALLY MENTIONED? HELL YEAH!
The short explenation of demiromanticism made me feel incredibly valid and I'm not sure why but HEY DEMIROMANTIC MENTION !!!
Tysm I finally managed to understand who I am exactly (smthn between caedromantic and fictoromantic)
I may or may not have just discovered something about myself….
Thanks for the vid, Evaluator!
what a wonderful video, im sure the comments will be nice and wholesome
actually theyre not bad.
@@ice15464literally fren I had the exact thought process
And Then They Were! very pleasant surprise honestly
@@valsonder i know, right? thats why i made the comment in the first place, then was shocked to see like. holy crap, decency
Bisexual aromantic trans man here 🫡🫡🫡 This is a very good video for our representation in my opinion, thank you Mr. Evaluator
My only personal edit would be that I can get that butterflies/anxious/jealous crush feeling for people I'm sexually attracted to and/or people I really want to be friends with. I've never gotten that feeling for someone and felt the desire to start a romantic relationship and be lovey-dovey with them. It makes it kind of complicated because I'll be getting that butterflies/crush feeling for people that I just want to bang and/or befriend. And let me make it clear, platonic love is one of my favorite feelings in the world, I'm committed to my friends and I treat them like royalty
this video is very well explained! as someone who has struggled with my sexuality/romantic life my entire life, going through it feeling broken, it helped me immensely to learn that I was, in fact, part of a group! if this video helps even one single person discover who they are and helps them realize theyre not broken it'll be worth it. i love love love seeing aro/ace representation in media. i love educating people about it. im oriented demiaroace and my sexuality is very close to my heart. its a very special thing and I hope others who are struggling out there can find peace within themselves with these labels, in the same way i did. thank you!
I think I have a platoniromantic relationship with my best friend. We do a lot of “couple” things like talking or texting all the time, cuddling, being there for each other and always the first one we turn to. It’s gotten to the point multiple people have thought we’re a couple, and I’m pretty sure like a third of acquaintances still think we are
As someone on the general aro spectrum this is a really nice video, it made me realize there’s a lot of overlap in the labels under the umbrella. Partially a lot of these because yea idk what romantic attraction feels like, but if someone falls in love with me im more likely to fall for them- except that’s like a .0056% chance of happening- but also all those dates sounds cute and fun to go on.
It’s been nice being confident in saying im aromantic, but at the same time it’s so hard to explain to people :,)
I didn't know Caedromantic was a label. Because it's something I've always described when explaining my aromanticism to people. Glad to know now, I suppose
I salute all my caedromantic bretheren out there, we're officially the trauma bonding club now
As an Questioning AroAce (Aromantic Asexual) artist I just want to say I LOVE THE CHARACTERS FOR THEM AHHHH❤❤❤
MAN!! thank you so much for explaning about us with care and depth!
Im an aro ace and im just so fed up of people telling me i will die alone... like, and?? It's simply how i am xd
0:35. Not true. I can understand some advanced calculus.
Omg those human art of different aromatic spectrum is so cute
Fictoromantic/Fictosexual here!!!
Im actually shocked to see represtation because i usually fear that ill simply be made fun of or not taken seriously because of thefact that i fall for fictional characters more easily....
THANK YOU!!!!
god i'm glad to know i wasn't going insane and there is a word for what i feel
Demiromantic here, ive had 3 crushes ever‼️‼️‼️‼️
My aromantic experience is just friends with benefits, but the benefit is just me living life easier. Like for example i am fine with finding a life partner or going on dates, but thats only for the benefit of "having someone taller than me so i can grab that one snack on the upper corner of the shelf", "opeen that one bottle, bc i am too weak to snap it open", "an excuse to go outside"... Im still unsure whether i can call myself aro, but I'm slowly realizing that my view of romance is different than nost people. Like thinking about your type, daydream about the best couples in your head, the perfect date, prince charming, etc. When a friend asked me at which age i want to start dating (was around 10, 12) and i said 18, bc i didn't felt ready currently and thought maybe when i reach adulthood, then id be ready. I was surprised that they were surprised, bc it sounded logical to me.
When i think about romance now, its not like im disgusted or anything or cant understand people when they say i are so in love to want to do anything for that person. I thought about it and id be ok if i were to get into a relationship, the benefits definitely helped with realizing that it might be good hahhahaha. But I'm also content with being single or at least for a long time. (Like im surprised that people tend to stress you about finding a life partner. Like if it happens it happens, if we vibe we vibe.
Ok i do think i have an attraction towards male characters, but thats more like aesthetic attractions or i just like their personality. For example i have a obsession with hawks from mha in a way, like i love that man's personality, wings, every frame hes on screen, have hundreds of his fanarts saved on my phone (to use as profile pics). But the second i think about dating him, kiss him or anything romantic or intimate at all, it feels uncomfortable, weird and also kinda disgusting in some aspects. Even if i dig a real life mens aesthetic, it feels more cosplay than anything, and i have a more stronger desire to BECOME him than actually dating him. Like who tf doesn't want to become a sexy man with dope as drip???
Anyways its 4 am, im tired, i like ranting and its probably bc of my adhd idk.
4:10 baby don't hurt me 🗣️
No more
WhAt Is LoVe???
I think everyone is some kind of mix of some of these. Nobody realizes that this is a spectrum, and everyone lays on it that spectrum.
I doubt most people are on the Aro spectrum. Most are just plain straight.
There's also orchidromantic where you feel romantic attraction but dont want a romantic relationship, like i have a big crush on this person but i dont want to be romantic with them at all
god i love this video
THIS EXPLAINS EVERYTHING PERFECTLY
sending this to everyone who asks me out (it’s happened, and ive had to explain it)
I honestly love to see couples happy, and have helped make a relationship be, but I have ZERO idea on what the heck liking someone is suposed to feel like and keep wondering "Okay do I like that person or do I just really trust them"
I mean it's really tiring when you try and follow the rules people made up about what "liking" someone is
that's why I don't.
- amatopunk.