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I think it is especially...brave? to still try something out and acknowledge it didn't work for you and moving on. I think too many of us think that you have to stay to prove something to people or someone or whatever your reasons are and you remain somewhere that doesn't serve your progress. I hope you are doing ok (really) and I am excited to just see you grow and move forward.
Thank you so much ❤
I agree. It's brave to move to another state, on your own, but to say (on your terms), "It just wasn't for me." You are 100% right about that.
@@AbbeyYung It is extremely brave to be honest about something important to you that did not go as planned. The time in Chicago has served its purpose and you will never be saying "what if" now. Everything that has happened had its value and has helped you come to a decision that feels right.
Absolutely agree and very well said! I find myself doing that in the same place I’ve been for my entire life and that bs! Nobody should ever have to prove anything to anyone, just be happy with yourself. “Damn it if I could just take my own advice lol!”
Thx you, Abbey, for sharing. I hope it goes smoothly for you.
About 1,000 years ago, when I was your age, I moved to NYC alone. Took a while, but I stayed there for 15 years and loved it. With that said, I met all of my friends at work. All of them. I cannot imagine doing that without having a collection of people with a common goal at workplace. I'm glad you're moving home, life's too short to be unhappy.
Yes, same-although I did make other friends through work friends. I am all for remote work, but I do wonder how much harder it is to make new friends as a young person who does remote work.
You would have always wondered "what if" if you didn't try it. And you did. And that's what helped you realize you want to be in MN. There's nothing wrong with that. Trying things helps you know who you are and what you want. It's part of the journey. I'm glad you'll have your family close at this time.
As someone much older than you are, I can say that as we age, we realize that family and friends mean so much more. I’m happy that you were able to have this experience of a new city and try out a new life. And equally as happy that you have decided that a move home is what is best for you right now. All of our experiences shape the people we become. Best wishes in your move and looking forward to your updates once you get settled in.
Yep! What she said.
Me too… what they said
It seems like you learned so much about yourself in this process and that wisdom is priceless!!! Good for you! You're not going back to Minnesota as the same woman you once were! You're a new Abbey!
You're amazing and we can't wait to see what you have in store in 2023.
I definitely did! Thank you ❤
You know what? This is the key of any experience - it’s not about the place or the what, it’s that we are forever changed and new. WE are new and we will always take our new sleeves with us. ❤ Spoiler alert: there will be many new experiences that make our lives full and long and wonderful ❤
Hopefully the move home will go much smoother than the move to Chicago. I'm sure your family is very excited to have you home. Great Christmas gift!
This nearly brought a tear to my eye. As a Midwestern family oriented girl myself, this hit home. 5 years ago my then boyfriend, now fiance, asked me to move into an RV with him to travel the country for his job. He relocates every few months. It's been amazing and I feel so fortunate to live this lifestyle with him.. but man, I miss my family. I miss home :( it warms my heart to see you going back home. Especially just in time for Christmas ❤️
As a person that never went anywhere, did much of anything for myself, I now, at 48, have a lot of regret about what I haven’t done. This journey that you’ve taken, probably because of all the hardships that have happened along the way, is going to be an invaluable experience. As someone else pointed out, you’re going back a different person & you’ll be taking all the good & bad of the experiences with you. You seem to be very strong, extremely capable and very smart. You’re going to do great wherever you end up & if that’s back home, that’s wonderful. Being surrounded by those that love you & you love back is the best place to be ❤
All my best to you & Merry Christmas!!
Crazy reading your response, because I’m also 48 and also have so much regret about things I wanted to do in life, but didn’t. I wonder if it’s our age. I wonder if most people our age have these regrets? I hope it goes away. I’ve always been a happy person, but lately I’ve been so down about life. I hope this is just a temporary phase of life at this age
48 year old here 🙋🏻♀️ I resonate with all of what you said as well. Midlife crisis? Lol.
