"When you're ugly and someone loves you, you know they love you for who you are. Beautiful people never know who to trust." -Drax the Destroyer I'm glad you found someone my friend
I am seeing this happen. I used to be really pretty (I didn't realize it at the time). People were always nice and courteous to me. I thought that was just how the world was. Now in my late 40's, I have chronic illnesses which have taken a toll on me and medications caused weight gain and inability to exercise. Strangers (ex. Store clerks, Drs, etc) are routinely almost aggressively rude to me when I'm being super nice and polite to them. I couldn't figure out why. Last night my husband said, "maybe they treat you that way because of your looks?". That's how I found your channel. I do know that my confidence and self esteem are zero and that doesn't help things. Keep your head up. Looks fade, but being a genuinely good person is rare these days and lasts forever.
@@crystalxwolf9487 I don’t think so, I wouldn’t interpret it that way. He was probably referring to how people are rude to heavier people. Doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to her
True, but i’am 98% sure that all of you commenting nice things about him, would never have told him that or anything if he was going to your school or something. Trust me, when people get a chance to be nice, they don’t, they stay for themself and their friends. But when they see something online, then they fast wants to become a hero and their friends.
@@akaashaars1832 You're right - the vast majority of the time, when people sense social weakness, especially teenagers in high school - you're screwed. If he was just some shy, lonely dude at a school, people would say he was weird but when he uploads a TH-cam video that goes viral thanks to the algorithm, people are more than willing to get their likes.
Red Pirate MC He improved in general!Where he is filming makes it look like he cares more about creating a nice environment for himself, his clothes look neat and like he invested some though on putting himself together in the morning, the hair suits him better as it doesn't look like an accident anymore plus the voice as you guys noticed and I am sure the voice could even end up sounding WAY more attractive if he starts to gain more confidence and speak in a more affirming manner. He caims surgery is the only way of fixing your facial appearance but really keeps dismissing the impact that is in your own power! He now looks a lot more attractive than in that first video that's just factual
I was a pretty child, but I didn't handle puberty very well. I was bullied relentlessly in high-school, by everyone. I was regularly told I was ugly, and I'd be tripped up, pushed, punched, have things thrown at me, etc... every single day. I developed such an intense self hatred. Even when I left school and managed to make myself quite attractive, I didn't believe I was and was constantly obsessed that I was ugly and everyone was going to hate me. The anxiety and depression was intense, and I held myself back in everything. I'm now 35, and I realise looking back at old photos in my 20s, that was actually an attractive woman, but how people treated me changed how I perceived myself. I realised that it doesn't actually matter what you look like, it's how people treat you. I was an ugly teenager, but I did not deserve any of the treatment I got. It's disgusting that others will think they can mistreat a person because they don't consider them attractive. Like, why do that? Just be friendly or don't make conversation. No reason to seek them out and torment them.
Your next lesson may be that how people treat you doesn't matter, either (in terms of how you view yourself). Learning to love ourselves -- irrespective of external circumstances -- is an essential part of everyone's journey. ♥
I treat those same people with the energy they give me. It makes me feel so good when I can mirror a gossiper or bully. I’ll just stare them down and talk shit in my friends ear while laughing.
Same! As soon as I hit puberty everything went downhill. I’ve been called ugly numerous times, but it never really hurt me. I’ve always believed everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and if numerous people say that, than it is most likely true. I don’t like to fight the truth and feed into delusion like most people I’ve seen. I like to accept it and I’ve learned to love and live with myself.
What he missed is other people view you how you view yourself, so how you feel will make people view you differently. If you feel depressed and ugly and weird, people will treat you as such. I literally said the same shit about myself in highschool. People thought I was the weird kid who no one will love... then I dropped acid, realized everyone has their own beauty standards and that no matter what, me (and this guy too) are a 10 on someone's scale. So next year i showed up in a choker, crop top, short shorts and thigh highs with platform boots. Never have i gotten so many genuine compliments from women (and men). Now if a (3/10) 17 year old male wearing women's clothing and *still* getting compliments isnt literal proof that its all about how you see yourself, i dont know what is
I understand some of you are trying to be supportive by saying “I don’t think he’s ugly” or “looks are subjective”, and I recognize your good intentions, but if I were this guy and I read those comments it would frustrate me because you’re missing the point. He’s not uploading these videos as a cry for help or to receive validation. He’s putting this content out to create a sense of community for people to who might be able to relate to him, and to dismiss his problems so trivially shows you don’t truly understand where he’s coming from, and you’re discounting the years of emotional strife he had to endure. The unfortunate reality is that he and others like him were, are, and will be treated differently by the large majority because of their appearances. Sure, looks are subjective, and there are a few people who can look past them, but it doesn’t change how society as a whole treats these people nor does it negate the psychological trauma that was already inflicted. He said it himself: he’s with a wonderful person now (and I’m happy for him), but it’s still hard for him to accept compliments from her because he was scarred by his past. Also, to argue “I don’t think you’re unattractive, you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself” is only reinforcing the idea that value is based on appearances. Again, I think it’s nice how some of you are trying to be supportive by saying nice things, but it’s not helpful because all you’re saying is his problems are not as big of a deal to you as they are to him. That said, can others do anything to repair society and prevent cases like this entirely? Personally I don’t think so. There will always be some standard of beauty and people who are treated differently because of it. But to everyone who is struggling with the same problem, just know that you are not alone and to “never give up”. The odds are against you, but with persistence and hard work eventually you will find yourself in a better place.
Bro I wanna give this dude a warm nice hug :( He deserves to much better. He is human like everyone else. Nobody is perfect and appearences aren't important. You deserve love and respect man
I agree with Markos. It has something to do with unconcious deffensive mechanisms but I can't provide arguments right now. I'm sure I've read about this topic somewhere tho.
It should go - “It’s a shame that humans equate beauty with goodness across other humans” beauty is inherently righteous, anything unsightly or hideous is of dark origin, that’s why we try to look good, and make ourselves presentable in a worthy fashion via clothes, hair, fragrance. But I’m not arguing that principle applies to the some of us that aren’t handsome, that ridiculing someone for their looks is right, I’m arguing the opposite. I’m in complete agreements with the notion of the quote, Just pointing out a flaw in that quote, it’s missing the part that beauty and goodness work with each other in most of reality’s design, but not in regard to one’s looks. Why are we attracted to a shiny red apple? Because it’s delicious and worthy, unfortunately we have the same mechanisms for rendering each other when really the beauty lingers somewhere else than in looks.
Det som berör mig mest är att de närmast dig, familj och vänner, har kallat dig "ful" genom åren. Det är verkligen inte ok, jag förstår inte det beteendet. När man lär känna någon på djupet "försvinner" utsidan. Hoppas du träffar ditt crew en dag och att du finner dig själv och ditt sammanhang och lämnar all den här skiten bakom dig.
Funny thing is, I know a guy who looks a lot like him, who became a fashion designer. He wore really outlandish clothes, but exercised a lot and had a lot of neat hobbies and ridiculous confidence and sense of humor. He may not have been the best looking guy, but he invested a lot in himself and cared for himself well and naturally drew people to him.
Exactly. I know a bunch of guys with this kind of face (and honestly I like those kind of faces? Go figure) and taking care of oneself changes everything. One doesn't have to go there, and people who don't resonate with that absolutely shouldn't, but even people who see beyond your temporary skin bag can be held back if hygiene isn't there. On the other hand, you'll probably along the way find people here and there who really don't mind, cause we're all different like that.
Hey man, I came across your content recently, and I just wanna say you're a real inspiration! As someone going through problems with anxiety/depression and really struggling with how with how I see myself visually (and sometimes personality wise) seeing you being open about these things and also seeing you make content and doing things that make you happy gives me hope. I hope you're doing okay these days and if you ever see this comment, I just want you to know you've made a positive impact on my life. Peace ✌
@@v0idcaster my phone is black and blue and white themed Bc with iOS 14 u can have photowidgets so they’re all black and blue and my main wall paper is a pic of yato and it looks so cool
Thank you for sharing! Being ugly or good looking is a human construct, mental construct. A cat or doggie doesn't differentiate which person is more good looking and who is not. The human babies do not. They are connected to their innate nature-- love, joy, peace, wisdom. Just like race-- "white", "black", etc. This is a human construct. There's only one human race. Many of us are still working on ending racism. And we still can't forget that we are all one human race, even if some people started discriminating groups of people, linking with capitalism, colonialism, patriarchy. Every person is beautiful. Just like every tree, every flower, every blade of grass is beautiful. The kitty, doggie, baby, like many people, feel the energy of the person, the beautiful spirit of the person. Many 'good looking' person's ego gets inflated due to the attention. Many actors, actresses, models are not living the great life as some people think here. Our work is to focus on not buying into this crap. "If you don't shape your world, the world will shape you." This is about focusing on one's health-- emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, developing independent thinking, critical thinking. Each of us is responsible for changing the culture-- to a world based in love, peace, joy, wisdom, free of bias and ignorance. I find the sharing and work of Thich Nhat Hanh and Plum Village, Deepak Chopra transformative. Sending love and blessing to everyone! 🥰
“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
As an ugly man myself, I would like to say that there are evolutionary reasons why we find certain people attractive and others not. Still single but also the one thing I want to stress is that relationships do not mean happiness, and being alone isn't the same as being lonely.
True. I’ve been in a few relationships and honestly it’s better to be in ur own world. Yes, some ppl can be better when they get in a relationship but for some ppl it’s better to be alone.
@@Name-tn1zg I don't know if it's better to be alone than in a relationship, but I think that if you are an unhappy, incomplete person when you are by yourself, then being with someone else will at most be like sticking a bandaid on a deep wound. It might stop the bleeding but there's damage that needs to be fixed deep beneath the surface
I suggest doing a bit more research on what ppl have considered beautiful in different societies throughout history-you'll see although there is some evolutionary involvement, sooooooo much of beauty standards are man-made. And it has reached a dangerous and unhealthy extent now as beauty standards have become so narrow but spread all around the world. I look at today's beauty standards less as having to do with evolution and more like a man-made pandemic of insecurity. Studies of newer generations show more body dysmorphia, including of the face, bc constantly looking at social media has led us to look at a normal or average, un-photoshopped faces, even on a fairly attractive person, and see it as monstrous or mutated.
