It's so wild to hear your story and remember how happy you looked online. Stark reminder that social media is not real. I'm glad you're speaking out and now healing.
My exact thoughts. It’s wild how much social media can portray things but only they know the reality. Everyone thought Sarah and her were happy but who knew ALL of these things were happening. I’m glad Sarah got out of it
I want to start this by saying congratulations on 5 years of sobriety. Wow I’m so sorry for everything you went through. You are truly a gem, and so beautiful and kind.
You are so strong bc toxic relationships and emotional abuse in relationships is so hard to leave… like I know for myself how hard it is to leave that kind of relationship and u are so strong
After being with a narcissistic partner, it does make you feel crazy. Listening to your story, I can see the pain that its caused you and I'm sorry that you had to experience that. I was married to a narcissist so I can relate. She also had an alcohol problem and often withheld affection as "punishment". Its been 8 years since that relationship and it took me a few years to recover from it. I wish you the very best in life Sarah, and I pray you heal your heart because you deserve a loving, happy relationship with someone who reciprocates your feelings and effort. I follow you on TikTok as well and absolutely love you and Emily's relationship. Wishing you both the very best❤
I’ve been a quiet follower for quite some time now, and I just want to say I’m so sorry for everything you went through. I recently also just got out of a toxic relationship where everyone thought things were so perfect. You are so strong for sharing your story. Also, congratulations on 5 years of sobriety, that is incredible. You are so strong, keep going!❤
Thank you. I became a bad partner and not a good person by the end. I am deeply sorry for the pain and suffering I caused her. However, she NEEDS to get control of her friends. I simply cannot fathom this harassment anymore. From them calling me at midnight, texting me that Im vile, shallow, a horrible person...its too much.
Thank you. I became a bad partner and not a good person by the end. I am deeply sorry for the pain and suffering I caused her. However, she NEEDS to get control of her friends. I simply cannot fathom this harassment anymore. From them calling me at midnight, texting me that Im vile, shallow, a horrible person...its too much.
This mirrors so much of what I’ve experienced in my past marriage. Keep speaking your truth! It’s your right to heal and do so in a healthy way, as you are doing now.
People who haven’t been in a toxic relationship don’t understand how important it is to speak and share your truth. It’s not gossip, it is acknowledgement and healing. Been there. Hugs to you as you heal and find that person who honors and loves you. She is out there.
"I had repeated myself so many times that I had nothing left to say" - this is so relatable. Congratulations on 5 years of sobriety 🎉and I'm proud of you for sharing your story. You seem like a beautiful human who deserves the world ❤
Wow, thank you for sharing your story! I also was in a relationship with a woman who had a serious problem with an alcohol. I wanted us to create a home, but instead I was cheated on, lied etc Thankfully now I’m by my own, so glad you are also and now we can focus on our happiness and growth :) sending love ❤️
Congrats on 5 years sobriety!!!! 🎉 Also, you are extremely strong for going through all this and maintaining your sobriety!!! Much love, healing, and peace to you and Emily! 🤍
I recently just divorced my ex who was also an alcoholic that refused to control and fully acknowledge the severity of the effects it created (on top of other things.) It can be so isolating and infuriating feeling constantly dismissed when you’re first hand having to experience the damage. The cycle is exhausting. I applaud you for speaking your truth and giving yourself the validation and acknowledgment you’ve always deserved. You will ALWAYS deserve to be heard. ❤
You're being far kinder to her than you really should be. What awful awful behaviour. Im so sorry you had to go through that. Your ex clearly had no respect for you, your boundaries, your needs, or feelings. They just sound like a nasty human tbh. I can relate to your experience & i just want to say that i think youre incredibly strong to withstand all that you did. Also, congratulations on 5 years sober! That's such an achievement. You are intelligent, you take accountability, you give you ex far more grace than she deserves, you kept the nature of what hqppened to yourself untik the harrassment by her friends (which is just disgusting bejaviour for a grown adult.) I think you should give yourself credit and grace in all honesty. I hope you are surrounded by people who respect and value you, and i hope that you also value yourself. You've been through a lot, so much of it publically, and that can't have been easy. I hope you're able to feel some sort of peace from sharing this
I’m so sorry you went through this, but I appreciate that you are sharing your story. I was in a toxic manipulative relationship for 11 years but was so lonely, exactly how you described. For so long I thought I was controlling as well and I put my life on hold to wait around hoping he would just spend time with me. I hope you know how much this will help a lot of people, thank you again!❤
Thanks for sharing!! I have a cousin with Down syndrome and he’s one of my best friends. To see how my “uncle” pretended to care about him until he had my aunt’s heart. Only to take her money and ultimately abandon my cousin. Loving people with Down Syndrome and seeing how some humans fail them is truly a unique experience. Hell hath no fury when ppl mistreat him. He is just loving and caring and some people are disgusting. I’m so sorry you and Emily and kitties had to go through that. Proud of you on the other side!! ❤
I understand your desire to share your story and your truth, when lies and harassment has been thrown your way. I love yours and Emily’s relationship and videos. Keep strong, it’s important for your voice to be heard too.
I also think it’s important that you acknowledge your wrong doings as well, saying you’re not perfect but that doesn’t mean you deserve harassment and hate.
The guy I was seeing for 3 months started choking me once and dislocated my jaw. It’s been 5 years and I still have w file with screenshots, recordings etc, just in case he pops up in my life. My parents are aware of it and know where to find it. You are not crazy. You are protecting yourself.
We go through relationships like this to teach us in one way or another. It must feel nice to be free from that anxiety, free from having to feel paranoid in your marriage, & free from not being loved the way you deserve. I’ve delt with the drinking and lies and can remember exactly how that feels! What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger & that love is out there, the person who will cherish and treat you right will come along and every bad thing from the past will have all been worth it ❤
I left a relationship extremely similar to this in March 2020 when things escalated to becoming physical. I was 25 and I am still working thru the trauma of fighting to stay in that relationship for 3 years. I can say I'm not nearly fully healed but I've built myself back up and as hard as it was and as many times as I questioned if I was gonna be strong enough to make it thru and see the other side of healed I can say I am so happy and proud of myself and owe my friends and loved ones everything for listening to me for yrs work thru it and rebuild a life for me and our puppy And I'm so proud of you too sar ik how hard and scary it is his parents had his back and I had no one like that you're gonna come out on the other side of this and you'll be so proud of yourself happy and healthy and setting the best example for Emily for how you allow people treat y'all you've got this dude you're a badass and we all love you both
Im so sorry you had to go through all that. I understand how you were feeling in some ways. I'm so glad you have so many people to share with and people that support you around you! You have a voice and we are listening❤
I’m sorry you went through all that. Hopefully purging it all will give you the closure you are seeking so you can move forward and become a better stronger person. I admire both you and your sister so much. You deserve all the love, happiness, and health available to you.