@@EnvyBluand @Jennifer, I’m sure that comes into play. I, personally, have made several bad relationship decisions that have put me in the place I’m in. Including my current one, unfortunately. But I have kids know (13 and almost 15). For the time being, they are my number one focus but when they are settled, safe, happy & on their own, I’m taking some time to do something (something’s, lol) for me. Life is too short. Wishing you ladies lots of love & happiness. Merry Christmas, happy holidays ❤️
This is life, Abbey. There are no right or wrong decisions you just make the best one you can for yourself with all that you know at the time. I used to work with a woman in her 60’s that always talked about all of the different jobs she had, places she lived, etc. She even owned a bakery at one point in her life. The majority of the staff were in their early 30’s, and even me being 40, we all kinda had a hard time believing all of those experiences were real. Now at 47 (and working at a very active senior center and listening to their life stories), I reflect on my life - all the schooling, jobs, experiences, places I’ve lived, and realize - oh yeah, it was possible. Life is constantly changing - morphing is a better word. That’s life - always moving, always morphing, adapting. The alternative is dead. Right? I hope you keep taking on life as you have these last two years - you’ll be a fuller, complete person in the long run. And as far as finding your life person, he’ll come at the right time. 💕 Wishing you strength, grace, and peace during this transition and a very merry, cozy, yummy, and love-filled Christmas and holiday. Cheers 🥂 to 2023! It’ll be a year of change for many of us too 💕
This is so true, I’m 48 now and as Elizabeth Gilbert says we could all write a book titled, “That didn’t go as I planned” about our lives. We are very goal oriented as a society, to the point where we forget that if we enjoy each day, it adds up to a well lived life. It will all be OK.
I am sorry Chicago didn’t work out for you. As a Minnesotan, happy to have you back. Have a safe and happy holidays.
No we love her❤️but I get it. The reverse happened to me. I moved to Arizona from Chicago, and my experience was very similar. I moved back to Chicago so I can totally relate. Safe travels Abby❤️❤️
Thank you for your authenticity! I moved from Arizona to Minnesota for a year and a half after college and even though I had extended family up there, it was a super isolating experience because everyone was scattered around the state and living their own lives. I decided to pack up my car on a -4 degree day in February and go back to Arizona. I came back a person with a different perspective and more life lessons learned. Sending you healing and love.
I'm so sorry it didn't work out in Chicago like you planned Abbey. At least you gave it a chance even though it was a rocky one. It seems like your heart was in Minnesota all along. So happy that you'll be surrounded by those you love. Good luck on the move. May it be smooth & problem free. 💗
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i empathize with this so much Abbey!
as someone who is turning 30 next month (!?!) my life has totally been flipped upside down this year. It was the most painful year i’ve ever lived through
i’m also deciding to move to a different state within the next few months.
i loved what you said about how none of us are ever prepared from mid / late 20’s when everyone else is starting to branch off in different directions. it can be lonely
i’m so proud of you, you got this ❤
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Thank you for sharing your move with us. Honestly, I was a little worried when you said you were moving to Chicago all alone and that worry was reinforced when you had that experience where you thought someone was trying to break into your apartment while you were home. I'm really happy to hear that you're moving back home, where you'll have your network of people who love you looking out for you. I'm sure they'll also be thrilled to have you back! I wish you the happiest holiday season ever and the best, healthiest and most prosperous new year! ❤
As someone from illinois, I can honestly say Chicago is a rough city to “start fresh”. I lived in Chicago through my early twenties and it was the loneliest time of my life and I’m from here! It’s just a nice city to visit but I honestly wouldn’t recommend anyone move there if they aren’t 100% committed to it. I’m so happy you took the leap and did it for YOU. You will never regret that! Happy moving and wishing you a great holiday with your family ❤
I totally agree girl. I'm from southern IL. It will always be home but I have no desire to move back to IL. So dark and depressing in the winter especially... I feel for all the IL people bc honestly it sucks. I moved to Nashville and haven't looked back.
Yes and super brave! This city isn’t for the weak. 😩
gosh I feel the exact same! I’m glad you found what you were looking for and I’m not the only on that feels this way… Community was a huge thing for me, I work from home and am extremely extroverted so finding a community was so important. I’ve found that here in Nashville and am very grateful for it.
You talking about mid/late 20s being hard is so true! I turn 25 next year and just had to move back in with my parents and feel so behind in life compared to my friends that are married, with their own houses, etc. But life happens, circumstances change for everyone. You’re doing what’s best for you and following your own path and that’s what we all should be doing!! And I’m sure you’ve learned a lot this year. I wish you well going back to Minnesota! ❤
Amanda, I felt that way when I was your age and paying off student loans and living with my mom (which of course is a privilege many don't have). But I swear you'll catch up! I did-and I ended up in a much better financial position. Everything has trade-offs.