@@anonymouse7773 The beauty standards of women are indeed sway by men, so are the beauty standards of men are sway by women. Humans do like face symmetry and all that.
working out not only lowers face fat but also boosts your confidence trust me i felt the same way. my face got slimmer and i didnt care much for girls or being accepted. i just felt great after an intense workout. work on what you can and embrace what you cant.
Everyone telling him to cut the hair, like he obviously likes it. It takes years to grow your hair that length. There are things he could improve like his dressing, but he seems a average attractiveness. His realistic attitude is actually attractive in my opinion to be honest, he just seems like a guy who was bullied and tormented for his looks and it seems to have messed up his self image which fucking sucks.
You're right, it's a struggle to have your hair long. It probably took him about a year or more to get to that length, I'm also growing my hair out, I'm at month 4 and people are already telling me to cut it. He looks so much better with long hair, like he has this chill dude vibes, but also somehow baddass metalhead vibes as well. I think he's thought about it and would never cut his hair.
@@elgatocapibara It's really respectable. I really feel like he looks better with long than he would would short, both for personality and aesthetic reasons.
@@elgatocapibara yeah same, been growing my since October and top for a year and it takes forever, real dedication, but persevere in 20 months when your hair down to your shoulders they will all be jealous of it.
I think you speak very intelligently, with much common sense. I agree with many if not all of your view points. You're real and you're doing you! And that's attractive!
JordDaLord 5 | it’s sad you think it’s a lie.. if you truly think that saying those unkind words is okay then you should really try to make new friends, take care of yourself, be kind to others no matter what. Please just try.
But would you date him when you have to choose between him and a 6' muscular guy with a good sense of humor?The truth is some people are physically ugly and some people are attractive.
Hey man, just wanted to let you know that you’re a legend. No one has the balls to talk about this kind of stuff, let alone post it online. Props to you, I don’t know you personally but after watching this, I’m really happy for you. Glad you met someone that treats you well. You definitely deserve it!! Keep the positive energy flowing my guy.💪🏼💙
In addition to his video, this comment is also super awesome and I couldn't agree more Nick. You damn right he is a legend and he has bigger balls to talk about this stuff and many people could learn from him.
Yea there are people talking about this, I have no idea why this dude in particular has blown up twice but the way he talks about things and the terms he uses, he is 100% into lookism. Check out FaceAndLMS, he makes great content on this subject and has for many years
I was in a catastrophic accident when I was a sophomore in high school and broke my neck in two places and became a quadriplegic instantly. In literally one second I became someone who got “special attention and treatment” in school and kids began to bully and harass me when I finally came back full time. These kids would have never messed with me before because I was 6’ and 190lbs since I was 12 and I lifted weights and did judo but now all bets were off. This wore down my self esteem and I’ve spent most of my adult life trying to have a normal relationship. You are an inspiration buddy and if you ever need to chat I’m here for you
It's all backwards ! You have had a terrible life experience and may doubt about love because it's not just about holding hands. Have you watched the movie Intouchables (it's subtitled) ? It's inspired by a true story and yes the quadriplegic is rich but the friendship story is real. So are his kids, his wife (not in the movie). A feel-good story about a tetra. Not a wallow in self-pity about a perfecly ordinary guy.
you gotta think of it this way since you have been through that it proves you can do anything, nothing will be harder than what you have already been through.
I have felt like I'm a outcast most of my life. feeling like I am unworthy of happiness has been a daily battle. all we can do is keep battling until hopefully some day our perseverance is rewarded with a happily ever after. I'm just a beast waiting for my bella. keep your head up.
Confidence comes from validation from other people you don’t just press a button and become confident so being good looking gives you validation = confident stop being delusional
Ozymandias if you seek validation from others then you have something majorly wrong within yourself, self love above all else will lead you in a happier path in life. But if you feel the need to seek validation from others then you do you
This!!! I am a 6-foot-4 male who is "conventionally attractive". But i don't feel super confident. I am single and am actually jealous of this TH-camr because he has a partner! Lol The grass isn't greener on the other side. There is always someone out there jealous of you. Incel Culture is really toxic and glorifies Chads, like we have it made. And, yes, people are "nicer" to you when you are hotter...but it's all fake. It's kinda gross how you can tell people are only being friendly with you because they like how you look. It's a superficial friendship feeling and not genuine. Or not a nice feeling that most people wouldn't hang out with you for your personality haha
Oh my God. Just a couple of minutes ago I was wondering what happened to you and what's up with your life now and out of nowhere I got the notification of your update video! Good to see you again.
Sense of humor, genuine personality, and self confidence are the MOST IMPORTANT things! If a girl only cares about your looks, she's not worth your time. If a girl wants a real, genuine relationship, she will only care about your heart & the way you treat her! Also.. I know you're insecure about your "big" lips, but that's not a bad thing! I'm pretty sure most of the world loves big lips in 2020 lol
When everybody playing a game that called "Life" in easy mode, but you're playing in hardcore mode.. You should be proud man. Keep it up, you're beautiful the way you are.
@Sgrp 270 I think they're saying he has had super bad experiences and his life so far has been pretty tough. It seems like he's getting a lot better not though.
Supporting comments are fine but not really helpful in solving this guy's problem. The only thing that would solve this guy's problem is that we donate money for him to have various cosmetic surgeries. Nice words are fine but they don't go anywhere.
Sgrp 270 His physical appearance is a tremendous social disadvantage to him. It is a fact. Don't relativize. Being ugly is not a walk in the park under the rainbow.
Sgrp 270 I don't understand people who oppose surgeries. If it is a positive thing that can help you live a fuller life, why not? and another thing, being more handsome does not imply that you are going to have more superficial relationships, you have to know how to choose people, being more handsome implies that you are going to have a better quality of life, you are going to feel better about yourself and you are going to have more opportunities and options, however you want to force people to live subject to their difficult circumstances if or if. People do not have to be conditioned by their difficult circumstances because those were the ones they had to live, what kind of conformist and defeatist philosophy is that? Not according to you if you played bad cards you have to screw yourself and keep those cards. That way of thinking irritates me. It is not wanting people to progress or improve their lives.
Sgrp 270 The passage of time also changes your face not only the latex. Does that mean that when we grow old we stop being ourselves because our traits change? Identity is defined by the acts and by the way of being of each one.
This man acts so much nicer than 90% of the world. I also have a breathing problem, and don’t even know if it’s heavy breathing. I just have to keep breathing so heavily to get over this wall, hard to explain. But you are honestly one of the nicest people I’ve ever seen on the internet, no joke. There’s people who get plastic surgery for being bullied about facial features at school, in public, or anywhere else. I’m very glad you speak up about it. Even if I, or others, may look ugly, we all are more understanding of it. Many people don’t, and shouldn’t cry about being ugly. Not even if anyone calls you ugly, because that makes them uglier for who they’re being. There’s kids at my school who all act pretty gangster-like, and that’s a very big reason of why I stay away from kids at school. Of why I’m the “quiet kid”. So I don’t become ugly on the inside like them. I have trichotillomania, and I’ve had it since I was 5 or 6, and people call me out over it. “Where’s your eyelashes?” “What happened to your eyebrows?” “What’s that red bump on your eyelid?” I hate when people are so curious over that. They blurt out the worst things that get you thinking about life over and over again. I stay up late at night, even if I have the choice to sleep. Mostly because I love to paint or do art, and I do nothing with my life. That causes me to have eye bags, so I look like some depressed kid. I don’t have insomnia, sleeping disorders, sleep paralysis’s, nothing. I just DON’T sleep. And all of that makes me look ugly, but I don’t cry about it. So all of that is something going on right now, but I’m glad you can say your word on it. Thank you! Edit: and you are NOT ugly at all. in fact, you look amazing!
There's more to life than judging a person for looks. Again this guy does give me the confidence and helped me out too. Mental health isn't selective. If affects everyone. And that being said this man is a great inspiration to help us ppl out who are completely low in life.
Wait... His family told him he is ugly??? Now I understand why this issue harmed him so much. Parents should never tell their sons or daughters that they are ugly (even if they may think so). That only damages the child's self-steem. They do no favor to him. A mother that loves her child would never call him ugly.
My mom has called me "ugly" and she told me "that is why people are staring at you". Don't get me wrong, I love my mother, may be she was angry when she told that.
you haven't done anything wrong but idk positive vibes from you attractives feel wrong. I'm mainly joking i intentionally called you "attractives" to play into the joke, all love.
He is, today's women are very picky thanks to social media and dating apps, they pretty much only date the top 20% of men. Besides, dudes don't know how to rate other dudes.
multirampage1 There’s enough bi and gay people to not assume a man’s sexuality or erase the existence of non straight men (I don’t mean to be dramatic about it)
@@Champ0222 "There’s enough bi and gay people to not assume a man’s sexuality" No, there aren't. Non straight people are around 3% of the population. Source: www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhis/sexual_orientation/ASI_2018_STWebsite_Tables-508.pdf
You're so down-to-earth, and you communicate your message so well. No cuts, no preparation: your opinion is both very interesting and truthful. You're inspiring.
@@reb0tco678 Nah, they're missing something. Clearly, some of us have more insight than others... Glad we share the same perspective, I couldn't have said it better.
