I've listened to half of this here on a Tuesday morning and all I can say is that I am once again so very impressed by what I hear on this video. Since I feel I've been a cyber friend for some time I know a lot of your life story from previous video postings, but this fills in some of blanks and I am once again amazed. I'm going to listen to the remaining video so I can be even more thoroughly impressed. Thanks for posting this Dade.
Thank you, Dade, as a previous person stated having watched this and other videos of yours. to which you replied something they had been on a marathon, I also have been on a marathon today, since around 1:00 pm. now it is 10:09 pm (7/19). only taking time out small breaks and dinner. Your intellectual responses were, to me, raw and authentic, no gibberish b/s. it has helped me to try to understand what being trans is and the feelings behind such a major, major decision in yours and others lives. I'm an older (62 yo) male, having been raised to have a more open mind about most things and to try to learn about things I don't understand. Everyday is a learning day, till we die. Sorry to be be so long winded, but wishing your and your family happy trails and much success in everything you all do. GodSpeed. going to watch, "whew, that was harder than we thought" and then heading off to bed.
William Tribbitt I am really honored when people take so much of their time to listen to my story. Thank you for your time and your kind and considerate comment. Don’t forget to stretch in between videos 😉
You probably seen me popping in and out of your comment section on YT over the years :). I've got no questions for ya, cuz I've got a good sence of the man you always were Dade. Now I've seen you gone and adopted a little boy,...your family is growing and so are your experiences. So, I'll leave you with this- wish your beautiful little family lots of happiness and great adventures to come. I know they've got the best man for the job on it,...........you dude 👍-up.
1. I am the same way with beaches. My sensory issues cause me to be uncomfortable and not enjoy going. 2. I kive your videos. I have watched them when I first discovered I was trans. You are a positive trans person in this toxic community online. You are someone that younger trans guys can look up to.
Dade, I appreciate you answering my question regarding a “Higher Power”. I have every intention of remaining a subscriber! 😄 You’re too good a person to do otherwise.
Hey man, just wanted to say that I actually did watch till the end! I remember watching every single one of your videos a few years ago and wishing I could also do what you did. And I did! And I’m happy and confident in my choices.
Wow... you must be so tired of hearing me ramble on ;) I am so happy you made the choices you did, and that you are happy and confident it them! I feel the same way.
Also I appreciate seeing a transman who is "older" sharing content because transitioning well into your adult working life, with a family, etc, is way different than transitioning right out of high school. My spouse is transitioning at 37 and usually feels really alone with his situation because of his age and the stage of his life, so thank you.
Holy hell, I watched the whole video as well! Really interesting, thoughtful stuff. I don’t think your sound crazy or weird, and I noted your use of the term “neurotypical,” which was neat. I’m autistic, and neurotypical, neurodivergent, neuroatypical, etc is Autistic language, and it’s cool to see it spreading around more. Just a thing I noticed. As much as learning more about you just living your life after medically & socially transitioning, it’s interesting and encouraging to hear how things are going with you having a family, and what your future plans are. I’ve been on T for over a decade and had top surgery 5 years ago, but I’ve put off any lower surgeries because they seem scarier - but it helps a lot to see guys post-transition and so content and happy, especially with metoidioplasty (which is what I’m going for). So thanks for that, even if it wasn’t your intention. It’s also really encouraging to hear that your family is doing well, although incredibly busy. That’s so good to hear! I’ve thought about becoming a dad for years, mainly via adoption (probably through foster care), but put it on the back burner. I’m not totally sure about it, but I hope it feels less back-burnerish soon. I helped my sister raise my nephews, and it was an overall wonderful experience. And among other things in your video, I also really appreciated hearing about you going back to school now and what your plans are with that, as well as just not letting anything get in your way academically in the past. I dropped out of high school & never finished (including no GED), but took some community college classes, and I’ve just taken a bunch of breaks. I’ve been thinking about going back anyway, so I think I will & see how it goes & figure out what I want my focus to be. I’ve been interested in math specifically because it’s harder for me - though I won’t major in it - and your tips on how to get through it were really helpful, whether I go for something in a STEM field or not.
