Number one thing you can and should do for anxiety is go to therapy. Yoga, breathing exercises, mindfulness and meditation are all great things to HELP with stress and anxiety but please, anybody who is reading this, if you have full blown anxiety/anxiety attacks etc not just everyday stress, the most important thing you should do is go and talk to a professional. Talking to a therapist and working with them will do so, so much more than at home remedies. Don't suffer alone, don't be afraid to ask for help. Therapy is for everyone
I’ve seen a couple of psychiatrists and counselors for my anxiety/panic attacks. Surprisingly the psychiatrists that I saw told me to keep doing yoga and ONLY go the drug route if I’ve exhausted all other options. Yoga is the only thing that kept me sane when my panic attacks and anxiety were at their worst and it was all day every day.
@ Hey - I have the best tip for if you are feeling like you can't get a proper breath in. I had this for over 20 years, feeling like I was trying to suck air through a straw full of sand with an elephant sat on my chest. Then I discovered that instead of fighting to breathe in - breathe OUT - as much as you can. Forget the next breath in. Just empty your lungs forcefully - the last 10% that you wouldn't normally exhale. And you know what. Do that a few times and it works a treat. I had 25 years of full-blown panic attacks and borderline agoraphobia (esp. socially and on public transport) - and I consider myself pretty much cured these days. A mixture of allowing my panic to just be and not fighting it any more with some practical self-care. Once we accept anxiety, it reduced its power by half. Fighting and avoiding is what takes all the energy.
I have anxiety plus a ED (lucky girl) and what just helps during the darkest moments is my pet...it’s the most sensitive cat ever and he just knows when I’m having a crisis...he just leans on my chest and starts to purr...and I focus on the sound and I slowly start to calm down...it’s therapeutic❤️❤️
I put off taking meds for my anxiety for SO LONG because I was afraid it would alter my personality or limit my creativity, but for me, what it really helps with is calming the physical reactions my body has to anxiety. I have less heart palpitation, less nervous stomach pains, and I am way less weepy. I just puts me more in control. I know it doesn't work well for everyone, just like other remedies, but I think it is worth a try for people who are doing what they can, and still struggling.
Judy Poppins I currently take Lexapro. I know a lot of people dont like it because the most common side effect is decreased libido. But I have been lucky I guess, cause I haven’t really noticed a difference
I did therapy for two years with a wonderful therapist (which is so important) and it made me realize my triggers and also find strength in who I am and drive through the stress and anxiety. Wish you the best!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! As a young woman who deals with anxiety/depression as well, it’s comforting to know you aren’t alone. I will definitely have to look in to these coping mechanisms to find my peace.
As a psychology student I find it really brave and important that someone like you talks about mental health openly in public because it's the only way to reduce stigmas and show people they are not alone or crazy because they feel that way. But I would really recommend going to therapy, not just taking medicine! Wishing you all the best! You are such an inspiration
Avoidance of social activities or situations that make you uncomfortable is the worst thing you can do. The more you avoid, the worse the anxiety can become. Small steps! You can barter with yourself, for example, go to the event but tell yourself you can leave after say 30 minutes...always give yourself an out and that can take some of the anxiety away. The more you do things that make you uncomfortable the easier it will become and your anxiety level will go down. I wouldn't wish anxiety on anyway but there are coping skills you can learn to make your life much easier. You got this!
Thank you so much for opening up about taking medication for depression/anxiety. It has literally saved my life twice -- the first time in my 20's and then again after my son was born. Working out, getting outside, meditation, yoga...all those things are good, but there is nothing wrong with taking medication too.
I have suffered with anxiety since I was about 15/16 (I'm now 21), but for most of that time done little to combat it. My younger brother (18 months younger than me) recently suddenly passed away in a car accident; a year or two before his passing my brother was diagnosed with Bipolar and this was a very hard time for him and my family and part of the reason I did nothing about my anxiety; I didn't want to take the focus away from what he was having to deal with and trying so hard to combat. Since his passing I have been seeing a psychologist to deal with my grief, and in hand my anxiety. I have now started on medication to help with my anxiety. That was a big moment for me. My brother is the one who has now inspired me to look after my mental health, he was such an advocate for taking away the stigma of medication, and that although mental illness SUCKS at times, it doesn't make you any less of person if you suffer with it, and that the most important thing is to look after yourself. I see now I never should have put my mental health on the back burner. Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story Estee, I understand how hard it can be to talk about our mental health and it's amazing that you're doing it on such a public space. I hope you're okay and please look after yourself xo
I just wanted you to know that I recognized that this video was difficult for you to make but you did it to help others and I appreciate you. Sending you healing and positive energies
The "deepest breath not feeling deep enough" thing has been happening to me a lot lately, and I literally just made my first ever therapy appointment just before clicking on this video--even though I've been wanting to see a therapist FOR DECADES! I'm so thankful that you (and so many others) are able to share your experiences with depression and anxiety, it's so comforting to know that I'm not alone and that there is hope. 💗
I love and appreciate this video. My anxiety has been at its absolute worst recently and I’m struggling to handle it. I constantly have episodes where I feel my chest tighten and break down in tears for no real reason.... to put it into words it feels like I’m standing at the very edge of a cliff and if I let my guard down and relax well...something bad will happen. So I’m constantly on edge and overwhelmed, and tend to anticipate the worse case scenario.
This was so refreshing to watch. I resisted medication for so long but it's made such a difference to my life. If you had asthma or diabetes you'd happily take medication, why not for your mental health?
I just wanted to make a note of a common misconception because anxiety attacks and panic attacks are two different things. They are used somewhat interchangeably in this video so just wanted to clarify from a psychological perspective. Panic attacks are associated with and can often come along with having a panic disorder, whereas anxiety attacks are related to having an anxiety disorder. They can look and feel very different. That said I am so glad you made this video Estée!! Thank you for being so opened!
Krishna Cousins exactly! Panic attacks occur even when you are not stressed or aware of a situation, I used to have them sleeping, they used to wake me up. Panic attacks feel like you are dying, the feeling is like having a heart attack without the chestbpain, a sense of desorientation or a feeling of out of body experience. Anxiety untreated can lead to a severe anxiety disorder. But there is a training one can do to help you. Mindfulness and méditation helped with mine.
"You can't run away from your problems but you can for a couple of days" - sums up how I deal with anxiety and responsibilities. Love you Estee, thank you so much for this video, I am sure so many will find this helpful. ❤️
thank you Estée. i know it's a challenge to verbalize and/or converse about anxiety and depression online, but as someone who's dealing with both, it really is refreshing and lovely to hear someone else openly discuss it!
I'm in law school and I work.. and the level of pressure, of stress... the level of intensity is crushing. I honestly don't know how I do it. Sometimes I wish I could hide away at home for days because it feels like I'm drowning, but I can't and I won't. If I could, I'm not sure I would ever come out. I classify myself as a high performing person with stress induced anxiety. The good thing is that there are always moments of clarity. Moments where you see your accomplishments and you're just amazed at yourself.
HUGSS!!! As someone who’s is in a long-term relationship with a partner who’s struggling with depression and anxiety, I recognise so many things of what you’re talking about. Indeed open communication about your feelings and boundaries is so so important to help others understand and support you. I absolutely loved hearing about your experiences and perspectives on anxiety, as it comes in many different shapes and sizes. Honestly wish I could reach out to you and give you a big big hug. But luckily it seems like you have an amazing support system around you who can take care of that 😊❤️
hi estee! thank you so much for this video. i’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for years and to hear one of my biggest role models talk about it so candidly is incredible. i look up to you in so many ways and it’s always so refreshing when you talk about your anxiety...like if you have it and you’re so amazing, maybe i can be amazing too:) anyways love you lots! thanks for being you:)
I've suffered from anxiety for several years. I've done all including the therapist and the medication. For me, exercise, meditation and eating right work. I'm sure she has went thru all of these. Most people with anxiety have. You then pair it down to what works best for you. I wish Estee and anyone else who suffers from anxiety peace. It's a real struggle.