I was told I was beautiful for as long as I can remember, but I was also treated like I am stupid, and garbage and purposeless more times than I can count. I spent years being used for gratification, finally I had to come to a place where I would rather be happy with myself than unhappy with others that don't value me. These are the thoughts I have when I watch your videos because I think your so genuine and real that I don't see any ugly. An ugly person is how they treat other people and what they will allow other people to be treated . I know you probably get so many comments you won't read this but I hope you do.
you look exactly- EXACTLY, like an old friend of mine (except he has short hair.) He is confident, exhuberant, popular, creative, successful, and no one would think "that guy's ugly." He just looks like "Chris." He doesn't even care about his looks, except he likes to dress in cool suits and punk rock tees. I know how it feels to think you're ugly. But believe me, no one else is as fixated on how you look as yourself. (Most everyone else is fixated on how ugly/awkward/weird they think THEY look.) Wave it off and live life. Life is too short to be caught up in something you have no control over, and doesn't matter nearly as much as you think it does. Love
@@BlhostCrashed I mean it isn't really stolen. You'll see it everywhere in different videos. I mean its a quote so its not original. So technically its not stolen.
Man, there are ugly people all across the world. The problem is we consider ugly with BAD and pretty with GOOD. I've seen awesome ugly people, as well as beautiful ones who were shit.
@KolTony I do agree about symmetry. Like ppl do find symmetrical faces more attractive but that ends there. In terms of like a lot of things skin colour, body types, hair type, styles like everything changes so often. Like 100 years ago if women had abs it would've been hella weird. And a 6 foot model would've been freakish. Like being plump was the 'in' thing. Even women considered beautiful then probably won't be 'beautiful' now. And I bet a hundred years from now ppl will look back and go hell no. So quite frankly its 90% society and the trends. Not necessarily good genes. You could be a considered average today but be a knockout in a millenia. 💁
It makes me sad that looks are so important and someone like him feels like he is lesser of a human bc of it. You really do be having so much power If you’re attractive especially to the standards now.
If you think about it, good looks are attractive down to a biological level. It’s so ingrained in our brains, so it doesn’t matter what you “think” is right. Just a social construct
playboi anto yeah but now it’s not just about being attractive it’s about being perfect... everyone is expected to have abs and workout and big lips all this crap. Surgery is so normalised so most people just change themselves to fit the construct and the people who don’t are deemed as ugly
Indeed. It's how society is, and frankly always will be. Everyone is judged by their looks. Good looking people make more money on average. Attractiveness is not in the eye of the beholder, it’s innate to a newborn infant meaning newborn babies prefer to look at attractive faces. Better looking people have more friends and socialize easier. It's the luck of the draw.
I was bullied and humiliated by family and people at school. I've never felt good enough or worthy enough to be valued or wanted. However, it does change. I stopped comparing myself to others, I stopped wanting to be accepted, I stopped expecting others to make an effort. I stopped hating the way I looked and started to love myself. We all have physical characteristics that we don't like, the key is, we also have physical attributes that we do like, focus on those qualities. I honestly do not think you are ugly, surround yourself with people that will support you and build you up, because you do deserve love, respect and genuine people that value you as you are.
it was the opposite with me, i never really cared about my face or my body, but then last months i've been noticing how bad i look like. thankfully i think i can change my situation with time and effort if i really want to (changing my hair, going to the gym etc)
all ima say is this dude seems very intelligent socially and has such a great sense of self awareness. he knows his worth, his goods and bads. he is considerate and can treat his girl well it seems, but has self respect for when it gets toxic. i love the way he identifies his mistakes and the potential cause of it all (eg. him taking in his ex was definitely regrettable and he admits to being in a lonely, vulnerable state). it takes a level of confidence and honesty to be able to realise all of these points touched on in these videos. the determination to get sum pus is respectable, and its quite satisfying that he found someone and seems to be in a healthy relationship rn. ******all in all, chill lad, good human brain, would definitely encourage alcohol abuse with and hang out
Your appearence has changed so much... It‘s so impressive how someones whole expression changes if he‘s happy. If I would meet you right now and hadn‘t seen your old video I would never expect you to feel insecure about your looks. I am so proud of you!
Bruh hes got the PERSONALITY and he kinna cute ngl cuzz, hes got those lucious locs, wholesome af, the dream homie and man, and HE NEVER GIVES UP mans has percistance and love in his heart
When I saw the first video of you, my heart was melting & I was in tears because nobody should be treated like shit for something you are born with. I know so many attractive people whose attitude became ugly through their personality and even though you experienced that you HAVE to be beautiful to reach something in life or be loved by superficial girls/boys it isn't that way always. I'm incredibly sorry for you not getting any compliments or being abused in the past over and over again, but as you see, here are m a n y people who try to build you up and that's the chance for you to gain confidence and self respect. It's all about loving yourself & being happy, which is probably the longest journey you can take in life. Lots of love and hugs from Germany!
I am so glad to see this update. You come across better and your English has improved. And you have found somebody that you can relate to. So there are some positive things. Cool! The most important thing is being at peace. We make it hard on ourselves. Sometimes we can be so stupid like a cow.
Saying “I don’t think you’re unattractive, don't be so hard on yourself” is only reinforcing the idea that value is based on appearances. The above comment was already posted but I found it so poignant I had to repost the hardest hitting part.
@@tzukikrishima4308 Hey I did essentially. My only attempt to justify myself would be the fact that I wanted to say the same thing but I felt this person had articulated the point in the most apt way. Nonetheless, it's good to call things out.
Jared San999 I don’t think he’s ugly at all, and even if he was, he wouldn’t care about it very much if he lived in most parts of the US. But if we can’t change our reality (or our beliefs about reality), we can sit in the temporary discomfort of acceptance, and see for ourselves what Eckhart Tolle meant by “grace”.
@@snugglebug5274 Yes, but his entire life he's been judged even by his family all by his looks not his intelligence or his personality . Really he's accepted himself in other words he's given up caring.
He’s spitting straight facts that you won’t find anywhere so this man is the only person that is actually helping me, I’m glad you found happiness and that you managed to accept yourself and I aspire to be like you one day
Romy Assaraf stay strong! I know typing 'Stay strong' while sitting behind anonymous cover of the internet is very easy. But I hope you start to feel better 🌟. You know this world needs some good people.
You know, this made me realize something. Whenever I look at people, I really don't think about their looks the first thing like I just don't think "wow that person is ugly" but I do that when I look at myself in the mirror which is ..toxic... I actually realized that not everyone gives a shit about looks, I myself don't, so why am I that harsh on myself? Thanks man :)
Me too I can say hand on heart I don't see a person's looks I wait to see what kind of soul they have ! Perhaps I am that way because of been bullied in school it helped me to see passed looks !
What you think of yourself most of the time is usually far worse than what you think others think of you. It aint you against the world its you against yourself. Keep your head up brotatoe
Yeah that's what I think as well, didn't comment it because they could think it's to make them feel better only y'know, and that's sometimes worse. But seriously, they're average to me, that wouldn't drive me away from being their friend, and even accept a date if they're nice and funny. But I guess people are just mean and stupid, nothing new :c
Vitaliy I’ve seen guys with wayyyy worse looks being super confident and cocky. I find him super wholesome and nice, so I wish him the best. Cocky annoying people are the worst.
What do you mean "being ugly" bro you are really beautiful. In my opinion beautiful is a persons personality, not looks so keep it going and never give up!!
Istg i usually don't watch videos without leaving it in between or skipping some parts unless it's really interesting. Wish he made more videos like these
The worst-looking guy I ever saw was also the most charming. This is an inreresting story for me. It doesn't mean that I think looks don't affect anything, it unfortunately does affect a lot. But meeting him and hanging out with him made me check my perspective on things. My description of him below will get a bit sexual so please read it at your own discretion. You know how most people who think they're ugly are actually just average or occasionally just a bit below the average? This guy was undoubtedly just ugly. On top of that, he had this skin condition that made him look even worse. When you first meet him you obviously see these things. But it didn't take much time until you would notice his extraordinary personality. He was incredibly funny, charming, charismatic, he was full of self-esteem (he said he knew he was ugly, he didn't believe otherwise. he just didn't think that was a defining characteristic of him) and he had all this while still being very respectful towards everyone around and never making anyone uncomfortable. After warming up to him (which doesn't take long), you start not seeing him as ugly. You start seeing the personality that shines through his facial expressions. So instead of looking at how his face looks when it stays still, you start admiring how his face moves. After getting to know him a bit more, I started finding him very attractive. I also found out that he was one of the most socially and sexually active people I had ever met. He always had these fun stories about having adventures with all different kinds of people and these sexual stories that always involved different people in different ways. I'm no longer in contact with him. But I thought a lot about him. He made me understand that social and sexual relationships are more complex than I realized. Because he didn't find just kind people who would see past his appearance when he made friends or had sex with various people. He was just able to see past his own insecurities which made it easier for him to let his positive characteristics shine through. Of course I'm aware that having such a radiant personality is also very rare. My point here isn't "if you're unattractive by society's standards just be a social butterfly". I'm just sharing this because gave me a new perspective on things.
you should make podcast brother. your sound is easy listening , your perspective about something is straight to the fact, no bullshit like the others. i'm curious what's thought about another topic because yeah...
