How Moving to the Middle of Nowhere Changed Me
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- What actually happens when you leave the city to live in a simple cabin in the forest?
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I just subscribed and am looking forward to reading them. I already live as simply as I can in the suburbs but I am a country girl at heart. Thank you in advance for the new ideas 😊. You already have inspired me so much through TH-cam. Many greetings!
U are right....
Thanks for sharing your story. Did you buy the land and built the cabin?
what is the name of song in the background in the "What if" section, when you're chopping wood? Please and thank you!
I relate so much. I made a very similar lifestyle change 4 years ago, moved from a 15 million people city to an island of 1000 people. I realized I really didn't need to socialize as much as I used to, didn't have a desire to go to the movies or to cafes, restaurants, shopping. The fulfillment I got from nature felt true, complete. All those city activities would never really satisfy me that way. I just didn't know another way to live until I moved.
Glad for you 🤗👍💎
I think a lot of people would need more time for themselves. But it's hard to live like that, as being quiet or needing time alone is not really seen as a strength by a big part of society.
It is great to know there are also other people who appreciate being alone. I can be a relief to hear that it is okay, even important, to spend time in silence.
It's more than okay, it's necessary ❤
For some people, being alone always equals being lonely - extroverts. I am an introvert (on the heavy end of the scale). I go crazy if I don’t get a lot of alone time to charge my “battery”. That is also one of the main reasons I moved out of Copenhagen. I got to a point where I just felt like screaming of people because I had no me-space anywhere. I looove going to our Swedish cabin in the middle of nowhere to recharge with simple living.
Omg me too and my name is Maiken as well. I don't have a cabin in Sweden, though 😁
About a decade ago, I learned just how important it was for me to put myself first (like you do). It was very hard at first because my family (siblings and parents) saw it as selfish. I don't think it is selfish. I see it as necessary self-care! There is a great quote by Ghandi that says something like...if I don't take care of myself, I cannot love you well.
It's like you're inside my head . I feel exactly the same way. City life is just not working for me.
You're definitely not selfish Kalle. We really do need to care for ourselves. We can't care for others if we can't care for yourself. Thanks for sharing.
You stated your need for alone time so eloquently. I've felt the same way since childhood.
Also i think it's much less lonely to live far away from the city in a way, cause it just comes natural to talk to the neighbours or people you meet even if they're just a few and don't live very close. In a city everyone always seem so rushed and closed off and busy with their cellphones and what not, but if you meet someone somewhere in the woods when you're out on a dogwalk or smth they are always friendly and have time for a little chat. Where it's sparsely populated there is much more sense of community, perhaps because people there aren't forced to be around each other all the time.
I need to be alone. So I can relate to what your talking about. It’s healthy.
I raised my two children alone ( really alone) . They’re now young adults.
I love it to be by myself. I also love seeing them.
I must say I do have three dogs, 2 cats and a horse( he doesn’t live with me that’s the dream! With a second horse of course).
I do love it that I have animals around me.
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To live with animals is really worth it. Waking up, with dogs, cats..., pure and simple. Amazing how this animals can be our loving family. You never feel alone. You feel so rich.
🌱"There’s a difference in loneliness and being alone ."
I really liked this quote. Most evenings, I'm alone in my room working on my own creative projects or studying for college. But rarely do I truly feel lonely. Perhaps this has something to do with the fact that my personality is more introvert...
I totally agree that we all need alone time and I love your “Me bucket “ analogy. My father always said I was like a wolf, I was happy running on my own but also needed to run with the pack occasionally
Yes, this is a great way
Rain is my favorite sound too, especially on a tin roof 🥰
The best! 🥰
@@KalleFlodinI came from Goa-India. And we still have a house which has got roof tiles, and during the rainy season , I love to hear the rain, and the sleep is the best during rainy season
CGJung, who I think was the father of the terms extrovert and introvert, wrote that the distinction was based on the source of energy a person preferred and thrived from.