I am truly sorry this happened to you. We always try to see the good in others, but need to also recognize the red flags. That gut feeling will never fail you❤
I’m so sorry Sarah for what you went through. I just got out of a toxic marriage and was with my significant other for 12 years overall. I should’ve left sooner also. Your words speak a lot to me. You are a strong individual and I’m proud of you!
Well done on the 5 years of sobriety!! What an achievement for yourself! You deserve so much better than what you’ve had to go through. I got so confused when Cindy parents were back in the picture as I remembered you both saying they didn’t accept her and her relationship. Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. I’ve went through something similar and honestly it’s put me off going into another relationship so I’ve been single for 10 or more years. It if happens it happens if not oh well mindset on relationships now. Hope you and Emily find some happiness soon!
I can feel your pain through the screen and unfortunately relate to so much you've said. It sounds like she was a narcissist and couldn't accept any of her problematic behaviour. While I think it's great that you can acknowledge the things you did in the relationship which weren't great. However, I think a lot of people who have never been in a relationship like this do not know what it's like at all. How they will push, push, push your buttons until you snap. Until the worst version of yourself comes out. I hope you know that version of you that came out, only comes out when you are at your whits end. That is the reality of being with a narcissist. They want that extreme emotional reaction and thrive off of it. I hope you can move forward and heal from this. Know your worth, and know how you should be treated in a relationship. I wish you nothing but the best going forward and closing this chapter of your life. Much love ❤️
Girl you DIG through and get your evidence as needed. Don’t apologize. I’m so sorry she hurt you this way. Don’t give up on yourself. Show yourself grace. Stop giving her excuses still. Let go of the guilt. You will one day. Sending love and solidarity ♥️
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I am so sorry you went through all of this❤️💐🦋 pleaseee do not beat yourself up for not leaving sooner. Its hard when you love someone, and you are trying to make things work, and when they try to convince you you are wrong and all of that, and it makes you feel like the crazy one, when you arent. It is not your fault girl. Also i see your effort to make sure you and your sister have stability and for that girl to rock your life the way she did she did is awful, and shame on her. Routine and healthy relationships is one of the most important things we need. Also, for people with disabilities, especially if they have attachment stuff, or dont understand things like others. She sounds like a selfish and narcassistic person, and im so sorry she hurt you. My heart goes out to you girls. You didnt deserve any of this.
As someone who has been cheated on, If your partner is acting off and they aren’t being forthcoming, they’re not the victim if you go through their phone to get answers. I’m not saying it’s the best way to go about it but I’ve seen so many times how one partner will cheat and when their partner finds out by looking at their phones etc, they will turn around and act like the Victim for having their phones looked at
I'm so sorry for the things you lived with that person clearly this make you trauma, at least you know you did some things wrong. You deserve so much better ❤
Drinking and driving is inexcusable behavior. It's completely selfish and reckless considering how many people have lost their lives to drunk drivers. She could easily lose her job in Healthcare for this.
Please don't take this as anything more than it is, but I never had a good feeling about her. She just rubbed me the wrong way. But, and I do mean this, she seemed to make you and Emily so happy, so I was truly happy for you in a parasocial way. And I assumed that maybe I was just judging her based on my past experiences. But on a better note, sobriety is such a huge thing, and it always needs to be treated that way. Your core values change when you hit long term sobriety. And you deserve to be with someone who respects your sobriety. This is why a lot of former addicts end up together, since they both want to live the same lifestyle.
@@sarcarolyn I'm so sorry, Emily doesn't deserve that. I'm so glad you and Em have each other. I couldn't imagine two better sisters than the two of you.
So proud of you for taking this opportunity to share your story and get your truth out there. I’m so sorry you went through that. Truly breaks my heart. You and Emily deserve the best. One day someone will come into y’all’s life and you won’t have to question anything. They will love you and Emily unconditionally. ❤
I cannot express how much I admire you for staying so strong through all of it. To be honest the mistakes made by both sides of the story thought me a lot, of what behaviors and what people to avoid, and the crucial importance of addressing my wrongs as well as others. May you find happiness and stability in this new era of your life❤
Awh the foster kitty was so cute. I appreciate you taking to time to share your truth and be such an authentic version of yourself. You truly are an inspiration, and I am proud of you for where you are today, and your words and journey will be the inspiration and light at the end of the tunnel for others who are suffering from abuse. You are a warrior, and their is no time limit on how long or what way's you choose to heal. Give yourself a big pat on the back, you deserve it and the love for you show for yourself today is remarkable.
I felt all of your pain I’m so sorry you went through all this my heartbreaks for you 😢you deserved none of this your so bright and so loving you deserve so much more ❤
I am connecting with so many things that you have said especially of not being validated or respected when being honest! Thank you for sharing even though it’s difficult and over now, you have shed a lot of hope for others!
I am so so proud of you! You and Emily have a bright future ahead of y’all without someone taking that happiness away from yall! Keep thriving and live that happy life you were meant to live❤
I’m honestly so glad that you spoke up about your situation. You’re so strong to be able to come out and tell your story. I wish I would have told my story, but every time I said anything about it, people would shut me up about it.
