I feel like nowadays most people become obsessed with you and want you back after you’ve moved on. They don’t want to commit but they also can’t let you go either..
modern hookup culture is narcissistic in nature. That doesn't make everyone a clinically diagnosable narcissist, that means, the current culture allows for cluster B disorders, the current culture is about rights not responsibilities. A quote comes to mind from a movie can't remember which, "People don't have ideas, ideas have people"
Narcissist are quick to replace an ex because of their need to feel “needed” “important “ “valued” etc Kudos to the one that come after me because I AM DONE!!! I’d rather be alone
I have huge respect for people who can look at themselves in the mirror and see their own flaws and own up to it and make the changes to do better, thank you for sharing and making the world a better place, one person at a time
I have huge respect for anyone who owns up to their bs .... But for a narcissist , to do it as anyone knows they are always right regardless of the situation right or wrong ... well thatz huge and i think id fall off my seat if some i know did ,id be like bro dod you wet the bed 🤯🙏🏼💯
You right! They constantly hover when you detach. But remaining detached is how you call back your power to yourself. Narcs don’t deserve ANY attention. Not even an FU from me. ☺️
“When the tables turn….we’re not covered because we’re doing evil…we don’t know how to suffer…” wow that makes sense. Yes. They are not equipped, so that is what they reap. And yes, he is bipppar at this point and alternates between being completely evil to me, ignoring me (unfortunately have to deal with him because of custody), and begging me to give him another chance. Literally the month the divorce was finalized - and it took 2 years to finalize, and he fought me for everything I had the whole time….even stole from me and lied to get my assets…but I was too broke to keep fighting - and he was already telling me he loved me and wanted me back 😂😂😂😂 psycho. We don’t steal from people we love….duh? We don’t try to destroy their careers and steal their stuff and smear their reputations and turn their families against them 😂😂😂 I’ve been in the twilight zone. It’s like a lifetime movie. I’m laughing, but I’m not laughing.
Yes I had a little saving box with money and it seems like no matter where I would hide my key he would find it and try to steal my money on my jury and we are married with two kids this is the ultimate betrayal like my life feels like a movie I never knew such evil existed I thought I was alone😢
Yes! I left someone who was keeping me on by a thread but made it seem like I was the problem. Once I detattched doors started opening left and right! Amen.
I detached from a person who I thought was my friend but she's a malignant narcissist making herself look like the victim and made me like I was the villain and she started to round up her flying monkeys so I left b4 I had to endure her bs and she wishes she could of hurted me but I didn't give her the chance and she can say that I'm a "COWARD". She loves putting a show at work making herself look like she is the popular funny and cool girl ever but in reality when she leaves from work, she goes home miserable to an empty broken home.😎
I learned my lesson. I actually began to move on, was happy! Found someone, not serious, but the ex started calling, crying, even if you don't take me back I just wanna be your friend. I will always love you. Everything is all my fault. I thought awwwwe man, maybe he realizes? No. Mistake made on my part. Now I sit without him. He thinks he is punishing me right now. I'm moving on period. Done. 💯 I loved him very much! He has not hovered yet. But I know he will again. I won't look back. I am currently working on myself. Lost 30 pounds, got my tan going on, saving up money, going to be very selective on who I let back in my life. Thankyou for your videos. You are amazing, and they help me very much ❤
7 years of narcissistic abuse and I left him. He hoovered for 3 weeks It's been 2 weeks since I've heard from him When I tell you that I'm at peace, believe me, it's been such a load lifted from me. He was mentally and emotionally exhausting. My blood pressure and my anxiety levels are down. Everytime I'm driving and see a red car, I get that eery feeling I hope all these emotions will soon dissolve.
He'll be back, stay guarded. These people do this stuff for years. It's a cycle, don't fall for the temporary peace like I did. stay gaurded and protect your energy babes😭😭we pray that you are free for good.
My ex hoovered after 3 years via Email. He's blocked Everywhere. He doesn't know where i Live. He then Hoovered again after 2 years. It's been almost 5 years . This fool will not rest. Stay prayed up People.❤
Narcissist simply cannot see how truly toxic they are to others. I don’t believe they can truly love another person. Therapy is absolutely needed to live a better life.
When I finally figured him out and had enough he said, " I feel like a flat tyre, feel like I'm having a breakdown, I need help Éireann, please just forget about me." I then blocked him and put him on a life sentence of NO CONTACT! 🙏 Thank you Leon 😊
Man this hit home …took me 6 years to realize this and FINALLY I got my power back and the universe has been blessing me soo much since I walked away and STAYED away.
The hardest thing for me was to not understand why he couldn’t see how much I loved and wanted better for him. Then in the process of loving and supporting I was abused and left…shit is painful. 😒
What a narcissist do is drain you and when you give them all you can possibly give them they will leave you on the floor in total and utter mess.we women must take seriously oh so seriously what this man is saying.damaged people hurt you and that is what a narcissist is DAMAGED! positivity peace and love 💛
The narcissist was speaking death over my head as I slept, through God visions I was able to see what he and his family was plotting, my death/sacrifice for insurance proceeds. I was able to discard first, get protective order, go no contact. I know this is demonic. The very day the police removed him from my home, I immediately was overcome with joy/peace/abundance. All the blessings he was blocking, just poured out, the favor, people I didn't even know came to help and support me, neighbors/coworkers, the mailman. Please get away from these dark demons. God will always make a way, and will put people in your path that will help/support you. This clown has tried to hoover me on my job, and they immediately called the police, I hope he got the hint, I will forever follow the Lord and let him fight this battle. You are loved and worthy of Love. God bless
Wow this is this is deep he could have been doing the same for me I feel like that too the man was sucking every energy everything out of my body I didn't know what was up or down and we are freshly separated with two kids but I definitely feel the need to change him from my insurance policy
I got a call on Valentine's Eve saying money was sent to my account even though I don't celebrate it. A few minutes after the text, he kept ringing my phone, and I ignored, in that same minute I received a text saying the money that was sent in my account I should use it to buy food for the kids on the weekend. I do not blame the narcissist at all. I blamed myself for everything, God warned me, and I disobeyed. I interpreted my dream well but still made errors.
It’s demonic. I wasn’t warned but there were lying signs and wonders he’d be my husband. We even had a psychic connection. I had to block him and go no contact. Be strong all of you!!!
Nothing but FACTS! Especially at the end when you talked about being glad you didn't take them back because they were never sincere in the first place, and they quickly will show their true colors. I can never forget how BETRAYED & INFURIATED I would feel when my ex-husband would flip the switch. That type of anger truly made me want to hurt him!! I hate to even say that, but it is the truth. I felt so betrayed by him because I would trust his apology and believed we would get better. I was so WRONG! Every time I would let him back in, BOOM! It was almost like a demon making a mockery out of my naivety to trust him yet another time. It felt like he was just playing in my face and he would genuinely get satisfaction out of the mind fucks he'd play on me. This made me soooo angryyyy!!! Some days I'd just have tears falling while he talked shit and wouldn't STOPP because I knew not to feed into it but at the same time, I wanted to scream and shout and cuss his ass out and clock him upside his head. It made/makes my skin crawl knowing how divisive, snake-ish, evil and manipulative he was. I've never felt anger like that again. I also don't get stomach pains anymore. I didn't realize until I left him how much my body was always tense and how bad my nerves always were. I feel my stress in my stomach or back and I couldn't understand why I kept having these sharp, shooting pains. IT WAS HIM! smh I can only imagine how detrimental to my health he would have been over time. GOD IS GOOD THO! So glad to be away from him and his devilish ways. He completely sucked the life out of me -my mind, my spirit, just everything. I went completely downhill and I'm still in the valley finding my way back up but because of God's grace and loving willingness to never let me go, I'm still here!
I know exactly what you feel and mean. The fake can only last so long. Thank God for giving me a way out of that marriage. And thank Him for forgiving me for the role I played in allowing it.
Oh my God Amen thankful for your comment it described everything that I feel and that I'm going through literally suck the life out of me I couldn't figure out why I had these sharp pains too and my periods would be so heavy and I would have bad pains in my stomach from my nervous system not being right I mean I could just go on and on about some of the cruel things he has done to me and day by day it's only been 7 days but already I feel better I pray that God keep me moving forward he needs to learn lesson without me but I still have to deal with him for my little kids I sleep and have so much peace without him being in the house😢
After almost 18 Months going no contact I finally could have a dream at night during all this period I lost REM Sleep ability. With difficult capacity to manage my daily task after the abuse. Finally I start enjoying life again
Something was wrong with me I couldn't sleep around him either it was like I just couldn't go to sleep and if he saw me trying to sleep he would disturb me or wake me up like it was literally a crime he couldn't stand to see me sleep I can't explain it I am anemic and then my hair started falling out I thought I had sleep apnea but it was him the whole time his presence just did something to me and when he would be gone to work I felt at peace that's how I know it was him
He has become so evil towards me because I wouldn't take him back after catching him with his mistress in July. Now he's bad mouthing her one minute and the next telling me she took him from me. Cruelty on another level.
