I was abused by my eldest brother . It took me long time to talk about it. I met a councilor last year. I am healing now. I hope and pray for everyone who went through this kind of experience will heal.
+Stillness speaks we also have a course on line for releasing shame and stigma & healing secrets with 2 therapists over 6 weeks all online. You can take a look at kirstyTV dot come and will see it on top right xx
People like that must be killed with no mercy. what overwhelms me the most, is that the victims of Child abuse sometimes become maniacs and serial killers, but they NEVER kill abusors, they only kill those who are weaker than they are, why is there never a serial killer with a heart? who killes abusors!!!?? why?
I was also abused by my eldest brother, however, I still don’t know if I can maintain a relationship with him. Were you able to “forgive” your brother? Of course only share if you feel comfortable
Thank you for blessing us with this video. I was sexually abused and I am now reclaiming by becoming a Christian Counselor. God bless you ladies! Praise Jesus!
I was sexually abused by my own family members as a teenager. It has been very painful however I feel so positive after watching this video. I missed the chance to encounter and have a healing. Always had a fear of spoiling the relations.
thank you for sharing your story. i went through something similar. i was sexually and physically abused by my stepdad from ages 5 - 16. my mom knew and she stayed with him. i hope one day i will be as healed as you are, and be able to let go.
My family failed me too. I'm very paralyzingly depressed. I had a stray dog follow Me home now my pet and even he sees the sadness and tries to be comforting. Most of the time I want to die. My mom and family are emotionally and psychologically abusive and in denial about all the things that happened I hope I never see them again I don't want to live another day with thinking that I ever have to sit around and fall victim to them or even being around them. Sometimes I joke and tell myself that if a meteorite fell on top of my home town with my entire family there it would be the best day of my life. I know I shouldn't be so cruel o
...but I'm just sad and confused and I feel so far from love and I feel like I shoulda be alive like people like them shouldn't be alive and even the product of those kinds of people should be put out of their misery... i am always sad and I don't want to be anymore idk how that can be. I wish I was a bird or animal or something other than human because in a bird or fishes life rape and invest and abuse isn't an actual thing it's just considered part of nature. I guess this is the ugly world we live in.
I was sexually abused from the age of 3 until I was 15. Years later I found out that he was abusing his adopted daughter from his second marriage she had him arrested 3 times the cpr said that there is nothing that I could do because he would only say no comment when questioned plus I had no surviving witnesses. (What abused victims have witnesses ) its so unfair he has basically gotten away with it.
I too went through a very similar story. im hoping to someday heal, but at the moment I haven't learned how. it would be much easier for me had my mom supported me and not stayed with my stepfather. ages 6-14 for me haunt me to this day. im now 23
Good luck with your journey to healing it does take time. Watch some KirstyTV every week there are so many lessons and wisdom to gain from their stories although not all abuse they all have universal lessons on healing. We have over 150 episodes now k xx Warren Waterman
What an extremely intelligent and intuitive woman. I fully agree with her on the word forgiveness. I don't even use that word because forgiveness means for giving someone which means I let it go which means the person doesn't have to confront himself and doesn't have to take responsibility for the act and the pain he caused. Forgiving people does not help them at all. What will help them is that they are made to face the consequences of their actions. Only then they will reflect on it and introspect if at all. If I hold the other cheek and say it's ok then how are they ever going to question their own faults? They will not. We have to confront them and we also have to leave them. Speak out and leave. That is the only way we help them. And never go back to them and never talk to them again. Move on and be the protective mother to your own body that is our only chance at healing.
I was around 2 when the first who tried raping me was my own father,after that it was his friend who abused me sexually for years,being beaten to a pulp to kidergarden and 1st grade my mom was in court with my father,yet she didn't knew i was being beat up and let the same pedophile into the house to take care of me,eventually i found the courage and told her,i remember she was shaking realizing what happened,i begged her to never let me be alone ever. After years i have never saw him only a couple of times,but my mom never let me be near him,but when i started growing more into an adult and wanting more for my life something changed her and she strained away from me. Now i don't know but i got to the conclusion i don't even care anymore,i will not do the same mistakes as her as she did to me. Also those 2 who abused me are now dead.