I'm 26 and average looking guy and I would probably have a girlfriend by now but I'm battling severe anxiety and depression for 5 years now and I can't see the way out, it's not everything about the looks mental health is the most important thing, stay strong bro
I am 25 and I am average looking atleast where I am from, but I never really had a serious relationship I had relationship but I always give up midway when it's somewhat getting serious I just give up and stop talking to the girl, I never had s#x. I have anxiety but it wasn't that bad but it's getting bad severe I have trouble sleeping because of anxiety, I was very depressed during my late teen yr and early 20s but now its somewhat better but the anxiety is bad. So yeah I agree mental health and physical health is the most important thing
What you say about mental health is very true. The irony of it all is that although I was always an introvert and a little bit of an oddball, I was for the most part content with myself. A little lonely at times, but happy enough, and moreso than many people I knew. I hadn't had much success with the opposite sex - even though I found I could often connect with women better than men on an emotional level - largely due to a lack of self-confidence. I'd be too nervous around people I _liked_ like that, which to be fair was quite rare, I look for more than looks. Eventually I decided to reconcile myself with the fact that I might not ever find a partner and made my peace with that. I concentrated on myself and simply enjoying life. As is so often the case, it was at that moment women, and one in particular, started showing signs of genuine interest. And she wasn't just anyone; I had never known such an intense and emotionally intimate experience before. People that know me well call me intense, well, she could match me at every step. I didn't have to censor myself, hold myself back, nor dumb myself down. It was liberating. I'd never felt so intuitively understood since childhood. Of course, being too all-or-nothing has its downsides, and things didn't work out. I've never really felt the same after that. It's not like I spend my days pining after what might have been - ultimately we just weren't compatible, and I have a lot of my own stuff to work on. I'm a lot better than I was. But as a result of that, I don't know if I feel capable of being that vulnerable with another person again. I certainly don't have the "chad" persona, and any woman worth my interest would see through a surface level act. On the other hand, I'm not sure if I really agree with people that say it's better to have loved and lost. Nothing really affected me in life until that, not really, not in the long term. Some people seemingly jump from partner to partner and casually rack up large body counts and I have no idea how they do it. They can't have felt strongly about any one person they were with, I can't understand it. So... what I will say is that there are probably women out there who would unironically find you attractive if you were your real, honest self with them. But if you don't feel like you're in a position to be able to deal with the reality of that, then don't rush yourself. Trust your inner voice, and I'm not talking about the inner critic and self-deprecating part either (I know how that can get at times!) Wishing you the best, man.
"When you're ugly and someone loves you, you know they love you for who you are. Beautiful people never know who to trust."
-Drax the Destroyer
I'm glad you found someone my friend
True
@@loveinautumn3978 draxx
I felt this.
@@aryanamrute6500 I swear I thought he was quoting Drax too, towards mantis🤣. But seriously tho, I wholeheartedly believe this
Drax!!
This guy is so chill and wholesome, who wouldn’t want to be friends with him
U litteraly have Osama bin Laden as your profile pic
Maxim Ciobanu 🤣🤣
Maxim Ciobanu who’s osama bin laden
Maxim Ciobanu sounds like a nice guy
People who care about looks I think.
This guys English has improved and nobody talkin about it
No.
It always has been good.
Always has been
ABCD they said it improved
ABCD u right
groomhot gok u right
I am seeing this happen. I used to be really pretty (I didn't realize it at the time). People were always nice and courteous to me. I thought that was just how the world was. Now in my late 40's, I have chronic illnesses which have taken a toll on me and medications caused weight gain and inability to exercise. Strangers (ex. Store clerks, Drs, etc) are routinely almost aggressively rude to me when I'm being super nice and polite to them. I couldn't figure out why. Last night my husband said, "maybe they treat you that way because of your looks?". That's how I found your channel. I do know that my confidence and self esteem are zero and that doesn't help things. Keep your head up. Looks fade, but being a genuinely good person is rare these days and lasts forever.
@@crystalxwolf9487 I don’t think so, I wouldn’t interpret it that way. He was probably referring to how people are rude to heavier people. Doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to her
I dont know what illnesses you have but the only thing that would cure anything is walking (as an exercise)
@@anahitaazadeh3449 he was just being honest, people aren't always nice
your husband just called you ugly
@@crystalxwolf9487 u just proved the point of the guy in the video, that people seek only body attractiveness. good job and sad life you have
Man you are spreading good energy in the world ... god bless you!
No
true energy
he's a very kind person in general. kinda to humble i think. Great personality is more then a still picture.
You Tube Stfu
God*
He doesn’t deserve to feel this way about himself. He’s seems so nice and wholesome. He needs a hug man ;(
True, but i’am 98% sure that all of you commenting nice things about him, would never have told him that or anything if he was going to your school or something. Trust me, when people get a chance to be nice, they don’t, they stay for themself and their friends. But when they see something online, then they fast wants to become a hero and their friends.
@@akaashaars1832 yes, because it's easier and you don't have to back things up
@@chubbymike3372 And you are always chasing easier?
@@ΟΑυγολεμονος I don't get what you are saying?
@@akaashaars1832 You're right - the vast majority of the time, when people sense social weakness, especially teenagers in high school - you're screwed. If he was just some shy, lonely dude at a school, people would say he was weird but when he uploads a TH-cam video that goes viral thanks to the algorithm, people are more than willing to get their likes.
Gonna say it, he has a really smooth, calming and attractive voice.
He should start a ASMR channel.
His voice really improved from that "ugly" video.
Red Pirate MC He improved in general!Where he is filming makes it look like he cares more about creating a nice environment for himself, his clothes look neat and like he invested some though on putting himself together in the morning, the hair suits him better as it doesn't look like an accident anymore plus the voice as you guys noticed and I am sure the voice could even end up sounding WAY more attractive if he starts to gain more confidence and speak in a more affirming manner.
He caims surgery is the only way of fixing your facial appearance but really keeps dismissing the impact that is in your own power! He now looks a lot more attractive than in that first video that's just factual
🧢
yesss
I was a pretty child, but I didn't handle puberty very well. I was bullied relentlessly in high-school, by everyone. I was regularly told I was ugly, and I'd be tripped up, pushed, punched, have things thrown at me, etc... every single day. I developed such an intense self hatred. Even when I left school and managed to make myself quite attractive, I didn't believe I was and was constantly obsessed that I was ugly and everyone was going to hate me. The anxiety and depression was intense, and I held myself back in everything. I'm now 35, and I realise looking back at old photos in my 20s, that was actually an attractive woman, but how people treated me changed how I perceived myself. I realised that it doesn't actually matter what you look like, it's how people treat you. I was an ugly teenager, but I did not deserve any of the treatment I got. It's disgusting that others will think they can mistreat a person because they don't consider them attractive. Like, why do that? Just be friendly or don't make conversation. No reason to seek them out and torment them.
You’re still young though! I’m sure in a few years you’ll see pictures of you now and realize you were very much still attractive
Your next lesson may be that how people treat you doesn't matter, either (in terms of how you view yourself). Learning to love ourselves -- irrespective of external circumstances -- is an essential part of everyone's journey. ♥
I treat those same people with the energy they give me. It makes me feel so good when I can mirror a gossiper or bully. I’ll just stare them down and talk shit in my friends ear while laughing.
Same! As soon as I hit puberty everything went downhill. I’ve been called ugly numerous times, but it never really hurt me. I’ve always believed everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and if numerous people say that, than it is most likely true. I don’t like to fight the truth and feed into delusion like most people I’ve seen. I like to accept it and I’ve learned to love and live with myself.
Cz most people are ugly, in their heart!
"If our eyes could see the soul, our definition of beauty would change"
Also we would hate alot of people
If that were the case then I’m fucked. Or I have some form of impostor syndrome
Sure it would .. it would be even worse as most people are assholes
I agree .
not really
Me: 2020 is a shitty year
Never give up: Got a girlfriend and he's doing ok
Me: Perhaps i treated you too harshly, 2020
Yeah for sure! Life looks better now!
This guy deserves it
lol thanos
This is the kind of comment I need more of
Yeah. Be grateful for what you have bro.
2020 is definitely not as bad as 1942 or whatever. At least we have comforts, food etc.
The chad of all chads has returned
Chad of incels
MORE LIKE GOD CREATOR OF THE UNIVERSE
This guy FUCKS.
Gigacope.
How is he a Chad? He ugly AF
This guy is a true motivational speaker, man! Absolute respect. Thank you for bringing comfort and a will to push on for so many!
You're kyutt
It’s awful how even his family didn’t support and help him
I wanna like but 666 likes
@LIL SZL I liked it because I’m no devil supporter (:
@@sillyrabbit6318 BRUHHH U RUINED IT
Gotta be 690 then
@LIL SZL U got some cheese that I can eat?
I admire this man. He is very genuine
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Agreed
and who's hachiman exaxtly?
Yeah he's very thoughtful and sweet
Is nobody gonna talk about the mic upgrade 😀
😂 on first vid his mic was broken he said. I remember. He's so funny. Cool
And the English speaking upgrade, this guy is a king 👑
Now he can be a rapper.
Yea I can hear him now:)
That was literally the first thing i noticed and thought about haha
Y'all ain't even talking about his new mic😔
bitch this-ok 💀🤷🏽♀️
Ikr
😂😂😂
Looking for this comment right after i clicked on the vid😂
Jajjaja
"You don't even view yourself, it's other people that view you."
*thats deep bro*
What he missed is other people view you how you view yourself, so how you feel will make people view you differently. If you feel depressed and ugly and weird, people will treat you as such. I literally said the same shit about myself in highschool. People thought I was the weird kid who no one will love... then I dropped acid, realized everyone has their own beauty standards and that no matter what, me (and this guy too) are a 10 on someone's scale. So next year i showed up in a choker, crop top, short shorts and thigh highs with platform boots. Never have i gotten so many genuine compliments from women (and men). Now if a (3/10) 17 year old male wearing women's clothing and *still* getting compliments isnt literal proof that its all about how you see yourself, i dont know what is
@@rodrickheffley8032 so initially the more the confidence you, the more you'll receive respect
@@rodrickheffley8032 Not giving a crap does not solve it. Good that it worked for you but don't assume that it will work for everyone.
@Ebestech 2.0 ok, maybe I'm *really* harsh about my looks, but still
That’s deep bro
I understand some of you are trying to be supportive by saying “I don’t think he’s ugly” or “looks are subjective”, and I recognize your good intentions, but if I were this guy and I read those comments it would frustrate me because you’re missing the point.
He’s not uploading these videos as a cry for help or to receive validation. He’s putting this content out to create a sense of community for people to who might be able to relate to him, and to dismiss his problems so trivially shows you don’t truly understand where he’s coming from, and you’re discounting the years of emotional strife he had to endure.
