getting my life together after a long trip + life update

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  • @hollymariereads
    @hollymariereads ปีที่แล้ว +227

    I appreciate when you share both your light and shadows, Fran. You always lift my spirits...and yes, we want to know and I really feel it's so special the way you let us in. My dad had dementia, too. Sending my heart ❤

    • @FranMeneses
      @FranMeneses  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      thank you Holly Marie!

  • @davidwave4
    @davidwave4 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    I'm so sorry about your dad. Losing a parent--even one you've had a complicated relationship with--is really hard. I'm glad you're having the opportunity to have some kind of positive relationship with him before he passes though.

  • @katydidbags4785
    @katydidbags4785 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s so hard to have to watch a loved one go through dementia. I lost my Papi in 2019 due to Alzheimer’s he was only 63 when it passed and it broke my heart into a million pieces. He meant the world to me! And it hurts to know that he never got to know my two daughters. I know they would have loved him so much. It’s wonderful that you were able to share your emotional journey and don’t feel bad about doing so. Sending love and light! You will be able to get through this.

  • @cariiinen
    @cariiinen ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tip for cheaper framing:
    Custom framing is very expensive, but if your pictures are standard-sizes, you can get much cheaper ready-made frames in store. If you make your own art, it's definitely worth it to choose paper sizes that fit standard frames. :)

  • @brandywine9830
    @brandywine9830 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I like to think that on your father's journey he is able to reveal that part of himself that was hidden inside and is able to share in this window of time his love and humor (most importantly for you to see and share it with him). I think of it as a reveal that morphs before the final stage, and I hope that you know it was always in there inside him. He perhaps just never knew or let himself express it due to his blockers that perhaps only lifted when his brain shifted. I don't know. I'm no expert, but I'm glad you're here, and I'm glad you created a world and community through your art. 🥰

  • @HooliganMomma
    @HooliganMomma ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Your Videos are ALWAYS refreshing...we love knowing how you're doing. I'm so sorry about your Dad's diagnosis but at the same time..this is a gift for you..his child. My Dad has dementia for about 6 years..although I believe he had it longer...eventually he passed but we have the best stories of his behavior..both good and bad and very funny...and we all connected with with him in our own personal ways...I'm glad you're having this experience with your Dad..this was his life path..and yours is yours..and every day we choose how we want to see our situations!!! Love you Fran!!! xo

  • @andycoeto1103
    @andycoeto1103 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fran 🥺 Una amiga me dijo un día, estudiaste diseño y cosas artísticas porque tu clan familiar necesitaba expresar todo lo que no ha podido, creo que eso es lo más complicado de ver porque amamos crear.
    Creo que lo que intento decirte es que eso que me dijo mi amiga, me hace pensar que ahora que tu padre está expresándote todo eso que tal vez no podía, tu expresividad está como reajustandose, o no shé, fue en lo primero que pensé cuando te escuché, espero que fuera de ese duelo, estés bien, un abrazo nena.

    • @macakuaya
      @macakuaya ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Pensé en lo mismo, creo que es una relación que sanará a través del arte

  • @starlightarcher1534
    @starlightarcher1534 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My grandmother had dementia for the last 10 years before she died in 2020. She got worse along the years and she lived with my family while we cared for her (mostly my dad), she forgot who people were, lost her ability to form sentences, got angry out of frustration at not being able to articulate herself or understand things. She was bedridden the last few years, but she would have brief moments of lucidity where she would say she loves us or ask about her siblings and kids. It's hard to witness and deal with, and for you not having a good relationship with him before is so conflicting. You're allowed to feel complicated about it, and confused about how to feel. You have a very kind heart and I hope you find clarity and peace with this. I know how hard it can be.

  • @Pauvalbe
    @Pauvalbe ปีที่แล้ว +45

    La vida es dulce y triste a la vez. Mi abuelo murió de Alzheimer y entiendo cada palabra que transmites. La mejor etapa de la relación con él fue justamente la misma que tú. Es duro Fran, pero la vida te dio otra oportunidad de juntarte con él y cerrar un vínculo como siempre debe ser con profundo amor y cariño. La vida nos da lecciones tristes pero esperanzadoras a la vez ❤

    • @LilSmith
      @LilSmith ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutamente de acuerdo con tu comentario

  • @peppaska
    @peppaska ปีที่แล้ว

    I suddenly lost my dad 4 months ago because of cancer, I feel you, girl.
    This moment will shape our future selves in a way we cannot predict, a friend of mine told me it's like a revolution and I hope, after all the sadness and this emotional black hole, we will both get a bit of peace. Big hug!

