The reason I get threatened by a girl whether ugly or pretty, is because he seems to treat them like they’re all that. Like they’re so special. Being touchy and too overly friendly
I personally wouldn't want my man having a best friend that 's a woman. If a guy has an extremely close woman friend that would actually be a deal breaker for me and I would date someone else. It adds too much stress to the relationship and jealousy.
@BeautyQueen2023Xno. Your feelings are always valid. We are all unique and we have to decide what we can and will tolerate. It's best to find this out early on.
For me it’s not so much feelings of jealousy of any other women but more about not being truthful and how this sets up a dynamic that is unfair. If he’s got others he’s still “friendly” with and keeping options open what I detest is the double standard. My take on it is feel free if this is what you want and in the meantime I too will know it’s perfectly fair and except able to have my own male friends and keep my options open also. I dislike being lied to or having secrets kept from me.
Exactly! You hit the nail right on the head!! I don't care what the other women he may be friends with look like but rather what I am not being told about these relationships. If I feel its nothing I don't get uneasy. But that uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach, thats also you're intuition trying to speak to you. We have that for a reason... whats good for the goose is also good for the gander! Balance!!
I strongly agree with you. A man cannot stay over, this is NOT her insecurity, it’s a huge red flag of him. A man who behaves like a single when in a relationship, she should make him single to sleep over whenever he wants. A man who cannot respect or provide security to a woman is not a man
@@ΑγγελικήΛάζου-λ7ξ Nah its insecurity honestly. The same way women always complain about guys being overprotective/controlling of their friends I agree but it applies the same way to women. Thats your insecurities on him. If he has always been a social person you are just being insecure if you have an issue with people only being friends. You need to trust people to build a relationship. Keep it healthy lads
I have been the female friend. He was married at the time. Wife didn’t know a thing. Men interpret friendships very differently from women. A masculine male has no reason to be friends with a woman. Men don’t bond like women. It might start out as a friendship, but when there is no transparency with the partner its a red flag. The guy goes out of his way to play both of you against each other. Its not always about looks either. As you spend more time together an emotional bond is created. This is how marriages break up. Usually the guy is friends with a woman as he wants the benefits of the relationship but don’t want to be committed. This is my experience. Now he wants to reconnect. I guess the girlfriend after divorce didn’t work out or he got bored with her. Not every situation is the same but be aware of the friend especially if he is not being transparent about it. Not every cheating scenario starts as a physical relationship. If a guy wants to be your friend usually there is a reason behind rather just being genuine friends.
A very secure man can have friendships with females....such as office buddies, lunch partners but, they are all treated like sisters and it ends at the office. An insecure man, especially if he has a very low value nagging wife or girlfriend may search elsewhere or may not start out as a woman on the side but can develop into one. Some insecure men want the attention. But as a woman, our job is to stay and be high value and secure with ourselves and the rest flows. If he cheats on a high value woman then thats on him.
@@joanna8517 you're blaming the woman here for an asshole's behaviour , no man can have reason for friendships with other women if he's in a long term relationship. Unless you're both all friends together then forget it
Call me 'old fashion' but women should just stick with female friends and guys should stick with their male friends! We don't live in a fairly tale world, this is reality and things do happen!
@@shums77 no have friends of either gender just if in a long term relationship be goddamn respectful and include your other half in everything if they want!!!!!
I'm a guy and trust me men's priority is to want more than female friendship. A man who is serious won't even bother with female friends if he sees you as a serious partner. Men and women if you're single and want a serious relationship, start from now to just get read of your friends of the opposite sex so that you don't sabotage your chance for a partner. Most men (me too) will prefer not to date a woman with female friends. The same should happen with women and trust me if all women agree on this, men will change.
If someone cheats on you, they are saying that they are not longer find you attractive, then why staying with someone who doesn’t find you attractive? Let him go
I feel that when someone cheats you on you it’s nothing to do with you it’s not your fault if someone wants to cheat they will the fault is with them not you x
I understand but I think it depends on your cultural background. Having friends with the opposite gender would seem highly inappropriate especially if you are married. A lot of times things do happen which are not in our control...
He will do it because she do not freak out if she will freak out he will do it behind back and they break up if he get caught and then yeah other he just go camping all the time. You might have to dump him sadly but yeah unless he hide it so well
Exactly and in general I find it wrong for my bf to talk to girls even as friends and me talking to guys even as friends. We only need eachother not opposite gender “friends”☠️
For 9 months my boyfriend was constantly trying to make me meet his "female friend". I refused to be put in that dynamic. Turned out later that every single time we had an argument he ran straight to her bed. Friends my ass. Becareful of this ladies. Real alpha men do not have female friends.
My EX told me he wants female friends and wont change for me because he needed social life..he even told me he wants to invite a woman colleague to have a coffee in his house while we were have long distance relationship..and could not meet for 1.5 years because of Covid
It is harder if you didn't grow up with social media. I was bothered alot before. Now I changed as I started to think of myself more in general, my needs. Great video!.
This is the worst advice ever. It was total disrespect for that guy to tell his girlfriend he is staying at another girls house. You turned it around on the girlfriend saying she was insecure and that is not fair or accurate. Women can be just friends with men but men cannot be just friends with women. They are wired differently and think about sex more frequently. The girlfriend did not feel right about that situation and a woman should always follow her intuition.
@Z. M Because they lied about their intentions and never saw you as a real friend. I am sorry that happened to you. Many guys lack the emotional maturity to have real platonic friends of the opposite gender, and look at friendship purely as a path to sex. This is not always the case, I have a longterm girlfriend which I love so much, yet I still have plenty of close friends which happens to be women.
Oh my god. Lol. I could not stand it if my partner was sleeping over at a girl’s house... I wish I was secure enough, but that would honestly freak me out...
I'm not agree with don't give him attention or act when he with the other woman because if you don't act up to it he might think or they think you okay with everything even if you not.... women's are very tricky you can't act cool with something that you know that's affecting your relationship and if you don't act up to it you'll never know what they up to because you clearly showing that you don't care
5 years? Wtf if he hasn’t married you in a year or at least proposed then he’s just using you as a meantime girl someone to help him in life or keep him comfy
wolf night a year is a lot , 5 years is soo much time that u r wasting on this guy who “ is planning to marry me “ like when sister the clock is ticking, personally if I’m not engaged to him in 2 years then he’s out
@@elizserg4116 if a man is in love he wants to tie you down ASAP. also if he is low value because he needs to trap you before you see him for who he really is. women are usually the careful ones. taking our time. sometimes men drag their feet by creating problems and on and off type of behavior so that they dont have to marry you. A lot of men just need you for comfort and stability while they look around shop around for better
Men KNOW whom they gonna marry within a few months max. As a man I give you this golden advice. A man is marriage ready with you when he had his oxytocin rush flooding his body. From then on he will think of you every day and stay with you forever or until you make his life miserable. DON'T marry a man before he had his oxytocin shot or else he will never truly commit to you and you will have a lousy marriage and divorce.
