Queer Ultimatum Social Media Update | Alliances & Tiktok Activity
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The Ultimatum: Queer Love wrapped it's first season (the queer version is technically a spinoff) in the middle of PRIDE, but the reunion left much to be desired.....I'm here to give you all the juicy goss, who's loyal to who? Who's making a total buttface out of themselves and also who CHEATED on who before the show started?!?!?! Lets talk about it ALL because I have not yet had my fill of this amazing reality show 😋🌈🌈🌈🌈
Plus I got a cameo from Natasha and it's really cute and fun!
Tiff's "My Side of the Story" video: • My SIde Of The Story -...
Catch my recaps of all the episodes of The Ultimatum Queer Love: • The Ultimatum: Queer Love
Make sure you're subscribed cause TH-cam probably won't tell you about my 6 month cast update vid coming out in the future! / amandacostner
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If you made it to the bottom of these comments, here's a little picture of how making this video went for me:
I thought it would be out like 5 days before I finished it.....originally I wanted it to be like 6 minutes (it ended up being 20), halfway through editing is when Natasha fulfilled the cameo request and I ended up honestly focusing most of my editing energy on how awesome Natasha is lol. Oh, yah, and right when I was finishing up a 14 hr editing day, my wife was like "oh I kind of forgot about that show" and my gay little heart freaked out like "holy crap was this whole week a waste of time?1?!" then I realized I didn't care also I'm so behind on the AJLT premiere but also this was a lot of fun and my wife is the best she spent 10 minutes trying to walk it back and tell me she suddenly had a renewed interest in the show love is amazing yall thanks for reading sending you internet hugs from a chubby internet lesbian ☺️❤️
Lexi's obsession with Vanessa feels like she's using her as an emotional scapegoat for everything that went wrong with Rae.
Yeah she dragged Rae on the show and then Rae felt so pressured to propose... ugh. Vanessa didn't ruin them, they were already done like overcooked pasta.
Yeah I honestly can't stand Lexi. She is like a hs bully.
RIGHT?
Lexi was truly the most 24yo 24 year old on that show. Like she embodied what it is like to be 24 so well. You think you have your shit together, you think you know what you want, you think you know it all. So, I am not surprised she is acting different now at ALL. Shows why maybe getting married at 24 isn't the best idea LOLOL.
Spot on!!!
I know!!!
I agree, I feel like life in my 20s was a constant 180 and I think Lexi does embody that.
Amen to that!! Lol
I was shocked that Lexi was playing the prude ''oh people approach me because of my boobs, they wanna see them and touch them'', yet she has an only fans account and acts as if it's the end of the world that Rae did something physical during a break-up. Good riddance. Rae is better off without Lexi.
YES!!! So proud of Tiff for standing up for themselves. Using their platform to connect with others of us with similar traumatic experiences.
Me too. Tiff seems to be using their position to help others and I cannot commend that enough. Also just in my minor interactions with them Tiff seems like a genuine person 💯
I really loved their video and all the information they provided about forms of abuse in relationships! One thing that I’m not sure how to feel about was something Amanda the Jedi said in the last minute of her video on the show, that the support group Tiff was promoting in their video charges $40 for people to join and isn’t run by a therapist. Idk if that’s normal or not for a support group like that though.
@@JNDReacts I participated in the the online zoom call last week. Paid the $40. I can honestly say it was worth it. Not only am I now connected with others who are dealing with the same trauma, I felt it was worth it to have a group of people who genuinely care about me as a person. Tiff did a great job, and wasn't trying to "play" therapist. They basically just gave us a forum to connect and talk and share and support in a small group setting. I would pay again for a group chat, because when you're in the situation, you often feel alone and don't know how to connect with others. 3 of us are really close proximity geographically too, so it helps.
@@JNDReactsthey actually added a licensed therapist on it as well
@@bethanybarnett5104 That’s great! It sounds like when I was in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, where we had a weekly group therapy session. At the time I was misdiagnosed with BPD, but just being in a group with others who had similar experiences with mental health problems was a big help. And another comment mentioned they added a therapist to the group, so it definitely sounds like Tiff’s doing great work!
The true villain was Mildred, def the most abu$ive cast member. But they all have their issues. I think Vanessa showed to be the most open to changing her issues
The Rae Rick Roll is underrated though
She’s been my fav since episode 2 and she’s done nothing to change that!