  • @justathumb
    @justathumb ปีที่แล้ว

    my partner's mum has frontotemporal dementia, which means her speech went first, so it's even harder to tell how confused she is 😞 it's wonderful that any kind of positive thing could have come out of it for you, you will have something good to remember, it's ok to appreciate that ❤️

  • @puttheyarndown
    @puttheyarndown ปีที่แล้ว

    Thinking of you through this journey! My abusive father had a similar change with dementia and we built a new relationship during his time with it that I never imagined possible. He has since passed away and I’m still growing through my grief daily.

  • @coilbliss
    @coilbliss ปีที่แล้ว

    My dad also had dementia, his change of personality was difficult. My experience was the opposite of yours. We were very close. He was very affectionate, and always supportive/ loving my entire life until dementia set in. Unfortunately I realized 6 years ago that he was forgetting things, not everyone (family members) experienced it. Then covid happened and we could not be together. His body and mind declined a lot during this time. When I was able to see him after covid restrictions were lifted he was so different. I had to accept that he would never be the same. I missed him every time I was with him. He was seldom capable of giving comfort or support during the last 3 years of his life, but there were a few moments when he was affectionate. It was emotional. You mourn the person they were if you were close and it's very strange because you do not know how to express it to people. Fran, you are not alone in having difficulty processing it. I think your dad being softer may be a blessing for you and your family. In Dec. of 2022 my dad passed. I think of him so often. I also know the dementia took so much of him. I will forever miss the father that I had before the dementia took hold. Fran, maybe you can hold this softer version of your dad in your heart and mind. Thanks for sharing.

  • @thinnmarmoody
    @thinnmarmoody ปีที่แล้ว

    The really nice moments you had with your dad amidst this tragedy is a blessing in disguise/silver lining. Whatever time left God has given to spend with loved ones who are ebbing away, cherish those moments. It is a gift.

  • @Elinkettu
    @Elinkettu ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my god Fran, thank you so much for sharing this life update with us and for being so vulnerable

  • @mbuck5044
    @mbuck5044 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condolences for your loss. I'm glad to see you vlogging again. Your vlogs, along with the choice of music, are very serene.

  • @noovernightguests
    @noovernightguests 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have to say, I understand that your channel isn't just content, it is a record of your experiences. So talking about things that are difficult to talk about is ok. I am so sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis and I am glad that you and he have this moment to re-connect. It'll be ok Fran. ❤❤

  • @nualunatic2560
    @nualunatic2560 ปีที่แล้ว

    I completely understand what you are talking about - my grandma was very egotistical and harsh and self-absorbed and after the alzheimers kicked in she became much nicer and gave us the chance to see her as a more complex person - we think the alzheimers "ate" the part of the brain that held the trauma that made her the way she was - it is not easy, but hopefully this time will have its nice moments as well ❤

  • @eringriffis349
    @eringriffis349 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your assortment of dining chairs! They all work so well together!

  • @saravalero7876
    @saravalero7876 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I needed something significative enough to be able to have a nice day....and then you upload a new video ✨ Thank you so much, Fran! 🌷🐈💕

  • @gabrielaramirez9466
    @gabrielaramirez9466 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Te entiendo tanto Fran, mi abuelo murió hace dos años, también tenía demencia, pero al él, por el contrario, le cambio el comportamiento para peor, fueron años muy duros y difíciles para mí mientras él enfrentaba su enfermedad. Te mando mucho amor y mucha fuerza