This is absolute garbage advice , Ladies It is your right to set boundaries within your relationship and you get to decide what you want. If your man has a female friend in his life who is so "important" she would attempt to get to know you and you should attempt to get to know her too. The friend might be beautiful or not who cares at the end of the day remember he chose you. And always view yourself with confidence. A high value woman is an alpha female not a wimp who allows her man to trample all over her and disrespects her boundaries. Ofc he is allowed to speak to other females in his day to day life, so you will you be doing the same. Men and womens friendships are different from the same gender. Thats is a fact. 100%. There is no reason for a man or woman to have close friends of the opposite gender if you are in a committed relationship. Allow your man to go out with his female colleagues in a group setting or you can tell him to let him introduce you to his lady friend. Who knows maybe she mighy be a great friend to you too , never be jealous ik its hard not too but try your best to view yourself that you are sexy, strong and bold. You must make it clear to your man that there is room for only one woman in his life beside his family members ofc xD , . A man and woman shouldnt be going out alone one on one and thats not what you should accept its not being insecure its being assertive. If he cannot value your strong mind then fuck him and walk away youre better that. All of this advice applies to you ladies to, stop keeping male friends. If your partner allows to go out wigh male friends then he should be allowed as well. At the end of the day its your relationship and you must communicate that with your partner to set boundaries.
There is a reason why a lot of religions and cultures are against couples (or anyone!) having close friends with the opposite gender, purely because dangers do exist when you are involved! Some people have written books and have done talk shows on this subject, because men are wired very differently from women and have sexual thoughts about other women. I know Steve Harvey and some strict Christians are strongly against it, however if you do find yourself in an unfortunate situation than this video is excellent! i personally wouldn't entertain men who have female friends because i dont believe those relationships are 'innocent' . However, Greta knows what shes talking about, i support this video!
Be honest about the fact you feel uncomfortable with the situation (calm n collected). Have your platonic friends also... He'll get the message. And observe. Have options, and keep moving forward in your life.
I was a secure, open girlfriend who let her boyfriend go out and travel over seas as much as he wanted, thinking he would be an idiot by letting go on a woman who allows him to fulfil his dreams and experience the love within a relationship and... BAM! He choosed to be an idiot.
The question is HOW do you find out if he cheated? You can’t ask him or her so HOW would you know to leave? I agree to a certain extent but sometimes I think you do need to put your foot down and tell him it is not ok. I went along to something and the girl seemed uncomfortable becuz I was nice to her boyfriend..not flirting...and I said ‘good! Maybe now she knows how it feels’ also I tell him it is ok if they text or message him but I want their boyfriends’ phone numbers 😉 trust me it DOES work. Sometimes it is ok to say something I don’t agree you should just allow people to inappropriately have carte blanche w your man..treat him like he treats you. It worked for me! Sure go w her and I will go out to dinner by myself and I did 😄of course I was hit on the minute I sat down and it felt good too. I did not tell him I was hit on but he didn’t seem to like that I got dressed up and went out by myself 😉 but he could not say anything about it. You cannot always just TRUST that giving him trust will work...let her spend time with someone else’s boyfriend...not yours!
Exactly ! There must be boundaries set and he needs to know that you will not just sit back waiting on him while they are off together. You show your value by showing him that if he behaves that way with other women then he can't expect you to be sitting home alone. He has to realize that he's taking the chance on losing you to someone else if he doesn't get his act together. He will become too uncomfortable wondering what you are doing and his attention will quickly snap back to where it belongs and the friend will quickly fall by the wayside. Telling him you want their female friends boyfriends numbers in exchange is brilliant because then both of them will have to face how inappropriate their relationship is and the price of continuing it. If they have to choose that you and the BF must have a relationship too that neither of them will like or not continue that forces them to decide not to continue their relationship. Treating him with same disregard he treats you makes him see that you are not some idiot who will wait around on him and he has to be careful of the rules he makes because they can be turned around on him.
That’s very true. By talking about them, and putting these other girls on a pedastool, you’re feeding what you don’t want. Give these other women no attention in your mind. Thanks Greta, very great 😎😃
Hello, I came across this video only now. I need a little advise. My boyfriend has two female best friends, he introduced me to them and we hang out few times everyone together, but somrtimes they invite my boyfriend to hang out with them alone saying "no couples", either when it's one of their birthday or just normal meet up. I felt disrespected and sad that my boyfriend didn't stood up for me and still went to meet with them. I do trust him, but I wish he put me as his priority when his friends don't respect me. Am I wrong to feel this way? How should I have reacted?
Yeah... But who will tell you if he had cheated or not? Him or her? 🤔 You imagine "the other girl" like that and then you see that she looks like a super model. 😂🤣
The truth ALWAYS comes out Daiva! ;) and if that were to happy, you let him go, as Greta says. And like she said, if you are over 80% high value woman with him and in your life, he would have to be an insecure dumbass to cheat! :)
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. He talk to a lot of females from work etc. But that doesn’t bother me much. He does have a best friend who is a female and that really make me feel very jealous since they have a bond that I don’t have with my boyfriend. I have talked to him about my feelings and he’s very understanding and we agreed on transparent. But every time they do they and he tells me I still feel very jealous. I don’t know how to stop my feeling and it just makes my day bad. I do things to distract my feelings but when I go to bed all my feelings would just crawl up in my head and I would cry till I get tired and falls asleep. I didn’t ask him to stop talking to her or block her on social media but I did say that I don’t feel comfortable if it’s just the two of yous hanging out. But it’s okay if there’s a group of you going out. Can someone please help me. I don’t know how to stop my feelings. I don’t know how to solve this. I really love him. Being transparent is still so hard on me. I wonder if there is another way.
Same here 💔😭 my boyfriend too has a girl best friend for 2yrs now. I said to him that stop chatting her. yeah,, he stop for 5days and then sunddenly he log me out to his acct. Coz I saw he chat her again. 💔💔💔😭😭💔😭💔😭💔😭💔😭💔😭 His reason is for i dont get mad?! 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Some one please give me some advice. Thankyou. 💔
That's really heart wrenching man. Get in contact with your guy friends or make more. A guy giving time to a girl=emotional closure. Beware girl. Your discomfort might be your intuition telling you things are not right. Isn't even comfortable to accept a partner wanting to spend time alone, with same girl (however good friend she is), again and again.
This is very bad advice. Any man with female friends that close, should not even be considered for a relationship. Please please PLEASE get other points of view. For instance, all you need to do is do a TH-cam search "men and women friends" and you will see the TRUTH from MEN'S point of view. Greta is not a man.