I was pleasantly surprised by how engaging her after show content has been
Yoly just disgusts me with her take on Tiff’s side of the story. It’s like… yeah Tiff isn’t gonna make too much sense when 1) their aggressor is RIGHT THERE interrupting them before they can even get a full sentence out and 2) I’m sure Tiff has thoroughly been through the wringer with Mildred gaslighting them and making sure they don’t know the difference between heads and tails.
I loved that Sam went after Tiff and consoled her
@@mylene_bsame!
Natasha is totally the full package. She needs a show.
Also, not the Bahabuuli reference! 😂😂😂
Oh I think it will be a travesty if she doesn't reappear somewhere on reality tv!
Asking for money from a vulnerable audience…girl🤦♀️
Perfect match, maybe? 🤣 lol kidding!
More seriously, maybe LIB where she gets a real chance to connect with someone
Vanessa hands down has shown the most growth. Meanwhile, Lexie matured in reverse lol. She went from BoSsBaBe WiFeY to kandi-kid 😂 like wtf
I feel she was never mature. She sl*t shamed her partner in front of everyone and even said she was going to tell her grandfather 😂 like girl gramps does NOT care nor should he 💀
How do we get this video to massively go viral!?! Sooo many people have covered this show and NO ONE comes close to your content! The second the teachers stick and retro green chalk board came out, it went to a level that no one could touch! Thanks for another amazing video! 😊
Awe thank you Kimberly!!!!!!!! You are always so awesome with your comments and support. I have a lesbian PE coach deep inside me lol.........
I was worried for Rae. But I’m glad they are not getting married. Lexi had Rae on a very short leash and it was hard to watch how hard Rae was trying to please Lexi.
Vanessa has probably dialed it back a bit as right she should. I appreciated her honesty even when she was doing hella much. Definitely got much love for V.. ❤
How? She was only on the show to get a pass to date others. She thought she was so hot everyone wanted her but nobody wanted xander. Asoon as she realised xander wanted someone else she lost it and did a full 180 wanting xander back and wanting marriage. She wanted control. She only wanted what she had when it was someone else’s. She wanted to fool around and have xander waiting like a good little dog.
I think Lexi sees parts of herself that she hates amplified in Vanessa.
I don’t think Vanessa deserves the hate. I hope she’s doing okay.
she didn't she was a wild card and thats it. She never lied about herself or her intentions. Even if it irked others. She doesn't have to be everyones type, but she is who she is.
Yeah I'm team Vanessa. The others are mean girls.
Also I'd put Xander with Rae because I doubt Xander is team anything Yoli now.
Vanessa and Tiff were at Denver Pride over the weekend. They both seemed like they are doing great and enjoying life.
@@marig9236while I agree Vanessa doesn't deserve hate per say, what I've noticed is everyone glossing over everything Vanesa said and did during the first part of the show. As well as how twisted her attempts to get Xander back were. Its almost like all her actions pre the second half have been wiped clean and everyone seems to forget how horrid she actually was.
Especially with that painfully performative apology she gave the group citing growth we never once saw in the show, like honestly, you can only blame an edit so much. Her dad literally called her out and she still failed to acknowledge things. her treatment of Xander is also suddenly completely ignored......although Xander themselves didn't help the situation lol. Utter nonsense!
Don't get me wrong. Vanessa definitely got overshadowed by other's bad deeds but to minimise them to the degree people seem to be is baffling to me
@emanx222 This is the right take! Honestly, I think everyone took a hugeeee corrective swing when it comes to Vanessa.
She wasn't "the worst" but she was also not great......people need to learn the nuance of things.
It bothers me to see her completely absolved......
Not ONLY is this video well made, i already love that you had a meme in there from BAAHUBALI, which is an Indian film, i was really pleasantly surprised to see it-
Yesssss!!!! I was hoping someone would notice that! Baahubali is one of my favorite movies/series! I watch it every couple of months because it helps with my Hindi and also I can rewatch epic movies like that over and over.
@@AmandaCostner you're learning Hindi? That's so cool! I'm indian, so if you ever need any movie/tv series reccomendations for hindi, I'd be happy to help!
@@TY-dk2kw thank you! Yes my initial desire was to learn Gujarati but there is just no tools out there for that. So I’m at a basic leaning level with Hindi. If you have any young childrens programing to recommend that would be great. I have found the things I just stumble across are on Yt and Netflix are like half English half Hindi. Glad to connect and thank you!
The Vanessa situation came outta nowhere legit blinked and Lexi was blowing up
Do you edit these or does some else? Whoever it is needs a BREAK.😂 This is so much work... It's great
I edit them all myself! Thank you!
