Hey guys!! I hope you enjoy the hilarity of this video 🙈 BUT ALSO that this can encourage you if you’ve found yourself caught in this same cycle of prejudging relationships too early, which is so easy to do. ❤️❤️
Oh my gosh I know!! 🙈🙈 I felt so bad afterwards.! 🙈🙈 I was like, “Should I take that part out?” And he was like, “no it’s funny. And I think a lot of people feel that way.” He had an ex he was still wondering about at the very beginning of our relationship too. It’s so common, and so important to push through anyway and not rush to an early judgment! 🙌🙌
I am a HUGE overthinker! My fiancé knew I was the one but it took forever for me to figure it out. I kept waiting for this magic feeling. But love sometimes take time. I had moments from time to time where it just felt right, but sometimes my doubts would overtake me thinking, what if he’s the wrong one though? Everything worked out in the end. Thank you so much for making this video! I thought I was crazy and the only one who went through this! It’s so refreshing and encouraging to hear from another Christian that it’s normal. Your channel is a huge blessing to me personally
May I ask, how did you figure it out in the end? I'm in a similar situation, been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now and we are talking about marriage. On the one hand, I'm excited, on the other, it gives me a lot of anxiety. I don't believe strongly in the ONE, but I believe in someone being right for you or not.
@@Alioo0110 definitely looking to the Lord and praying about it often and submitting to Him. My mind was a lot calmer then. Then He would show me things that just made sense. I felt a peace about it.
God showed me that it was his will. Definitely make sure that is your priority and everything will fall into place♥️♥️♥️ I agree with you, I don’t believe only in “the one” either. To an extent God is going to let you make the choice. He’s not going to force you to marry this man. He has given us free will. As long as your true desire is for Gods will everything will work out. ♥️♥️♥️
That's literally my exact situation right now. My boyfriend knows he wants to marry me but I'm still having a ton of doubt. I hope to get there someday (if it's right that is)
@@username-vp5yn talk to trusted friends! talk to someone older than you who is married! be vulnerable with them - and by vulnerable I don’t mean “dump all your problems” on them, but truly just voicing your thoughts and your doubts is SO helpful.. and letting other people in to speak truth over you can be refreshing or just clarifying!
When my husband and I were dating, I think we had been dating about 5 months. And there was another guy, I was so ready to break up with my boyfriend for this other guy, until my boyfriend came over a couple days later. As soon as I saw my boyfriend that day I knew that he was the right one. I felt something so strong that day. We got married a year later. It's now been over 13 years. We still love each other more every day. I love your videos!! Keep sharing.
This video was honestly an answered prayer. I had been feeling like there was something wrong with me for not having that "moment" and prayed for the Lord to enlighten me or confirm these thoughts. This video was on the top as soon as I typed in TH-cam to look up something else. WOW GOD IS COOL! He used this video in a powerful way. Love yall and your videos, may the Lord continue to bless you both!
Ahaha I did this! 🤣 I cringe re-reading my diary because I wrote about finally getting into a relationship and was excited to be with the guy and then literally the next entry a couple of days later I was like "nah, this ain't gonna work. Peace out." 😂
Ahh, this is so good to hear, and it’s so reassuring to know that other people struggle in the same areas of doubt and overthinking 😅 I am 7 days away from marrying the love of my life (his name is James too, incidentally), and I could not tell you how much overthinking was done during the beginning phases of our relationship. I even rejected him the first time he asked to date me because I had this image of ✨ T h e O n e ✨ in my head that I couldn’t let go of. I’m so glad I came around eventually, God brought me everything I needed in the right timing, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt now that this man is the man I want to learn to love for the rest of my life ❤️
I really like how you said "you have those people in your life you're always holding on to." That was me for about 10 years. There was a guy I knew from my childhood I met in church when we were in elementary school. We were "a thing" for a summer in 8th grade and when that ended, I held on to the idea of reconnecting with him when we got older. Earlier this year I watched your video about how to get over a crush and heard your story about how the guy you liked told you that he liked you too, but every time he prayed about it, he felt like God was telling him he had someone else planned for you. I tried reaching out to this guy last fall in hopes of meeting up for coffee next time he was in town to rekindle our former romance. I prayed for clarity, and when I saw that he was indeed in a serious relationship with this new girl, that was all the clarity I needed. I held on to the idea of recreating something I once had with this person for more than 10 years and I am finally able to realize that God does indeed have other people planned for us. Thank you so much for your wisdom and encouragement!