What is wrong with all of these fathers?! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THEM?? I think there should be a special place on the southside of hell for them.
\i was 5 when i was sexually assaulted and abused i am 54 now and this has ruined my life. it has took me 49 years to talk about it because i thought it was my fault, now i know i was not .How can a 5 year old fight an big man off . i have had a couple of relationships and have a daughter but the older i get the more i withdraw from men and don't trust them. i am now on anti depressants to help me cope and awaiting councelling i think i need to tell the police but i'm scared
+kimmy2541 A friend of mine didn't tell the police as he thought his father would only do it to him and was now 60. This year they found the father molesting more boys at the church and his gone to prison. In terms of your healing we also have a course on line for releasing shame and stigma & healing secrets with 2 therapists over 6 weeks all online. You can take a look at kirstyTV dot come and will see it on top right xx
People like that must be killed with no mercy. what overwhelms me the most, is that the victims of Child abuse sometimes become maniacs and serial killers, but they NEVER kill abusors, they only kill those who are weaker than they are, why is there never a serial killer with a heart? who killes abusors!!!?? why?
I went through a similar up bringing. Only the man who did it to me was my sep father at the time. It had started when i was 5 until 14 years of age. Now i am 25. I still struggle with it, mostly because my mother won't let me heal from it. She is always constantly bringing it up. I do not have a great relationship with my mother. There is only the connection of her being my mother and i being her daughter. My real father and i aren't close either. Because when i was 4 my mom and father divorced. I struggle every day just to find peace with my self with life. Because i don't feel alive i feel trapped. I as well told my mother what was going on just like the woman in the video had said. But she didn't believe me.. she finally caught him in my bedroom butt naked standing over me. His response was, i was getting her up to make coffee.. my mom finally packed up. And we left. Even tho i am no longer in the situation and it has been years i still deal with the pain. I had nobody growing up and even tho i have a great boyfriend i still feel trapped in my own skin.. it's hard. But i keep reminding myself that everything will be okay.. so i just want to say thank you for your story..
Kaylan Flowers thanks for sharing and glad your making small steps to heal. It is a long slow process but worth it. We have over 150 stories watch a few a week and let the lessons they share perolate in you. x
Yah. I feel really bad for u Kaylan. I am sorry also of what u had to go through. I wish u the best life Eva! Stay strong and don't let anything stop u!
+Kathy Tiffany we also have a course on line for releasing shame and stigma & healing secrets with 2 therapists over 6 weeks all online. You can take a look at kirstyTV dot come and will see it on top right xx
My sister is mad at me because her teenage daughter is mine. I'm good to her and she likes being here. Yeah I'm 48 and she's 19. But I like the situation. It torey sister apart when I moved her in my bedroom.
And its even harder when you're a brown girl. I knew I would not be believed. I felt like it was my fault. What was so wrong with me? I didn't deserve it. I decided to rise above it. My kids knew from a early age that your body is your own. No one is allowed to touch you, especially in a way that is confusing or makes you feel bad. And I will always believe you
take a look at a book called " Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming your life." by Susan Forward I hope this will help some one
+Plainprincess ALways tell. ANd if the first, second, or third person doesn't listen, keep telling until they do. You can write it instead of saying it out loud & if you're an adult, it's not too late. You can tell friends, family or online support groups.
I hope that every abuse survivor hears her words about forgiveness. Absolutely God does NOT expect a victim of sexual assault to forgive their attacker. We can say we let go of it, we choose not to dwell in it. To let it freeze us in a state of brokenness. But we let God figure out the forgive or not part with the assailants. God has compassion for victims. Child sexual assault is a serious violation of assailant's relationship with God. God does NOT treat that as other serious sins. There are serious repercussions spiritually even if the assailant is repentant. In the true faith, there is no room for any kind of privileges of service. And oversight of such a person is strong. That can not be undone. The bible is clear about all willful serious sins, God does not forgive anyone that is not deeply grieved, repentant and who turns around from such willful behavior and makes amends to those that have been effected. The assailant needs to do that. They need to set things right and undo any deceptions, lies or manipulations they have created. Also, God does not hold vulnerable victims responsible for the actions of the attacker. I'm very proud of her for realizing that. Inez. I hope you are healing. You are loved and important to God. You are still very very precious to him.