This is AWESOME!! you are a remarkable person Dade!! your video "by popular request: How i knew i was transgender" was the very first Trans video i watched and i Immediately connected and resonated with. It was as though all my life my thoughts and feelings around my body and my identity was in an other foreign language to me and you translated it all in that video. It was like I could finally see that far off there could be a light in the very solid dark place i was in. I can not describe how thankful i am for what you do in sharing your journey!! These journeys we embark on to have a life instead of just trying to exist do not come easy and have many hurdles and setbacks (in my experience thus far of 2 years anyway) but it is a hell of a lot more of a life then what i was looking at at the time I watched your video about 3 years ago. Thank you just doesn't express my gratitude for you enough. But I'm speechless in how to express this feeling, so Thank you Dade!!
Brandi Carlile said in her book that everyone should write out their life story. ( Cathartic & paradigm shifting to write one's life experiences out.) I'd love to read a book of your life & your thoughts Dade, & I'm sure others would too.
1:11:32 oh you answered my question! Thank you, it took me 11 months to realize lol, I was hesitant over 2 hours long video sorry, but thank you so much :D I watched it all and my support for you grew only stronger
I have just watched your video and I must say that you don't have to worry about competing with any other TH-camr. Your life is real and you let us see the REAL you. I also think that if all men could see both sides of men and women issues as you do the world would be a much better place.
Dade, you have got to check out Castle Lake in Mt Shasta, the camp ground there offers up exactly what you were describing in your "ideal vacation!" I actually feel you on your struggles with the ocean - I was laughing as you described it 😁
Regarding your perfect vacation location: the province of Småland in Sweden matches your description really well. I was there once on a scouting trip and there are small towns, a lot of lakes and amazing forests! It personally gave me a lot of energy because I do prefer these environments as well. (I know it probably won't be possible to go there with two kids and so much going on but my brain wouldn't stop bugging me about answering this particular question). I come from Germany and here we have some great forests too and some nice quite towns.
Regarding your answer to the "higher power" question, I'm also a non-believer. I've heard the simulation hypothesis before and, while I don't actively believe it, I do find it an interesting possibility which I don't dismiss either. I really enjoyed your video and did in fact watch the whole thing. If you don't mind my asking, in what way are you not neurotypical? I have similar sensory issues to yours going along with my ADHD. Obviously if you find the question too personal please ignore, I'm just curious how far our similarities go. Also I really enjoyed your poems at the end. Thanks for taking the time to continue making videos, I love hearing your perspective on things.
PipesandStuff I do not have a diagnosis of any sort - but I have a wiring different than most people. Could be from PTSD, could be some autistic traits.
I totally can get into the simulation stuff. There is so much that doesn't make sense that would make way more sense to know that we are in the matrix and "god" is a computer hard drive or a society of advanced beings.