This is so helpful! I've been seeing this guy for maybe 2 months and I was getting het up about it not feeling "right" and I think I over pressuring it so much. I don't have the "feeling" but actually its been only a few dates, we're in a pandemic and it can take time. If God wants it, it will happen and His timing is right not mine. I need to slow down and Let God :D
I felt that way too before! Then someone told me, dating is to see if you want to be with someone and to take time to get to know them. You don’t have to marry who you’re dating! I had been putting so much pressure on myself without even realizing it. It’s crazy. I hope everything works out for you!
Wow, I've really needed this right now. I've had so much doubt throughout the majority of my relationship. We decided to start dating with the intention of possible marriage on our second date, and I'm a hopeless romantic so I definitely needed there to be a thought of "this guy's special." But as I've graduated from college and started to think about my life and relationship long-term, it's been very difficult to navigate, especially since this is my first relationship ever. Especially with the pandemic going on, it's been very easy for me to start doubting every aspect of my life, especially my relationship. So I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who had doubts about a relationship and not feeling "the one." Also I love how you post videos like these that aren't always talked about, more practical dating and relationship videos. They really help me out :)
I needed to see this video so much! It’s so hard to grow up knowing dating is for the intention of marriage, but not to judge someone as a future spouse on the first and second date. It’s hard to navigate and this video gave me so much peace! Thank you for always making the best videos, Tiffany and James!
LOVE THIS!! I think if you know you have a tendency to overthink things, this can so easily apply to you (in other words, this applies to me! 😅). Thank you so much for sharing, Tiffany!! There’s a Bible verse I discovered recently that I really love! It’s Isaiah 30:21 (NIV): “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” I take such encouragement in knowing, even if I’m not 100% sure of God’s plan in a particular situation, I can rely on the Holy Spirit to guide me if I take a step of faith. If it’s wrong, God will let me know!!
I'm so thankful you are speaking on this. It's something I have been wresting with for a while in my relationship. More people, especially christians, need to be talking about how its not always perfect and completely clear when it comes to finding a spouse.
I am definitely not one of those people who saw “the one” in the person they’re dating immediately, but I’ve prayed and prayed about it, and I feel confident that the woman I’m with now is THE one after nearly 2 years of dating. Not saying that “oh no matter what I’m marrying her” kinda thing, that’s not realistic, but she’s a Christian, she’s a positive influence on me, she’s kind to both me and her peers (literally never heard a bad word directed towards her), she’ll play video games with me, she has common or compatible interests, and she is not overly dramatic (something my introverted self LOVES having). I love her to death, and if God truly is intending us for each other, as I feel he is, then when I graduate college, gonna ask that very important question to her.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with this!! It's so important to hear how this can look for different people - there's not just one way to reach the conclusion that we want to marry someone. Thank you!
I love you and your videos Tiffany because you're just so real! You love Jesus and prioritize Him in your relationship with James, but you also don't sugarcoat. You are always so refreshing to watch!!
I did the same thing! My fiance and I dated for over 2 years before we got engaged, and it took me about a year before that to be okay with it. I had a solid set of months of being "unsure", while being surrounded by speedy relationships and I felt like something was wrong because I wasn't 100% sold less than a year in. I'm so glad I waited because things shifted this year, and now we're getting married in 2 months and I could not be happier 😊😊😊 I am so deeply certain now and I'm glad I had the patience and trust to wait for it to feel right for me instead of running away because of that false insecurity
Sometimes this channel can be geared toward younger people. I'm 42 and have been hooked for a few years. As you get older and you've become used to single and independent, and hurt a lot lot, it is so easy to push people away with out trying. I love your honesty and needed this topic. It can easy to subconsciously think if I end it I won't get hurt. Or I don' have the energy to try to get to know somebody again. Thank you so much for sharing. I love your channel!