I went to therapist who gave me the techniques of meditations and yoga. So if you find that those techniques on your own and they are helping you cope, maybe you don't need therapy??? Everyones different, its not a one size fit all deal :)
Aly Whitmore i have found this to work for me. Therapy gave me some helpful tools that I can now use to work through my issues on my own. It requires a lot of introspection and reflection. I know therapy works better for some than others ❤️
Thank you! It's so easy to think someone as successful as you has it all together and has no real life issues like us work a day folks. As we learned from Kate Spade, there is no such thing as being too successful to have depression and anxiety. It's so important to speak out about this stuff.
Thank you Estée! I love how open you are with us and that you find the strength within you to share even the more difficult and personal things with us. One tip to everyone - remember to do proper blood tests! So often anxiety - especially for women - can be caused by hormones or thyroid issues. Often it goes unnoticed for a long time as well, so remember to discuss it with your doctor!
Thank you! I’m currently off work for a few weeks with my anxiety which is so hard because I’m a workaholic. I work in mental health and I’m slowly learning to practise what I preach. It helps so much to hear someone who has been/is going through the same type of thing ❤
this helped me out a lot Estee, I have been suffering from high anxiety and frequent daily panic attacks, and it's just nice to know your not alone, people have been through it before, and that it eventually gets better
Since I've been on therapy I haven't had symptoms of depression. I do take antidepressants and for me they're wonderful. I've never feel myself more than today. The first time I saw my therapist (psychoanalyst) she told me depression is not a permanent thing unless you actually have brain damage. And, well, mental health is different for everyone but if this helps you, you don't have to suffer the symptoms regularly. For me, I committed to myself to work on everything I can to never get back on depression or at least, as you said, to know my triggers so they don't hurt me anymore. It ain't an easy subject to talk on public. Not everyone understands what is been depressed. I mean, I remember when I was the sickest I couldn't even understand myself. I didn't understand what was happening on my mind and sometimes I thought 'that's it, I'm gonna live with this forever' but thank God depression can be cure. As an illness, with the right help, it goes away and the more you keep working on yourself the less symptoms came back. I am so glad right know that I can say I don't have depression anymore and I'm getting all the weapons I need in case it returns. Therapy and medication saved me. But most of all, myself. I gave me a chance to recover. I invested in my mental health because I know I deserve all the best.
I also used to have panic attacks all the time. I still struggle with anxiety, but or the most part I have learned to recognize the signs that one is coming on, and I am able to get myself out of the situation or do things to calm myself down before it gets too bad.
Thank you for always taking time out and talking about things in life that aren’t so pretty and light. I adore your videos on beauty and fashion and such, but these little heart to hearts are my favourite... feels like a big group hug. Hope you are having a beautiful day Estee... and positive vibes to all of you who might come across this as well. Xo
Thanks for sharing your point of view. As someone who is struggling with anxiety and depression its so comforting to hear that people you look up to struggle sometimes too. Hope that you find peace today. xx Elle
Thank you Estée! I really didn't know you are fighting with anxiety. Always checking out your channel because I love your style so much but this video was so good to watch. Anxiety has come up in my life during the last months and I really am overwhelmed by so many things. I was always feeling strong and this is so new for me. It is so nice to know that you are so open about it and makes me realize that even people who seem always perfect have feelings like this. I really would like to give you a big hug. Keep on going, you are pure inspiration :-*
Thank you for sharing this with us. I feel videos like this help people with anxiety open up about it. I suffer from anxiety and for a long time I was ashamed or scared to tell anyone what I was going through. I felt like people would think I’m crazy. Now I know I have nothing to be ashamed of, but there are so many ppl out there who are. Videos like this let people with anxiety know they’re not alone. This is something they can control and fix/ heal over time. Thank you Estee ♥️ p.s I have also been dabbling with CBD products, (living in DC I have many many options haha) and I really like it. Definitely helps keep my mind calm and body relaxed.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been having a really bad time with my anxiety & depression lately and this made me feel less alone. You're such an inspiration. Keep glowing, girl. ✨ - a small youtuber who admires you :)
Caffeine, regardless of its form, gives me panic attacks and never really did much of anything for me to feel 'awake.' I still drink coffee, but I do decaf (I've always enjoyed coffee as a treat and never drank it to wake-up anyway). Decaf isn't caffeine free entirely, but it's close enough to not have my anxiety exacerbated.
I get you, Estee. I'm an introvert and anything related to social events... feels like an "obligation". So, I never go. I just don't want to go, because "I'm obliged to" or "I have to". It's important to be in a situation that does not stress you out; health is wealth. Well, at the end of the day, we still have a choice (to say Yes or No). I'm so proud of you, though. I have watched your channel grow. You've come this far. Don't give up. Enjoy life, but not to the point of doing drugs or being an alcoholic. You know what I mean. Take care, sweetie. Also, listen to happy music (not instrumental or romantic) and eat ice cream anytime you're about to feel anxious. It works for me every single time. #introvert #anxiety
I love that you shared this. I also experience anxiety, mine is health related...thinking I’m sick or catastrophizing minor illnesses into serious diseases. Exercising regularly & meditating help me immensely. If my anxiety is really high, going for a run will often times relieve it. I work in healthcare and I read referrals all days of people that are sick...which causes my anxiety, it also is very clear to me that most everyone has issues with anxiety from time to time & I often wonder why. Is it from overworking ourselves....most likely. Too much stress! If we all could just slow down, I’m sure we would feel better. That’s why we feel better on vacation. 🖤
Thanks for opening up and sharing this side of your life, Estee! I am a long time viewer and I think you are an inspiration for so many people grappling with the very real dynamics of anxiety and mental health. Sending you lots of good energy! 🌟
Anxiety and self esteem are so closely entwined. I could really relate to all that you said, especially to part about friendships and feeling like you’re a nuisance. Thank you again for talking about anxiety Estée xx
Thank you so much for being so open, Estee! That's huge! I use an app for meditation called "Headspace". That really helps me dealing with stressful feelings. Also medication. I think it's sad, that taking medication for mental health is still such a stigma, although so many people are dealing with mental health problems. I love you for your courage, Estee!
I suffer with both depression and anxiety, and it sucks. Sometimes I have physical symptoms of anxiety even if I’m doing fine mentally. It’s so frustrating, like I could be having a great day and feeling fine, yet for some reason I can’t seem to breathe properly (the half breath thing, I have it all the time). I’m on medication for both depression and anxiety and I’m so grateful for them. They don’t solve my issues, but they help me function so that I can work on my issues myself. Thank you for this video, I think it’s really important to talk about mental health issues to not only raise awareness but also to understand that you’re not alone. Keep fighting! ❤️
Your open and honesty surrounding anxiety is so refreshing. I don’t feel like you’ve done a video talking about it just as click bait which so many people do now. Thank you for speaking up.
Thank you so much for even just bringing this topic up online and starting to make it normal to talk about these crippling mental illnesses. I find that it’s still so taboo, and I am scared to death of boring people, or scaring them off, if you know what I mean. My anxiety and depression have ended many long term friendships and deep relationships, so I am very careful about who I tell/bore about it. In fact, I’ve had people’s eyes glaze over and then I’m just gone. I use medication, counselling therapy, and a lot of alternative therapies to cope with it all. I have gradually become more of a recluse over the past couple of years. Mine is caused by a prolonged attack in my workplace, and has changed my life completely. My hope is that through my work on this illness, that I will reach a place of comprise with the world. And of course online shopping is now my favourite and only way to shop, another problem. Again, thank you Estée, it was good to hear your perspective. Take care x
Estee, this video has incredible timing. I have struggled with anxiety since I was young as well. These past few months have been terrible. This morning, as I'm laying in bed feeling incredibly low and my body aches from the anxiety and I'm exhausted from no sleep.. this video popped up. Everything you've said is exactly what I feel. It brought me comfort and got me up and into the shower. I can't thank you enough. These videos are so helpful to hear others talk about the same things your going through. And now I think I might go pick up a vape pen ;)
I think choosing to slow down can really help. Not looking at our phones every second. Not thinking about our problems all the time. Or being slaves to our to do lists. Being kind to ourselves in our mental chatter. Deciding not to feed the anxiety and taking back the power in the small ways that we are able to xx
I love how open you are about your anxiety and depression. I have been dealing with both since early childhood and it’s hard to find people who understand.
