🔥When narcissist Hoover-you discard
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ก.ย. 2022
- 🔥When narcissists Hoover 🔥
This is when and why you begin your exit plan and be consistent.
They will never tell you about their snooping and stalking unless you catch them, and when you do…there will be a sob story and finally and explanation.
This is when they are extremely vulnerable and can’t hide it. In this moment, you will notice eye contact, wanting to hold you, hug you, kiss you and do all of the things that you’ve always wanted.
They are also or can be very dangerous during this time-so be careful. A vindictive phase is imminent!
Now…you must stand your ground, keep your word, promises to self, and others, and realize that you have achieved…in that moment what you were praying for…”Lord help me, please give me the strength to deny this man/woman!”
Most people hope and wish for their partner to get help, to get better-but hardly ever do you all keep promises to yourself, once confronted by a grieving narcissist!
This is your time to put sympathy away, and just understand how they feel because they never understood how you felt and never will! @narcabuse_tv
I feel like nowadays most people become obsessed with you and want you back after you’ve moved on. They don’t want to commit but they also can’t let you go either..
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Get help
familiarity is comforting. and they start to miss the stuff that bugged them when you lived together :P
modern hookup culture is narcissistic in nature. That doesn't make everyone a clinically diagnosable narcissist, that means, the current culture allows for cluster B disorders, the current culture is about rights not responsibilities.
A quote comes to mind from a movie can't remember which, "People don't have ideas, ideas have people"
@@joedohn9727well said 🎯
Narcissist are quick to replace an ex because of their need to feel “needed” “important “ “valued” etc Kudos to the one that come after me because I AM DONE!!! I’d rather be alone
All of that is true-very true❤️💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Alone...is pretty sweet after the Narc🙏🏽
I agree with you. I went no contact changed my number and checked into therapy. I will Never go back to. I enjoy being without him.
Some don’t want to replace you but want to ruin you mentally and emotionally until you give in. Total torture!
Damn
I have huge respect for people who can look at themselves in the mirror and see their own flaws and own up to it and make the changes to do better, thank you for sharing and making the world a better place, one person at a time
Absolutely,,wish everybody we do the same
I have huge respect for anyone who owns up to their bs ....
But for a narcissist , to do it as anyone knows they are always right regardless of the situation right or wrong ... well thatz huge and i think id fall off my seat if some i know did ,id be like bro dod you wet the bed 🤯🙏🏼💯
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Yes 💯💯💯
Absolutely!! Accountability, forgiveness and growth are both imperative and beautiful. The more people who do this, the better the world will be.
One thing about them tables… They always turn!
You right! They constantly hover when you detach. But remaining detached is how you call back your power to yourself. Narcs don’t deserve ANY attention. Not even an FU from me. ☺️
Exactly. Neither + or - energy bestowed
Exactly 😂😂 I feel the exact same way about my ex also.
What you’re doing is important and validating those affected by narcissist, so thank you on behalf of all of us
Amen ❤️
Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s not hard but tough and I have to continue
Yessss
Yessss thank you very much Leon ❤ Your videos are helping me heal 🙏🏾
@@leonrwalkerjri wish they would tell us this before they marry us!
Best feeling in the world is discarding trash. Narcissist deserve other narcissists
The hardest thing for me was to not understand why he couldn’t see how much I loved and wanted better for him. Then in the process of loving and supporting I was abused and left…shit is painful. 😒
So I know exactly how you felt…
He’s not the one for you to give that love to - he can’t receive it. Nothing to do with you.
I understand how u feel I been abused in so many ways and he just left and I just given birth
30 years... I feel you.. For me to say you are better than and you deserve better❤❤❤❤❤😇🙏💋💋💋💋💋💋💋
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Don't don't like it when you take away their control in their life, it drives them crazy 🤣
I got a call on Valentine's Eve saying money was sent to my account even though I don't celebrate it. A few minutes after the text, he kept ringing my phone, and I ignored, in that same minute I received a text saying the money that was sent in my account I should use it to buy food for the kids on the weekend. I do not blame the narcissist at all. I blamed myself for everything, God warned me, and I disobeyed. I interpreted my dream well but still made errors.
Girl me too!
Girl God warned me too!!! I didn’t heed to the warning.
Same here
It’s demonic. I wasn’t warned but there were lying signs and wonders he’d be my husband. We even had a psychic connection. I had to block him and go no contact. Be strong all of you!!!
Yes!!!
Detached myself from people who meant me no good
You never missed what you never had you received what you wanted.AMEN
Amen
Yes! I left someone who was keeping me on by a thread but made it seem like I was the problem. Once I detattched doors started opening left and right! Amen.
I detached from a person who I thought was my friend but she's a malignant narcissist making herself look like the victim and made me like I was the villain and she started to round up her flying monkeys so I left b4 I had to endure her bs and she wishes she could of hurted me but I didn't give her the chance and she can say that I'm a "COWARD". She loves putting a show at work making herself look like she is the popular funny and cool girl ever but in reality when she leaves from work, she goes home miserable to an empty broken home.😎
Amen!!