Give them same treatment as they treating you. Next time he goes to his friend female , tell him you are going to go soon too after he had done it! And mean it. You will see him running back to you
Ive been in a relationship with my bf for 3 years and he has this close female friend at work which he takes her home after work cz my bf is worried about her safety. And he just told me he have been walking this girl to her home for months now. I cant help not to be insecure and even go mental. We fight. And now we broke up. I know my ge will come back to me qs he has been dumping and coking back to me but since he started woking in the pub he just became toxic and been disrespectful about how i feel.
U see the thing is that I don’t want him even talking with any other girl except for me, and I know that he won’t cheat on me,and I trust him. But when he goes to uni ofc he will be talking with the girls in his classes, and idc if its in a friendly way I just don’t want any other female even looking at him. And I know that stuff like that happens everyday and it drives me insane specially when we have to do long distance cuz of our studies. Im extremely jealous,territorial,obbsesive and controlling. And I have told him that but he still decided and stayed with me. And now I’m loosing my mind when he looks at any girl on Instagram or when any other girl looks at him,and even tho I love him my jealousy is going to end our relationship soon.. sometimes I create drama about it,but I know that it won’t change anything, so im staying calm around him even tho my inner self is dying. And I wont calm down until we move in together and that’s only happening in 5 or so years. So idk if I can survive this, I don’t want to lose him but I cant stay calm knowing that there are other girls around him.
All of his exes now turned in to his best 'girl' friends 🙄. I sometimes told him, "now I wanna be your ex gf, you have been so nice with them". He only laughed at me. 😒
What if you’ve been in a relationship for over a year and he makes new female friends at work. Is that normal and ok? And proceed with the same trust you had or is that a problem?
5 years?? staying with a girlfriend in her house?? lol absolutely if he cheats then leave , the problem is how u gonna know?? it's absolutely disrespectful staying in another womans house end of story.
@@joanna8517 except I'm not waiting around to see it in this situation!! Most unfaithfulness is actually situational, if he wants to put himself in a situation with potential unfaithfulness occurring and expect you to be okay with it then off with him but I aint staying around, completely unacceptable behaviour, and in a long term relationship?? NO way
If she is hot he will just be trying to not cheat whole time. If she helps him to let him to do it then she is disrespectful to herself. He might use her to do it but he will never love her I can tell you that. He will start to hate her for causing him to be unfaithful and will resent her deep down no matter what he says to get it.
Mine kept talking about one particular female colleague, even when we are out on dates. (He sees her everyday at work, while we go out on dates 2 days a week) I trust him and don't want to be insecure, but is this a cause for concern?
I have a male Bestfriend and he is literally the homie but if I am in a relationship, aint NO WAY Im sleeping at his place even though nothing would happen. Im not putting my partner through that stress and you know no matter how cool they act about it, that would be at the back of their mind. Just not right.😂
How about if he lusts after other women or has a porn addiction? isn't that considered cheating? the bible says that a man who looks at a women with lust has already committed adultery in his heart?
I don't want to be controlling. I want him to have his set of friends but unfortunately before meeting me . He had 2 girl bestfriends he would hang out with a lot . In the beginning of the relationship since it was fresh he put all his effort and time with me . I was aware that they were his friends but i didn't know how their relationships were . 2 years now with him i struggle. He hangs out with them just as much as he hangs out with me . I trust him . I know they have a platonic relationship. I've only meet them twice ... I want to give him space and his time alone . Not talking to me all the time. But for some reason i always compare myself to them .
A year of his secret friends texting him because he thought I’d get jealous. No I didn’t get jealous I just kicked him to the curb. Lying to me this entire time is cheating in my book. Am I wrong?
If man truly loves and respects his girlfriend or wife he will NEVER ever ever spend time with his female friends one on one without here. Especially stay over at here house. Only exception if that female friend is married.
Be honest, I would not be surprised if there is more cheating when the female is married ( if they are both married there is a good chance they might both not want to break up their marriages but they just want something n the side ). Basically, if a person wants to cheat they will.
I cant watch anymore of your videos..If you value and respect yourself how in the heck are you gonna let your long term boyfriend sleep at another woman's house?! No! This is not acceptable behaviour. It's not about trusting and accepting everthing a man decides to do as fine because your so concerned with your "high value" behaviour. If he had any value for you he wouldn't dare consider this travel arrangement as an option. What the heck is this advice you are giving?!
I'm so tired of my man. He keeps hanging out with his friend, and he clearly blushes near her. He just avoids me like a plague, it hurts so much. I want to be loved by him, but he just pushes me away. He hangs out with her way more than me. When i brought it up, he said it was my fault and i was a bad girlfriend. Any advice?
Nothing is wrong with you. He's the one with the problem. Honestly, dump him. If he's not even trying to hang out with you, why would you try to be with him. There is always someone else out there willing to do what someone else will not. Trust in that thought and let that little boy go.
Will I tell one thing ma'am? I actually followed this in the initial years of my relationship. But after 4 years one day I stalked my boyfriend's fb. I just got to see that he's following some unknown girls and sharing his no and talking to them. What should I do now? How will I react? Should I leave him? Or should I tell him to unfollow or block them?
That is true . If you give it attention you are bringing it value . Then you wasted your whole day looking people up . To hell with that . Enjoying my life !
My girlfriend, has a female friend who used to like her. My girlfriend used to talk to her friend about me. When my girlfriend and I started dating, her friend All of a sudden decided to tell her she likes her. My girlfriend tells me, and I don’t feel any type of way about it at first because me and her just started dating and I didn’t want to come between their friendship. My girlfriend then goes to tell me that her friend says that her family said they should date, then I start getting kinda annoyed, then my girlfriend made a post on Snapchat that says women who wear ankle bracelets are more attractive, I tell her to delete the post because whoever likes you is going to start wearing them. Then a couple days later her friend starts wearing them. I then start complaining about their friendship and saying I don’t want her being friends with her anymore at that time we were almost 2 years of dating. Then the friend ends up going to the same college as my girlfriend and she tells me that all their friends says they should date and what not. So by this time I’ve been telling her over and over again I don’t like her being friends with her. Then now all of a sudden they call each other bestfriends now and I’m so irritated and I feel very disrespected and we’ve been dating for 3 years now. Now her bestfriend has a boyfriend. And I still don’t want her being friends with her because I don’t want any feelings to be brought back up by her bestfriend and I don’t want my girlfriend catching feeling for her. My girlfriend asked her “bestfriend” if she would ever like her again and she says to her that my girlfriend would have to change her mind. My girlfriend gets mad at me when I tell her I don’t like her being friends with her, and now she just told me she doesn’t care about my feelings because whatever happened is old. And she is not picking a side. She calls me jealous and insecure now because of the way I feel.
