I've been through most of the stories you've read and it's quite striking how similar they are in terms of patterns, excuses and outcome, also to my own most recent story with DA ex. They are quite predictable, aren't they? The circumstances might be different, and the relationship/situationship might take anywhere between months and many years, but it's always sooo similar. How it started, how we felt that we had finally found someone who really saw us, that the connection was great, and then the trigger, stonewalling, abrupt breakup, sometimes ghosting. Red flags that we chose to ignore. Oh, and the pain. The pain of a breakup that happened when you thought everything was just great and the relationship seemed as strong as ever, the pain of blaming ourselves that we must have done something wrong, the pain of questioning if it was real. Thank you! I discovered your channel 7 months after the breakup and finally understood what happened. I no longer blame myself for how difficult it was to process. Now, I can move on.
i can relate to what you said and i'm glad to hear you were able to move on. i'm 7months post breakup myself, but i'm still working through the pain. these letter reading videos help a lot.
@@spiritwanderer777 I had to understand that I'm not missing him, but a connection and my vision of what could have been. That there was nothing I could have done to prevent this from happening, and that he did, in fact, love me. Since it wasn't a normal breakup, although we had only been together for a couple of months, it hit me much more than any other before, and it was okay for me to need more time to process it. I stopped talking about it to anyone else because they have never been through that thus they were not able to understand why it was so hard for me to process a breakup after such a short relationship. Validation like that works wonders, I'm sure you'll experience it, too. Good luck!
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I've been through most of the stories you've read and it's quite striking how similar they are in terms of patterns, excuses and outcome, also to my own most recent story with DA ex. They are quite predictable, aren't they? The circumstances might be different, and the relationship/situationship might take anywhere between months and many years, but it's always sooo similar. How it started, how we felt that we had finally found someone who really saw us, that the connection was great, and then the trigger, stonewalling, abrupt breakup, sometimes ghosting. Red flags that we chose to ignore. Oh, and the pain. The pain of a breakup that happened when you thought everything was just great and the relationship seemed as strong as ever, the pain of blaming ourselves that we must have done something wrong, the pain of questioning if it was real.
Thank you! I discovered your channel 7 months after the breakup and finally understood what happened. I no longer blame myself for how difficult it was to process. Now, I can move on.
i can relate to what you said and i'm glad to hear you were able to move on. i'm 7months post breakup myself, but i'm still working through the pain. these letter reading videos help a lot.
@@spiritwanderer777 I had to understand that I'm not missing him, but a connection and my vision of what could have been. That there was nothing I could have done to prevent this from happening, and that he did, in fact, love me. Since it wasn't a normal breakup, although we had only been together for a couple of months, it hit me much more than any other before, and it was okay for me to need more time to process it. I stopped talking about it to anyone else because they have never been through that thus they were not able to understand why it was so hard for me to process a breakup after such a short relationship. Validation like that works wonders, I'm sure you'll experience it, too. Good luck!
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Sending you the light. 🙏
After almost 5 years , my ex gave me the same “needs to work on themselves talk” but in reality they had been cheating with someone else for months.
omg, that's awful, so sorry to hear :(
That sucks. Compartementalizing.
Sending you the light 🙏
Compartementalizing .
Sending you the light. 🙏
I can relate too well to this, unfortunately. Great analysis. Thanks Ken
Thank you Counselor
Do you accept letters from North America?
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