Don’t get married too young. Wait until you’ve experienced life for a few years and know yourself better and what you want. As a woman, first be independent so you don’t have to depend on someone else to take care of you. And then marry for love and not because of what others expect of you.
Good for you 😊. People shouldn't get married or have kids just because society tells you to do so and that is not being selfish, (like some people say) it is being responsible and clever. You should be free to choose the life you want 😊
@@2-old-ForthischetI'm a procrastinator and I was homeless with three children at one point in my life as well. We are in a much better place now, except my oldest because he is still in the US unfortunately but trying to leave
My advice for a good life is: go to bed every night with a clear conscience knowing that you have done everything right and caused no harm to anyone. Sleep tight. 😊
"The don't get married" is good advice for women! Especially in the current generation where dating is a nightmare! Nothing is more peaceful than being single, making money and in return, just living, enjoying life and traveling.
60s is still young. I would say wait until you hit 75+ My parents are in their 80s - 83 & 84 and although very active in their younger days, I can see them aging now.
I am 40, and this is what I think. Age does not decide if a person is wise or novice. I have seen several older people who are very immature and still making big mistakes, and many younger people who are spiritually and mentally wiser. In the video, it is also interesting to note how one person says, I am 85 and life sucks and another says I am 85 and life is beautiful. It is all about how you see it.
I totally agree with you. I was thinking the same. I've met people in their 20s and 30s having the best advice and are really caring where the 70s80s aren't
@@Sprouht Being 40 is a stage when I can look back at the last 25 years, and at the same time, the next 25. It is perfectly in the middle where I can choose the direction my life goes in. I have enough experience to learn from and enough life left to implement those learnings. Just before COVID, I went through a surgery and almost a year of bed rest. That experience shifted my perspective completely towards life (including money, relationships, love, self respect, and boundaries). I chose to let go of some toxic people and keep self respect before anything else. The people I let go were from my family, so it wasn’t easy. But I am glad I did. For the remaining years of my life, I want to choose my battles wisely, be with people who are emotionally, mentally healthy. It isn’t my responsibility to be someone’s therapist if that person does not want to become better. Lastly, I have seen too many people around me destroy their lives, financially, mentally, and with their loved ones. I believe that life is a gift that comes only once. Our body and mind are things to be nurtured, not abused. Well, this is all I can say at 40 😊
The lady who survived WW2 in Europe was amazing. Walking on her own, loving nature at 96! I wish I could meet her, I could listen to her for hours! She is right about the world. We are hoping it gets better…
As a women it’s very important to choose the right person to be your partner else you lose a lot as compared to a man. Such precious advice from all of them
How do you know who is the right person??? I am so thankful I had a praying mother. There is only one who knows. That is our precious Father God. He made you and me. HE ALONE KNOWS WHO FITS WITH WHO. YOU CAN NEVER GO WRONG WITH THE LORD RUNNING YOUR LIFE. HE MUST BE FIRST. BEFORE ANY HUSBAND OR CHILDREN. LIFE IS SOOOO EASY WITH HIM DIRECTING MY PATH. THAT LADIES AND GENTLEMEN IS THE SECRET. GOD THE FATHER, GOD THE SON AND GOD THE HOLY SPIRIT.
It is still a better advice for men because it is in fact men, that loose more then women. In case of a divorce men are forced to pay allimony and loose half the assets that they worked hard for, while women bring nothing to the table
@@LeeLiko When a woman marries, has children, she gives her youthful years to a man. The guy might appreciate her, never cheat on her, treat her with love & respect - if she is fortunate to have a guy like that. It's rare. Study after study has shown that when a divorce happens, often the guy has chased after a younger woman whom he may or may not marry, then, he occupies her prime years. In many studies it has been shown that in a divorce, most women experience a decline in finances, their standard of living drops. Though it's less prevalent now, many women earn less than a guy who is doing the same job, she is often working to provide for her children. Guys, on the other hand, often experience the opposite. They are less likely to get full custody of their child or children, so they have more free time, are earning the same amount of money as they were when married, with more of it available to them.
I agree with her perspective on life. She’s out everyday, walking & is very content & accepting of her life. May she go on & on being healthy & happy. 😊
My grandfather, a preacher, once said marriage wasn't for everyone. He didn't preach that you had to find someone. I'm never married or kids, no regrets.
I work primarily with older people. I ask this as a rapport building exercise and because I actually enjoy the answers. Most common BY FAR is: Don't worry so much, enjoy your life and do what you want. Don't care about what other people think. It's crazy, I have been trying to live like this, but had so much pushback from family and my former wife that I am now completely alone and trying to rebuild my life. It's scary and a little lonely, but I am feeling much less depressed in general.
Instead of "don't get married" I think I would say "be extremely careful about who you are going to spend the rest of your life with, and don't get married because you have a preconceived notion that you "should" be married at a certain age."
A person can be very careful about whom they marry. People can as well as DO change with time. Getting married is a huge gamble on your life, your health & overall quality of life. Having married once, he beat me ONE time, I never gave him a chance to do it again. The day the divorce was finalized was a day when I felt that I got a brand-new lease on life. So much happier single, living alone with a loyal dog. Seriously doubt I will ever date or marry again. It's too much risk.
"Know thyself" and make decisions accordingly. Not everyone needs to be married, partnered or become parents. Know what fits for you and dare to follow that path, even if it is very different from most other people.
Yes, because relationships are like mini-cults: the person you spend you life with can influence how far you go in life, where you live, how your children think, etc. No one should be marrying at 18,19 when young people are usually still trying to figure things out and their place in the world.
I'm 28 years old, and I just had a son with my girlfriend (35 years old), and I already caught her cheating on me with her ex-boyfriend, 2 months ago. When the woman in the video said "Don't get married" I definitely felt that . . . .
I will be 42 in a bit but i have lived such a long eventful life. I would say the things we worry about here, the time we spend worrying, let it go. Let toxic and bad things and people go, no matter how familiar it is to you. Live in gratefulness for the things you have overcome and accomplished. Always self reflect. Pray. Never let the world define or control you.
I have no fear of being bored in retirement. I have too many interests. Work gets in the way of living life. I am 59 and ready to retire but finances keep me employed. Full retirement is 67 and I fear I have to work until then. I'm also very happy to be single. I gave all that up years ago. No regrets. i have inner peace.
@@FLIPPHONE69 I do have retirement funds but trying to pay off my mortgage before I retire. I also have excellent health insurance which is hard to give up. I lose it when I retire.
Rule #1: You have to get to know yourself. Otherwise you will live for other people and not to fulfill your own goals...because you won't really know what they are. Self discovery/introspection is underrated.
The "dont get married" woman was sooo right! A mom always worries. It's like you feel a slave to your Kids. Whatever they do. You will always have this feeling , plus the emptiness nest syndrome, like it's so much energy you give away. Especially, when the Kids dont come back ...they dont realize it.
Yep… my mom had 8 kids. And only 2 of us treat her with respect. I know deep down she wishes she never had to get married or had kids (arranged marriage). It’s so sad. She didn’t deserve this, and when I look around, I see that most mothers are not appreciated.
I am a 65 yo female. I am married, kids, and no regrets. It all depends. My own advice to a young myself would be - gain your real and humble self worth, work on it day and night until you feel confident, worthy, bright and mighty )) Then, step out of a victim mode once and for all, take responsibility in every aspect in your life, and know that a strong intention to achieve things is the only luck you need.
@@Humanoid-2345 hi there, IMHO, it is so much depends, on a personality, culture, circumstances.. Relationships are very super important in our lives. Try to be a good friend, and doing so, discover more deeper levels of a friendship. Do not be afraid to show emotions and to share sincere thought and engage in a nice deeper conversation about things you and people who you want to have relationship with have in common. Self-centrism is something that people sense even when we hide it. Normal people feel rather uncomfortable with self-centered ones. Make 80% of interactions about other people and common matters. be quick to help, and not shy to ask for help.