They shouldn't be putting themselves in questionable situations. And people can cheat and not say anything for years. There's no guarantee thathe'dd say something right away, so I can see the worry and not wanting to waste time.
My only problem with my ex and the girl who consistently pursued him was that when we had issues, he went to her for a friend to vent to. She wanted to be with him, of course she’s going to tell him he didn’t need me. Well now he’s monkey branched off to her after we dated for 3 years, and she moved in with him right away. I have an issue with how she didn’t want to be my friend but consistently went after him… he didn’t realize it was malicious intent.
Then that’s a serious topic that needs to be brought up or cutting off that friend. A true friend would never do that and your husband/boyfriend should do his part and be smart to stay away and never engage and if he already has then there’s no need to be continuing the relationship if he continues to disrespect you.
How do you deal with late replies/slow/Next day replies as a girlfriend in a high value way? My boyfriend has been doing this so much recently& I feel so neglected & unwanted
Dont reply too fast when he text you . Take double time to text him back .but dont act needy ,clingy or angry .be sweet and good . Give him the taste of what he is doing to u. Enjoy your own life .don't make him your life
text him as much as he texts you. he sends you a few words at a time do the same. don't text him paragraphs when he's being dry lol but always be sweet. sweet & short. you have your own life to live. you don't even notice that he isn't texting you as much
Well I take it as - 1. If she's a genuinely girl, she would guide him right 2. If she's a bitch, off course she would make him against me and that's a huge loss for him. I won't turn back to him again.
Mmm I don't know about this Greta. I could stand he goes out with a girl friend by time to time if he is open about it, like it's not a secret, and even better if he introduces me at some point. But sleeping over? I think it's being too familiar with another woman, like those little things I would only see (his PJ or absence of, morning face, ...) I want to be the only one to know those things about him. I would be ok with that ONLY if the other girl has her own boyfriend or husband, but if she's single that's a red flag for me. It's just not a natural situation.
@MissyM5424 haha well, I would consider a lesbian like a guy friend of his. No threat there :) a girl jaleous of a lesbian really doesn't make any sense, since there is no competition there for the guy. Unless some people are just jaleous of the attention? Which doesn't sound an healthy way to live.
I wanna ask something ,my bf has 3 or 4 close female frndz like his childhood friends ,I don't have any problem with them ,but one of them had a physical reltn with him ,2 years ago now she is in a serious relationship with a guys ,and my bf loves me ,he ignored his female friends for me ,because he knows I get mad ,but now I don't wanna control him, his friends invite him but he refuse to go ,everybody has a past past ,how should I do ?
I feel like if your boyfriend has Friends that are female Leave it alone remember You can’t Make him drop Friends that aren’t doing anything wrong. it’s really sad That alot of us females always think the worse in situations Just give him some goddamn trust Sheesh.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. Also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So sex isn't really a thing about romance. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner is. Also, you would more likely be much closer to a person who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships. Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot. And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends. Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone. Also, you're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse.
Girls question I went off the island so I was off the island for 2 months I decided to come back but I came back and didn't let my boyfriend know I was coming so he brought this Lady over whiles I sitting home he told me the lady came to cook how would of you'll reacted to this situation
This advice sounds like it's setting up women to be toyed with. The fact that my partner would suggest staying at his ex's house would be a deal breaker for me. Allowing him to sleep at his female friend's houses makes it so much easier for him to cover up whatever may happen inside the house. A decent man would never ever suggest this to a woman he loves. Is it too difficult to rent a hotel?
I’m sorry but your high value behavior only lites up a green light for a guy. I know one lady who was self confident also read smart books about secure behaviors that her fiancé even stopped hiding from here his adventures because he thought she doesn’t care as long as he comes back to her. He said that if she was marking some lines for him he wouldn’t go so far. 😂😂😂
doesnt shower, oily hair, bad breath.. hmm sounds familiar LOL . (5 turn offs in a girl)
lol
Staying over at another woman's house is completely unacceptable if in a committed relationship.
The reason I get threatened by a girl whether ugly or pretty, is because he seems to treat them like they’re all that. Like they’re so special. Being touchy and too overly friendly
and rightfully so
I personally wouldn't want my man having a best friend that 's a woman. If a guy has an extremely close woman friend that would actually be a deal breaker for me and I would date someone else. It adds too much stress to the relationship and jealousy.
yup, exactly.
@BeautyQueen2023Xno. Your feelings are always valid. We are all unique and we have to decide what we can and will tolerate. It's best to find this out early on.
For me it’s not so much feelings of jealousy of any other women but more about not being truthful and how this sets up a dynamic that is unfair. If he’s got others he’s still “friendly” with and keeping options open what I detest is the double standard. My take on it is feel free if this is what you want and in the meantime I too will know it’s perfectly fair and except able to have my own male friends and keep my options open also. I dislike being lied to or having secrets kept from me.
Exactly! You hit the nail right on the head!! I don't care what the other women he may be friends with look like but rather what I am not being told about these relationships. If I feel its nothing I don't get uneasy. But that uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach, thats also you're intuition trying to speak to you. We have that for a reason... whats good for the goose is also good for the gander! Balance!!
You're being very unwise by thinking it's YOUR INSECURITIES ! Staying over is not acceptable in ANY relationship. Get out.
Amen how disrespectful
I strongly agree with you. A man cannot stay over, this is NOT her insecurity, it’s a huge red flag of him. A man who behaves like a single when in a relationship, she should make him single to sleep over whenever he wants. A man who cannot respect or provide security to a woman is not a man
Absolutely agree with your comment,so twisted and conviniend to think about woman insecurities not accepting his boyfriend treating her disrespectful!
ABSOLUTELY AGREE OMG I WAS FIGHTING WITH MY BF ABOUT THIS
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Nah its insecurity honestly.
The same way women always complain about guys being overprotective/controlling of their friends I agree but it applies the same way to women.
Thats your insecurities on him.
If he has always been a social person you are just being insecure if you have an issue with people only being friends.
You need to trust people to build a relationship. Keep it healthy lads
I have been the female friend. He was married at the time. Wife didn’t know a thing. Men interpret friendships very differently from women. A masculine male has no reason to be friends with a woman. Men don’t bond like women. It might start out as a friendship, but when there is no transparency with the partner its a red flag. The guy goes out of his way to play both of you against each other. Its not always about looks either. As you spend more time together an emotional bond is created. This is how marriages break up. Usually the guy is friends with a woman as he wants the benefits of the relationship but don’t want to be committed. This is my experience. Now he wants to reconnect. I guess the girlfriend after divorce didn’t work out or he got bored with her. Not every situation is the same but be aware of the friend especially if he is not being transparent about it. Not every cheating scenario starts as a physical relationship. If a guy wants to be your friend usually there is a reason behind rather just being genuine friends.
