Watching the argument like "Did Colleen eventually get up to clean the mess or was she too busy vlogging about it while we watch Eric behind her CLEANING. LOL #teameric
Rachel Cole is a producer for the Try Guys and she's a mama to twin girls. I feel like she would be someone who would have a wealth of knowledge about it, and her twins seem to be very happy and healthy little girls so she's doing something right! I know she did the Baby Steps podcast talking about her experience too and I know the Try Team is LA based so it might be even easier for you to get in touch with her. ❤
When Eric said “I need a strong boy to help me with this stuff” I almost died. And then Flynn “let me close the engine and then I’ll help him” ahhhhh I’m dying. They’re so cute 💕💕
I can see both sides of the “argument” BUT I’m with Colleen because if she never lies about being messy why would she start now? Also the stuff Eric said did make it sound like he wanted to try some of the dessert
I wasn’t there but I’m 100% sure the convo went: Eric: “you left a mess!” Colleen: “yeah, for you!” *Eric taking it to mean for him to clean up..* *Colleen meaning for him to make his pastry* 🤣😂
This is exactly how I suspect it went down too. And he heard the “yah for you” as a “your welcome”. Our brains are constantly manipulating us!!! Hahaha
and before, it went "wouldn't this be good?"eric saying to add the pastries he bought with the dessert to see if *colleen would like it*, colleen agreeing, but taking it as eric also wanting the dessert.
I’m sorry Erik…but I’m with a Colleen on this one. She is willing to admit she’s an untidy person and you having agreed that the dessert would be nice and refreshing would make it sound as though you wanted one too.
okay i have a theory… do you think it’s harder for erik (someone without an internal monologue) to be introspective than someone with one (colleen). or is it a neuro typical vs neuro divergent thing?
@@TaylorBKnits ok he's a libra but he could be a taurus moon idk, but anyways no I'm not a new viewer ive been subscribed since like 2017 I think. Anyways, I'm not denying that colleen isnt stubborn. They literally both are. But he wouldn't even see her pov. And she saw his but didn't understand/agree with it is what it seemed like. Idk man we ain't no marriage therapy 😂 besides it seemed like a minor argument over 🍰 which sound hella good rn
Mum of twins here. They’re 10 now but I remember those early days so well. I have 3 children so I know what a singleton is like too. I can assure you it doesn’t feel like double the work. It’s really only like 50% more work. Yes you’re feeding two babies but you’re up feeding one anyway. You don’t need any special products for twins I promise. There’s only one thing I’d recommend and that’s a large feeding pillow for tandem feeding. If you can feed them at the same time, whether that’s bottle or breast you’ll give yourself a little bit of extra time between feeds. You can do this. The fact you care so much about getting right is a sure sign you’re gonna to be a wonderful mum of 3.
But make sure you aren't alone when you feed them at the same time. My brothers fell asleep on my mom after she fed them so she got stuck in the chair home alone for like 30 min to 1-hour hahaha
Oh I have a solution for that! I put a bouncer on each side of me on the couch. As soon as one stopped feeding I would pop them in the bouncer while the other was feeding still. Then I’d pop the other one in the bouncer and lift each bouncer onto the floor. I only had to do that for a few weeks then I worked out how to stand up while holding one of them up on each shoulder in a burping position.
My mom had twins 17 years ago, but she gave the advice of having each parent have a baby their in charge of at night. My dad took my sister if she woke up, and my mom took my brother if he woke up. My mom pumped milk too so if my sister woke up, my dad could feed her without my mom getting up. My mom said this helped both of them get sleep without just one person getting up constantly.
Erik & Colleen’s MISCOMMUNICATION recap: Erik: bought extra dessert supplies for Colleen’s dessert idea because he thought it would be nice to support her idea. He also provided her with validation that it was a great idea even though he did not want to eat any of the dessert. Colleen: Had a great dessert idea that her husband seemed excited for too due to the validation and extra supplies he purchased for it. She was under the impression he wanted some due to his perceived enthusiasm for the idea even though he did not state that he wanted some. Erik: since he did not want any he became triggered by the mess of the dessert items being out. Due to him not stating that he wanted dessert, he perceived the items being out as another mess that Colleen left. Colleen: despite being usually messy, Colleen assumed Erik’s enthusiasm meant he wanted some dessert too so she left the ingredients out assuming he would want to use them for his own dessert plate. Overall issue: just a large miscommunication due to Colleen misinterpreting Erik’s enthusiasm and support for the dessert as him wanting some, as well as Erik not conveying in the first place that he didn’t want any dessert even though he would move heaven and earth to provide Colleen and her twins with dessert ingredients lol. Lol. You guys are the best and it’s just a miscommunication 💕💕💕💕
Ok but someone answer me. Did. Colleen. Get. Up. To. Clean. Her. Mess. From the fact that she pulled out the camera to vlog about it, while we watch Eric in the background literally cleaning her mess. My guess is no lol.
I’m a mama if twins with having a singleton prior. Yes I was TEERRIFED my whole entire pregnancy. There were lots of tears! Yes it’s very hard to care for two babies plus one. But it goes by so fast and you will get through it. I don’t want to scare you but the first few years are the most difficult. But once you past that stage it is so much fun!! My twins are now 18 just graduated high school and are best friends. Trust me I didn’t feel like I was Lucky back then for getting blessed with two babies because when you are in the thick of it is freaking hard. But now I look back and realize how lucky and how blessed I am to be a twin mama! You will get through all of it. Yes you will cry yes it’s incredibly hard but it’s all worth it in the end. Just try to slow down and enjoy it. I didn’t do that and I really wish I did.
My favorite part is Erik not only continues to clean but makes himself an adult beverage just to get through it. Erik and I are the same kind of spouse.
My husband is an identical twin and his mom went almost full term & delivered vaginally. Also, she would breastfeed & pump so her husband could help with the feeding cuz apparently a lot of times they will want to eat at the same time. Just some info from his experience. Can’t wait for Colleens twins!! 🙌🏽💞
If I'm remembering correctly, Colleen had a very good milk supply so hopefully she will not have any problem feeding twins! Pumping after nursing is a great way to get a few extra bottles saved up for those times when one of the twins is on a feeding binge or just when Eric wants to participate in feeding time!
You're in the right... He's just too stubborn to say "yes I understand where you're coming from and why you'd leave the ingredients out". This is the shit my husband and I argue about... HA....
I love LOVE how the arguments Colleen and Eric have are about literal strawberries 😂 STRAWBERRIES oh my gosh it’s so amazing I love them they- it’s amazing 🤣
Right??! Gosh what’s with guys that are neurotic with cleaning??? Chill man and pick up after her she’s a working mama also probably the biggest bread winner too so you better not complain about her leaving the cool whip out.
I’m a twin, and my mom said it’s actually easier to have two babies rather than one, she always said that we entertained each other. It can be overwhelming at first, but you’ll figure it out, my mom said she was nervous too, but it gets easier and she had my dad to help out a lot as well ❤️ you’ve got this! You seem like you have a big loving supportive family too!
i feel like colleen has taught us so many things ab women and pregnancy. when she was pregnant with flynn she made sure everyone knew how hard it was so that no woman going through that ever felt alone or unvalidated. i think the same is happening now that she’s having twins - she’s openly talking about a topic that is not discussed enough and empowering and inspiring so many people who might be feeling lost and alone in their own journeys ❤️
Okay so the way Eric said “oh that sounds like a good summer desert” would lead Colleen to think that Eric wanted one for himself, therefore Colleen leaving out the food items so Eric could make one. I believe Colleen in this instance because I would have done the same thing haha
He's probably a little annoyed that she didn't just make him one too since she was already doing it. That's what I would do, and also put everything away after! Lol
@@elisecatherine3964 Who pissed in your cheerios this morning? Nothing she said was wrong so chill out, doing something for your husband doesn't make you a "1950s woman" , it makes you kind and thoughtful. You can return to the internet once you get off the rag.