30 onwards is good age. I mean it all is but things seem to settle. Just have fun along the way. There isn’t really a wrong decision if you’re following your heart. No learning experience is a waste of time.
I typically watch without commenting, but just wanted to let you know I really sympathize with what you’re going through. I moved to a new place 2 years ago and have a remote job, and it has felt SO isolating (even as an introvert, I’m a lot more isolated than I want to be). I think once you’re an adult, it becomes pretty difficult to meet new people except through work. I think you’re doing the right thing by moving to a place where you have access to both friends and family to lean on. I’m sorry things didn’t work out in Chicago, but I saw another person say you would’ve wondered “what if,” otherwise and I think they’re totally right. I hope you find happiness soon and please know you’re not alone in where you are at in life.
Hi Abbey, I had a very similar situation moving from a smaller Midwest city to Chicago. As fun and big as Chicago can be, it isn’t for everyone and it can be very isolating. Chicago is perfect for a weekend getaway, but being close to family is priceless. You’re the only person I’ve found on social media to have a similar situation, and it is so comforting. Best wishes for you and your new adventure ❤
I lived in Chicago for 5 years but I was in college for most of it. I can’t imagine being there and not having the support system of all my friends plus the added stress of the pandemic. It’s really cool that you tried it. It’s not a failure, it’s just time for the chapter to end and for you to move on. And I 100% feel you on the late 20s. I remember suddenly feeling so lonely then even though I was married & had a baby but my once close friend group was all over and in different stages. Once I got into my 30s it got better & I met other people in the same stage of life as me and was back to having a friend group. But theres totally a hard in between stage. All the best on your next adventure!
A few years ago I moved far away from home with my husband and even though I have him it is so isolating not having friends even as an introvert. I have coworkers but haven’t clicked with them and don’t know where else I can even meet people. I have no words of wisdom or advice lol I’m just sharing so you know you are not alone in how you feel, all of us twenty-something’s are in the same boat. I truly hope you find happiness again back at home ❤
Being in our late 20s is so hard! I honestly feel like I’m going through some sort of existential crisis every week, especially when thinking about the future. Glad to hear I’m not alone and that we’re all going through similar things! Have a wonderful holiday Abbey!
I feel like I'm living a similar life...I moved to Chicago with my husband, but we recently got divorced. I decided to stay in Chicago in my own place because I loved my job, but now that it's been 6 months it's just so lonely and I e been looking into moving back near my family as well ❤️❤️❤️ my heart is with you girly! It's brave and strong to do things to protect your heart and make yourself happy 😊
Happy for you that you've decided to do what makes YOU happy! You'll always look back on your time in Chicago as an adventure and, while it wasn't your long term destination, it's a part of your story and made you who you are today. Best of luck with the move!
I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you in Chicago, Abbey. You seem like such a bright, positive person and I’m sure you’ll be a lot happier back with your family and friends. Best wishes to you!
I'm sorry your going through something bad. I hope things get better for you. Moving back home will be good for you hopefully. Family is always there for you. I hope you find your happiness.
Im so sorry the experience didn’t pan out as expected. Had you not done it, you would have likely been left wondering “what if?” so it’s fantastic that you were open & gave it a go in the first place. Have a safe move back to Minnesota!
Abby, I'm a lot older than you, but listening to your story, I could have written that same story back in the late 1960's early 1970's. My daughter could have written it 15 years ago. It will get better. It really will. When you meet the right guy you will know it and when you get home things will be better. You gave it a shot and you could mark it down as an experience. I hope that whatever you had happen that you aren't talking about isn't too awful. All the best.
Wishing you the best! Even though Chicago wasn’t the fresh start you were hoping for, if you hadn’t have gone you likely would have been wondering “what if”. Now you know! Thank you for being willing to share your personal life with us. I hope your transition back to Minnesota goes well!