  • @TheJemmaGrl
    @TheJemmaGrl ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm SO proud of you for fixing the lamp yourself!
    On the parent note: I can't watch the rest of the video - it's difficult for me. But, my heart is with you regarding your Father. Both of my parents passed at the end of 2020 - about 6 weeks apart. My Dad and I did not have a great relationship. We didn't know he would die - it sort of happened suddenly. I mourn that relationship we didn't get to have because he was not a happy person. He could be very unkind to me - and my Mom. I know that it was a product of a childhood that he didn't choose - and that as an adult his coping mechanism is what killed him (drinking) - that he could've chosen to get help but didn't...and the result of that is a missed opportunity to have a healthy, loving relationship. It's kind of weird because I mourn my parents differently. I mourn my Mom's presence - because she was...my Mom. The best Mom. I miss her everyday. But I miss the *possibilities* my Dad and I lost when he died. That there is no recovery for him to have - that will repair our relationship. It's just so weird. It's weird to be a child with a dying parent. I got one good day with my Mom before she became *not* my Mom anymore (she had brain cancer). It was tough to watch that deterioration happen over a mere two weeks - from the time we found out to the time she passed.
    Do whatever you can - for you. It's going to be tough. But - you've got this. You can do it. You can survive through to the other side

  • @aureliefernandez7633
    @aureliefernandez7633 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I'm crying rn, so much.
    I'm really touched that you share your struggles with us. It's been a few years since I've followed you and you have this powerful way to share your emotions with such grace, emotional intelligence. Tbh, I'm still amazed by this ability to be vulnerable but in a way so beautiful.
    It's overwhelming to be one of your followers. But in a good way. You keep reminding me how life is complexe, hard but also so beautiful, so raw. I feel so human after watching you.
    You're really a blessing to TH-cam.
    Keep being your true self. Our blessing.❤
    I send you all the strength needed and all my thoughts.
    Thank you for Fran❤

    • @voyance4elle
      @voyance4elle ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow you describe it so well "You keep reminding me how life is complexe, hard but also so beautiful, so raw. I feel so human after watching you." These words are so exact! I hope Fran reads your comment...

  • @acflnnr
    @acflnnr ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I really appreciate your discussion of dementia and your relationship with your dad. I haven't heard of many young people discuss this topic (we usually think of our grandparents having dementia). I'm so sorry for this difficult chapter in your life.

  • @endlessmusic95
    @endlessmusic95 ปีที่แล้ว

    You’re so brave for sharing your journey!! It’s hard having a family member with dementia, my grandfather had it and it was super hard but the beautiful part about life is we were all able to be there for him. Stay strong and I wish you and your family many Amazon g moments with your father. 🫶🏻

  • @AnaBela1990
    @AnaBela1990 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    oh, man, never a dull moment with the dichotomy of life’s offerings
    lately i’ve been thinking the only thing i need to master in life is how to embrace it all as it comes while i take care of myself so i am be able to navigate through it to the best of my capacities
    i admire how you cultivate this in you and try to make sense and meaning of it all
    one step at a time, right? some experiences we’re given gather depth and meaning over long periods of time, we need to be patient
    on a lighter note, your blue shorts pants gave me life, i need my own pair now and a dance off session:)
    hug, thank you for sharing

  • @MrsQuam
    @MrsQuam ปีที่แล้ว

    You expressed what you’re going through so eloquently. I wish i could give you a hug!

  • @Laalaalaa10
    @Laalaalaa10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry you’re going through that but also it’s hard that at the same time I’m glad you’re able to have a positive time with him.

  • @amandaamanda26117
    @amandaamanda26117 ปีที่แล้ว

    Gracias Fran por tu vulnerabilidad, gracias por mostrarte tan honesta y hablar tan abiertamente de salud mental. Admiro tu coraje y fuerza. Un abrazo para ti y tu familia.

  • @ecembayrak156
    @ecembayrak156 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Fran. I have the same relationship with my father. I feel you ❤

  • @rofarmer_studio
    @rofarmer_studio ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Woah the reference option on procreate is a hot tip I also didn’t know about that! I love your poster collection, Miro is one of my favourites, as well as Moomin, Tove Jansson is such an inspiring illustrator :-)

  • @roseodonovan6979
    @roseodonovan6979 ปีที่แล้ว

    That's very kind and brave of you to share your nuanced experience; I'm sure sharing your story will help someone else feel seen. Dementia/Alzheimer's is really difficult to witness and I am amazed that you are still making time to care for yourself. I hope you are celebrating these wins both big and small because you deserve to be proud! You're a lovely human being and I hope things get easier for you soon! 💙

  • @katrinadechanes33
    @katrinadechanes33 ปีที่แล้ว

    Gracias, gracias, gracias. Estoy en un proceso con algunos puntos en común con lo que te pasa con tu papá, y me hace bien escucharte. Gracias.