@@TonyZmex So you ask people to create new people out of nowhere not to be selfish? I remind you that they CREATE those new people, they CHOOSE. You are responsible for your choices. That s why we have a brain. I remind you that we are billions of human beings, there are billions of animals and billions of plants. Life is not reducted to human beings, so if you wanna care about lives, you have the choice too: no need to CREATE lives out of nowhere, you just have to go out of your home and watch around. I remind you that almost everyone has a job and as a consequence play a role in SOCIETY: one more reason not to have to CREATE new people to have the feeling that you get a role. You play a role ANYWAY. I remind you that even without creating new people you probably have a family: probably parents that DECIDED to put you on Earth. It s their CHOICE. And as a result you can also care about them. Or anyone else in your family. And so on. CREATING HUMAN BEINGS IS A CHOICE. Your brain décides. USE YOUR BRAIN! And don t complain!!!
I'm only 20 years into my marriage, but its hands down the best and most joyful thing that ever happened to me. My wife is amazing and I work hard to try and be a good husband to her. Some find the right person and are meant to be married. Some are most definitely not meant to be married. My parents were married 4x each... I can't even remotely compare my relationship to any of theirs.
@@steelearmstrong9616 Wow - negative much? Sounds like they have a beautiful marriage, so why not be happy for them? I love seeing happily married people. Gives me hope for the world.
@@cazola247 I do wish him well and he’s a very lucky man if he has the 1 in a million that 99.9% of men could only dream of and it genuinely would make me happy
@@steelearmstrong9616 Give me a break man. Stop wishing stuff like this on other people. I've been in a relationship with my wife for 25 years. She's an absolutely beautiful person inside and out. We don't even have bad days. An argument with us might last an hour or two at most and those are very rare. We also pretty well know where each other are at at all times, because we're just that close. Great marriages do exist.
I’m 41 and learning that NONE OF THIS REALLY MATTERS! When you die none of the crap we worry about will have mattered in the long run. When you accept life is just this living, you sort of can start to get by a bit easier
There were multiple studies done (uk and Denmark) where it proved that men that are married are happier and live longer than those that aren’t married. It also proved that women that are single are happier and live longer.
Yes, these studies are real. There are a few reasons why this is in the 21st century. And, it depends if the man was previously married or not and for how long: * Single women tend to make closer friendships that are generally a little more emotionally nurturing than men do. * Women tend to do the house duties for men when married and now they don't have to and feel some freedom * Single men have a harder time in general finding nurturing friendships * Men who were married now need to look after themselves when they are home and this may feel lonely for them instead of empowering. Their sense of empowerment was largely through work. Retirement can therefore be felt as a sense of redundancy.
Please note this only applies to happily married people..meaning the marriage is working.There high vorce rate in todays world and the fact that women are trigger happy with divorce means marriage could be your downfall as divorced men tend to fair worse
This is no surprise to me. Many men just want a woman to be housekeeper,cook, sex partner on demand and take care of children. These men demand a lot but don’t give much in return. I’m not saying all men are this way but it’s been my experience.
Don’t get married is what my mom and her mom told me. Best decision of my life. I own my own home, paid it off. Paid off car. I travel and do what I like. I have had three long term love relationships too…men are a condiment meant to give spice to your life and enjoy! Be self sufficient, be competent is my advice to young women. Freeze your eggs young…have children when you can afford them if that’s your dream. If not…travel…everywhere you can. I love nature. It makes me so happy. Find your bliss.
Agreed, man it is the best decision you could ever made especially nowadays when everything is so materialistic and the laws are stacked to intervene in your personal life. If you’re strong independent, do not get married at all cause all your work will go be wasted to somebody elsewho doesnt deserve it especially when you get the wrong fit of a spouse best advice ever I was married adue to immaturity and will never effin do it again especially don’t get married just because you don’t wanna be alone that is the worst reason and is pathetic because you’re outsourcing that need to somebody else and giving them power at the same time enough said
this is exactly what i would say to my younger self. I am 60 yo and i found so much peace and restoration in solitude that it is unthinkable for me to share my space with someone else. One would need to compromise her needs in a major way in order to live with someone else. I regret my 35 yo marriage. I think some people who are more private , more introverted and need more alone time to restore, feel much much better having lots of space in their relationships. I prefer pets, nature and god to humans. The level of compromise needed to live in a relationships is enormous and puts a toll on one's soul and body.
@@judementz-gibbons6730 i have an autoimmune disease, i am autistic and as ive said, i live in solitude. Life can throw lost of challenges to us, but it depends on us what we choose to do with them. Ive built my life around my needs and i feel deeply fulfilled in my heart. It doesnt matter if you are ill or not, its how you choose to live the rest of your life with that illness while looking for ways to heal yourself. Also, it may sound cliche, but ive found peace inside, in nature, through art and god. One can cultivate peace anytime, anywhere. Its totally possible to find it even when living a challenged life.
@dumitriudaniela - That's amazing that you've come to place in your life where you can openly admit that you regret your marriage. Many people who were in the wrong relationships will never admit that, and I think that's probably what has allowed you to get to place of peace in your life. The one thing that I will say is, when an individual with in relationship with the wrong partner, that always affects the level of happiness the two people can experience. I'm in my 50s and I realize that too many people rush into marriage and often for the wrong reasons, and that's what produces a union where the couple is just "going along to get along," versus two people who are in the a relationship with the right person and for the right reason.
@@judementz-gibbons6730Everything depends on money. If you have money, no problem. If you don't have money, you will painfully rot on your bed all alone.
I am 47 years-old , when I was 18 years old , for reasons still unknown to me, I made a decision to not get married and create a chance to travel the world and work at the same time ..Fast-forward 29 years, that is exactly what I have been doing and I have been loving every piece of it..! Over the last 29 years, lived in four different countries, travelled to many countries, learnt three foreign languages . Marriage and the life style that comes with it is not for everyone ..Self-awareness is key , I was lucky at such a young age to have such high self-awareness .. Am I going to have regret not having kids when I get older ? Perhaps , but when that day comes, I will be mentally ready ..
You can actually have kids through surrogacy many people do that nowadays. Marriage is a serious commitment and its great you made your decision. Even Paul in the bible says marriage is not for everyone
I promise u won't regret it at certain time u will feel lonely here and there but this is the best decision litterally every single married person I met they say if they can go back they rather be single and alone🎉🎉🎉you are a good example for many women outt there
I’m 62, and was married for TWENTY YEARS! I’m so glad young people, especially females are reconsidering getting married, or having children! You don’t have to do either of those things in order to have a happy, fulfilled life! I’m so proud of all of you, for taking in the information, and using it to guide your decisions that can have the greatest impact on your entire wellbeing!
@@July-ola , I have children! Some appreciate me, and some don’t. Their dad was a complete narcissist, and I do believe some of that is part of it, but moms generally bear the brunt of a child’s lack of appreciation! I separated from their dad, after twenty years, and he was absent from our youngest’s entire life afterwards. I hear nothing but complaints about their upbringing, but they still cling to me in their adulthood, while NEVER factoring in, that I was the first victim of the narcissist, and the amount of courage, and fortitude it took to leave, and still prioritize them before myself. I do think that women considering having children, should think about the longterm impacts, of having a kid that could become a narcissist, and that you may never feel they truly appreciate you. I don’t regret having my children, but if there is something that could challenge your overall sense of wellbeing, it’s a kid who feels entitled to all your continued support in adulthood, while never acknowledging your significance to them. Obviously, I can admit to my faults, and have taken responsibility for things I’ve done that could’ve been done differently. I’m talking more like an insecure person, who feels the need to assassinated your character, who is also your child. 😬 It’s worth thinking about.
Age doesn't guarantee wisdom untill one decides to learn from each mistake. Also, one must learn to live and grow alone, solitude is mandatory, introspection is bliss, we come to this world alone, and we die alone, any kind of dependence on the fellow person is a crime we commit against our true self.
@@skippy1012We were meant to live in a community. Humans are group animals. But we do die alone; after all we're not ancient tyrant kings who can demand for 100 virgins to be buried alongside us in our graves when we die.
"Don't get married" or the "i just lose my husband" both show us the two sides of marriage, bad marriage and good marriage. 😢❤ The man with the bike, a great attitude!