Thank you for this video, it describes my current situation perfectly! I've been feeling this way about a guy I started seeing recently and we've not been able to go out or 'date' properly because of the pandemic and lockdowns. I'm definitely going to watch your series, take it easy and just let God guide me 🙏🏾
Thanks for your honest and good advice! I have 'lost my faith'/deconverted this year, but I still like your videos and the message you send with them! I think we need more authentic, nontoxic (Christian) TH-camrs like you
I can’t tell you how much this means to me!! Thank you so much for this encouragement!! ❤️❤️ Also reading your comment made me think you might really enjoy this podcast- peteenns.com/podcast/ - it’s for people who are deconstructing their faith, and has such a different take on Christianity than anything I grew up hearing. The episodes are super interesting!🤗🤗
Thank you so much for sharing this message and funny story with us, Tiffany!! I actually really needed it and know it was God telling me to stop worrying/overthinking about a guy I've had on my mind for a while. He's been in my heart and I'll continue to pray and give this to God. ❤ Hope you're feeling well!
Tiffany you are a mind reader 😅 literally not even 24 hours ago I just confirmed the boyfriend/girlfriend status for the first time with a guy I’ve been dating and I’ve already had this thing going through my head 🤭 thanks girl
Tiffany, I know you probably won't see this on this old video, but one question I have for you, is what to do when you start dating someone, and every ounce of my being is screaming "He's not right for you!" Yet I can't find anything that would be wrong. He's kind, considerate, funny, genuine, patience, gracious, and so much more. Yet I'm in a daily battle to just accept the idea of dating him. This is within the context of me being 27 years old, and he's my first ever dating relationship.
Good question - have you looked into RelationshipOCD? I think this affects alot of people and is caused alot by this idea of the one ❤️ I pray you find relief from these bothersome feelings and that God would give you his wisdom to carry out his will.
This is such good advise. I've been holding on to this one guy that I only met once but I had the THIS IS THE ONE feeling and I've been thinking what if we meet again? And this guy can't be the one because I thought this guy was. This is such a freedom knowing I don't have to keep waiting for this guy I met ONCE!
My story almost exactly. It was definitely a slow wade into the water, one step in front of the other and little confirmations from the Lord along the way, songs, Bible verses, the way my now husband treated me and was patient with my hesitancy.
I think it depends on what you want and will be satisfied with. If you want those fireworks, that instant connection and will only be satisfied with this you’ll look for it. But if you’re willing to date and give people a try, if you’re open to love over time then this will probably be your story.
Gotta say, i’ve never had the a-ha! feeling in a relationship and it always was eerie that it wasn’t there...but in hindsight, I know it was my instincts trying to alert me on a big NOPE! So, today at my ripe age...and after finding God...im kinda thinking i’mma wait on that big A-Ha instead :) but of course all experiences can be different!
You want to feel that masculine energy and be with someone who is taller than you, but that is not always what is available. So you get a “nice” guy but maybe there isn’t as much attraction.
I am in the exact same position, I am dating a great guy, super sweet and attentive. But I am scared that its going to end up like my past relationships and I don't want to get my heart broken.
Love this!! You guys give the best talks and advice. I recently had some friends say dump this guy I'm seeing and because we're taking it slow their all like dump him. But I want to give him a chance. I love how you said some people grow into "being the one" Love you guys!!!
What are your thoughts on someone being "the one" when deep down you feel they are for all the right reasons (how they treat you and others, their loyalty, fun, intelligence, hard work, stability, not pressuring you into anything, being your best friend you can trust, etc) but two big things stop you from pursuing/pursuing a deeper relationship with them? (in this case age difference, i'm 28 and he 43, and also he had a serious food disorder that he has lived with all his life and doesnt want to change)? He has no problems marrying me tomorrow if he could, but it's me who is struggling with the issues he has. Maybe he is meant for someone who will not be bothered by those things about him?
Grizzly bears can absolutely tear apart a car, just google it. They say not to even leave gum in the glove compartment when camping in bear country because that puts you and your car in danger. You were right Tiffany!
I really hope more Christian women will heed some advice from this and actually give some Christian guys a chance to get to know them a little bit before outright rejecting them. I feel like I’m basically done with dating at 31. I’m focusing on other things in my life.
@@TiffanyDawn true, and that advice can go for me as well. Hey I’m an author and I have to say you really help me out with writing my Christian women characters.