Yes, Kalle, you described yourself "klockrent" (to a tee) as an introvert, who needs to be with him/her Self to replenish the energy to share with others. An extravert gets energy from outside, mostly from people.
The proportion between intorverts and extroverts might be 30 to 70, and can vary among cultures. I guess an introvert easily gets crazy in Rome, where as extroverts easily get crazy in the Northern forests. In the Nordic languages there are everyday words for the latter syndrom, like "lappsjuka", mökkihöpörö, maybe like cabin fever (psych.).
I liked the video very much! Thnak you for it!
I can relate. I bought an abandoned farm in the Finnish countryside and am in the progress of fixing it up. I used to work as a game artist and now use all my spare time to be in the countryside. I have two small kids so cant move there completely but would really love to. I have always been extrovert but really enjoy my time alone. Im making weekly vlogs of the work process. Hopefully I can get as many subscribers as you have. Take care Kalle!
Keep doing what you’re doing brother, you’re positively effecting the world and we need that more than ever! I really related to your latest newsletter, if you haven’t subscribed, make that top of your agenda it’s worth it!
Love this. Being alone helps you grow. I still go out to places alone. Nobody cares, nobody is judging anyone for going out alone. I don't know why it makes people feel uncomfortable. It is completely normal. I have even had a waitress tell me how comfortable i look at a restaurant alone reading my book while waiting for my food and how she wished she was doing the same. It's to be desired.
I completely get what you’re saying about choosing to be alone to recharge. Right now I am doing a jigsaw puzzle while listening to your video on a Friday night. And I love it! I do not feel lonely at all. Especially since I spent the afternoon with a friend hiking, so now it’s my time for myself. Love your channel!
I'm so pleased you are living your dream and recovered from depression, it's something I've suffered with for years. It gives others hope and your video is very relaxing. 🇬🇧
I love that topic and can totally relate to your thoughts.
I rarely feel lonely when I am in my own company but can easily feel lost and lonely around people I can’t easily connect with.
Yes, let’s celebrate alone time!
If we find peace within ourselves, we can share it with each other and meet without expectations.
And off topic, I also loooove the sound of rain on my tin roof. 💧
Dear Kalle Flodin, you are such an 'evolved man/person', God bless you in all things. I so enjoy your honesty and transparentesy. :)
Much of my life I lived with others. I was a child in a big family, a career social worker, a wife and a mother and then a grandmother. I eventually choose to live alone in my late 60s on my old family homeplace out in the country. I love it! I don't feel lonely. Rather, I feel happy to finally have time to explore the hobbies and interests that I had postponed for so long while taking care of everything and everybody else for those 40 years. There still are other adults who would intrude on my little life of solitude here but I'm very clear about my boundaries as far as giving of myself and my resources. I often say jokingly that I'm not adopting any one else to raise.
I used to think I hated to be alone bc I felt lonely not having friends or a loved one but I've been alone my whole life and I've come to realize that I like to be alone. I can enjoy going to restaurants movies trips etc alone and enjoy them better because I dont have to worry about someone elses likes and dislikes or how long they want to be there and I can take my time and I can wake up go to bed whenever I want I have no one to worry about but ME. I am learning to love myself and be happy with that, its not always easy or every single day but thats what we have to do, we have to be selfish and put ourselves first and love ourselves bc no one else can do that for us like we can do for ourselves.
Sundays are my favorite days of the week now, love that you started to post regularly! ✨
Also I recongnize myself in this too, I absolutely love and need to spend time by myself and with each years feel like I need it more.
Thanks for the video and see you next week 🌲🌲🌲
Happy you like it so much Lora, I'm gonna post every Sunday the rest of the year 😊
Some people need to be away. I understand that. Peace and quiet and nature. I'm very happy you have found your true north.
Bless you
I love the me bucket analogy. It's so true. To me I would lable my bucket love. We if love ourselves enough (take care of ourselves in the ways we need) our love flows over to other people and other activities.
I completely understand what you're talking about. The word I use to describe my love for and need to spend time alone is Solitude.