Yep. Marriage is partly luck. A good match gives infinite happiness, a bad match ruins years of your life. If you don't like making that gamble, then there's always the choice of staying single for those of us preferring a tranquil life. 👍
3:30 i love this lady's advice. don't feel sorry for yourself and utilize what you've gone through, it has helped you become who you are. bring the best in yourself + be in nature to cure.
I'm 61, and if I could go back to advise myself, it would be to invest more and worry less about frivolities and what other people think. Not that I'm doing badly, but it could have been better with just a little more of this.
I am 40, doing well financially but I have never invested. I'm always afraid I will get it wrong and come out with less than I went in with and this fear was inspired by an experience in my 20's. I want to change this now especially as I want to start planning for retirement early but I don't still know how to go about it safely.
devereauxjnr Your fears are in order... without fully grasping what you were doing you can actually lose all. The safest ways to go about it is either by first understanding the market or using an expert who does... I now make close to ten grand a month from mine and this is just my second year, but it took me several months of losing money to learn this.... Goodluck...
been considering going into this for sometime now. heard its a nice way to make some extra funds. how do you get a competent expert and how expensive are they
_king_james_23 You should begin by seeking out individuals with strong records... Also make sure the person is registered... Personally, I use Marie, Kelly Matwick. She's not so popular but you might have heard of her. And they're usually way cheaper than you would expect...
@@JimLewandowski-vs4be It is really a small world. I used to date Kelly in high school, one of the smart ones then lol . Had to go to her page to confirm that i wasn't mistaken. Nice!
This was a good video. Have children, seriously stay active, be responsible for your health, learn all your life. Get into nature daily. I'm not a people person and I am not lonely.
Don’t get married.Dont work too long and have hobbies.Not getting married and retired at 44.Just traveling around the world and enjoying life.Thanks for the advice
@@kissengerc9468 so true. If everyone truly knew what everyone was thinking then no one would have any friends and relationships would not be a thing. I’ve had my fair share of relationships and I see and know what goes on in others. Never trust anyone ever
The guy with bicycle about to be 82 in a few weeks gave the best advices and thoughts. I think the exact same way at 29yo. Lady who has seen the WW2 told that she finds peace in nature. Same. It soothes your soul. Don't be another brick of a building in a crowded soulless city. I left my job and moved to somewhere small, with many trees and not so many buildings around. I will get paid %15-30 less but I will manage while keeping my mind and soul refreshed
I am 19, and sometimes I tell myself that I will never ever get married , I hope I am consistent with that thought, some people are so crazy when they look down upon those who never want to get married and they say u will regret it in your old age when nobody will be by your side when in reality majority of old aged people that I have seen in my life regret marrying, my grandma is now alone because she is a widow and all her kids are busy in their lives so this perspective about living alone in old age is same for married people as it is for unmarried people, I believe unmarried people are even more happier because they don't make their happiness dependent on others meanwhile married people in old age just think they are left alone and they are unhappy because their generation is busy in their own life, and having a partner isn't some kind of achievement , it's just a part of life which u can choose to have or not have, so many people out there are miserable because of their partners, so prefer being single if u don't feel ready or u haven't fallen in love with someone who loves u back
Married people who had kids, their kids never showed up to visit their parents in nursing home, so they died with no one by their side without their kids by their side.
@@carerforever2118 exactly that's the whole point of my comment, people who look down upon those who never get married and the way they try to convince them by saying " u will regret it because u will be alone" when in reality those people are alone too who have kids and grandkids, and I gave example of my own grandmother
I think love should be on a two way street. If you’re with a taker and does not love you back, then it will dry you out and the relationship will eventually die. Now, with the right partner, love is respect and commitment. Accepting each other’s habits and flaws. Be open to make adjustments without losing the best of who you are. ❤
‘You cannot feel sorry for yourself and you have to utilize what you have gone through helping to become who you are. If you being the best out in yourself, I suppose you can project that to other people. It’s a hard process let’s just hope he world gets better’. This is so powerful, much appreciated great video🙌🏾
Im a widow turning 51 this year.this are the postive outlook that have done wonders since iwas widowed at the age of 42. Now yrself worth and associates with ppl who values yr time and postive energy. Have yr medical insurance paid upfront. Understand working smart is the key to comfort future.
Keep learning everything you can no matter how old you are. Problems, stress, fear occur if you dont know what you are doing and you dont have answers of certain questions. The ability to find the answers of those questions is like a compas that can show you the way out of your hardship/problems. The less informed you are, the more questions you cant answer, and the more you depend on others. It will put yourself in a situation with more problems, stress and anxiety.
If you’re a woman and married. Be financially independent, save money, avoid debt, save for retirement. If you’re in a bad marriage, have the courage to leave while you still can.
I’m grateful because I’m in my 30s but my dad was born in the 40s… him and everyone I had before him and even after him are still elders to me… and I have been able to learn valuable lessons from them but also from life.
I felt with the woman that just lost her husband. My husband comes along with almost everyone and I really fear loosing him one day. He is my best friend and I look forward to more decades with him raising our son and living trough more great and probably bad times together ❤ plans are important for retirement, I’ve seen older coworkers plan for that times and those who did have been a lot more active and happy !
Absolutely true. Don’t get married. Pointless, just live a single life,have love affairs whenever they manifest naturally and move on. Always maintain your own FREEDOM.
8:13: "It´s a wonderful world, I don´t want to leave. Not yet" I am exactly half the age of that man. And sometimes I feel down. I am going to adopt his attitude.
Amazing interviews! Thank you for giving a voice to our elders. They have a lot of wisdom to share that is otherwise lost. They have their own challenges that we know nothing about. I cannot imagine being the last one alive of my friend group and having to bury all of my friends. My friend's dad is 88 yo and is going through this right now. Life is a very weird rollercoaster.
this is definitely one of your best interviews, i'm 56 yo now, living alone, and thousand miles away in the tropics , can't agreed more to those beautiful and wise peoples. I'll definitely try to ask my friend in U.S to send one copy of the goal setting journal. Thank you and have a lovely day.
Hmm, don't just follow their advice blindly, follow your heart and pick very wisely at the same time. Sadly I haven't met anyone I can live my life together with, so, no children either, but I'd like to have at least one.
@@FriendofDorothy - how many people actually have the self-awareness to choose wisely at the age when dating starts or when hormones are raging? Very few...and that's the reason why many are trapped in relationships of convenience where they can't leave because of children or finances, etc. and it's especially important for women to choose wisely because, if not, they suffer the most in dysfunctional relationships.
I'm the youngest of 3. My sisters both got married with children, there's no divorce, so apparently it's a good match. Everyone says I'm lazy and immature and have it too easy, because I don't date men and don't marry, and I prefer to waste/spend my money on dishwashers and robot vacuums to help me do my household instead of doing it by hand in my small bachelor's apartment; and I like to sink money into "immature" hobbies like plants and aquariums instead of working longer hours to make more money to go on expensive vacations and buy 3 houses as an investment or whatever. Then I tell them that, yes, I am immature and lazy and have it too easy; and I waste money on household robots instead of saving it up, and I waste all my time on useless immature hobbies too, instead of getting grey hairs from stress, because I don't have children for whom I need to become a mature, hardworking mother or save money to plan for its future education, etc. I don't have any responsibilities to anyone else and I can't take the money with me into my grave when I die, so I waste money on robots so I have more time to do lazy and immature things like reading trashy web novels and buying noodle bowls with cat ears and keeping five nano aquarium tanks with endler guppies and neocaridina shrimp in them and buying columnar fruit trees that will likely never bear fruit for my balcony. So what? What are you gonna do about that? 🤷🏻♀️ Like, seriously, I already did the "responsible" by saving 10% of my salary every month on my bank account for the bad days, what more do you want me to do? Work more hours for more money that I don't even need to fund my life, because my hobbies aren't all that expensive? Get grey hairs like you? Basically, I just own the fact that I'm immature and lazy. Being lazy gives me more time to do immature things that make me happy, why are you complaining about things that don't affect you? Besides, if I'm immature and lazy, would that not make me a totally unsuitable person for marriage and motherhood? 😂
I got told by an old boss when I was 22 don’t get married do t have children now I’m 50 I lost my marriage raising a son on my own. I should of listened to my boss
I was the last of my sibling and friend group to get married in the 80s. I kissed some frogs first unfortunately. We have had over 40 beautiful years together. The best thing we both ever did. I retired at 62. My husband was 71. We were healthy and wanted the freedom to do whatever we wanted and still be able to enjoy it!!