That's such a great question! I think the point is more about taking it slow - so you're not starting to think about the future from the very beginning. Thinking "is this someone I could marry" from the beginning makes the attachment is sooo much stronger from the very beginning. Whereas if you just date to get to know each other and enjoy time together in the beginning, you're not focused on thinking, "Could we get married?" Or making your relationship too serious too fast. Does that make sense? I hope that can help! 🤗
It really is!! And usually I didn’t even get to the relationship stage with guys cause I’d already decided they weren’t right for me 🙈 it’s crazy - because we can’t really know if someone is right until we know them!! 😂
@@TiffanyDawn good story to learn from. It teaches me as a guy to be more patient, but I'm going to need some reliable female friends for help as well.
@@TiffanyDawn Wish we didn't overspiritualize dating so much and think everything is a sign from God. Admittedly I'm guilty of this to a degree, but only in affirmations not in rejections :P I just had an e-date lat night that I thought went really well, and then got a message this morning saying "I don't think we should continue, we seem to be in different seasons right now." After two dates that I thought went great, it was a bit of a put down and has me wishing God would just drop a woman off at my doorstep and spare me just a little future heartache. :p So yes ladies, if there are no obvious red flags maybe wait just a little bit longer and get to know the guy first.
Christian women love to juggle multiple guys on the burner and play mind games XD you gotta meet x number of superficial, carnal standards. Like Tiffany said 6”3 dark and in ministry. God help me find a good Baptist gurl, But forgive me for seeing how superficial many of them can be... they’ll put so much stress and pressure on you that you break into pieces. Stay single
I thought my ex husband was the one. Definitely not and I'm glad years later. Single Christian mom here and praying one day I'll marry again but only the Lord knows
😂😂 oh he knew all about my story with that guy I was talking about. He just didn’t know that story played a role in why I almost broke up with him four days into the relationship 🙈🙈😂 - until now! 🤷♀️ (not something you really talk about with your s/o when you’re on day four of a dating relationship... 😂😂)
Hey guys!! I hope you enjoy the hilarity of this video 🙈 BUT ALSO that this can encourage you if you’ve found yourself caught in this same cycle of prejudging relationships too early, which is so easy to do. ❤️❤️
I like the way James staring at Tiffany while she is talking
He is the sweetest 😍
I love how real you and James are and shining the light on Christian dating.
Awwwww!!! 🤗🤗🤗
I felt James’ shock 😂
Poor guy.
Oh my gosh I know!! 🙈🙈 I felt so bad afterwards.! 🙈🙈 I was like, “Should I take that part out?” And he was like, “no it’s funny. And I think a lot of people feel that way.” He had an ex he was still wondering about at the very beginning of our relationship too. It’s so common, and so important to push through anyway and not rush to an early judgment! 🙌🙌
I am a HUGE overthinker! My fiancé knew I was the one but it took forever for me to figure it out. I kept waiting for this magic feeling. But love sometimes take time. I had moments from time to time where it just felt right, but sometimes my doubts would overtake me thinking, what if he’s the wrong one though?
Everything worked out in the end.
Thank you so much for making this video! I thought I was crazy and the only one who went through this! It’s so refreshing and encouraging to hear from another Christian that it’s normal. Your channel is a huge blessing to me personally
May I ask, how did you figure it out in the end? I'm in a similar situation, been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now and we are talking about marriage. On the one hand, I'm excited, on the other, it gives me a lot of anxiety. I don't believe strongly in the ONE, but I believe in someone being right for you or not.
@@Alioo0110 definitely looking to the Lord and praying about it often and submitting to Him. My mind was a lot calmer then. Then He would show me things that just made sense. I felt a peace about it.
God showed me that it was his will. Definitely make sure that is your priority and everything will fall into place♥️♥️♥️ I agree with you, I don’t believe only in “the one” either. To an extent God is going to let you make the choice. He’s not going to force you to marry this man. He has given us free will. As long as your true desire is for Gods will everything will work out. ♥️♥️♥️
That's literally my exact situation right now. My boyfriend knows he wants to marry me but I'm still having a ton of doubt. I hope to get there someday (if it's right that is)
@@username-vp5yn talk to trusted friends! talk to someone older than you who is married! be vulnerable with them - and by vulnerable I don’t mean “dump all your problems” on them, but truly just voicing your thoughts and your doubts is SO helpful.. and letting other people in to speak truth over you can be refreshing or just clarifying!