Yesssssssss
Man this hit home …took me 6 years to realize this and FINALLY I got my power back and the universe has been blessing me soo much since I walked away and STAYED away.
Me too!!!💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
GOD, made the universe. Thank GOD ALMIGHTY
I’m divorcing a narcissist!! Trust me they only change when they lose what that possessed
Me too filled today done and he been coming with his broken promises and blah blah I’m so done
Don’t give in & don’t look back, you are correct. The ONLY time they “change” is when one speak about throwing in the towel. Change never last long
I kicked mines out and I'm filing for diviorce I can't do it no more
@@shirlspark_stardust why and be honest
@@Tee-Tee_APRN tell the truth, is he really the problem?😑🤨🤔🧐
I had a hard childhood yet I’m not a narcissist. No excuses for it
Either you have empathy or not.
Yeah it's an instinctual thing for me to discard anyone who hovers around me or stalks me. Such a turn off 🤮.
"When you left, I felt lost". Those are the words he used.
What a crock of bs they are great actors
You’re a real one for taking accountability and sharing your past.
Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s tough but I have to do it. 🙏🏾🙌🏾💯💯
Brother, I think there's hope for you, your confession is a sign of healing. I would rather confess now than to confess in a lake of fire..
My narc husband is trying to convince me that after one session and halfway through a book and in less than a week, he sees a change in himself. It's just not possible.
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Not possible at all. He’s STILL fooling himself!!! False sense of reality
Does he know/admit he is a narcissist?
And that's crazy because the encouragement and love comes from a beautiful intention, inturn morphed by the narcissist into something completely different and used for selfish, self-seeking, self-centered crap. Disappointing. It pisses me off. Under the anger is hurt. Thank you for explaining and being transparent.
I have just ended my relationship with someone I love very much when he talked about his pain a rejection humiliation and abandonedment at them moments when he talked it felt to me that was the person who I understood and respected and cared so deeply for and I just wanted to care and look after him and show him a different way one of love kindness appellation trust forgiveness but I couldn't cope with the confusion lack of respect ignorance name calling yet how do we get to fall for that yet we do if I thought he could change I would of married him in a breath I feel so guilty like I'm another one who has rejected him
Another Davida! Hey sis! 🎉
It’s always anger under their hurt most of them wear it on them
I recommend anyone who has abused another or been abused to look into their full detailed birth chart and heal yourself before getting involved with anyone.
Very true and very much needed
Look how strong you are now to share with the world and help others.
When I finally figured him out and had enough he said, " I feel like a flat tyre, feel like I'm having a breakdown, I need help Éireann, please just forget about me." I then blocked him and put him on a life sentence of NO CONTACT! 🙏 Thank you Leon 😊
My childrens father was out right stalking me and treating me bad for no reason when he was the one stalking and showing up uninvited! All these mixed signals, mixed words, but the abuse started getting worse and worse. He would show up eat then start mistreating me seconds later🤯it is pure delusional to me and he was constantly angry and trying to put me down… thanks for telling this truth and sharing this knowledge because I truly know I was just a supply for him to feel good about himself! He honestly doesn’t care for no one but himself…it is sad that any woman gets herself caught up in these situations…it is horrific and pure emotional abuse! If you see the red flags 🚩 🏃♀️ run or else you are going for a long ride of crying, confusion, and abuse.
I kinda looked at how you worded this and what stuck out was that he would come eat. Gurl we are nothing but energetic food supply to these energy vampires and they then use that food against us to break us down more like squeezing juice out of a nut.
I had anointed my house and my ex couldn't be in the house for more than 30 minutes before busting out and running off...that's after I had uncovered who I was married to. I only acted on it because God said that was my husband, so I was faithful, but God also took care of him. He died of a heart attack after avoiding the judge to finalize the divorce.
Can't outrun the heavenly judge.
It's spiritual warfare out here. Don't become a casualty. On the other hand I was always blessed and they are jealous of the favour we have in Christ. They want to ride into the ark on our coat tails and God is like no. If you have access to source you are the only way they can enjoy blessings but then they get angry because they themselves have no access so before you share any blessings with other people they will try to destroy you if they can't break you down and make you submit.
I submit to God first, not no devil energy.
@@aqua6613 wow he died? Do you see that as Karma? Or the universe giving him back what he had done to you? To be honest I am very very angry. Because I fell for a person and come
To find out it was ALL a con EVERYTHING. I didn’t know nothing real about him and in the end I realized I was with a total stranger for 4 years and even worse had 2 kids with him…I keep asking God why? There were men who truly loved me and would have been a responsible parent instead God allowed this dishonest filth in my life…and he gets to get away with it and be happy and continue his treachery on different women and have kids he will never take care of…my mind is blown away with God. I don’t understand.
@Carmolina I had the same struggle...he cheated and it turned out he was a pedophile. He left me because I was nothing the red flags and called him out on them so he needed to apply the crazy making tactics to discredit me.