I would try and be less combative with those close to me. Find yourself as early as possible in life, shake of the shackles your parents placed on you. Get counselling earlier in life. Hopefully realise you don't have forever to attain your dreams. Value your loved ones before they go as you never know how suddenly that could happen. Expand my family at any cost so not lonely as I find myself heading now
Your explanations are clear and straight forward It's always a honor to have you here as a mentor, I appreciate you for the time being spent to educate us financially. Regardless of how bad it gets the economy, I still makeover $28K every single week. I truly value Veronica Thompson , and her helpful guides.
The first step to successful investment is figuring your goals and risk tolerance either on your own or with the help of a financial professional but it's very advisable you make use of professional.
The thing is as people, we are usually skeptical about things we haven't yet tried, the truth is that you'll never know if it's profitable or not unless you decide to take the risk and give it a try, most successful people of this age are successful because they took the risk, "investing" and things has changed for the better ever since I realized it
Love this! I've done this since my early 20's and it's helped me learn lessons without having to live those lessons. Listen to the elderly they have useful info for us today.
I felt so bad for the widow. My fiancé passed a year and a half later of a heart attack. We were practically inseparable. We were that close. He passed in 1995 at 41. He was five years older than me. To this day I miss him. Death doesn’t stop the love you have of someone. When I miss him to unbearably he comes to me in dreams like he’s still checking on me. I kept all his woodworking so in a way he’s still with me.
So inspiring, thank you so much, this reminds me of living a fulfilling life for myself, now I have to just enjoy myself more rather than worrying about the stuff I can't control
Love these videos bc they make me feel normal. 44 year old single woman here & honestly I’d have to find basically a Clyde to my Bonnie which is next to impossible for me. My “habits” are something a person would almost be born w, it’s so innate & natural for me & it’s not natural at all for most others.
when you are growing old you're getting wise and know the reality of this world, these videos can give young generations those life experiences earlier before they doing something wrong.❤
This is beautiful❤ Everyone of them gave their opinion based on their individual experiences, some feel good to be old, some feel bad due to choices they've made in the past. All in all, they're still here and living their lives. Just live, learn and grow. Thank you❤
Thank you for creating this wonderful channel. I loved all the real-life advice from these lovely seniors. God bless you all. For me, I really love animals and nature. Thank God for providing me good health, nice home and lovely environment. Again God bless all of you.
I would tell MY younger self that the secret to a good life isn’t concealed; it’s right before you. Life is simple, and school is easy! Recognizing this and taking advantage of it is invaluable. Always treat others with love and kindness, regardless of how they treat you. Differing opinions make life better. Work diligently, aim for an early retirement, and make the most of life, because you only get one chance.
What advice would YOU share for your younger self? Comment below!
The opinion of others are none of your business.
do your best...and hope for the best
Get into spirituality and know yourself the sooner you can. Listen to people who have gone all the way and found peace.
Stop being so boy-crazy and focus on substantive issues ! LOL 😆
Don’t get married too young. Wait until you’ve experienced life for a few years and know yourself better and what you want. As a woman, first be independent so you don’t have to depend on someone else to take care of you. And then marry for love and not because of what others expect of you.
To each their own. Marriage and children is not for everyone. Im not married, 54 y.o, no kids and I have no regrets.
Totally agree.
I'm with you. I am 52 and not married or have children. Absolutely no regrets.
Everyone wants to know if the interviewer is single
Good for you 😊. People shouldn't get married or have kids just because society tells you to do so and that is not being selfish, (like some people say) it is being responsible and clever. You should be free to choose the life you want 😊
Same here
I'm 75.
Don't procrastinate, work hard while you're young. Age happens really fast.
what does it feel like to be 75?
@@Sprouht I'm still pretty active in outdoor activities but I can't fool myself. I know what's around the corner.
It's really difficult to not procrastinate. I get the sentiment but it's almost an impossible task
@@britania14 being hungry and homeless is a great motivator. I have experience.
@@2-old-ForthischetI'm a procrastinator and I was homeless with three children at one point in my life as well.
We are in a much better place now, except my oldest because he is still in the US unfortunately but trying to leave
Moral of the story. Every life is different. Be careful about the choices you make. Try to be happy no matter what. In the end you’re on your own.
My advice for a good life is: go to bed every night with a clear conscience knowing that you have done everything right and caused no harm to anyone. Sleep tight. 😊
Golden words
Beautiful ❤
Primum non nocere. Do no harm. This is the first principle of medical care.
What is right for you is not what is right for the others sometimes. so who s right?
That’s really nice - kind of echos my ‘be kind’ philosophy 😊🇬🇧
"The don't get married" is good advice for women! Especially in the current generation where dating is a nightmare! Nothing is more peaceful than being single, making money and in return, just living, enjoying life and traveling.
After my marriage to a cheater, I'm happy to be single since 2012. Best life, no more heartache 💔. Enjoying my military retirement in my 50
Why wouldn't this also apply to men?
Absolutely x x
@@dlg5485 Because men still do whatever they want, Whenever they want even if they are married.
@@SPEEDNOTPOWER Generalized bullsh*t
I’m 62
1 work out lift weights
2 walk outside
3 Don’t eat to many carbs
4 Realize you can’t change people
5 Take vitamins everyone needs B-12
I wish more people would understand you can't change others. Accept them for who they are or move on. ❤
My 60 year old boyfriend does the exact same thing. He chose not to have a car, he walks everywhere.
Skip vitamins and eat better
But I love pasta
60s is still young. I would say wait until you hit 75+
My parents are in their 80s - 83 & 84 and although very active in their younger days, I can see them aging now.
I am 40, and this is what I think. Age does not decide if a person is wise or novice. I have seen several older people who are very immature and still making big mistakes, and many younger people who are spiritually and mentally wiser.
In the video, it is also interesting to note how one person says, I am 85 and life sucks and another says I am 85 and life is beautiful. It is all about how you see it.
What does it feel like to be 40?
Great
I totally agree with you. I was thinking the same. I've met people in their 20s and 30s having the best advice and are really caring where the 70s80s aren't
@@Sprouht Being 40 is a stage when I can look back at the last 25 years, and at the same time, the next 25. It is perfectly in the middle where I can choose the direction my life goes in. I have enough experience to learn from and enough life left to implement those learnings.
Just before COVID, I went through a surgery and almost a year of bed rest. That experience shifted my perspective completely towards life (including money, relationships, love, self respect, and boundaries). I chose to let go of some toxic people and keep self respect before anything else. The people I let go were from my family, so it wasn’t easy. But I am glad I did.
For the remaining years of my life, I want to choose my battles wisely, be with people who are emotionally, mentally healthy. It isn’t my responsibility to be someone’s therapist if that person does not want to become better.
Lastly, I have seen too many people around me destroy their lives, financially, mentally, and with their loved ones. I believe that life is a gift that comes only once. Our body and mind are things to be nurtured, not abused.
Well, this is all I can say at 40 😊
@@britania14 Yes, those with worse advice come a place of their unhealed trauma. How do you deal with such a situation?
The lady who survived WW2 in Europe was amazing. Walking on her own, loving nature at 96! I wish I could meet her, I could listen to her for hours! She is right about the world. We are hoping it gets better…
You can volunteer at a nursing home in your neighborhood
Hello Jude, how are you doing today?
As a women it’s very important to choose the right person to be your partner else you lose a lot as compared to a man.
Such precious advice from all of them
How do you know who is the right person??? I am so thankful I had a praying mother. There is only one who knows. That is our precious Father God. He made you and me. HE ALONE KNOWS WHO FITS WITH WHO. YOU CAN NEVER GO WRONG WITH THE LORD RUNNING YOUR LIFE. HE MUST BE FIRST. BEFORE ANY HUSBAND OR CHILDREN. LIFE IS SOOOO EASY WITH
HIM DIRECTING MY PATH. THAT LADIES AND GENTLEMEN IS THE SECRET. GOD THE FATHER, GOD THE SON AND GOD
THE HOLY SPIRIT.