Hey Estée! I’ve been watching your videos for years girl and I’m such a huge fan! I’ve had anxiety for so damn long too. I’m so happy you’re talking about it so openly. If I could offer any advice to anyone - be kind to yourself and forgive yourself quickly. This world is already full of the hard stuff that we shouldn’t do it to ourselves! Big love!
This video really resonated with me, thank you. When you said you are sometimes scared to talk about it - I was initially really scared to even watch this as I find I often ignore it in an attempt not to address it and pretend it isn't happening. Watching this actually made me feel much lighter, so thank you for a lil pick me up on a Thursday evening when I feel I'm finally coming out of a high anxiety period!! xxx
You look absolutely beautiful and radiant Esteé! This video was so relatable and refreshing to watch. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in these struggles. Thank you for always being so open and transparent- I know it was hard to do ❤️
Feeling overwhelmed and therefore getting anxious about things that don't even matter is the worst. I'm on medication for anxiety too and it's so nice to hear someone with influence talking about it ❤
About the up and down effect : try to see if it's related to your menstruation. I personally thought I had mental issue until I understood it was so related to hormones. For instance now, If I'm suddenly thinking what a shitty person I am and how the world is going to an end and everything is dark : I'm 3 day from my period. It took me years to accept that and I know many women are not that aware of that. But hormones are so real ! Like if you feel concern so that other women may hear about that !
As someone who doesn't have anxiety, this was so interesting. I have a friend who suffers terribly with it and tbh I've never really understood it. But I think I can be more helpful and understanding towards her now. Thanks Estee.
Therapy and medication at the end of the day the most important ways to combat anxiety. Meditation and yoga and all the stuff are temporary fixes that for most, including me don’t even work. People need to talk about this more!
Hey Estee, thank you so much for having the courage to speak openly about this topic! It is really helpful to me. I've suffered with anxiety especially when growing up and I used to struggle so much and didnt know what it was or how to handle it. So thank you! Lots of love
This was so beautiful. I’m really glad you did a video about this because I remember you mentioning your anxiety in a previous video and I was curious. I totally relate to everything you said! I’ve had pretty active anxiety for most of my teenage experience and there was about a 2 month span where I would get to school, get extremely over whelmed, cry in the bathroom and then just leave school. I’ve found very healthy ways to cope now and going into my senior year I feel confident and prepared! I just want you to know I’m super proud that you are so successful and understanding your boundaries and how to cope. Wonderful inspiration!
Thank You for sharing a piece of your self with all of us. It is so unfortunate that mental health has such a stigma, but by your sharing you are helping to open up a positive dialogue for others. I think your Mom is so right, to focus on doing 1 thing. I feel so overwhelmed looking at a mountain of things to do, but taking it 1 step at a time really does help!!! Take good care of yourself! ❤️
Such a good video. So nice to hear that we deal with things the same way. One thing that has helped me is knowing that anxiety and depression is part of my personality. It’s just who I am. It’s how I deal with things. It’s like accepting who I am in a way. :) sending love and peace your way 💕💕
Sometimes I get stressed out thinking about talking to friends or family about feeling anxious because they don't always understand the concept of being anxious and not knowing the source of it. Some of my friends relate to being anxious but then they might feel like they have reasons for it with young kids to take care of and other responsibilities that I personally don't have. Not to say that one experience is more important than another but it's all relative I guess. This past week when I was at work, I just felt this overwhelming sadness and I don't know what triggered it but then a co-worker mentioned hormones and how she can feel sad as a result and I thought about it and I was on my period and had never made the connection to fluctuations in hormones and feeling certain ways. I guess I've just always been so resistant to labeling myself as having a lack of control over my body based on my cycle because I think of the stereotypes of women during PMS etc. and I reject those stereotypes/beliefs on such a basic level but this week, I started to realize that there maybe is some element of truth to it, to a degree. Eating clean is a big help for me in all areas from dealing with hormonal changes to stress/anxiety/depression. Thanks so much for sharing, Estée. It's so important to normalize the mental health struggles that so many of us experience and to drive home the fact that we're not alone in it. Sometimes I think it's the plight of our modern world and then other times, I think that maybe people in the past just didn't talk about it as openly and that was helpful to no one.
oh my gosh I totally related to this video 100% especially the friendship bit, I've just lost one of my "closest" friends because she thought I was a let down because I couldn't do everything she wanted me to do because sometimes my anxiety takes complete control of me, and I am heartbroken. Anxiety sucks. And i'm starting a new job on Monday, my first office job ever and my anxiety is through the roof right now. I just feel super down and this video really really helped. thank you so much. I really hope you feel better soon. loads of love. xoxo
An important conversation to have when there are so many misconceptions about what mental health looks like. Thanks for speaking about your experience with anxiety
I simply love you, Estee! I can relate with u on everything u said in this video and all the videos u make here. Thank u so much for sharing and showing ur vulnerability on a platform such as TH-cam. Please know that I cradle ur vulnerability with the outmost care, respect and love. Cus it’s powerful and precious. Watching this video reaffirmed my love n support for you. I know with the unnatural aspect of the digital landscape, it might seem so unreal for someone to genuinely love n support u. But I do. Thanks again for just being you, whatever and however that is
Hi Estée, I am so sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. Just thought I’d tell you how much happiness and laughter your vlogs have brought me over the years. You are such a kind and curious and humble woman. Wishing you the best health🎈
Thank you ❤️ feeling really anxious atm and your voice / advice really helped me feel more calm. I know it’s never easy to talk about this kind of thing online so thanks for putting yourself out there 💕
WOAH what you said about anxiety being not in the present moment really struck me. I've always thought of myself as an over-thinker, not necessarily someone with anxiety, but I love hearing you describe social anxiety in that way. Just acknowledging something will help you move past it. Next time i feel myself overthinking a situation, I'll remember to pull back to the present as assess if something here and now is actually causing anxiety or if it's all in my head. Thank you for being open and honest. It has been a pleasure to watch your journey!
I get the same feeling when I drink coffee. I haven't had coffee for a long time and lately I've tried decaf and it's so good! Same taste (in my opinion) and no reactions in my body. :)
Me parking my car home after a long challenging day of work and dealing with difficult personalities for the day, exhaling: “finally I’m home, it feels amazing”. My anxiety: “But you have to go to work again tomorrow”. Me: “shut up you stupid B-word, let me enjoy this”. That actually just happened! 😅 I just want to say thank you for sharing Estee. Two years ago was the beginning of my experience with really bad anxiety.... so bad it affected my driving, and even going to the park to walk my dog, or doing things I would usually enjoy doing. I cancelled on my friends a lot as well as you mentioned. I felt I was going crazy, and no one around me at the time understood; Yoga and meditation truly helped. I learned to deal with it by just letting it pass, reminding myself to breath, and repeating “I am safe” in my head. But it’s such a horrible physical, emotional, and mental feeling... it stops you in your tracks, and everything just paralyzes around you but at the same time goes really fast. It’s horrible! I am grateful it has gotten better, and for everyone dealing with it as well just know it gets better.
Thank you for doing this video, it really helps. I realized I suffered from anxiety just a couple years ago, I never knew how to call all those feelings before, started doing yoga and while that doesn't make it magically disappears it really made a difference.