I truly almost lost my faith through it and I asked God the same thing.
In hindsight had I not met him, who knows how many peoples lives he would have wrecked with his behavior. It started me on a journey to find out about narcissism and why I attracted them, but also how God used me in that situation to expose him.
God showed me Roman's 5 it was saying something about taking people out of the body to save their spirit, like people will sin so much that God just calls them up.
I wish I could have had kids, but I'm glad I was spared to have them with a pedophile.
Your kids probably have a great purpose in the world. Nobody is here by accident.
We all have some purpose in life we serve and we sometimes only see what it was all about years later.
We can only now speculate about what is happening now, but God knows the past and the future and He has a purpose. Kids are such a blessing.
I grew up with a single mom who was sick and I had a real crappy life because my dad left and had another family and I was angry about that for a long time, but it got me closer to God and I forgave my dad because I learned the truth that his life was crap with the woman he chose over my mom but that other woman kept him tied up with the kids.
Kind of a long story...story of my life 😆.
We may think of things as mistakes, but God makes no mistakes. You're not a mistake, choosing that man and having kids was not a mistake. He will find his karma in due time, but if we keep looking and checking and chasing then we can spend years missing out on the blessings that are right infront of us.
I hope it makes you better and not bitter.
I was deceived by my ex also and his whole family backed him up and even the friend I had warned about him and told him to be careful having him around his little girls.
God just told me to move on and I had to leave with nothing. That man tried to destroy me where he could. Took me 3 years to recover financially and emotionally, but instead he was destroyed.
His girlfriend couldn't sign him out of the morgue and since the divorce wasn't final I showed up to sign him out with my marriage certificate and I had him cremated and sent to his family.
It was only then that I called his friend and he told me he had a warrant out for his arrest for molesting his 7 year old girl.
I was vindicated after 2 years...everyone who called me crazy for thinking he was a pedophile now has to sleep with that guilt...and I sleep well because I did the right thing.
Just keep yourself and your kids safe.
Focus on your blessings and continue on your walk and continue in your purpose.
God is still good, even in the trials and tribulations.
Talking about it creates awareness and so it gets harder and harder for these people to hide.
I wish you all the best!
Get a restraining order against him, dont allow him to keep doing that. He doesn't care about those kids he only cares about controlling u and draining. Document his abuse, record it, and put your phone on top of the frig and day by day record him. Take it to court and protect yourself, don't let the kids see that type of behavior. He doesn't care how that effects them, so you have to care.
@@carmolina.. Sis, we have the same story. Six years later, after me losing all assets ($$, furniture, clothes, family), after 4 eye repair surgeries from a diabolical narc discharge (they will try to kill you); I realize that yeah, God allowed it BUT it was MY choice to have this person in my life. We all have freedom of will. We willingly opened that door ( deceived) & let pure evil into our lives. In our blindness, thirstiness, arrogance etc. We skipped merrily into that devil's den. If you're honest with yourself, you'll remember MANY red flags that you choose to ignore or rationalize. If truly checking yourself, remember all The good advice given & you disregard cuz you thought ppl were jealous. All the signs were there. WE ignored them. We gotta own that. Then forgive ourselves. We were almost demolished mentally, spiritually & physically. But we were "praying" the whole time. Remember? God had to hear pur prayers because we escaped the madness
alive, broken but alive. THANK GOD for answered prayers! My relationship with GOD is now stronger than ever. He literally delivered me from hands around my neck trying to kill me. Yeah.. was left with PTSD but it gets better each day, consistent healing. I just wanted to say... Don't blame GOD. Accept your role in the decisions you made. Don't ask us mortals "why" GOD does anything, ask GOD. Use the recovery time to build a closer relationship with your creator, who controls all. Ask him what you were suppose to learn, if you missed the red flags ask him to show you them ( he will). It took six years but I am finally strong enough to start divorce proceeding, will he come to finish me off? He'll probably try but his arms are too short to box with my GOD. We're survivors sis & walking testimonies. So let's help others be strong and confident in their GOD life/faith. Again, our jacked up stories aren't on GOD' , he's always faithful, true & loyal. Perhaps there was greater tragedy ahead for you that's now avoided. Staying with a narcissist is like playing a 24/7 game of Russian roulette. Cruelty. Maybe your current state is really more saved than condemned. PS.. everything I lost GOD gave me more & better!! Luv ya & stay prayed up.
I bought a new phone & somehow it unblocked my narc. (He had been blocked for a year) There were so many texts & missed calls. I kindly asked him to move on. It went from love bombing to blaming me. Whats crazy is that we were never in a relationship. I know its his karma but I believe God protected me from him. Vengeance is the Lords not mine. Thank you for this!! it hurts to walk away I realise I was raised up by a Narcissist mother whom I've also had to cut off/go no contact. God really opened up my eyes. No one has your best interests at heart no matter how much of a good person you are.