  • @karinavillouta6984
    @karinavillouta6984 ปีที่แล้ว

    Gracias por compartir, debe ser muy duro lo que estás viviendo y también expresarlo, un abrazo enorme a la distancia. En otro tema, siempre me siento incómoda cuando voy a una peluquería y quiero leer, como si fuese como irrespetuoso y nada que ver, también lo aprecio cuando no les molesta. gracias por retomar el podcast con Edo a todo esto! los echaba de menos

  • @amoraslucha
    @amoraslucha ปีที่แล้ว

    me encantan tus subtitulos en espanol con contenido extra juju. gracias por compartir tu vida con nosotr@es!!

  • @liesls.projects
    @liesls.projects ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My grandmother had dementia and it really resonated with me when you talked about it being the “relatives disease”. It is incredibly hard for those around the person with dementia. One thing my mom really struggled with was acquaintances who knew the person my grandmother was before who didn’t understand that she was someone else afterwards. Typing this out I’m not sure it’s comforting in the least but I hope you can feel that you are less alone in this. Thinking of you ❤

  • @alejandrinaromo8458
    @alejandrinaromo8458 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fran ..tienes q saber q tus videos me acompañan tooodos los días es una forma de salir de mi mente x q tengo ansiedad e hipocondria y tengo miedo la mayor parte del tiempo , pero el ver tus videos me reconforta ...sin duda me han ayudado a salir adelante ..
    2..mi tía la persona q me crío murió de Alzheimer yo la cuide durante su proceso y se lo q se siente aún lidiando con mi problema si fue una etapa muy dura ..pero vivo día a día y como te platico tus videos me salvan muchas veces ❤ gracias ❤ .te mando un abrazo y un beso 💋 graciass ❤.

  • @azzuparis
    @azzuparis ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m sending you so much love and a very big hug ❤

  • @oddanneout
    @oddanneout ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing the many colors of life. Sending light to you, your Papa and family! ❤️

  • @fremont111
    @fremont111 ปีที่แล้ว

    So sorry to hear about the emotional turmoil you are going through and your dad's diagnosis ❤

  • @raches4264
    @raches4264 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I know dementia is very difficult. Please take care of yourself xx

  • @Emmyradrad
    @Emmyradrad ปีที่แล้ว

    My grandad had dementia. He's no longer with us, sadly. My boyfriend's grandad has dementia. it's so difficult to deal with, upmost respect to you, lovely

  • @msellenandrea
    @msellenandrea ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I'm so sorry about your dad. I had a similar experience with my dad. He stopped drinking when he got cancer for the second time, and he changed so much, he turned into a kind and respectful man and the dad I always wished I had (and knew was in there somewhere). I had that dad for 1.5 years before he died. It is super bittersweet and very hard. Sending you so much love 💖

  • @danielagrieco9493
    @danielagrieco9493 ปีที่แล้ว

    Gracias por compartir por lo que estás atravesando Fran ❤ te mando un abrazo fuerte desde Argentina 🫶

  • @TracieWho
    @TracieWho ปีที่แล้ว

    I am so sorry that you have to go through this. My mother had multiple types of dementia and it was heartbreaking. Only those how have really dealt with it can truly know what it means to go through it. A lot of people have suffered the loss of a parent, which is always sad. But to have dementia thrown into the mix is a whole different level of pain. Yes, self-care is vital for you, and you seem to be doing the best you can do. So kudos to you. You will never forget the pain of this time or the memories. They will be with you always. But to be there with your father and allow him a closeness you have never shared with him puts meaning into your pain. The worst pain is always the pain of regrets and someday you will be able to cherish this time with him unclouded by regrets. I have many because we struggled to understand why Mom would do and say the things she did. I read several books on it, and finally the understanding set in. My regret is that it took longer for me to get to the understanding than it should have. It was a traumatizing time for all of us until the day she died. Then I was so grateful that she knew peace for the first time in a few years. What I do cherish is that I was by her side in life and in death. And when I think of her, it's the happy memories we had together. Healing thoughts and cyber hugs to you.