And that's crazy because the encouragement and love comes from a beautiful intention, inturn morphed by the narcissist into something completely different and used for selfish, self-seeking, self-centered crap. Disappointing. It pisses me off. Under the anger is hurt. Thank you for explaining and being transparent.
I have just ended my relationship with someone I love very much when he talked about his pain a rejection humiliation and abandonedment at them moments when he talked it felt to me that was the person who I understood and respected and cared so deeply for and I just wanted to care and look after him and show him a different way one of love kindness appellation trust forgiveness but I couldn't cope with the confusion lack of respect ignorance name calling yet how do we get to fall for that yet we do if I thought he could change I would of married him in a breath I feel so guilty like I'm another one who has rejected him
Amazing indeed! I'm glad I met my narc. He opened my eyes completely. The put down started gradually, but the lies immediately I just truly didn't believe I had invited that into my home. Thank you Jesus for getting me out of it even though the pain was severe. Angels are real, inner voice very real.
My son is 40 years old and still sucking the life out of me. I have decided to ‘be done’. I have to realize and accept that this doesn’t make me a bad mom. He needs to stand on his own strength and benefit from his own successes, (or failure without his momma safety net).
Imagine it being the complete opposite. Im the 40 year old son taking care of a 60+ year old narc mother and had enough. Its insane how devoid of morals that my mother is...blows my mind.
@@RetrOGz that’s more common than it should be. I’m sorry sweetheart, Jesus seems to make sense of everything for me… maybe that’s true for you as well. God bless you.
Half the time we confuse lust for love and infatuation for love. And most the time we think our heart is broken its really just our pride hurt from rejection. Rejection one the hardest things to accept for most.
I bought a new phone & somehow it unblocked my narc. (He had been blocked for a year) There were so many texts & missed calls. I kindly asked him to move on. It went from love bombing to blaming me. Whats crazy is that we were never in a relationship. I know its his karma but I believe God protected me from him. Vengeance is the Lords not mine. Thank you for this!! it hurts to walk away I realise I was raised up by a Narcissist mother whom I've also had to cut off/go no contact. God really opened up my eyes. No one has your best interests at heart no matter how much of a good person you are.
My narc husband is trying to convince me that after one session and halfway through a book and in less than a week, he sees a change in himself. It's just not possible.
My childrens father was out right stalking me and treating me bad for no reason when he was the one stalking and showing up uninvited! All these mixed signals, mixed words, but the abuse started getting worse and worse. He would show up eat then start mistreating me seconds later🤯it is pure delusional to me and he was constantly angry and trying to put me down… thanks for telling this truth and sharing this knowledge because I truly know I was just a supply for him to feel good about himself! He honestly doesn’t care for no one but himself…it is sad that any woman gets herself caught up in these situations…it is horrific and pure emotional abuse! If you see the red flags 🚩 🏃♀️ run or else you are going for a long ride of crying, confusion, and abuse.
I kinda looked at how you worded this and what stuck out was that he would come eat. Gurl we are nothing but energetic food supply to these energy vampires and they then use that food against us to break us down more like squeezing juice out of a nut. I had anointed my house and my ex couldn't be in the house for more than 30 minutes before busting out and running off...that's after I had uncovered who I was married to. I only acted on it because God said that was my husband, so I was faithful, but God also took care of him. He died of a heart attack after avoiding the judge to finalize the divorce. Can't outrun the heavenly judge. It's spiritual warfare out here. Don't become a casualty. On the other hand I was always blessed and they are jealous of the favour we have in Christ. They want to ride into the ark on our coat tails and God is like no. If you have access to source you are the only way they can enjoy blessings but then they get angry because they themselves have no access so before you share any blessings with other people they will try to destroy you if they can't break you down and make you submit. I submit to God first, not no devil energy.
@@aqua6613 wow he died? Do you see that as Karma? Or the universe giving him back what he had done to you? To be honest I am very very angry. Because I fell for a person and come To find out it was ALL a con EVERYTHING. I didn’t know nothing real about him and in the end I realized I was with a total stranger for 4 years and even worse had 2 kids with him…I keep asking God why? There were men who truly loved me and would have been a responsible parent instead God allowed this dishonest filth in my life…and he gets to get away with it and be happy and continue his treachery on different women and have kids he will never take care of…my mind is blown away with God. I don’t understand.
@Carmolina I had the same struggle...he cheated and it turned out he was a pedophile. He left me because I was nothing the red flags and called him out on them so he needed to apply the crazy making tactics to discredit me. I truly almost lost my faith through it and I asked God the same thing. In hindsight had I not met him, who knows how many peoples lives he would have wrecked with his behavior. It started me on a journey to find out about narcissism and why I attracted them, but also how God used me in that situation to expose him. God showed me Roman's 5 it was saying something about taking people out of the body to save their spirit, like people will sin so much that God just calls them up. I wish I could have had kids, but I'm glad I was spared to have them with a pedophile. Your kids probably have a great purpose in the world. Nobody is here by accident. We all have some purpose in life we serve and we sometimes only see what it was all about years later. We can only now speculate about what is happening now, but God knows the past and the future and He has a purpose. Kids are such a blessing. I grew up with a single mom who was sick and I had a real crappy life because my dad left and had another family and I was angry about that for a long time, but it got me closer to God and I forgave my dad because I learned the truth that his life was crap with the woman he chose over my mom but that other woman kept him tied up with the kids. Kind of a long story...story of my life 😆. We may think of things as mistakes, but God makes no mistakes. You're not a mistake, choosing that man and having kids was not a mistake. He will find his karma in due time, but if we keep looking and checking and chasing then we can spend years missing out on the blessings that are right infront of us. I hope it makes you better and not bitter. I was deceived by my ex also and his whole family backed him up and even the friend I had warned about him and told him to be careful having him around his little girls. God just told me to move on and I had to leave with nothing. That man tried to destroy me where he could. Took me 3 years to recover financially and emotionally, but instead he was destroyed. His girlfriend couldn't sign him out of the morgue and since the divorce wasn't final I showed up to sign him out with my marriage certificate and I had him cremated and sent to his family. It was only then that I called his friend and he told me he had a warrant out for his arrest for molesting his 7 year old girl. I was vindicated after 2 years...everyone who called me crazy for thinking he was a pedophile now has to sleep with that guilt...and I sleep well because I did the right thing. Just keep yourself and your kids safe. Focus on your blessings and continue on your walk and continue in your purpose. God is still good, even in the trials and tribulations. Talking about it creates awareness and so it gets harder and harder for these people to hide. I wish you all the best!
Get a restraining order against him, dont allow him to keep doing that. He doesn't care about those kids he only cares about controlling u and draining. Document his abuse, record it, and put your phone on top of the frig and day by day record him. Take it to court and protect yourself, don't let the kids see that type of behavior. He doesn't care how that effects them, so you have to care.
@@carmolina.. Sis, we have the same story. Six years later, after me losing all assets ($$, furniture, clothes, family), after 4 eye repair surgeries from a diabolical narc discharge (they will try to kill you); I realize that yeah, God allowed it BUT it was MY choice to have this person in my life. We all have freedom of will. We willingly opened that door ( deceived) & let pure evil into our lives. In our blindness, thirstiness, arrogance etc. We skipped merrily into that devil's den. If you're honest with yourself, you'll remember MANY red flags that you choose to ignore or rationalize. If truly checking yourself, remember all The good advice given & you disregard cuz you thought ppl were jealous. All the signs were there. WE ignored them. We gotta own that. Then forgive ourselves. We were almost demolished mentally, spiritually & physically. But we were "praying" the whole time. Remember? God had to hear pur prayers because we escaped the madness alive, broken but alive. THANK GOD for answered prayers! My relationship with GOD is now stronger than ever. He literally delivered me from hands around my neck trying to kill me. Yeah.. was left with PTSD but it gets better each day, consistent healing. I just wanted to say... Don't blame GOD. Accept your role in the decisions you made. Don't ask us mortals "why" GOD does anything, ask GOD. Use the recovery time to build a closer relationship with your creator, who controls all. Ask him what you were suppose to learn, if you missed the red flags ask him to show you them ( he will). It took six years but I am finally strong enough to start divorce proceeding, will he come to finish me off? He'll probably try but his arms are too short to box with my GOD. We're survivors sis & walking testimonies. So let's help others be strong and confident in their GOD life/faith. Again, our jacked up stories aren't on GOD' , he's always faithful, true & loyal. Perhaps there was greater tragedy ahead for you that's now avoided. Staying with a narcissist is like playing a 24/7 game of Russian roulette. Cruelty. Maybe your current state is really more saved than condemned. PS.. everything I lost GOD gave me more & better!! Luv ya & stay prayed up.