Nothing but FACTS! Especially at the end when you talked about being glad you didn't take them back because they were never sincere in the first place, and they quickly will show their true colors.
I can never forget how BETRAYED & INFURIATED I would feel when my ex-husband would flip the switch. That type of anger truly made me want to hurt him!! I hate to even say that, but it is the truth. I felt so betrayed by him because I would trust his apology and believed we would get better. I was so WRONG! Every time I would let him back in, BOOM! It was almost like a demon making a mockery out of my naivety to trust him yet another time. It felt like he was just playing in my face and he would genuinely get satisfaction out of the mind fucks he'd play on me. This made me soooo angryyyy!!! Some days I'd just have tears falling while he talked shit and wouldn't STOPP because I knew not to feed into it but at the same time, I wanted to scream and shout and cuss his ass out and clock him upside his head. It made/makes my skin crawl knowing how divisive, snake-ish, evil and manipulative he was. I've never felt anger like that again.
I also don't get stomach pains anymore. I didn't realize until I left him how much my body was always tense and how bad my nerves always were. I feel my stress in my stomach or back and I couldn't understand why I kept having these sharp, shooting pains. IT WAS HIM! smh I can only imagine how detrimental to my health he would have been over time.
GOD IS GOOD THO! So glad to be away from him and his devilish ways. He completely sucked the life out of me -my mind, my spirit, just everything. I went completely downhill and I'm still in the valley finding my way back up but because of God's grace and loving willingness to never let me go, I'm still here!
I went through the exact same thing. The emotions you felt same. Thought it was only me 😢. Glory to God he is out of my life. God bless you 🤍🤍🤍
I know exactly what you feel and mean. The fake can only last so long. Thank God for giving me a way out of that marriage. And thank Him for forgiving me for the role I played in allowing it.
7 years of narcissistic abuse and I left him.
He hoovered for 3 weeks
It's been 2 weeks since I've heard from him
When I tell you that I'm at peace, believe me, it's been such a load lifted from me.
He was mentally and emotionally exhausting.
My blood pressure and my anxiety levels are down.
Everytime I'm driving and see a red car, I get that eery feeling
I hope all these emotions will soon dissolve.
He'll be back, stay guarded. These people do this stuff for years. It's a cycle, don't fall for the temporary peace like I did. stay gaurded and protect your energy babes😭😭we pray that you are free for good.
My ex hoovered after 3 years via Email. He's blocked Everywhere. He doesn't know where i Live. He then Hoovered again after 2 years. It's been almost 5 years . This fool will not rest. Stay prayed up People.❤
You are correct my husband would act like this and I felt like I was his mother instead of his wife. Every time we would be doing good he would push me away. I filed for my divorce Thursday and he will receive it this week m. I'm done 4 years of hell
For me the best time to leave ... was when he was cycling back to discard. He was not responding, that was the least reactive time. It worked.
My son is 40 years old and still sucking the life out of me. I have decided to ‘be done’. I have to realize and accept that this doesn’t make me a bad mom. He needs to stand on his own strength and benefit from his own successes, (or failure without his momma safety net).
Right. It does not make you a bad mom. He got addicted to the good life that you provided. We have to disconnect sooner or later.
@@leonrwalkerjr Thank you Leon, hearing that from you is the confirmation I needed. God bless you for being a blessing.
@@michellejoy6752I hope you all are doing better now❤
“When the tables turn….we’re not covered because we’re doing evil…we don’t know how to suffer…” wow that makes sense. Yes. They are not equipped, so that is what they reap. And yes, he is bipppar at this point and alternates between being completely evil to me, ignoring me (unfortunately have to deal with him because of custody), and begging me to give him another chance. Literally the month the divorce was finalized - and it took 2 years to finalize, and he fought me for everything I had the whole time….even stole from me and lied to get my assets…but I was too broke to keep fighting - and he was already telling me he loved me and wanted me back 😂😂😂😂 psycho. We don’t steal from people we love….duh? We don’t try to destroy their careers and steal their stuff and smear their reputations and turn their families against them 😂😂😂 I’ve been in the twilight zone. It’s like a lifetime movie. I’m laughing, but I’m not laughing.
The narcissist was speaking death over my head as I slept, through God visions I was able to see what he and his family was plotting, my death/sacrifice for insurance proceeds. I was able to discard first, get protective order, go no contact. I know this is demonic. The very day the police removed him from my home, I immediately was overcome with joy/peace/abundance. All the blessings he was blocking, just poured out, the favor, people I didn't even know came to help and support me, neighbors/coworkers, the mailman. Please get away from these dark demons. God will always make a way, and will put people in your path that will help/support you. This clown has tried to hoover me on my job, and they immediately called the police, I hope he got the hint, I will forever follow the Lord and let him fight this battle. You are loved and worthy of Love. God bless
I learned my lesson. I actually began to move on, was happy! Found someone, not serious, but the ex started calling, crying, even if you don't take me back I just wanna be your friend. I will always love you. Everything is all my fault. I thought awwwwe man, maybe he realizes? No. Mistake made on my part. Now I sit without him. He thinks he is punishing me right now. I'm moving on period. Done. 💯 I loved him very much! He has not hovered yet. But I know he will again. I won't look back. I am currently working on myself. Lost 30 pounds, got my tan going on, saving up money, going to be very selective on who I let back in my life. Thankyou for your videos. You are amazing, and they help me very much ❤
I let go after 15 years. I could not do it anymore. The cheating and the lies. All he wanted was sex. I would call him everyday and nite. Whatever he asked me to do I would do it. And he would never do anything I asked of him. I would go out my way for him. But this channel has really help me. I still hurt but not as bad.