Hi Dade from Germany. Thank you for sharing so much of your heart concerns and your personal experiences, your thoughts and some feelings too ;) !!🌄😍!! There are several questions I have, put first I will point out to one thing that came to my mind and then go to bed. You sounded within the first 20 to 40min unsatisfied or very serious about that you'd never been given anything for free or easily. So (have 2 say, I didnt watch all of your videos) I was wondering... you were given a free mind and an excellent will. You were given a country to do as _you_ wished. You are overwhelmingly tall and good looking already pre t. You were given great hands 😃🤲🤜 strong (and not as small as mine💩) .... finally, very soon, destiny gave you a marvelous woman🧘🏼♀️🏄🏼♀️🤱🏼🤹🏼♀️🦸🏼♀️! She stands all the years (that are given to you in perfect health and career) next to you as the promised rock! Yeah, man, you're so darn gifted, I get a shiny butt just by listening! And I am very happy, somebody like you in the world is given life to..!! There we go with the kids! The first is a gift, that came by nature, "only" the second one is a gift both of you had to fight enormously for. (please excuse, I sound more and more like an exited duck, that just comes to tell.... I believe you are pretty aware of all that.... I do my little exaggeration... forgive please) Dade, you're a cool and lovely guy. Tiff is a great wife , house, children, dogs and chicks ❤🤗😍👍altogether wonderful. You made the right decisions at the right time, aaaand you *do* have a very happy and you dearly loving father by the way. You mentioned you were brought up religious. I am believing in a creator and in his never ending love for his creation. I know that in this trans vlogs a lot of stubborn and materialistic, hard hearted evangelical self-lessness items are wobbling around with outstreching assimilated fully-rented knowledge of an predictable Jesus .. they are fixed with opinions but have no clue about themself. Compassion? Was that a french word? (please forgive the few ones that are LGBTQ friends) Take care and have each day a break of any duty or regularity. Take 5- 10 minutes just by yourself. Breathe in forest and cherish... God loves you like I love spaghetti ice cream..! Forever! 🤲❤🔝 be in peace with .... 🙏🌄🔥
No doubt friend, in some ways I come from privilege. I am white, and I do live in a free country. Right now, my life is privileged in even more ways... I am now perceived as male. Any discontent you may have felt is from exhaustion from the long and difficult path it took to get to where I am. During all the times it really mattered in my life, I did not have support of any kind. Whether or not it is right for me to feel resentful at the losses I have had, who knows, but it is where I am. Wishing for an easier path does not mean I am not thankful or unaware of the goodness in my life. I am a realist, and choose to acknowledge the good and bad. Here's the real question - spaghetti and ice cream together!?
@@ElectricDade th-cam.com/video/HiHfrYMRZDs/w-d-xo.html It's an italian specialty, invented by Dario Fontanella in Mannheim, Germany 1969. It's very tasty 😋 Sorry if I pointed out so much on that being gifted issue. But... is it really still widely acknowledged to be a privilege being as a white male American..? That's a pity...😪🤔😖🙄😂I guess you're a deeply sarcastic one, eh? Well, thank you for answering! Right to be resentful 👍 well... There's a time for everything...
You're answer to the "higher power" questions doesn't seem crazy to me, I myself don't believe in any form of higher power and I consider the simulated theory possible, thanks for sharing your thoughts on that. Also, thanks for sharing your music, your taste is quite aligned with mine! I remember I really liked the songs you chose for your transition timeline video, I still listen to them regularly. Also thanks so much for talking about the gender roles / stereotypes openly and in a rational way. I'm a "feminine" female software engineer, and I love my job, but it's also sometimes difficult to be in such environment as my authentic self. Best wishes!
Thank you for this. Great video. And I don't think you're batshit crazy. My son is 21, and he and I just had a discussion two or three days ago where I told him that I think we're in a simulation...or some sort of alien experiment. I agree with you 100%. Our technology etc is evolving/developing at an exponential rate, and none of it makes sense. It makes no sense to me that we've developed little pieces of plastic (essentially) that can store gigs and gigs of information. Just the fact that I'm watching you, and replying on a phone that has the ability to play videos and games etc makes no sense to me.... Anyway... I wish you and I could sit down and have a discussion about it, because everyone thinks *I'm* batshit crazy. I have nobody to really bounce my ideas off of. Also...I was diagnosed a year ago with leukemia after feeling unwell for over a decade.. Even that makes no sense to me...my body has completely turned on itself.... .... Maybe I am just crazy...lol Thanks again for the amazing video. ❤ Sorry for the long comment... But I've gotten to the point in the video where you're talking about how you're treated in society as a man compared to how you were treated in a female appearance... I'm a female who's predominantly worked in "male" jobs (warehouse manager/forklift operator etc) and I *know* ....not only would I be treated with more respect as a man...but I would also get paid more. (My male counterparts were always paid better than me because they "had families to support." Um...hello...single mom here....) So thank you for addressing some of this. And also how we, as women feel when we meet a man on a hiking trail, out on the street late at night...it's truly heartbreaking. I love men...and it makes me sad that I've been conditioned to fear them. Especially being a single mom to a 21-year-old son. He's kind and thoughtful and compassionate...but he has also experienced the same "fear" from women that you spoke of. He's a relatively big guy...but gentle as they come. I look forward to the day he finds a young lady who sees him for who he is. ❤ P.S. *Love* your poems. My son writes incredible ones too.