AMEN. This is perfect...YOU just taught ME a major life lesson. May God bless and keep you wherever you are in the world. Thank you truly. I cant believe this never dawned on me before. 🙏🏽✝❤
The same thing happened to me when he was drunk he sexuialy abuse me and didn't care if I was on my Periode.He tied my hands and legs and leaves me in the basement.he told me it was a punishment.Now he won't stop and I'm scared please help me
@@foxanaandroseanne2720 Ones which are being abused should not reach out to strangers online who could be anyone but go to their local authorities and tell
wow, I am speechless and so full of things to say all at the same time. What a beautiful person! I have written my story and even published it but I have not talked about it. I was looking for ways to promote my book without having to actually be involved with my own story, because even though I wrote it I still try and avoid it. This young lady said everything I have felt on so many occasions. The terror and daily anxiety of a sexually molested child is something that can only be understood by those of us who have lived under that tyranny. When every night while your sleeping the terror is there and when your rapist can come into your room and do whatever he wants, even kill you, is a terror that I can still feel if I allow myself to. I was raised insdie an incestuous home inside a cult environment and I had no contact with the outside world. They even had their own schools and doctors visits were heavily supervised. I had no idea that I could tell anyone or that anyone would care to help
It is very painful when l am called pnames and are acted infront of me as a man atracted to male: boy, kids and adult men ( especially families members).
Her Mother was complicit in that she didn't do anything to stop it, either by leaving or by calling the police at the first report. Additionally, it's traumatizing to a child to see their mother being abused. Her Mom was an adult, in charge of caring for her child, and she failed horribly.
I think it is a very personal journey to our healing and whether we can or will forgive etc...we don't get to judge her journey, especially when someone is brave enough to be vulnerable and share their truth with us.
Good, please tell a therapist/councilor who knows how to support you best. Then it is up to you if you decide to tell your family. I wish you well on your path to healing & happiness.
I asked my physiatrist will I ever be well he said when you can sing it from the highest mountain top you maybe my mountain you think you could set that up please
The camera person focusing in on her putting the microphone into her shirt and on her chest is rude and insensitive in regards to the very subject they are discussing.
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My heart goes out to all people who were victims of sexual abuse. Blessings to you all and may you all be blessed with healing, happiness and peace.
Jason Gafar thank you for your blessings 🌈💕🇦🇺🦋x
I was abused by my eldest brother . It took me long time to talk about it. I met a councilor last year. I am healing now. I hope and pray for everyone who went through this kind of experience will heal.
+Stillness speaks we also have a course on line for releasing shame and stigma & healing secrets with 2 therapists over 6 weeks all online. You can take a look at kirstyTV dot come and will see it on top right xx
People like that must be killed with no mercy. what overwhelms me the most, is that the victims of Child abuse sometimes become maniacs and serial killers, but they NEVER kill abusors, they only kill those who are weaker than they are, why is there never a serial killer with a heart? who killes abusors!!!?? why?
I was also abused by my eldest brother, however, I still don’t know if I can maintain a relationship with him. Were you able to “forgive” your brother? Of course only share if you feel comfortable
Thank you for blessing us with this video. I was sexually abused and I am now reclaiming by becoming a Christian Counselor. God bless you ladies! Praise Jesus!
I was sexually abused by my own family members as a teenager. It has been very painful however I feel so positive after watching this video. I missed the chance to encounter and have a healing. Always had a fear of spoiling the relations.
thank you for sharing your story. i went through something similar. i was sexually and physically abused by my stepdad from ages 5 - 16. my mom knew and she stayed with him. i hope one day i will be as healed as you are, and be able to let go.