I pray God mends your broken heart and you find the power to forgive and move on with your life
Although Leon explains Narcissist well it's a factory setting for him. He can explain what he does but he can't help himself because it's his nature.
This sounds so familiar. I'm burn out on it. Give give give. They never give back. And end up empty handed.
I really give you props!!! Never seen anyone who struggled with narcissism get help. Dated a narc (worst experience of my life) so for you to get diagnosed and be in therapy. Idc what age it is, that takes so much! But through this video you’re really showing others who struggle with the same thing that they too can get help. And us who are codependents also need to get help bc we aren’t healthy either. I’ve been in recovery from codependency for one year. So from one person to another, I give you props. Keep going. The past does not define us
Block and delete rinse and repeat 🔁
You are definitely telling the truth and that's why I left him right where he's at.
Damn this is so on point… no wonder it hurts when they turn cold on you.(the narc) because they only stick around for the supply” they don’t actually truly care for you as a person they love. It’s all to feed their own needs. Accepting this hurts because all I wanted was to be loved and to have a partner. With narcissist it’s impossible to have a partnership because they’re selfish and unstable. Acceptance is a MF lol 😅
Amazing indeed! I'm glad I met my narc. He opened my eyes completely. The put down started gradually, but the lies immediately I just truly didn't believe I had invited that into my home. Thank you Jesus for getting me out of it even though the pain was severe. Angels are real, inner voice very real.
Proud to have hit block when the narcissist tried to come back
Half the time we confuse lust for love and infatuation for love. And most the time we think our heart is broken its really just our pride hurt from rejection. Rejection one the hardest things to accept for most.
This is profound! I've never seen a narcissist speak from the POV of acceptance and work towards change. This isn't an easy feat, I commend you, I hope he is able to reach many, many others and spark change within them. I've definitely been on the receiving end of a narcissist, I've gone through the hoovering/stalking. I just didn't realize it's them at their weakest.
You should watch Lee H. His channel is called Mental Healness... LIFE. CHANGING.!
There is no cure for narcissism.
@@reelfly Has this been clinically proven? What are the stats?
@@luzluna6808 It has, sadly.
He's not a narcissist, he has ptsd.
I just experienced this joy - of discarding my narcissist with much panache as he came in for an attempted (very unskilled & unsophisticated) hoover. ..& I went from heartbreak to triumphant- so grateful & blessed
I know you feel good too!!!!
Same here. He hovered me a year ago acting all depressed and sad thinking I would cry and beg for him to come back BUT I didn’t. I was stronger and I sat there asking him about the woman he left me for and he denied he was with her. Wished him a good life and sent him away. He immediately started the smear campaign and played the victim. A week later his adult daughter told me she had picked him and his “girlfriend” up at a motel the day before he showed up at my house. SMH one lie after another! Free a year and a half and getting stronger everyday. Peace and happiness is everything!
Narcissist simply cannot see how truly toxic they are to others. I don’t believe they can truly love another person. Therapy is absolutely needed to live a better life.
You're right, he found it funny when he was cheating and now all he does is try and reach out and puts me down every chance he gets. Even went as far as too lie about suicide.
Narcissists go to extreme levels of deceit. Always will.
Narcissists are playing out the trauma in a way they feel justified that they didn’t get to have as a child that is now a free roaming adult
What a narcissist do is drain you and when you give them all you can possibly give them they will leave you on the floor in total and utter mess.we women must take seriously oh so seriously what this man is saying.damaged people hurt you and that is what a narcissist is DAMAGED! positivity peace and love 💛
Going through this right now! He was across the street in the bushes, and he has his friends gang-stalking and keeping tabs. I cut off all connections TWO YEARS AGO, I wish he would leave me alone and move on.
Thanks for sharing your story!
Brother, thank you! I didn’t know I was a victim of a narcissist. But when I walked away after 5 yrs. When I finally walked away, FOR THE FIRS TIME, She blew my phone up, calling me, texting me, Facebook messenger and calling through messenger! It was like she actually cared, But than, she started getting angry because I left and started saying I left when things got tough. Even though I was physically abused, emotionally abused, I was gaslit and cheated on,. Manipulated, sold all my belongings to help support “us” while she was seeing other people,. I felt used, and she said I was just overthinking,.