A very secure man can have friendships with females....such as office buddies, lunch partners but, they are all treated like sisters and it ends at the office. An insecure man, especially if he has a very low value nagging wife or girlfriend may search elsewhere or may not start out as a woman on the side but can develop into one. Some insecure men want the attention. But as a woman, our job is to stay and be high value and secure with ourselves and the rest flows. If he cheats on a high value woman then thats on him.
@@joanna8517 you're blaming the woman here for an asshole's behaviour , no man can have reason for friendships with other women if he's in a long term relationship. Unless you're both all friends together then forget it
Call me 'old fashion' but women should just stick with female friends and guys should stick with their male friends! We don't live in a fairly tale world, this is reality and things do happen!
@@shums77 no have friends of either gender just if in a long term relationship be goddamn respectful and include your other half in everything if they want!!!!!
@@joanna8517 you don't know the meaning of the word 'friend'. Office buddies and acquaintances are just that. Not friends.
The worst thing is the cheaters don’t reveal that they cheat.
I'm a guy and trust me men's priority is to want more than female friendship. A man who is serious won't even bother with female friends if he sees you as a serious partner. Men and women if you're single and want a serious relationship, start from now to just get read of your friends of the opposite sex so that you don't sabotage your chance for a partner.
Most men (me too) will prefer not to date a woman with female friends. The same should happen with women and trust me if all women agree on this, men will change.
Rule #1 don’t date a guy with a lot of female friends !
Very well said, Dwight! 💯
If someone cheats on you, they are saying that they are not longer find you attractive, then why staying with someone who doesn’t find you attractive? Let him go
I feel that when someone cheats you on you it’s nothing to do with you it’s not your fault if someone wants to cheat they will the fault is with them not you x
You steal his friends and make them your friends🤣
Now that is what I call a Secure High Value woman!!
@@joanna8517 insecure*
that's what I've done :-)
Oh my god! That is brilliant. Hahahhahah
Any fenale want friendship
I understand but I think it depends on your cultural background. Having friends with the opposite gender would seem highly inappropriate especially if you are married. A lot of times things do happen which are not in our control...
In my culture, we don't accept it however, if it does happen, this advice is golden, because it can happen.
He will do it because she do not freak out if she will freak out he will do it behind back and they break up if he get caught and then yeah other he just go camping all the time. You might have to dump him sadly but yeah unless he hide it so well
Exactly and in general I find it wrong for my bf to talk to girls even as friends and me talking to guys even as friends. We only need eachother not opposite gender “friends”☠️
This was REALLY helpful because I've had problems with this particular topic with my boyfriend in the past. Thank you for making this video!
For 9 months my boyfriend was constantly trying to make me meet his "female friend". I refused to be put in that dynamic. Turned out later that every single time we had an argument he ran straight to her bed. Friends my ass. Becareful of this ladies. Real alpha men do not have female friends.
My EX told me he wants female friends and wont change for me because he needed social life..he even told me he wants to invite a woman colleague to have a coffee in his house while we were have long distance relationship..and could not meet for 1.5 years because of Covid
It is harder if you didn't grow up with social media. I was bothered alot before. Now I changed as I started to think of myself more in general, my needs. Great video!.
This is the worst advice ever. It was total disrespect for that guy to tell his girlfriend he is staying at another girls house. You turned it around on the girlfriend saying she was insecure and that is not fair or accurate. Women can be just friends with men but men cannot be just friends with women. They are wired differently and think about sex more frequently. The girlfriend did not feel right about that situation and a woman should always follow her intuition.
Now why would that be the case? Of course we can just be friends aswell
@Z. M Because they lied about their intentions and never saw you as a real friend. I am sorry that happened to you. Many guys lack the emotional maturity to have real platonic friends of the opposite gender, and look at friendship purely as a path to sex. This is not always the case, I have a longterm girlfriend which I love so much, yet I still have plenty of close friends which happens to be women.
A high value man can pay a nice room at a hotel, if he is another town. And he is not going to risk our relationship and especially my respect to him😉
Oh my god. Lol. I could not stand it if my partner was sleeping over at a girl’s house... I wish I was secure enough, but that would honestly freak me out...
It would anyone
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I'm not agree with don't give him attention or act when he with the other woman because if you don't act up to it he might think or they think you okay with everything even if you not.... women's are very tricky you can't act cool with something that you know that's affecting your relationship and if you don't act up to it you'll never know what they up to because you clearly showing that you don't care
I agree with you!!!
I strongly agree with u
5 years? Wtf if he hasn’t married you in a year or at least proposed then he’s just using you as a meantime girl someone to help him in life or keep him comfy
Is a year a lot? I thought marrige should be at the 3-5+ year point
wolf night a year is a lot , 5 years is soo much time that u r wasting on this guy who “ is planning to marry me “ like when sister the clock is ticking, personally if I’m not engaged to him in 2 years then he’s out
@@elizserg4116 if a man is in love he wants to tie you down ASAP. also if he is low value because he needs to trap you before you see him for who he really is. women are usually the careful ones. taking our time. sometimes men drag their feet by creating problems and on and off type of behavior so that they dont have to marry you. A lot of men just need you for comfort and stability while they look around shop around for better
Men KNOW whom they gonna marry within a few months max. As a man I give you this golden advice. A man is marriage ready with you when he had his oxytocin rush flooding his body. From then on he will think of you every day and stay with you forever or until you make his life miserable. DON'T marry a man before he had his oxytocin shot or else he will never truly commit to you and you will have a lousy marriage and divorce.
I know 2 people they knew ride away the first time they meet that they will married each other
This is absolute garbage advice , Ladies It is your right to set boundaries within your relationship and you get to decide what you want. If your man has a female friend in his life who is so "important" she would attempt to get to know you and you should attempt to get to know her too. The friend might be beautiful or not who cares at the end of the day remember he chose you. And always view yourself with confidence. A high value woman is an alpha female not a wimp who allows her man to trample all over her and disrespects her boundaries. Ofc he is allowed to speak to other females in his day to day life, so you will you be doing the same. Men and womens friendships are different from the same gender. Thats is a fact. 100%. There is no reason for a man or woman to have close friends of the opposite gender if you are in a committed relationship. Allow your man to go out with his female colleagues in a group setting or you can tell him to let him introduce you to his lady friend. Who knows maybe she mighy be a great friend to you too , never be jealous ik its hard not too but try your best to view yourself that you are sexy, strong and bold. You must make it clear to your man that there is room for only one woman in his life beside his family members ofc xD , . A man and woman shouldnt be going out alone one on one and thats not what you should accept its not being insecure its being assertive. If he cannot value your strong mind then fuck him and walk away youre better that. All of this advice applies to you ladies to, stop keeping male friends. If your partner allows to go out wigh male friends then he should be allowed as well. At the end of the day its your relationship and you must communicate that with your partner to set boundaries.