My family failed me too. I'm very paralyzingly depressed. I had a stray dog follow
Me home now my pet and even he sees the sadness and tries to be comforting. Most of the time I want to die. My mom and family are emotionally and psychologically abusive and in denial about all the things that happened I hope I never see them again I don't want to live another day with thinking that I ever have to sit around and fall victim to them or even being around them. Sometimes I joke and tell myself that if a meteorite fell on top of my home town with my entire family there it would be the best day of my life. I know I shouldn't be so cruel o
...but I'm just sad and confused and I feel so far from love and I feel like I shoulda be alive like people like them shouldn't be alive and even the product of those kinds of people should be put out of their misery... i am always sad and I don't want to be anymore idk how that can be. I wish I was a bird or animal or something other than human because in a bird or fishes life rape and invest and abuse isn't an actual thing it's just considered part of nature. I guess this is the ugly world we live in.
I was sexually abused from the age of 3 until I was 15. Years later I found out that he was abusing his adopted daughter from his second marriage she had him arrested 3 times the cpr said that there is nothing that I could do because he would only say no comment when questioned plus I had no surviving witnesses. (What abused victims have witnesses ) its so unfair he has basically gotten away with it.
I know how you feel same for me I don't know what to say I want to comfort you but I still don't how keep plugging away ☺️
I too went through a very similar story. im hoping to someday heal, but at the moment I haven't learned how. it would be much easier for me had my mom supported me and not stayed with my stepfather. ages 6-14 for me haunt me to this day. im now 23
Good luck with your journey to healing it does take time. Watch some KirstyTV every week there are so many lessons and wisdom to gain from their stories although not all abuse they all have universal lessons on healing. We have over 150 episodes now k xx Warren Waterman
What a gift you have given me.So much of my same story that I couldn't verbalize.
Thank you!
What an extremely intelligent and intuitive woman. I fully agree with her on the word forgiveness. I don't even use that word because forgiveness means for giving someone which means I let it go which means the person doesn't have to confront himself and doesn't have to take responsibility for the act and the pain he caused. Forgiving people does not help them at all. What will help them is that they are made to face the consequences of their actions. Only then they will reflect on it and introspect if at all. If I hold the other cheek and say it's ok then how are they ever going to question their own faults? They will not. We have to confront them and we also have to leave them. Speak out and leave. That is the only way we help them. And never go back to them and never talk to them again. Move on and be the protective mother to your own body that is our only chance at healing.
I was around 2 when the first who tried raping me was my own father,after that it was his friend who abused me sexually for years,being beaten to a pulp to kidergarden and 1st grade my mom was in court with my father,yet she didn't knew i was being beat up and let the same pedophile into the house to take care of me,eventually i found the courage and told her,i remember she was shaking realizing what happened,i begged her to never let me be alone ever. After years i have never saw him only a couple of times,but my mom never let me be near him,but when i started growing more into an adult and wanting more for my life something changed her and she strained away from me. Now i don't know but i got to the conclusion i don't even care anymore,i will not do the same mistakes as her as she did to me.
Also those 2 who abused me are now dead.
Burning in hell for ever
you are a very strong girl. i went through 8 years of abuse to from age 4. to 11
What is wrong with all of these fathers?! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THEM?? I think there should be a special place on the southside of hell for them.
I went through this... it's hard. hope I can heal from this.
\i was 5 when i was sexually assaulted and abused i am 54 now and this has ruined my life. it has took me 49 years to talk about it because i thought it was my fault, now i know i was not .How can a 5 year old fight an big man off . i have had a couple of relationships and have a daughter but the older i get the more i withdraw from men and don't trust them. i am now on anti depressants to help me cope and awaiting councelling i think i need to tell the police but i'm scared
+kimmy2541 A friend of mine didn't tell the police as he thought his father would only do it to him and was now 60. This year they found the father molesting more boys at the church and his gone to prison. In terms of your healing we also have a course on line for releasing shame and stigma & healing secrets with 2 therapists over 6 weeks all online. You can take a look at kirstyTV dot come and will see it on top right xx
+kimmy2541 i am sorry to hear. i can only hope u can come to terms eventually.