I told her I stayed when it was tough, but I left when I realized I was being used!
Woooooow!!! Maaaaan, you had a classic one!!!! You got away, with all of your senses brother!!!! I’m happy for you!!! Geez!!!! What a lesson right?💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👊🏾👊🏾
@@leonrwalkerjr as hard as it is to admit sometimes, I’m grateful for it. It def has created a greater sense of self love and greater character
Leon if you see me saying thank you on every platform, I genuinely mean it!!!!!
I'm with a narcissist and I am just tired of the way he treats me
THE deepest "introspection" I've ever witnessed so far! Never met any narcissist admitting they really have a problem and be willing to deal with it❤ So thanks to you, my hope in humanity has been restored a bit. One step at a time... Great fact that you exposed yourself, you might be a magnet for wonders🎉
Thank you. It was hard when I first started, very hard. I walked in and out of therapy a few times until I got it together. Things are much better now. Thank you for that
Oh my word, you describing the life I had to endure, I'm stronger
Probably hurts to know that a woman simply just needs her peace more than to move on with another man. She'd rather stay single far away from you than to be with you !!! She needs her peace back 💙 BLOCKING you from everything so that you cannot contact her Period.
It's been 9/10 months now and I haven't heard from him.. he just got a pocket full of victims..claiming he's poly after months of pretending he's all for the person that's he got scheduled in for that day/night. Gladly and safely moved on.. I needed that relationship to evolve, grow and learn lessons about myself as well. It pushed me to have healthy boundaries and more self love and respect for myself when it comes to men.. so I thank him for helping me level up mentally, spiritually and for helping me to understand how not to be treated in a relationship and how to spot the red flags earlier. Thank you to my first and last narcissist.
Yes, I finally got the strength to leave my narcissistic husband after eight years of narcissistic abuse. I am grateful to God, my family and my friends for helping me get out. I am healing now and I am really enjoying the true meaning of life with my three daughters.
I lost it for a second the other day after over a week of emotional abuse, blameshifting, gaslighting, put downs, mocking me, etc and shouted “STOP GASLIGHTING ME!” And he shut up and then “cried” in Pizza Hut. What was that about. Now he is being nice. I am so confused.
Narcissist are being called out and they are so tired not so easy anymore lol
It's call manipulation and them trying to be the victim and you feel sorry for them.
He cried and Pizza Hut as a distraction, because he was found out in the go to is to cry. Because if he cries he can pull at your heartstrings trauma Bond you again distract you from the gas lighting and the put down that he was doing. He started the cycle all over again, he's being nice that's a Love by me face next he'll start doing the same thing he was doing and Pizza Hut putting you down, and if you do not catch on to it he's going to do the next thing and discard you. Love bomb, devalue, discard. You confused because the crying that's the trauma bonding.
@@lekeciagarland6148 it’s manipulation
I am so sorry guys that my comment is all over the place I was using the voice thing and apparently it wasn't getting everything that I was saying down but hopefully you got the gist of it and yes the other person that said it's manipulation is correct its manipulation still in a nutshell
See it can be a great thing when a narcissist gets help? Until he/she does, take heed to these messages and don’t give into being used as supply.
The therapists definitely talk about attachment because that’s the first thing they do. They latch onto and prey onto those they sense are weak somewhere. They fulfill what their victims lack. They want to breakdown the ones they look up to and see as better than themselves. Once they break them down, feel they’re on top now and they can win. Once their victim has detached, they lose it.
Thanks for your viewpoint from the "OTHER side of the wall"...
Keep going to therapy, because Narcissists DON'T ever feel bad or remorse, they just feel regret from not squeezing enough "juice" out their mates when they could. Therapy sure is and will be a LIFELONG commitment. Good luck
What Soso said!!!
I love that you're speaking from and affirming from the other side what goes on for a narcissist. Thank you, it hits deeper.
Never heard from an actual narcissist, especially explaining themselves and how they are you are helping a lot of people. Keep up the good work
Wow, much respect and appreciation for you honestly sharing your perspective and educating those who have been abused by a narcissist and those who are narcissists. I can only imagine the courage and strength it took for you to face your “demons/childhood wounds” and choose yourself by facing the truth and taking accountability for how your behavior negatively impacted your life and the lives of others. I pray you continue to heal and give back by educating others.
Thank you for those kind words. I truly appreciate this 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Very well said.
Takes a lot of guts to tell people on camera what you do... thanks so much!! 🙏🌺💕
Omg wow you just described my ex!! He began hoovering and then insulting me when I got smart to his BS!
This was me too. That's exactly what happens.
Great insight. It's been a year from my ex narcissist. I don't want her back. If she was normal we could of had something.
She will NEVEr BE Normal.
If......lol but she isn't normal is she. Stay strong!
I blocked him and during the pandemic he lost a lot of love oned. He called my sister, so I responded and continued until he met someone else to treat bad, thank God. Whew,it was a ride and its a strong demon. Sadly, to say I had a good relationship with his mom. In order to move on away from the dark energy....I will have to cut away from everyone.