Brother, thank you! I didn’t know I was a victim of a narcissist. But when I walked away after 5 yrs. When I finally walked away, FOR THE FIRS TIME, She blew my phone up, calling me, texting me, Facebook messenger and calling through messenger! It was like she actually cared, But than, she started getting angry because I left and started saying I left when things got tough. Even though I was physically abused, emotionally abused, I was gaslit and cheated on,. Manipulated, sold all my belongings to help support “us” while she was seeing other people,. I felt used, and she said I was just overthinking,. I told her I stayed when it was tough, but I left when I realized I was being used!
Woooooow!!! Maaaaan, you had a classic one!!!! You got away, with all of your senses brother!!!! I’m happy for you!!! Geez!!!! What a lesson right?💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👊🏾👊🏾
The therapists definitely talk about attachment because that’s the first thing they do. They latch onto and prey onto those they sense are weak somewhere. They fulfill what their victims lack. They want to breakdown the ones they look up to and see as better than themselves. Once they break them down, feel they’re on top now and they can win. Once their victim has detached, they lose it.
It's been 9/10 months now and I haven't heard from him.. he just got a pocket full of victims..claiming he's poly after months of pretending he's all for the person that's he got scheduled in for that day/night. Gladly and safely moved on.. I needed that relationship to evolve, grow and learn lessons about myself as well. It pushed me to have healthy boundaries and more self love and respect for myself when it comes to men.. so I thank him for helping me level up mentally, spiritually and for helping me to understand how not to be treated in a relationship and how to spot the red flags earlier. Thank you to my first and last narcissist.
Going through this right now! He was across the street in the bushes, and he has his friends gang-stalking and keeping tabs. I cut off all connections TWO YEARS AGO, I wish he would leave me alone and move on. Thanks for sharing your story!
I just experienced this joy - of discarding my narcissist with much panache as he came in for an attempted (very unskilled & unsophisticated) hoover. ..& I went from heartbreak to triumphant- so grateful & blessed
Same here. He hovered me a year ago acting all depressed and sad thinking I would cry and beg for him to come back BUT I didn’t. I was stronger and I sat there asking him about the woman he left me for and he denied he was with her. Wished him a good life and sent him away. He immediately started the smear campaign and played the victim. A week later his adult daughter told me she had picked him and his “girlfriend” up at a motel the day before he showed up at my house. SMH one lie after another! Free a year and a half and getting stronger everyday. Peace and happiness is everything!
This describes almost every relationship I've been in my entire life...but the last one was the one that did me in...because of that one, I finally figured out that I didn't love myself...He hasn't tried to contact me since January...I'm pretty sure it's coming...I am done with him...I haven't tried to contact him since February...I found your TH-cam yesterday...It is very helpful seeing things from your point of view...and will definitely help me keep my boundaries in place...thank you.
The only thing i'll say is that we can have a waking moment. I didn't realize i had NPD tendencies/whatever. This stuff has just come to my attention. I knew i treated ppl like shit, had no clue why i did it. Well, at least now i got the idea in my head so i can see a therapist with an open mind. I apologized but i mean they're only words so what can i say. Change will take time like you said at the end.
@@leonrwalkerjr i think i read somewhere that its a spectrum. I assume im on the empathetic side of it, maybe its harder for others to realize idk. Theres also the possibility im being gaslit lol, hopefully not. Also without videos like yours itd have taken me a lot longer to realize it. Dont underplay your part
You're right, he found it funny when he was cheating and now all he does is try and reach out and puts me down every chance he gets. Even went as far as too lie about suicide.
Yes you are dead on let's just say my written ring look like something out of a candy machine my car broke down in March the day my car broke down he begs me to go to the jewelry store and had me to pick out a ring he made one payment and never went back and made another payment like he future faked me real good smfh😢
You are correct my husband would act like this and I felt like I was his mother instead of his wife. Every time we would be doing good he would push me away. I filed for my divorce Thursday and he will receive it this week m. I'm done 4 years of hell
This is profound! I've never seen a narcissist speak from the POV of acceptance and work towards change. This isn't an easy feat, I commend you, I hope he is able to reach many, many others and spark change within them. I've definitely been on the receiving end of a narcissist, I've gone through the hoovering/stalking. I just didn't realize it's them at their weakest.
I really give you props!!! Never seen anyone who struggled with narcissism get help. Dated a narc (worst experience of my life) so for you to get diagnosed and be in therapy. Idc what age it is, that takes so much! But through this video you’re really showing others who struggle with the same thing that they too can get help. And us who are codependents also need to get help bc we aren’t healthy either. I’ve been in recovery from codependency for one year. So from one person to another, I give you props. Keep going. The past does not define us
Exactly like my husband I am 14 years in hoping and wishing that he would change and he won't admit to even be in a narcissist even when I have showed him proof and videos and comments you cannot help a person that feel like they doesn't need help at that point I am we are separated as of 7 days now and I feel peaceful already the sad part is you hang in there being abused with the hopes that they're going to change and they never do they have to want to change they have to admit to having these issues and mine will not do that
I recommend anyone who has abused another or been abused to look into their full detailed birth chart and heal yourself before getting involved with anyone.
Yes, I finally got the strength to leave my narcissistic husband after eight years of narcissistic abuse. I am grateful to God, my family and my friends for helping me get out. I am healing now and I am really enjoying the true meaning of life with my three daughters.
THE deepest "introspection" I've ever witnessed so far! Never met any narcissist admitting they really have a problem and be willing to deal with it❤ So thanks to you, my hope in humanity has been restored a bit. One step at a time... Great fact that you exposed yourself, you might be a magnet for wonders🎉
Thank you. It was hard when I first started, very hard. I walked in and out of therapy a few times until I got it together. Things are much better now. Thank you for that
@@leonrwalkerjrmy husband will not admit that he was a narcissist I have shown him videos and comments and until a person admit that it's them they were never get the help that's needed😢😢😢
Damn this is so on point… no wonder it hurts when they turn cold on you.(the narc) because they only stick around for the supply” they don’t actually truly care for you as a person they love. It’s all to feed their own needs. Accepting this hurts because all I wanted was to be loved and to have a partner. With narcissist it’s impossible to have a partnership because they’re selfish and unstable. Acceptance is a MF lol 😅
Thanks for your viewpoint from the "OTHER side of the wall"... Keep going to therapy, because Narcissists DON'T ever feel bad or remorse, they just feel regret from not squeezing enough "juice" out their mates when they could. Therapy sure is and will be a LIFELONG commitment. Good luck
Thank you for bringing awareness to NPD. ❤ The relationship I had with the ex narc was a really hard life lesson in self love. I experienced it all, several cycles devaluation and discard before finally breaking free. 2 years in the relationship. Understanding the dynamics and what was actually going on helps to let go. Thank you and wishing you peace and love on your recovery. ❤️🩹
My ex narc slept with his therapist lol and did the same thing to her he did to me. At first she told him he wasn’t a narcissist lol she hadn’t lived with him.
Soooo true! My husband is a narc and he is what you described! He IS SO SELFISH! He is so wicked and mean to me! He bullies me and is so very abusive! He REPEATEDLY has left me- and at the worst times! He has read the Bible cover to cover, gone to church, refuses to go to church, gives me ultimatums, and does not want to make the necessary chabges!
Oh Trust me he will get his Karma. It angers God immensely when wicked people mock him by using scripture. You can’t do God’s work with the Devil’s Tools, So when God strikes him down, it will be a Devastating blow. That Narcissist May lose his Job, His Home, his vision, his ability to walk, he may lose his health, his looks to a fire or car accident… It’s inevitable that they will Reap what they have sown.
Real talk!!! When anyone is healed...truly healed then it's a go 4 a relationship. The saying u can not truly love someone when u have yet 2 love yourself is factual!!!
