One Thing Narcissist Regrets After Cheating On You
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ส.ค. 2024
- Betrayal Trauma After Narcissistic Abuse:
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00:00 introduction
00:46 Workshop announcement
01:19 Narcissists love to have many sources of supply
02:38 How do I know this ?
03:30 Why is it EVIL ?
04:14 They enjoy the thrill !
05:50 If a Narcissist can, He will !
Betrayal Trauma After Narcissistic Abuse:
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After learning about narcissism since two years, I am sure my ex husband is not only a malign narcissist , he also has massive psychopathic parts and sadistic behaviour and only a bit of macchiavellism.
They just regret that you escape and survive without them.
narcissists will feel actual "regret" when they lose some benefit that they can't get anywhere else. the other "regret" they will feel is if they weren't able to destroy you, mentally, financially and/or thru physical sickness. the "regret" magnifies when you are able to succeed and heal after leaving them.
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Yes yes & yes and that's what happened🎉!!
Cheers from Newfoundland
Narcissists may not truly regret their harmful actions, but rather regret getting exposed, caught, or facing consequences, while still shifting blame or justifying their behavior..
Yup, shame avoidant folks are dangerous AF. In effect public shaming can help them heal. However, if they have ASPD on board as well, they can and will get dangerous when exposed.
Not getting caught still gets the worse KARMA. The FAKE IMAGE and MASK also get EXPOSED for what it is a SMALL SHALLOW EXISTENCE that serves NO PURPOSES to this planet or humanity.
@arsenelupiniii8040 The REAL QUESTION is how DANGEROUS can the "victim" be to the NARCISSISTS????
True they don’t REGRET and don’t value you
The thrill of not getting caught = the thrill of WINNING! as they see winning
A cunning wolf...a monster..a nasty predator 😡
Totally agree
How evil that they use our loyalty against us!😔
And your biggest fears, that is why they will get you to "open up" they aren't being compassionate, they are gathering ammo for later.
Mine had the 4 traits …. He is pure evil !!! The more I find out about him and what he did the more I run to god . Never want to experience that evil again . Praise god Amen 🙏
It didn't hurt me because I didn't share the room with him as soon as I found out the coward is a narcissis. My health is important to me. If he got another supply, I don't care. I will thank his other supply for taking over. Good luck to her.
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@@jennydesu2544I would not look at it like that pray for every person that crosses the narc's path that God give them divine protection! That's evil thinking someone could before you may have said same
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Not nice I wouldn't want this to happen to anyone else God forbid... See other comment too, rethink 😮😢❤
When they cheat it will be exposed. What is done in the dark will come to the light. It is called KARMA.
A heartless succubus. I used to live this person, but after all the truths came oozing out, I realized that even after 15 years, I couldn't have loved them, because they weren't the person who I thought they were. Great tricksters they are. I regret that I ever met them. I wasted so much energy and time and I don't really have much left to even imagine trying to get back what I lost.
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No need to be unkind to yourself.
I hear your story. Had you not the strength and courage to speak up many more would suffer or die going forward never knowing what them. It happened to me..
The evil force in the narrsissiist is no small power . You did good. Thanks
@@Diamondjane54 Thank you!💓
True. They are also great teachers. I have learned more about how to love and protect my heart from the narc than any other experience. As much as I hated going through it…if I had not…I would continue to choose the same partner over and over again until I learn that not all people have the same heart as I do. And that was a painful, but priceless lesson. ❤
I was aware about my Ex’s affair with his colleague years before I confronted him. During that time, I did witness his ego inflating each time he told me he would be away on work trips when I knew he was going on holiday with her. He would make me pack his bag of casual clothes, claiming it’s an ‘unofficial’ event, make our daughter do his manicure and pedicure, tweeze his brows and the grey strands on his moustache… with an evil smug on his face. The sadistic thrill of having made a fool of us. After I confronted him, he packed his own bag and got his grooming done outside.
That was what I thought, that he just was mad that he couldn't keep getting away with it because I am no longer his to deceive.
Mine when exposed told me " you are too smart for your own good". That was my "best friend" for over ten years. My partner.
Everything about a narcissist is true humanity inverted. Good vs Evil. Narcissists reside in a totally different reality. However, they are the ones who need true humanity to exist. This is not the case for true humanity. True humanity thrives without the narcissist.
I have often wondered what their existence would be like if all they had was each other on an island…Hey. That is called prison.
I’m saving ur statement! It’s very well said & so true! Thank u!👍🏽
@@kerrytaggart8206 Narcissists are parasites. Parasites, whether or not they are aware that once they kill the host or the host escapes, they will be obliged to feed off of each other; in short extinction.