Please share how you were able to grow and heal. We always hear that narcissist can’t change. Also, there is a lot of narcissism in our black community. Example: Think about how we used to talk about “fronting”. That was outright behavior, pretending and lying to be someone we were not just to fool other people, feel cool, and “get over” creating a false self! Sometimes this was done consciously and at times unconsciously. You should write a book or contact someone to make a documentary film of how you became aware of your narcissism and how you are working/living through it! It would help so many of us! Thanks for sharing your story, very helpful!👏🏽🌺👏🏽🌺
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I’m my opinion a man has not changed until he is renewed by god.
Hes not changed nfs
@@lovelykiyah7415 …We’ll at least he is sharing his truth!🧐
@@beyoutifuljones3786 I honestly didn't know either until somebody told me...
*God
Capital G. (Not a lowercase g).
Your amazing man. I'm in a relationship with a female narrcissist for almost 7 years now. I've been researching these things for months now and you put into words and understanding that nobody else does!
They cheat you out of time. That was correct.
Learning about attachment styles has been the biggest epiphany ever. Learning that my avoidant attachment style attracts anxious attachment styles which brought on more narcissists...which made me more avoidant. And likely made them more anxious in their next relationship.
That’s very true!!! I know it was an eye opener for you and liberating!!!!
Listen...when I said you're speaking 🔊 to my SOUL. When I met this gentleman in 2020 he tried to sleep with me unprotected and I declined. During this time he laid it on thick, dating NUMEROUS women unprotected and fresh out of a 10-year marriage, that he was unfaithful in the ENTIRE time. Breadcrumbing, gaslighting, and charming his ways throughout his insecurities, meanwhile, me being VERY intuitive and a wise person who saw him from the START got sucked in still, til I finally walk away physically in 2022. Like clock work, he started acting desperate and settled for the next option once he realized I was firm in my power. Had the nerve to call me after 3 months to say "I think I'm about to get into a relationship 😅 " a clown 🤡....and he baited me in like a sucker.
That was me, always feeding everything , all of my life.😮😒
ABUSED For Years and GOD DEFINITELY GAVE ME STRENGTH...GOD IS EVERYTHING...
Either I'm not important enough to hoover, or the hoover is on its way.
Soooo true! My husband is a narc and he is what you described! He IS SO SELFISH!
He is so wicked and mean to me!
He bullies me and is so very abusive!
He REPEATEDLY has left me- and at the worst times! He has read the Bible cover to cover, gone to church, refuses to go to church, gives me ultimatums, and does not want to make the necessary chabges!
Oh Trust me he will get his Karma. It angers God immensely when wicked people mock him by using scripture. You can’t do God’s work with the Devil’s Tools, So when God strikes him down, it will be a Devastating blow.
That Narcissist May lose his Job, His Home, his vision, his ability to walk, he may lose his health, his looks to a fire or car accident…
It’s inevitable that they will Reap what they have sown.
Thank you for being honest, vulnerable, and sharing your experience/story!
You’re welcome 🙌🏾🙌🏾
💯You're the First Person that has admitted having a NPD and continues to work on oneself🙌🏽
Thank you. I had to. It’s really not a good life and people think so. For many years I just went through life without a care in the world. I appreciate that
@@leonrwalkerjr Thank You for the Knowledge and Insight. It's very much Appreciated🙌🏽
@@B17ATURAL you’re welcome. Thank you for the comment too🙌🏾🙌🏾
@@leonrwalkerjrntil you almost die.
I troll them first then I discard 😈
Yes indeed.....this is pure gold ty for speaking this truth 6 yrs in a rship with a toxic malignant narcissist finally got tired of the disrespect, cheating, gaslighting, compulsive lies, lack of reciprocation I left him for good n he's bn suffering ever since n begging for me back one thing for certain karma is real n I gray rocked him his access has bn denied indefinitely
They feed off of you... yessssssss !! Which is NOT LOVE....
AT ALL 😎👊🏼🔥🔥🔥💫✌
Great video !!
Healing and taking it one day at a time is key for Myself!❤😊
I discarded my ex Narc. (11yr. relationship) 2.5 years ago. I have been 100% no contact for 2 yrs. In the first month, he called me and left me 60 VM's. Yes, I counted. I blocked him right after discard, but he was still able to leave VM's. I was stubborn because I didn't want to change my number. Yet another thing he would control. So finally I moved, changed my number, and contacted the two mutual friends to warn them he may use them to get to me. My family also blocked him as he tried to go through them (my family despised him) goes to show how desperate he was. I also closed all my social media and deleted all the phone numbers of all his family. I also stayed away from looking him up on social media except once. I regretted it, of course. I was feeling weak at the time. Anyways, I just wanted to show those that Think they've gone No Contact may still have not completely gone No Contact! It's an uphill battle still, but it could be 20x worse if I had not done so. Never give up. It will start to get better each day. 💛
After almost 18 Months going no contact I finally could have a dream at night during all this period I lost REM Sleep ability. With difficult capacity to manage my daily task after the abuse. Finally I start enjoying life again
Wow!!!! That’s very important for your health as you know. Damn!! You endured a lot!! You have a new life now🙏🏾🙌🏾💯❤️
Thank you! It’s one thing to watch videos of fellow people who have went through narcissistic abuse. It’s another thing to get a perspective from the other side. You are head and shoulders above the woman who I saw for two years. I don’t think she will seek help. She will go on inflicting damage. At one point I logged out of social media. She knew I’d had enough and was losing me. She caused even more damage and got discarded
You’re welcome. Thank you as well. The discard had to happen to her and “for” you!!! Until she gets help, she won’t stop, sadly.