Learning about attachment styles has been the biggest epiphany ever. Learning that my avoidant attachment style attracts anxious attachment styles which brought on more narcissists...which made me more avoidant. And likely made them more anxious in their next relationship.
You’re right as long as I stroked his ego, he was all over me. I was the greatest woman ever, but after two years when he started shredding me, I started giving it back. He gained a lot of weight when we were living together, and he was blaming me for making him fat so other women wanna look at him I was the blame for everything when I turned it around on him and started calling him out and stuff. Oh no, he couldn’t handle it and that’s when the discard started he started going out leaving me home alone he started telling me every day what was wrong with me the last seven weeks of our relationship was a toxic nightmare threw me out because I was acting like him on purpose. I’m free.
Wow, much respect and appreciation for you honestly sharing your perspective and educating those who have been abused by a narcissist and those who are narcissists. I can only imagine the courage and strength it took for you to face your “demons/childhood wounds” and choose yourself by facing the truth and taking accountability for how your behavior negatively impacted your life and the lives of others. I pray you continue to heal and give back by educating others.
Sir, your content is concise and on point GOD bless you kind sir, I hope you continue your treatments and you heal yourself. GOD gave us empathy and remorse, I hope he decides to give you the blessing as well.
It might shock you, but some of us on the short end of the stick survived horrific violent childhoods. The narcs I know couldn’t have survived an hour, ANY HOUR of my childhood. They know how to scream about how awful their mommies treated them, my gosh A USED SHIRT and weren’t allowed to jump on the furniture… I’m just thinking they should have went thru the boot camp I did, it would have made them a better person. But I do appreciate your channel. Just this topic… I have observed quietly, because they have no idea. NONE. ✨stay blessed and prosperous All ✨
Your amazing man. I'm in a relationship with a female narrcissist for almost 7 years now. I've been researching these things for months now and you put into words and understanding that nobody else does!
Yes indeed.....this is pure gold ty for speaking this truth 6 yrs in a rship with a toxic malignant narcissist finally got tired of the disrespect, cheating, gaslighting, compulsive lies, lack of reciprocation I left him for good n he's bn suffering ever since n begging for me back one thing for certain karma is real n I gray rocked him his access has bn denied indefinitely
I blocked him and during the pandemic he lost a lot of love oned. He called my sister, so I responded and continued until he met someone else to treat bad, thank God. Whew,it was a ride and its a strong demon. Sadly, to say I had a good relationship with his mom. In order to move on away from the dark energy....I will have to cut away from everyone.
Thank you! It’s one thing to watch videos of fellow people who have went through narcissistic abuse. It’s another thing to get a perspective from the other side. You are head and shoulders above the woman who I saw for two years. I don’t think she will seek help. She will go on inflicting damage. At one point I logged out of social media. She knew I’d had enough and was losing me. She caused even more damage and got discarded
When mine tries to hoover, he doesn't know how to weaponize anything but sex. He doesn't understand I'm repulsed by him now. There is no way on earth I would ever let him touch me again. I'm disgusted with myself for ever allowing it. 😢
I let go after 15 years. I could not do it anymore. The cheating and the lies. All he wanted was sex. I would call him everyday and nite. Whatever he asked me to do I would do it. And he would never do anything I asked of him. I would go out my way for him. But this channel has really help me. I still hurt but not as bad.
Your story sounds like my 14 years for me and he was a cheater as well I just found out he's on fans only he's been sending and receiving money to women on cash app no wonder why our bills are not being paid all the way in the house and to top it off we have two kids I have been separated for for a week I pray that God give me the strength to keep going the sense of peace that I have is everything my mind was going crazy I couldn't sleep my blood pressure was up my hair was falling out it's all because of him
Probably hurts to know that a woman simply just needs her peace more than to move on with another man. She'd rather stay single far away from you than to be with you !!! She needs her peace back 💙 BLOCKING you from everything so that you cannot contact her Period.
Thank you. I had to. It’s really not a good life and people think so. For many years I just went through life without a care in the world. I appreciate that
Yes 💯%, I’d never take bk a narcissist as they don’t and most of the time don’t think they are one. When u confront you called toxic. 18months of everything you stated about a narcissist ways I stupidly entertained. Blocked deleted and removed any trace of him today for the last time. I always told him his demonic too. Nasty piece of work. Well said and real greatful for your honesty 👏🏽👏🏽
I used to make his own mistakes all better for him. I have so many regrets for letting him in my life. I feel like I wasted a lot of years. I didn't do him any favors or myself. At the devalue stage, he made me feel so small, disrespect all the time. When it turns out, he's the trash.
I feel like nowadays most people become obsessed with you and want you back after you’ve moved on. They don’t want to commit but they also can’t let you go either..
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Get help
familiarity is comforting. and they start to miss the stuff that bugged them when you lived together :P
modern hookup culture is narcissistic in nature. That doesn't make everyone a clinically diagnosable narcissist, that means, the current culture allows for cluster B disorders, the current culture is about rights not responsibilities.
A quote comes to mind from a movie can't remember which, "People don't have ideas, ideas have people"
@@skatingfae92well said 🎯
One thing about them tables… They always turn!
They cheat you out of time. That was correct.
YES 💯
Narcissist are quick to replace an ex because of their need to feel “needed” “important “ “valued” etc Kudos to the one that come after me because I AM DONE!!! I’d rather be alone
All of that is true-very true❤️💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Alone...is pretty sweet after the Narc🙏🏽
I agree with you. I went no contact changed my number and checked into therapy. I will Never go back to. I enjoy being without him.
Some don’t want to replace you but want to ruin you mentally and emotionally until you give in. Total torture!
Damn
ABUSED For Years and GOD DEFINITELY GAVE ME STRENGTH...GOD IS EVERYTHING...
GOD ISSSSS EVERYTHING ❤🎉🎉🎉
I have huge respect for people who can look at themselves in the mirror and see their own flaws and own up to it and make the changes to do better, thank you for sharing and making the world a better place, one person at a time
Absolutely,,wish everybody we do the same
I have huge respect for anyone who owns up to their bs ....
But for a narcissist , to do it as anyone knows they are always right regardless of the situation right or wrong ... well thatz huge and i think id fall off my seat if some i know did ,id be like bro dod you wet the bed 🤯🙏🏼💯
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Yes 💯💯💯
Absolutely!! Accountability, forgiveness and growth are both imperative and beautiful. The more people who do this, the better the world will be.
Knowledge of this sickness is the game changer
Best feeling in the world is discarding trash. Narcissist deserve other narcissists
You right! They constantly hover when you detach. But remaining detached is how you call back your power to yourself. Narcs don’t deserve ANY attention. Not even an FU from me. ☺️
Exactly. Neither + or - energy bestowed
Exactly 😂😂 I feel the exact same way about my ex also.
Amen!
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What you’re doing is important and validating those affected by narcissist, so thank you on behalf of all of us
Amen ❤️
Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s not hard but tough and I have to continue
Yessss
Yessss thank you very much Leon ❤ Your videos are helping me heal 🙏🏾
@@leonrwalkerjri wish they would tell us this before they marry us!
“When the tables turn….we’re not covered because we’re doing evil…we don’t know how to suffer…” wow that makes sense. Yes. They are not equipped, so that is what they reap. And yes, he is bipppar at this point and alternates between being completely evil to me, ignoring me (unfortunately have to deal with him because of custody), and begging me to give him another chance. Literally the month the divorce was finalized - and it took 2 years to finalize, and he fought me for everything I had the whole time….even stole from me and lied to get my assets…but I was too broke to keep fighting - and he was already telling me he loved me and wanted me back 😂😂😂😂 psycho. We don’t steal from people we love….duh? We don’t try to destroy their careers and steal their stuff and smear their reputations and turn their families against them 😂😂😂 I’ve been in the twilight zone. It’s like a lifetime movie. I’m laughing, but I’m not laughing.
Yes I had a little saving box with money and it seems like no matter where I would hide my key he would find it and try to steal my money on my jury and we are married with two kids this is the ultimate betrayal like my life feels like a movie I never knew such evil existed I thought I was alone😢
Detached myself from people who meant me no good
You never missed what you never had you received what you wanted.AMEN
Amen
Yes! I left someone who was keeping me on by a thread but made it seem like I was the problem. Once I detattched doors started opening left and right! Amen.
I detached from a person who I thought was my friend but she's a malignant narcissist making herself look like the victim and made me like I was the villain and she started to round up her flying monkeys so I left b4 I had to endure her bs and she wishes she could of hurted me but I didn't give her the chance and she can say that I'm a "COWARD". She loves putting a show at work making herself look like she is the popular funny and cool girl ever but in reality when she leaves from work, she goes home miserable to an empty broken home.😎
Amen!!
