I had a guy walk up to me and ask, Why the hell did you want a sex change anyway?" I told him I had no choice. "What do you mean you had no choice?" I said, "When it is required by the Federal Witness Protection program, you do what you are told." He wandered off muttering, "that sucks."
I agree, labels are for the birds. Without the stigma of being labeled, people might be far more open to honest dialogue on sexuality and similar topics.
So true. I think religion is the key. Right now faith is used to control people through exclusion. "Do this or else..." Faith is also being used to stoke fear and prejudice. "Don't be like _those_ people."
in my opinion i dont mind when someone ask me about what surgerys i want to do in the future, i like to talk about this but only with those who dont say stuff like surgerys or hrt ruins your body as the first thing
I been standing at a bus stop in the recent past patiently minding my own business waiting for the bus when on two different times I heard young children ask their mum is that a man. I wasn't even openly dressing or acting like a woman. I wasn't even wearing a bra those two times but my coat was done up so the growing boobs are not so noticeable yet kids seem to know and don't have a filter yet on their mouths. Not even had facial hair removal done yet. I guess my face and skin have changed a bit since starting HRT. Adults though either don't care or don't want to notice.
Affirmation is wonderful. Cherish it. Remind yourself about it so when things go wrong you have something to keep yourself warm. 99% of the population doesn't care. You're just another person. So long as you aren't talking to invisible people or making wild gestures, they'll leave you alone. Peace to you.
Your dead is called a dead name for a reason. You are a beautiful woman. You are mabilbu now, and that is the only thing that matter. You are awesome. You are a genuine woman.
@@LiamODonovan-l6eI think it would be very upsetting for parents to be told that the child they knew is gone, and has been replaced by an unrecognizable person.
good morning malibu! love the name hehe and your right well said :) im also a trans woman kinda still in the beginning of my journey and i definitely dislike how some people would ask me those questions it just makes me feel sometimes uncomfortable.
@@ScarletteAluney I think its worse in the beginning because people are more curious about what may seem like a sudden change, it does calm down though and best of luck with your transition!
Mailbu is such a nice name, I remember from one of your videos you explained you were / are a musician and and wanted a great name. I guess for many it would remind them of the drink, not a bad drink....... For me, its when I lived in LA, Malibu was a fun place to be. However you choose your name, its a great name. To make this comment relevant to this video, why would anyone want to know your errrgggghhhhhh name, when you have such a great one now. Best wishes. Jess or sometimes Jessie, Jessica, who knows which way the name wind is blowing :)
Hi Malibu nice to meet you I LOVE you and your channel you are so genuine and you tell it like it is right, one question that I have been asked is ' have you always been gay' the cheek! I was asked this question from a cis girl who is a friend of a friend of mine that is also a cis girl what a rude question! Anyhow please keep creating this sort of content it's appreciated and needed
The worst thing is random people asking about your genitalia ... It's not appropriate to ask someone this question but people think it's okay to ask trans women specifically.
I ask them right back lol. What’s your length, girth, shape, how big are your balls? Does it point up or down? Do you have a taco, a cookie, foofoo, mini moo? Is your cervix close in or far back? Most of the time they are momentarily offended and then get it, and apologize.
The only thing I get annoyed about is when people want to change my name from Philippa to Pip or Pippa. NO no no. Anything else I consider myself an educator and am completely open. However I no longer volunteer that I am Trans when I meet new people.
There are just some questions you shouldn't ask anyone , regardless ! I figure if you want me to know something , you'll tell me ! Until then I'm content just being with someone who wants to be with me. Have a great weekend and stay safe 💞 sweetie !