Once again, you are spot on Danish.... and for me it helps so much to have 'words said' that explain the awful things I endured and simply did not understand. 30+ years gone, wasted on a man who didn't care one tiny bit. But I'm free now!!! Somewhat damaged, a little worse for where, but I have my Peace back. And that's more valuable than anything else. Peace and Freedom! So again I thank you from the deepest part of my heart for the words you speak that gives me/us clarity. Many many thanks Danish 💖
40 years for me. The peace and contentment, I have now. It's priceless. Freedom for sure!
A woman married a narrsissiist in 1991.
She had a humble beginning. Her 1st marriage went sour. In the end she married her boss, my X father-in-law .
His allure was his wealth. She was overjoyed with the gifts lavished upon her by her spouse. In 1991 she became ill & by 2021 she died. Each year her illness was progressively worse. Although she traveled the planet searching no doctor could find a cause of her illness.
She married a narrsissiist.
The moral of the story?
Beware of narrsissiists bearing gifts. Like the Trojan horse a "Foes’ gifts are no gifts". The preceived generosity of the giver may be obscuring more than you bargain for ✌.
Same thing happened to my Aunt but her narc was no rich prince.
Yep. Being with a narcissist will cause autoimmune diseases you didn't even know existed.
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It grieves me to know your loss, but you are alive.
I'm telling Sharon's story. Someone had to remember her. I married her husband's son. The apple doesn't fall from tree. He is a religious man,so he says, but it's not true. I never knew what hit me in 23 years of marriage stress, illness, & accidents that were never part of my m.o. prior to our relationship were on every turn.
Hatred killed Sharon. I called her husband out and he curses me to this day in return I bless him. Last week mediation to disburse our marital assets took place. In 10 days I will be free of this horror show. I was the lucky one I got away. Take care of yourself & warn everyone you know of the real dangers of a narcissist.
Thanks for your ear.
it's God's grace that I am alive today.
They only regret you finding out the cheating🙄
Absolutely, this is sad but it’s the truth.
That’s is all
They are just so darned happy to have fresh supply that they are like a kid on Christmas morning. Been through this and never saw the discard coming. Since then, I just call out Narcy behavior and the Flying monkies. as a result I have zero friends, I guess I cleaned house! Internal locus of control is the only healthy way to be.
Evil at its finest
Once they get caught & u kno longer give a damn who they're with and u no longer want them intimately, the thrill is gone for the narcissist
They regret being caught but they openly show off and abuse you before that... Leave and never look back...
Exactly what u said , that is the cause why they do what they do, the thrill, and no moral compass , in a nutshell!
Yeah they like to have power over people. But they also do dirty revenge. (For example if you critizise them and so on). And they live in a moment - they don´t think about anything. (They just do it when they want to... - whether it is with finances, gaming, women ...). And yeah they have no moral and no conscience.
Or just break your things. I’ve had two separate incidents of the narc throwing a temper tantrum because I found his fake insta account that followed over 100 Onlyfans accounts. Over a 350$/mo habit. He was also sending them gifts and clothing to wear for him. Talk about an ego boost. Yet…he trashed my kitchen. Punched a hole in the pantry door, broke the dishwasher, a crockpot, the television…luckily I wasn’t home when it happened. But when I got home and saw all the destruction….i knew the account HAD to be his. Otherwise….why all the anger!? Because I asked him about the account? Idk..
@@kim_possible1974 If they get in rage yeah the throw and break things. But they never take accountibility. I am sorry for everyone who experiences that. Really I am. They are like small children who throw the play figures around if they are losing in a game...
To be truthful to once self mr Bashir they don't really regret anything they only miss using you 😢😢😢 soulless individuals
He was thanking I was gonna beg chase and call and text him never evil heartless I was not going to give him any Satisfaction seeing me or hearing crying 😭 or being upset 😠 never 👎Self- love ❤️
My new 2 year relationship, I bought a home with him and 2 months later, without any warning, he discarded me. I was shocked, confused, sad, angry, and said as much. He said sheepishly, “I’m sure you are. I just couldn’t tell you”. A counselor thought it was strong to do such a thing! A nightmare. Once when he went now alone to his grandchildren ( dear loves who knew me now for 2 years)I I asked baffled did no one ask about me. He actually did his best to hide his smile as he shoot his head No. So gross and creepy. it did however help me get going it was like heroine to him to watch me suffer.
Counsellors who have never experienced narcissistic abuse and have been throughly trained should not be counselling victims. Sounds like the people you went to seek help actually abused you more. Validation and loving support and guidance is key to surviving these demon possessed people.
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It's that snarl on the narrsissiists face twisted in a beguiling smile that convinced me he was of the devil. Never , not even Hollywood have I seen such present danger on a person's face. 2day a look like that IDs the narrsissiist in an instant. Living by God's grace 1 day at a time.