@@elisecatherine3964 uhm.. I'm a single woman, in my 40s with no kids. I work full time and I have a university degree. I'm not at all a "50s housewife" lol omg. I just like to be kind and considerate to people around me, especially when it would virtually take zero extra effort. Maybe you should try it some time, honey 😘
Colleen: “so why do you think I left out the pastries?” Erik: “Because that’s just how you roll…” Colleen: *looks into the camera like she’s in The Office* 😂
This argument went for so long because both sides feel misunderstood. It’s not about the strawberries or leaving the mess out. He’s upset because he feels she doesn’t know him better, and assumed based on something he didn’t say. She read between the lines and interpreted his statements to be alluding to want some dessert instead of him asking directly. She thought she was being considerate, but he thought she was being inconsiderate by leaving it out. I think he wants her to clean up more (since he does most the cleaning) and having a normal human moment, and probably being tired, this was the straw that broke the camel’s back and caused an argument. She’s mad because he doesn’t believe her intentions and thinks she’s lying. So the undercurrents are much more serious than strawberries left out. That’s why she would not drop it. She wanted him to acknowledge her consideration of him and believe her that she did it because she was trying to be nice to him. And then she was surprised when he was upset. This is all normal. And healthy. I hope they communicated their true needs and resolved it, or decided to just drop it, and try to communicate better next time.
ooo that gave me and idea for Colleen. She should've got up right away when he said he didn't believe her and just start cleaning it up. I think maybe he would've believed her intentions more.
@@Liqhtupmyworld no. he knew her intentions. she made it clear. his logic made zero sense. he was just arguing in circles instead of admitting he was wrong. who just leaves a mess for someone to clean as a "gift"?? nonsense, bro. just say something like 'nah. I'm good. you can go ahead and put it all away. thanks for thinking of me, but you forgot I don't like sweets.'
Oh, hell no. Lol if someone misinterpret’s my intentions, I will not tweak my intention to align with their perception. (Not necessarily in this situation, but others, that’s how people start to manipulate. But that’s just my personal experience)😬.
I am a twin. My mom said that it was really difficult taking care of two babies, but she did it. She made through everything even though the birth had some complications. She took care of us every single day nonstop. AND YOU CAN TOO. I am now 13 and so proud of her.
I'm a mom of twins! I had no children prior, so this was a BIG step into parenting! My husband was home with me 2 weeks while I adjusted to breastfeeding with a twin boppy pillow. Admittedly I felt like a COW nursing every 2 hours and I was exhausted but I did it one moment at a time. Every coo, every yawn, every sigh they made, made it 100% worth it!! You and Eric will get through it and you'll all be so blessed by these sweet babies you're having. Yes you'll get big but you'll be all baby! Don't worry about the weight. You got this!!💚💚
Cool whip and strawberry opinion: Colleen's right, she left it out for Erik. 😄 Though I also think it was miscommunication since he didn't want any. At first he was just laughing at the mess being larger than cool whip (I think he was earnest about that), but his pride and finding your reaction funny made him not wanna relent and say you were right. It was an endearing argument!
😭😭 Erik is like: “I didn’t want any” Colleen: “But you said you did that’s why I left it out!” Erik: “No I didn’t!!” Colleen and Erik going back and fourth for 8 minutes about strawberry whip for 8 minutes straight
I am a twin, and my brothers are twins. 2 sets of twins, 7 years apart. My mom didn't breastfeed any of us and we all turned out fine lol. My sister and I are obviously close and we have the same friends but we do argue and it's normal. My brothers do not get along at all, basically two different people; but that's normal too. My mom also had two c-sections and we were all born early because of health issues.
Sorry Erik but I’m with Colleen in this argument. She admitted that she often leaves stuff put and doesn’t clean up after her self but int his situation she specifically left it out so you could have some. I didn’t see what happened so idk who was right about the conversations that happened about it big yah I’m gonna have to agree with Colleen on this one 😂
From one twin momma to another- having a good partner and strong communication are SO important. Letting them know when you need some me time and being able to step away without feeling that mom guilt. Tag teaming overnight, I was strictly pumping so we gave bottles and that did help because my husband could feed one while I fed one and this helped us to both get a little more sleep. You and Eric are going to be great at this, and Flynn is going to be such a cool big brother to have! 💕
You wanted him to understand your INTENT, thats something I relate to so much in my relationship. Intent matters. Everyone wants understanding for their intent.
The “argument” you two have is the quintessential back & forth of a happy couple, my husband & I are in the middle of one of these “I said” “no you said” discussions right now-it’s the knitty gritty of living with & loving the same person for forever-all a great relationship really is is talking about what to eat with the same person for the rest of time❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰
I’m a twin. My mom often talks about how she had to feed me and my brother at the same time or else she would never have slept. So stick to feeding them at once even though it can be hard and difficult! We also slept in the same bed for a long time - because it kept us close and we would sleep at the same time.
Twin momma here! Join some twin mom groups on facebook, they were so amazing during pregnancy and after for all my concerns and also good products to buy etc. When I was pregnant I was also super overwhelmed, I think all twin moms go through that, its such an amazing blessing but it is hard work! I'm not going to sugar coat it, it is rough at the start. My advice is get as much help as you can. Someone to clean your house, someone to look after Flynn, anything that makes life easier for you, you should do! You are lucky you seem to have an amazing support system around you to help. Products specifically for twins, mainly places to put them that are safe, boppy loungers, swings, bouncers. You need them in most rooms so there is a safe place to set them down. Good luck! You got this!
I don't think Colleen realizes how much I, and hopefully thousands of other people appreciate the precautions she's taken during quarantine. So many people did not take covid serious enough during the pandemic which led to the suffering of millions of people. Thank you so much, Colleen.
My grandma had three sets of twins & had the first two sets very close together in her early twenties. She was so scared and nervous on how to take care of four boys at once that she had to take my grandpa on a week vacation like a month after having them. She took the time to calm down and think things over and came back and was a fantastic mother and grandmother. It's okay to be scared and nervous. You're doing the best you can and I'm sure you will be as fantastic raising your twins as you are raising Flynn
I have twins, it’s a lot, but you find a groove. I was fully stressed that I had no idea what I was doing. The only thing you NEED two of is: car seats, safe sleep spaces. What was useful to me was having a safe spot to put them down as well, and baby carriers. My twins did come early and that was quite traumatic but they’re 16 months now and we’re doing alright, I honestly miss those newborn days toddlers running in opposite directions always is way more challenging in my experience.
I think Colleen is right in that argument and it makes me feel frustrated that Erik won’t believe her hahaha I know they aren’t fighting fighting but still Erik doesn’t need to say he doesn’t believe her
For twin mom advice! Rachelle Swannie is a mom on TH-cam who had twin boys a year or two ago. You should contact her! She would probably give great advice on what to buy for twins. She also has a daughter who is older then the twins so she may have be able to tell you about how the dynamic changed once the twins were born. Ease some of your fears!
He is laughing because something he would otherwise perceive as a ‘mess’ was a gesture he had the opportunity to appreciate. The irony is his sense of humour. Any chance for something to be ironic is a chance to laugh. But Colleens expression of love is service and she created something as a chance to share an experience.
You are literally the only person who has said the things I’m feeling to a T. You’re due the day after me so we’re at the same point in our pregnancy and we both have toddlers so I feel like I relate to you a lot. It’s really nice to hear that there’s someone else feeling the exact same way I am
Reconnect with Mama Dr Jones. Shes a twin mama AND a traveling working mama. She just moved her family to Hawaii. I'm sure she can give you great comfort and advice.
I am a triplet and my mom always tells stories about relying on the support of family and teamwork. There are stressful moments but the love and happiness you will feel will overpower the stress. You got this!!!
My twin sister and I were 9 minutes apart and my mom didn’t have a c-section. We were a month early and we are 18 now and we had a great childhood and everything. We have a little brother who my mom had when we were almost three, which was definitely challenging for her but she is happy she had us all when she did. My mom now delivers babies and teaches a breast feeding class if you have any questions I can ask her for you. You are going to be amazing, your last pregnancy and this one have been such a struggle for you but it just shows how incredibly strong you are, I’m so excited for you!
great reply...colleen needs to realize that the first year or two is just a Blip on the Radar of Life. sure it will be a full time job for several months but in the grand scheme of things it will be the last time that she does this and the feeding only lasts a few months as babies start on solids before they are a year and the breast feeding then is not as demanding as the first few months. they get easier as they get older and hearing your story is really nice.
TH-camr Jordan Paige has a “twins must-haves” video of recommended twin products and a twins pregnancy q&a you might find helpful, in her must-haves video she is even breastfeeding both babies at the same time which seems miraculous but shows it is possible for some. Also the Chatwins on youtube have many day-in-the-life videos showing how they feed or bathe their triplets at the same time and so on. I would totally be intimidated as well but nice to know there are other mom’s of multiples out there. Also be easy on yourself and your work expectations, knowing you realistically won’t be able to work much in first little while and may need to take a few months away from TH-cam to focus on your family.
this argument is so funny cuz it’s exactly what me and my boyfriend do while laughing about it the whole time. colleens cackles throughout it were making me laugh so hard 😂
Sorry I'm with Colleen here. "Oh that sounds delicious" suggests to me that you want tomhavw some as well. Unless you state "Oh that sounds delicious for you but I won't eat any tonight!"