People like that must be killed with no mercy. what overwhelms me the most, is that the victims of Child abuse sometimes become maniacs and serial killers, but they NEVER kill abusors, they only kill those who are weaker than they are, why is there never a serial killer with a heart? who killes abusors!!!?? why?
I went through a similar up bringing. Only the man who did it to me was my sep father at the time. It had started when i was 5 until 14 years of age. Now i am 25. I still struggle with it, mostly because my mother won't let me heal from it. She is always constantly bringing it up. I do not have a great relationship with my mother. There is only the connection of her being my mother and i being her daughter. My real father and i aren't close either. Because when i was 4 my mom and father divorced. I struggle every day just to find peace with my self with life. Because i don't feel alive i feel trapped. I as well told my mother what was going on just like the woman in the video had said. But she didn't believe me.. she finally caught him in my bedroom butt naked standing over me. His response was, i was getting her up to make coffee.. my mom finally packed up. And we left. Even tho i am no longer in the situation and it has been years i still deal with the pain. I had nobody growing up and even tho i have a great boyfriend i still feel trapped in my own skin.. it's hard. But i keep reminding myself that everything will be okay.. so i just want to say thank you for your story..
Kaylan Flowers thanks for sharing and glad your making small steps to heal. It is a long slow process but worth it. We have over 150 stories watch a few a week and let the lessons they share perolate in you. x
KirstyTV thanks so much!
you deserve more, kaylan. i am sorry for what you went through. i wish you nothing but the best
Yah. I feel really bad for u Kaylan. I am sorry also of what u had to go through. I wish u the best life Eva! Stay strong and don't let anything stop u!
Marina Diaz thank you very much sweet angel.
Thank you for telling your story. You're very brave.
Correction: VERY inspiring and VERY helpful. Good luck to u, and peace from Pakistan.
I was abuse the same way, wow im also from Maryland, but at the hands of my father, I still don't know how to handle it
+Kathy Tiffany we also have a course on line for releasing shame and stigma & healing secrets with 2 therapists over 6 weeks all online. You can take a look at kirstyTV dot come and will see it on top right xx
I was raped and have not seek for help in anyway am 20 now and its still hurting but i am motivated to go for concealing
Praying for everyone who's been sexually abuse,praying that god Will healed you all physicAlly mentally and emotionally,,
this has to be the hardest thing I can do till this day. It will never get easy.
Absolutely so much of it. Empowered to know I am innocent. Let's bring it into the light,
My sister is mad at me because her teenage daughter is mine. I'm good to her and she likes being here. Yeah I'm 48 and she's 19. But I like the situation. It torey sister apart when I moved her in my bedroom.
Good for her .
Not thinking she has to forgive x
And its even harder when you're a brown girl. I knew I would not be believed. I felt like it was my fault. What was so wrong with me? I didn't deserve it. I decided to rise above it. My kids knew from a early age that your body is your own. No one is allowed to touch you, especially in a way that is confusing or makes you feel bad. And I will always believe you
I loved this story and sent out a mass email with the link. You know you have my support 100000000% Mxo
We appreciate the support and awareness around child abuse and incest. important topics kx
take a look at a book called " Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming your life." by Susan Forward I hope this will help some one
I was abused by a neighbor when i was about 7, never tell anyone
+Plainprincess ALways tell. ANd if the first, second, or third person doesn't listen, keep telling until they do. You can write it instead of saying it out loud & if you're an adult, it's not too late. You can tell friends, family or online support groups.