When my husband and I were dating, I think we had been dating about 5 months. And there was another guy, I was so ready to break up with my boyfriend for this other guy, until my boyfriend came over a couple days later. As soon as I saw my boyfriend that day I knew that he was the right one. I felt something so strong that day. We got married a year later. It's now been over 13 years. We still love each other more every day.
I love your videos!! Keep sharing.
Awwww!! Thank you so much for sharing this part of your love story with us - beautiful!
This video was honestly an answered prayer. I had been feeling like there was something wrong with me for not having that "moment" and prayed for the Lord to enlighten me or confirm these thoughts. This video was on the top as soon as I typed in TH-cam to look up something else. WOW GOD IS COOL! He used this video in a powerful way. Love yall and your videos, may the Lord continue to bless you both!
Oh that is so cool!! I love how Goddoes that!! Thank you for sharing that with me! 🤗
Girl same!!! Like we’re waiting for that WOW Moment.
Ahaha I did this! 🤣 I cringe re-reading my diary because I wrote about finally getting into a relationship and was excited to be with the guy and then literally the next entry a couple of days later I was like "nah, this ain't gonna work. Peace out." 😂
😂😂😂😂😂 I’m glad it’s not just me!!
Ha!
Aww Tiffany you look so beautiful! Looking forward to watching this 😆
Awwww!!!! That means so much!! (I don’t often feel beautiful while pregnant 🙈😂 despite how much James tells me I am! ❤️)
Ahh, this is so good to hear, and it’s so reassuring to know that other people struggle in the same areas of doubt and overthinking 😅
I am 7 days away from marrying the love of my life (his name is James too, incidentally), and I could not tell you how much overthinking was done during the beginning phases of our relationship. I even rejected him the first time he asked to date me because I had this image of ✨ T h e O n e ✨ in my head that I couldn’t let go of. I’m so glad I came around eventually, God brought me everything I needed in the right timing, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt now that this man is the man I want to learn to love for the rest of my life ❤️
I really like how you said "you have those people in your life you're always holding on to." That was me for about 10 years. There was a guy I knew from my childhood I met in church when we were in elementary school. We were "a thing" for a summer in 8th grade and when that ended, I held on to the idea of reconnecting with him when we got older. Earlier this year I watched your video about how to get over a crush and heard your story about how the guy you liked told you that he liked you too, but every time he prayed about it, he felt like God was telling him he had someone else planned for you. I tried reaching out to this guy last fall in hopes of meeting up for coffee next time he was in town to rekindle our former romance. I prayed for clarity, and when I saw that he was indeed in a serious relationship with this new girl, that was all the clarity I needed. I held on to the idea of recreating something I once had with this person for more than 10 years and I am finally able to realize that God does indeed have other people planned for us. Thank you so much for your wisdom and encouragement!
This is so helpful! I've been seeing this guy for maybe 2 months and I was getting het up about it not feeling "right" and I think I over pressuring it so much. I don't have the "feeling" but actually its been only a few dates, we're in a pandemic and it can take time. If God wants it, it will happen and His timing is right not mine. I need to slow down and Let God :D
I felt that way too before! Then someone told me, dating is to see if you want to be with someone and to take time to get to know them. You don’t have to marry who you’re dating! I had been putting so much pressure on myself without even realizing it. It’s crazy. I hope everything works out for you!
Wow, I've really needed this right now. I've had so much doubt throughout the majority of my relationship. We decided to start dating with the intention of possible marriage on our second date, and I'm a hopeless romantic so I definitely needed there to be a thought of "this guy's special." But as I've graduated from college and started to think about my life and relationship long-term, it's been very difficult to navigate, especially since this is my first relationship ever. Especially with the pandemic going on, it's been very easy for me to start doubting every aspect of my life, especially my relationship. So I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who had doubts about a relationship and not feeling "the one."