I just changed the spelling of my birth name but I'm also sensitive to my adopted name. Don't call me yucky boys names. Yes. I got asked today am i going to get..surgery. it takes a lot to frustrate me but i was touchy. I can just say i have medical considerations from internal bleeding with every choice (even travel) but its still a no go
Wow, it's hard to believe that you are insecure about your looks. I think you are absolutely gorgeous. I wish I looked as good as you. I will have to get by with my incredible personality. 😊😊😊
Honestly the first time I heard your voice in this video, the first thing that came to mind was how u definitely sound like a girl, which surprised me and I don't mean to be insensitive , what I'm trying to say is you really sound like a girl to me, if I had just seen you on the street and heard you speak for the first time I would have never known, and that's okay ❤️👍 you don't need to do anything to your voice that's what I'm saying if you think you don't sound female enough, you do sound 100% female if that's what you were going for, I wish you the best😊
The bathroom thing is so outlandish: women and ts women enter their cubicle, and what happens in there is nobody business. Different situation in men's restrooms, where you have a row of urinals, and somebody may peek (and, after all, who cares if that happens). 💚
I think I understand every point here except the bathroom question. I don't want to offend anyone, but if for whatever reason I saw you in the men's bathroom, I would be shocked and insecure. Which, in turn, might make you feel bad. I probably wouldn't ask anyway since I'm not the best at being prepared. But I understand someone wanting to make a plan before this happens. A trans person might feel elated, indifferent or ashamed of being on either side and all of these encounters call for a different response.
Imagine being a trans woman. Everyone expects you to look, sound and behave like a man. But here you are dressed like a woman and standing in the women's restroom. It's _terrifying._ The first few times I couldn't come out of the stall until all other women left. Did you know trans women are 4x more likely to be victims of violent assault as cis women?
One thing I would add is don't ask a transgender individual, weather a stranger, acquaintance, friend, colleague, or intimate partner to condemn a member of someone of the same community if they have done something very wrong. This kind on questioning makes it seem like it is an issue of the whole community when it is really an issue of the individual.
Dead name seems like a normal question if someone is genuinely interested in you and your past. Now the knowledge that it hurts trans people is common, so yeah, might be asked with ill intentions, but it’s very non-intuitive why that should be an issue or a matter of offense to cis-people. At least to me I don’t have a proper point of reference to truly internalize why that’s that big of a deal, but I would like to understand it better. At this moment in time I just take it at face value.
Dating a woman can be tricky enough. This is a whole bunch of rules NOBODY is equipped with naturally. Does anyone want this in their lives? It sounds quite rare. Good luck to you!
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish I say this from a place of compassion, but I’ve seen maybe 10 videos from you of lists of things to do or not do when dating a trans woman. I get you are giving much needed advice. Maybe try and uncomplicate things for guys. That aside, you are beautiful, smart, and have a great personality. I love your content!
@@micahrowe I feel like it is mostly just basic respect tbh, I don't ever have to explain these things to people in real life but people seem to enjoy this type of content which is why I made them idk. Anyway thank you for the compliments I appreciate that :)
What are you talking about about your voice is perfect infact as a crossdresser myself I am jealous of your voice but I I am slowly getting better with practice you have already got it
Awwh thank you! My voice was much deeper when I drank and smoked more, its funny because it never massively bothered me but also subconsciously it must have because I've definitely got a little bit of a trained voice I suppose.
I had someone ask me ''is that your real hair, after a few seconds in digesting the question I replied back, Are those your real arms. I did wonder if they would have asked that same question to someone going through chemotherapy?
Oh god I should have included that one, I've always had my own hair but people always used to assume it’s a wig because I'm trans, I guess it hasn't happened for a long time so I haven't thought about.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish Same with me, my very own hair to, I've only ever been asked this question once. (so far) I'll love to know what goes through their mind before asking '' Maybe my hair was looking so beautiful they thought it was a top of the range designer wig as it couldn't possibly be real. I suppose I could now say it could be treated as a complement. 😍
I had a guy walk up to me and ask, Why the hell did you want a sex change anyway?" I told him I had no choice. "What do you mean you had no choice?" I said, "When it is required by the Federal Witness Protection program, you do what you are told." He wandered off muttering, "that sucks."
Super cool answer. I wanna steal this one!
Why does the witness protection program require this?
@@JimmiAlli They don't as far as I know. But my reasons for living my life as I see fit was none of his damned business.