Very very honest comment. I've been really out of touch with your content for a while due to my personal viewing preferences and girl, I just felt like we were one person during this video. I've never really felt understood or heard when I tried to express what I was feeling during a particularly anxious or depressed period, but I've never identified more with the way you talk about it. I can relate so strongly to the part about medication and triggers and the way anxiety can just creep up on you. I hope you can stay strong and not let it control you and I wish you all of the best, thank you so much for speaking up about this and making me feel heard
Hi Estee! I too have super high anxiety, depression and am grieving, and I am on SSRIs for it all (my SSRI immediately helped with that squashed feeling in my chest....after about 3 days taking it, I was suddenly able to breathe! I've now been on it over a year, panic attack free). I also take CBD, and vape it, but have actually switched to vaping whole cannabis flower (I'm in Ottawa, Canada so as you know, it's LEGAL and I can walk into a cute shop and check out all the sweetly packaged weed merch!!! Yay). Vaping flower is healthier than the vape pens....which I have to warn you, become WAY TOO MUCH FUN TO USE. Also, look up something called the Entourage Effect if your CBD stops working for you. So for me, straight up cannabis really helps, and I'm trying different strains, but dosing is hard to figure out! Some types can spike anxiety, but those types (usually a sativa strain, the one with less CBD, more THC) can also make one feel motivated, happy, euphoric and totally stress-free. But it's so not clear-cut... just like anxiety, effects can be subtly different from day to day. The journey is a long one... so thanks for sharing. You are encouraging me to share my own. I haven't released a video since MAY!!!! Ugh.
... OH, and on the wine front: I too LOVE ME MY VINO. But the effects the next day, even if I don't get drunk, is awful. I am so hating life on that second day, and everything is overwhelming. I don't get this effect with pot.
Important and some of the best and encouraging videos I saw for a long time.Nothing is more important to talk about depression ,anxiety and mental health in general.I think it helps a lot of people.If I could give more than ohne thumbs up,I instantly would do that.❤️❤️❤️💁♀️💪👏
Thank you for uploading this Estée! I’ve had severe anxiety for as long as I can remember, and it seems to have progressed the older I get. I have a terminally ill father and have had a few deaths to endure this year alone, which have increased it immensely, sometimes like you, I get anxious for no reason, or I get anxious about things I can’t control. I don’t believe anyone should feel uncomfortable to talk about it as it’s super healthy and you feel so much better after the fact! I take CBD oil to calm myself as well as I don’t want to feed my body pharmaceuticals all the time! This was great Estée, very helpful to see how everyone handles their anxiety differently!
I love this video and your openness about this as this will help others. Things that have personally helped me with chronic anxiety: therapy, daily meditation practice, vegetarian diet, no alcohol and no caffeine. Meditation enhances the therapy sessions in my experience. I used to be dismissive of meditation until after learning transcendental meditation, it has helped me so much.
I’m really glad you made this video. I’ve struggled with depression for years but anxiety has only recently decided to join the party. These last few weeks have been draining and exceptionally stressful both at work and off and it seems like my mind and body are struggling to cope. I do see a therapist but unfortunately she had to cancel today due to a family emergency. Thankfully, having a few days off from work has helped quite a bit.
I can totally understand you, feeling the same, had to quit drinking coffee and do more yoga but the thing that was life-changing was to start therapy with a psychologist that specializes in anxiety. I would totally recommend this !!! I feel GREAT now
I find the whole, "do the next thing" mantra to be helpful. Going into a situation where I know I am going to have anxiety, I break it down into small pieces. Like trying to talk myself into working out. So, first I turn on a song that makes me feel like dancing (if not in the moment then just generally), and I live in that moment. And then I say, okay, I'm going to change my clothes. And then I say, now I'm going to put my shoes on. So getting ready to workout isn't getting ready to workout...it's these smaller tasks that I can concentrate on but I go through the process and eventually I've worked out, it's over and I am glad I did it. I do the same thing when I am feeling anxious. I break it down into smaller tasks that I can concentrate on and before I know it I have spent the evening at a party, laughing and joking. I also stop myself and remind myself that if it won't be something I regret on my deathbed...it isn't that big of a deal. Both of these things have greatly impacted how I deal with anxiety.
Hannah Fancher I appreciate this advice. There are times I get so overwhelmed with all that my day holds so I just don’t do any of them. I will need to try what you are suggesting by breaking it down. One thing at a time.
I don't have anxiety like this, but one of my closest friends does and a lot of what you've said here --especially about running away from problems and depression--really resonate with me here. Lots of love to you, Estée!
Thank you for this video. I don't have anxiety but my boyfriend has, and you really helped me understanding what it is and how I can help him. Love from Paris xx
I don't really know if Doctors have done much research in this area, however ladies I really think there's a connection between your hormones and cycles as related to anxiety. I went through an early menopause and now 10 years later I have no anxiety what so ever, and believe if I told you my life some of you would run for the hills. So here's my point, you may have heard that as you get older you don't care anymore about all the "what if" you don't care what others might think. It just goes away. That's what leads me to my hypothesis that it really could be related to one's cycle. Just a thought.
Thanks for the video Estée- so relatable! I'm always amazed by the power of the mind and how thinking about or verbalising your anxiety symptoms can literally conjur them up in your body right then and there! I'm taking a low dosage of medication for anxiety and couldn't agree more about the stigma behind it. Some people seem to think it's a cop out but I don't see the point in struggling unnecessarily when there's medicine that will help me to feel like my normal self again! I find it particularly helps to rid the physical symptoms- restlessness, palpatations, breathlessness etc xx
Estee, I related to so much of what you said in this video. I’m sure lots of other people have too. Thank you so much for sharing💖 it’s a simple but brave thing to do and it really helps. Lots of love xxx
I like that you are a real person, true to yourself and know what you feel. I know some of us can definitely relate. You are beautiful and you are the best. ❤️ 🌻 ☀️
Seeing you smile makes me happy 🌻🌻🌻 thank you for sharing so personal and vulnerable part of you, I have no idea how you managed it, but this video was very, very uplifting : )
"That's a lie...😳...that's a lie" 😂 There are so many one-liners in here that made me bust out laughing! But seriously every video you make where you discuss your mental/emotional state helps me breathe a sigh of relief because I feel so much less alone. I can't thank you enough!
Thank you for this Q&A video. I feel exactly the same way! It just feels like your talking about me. But I never knew why I felt this way, why I get so stressed. And you helped me see that I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Thank you for being so honest about taking medication. So many people shy away from it or shame people for being on meds. I wouldn’t be alive without my antidepressants- I’ll probably be on them for my entire life and that’s okay.
Number one thing you can and should do for anxiety is go to therapy. Yoga, breathing exercises, mindfulness and meditation are all great things to HELP with stress and anxiety but please, anybody who is reading this, if you have full blown anxiety/anxiety attacks etc not just everyday stress, the most important thing you should do is go and talk to a professional. Talking to a therapist and working with them will do so, so much more than at home remedies. Don't suffer alone, don't be afraid to ask for help. Therapy is for everyone
Alina Anna when chemicals are off, you need medication, and other aids can help maintain.
Sadly therapy is for averyone who have the money to pay it. At least in my country is very expensive.
I’ve seen a couple of psychiatrists and counselors for my anxiety/panic attacks. Surprisingly the psychiatrists that I saw told me to keep doing yoga and ONLY go the drug route if I’ve exhausted all other options. Yoga is the only thing that kept me sane when my panic attacks and anxiety were at their worst and it was all day every day.
First of all, you look stunning babe. Drinking all the water & doing all the yoga
Out here trying my best :)
@ Hey - I have the best tip for if you are feeling like you can't get a proper breath in. I had this for over 20 years, feeling like I was trying to suck air through a straw full of sand with an elephant sat on my chest. Then I discovered that instead of fighting to breathe in - breathe OUT - as much as you can. Forget the next breath in. Just empty your lungs forcefully - the last 10% that you wouldn't normally exhale. And you know what. Do that a few times and it works a treat. I had 25 years of full-blown panic attacks and borderline agoraphobia (esp. socially and on public transport) - and I consider myself pretty much cured these days. A mixture of allowing my panic to just be and not fighting it any more with some practical self-care. Once we accept anxiety, it reduced its power by half. Fighting and avoiding is what takes all the energy.