Abbey, part of the reason I love your channel so much is your vulnerability with your viewers. I look forward to your life updates and Q&As. What amazing insight and courage you have to evaluate your Chicago experience and make the changes you need in order to continue to grow. I look forward to your future adventures in MN ❤️
Abbey what you said about being in your mid and late twenties and everyone suddenly being on different timelines really resonated with me. It’s so true, and at this point I think that weirdness can even extend to your early thirties (and I guess the rest of life actually). So many of my peers are in long term relationships, engaged, married with babies and/or living with their partner or own homes. Others have moved abroad, are going back to school, run their own businesses or are still living home due to high housing costs in the area. And other people, like myself, just feel lost.
Like another commenter said though, it’s great that you’re not afraid of change. And you definitely aren’t the same person as you were when you left Minnesota. Best wishes 💕
I think you’re so brave to have moved away to Chicago on your own in the first place and try something new. Good for you! I was never that brave when I was your age. Chicago is a bold and harsh city! I grew up in Chicago and I love it but now that I’m in CA , I would never live there again but I still visit. Thanks for sharing! Happy holidays!! 🎄
totally feel you, i was in canada for a year and just didnt work out, i was depressed, had anxiety and panic attacks. i planned to leave in late april 2022. then in early march i was like "i must go now", booked my flight, packed and got rid of lots of things and left within 2 weeks. now i'm in a new country, trying to find my way. it is scary and uncertain. glad that you're going home with family. hope things would go well for you and me in the new year. 💖
I went through a similar situation after a divorce. I lived in an amazing city, but all my family and friends were in California. I had not planned to end a marriage or leave my favorite city in TX. It was brutal decision, I totally understand where you're at. Trust your institution and trust that the universe has your back, it'll lead you where your meant to be. Happy New Year 😁
Girl, I can so emphasize with you on this. I was born & raised in MN and will always be a MN girl at heart. But I moved away a couple years ago to be with my boyfriend in TX. To say it has been tough is an understatement. Every time I go home, my family looks significantly older. I can see visible changes every time. My parents are getting older. Losing family members doesn’t even feel real, it never really sets in, and then I just feel guilty that I wasn’t there. I’m missing out on my little sister’s sports games. Not to mention there is just nothing like the MN scenery. There are so many beautiful parks and outdoors trails. There’s nothing like that in the Houston area of TX….
I’m really excited for you to go back home. I’m glad for you that it didn’t take much time out of your life to be longing for home like it has for me. I think if we hadn’t had this experience though, we’d still be longing to move out of the state and live somewhere else.
I hope you have a very Merry Christmas with your family. ❤
Being around people you can trust and have your best interest at heart will be a breath of fresh air for you. Thinking of you during this transition back home.
You’re so fortunate to have a strong family network - not everyone does, so bask in the love!
I really am ❤
This this this! If you have family you genuinely love spending time with, that is such a blessing. And surprisingly rare. Soak it up as much as you can. Friends will come and go, but family is forever.
I just moved back home to Minnesota too (well, a year ago) but I grew up here and then lived in Kansas for 5 years. I eventually felt the same way. Took a bit of an adjustment living here again just emotionally. But soon enough parts of me came back that I didn’t even know I had missed. Welcome home!
Chicago will miss you. I was born here but when I moved to the suburbs is when my loneliness hit. I was basically the complete opposite of you. I’m sorry you felt that way but your awesome for recognizing your needs instead of just trying to make it work.
Happy New Year!
I am so happy for you ❤ honestly, I could tell you were not fully happy there and your face seems light up every time you talk about your family or your friends from home and as a now 36 year old married mother of two, who did exactly what you did when I was your age but just with different cities, I think this is a good move for you! While adventure is fun, support and security make a happy life ❤ I have grown to care about you and even worry about you lol (it comes with motherhood 😂) and it just makes me so happy to know you will be around a great support system ❤ good luck my girl! And happy holidays 🌲
awww you are so sweet thank you ❤
Sometimes distance and time can help appreciate what is important. Glad you are excited. Enjoy the holidays with your family. And thanks for your content and your honesty. ✨
Abbey, it’s so amazing that you gave Chicago a chance; most of us never do anything that adventurous. Here’s to a wonderful 2023 with all kinds of beauty in your life!❤🥂
I'm about 30 years older than you are Abbey and I don't watch many young TH-camrs but I watch almost every video you post. I really enjoy you and love hearing your updates. I'm glad you are moving home and I think this decision will turn out to be exactly what you were supposed to do. ♥️
Thank you so much ❤️
Thanks so much for the heartfelt update!…you are wise beyond your years!…❤ you!….be happy!..😊
Being single is hard isn’t it? Ugh 😩 I’m quite a bit older than you, but also single, been single for 12 years, while most my friends are married. It’s really hard when all your friends move away, or get married, and we don’t see them anymore. Some times we feel like “hey what about me over here? I still need you.” But deep down we know we can’t be like that. But also, we have friends who get married, or settle down, just so they don’t have to be alone. We see them in their sad marriages, wasting their lives away. I will never be one of those women. It’s not easy though! Some times I think about just being with someone, anyone, so I’m not alone, but I just can’t do that. We just have to keep plucking away at life, taking it day by day, trying to make the best life for us
I’m glad you won’t be so lonely anymore. When you said that in the past it really resonated with me and I could kind of tell how you were feeling. Good luck!