It is still a better advice for men because it is in fact men, that loose more then women. In case of a divorce men are forced to pay allimony and loose half the assets that they worked hard for, while women bring nothing to the table
How does a woman lose more than a man? That sounds shortsighted to me.
@@LeeLiko When a woman marries, has children, she gives her youthful years to a man. The guy might appreciate her, never cheat on her, treat her with love & respect - if she is fortunate to have a guy like that. It's rare.
Study after study has shown that when a divorce happens, often the guy has chased after a younger woman whom he may or may not marry, then, he occupies her prime years.
In many studies it has been shown that in a divorce, most women experience a decline in finances, their standard of living drops.
Though it's less prevalent now, many women earn less than a guy who is doing the same job, she is often working to provide for her children. Guys, on the other hand, often experience the opposite. They are less likely to get full custody of their child or children, so they have more free time, are earning the same amount of money as they were when married, with more of it available to them.
@@LeeLikoSingle women live longer. Married men live longer. Men benefit health wise from marriage, not women.
The second woman looked pretty good for 75
My thoughts exactly 💯
She looks exactly like my 55 year old aunt. 😂 It's uncanny.
True
I would have guessed her age to be around 58
Face lift? It’s more common these days. 😊
I married the wrong person. Stayed way too long with him, but stayed because of my children. Today I live alone with my dog. I enjoy my own company.
I think my parents made the same mistake.
Don't put that children
It was your choice alone to make. The children did not have a vote for you to stay in a marriage
as someone slowly approaching 50.... I really understand most of it... choose very wisely who you surround with...
The lovely lady who is 96 , she is fantastic so eloquent. I like her advice, nature is wonderful it can be very therapeutic. ❤
Nature and animals.. They are the best!! I love her advice as well
I agree with her perspective on life. She’s out everyday, walking & is very content & accepting of her life. May she go on & on being healthy & happy. 😊
I agree. Loved her and could speak with her for hours!
She's a beautiful soul.
she made me cry:)
My grandfather, a preacher, once said marriage wasn't for everyone. He didn't preach that you had to find someone. I'm never married or kids, no regrets.
great
I work primarily with older people. I ask this as a rapport building exercise and because I actually enjoy the answers. Most common BY FAR is: Don't worry so much, enjoy your life and do what you want. Don't care about what other people think.
It's crazy, I have been trying to live like this, but had so much pushback from family and my former wife that I am now completely alone and trying to rebuild my life. It's scary and a little lonely, but I am feeling much less depressed in general.
Keep up the great work. I’m right there with you and completely understand what you mean.
Instead of "don't get married" I think I would say "be extremely careful about who you are going to spend the rest of your life with, and don't get married because you have a preconceived notion that you "should" be married at a certain age."
Yea I like travel health a home simple
Or simply don't get married if you don't want to, instead of being pressured into it.
A person can be very careful about whom they marry. People can as well as DO change with time. Getting married is a huge gamble on your life, your health & overall quality of life.
Having married once, he beat me ONE time, I never gave him a chance to do it again. The day the divorce was finalized was a day when I felt that I got a brand-new lease on life.
So much happier single, living alone with a loyal dog. Seriously doubt I will ever date or marry again. It's too much risk.
Nah, skip married,
Don't get married, marriage is a feudal institution
"Know thyself" and make decisions accordingly. Not everyone needs to be married, partnered or become parents. Know what fits for you and dare to follow that path, even if it is very different from most other people.
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True indeed!
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Gospel of Thomas 3b
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Salient takeaways:
"Be careful who you pick to spend your life with"
It hits hard
Yes, because relationships are like mini-cults: the person you spend you life with can influence how far you go in life, where you live, how your children think, etc. No one should be marrying at 18,19 when young people are usually still trying to figure things out and their place in the world.
Yes. I made two drastic mistakes. Wish I had stayed single.
I'm 28 years old, and I just had a son with my girlfriend (35 years old), and I already caught her cheating on me with her ex-boyfriend, 2 months ago. When the woman in the video said "Don't get married" I definitely felt that . . . .
I loved the "optimist", amazing how he deals with circumstances and the 96 years old lady, she cares for the humanity.
Yes, she was amazing. Could listen to her talk for hours..
Oh the poor lady who just lost her husband seems very sad. I wish I could give her a big hug 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
Me too…a difficult time. She looked fantastic and healthy for 75 yrs old.
She must have had a good husband a great blessing
@@pixie3458it's a curse once you lose them. It feels like drowning, but it never ends. You just get used to the feeling but it doesn't go away.
yeah, that was kindof tough to watch
I will be 42 in a bit but i have lived such a long eventful life. I would say the things we worry about here, the time we spend worrying, let it go. Let toxic and bad things and people go, no matter how familiar it is to you. Live in gratefulness for the things you have overcome and accomplished. Always self reflect. Pray. Never let the world define or control you.
I'm divorced and I agree with the "don't get married" and never will again
I wish we knew it before getting married
@@ry8156is that bad? 😅 I am a single lady
I have no fear of being bored in retirement. I have too many interests. Work gets in the way of living life. I am 59 and ready to retire but finances keep me employed. Full retirement is 67 and I fear I have to work until then. I'm also very happy to be single. I gave all that up years ago. No regrets. i have inner peace.
You have a wonderful life. Please miracles be around for you.
well said
Absolutely x x
Should’ve invested in a Roth IRA… all that money would’ve been tax free at 59.5 years old
@@FLIPPHONE69 I do have retirement funds but trying to pay off my mortgage before I retire. I also have excellent health insurance which is hard to give up. I lose it when I retire.
Rule #1: You have to get to know yourself. Otherwise you will live for other people and not to fulfill your own goals...because you won't really know what they are. Self discovery/introspection is underrated.
great advice, how old are you?
@@Sprouht I'm 55 and still learning. It's a never-ending journey.
exactly
The "dont get married" woman was sooo right! A mom always worries. It's like you feel a slave to your Kids. Whatever they do. You will always have this feeling , plus the emptiness nest syndrome, like it's so much energy you give away. Especially, when the Kids dont come back ...they dont realize it.
Yep… my mom had 8 kids. And only 2 of us treat her with respect. I know deep down she wishes she never had to get married or had kids (arranged marriage). It’s so sad. She didn’t deserve this, and when I look around, I see that most mothers are not appreciated.
I am a 65 yo female. I am married, kids, and no regrets. It all depends. My own advice to a young myself would be - gain your real and humble self worth, work on it day and night until you feel confident, worthy, bright and mighty )) Then, step out of a victim mode once and for all, take responsibility in every aspect in your life, and know that a strong intention to achieve things is the only luck you need.
Any advise for 22 year old boy for having relationships
@@Humanoid-2345 hi there, IMHO, it is so much depends, on a personality, culture, circumstances.. Relationships are very super important in our lives. Try to be a good friend, and doing so, discover more deeper levels of a friendship. Do not be afraid to show emotions and to share sincere thought and engage in a nice deeper conversation about things you and people who you want to have relationship with have in common. Self-centrism is something that people sense even when we hide it. Normal people feel rather uncomfortable with self-centered ones. Make 80% of interactions about other people and common matters. be quick to help, and not shy to ask for help.
"You have to utilize what you have gone through helping to become who you are."
Love the positive man who is out on his motorcycle with his camera. May he live long and prosper!
I think it's a bicycle. Even better ;)
"Don't get married. Live yourself. Enjoy your life. Do whatever you want. Just enjoy your life."
Don’t commit to anything don’t have any responsibilities and purpose just be selfish
@@TonyZmexNothing wrong with being selfish sometimes.
@@TonyZmex So you ask people to create new people out of nowhere not to be selfish? I remind you that they CREATE those new people, they CHOOSE. You are responsible for your choices. That s why we have a brain.