My dad is a doctor and he says that with moms of twins, the breastfeeding just involves more pumping, so you and the dad can feed the babies at the same time :) It's gonna be ok, I just think Erik is gonna be even more involved on this one.
You also need Salt. You can drink water all day and still be dehydrated because you didn't have enough salt to absorb the water. That's why Gatorade and powerade have salt in them. Hope you feel better momma!
i’m a twin and the best advice is to take all the help you can get, i know it might seem like a lot but it’s gonna be hard, but you’ll get through it if you have people even your parents helping you, and maybe a few hours a week someone can watch flynn so he is still having fun!! the biggest thing for the flynn part is to include him in helping with the babies- he then won’t feel excluded, but he also will feel like an awesome big brother and a big help!
Twin mama here! 🙌🏻 to be quite honest I don’t remember a whole lot of the first year because it was so chaotic 🤣 work together. Let your family help. Neither of you will sleep. 🤦🏼♀️ My breast pump was my best friend! We had to supplement with formula also because ours were born super preemie so we also loved the Baby Brezza for late night feedings. Honestly, the biggest thing that will be your saving grace is your family. We don’t have any family living within 3 hours of us and have had virtually no help so it’s been really difficult for us. My biggest piece of advice is to keep them both on the same schedule. If one eats, feed the other if they’re hungry or not!
Colleen I am a twin Mom and I had a little one already before I had my twins. The coolest thing is watching how they are growing up to be each others best friend. First of all YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! Now please understand this is how it went for me, I am not saying it's the same for everyone. I had my twins at 37 weeks. I had gone into labour at 35 weeks and was put on bedrest for two weeks. They wanted the babies to get to at least 37 weeks. I went into labour naturally and had both babies naturally. The first was a regular delivery the second one was a frank breech but the first made the room for delivery. As far as feeding them, ask the lactation nurse to teach you to feed using the football hold. This way that are bring fed at the same time and you don't feel like you are feeding forever. Now instead of me going on and on, please feel free to reach out and I will try and help anyways I can.
I’m team Colleen. This argument speaks to my soul! He’s being stubborn. Everyone wants to feel understood and seen. It’s not hard to admit there was a misunderstanding. But you handled it with aplomb bc I would have been in tears of fury, lol. I’m also the person who will BEAT YOU DOWN with my words until you see my side. For hours, if necessary lol
Twin mama here! It was very scary and the closer we got to delivery, the scarier it got. Biggest advice is keep them on the same schedule as much as you can!!! If you wake up one, wake up both. We formula fed because that’s what worked for US! Do what is best for you! We loved the TwinZPillow! It was so easy for feeding. I delivered 37.2 with csection due to preeclampsia. Expect the unexpected and try not to worry about the little things. You can do it! You’re a super mama. 💕 hugs
I totally agree! I had my twins at 31 weeks since I had preeclampsia and they are both healthy and striving. They are currently 4 but will be 5 in the fall. They were my first pregnancy. Having them on a schedule was a LIFE SAVIOR.
Still trying to process the "argument" between Colleen & Erik. But it was almost like they were each having separate arguments! Nonetheless; it still made me laugh!
I originally thought the argument was going to be about the definition of a strawberry shortcake. Because it very much so sounded like that’s what the desert ended up being. And it went in a completely different direction, that I am not disappointed in.
I am a nanny for twins, and have previously nannied for a family with twins and an older sibling. People always say things like “it takes a village”, but people often do not talk about the help that they have; A LOT of families use some sort of full-time or part-time nanny. It is totally fine to need a nanny as part of your village of help! 💖
Twin mom here!! Alllllll of those thoughts are so real. I actually had to mourn when I found out I was having twins, because I knew that it was not going to be like a singleton. It was going to be so much harder. The only twin specific things you’ll need are probably a twin breast friend pillow and a twin z pillow. I bought both and kept the twin z. And obviously a double/triple stroller. I never wore both of my twins at the same time, I always had help so two separate carriers made the most sense. If you can, plan for two extra people to be with you for the first few weeks, if not months. One person to watch Flynn and one person to help you with the twins. ESPECIALLY AT NIGHT. I hardly remember anything that happened the first three months… I was so exhausted. Anticipate that it will take a while to figure out what works best to feed your babies. For me it was pumping and then bottle feeding. HAVE A STRICT SCHEDULE. I’m not sure how strict your schedule/routine was with Flynn, but a schedule saved our lives. Every three hours we would wake up both babies, feed them, change them, put them back down, and then I would pump for the next feeding. If one twin woke up to eat before their sibling, we would also wake up the sibling. You can’t let one eat without the other, then you start having one twin awake all the time and you’ll never get a break! Find your local moms of multiples group and see if they are having in person/virtual meet ups. Find a twin mom Facebook group! Good luck! You’re going to do amazing, you have the perfect demeanor for this and are already a brilliant parent.
Colleen admitted how it makes sense that Erik thought it was a mess, but Erik did not agree to the fact that it was a misunderstanding. Ngl Colleen is in the right, even though other times Erik can be right
Erike: I need a strong boy to help me carry some stuff Flyyn: Let me close this engine and help with u! Cutest this ever 😍 I love this daddy son relationship 🥰
I think Erik interpreted when you said “it’s for you” was referring to the mess and not the dessert. As if you said “I left this mess out for you” instead of what you meant “ I left this dessert out for you”
Colleen’s problem: jumping to conclusions by assuming that just because erik said it sounded good, that he wanted some Erik’s problem: his stubbornness by not considering the probability that Colleen had other intentions for leaving the food out (unwillingness to change the conclusion he had come to) Hehe so I don’t think there is a person who is exactly right or wrong. I just think u both had very different perspectives on why the food was left out. I love though that u guys are able to laugh about what the fight was about and aren’t in like a screaming, yelling match. Love you both!!
I am not a mom of twins, but I do nanny twins and have a good relationship with their mom. I remember her also feeling this way. However, I think that is so so normal. Biggest key is to remember that ur doing great and always ask for help! Crying will be common because u can’t do two things at once but they will be totally fine. It is overwhelming, but you will do incredible. You are a great mom to Flynn and will continue to be.
I totally relate to Colleen during their “argument”. It would make me so mad/makes me mad when people can’t just admit that maybe they were wrong and stubborn
Twin mama here. I was very overwhelmed with idea of raising 2 babies. I spent my whole pregnancy sick, or in pain, or both. I was petrified of the C Section. I ended up on modified bedrest for 4 weeks at the end. I will say that I have anxiety, and I always make things out to be worse than they actually are, which is exactly what happened. The C Section wasn’t nearly as bad as I had made it out to be in my head. Recovery was rough, but manageable, and I was too exhausted to really care anyway. My husband and I tag teamed the nights, I ended up formula feeding due to no milk production, and by a month in we had a routine down that we could do at 3am without even speaking to each other. “Like Clockwork” was our mantra. I had ZERO experience being a parent, I really had no idea how hard it was going to be, but I wouldn’t give up having twins for anything in the world. You’ve got this! You will find ways to make everything work for you! Pack N Plays became my most valuable item for nights, and baby gates everywhere when they became mobile. I would pen them into a circle with toys when I needed to get things done. TONS of burp cloths, and onesies (twins are some serious laundry producers) Make sure you celebrate every moment and milestone, and take lots of pictures because I was too exhausted to remember much, so I’m glad I have those to look back on. I’m rooting for you!
My boyfriend is an identical twin. While I personally can't speak on behalf of having twins myself, my boyfriend's mom always said that she would have breakdowns and panic attacks all the time. She said that while it was overwhelming, she believed that God wouldn't give her twins if she couldn't handle it. Whether it is a deity or the universe, just know that you are strong and can handle it. She also recommends all twin moms ask for help. You are not a failure because you need someone to watch your babies for a couple hours while you take care of yourself. This advice comes from my boyfriend as an identical twin, but make sure you treat each baby as a unique individual.
Colleen I totally understand your concerns and worries about having two newborn babies at the same time. I was the same way and it was really hard but honestly woman are so strong I know you can do this and it’s ok to lean for support and to have metal breakdowns because at the end seeing their little smile will be the most rewarding thing in the world. YOU GOT THIS SUPER WOMAN!!!!
Can you talk about Flynn?? Like where he is in learning, the fun words he says, etc. Also, I think Eric misunderstood what you said Colleen. I think you said "it's for you" when eric asked about the mess, but Eric thought you meant the mess was for him to clean up.