I love your videos and content and I’m so sorry you went through this. But you’re mature enough to know your mistakes and grow as a person. You didn’t deserve any of this. But you are strong and beautiful thank you for sharing your story with us. I know it had to be hard. I was in a narasstic relationship, once I got out it was a weight lifted. You got this hunny I’m proud of you ❤❤❤
Thank you for your video and honest words , i feel like we may have been on similar paths in life some of what you explain in ur video of what you have been through hit home for myself and im so happy i managed to get out , mine was a little bit more physical then mental but both is so mentally and spiritually draining on the heart and head wishing you nothing but happinesss on your new journey in life
I am so sorry that happened to you!!! No one deserves to get treated like this and it’s so sad that she wasted years of your life. I hope you are stronger now and find someone who is actually worthy of being with someone so kind and beautiful like you ❤️❤️❤️
I sooo resonate with this. My ex partner, whom I now have a DV case with, and a restraining order against, literally told me that I won’t ever be able to “enjoy my life,” because I don’t drink. I am (proudly) 3 years sober now, and the reason for my decision is a slew of factors. A) alcoholism runs strongly in my genes, specifically on my dad’s side. Just to preface, my dad died in 2015 due to his alcoholism and my sister just took her own life this past Sept 13th, 2024 - she mixed alcohol with another substance and OD’d. B) I too was raped, because I used to consume alcohol to mask my social anxiety, and C) I do have Lupus, and for that reason, I am on a ton of medications that cannot be mixed with alcohol under any circumstance. Alcohol is extremely triggering for me too, even the smell evokes a trauma response out of me. Anyways, my ex would always patronize me for not drinking, but when I wasn’t sober, he called me a total mess - which is completely accurate. I don’t like the version of myself when I drink. I think the right person will accept you for who you are and respect your boundaries. For myself, I don’t tell my partners not to drink, but I do kindly request that they don’t drink in front of me, that we don’t go to places like lounges/clubs/bars where they serve alcohol, and if they’re inebriated, do not come home to me. I refuse to take care of someone’s drunk ass, period. I don’t think that’s too much of an ask, especially if the person loves you enough to understand that your sobriety is very important to you! I’m sending you so much hugs, friend 🫂
Your young, smart, and beautiful. Don't let anyone rob you of your happiness. Try not to let this eat away at you. Focus on being free, happy, with a healthy new start.
Oh babe. The fact that you think you need to acknowledge your reactions to her actions breaks my heart. I can't wait to watch you be loved the way you deserve. You are amazing. Everything she put you through or exposed you too is disgusting especially given your past. You've got this girly and you have an army of us ready to catch you when you fall ❤
You are Incredibly strong for sharing all of this despite her saying otherwise. Yes you’ve made mistakes and you have owned up to them. But there are different levels of trust, for everyone, and the fact that you felt like something was going on I feel like that was a level of trust that was broken (on her end) that she made you feel. But we all make mistakes, and how you decide to handle those mistakes says a lot about who a person is. You’ve got this girl keep speaking your truth!
I admire you, and this is the hardest part: healing and understanding that what you lived through wasn’t normal, wasn’t right, you can do this and I cannot wait to see the light in your eyes come back
I used to live in Greece in Rochester. My ex passed away on Dewy Ave. in 2008, last name Tedone. My childhood love, first for everything and a relationship unlike any other growing up❤️💔 Love following you and your sister Emily ❤️ such a beautiful bond you two have together 🥰
I felt a lot of these emotions when I got out of my last relationship. You could’ve been the perfect girl for her and she would’ve done the same thing. Yall just weren’t right together. But take this as a learning lesson and what you don’t want for the next relationship never settle again. NEVER SETTLE AGAIN
Congratulations on almost 5 years of sobriety Sarah ❤️ thank you for sharing your story. Nobody on this earth has a perfect relationship. You held onto hope that it would get better. There are alot of things you went through because of this relationship that you shouldve never went through. There was alot of gaslighting.
Your ex is just a nasty person. Wanting to be with woman and men , play victim and clearly needs help controlling her drinking but that is not your problem anymore ! I promise you with time and when you least expect it someone will come along and treat you the way you deserve ❤and Emily as well
Thank you for sharing your story love you and Emily so much I never believed anything said about you! You are truly an amazing human and I hope you find someone special 💙 it pains me to know you went through this glad you are healing ❤
I’m so incredibly sorry that you and emily had to endure this behavior. you’re very strong in many ways and I’m glad that you’re standing with your truth, as you should! I wish you the absolute best ❤
I have to say I intuitively felt after your last video that drinking and driving would be a part of this. Maybe it’s how you described “destructive and unsafe behavior patterns,” but that rings so true of alcohol abuse, refusal to change that, escalation of drinking, and horrible choices like driving under the influence. I too struggle with alcohol and am terrified of having that affect my partner negatively. Luckily I do not have an angry bone in my body, and my drinking relates more to my own feelings of sadness and isolation. You are very strong to accept that you deserve better and finally be separated from a person who did not deserve to be married to you. (I say that because she did not earn that title or act like your wife. You deserve someone who you never have to doubt shares your priorities and values. ❤)
Hey. I’m a silent follower over on TT. I’m so proud of you for speaking out but I’m more proud of you for LEAVING! I’m so sorry I’m sure this is very hard especially in the public eye. ❤
It’s really shitty when you’re begging someone to please talk about it when they’re sober or even if they are sober but they’re going off on you & you just want to talk about it when things have cooled off but they won’t let you. There’s been times with my exes when I’ve literally begged them to stop so I dont crash out. I’m really sorry for everything you went through.
You ARE beautiful,Kind,Strong,Brave Etc. I knew she was too good to be true. I will ALWAYS be in your corner Sarah ❤️🩹 You & Emily are always in my heart & prayers. ❤️ 🫂 Much love from NY -Emily
I'm so sorry you went through all this. I admire so much how you're still handling this with so much grace, even when you have every right to be outwardly furious.
I’m so very sorry 😢 I was in relationship almost similar to this back in 2019 when I was 21 years old and my boyfriend was 30 years old. He was a former military veteran and I stayed in the relationship for 5 1/2 months. We worked together until he told me he cared about me a lot and then had two kids from two different mothers but he wanted me to be involved. Unfortunately we had our moments were if I didn’t do anything right in the house I would get yelled at. I also was back-and-forth with different jobs and unfortunately, the last job I had while we were together I was told if I lost another job I was gonna be kicked out of his place. But thankfully, with the support of my family, they helped me move back where I was living before and to get away from him so I did. But the relationship was very scary for me and also it was very upsetting. There were times when I cried in my sleep and then I found out not long after we got together that I couldn’t have kids with him and if I couldn’t accept that, then I shouldn’t have ever entered the relationshipso for me that was very hard as well, but thankfully, I am away from the relationship of that now and I’m happy you’re out of your situation as well and I’m so sorry you had to go through that
As someone who grew up near quite a few...excessive drinkers, I'm truly sorry you went through all of this. She was not right for you and not right for Emily, and I'm proud of you for sharing your story, and getting away. Best of luck to your future. ❤
I’ll never forget the first time I was ever accused of using racist words when I was raised in a family who never used those terms and I sat in my principals office with my parents SOBBING knowing it wasn’t a good word and that I didn’t understand it so how could I use it. It all starts at home.