Yesssssssss
Yeah it's an instinctual thing for me to discard anyone who hovers around me or stalks me. Such a turn off 🤮.
I had a hard childhood yet I’m not a narcissist. No excuses for it
Either you have empathy or not.
They get a rage when they get no answer , but they are really good at not reacting to your messages.
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I learned my lesson. I actually began to move on, was happy! Found someone, not serious, but the ex started calling, crying, even if you don't take me back I just wanna be your friend. I will always love you. Everything is all my fault. I thought awwwwe man, maybe he realizes? No. Mistake made on my part. Now I sit without him. He thinks he is punishing me right now. I'm moving on period. Done. 💯 I loved him very much! He has not hovered yet. But I know he will again. I won't look back. I am currently working on myself. Lost 30 pounds, got my tan going on, saving up money, going to be very selective on who I let back in my life. Thankyou for your videos. You are amazing, and they help me very much ❤
7 years of narcissistic abuse and I left him.
He hoovered for 3 weeks
It's been 2 weeks since I've heard from him
When I tell you that I'm at peace, believe me, it's been such a load lifted from me.
He was mentally and emotionally exhausting.
My blood pressure and my anxiety levels are down.
Everytime I'm driving and see a red car, I get that eery feeling
I hope all these emotions will soon dissolve.
He'll be back, stay guarded. These people do this stuff for years. It's a cycle, don't fall for the temporary peace like I did. stay gaurded and protect your energy babes😭😭we pray that you are free for good.
My ex hoovered after 3 years via Email. He's blocked Everywhere. He doesn't know where i Live. He then Hoovered again after 2 years. It's been almost 5 years . This fool will not rest. Stay prayed up People.❤
Narcissist simply cannot see how truly toxic they are to others. I don’t believe they can truly love another person. Therapy is absolutely needed to live a better life.
I’m divorcing a narcissist!! Trust me they only change when they lose what that possessed
Me too filled today done and he been coming with his broken promises and blah blah I’m so done
Don’t give in & don’t look back, you are correct. The ONLY time they “change” is when one speak about throwing in the towel. Change never last long
I kicked mines out and I'm filing for diviorce I can't do it no more
@@shirlspark_stardust why and be honest
@@Tee-Tee_APRN tell the truth, is he really the problem?😑🤨🤔🧐
You’re a real one for taking accountability and sharing your past.
Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s tough but I have to do it. 🙏🏾🙌🏾💯💯
Brother, I think there's hope for you, your confession is a sign of healing. I would rather confess now than to confess in a lake of fire..
"When you left, I felt lost". Those are the words he used.
What a crock of bs they are great actors
When I finally figured him out and had enough he said, " I feel like a flat tyre, feel like I'm having a breakdown, I need help Éireann, please just forget about me." I then blocked him and put him on a life sentence of NO CONTACT! 🙏 Thank you Leon 😊
Man this hit home …took me 6 years to realize this and FINALLY I got my power back and the universe has been blessing me soo much since I walked away and STAYED away.
Me too!!!💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
GOD, made the universe. Thank GOD ALMIGHTY
The hardest thing for me was to not understand why he couldn’t see how much I loved and wanted better for him. Then in the process of loving and supporting I was abused and left…shit is painful. 😒
So I know exactly how you felt…
He’s not the one for you to give that love to - he can’t receive it. Nothing to do with you.
I understand how u feel I been abused in so many ways and he just left and I just given birth
30 years... I feel you.. For me to say you are better than and you deserve better❤❤❤❤❤😇🙏💋💋💋💋💋💋💋
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What a narcissist do is drain you and when you give them all you can possibly give them they will leave you on the floor in total and utter mess.we women must take seriously oh so seriously what this man is saying.damaged people hurt you and that is what a narcissist is DAMAGED! positivity peace and love 💛
Don't don't like it when you take away their control in their life, it drives them crazy 🤣
They will come back and orchestrate a grand exit, after already being left! Losers.
The narcissist was speaking death over my head as I slept, through God visions I was able to see what he and his family was plotting, my death/sacrifice for insurance proceeds. I was able to discard first, get protective order, go no contact. I know this is demonic. The very day the police removed him from my home, I immediately was overcome with joy/peace/abundance. All the blessings he was blocking, just poured out, the favor, people I didn't even know came to help and support me, neighbors/coworkers, the mailman. Please get away from these dark demons. God will always make a way, and will put people in your path that will help/support you. This clown has tried to hoover me on my job, and they immediately called the police, I hope he got the hint, I will forever follow the Lord and let him fight this battle. You are loved and worthy of Love. God bless
Wow this is this is deep he could have been doing the same for me I feel like that too the man was sucking every energy everything out of my body I didn't know what was up or down and we are freshly separated with two kids but I definitely feel the need to change him from my insurance policy
I got a call on Valentine's Eve saying money was sent to my account even though I don't celebrate it. A few minutes after the text, he kept ringing my phone, and I ignored, in that same minute I received a text saying the money that was sent in my account I should use it to buy food for the kids on the weekend. I do not blame the narcissist at all. I blamed myself for everything, God warned me, and I disobeyed. I interpreted my dream well but still made errors.
Girl me too!
Girl God warned me too!!! I didn’t heed to the warning.
Same here
It’s demonic. I wasn’t warned but there were lying signs and wonders he’d be my husband. We even had a psychic connection. I had to block him and go no contact. Be strong all of you!!!
Yes!!!
Nothing but FACTS! Especially at the end when you talked about being glad you didn't take them back because they were never sincere in the first place, and they quickly will show their true colors.
I can never forget how BETRAYED & INFURIATED I would feel when my ex-husband would flip the switch. That type of anger truly made me want to hurt him!! I hate to even say that, but it is the truth. I felt so betrayed by him because I would trust his apology and believed we would get better. I was so WRONG! Every time I would let him back in, BOOM! It was almost like a demon making a mockery out of my naivety to trust him yet another time. It felt like he was just playing in my face and he would genuinely get satisfaction out of the mind fucks he'd play on me. This made me soooo angryyyy!!! Some days I'd just have tears falling while he talked shit and wouldn't STOPP because I knew not to feed into it but at the same time, I wanted to scream and shout and cuss his ass out and clock him upside his head. It made/makes my skin crawl knowing how divisive, snake-ish, evil and manipulative he was. I've never felt anger like that again.
I also don't get stomach pains anymore. I didn't realize until I left him how much my body was always tense and how bad my nerves always were. I feel my stress in my stomach or back and I couldn't understand why I kept having these sharp, shooting pains. IT WAS HIM! smh I can only imagine how detrimental to my health he would have been over time.
GOD IS GOOD THO! So glad to be away from him and his devilish ways. He completely sucked the life out of me -my mind, my spirit, just everything. I went completely downhill and I'm still in the valley finding my way back up but because of God's grace and loving willingness to never let me go, I'm still here!
I went through the exact same thing. The emotions you felt same. Thought it was only me 😢. Glory to God he is out of my life. God bless you 🤍🤍🤍
I know exactly what you feel and mean. The fake can only last so long. Thank God for giving me a way out of that marriage. And thank Him for forgiving me for the role I played in allowing it.
Oh my God Amen thankful for your comment it described everything that I feel and that I'm going through literally suck the life out of me I couldn't figure out why I had these sharp pains too and my periods would be so heavy and I would have bad pains in my stomach from my nervous system not being right I mean I could just go on and on about some of the cruel things he has done to me and day by day it's only been 7 days but already I feel better I pray that God keep me moving forward he needs to learn lesson without me but I still have to deal with him for my little kids I sleep and have so much peace without him being in the house😢
After almost 18 Months going no contact I finally could have a dream at night during all this period I lost REM Sleep ability. With difficult capacity to manage my daily task after the abuse. Finally I start enjoying life again
Wow!!!! That’s very important for your health as you know. Damn!! You endured a lot!! You have a new life now🙏🏾🙌🏾💯❤️
Something was wrong with me I couldn't sleep around him either it was like I just couldn't go to sleep and if he saw me trying to sleep he would disturb me or wake me up like it was literally a crime he couldn't stand to see me sleep I can't explain it I am anemic and then my hair started falling out I thought I had sleep apnea but it was him the whole time his presence just did something to me and when he would be gone to work I felt at peace that's how I know it was him
He has become so evil towards me because I wouldn't take him back after catching him with his mistress in July. Now he's bad mouthing her one minute and the next telling me she took him from me. Cruelty on another level.