  • @rodo6795
    @rodo6795 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tengo un par de recuerdos tiernos y divertidos con mi abuelo, y fueron justo después de empezar su demencia. Previo a eso siempre fue un hombre muy estricto y reservado. Te mando un abrazo Fran, gracias por compartir esta historia con nosotres. ❤

  • @deborahmeyers551
    @deborahmeyers551 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awe Fran I totally get how you are feeling right now thank you for sharing your heart here Fran here for you my lovely thank you for reminding us about rest and looking after ourselves because that's important sooooo important too❤

  • @misscaos3762
    @misscaos3762 ปีที่แล้ว

    Te admiro por tu arte, tu creatividad y dedicación, te respeto por tu fortaleza y por la determinación de mostrarte real con el mundo. Tus virtudes hacen mejor a TH-cam. Gracias por compartir tu intimidad y cómo es que te sientes en este momento, eres luz en la vida de tu padre y tu luz llega a nosotros. Gracias por enseñarnos a transformar algo inefable en motivos para agradecer la vida. Me tomo la confianza de mandarte un abrazo.

  • @sodurchap
    @sodurchap ปีที่แล้ว

    Suis super contente que Gaëlle soit dans ce format de vidéo. Merci ❤

  • @aledecalisto
    @aledecalisto ปีที่แล้ว

    Un abrazo muy grande y apretado Fran 🌺 gracias por compartir esto

  • @marianaromero4317
    @marianaromero4317 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lamento que estes pasando por ese proceso con tu padre, deseo que su vínculo logre sanar heridas y que tu corazón pronto encuentre refugio... eres maravillosa y estoy agradecida de que compartas tu humanidad tan vulnerable y real. No dejes de compartir tu talento tus colores y maravillosas ilustraciones que hacen de este mundo un lugar maravilloso. Te envío un abrazo

  • @emmarussellstudio
    @emmarussellstudio ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Wow I am so sorry about your dad, Fran! In the midst of the pain you’re sharing I feel so deeply for you and also admire the fact that you will get to have this beautiful memory with him that you didn’t get to experience before early in both of your lives. As always, so happy to see you in this space and see glimpses of your life!

  • @ailenparodi
    @ailenparodi ปีที่แล้ว

    Gracias Fran por compartir💖

  • @ariannecuarez3436
    @ariannecuarez3436 ปีที่แล้ว

    Un abrazo para ti, Fran ❤

  • @natasharukavina4761
    @natasharukavina4761 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi Fran :) in the aftermath of my father's similar illness and his passing I came across a quote I carry with me all the time: "what does gratitude feel like? ....like the touch of a parent, when you only have one left" ....I don't remember where it's from or by whom I scribbled it down and I dedicated to my Father. Wishing you all the best, strength, courage and time to heal ❤!!!

  • @tiffanydeg4262
    @tiffanydeg4262 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank u for sharing ❤ sending you a big hug🤗

  • @friend2allukuk
    @friend2allukuk ปีที่แล้ว

    Sending you lots of love xx

  • @federubiowenk2859
    @federubiowenk2859 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Podes trauma dump todo lo que quieras Fran. Escucharte hablar de las cosas difíciles ayuda mucho. Yo también he estado con depresión y escucharte hablar de ello me sirvió para entender muchas cosas que me pasaban a mi. Igual que toda tu trayectoria artística

  • @BarbaraBoholm
    @BarbaraBoholm ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dear Fran,we love you just the way you are and we are all here for you as your safety net. I am so sorry about your dad,i am going through the same thing with my dying mother at the moment. Sending you warm hugs!!! Continue to be you, love your big heart and humor and warmth!!!

  • @trish8653
    @trish8653 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fran, Your story about your Dad is so familiar to me. After years of not seeing my Mom I did go when I learned she had Dementia. I was so thankful I did because not even 6 months later she passed away. I won't say she changed, but with the disease her edges were softer. But you're right there is a sense of mortality present there. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @mize4620
    @mize4620 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ese "abraza a tus padres" del final es muy fuerte, aprecio siempre que seas tan abierta 💌 un abrazo siempre .⁠。⁠*⁠♡

  • @hydronicrocker
    @hydronicrocker ปีที่แล้ว

    I spotted NOTION! Didn't know you used it, looks like you have a lot of things going on in it. Curious how you are using it!