Long comments are always welcomed, especially when they are as thoughtful as yours. I understand first hand how women in male-dominated fields are treated. I completed a 5 year union electrical apprenticeship while female bodied. It was mentally and psychologically toxic. The men sought for me to fail, and were infuriated that I did not. Nothing but love for you being in that situation - I know it is incredibly hard.
@@ElectricDade .... Thank you, Dade. You're in such a unique position...to actually experience it from both sides. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of the men out there, and for not tolerating the toxic "boy's club" attitude. You have a very lucky wife. And such a beautiful family. 💕
I've no other way to communicate with you. Feel free to delete this, at your discretion. Butterflies Originally published May 29, 2018 I was getting weak. I felt that my time of change was coming. You flew down looking for a quick meal-paused, in reflection, and I crawled over one of your talons. I tickled your feet and legs with my snout. I had never flown before. As you lifted off, you brought your feet up and I was against your breast. I felt secure as I heard the beat of your heart. The view was amazing! Once at your nest, you let me slink off. : : I’ve no idea how long it took. My transition complete, I worked my way out and dropped onto your tail feathers. Not being accustomed to skinny little legs, I was a bit wobbly as I made my way up, across your shoulders, to your head. The gentle breeze helped me to acclimate. It dried my wings, let them unfurl, and begin to shimmer. “Stay well,” you said. “You’ve got this.” A kiss to you and I fluttered off to do, whatever butterflies do.
Hello, how does testosterone affects your internal organs? Say like if you take this the rest of your life can this affect your liver and kidneys? I think this should be mentioned the other side of taking " T" especially with all this jung people. following you. Keep up the good work.
Jazz I have mentioned the physiological side effects of testosterone in several videos. Basically - anyone whose body is testosterone-based (naturally or medically) is faced with the same risks: high cholesterol, high blood pressure... any ailment normally associated with being male, but no more risk than cis- males.
Allergies, my friend. The pollen is thick this year and it's really causing me a lot of congestion and coughing. It was hard to keep it at bay with a video this long!
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Dade, As I've said before, your an insperation, relevant and you are NOT too old! Looking forward to future videos!
"My kids don't have any of my genetic makeup, so all I have to give them is my knowledge". Just. Wow. This got me emotional.
I've listened to half of this here on a Tuesday morning and all I can say is that I am once again so very impressed by what I hear on this video. Since I feel I've been a cyber friend for some time I know a lot of your life story from previous video postings, but this fills in some of blanks and I am once again amazed. I'm going to listen to the remaining video so I can be even more thoroughly impressed. Thanks for posting this Dade.
I always enjoy corresponding with you in the small ways we do. Thanks for always being here, my friend.
I watched in it's entirety and I THANK YOU! you have helped occupy my mind in what is a hurricane recently.
Thank you, Dade, as a previous person stated having watched this and other videos of yours. to which you replied something they had been on a marathon, I also have been on a marathon today, since around 1:00 pm. now it is 10:09 pm (7/19). only taking time out small breaks and dinner. Your intellectual responses were, to me, raw and authentic, no gibberish b/s. it has helped me to try to understand what being trans is and the feelings behind such a major, major decision in yours and others lives. I'm an older (62 yo) male, having been raised to have a more open mind about most things and to try to learn about things I don't understand. Everyday is a learning day, till we die. Sorry to be be so long winded, but wishing your and your family happy trails and much success in everything you all do. GodSpeed. going to watch, "whew, that was harder than we thought" and then heading off to bed.