I have anxiety plus a ED (lucky girl) and what just helps during the darkest moments is my pet...it’s the most sensitive cat ever and he just knows when I’m having a crisis...he just leans on my chest and starts to purr...and I focus on the sound and I slowly start to calm down...it’s therapeutic❤️❤️
I put off taking meds for my anxiety for SO LONG because I was afraid it would alter my personality or limit my creativity, but for me, what it really helps with is calming the physical reactions my body has to anxiety. I have less heart palpitation, less nervous stomach pains, and I am way less weepy. I just puts me more in control. I know it doesn't work well for everyone, just like other remedies, but I think it is worth a try for people who are doing what they can, and still struggling.
Kristan Makl what do you take please
Judy Poppins I currently take Lexapro. I know a lot of people dont like it because the most common side effect is decreased libido. But I have been lucky I guess, cause I haven’t really noticed a difference
I have been prescribed meds (not anti depressants) but too scared to take them cause the possibility of weight gain
Nodded my head throughout the whole video! Always nice to know you’re not alone!
Anne Kramer you’re definitely not alone ❤️
I totally agree.
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Your makeup looks so fresh and natural! Tutorial please😍😍😍
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I did therapy for two years with a wonderful therapist (which is so important) and it made me realize my triggers and also find strength in who I am and drive through the stress and anxiety. Wish you the best!
Thank you for speaking up saying holistic is great but for some people medication at certain times is necessary - this is an important message!
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! As a young woman who deals with anxiety/depression as well, it’s comforting to know you aren’t alone. I will definitely have to look in to these coping mechanisms to find my peace.
As a psychology student I find it really brave and important that someone like you talks about mental health openly in public because it's the only way to reduce stigmas and show people they are not alone or crazy because they feel that way.
But I would really recommend going to therapy, not just taking medicine!
Wishing you all the best! You are such an inspiration
I have had anxiety most of my life. And now in my 27th year of living, i finally got medication (sertraline) and it has honestly saved my life.
And honestly this video is the best you've done in years. Thank you for sharing
Avoidance of social activities or situations that make you uncomfortable is the worst thing you can do. The more you avoid, the worse the anxiety can become. Small steps! You can barter with yourself, for example, go to the event but tell yourself you can leave after say 30 minutes...always give yourself an out and that can take some of the anxiety away. The more you do things that make you uncomfortable the easier it will become and your anxiety level will go down. I wouldn't wish anxiety on anyway but there are coping skills you can learn to make your life much easier. You got this!
Thank you so much for opening up about taking medication for depression/anxiety. It has literally saved my life twice -- the first time in my 20's and then again after my son was born. Working out, getting outside, meditation, yoga...all those things are good, but there is nothing wrong with taking medication too.
I have suffered with anxiety since I was about 15/16 (I'm now 21), but for most of that time done little to combat it. My younger brother (18 months younger than me) recently suddenly passed away in a car accident; a year or two before his passing my brother was diagnosed with Bipolar and this was a very hard time for him and my family and part of the reason I did nothing about my anxiety; I didn't want to take the focus away from what he was having to deal with and trying so hard to combat. Since his passing I have been seeing a psychologist to deal with my grief, and in hand my anxiety. I have now started on medication to help with my anxiety. That was a big moment for me. My brother is the one who has now inspired me to look after my mental health, he was such an advocate for taking away the stigma of medication, and that although mental illness SUCKS at times, it doesn't make you any less of person if you suffer with it, and that the most important thing is to look after yourself. I see now I never should have put my mental health on the back burner. Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story Estee, I understand how hard it can be to talk about our mental health and it's amazing that you're doing it on such a public space. I hope you're okay and please look after yourself xo
I just wanted you to know that I recognized that this video was difficult for you to make but you did it to help others and I appreciate you. Sending you healing and positive energies
The "deepest breath not feeling deep enough" thing has been happening to me a lot lately, and I literally just made my first ever therapy appointment just before clicking on this video--even though I've been wanting to see a therapist FOR DECADES! I'm so thankful that you (and so many others) are able to share your experiences with depression and anxiety, it's so comforting to know that I'm not alone and that there is hope. 💗
I love and appreciate this video. My anxiety has been at its absolute worst recently and I’m struggling to handle it. I constantly have episodes where I feel my chest tighten and break down in tears for no real reason.... to put it into words it feels like I’m standing at the very edge of a cliff and if I let my guard down and relax well...something bad will happen. So I’m constantly on edge and overwhelmed, and tend to anticipate the worse case scenario.
This was so refreshing to watch. I resisted medication for so long but it's made such a difference to my life. If you had asthma or diabetes you'd happily take medication, why not for your mental health?
SO TRUE! lol my mom always used to say this :D
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I just wanted to make a note of a common misconception because anxiety attacks and panic attacks are two different things. They are used somewhat interchangeably in this video so just wanted to clarify from a psychological perspective. Panic attacks are associated with and can often come along with having a panic disorder, whereas anxiety attacks are related to having an anxiety disorder. They can look and feel very different. That said I am so glad you made this video Estée!! Thank you for being so opened!
Krishna Cousins exactly! Panic attacks occur even when you are not stressed or aware of a situation, I used to have them sleeping, they used to wake me up. Panic attacks feel like you are dying, the feeling is like having a heart attack without the chestbpain, a sense of desorientation or a feeling of out of body experience. Anxiety untreated can lead to a severe anxiety disorder. But there is a training one can do to help you. Mindfulness and méditation helped with mine.
"You can't run away from your problems but you can for a couple of days" - sums up how I deal with anxiety and responsibilities. Love you Estee, thank you so much for this video, I am sure so many will find this helpful. ❤️
thank you Estée. i know it's a challenge to verbalize and/or converse about anxiety and depression online, but as someone who's dealing with both, it really is refreshing and lovely to hear someone else openly discuss it!
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I'm in law school and I work.. and the level of pressure, of stress... the level of intensity is crushing. I honestly don't know how I do it. Sometimes I wish I could hide away at home for days because it feels like I'm drowning, but I can't and I won't. If I could, I'm not sure I would ever come out. I classify myself as a high performing person with stress induced anxiety. The good thing is that there are always moments of clarity. Moments where you see your accomplishments and you're just amazed at yourself.
HUGSS!!! As someone who’s is in a long-term relationship with a partner who’s struggling with depression and anxiety, I recognise so many things of what you’re talking about. Indeed open communication about your feelings and boundaries is so so important to help others understand and support you. I absolutely loved hearing about your experiences and perspectives on anxiety, as it comes in many different shapes and sizes. Honestly wish I could reach out to you and give you a big big hug. But luckily it seems like you have an amazing support system around you who can take care of that 😊❤️
hi estee! thank you so much for this video. i’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for years and to hear one of my biggest role models talk about it so candidly is incredible. i look up to you in so many ways and it’s always so refreshing when you talk about your anxiety...like if you have it and you’re so amazing, maybe i can be amazing too:) anyways love you lots! thanks for being you:)
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Meditation, yoga, essential oils are great, but what about the most important thing? Going to a therapist whilst taking medication.
Meditation, yoga, essential oils are great, but what about the most important thing? Going to a therapist whilst taking medication
THIS!!