The unfortunate reality is that he and others like him were, are, and will be treated differently by the large majority because of their appearances. Sure, looks are subjective, and there are a few people who can look past them, but it doesn’t change how society as a whole treats these people nor does it negate the psychological trauma that was already inflicted. He said it himself: he’s with a wonderful person now (and I’m happy for him), but it’s still hard for him to accept compliments from her because he was scarred by his past.
Also, to argue “I don’t think you’re unattractive, you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself” is only reinforcing the idea that value is based on appearances.
Again, I think it’s nice how some of you are trying to be supportive by saying nice things, but it’s not helpful because all you’re saying is his problems are not as big of a deal to you as they are to him.
That said, can others do anything to repair society and prevent cases like this entirely? Personally I don’t think so. There will always be some standard of beauty and people who are treated differently because of it.
But to everyone who is struggling with the same problem, just know that you are not alone and to “never give up”. The odds are against you, but with persistence and hard work eventually you will find yourself in a better place.
Umm I get it, I really do. But after the 50th sentence, I stopped reading
@@braedenturner4254 So savage 😂
And let's be real here, a lot of people say good things on the Internet but don't do shit irl
Couldn't have said it any better! This comment is absolutely amazing.
Yes, totally agree
Bro I wanna give this dude a warm nice hug :( He deserves to much better. He is human like everyone else. Nobody is perfect and appearences aren't important. You deserve love and respect man
this guy has improved his broken microphone into a studio microphone and nobody talking about it
200th like
The blue yeti isn't exactly a studio mic but it's better than what he had for sure
Azu ;-; oh yeah he had that broken one he tucked into his shirt XD i forgot
@@fisherman5996 noice
And his english is good now but nobody talk about this
This dude is trying to single-handedly save 2020.
and it's working..
Lmaooooooooooo y e s
no he's not, he's blackpilling people and that helps nobody
He will cure Coronavirus and take us to mars. God speed
do more metallica reactions bruh lol
There’s a quote that goes kinda like: “It’s a shame that humans equate beauty with goodness”
It’s a subconscious thing. It is a shame, however it isn’t as if people are choosing to consciously do this.
I agree with Markos. It has something to do with unconcious deffensive mechanisms but I can't provide arguments right now. I'm sure I've read about this topic somewhere tho.
sllaveq its called the halo effect. Its well known in psychology
It should go - “It’s a shame that humans equate beauty with goodness across other humans” beauty is inherently righteous, anything unsightly or hideous is of dark origin, that’s why we try to look good, and make ourselves presentable in a worthy fashion via clothes, hair, fragrance. But I’m not arguing that principle applies to the some of us that aren’t handsome, that ridiculing someone for their looks is right, I’m arguing the opposite. I’m in complete agreements with the notion of the quote, Just pointing out a flaw in that quote, it’s missing the part that beauty and goodness work with each other in most of reality’s design, but not in regard to one’s looks. Why are we attracted to a shiny red apple? Because it’s delicious and worthy, unfortunately we have the same mechanisms for rendering each other when really the beauty lingers somewhere else than in looks.
@@xXPretzelsMeowXx well said dude, well said
Det som berör mig mest är att de närmast dig, familj och vänner, har kallat dig "ful" genom åren. Det är verkligen inte ok, jag förstår inte det beteendet. När man lär känna någon på djupet "försvinner" utsidan. Hoppas du träffar ditt crew en dag och att du finner dig själv och ditt sammanhang och lämnar all den här skiten bakom dig.
Bruh. The only thing that is ugly in 2020 IS 2020.
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And Seborrheic Dermatitis.
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Even "positive" is a negative word in 2020 lmaoooo
Funny thing is, I know a guy who looks a lot like him, who became a fashion designer. He wore really outlandish clothes, but exercised a lot and had a lot of neat hobbies and ridiculous confidence and sense of humor. He may not have been the best looking guy, but he invested a lot in himself and cared for himself well and naturally drew people to him.
can you drop his ig or name?
Yeah, sure exercise, fashion and personality can do the trick. Hairstyle too. However, nobody has to do those things If they don't want to.
Exactly. I know a bunch of guys with this kind of face (and honestly I like those kind of faces? Go figure) and taking care of oneself changes everything.
One doesn't have to go there, and people who don't resonate with that absolutely shouldn't, but even people who see beyond your temporary skin bag can be held back if hygiene isn't there. On the other hand, you'll probably along the way find people here and there who really don't mind, cause we're all different like that.
Someone from the try guys look like him,ig ned
@@dianas7429 Nobody is forcing you to do those things? Why so mad?
Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see it.
Eh I don’t know about that one
Pedophilia
Necrophilia
Bestiality
Murder
Rape
Cannibalism
Maybe you meant everyone instead of everything?
I can see it
Tbh he's not ugly
Not everything has beauty bro. Would you date an ugly girl ?
It's a quote from Confucius...just trying to spread some positivity :)
Hey man, I came across your content recently, and I just wanna say you're a real inspiration!
As someone going through problems with anxiety/depression and really struggling with how with how I see myself visually (and sometimes personality wise) seeing you being open about these things and also seeing you make content and doing things that make you happy gives me hope.
I hope you're doing okay these days and if you ever see this comment, I just want you to know you've made a positive impact on my life.
Peace ✌
This man is still playing on veteran mode and crushing it. Meanwhile others are quitting whilst playing on recruit difficulty
Shakur Variawa Birdman x)
@@raidenskywalker7143 lmao yeah.
sometimes he goes overboard though but i think it's just for the meme
Those playing on nightmare mode though...
@@xenomorphlover or Akumu
When I say true I really mean
When I speak I dont talk
Unpopular opinion: I like his long hair. Looks better on him than on most people 🤷🏽♀️
Guys with long hair >>
I agree!
Yes unpopular is right
Ikr? I don't get why so many people are against dudes with long hair, I honestly think it's really cool
I think your likes would disagree with the ‘unpopular opinion’ part....you are 100% correct it is not opinion it is *facts*
I love this comment section, it’s just positive energy and wholesomeness
@The One it's from noragami
@The One it’s yato! 😄
IKR I LOVE IT!
Opposite of reddit
@@v0idcaster my phone is black and blue and white themed Bc with iOS 14 u can have photowidgets so they’re all black and blue and my main wall paper is a pic of yato and it looks so cool
Thank you for sharing! Being ugly or good looking is a human construct, mental construct. A cat or doggie doesn't differentiate which person is more good looking and who is not. The human babies do not. They are connected to their innate nature-- love, joy, peace, wisdom. Just like race-- "white", "black", etc. This is a human construct. There's only one human race. Many of us are still working on ending racism. And we still can't forget that we are all one human race, even if some people started discriminating groups of people, linking with capitalism, colonialism, patriarchy. Every person is beautiful. Just like every tree, every flower, every blade of grass is beautiful. The kitty, doggie, baby, like many people, feel the energy of the person, the beautiful spirit of the person. Many 'good looking' person's ego gets inflated due to the attention. Many actors, actresses, models are not living the great life as some people think here.
Our work is to focus on not buying into this crap. "If you don't shape your world, the world will shape you." This is about focusing on one's health-- emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, developing independent thinking, critical thinking. Each of us is responsible for changing the culture-- to a world based in love, peace, joy, wisdom, free of bias and ignorance. I find the sharing and work of Thich Nhat Hanh and Plum Village, Deepak Chopra transformative. Sending love and blessing to everyone! 🥰
I swear if reincarnation is real, his soul will make him beautiful af
It's real my bro, and you true
He’s gonna be Kim kardashian in his next life 😂
He'll probably become a douche 😂
If reincarnation was real we wouldn't have seen beautiful people with shallow personalities
It is
Being ugly doesn't take anything away from your personality bro. The type of people you want around you will recognize that ❤
“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
Roald Dahl?
Elisabeth Amelie ye
Man I love Roald Dahl :)
@@hammywhammy9947 Ikr, I love Roald Dahl too
too bad thats bullshit lol
As an ugly man myself, I would like to say that there are evolutionary reasons why we find certain people attractive and others not. Still single but also the one thing I want to stress is that relationships do not mean happiness, and being alone isn't the same as being lonely.
True. I’ve been in a few relationships and honestly it’s better to be in ur own world. Yes, some ppl can be better when they get in a relationship but for some ppl it’s better to be alone.
Damn
@@Name-tn1zg I don't know if it's better to be alone than in a relationship, but I think that if you are an unhappy, incomplete person when you are by yourself, then being with someone else will at most be like sticking a bandaid on a deep wound. It might stop the bleeding but there's damage that needs to be fixed deep beneath the surface
I suggest doing a bit more research on what ppl have considered beautiful in different societies throughout history-you'll see although there is some evolutionary involvement, sooooooo much of beauty standards are man-made. And it has reached a dangerous and unhealthy extent now as beauty standards have become so narrow but spread all around the world. I look at today's beauty standards less as having to do with evolution and more like a man-made pandemic of insecurity. Studies of newer generations show more body dysmorphia, including of the face, bc constantly looking at social media has led us to look at a normal or average, un-photoshopped faces, even on a fairly attractive person, and see it as monstrous or mutated.
@@anonymouse7773
The beauty standards of women are indeed sway by men, so are the beauty standards of men are sway by women. Humans do like face symmetry and all that.
working out not only lowers face fat but also boosts your confidence trust me i felt the same way. my face got slimmer and i didnt care much for girls or being accepted. i just felt great after an intense workout. work on what you can and embrace what you cant.
Great advice
Confidence means nothing if you look like Shrek
@@D_402S aleast it's better than stay at home and spreading negative thoughts. Go outside and make some friends
I think hooking up is about looks. Relationships are about how you make an other person feel.
Yup, but what to do without a hook?
@@BHBalast $$$
Everybody wants a hook up first
YES
Exactly!
Everyone telling him to cut the hair, like he obviously likes it. It takes years to grow your hair that length. There are things he could improve like his dressing, but he seems a average attractiveness. His realistic attitude is actually attractive in my opinion to be honest, he just seems like a guy who was bullied and tormented for his looks and it seems to have messed up his self image which fucking sucks.