I don't know why but I cried when I watched the video. I miss the forest but I can't because my parents won't let me. When I go, I go in secret but that doesn't happen often. I have a tree in the garden and I sit next to it when I want to in the forest. I really want to move to the forest when I grow up and your videos help me to know that it is not impossible. I'm glad you're feeling well there, and I like the music of the rain too 🌧
I will be in the middle of nowhere next year! In the process of building the home and I absolutely cannot wait! I never ever want to move back to a city🌱
I appreciate very much this content. And i agree. Me and my husband are trying to care more about our personal bucket since yiu talked about it. and it is very useful for our relationship.
But as a mom i also write you a quote from Sophia Loren: "When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child."
So my personal bucket has also a pocket attached to the side that I fill for and with my daughter 🥰
Mike Tyson(boxer), said your partner will do everything for themselves, but your mother will do everything for you!
I feel it very deep when you said that going alone in restaurants or something similar is representing real strength.
I need time for myself as well, but it’s so hard to be alone in public with a lot of different people. I feel so judged by everyone. It’s getting better but it’s still hard for me.
At my first ever solo trip, I was visiting Rhodes Greece in August, mass tourism time. It was a very tough experience. No one was alone there, not a single person. But this experience made me stronger! And I will confront all of these uncomfortable emotions as much as I can, because I want to grow!
This is the type of life I strive to live someday soon. I have 9 days to find a place to move and every part of my being is pulling me to move to a remote forest somewhere, become full work from home and just do freelance graphics for a living. I don't know how I am going to get there but right now I'm making a note to myself and putting it out there... I will get there soon. Thank you
I love the bucket analogy. Maybe it’s time I looked at my own . . . And how it affects others. (Never thought of the relationship between my ability to care for others and the relative emptiness of my own bucket. Time for a change. )
Went from NYC, thriving and. loving it. To the country in NC. I love the country, being alone is a God send...
i see it like this. the less fears you have in life draining your energy, and the more of a good stable base you have within you, and holistically seen the more you do what you love and are surrounded by people and things you love, the more energy you will have for all these things and also the less time you nééd to be alone. then it is just a choice because you like to be alone sometimes, not because you are overwhelmed.
It's crucial in my eyes to put yourself first and love yourself first and foremost. We are taught that this is selfish, but if you really love yourself, then you radiate this outward and attract that in your life. It's not selfish at all, just healthy.
We live in the mountains, in Italy, and every morning I take time to be alone in the woods with my donkeys and horse and this "solitude" is regenerating. The I can go back to my family with the right energy to be a mother and wife too.
I'm sure, like you, I treasure my own company and love the quiet times.
I loved being single with lots of alone time before I unexpectedly met my life partner in my 30s. Add a son and dogs and teaching kids and and and… it became habit to to put everyone else first. This fall, at 54 yo, I have shifted my priority list, with me at the top. I am ensuring that my bucket stays at a healthy level, which enables me to be a better person for others. We are kindred spirits in this way, Kalle. :)
Kalle I just found your channel obviously great timing. You mentioned you went through dark times so called tunnel. You are definitely a king of your own life. I tent not to analyse and just feel. If it feels right that's all what matters. I have a chance to buy a piece of land and a wooden house for renovation. I was thinking about it. Made my decision after watching your video. Thank you 💚💚
I am challenged to spend time with others because I love being alone so much. I always thought it was because of the creative things that I do. It's easy for me to entertain myself. I remember when I first landed in the country after city life, how I could hear my thoughts. Without all the input, I experienced so much peace.
I think living in the city it's the biggest reason to why allot of people feeling lonely, but living in nature will be very different when you be with yourself that very magical 🍀💚💛
We are all on a mental journey thru our lifes. A journey that along the way makes us individually change our goals in life, shifting our preferences as we get older (and sometimes also wiser) - those who ignores signs on the way will unfortunately often be left with stress and mentally scared, some for life. Thats why we must listen to out heart - Stay Safe U All
I can understand your "being alone" very well, because I feel the same way. I have my animals and never feel lonely.