Also I love how you post videos like these that aren't always talked about, more practical dating and relationship videos. They really help me out :)
I needed to see this video so much! It’s so hard to grow up knowing dating is for the intention of marriage, but not to judge someone as a future spouse on the first and second date. It’s hard to navigate and this video gave me so much peace! Thank you for always making the best videos, Tiffany and James!
LOVE THIS!! I think if you know you have a tendency to overthink things, this can so easily apply to you (in other words, this applies to me! 😅). Thank you so much for sharing, Tiffany!!
There’s a Bible verse I discovered recently that I really love! It’s Isaiah 30:21 (NIV):
“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’”
I take such encouragement in knowing, even if I’m not 100% sure of God’s plan in a particular situation, I can rely on the Holy Spirit to guide me if I take a step of faith. If it’s wrong, God will let me know!!
I love this!! 😊
YES!!! Preach!! I love that verse!! Thank you for sharing this 🤗🤗
I'm so thankful you are speaking on this. It's something I have been wresting with for a while in my relationship. More people, especially christians, need to be talking about how its not always perfect and completely clear when it comes to finding a spouse.
I am definitely not one of those people who saw “the one” in the person they’re dating immediately, but I’ve prayed and prayed about it, and I feel confident that the woman I’m with now is THE one after nearly 2 years of dating. Not saying that “oh no matter what I’m marrying her” kinda thing, that’s not realistic, but she’s a Christian, she’s a positive influence on me, she’s kind to both me and her peers (literally never heard a bad word directed towards her), she’ll play video games with me, she has common or compatible interests, and she is not overly dramatic (something my introverted self LOVES having). I love her to death, and if God truly is intending us for each other, as I feel he is, then when I graduate college, gonna ask that very important question to her.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with this!! It's so important to hear how this can look for different people - there's not just one way to reach the conclusion that we want to marry someone. Thank you!
I love you and your videos Tiffany because you're just so real! You love Jesus and prioritize Him in your relationship with James, but you also don't sugarcoat. You are always so refreshing to watch!!
Awwww that means so much to me - you have no idea! 🤗🤗
I did the same thing! My fiance and I dated for over 2 years before we got engaged, and it took me about a year before that to be okay with it. I had a solid set of months of being "unsure", while being surrounded by speedy relationships and I felt like something was wrong because I wasn't 100% sold less than a year in. I'm so glad I waited because things shifted this year, and now we're getting married in 2 months and I could not be happier 😊😊😊 I am so deeply certain now and I'm glad I had the patience and trust to wait for it to feel right for me instead of running away because of that false insecurity
This so cute sometimes its so hard letting God take control love your videos they help so much
That makes me so happy it can help! It really is so hard sometimes to stop overthinking everything early on!
Stories that need to be heard...
Sometimes this channel can be geared toward younger people. I'm 42 and have been hooked for a few years. As you get older and you've become used to single and independent, and hurt a lot lot, it is so easy to push people away with out trying. I love your honesty and needed this topic. It can easy to subconsciously think if I end it I won't get hurt. Or I don' have the energy to try to get to know somebody again. Thank you so much for sharing. I love your channel!
Oh my goodness yes!! That totally makes sense! Thank you for sharing this, and for the encouragement!
Thank you for this video, it describes my current situation perfectly! I've been feeling this way about a guy I started seeing recently and we've not been able to go out or 'date' properly because of the pandemic and lockdowns. I'm definitely going to watch your series, take it easy and just let God guide me 🙏🏾
Thanks for your honest and good advice! I have 'lost my faith'/deconverted this year, but I still like your videos and the message you send with them! I think we need more authentic, nontoxic (Christian) TH-camrs like you
Yes she is so relatable and doesn't make me feel like I'm less of a Christian.
I can’t tell you how much this means to me!! Thank you so much for this encouragement!! ❤️❤️ Also reading your comment made me think you might really enjoy this podcast- peteenns.com/podcast/ - it’s for people who are deconstructing their faith, and has such a different take on Christianity than anything I grew up hearing. The episodes are super interesting!🤗🤗
@@TiffanyDawn thanks so much, I will definitely check out the podcast ^^!
Thank you so much for sharing this message and funny story with us, Tiffany!! I actually really needed it and know it was God telling me to stop worrying/overthinking about a guy I've had on my mind for a while. He's been in my heart and I'll continue to pray and give this to God. ❤ Hope you're feeling well!