I’m a twin and my mom always talked about how important it was to keep us on the exact same schedule with feeding and sleeping and all that. She breastfed us at the same time, like some kind of superhero. We have a brother just 18 months older than us as well. Wishing you all the best! You can do this!
I know that I was definitely overwhelmed when I girls found out that I was having twins. The first thing I thought about was, "how the hell am I going to breastfeed both of the girls at the same time?" I was 100 lbs. With a very short torso, so I couldn't even drink a sip of water without running out of breath. I had severe pre-eclampsia and renal failure. But you know what? Everything turned out just fine. I had a c section at 35 weeks, my girls were in the nicu for 2 weeks, and the hospital was gracious enough to let me borrow their hospital grade breastfeed pump to take home and use as long as I needed. My advice to you is this, accept help! Help from nurses in the hospital, your husband, your parents, your in laws, friends. I made that mistake of not accepting help, and it made things so much more difficult. My main issue was that I became super protective of my girls. I didn't want anyone to feed or bathe, or dress, or anything else. I felt the same way after my oldest was born too. So please, don't make the same mistake I did. Ask and accept help when whenever you need it. My girls will be 5 next month and are doing great, and so am I. Also, if you do decide to breastfeed both at the same time, although it seems overwhelming now, there will a lactation consultant at the hospital that will guide you through the process. You can do this mama! You got this🥰I hope this helps 🙏 💕
My friend has a baby and she is this protective over her. It’s been a whole year and she hasn’t ever spent anytime away from her. Like not even one day. I love kids and I want to be able to bond with my little niece and play with her and hang out and always offer to help her but she always kindly says no. She hasn’t even left the baby alone with her husband not even one day. I don’t ask because it’s 100% not my business but I wonder if he’s gotten a real chance to bond with the baby. Since you were protective as well, do you have recommendations on what I could do? I’m guessing I’ll just have to wait until the baby is like 30 to be able to bond with her 😂
@@n4musica hey sweetie! Well I would try to spend time with baby with mom around. Show her that you are good with the baby, maybe even ask if you can help with a feeding if the bay is bottle fed. The more that she sees how good you are with the baby, the more she will start to trust you. Because ultimately, we as mothers want to know that our children will be completely safe around someone else. And if she won't let you help with the baby, then maybe ask if you can help around the house. Maybe witb the dishes or laundry. Or even bring her favorite coffee or snack. The more love and consideration that you show to her, the more she will eventually start to trust you with her baby. It will make her feel good, seen, and appreciated during a time wher she might feel very isolated and vulnerable. I hope this helps 🙏 💕
I am a twin, my mum carried my twin sister and I full term (40 weeks) and delivered us naturally. I was 7lbs and my twin was 4lbs. She breast fed us both and my older brother was 5 at the time. Mum said it’s so hard but you just do it, simple as that, you know what needs done and your body just does it. Women and mums are amazing and you will be amazing whichever way you deliver these babies or feed them or whatever, as long as they’re healthy and happy whatever works for YOU is what’s best :)
I wouldn’t. Unless they said it. My husband always gets extra things and says nice things just because he knows I’ll like it, but he wouldn’t have it himself. I think it’s the same with Eric.
I am the oldest and have twin brothers who are now 5 and my mom said that thing that helped her the most was joining facebook groups for twin moms and other twin moms are always happy to help. So I hope that helps in any way!! We love you Colleen❤️❤️
My hubby and I have the same arguments. He doesn’t eat desserts but when I make them he gets upset if I don’t make one for him or leave enough for him. But it’s only once and a while, so now I have to be sure to ask every time just to hear him say “no why wouldn’t want some?!” So frustrating! I hear you!
Watching the argument like, “do they know I’m here??”
Ha ha 😂
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Watching the argument like "Did Colleen eventually get up to clean the mess or was she too busy vlogging about it while we watch Eric behind her CLEANING. LOL #teameric
I'm sitting here like, "MOMMY AND DADDY ARE FIGHTING!!!"
Rachel Cole is a producer for the Try Guys and she's a mama to twin girls. I feel like she would be someone who would have a wealth of knowledge about it, and her twins seem to be very happy and healthy little girls so she's doing something right! I know she did the Baby Steps podcast talking about her experience too and I know the Try Team is LA based so it might be even easier for you to get in touch with her. ❤
I really wish colleen sees this comment and get in touch with Rachel.
girls? has she announced the gender
@@jennyisslay not yet, the twin girls belong to someone else I'm suggesting Colleen get in touch with!
@@ANUJVERMA87 same! she seems to have a good system for the twins just based on the video where Eugene babysat them
Yeah good suggestion she know try guys also she can easily get in touch
When Eric said “I need a strong boy to help me with this stuff” I almost died. And then Flynn “let me close the engine and then I’ll help him” ahhhhh I’m dying. They’re so cute 💕💕
I can see both sides of the “argument” BUT I’m with Colleen because if she never lies about being messy why would she start now? Also the stuff Eric said did make it sound like he wanted to try some of the dessert
That whole discourse was making me soooo nervous like if I I had been a part of that “argument” would’ve make me either cry or agitated 😣
Same
it was the dumbest argument lol 😂 like why didn’t they just let it go
It did make it sound like he wanted the dessert, BUT did he actually come out and say he wanted it? No lol 😆
@@lonelyjokers4 i think I would’ve cried lol
I wasn’t there but I’m 100% sure the convo went:
Eric: “you left a mess!”
Colleen: “yeah, for you!”
*Eric taking it to mean for him to clean up..*
*Colleen meaning for him to make his pastry* 🤣😂
This is exactly how I suspect it went down too. And he heard the “yah for you” as a “your welcome”. Our brains are constantly manipulating us!!! Hahaha
and before, it went
"wouldn't this be good?"eric saying to add the pastries he bought with the dessert to see if *colleen would like it*,
colleen agreeing, but taking it as eric also wanting the dessert.
It’s just one big loop hole
I thought the same exact thing 😂😂
yeah
Colleen and Erik arguing about strawberry whip for 8 minutes straight is hilarious
Living for it
I’m sorry Erik…but I’m with a Colleen on this one. She is willing to admit she’s an untidy person and you having agreed that the dessert would be nice and refreshing would make it sound as though you wanted one too.
okay i have a theory… do you think it’s harder for erik (someone without an internal monologue) to be introspective than someone with one (colleen). or is it a neuro typical vs neuro divergent thing?
@@marie-hm8xt e
ERIK DOESN'T HAVE AN INTERNAL MONOLOGUE!?!?
Right 💀💀💀 erik is probably a taurus with that stubbornness
@@creativeflame_ ummm are y’all new viewers or something!? I love her but Colleen is literally the most stubborn person in the world
@@TaylorBKnits ok he's a libra but he could be a taurus moon idk, but anyways no I'm not a new viewer ive been subscribed since like 2017 I think. Anyways, I'm not denying that colleen isnt stubborn. They literally both are. But he wouldn't even see her pov. And she saw his but didn't understand/agree with it is what it seemed like. Idk man we ain't no marriage therapy 😂 besides it seemed like a minor argument over 🍰 which sound hella good rn
Mum of twins here. They’re 10 now but I remember those early days so well. I have 3 children so I know what a singleton is like too. I can assure you it doesn’t feel like double the work. It’s really only like 50% more work. Yes you’re feeding two babies but you’re up feeding one anyway. You don’t need any special products for twins I promise. There’s only one thing I’d recommend and that’s a large feeding pillow for tandem feeding. If you can feed them at the same time, whether that’s bottle or breast you’ll give yourself a little bit of extra time between feeds. You can do this. The fact you care so much about getting right is a sure sign you’re gonna to be a wonderful mum of 3.
Hope she sees this 🙌🏼
But make sure you aren't alone when you feed them at the same time. My brothers fell asleep on my mom after she fed them so she got stuck in the chair home alone for like 30 min to 1-hour hahaha
Oh I have a solution for that! I put a bouncer on each side of me on the couch. As soon as one stopped feeding I would pop them in the bouncer while the other was feeding still. Then I’d pop the other one in the bouncer and lift each bouncer onto the floor. I only had to do that for a few weeks then I worked out how to stand up while holding one of them up on each shoulder in a burping position.
Erik is a brave man laughing at an “infuriated” pregnant momma during an argument 😂😂
My mom had twins 17 years ago, but she gave the advice of having each parent have a baby their in charge of at night. My dad took my sister if she woke up, and my mom took my brother if he woke up. My mom pumped milk too so if my sister woke up, my dad could feed her without my mom getting up. My mom said this helped both of them get sleep without just one person getting up constantly.
How did they know who was crying?