And that's crazy because the encouragement and love comes from a beautiful intention, inturn morphed by the narcissist into something completely different and used for selfish, self-seeking, self-centered crap. Disappointing. It pisses me off. Under the anger is hurt. Thank you for explaining and being transparent.
I have just ended my relationship with someone I love very much when he talked about his pain a rejection humiliation and abandonedment at them moments when he talked it felt to me that was the person who I understood and respected and cared so deeply for and I just wanted to care and look after him and show him a different way one of love kindness appellation trust forgiveness but I couldn't cope with the confusion lack of respect ignorance name calling yet how do we get to fall for that yet we do if I thought he could change I would of married him in a breath I feel so guilty like I'm another one who has rejected him
Another Davida! Hey sis! 🎉
It’s always anger under their hurt most of them wear it on them
Although Leon explains Narcissist well it's a factory setting for him. He can explain what he does but he can't help himself because it's his nature.
The flying monkeys are just as cuckoo as the Narcissist! 😂 It's the flying Circus Act! More clowns!
Do you tell them to look up covert narcissism on Google, or just be no contact with them too?
Proud to have hit block when the narcissist tried to come back
Amazing indeed! I'm glad I met my narc. He opened my eyes completely. The put down started gradually, but the lies immediately I just truly didn't believe I had invited that into my home. Thank you Jesus for getting me out of it even though the pain was severe. Angels are real, inner voice very real.
My son is 40 years old and still sucking the life out of me. I have decided to ‘be done’. I have to realize and accept that this doesn’t make me a bad mom. He needs to stand on his own strength and benefit from his own successes, (or failure without his momma safety net).
Right. It does not make you a bad mom. He got addicted to the good life that you provided. We have to disconnect sooner or later.
@@leonrwalkerjr Thank you Leon, hearing that from you is the confirmation I needed. God bless you for being a blessing.
@@michellejoy6752I hope you all are doing better now❤
Imagine it being the complete opposite. Im the 40 year old son taking care of a 60+ year old narc mother and had enough. Its insane how devoid of morals that my mother is...blows my mind.
@@RetrOGz that’s more common than it should be. I’m sorry sweetheart, Jesus seems to make sense of everything for me… maybe that’s true for you as well. God bless you.
Look how strong you are now to share with the world and help others.
Half the time we confuse lust for love and infatuation for love. And most the time we think our heart is broken its really just our pride hurt from rejection. Rejection one the hardest things to accept for most.
I bought a new phone & somehow it unblocked my narc. (He had been blocked for a year) There were so many texts & missed calls. I kindly asked him to move on. It went from love bombing to blaming me. Whats crazy is that we were never in a relationship. I know its his karma but I believe God protected me from him. Vengeance is the Lords not mine. Thank you for this!! it hurts to walk away I realise I was raised up by a Narcissist mother whom I've also had to cut off/go no contact. God really opened up my eyes. No one has your best interests at heart no matter how much of a good person you are.
My narc husband is trying to convince me that after one session and halfway through a book and in less than a week, he sees a change in himself. It's just not possible.
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Not possible at all. He’s STILL fooling himself!!! False sense of reality
Does he know/admit he is a narcissist?
Reads to me like he’s trying to wriggle just enough so you let him off the (accountability) hook.
You know best, Sister. 😉❤️
My childrens father was out right stalking me and treating me bad for no reason when he was the one stalking and showing up uninvited! All these mixed signals, mixed words, but the abuse started getting worse and worse. He would show up eat then start mistreating me seconds later🤯it is pure delusional to me and he was constantly angry and trying to put me down… thanks for telling this truth and sharing this knowledge because I truly know I was just a supply for him to feel good about himself! He honestly doesn’t care for no one but himself…it is sad that any woman gets herself caught up in these situations…it is horrific and pure emotional abuse! If you see the red flags 🚩 🏃♀️ run or else you are going for a long ride of crying, confusion, and abuse.
I kinda looked at how you worded this and what stuck out was that he would come eat. Gurl we are nothing but energetic food supply to these energy vampires and they then use that food against us to break us down more like squeezing juice out of a nut.
I had anointed my house and my ex couldn't be in the house for more than 30 minutes before busting out and running off...that's after I had uncovered who I was married to. I only acted on it because God said that was my husband, so I was faithful, but God also took care of him. He died of a heart attack after avoiding the judge to finalize the divorce.
Can't outrun the heavenly judge.
It's spiritual warfare out here. Don't become a casualty. On the other hand I was always blessed and they are jealous of the favour we have in Christ. They want to ride into the ark on our coat tails and God is like no. If you have access to source you are the only way they can enjoy blessings but then they get angry because they themselves have no access so before you share any blessings with other people they will try to destroy you if they can't break you down and make you submit.
I submit to God first, not no devil energy.
@@aqua6613 wow he died? Do you see that as Karma? Or the universe giving him back what he had done to you? To be honest I am very very angry. Because I fell for a person and come
To find out it was ALL a con EVERYTHING. I didn’t know nothing real about him and in the end I realized I was with a total stranger for 4 years and even worse had 2 kids with him…I keep asking God why? There were men who truly loved me and would have been a responsible parent instead God allowed this dishonest filth in my life…and he gets to get away with it and be happy and continue his treachery on different women and have kids he will never take care of…my mind is blown away with God. I don’t understand.
@Carmolina I had the same struggle...he cheated and it turned out he was a pedophile. He left me because I was nothing the red flags and called him out on them so he needed to apply the crazy making tactics to discredit me.
I truly almost lost my faith through it and I asked God the same thing.
In hindsight had I not met him, who knows how many peoples lives he would have wrecked with his behavior. It started me on a journey to find out about narcissism and why I attracted them, but also how God used me in that situation to expose him.
God showed me Roman's 5 it was saying something about taking people out of the body to save their spirit, like people will sin so much that God just calls them up.
I wish I could have had kids, but I'm glad I was spared to have them with a pedophile.
Your kids probably have a great purpose in the world. Nobody is here by accident.
We all have some purpose in life we serve and we sometimes only see what it was all about years later.
We can only now speculate about what is happening now, but God knows the past and the future and He has a purpose. Kids are such a blessing.
I grew up with a single mom who was sick and I had a real crappy life because my dad left and had another family and I was angry about that for a long time, but it got me closer to God and I forgave my dad because I learned the truth that his life was crap with the woman he chose over my mom but that other woman kept him tied up with the kids.
Kind of a long story...story of my life 😆.
We may think of things as mistakes, but God makes no mistakes. You're not a mistake, choosing that man and having kids was not a mistake. He will find his karma in due time, but if we keep looking and checking and chasing then we can spend years missing out on the blessings that are right infront of us.
I hope it makes you better and not bitter.
I was deceived by my ex also and his whole family backed him up and even the friend I had warned about him and told him to be careful having him around his little girls.
God just told me to move on and I had to leave with nothing. That man tried to destroy me where he could. Took me 3 years to recover financially and emotionally, but instead he was destroyed.
His girlfriend couldn't sign him out of the morgue and since the divorce wasn't final I showed up to sign him out with my marriage certificate and I had him cremated and sent to his family.
It was only then that I called his friend and he told me he had a warrant out for his arrest for molesting his 7 year old girl.
I was vindicated after 2 years...everyone who called me crazy for thinking he was a pedophile now has to sleep with that guilt...and I sleep well because I did the right thing.
Just keep yourself and your kids safe.
Focus on your blessings and continue on your walk and continue in your purpose.
God is still good, even in the trials and tribulations.
Talking about it creates awareness and so it gets harder and harder for these people to hide.
I wish you all the best!
Get a restraining order against him, dont allow him to keep doing that. He doesn't care about those kids he only cares about controlling u and draining. Document his abuse, record it, and put your phone on top of the frig and day by day record him. Take it to court and protect yourself, don't let the kids see that type of behavior. He doesn't care how that effects them, so you have to care.