@@AmandaCostner lmao did it take you 800,000 hours? Lol
@@et5895 haha it takes roughly an hour for a minute of edited footage (sometimes less or more). I probably spent 40 hrs including filming on this video. Ideally it would be less but I’m one of those people who gets lost in the details so I always take longer than I wish 😩
@@AmandaCostnerwow! The effort really shows though, amazing video, and the editing nails every joke. Thank you for your hard work for us to enjoy ❤
@@AmandaCostneryou’re amazing. I just decided to get serious about starting a youtube video and have been really paying attention to stuff like this now. So I appreciate you so much and enjoy your style. What editing software do you use?
Is anyone talking about how the editor is Soo hilarious 😅😅😅😅 like I love the energy and how she is exposing people
Thank you!
The army coming out for Vanessa clip had be cackling. Love your editing! 😂
Rosie being one of us is the one thing I didn't know I need in life.
In terms of the Lexi criticism: I just don’t see how so many people seem to think being unapologetically ambitious/type A and making sexy/lighthearted social media posts cancel each other out. People are people and they have many sides. No hate, it’s just giving a “you cant be hot *and* smart” vibe to me.
I think a lot of the criticism of Lexi is not over that, it is more over her going in hard about Vanessa being here for the wrong reasons all the while she is an influencer with hundreds of thousands of followers... also not to mention Lexi policing Vanessa's own emotions and wants. There is no "right" or "wrong" reason to be on a reality TV show.
This was very well said which I shouldn't be surprised from a fellow 'Amanda' 😉
@@AmandaCostner Amanda's unite! 🤝
6 mins in... This video is awesome! Love the Game of Thrones style rivals
Thanks for the juicy update 😂🙏
Any time!!!!!!!!!!!
I just love your videos soooo much. Thanks for taking so much time makking these wonderful video's, the editing is great as always!
Lexi got a type 👀👀 no shade just seeing she might not be as moved on as she saying
Lol
Her type is submissive lol.
I HAVE BEEN DYING TO TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT THIS SHOW
Thank you for the work you put into this video haha. Subscribed!
I think Vanessa was an example of a person just absolutely stupid and blind to social cues, but not malicious.
The marvel/GoT music in the Lexi Vanessa war 🤣🤣🤣
Lord this was so entertaining lol thank you 🙏🏻 😂❤
🙏!!!!
Your video style and energy is super entertaining! Looking forward to the 1/2 year update!
Love the editing. The drinking water clip is hilarious! Appreciate the sensitivity of the serious stuff. Subscribed.
Just found you and between your opinion and the edits, I'm hooked.
Thank you!!!!!!
Girl this video is gold and you’re super funny! I love you and your content!!! ❤
Thank you!!!!
Lexi is her type. Rosie’s exes all had b👀🐝s, including Madonna😁😁😁
Oh wow that totally makes sense lol. Wasn't Rosie dating a young tiktoker at some point? Maybe they're still together....
Lexi is a very hot 20 something person..
She should keep on doing her 20s to the fullest.
Oh totally agree 💯
As an Indian, the bahubaali reference cracked me up! 🤣🤣
Thank the lesbian Goddess, this is the video I needed 🙏🏻🙌🏻
this was my favorite video in the ultimatum queer love industrial complex by far, looking forward to the updates!
Love your videos, Amanda
Like Why does Mildred look totally different from the show on the show? She literally looks middle-aged and in the TikTok she looks younger. These violent, narcissist, can Shapeshift I swear.
I'm team Vanessa and Natasha. Vanessa was the most honest and totally misunderstood.
Honestly, I don’t know why people were attacking Vanessa so hard and not Mildred 💀
I really wanna know why no one is acknowledgeding that in a separate recent podcast Mal essentially said Vanessa held views that were super problematic and *that* is why she stopped dating Vanessa and part of why Lexi couldn’t believe Rae would want to date her. Mal said she wants to protect queerhood so she won’t say exactly what Vanessa’s views were and what she said, but it’s clear it was some fucked up shit. Did no one listen to the interview or are y’all all ignoring it on purpose and making excuses for a white woman as usual???
Is it a podcast called “Cool cool cool”? I googled it and that’s what came up but haven’t yet listened to it. I did find an article where Mal said their ideologies didn’t line up but I’m honestly not sure what’s going on. So far all I’ve seen is Lexi’s TikTok which I wasn’t sure what that was alluding to. I will listen to the podcast though thanks for the heads up.
I love your video edits so much.