William Tribbitt I am really honored when people take so much of their time to listen to my story. Thank you for your time and your kind and considerate comment. Don’t forget to stretch in between videos 😉
You probably seen me popping in and out of your comment section on YT over the years :).
I've got no questions for ya, cuz I've got a good sence of the man you always were Dade.
Now I've seen you gone and adopted a little boy,...your family is growing and so are your experiences.
So, I'll leave you with this-
wish your beautiful little family lots of happiness and great adventures to come.
I know they've got the best man for the job on it,...........you dude 👍-up.
Dade, I always enjoy your videos. I am a CIS gendered man and I feel that guys such as me can learn a lot from your videos. Keep up the good work.
My goodness, you are a remarkable human being.
Thank you for taking the time to answer all of these questions! It is much appreciated :)
I’ve seen and heard so many things and much stuff on TH-cam..... you’re, by FAR, my favorite! Love everything about this.
1. I am the same way with beaches. My sensory issues cause me to be uncomfortable and not enjoy going. 2. I kive your videos. I have watched them when I first discovered I was trans. You are a positive trans person in this toxic community online. You are someone that younger trans guys can look up to.
Dade, I appreciate you answering my question regarding a “Higher Power”. I have every intention of remaining a subscriber! 😄 You’re too good a person to do otherwise.
Hey man, just wanted to say that I actually did watch till the end! I remember watching every single one of your videos a few years ago and wishing I could also do what you did. And I did! And I’m happy and confident in my choices.
Wow... you must be so tired of hearing me ramble on ;) I am so happy you made the choices you did, and that you are happy and confident it them! I feel the same way.
ElectricDade always know you’ve made an impact on so many people. You’re a great example of healthy masculinity.
Also I appreciate seeing a transman who is "older" sharing content because transitioning well into your adult working life, with a family, etc, is way different than transitioning right out of high school. My spouse is transitioning at 37 and usually feels really alone with his situation because of his age and the stage of his life, so thank you.
Thank you for taking so much time to answer all those questions, and also for giving such thoughtful responses.
What an amazing and interesting video. Thank you for taking the time out of your busy life to share with us. ♥️
Yeah, holly hell, i watched this entire video. Don't know how, but didn't miss a single word to the end.
You deserve a medal... it's like you completed a marathon.
Holy hell, I watched the whole video as well! Really interesting, thoughtful stuff. I don’t think your sound crazy or weird, and I noted your use of the term “neurotypical,” which was neat. I’m autistic, and neurotypical, neurodivergent, neuroatypical, etc is Autistic language, and it’s cool to see it spreading around more. Just a thing I noticed.
As much as learning more about you just living your life after medically & socially transitioning, it’s interesting and encouraging to hear how things are going with you having a family, and what your future plans are.
I’ve been on T for over a decade and had top surgery 5 years ago, but I’ve put off any lower surgeries because they seem scarier - but it helps a lot to see guys post-transition and so content and happy, especially with metoidioplasty (which is what I’m going for). So thanks for that, even if it wasn’t your intention.
It’s also really encouraging to hear that your family is doing well, although incredibly busy. That’s so good to hear! I’ve thought about becoming a dad for years, mainly via adoption (probably through foster care), but put it on the back burner. I’m not totally sure about it, but I hope it feels less back-burnerish soon. I helped my sister raise my nephews, and it was an overall wonderful experience.
And among other things in your video, I also really appreciated hearing about you going back to school now and what your plans are with that, as well as just not letting anything get in your way academically in the past. I dropped out of high school & never finished (including no GED), but took some community college classes, and I’ve just taken a bunch of breaks. I’ve been thinking about going back anyway, so I think I will & see how it goes & figure out what I want my focus to be. I’ve been interested in math specifically because it’s harder for me - though I won’t major in it - and your tips on how to get through it were really helpful, whether I go for something in a STEM field or not.
jordan g Thanks for such a thoughtful comment. I have no doubt you will reach any goals you set for yourself.