dont attack her MILLIONS stay silent you are in the wrong place for that. @Malaina Johnson
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I hope that every abuse survivor hears her words about forgiveness. Absolutely God does NOT expect a victim of sexual assault to forgive their attacker. We can say we let go of it, we choose not to dwell in it. To let it freeze us in a state of brokenness. But we let God figure out the forgive or not part with the assailants. God has compassion for victims. Child sexual assault is a serious violation of assailant's relationship with God. God does NOT treat that as other serious sins. There are serious repercussions spiritually even if the assailant is repentant. In the true faith, there is no room for any kind of privileges of service. And oversight of such a person is strong. That can not be undone. The bible is clear about all willful serious sins, God does not forgive anyone that is not deeply grieved, repentant and who turns around from such willful behavior and makes amends to those that have been effected. The assailant needs to do that. They need to set things right and undo any deceptions, lies or manipulations they have created. Also, God does not hold vulnerable victims responsible for the actions of the attacker. I'm very proud of her for realizing that. Inez. I hope you are healing. You are loved and important to God. You are still very very precious to him.
AMEN. This is perfect...YOU just taught ME a major life lesson. May God bless and keep you wherever you are in the world. Thank you truly. I cant believe this never dawned on me before. 🙏🏽✝❤
The same thing happened to me when he was drunk he sexuialy abuse me and didn't care if I was on my Periode.He tied my hands and legs and leaves me in the basement.he told me it was a punishment.Now he won't stop and I'm scared please help me
You have to tell someone tell a teacher tell a police officer you never have to see him again
Bro, do you have wattpad? I can help you with your problems. If you do my wattpad name is the same as my youtube
@@foxanaandroseanne2720 Ones which are being abused should not reach out to strangers online who could be anyone but go to their local authorities and tell
Send mail to police department
Did you ever receive help?? I hope you are okay
wow, I am speechless and so full of things to say all at the same time. What a beautiful person! I have written my story and even published it but I have not talked about it. I was looking for ways to promote my book without having to actually be involved with my own story, because even though I wrote it I still try and avoid it. This young lady said everything I have felt on so many occasions. The terror and daily anxiety of a sexually molested child is something that can only be understood by those of us who have lived under that tyranny. When every night while your sleeping the terror is there and when your rapist can come into your room and do whatever he wants, even kill you, is a terror that I can still feel if I allow myself to. I was raised insdie an incestuous home inside a cult environment and I had no contact with the outside world. They even had their own schools and doctors visits were heavily supervised. I had no idea that I could tell anyone or that anyone would care to help
Very brave thankyou for sharing your story
It is very painful when l am called pnames and are acted infront of me as a man atracted to male: boy, kids and adult men ( especially families members).
I think it's shitty that she has forgiven her abuser and not her mother who was also abused......
Her Mother was complicit in that she didn't do anything to stop it, either by leaving or by calling the police at the first report. Additionally, it's traumatizing to a child to see their mother being abused. Her Mom was an adult, in charge of caring for her child, and she failed horribly.
I think it is a very personal journey to our healing and whether we can or will forgive etc...we don't get to judge her journey, especially when someone is brave enough to be vulnerable and share their truth with us.
I have a story to tell and I am ready to talk.
Good, please tell a therapist/councilor who knows how to support you best. Then it is up to you if you decide to tell your family. I wish you well on your path to healing & happiness.
You can tell us.. We will hear it and we will support you. Don't feel frightened depressed or isolated
so sad.
I asked my physiatrist will I ever be well he said when you can sing it from the highest mountain top you maybe my mountain you think you could set that up please
Inspiring and helpful.
6:09- You described Forgiveness.
Too short this video was
Strong .
The camera person focusing in on her putting the microphone into her shirt and on her chest is rude and insensitive in regards to the very subject they are discussing.
Wow l so understand the need to work on this as it is a life or death process!!! Love myself mmmmmm
Thanks Mary Hubeek yes Love ourselves x
I would put secret camera to catch out a pervert partner or anyone else I suspected was attacking kids
Great, kudos from me
Left ear enjoyed the video
Oh bullshit. Just because you've beenolested doesn't mean you'll return the abuse. And what did her father do to her? I wanna know graphic details.
Bull
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