Minnesota will always welcome you back! I moved away and then back again myself. Realizing I was missing out on precious time with my family was what did it for me ❤️
i love you abbey! i am so proud of you. i’ve kept up with all your updates, and although i understand that what you put on socials is not 100% of the story, i’m wasn’t surprised when you said chicago has been rough for you. but in the end it was an experience and you did it for YOURSELF! to move somewhere and do a complete reset is an extremely brave thing to do. we are here for you ❤ i wish you happier days ahead, filled with family and friends 🥰
Thank you ❤️❤️
Abbey you are BRAVE!!!! You did something not a lot of people would do. You wanted to try something, and even when it was difficult in the beginning you didn’t leave. You stuck it out! You are an inspiration to me, and I’m sure many others. You’re so kind and genuine and you just want to help. My self-confidence and love for myself has grown since watching your videos and taking your advice. You will ALWAYS be supported and we appreciate you so much!!! Thank you 💜
Family first, always. I wish you the best of luck with the move back home and a very Merry Christmas! ❤🎄I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you here. All the best to you!
I am SO happy for you doing what’s best for you! And for being self aware enough to be honest with yourself. That is so hard. I’m so excited for you to be somewhere you feel more like yourself 💕
I’m so sorry that something bad has happened to you Abbey. I hope you’re going to be okay soon. I live in Chicago also, and know that in winter it would become so much more isolating for you, so I think this is a really good thing for you. I think you’re going to feel like yourself again being at home. I hope the move is easy for you and that you have a wonderful Christmas with your family. Stay strong!
As a mother of two who are about your age, I’m so sorry that your move to Chicago didn’t end up the way you expected. With that being said, I agree with the others who have said if you hadn’t tried, you would have always wondered “what if?”. I also think that the fact that you persevered through the first apartment debacle speaks volumes for your determination and how much you tried to turn this experience into what you wanted it to be. You have to be so proud of yourself for that! Recognizing that this is just not where you belong right now is something else to be proud of and even more than that, admitting it and making another change is huge! I hope whatever prompted your decision heals with time and I am sure that being close to your family with help with that process. (And more than anything, I know your mother will surely be glad to have you close by again!) Sending much love, light & peace to you and your family. 💜☀️☮️
Hi Abby- I'm so sorry for whatever happened that has had you down. Sending you tons of love and support! Thanks for being you 😘
I’m so glad you’re moving back to your family! You can always come back and visit us! We’ll keep a light on for ya!
I learned the same lesson when I studied abroad in Spain. I grew up wanting to leave Minnesota and the US in general to move to Europe. After a few months I started to realize how lonely it would be to start over in a new culture where I’ll always be a foreigner and not have any family. Life is short and we only get so much time with our loved ones ❤
I moved to Los Angeles from Indiana 28 years ago. It worked out for me but its been hard with no family around especially with kids. You'll end up where you're supposed to be. Good luck!
You are so amazing and genuine for pouring your heart out to us. You have to do what makes you completely happy and comfortable! Can’t wait for your new next chapter in Minnesota to begin!!!
Abbey, just wanted to say I care and I know a lot of us do. Sending prayers for you with this message and wishing you the very best with the transition. Thanks for all the great content you’ve put out this year. 💕
Welcome back to Minnesota! Even though I dream of a warmer climate, I will never move because all of my family and my husband's family lives here! Good luck with the move!