  • @kseniav586
    @kseniav586 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love your channel and so sorry to hear about your dad's illness. Grief is complicated and not fun at all. I hope you find a way to keep strength in these trying times. Thanks for being open about your experience and sharing this!

  • @cariiinen
    @cariiinen ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "There's no polite way of bringing up mental health or tough life situations".
    So true, unfortunately! Thank you for playing a part in changing that.

  • @mividaconperro7034
    @mividaconperro7034 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I had a dificult relation with muy father too. He has a ver y strong caracter. But sometimes illness turns relations. We had the oportunity to make peace, and, for me, that is priceless.

  • @ilared
    @ilared ปีที่แล้ว +1

    FYI, if it helps Hitomi Mochizuki tells something similar about her mother and Alzheimer and their relationship.

  • @hanner_beananner2438
    @hanner_beananner2438 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    sending a lot of love your way, Fran. You are so brave and I appreciate and respect how much you trust us to tell us these hard parts of your life. As someone who's had complicated relationships with their parents/grandparents, I understand what you mean. It's so incredibly soul crushing. I wish you and your family so much luck and love. Make sure to be extra kind to yourself. You deserve it ❤

  • @404ks
    @404ks ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Fran,
    Im writing from Germany, havent had any contact with my father for over 6 years and all of a sudden he came back into my life just before christmas last year with multiple uncurable cancer diagnoses well-knowing that he is going to pass away in the near future. I understand how difficult it is to develop a relationship with someone in that situation. Obviously his sicknesses have taken a massive toll on him and his mental state. Im also getting to know him again and losing him again, so I really understand how you feel. Its heartbreaking and horrible and juggling personal and professional life is such a struggle. I really hope you can find a way to make a few memories that can last, even if its just glimpses of something you could never have with him before. If theres any anger or sadness connected with him because he couldnt be there for you in your past my counsellor recommended writing a virtual letter to him (never sending it or letitng him know) and then reading through it again to find out what you can give to yourself these days and how you can provide yourself with everything now - as a grown woman - that he couldnt help you with back then. I guess it can be very empowering to try. Im sending you a virtual hug, you're not alone.

  • @pauli_joy
    @pauli_joy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I know it isn't easy,but I hope you know that there are people(me especially) who find comfort when you talk about sad things. It can be really comforting hearing someone just being real with their feelings and not just focusing on the happy bits of their life. Your videos are actually the only things comforting me right now since most of the TH-camrs I subscribe to aren't as real. That isn't to say you should only post sad stuff,but that I hope you know that showing the real sides of you isn't burdening your audience. Thank you for being gaining the courage to be real with us.

  • @DenisseViveross
    @DenisseViveross ปีที่แล้ว

    Aprecio que tengan subtítulos en español 🪴🥺🥺

  • @TheBrownSatchel
    @TheBrownSatchel ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My heart goes out to you and your family, Fran. 💔

  • @mothcub
    @mothcub ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Fran, I think the way you talked in this video was just really beautiful. wishing u allllll the love in the world literally

  • @paulasouza8842
    @paulasouza8842 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fran, you don't need to apologize! It's really special this kind of friendship that you build with us by showing all the parts of your life and stages that you are personally! I'm so sorry about your dad facing dementia while you two are having the opportunity to be closer! My grandmother has Alzheimer even though it's a different disease, her personality has changed a lot since she started to have the symptoms, so I can relate somehow with what you're saying. Thank you for talking with us in a challenging moment in your life! I wish you, your dad, and your family a lot of comfort. Please also rest and take your time! 💛💛

  • @luisocon1989
    @luisocon1989 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hola Fran! Soy un suscriptor relativamente nuevo y quizás no he encontrado el video en tu canal, pero me gusta cómo es que editas tus videos y me preguntaba si habrás hecho un video sobre eso. Saludos, Luis.

  • @camillelinda9932
    @camillelinda9932 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As usual, this was a nice vlog Fran ❤️wishing the best for you and your family during this difficult time ♥️💙💜

  • @johnkillink
    @johnkillink ปีที่แล้ว

    que pena lo de tu papá Fran. Un abrazo y espero puedas llenar tus recuerdos con estos últimos años con él. sanar heridas y quedar tranquila. mucho animo! saludos!!