What if they've been friends for 14+ years?
There is a reason why a lot of religions and cultures are against couples (or anyone!) having close friends with the opposite gender, purely because dangers do exist when you are involved! Some people have written books and have done talk shows on this subject, because men are wired very differently from women and have sexual thoughts about other women. I know Steve Harvey and some strict Christians are strongly against it, however if you do find yourself in an unfortunate situation than this video is excellent! i personally wouldn't entertain men who have female friends because i dont believe those relationships are 'innocent' . However, Greta knows what shes talking about, i support this video!
Brilliant advice Greta! I think it is so clever the way you talk about using reverse psychology x
You shared the exact details which goes into our mind !! like each and every single feeling which we women go through!! Thanks a lot 🥰
Be honest about the fact you feel uncomfortable with the situation (calm n collected). Have your platonic friends also... He'll get the message. And observe. Have options, and keep moving forward in your life.
I was a secure, open girlfriend who let her boyfriend go out and travel over seas as much as he wanted, thinking he would be an idiot by letting go on a woman who allows him to fulfil his dreams and experience the love within a relationship and... BAM! He choosed to be an idiot.
The question is HOW do you find out if he cheated? You can’t ask him or her so HOW would you know to leave?
I agree to a certain extent but sometimes I think you do need to put your foot down and tell him it is not ok. I went along to something and the girl seemed uncomfortable becuz I was nice to her boyfriend..not flirting...and I said ‘good! Maybe now she knows how it feels’ also I tell him it is ok if they text or message him but I want their boyfriends’ phone numbers 😉 trust me it DOES work. Sometimes it is ok to say something I don’t agree you should just allow people to inappropriately have carte blanche w your man..treat him like he treats you. It worked for me! Sure go w her and I will go out to dinner by myself and I did 😄of course I was hit on the minute I sat down and it felt good too. I did not tell him I was hit on but he didn’t seem to like that I got dressed up and went out by myself 😉 but he could not say anything about it. You cannot always just TRUST that giving him trust will work...let her spend time with someone else’s boyfriend...not yours!
Exactly ! There must be boundaries set and he needs to know that you will not just sit back waiting on him while they are off together. You show your value by showing him that if he behaves that way with other women then he can't expect you to be sitting home alone. He has to realize that he's taking the chance on losing you to someone else if he doesn't get his act together. He will become too uncomfortable wondering what you are doing and his attention will quickly snap back to where it belongs and the friend will quickly fall by the wayside. Telling him you want their female friends boyfriends numbers in exchange is brilliant because then both of them will have to face how inappropriate their relationship is and the price of continuing it. If they have to choose that you and the BF must have a relationship too that neither of them will like or not continue that forces them to decide not to continue their relationship. Treating him with same disregard he treats you makes him see that you are not some idiot who will wait around on him and he has to be careful of the rules he makes because they can be turned around on him.
That’s very true. By talking about them, and putting these other girls on a pedastool, you’re feeding what you don’t want. Give these other women no attention in your mind. Thanks Greta, very great 😎😃
Hello, I came across this video only now. I need a little advise. My boyfriend has two female best friends, he introduced me to them and we hang out few times everyone together, but somrtimes they invite my boyfriend to hang out with them alone saying "no couples", either when it's one of their birthday or just normal meet up. I felt disrespected and sad that my boyfriend didn't stood up for me and still went to meet with them. I do trust him, but I wish he put me as his priority when his friends don't respect me. Am I wrong to feel this way? How should I have reacted?
No you’re not wrong at all! Does his female best friends have a significant other?
I think that’s kind of weird they would say “ no couples”
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Yeah... But who will tell you if he had cheated or not? Him or her? 🤔 You imagine "the other girl" like that and then you see that she looks like a super model. 😂🤣
The truth ALWAYS comes out Daiva! ;) and if that were to happy, you let him go, as Greta says. And like she said, if you are over 80% high value woman with him and in your life, he would have to be an insecure dumbass to cheat! :)
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. He talk to a lot of females from work etc. But that doesn’t bother me much. He does have a best friend who is a female and that really make me feel very jealous since they have a bond that I don’t have with my boyfriend. I have talked to him about my feelings and he’s very understanding and we agreed on transparent. But every time they do they and he tells me I still feel very jealous. I don’t know how to stop my feeling and it just makes my day bad. I do things to distract my feelings but when I go to bed all my feelings would just crawl up in my head and I would cry till I get tired and falls asleep. I didn’t ask him to stop talking to her or block her on social media but I did say that I don’t feel comfortable if it’s just the two of yous hanging out. But it’s okay if there’s a group of you going out.
Can someone please help me. I don’t know how to stop my feelings. I don’t know how to solve this. I really love him.
Being transparent is still so hard on me. I wonder if there is another way.
That is so sad I hope you get to feel better soon and maybe it is best to be on your own if possible.
Did u ever figure it out?
Same here 💔😭 my boyfriend too has a girl best friend for 2yrs now. I said to him that stop chatting her. yeah,, he stop for 5days and then sunddenly he log me out to his acct. Coz I saw he chat her again. 💔💔💔😭😭💔😭💔😭💔😭💔😭💔😭
His reason is for i dont get mad?! 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Some one please give me some advice. Thankyou. 💔
Tbh those are just not my kind of men. I leave them. That’s my honest answer. I just don’t want the headache and the drama
That's really heart wrenching man. Get in contact with your guy friends or make more.
A guy giving time to a girl=emotional closure. Beware girl. Your discomfort might be your intuition telling you things are not right. Isn't even comfortable to accept a partner wanting to spend time alone, with same girl (however good friend she is), again and again.
Well said Greta 👑. Thank you for sharing this knowledge with us.
As usual, great advice!!! The comparison with the oily haired girls, so hilarious LOL!!!!
This is very bad advice. Any man with female friends that close, should not even be considered for a relationship. Please please PLEASE get other points of view. For instance, all you need to do is do a TH-cam search "men and women friends" and you will see the TRUTH from MEN'S point of view. Greta is not a man.
You are 100% correct! More ladies need to realise they are a high valued woman!
Give them same treatment as they treating you. Next time he goes to his friend female , tell him you are going to go soon too after he had done it! And mean it. You will see him running back to you
Ive been in a relationship with my bf for 3 years and he has this close female friend at work which he takes her home after work cz my bf is worried about her safety. And he just told me he have been walking this girl to her home for months now. I cant help not to be insecure and even go mental. We fight. And now we broke up. I know my ge will come back to me qs he has been dumping and coking back to me but since he started woking in the pub he just became toxic and been disrespectful about how i feel.