@@Katie-hw7is When you're a parent, you tend to just know lol also you learn their different cries for different things (hunger, diaper, tired, etc)
oh interesting! but what if one twin wakes up/cries more than the other twin? then wouldn’t the other parent have to work more?
@@treblehearts communication within the parents is key !
@@TdM1019 I am a older sister.when I hear my sister’s cry I KNOW who it is! Belle cry a lot so most of the time it her so you know
Flynn talking about Target was the cutest thing he's a mini Colleen that looks like Erik's identical twin lol
omg u think? i see both of them so much in him! HES ADORABLE
@@isabellabuhler7611 he kinda looks like colleen but Erik more, he also have Erik's personality but colleen's more
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i think his eyes and nose are starting to look like Colleen's! i am the only one who sees it? :D
@@penel25 if u look at colleen’s baby pictures, Flynn looks A LOT like Colleen
Erik & Colleen’s MISCOMMUNICATION recap:
Erik:
bought extra dessert supplies for Colleen’s dessert idea because he thought it would be nice to support her idea. He also provided her with validation that it was a great idea even though he did not want to eat any of the dessert.
Colleen:
Had a great dessert idea that her husband seemed excited for too due to the validation and extra supplies he purchased for it. She was under the impression he wanted some due to his perceived enthusiasm for the idea even though he did not state that he wanted some.
Erik:
since he did not want any he became triggered by the mess of the dessert items being out. Due to him not stating that he wanted dessert, he perceived the items being out as another mess that Colleen left.
Colleen:
despite being usually messy, Colleen assumed Erik’s enthusiasm meant he wanted some dessert too so she left the ingredients out assuming he would want to use them for his own dessert plate.
Overall issue:
just a large miscommunication due to Colleen misinterpreting Erik’s enthusiasm and support for the dessert as him wanting some, as well as Erik not conveying in the first place that he didn’t want any dessert even though he would move heaven and earth to provide Colleen and her twins with dessert ingredients lol.
Lol. You guys are the best and it’s just a miscommunication 💕💕💕💕
Ok but someone answer me. Did. Colleen. Get. Up. To. Clean. Her. Mess. From the fact that she pulled out the camera to vlog about it, while we watch Eric in the background literally cleaning her mess. My guess is no lol.
next time she just needs to fully confirm and be like "do u want me to leave this out for you to make your own?" and they'll be chillin
@@s731s he could’ve said “ can you clean this “ or asked if she was going to get more
This is right on. ❤
@@s731s she’s sick and pregnant lol
“I’m not mad. I’m infuriated.”
-Colleen, 2021
that’s my new line 😂
Yes! Classic Colleen.
I read that right as she said it in the video
I scrolled past this right as it was playing 😂
I want this on a shirt
the title should be "colleen and erik arguing about strawberry cool whip for 8 minutes" 😭
Okay but it’s so entertaining and relatable 🤣🤣🤣
Yess
Lmao my thoughts exactly 😂😂
Hang in there Colleen... beautiful healthy twins . Super Woman/ Mother tadah!!!!
HEY JAN OMG AHAHA
I’m a mama if twins with having a singleton prior. Yes I was TEERRIFED my whole entire pregnancy. There were lots of tears! Yes it’s very hard to care for two babies plus one. But it goes by so fast and you will get through it. I don’t want to scare you but the first few years are the most difficult. But once you past that stage it is so much fun!! My twins are now 18 just graduated high school and are best friends. Trust me I didn’t feel like I was Lucky back then for getting blessed with two babies because when you are in the thick of it is freaking hard. But now I look back and realize how lucky and how blessed I am to be a twin mama! You will get through all of it. Yes you will cry yes it’s incredibly hard but it’s all worth it in the end. Just try to slow down and enjoy it. I didn’t do that and I really wish I did.
My favorite part is Erik not only continues to clean but makes himself an adult beverage just to get through it. Erik and I are the same kind of spouse.
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“Mommy”
“Are you serious, it’s gonna be a long night kids”
Lmao love her 😂
Colleen is a super mom
Yes she is amazing and super strong!!
She is very inspiring 😊
My husband is an identical twin and his mom went almost full term & delivered vaginally. Also, she would breastfeed & pump so her husband could help with the feeding cuz apparently a lot of times they will want to eat at the same time. Just some info from his experience. Can’t wait for Colleens twins!! 🙌🏽💞
If I'm remembering correctly, Colleen had a very good milk supply so hopefully she will not have any problem feeding twins! Pumping after nursing is a great way to get a few extra bottles saved up for those times when one of the twins is on a feeding binge or just when Eric wants to participate in feeding time!
“I’m not mad, I’m infuriated.” 😂 I feel this so deeply
nobody:
me: *eating popcorn and quietly watching colleen and eric argue*
Me: *eating crisps at 3am*
I WAS EATING POPCORN TOO OMG
@@FreakingPlane OMG ITS 3am FOR ME TOOO
@@cameronchurchich3039 😂😂😂😂
I was eating a pop tart
You're in the right... He's just too stubborn to say "yes I understand where you're coming from and why you'd leave the ingredients out". This is the shit my husband and I argue about... HA....
I love LOVE how the arguments Colleen and Eric have are about literal strawberries 😂 STRAWBERRIES oh my gosh it’s so amazing I love them they- it’s amazing 🤣
rightttt
It’s about the cool whip haha
Erik*
@@kadywhite sorryyyyyyy
Only people in a good relationship will laugh while arguing 🤣
I love them! 🍓
Colleen you should’ve pulled the “I’m pregnant with twins” card in mid argument😂
I agree, it doesn't hurt to clean after Colleen one more time during this difficult time
especially if your husband asks you to wash dishes
Right??! Gosh what’s with guys that are neurotic with cleaning??? Chill man and pick up after her she’s a working mama also probably the biggest bread winner too so you better not complain about her leaving the cool whip out.
@@chicpapaya ☝️
Not an excuse to be argumentative. Stop using that as an excuse.
I’m a twin, and my mom said it’s actually easier to have two babies rather than one, she always said that we entertained each other. It can be overwhelming at first, but you’ll figure it out, my mom said she was nervous too, but it gets easier and she had my dad to help out a lot as well ❤️ you’ve got this! You seem like you have a big loving supportive family too!
i feel like colleen has taught us so many things ab women and pregnancy. when she was pregnant with flynn she made sure everyone knew how hard it was so that no woman going through that ever felt alone or unvalidated. i think the same is happening now that she’s having twins - she’s openly talking about a topic that is not discussed enough and empowering and inspiring so many people who might be feeling lost and alone in their own journeys ❤️
Okay so the way Eric said “oh that sounds like a good summer desert” would lead Colleen to think that Eric wanted one for himself, therefore Colleen leaving out the food items so Eric could make one. I believe Colleen in this instance because I would have done the same thing haha
He's probably a little annoyed that she didn't just make him one too since she was already doing it. That's what I would do, and also put everything away after! Lol
Lmao I agree. Anytime someone says its sounds good and all.. NORMALLY would like to have one. Lmao this argument is everything right now🤣
@@idellekell okay what do you want … 1950s woman of the year award?
@@elisecatherine3964 Who pissed in your cheerios this morning? Nothing she said was wrong so chill out, doing something for your husband doesn't make you a "1950s woman" , it makes you kind and thoughtful. You can return to the internet once you get off the rag.
@@elisecatherine3964 uhm.. I'm a single woman, in my 40s with no kids. I work full time and I have a university degree. I'm not at all a "50s housewife" lol omg. I just like to be kind and considerate to people around me, especially when it would virtually take zero extra effort. Maybe you should try it some time, honey 😘
Colleen: “so why do you think I left out the pastries?”
Erik: “Because that’s just how you roll…”
Colleen: *looks into the camera like she’s in The Office*
😂
This argument went for so long because both sides feel misunderstood. It’s not about the strawberries or leaving the mess out.
He’s upset because he feels she doesn’t know him better, and assumed based on something he didn’t say. She read between the lines and interpreted his statements to be alluding to want some dessert instead of him asking directly. She thought she was being considerate, but he thought she was being inconsiderate by leaving it out. I think he wants her to clean up more (since he does most the cleaning) and having a normal human moment, and probably being tired, this was the straw that broke the camel’s back and caused an argument.
She’s mad because he doesn’t believe her intentions and thinks she’s lying. So the undercurrents are much more serious than strawberries left out. That’s why she would not drop it. She wanted him to acknowledge her consideration of him and believe her that she did it because she was trying to be nice to him. And then she was surprised when he was upset.