This is AWESOME!! you are a remarkable person Dade!! your video "by popular request: How i knew i was transgender" was the very first Trans video i watched and i Immediately connected and resonated with. It was as though all my life my thoughts and feelings around my body and my identity was in an other foreign language to me and you translated it all in that video. It was like I could finally see that far off there could be a light in the very solid dark place i was in. I can not describe how thankful i am for what you do in sharing your journey!! These journeys we embark on to have a life instead of just trying to exist do not come easy and have many hurdles and setbacks (in my experience thus far of 2 years anyway) but it is a hell of a lot more of a life then what i was looking at at the time I watched your video about 3 years ago. Thank you just doesn't express my gratitude for you enough. But I'm speechless in how to express this feeling, so Thank you Dade!!
Brandi Carlile said in her book that everyone should write out their life story. ( Cathartic & paradigm shifting to write one's life experiences out.)
I'd love to read a book of your life & your thoughts Dade, & I'm sure others would too.
You are an inspiration, and a amazing role model, even if you might not want to be lol, best wishes to you and your family from the UK.
1:11:32 oh you answered my question! Thank you, it took me 11 months to realize lol, I was hesitant over 2 hours long video sorry, but thank you so much :D I watched it all and my support for you grew only stronger
C G O Haha! I can’t believe anyone would watch me yammer on that long! Thanks for taking so much of your time.
Awesome video, thank you so much! =)
I have just watched your video and I must say that you don't have to worry about competing with any other TH-camr. Your life is real and you let us see the REAL you. I also think that if all men could see both sides of men and women issues as you do the world would be a much better place.
I love this video. I 100% agree with you about the beach.
I stopped riding as well when I became a parent. Awesome Q & A and that dog was adorable 😍
Dade, you have got to check out Castle Lake in Mt Shasta, the camp ground there offers up exactly what you were describing in your "ideal vacation!" I actually feel you on your struggles with the ocean - I was laughing as you described it 😁
I'll check it out. That isn't too far from where I live.
@@ElectricDade I grew up in southern Oregon, I'll be back next month specifically to go camping there. It's magical :)
laurenization100 Nice. I’ve been in SO since 1997.
Dade, I appreciate you answering my question. Awesome video, thank you so much!! Saludos desde México!
Regarding your perfect vacation location: the province of Småland in Sweden matches your description really well. I was there once on a scouting trip and there are small towns, a lot of lakes and amazing forests! It personally gave me a lot of energy because I do prefer these environments as well. (I know it probably won't be possible to go there with two kids and so much going on but my brain wouldn't stop bugging me about answering this particular question). I come from Germany and here we have some great forests too and some nice quite towns.
I would love to visit Germany and Sweden and see the places you mention. My roots are German and Norwegian.
I'm learning a lot by just watching this video.
What are you going back to school for?
Network Engineering and Cybersecurity.
Regarding your answer to the "higher power" question, I'm also a non-believer. I've heard the simulation hypothesis before and, while I don't actively believe it, I do find it an interesting possibility which I don't dismiss either.
I really enjoyed your video and did in fact watch the whole thing. If you don't mind my asking, in what way are you not neurotypical? I have similar sensory issues to yours going along with my ADHD. Obviously if you find the question too personal please ignore, I'm just curious how far our similarities go. Also I really enjoyed your poems at the end. Thanks for taking the time to continue making videos, I love hearing your perspective on things.
PipesandStuff I do not have a diagnosis of any sort - but I have a wiring different than most people. Could be from PTSD, could be some autistic traits.
I totally can get into the simulation stuff. There is so much that doesn't make sense that would make way more sense to know that we are in the matrix and "god" is a computer hard drive or a society of advanced beings.
You’re the best 👍
Hi Dade from Germany.
Thank you for sharing so much of your heart concerns and your personal experiences, your thoughts and some feelings too ;) !!🌄😍!!
There are several questions I have, put first I will point out to one thing that came to my mind and then go to bed.