I always told my narc husband that his ex wife is wise escaping him and moving 500 miles away.... I was just unlucky to meet him .... then he would tell me "you wish, that woman begged me to go back to her 😂😂😂"....... so this explains it ....
They sound like aliens living in another dimension 😮
They regret getting caught 😉 so they practise getting more and more covert
You hit a nail on its head every time. I experience the betrayal of the person I trust and respect, who did it to me why she is right next to me and make feel she is my best friend.
Danish your wisdom and insight into this evil phenomenon is simply amazing... even for those who have suffered a narcissist for decades your analysis brings immediate and complete clarity on various issues.
I saw through his lies. I found it funny he kept mentioning dating app over and over again. It told me that was were they met
They regret not being any more perfect than they already are! They regret the sick sadistic little house game they play, got exposed.
And weaponized projection. Mine after getting caught said "Thanks for playing house with me for ten years" Disregarding all my sacrifices to make sure she was safe and provided for. All the while she tried less and less to build the relationship. Also the endless drinking and lack of work ethic. When we first got together it was 50/50, this concept seemed alien to her. At the end I carried everything.
@arsenelupiniii8040
Yes, thank you! It's insane how narcs say & do the same similar things!! 😳 Betrayal is real with their kind & they have no remorse whatsoever.
Towards the end, my ex started saying, " I seek & destroy," and other weird things. I thought the booze, Conan game & other games got to his head. I didn't understand all that at first at all. Once, I started questioning & asking why he kept saying weird things. Doing weird things & acting weird. The quick response was, "IDK (I don't know) because I'm Viking." Then he'll let out a sadistic laugh & roar. He would then say things like I'm delusional & paranoid for asking. Next time, don't ask, he says.
By looking & feeling his vibe, it was like he mighty morphine power shape-shifted skinwalker right in front of me. It's very creepy & scary. I was taught to take care of my family & husband. Raised with tradition & culture. Indigenous ways but with a spark of the modern world. Be open-minded & stay humble. He was the opposite & had none. Called it BS & stupid. Smh.
I find that towards the end, they always premeditated before destroying. They'll do it in silence with other people behind your back. Once they feel like they have all their goonies lined up & in the right position. Because everyone is cheering loud, right? Now, their adrenaline is pumped, and the egotistical side is beaming. Then they destroy everything.
In my case, and what I've come to learn so far this past year is that him (BHjr), his new gf, his father & and stepsister, wanted the equity to my children's house!! These are the same people that abuse my children & I, by the way, for nearly 14 years.
I refused, and the hickeys are all going bananas. He now owes child support roughly 10k. He left us with no money & took the car. He always wanted us dead. He stated to his so-called friends he couldn't pay or help a year back. The LIES are constant. But he is able to help everyone. I have beautiful twin girls & an awesome little man. How ironic that he took out his 401k & hired an attorney! Because I refuse with the equity, now he wanna sell the house on us knowing dam well I have no family here, just my children in this state. He is so vengeful right now that he doesn't give a hoot if we are homeless. He (they) just want the money 💰 & to hurt us in whatever ways possible. I'm standing stronger & I've been learning as days pass.
I'm 5'1 and they are all giants. I just want to be left alone with my children, that's it. Calling me an incompetent stupid Asian, but man, it seems like they need that word more than anyone right now.
I'm sorry you went through all that and pray you heal during your journey. Seems like we can write novels & go on forever with these narcs. You are not alone. Thanks for sharing & reading mine as well. I appreciate it. 🙏🙏🙏💜
❤ sadistic little house game AND family facade!!
@JS-il9nw
Indeed. It's truly a creepy pattern they have! They play victim to their new victims constantly.
@@Empress.420 They all have the same playbook because it takes effort to not be an ape. There, I said it, being human is no mystery to anyone, the thing is folks that have been burned, or think someone is gonna get em, have a strike first, strike hard attitude. Meanwhile, folks that have evolved beyond that stuff have actual gratitude n their hearts and have to teach these adolescent pukes. It boils down to fear of judgement, and people that act as humans don't think everyone is out to shame them/get them whathave you. And even if others are out to get you, then, let em do their worst, you probably have good enough intuition to tell when someone is acting out of fear, lack. Toad the Wet Sprocket said it best " Lead me well, don't clear my way" the song is "Don't fade". Great album, that helped raise me.
My ex-husband expected me to accept his pregnant mistress and wait on them hand and foot. How dare I stand up for myself?
His lawyer repeatedly admonish him because of his nasty behavior during our divorce battle. Then, the coward didn't even show up for divorce hearing. It was just me and a bunch of lawyers.
They really think we are stupid. I always gave "them" a good reason to regret. I cheated back with someone with bigger b**bs. The rage! 😂
My insanely narcissistic mother isnear the end ofthe roadand she has done nothing but gotten WORSE !!!!!
its like the demons are screaming out !!!!!