@@MrSnake9419 Look at that hair mixed with his face. It would not look better short. He's best to keep it long.
You're right, it's a struggle to have your hair long. It probably took him about a year or more to get to that length, I'm also growing my hair out, I'm at month 4 and people are already telling me to cut it. He looks so much better with long hair, like he has this chill dude vibes, but also somehow baddass metalhead vibes as well. I think he's thought about it and would never cut his hair.
@@elgatocapibara It's really respectable. I really feel like he looks better with long than he would would short, both for personality and aesthetic reasons.
@@Vaporvision ikr? It really adds something to his persona!
@@elgatocapibara yeah same, been growing my since October and top for a year and it takes forever, real dedication, but persevere in 20 months when your hair down to your shoulders they will all be jealous of it.
2 things that 2020 blessed us with:
1. Cave update
2. This guy
Lmao this guy😅🤣-Agree🍃😊
What cave? OwO
Maxinne Roseño Minecraft
@@scherebeatle 😹 brilliant
@@sychomadman your apartement or house
I think you speak very intelligently, with much common sense. I agree with many if not all of your view points. You're real and you're doing you! And that's attractive!
No no no! Don’t think that we only want you to talk about being “ugly” (what you are not!) Do what you want to do! Enjoy making videos! Keep it up :)
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Lying doesn't help.
JordDaLord 5 | it’s sad you think it’s a lie.. if you truly think that saying those unkind words is okay then you should really try to make new friends, take care of yourself, be kind to others no matter what. Please just try.
But would you date him when you have to choose between him and a 6' muscular guy with a good sense of humor?The truth is some people are physically ugly and some people are attractive.
Hey man, just wanted to let you know that you’re a legend. No one has the balls to talk about this kind of stuff, let alone post it online. Props to you, I don’t know you personally but after watching this, I’m really happy for you. Glad you met someone that treats you well. You definitely deserve it!! Keep the positive energy flowing my guy.💪🏼💙
What a great message.
We should all be kind to one another without judgment.
Big fax
In addition to his video, this comment is also super awesome and I couldn't agree more Nick. You damn right he is a legend and he has bigger balls to talk about this stuff and many people could learn from him.
Yea there are people talking about this, I have no idea why this dude in particular has blown up twice but the way he talks about things and the terms he uses, he is 100% into lookism. Check out FaceAndLMS, he makes great content on this subject and has for many years
I was in a catastrophic accident when I was a sophomore in high school and broke my neck in two places and became a quadriplegic instantly. In literally one second I became someone who got “special attention and treatment” in school and kids began to bully and harass me when I finally came back full time. These kids would have never messed with me before because I was 6’ and 190lbs since I was 12 and I lifted weights and did judo but now all bets were off. This wore down my self esteem and I’ve spent most of my adult life trying to have a normal relationship. You are an inspiration buddy and if you ever need to chat I’m here for you
It's all backwards ! You have had a terrible life experience and may doubt about love because it's not just about holding hands. Have you watched the movie Intouchables (it's subtitled) ? It's inspired by a true story and yes the quadriplegic is rich but the friendship story is real. So are his kids, his wife (not in the movie). A feel-good story about a tetra. Not a wallow in self-pity about a perfecly ordinary guy.
You Dear Sir are very wise and
good person, we must count our
blessings God Almighty gives us,
and be thankful with all our hearts
I'm really sad about your story, I hope you are fine now
Chris you’re an amazing and strong soul.
you gotta think of it this way since you have been through that it proves you can do anything, nothing will be harder than what you have already been through.
I have felt like I'm a outcast most of my life. feeling like I am unworthy of happiness has been a daily battle. all we can do is keep battling until hopefully some day our perseverance is rewarded with a happily ever after. I'm just a beast waiting for my bella. keep your head up.
Being ugly and resisting simping is incredibly admirable
its sad that people find that admirable
never simp!
GuapStunnaVry why though? I think anything going against any negative stereotype is admirable. And this is one of them.
aka Incels
Qwerty093 who stereotypes ugly men with simps? did simp lose its meaning already
TH-cam recommend me the old version yesterday and then recommend me this right now .___.
@@sedgrill953 same
Same
Yep
Same
Wtf is going on??? Same 😂 strange
“Being ugly: update”
*recommended for you*
🤣
😩
🤦♂️🤪
Just copying the old comment that got 78k likes. Not funny, didnt laugh.
@@yekj Facts
im so sorry dude. you're so smart and i can tell that you're just an amazing person.
Nah being born good looking doesn’t automatically mean you have confidence, trust me, confidence comes after you learn self-love
Fuckin amen ‼️
true, the most confident people ik irl are actually kinda ugly or not very attractive.
Confidence comes from validation from other people you don’t just press a button and become confident so being good looking gives you validation = confident stop being delusional
Ozymandias if you seek validation from others then you have something majorly wrong within yourself, self love above all else will lead you in a happier path in life. But if you feel the need to seek validation from others then you do you
This!!!
I am a 6-foot-4 male who is "conventionally attractive". But i don't feel super confident. I am single and am actually jealous of this TH-camr because he has a partner! Lol
The grass isn't greener on the other side. There is always someone out there jealous of you.
Incel Culture is really toxic and glorifies Chads, like we have it made. And, yes, people are "nicer" to you when you are hotter...but it's all fake. It's kinda gross how you can tell people are only being friendly with you because they like how you look. It's a superficial friendship feeling and not genuine. Or not a nice feeling that most people wouldn't hang out with you for your personality haha
Oh my God. Just a couple of minutes ago I was wondering what happened to you and what's up with your life now and out of nowhere I got the notification of your update video! Good to see you again.
GOODT TO SEE YOU MAN
Hah, it's the demiurge!
EXACTYLL
Gods work, Jesus Christ the true alpha male
Juan Tálamo Don Ramon
The long hair really suites him ngl
Totally does!!!
Especially if he ties it up into a bun
I think he would look good with a mustache
He needs to hit the gym.
@@jones9309 fuck off
from your 2018 video, your looking better now. I can see it. Your looks have improved
Sense of humor, genuine personality, and self confidence are the MOST IMPORTANT things!
If a girl only cares about your looks, she's not worth your time.
If a girl wants a real, genuine relationship, she will only care about your heart & the way you treat her!
Also.. I know you're insecure about your "big" lips, but that's not a bad thing! I'm pretty sure most of the world loves big lips in 2020 lol
Jo Ch. my guy doesn’t even have big lips
I have big lips myself especially on camera. It sucks. But hey girls love it 😂😂
@@rio7323 he is insecure because his lower lip is bigger than his upper lip
@@honeymoonontop I thought that's how big lips usually look? That's how mine look
His lips look pretty normal. Better than no lips at all 👍🏻
you’re not ugly, society is my man.
We are the society
They judge us even though we did nothing wrong.......
He actually isn't ugly! At least to me, and I'm a female. Obviously, he isn't conventionally attractive but he looks just fine!
We live in a society!
Ur not getting the point if u say he's not ugly
When everybody playing a game that called "Life" in easy mode, but you're playing in hardcore mode..
You should be proud man.
Keep it up, you're beautiful the way you are.
@Sgrp 270 I think they're saying he has had super bad experiences and his life so far has been pretty tough. It seems like he's getting a lot better not though.
Supporting comments are fine but not really helpful in solving this guy's problem. The only thing that would solve this guy's problem is that we donate money for him to have various cosmetic surgeries. Nice words are fine but they don't go anywhere.
Sgrp 270 His physical appearance is a tremendous social disadvantage to him. It is a fact. Don't relativize. Being ugly is not a walk in the park under the rainbow.
Sgrp 270 I don't understand people who oppose surgeries. If it is a positive thing that can help you live a fuller life, why not? and another thing, being more handsome does not imply that you are going to have more superficial relationships, you have to know how to choose people, being more handsome implies that you are going to have a better quality of life, you are going to feel better about yourself and you are going to have more opportunities and options, however you want to force people to live subject to their difficult circumstances if or if. People do not have to be conditioned by their difficult circumstances because those were the ones they had to live, what kind of conformist and defeatist philosophy is that? Not according to you if you played bad cards you have to screw yourself and keep those cards. That way of thinking irritates me. It is not wanting people to progress or improve their lives.
Sgrp 270 The passage of time also changes your face not only the latex. Does that mean that when we grow old we stop being ourselves because our traits change? Identity is defined by the acts and by the way of being of each one.
Millions and millions of views brother. What you share is relatable to millions of people. Thank you
No one realises how hard it is to live when you’re ugly people treat you so differently it’s hard to get through the day some times
Like WOW U said it all! 😔
A lot of guys in Arkansas look like him and they all have kids and baby mamas. Just come to america bro.
Just walk bro
@@mainao3443 just walk bro
@@mainao3443 just walk bro
Shut up roastie
Rick Sanchez just walk bro
U should do a podcast, your voice is really soothing.
Whats wrong with videos?
@@tiarafarina or he is not his type
@@aggressivebeaver dude what
@@aggressivebeaver Are you slow?
@@aggressivebeaver are you OK? podcasts are video blogs this is a video blog a podcast is just making a professional use of the video blogs.
This man acts so much nicer than 90% of the world.
I also have a breathing problem, and don’t even know if it’s heavy breathing. I just have to keep breathing so heavily to get over this wall, hard to explain.
But you are honestly one of the nicest people I’ve ever seen on the internet, no joke. There’s people who get plastic surgery for being bullied about facial features at school, in public, or anywhere else. I’m very glad you speak up about it. Even if I, or others, may look ugly, we all are more understanding of it. Many people don’t, and shouldn’t cry about being ugly. Not even if anyone calls you ugly, because that makes them uglier for who they’re being. There’s kids at my school who all act pretty gangster-like, and that’s a very big reason of why I stay away from kids at school. Of why I’m the “quiet kid”. So I don’t become ugly on the inside like them. I have trichotillomania, and I’ve had it since I was 5 or 6, and people call me out over it. “Where’s your eyelashes?” “What happened to your eyebrows?” “What’s that red bump on your eyelid?” I hate when people are so curious over that. They blurt out the worst things that get you thinking about life over and over again. I stay up late at night, even if I have the choice to sleep. Mostly because I love to paint or do art, and I do nothing with my life. That causes me to have eye bags, so I look like some depressed kid. I don’t have insomnia, sleeping disorders, sleep paralysis’s, nothing. I just DON’T sleep. And all of that makes me look ugly, but I don’t cry about it.