This is all normal. And healthy. I hope they communicated their true needs and resolved it, or decided to just drop it, and try to communicate better next time.
ooo that gave me and idea for Colleen. She should've got up right away when he said he didn't believe her and just start cleaning it up. I think maybe he would've believed her intentions more.
@@Liqhtupmyworld no. he knew her intentions. she made it clear. his logic made zero sense. he was just arguing in circles instead of admitting he was wrong. who just leaves a mess for someone to clean as a "gift"?? nonsense, bro. just say something like 'nah. I'm good. you can go ahead and put it all away. thanks for thinking of me, but you forgot I don't like sweets.'
Oh, hell no. Lol if someone misinterpret’s my intentions, I will not tweak my intention to align with their perception.
(Not necessarily in this situation, but others, that’s how people start to manipulate. But that’s just my personal experience)😬.
You broke that down perfectly!
Very well written
POV: You're not a twin mom, maybe not even a mom at all, but you still want to help Colleen in any way you can
Literally meeee
I’m 11 I just like watching lol
Of course!
Literally me 😆 I’m only 13
Accurate!
I am a twin. My mom said that it was really difficult taking care of two babies, but she did it. She made through everything even though the birth had some complications. She took care of us every single day nonstop. AND YOU CAN TOO. I am now 13 and so proud of her.
You did that interview with Mama Doctor Jones... she has twins & also being a OB/Gyn- she probably has great advice from both prospectives!
Moms of twins support group on Facebook
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This is SUCH a married with kids type of disagreement lmao. I can’t. Erik*. EAT THE DESSERT 😂😂
Erik* just so people won't annoy you ♥️
haha
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I'm a mom of twins! I had no children prior, so this was a BIG step into parenting! My husband was home with me 2 weeks while I adjusted to breastfeeding with a twin boppy pillow. Admittedly I felt like a COW nursing every 2 hours and I was exhausted but I did it one moment at a time. Every coo, every yawn, every sigh they made, made it 100% worth it!! You and Eric will get through it and you'll all be so blessed by these sweet babies you're having. Yes you'll get big but you'll be all baby! Don't worry about the weight. You got this!!💚💚
Cool whip and strawberry opinion: Colleen's right, she left it out for Erik. 😄 Though I also think it was miscommunication since he didn't want any. At first he was just laughing at the mess being larger than cool whip (I think he was earnest about that), but his pride and finding your reaction funny made him not wanna relent and say you were right. It was an endearing argument!
Eric opening the door and yelling for help carrying bags in was the most dad thing I've ever seen he's a pro lol
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Has anyone else realized how much erik is getting used to the camera? I love it
YES OMG I LOVE IT SO MUCH,HE USED TO NOT WANNA BE ON AT ALL AND NOW WERE ARGUING AB DESSERTS
My man Erik missing the cardinal rule of debating with a pregnant wife: agree with everything she says 😂
Thank you I agree 100%
I came to say this. 😂
Lmao you've got it figured out 😂
😭😭 Erik is like: “I didn’t want any”
Colleen:
“But you said you did that’s why I left it out!”
Erik:
“No I didn’t!!”
Colleen and Erik going back and fourth for 8 minutes about strawberry whip for 8 minutes straight
I am a twin, and my brothers are twins. 2 sets of twins, 7 years apart. My mom didn't breastfeed any of us and we all turned out fine lol. My sister and I are obviously close and we have the same friends but we do argue and it's normal. My brothers do not get along at all, basically two different people; but that's normal too. My mom also had two c-sections and we were all born early because of health issues.
Sorry Erik but I’m with Colleen in this argument. She admitted that she often leaves stuff put and doesn’t clean up after her self but int his situation she specifically left it out so you could have some. I didn’t see what happened so idk who was right about the conversations that happened about it big yah I’m gonna have to agree with Colleen on this one 😂
From one twin momma to another- having a good partner and strong communication are SO important. Letting them know when you need some me time and being able to step away without feeling that mom guilt. Tag teaming overnight, I was strictly pumping so we gave bottles and that did help because my husband could feed one while I fed one and this helped us to both get a little more sleep. You and Eric are going to be great at this, and Flynn is going to be such a cool big brother to have! 💕
I’m gonna be honest, I don’t really care who’s right or wrong lol, I just want some strawberries and whipped cream now.😅
You wanted him to understand your INTENT, thats something I relate to so much in my relationship. Intent matters. Everyone wants understanding for their intent.
It’s funny how Colleen and Erik’s argument is about strawberries and just keeps going in circles for 8 minutes!😂
They argue about the funniest of things.
And I am watching it over and over again laughing
That's what living with someone outside of blood relatives is like 😂
@@amnahammad6905 Yes it makes me laugh so hard
I love the part where she’s like “I need to get up, here’s me getting up” cuz that’s a classic case of ADHD paralysis which I deal with daily lmao
Saaaame. I'm either completely paralyzed or unable to stop moving, there is no in between 😂
YUP HAHA ME
Yup
@@casperfl that is so true-
The “argument” you two have is the quintessential back & forth of a happy couple, my husband & I are in the middle of one of these “I said” “no you said” discussions right now-it’s the knitty gritty of living with & loving the same person for forever-all a great relationship really is is talking about what to eat with the same person for the rest of time❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰
I’m a twin. My mom often talks about how she had to feed me and my brother at the same time or else she would never have slept. So stick to feeding them at once even though it can be hard and difficult!
We also slept in the same bed for a long time - because it kept us close and we would sleep at the same time.
same we shared a crib when we were young. Until i grew hair and he woke up every night crying cause it was in his face 😂
Twin momma here! Join some twin mom groups on facebook, they were so amazing during pregnancy and after for all my concerns and also good products to buy etc. When I was pregnant I was also super overwhelmed, I think all twin moms go through that, its such an amazing blessing but it is hard work! I'm not going to sugar coat it, it is rough at the start. My advice is get as much help as you can. Someone to clean your house, someone to look after Flynn, anything that makes life easier for you, you should do! You are lucky you seem to have an amazing support system around you to help. Products specifically for twins, mainly places to put them that are safe, boppy loungers, swings, bouncers. You need them in most rooms so there is a safe place to set them down. Good luck! You got this!
I don't think Colleen realizes how much I, and hopefully thousands of other people appreciate the precautions she's taken during quarantine. So many people did not take covid serious enough during the pandemic which led to the suffering of millions of people.
Thank you so much, Colleen.
My grandma had three sets of twins & had the first two sets very close together in her early twenties. She was so scared and nervous on how to take care of four boys at once that she had to take my grandpa on a week vacation like a month after having them. She took the time to calm down and think things over and came back and was a fantastic mother and grandmother. It's okay to be scared and nervous. You're doing the best you can and I'm sure you will be as fantastic raising your twins as you are raising Flynn
Your grandma is a superhero 💖😆
I have twins, it’s a lot, but you find a groove. I was fully stressed that I had no idea what I was doing. The only thing you NEED two of is: car seats, safe sleep spaces. What was useful to me was having a safe spot to put them down as well, and baby carriers. My twins did come early and that was quite traumatic but they’re 16 months now and we’re doing alright, I honestly miss those newborn days toddlers running in opposite directions always is way more challenging in my experience.
Maybe it is time to do a collab with MamaDoctorJones again. She had twins I believe in residency so she might have a helpful perspective.
Yes perfect!!
While they were “fighting” the twins be like: 👁👄👁
No they were like:
👁👄👁 👁👄👁
They might of been like
Baby A: mommy is not lieing
Baby B: no daddy is not lieing
They were like:
👁👄👁🍿
👁👄👁🍿
lmao
Twins be like:
👁👄👁 👁👄👁umm chileee anyways back to eating the desert
I think Colleen is right in that argument and it makes me feel frustrated that Erik won’t believe her hahaha I know they aren’t fighting fighting but still Erik doesn’t need to say he doesn’t believe her
They fight passively-aggressively, dont be misled that they’re nervous laughing, a fight like this is actually concerning
For twin mom advice! Rachelle Swannie is a mom on TH-cam who had twin boys a year or two ago. You should contact her! She would probably give great advice on what to buy for twins. She also has a daughter who is older then the twins so she may have be able to tell you about how the dynamic changed once the twins were born. Ease some of your fears!
Yes!
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He is laughing because something he would otherwise perceive as a ‘mess’ was a gesture he had the opportunity to appreciate. The irony is his sense of humour. Any chance for something to be ironic is a chance to laugh. But Colleens expression of love is service and she created something as a chance to share an experience.