"What! What?!" 😂
You explained my feelings so well. ESP. The part of looking forward.
I enjoy Tiffany's Bubbly And Happy Soul Personality. 🤣🤣🤣its so uplifting
Thank you for lifting my spirits!
Awww, you guys are so sweet! James is such a good sport! 😅
He really is!! 😂😂🙈🙈
Tiffany you are a mind reader 😅 literally not even 24 hours ago I just confirmed the boyfriend/girlfriend status for the first time with a guy I’ve been dating and I’ve already had this thing going through my head 🤭 thanks girl
Ahhh I appreciate how you're so similar to me because I really relate to what you share about and am grateful for your insight :)
Tiffany, I know you probably won't see this on this old video, but one question I have for you, is what to do when you start dating someone, and every ounce of my being is screaming "He's not right for you!" Yet I can't find anything that would be wrong. He's kind, considerate, funny, genuine, patience, gracious, and so much more. Yet I'm in a daily battle to just accept the idea of dating him. This is within the context of me being 27 years old, and he's my first ever dating relationship.
Good question - have you looked into RelationshipOCD?
I think this affects alot of people and is caused alot by this idea of the one ❤️
I pray you find relief from these bothersome feelings and that God would give you his wisdom to carry out his will.
This is such good advise. I've been holding on to this one guy that I only met once but I had the THIS IS THE ONE feeling and I've been thinking what if we meet again? And this guy can't be the one because I thought this guy was. This is such a freedom knowing I don't have to keep waiting for this guy I met ONCE!
You two have such a great vibe ... James is a great communicator (for a guy)!
My story almost exactly. It was definitely a slow wade into the water, one step in front of the other and little confirmations from the Lord along the way, songs, Bible verses, the way my now husband treated me and was patient with my hesitancy.
Yes!! Beautiful!!
*don't mind me just liking your video half a minute in because I know it'll be great
same
I honestly thought that you’d feel that feeling when you first meet ‘the one’ .
Right?! I'm glad it wasn't just me!
I think it depends on what you want and will be satisfied with. If you want those fireworks, that instant connection and will only be satisfied with this you’ll look for it. But if you’re willing to date and give people a try, if you’re open to love over time then this will probably be your story.
There was another guy in the back pocket.😂
Right?! 😂😂🙈🙈🙈
Saw my wife when she was10 And I was 12 and I knew! (My girlfriend/wife) asked me out when I was 15. And....That was it!
Aweeee! That is so cute!!!!
Wow!!! What a sweet story! (I also love that she asked you out - go girl!🙌)
This was hilarious, adorable, and helpful all in one! 🤣❤️
So Glad you guys didn't break up too!!😊😘😘😘
Congratulations you made it 😂👏👏
😂😂😂🙌🙌🙌
Once again, such a gray video! I love how you guys can laugh together and I love your honesty!
Gotta say, i’ve never had the a-ha! feeling in a relationship and it always was eerie that it wasn’t there...but in hindsight, I know it was my instincts trying to alert me on a big NOPE! So, today at my ripe age...and after finding God...im kinda thinking i’mma wait on that big A-Ha instead :) but of course all experiences can be different!
Will Before the Ring be on Goodreads soon? I want to add it to my reading list.
You want to feel that masculine energy and be with someone who is taller than you, but that is not always what is available. So you get a “nice” guy but maybe there isn’t as much attraction.
I am in the exact same position, I am dating a great guy, super sweet and attentive. But I am scared that its going to end up like my past relationships and I don't want to get my heart broken.
I love your channel and I learned a lot,thank you for being genuine about your journey... sincerely guys wish I all the best& so much love ❤️😍
Love this!! You guys give the best talks and advice. I recently had some friends say dump this guy I'm seeing and because we're taking it slow their all like dump him. But I want to give him a chance. I love how you said some people grow into "being the one" Love you guys!!!