Sarah, it’s disrespectful for anyone to take drugs at any wedding, but to do so knowing that you are sober is disgusting. You deserve better. She was punching well above her weight and will never find better than you. Please never lose yourself for anyone again.
Stay Strong. You are a strong and caring person. It is so sad how one person can destroy another person's life. Just remember the saying "When one door closes another door opens."
It’s so crazy hearing this story as if someone is reading the me the story of what gained between me and my ex… not exactly the same but SOOO many things are just so similar. I was made out to be this crazy, controlling, possessive person when all I was asking for was the bare minimum. And the gaslighting from him was so wild, it made me feel like I was actually the crazy controlling person he brought out of me. And like you said, I’m not proud of some of my actions and that is not me. His friends never really accepted me, I was treated horrible and ALWAYS ended up coming second to them. And when I took a step back to analyse the truth of it all, I wasn’t proud of my actions in the end, the person I allowed myself to became just because I was starving for some kind of genuine intimacy from this person. Made to feel less than. He never stood up for me when his friends said certain things about me that was BS. He prioritised them so much over me, which he said he never did, that when my chronic illness landed me in the hospital he didn’t Come see me in hospital at all because he had plans he couldn’t cancel with said friends. The girl that he was just friends with, who was a part of the friend group he prioritised over everything, that I had asked repeatedly just to tell me if there was something more going on there with her and he swore up and down was absolutely nothing more than just friends and I was being crazy and my jealousy was unattractive. Come to find out they were in fact seeing each other behind my back. He was having dinner with her parents and her while I was in the hospital extremely unwell. She would stay over at his, which made sense later as he asked me on multiple occasions in the final months of our relationship if I wouldn’t stay over on certain days during the week because of work. And then seeing a post made by her (which I didn’t see straight away as I didn’t follow her on Instagram) in his kitchen, saying something like “when he makes you pancakes and you end up taking them back to bed” Just so many things you said I really related to. Even down to the person I became because of how I was treated, not that that excuses me but I think it’s important… Gaslighting me saying that my “crazy controlling” behaviour was the reason we ended, when I was actually being 2nd to everything in his life, and cheating on me… So sorry you went through this, you deserve someone who truly appreciates you and shows you love 🤍👏🏼
wow i cannot believe she was yelling and making you cry! i would’ve NEVER thought of that. i truly thought she loved you 😢. you’re so right about social media being a facade! i pray you have quick healing and find someone who makes you HAPPY and not cry.
Thank you for sharing. I hope your mentally doing better Emily to. You two did not deserve what you’ve been through. I get it no one is perfect but it broke my heart for you and Emily. Sending prayers
There’s 2 sides to every story but your side has me so shocked. I’ve been following you since 2020. That’s when my fiancée and I got together. We followed you and your ex. You guys were an inspiration. Hearing about your separation was so shocking but these things you said about her in your video has me in awe. I can’t believe it and I’m so sorry for you. You deserve so much love and happiness
Sara I admire everything that you’ve said and take accountability for I wish my ex would’ve done the same thing. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and marriage, and it took me three years to walk away.
Hi! I’m Kate and I am a fellow healthcare professional (clinical social work), and I work both in acute and postacute care. I commend you for being so honest and forthcoming about your entire truth. Because racism does not belong in the workplace and never will anywhere. Not only that- but destructive behaviors in personal life will eventually spill into professional life. I pray that you will continue to find peace and happiness in knowing your self worth, and that perhaps she will need to learn a hard lesson or two (especially being a DPT).
I am so happy that you didn't let her horrible behavior and your trauma destroy your hard fought for sobriety! No one is worth that! Sobriety is a gift and no one is allowed to take that away from you! You are an incredible person, Sarah, and I know that you will find a woman who is truly deserving to be in your life, as well as Emily's. Your ex-wife was not it. I'm sorry you had to experience her disgusting behaviors but I promise you, the right woman is coming. Until then, stay the beautiful, courageous woman that you are. God bless you, Sarah. ❤
It’s not crazy. Document. Document. Everything. Including the stuff you’re going through now cuz of her friends. I’m sure you are tho. You’re strong girl. You’re amazingly strong. I’m so mind blown by what you went through. I’m so sorry. And we don’t believe her about her parents. She already went years telling how bad they were.
It's so wild to hear your story and remember how happy you looked online. Stark reminder that social media is not real. I'm glad you're speaking out and now healing.
My exact thoughts. It’s wild how much social media can portray things but only they know the reality. Everyone thought Sarah and her were happy but who knew ALL of these things were happening. I’m glad Sarah got out of it
Thank you xoxo. After the endless harassment Ive received It was time.
I want to start this by saying congratulations on 5 years of sobriety.
Wow I’m so sorry for everything you went through. You are truly a gem, and so beautiful and kind.
Seriously, 5 years is amazing. Good for her.
You are so strong bc toxic relationships and emotional abuse in relationships is so hard to leave… like I know for myself how hard it is to leave that kind of relationship and u are so strong
Thank you xoxo
You are so strong and i know leaving a toxic relationship is SO SO hard. You’re amazing and Emily is so lucky to have you in her life 🥰
After being with a narcissistic partner, it does make you feel crazy. Listening to your story, I can see the pain that its caused you and I'm sorry that you had to experience that. I was married to a narcissist so I can relate. She also had an alcohol problem and often withheld affection as "punishment". Its been 8 years since that relationship and it took me a few years to recover from it. I wish you the very best in life Sarah, and I pray you heal your heart because you deserve a loving, happy relationship with someone who reciprocates your feelings and effort. I follow you on TikTok as well and absolutely love you and Emily's relationship. Wishing you both the very best❤
I’ve been a quiet follower for quite some time now, and I just want to say I’m so sorry for everything you went through. I recently also just got out of a toxic relationship where everyone thought things were so perfect. You are so strong for sharing your story. Also, congratulations on 5 years of sobriety, that is incredible. You are so strong, keep going!❤
I think it’s awesome you admit your mistakes and your part in this while also sharing your truth and your story ❤
Thank you. I became a bad partner and not a good person by the end. I am deeply sorry for the pain and suffering I caused her. However, she NEEDS to get control of her friends. I simply cannot fathom this harassment anymore. From them calling me at midnight, texting me that Im vile, shallow, a horrible person...its too much.