With ourselves we are always alone anyway. But people have forgotten to deal with themselves first and so they must always have distraction, because otherwise they feel lonely.
For me, you have to put yourself first, because if you don't give yourself enough attention and love, you can't give it to anyone else. Thanks for the video and all the love! Greetings from Germany
I am swede living in a farm in the countrysidee of Uruguay with my family ( 4 kids ) and we choose so to live a healthier life close to nature and animals far away from neighbours...We feel when we need to go to a city or to be social. I prefer to hear my thougts then to distract them with people that dont give me anything or to feel lonely in a city full off distractions....Lonely time is soooo neeeded to feel and reflect what you need and where you want to go in life! Thank you Kalle from Hanna in Uruguay!!!:)
Loneliness is a state of mind, not a state of being. I appreciate you addressing this subject! Thank you Kalle! Loved seeing you splitting firewood with a fiskars splitting axe!
Me time is so important and the fact that you have realized it is a big accomplishment..I always lived with them me bucket at 30%..and it does take a toll over time. Thanks so much for another lovely video
It's very healthy to enjoy your own company. I need more of it. When, and if, you have children you will be appreciative for the time you have.
Almost an empty nester, I am learning to put me first again. I crave a simple, quiet life. I am trying to create it within a suburban neighborhood, but hope to one day retire to a more remote home.
I think that once you get comfortable in your own skin and come to like yourself as you are, then you relax and enjoy that alone time instead of feeling the need to be around others or feeling lonely.
I agree with you, as I have before. My bucket has to be full so I can spill over into other things. It brings me great joy to see that you are living your best life, and it often makes me wonder if I am doing the same, and if I am brave enough to make a change, if it turns out I am not living my best life.
I agree with you, Kalle. "me time" is so important. I believe that is when we grow and learn more about ourselves... and then other areas of our lives unfold naturally and in perfect timing. Love your little chats.🌻💕
I feel the same. I don't feel lonely. I really need time alone to get things in order. But when needs to socialize, I can do it. Thank you for the video!
If you feel good alone enjoy it, I do every day, best thing is long in the woods alone , nothing beats that feeling . Much love from gbg
I love how when people move into more survival type situations out in creation, they more deeply embrace their masculinity or femininity. It brings out those deep instinctual differences and creates that beautiful complimentary energy. Sending love.
I live in the mountains of North, GA. I moved here after my husband died. My friends thought I had lost my mind. But, I feel peaceful, and somehow closer to God, here on this mountain. I am surrounded by nature… I live on the edge of a National forest; 45 minutes from the nearest town; an I love it. I am not lonely. There is plenty to do, and I have a few neighbors who I like very much. Thank you for helping me to feel like I’m not some odd duck… but just normal, like so many others. 💝
I've been alone for years (I'm 68). And I'm perfectly content. My books and dvds, and gardening, relax me. I'm very seldom lonely.
Love the "me-bucket" explantion! It feels so true for me too!
i am solitary, not lonely. a huge difference not many understand.
But now it made me thinking how extraordinary it is - we worked our ass off to be solitary while some people do everything to avoid it. One can be so much different from another.
Time for yourself is vital. It allows us to self reflect. To regenerate. To become centered. Even for a moment. That moment is important. Another great video Kalle! Thank you!
I think I feel more lonely in the city. Because the city is so unsatisfying. I couldn't agree with you more .
I understand what you say about me time, our needs should be met first so we can give healthily to others. That's self-awareness, knowing our limits and needs is a well-being behavior that makes our relationship, with the other spheres of our life, much better and easy. Thank you for these simple, grounding, and meaningful videos.
This is the second video I have seen ..(lots to catch up on others) You are a extraordinary guy that makes other maybe lonely people....not so lonely. Please carry on making these videos as they will be a inspiration for others to learn from.