@@tedgriffiths5216 ooh I see
Asking a sexual question up front is a no no.
@@Worlds-Collide you'd think so 😂
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish any time that i had a date or met a tgirl i never asked that kind question. Maybe i have manners who knows?
@@Worlds-Collide wuss
I agree, labels are for the birds. Without the stigma of being labeled, people might be far more open to honest dialogue on sexuality and similar topics.
So true. I think religion is the key. Right now faith is used to control people through exclusion. "Do this or else..."
Faith is also being used to stoke fear and prejudice. "Don't be like _those_ people."
I enjoyed the video! Some serious things, but you made it fun! Your voice is fine, it's soothing and intimate! ❤❤❤
@@jimjones7912 Awwh thank you :) 💙
in my opinion i dont mind when someone ask me about what surgerys i want to do in the future, i like to talk about this but only with those who dont say stuff like surgerys or hrt ruins your body as the first thing
I don't mind it massively, I do get fed up of hearing myself repeat it though after all the years of not being able to afford it 😂
Timing also. If they lead with that question in a conversation, that's a bit off putting.
Damn! People can be so rude and disrespectful. What we need now is kindness 🙏
I been standing at a bus stop in the recent past patiently minding my own business waiting for the bus when on two different times I heard young children ask their mum is that a man. I wasn't even openly dressing or acting like a woman. I wasn't even wearing a bra those two times but my coat was done up so the growing boobs are not so noticeable yet kids seem to know and don't have a filter yet on their mouths. Not even had facial hair removal done yet. I guess my face and skin have changed a bit since starting HRT. Adults though either don't care or don't want to notice.
Affirmation is wonderful. Cherish it. Remind yourself about it so when things go wrong you have something to keep yourself warm.
99% of the population doesn't care. You're just another person. So long as you aren't talking to invisible people or making wild gestures, they'll leave you alone.
Peace to you.
Why do they call it a deadname? Couldn’t they call it a previous name or similar?
Because its something that should never be used again I suppose, unlike say a maiden name. Idk its just what people call it 🤷♀️
you're so right on this
Your dead is called a dead name for a reason. You are a beautiful woman. You are mabilbu now, and that is the only thing that matter. You are awesome. You are a genuine woman.
@@LiamODonovan-l6e exactly! Thank you :) 💜
So the whole person that they used to be is deaf? Should parents in this situation be told that their child is dead?
@@Random51960 the name is dead, the person has evolved.
@@Random51960 the person they were no longer exists they have evolved into the person they were. Their true loveable person they were meant to be
@@LiamODonovan-l6eI think it would be very upsetting for parents to be told that the child they knew is gone, and has been replaced by an unrecognizable person.
good morning malibu! love the name hehe and your right well said :) im also a trans woman kinda still in the beginning of my journey and i definitely dislike how some people would ask me those questions it just makes me feel sometimes uncomfortable.
@@ScarletteAluney I think its worse in the beginning because people are more curious about what may seem like a sudden change, it does calm down though and best of luck with your transition!
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish I agree it calms down.
Mailbu is such a nice name, I remember from one of your videos you explained you were / are a musician and and wanted a great name. I guess for many it would remind them of the drink, not a bad drink....... For me, its when I lived in LA, Malibu was a fun place to be. However you choose your name, its a great name. To make this comment relevant to this video, why would anyone want to know your errrgggghhhhhh name, when you have such a great one now.
Best wishes.
Jess or sometimes Jessie, Jessica, who knows which way the name wind is blowing :)
@@jessicabakerseuk thanks Jess 💙 it reminds most people of the drink yes haha, used to be my favourite until I became allergic to it 😭
Hi Malibu nice to meet you I LOVE you and your channel you are so genuine and you tell it like it is
right, one question that I have been asked is ' have you always been gay' the cheek! I was asked this question from a cis girl who is a friend of a friend of mine that is also a cis girl
what a rude question!