So all of that is something going on right now, but I’m glad you can say your word on it. Thank you!
Edit: and you are NOT ugly at all. in fact, you look amazing!
"Im never giving up" THANK YOU. YOU MAKE ME NOT WANT TO GIVE UP
Why you are saying that your not even ugly
hematology 22 lmao, how do you know? You can’t barely see her profile picture
@@mml1426 actually I could see it clearly from the profile pic and I think it's my personal perspective.
There's more to life than judging a person for looks. Again this guy does give me the confidence and helped me out too. Mental health isn't selective. If affects everyone. And that being said this man is a great inspiration to help us ppl out who are completely low in life.
@@mrfaix4878 ok I understand and it's true but if you focus on her comment you will understand my perspective.
I feel like a biography written by this guy would easily become a best seller.
@Yeet Job eat shit
That yeet dude they're talking about was being an asshole and his account got taken down
@Yeet Jobeat shit
@Yeet Job eat shit
@Yeet Job eat shit
he said bad posture and i immediately sat up straight
2:17 I laughed so hard my ribs hurt
Same lol
@@scottiemccarthy896 hahahahaha uhhh no
me too !!!! every time I hear the word "posture" I sit up straight.. I always forget about it
Now it's 3 weeks later.. SIT RIGHT POSTURE POSTURE!!
I love these videos please do more, its just so nice to see somebody actually able to talk about this stuff thank you so much for being alive
Wait... His family told him he is ugly??? Now I understand why this issue harmed him so much. Parents should never tell their sons or daughters that they are ugly (even if they may think so). That only damages the child's self-steem. They do no favor to him. A mother that loves her child would never call him ugly.
@@dragond1537 I'm sorry for you, then. I hope that life is treating you well enough to get going
My mom has called me "ugly" and she told me "that is why people are staring at you". Don't get me wrong, I love my mother, may be she was angry when she told that.
@@deadlifts_steaks. Oh...
I think that realizing that you are ugly should happen but maybe when you are older and can understand it better
@@TheSirgo23 But uglyness is subjective... It's just that people are called ugly when they do not fit in the canonical standards of aesthetics
The way you were treated by people was so cruel but 'm glad you were able to come out on top and meet a genuine person. Keep up the positive energy.
you haven't done anything wrong but idk positive vibes from you attractives feel wrong.
I'm mainly joking i intentionally called you "attractives" to play into the joke, all love.
@@avarice4556 lol thanks 😊 and I'm weak 🤣 nah you're good that was funny
@lol dunked on lmfao you're wilder than me...
I honestly dont find him to be ugly, im not sugarcoating or saying it to be nice, i genuinely dont think he is ugly or undateable
He is, today's women are very picky thanks to social media and dating apps, they pretty much only date the top 20% of men. Besides, dudes don't know how to rate other dudes.
multirampage1 It’s like gay people don’t exists
@@Champ0222 The majority of dudes aren't gay.
multirampage1 There’s enough bi and gay people to not assume a man’s sexuality or erase the existence of non straight men (I don’t mean to be dramatic about it)
@@Champ0222 "There’s enough bi and gay people to not assume a man’s sexuality"
No, there aren't. Non straight people are around 3% of the population.
Source: www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhis/sexual_orientation/ASI_2018_STWebsite_Tables-508.pdf
His english improved a lot, his confidence is very big pp energy, and his setup is professional (love the new mic). Keep it up, bro!
We love to see it!
Floor gang!!
You're so down-to-earth, and you communicate your message so well. No cuts, no preparation: your opinion is both very interesting and truthful. You're inspiring.
Let's be honest though - you'd never have sex with him.
Roberto Ceferino I’d never have sex with most people. Your point?
@@robertoceferino1456 you don't need to want to have sex with someone to be able to appreciate their communication skills... did i miss something?
@@reb0tco678 Nah, they're missing something. Clearly, some of us have more insight than others... Glad we share the same perspective, I couldn't have said it better.
Honestly , I'd smoke and drink with this dude. He chill asf 💯
count me in :D
Yea
Only smoke don’t do alcohol
I was told I was beautiful for as long as I can remember, but I was also treated like I am stupid, and garbage and purposeless more times than I can count.
I spent years being used for gratification, finally I had to come to a place where I would rather be happy with myself than unhappy with others that don't value me.
These are the thoughts I have when I watch your videos because I think your so genuine and real that I don't see any ugly. An ugly person is how they treat other people and what they will allow other people to be treated .
I know you probably get so many comments you won't read this but I hope you do.
you look exactly- EXACTLY, like an old friend of mine (except he has short hair.) He is confident, exhuberant, popular, creative, successful, and no one would think "that guy's ugly." He just looks like "Chris." He doesn't even care about his looks, except he likes to dress in cool suits and punk rock tees. I know how it feels to think you're ugly. But believe me, no one else is as fixated on how you look as yourself. (Most everyone else is fixated on how ugly/awkward/weird they think THEY look.) Wave it off and live life. Life is too short to be caught up in something you have no control over, and doesn't matter nearly as much as you think it does. Love
I have a friend who looks a lot like him also
BINGO! 😊
"No one is born ugly, we're just born in a judgmental society." -Kim Namjoon
Stolen comment lol
@@BlhostCrashed I mean it isn't really stolen. You'll see it everywhere in different videos. I mean its a quote so its not original. So technically its not stolen.
Man, there are ugly people all across the world. The problem is we consider ugly with BAD and pretty with GOOD. I've seen awesome ugly people, as well as beautiful ones who were shit.
@KolTony I do agree about symmetry. Like ppl do find symmetrical faces more attractive but that ends there. In terms of like a lot of things skin colour, body types, hair type, styles like everything changes so often. Like 100 years ago if women had abs it would've been hella weird. And a 6 foot model would've been freakish. Like being plump was the 'in' thing. Even women considered beautiful then probably won't be 'beautiful' now. And I bet a hundred years from now ppl will look back and go hell no. So quite frankly its 90% society and the trends. Not necessarily good genes. You could be a considered average today but be a knockout in a millenia. 💁
As true as about the 3,628,919 times I’ve heard it
bro, he's literally not even that ugly, I love him and I wish only good things for this king
The problem is that if you were a girl you would not be saying the same things.
Nathan Jimenez sometimes a girl likes you and you don’t really like her Bc ur just not feeling it even though she might a have a good personality
Bro Gad why would you think that
Nathan Jimenez your a guy, stop
He looks like Louis Litt from Suits.
Bro you deserve my follow, i can’t explain how much you help me with this type of video
It makes me sad that looks are so important and someone like him feels like he is lesser of a human bc of it. You really do be having so much power If you’re attractive especially to the standards now.
If you think about it, good looks are attractive down to a biological level. It’s so ingrained in our brains, so it doesn’t matter what you “think” is right. Just a social construct
playboi anto yeah but now it’s not just about being attractive it’s about being perfect... everyone is expected to have abs and workout and big lips all this crap. Surgery is so normalised so most people just change themselves to fit the construct and the people who don’t are deemed as ugly
It is because looks often reflect your dna chain.
BlondieBrunette14 I agree
Indeed.
It's how society is, and frankly always will be. Everyone is judged by their looks. Good looking people make more money on average. Attractiveness is not in the eye of the beholder, it’s innate to a newborn infant meaning newborn babies prefer to look at attractive faces. Better looking people have more friends and socialize easier.
It's the luck of the draw.
I’m sick of the society.
You can’t really blame society. It just the way humans are built and wired biologically. Maybe even blame god for making humans so flawed.
Boys, we live in a society 😢🤷♂️🤷🏼🤷🏾♀️
Ye
we live in a society
@Xin G there's a story in the Bible that had God eliminate all humans for being so corrupted.
I was bullied and humiliated by family and people at school. I've never felt good enough or worthy enough to be valued or wanted. However, it does change. I stopped comparing myself to others, I stopped wanting to be accepted, I stopped expecting others to make an effort. I stopped hating the way I looked and started to love myself. We all have physical characteristics that we don't like, the key is, we also have physical attributes that we do like, focus on those qualities. I honestly do not think you are ugly, surround yourself with people that will support you and build you up, because you do deserve love, respect and genuine people that value you as you are.
God loves you😊.
I felt totally identified ❤👏
I just hope things are better for you now.
I give you support👊
it was the opposite with me, i never really cared about my face or my body, but then last months i've been noticing how bad i look like. thankfully i think i can change my situation with time and effort if i really want to (changing my hair, going to the gym etc)
all ima say is this dude seems very intelligent socially and has such a great sense of self awareness. he knows his worth, his goods and bads. he is considerate and can treat his girl well it seems, but has self respect for when it gets toxic.
i love the way he identifies his mistakes and the potential cause of it all (eg. him taking in his ex was definitely regrettable and he admits to being in a lonely, vulnerable state). it takes a level of confidence and honesty to be able to realise all of these points touched on in these videos.
the determination to get sum pus is respectable, and its quite satisfying that he found someone and seems to be in a healthy relationship rn.
******all in all, chill lad, good human brain, would definitely encourage alcohol abuse with and hang out
Your appearence has changed so much... It‘s so impressive how someones whole expression changes if he‘s happy. If I would meet you right now and hadn‘t seen your old video I would never expect you to feel insecure about your looks. I am so proud of you!