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All said 100%, no regrets, no apologies, no remorse, no, nothing. All they are concerned about is exposure cause that mask of Mr. Perfect has now come off, and for the majority, not even exposure matters to them.
I never caught him but he verbalized enough to me for me not to see between the lines
You are amazing. Thank you so much for your hard work and Light you share 🙏 A-Ω
I truly felt like I would expose him to every single new supply he preyed on. But the fact is….there are waaaay too many to keep track of; I can only heal and protect myself and my family. I can’t protect the world. 😢
Yes! You are so right! After he got caught by being turned in by his patient for sexual assault and lost his medical license private practice and everything we worked for our whole lives….. he showed absolutely no remorse of any kind. It's amazing how they don't feel anything!
They loose in the end. Living that life is a curse, never happy, never fulfilled, never loving trully. And when they get older supply sources diminish, which makes life miserable for them. My ex almost got pregnant by another man while we were about to move in together plan family. As much as it hurts, getting away from them is a blessing.
True.. We can’t do that like them.
Danish you are 100% right. My husband is absolutely you described. He is been cheating on me by texting and sexting other women on his phone. I am in process of divorce,,,
Shukriya Danish Bhai 🙏🏼🤲🏼✌🏼
Exactly what my ex-husband told me he said most of it was the thrill of me not knowing what he was doing behind my back. For several years. I literally had no clue.
Getting caught! 😂
Yes I caught him with years of being with him loving him afire him serve trust him so now I caught him and now he cut things that he did before and he said when he knows he can’t win he say ill hang my self.
!!!! 😮 wow, that makes so much sense
All you said is true...
My narcissist ex cheated 3 times on me b4 I left him for good. The last 2 times i caught him looking on hookup sites.He had the audacity to txt me a few days after I left him, that nobody responds to him on these sites and that they all looked like shrek
You are 💯 right...
Congratulations to them. Amen
This happened to me, he got caught cheating, I moved out. He didn't regret it at all, ego boost for him.
He had his wife with him and i left him alone. I didnt know her i didnt know he was married and now 20 plus years later hes sitting in the church my parents go too. I went and dont want to go back to that church.
After 20 yrs I now realise my husband is cheating on me with my sister. And after being caught they both are changing their statements in return shouting and blaming me, now I'm the centre one as if I created the story. Of 20 years back. They both say this 1 same answer for all questions
My hubby wen I caught him out made out I was delusional n seeing things hearing things woman's voice n my vodka half bottle gone were n who not me ? N my personal stuff went missing ? Jewellery I even saw woman in club he took me to waving her arm with my braclet on trying get his attention she was with 3 mates staying surprise same hotel as us ? N he was in n out most day n nite all excuses to pop see her . . I called him out of his behaviour n he ended up with cops been called tried choke me . Cops took him away he got 5 yrs
Yep!! Power. Disgustingly sinful 😡
Are narcissistic people very healthy people because of this great love for themselves?
Do narcissistic people live longer?
Yes, they tend to live very long due to being able to sap the lifeforce out of their supply. "Only the good die young" never applied more. They kill us and move onto next supply. Even parasites know better than to kill their host.
I can’t join your training because I live in a different country and the timing is very different. I would appreciate it if you share the training content in your videos because I am sure there will be many people in the world who love to watch your videos Denis.
Yup stealthy wolf ....sad
As you said my hus always finds joy whenever i found out his cheating.. Do narcissistic abandon their partner? My narcissistic husband always abandon me and now he's going to divorce me.
tottaly true
Getting caught😂
I think that´s like a major childs watchings Dragonball in a sense of that the Goku action´s isn´t a tragedy, because the internal person of him is most important than action, like his virtuosity when kill an evil. Its a justifying. And, the cotidianity proves a routine thats not possible this superpowers outcome, even those relationship "ended", so they turn on to do jokes or use sarcasm. And the sensation of fool someone is subtle garantee in front to all people. So the "tragedy" becomes a comedy. Its dangerous. They dont face the problem and continue deflections. They take your symbols, some thing that you had said, some idea and project to themselves just for spite. Examples : "when I was with you we ate a lemon cake, but now, look, I show you one super lemon cake" or "do you reject me, and now, look where I am, joking with my friends".They take of you something you had said, some idea and project to themselves just for spite. Examples : "when I was with you we ate a lemon cake, but now, look, I show you a super lemon cake" or "do you reject me, and now, look where I am, joking with my friends", and still: "I deceived you, but now, im here, deceiving others and you know", and at last, "do you see, im a nice guy, doing incredible things! everyone sees it , less you.[im free]"
Very intelligence people's they are...
Cunning is the word I would use. Intelligent people have compassion for others. Cunning is only focused on self.
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