Yes it totally is a growth process!! I’m glad you’re able to take it slow 🤗🤗
What are your thoughts on someone being "the one" when deep down you feel they are for all the right reasons (how they treat you and others, their loyalty, fun, intelligence, hard work, stability, not pressuring you into anything, being your best friend you can trust, etc) but two big things stop you from pursuing/pursuing a deeper relationship with them? (in this case age difference, i'm 28 and he 43, and also he had a serious food disorder that he has lived with all his life and doesnt want to change)? He has no problems marrying me tomorrow if he could, but it's me who is struggling with the issues he has. Maybe he is meant for someone who will not be bothered by those things about him?
This was sooooo good!!!! Thanks for this video!
This was so beautiful
You two are so much fun to watch!
You make me laugh
Love your chemistry and relationship!
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God bless
Thank you for this video ❤️ I needed to hear this.
Thanks for making this video!
Love the video
Yay!!! Im so glad! I
Grizzly bears can absolutely tear apart a car, just google it. They say not to even leave gum in the glove compartment when camping in bear country because that puts you and your car in danger. You were right Tiffany!
THANK YOU!!! 😂😂🙌🙌
I really hope more Christian women will heed some advice from this and actually give some Christian guys a chance to get to know them a little bit before outright rejecting them. I feel like I’m basically done with dating at 31. I’m focusing on other things in my life.
Yes! It's so easy to flat out reject someone right away! It's so important to give people a chance.
@@TiffanyDawn true, and that advice can go for me as well. Hey I’m an author and I have to say you really help me out with writing my Christian women characters.
I know that the times I felt the gut feeling it was not the one. But the one I saw God working through the circumstances, that was the one
How do you keep yourself for getting attached to that person in the process? If you take your time would you not increase the chance of that happening
That's such a great question! I think the point is more about taking it slow - so you're not starting to think about the future from the very beginning. Thinking "is this someone I could marry" from the beginning makes the attachment is sooo much stronger from the very beginning. Whereas if you just date to get to know each other and enjoy time together in the beginning, you're not focused on thinking, "Could we get married?" Or making your relationship too serious too fast. Does that make sense? I hope that can help! 🤗
@@TiffanyDawn so maybe coming from a friendship perspective 🤔 instead too. Thanks
You guys are the cutest 🥰🥰
Best couple ever🤩🙏🏻 Love you and your videos Tiffany.❤️
Awwww that makes my day!!🤗
I love this!!
I'm literally facepalming at Tiffany. It's funny but just ridiculous at the same time.
It really is!! And usually I didn’t even get to the relationship stage with guys cause I’d already decided they weren’t right for me 🙈 it’s crazy - because we can’t really know if someone is right until we know them!! 😂
@@TiffanyDawn good story to learn from. It teaches me as a guy to be more patient, but I'm going to need some reliable female friends for help as well.
That’s a great point! Good female friends can help you see things you might not otherwise see. And vise versa!
@@TiffanyDawn Wish we didn't overspiritualize dating so much and think everything is a sign from God. Admittedly I'm guilty of this to a degree, but only in affirmations not in rejections :P
I just had an e-date lat night that I thought went really well, and then got a message this morning saying "I don't think we should continue, we seem to be in different seasons right now."
After two dates that I thought went great, it was a bit of a put down and has me wishing God would just drop a woman off at my doorstep and spare me just a little future heartache. :p
So yes ladies, if there are no obvious red flags maybe wait just a little bit longer and get to know the guy first.
Oh I just love you guys
If I was James, I’ll be shock too! 😄
Right?!? 🙈😂
Christian women love to juggle multiple guys on the burner and play mind games XD you gotta meet x number of superficial, carnal standards. Like Tiffany said 6”3 dark and in ministry. God help me find a good Baptist gurl, But forgive me for seeing how superficial many of them can be... they’ll put so much stress and pressure on you that you break into pieces. Stay single
Yes sir
Your husband looks like Matthew Broderick
I thought my ex husband was the one. Definitely not and I'm glad years later. Single Christian mom here and praying one day I'll marry again but only the Lord knows
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
Just proof that there will always be something women will hide from you.
Yes everyone keeps a few things to themselves.
@@Be1New2You3 thank you... "EVERYONE"
😂😂 oh he knew all about my story with that guy I was talking about. He just didn’t know that story played a role in why I almost broke up with him four days into the relationship 🙈🙈😂 - until now! 🤷♀️ (not something you really talk about with your s/o when you’re on day four of a dating relationship... 😂😂)
lol