Thank you. I became a bad partner and not a good person by the end. I am deeply sorry for the pain and suffering I caused her. However, she NEEDS to get control of her friends. I simply cannot fathom this harassment anymore. From them calling me at midnight, texting me that Im vile, shallow, a horrible person...its too much.
@@sarcarolyn You should get a protective order put in place for you and Emily. So that way the constant harassment can stop.
Not laying with your wife the night of your wedding is wild. Also who tf brings drugs to someone’s wedding, sober or not?! I am so sorry
I couldn’t imagine. So sorry for her
This mirrors so much of what I’ve experienced in my past marriage. Keep speaking your truth! It’s your right to heal and do so in a healthy way, as you are doing now.
People who haven’t been in a toxic relationship don’t understand how important it is to speak and share your truth. It’s not gossip, it is acknowledgement and healing. Been there. Hugs to you as you heal and find that person who honors and loves you. She is out there.
"I had repeated myself so many times that I had nothing left to say" - this is so relatable.
Congratulations on 5 years of sobriety 🎉and I'm proud of you for sharing your story. You seem like a beautiful human who deserves the world ❤
Wow, thank you for sharing your story! I also was in a relationship with a woman who had a serious problem with an alcohol. I wanted us to create a home, but instead I was cheated on, lied etc Thankfully now I’m by my own, so glad you are also and now we can focus on our happiness and growth :) sending love ❤️
Congrats on 5 years sobriety!!!! 🎉
Also, you are extremely strong for going through all this and maintaining your sobriety!!! Much love, healing, and peace to you and Emily! 🤍
I recently just divorced my ex who was also an alcoholic that refused to control and fully acknowledge the severity of the effects it created (on top of other things.) It can be so isolating and infuriating feeling constantly dismissed when you’re first hand having to experience the damage. The cycle is exhausting. I applaud you for speaking your truth and giving yourself the validation and acknowledgment you’ve always deserved. You will ALWAYS deserve to be heard. ❤
You're being far kinder to her than you really should be. What awful awful behaviour. Im so sorry you had to go through that. Your ex clearly had no respect for you, your boundaries, your needs, or feelings. They just sound like a nasty human tbh. I can relate to your experience & i just want to say that i think youre incredibly strong to withstand all that you did. Also, congratulations on 5 years sober! That's such an achievement.
You are intelligent, you take accountability, you give you ex far more grace than she deserves, you kept the nature of what hqppened to yourself untik the harrassment by her friends (which is just disgusting bejaviour for a grown adult.) I think you should give yourself credit and grace in all honesty. I hope you are surrounded by people who respect and value you, and i hope that you also value yourself. You've been through a lot, so much of it publically, and that can't have been easy. I hope you're able to feel some sort of peace from sharing this
I’m so sorry you went through this, but I appreciate that you are sharing your story. I was in a toxic manipulative relationship for 11 years but was so lonely, exactly how you described. For so long I thought I was controlling as well and I put my life on hold to wait around hoping he would just spend time with me.
I hope you know how much this will help a lot of people, thank you again!❤
Subscribed. Came from TikTok. My heart breaks for you and for Emily.
Thanks for sharing!! I have a cousin with Down syndrome and he’s one of my best friends. To see how my “uncle” pretended to care about him until he had my aunt’s heart. Only to take her money and ultimately abandon my cousin. Loving people with Down Syndrome and seeing how some humans fail them is truly a unique experience. Hell hath no fury when ppl mistreat him. He is just loving and caring and some people are disgusting. I’m so sorry you and Emily and kitties had to go through that. Proud of you on the other side!! ❤
Absolutely blown away by your strength and bravery! Sending so much love to you and Emily ❤
I understand your desire to share your story and your truth, when lies and harassment has been thrown your way. I love yours and Emily’s relationship and videos. Keep strong, it’s important for your voice to be heard too.
I also think it’s important that you acknowledge your wrong doings as well, saying you’re not perfect but that doesn’t mean you deserve harassment and hate.
I always had bad vibes from her in the tik toks. Im sorry thar you and Emily went through all of this. You both are so strong and deserve better
I thought he beginning videos were good. But after about 6 months something started to feel off to me as well
The guy I was seeing for 3 months started choking me once and dislocated my jaw. It’s been 5 years and I still have w file with screenshots, recordings etc, just in case he pops up in my life. My parents are aware of it and know where to find it. You are not crazy. You are protecting yourself.
We go through relationships like this to teach us in one way or another. It must feel nice to be free from that anxiety, free from having to feel paranoid in your marriage, & free from not being loved the way you deserve. I’ve delt with the drinking and lies and can remember exactly how that feels! What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger & that love is out there, the person who will cherish and treat you right will come along and every bad thing from the past will have all been worth it ❤
I left a relationship extremely similar to this in March 2020 when things escalated to becoming physical. I was 25 and I am still working thru the trauma of fighting to stay in that relationship for 3 years. I can say I'm not nearly fully healed but I've built myself back up and as hard as it was and as many times as I questioned if I was gonna be strong enough to make it thru and see the other side of healed I can say I am so happy and proud of myself and owe my friends and loved ones everything for listening to me for yrs work thru it and rebuild a life for me and our puppy
And I'm so proud of you too sar ik how hard and scary it is his parents had his back and I had no one like that you're gonna come out on the other side of this and you'll be so proud of yourself happy and healthy and setting the best example for Emily for how you allow people treat y'all you've got this dude you're a badass and we all love you both
Im so sorry you had to go through all that. I understand how you were feeling in some ways. I'm so glad you have so many people to share with and people that support you around you! You have a voice and we are listening❤
I’m sorry you went through all that. Hopefully purging it all will give you the closure you are seeking so you can move forward and become a better stronger person. I admire both you and your sister so much. You deserve all the love, happiness, and health available to you.
You’re so strong emotional abuse is so hard to leave from you’re so brave and so strong you have so many people who love you and support you
I am truly sorry this happened to you. We always try to see the good in others, but need to also recognize the red flags. That gut feeling will never fail you❤
I’m so sorry Sarah for what you went through. I just got out of a toxic marriage and was with my significant other for 12 years overall. I should’ve left sooner also. Your words speak a lot to me.