So very happy that you are putting YOU first. Abbey- you have helped me through the darkest of times. I found your channel during covid while I was watching my dad fight pancreatic cancer. Skin care became my self care because of you. Sadly I lost my dad last year. If there is one thing I’ve learned it is to cherish every moment you have with those you love. I’m sure Chicago had its fun times. But there is no place like home ❤️ take care of yourself. We will all be here ready to hear about your next endeavor and see that beautiful smile of yours again!!
I know you were so happy and looking forward to moving to Chicago and I'm so sorry things didn't work out the way you hoped for! You're a beautiful lady and things will turn out for you! Better and brighter days are coming ahead! Keep your head up! Sending you love! 💓❤️❤️❤️😘
I am so sorry to hear - I’m glad you are making decisions to be near loved ones ❤
Oh Abbey I’m sorry things haven’t worked out for you. Chalk it up to experience and move forward. Hope the move is not too stressful but have a wonderful Christmas back with your family. New year, new start
I feel you! I moved from “my” place to another country and it’s difficult to meet new people in general when everyone around is growing their own family. At the end everything is going to make sense and this experience is going to be part of it. The journey just makes the story better. Best wishes for you and you family ❤❤❤❤❤ they must be so excited to have you back
Abbey, I also moved to a new city (with my husband) … probably about eight years ago. We were so excited to start fresh and make that city our own. Suffice to say, we moved back less than six months later. We missed our foundation - our family. Taking the chance was worth it and it’ll be worth it for you too! You would have always wondered … and now you’ll know for sure. So happy that you’re looking out for yourself ❤️
I moved 2200 miles from home (MI) when I was your age. I sometimes wonder what/if but am mostly glad I moved home after 3 years. It'll be an adventure you look back on and please don't have any regrets. Enjoy this next chapter!
Life takes you in so many different directions. Something like what your going through now happen to me in my 30's, at that time it was hurtful and disappointing but with time you will move through it. Keep your strength and move forward.
It has been so inspiring to follow this journey of yours. I recently moved away from my family in Ohio to Minneapolis,MN. I started following you just before your move and loved that you were from Minnesota. I too have struggled with the move and this transition that is completely new to me. This move has been the most difficult thing and I relate to a lot of what you said about moving away from the familiar. Still adjusting to Minnesota but excited to see your Minnesota content!
I moved to Chicago in the pandemic. It was hard…I met roommates on Facebook and I couldn’t imagine if I would have lived alone. Even if it’s in the Midwest the city is still very lonely even though it’s bustling with people. Dating was hard, and I was often alone. I still have failed to meet new friends that are outside my roommates and coworkers. You survived the big city though and it’s something to be proud of!!
Abbey, when I say I can relate it’s 100% true. I was in Chicago for a year during the height of crazy COVID restrictions to complete a short graduate program. I am a midwest girl but not a Chicago / city type midwest girl. It was a horrendous experience all around (e.g., didn’t see another humans smile for a year, no friends and family, etc.) but lonely was the theme. Something wasn’t right the entire time I was there. Home is where the heart is! I am so excited for you to go home and have this experience melt away over time and for you to be with your loved ones again and find your place at home. It will happen, just like it happened to me. 😊
Sounds like we had similar experiences! So so rough
@@AbbeyYung there were many days I felt like an alien on another planet. Truly
We all wish nothing but the best for you !!!! Everyday is a learning experience the goal is to learn continue to live and keep moving ( no matter where that takes you ) 🥰
I really appreciate when you do life updates like this. I’m a 19 year old girl in uni and these videos feel like advice from the big sister I never had 🤍
Abbey, I am so sorry that you are feeling this way . I cannot fully express how much positivity and joy you radiate and add to the lives of others, including myself, who greatly enjoys your content. I really hope that you are able to find contentment within your journey moving forward - you deserve nothing but that. Keen to see how your life progresses; love and support all the way
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Life is about experiences. You didn't make a mistake by moving to Chicago, you grow from the experience of being in Chicago.
This is so true.