I remind you that we are billions of human beings, there are billions of animals and billions of plants. Life is not reducted to human beings, so if you wanna care about lives, you have the choice too: no need to CREATE lives out of nowhere, you just have to go out of your home and watch around.
I remind you that almost everyone has a job and as a consequence play a role in SOCIETY: one more reason not to have to CREATE new people to have the feeling that you get a role. You play a role ANYWAY.
I remind you that even without creating new people you probably have a family: probably parents that DECIDED to put you on Earth. It s their CHOICE. And as a result you can also care about them. Or anyone else in your family.
And so on.
CREATING HUMAN BEINGS IS A CHOICE. Your brain décides. USE YOUR BRAIN! And don t complain!!!
I'm only 20 years into my marriage, but its hands down the best and most joyful thing that ever happened to me. My wife is amazing and I work hard to try and be a good husband to her. Some find the right person and are meant to be married. Some are most definitely not meant to be married. My parents were married 4x each... I can't even remotely compare my relationship to any of theirs.
This is a very common story that I hear of many married men who are happy, only for the poor guy not knowing that wifey isn’t so innocent
@@steelearmstrong9616 Wow - negative much? Sounds like they have a beautiful marriage, so why not be happy for them? I love seeing happily married people. Gives me hope for the world.
@@cazola247 I do wish him well and he’s a very lucky man if he has the 1 in a million that 99.9% of men could only dream of and it genuinely would make me happy
@@steelearmstrong9616 Give me a break man. Stop wishing stuff like this on other people. I've been in a relationship with my wife for 25 years. She's an absolutely beautiful person inside and out. We don't even have bad days. An argument with us might last an hour or two at most and those are very rare. We also pretty well know where each other are at at all times, because we're just that close. Great marriages do exist.
@@saywhatnow57- so happy for you both 😊
I’m 41 and learning that NONE OF THIS REALLY MATTERS! When you die none of the crap we worry about will have mattered in the long run. When you accept life is just this living, you sort of can start to get by a bit easier
Absolutely man. You’ve figured it out 💯
There were multiple studies done (uk and Denmark) where it proved that men that are married are happier and live longer than those that aren’t married. It also proved that women that are single are happier and live longer.
Yes, these studies are real. There are a few reasons why this is in the 21st century. And, it depends if the man was previously married or not and for how long:
* Single women tend to make closer friendships that are generally a little more emotionally nurturing than men do.
* Women tend to do the house duties for men when married and now they don't have to and feel some freedom
* Single men have a harder time in general finding nurturing friendships
* Men who were married now need to look after themselves when they are home and this may feel lonely for them instead of empowering. Their sense of empowerment was largely through work. Retirement can therefore be felt as a sense of redundancy.
Please note this only applies to happily married people..meaning the marriage is working.There high vorce rate in todays world and the fact that women are trigger happy with divorce means marriage could be your downfall as divorced men tend to fair worse
Men are too much work, needy and only need a mother and a maid.
This is no surprise to me. Many men just want a woman to be housekeeper,cook, sex partner on demand and take care of children. These men demand a lot but don’t give much in return. I’m not saying all men are this way but it’s been my experience.
You're missing a lot of information. However, overall, men are happier if single especially in cases after divorce.
Don’t get married is what my mom and her mom told me. Best decision of my life. I own my own home, paid it off. Paid off car. I travel and do what I like. I have had three long term love relationships too…men are a condiment meant to give spice to your life and enjoy! Be self sufficient, be competent is my advice to young women. Freeze your eggs young…have children when you can afford them if that’s your dream. If not…travel…everywhere you can. I love nature. It makes me so happy. Find your bliss.
And that's how a society gets destroyed.
Enjoy your time with your cat or your dog 😂😂
Agreed, man it is the best decision you could ever made especially nowadays when everything is so materialistic and the laws are stacked to intervene in your personal life. If you’re strong independent, do not get married at all cause all your work will go be wasted to somebody elsewho doesnt deserve it especially when you get the wrong fit of a spouse best advice ever I was married adue to immaturity and will never effin do it again especially don’t get married just because you don’t wanna be alone that is the worst reason and is pathetic because you’re outsourcing that need to somebody else and giving them power at the same time enough said
@@atiachowdhury3734has it ever occurred to you to be curious? Ask a question about a perspective you don’t understand.
Love it!
this is exactly what i would say to my younger self. I am 60 yo and i found so much peace and restoration in solitude that it is unthinkable for me to share my space with someone else. One would need to compromise her needs in a major way in order to live with someone else. I regret my 35 yo marriage. I think some people who are more private , more introverted and need more alone time to restore, feel much much better having lots of space in their relationships. I prefer pets, nature and god to humans. The level of compromise needed to live in a relationships is enormous and puts a toll on one's soul and body.
Sounds wonderful. What would you advise to older people who are ill and totally alone? Do think it’s possible to reach that same level of peace?
@@judementz-gibbons6730 i have an autoimmune disease, i am autistic and as ive said, i live in solitude. Life can throw lost of challenges to us, but it depends on us what we choose to do with them. Ive built my life around my needs and i feel deeply fulfilled in my heart. It doesnt matter if you are ill or not, its how you choose to live the rest of your life with that illness while looking for ways to heal yourself. Also, it may sound cliche, but ive found peace inside, in nature, through art and god. One can cultivate peace anytime, anywhere. Its totally possible to find it even when living a challenged life.
@dumitriudaniela - That's amazing that you've come to place in your life where you can openly admit that you regret your marriage. Many people who were in the wrong relationships will never admit that, and I think that's probably what has allowed you to get to place of peace in your life. The one thing that I will say is, when an individual with in relationship with the wrong partner, that always affects the level of happiness the two people can experience. I'm in my 50s and I realize that too many people rush into marriage and often for the wrong reasons, and that's what produces a union where the couple is just "going along to get along," versus two people who are in the a relationship with the right person and for the right reason.
@@judementz-gibbons6730Everything depends on money. If you have money, no problem. If you don't have money, you will painfully rot on your bed all alone.
If you prefer pets why tf are you talking to humans ?
I am 47 years-old , when I was 18 years old , for reasons still unknown to me, I made a decision to not get married and create a chance to travel the world and work at the same time ..Fast-forward 29 years, that is exactly what I have been doing and I have been loving every piece of it..! Over the last 29 years, lived in four different countries, travelled to many countries, learnt three foreign languages . Marriage and the life style that comes with it is not for everyone ..Self-awareness is key , I was lucky at such a young age to have such high self-awareness .. Am I going to have regret not having kids when I get older ? Perhaps , but when that day comes, I will be mentally ready ..
@mustafabaris
I much rather see someone who doesn’t have children than someone who doesn’t look after their children, abuse them or neglect them
You can actually have kids through surrogacy many people do that nowadays.
Marriage is a serious commitment and its great you made your decision. Even Paul in the bible says marriage is not for everyone
I’ve got a similar life ❤
@@lingelsfashiondesigns that's quite unfair to the kids as they need a 2 parent household and their parents married.
I promise u won't regret it at certain time u will feel lonely here and there but this is the best decision litterally every single married person I met they say if they can go back they rather be single and alone🎉🎉🎉you are a good example for many women outt there
Omg that woman who lived through ww2 has such a beautiful spirit. I hope I can have the same attitude about life when I’m older.
2:33" Be careful who you pick to spend the rest of your life with "
I’m 62, and was married for TWENTY YEARS! I’m so glad young people, especially females are reconsidering getting married, or having children! You don’t have to do either of those things in order to have a happy, fulfilled life! I’m so proud of all of you, for taking in the information, and using it to guide your decisions that can have the greatest impact on your entire wellbeing!
Did you have kids? Do you feel they appreciate you?