  • @eyraluna
    @eyraluna ปีที่แล้ว

    Love hamburguesa😍🥹🫀

  • @mariecruzmoth8137
    @mariecruzmoth8137 ปีที่แล้ว

    Cuidate mucho Fran, te envio un abrazo muy fuerte desde Cataluña ❤❤❤🤗🤗🤗💕💖✨️✨️

  • @ghazalbagheri
    @ghazalbagheri 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fran I'm so sorry to hear about this. It takes a lot of strength to experience these and be a survivor. I'm proud of you. The interesting part, and the part where I relate to what you said, is that I, too, had to leave a relationship that I loved very much a few days ago. We still love each other very much, but sometimes some people are only in your heart, not in your life. I wanted to share this with you. Hug yourself very tightly. 🦋

  • @Carutus2603
    @Carutus2603 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fran, siento mucho lo de tu papá💔, te mando un abrazo enorme. Yo perdí a mi papá el 18 de julio y la verdad mi salud mental se fue en picada luego de eso y estoy luchando para recuperarme, tus videos siempre me ayudan a calmar la ansiedad, me da una alegría enorme cuando veo que hay un video tuyo nuevo, gracias por hacerme compañía ❤️

  • @geometricevolution
    @geometricevolution ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So sorry about what's happening to your family. This experience is so fraught with complexity and ambiguity. I hope that you can find the positive in what's happening with your father. Feel no guilt in finding a new relationship with him. It's a blessing to have something positive come before he passes, rather than leaving things negative and then ending suddenly. I lost my father suddenly 15 years ago and though we had a decent relationship, no one saw it coming. I don't know that one experience is better than another, but I know that I would have liked to be able to process a little while he was still alive.

  • @nyzhafirkins5512
    @nyzhafirkins5512 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sending so much love. I've heard the phrase 'shadowloss' used for grief that isn't as straightforward as 'someone i know has died and i'm sad'.

  • @instagamrr
    @instagamrr ปีที่แล้ว

    7:22 3:33 on the clock in the background!

  • @Andrea_7783
    @Andrea_7783 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hola Fran! Te cuento, no tuve una relación con mi padre, PARA NADA, nos veíamos cada 3 o 4 años para tomar un café y eso era todo. Por esto y muchas otras razones, fue un padre horrible (por ponerlo suave). Al final me enteré que había muerto un mes después que había pasado. Asique...... disfruta este "nuevo" padre que tenés, disfruta los momentos y no pienses que va a desaparecer. Además también aprovecha la oportunidad de decirle adiós cuando todavía está vivo, creo que eso es una bendición en realidad. La depresión si, es una maldita.....mi médico me dijo hace poco que están viendo como una "epidemia" de depresión en el último año, no saben si es por lo que está pasando en el mundo o qué, pero la comunidad médica está bastante alarmada.....(Chan!). Besos Fran!!!!😘😘😘😘

  • @milevacoray5873
    @milevacoray5873 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤️

  • @simarrito
    @simarrito ปีที่แล้ว

    Fran, pasé lo mismo con mi papá. Misma relación distante. Pero te recomiendo empezar a crear recuerdos: haz fotos, videos, llámalo... Lo vas a agradecer un día. Es una enfermedad tan horrenda, tenés que cuidarte mucho vos también.

  • @rutenio44
    @rutenio44 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fran te recomiendo MUCHO ver la película de AFTERSUN. Siento que llega un punto en la vida que te das cuenta que de pronto "todo depende de ti" y pasas de ser cuidado a cuidar y es un gran peso físico y mental. Sobretodo si tiene ansiedad, depresión etc... cómo lo haces? cómo cuidar cuanto tú también necesitas cuidado. Abrazo. Fuerte.