You sounded within the first 20 to 40min unsatisfied or very serious about that you'd never been given anything for free or easily. So (have 2 say, I didnt watch all of your videos) I was wondering... you were given a free mind and an excellent will. You were given a country to do as _you_ wished. You are overwhelmingly tall and good looking already pre t. You were given great hands 😃🤲🤜 strong (and not as small as mine💩) .... finally, very soon, destiny gave you a marvelous woman🧘🏼♀️🏄🏼♀️🤱🏼🤹🏼♀️🦸🏼♀️! She stands all the years (that are given to you in perfect health and career) next to you as the promised rock!
Yeah, man, you're so darn gifted, I get a shiny butt just by listening! And I am very happy, somebody like you in the world is given life to..!! There we go with the kids! The first is a gift, that came by nature, "only" the second one is a gift both of you had to fight enormously for. (please excuse, I sound more and more like an exited duck, that just comes to tell.... I believe you are pretty aware of all that.... I do my little exaggeration... forgive please)
Dade, you're a cool and lovely guy. Tiff is a great wife , house, children, dogs and chicks ❤🤗😍👍altogether wonderful. You made the right decisions at the right time, aaaand you *do* have a very happy and you dearly loving father by the way. You mentioned you were brought up religious. I am believing in a creator and in his never ending love for his creation. I know that in this trans vlogs a lot of stubborn and materialistic, hard hearted evangelical self-lessness items are wobbling around with outstreching assimilated fully-rented knowledge of an predictable Jesus .. they are fixed with opinions but have no clue about themself. Compassion? Was that a french word? (please forgive the few ones that are LGBTQ friends)
Take care and have each day a break of any duty or regularity. Take 5- 10 minutes just by yourself. Breathe in forest and cherish... God loves you like I love spaghetti ice cream..! Forever! 🤲❤🔝 be in peace with .... 🙏🌄🔥
No doubt friend, in some ways I come from privilege. I am white, and I do live in a free country. Right now, my life is privileged in even more ways... I am now perceived as male. Any discontent you may have felt is from exhaustion from the long and difficult path it took to get to where I am. During all the times it really mattered in my life, I did not have support of any kind. Whether or not it is right for me to feel resentful at the losses I have had, who knows, but it is where I am. Wishing for an easier path does not mean I am not thankful or unaware of the goodness in my life. I am a realist, and choose to acknowledge the good and bad. Here's the real question - spaghetti and ice cream together!?
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It's an italian specialty, invented by Dario Fontanella in Mannheim, Germany 1969. It's very tasty 😋
Sorry if I pointed out so much on that being gifted issue.
But... is it really still widely acknowledged to be a privilege being as a white male American..? That's a pity...😪🤔😖🙄😂I guess you're a deeply sarcastic one, eh?
Well, thank you for answering!
Right to be resentful 👍 well... There's a time for everything...
Dade!!!
You're answer to the "higher power" questions doesn't seem crazy to me, I myself don't believe in any form of higher power and I consider the simulated theory possible, thanks for sharing your thoughts on that.
Also, thanks for sharing your music, your taste is quite aligned with mine! I remember I really liked the songs you chose for your transition timeline video, I still listen to them regularly.
Also thanks so much for talking about the gender roles / stereotypes openly and in a rational way. I'm a "feminine" female software engineer, and I love my job, but it's also sometimes difficult to be in such environment as my authentic self.
Best wishes!
Thank you for this. Great video.
And I don't think you're batshit crazy. My son is 21, and he and I just had a discussion two or three days ago where I told him that I think we're in a simulation...or some sort of alien experiment. I agree with you 100%. Our technology etc is evolving/developing at an exponential rate, and none of it makes sense. It makes no sense to me that we've developed little pieces of plastic (essentially) that can store gigs and gigs of information. Just the fact that I'm watching you, and replying on a phone that has the ability to play videos and games etc makes no sense to me....
Anyway...
I wish you and I could sit down and have a discussion about it, because everyone thinks *I'm* batshit crazy. I have nobody to really bounce my ideas off of.