Anyhow please keep creating this sort of content it's appreciated and needed
@@Monica-k4n Awwh thank you hun 💜 oh that is rude! some people just don't understand
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish how can I send you my e-mail address you are fab
The worst thing is random people asking about your genitalia ... It's not appropriate to ask someone this question but people think it's okay to ask trans women specifically.
@@princessbubbles9222 very true
I ask them right back lol. What’s your length, girth, shape, how big are your balls? Does it point up or down? Do you have a taco, a cookie, foofoo, mini moo? Is your cervix close in or far back?
Most of the time they are momentarily offended and then get it, and apologize.
I wonder if the same people say to older women don't you want children, you will regret it later kind of thing?
@@daviniarobbins9298 ☝️
The only thing I get annoyed about is when people want to change my name from Philippa to Pip or Pippa. NO no no. Anything else I consider myself an educator and am completely open. However I no longer volunteer that I am Trans when I meet new people.
There are just some questions you shouldn't ask anyone , regardless ! I figure if you want me to know something , you'll tell me ! Until then I'm content just being with someone who wants to be with me. Have a great weekend and stay safe 💞 sweetie !
Thanks for making this video sis (I am unfortunately still using my old TH-cam account)
Great video. The cisgender community needs to be educated. Most of them are very accepting and supportive. They just don't know all the rules yet. ❤😊❤
I just changed the spelling of my birth name but I'm also sensitive to my adopted name. Don't call me yucky boys names. Yes. I got asked today am i going to get..surgery. it takes a lot to frustrate me but i was touchy. I can just say i have medical considerations from internal bleeding with every choice (even travel) but its still a no go
Wow, it's hard to believe that you are insecure about your looks. I think you are absolutely gorgeous. I wish I looked as good as you. I will have to get by with my incredible personality. 😊😊😊
Awwh that is sweet but its true unfortunately I do 😭
I am transgender woman my mom gave me female hormones in her womb by taking medication I love being a female ❤
I'm not sure I understand but pop off sis 😂
Nobody can see me.
I'm a trans-parent.
Taking estrogen few months now i can see the difference in me
You are such a doll, I adore you 😘
Awwh that's so sweet thank you ❤️
Honestly the first time I heard your voice in this video, the first thing that came to mind was how u definitely sound like a girl, which surprised me and I don't mean to be insensitive , what I'm trying to say is you really sound like a girl to me, if I had just seen you on the street and heard you speak for the first time I would have never known, and that's okay ❤️👍 you don't need to do anything to your voice that's what I'm saying if you think you don't sound female enough, you do sound 100% female if that's what you were going for, I wish you the best😊
The bathroom thing is so outlandish: women and ts women enter their cubicle, and what happens in there is nobody business. Different situation in men's restrooms, where you have a row of urinals, and somebody may peek (and, after all, who cares if that happens). 💚
@@dario1837 Right! I should have mentioned that, it’s not like anyone sees anything anyway 😂
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish but by the same token, it’s pretty rude for someone to enter the women’s , and then stand up to pee… serious
@@thisolddown I mean no trans girl does that
I think I understand every point here except the bathroom question. I don't want to offend anyone, but if for whatever reason I saw you in the men's bathroom, I would be shocked and insecure. Which, in turn, might make you feel bad.
I probably wouldn't ask anyway since I'm not the best at being prepared. But I understand someone wanting to make a plan before this happens. A trans person might feel elated, indifferent or ashamed of being on either side and all of these encounters call for a different response.
Imagine being a trans woman. Everyone expects you to look, sound and behave like a man. But here you are dressed like a woman and standing in the women's restroom. It's _terrifying._ The first few times I couldn't come out of the stall until all other women left.
Did you know trans women are 4x more likely to be victims of violent assault as cis women?
Malibu I see you as a beautiful young lady and I don't care wot people say
@@jonathancoe4591 thank you darling 🩵
Indeed she is .I wish she was my girlfriend
One thing I would add is don't ask a transgender individual, weather a stranger, acquaintance, friend, colleague, or intimate partner to condemn a member of someone of the same community if they have done something very wrong. This kind on questioning makes it seem like it is an issue of the whole community when it is really an issue of the individual.