Bruh hes got the PERSONALITY and he kinna cute ngl cuzz, hes got those lucious locs, wholesome af, the dream homie and man, and HE NEVER GIVES UP mans has percistance and love in his heart
When I saw the first video of you, my heart was melting & I was in tears because nobody should be treated like shit for something you are born with. I know so many attractive people whose attitude became ugly through their personality and even though you experienced that you HAVE to be beautiful to reach something in life or be loved by superficial girls/boys it isn't that way always. I'm incredibly sorry for you not getting any compliments or being abused in the past over and over again, but as you see, here are m a n y people who try to build you up and that's the chance for you to gain confidence and self respect. It's all about loving yourself & being happy, which is probably the longest journey you can take in life. Lots of love and hugs from Germany!
I am so glad to see this update. You come across better and your English has improved. And you have found somebody that you can relate to. So there are some positive things. Cool! The most important thing is being at peace. We make it hard on ourselves. Sometimes we can be so stupid like a cow.
I actually like the hair. Long hair only looks bad on a guy if he doesn’t take care of it. But thats my opinion
Keep that opinion for yourself. No one asked for it.
@@lilna7444 This entire comment section is people's opinions.
@some random guy well, bad guess.
Sonia Koehler “A fine head of hair adds beauty to a good face, and terror to an ugly one.”
@@lilna7444 well, bad answer
Saying “I don’t think you’re unattractive, don't be so hard on yourself” is only reinforcing the idea that value is based on appearances.
The above comment was already posted but I found it so poignant I had to repost the hardest hitting part.
lol
you literally stole a comment lmfaoo
@@tzukikrishima4308 Hey I did essentially. My only attempt to justify myself would be the fact that I wanted to say the same thing but I felt this person had articulated the point in the most apt way. Nonetheless, it's good to call things out.
@@MercyMburuNyakio I see
People are dumb
“Acceptance is the greatest form of grace on this planet.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Love it
lol.
What you tryna day ma'am
Jared San999 I don’t think he’s ugly at all, and even if he was, he wouldn’t care about it very much if he lived in most parts of the US. But if we can’t change our reality (or our beliefs about reality), we can sit in the temporary discomfort of acceptance, and see for ourselves what Eckhart Tolle meant by “grace”.
@@snugglebug5274 Yes, but his entire life he's been judged even by his family all by his looks not his intelligence or his personality . Really he's accepted himself in other words he's given up caring.
You’ve come a long way mate, look forward to your next videos. The internet has your back
He’s spitting straight facts that you won’t find anywhere so this man is the only person that is actually helping me, I’m glad you found happiness and that you managed to accept yourself and I aspire to be like you one day
man u can work on yourself and be beautiful) just find your best look and work on it till you make it to perfection and then you'll look good enough
Romy Assaraf stay strong! I know typing 'Stay strong' while sitting behind anonymous cover of the internet is very easy. But I hope you start to feel better 🌟.
You know this world needs some good people.
5:22 I completely disagree. People come and go, you will stay with you till forever. What you think of yourself is what matters the most.
Why
@@JT________________ why what exactly?
Facts
His experience tells you otherwise
@@karebuu1383 I don't see how any experience tells you otherwise
You know, this made me realize something. Whenever I look at people, I really don't think about their looks the first thing like I just don't think "wow that person is ugly" but I do that when I look at myself in the mirror which is ..toxic... I actually realized that not everyone gives a shit about looks, I myself don't, so why am I that harsh on myself? Thanks man :)
Thissss
Me too I can say hand on heart I don't see a person's looks I wait to see what kind of soul they have ! Perhaps I am that way because of been bullied in school it helped me to see passed looks !
Honestly I do see looks first, but the moment someone says one nice thing to me, I don't care how they look, I like 'em.
dude you have nothing wrong ...AND SMILE MORE BRO! bless
He looks much better, healthier and more confident. I am so happy for him
he’s actually not ugly at all. i’m not just saying this so to make him feel better, you’re not ugly dude. keep your head up:/
What you think of yourself most of the time is usually far worse than what you think others think of you. It aint you against the world its you against yourself. Keep your head up brotatoe
Yeah that's what I think as well, didn't comment it because they could think it's to make them feel better only y'know, and that's sometimes worse. But seriously, they're average to me, that wouldn't drive me away from being their friend, and even accept a date if they're nice and funny. But I guess people are just mean and stupid, nothing new :c
Vitaliy I’ve seen guys with wayyyy worse looks being super confident and cocky. I find him super wholesome and nice, so I wish him the best. Cocky annoying people are the worst.
Bro imma keep it real he seems like a genuine person but he is not attractive.
Saying that makes him feel worse shut the fuck up u stupid bitch
Imagine me, scrolling through youtube and seeing this video of a guy who looks very similar to me titled "Being ugly"
bruh moment
You need a haircut
he's not ugly lmao
RobbenUlaynov facts
you're probably not ugly, this man just needs a haircut tho and some confidence CUZ HE AIN'T UGLY
What do you mean "being ugly" bro you are really beautiful. In my opinion beautiful is a persons personality, not looks so keep it going and never give up!!
you need a TED talk i could listen to you talk for hours.
I clicked on his channel just so I could watch more videos
Istg i usually don't watch videos without leaving it in between or skipping some parts unless it's really interesting. Wish he made more videos like these
ikr his voice is just so relaxing
He should make a podcast tbh
I'd watch that talk.
I think it's so lovely how he calls his partner "gem". This guy has a great personality. He now truly understood the meaning of beauty. 💓
The worst-looking guy I ever saw was also the most charming. This is an inreresting story for me. It doesn't mean that I think looks don't affect anything, it unfortunately does affect a lot. But meeting him and hanging out with him made me check my perspective on things. My description of him below will get a bit sexual so please read it at your own discretion.
You know how most people who think they're ugly are actually just average or occasionally just a bit below the average? This guy was undoubtedly just ugly. On top of that, he had this skin condition that made him look even worse. When you first meet him you obviously see these things. But it didn't take much time until you would notice his extraordinary personality. He was incredibly funny, charming, charismatic, he was full of self-esteem (he said he knew he was ugly, he didn't believe otherwise. he just didn't think that was a defining characteristic of him) and he had all this while still being very respectful towards everyone around and never making anyone uncomfortable. After warming up to him (which doesn't take long), you start not seeing him as ugly. You start seeing the personality that shines through his facial expressions. So instead of looking at how his face looks when it stays still, you start admiring how his face moves. After getting to know him a bit more, I started finding him very attractive. I also found out that he was one of the most socially and sexually active people I had ever met. He always had these fun stories about having adventures with all different kinds of people and these sexual stories that always involved different people in different ways.
I'm no longer in contact with him. But I thought a lot about him. He made me understand that social and sexual relationships are more complex than I realized. Because he didn't find just kind people who would see past his appearance when he made friends or had sex with various people. He was just able to see past his own insecurities which made it easier for him to let his positive characteristics shine through. Of course I'm aware that having such a radiant personality is also very rare. My point here isn't "if you're unattractive by society's standards just be a social butterfly". I'm just sharing this because gave me a new perspective on things.
i hope he sees this🥺
FBI LOL
Can’t wait to send this comment to that asshat that keeps insisting that it’s “society’s” fault that someone is ugly.
FBI lol yes & its nothin he isn’t already aware of & if anything it would show how much she noticed ab him
Your name doesn’t start with a J does it lol
you should make podcast brother. your sound is easy listening , your perspective about something is straight to the fact, no bullshit like the others. i'm curious what's thought about another topic because yeah...
I'm 26 and average looking guy and I would probably have a girlfriend by now but I'm battling severe anxiety and depression for 5 years now and I can't see the way out, it's not everything about the looks mental health is the most important thing, stay strong bro
I am 25 and I am average looking atleast where I am from, but I never really had a serious relationship I had relationship but I always give up midway when it's somewhat getting serious I just give up and stop talking to the girl, I never had s#x. I have anxiety but it wasn't that bad but it's getting bad severe I have trouble sleeping because of anxiety, I was very depressed during my late teen yr and early 20s but now its somewhat better but the anxiety is bad. So yeah I agree mental health and physical health is the most important thing
What you say about mental health is very true. The irony of it all is that although I was always an introvert and a little bit of an oddball, I was for the most part content with myself. A little lonely at times, but happy enough, and moreso than many people I knew. I hadn't had much success with the opposite sex - even though I found I could often connect with women better than men on an emotional level - largely due to a lack of self-confidence. I'd be too nervous around people I _liked_ like that, which to be fair was quite rare, I look for more than looks.
Eventually I decided to reconcile myself with the fact that I might not ever find a partner and made my peace with that. I concentrated on myself and simply enjoying life. As is so often the case, it was at that moment women, and one in particular, started showing signs of genuine interest. And she wasn't just anyone; I had never known such an intense and emotionally intimate experience before. People that know me well call me intense, well, she could match me at every step. I didn't have to censor myself, hold myself back, nor dumb myself down. It was liberating. I'd never felt so intuitively understood since childhood.
Of course, being too all-or-nothing has its downsides, and things didn't work out. I've never really felt the same after that. It's not like I spend my days pining after what might have been - ultimately we just weren't compatible, and I have a lot of my own stuff to work on. I'm a lot better than I was. But as a result of that, I don't know if I feel capable of being that vulnerable with another person again. I certainly don't have the "chad" persona, and any woman worth my interest would see through a surface level act. On the other hand, I'm not sure if I really agree with people that say it's better to have loved and lost. Nothing really affected me in life until that, not really, not in the long term. Some people seemingly jump from partner to partner and casually rack up large body counts and I have no idea how they do it. They can't have felt strongly about any one person they were with, I can't understand it.
So... what I will say is that there are probably women out there who would unironically find you attractive if you were your real, honest self with them. But if you don't feel like you're in a position to be able to deal with the reality of that, then don't rush yourself. Trust your inner voice, and I'm not talking about the inner critic and self-deprecating part either (I know how that can get at times!) Wishing you the best, man.
17 y-o :( 3 years struggling with depression … i wish you all the best hope you’re doing good !
Do you guys know who Jesus is?
@@lwdetailing9083 don't put religion on this.