All the lols you’re hella good at this
Mal would probably be team Vanessa easily if not for sharing the experience with Lexi.
Finally someone with a good take on the show
Yoli knows it has nothing to do with her offering water ..its everything she did before that XD like what.
I’ve never laughed in a TH-cam video like this in a while
She’s been delivering hardcore with the Ultimatum!!
Great video, you are hilarious! Love from the uk 🇬🇧
I only wonder whether if Mal had cheated she would make that statement about Yoly falling in love easily, and more importantly, that Yoly would not clap back or retort. Dunno.
It could be bull. Apparently it wasn't a tweet it was maybe a reply to a tiktok or something?.....I think it has legs because it made no sense that Mal is this amazing hot catch, and Mal is chasing Yoly who is falling for Xander. I also feel like Mal would not be paling around with Yoly the way they are after the show if Yoly was out here telling lies about their relationship. So I am inclined to believe it. Although who knows for sure......
@@AmandaCostner yeah, you could be right. I haven’t followed any of the castmates stories irl after the show so I really couldn’t say.
Ps: what editing software do you use? Teach me?
@AmandaCostner Mal did leave the comment on Yoly's tiktok when Yoly did a QA on the show and discussed Mal cheating. If Mal cheated to the point where yoly needed therapy to continue the relationship it seems like she isn't that great of a catch 🫢
I thoroughly enjoyed this compilation and commentary. Thank you for sharing
Yeah, "I get a lot of people thanking me for sharing my story" essentially 'I get a lot of people thanking me for trying to normalize being a perpetrator' and I bet you.. those are other perpetrators! Not people you want to associate with and not people who give you a moral ground to stand on 🤦♀️🙄
So one post about the cheating thing that I saw on Reddit was that Mal commented on Yoly’s video about the cheating and also confirmed that it happened, and Yoly replied to the comment saying, “Hi Mal.” I can’t remember if what I saw was a link to the comments or a screenshot of them. Obviously a screenshot could be faked. I’m not on TikTok and idk if that video is still up for someone to check the comments.
I think you're correct. I saw some stuff about it being a reply as well, so I may have been wrong in thinking it was a tweet!
I also think it makes Mal comments about yoly 100% invalid about her falling for anyone, bc she did that herself. So projection really. No to mention Mal was VERY eager to date multiple ppl at first... almost like she wasn't more eager to leave the show and just marry yoly 😂
Omg Lexi looks like Gabby Hannah!
I love Natasha but idk how I feel about her charging people for advice
Getting her baggggggg. Ppl who take pay random for advice should have their own show cause there must be some pathology there.
Thanks for the update!
Lorri!!!!!!! Thank you for your support and for watching! Hope you and your wife are well ☺️❤️
And THANK YOU FOR THE SUPER!!!!!!!!!! 🌟 🙏🌈
charting the alliances 😹 this type of mess makes me so proud to be one of them queers
As a capricorn like lexi I can say that I see a lot of myself in her. We can be mature, driven, insightful, stubborn, etc when we need to be but we can also be fun, light hearted, etc when we want to be. But we take our love lives very seriously bc we have strict standards for ourselves and our partners. Lexi knows who she is and what she wants.
I have been team Vanessa from the beginning. She's so out going and quirky I like that. Sometimes
Good take on the sitch.
Lexi was too much for me and as another women with large b o o b s, she wore the worse dresses and shirts that did not flatter her chest!
Thank you for doing the lords work 😂
Thank you for this 🙌
Cannot. Stand. Lexi! She comes off as self-righteous and narcissistic. Ugh, NOT a stan at all. Don't like Vanessa either. Team Mal, haha.
Yes Natasha !
Yeah Rosie love her "hair" lmao
Bahahaha honestly I was thinking the same thing. Like Rosie is just being thirsty 💯
Can't blame her for shooting her shot I guess lmao
At first I was like "get her girl" on Lexi but it became too much.
At the 8:35 mark, Mal you know you are the hottest thing out there when Ruby Rose slides in your DM's!
I can’t stand lexi, Mildred and yoly
Mal didnt cheat but her ex has problems
I AGREEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!! Lexi is SHADY 😂🤣ALSO the internet was dragging VANESSA! I BET YOU ANYONE WHO DIDN'T WATCH THE ACTUAL SHOW AND WENT BY CUTS AND CLIPS OF THE SHOW FROM TIK TOK OR TH-cam HAS FOUND THEMSELVES HATING.
VANESSA IS VANILLA AF, BUT I LOVE HER!!!!!!!!!