@@July-ola , I have children! Some appreciate me, and some don’t. Their dad was a complete narcissist, and I do believe some of that is part of it, but moms generally bear the brunt of a child’s lack of appreciation! I separated from their dad, after twenty years, and he was absent from our youngest’s entire life afterwards. I hear nothing but complaints about their upbringing, but they still cling to me in their adulthood, while NEVER factoring in, that I was the first victim of the narcissist, and the amount of courage, and fortitude it took to leave, and still prioritize them before myself. I do think that women considering having children, should think about the longterm impacts, of having a kid that could become a narcissist, and that you may never feel they truly appreciate you. I don’t regret having my children, but if there is something that could challenge your overall sense of wellbeing, it’s a kid who feels entitled to all your continued support in adulthood, while never acknowledging your significance to them. Obviously, I can admit to my faults, and have taken responsibility for things I’ve done that could’ve been done differently. I’m talking more like an insecure person, who feels the need to assassinated your character, who is also your child. 😬 It’s worth thinking about.
Age doesn't guarantee wisdom untill one decides to learn from each mistake.
Also, one must learn to live and grow alone, solitude is mandatory, introspection is bliss, we come to this world alone, and we die alone, any kind of dependence on the fellow person is a crime we commit against our true self.
Profound - "..a crime we commit to our true self.." - This may send me to an ashram!!
Absolute trash, we weren’t mean to be alone
@@skippy1012We were meant to live in a community. Humans are group animals. But we do die alone; after all we're not ancient tyrant kings who can demand for 100 virgins to be buried alongside us in our graves when we die.
"Don't get married" or the "i just lose my husband" both show us the two sides of marriage, bad marriage and good marriage. 😢❤ The man with the bike, a great attitude!
Yep. Marriage is partly luck. A good match gives infinite happiness, a bad match ruins years of your life. If you don't like making that gamble, then there's always the choice of staying single for those of us preferring a tranquil life. 👍
It's better to stay Single. Because most work in hetero relationships is done by women. Life is so much easier without a men to take care of.
Regarding marriage, I advised my kids to date at least 4 years before marriage. Married 4 years before having children.
62 I don't recommend having kids at all
@@beaulieuc8910😂me either
3:30 i love this lady's advice. don't feel sorry for yourself and utilize what you've gone through, it has helped you become who you are. bring the best in yourself + be in nature to cure.
I'm 61, and if I could go back to advise myself, it would be to invest more and worry less about frivolities and what other people think. Not that I'm doing badly, but it could have been better with just a little more of this.
I am 40, doing well financially but I have never invested. I'm always afraid I will get it wrong and come out with less than I went in with and this fear was inspired by an experience in my 20's. I want to change this now especially as I want to start planning for retirement early but I don't still know how to go about it safely.
devereauxjnr Your fears are in order... without fully grasping what you were doing you can actually lose all. The safest ways to go about it is either by first understanding the market or using an expert who does... I now make close to ten grand a month from mine and this is just my second year, but it took me several months of losing money to learn this.... Goodluck...
been considering going into this for sometime now. heard its a nice way to make some extra funds. how do you get a competent expert and how expensive are they
_king_james_23 You should begin by seeking out individuals with strong records... Also make sure the person is registered... Personally, I use Marie, Kelly Matwick. She's not so popular but you might have heard of her. And they're usually way cheaper than you would expect...
@@JimLewandowski-vs4be It is really a small world. I used to date Kelly in high school, one of the smart ones then lol . Had to go to her page to confirm that i wasn't mistaken. Nice!
This was a good video. Have children, seriously stay active, be responsible for your health, learn all your life. Get into nature daily. I'm not a people person and I am not lonely.
Don’t get married.Dont work too long and have hobbies.Not getting married and retired at 44.Just traveling around the world and enjoying life.Thanks for the advice
Don’t listen to that bitter old hag. Marriage is the greatest
The lady in blue, the second one who is 75 looks pretty good, she looks very yong and beautiful being 75
Had a good life partner
Choose your wife or husband very very carefully! Do what you love.
They all cheated on each other, trust me. Some of them found out and some didn't.
@@kissengerc9468 so true. If everyone truly knew what everyone was thinking then no one would have any friends and relationships would not be a thing. I’ve had my fair share of relationships and I see and know what goes on in others. Never trust anyone ever
Its not always what you see is what you get in terms of a partner ……..
@@kissengerc9468 everyone cheats
I'm noticing the interviews are all happening outside. I love that for them still going out and enjoying nature.
96.5 yrs best advice - thank you lovely lady. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🙏🙏🙏
The guy with bicycle about to be 82 in a few weeks gave the best advices and thoughts. I think the exact same way at 29yo. Lady who has seen the WW2 told that she finds peace in nature. Same. It soothes your soul. Don't be another brick of a building in a crowded soulless city. I left my job and moved to somewhere small, with many trees and not so many buildings around. I will get paid %15-30 less but I will manage while keeping my mind and soul refreshed
We Have Lost Our Humanity, That is Why it feels Good to be Single.
"Dont confuse dating with marriage" would be the best advice. Marriage was one of the best things I have ever did.
I am 19, and sometimes I tell myself that I will never ever get married , I hope I am consistent with that thought, some people are so crazy when they look down upon those who never want to get married and they say u will regret it in your old age when nobody will be by your side when in reality majority of old aged people that I have seen in my life regret marrying, my grandma is now alone because she is a widow and all her kids are busy in their lives so this perspective about living alone in old age is same for married people as it is for unmarried people, I believe unmarried people are even more happier because they don't make their happiness dependent on others meanwhile married people in old age just think they are left alone and they are unhappy because their generation is busy in their own life, and having a partner isn't some kind of achievement , it's just a part of life which u can choose to have or not have, so many people out there are miserable because of their partners, so prefer being single if u don't feel ready or u haven't fallen in love with someone who loves u back
Married people who had kids, their kids never showed up to visit their parents in nursing home, so they died with no one by their side without their kids by their side.
@@carerforever2118 exactly that's the whole point of my comment, people who look down upon those who never get married and the way they try to convince them by saying " u will regret it because u will be alone" when in reality those people are alone too who have kids and grandkids, and I gave example of my own grandmother
You’re wise for your age.
But still Yu are way too young to comprehend on that. Be positive Yu may get the right loving partner.
I think love should be on a two way street. If you’re with a taker and does not love you back, then it will dry you out and the relationship will eventually die.
Now, with the right partner, love is respect and commitment. Accepting each other’s habits and flaws. Be open to make adjustments without losing the best of who you are. ❤
And don’t cheat
@@GP-gt4bo I agree. Loyalty and trust, they’re the “oxygen” in the relationship.
Humility is such an essential component. It prevents us from taking advantage too much. The balance of power will be ok if both have humility
‘You cannot feel sorry for yourself and you have to utilize what you have gone through helping to become who you are. If you being the best out in yourself, I suppose you can project that to other people. It’s a hard process let’s just hope he world gets better’. This is so powerful, much appreciated great video🙌🏾
Wow these people look good for their age, good for them!
Im a widow turning 51 this year.this are the postive outlook that have done wonders since iwas widowed at the age of 42.
Now yrself worth and associates with ppl who values yr time and postive energy.
Have yr medical insurance paid upfront.
Understand working smart is the key to comfort future.
60 years old here, no wife, no kids, living a simple humble life, devoid of sentimental attachments. Life is good above ground...
Keep learning everything you can no matter how old you are. Problems, stress, fear occur if you dont know what you are doing and you dont have answers of certain questions. The ability to find the answers of those questions is like a compas that can show you the way out of your hardship/problems. The less informed you are, the more questions you cant answer, and the more you depend on others. It will put yourself in a situation with more problems, stress and anxiety.
If you’re a woman and married. Be financially independent, save money, avoid debt, save for retirement.
If you’re in a bad marriage, have the courage to leave while you still can.
I m 26 y o my husband beat me every night rape me and abuse my father and mother i m currently live with my parents but he still call me wht i do ?
@@Kettyperry11 where are you from?
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I literally was searching for instructions on joining new yarn into my sweater and ended up here. Thank you TH-cam. I needed this.
I'm 55 still riding a big bike cbr500r & xz4r. Enjoy life.
I’m grateful because I’m in my 30s but my dad was born in the 40s… him and everyone I had before him and even after him are still elders to me… and I have been able to learn valuable lessons from them but also from life.
Shoutout to all the older people. I’m in my late 20’s and I appreciate all the wisdom!