I so agree with you which is why I’m married but also a solo female traveller. I go many places with my husband and love our trips but I also feel such a need to be alone. I don’t get to be alone enough and with my husband close to retiring, I’m still going to have to build in my solo trips just to give us both a break. I also love filming alone. It’s so much harder when you’re with other people to stop the entire group to get that special shot or clip. I love taking my time to create my content. I so agree with everything you said. Love your work.
I feel that we are made to feel by society that sitting and thinking, observing nature, slowing down and taking time to BE is something you shouldn’t do. That we should always be achieving something, as if contemplation and appreciation of the world around us and feeling happiness doing what we wish are not worthy achievements.
How can we possibly be the best person we can be if we do not take time to know ourselves?
And I do understand what you are saying. There is a huge difference between being alone and feeling lonely.
I love this🙏 It’s very relatable for me🙏🍀
I have lived alone for many, many years. I love the independence, privacy and the freedom to do what I want to do when I want to do it. I am very content and grateful for my life. Thank you for this video, which made me realize how blessed I am.
When i was younger i was scared of living alone now i am older i am afraid of living with someone again because in between i realised that there was nothing worse than feeling lonely when you are not alone and i havé learnt to appreciate my own company although i couldn’t live without my dog. I havé quit everything to live alone and i miss my children but i do not feel lonely anymore.
Every time I spend even just a few days or a week in the woods, I return absolutely rejuvenated. It's part of what made me decide to buy land and build a simpler way to live. People everywhere will be happy to continue telling you how to live and how you should be. Meanwhile a third of the population is either on psyche meds or drinks excessively. Or both. Its increasingly rare to find someone comfortable in their own skin. Just feels crazy that I waited til my 40's to start making my own decisions.
Everything you said about being in solitude, makes me reflect on me
Strong points. Time is a valuable thing.
You articulated it perfectly about being alone or lonely. 😘👏
I love spending time with my Self so I can feel my own essence and energy, hear where intuition wants to guide me.
Prioritizing my Self means prioritizing Love/God. It's not something to be ashamed of, it's actually the opposite, it's Self Love embodied. 🥰🙏
Beautiful video, as always! Thank you for sharing your journey, and have a lovely autumn with full of miracles! ☀️
Rivers of Love from the Hungarian countryside,
Alexandra
I also love to be alone :) happy to have a remote job
I love my alone time but then I’m an introvert. I need my alone time. I live alone with my cat and dog in the city. At the end of my work day I cannot get home fast enough. I’m not much of a social person. All the drama that comes with it I find too stressful. I’m very happy in the little bubble I have created. ☺️
I‘m lucky enough to have a cabin too and love spending time there with my partner or alone. Like you I need ‚me time‘, and living alone in nature for a few days is a luxury I know, but helps me to reset and recharge.
I got a big smile on my face when you mentioned the “Me bucket”! I totally recognize myself in your description and I do also function like that. Quite like Maslows pyramid of needs I guess. I also need to be at peace with myself and my needs before I can start pouring to other buckets as you describe it.
I have a girlfriend that does not function like that at all, that always cares/gives to others before she prioritizes herself. Important to be aware of each others differences and respect that (and of course be able to compromise) in order to not get into clinches all the time.
Thanks once again for a very interesting video! Keep up the good work and I am happy for you that you found a way of living that you really love!
Hello Kalle. I can so deeply relate to everything you said. Even raindrops falling on a surface are my favorite sound, too😁. I live in a big city in Germany and am still making, or trying to make the best out of it - but it is simply not my place to be. As often as possible I escape into nature for a hike and then I feel like I can really relax and be myself. You are truly a very brave man for making that big jump from city life to life in nature. I think about it a lot, but I don‘t really know where to start. Wishing you all the best🤗
I am also German. Can relate how you feel in Germany
I absolutely agree with you, if I don't get my ME time now and then (mostly on the weekends, because I'm still stuck in that 9 to 5 frame), I get cranky, I feel exhausted, emotionally and physically drained. And I cannot be a good friend or a better wife for my husband, when I don't feel okay with my own skin, due to not being able to relax and recharge my batteries. I find it more and more difficult to do that in the city each year passing by, you know, to be in the present, even though I've found some activities that I enjoy and somewhat recharge me. The main problem is that overwhelming feeling that you're NEVER alone in the big crowd, it's draining. And at the same time, you're lonely.