LIKE A CLASSIC 2000s era of existence.
😂
Lexi is just attention seeking once! Yoly is exhausting and an odd sod. Mal is ❤hottttttt, and yeah the other kids are just nje🤣😂😅
You know I didn't like Vanessa but honestly I don't think they were actually that different like they had bad first impressions and just never decided to look past
I think Vanessa was being treated unfairly by some of the cast members and I hope that she realizes that the way she was being treated was not her fault.
I think lexi is a hypocrit because she was flipping out about how she thought Vanessa was there for the wrong reasons..fame etc but after the show she's doing only fans etc soooo??
Actually Vanessa is totally fine for me now
I have no desire to hear Tiff's or Mildred's point of view on anything. They both seemed really toxic and not ready to be in any sort of relationship with anyone.
Can't believe Sam is still with Aussie..
Not a fan of that. My impression was that Sam was way too cool for that entire show and that person. I don't get it. Makes me think Sam is f'd up some way that doesn't come across. Like why?? Control perhaps?
😂😂😂
Tiff was being abused. I know you don't want to hear this but victims don't come across as meek, sweet and perfect. You don't have to listen to their stories, just literally watch the show and it's all there.
@@ericagreene1579 I'm not for bashing victims but Tiff was abusive to Sam in my opinion. That's why I said they BOTH seem really toxic and not ready to be in a relationship. Both probably need anger management and Hella therapy.
@@j.c.9784she was which is definitely a reflection of how she was with Mildred. I don’t know why everyone m thinks that Tiff is the only victim. She is clearly abusive as well, but people only acknowledge the physical as abuse. It’s a shame.
I CAN NOT AGREE MORE
15:18 netflix FOR SURE knew about the charges. They really deep dive on the cast members and a background check is one of the first steps. I mean, they run std checks on cast members.
The edits 😂😂😂😂
Me @1:05 😭😂😂
I can't stand Lexi she's full of it. Just let it go, leave Vanessa alone.
Bahubali! 😂❤🇮🇳
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I’m team MESSY 😂
Judge away!! I’m also like who’s this with Lexi
Why is the thumbnail about mal?
I really liked Lexi on the show, but not a fan of Lexi on TikTok
NATASHA
I had a girl crush on Natasha and do did my bae lol 😍😍
I loves femmes but Natasha 🤔
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Am I the only one that thinks Tiff is not the angel and victim she is presenting herself to be? I understand she's been a victim of physical violence and all but she refused to leave. Like... just leave? Why keep going if that is not good for either of you. She knew, even acknowledged it on the show and even after the point where it got to physical violence she decided to stay. I'm sorry but Tiff is not 100% the victim, she needs to own some of the blame too.
Tiff is 100% the victim of DV. I will not argue they displayed toxic behavior and no doubt they are an imperfect human. However I do not agree with victim blaming. In addition, Tiff did leave after the violence occurred in front of Mildred’s son. Of course we all wish people in these situations would leave sooner but it is not always easy to leave.
I would do some reading, like from NCADV's article on "Why Do Victims Stay?". This comment is harmful and ignorant to DV victims.
@@frozenraspberries1552 I understand my comment can be harmful for those that just read things without giving it some thought, but it is not ignorant. My comment is specifically directed to the Tiff and Mildred's relationship. I never said Tiff wasn't the victim. What I'm trying to say is that a victim can also be an abuser, Mildred has a special needs son and she is also hotheaded. Having Tiff around, especially in the same house and under constant conflict is not harmful to anyone else other than Tiff ? Let's make the analogy of poking a tiger with a stick, eventually that tiger will get pissed and bite. Do you continue to poke the tiger or do you choose to leave for not only your own wellbeing but also for the tiger and her cub too ?
She did leave for everyone's protection. It not easy to leave an abusive relationship and regardless of intent it is harmful to say "why not just leave?" To a victim of domestic violence
You have obviously not been around covert narcissists. What an ignorant comment.
your commentary is too loud. Just sayin'. We're not 13 year olds
Im not following tiktoks im following you QUEEN. Give us all the info. True fan🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 ALSO GIRL YOU ADDED A CLIP FROM BAHUBALI. Yassssss😂
☺️🙏🙏🙏 Wow thank you so much for the props!!!!! Yes Baahubali came immediately to my mind when I thought about how we would all create an army to protect Natasha! Also on a side note, I particularly love the scene in the first movie where he's ascending the waterfall and the way he dances for his love ❤️❤️🔥
You the best for this