You are a strong individual and I’m proud of you!
Well done on the 5 years of sobriety!! What an achievement for yourself! You deserve so much better than what you’ve had to go through. I got so confused when Cindy parents were back in the picture as I remembered you both saying they didn’t accept her and her relationship. Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. I’ve went through something similar and honestly it’s put me off going into another relationship so I’ve been single for 10 or more years. It if happens it happens if not oh well mindset on relationships now. Hope you and Emily find some happiness soon!
I'm so sorry for everything you've been through, your strength and courage are admirable. You and Emily deserve the best. Hugs from Brazil. ❤❤
I can feel your pain through the screen and unfortunately relate to so much you've said. It sounds like she was a narcissist and couldn't accept any of her problematic behaviour. While I think it's great that you can acknowledge the things you did in the relationship which weren't great. However, I think a lot of people who have never been in a relationship like this do not know what it's like at all. How they will push, push, push your buttons until you snap. Until the worst version of yourself comes out. I hope you know that version of you that came out, only comes out when you are at your whits end. That is the reality of being with a narcissist. They want that extreme emotional reaction and thrive off of it. I hope you can move forward and heal from this. Know your worth, and know how you should be treated in a relationship. I wish you nothing but the best going forward and closing this chapter of your life. Much love ❤️
Girl you DIG through and get your evidence as needed. Don’t apologize. I’m so sorry she hurt you this way. Don’t give up on yourself. Show yourself grace. Stop giving her excuses still. Let go of the guilt. You will one day. Sending love and solidarity ♥️
I am so sorry you went through all of this❤️💐🦋 pleaseee do not beat yourself up for not leaving sooner. Its hard when you love someone, and you are trying to make things work, and when they try to convince you you are wrong and all of that, and it makes you feel like the crazy one, when you arent. It is not your fault girl. Also i see your effort to make sure you and your sister have stability and for that girl to rock your life the way she did she did is awful, and shame on her. Routine and healthy relationships is one of the most important things we need. Also, for people with disabilities, especially if they have attachment stuff, or dont understand things like others. She sounds like a selfish and narcassistic person, and im so sorry she hurt you. My heart goes out to you girls. You didnt deserve any of this.
"I'm never gonna find something else, this is the best I'll get" held me captive as well. I'm happy for you girl.
As someone who has been cheated on, If your partner is acting off and they aren’t being forthcoming, they’re not the victim if you go through their phone to get answers. I’m not saying it’s the best way to go about it but I’ve seen so many times how one partner will cheat and when their partner finds out by looking at their phones etc, they will turn around and act like the Victim for having their phones looked at
I'm so sorry for the things you lived with that person clearly this make you trauma, at least you know you did some things wrong. You deserve so much better ❤
Drinking and driving is inexcusable behavior. It's completely selfish and reckless considering how many people have lost their lives to drunk drivers. She could easily lose her job in Healthcare for this.
Please don't take this as anything more than it is, but I never had a good feeling about her. She just rubbed me the wrong way. But, and I do mean this, she seemed to make you and Emily so happy, so I was truly happy for you in a parasocial way. And I assumed that maybe I was just judging her based on my past experiences.
But on a better note, sobriety is such a huge thing, and it always needs to be treated that way. Your core values change when you hit long term sobriety. And you deserve to be with someone who respects your sobriety. This is why a lot of former addicts end up together, since they both want to live the same lifestyle.
She treated Em horribly at the end. I will never forgive her for that.
@@sarcarolyn I'm so sorry, Emily doesn't deserve that. I'm so glad you and Em have each other. I couldn't imagine two better sisters than the two of you.
I'm so so sorry you had to go through all that, you deserved so much better. You are so strong. Sending much love and healing vibes 💚
So proud of you hun I’m really sorry u went through this u do deserve way better ❤️❤️
So proud of you for taking this opportunity to share your story and get your truth out there. I’m so sorry you went through that. Truly breaks my heart. You and Emily deserve the best. One day someone will come into y’all’s life and you won’t have to question anything. They will love you and Emily unconditionally. ❤
I cannot express how much I admire you for staying so strong through all of it. To be honest the mistakes made by both sides of the story thought me a lot, of what behaviors and what people to avoid, and the crucial importance of addressing my wrongs as well as others. May you find happiness and stability in this new era of your life❤
Awh the foster kitty was so cute. I appreciate you taking to time to share your truth and be such an authentic version of yourself. You truly are an inspiration, and I am proud of you for where you are today, and your words and journey will be the inspiration and light at the end of the tunnel for others who are suffering from abuse. You are a warrior, and their is no time limit on how long or what way's you choose to heal. Give yourself a big pat on the back, you deserve it and the love for you show for yourself today is remarkable.
I felt all of your pain I’m so sorry you went through all this my heartbreaks for you 😢you deserved none of this your so bright and so loving you deserve so much more ❤
I am connecting with so many things that you have said especially of not being validated or respected when being honest! Thank you for sharing even though it’s difficult and over now, you have shed a lot of hope for others!
I am so so proud of you! You and Emily have a bright future ahead of y’all without someone taking that happiness away from yall! Keep thriving and live that happy life you were meant to live❤
I’m honestly so glad that you spoke up about your situation. You’re so strong to be able to come out and tell your story. I wish I would have told my story, but every time I said anything about it, people would shut me up about it.
I love your videos and content and I’m so sorry you went through this. But you’re mature enough to know your mistakes and grow as a person. You didn’t deserve any of this. But you are strong and beautiful thank you for sharing your story with us. I know it had to be hard. I was in a narasstic relationship, once I got out it was a weight lifted. You got this hunny I’m proud of you ❤❤❤
You are strong as hell and I truly want you to know that you deserve to be loved ❤️and I am so sorry you went through this 🌸❤️
Thank you for your video and honest words , i feel like we may have been on similar paths in life some of what you explain in ur video of what you have been through hit home for myself and im so happy i managed to get out , mine was a little bit more physical then mental but both is so mentally and spiritually draining on the heart and head wishing you nothing but happinesss on your new journey in life
You look so much happier now, your glow is so bright❤ Your absolutely beautiful ❤
So Proud of you !! Never let anyone make you feel like you can’t speak your truth !