@@normangarza6624 that's a good one, yes!
Were you always attracted to men, or is this also crossing the line of privacy, asking whether transition influenced such preferences?
@@LatajaceStadoKotow I will be making a video on this topic soon, but in short yes I was always attracted to men.
Dead name seems like a normal question if someone is genuinely interested in you and your past. Now the knowledge that it hurts trans people is common, so yeah, might be asked with ill intentions, but it’s very non-intuitive why that should be an issue or a matter of offense to cis-people. At least to me I don’t have a proper point of reference to truly internalize why that’s that big of a deal, but I would like to understand it better. At this moment in time I just take it at face value.
@@LatajaceStadoKotow for me I just don't like others to think of me as anything other than Malibu.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish thanks for straightforward answers to both of my comments and wish you a nice day
Dating a woman can be tricky enough. This is a whole bunch of rules NOBODY is equipped with naturally. Does anyone want this in their lives? It sounds quite rare. Good luck to you!
@@micahrowe its not that hard 😂
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish I say this from a place of compassion, but I’ve seen maybe 10 videos from you of lists of things to do or not do when dating a trans woman. I get you are giving much needed advice. Maybe try and uncomplicate things for guys. That aside, you are beautiful, smart, and have a great personality. I love your content!
@@micahrowe I feel like it is mostly just basic respect tbh, I don't ever have to explain these things to people in real life but people seem to enjoy this type of content which is why I made them idk. Anyway thank you for the compliments I appreciate that :)
What are you talking about about your voice is perfect infact as a crossdresser myself I am jealous of your voice but I I am slowly getting better with practice you have already got it
Awwh thank you! My voice was much deeper when I drank and smoked more, its funny because it never massively bothered me but also subconsciously it must have because I've definitely got a little bit of a trained voice I suppose.
Good Morning Malibu, thanks for sharing, you have a great weekend 🥰❤️😊
@@coreyhendricks9490 morning :) you too hun! 🧡
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish I appreciate that beautiful 🥰❤️
🌹🌹THX for your video
@@Stampe-OZ0AS of course :)
I had someone ask me ''is that your real hair, after a few seconds in digesting the question I replied back, Are those your real arms. I did wonder if they would have asked that same question to someone going through chemotherapy?
Oh god I should have included that one, I've always had my own hair but people always used to assume it’s a wig because I'm trans, I guess it hasn't happened for a long time so I haven't thought about.
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish Same with me, my very own hair to, I've only ever been asked this question once. (so far) I'll love to know what goes through their mind before asking '' Maybe my hair was looking so beautiful they thought it was a top of the range designer wig as it couldn't possibly be real. I suppose I could now say it could be treated as a complement. 😍
@@catherinehudson5499 definitely is a compliment even if not intended as one haha
ATYPICAL is acceptable.
There are plenty of women with deeper voices. Whoopi Goldberg.
Your voice pitch is a little on the low side, but it's very feminine!
@@G-Forces thanks :)
I agree with all of these
Its not what people ask but why, I would answer almost all questions for a baby trans but very few random Steve on the street :)
That's very true, it's all about context and intentions 💜
You are beautiful
@@NikkolasGaskins-pi8me thank you 🩵
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish any guy would be happy to have you as a girlfriend
@@NikkolasGaskins-pi8me very sweet :) ill have to tell my boyfriend 😂
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish give him a high five and tell him much respect
They just asking what your name was before you changed
And why would they need to know?
@@teresaravenshaw5477 it’s just a name chill out
People almost always ask for a transgender individuals' birth name so they can dead name the trans individual, which is disrespectful
Sometimes WW3 can't come soon enough........
Oh
You are so beautiful
@@jamellehearn1389 Awwh thank you 💜
@@MalibuBarbiieDelish you are so welcome cutie I know your boyfriend is very happy with you cutie