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Episode 243: How to Decenter Men and Romantic Relationships
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ก.ค. 2024
- Whether you’re happily single, dating, or in a relationship, it’s essential to recognize the importance of prioritizing yourself amidst societal relationship standards.
In today's solo episode, I’m shifting the spotlight away from finding ‘the one’ and delving into the journey of what it truly means to become the main character of your own life.
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I relate sooooo hard to this! I was dating a guy earlier this year that was basically playing games and putting me on a roller coaster 🎢 of emotions. Thankfully, I did the hard thing and ended it with him back in March. Since then, I’ve gotten into hobbies I’ve always wanted to do, like baking and have been commissioned to bake for a couple of events. I also received a promotion and significant raise this summer. It really is crazy how things changed. De-centering relationships with men to focus on me has been the absolute BEST!
I'm sorry that happened with that guy, and love that things have been going so well from you pouring into yourself!
"Make yourself the SUN" 🌞🌻 I'm going to need youtube to allow us to snap our fingers, a like is simply not enough. What a great message 🧡
Yesss thank you!
This episode is in 100% alignment with my current phase! The break ups are the breakthroughs to our elevation and desired life. Thank you for this! Definitely here for the solo summer.
Yes yes yes!
I just ended a 5 year relationship, two children and I am finally ready to fully pour into myself fully. I’ve learned sooo many life lessons and giving myself grace after realizing how much I centered this man and getting back to me feels amazing!!!
@@NajeemahB sounds like you’re entering an amazing new season - rooting for you!
OMG this came right on time because I just made the commitment to decenter men
@@Shaniaunique 🤎🤎🤎
Love this so much! Regardless of relationship status, there are archaic expectations of women. Married, single, divorced, whatever, people act as if relationship status the causal factor for behavior instead of treating you like a dynamic being. I'm married and really resent how some people act as if my life is suddenly starting because I'm married. It's very annoying and I've had to tune out the noise instead of responding to every microagression. Thankfully the right partner reminds you that you are the sun and they will complement the vision you have for yourself. Thank you for sharing!
@@mademoiselle_milla that is so real! Thank you so much for tuning in 💕
I’m so happy to be back on the TH-cam channel, Les! I’ve fallen a bit behind on the podcast for a couple of months but this is exactly what I needed to hear right now so I’m so excited for what this solo summer will bring you personally and professionally! Appreciate you so dearly queen and I’m so happy to see the continued growth of BBG!!!! Now I’m tuning back into the video to take notes 📝
Thank you so much, welcome back!
I loved this perspective so much. I've never really dived into this topic until recently coming across the term - "compulsory heterosexuality" - (thank you Kehlani). And I honestly feel so freed! Because I did not realize how I was clinging to centering men by feeling badly about being single for so long. Like I'm realising now, babe a man is not the be all and end all of your existence and purpose (as society would have you believe!). And I feel so much less heavy, because I'm not worried about "running out of time" now.
A word!
@@BalancedBlackGirl 🙏
Honestly stumbled upon this randomly and it couldn’t have come at a more perfect time ❤ this is something I’m working through currently. Thank you for your light !
@@tiaratyson you’re so welcome - thanks for watching!
I love this so much, your video spoke life into me. Thank you 🙏🏾🩷
Funny that I kept skipping the episode because I thought since I’m not boy crazy it really wouldn’t apply to me. However, while watching I realize that I unconsciously do some of the things mentioned in this video. Very eye opening!! This was a good video 🫶🏾
I loveee the analogy of the sun 🥹❤️
@@PNAMIRACLES 🥰
The amount of value you provide is amazing. I always share these with my girlfriends because these are the type of conversations we have. I am so grateful to be able to share these episodes to expand our thought processes as we exit the "rat race" and REALLY tap into self love and discovery. You are doing a GREAT JOB!!
I appreciate that so much!
This was such gold. Thank you ❤
so glad you enjoyed it!
I’ve rewatched this epi a few times ( and will probably watch a few more 😂) and this is one of the conversations I didn’t know I needed to hear or have w/myself ❤ thank you for sharing love! Can’t wait to see what becomes of this new era of self 💛
@@courtsjournal5608 so so glad you’re loving the episode! 🤎
I NEEDED this💚 thank you
Seeing this on a SUNday ( 😉) Great Start For My Week.
@@MindBodySoul333 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I live with my partner of 3 years and I loved this episode!
You were spot on Les, coming from a very religious household, my mother has ingrained it in me that marriage is the ultimate life moment, that it’s the woman’s job to keep the peace of the home, and that women need to do anything to keep men from cheating…..OOF.
Without me even trying-these lessons are often my instinct so I’m constantly making sure that I’m not bending over backwards at the sake of my sanity for his happiness 🫶🏽
@@CindehLou thank you so much for sharing! Un-learning that messaging can be so challenging, but it sounds like you’re incredibly reflective. Really glad you enjoyed the episode and appreciate you tuning in!
Yep this is really valuable info. Gotta be your own sun, own inspiration, etc. Thank you for this!
@@janaeknott7816 yes exactly! Thanks for watching
😭😭 I need this today!!😂
Can’t wait!!❤️
Enjoy 🤎
I needed this so much. I love this episode and I needed it!
Can't wait for this one!
Tuesday! 🙌🏾
I absolutely loved and enjoyed this
@@softwaretestingwithkeba glad you enjoyed it! 💕
I needed this ! Thank you ❤
Thanks for watching!
Hey thank you for this episode Les❤
@@ivybarnes1198 thanks for watching 🤎
This was right on time for me 😊
@@kaybaileytv so glad! 🤎
I needed to hear this .
@@Cycythekreator 🤎🤎🤎
Love this episode!
@@BA20Pearl thanks for tuning in!
Love your content
Thank you!
LOVE YOUR VIDEOS
Thank you 🥹
Pretty girl ❤
Thank you 🤎
Baby happy nigth for you. Kisses nice. Here in Argentina today Is the end holiday of Farm very lucky
Girl, I’m married so I didn’t even think this episode would apply to me but GIRL, this message is everything 🤎
@@kirsyxi thank you so much for watching 🤎 I truly wanted it to have a message for everyone.