@@carmolina.. Sis, we have the same story. Six years later, after me losing all assets ($$, furniture, clothes, family), after 4 eye repair surgeries from a diabolical narc discharge (they will try to kill you); I realize that yeah, God allowed it BUT it was MY choice to have this person in my life. We all have freedom of will. We willingly opened that door ( deceived) & let pure evil into our lives. In our blindness, thirstiness, arrogance etc. We skipped merrily into that devil's den. If you're honest with yourself, you'll remember MANY red flags that you choose to ignore or rationalize. If truly checking yourself, remember all The good advice given & you disregard cuz you thought ppl were jealous. All the signs were there. WE ignored them. We gotta own that. Then forgive ourselves. We were almost demolished mentally, spiritually & physically. But we were "praying" the whole time. Remember? God had to hear pur prayers because we escaped the madness
alive, broken but alive. THANK GOD for answered prayers! My relationship with GOD is now stronger than ever. He literally delivered me from hands around my neck trying to kill me. Yeah.. was left with PTSD but it gets better each day, consistent healing. I just wanted to say... Don't blame GOD. Accept your role in the decisions you made. Don't ask us mortals "why" GOD does anything, ask GOD. Use the recovery time to build a closer relationship with your creator, who controls all. Ask him what you were suppose to learn, if you missed the red flags ask him to show you them ( he will). It took six years but I am finally strong enough to start divorce proceeding, will he come to finish me off? He'll probably try but his arms are too short to box with my GOD. We're survivors sis & walking testimonies. So let's help others be strong and confident in their GOD life/faith. Again, our jacked up stories aren't on GOD' , he's always faithful, true & loyal. Perhaps there was greater tragedy ahead for you that's now avoided. Staying with a narcissist is like playing a 24/7 game of Russian roulette. Cruelty. Maybe your current state is really more saved than condemned. PS.. everything I lost GOD gave me more & better!! Luv ya & stay prayed up.
Brother, thank you! I didn’t know I was a victim of a narcissist. But when I walked away after 5 yrs. When I finally walked away, FOR THE FIRS TIME, She blew my phone up, calling me, texting me, Facebook messenger and calling through messenger! It was like she actually cared, But than, she started getting angry because I left and started saying I left when things got tough. Even though I was physically abused, emotionally abused, I was gaslit and cheated on,. Manipulated, sold all my belongings to help support “us” while she was seeing other people,. I felt used, and she said I was just overthinking,.
I told her I stayed when it was tough, but I left when I realized I was being used!
Woooooow!!! Maaaaan, you had a classic one!!!! You got away, with all of your senses brother!!!! I’m happy for you!!! Geez!!!! What a lesson right?💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👊🏾👊🏾
@@leonrwalkerjr as hard as it is to admit sometimes, I’m grateful for it. It def has created a greater sense of self love and greater character
The therapists definitely talk about attachment because that’s the first thing they do. They latch onto and prey onto those they sense are weak somewhere. They fulfill what their victims lack. They want to breakdown the ones they look up to and see as better than themselves. Once they break them down, feel they’re on top now and they can win. Once their victim has detached, they lose it.
It's been 9/10 months now and I haven't heard from him.. he just got a pocket full of victims..claiming he's poly after months of pretending he's all for the person that's he got scheduled in for that day/night. Gladly and safely moved on.. I needed that relationship to evolve, grow and learn lessons about myself as well. It pushed me to have healthy boundaries and more self love and respect for myself when it comes to men.. so I thank him for helping me level up mentally, spiritually and for helping me to understand how not to be treated in a relationship and how to spot the red flags earlier. Thank you to my first and last narcissist.
Going through this right now! He was across the street in the bushes, and he has his friends gang-stalking and keeping tabs. I cut off all connections TWO YEARS AGO, I wish he would leave me alone and move on.
Thanks for sharing your story!
You are definitely telling the truth and that's why I left him right where he's at.
I just experienced this joy - of discarding my narcissist with much panache as he came in for an attempted (very unskilled & unsophisticated) hoover. ..& I went from heartbreak to triumphant- so grateful & blessed
I know you feel good too!!!!
Same here. He hovered me a year ago acting all depressed and sad thinking I would cry and beg for him to come back BUT I didn’t. I was stronger and I sat there asking him about the woman he left me for and he denied he was with her. Wished him a good life and sent him away. He immediately started the smear campaign and played the victim. A week later his adult daughter told me she had picked him and his “girlfriend” up at a motel the day before he showed up at my house. SMH one lie after another! Free a year and a half and getting stronger everyday. Peace and happiness is everything!
For me the best time to leave ... was when he was cycling back to discard. He was not responding, that was the least reactive time. It worked.
This describes almost every relationship I've been in my entire life...but the last one was the one that did me in...because of that one, I finally figured out that I didn't love myself...He hasn't tried to contact me since January...I'm pretty sure it's coming...I am done with him...I haven't tried to contact him since February...I found your TH-cam yesterday...It is very helpful seeing things from your point of view...and will definitely help me keep my boundaries in place...thank you.
The only thing i'll say is that we can have a waking moment. I didn't realize i had NPD tendencies/whatever. This stuff has just come to my attention. I knew i treated ppl like shit, had no clue why i did it. Well, at least now i got the idea in my head so i can see a therapist with an open mind. I apologized but i mean they're only words so what can i say. Change will take time like you said at the end.
Wow!!! That’s amazing that you can admit it though. Much respect to you for real!
@@leonrwalkerjr i think i read somewhere that its a spectrum. I assume im on the empathetic side of it, maybe its harder for others to realize idk.
Theres also the possibility im being gaslit lol, hopefully not.
Also without videos like yours itd have taken me a lot longer to realize it. Dont underplay your part
@@0xsergy I will keep at it for sure. Yes, there is a spectrum-you’re right💯🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️
You're right, he found it funny when he was cheating and now all he does is try and reach out and puts me down every chance he gets. Even went as far as too lie about suicide.
Narcissists go to extreme levels of deceit. Always will.
This sounds so familiar. I'm burn out on it. Give give give. They never give back. And end up empty handed.
Yes you are dead on let's just say my written ring look like something out of a candy machine my car broke down in March the day my car broke down he begs me to go to the jewelry store and had me to pick out a ring he made one payment and never went back and made another payment like he future faked me real good smfh😢
You are correct my husband would act like this and I felt like I was his mother instead of his wife. Every time we would be doing good he would push me away. I filed for my divorce Thursday and he will receive it this week m. I'm done 4 years of hell
For me it's 4 + 10 years 😢
This is profound! I've never seen a narcissist speak from the POV of acceptance and work towards change. This isn't an easy feat, I commend you, I hope he is able to reach many, many others and spark change within them. I've definitely been on the receiving end of a narcissist, I've gone through the hoovering/stalking. I just didn't realize it's them at their weakest.
You should watch Lee H. His channel is called Mental Healness... LIFE. CHANGING.!
There is no cure for narcissism.
@@reelfly Has this been clinically proven? What are the stats?
@@luzluna6808 It has, sadly.
He's not a narcissist, he has ptsd.
I really give you props!!! Never seen anyone who struggled with narcissism get help. Dated a narc (worst experience of my life) so for you to get diagnosed and be in therapy. Idc what age it is, that takes so much! But through this video you’re really showing others who struggle with the same thing that they too can get help. And us who are codependents also need to get help bc we aren’t healthy either. I’ve been in recovery from codependency for one year. So from one person to another, I give you props. Keep going. The past does not define us
Exactly like my husband I am 14 years in hoping and wishing that he would change and he won't admit to even be in a narcissist even when I have showed him proof and videos and comments you cannot help a person that feel like they doesn't need help at that point I am we are separated as of 7 days now and I feel peaceful already the sad part is you hang in there being abused with the hopes that they're going to change and they never do they have to want to change they have to admit to having these issues and mine will not do that
I recommend anyone who has abused another or been abused to look into their full detailed birth chart and heal yourself before getting involved with anyone.
Very true and very much needed
Yes, I finally got the strength to leave my narcissistic husband after eight years of narcissistic abuse. I am grateful to God, my family and my friends for helping me get out. I am healing now and I am really enjoying the true meaning of life with my three daughters.
Leon if you see me saying thank you on every platform, I genuinely mean it!!!!!
THE deepest "introspection" I've ever witnessed so far! Never met any narcissist admitting they really have a problem and be willing to deal with it❤ So thanks to you, my hope in humanity has been restored a bit. One step at a time... Great fact that you exposed yourself, you might be a magnet for wonders🎉
Thank you. It was hard when I first started, very hard. I walked in and out of therapy a few times until I got it together. Things are much better now. Thank you for that
@@leonrwalkerjrmy husband will not admit that he was a narcissist I have shown him videos and comments and until a person admit that it's them they were never get the help that's needed😢😢😢
Damn this is so on point… no wonder it hurts when they turn cold on you.(the narc) because they only stick around for the supply” they don’t actually truly care for you as a person they love. It’s all to feed their own needs. Accepting this hurts because all I wanted was to be loved and to have a partner. With narcissist it’s impossible to have a partnership because they’re selfish and unstable. Acceptance is a MF lol 😅
You ain't never lied very well said the moment I say no this foo start rambling through my things
Thanks for your viewpoint from the "OTHER side of the wall"...