I am so sorry that happened to you!!! No one deserves to get treated like this and it’s so sad that she wasted years of your life. I hope you are stronger now and find someone who is actually worthy of being with someone so kind and beautiful like you ❤️❤️❤️
I sooo resonate with this. My ex partner, whom I now have a DV case with, and a restraining order against, literally told me that I won’t ever be able to “enjoy my life,” because I don’t drink. I am (proudly) 3 years sober now, and the reason for my decision is a slew of factors. A) alcoholism runs strongly in my genes, specifically on my dad’s side. Just to preface, my dad died in 2015 due to his alcoholism and my sister just took her own life this past Sept 13th, 2024 - she mixed alcohol with another substance and OD’d. B) I too was raped, because I used to consume alcohol to mask my social anxiety, and C) I do have Lupus, and for that reason, I am on a ton of medications that cannot be mixed with alcohol under any circumstance. Alcohol is extremely triggering for me too, even the smell evokes a trauma response out of me. Anyways, my ex would always patronize me for not drinking, but when I wasn’t sober, he called me a total mess - which is completely accurate. I don’t like the version of myself when I drink. I think the right person will accept you for who you are and respect your boundaries. For myself, I don’t tell my partners not to drink, but I do kindly request that they don’t drink in front of me, that we don’t go to places like lounges/clubs/bars where they serve alcohol, and if they’re inebriated, do not come home to me. I refuse to take care of someone’s drunk ass, period. I don’t think that’s too much of an ask, especially if the person loves you enough to understand that your sobriety is very important to you! I’m sending you so much hugs, friend 🫂
This is so awful I'm so sorry you went through all of this and the harassment that's ongoing, I hope you are able to find peace and heal ❤
Your young, smart, and beautiful. Don't let anyone rob you of your happiness. Try not to let this eat away at you. Focus on being free, happy, with a healthy new start.
Oh babe. The fact that you think you need to acknowledge your reactions to her actions breaks my heart.
I can't wait to watch you be loved the way you deserve. You are amazing. Everything she put you through or exposed you too is disgusting especially given your past. You've got this girly and you have an army of us ready to catch you when you fall ❤
you’re such a beautiful human being, you do not deserve this :( sending u lotss of love
So proud, I’ll always support you ❤️❤️
You are Incredibly strong for sharing all of this despite her saying otherwise. Yes you’ve made mistakes and you have owned up to them. But there are different levels of trust, for everyone, and the fact that you felt like something was going on I feel like that was a level of trust that was broken (on her end) that she made you feel. But we all make mistakes, and how you decide to handle those mistakes says a lot about who a person is. You’ve got this girl keep speaking your truth!
You are so brave for telling your truth, you are so strong. Time will heal. You deserve better. Sending you love ❤
Im from Elmira ..go to Rochester often. So glad your speaking you Truth. Just went through something very with my ex . Hoping for peace and healing
I admire you, and this is the hardest part: healing and understanding that what you lived through wasn’t normal, wasn’t right, you can do this and I cannot wait to see the light in your eyes come back
Love you Billy ray cyrus.
I also fostered a kitten and named it Pippin. He went to live with my dad.
I used to live in Greece in Rochester. My ex passed away on Dewy Ave. in 2008, last name Tedone. My childhood love, first for everything and a relationship unlike any other growing up❤️💔
Love following you and your sister Emily ❤️ such a beautiful bond you two have together 🥰
I felt a lot of these emotions when I got out of my last relationship. You could’ve been the perfect girl for her and she would’ve done the same thing. Yall just weren’t right together. But take this as a learning lesson and what you don’t want for the next relationship never settle again. NEVER SETTLE AGAIN
The sigh at the end is the relief you got it off your shoulders ❤
Congratulations on almost 5 years of sobriety Sarah ❤️ thank you for sharing your story. Nobody on this earth has a perfect relationship.
You held onto hope that it would get better.
There are alot of things you went through because of this relationship that you shouldve never went through.
There was alot of gaslighting.
Girl you are so strong ❤ we have your back!
Your ex is just a nasty person. Wanting to be with woman and men , play victim and clearly needs help controlling her drinking but that is not your problem anymore ! I promise you with time and when you least expect it someone will come along and treat you the way you deserve ❤and Emily as well
You are 💯 correct! Completely agree! The girls will be better without her!
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I promise you mama time heals. ❤️🩹
Thank you for sharing your story love you and Emily so much I never believed anything said about you! You are truly an amazing human and I hope you find someone special 💙 it pains me to know you went through this glad you are healing ❤
I’m so incredibly sorry that you and emily had to endure this behavior. you’re very strong in many ways and I’m glad that you’re standing with your truth, as you should! I wish you the absolute best ❤
I have to say I intuitively felt after your last video that drinking and driving would be a part of this. Maybe it’s how you described “destructive and unsafe behavior patterns,” but that rings so true of alcohol abuse, refusal to change that, escalation of drinking, and horrible choices like driving under the influence. I too struggle with alcohol and am terrified of having that affect my partner negatively. Luckily I do not have an angry bone in my body, and my drinking relates more to my own feelings of sadness and isolation. You are very strong to accept that you deserve better and finally be separated from a person who did not deserve to be married to you. (I say that because she did not earn that title or act like your wife. You deserve someone who you never have to doubt shares your priorities and values. ❤)
Hey. I’m a silent follower over on TT. I’m so proud of you for speaking out but I’m more proud of you for LEAVING! I’m so sorry I’m sure this is very hard especially in the public eye. ❤
My favorite quote; “were you blindsided or were you just blind!?”
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It’s really shitty when you’re begging someone to please talk about it when they’re sober or even if they are sober but they’re going off on you & you just want to talk about it when things have cooled off but they won’t let you. There’s been times with my exes when I’ve literally begged them to stop so I dont crash out. I’m really sorry for everything you went through.
You ARE beautiful,Kind,Strong,Brave Etc. I knew she was too good to be true. I will ALWAYS be in your corner Sarah ❤️🩹 You & Emily are always in my heart & prayers. ❤️ 🫂
Much love from NY -Emily
I'm so sorry you went through all this. I admire so much how you're still handling this with so much grace, even when you have every right to be outwardly furious.