I felt with the woman that just lost her husband. My husband comes along with almost everyone and I really fear loosing him one day. He is my best friend and I look forward to more decades with him raising our son and living trough more great and probably bad times together ❤ plans are important for retirement, I’ve seen older coworkers plan for that times and those who did have been a lot more active and happy !
Absolutely true. Don’t get married. Pointless, just live a single life,have love affairs whenever they manifest naturally and move on. Always maintain your own FREEDOM.
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I beg to differ, I think let individual take extreme caution to choose the right partner
Not completely shunning marriage..
I am 74 and live not far from Montréal and this video especially moved me much, even at moments to tears. ; )
8:13: "It´s a wonderful world, I don´t want to leave. Not yet"
I am exactly half the age of that man. And sometimes I feel down. I am going to adopt his attitude.
Awww...all such wise elderly people. Love them! ❤ I could listen to their life stories for hours.
Amazing interviews! Thank you for giving a voice to our elders. They have a lot of wisdom to share that is otherwise lost. They have their own challenges that we know nothing about. I cannot imagine being the last one alive of my friend group and having to bury all of my friends. My friend's dad is 88 yo and is going through this right now. Life is a very weird rollercoaster.
As a 57 year old, when I get to be 80, I want to be with someone in their 80’s who is happy and still has a positive outlook!
Take care of your health .
Travel .
Have a plethora of hobbies.
Maintain friendships.
Women (never get married ).
this is definitely one of your best interviews, i'm 56 yo now, living alone, and thousand miles away in the tropics , can't agreed more to those beautiful and wise peoples. I'll definitely try to ask my friend in U.S to send one copy of the goal setting journal. Thank you and have a lovely day.
Loved the interview with the 96year old
Me too….I could listen to her all day. Wish she could be interviewed on her own.
“I don’t like to go back anymore”. So true, one life is enough.
the last elder made me cry.
Don't get married. I'm the fifth sibling, and that's the advise of my four older siblings who got married and divorced. That's why I'm not married.
Hmm, don't just follow their advice blindly, follow your heart and pick very wisely at the same time. Sadly I haven't met anyone I can live my life together with, so, no children either, but I'd like to have at least one.
all relationships can be a trap if you don't choose wisely.
@@FriendofDorothy - how many people actually have the self-awareness to choose wisely at the age when dating starts or when hormones are raging? Very few...and that's the reason why many are trapped in relationships of convenience where they can't leave because of children or finances, etc. and it's especially important for women to choose wisely because, if not, they suffer the most in dysfunctional relationships.
I'm the youngest of 3. My sisters both got married with children, there's no divorce, so apparently it's a good match. Everyone says I'm lazy and immature and have it too easy, because I don't date men and don't marry, and I prefer to waste/spend my money on dishwashers and robot vacuums to help me do my household instead of doing it by hand in my small bachelor's apartment; and I like to sink money into "immature" hobbies like plants and aquariums instead of working longer hours to make more money to go on expensive vacations and buy 3 houses as an investment or whatever.
Then I tell them that, yes, I am immature and lazy and have it too easy; and I waste money on household robots instead of saving it up, and I waste all my time on useless immature hobbies too, instead of getting grey hairs from stress, because I don't have children for whom I need to become a mature, hardworking mother or save money to plan for its future education, etc. I don't have any responsibilities to anyone else and I can't take the money with me into my grave when I die, so I waste money on robots so I have more time to do lazy and immature things like reading trashy web novels and buying noodle bowls with cat ears and keeping five nano aquarium tanks with endler guppies and neocaridina shrimp in them and buying columnar fruit trees that will likely never bear fruit for my balcony. So what? What are you gonna do about that? 🤷🏻♀️
Like, seriously, I already did the "responsible" by saving 10% of my salary every month on my bank account for the bad days, what more do you want me to do? Work more hours for more money that I don't even need to fund my life, because my hobbies aren't all that expensive? Get grey hairs like you?
Basically, I just own the fact that I'm immature and lazy. Being lazy gives me more time to do immature things that make me happy, why are you complaining about things that don't affect you? Besides, if I'm immature and lazy, would that not make me a totally unsuitable person for marriage and motherhood? 😂
I got told by an old boss when I was 22 don’t get married do t have children now I’m 50 I lost my marriage raising a son on my own. I should of listened to my boss
I was the last of my sibling and friend group to get married in the 80s. I kissed some frogs first unfortunately.
We have had over 40 beautiful years together. The best thing we both ever did.
I retired at 62. My husband was 71. We were healthy and wanted the freedom to do whatever we wanted and still be able to enjoy it!!
Last granny reminds me of my grandma. always Gentle and polite to people.Miss her.
My dear friends love is the only thing worth living for, Don't forget it and be loyal.
Immature nonsense. You sre very naive.
Finally someone is telling the truth, luv her for that.
I would try and be less combative with those close to me. Find yourself as early as possible in life, shake of the shackles your parents placed on you. Get counselling earlier in life. Hopefully realise you don't have forever to attain your dreams. Value your loved ones before they go as you never know how suddenly that could happen. Expand my family at any cost so not lonely as I find myself heading now
Our elders are so wise❤
Your explanations are clear and straight forward It's always a honor to have you here as a mentor, I appreciate you for the time being spent to educate us financially. Regardless of how bad it gets the economy, I still makeover $28K every single week. I truly value Veronica Thompson , and her helpful guides.
The first step to successful investment is figuring your goals and risk tolerance either on your own or with the help of a financial professional but it's very advisable you make use of professional.
She mostly interacts on Telegrams, using the user-name,
@Veronicatom56
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The thing is as people, we are usually skeptical about things we haven't yet tried, the truth is that you'll never know if it's profitable or not unless you decide to take the risk and give it a try, most successful people of this age are successful because they took the risk, "investing" and things has changed for the better ever since I realized it
Love this! I've done this since my early 20's and it's helped me learn lessons without having to live those lessons. Listen to the elderly they have useful info for us today.
Nature is healing.That is completely true...
I felt so bad for the widow. My fiancé passed a year and a half later of a heart attack. We were practically inseparable. We were that close. He passed in 1995 at 41. He was five years older than me. To this day I miss him. Death doesn’t stop the love you have of someone. When I miss him to unbearably he comes to me in dreams like he’s still checking on me. I kept all his woodworking so in a way he’s still with me.
So inspiring, thank you so much, this reminds me of living a fulfilling life for myself, now I have to just enjoy myself more rather than worrying about the stuff I can't control
My thoughts are the same 😊
@@Melly16yr10 cheers 🥂
Love these videos bc they make me feel normal. 44 year old single woman here & honestly I’d have to find basically a Clyde to my Bonnie which is next to impossible for me. My “habits” are something a person would almost be born w, it’s so innate & natural for me & it’s not natural at all for most others.
when you are growing old you're getting wise and know the reality of this world, these videos can give young generations those life experiences earlier before they doing something wrong.❤
This is beautiful❤
Everyone of them gave their opinion based on their individual experiences, some feel good to be old, some feel bad due to choices they've made in the past.
All in all, they're still here and living their lives. Just live, learn and grow.
Thank you❤
Find a spiritual practice. Be peaceful.
Savor life - health, relationships, food, seasons, beauty, growth, memories ❤
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THEY'RE SO WISE & THE BEST ADVICE IS GET FROM THEM IS TO MOVE & ENJOY WHAT YOU HAVE
Thank you for creating this wonderful channel. I loved all the real-life advice from these lovely seniors. God bless you all. For me, I really love animals and nature. Thank God for providing me good health, nice home and lovely environment. Again God bless all of you.
pleas consider ditching the word "seniors". Life is not high school.
Man that First elderly gentleman almost brought me to tears
5:42 Needed that. Thanks OG
I would tell MY younger self that the secret to a good life isn’t concealed; it’s right before you. Life is simple, and school is easy! Recognizing this and taking advantage of it is invaluable. Always treat others with love and kindness, regardless of how they treat you. Differing opinions make life better. Work diligently, aim for an early retirement, and make the most of life, because you only get one chance.
I love your videos. They are always so enlightening. Thank you ❤
I am a 35 year old woman. I love ur channel. I feel like listening to one peice of advice daily :)