I've suffered from anxiety for several years. I've done all including the therapist and the medication. For me, exercise, meditation and eating right work. I'm sure she has went thru all of these. Most people with anxiety have. You then pair it down to what works best for you. I wish Estee and anyone else who suffers from anxiety peace. It's a real struggle.
paola cignoli She mentions medication
I went to therapist who gave me the techniques of meditations and yoga. So if you find that those techniques on your own and they are helping you cope, maybe you don't need therapy??? Everyones different, its not a one size fit all deal :)
Aly Whitmore i have found this to work for me. Therapy gave me some helpful tools that I can now use to work through my issues on my own. It requires a lot of introspection and reflection. I know therapy works better for some than others ❤️
Thank you! It's so easy to think someone as successful as you has it all together and has no real life issues like us work a day folks. As we learned from Kate Spade, there is no such thing as being too successful to have depression and anxiety. It's so important to speak out about this stuff.
Thank you Estée! I love how open you are with us and that you find the strength within you to share even the more difficult and personal things with us. One tip to everyone - remember to do proper blood tests! So often anxiety - especially for women - can be caused by hormones or thyroid issues. Often it goes unnoticed for a long time as well, so remember to discuss it with your doctor!
Thank you! I’m currently off work for a few weeks with my anxiety which is so hard because I’m a workaholic. I work in mental health and I’m slowly learning to practise what I preach. It helps so much to hear someone who has been/is going through the same type of thing ❤
1 year+ on and I feel 1000x better. I’m now a qualified therapist, keep going people x
this helped me out a lot Estee, I have been suffering from high anxiety and frequent daily panic attacks, and it's just nice to know your not alone, people have been through it before, and that it eventually gets better
Since I've been on therapy I haven't had symptoms of depression. I do take antidepressants and for me they're wonderful. I've never feel myself more than today.
The first time I saw my therapist (psychoanalyst) she told me depression is not a permanent thing unless you actually have brain damage. And, well, mental health is different for everyone but if this helps you, you don't have to suffer the symptoms regularly.
For me, I committed to myself to work on everything I can to never get back on depression or at least, as you said, to know my triggers so they don't hurt me anymore.
It ain't an easy subject to talk on public. Not everyone understands what is been depressed. I mean, I remember when I was the sickest I couldn't even understand myself. I didn't understand what was happening on my mind and sometimes I thought 'that's it, I'm gonna live with this forever' but thank God depression can be cure. As an illness, with the right help, it goes away and the more you keep working on yourself the less symptoms came back.
I am so glad right know that I can say I don't have depression anymore and I'm getting all the weapons I need in case it returns.
Therapy and medication saved me. But most of all, myself. I gave me a chance to recover. I invested in my mental health because I know I deserve all the best.
I also used to have panic attacks all the time. I still struggle with anxiety, but or the most part I have learned to recognize the signs that one is coming on, and I am able to get myself out of the situation or do things to calm myself down before it gets too bad.
Thank you for always taking time out and talking about things in life that aren’t so pretty and light. I adore your videos on beauty and fashion and such, but these little heart to hearts are my favourite... feels like a big group hug. Hope you are having a beautiful day Estee... and positive vibes to all of you who might come across this as well. Xo
Thanks for sharing your point of view. As someone who is struggling with anxiety and depression its so comforting to hear that people you look up to struggle sometimes too. Hope that you find peace today. xx Elle
I’m so happy I’m not the only one who feels like this a lot. Every day is a bit of a struggle, but we’re in it together ♥️ 🐝
Thank you Estée! I really didn't know you are fighting with anxiety. Always checking out your channel because I love your style so much but this video was so good to watch. Anxiety has come up in my life during the last months and I really am overwhelmed by so many things. I was always feeling strong and this is so new for me. It is so nice to know that you are so open about it and makes me realize that even people who seem always perfect have feelings like this. I really would like to give you a big hug. Keep on going, you are pure inspiration :-*
Thank you for sharing this with us. I feel videos like this help people with anxiety open up about it. I suffer from anxiety and for a long time I was ashamed or scared to tell anyone what I was going through. I felt like people would think I’m crazy. Now I know I have nothing to be ashamed of, but there are so many ppl out there who are. Videos like this let people with anxiety know they’re not alone. This is something they can control and fix/ heal over time. Thank you Estee ♥️ p.s I have also been dabbling with CBD products, (living in DC I have many many options haha) and I really like it. Definitely helps keep my mind calm and body relaxed.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been having a really bad time with my anxiety & depression lately and this made me feel less alone. You're such an inspiration. Keep glowing, girl. ✨
- a small youtuber who admires you :)
Caffeine, regardless of its form, gives me panic attacks and never really did much of anything for me to feel 'awake.' I still drink coffee, but I do decaf (I've always enjoyed coffee as a treat and never drank it to wake-up anyway). Decaf isn't caffeine free entirely, but it's close enough to not have my anxiety exacerbated.
I get you, Estee. I'm an introvert and anything related to social events... feels like an "obligation". So, I never go. I just don't want to go, because "I'm obliged to" or "I have to". It's important to be in a situation that does not stress you out; health is wealth. Well, at the end of the day, we still have a choice (to say Yes or No).
I'm so proud of you, though. I have watched your channel grow. You've come this far. Don't give up. Enjoy life, but not to the point of doing drugs or being an alcoholic. You know what I mean. Take care, sweetie.
Also, listen to happy music (not instrumental or romantic) and eat ice cream anytime you're about to feel anxious. It works for me every single time. #introvert #anxiety
I love that you shared this. I also experience anxiety, mine is health related...thinking I’m sick or catastrophizing minor illnesses into serious diseases.
Exercising regularly & meditating help me immensely. If my anxiety is really high, going for a run will often times relieve it.
I work in healthcare and I read referrals all days of people that are sick...which causes my anxiety, it also is very clear to me that most everyone has issues with anxiety from time to time & I often wonder why. Is it from overworking ourselves....most likely. Too much stress! If we all could just slow down, I’m sure we would feel better. That’s why we feel better on vacation.
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Thanks for opening up and sharing this side of your life, Estee! I am a long time viewer and I think you are an inspiration for so many people grappling with the very real dynamics of anxiety and mental health. Sending you lots of good energy! 🌟
Anxiety and self esteem are so closely entwined. I could really relate to all that you said, especially to part about friendships and feeling like you’re a nuisance. Thank you again for talking about anxiety Estée xx
Thank you so much for being so open, Estee! That's huge!
I use an app for meditation called "Headspace". That really helps me dealing with stressful feelings. Also medication. I think it's sad, that taking medication for mental health is still such a stigma, although so many people are dealing with mental health problems.
I love you for your courage, Estee!
I suffer with both depression and anxiety, and it sucks. Sometimes I have physical symptoms of anxiety even if I’m doing fine mentally. It’s so frustrating, like I could be having a great day and feeling fine, yet for some reason I can’t seem to breathe properly (the half breath thing, I have it all the time). I’m on medication for both depression and anxiety and I’m so grateful for them. They don’t solve my issues, but they help me function so that I can work on my issues myself. Thank you for this video, I think it’s really important to talk about mental health issues to not only raise awareness but also to understand that you’re not alone. Keep fighting! ❤️
Your open and honesty surrounding anxiety is so refreshing. I don’t feel like you’ve done a video talking about it just as click bait which so many people do now. Thank you for speaking up.
Thank you so much for even just bringing this topic up online and starting to make it normal to talk about these crippling mental illnesses. I find that it’s still so taboo, and I am scared to death of boring people, or scaring them off, if you know what I mean. My anxiety and depression have ended many long term friendships and deep relationships, so I am very careful about who I tell/bore about it. In fact, I’ve had people’s eyes glaze over and then I’m just gone. I use medication, counselling therapy, and a lot of alternative therapies to cope with it all. I have gradually become more of a recluse over the past couple of years. Mine is caused by a prolonged attack in my workplace, and has changed my life completely. My hope is that through my work on this illness, that I will reach a place of comprise with the world. And of course online shopping is now my favourite and only way to shop, another problem. Again, thank you Estée, it was good to hear your perspective. Take care x
Estee, this video has incredible timing. I have struggled with anxiety since I was young as well. These past few months have been terrible. This morning, as I'm laying in bed feeling incredibly low and my body aches from the anxiety and I'm exhausted from no sleep.. this video popped up. Everything you've said is exactly what I feel. It brought me comfort and got me up and into the shower. I can't thank you enough. These videos are so helpful to hear others talk about the same things your going through. And now I think I might go pick up a vape pen ;)
I think choosing to slow down can really help. Not looking at our phones every second. Not thinking about our problems all the time. Or being slaves to our to do lists. Being kind to ourselves in our mental chatter. Deciding not to feed the anxiety and taking back the power in the small ways that we are able to xx
I love how open you are about your anxiety and depression. I have been dealing with both since early childhood and it’s hard to find people who understand.