Nothing like being home close to family. This is my plan after I retire to move closer to my grandchildren. I’m based in NYC for almost 9 years now. Though I love it here but as I get older, the traveling to and back gets tiring. I want to be where I can just see my grandkids anytime and watch them grow up. 💕 Best wishes girl! You’re young and it’s good and healthy to explore places and life in your journey. 😊
You took a chance on yourself and listened to yourself each step of the way. It’s not easy but what you did and sharing what you said also gives strength and courage to others. The way you express yourself so honestly and beautifully. Setting positive energy to you in this next phase in your life.❤
thank you ❤
I spent all of my 20's bouncing around the country and having this exact same realization over and over, but refusing to give into it... until my 30s when I started having kids and immediately moved back home lol
You're so wise to recognize this is something you need to be a happy person. Your time in Chicago will always be a valuable learning adventure, but nothing compares to being with your people.
Good luck with everything :)
You need to do whatever makes you feel happy and feel safe, loved and secure. I’m so happy your making a choice that makes you feel good! We all love you and only want you happy! Can’t wait to see the new place and a smile on you!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this with us. You’re so brave and have such a kind heart, and I’m so happy you’re prioritizing your mental health. Family really is everything, and I’m so glad you get to be with them again ❤
Abbey thank you for being so transparent with us, your You Tube Friends.
Good luck moving back & we're here for you too♡
That's what life's all about. You try things and sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. It never really ends. Lean into it, and let it be about the journey. Love your sweet and funny disposition, your stellar work, and this beautiful community. I'm buying my 3 sons in their 20's hair care products for Christmas as a result of what I've learned from you :) Safe travels and happy New Year with your family and friends! Hope your move goes amazingly well.
You're very wise for your young years! In life, you'll go down many roads. It's important to stay open to going down them, BUT it's the smart woman who realizes the wrong road and turns back rather than continuing on the wrong path. You're also doing a great service to the world by sharing this. You may be helping hundreds or thousands who are sitting on the indecision fence!! What a wonderful gift you're giving them!!! It's kind and generous of you to do this and I wish the best in finding your next road. ❤
Please take all the time you need over the holidays, you've earned it, enjoy the family time. Best wishes.
All of my girlfriends in their upper 20s are anxious and depressed and thankfully have access to therapy. I think it’s partially because of the pressure society puts on girls in their upper 20s to have their life in order and also partially because of hormonal BC. Meanwhile, Men in their upper 20s are having the time of their lives. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️ It’s nice to see women who can relate.
Even tho you don’t know me, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!! When I was at ur age I went thru the EXACT same situation. I did move back home for a little while but, ended up continuing to move for 19 years. I’m now back home & wouldn’t change a thing!!
How exciting!!! Good luck to ALL of ur future endeavors!! 🥰🤗
Woah.... this resonated so much with me. Love these style of videos it's like chatting with a big sister!
I think it's brave you decided to try such a big move but healthy to go back if you're unhappy. Reminds me of college, I had a breakup and lost a bunch of friends and my senior year was so lonely, I ended up dating someone who lived out of state (didn't pan out anyway but at the time at least it was good company) and I'm also up in another part of the state from my family. Much as I loved my school I was so ready to go after graduation, I hadn't regretted going to the school or making the change but I was ready to move home and work near my family after that.
I totally get it. I used to live in Chicago, had an established career path there, but married someone who lived in the far northern suburbs and started working in WI because there is not enough professional opportunities in my field locally. I love my husband but really miss the community of friends I had access to 24/7 as well as community resources and things to do. Commuting in a different state hasn’t offered me the opportunity to develop a local sense of belonging with my own friends and I’m very lonely. It’s a real dilemma after 12 years things have not changed and our neighborhood doesn’t socialize with each other, especially in the winter months, so follow your heart and go to the place that makes you happy. 💕
Good for you. There is no point in wasting your time on what you know is wrong for you. I wish I'd had the courage to listen to my gut like you have.
Life is hard at any age. It's good you aren't afraid of change. I hate moving though. Good Luck!
Good call. I’ve lived in the suburbs of Chicago most of my life. It’s a great city. I love it. But it won’t take the place of your family and friends. Im not an extrovert. I could go somewhere new and love it. But id get lonely too not seeing my core people.
But wow! You wanted to try it out and you did. No regrets I hope :)
You do you! I’m proud of you for admitting you just aren’t happy there in Chicago, and doing something about it sooner rather than later. Get that stuff packed and get back home…it will be wonderful for you and for your Family. Good for you! Fresh new start with a fresh new perspective on Just (what Home can mean!)
Wishing you all the best with your move. Life will take you down different paths, don’t be afraid to take a stroll. Merry Christmas.