U see the thing is that I don’t want him even talking with any other girl except for me, and I know that he won’t cheat on me,and I trust him. But when he goes to uni ofc he will be talking with the girls in his classes, and idc if its in a friendly way I just don’t want any other female even looking at him. And I know that stuff like that happens everyday and it drives me insane specially when we have to do long distance cuz of our studies. Im extremely jealous,territorial,obbsesive and controlling. And I have told him that but he still decided and stayed with me. And now I’m loosing my mind when he looks at any girl on Instagram or when any other girl looks at him,and even tho I love him my jealousy is going to end our relationship soon.. sometimes I create drama about it,but I know that it won’t change anything, so im staying calm around him even tho my inner self is dying. And I wont calm down until we move in together and that’s only happening in 5 or so years. So idk if I can survive this, I don’t want to lose him but I cant stay calm knowing that there are other girls around him.
Girl, here you've to control yourself otherwise you'll become toxic for him and yourself too. Just ignore such thoughts and be happy in your life
All of his exes now turned in to his best 'girl' friends 🙄. I sometimes told him, "now I wanna be your ex gf, you have been so nice with them". He only laughed at me. 😒
What if you’ve been in a relationship for over a year and he makes new female friends at work. Is that normal and ok? And proceed with the same trust you had or is that a problem?
‘Oily hair, never had a shower’....🤣🤣🤣
My bf has A LOT of female friends and that bothers me a little! Thanks for your video I needed it XD
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Facts me too
You were probably his friend before he started smashing? 🤔
Ah no
Leave him already. Don't be naive. He wouldn't want you to have male friends either, why would you let him treat you like that?
5 years?? staying with a girlfriend in her house?? lol absolutely if he cheats then leave , the problem is how u gonna know?? it's absolutely disrespectful staying in another womans house end of story.
Agreed. I don't need to hear or caught him cheating. Knowing he's willing to stay in his female friend's house is enough for me to walk away. :)
You many never "know" from him or anyone else not telling you but, signs of unusual behaviour usually follow.
@@joanna8517 except I'm not waiting around to see it in this situation!! Most unfaithfulness is actually situational, if he wants to put himself in a situation with potential unfaithfulness occurring and expect you to be okay with it then off with him but I aint staying around, completely unacceptable behaviour, and in a long term relationship?? NO way
If she is hot he will just be trying to not cheat whole time. If she helps him to let him to do it then she is disrespectful to herself. He might use her to do it but he will never love her I can tell you that. He will start to hate her for causing him to be unfaithful and will resent her deep down no matter what he says to get it.
What if she’s a lesbian?
So how do you find out if he cheats??? If he says nothing and she don't either how will you know???
victoria bartlett bingo!!! I agree! Ignorance is not bliss
Listen every lies come out one day so no worries if u dont feel the relationship than dont stay
Mine kept talking about one particular female colleague, even when we are out on dates. (He sees her everyday at work, while we go out on dates 2 days a week) I trust him and don't want to be insecure, but is this a cause for concern?
I’m in same situation except mine is long distance so I don’t meet him on any days of the week, what did u do?
Call him out on it
I have a male Bestfriend and he is literally the homie but if I am in a relationship, aint NO WAY Im sleeping at his place even though nothing would happen. Im not putting my partner through that stress and you know no matter how cool they act about it, that would be at the back of their mind. Just not right.😂
Staying at her house is already cheating
Such powerful advice!! Thank you!
How about if he lusts after other women or has a porn addiction? isn't that considered cheating? the bible says that a man who looks at a women with lust has already committed adultery in his heart?
I don't want to be controlling. I want him to have his set of friends but unfortunately before meeting me . He had 2 girl bestfriends he would hang out with a lot . In the beginning of the relationship since it was fresh he put all his effort and time with me . I was aware that they were his friends but i didn't know how their relationships were . 2 years now with him i struggle. He hangs out with them just as much as he hangs out with me . I trust him . I know they have a platonic relationship. I've only meet them twice ... I want to give him space and his time alone . Not talking to me all the time. But for some reason i always compare myself to them .
That's why we don't risk ourselves to enter in a relationship with a dude that has female "friends"
A year of his secret friends texting him because he thought I’d get jealous. No I didn’t get jealous I just kicked him to the curb. Lying to me this entire time is cheating in my book. Am I wrong?
If man truly loves and respects his girlfriend or wife he will NEVER ever ever spend time with his female friends one on one without here. Especially stay over at here house. Only exception if that female friend is married.
Be honest, I would not be surprised if there is more cheating when the female is married ( if they are both married there is a good chance they might both not want to break up their marriages but they just want something n the side ). Basically, if a person wants to cheat they will.
Excellent video! Thank you 🙂👍🏼
Great video. You rock Greta!!
thank you
I cant watch anymore of your videos..If you value and respect yourself how in the heck are you gonna let your long term boyfriend sleep at another woman's house?! No! This is not acceptable behaviour. It's not about trusting and accepting everthing a man decides to do as fine because your so concerned with your "high value" behaviour. If he had any value for you he wouldn't dare consider this travel arrangement as an option. What the heck is this advice you are giving?!
I agree.
I'm so tired of my man. He keeps hanging out with his friend, and he clearly blushes near her. He just avoids me like a plague, it hurts so much. I want to be loved by him, but he just pushes me away. He hangs out with her way more than me. When i brought it up, he said it was my fault and i was a bad girlfriend. Any advice?
Nothing is wrong with you. He's the one with the problem. Honestly, dump him. If he's not even trying to hang out with you, why would you try to be with him. There is always someone else out there willing to do what someone else will not. Trust in that thought and let that little boy go.
Leave him. There will be someone who treats you the right way
Keep your options open
Will I tell one thing ma'am? I actually followed this in the initial years of my relationship. But after 4 years one day I stalked my boyfriend's fb. I just got to see that he's following some unknown girls and sharing his no and talking to them. What should I do now? How will I react? Should I leave him? Or should I tell him to unfollow or block them?
leave him FAST
Options open
If you want to be secure, learn to be "A Conscious Partner".
Thank you i appreciate ur advice 💗 but i truly wanna get rid of her
Very nice advice❤️ Thank you so so much, I really needed to hear this Wow!
agreed 100% love you thanks for the insight, so done wasting time on disrespectful microcheaters
What do you do that girl helps him disrespect me ?? She invited him to a lingerie party and turned off his location.
My boyfriend is hugging other girls and I got upset and left and I said I dx have fun...IM JUST SO SAD!!!
Go out with other people
What if Hé is friend with his exes
Excellent advice to stay high value 👌🏾
Greta you are the best. Your advices are so much helpful to me.