You are literally the only person who has said the things I’m feeling to a T. You’re due the day after me so we’re at the same point in our pregnancy and we both have toddlers so I feel like I relate to you a lot. It’s really nice to hear that there’s someone else feeling the exact same way I am
I love how they can have a disagreement without it turning into them screaming and getting mad at eachother. And that’s on healthy relationships 🥺❤️
yeah, i was the one getting stressed HAHAHAHAHAHH
Reconnect with Mama Dr Jones. Shes a twin mama AND a traveling working mama. She just moved her family to Hawaii. I'm sure she can give you great comfort and advice.
I am a triplet and my mom always tells stories about relying on the support of family and teamwork. There are stressful moments but the love and happiness you will feel will overpower the stress. You got this!!!
My twin sister and I were 9 minutes apart and my mom didn’t have a c-section. We were a month early and we are 18 now and we had a great childhood and everything. We have a little brother who my mom had when we were almost three, which was definitely challenging for her but she is happy she had us all when she did. My mom now delivers babies and teaches a breast feeding class if you have any questions I can ask her for you. You are going to be amazing, your last pregnancy and this one have been such a struggle for you but it just shows how incredibly strong you are, I’m so excited for you!
Same with my mom me and my sister were 8 minutes apart
great reply...colleen needs to realize that the first year or two is just a Blip on the Radar of Life. sure it will be a full time job for several months but in the grand scheme of things it will be the last time that she does this and the feeding only lasts a few months as babies start on solids before they are a year and the breast feeding then is not as demanding as the first few months. they get easier as they get older and hearing your story is really nice.
TH-camr Jordan Paige has a “twins must-haves” video of recommended twin products and a twins pregnancy q&a you might find helpful, in her must-haves video she is even breastfeeding both babies at the same time which seems miraculous but shows it is possible for some. Also the Chatwins on youtube have many day-in-the-life videos showing how they feed or bathe their triplets at the same time and so on. I would totally be intimidated as well but nice to know there are other mom’s of multiples out there. Also be easy on yourself and your work expectations, knowing you realistically won’t be able to work much in first little while and may need to take a few months away from TH-cam to focus on your family.
Love Jordan Paige!
Yeah, Jordan Page is a great person to get feedback from, she now has 8 kids, so it might help Colleen.
this argument is so funny cuz it’s exactly what me and my boyfriend do while laughing about it the whole time. colleens cackles throughout it were making me laugh so hard 😂
Laughing because they know its silly. Super cute. 😂😂❤
Sorry I'm with Colleen here.
"Oh that sounds delicious" suggests to me that you want tomhavw some as well. Unless you state "Oh that sounds delicious for you but I won't eat any tonight!"
My dad is a doctor and he says that with moms of twins, the breastfeeding just involves more pumping, so you and the dad can feed the babies at the same time :) It's gonna be ok, I just think Erik is gonna be even more involved on this one.
it makes me sad that Colleen apologizes so much over being overwhelmed or tired. U have every right to be!!! ❤️❤️
I hope you do another collab with mama doctor Jones!! She’s a twin mama too
@Speak Good stop
I was thinking she need to talk to her
Unfortunately MDJ is on hiatus from TH-cam right now. Hopefully she'll come back before Colleen's twins are born!
@@Hallmark44 even after!!
@@janafuller6174 I wish we could see them meet in person. A Pax and Flynn meet up would be OFF THE CHARTS adorable
You also need Salt. You can drink water all day and still be dehydrated because you didn't have enough salt to absorb the water. That's why Gatorade and powerade have salt in them. Hope you feel better momma!
IVs are bags of saline with some meds inside. There is plenty of sodium (salt) in them.
I think she means outside of the IV since Colleen mentioned having been dehydrated beforehand despite drinking lots of water. :)
@@beckybarrow7993 right which is why she feels better when she gets them. When she's not doing the IVs maybe she's not getting enough sodium.
i’m a twin and the best advice is to take all the help you can get, i know it might seem like a lot but it’s gonna be hard, but you’ll get through it if you have people even your parents helping you, and maybe a few hours a week someone can watch flynn so he is still having fun!! the biggest thing for the flynn part is to include him in helping with the babies- he then won’t feel excluded, but he also will feel like an awesome big brother and a big help!
Twin mama here! 🙌🏻 to be quite honest I don’t remember a whole lot of the first year because it was so chaotic 🤣 work together. Let your family help. Neither of you will sleep. 🤦🏼♀️ My breast pump was my best friend! We had to supplement with formula also because ours were born super preemie so we also loved the Baby Brezza for late night feedings. Honestly, the biggest thing that will be your saving grace is your family. We don’t have any family living within 3 hours of us and have had virtually no help so it’s been really difficult for us.
My biggest piece of advice is to keep them both on the same schedule. If one eats, feed the other if they’re hungry or not!
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My father in law said my husband's stepmom doesn't remember the first two years of her twins' lives because she was so tired
Colleen I am a twin Mom and I had a little one already before I had my twins. The coolest thing is watching how they are growing up to be each others best friend. First of all YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! Now please understand this is how it went for me, I am not saying it's the same for everyone. I had my twins at 37 weeks. I had gone into labour at 35 weeks and was put on bedrest for two weeks. They wanted the babies to get to at least 37 weeks. I went into labour naturally and had both babies naturally. The first was a regular delivery the second one was a frank breech but the first made the room for delivery. As far as feeding them, ask the lactation nurse to teach you to feed using the football hold. This way that are bring fed at the same time and you don't feel like you are feeding forever. Now instead of me going on and on, please feel free to reach out and I will try and help anyways I can.
I’m team Colleen. This argument speaks to my soul! He’s being stubborn. Everyone wants to feel understood and seen. It’s not hard to admit there was a misunderstanding. But you handled it with aplomb bc I would have been in tears of fury, lol. I’m also the person who will BEAT YOU DOWN with my words until you see my side. For hours, if necessary lol
Omg same and people say I’m being dramatic I thought I was the only one 😂
Twin mama here! It was very scary and the closer we got to delivery, the scarier it got. Biggest advice is keep them on the same schedule as much as you can!!! If you wake up one, wake up both. We formula fed because that’s what worked for US! Do what is best for you! We loved the TwinZPillow! It was so easy for feeding. I delivered 37.2 with csection due to preeclampsia. Expect the unexpected and try not to worry about the little things. You can do it! You’re a super mama. 💕 hugs
I totally agree! I had my twins at 31 weeks since I had preeclampsia and they are both healthy and striving. They are currently 4 but will be 5 in the fall. They were my first pregnancy. Having them on a schedule was a LIFE SAVIOR.
Am I the only person who I’ve been watching her all quarantine I can’t wait for these babies
I’ve been watching her since she was pregnant with Flynn!
Definitly not. I am SUPER exsited. P.S. Can you please post again I like you vids
I've been watching her for 4 years😂😂
MHM! remember when she made bread everyday LOL
Sammmeeeee
Still trying to process the "argument" between Colleen & Erik. But it was almost like they were each having separate arguments! Nonetheless; it still made me laugh!
I originally thought the argument was going to be about the definition of a strawberry shortcake. Because it very much so sounded like that’s what the desert ended up being. And it went in a completely different direction, that I am not disappointed in.
Lets just appreciate how Colleen is such a good mom! With a son and two more babies on the way! Stay strong Colleen!
@Speak Good Can you please stop?
YESS!!
I am a nanny for twins, and have previously nannied for a family with twins and an older sibling. People always say things like “it takes a village”, but people often do not talk about the help that they have; A LOT of families use some sort of full-time or part-time nanny. It is totally fine to need a nanny as part of your village of help! 💖
Twin mom here!!
Alllllll of those thoughts are so real. I actually had to mourn when I found out I was having twins, because I knew that it was not going to be like a singleton. It was going to be so much harder.
The only twin specific things you’ll need are probably a twin breast friend pillow and a twin z pillow. I bought both and kept the twin z. And obviously a double/triple stroller. I never wore both of my twins at the same time, I always had help so two separate carriers made the most sense.
If you can, plan for two extra people to be with you for the first few weeks, if not months. One person to watch Flynn and one person to help you with the twins. ESPECIALLY AT NIGHT. I hardly remember anything that happened the first three months… I was so exhausted.
Anticipate that it will take a while to figure out what works best to feed your babies. For me it was pumping and then bottle feeding.
HAVE A STRICT SCHEDULE. I’m not sure how strict your schedule/routine was with Flynn, but a schedule saved our lives. Every three hours we would wake up both babies, feed them, change them, put them back down, and then I would pump for the next feeding. If one twin woke up to eat before their sibling, we would also wake up the sibling. You can’t let one eat without the other, then you start having one twin awake all the time and you’ll never get a break!
Find your local moms of multiples group and see if they are having in person/virtual meet ups. Find a twin mom Facebook group! Good luck! You’re going to do amazing, you have the perfect demeanor for this and are already a brilliant parent.