I’m so very sorry 😢 I was in relationship almost similar to this back in 2019 when I was 21 years old and my boyfriend was 30 years old. He was a former military veteran and I stayed in the relationship for 5 1/2 months. We worked together until he told me he cared about me a lot and then had two kids from two different mothers but he wanted me to be involved. Unfortunately we had our moments were if I didn’t do anything right in the house I would get yelled at. I also was back-and-forth with different jobs and unfortunately, the last job I had while we were together I was told if I lost another job I was gonna be kicked out of his place. But thankfully, with the support of my family, they helped me move back where I was living before and to get away from him so I did. But the relationship was very scary for me and also it was very upsetting. There were times when I cried in my sleep and then I found out not long after we got together that I couldn’t have kids with him and if I couldn’t accept that, then I shouldn’t have ever entered the relationshipso for me that was very hard as well, but thankfully, I am away from the relationship of that now and I’m happy you’re out of your situation as well and I’m so sorry you had to go through that
Im so sorry. I wish I could hug you.
What I wouldn’t give to be with a woman like you!! I am so proud of you for speaking your truth!!!
As someone who grew up near quite a few...excessive drinkers, I'm truly sorry you went through all of this. She was not right for you and not right for Emily, and I'm proud of you for sharing your story, and getting away. Best of luck to your future. ❤
I’ll never forget the first time I was ever accused of using racist words when I was raised in a family who never used those terms and I sat in my principals office with my parents SOBBING knowing it wasn’t a good word and that I didn’t understand it so how could I use it. It all starts at home.
Thank you for sharing! You are so brave and strong for sharing ❤
Sarah, it’s disrespectful for anyone to take drugs at any wedding, but to do so knowing that you are sober is disgusting. You deserve better. She was punching well above her weight and will never find better than you. Please never lose yourself for anyone again.
Stay Strong. You are a strong and caring person. It is so sad how one person can destroy another person's life. Just remember the saying "When one door closes another door opens."
Drinking around an addict is just vile behaviour. I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this ❤
It’s so crazy hearing this story as if someone is reading the me the story of what gained between me and my ex… not exactly the same but SOOO many things are just so similar. I was made out to be this crazy, controlling, possessive person when all I was asking for was the bare minimum. And the gaslighting from him was so wild, it made me feel like I was actually the crazy controlling person he brought out of me. And like you said, I’m not proud of some of my actions and that is not me. His friends never really accepted me, I was treated horrible and ALWAYS ended up coming second to them. And when I took a step back to analyse the truth of it all, I wasn’t proud of my actions in the end, the person I allowed myself to became just because I was starving for some kind of genuine intimacy from this person. Made to feel less than. He never stood up for me when his friends said certain things about me that was BS. He prioritised them so much over me, which he said he never did, that when my chronic illness landed me in the hospital he didn’t Come see me in hospital at all because he had plans he couldn’t cancel with said friends. The girl that he was just friends with, who was a part of the friend group he prioritised over everything, that I had asked repeatedly just to tell me if there was something more going on there with her and he swore up and down was absolutely nothing more than just friends and I was being crazy and my jealousy was unattractive. Come to find out they were in fact seeing each other behind my back. He was having dinner with her parents and her while I was in the hospital extremely unwell. She would stay over at his, which made sense later as he asked me on multiple occasions in the final months of our relationship if I wouldn’t stay over on certain days during the week because of work. And then seeing a post made by her (which I didn’t see straight away as I didn’t follow her on Instagram) in his kitchen, saying something like “when he makes you pancakes and you end up taking them back to bed”
Just so many things you said I really related to. Even down to the person I became because of how I was treated, not that that excuses me but I think it’s important…
Gaslighting me saying that my “crazy controlling” behaviour was the reason we ended, when I was actually being 2nd to everything in his life, and cheating on me…
So sorry you went through this, you deserve someone who truly appreciates you and shows you love 🤍👏🏼
I'm sorry Emily and you had to go through that. You are a great role model for Emily and for everyone who listens to your story.
Stay strong!!!! There’s someone out there for you who will treat you the way you deserve.
I’m glad u got to get all of this off of your chest, ur very brave and strong for all of this! Be safe and stay strong!
wow i cannot believe she was yelling and making you cry! i would’ve NEVER thought of that. i truly thought she loved you 😢. you’re so right about social media being a facade! i pray you have quick healing and find someone who makes you HAPPY and not cry.
Thank you for sharing. I hope your mentally doing better Emily to. You two did not deserve what you’ve been through. I get it no one is perfect but it broke my heart for you and Emily. Sending prayers
There’s 2 sides to every story but your side has me so shocked. I’ve been following you since 2020. That’s when my fiancée and I got together. We followed you and your ex. You guys were an inspiration. Hearing about your separation was so shocking but these things you said about her in your video has me in awe. I can’t believe it and I’m so sorry for you. You deserve so much love and happiness
Thank you angel xoxo
Sara I admire everything that you’ve said and take accountability for I wish my ex would’ve done the same thing. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and marriage, and it took me three years to walk away.
Hi! I’m Kate and I am a fellow healthcare professional (clinical social work), and I work both in acute and postacute care. I commend you for being so honest and forthcoming about your entire truth. Because racism does not belong in the workplace and never will anywhere. Not only that- but destructive behaviors in personal life will eventually spill into professional life. I pray that you will continue to find peace and happiness in knowing your self worth, and that perhaps she will need to learn a hard lesson or two (especially being a DPT).
You are so strong!! For opening up an telling us what happened..
congratulations on being 5 years sober 🎉❤
I want to send you a Christmas gift, proud of how far you've came
All Id want is a hug xox
@@sarcarolyn Is the address in your recent post goes to you:) Happy Early Christmas! 🥰
I am so happy that you didn't let her horrible behavior and your trauma destroy your hard fought for sobriety! No one is worth that! Sobriety is a gift and no one is allowed to take that away from you! You are an incredible person, Sarah, and I know that you will find a woman who is truly deserving to be in your life, as well as Emily's. Your ex-wife was not it. I'm sorry you had to experience her disgusting behaviors but I promise you, the right woman is coming. Until then, stay the beautiful, courageous woman that you are. God bless you, Sarah. ❤
It’s not crazy. Document. Document. Everything. Including the stuff you’re going through now cuz of her friends. I’m sure you are tho. You’re strong girl. You’re amazingly strong. I’m so mind blown by what you went through. I’m so sorry. And we don’t believe her about her parents. She already went years telling how bad they were.