Hey Estée! I’ve been watching your videos for years girl and I’m such a huge fan! I’ve had anxiety for so damn long too. I’m so happy you’re talking about it so openly. If I could offer any advice to anyone - be kind to yourself and forgive yourself quickly. This world is already full of the hard stuff that we shouldn’t do it to ourselves!
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This video really resonated with me, thank you. When you said you are sometimes scared to talk about it - I was initially really scared to even watch this as I find I often ignore it in an attempt not to address it and pretend it isn't happening. Watching this actually made me feel much lighter, so thank you for a lil pick me up on a Thursday evening when I feel I'm finally coming out of a high anxiety period!! xxx
You look absolutely beautiful and radiant Esteé! This video was so relatable and refreshing to watch. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in these struggles. Thank you for always being so open and transparent- I know it was hard to do ❤️
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Feeling overwhelmed and therefore getting anxious about things that don't even matter is the worst. I'm on medication for anxiety too and it's so nice to hear someone with influence talking about it ❤
It’s so good that you can be so open about your struggles with anxiety and depression - more people need to speak out to help reduce the stigma xx
About the up and down effect : try to see if it's related to your menstruation. I personally thought I had mental issue until I understood it was so related to hormones.
For instance now, If I'm suddenly thinking what a shitty person I am and how the world is going to an end and everything is dark : I'm 3 day from my period.
It took me years to accept that and I know many women are not that aware of that. But hormones are so real !
Like if you feel concern so that other women may hear about that !
As someone who doesn't have anxiety, this was so interesting. I have a friend who suffers terribly with it and tbh I've never really understood it. But I think I can be more helpful and understanding towards her now. Thanks Estee.
Therapy and medication at the end of the day the most important ways to combat anxiety. Meditation and yoga and all the stuff are temporary fixes that for most, including me don’t even work. People need to talk about this more!
Hey Estee, thank you so much for having the courage to speak openly about this topic! It is really helpful to me. I've suffered with anxiety especially when growing up and I used to struggle so much and didnt know what it was or how to handle it. So thank you! Lots of love
This was so beautiful. I’m really glad you did a video about this because I remember you mentioning your anxiety in a previous video and I was curious. I totally relate to everything you said! I’ve had pretty active anxiety for most of my teenage experience and there was about a 2 month span where I would get to school, get extremely over whelmed, cry in the bathroom and then just leave school. I’ve found very healthy ways to cope now and going into my senior year I feel confident and prepared! I just want you to know I’m super proud that you are so successful and understanding your boundaries and how to cope. Wonderful inspiration!
Thank You for sharing a piece of your self with all of us. It is so unfortunate that mental health has such a stigma, but by your sharing you are helping to open up a positive dialogue for others.
I think your Mom is so right, to focus on doing 1 thing. I feel so overwhelmed looking at a mountain of things to do, but taking it 1 step at a time really does help!!! Take good care of yourself! ❤️
Such a good video. So nice to hear that we deal with things the same way. One thing that has helped me is knowing that anxiety and depression is part of my personality. It’s just who I am. It’s how I deal with things. It’s like accepting who I am in a way. :) sending love and peace your way 💕💕
I love how you opened up about mental health, thank you Estee ❤️ we’re not alone and therapy makes the difference 💪🏻
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This is by far one of my favourite videos of yours, I always appreciate how open and relatable you are on this subject x
Thanks so much!
Sometimes I get stressed out thinking about talking to friends or family about feeling anxious because they don't always understand the concept of being anxious and not knowing the source of it. Some of my friends relate to being anxious but then they might feel like they have reasons for it with young kids to take care of and other responsibilities that I personally don't have. Not to say that one experience is more important than another but it's all relative I guess.
This past week when I was at work, I just felt this overwhelming sadness and I don't know what triggered it but then a co-worker mentioned hormones and how she can feel sad as a result and I thought about it and I was on my period and had never made the connection to fluctuations in hormones and feeling certain ways. I guess I've just always been so resistant to labeling myself as having a lack of control over my body based on my cycle because I think of the stereotypes of women during PMS etc. and I reject those stereotypes/beliefs on such a basic level but this week, I started to realize that there maybe is some element of truth to it, to a degree. Eating clean is a big help for me in all areas from dealing with hormonal changes to stress/anxiety/depression.
Thanks so much for sharing, Estée. It's so important to normalize the mental health struggles that so many of us experience and to drive home the fact that we're not alone in it. Sometimes I think it's the plight of our modern world and then other times, I think that maybe people in the past just didn't talk about it as openly and that was helpful to no one.
Hey estée, if you're missing your coffee maybe try to drink some decaffeinated coffee.
Lots of love and greetings from Germany ✌️
oh my gosh I totally related to this video 100% especially the friendship bit, I've just lost one of my "closest" friends because she thought I was a let down because I couldn't do everything she wanted me to do because sometimes my anxiety takes complete control of me, and I am heartbroken. Anxiety sucks. And i'm starting a new job on Monday, my first office job ever and my anxiety is through the roof right now. I just feel super down and this video really really helped. thank you so much. I really hope you feel better soon. loads of love. xoxo
An important conversation to have when there are so many misconceptions about what mental health looks like. Thanks for speaking about your experience with anxiety
I simply love you, Estee! I can relate with u on everything u said in this video and all the videos u make here. Thank u so much for sharing and showing ur vulnerability on a platform such as TH-cam. Please know that I cradle ur vulnerability with the outmost care, respect and love. Cus it’s powerful and precious. Watching this video reaffirmed my love n support for you. I know with the unnatural aspect of the digital landscape, it might seem so unreal for someone to genuinely love n support u. But I do. Thanks again for just being you, whatever and however that is
Hi Estée, I am so sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. Just thought I’d tell you how much happiness and laughter your vlogs have brought me over the years. You are such a kind and curious and humble woman. Wishing you the best health🎈
Thank you ❤️ feeling really anxious atm and your voice / advice really helped me feel more calm. I know it’s never easy to talk about this kind of thing online so thanks for putting yourself out there 💕
WOAH what you said about anxiety being not in the present moment really struck me. I've always thought of myself as an over-thinker, not necessarily someone with anxiety, but I love hearing you describe social anxiety in that way. Just acknowledging something will help you move past it. Next time i feel myself overthinking a situation, I'll remember to pull back to the present as assess if something here and now is actually causing anxiety or if it's all in my head.
Thank you for being open and honest. It has been a pleasure to watch your journey!
I didn't know I needed this! It's just really comforting knowing someone gets what I'm going through
I get the same feeling when I drink coffee. I haven't had coffee for a long time and lately I've tried decaf and it's so good! Same taste (in my opinion) and no reactions in my body. :)
Me parking my car home after a long challenging day of work and dealing with difficult personalities for the day, exhaling: “finally I’m home, it feels amazing”. My anxiety: “But you have to go to work again tomorrow”. Me: “shut up you stupid B-word, let me enjoy this”. That actually just happened! 😅 I just want to say thank you for sharing Estee. Two years ago was the beginning of my experience with really bad anxiety.... so bad it affected my driving, and even going to the park to walk my dog, or doing things I would usually enjoy doing. I cancelled on my friends a lot as well as you mentioned. I felt I was going crazy, and no one around me at the time understood; Yoga and meditation truly helped. I learned to deal with it by just letting it pass, reminding myself to breath, and repeating “I am safe” in my head. But it’s such a horrible physical, emotional, and mental feeling... it stops you in your tracks, and everything just paralyzes around you but at the same time goes really fast. It’s horrible! I am grateful it has gotten better, and for everyone dealing with it as well just know it gets better.
meditation helps me SO MUCH. It just centers you, so it's more difficult to get into a looping of anxiety thoughts. Thank you for this :)
Thank you for doing this video, it really helps. I realized I suffered from anxiety just a couple years ago, I never knew how to call all those feelings before, started doing yoga and while that doesn't make it magically disappears it really made a difference.