Colleen admitted how it makes sense that Erik thought it was a mess, but Erik did not agree to the fact that it was a misunderstanding. Ngl Colleen is in the right, even though other times Erik can be right
Erike: I need a strong boy to help me carry some stuff
Flyyn: Let me close this engine and help with u! Cutest this ever 😍 I love this daddy son relationship 🥰
I think Erik interpreted when you said “it’s for you” was referring to the mess and not the dessert. As if you said “I left this mess out for you” instead of what you meant “ I left this dessert out for you”
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Yess exactly I feel like this argument was a miscommunication
Colleen’s problem: jumping to conclusions by assuming that just because erik said it sounded good, that he wanted some
Erik’s problem: his stubbornness by not considering the probability that Colleen had other intentions for leaving the food out (unwillingness to change the conclusion he had come to)
Hehe so I don’t think there is a person who is exactly right or wrong. I just think u both had very different perspectives on why the food was left out. I love though that u guys are able to laugh about what the fight was about and aren’t in like a screaming, yelling match. Love you both!!
@@Octobris thank youu :)
I am not a mom of twins, but I do nanny twins and have a good relationship with their mom. I remember her also feeling this way. However, I think that is so so normal. Biggest key is to remember that ur doing great and always ask for help! Crying will be common because u can’t do two things at once but they will be totally fine. It is overwhelming, but you will do incredible. You are a great mom to Flynn and will continue to be.
I totally relate to Colleen during their “argument”. It would make me so mad/makes me mad when people can’t just admit that maybe they were wrong and stubborn
this is a random thing that made me believe in humanity but you spelt Zach's name correctly in your username. how i've wished for that to become true
@@aida8207 ah thank you
Twin mama here. I was very overwhelmed with idea of raising 2 babies. I spent my whole pregnancy sick, or in pain, or both. I was petrified of the C Section. I ended up on modified bedrest for 4 weeks at the end. I will say that I have anxiety, and I always make things out to be worse than they actually are, which is exactly what happened. The C Section wasn’t nearly as bad as I had made it out to be in my head. Recovery was rough, but manageable, and I was too exhausted to really care anyway. My husband and I tag teamed the nights, I ended up formula feeding due to no milk production, and by a month in we had a routine down that we could do at 3am without even speaking to each other. “Like Clockwork” was our mantra.
I had ZERO experience being a parent, I really had no idea how hard it was going to be, but I wouldn’t give up having twins for anything in the world. You’ve got this! You will find ways to make everything work for you! Pack N Plays became my most valuable item for nights, and baby gates everywhere when they became mobile. I would pen them into a circle with toys when I needed to get things done. TONS of burp cloths, and onesies (twins are some serious laundry producers)
Make sure you celebrate every moment and milestone, and take lots of pictures because I was too exhausted to remember much, so I’m glad I have those to look back on. I’m rooting for you!
My boyfriend is an identical twin. While I personally can't speak on behalf of having twins myself, my boyfriend's mom always said that she would have breakdowns and panic attacks all the time. She said that while it was overwhelming, she believed that God wouldn't give her twins if she couldn't handle it. Whether it is a deity or the universe, just know that you are strong and can handle it. She also recommends all twin moms ask for help. You are not a failure because you need someone to watch your babies for a couple hours while you take care of yourself. This advice comes from my boyfriend as an identical twin, but make sure you treat each baby as a unique individual.
Flynn is so freaking smart, I’m constantly so amazed by him!
Colleen: * posts a video about needing twin moms’ help *
Everyone who’s not a twin mom: *watches *
Colleen I totally understand your concerns and worries about having two newborn babies at the same time. I was the same way and it was really hard but honestly woman are so strong I know you can do this and it’s ok to lean for support and to have metal breakdowns because at the end seeing their little smile will be the most rewarding thing in the world. YOU GOT THIS SUPER WOMAN!!!!
Note to Eric: if a lady pregnant with twins says something happened, don't even try and argue with her! She is right whether you think so or not!!!
Can you talk about Flynn?? Like where he is in learning, the fun words he says, etc.
Also, I think Eric misunderstood what you said Colleen. I think you said "it's for you" when eric asked about the mess, but Eric thought you meant the mess was for him to clean up.
how does his brain work that he would interpret it like that, tho?
I just love hearing his sweet little voice! Love his conversations! 😍
I’m a twin and my mom always talked about how important it was to keep us on the exact same schedule with feeding and sleeping and all that. She breastfed us at the same time, like some kind of superhero. We have a brother just 18 months older than us as well. Wishing you all the best! You can do this!
I know that I was definitely overwhelmed when I girls found out that I was having twins. The first thing I thought about was, "how the hell am I going to breastfeed both of the girls at the same time?" I was 100 lbs. With a very short torso, so I couldn't even drink a sip of water without running out of breath. I had severe pre-eclampsia and renal failure. But you know what? Everything turned out just fine. I had a c section at 35 weeks, my girls were in the nicu for 2 weeks, and the hospital was gracious enough to let me borrow their hospital grade breastfeed pump to take home and use as long as I needed. My advice to you is this, accept help! Help from nurses in the hospital, your husband, your parents, your in laws, friends. I made that mistake of not accepting help, and it made things so much more difficult. My main issue was that I became super protective of my girls. I didn't want anyone to feed or bathe, or dress, or anything else. I felt the same way after my oldest was born too. So please, don't make the same mistake I did. Ask and accept help when whenever you need it. My girls will be 5 next month and are doing great, and so am I. Also, if you do decide to breastfeed both at the same time, although it seems overwhelming now, there will a lactation consultant at the hospital that will guide you through the process. You can do this mama! You got this🥰I hope this helps 🙏 💕
I hope she sees this 🙌🏼🙌🏼
My friend has a baby and she is this protective over her. It’s been a whole year and she hasn’t ever spent anytime away from her. Like not even one day. I love kids and I want to be able to bond with my little niece and play with her and hang out and always offer to help her but she always kindly says no. She hasn’t even left the baby alone with her husband not even one day. I don’t ask because it’s 100% not my business but I wonder if he’s gotten a real chance to bond with the baby. Since you were protective as well, do you have recommendations on what I could do? I’m guessing I’ll just have to wait until the baby is like 30 to be able to bond with her 😂
@@n4musica hey sweetie! Well I would try to spend time with baby with mom around. Show her that you are good with the baby, maybe even ask if you can help with a feeding if the bay is bottle fed. The more that she sees how good you are with the baby, the more she will start to trust you. Because ultimately, we as mothers want to know that our children will be completely safe around someone else. And if she won't let you help with the baby, then maybe ask if you can help around the house. Maybe witb the dishes or laundry. Or even bring her favorite coffee or snack. The more love and consideration that you show to her, the more she will eventually start to trust you with her baby. It will make her feel good, seen, and appreciated during a time wher she might feel very isolated and vulnerable. I hope this helps 🙏 💕
@@balerierivera117 Thanks for the advice!!!! I’ll definitely try more. I know it’s gotta be hard!
I am a twin, my mum carried my twin sister and I full term (40 weeks) and delivered us naturally. I was 7lbs and my twin was 4lbs. She breast fed us both and my older brother was 5 at the time. Mum said it’s so hard but you just do it, simple as that, you know what needs done and your body just does it. Women and mums are amazing and you will be amazing whichever way you deliver these babies or feed them or whatever, as long as they’re healthy and happy whatever works for YOU is what’s best :)
If someone says, “that sounds good!” AND buys additional ingredients, I would assume they’re going to eat it as well
I wouldn’t. Unless they said it. My husband always gets extra things and says nice things just because he knows I’ll like it, but he wouldn’t have it himself. I think it’s the same with Eric.
I am the oldest and have twin brothers who are now 5 and my mom said that thing that helped her the most was joining facebook groups for twin moms and other twin moms are always happy to help. So I hope that helps in any way!! We love you Colleen❤️❤️
Colleen, please just remember how powerful you and all women are. You also have Erik to help out. You're going to be such a great mom
My hubby and I have the same arguments. He doesn’t eat desserts but when I make them he gets upset if I don’t make one for him or leave enough for him. But it’s only once and a while, so now I have to be sure to ask every time just to hear him say “no why wouldn’t want some?!” So frustrating! I hear you!
Omg are all guys like this? 😂 this reminds me of my dad with my mom 😅
Lol my hubby does that too when I get sweets and finish them all "You didn't leave me any?" and I say "I-I didn't know you wanted any..." LOL.
The argument about food was hilarious 😂 I have never heard people argue about food!