Also...I was diagnosed a year ago with leukemia after feeling unwell for over a decade..
Even that makes no sense to me...my body has completely turned on itself....
....
Maybe I am just crazy...lol
Thanks again for the amazing video. ❤
Sorry for the long comment...
But I've gotten to the point in the video where you're talking about how you're treated in society as a man compared to how you were treated in a female appearance...
I'm a female who's predominantly worked in "male" jobs (warehouse manager/forklift operator etc) and I *know* ....not only would I be treated with more respect as a man...but I would also get paid more. (My male counterparts were always paid better than me because they "had families to support." Um...hello...single mom here....) So thank you for addressing some of this. And also how we, as women feel when we meet a man on a hiking trail, out on the street late at night...it's truly heartbreaking. I love men...and it makes me sad that I've been conditioned to fear them. Especially being a single mom to a 21-year-old son. He's kind and thoughtful and compassionate...but he has also experienced the same "fear" from women that you spoke of. He's a relatively big guy...but gentle as they come. I look forward to the day he finds a young lady who sees him for who he is. ❤
P.S. *Love* your poems. My son writes incredible ones too.
Long comments are always welcomed, especially when they are as thoughtful as yours. I understand first hand how women in male-dominated fields are treated. I completed a 5 year union electrical apprenticeship while female bodied. It was mentally and psychologically toxic. The men sought for me to fail, and were infuriated that I did not. Nothing but love for you being in that situation - I know it is incredibly hard.
@@ElectricDade .... Thank you, Dade. You're in such a unique position...to actually experience it from both sides. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of the men out there, and for not tolerating the toxic "boy's club" attitude. You have a very lucky wife. And such a beautiful family. 💕
I've no other way to communicate with you. Feel free to delete this, at your discretion.
Butterflies
Originally published
May 29, 2018
I was getting weak. I felt that my time of change was coming.
You flew down looking for a quick meal-paused, in reflection, and I crawled over one of your talons. I tickled your feet and legs with my snout.
I had never flown before. As you lifted off, you brought your feet up and I was against your breast. I felt secure as I heard the beat of your heart. The view was amazing!
Once at your nest, you let me slink off.
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I’ve no idea how long it took.
My transition complete, I worked my way out and dropped onto your tail feathers. Not being accustomed to skinny little legs, I was a bit wobbly as I made my way up, across your shoulders, to your head.
The gentle breeze helped me to acclimate. It dried my wings, let them unfurl, and begin to shimmer.
“Stay well,” you said. “You’ve got this.”
A kiss to you and I fluttered off to do, whatever butterflies do.
That was beautiful and well written. Thank you for sharing it.
Do you still work at the same job. Why did you sell the house you and Tiff built. It was so neat. Do you have acreage now like you did before?
dapper dog I answered your questions in the video. I remember liking your screen name!
I'm sorry I missed where you responded. The acreage always looked so pretty. I live in Bend and our landscape is very different.
Check out 16:29 🙂
Thank you
Dade what Myers Briggs personality type are you?
INTJ
I’m 75 and I like younger men, especially those who have climbed and over come personal problems.
Hello, how does testosterone affects your internal organs? Say like if you take this the rest of your life can this affect your liver and kidneys? I think this should be mentioned the other side of taking " T" especially with all this jung people. following you. Keep up the good work.
Jazz I have mentioned the physiological side effects of testosterone in several videos. Basically - anyone whose body is testosterone-based (naturally or medically) is faced with the same risks: high cholesterol, high blood pressure... any ailment normally associated with being male, but no more risk than cis- males.
Did you escape from a cult?
I LOVE YOU BABY! HOPE TO MEET YOU!
How can I private message you?
Do you have happy times, would like to see your lighter side.
Do we need to be concered about all that coughing? Hate to lose you.
Allergies, my friend. The pollen is thick this year and it's really causing me a lot of congestion and coughing. It was hard to keep it at bay with a video this long!