  • @CatalinaValenzuela-p1y
    @CatalinaValenzuela-p1y ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Gracias Fran por compartir tus reflexiones y aprendizajes a partir de algo tan doloroso. Tanto este video como otros que has subido (e incluso el capítulo del podcast donde hablan del duelo) son muy sanadores e importantes. Un abrazo enorme! Y de nuevo, muchas gracias por abrir estos temas, puede servir mucho para quienes vivimos situaciones similares

  • @dweeb4lyfe
    @dweeb4lyfe ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What you’re going through sounds so tough and such a challenge. I had never considered how dementia could affect your relationship with someone in such a significant way. Thank you for sharing both the highs and lows of your life with us. As someone who also has depression, I appreciate how honest you are and the awareness you bring ❤️

  • @andrearomero5414
    @andrearomero5414 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello, Fran! I'm sorry you are going through this hard time. Mi abuela tuvo Alzheimer cuando yo era pequeña, nunca la conocí como realmente fue pero vi a mi mamá, a sus hermanos y a mi abuelo sufrir por ello. Sé lo dificil que es lo que estas pasando. Te mando un abrazo desde México 🩷

  • @tetedelacoursecafe520
    @tetedelacoursecafe520 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Siento la enfermedad de tu padre. La simple idea de perder a los míos me llena de tristeza. Muchos ánimos! Te mando cariño.
    Tienes un vlog genial, y me encanta tu piso (y hamburguesa)
    ❤❤❤

  • @alvicsco
    @alvicsco ปีที่แล้ว

    Muchas gracias Fran por compartir esto, ❤️. Por la vulnerabilidad y sinceridad. Me siento identificada con tu experiencia y es que este año debido a una compleja situación de salud de mi mamá y varias hospitalizaciones, pude acercarme más a mi papá y mejorar nuestra relación como nunca. Tengo 29 años y por fin puedo decirle te amo. Lo lindo de las nuevas oportunidades, aunque sean injustas las circunstancias, y volver a ganar un vínculo tan importante puede ser muy sanador. Un abrazo muy apretado para ti y las mejores vibras. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @potanto
    @potanto ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh Fran,necesitaba uno de tus videos hoy día;muchas gracias por hacerlo 💕

  • @lifeontheround
    @lifeontheround ปีที่แล้ว

    You are lovely Fran. So sorry about your Papa. It sounds incredibly hard. I know what you mean about what to talk about on SM. This was an interesting personal piece to hear though . Your English is bloody brilliant. Thank you for the videos, especially the ASMR cleaning and tidying. ❤

  • @el.biologicas
    @el.biologicas 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fran, sinto muito pelo seu pai. Gosto muito dos seus vídeos, me deixam mais energizada para organizar minha própria rotina e vida. Espero que com o tempo as coisas se ajeitem, que fique mais fácil de lidar ou pelo menos seja mais fácil de digerir e seguir.

  • @ArtfulShelley
    @ArtfulShelley ปีที่แล้ว

    Fran, I've watched you since England. I am so sorry you are going through this. I, too, have a father at early dimentia. He's 81. He has always been my biggest supporter. I have begged him for years to write his experience with life down, but he is so humble, he doesn't see the value. But I would recommend any time you have with him, record videos. You will have him in this dimension still in a lovely way. Big hugs, chica.

  • @MoonchildLibros
    @MoonchildLibros ปีที่แล้ว

    Esta bien compartir ambos lados, si eso es lo que deseas Fran :D tan complicada las relaciones de padres e hijos,, siento bastante que estén pasando por eso, no es nada sencillo, mi madre ya la diagnosticaron alzhéimer, y los cambios me costaron mucho, vivir con una persona con eso, puede ponerte de malas, o te da el síndrome del cuidador, por ello es importante que la persona tambien se cuide y haga sus cositas, es consejo, por si tienes a tu madre cuidando a tu padre, o si tienen posibilidades para tener ayuda, mucho que mejor :D, ahorita es tu oportunidad de oro para tener un final diferente con el, siempre y cuando eso desees, mucha fuerza, porque de lejos es aun mas complicado.

  • @Maupoco
    @Maupoco ปีที่แล้ว

    Hola Fran! Qué modelo de zapatillas y marca son las que usas al comienzo, las blancas? Buen video. Cariños desde Chili

  • @devancarpenter9706
    @devancarpenter9706 ปีที่แล้ว

    Life is so beautiful, life is so cruel. I'm so sorry you're losing your dad. I recently lost my husband after several months of illness. You said it perfectly... it's soul-crushing and earth-shattering. I'll be thinking of you. Take care.
    P.S. I'm a cat mom, too. Your Hamburguesa reminds me of my Adagio. 🐈‍⬛❣️

  • @kristinchong629
    @kristinchong629 ปีที่แล้ว

    🎉🎉🎉 so my vibe.
    I actually started listening to mhn podcasts she's from AZ.