Very very honest comment. I've been really out of touch with your content for a while due to my personal viewing preferences and girl, I just felt like we were one person during this video. I've never really felt understood or heard when I tried to express what I was feeling during a particularly anxious or depressed period, but I've never identified more with the way you talk about it. I can relate so strongly to the part about medication and triggers and the way anxiety can just creep up on you. I hope you can stay strong and not let it control you and I wish you all of the best, thank you so much for speaking up about this and making me feel heard
Hi Estee! I too have super high anxiety, depression and am grieving, and I am on SSRIs for it all (my SSRI immediately helped with that squashed feeling in my chest....after about 3 days taking it, I was suddenly able to breathe! I've now been on it over a year, panic attack free).
I also take CBD, and vape it, but have actually switched to vaping whole cannabis flower (I'm in Ottawa, Canada so as you know, it's LEGAL and I can walk into a cute shop and check out all the sweetly packaged weed merch!!! Yay). Vaping flower is healthier than the vape pens....which I have to warn you, become WAY TOO MUCH FUN TO USE.
Also, look up something called the Entourage Effect if your CBD stops working for you. So for me, straight up cannabis really helps, and I'm trying different strains, but dosing is hard to figure out! Some types can spike anxiety, but those types (usually a sativa strain, the one with less CBD, more THC) can also make one feel motivated, happy, euphoric and totally stress-free. But it's so not clear-cut... just like anxiety, effects can be subtly different from day to day. The journey is a long one... so thanks for sharing. You are encouraging me to share my own. I haven't released a video since MAY!!!! Ugh.
... OH, and on the wine front: I too LOVE ME MY VINO. But the effects the next day, even if I don't get drunk, is awful. I am so hating life on that second day, and everything is overwhelming. I don't get this effect with pot.
Buddhism meditation teaches us how to catch and how to not create a negative thought. We don't run away from it.
this was soo refreshing to watch and something I very much needed to hear today! and you even answered I question I submitted, so thank you
Thanks so much for watching and sending in the question :)
Important and some of the best and encouraging videos I saw for a long time.Nothing is more important to talk about depression ,anxiety and mental health in general.I think it helps a lot of people.If I could give more than ohne thumbs up,I instantly would do that.❤️❤️❤️💁♀️💪👏
Thank you for uploading this Estée! I’ve had severe anxiety for as long as I can remember, and it seems to have progressed the older I get. I have a terminally ill father and have had a few deaths to endure this year alone, which have increased it immensely, sometimes like you, I get anxious for no reason, or I get anxious about things I can’t control. I don’t believe anyone should feel uncomfortable to talk about it as it’s super healthy and you feel so much better after the fact! I take CBD oil to calm myself as well as I don’t want to feed my body pharmaceuticals all the time! This was great Estée, very helpful to see how everyone handles their anxiety differently!
I love this video and your openness about this as this will help others. Things that have personally helped me with chronic anxiety: therapy, daily meditation practice, vegetarian diet, no alcohol and no caffeine. Meditation enhances the therapy sessions in my experience. I used to be dismissive of meditation until after learning transcendental meditation, it has helped me so much.
I’m really glad you made this video. I’ve struggled with depression for years but anxiety has only recently decided to join the party. These last few weeks have been draining and exceptionally stressful both at work and off and it seems like my mind and body are struggling to cope. I do see a therapist but unfortunately she had to cancel today due to a family emergency. Thankfully, having a few days off from work has helped quite a bit.
I can totally understand you, feeling the same, had to quit drinking coffee and do more yoga but the thing that was life-changing was to start therapy with a psychologist that specializes in anxiety. I would totally recommend this !!! I feel GREAT now
I find the whole, "do the next thing" mantra to be helpful. Going into a situation where I know I am going to have anxiety, I break it down into small pieces. Like trying to talk myself into working out. So, first I turn on a song that makes me feel like dancing (if not in the moment then just generally), and I live in that moment. And then I say, okay, I'm going to change my clothes. And then I say, now I'm going to put my shoes on. So getting ready to workout isn't getting ready to workout...it's these smaller tasks that I can concentrate on but I go through the process and eventually I've worked out, it's over and I am glad I did it. I do the same thing when I am feeling anxious. I break it down into smaller tasks that I can concentrate on and before I know it I have spent the evening at a party, laughing and joking. I also stop myself and remind myself that if it won't be something I regret on my deathbed...it isn't that big of a deal. Both of these things have greatly impacted how I deal with anxiety.
Hannah Fancher I appreciate this advice. There are times I get so overwhelmed with all that my day holds so I just don’t do any of them. I will need to try what you are suggesting by breaking it down. One thing at a time.
I don't have anxiety like this, but one of my closest friends does and a lot of what you've said here --especially about running away from problems and depression--really resonate with me here. Lots of love to you, Estée!
You have a calming effect for me, so I like to watch your videos especially when I’m stressed about something that is out of my control. 💕
Thank you!
Thank you for this video. I don't have anxiety but my boyfriend has, and you really helped me understanding what it is and how I can help him. Love from Paris xx
I don't really know if Doctors have done much research in this area, however ladies I really think there's a connection between your hormones and cycles as related to anxiety. I went through an early menopause and now 10 years later I have no anxiety what so ever, and believe if I told you my life some of you would run for the hills.
So here's my point, you may have heard that as you get older you don't care anymore about all the "what if" you don't care what others might think.
It just goes away.
That's what leads me to my hypothesis that it really could be related to one's cycle.
Just a thought.
Thanks for the video Estée- so relatable! I'm always amazed by the power of the mind and how thinking about or verbalising your anxiety symptoms can literally conjur them up in your body right then and there!
I'm taking a low dosage of medication for anxiety and couldn't agree more about the stigma behind it. Some people seem to think it's a cop out but I don't see the point in struggling unnecessarily when there's medicine that will help me to feel like my normal self again! I find it particularly helps to rid the physical symptoms- restlessness, palpatations, breathlessness etc xx
Estee, I related to so much of what you said in this video. I’m sure lots of other people have too. Thank you so much for sharing💖 it’s a simple but brave thing to do and it really helps. Lots of love xxx
I like that you are a real person, true to yourself and know what you feel. I know some of us can definitely relate. You are beautiful and you are the best. ❤️ 🌻 ☀️
Seeing you smile makes me happy 🌻🌻🌻 thank you for sharing so personal and vulnerable part of you, I have no idea how you managed it, but this video was very, very uplifting : )
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"That's a lie...😳...that's a lie" 😂 There are so many one-liners in here that made me bust out laughing!
But seriously every video you make where you discuss your mental/emotional state helps me breathe a sigh of relief because I feel so much less alone. I can't thank you enough!
Thank you for your honesty regarding medication for depression. Some people do need it and we need to accept it
Thank you so much ❤️ I also struggle with anxiety and I really needed this video today.
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Thank you for this Q&A video. I feel exactly the same way! It just feels like your talking about me. But I never knew why I felt this way, why I get so stressed. And you helped me see that I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Thank you for being so honest about taking medication. So many people shy away from it or shame people for being on meds. I wouldn’t be alive without my antidepressants- I’ll probably be on them for my entire life and that’s okay.
I really miss your old school sit Down videos ♥️ Love this video and you xxx