I haven't learned to take advice...8 months on, out of nowhere, a hoover/stalk. I truly thought he wouldn't dare! Like nothing ever happened. Totally ignored, locked doors, no chat, no small talk. Zero from me.
Thank you for bringing awareness to NPD. ❤
The relationship I had with the ex narc was a really hard life lesson in self love. I experienced it all, several cycles devaluation and discard before finally breaking free. 2 years in the relationship. Understanding the dynamics and what was actually going on helps to let go. Thank you and wishing you peace and love on your recovery. ❤️🩹
Real talk!!! When anyone is healed...truly healed then it's a go 4 a relationship. The saying u can not truly love someone when u have yet 2 love yourself is factual!!!
I’m so happy for you 🎉 you bleed into others because you had trauma, as an empath we see right through the narcissist and we want to be the light. We look for ways to help you but it usually ends bad for both. Thank you for your vulnerability it is appreciated to hear a man taking accountability and putting the the work to change weather it started for you or attempts to get back an ex in the end it is for you! I say this all the time we all should be born with a physical medicine doctor and a mental health doctor.#Godspeed
You just described my ex and our past situation to a T.. so glad I cut him off and didn’t take him back
Yes 💯%, I’d never take bk a narcissist as they don’t and most of the time don’t think they are one. When u confront you called toxic. 18months of everything you stated about a narcissist ways I stupidly entertained. Blocked deleted and removed any trace of him today for the last time. I always told him his demonic too. Nasty piece of work. Well said and real greatful for your honesty 👏🏽👏🏽
He has become so evil towards me because I wouldn't take him back after catching him with his mistress in July. Now he's bad mouthing her one minute and the next telling me she took him from me. Cruelty on another level.
I absolutely respect what you’re saying on your channel. 41 years of suffering.
It couldn’t have been easy unlearning your bad habits and looking yourself in the mirror 💯
It might shock you, but some of us on the short end of the stick survived horrific violent childhoods. The narcs I know couldn’t have survived an hour, ANY HOUR of my childhood. They know how to scream about how awful their mommies treated them, my gosh A USED SHIRT and weren’t allowed to jump on the furniture…
I’m just thinking they should have went thru the boot camp I did, it would have made them a better person.
But I do appreciate your channel. Just this topic… I have observed quietly, because they have no idea. NONE.
✨stay blessed and prosperous All ✨
The spirit wars with the flesh.Inner child wounding is real..Face that inner child and you will change plus you need to pray for deliverance from Jezebel spirit.Soirit of control n domination.
That message should be on Pinterest!! TONS OF TRUTH right there ❤️🙏🏾💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@@leonrwalkerjr praise be to TMH God Jesus of Nazareth our deliverer n redeemer!!!
Hanged himself after obsessing over me for 3 years because I made it clear that there will be no reconciliation?
NPD people, please take care of yourselves and go to therapy!!!!
No hate...
I got goosebumps listening to this
You should be so proud 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Your going to change a lot of people's lives 😘 🙏😘🙏😘🙏
Hands down this whole message pertains to my narcissistic husband I been trying to escape this marriage for years now 🧿 California laws are ridiculous man 🧿 Thank you for being so honest and transparent with your messages God bless you on your journey man Because it takes the strength of God to speak this message through you So many of us women suffer so badly for years in narcissistic relationships 🧿 Everytime I left mines caught temper tantrums badly Cussing me out lying to his friends family and other women about me 🧿 So disgusted bruh 🧿 Take care my brother
California divorce is a nightmare when dealing with a narcissist
Believe it and you will overcome getting out of that situation. You are stronger then you realize and once you gain your power back you feel so free! But it starts with you believing you can and then you will!!!!! I believe in you ❤
Wow!!!!! You have been through 100 years of this. I can only imagine!!! You’re a strong woman for sure. I deeply applaud you!!!
@@natashareed1951 Yes it is But it's even worse when you have kids involved We have two children together which makes it more difficult for me to leave the State
He called Texas Rangers on me in 2016 when I left the first time God bless you 💜
@@leonrwalkerjr Lol 😂 It seems that way too Thank you I appreciate that 💜 God bless you Leon