Thank you!!! I needed to hear this so bad haha amazing advice ☺️
That is true . If you give it attention you are bringing it value . Then you wasted your whole day looking people up . To hell with that . Enjoying my life !
My girlfriend, has a female friend who used to like her. My girlfriend used to talk to her friend about me. When my girlfriend and I started dating, her friend All of a sudden decided to tell her she likes her. My girlfriend tells me, and I don’t feel any type of way about it at first because me and her just started dating and I didn’t want to come between their friendship. My girlfriend then goes to tell me that her friend says that her family said they should date, then I start getting kinda annoyed, then my girlfriend made a post on Snapchat that says women who wear ankle bracelets are more attractive, I tell her to delete the post because whoever likes you is going to start wearing them. Then a couple days later her friend starts wearing them. I then start complaining about their friendship and saying I don’t want her being friends with her anymore at that time we were almost 2 years of dating. Then the friend ends up going to the same college as my girlfriend and she tells me that all their friends says they should date and what not. So by this time I’ve been telling her over and over again I don’t like her being friends with her. Then now all of a sudden they call each other bestfriends now and I’m so irritated and I feel very disrespected and we’ve been dating for 3 years now. Now her bestfriend has a boyfriend. And I still don’t want her being friends with her because I don’t want any feelings to be brought back up by her bestfriend and I don’t want my girlfriend catching feeling for her. My girlfriend asked her “bestfriend” if she would ever like her again and she says to her that my girlfriend would have to change her mind. My girlfriend gets mad at me when I tell her I don’t like her being friends with her, and now she just told me she doesn’t care about my feelings because whatever happened is old. And she is not picking a side. She calls me jealous and insecure now because of the way I feel.
Thank you Lady Greta 😊👑💕 you saved me , I was about to explode 💥 on him next week for adding some random cheap girls on his facebook friend list 🙄
Facts
They shouldn't be putting themselves in questionable situations. And people can cheat and not say anything for years. There's no guarantee thathe'dd say something right away, so I can see the worry and not wanting to waste time.
My only problem with my ex and the girl who consistently pursued him was that when we had issues, he went to her for a friend to vent to. She wanted to be with him, of course she’s going to tell him he didn’t need me. Well now he’s monkey branched off to her after we dated for 3 years, and she moved in with him right away. I have an issue with how she didn’t want to be my friend but consistently went after him… he didn’t realize it was malicious intent.
What about if you go dancing for years with your friends and a friend you thought you trusted starts flirting with your guy?
Then that’s a serious topic that needs to be brought up or cutting off that friend. A true friend would never do that and your husband/boyfriend should do his part and be smart to stay away and never engage and if he already has then there’s no need to be continuing the relationship if he continues to disrespect you.
How do you deal with late replies/slow/Next day replies as a girlfriend in a high value way? My boyfriend has been doing this so much recently& I feel so neglected & unwanted
Dont reply too fast when he text you . Take double time to text him back .but dont act needy ,clingy or angry .be sweet and good . Give him the taste of what he is doing to u.
Enjoy your own life .don't make him your life
text him as much as he texts you. he sends you a few words at a time do the same. don't text him paragraphs when he's being dry lol but always be sweet. sweet & short. you have your own life to live. you don't even notice that he isn't texting you as much
What if she wants to go to him with her feelings or even tell him let’s go home
Helped me so much THANK YOU!!!!
What if he goes to her for "advice" about you guys relationship when you fight?
Exactly . I see that as a big massive betrayal . If he has an issue with me then he needs to address it with only me . Its not her buisness .
I know thats right
Well I take it as -
1. If she's a genuinely girl, she would guide him right
2. If she's a bitch, off course she would make him against me and that's a huge loss for him.
I won't turn back to him again.
5yr long relationship? That’s one that’s going nowhere. She is not being realistic about the importance of herself in his life.
Thank you so much... It was helpful... 🙏
Doubts and fear take place of trust
Mmm I don't know about this Greta. I could stand he goes out with a girl friend by time to time if he is open about it, like it's not a secret, and even better if he introduces me at some point. But sleeping over? I think it's being too familiar with another woman, like those little things I would only see (his PJ or absence of, morning face, ...) I want to be the only one to know those things about him. I would be ok with that ONLY if the other girl has her own boyfriend or husband, but if she's single that's a red flag for me. It's just not a natural situation.
@MissyM5424 haha well, I would consider a lesbian like a guy friend of his. No threat there :) a girl jaleous of a lesbian really doesn't make any sense, since there is no competition there for the guy. Unless some people are just jaleous of the attention? Which doesn't sound an healthy way to live.
i will trust to i will follow what u told and thanks for u advice....💝
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I wanna ask something ,my bf has 3 or 4 close female frndz like his childhood friends ,I don't have any problem with them ,but one of them had a physical reltn with him ,2 years ago now she is in a serious relationship with a guys ,and my bf loves me ,he ignored his female friends for me ,because he knows I get mad ,but now I don't wanna control him, his friends invite him but he refuse to go ,everybody has a past past ,how should I do ?
Hey did something happened now ?
Its should be you and him staying there ..not just him ...THATS INSANE
I feel like if your boyfriend has Friends that are female Leave it alone remember You can’t Make him drop Friends that aren’t doing anything wrong. it’s really sad That alot of us females always think the worse in situations Just give him some goddamn trust Sheesh.
Fuck that I am not letting my boyfriend stay at some girl’s house! Or I am leaving!
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I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
Also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So sex isn't really a thing about romance.
I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner is. Also, you would more likely be much closer to a person who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a partner or spouse.
People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships.
Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot.
And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends.
Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone.
Also, you're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse.
I kinda agree
Very good advice
Girls question I went off the island so I was off the island for 2 months I decided to come back but I came back and didn't let my boyfriend know I was coming so he brought this Lady over whiles I sitting home he told me the lady came to cook how would of you'll reacted to this situation
Id say did she also save me a plate of food?
but what if that girl will figured out after long time that he did cheat her?
Don't date him
Hell to the no. To the no no no. Hell to the no.
I’m enlightened
I love your advice
This advice sounds like it's setting up women to be toyed with. The fact that my partner would suggest staying at his ex's house would be a deal breaker for me. Allowing him to sleep at his female friend's houses makes it so much easier for him to cover up whatever may happen inside the house. A decent man would never ever suggest this to a woman he loves. Is it too difficult to rent a hotel?
I’m sorry but your high value behavior only lites up a green light for a guy. I know one lady who was self confident also read smart books about secure behaviors that her fiancé even stopped hiding from here his adventures because he thought she doesn’t care as long as he comes back to her. He said that if she was marking some lines for him he wouldn’t go so far. 😂😂😂
No teeth ? 😆😂😂😂😂😂😂
How not to set boundaries 101 ig