Keep going to therapy, because Narcissists DON'T ever feel bad or remorse, they just feel regret from not squeezing enough "juice" out their mates when they could. Therapy sure is and will be a LIFELONG commitment. Good luck
What Soso said!!!
I'm with a narcissist and I am just tired of the way he treats me
Thank you for bringing awareness to NPD. ❤
The relationship I had with the ex narc was a really hard life lesson in self love. I experienced it all, several cycles devaluation and discard before finally breaking free. 2 years in the relationship. Understanding the dynamics and what was actually going on helps to let go. Thank you and wishing you peace and love on your recovery. ❤️🩹
Oh my word, you describing the life I had to endure, I'm stronger
My ex narc slept with his therapist lol and did the same thing to her he did to me. At first she told him he wasn’t a narcissist lol she hadn’t lived with him.
Great insight. It's been a year from my ex narcissist. I don't want her back. If she was normal we could of had something.
She will NEVEr BE Normal.
If......lol but she isn't normal is she. Stay strong!
Soooo true! My husband is a narc and he is what you described! He IS SO SELFISH!
He is so wicked and mean to me!
He bullies me and is so very abusive!
He REPEATEDLY has left me- and at the worst times! He has read the Bible cover to cover, gone to church, refuses to go to church, gives me ultimatums, and does not want to make the necessary chabges!
Oh Trust me he will get his Karma. It angers God immensely when wicked people mock him by using scripture. You can’t do God’s work with the Devil’s Tools, So when God strikes him down, it will be a Devastating blow.
That Narcissist May lose his Job, His Home, his vision, his ability to walk, he may lose his health, his looks to a fire or car accident…
It’s inevitable that they will Reap what they have sown.
Real talk!!! When anyone is healed...truly healed then it's a go 4 a relationship. The saying u can not truly love someone when u have yet 2 love yourself is factual!!!
Learning about attachment styles has been the biggest epiphany ever. Learning that my avoidant attachment style attracts anxious attachment styles which brought on more narcissists...which made me more avoidant. And likely made them more anxious in their next relationship.
That’s very true!!! I know it was an eye opener for you and liberating!!!!
You’re right as long as I stroked his ego, he was all over me. I was the greatest woman ever, but after two years when he started shredding me, I started giving it back. He gained a lot of weight when we were living together, and he was blaming me for making him fat so other women wanna look at him I was the blame for everything when I turned it around on him and started calling him out and stuff. Oh no, he couldn’t handle it and that’s when the discard started he started going out leaving me home alone he started telling me every day what was wrong with me the last seven weeks of our relationship was a toxic nightmare threw me out because I was acting like him on purpose. I’m free.
Six months to a year is just the beginning for change.
Wow, much respect and appreciation for you honestly sharing your perspective and educating those who have been abused by a narcissist and those who are narcissists. I can only imagine the courage and strength it took for you to face your “demons/childhood wounds” and choose yourself by facing the truth and taking accountability for how your behavior negatively impacted your life and the lives of others. I pray you continue to heal and give back by educating others.
Thank you for those kind words. I truly appreciate this 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Very well said.
Sir, your content is concise and on point
GOD bless you kind sir, I hope you continue your treatments and you heal yourself. GOD gave us empathy and remorse, I hope he decides to give you the blessing as well.
Thank you for that. I really appreciate you and your words. God jas given it to me, yes. Thank you!! I needed that 😊❤️🙌🏾🙏🏾
Healing and taking it one day at a time is key for Myself!❤😊
Omg wow you just described my ex!! He began hoovering and then insulting me when I got smart to his BS!
This was me too. That's exactly what happens.
I love that you're speaking from and affirming from the other side what goes on for a narcissist. Thank you, it hits deeper.
It might shock you, but some of us on the short end of the stick survived horrific violent childhoods. The narcs I know couldn’t have survived an hour, ANY HOUR of my childhood. They know how to scream about how awful their mommies treated them, my gosh A USED SHIRT and weren’t allowed to jump on the furniture…
I’m just thinking they should have went thru the boot camp I did, it would have made them a better person.
But I do appreciate your channel. Just this topic… I have observed quietly, because they have no idea. NONE.
✨stay blessed and prosperous All ✨
Never heard from an actual narcissist, especially explaining themselves and how they are you are helping a lot of people. Keep up the good work
Your amazing man. I'm in a relationship with a female narrcissist for almost 7 years now. I've been researching these things for months now and you put into words and understanding that nobody else does!
Yes indeed.....this is pure gold ty for speaking this truth 6 yrs in a rship with a toxic malignant narcissist finally got tired of the disrespect, cheating, gaslighting, compulsive lies, lack of reciprocation I left him for good n he's bn suffering ever since n begging for me back one thing for certain karma is real n I gray rocked him his access has bn denied indefinitely
I blocked him and during the pandemic he lost a lot of love oned. He called my sister, so I responded and continued until he met someone else to treat bad, thank God. Whew,it was a ride and its a strong demon. Sadly, to say I had a good relationship with his mom. In order to move on away from the dark energy....I will have to cut away from everyone.
They feed off of you... yessssssss !! Which is NOT LOVE....
AT ALL 😎👊🏼🔥🔥🔥💫✌
Great video !!
Takes a lot of guts to tell people on camera what you do... thanks so much!! 🙏🌺💕
Thank you! It’s one thing to watch videos of fellow people who have went through narcissistic abuse. It’s another thing to get a perspective from the other side. You are head and shoulders above the woman who I saw for two years. I don’t think she will seek help. She will go on inflicting damage. At one point I logged out of social media. She knew I’d had enough and was losing me. She caused even more damage and got discarded
You’re welcome. Thank you as well. The discard had to happen to her and “for” you!!! Until she gets help, she won’t stop, sadly.
When mine tries to hoover, he doesn't know how to weaponize anything but sex. He doesn't understand I'm repulsed by him now. There is no way on earth I would ever let him touch me again. I'm disgusted with myself for ever allowing it. 😢
I let go after 15 years. I could not do it anymore. The cheating and the lies. All he wanted was sex. I would call him everyday and nite. Whatever he asked me to do I would do it. And he would never do anything I asked of him. I would go out my way for him. But this channel has really help me. I still hurt but not as bad.
I pray God mends your broken heart and you find the power to forgive and move on with your life
Your story sounds like my 14 years for me and he was a cheater as well I just found out he's on fans only he's been sending and receiving money to women on cash app no wonder why our bills are not being paid all the way in the house and to top it off we have two kids I have been separated for for a week I pray that God give me the strength to keep going the sense of peace that I have is everything my mind was going crazy I couldn't sleep my blood pressure was up my hair was falling out it's all because of him
Probably hurts to know that a woman simply just needs her peace more than to move on with another man. She'd rather stay single far away from you than to be with you !!! She needs her peace back 💙 BLOCKING you from everything so that you cannot contact her Period.
💯You're the First Person that has admitted having a NPD and continues to work on oneself🙌🏽
Thank you. I had to. It’s really not a good life and people think so. For many years I just went through life without a care in the world. I appreciate that
@@leonrwalkerjr Thank You for the Knowledge and Insight. It's very much Appreciated🙌🏽
@@B17ATURAL you’re welcome. Thank you for the comment too🙌🏾🙌🏾
@@leonrwalkerjrntil you almost die.
Yes 💯%, I’d never take bk a narcissist as they don’t and most of the time don’t think they are one. When u confront you called toxic. 18months of everything you stated about a narcissist ways I stupidly entertained. Blocked deleted and removed any trace of him today for the last time. I always told him his demonic too. Nasty piece of work. Well said and real greatful for your honesty 👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you for being honest, vulnerable, and sharing your experience/story!
You’re welcome 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Wow, truth, and there’s so many undiagnosed Narcissist who believe they don’t have an issue. Thank you for sharing- it’s so accurate.
I absolutely respect what you’re saying on your channel. 41 years of suffering.
That was me, always feeding everything , all of my life.😮😒
I really appreciate your honesty . It’s dangerous being with a narc
You just described my ex and our past situation to a T.. so glad I cut him off and didn’t take him back
I troll them first then I discard 😈
I used to make his own mistakes all better for him. I have so many regrets for letting him in my life. I feel like I wasted a lot of years. I didn't do him any favors or myself. At the devalue stage, he made me feel so small, disrespect all the time. When it turns out, he's the trash.
Thank you, for sharing this information with me! I had to walk away from him! I realized I am
so much more, so worthy of more!
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THIS IS GOOD . THANKS FOR SHARING.
You’re welcome