Welcome home, Abbey! I'm a born and raised ND girl, and am so inspired by you, going after what you wanted, and that includes coming back home! If you still are wanting to meet new people, I'm right on the ND MN border and absolutely love MN and would love to meet up!
Good for you!!! I was miserable in my late 20s as I wasn’t happy where I was living. I picked up and moved to the UK. Met my now husband less then a month later and I haven’t looked back once! It’s great that you can recognise when you’re not happy and take whatever action is needed in order to get what you need for yourself! I wish you all the best in your new beginning!! 🥰🥰
Thank you for sharing…wishing you much happiness….Happy holidays to you and here’s to a great 2023 for all of us!
Thank you for sharing your move and your feelings of solitude/unhappiness lately. Please feel free to take a break from TH-cam if you can ❤
I wanted to say how being 27 myself, you have put into words some feelings I’ve had about moving from San Francisco to Portland this past year and haven’t been totally honest with myself about. I love the city I live in so much, but nothing can ever replace being surrounded by the people you love. You’re not alone in feeling sadness when away from friends/family, and you are so brave for having made that move and now for being honest with yourself.
You are such a gem and I really hope happy things are coming your way! So much love!!!!
So hard to love a place but not have the people you love there! thank you ❤
Yeah I totally agree. I’m 25 just got married to my husband that recently joined the military, left Florida to come live with my parents until my husband is done with the military and then in 6 months he will be stationed in Japan so I’ll be leaving the US with him and I’m also going back to school for chemistry after realizing I don’t want to be a hair stylist any more. If something is bothering you, just figured something else out and keep it moving, life keeps going.
You are so brave and smart! Never forget that! Your TH-cam family is behind you all the way💖
love this family ❤
Thank you for being so open with how you are truly feeling and how you are doing. So many of us feel connected to you and care about you and its good to know you will be back with your family and a larger group of friends to help you feel more support and comfort.
You sharing experiences and feelings makes you more relatable than ever and than you for being brave and so honest even though you have every right in the world to choose to not share it. Its relatable as i feel moving to a different place where you dont know anyone or even if you do, I feel as I get older, the harder it is to make new friends even when you are extroverted. People seem to just have there own circles established and I have found it so hard to truly make a break through and make a true friendship connection. Acquaintances, no problem.
I never see my longtime friends who i love dearly who live in my area as they all have children and I don’t, so they are always busy doing all of the parenting things and almost always when plans are made we have to cancel.
I see girls I know on social media out with their friends or vacationing together and some/most of the friends in their photos are moms and I wonder how in the world they are making these wonderful, and regular gatherings happen and what I am doing wrong to not be successful making moments and memories like these and makes me feel empty, and sad.
Many social media creators seem to only show content of their incredible lives and experiences, and I truly smile seeing what they share and am grateful they are seem to be having the time of their lives, but the selfish part of me feels more alone and isolated because even though I am INCREDIBLY lucky to have my husband as my best friend ever and he and my 2 precious dogs are absolutely everything to me, I crave friendship so much.
I also work alone and and am a solo entrepreneur of my own professional pet care company that I opened 11 months prior to COVID lockdown which shuttered my success in an instant as no one needed my services other than essential workers as everyone was home, I work another job that I have been doing from home with a company the last 15 years and changed to part time status when I opened my company, and have been a freelance makeup artist for over 20 years.
Holy moly this turned to a Debbie Downer “Dear Diary” entry. So sorry geez! See I NEED friends! Lol. My point is, what you shared is so relatable and wish I could give you the biggest hug. You moving to Chicago and trying something exciting and nee on your own two feet is bad ass and brave and i hope you are proud you did it and proves you can do ANYTHING you set your mind to, because that is NOT easy.
Thank you for showing moments of you live that are REAL life. I can’t wait to hear about you getting set back up in MN and hope it fills your loving, kind heart with joy, comfort and happiness. Sending you love, strength and friendship from Kansas. (Wondering what part of KS your friends are from when you mentioned my state). Thank you for all you do for us❤
Some places are harder than others to make friends. Like Taylor Wynn said, the Seattle freeze is real. Folks might be nice up front but can be more flakey or not want more social commitments/people to worry about. New England has been brutal for me in that aspect. I'm glad you can go home to family.