I hope I'll be able to buy, maybe not a cabin, but a small house some day, sooner than later, where I'll be able to grow my own fruit and vegetable garden, go on long mountain walks and just enjoy being in the present. My husband hates the idea of moving somewhere distant, so it won't be as easy to convince him, if ever, but there's a little hope, I believe.
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I agree 👍🏻💯☺️😊😌 you need to be happy with yourself first.
I need alone time. It becomes very apparent during the summer holidays when my children are with me 24/7 (single parent and no help here). It even got to the point I had to get my eldest to put the bin out because I didn't want to see another soul outside my door. Don't get me wrong, I adore my kids, but as you say, after a while of not even being able to shower or pee in peace my bucket is empty and it does affect other things. It is all about finding a balance to make sure everyone is happy.
Kale, you probably already did a video covering the daily needs of the cabin but just wondering where you’re getting the cut wood from? Love this video in particular, really resonates with me. Please keep the great videos coming
What really resonated with me was when you were talking about how being alone allows your thoughts to expand. Allowing that time to reflect is so inspiring and healing!
I really liked the slow pace of this video, just you talking to the camera, mixed with your everyday tasks and aerial shots, plus an important message. Nice one! 🌲💚
Thanks needed to hear I am not the only ones. Have a wonderful week.
Thank you for talking about the importance of time for yourself.
So great to see the peace in your eyes =)
Hello Kalle.
I have just come across your youtube channel and l am so glad l did.
I love where you live.
You have had quite a journey getting to where you are today.
You are an inspiration.
I understand what you are saying about liking some alone time, l totally agree with you, l certainly sometimes need my alone time.
Sending love from Australia to you and your partner.
🙏🏼💖🙏🏼🙂
I love being alone, especially when in nature. I feel more lonely amongst many people here in the city where I live.
I needed to hear this. Thx
You are really nice to listen to and spend time on the live streams, so thanks for being social on TH-cam 😄! Thanks for taking the time for yourself and being you! Keep yourself healthy and happy! 😊😊😊
Absolutely beautiful video Kalle! Btw, if you made your splitting block about lower you may an easier time splitting your firewood 🫣
I think what you say about your me bucket is so true. I was telling my therapist years ago how I was having such a hard time juggling my life. She told me to prioritize myself first then my money and kids and so on. It made a world of a difference In my mental health. I never realized that putting myself first was not selfish but a necessity to the balance in my life. Everything falls into place after that.
I love how in tune with yourself you have become over the years. Im so envious of you both in the best kind of way.
I totally feel the same. I love it to be just with me. And of course I love my husband and kids and they make me happy. But that also does over-scream, as we say it in Dutch, my own voice. When I am just with myself I can hear myself think and I am so much more creative and all of that. So, thank you for your film, cause I think many people can relate…
I agree with you so much.
Taking time for yourself and doing things alone is so necessary for a good physical and mental balance.
I really like taking a few hours here and there to find myself alone with myself far from the noise of the world and social obligations.
Really enjoyed your message in this video.
Brilliant video - thank you for sharing you.
I am agree about the me bucket!! 🌲🖤💯
I love this question you raise "what if I was always been like this, what if I always needed this much time and space for myself?". It hits hard when I reflect this, and compare where I am, physically, and where I want to be to do the same what you did: doing for the first time in your life something that you yourself truly want.
Very inspiring episode, thanks Kalle.
Paradoxically, I become self centered when I'm not having enough self time. Because it makes me stressed out. And when I'm accept myself, I find it much easier to accept others... It is not only our egos that can be harmful, but also collective egos and values
Thank you for being so deep in thoughts and sharing..I love how you see things and can express them ☺️