Hello thank you I agree with all the things you said two of my family members raped me when I was younger when I threaten to tell the other family even said I was going to spend 500 to get a professional lie detector test I was kicked out of the family and they have done all of these things I must admit one thing that makes me scared at the end you said when a narcissist gets rid of you they feel nothing to be honest for me I feel like it’s the other way around I am glad I will never see them again it makes me wonder if I myself have narcissistic traits I know it’s my family and I should feel something but I just don’t I don’t want to be a narcissist I don’t want to do to other people what these people did to me
👉👉👉👉🚨🚫Disney Beauty and the beast has a lot to do with this psycos acceptance in our lives. Disney have washed kids brains for a long time to move people to the society and problems they need to gov and control on them.
You're not fighting against the narcissist. You're fighting against the evil spirit inside of them. That's why you let go of fighting the battle yourself and let the Holy Spirit fight the battle for you.
I have gotten there once or twice, but it still takes me back when he or his flying monkey wife try to get under my skin, because they will use their children and yours to try to undermine you and it does throw me off for months, but it does get less and less effective over time. Thank you for this, because it is validating on the positive side.❤
1) Play hero/victim (super convincingly) 2) Extreme and ludicrous smear campaign (which eveyone believes, surprisingly) 3) Jump right away onto a new supply, preferably half your age 4) Do with the new supply everything they never did with you 5) Keep treating you like 💩 6) Never, never, never take accountability for anything, past or present, grieve, or consider bettering themselves
Yeah, i can clearly see, how i was blamed for all the bad things, my father did to me. But over time, i realized something. My supposed "family" from his side was never my family. They were all just people, who were "there", who did not kick me out, when i visited them due to decency. The silence from them (and sheer ignorance of my existence, if i accidentally meet some of them) speaks volumes about their TRUE standing towards me. And then later, i realized, most of the family from my mother´s side is the same. My mother´s sister is yet another narcissist, who took her time to fully isolate us from EVERYONE.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq It is a tough thing to go through as a child, and an experience that shapes you for life. It takes a smart, strong person to recognize the abuse for what it was and start the healing journey. Be kind to yourself. You are worthy. Find people who can see it. ❤️
"you must not take any of that seriously IT"S SHIT and nothing else" lol I didn't see that coming but that was freaking awesome. your channel is very helpful.
Very accurate! There is also "parroting". The narcissist in my life admitted that he was taking all the spiritual things I used to say, and repeating them to other people (claiming my knowledge and wisdom as his own). He said that people thought he was so smart and aware... but he was just copying me to impress people! So creepy!!!!
Omg this. All the tools I gave him to make our life easier, like I looked online everywhere for a way to watch things simultaneously while he had to work (he worked double shifts) -I found out he used it to watch a whole bunch of series with his affair partner. It stung to learn that because it was our thing.
When I took my newborn baby and left my ex-husband, all he was concerned about was that he was not going to be able to go metal detecting that day... Lol! You are so good at exposing how these narcissists are! The skit you did was so funny because it is SO TRUE! I went through all that BS too.
Yes they have a sense generally too.my elder sis and I had a close bond. whenever we were together it wud bug my narc mum and she wud pick on me to put me down. Same with a narc aunty and her eldest son.
That's so true! She reached to my friends a told them that I'd abandoned her and that I was sabotaging myself for having done so (this is so arrogant lol). She kept posting "new beggings" with the new supply. And when I happen to be at the same place with the new supply (we are in the same community) she looks at me as If I had done something wrong to her, which is crazy because we used to say hi to each other in a friendly way before all of this happened. The good part of it, is that I am totally out of the equation and enjoying my own life. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏🏼 💖 Blessings 🙌🏽
That's awful, and also right on brand. 😂 I can think of lots of times like that, something major happening and they can only think about how they wanted to go do xyz fun activity and this is messing that all up. Only drives home the point that you're doing yourself a huge favor by going on without them. ❤
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Well done, being brave enough to move out with a new born. I admire your strength, you saved your self a heap of heart break, as they get worse with age.
My abusive ex cycled through trying to play the victim and threatening me, alternating between the two stages daily until I had to block him. Not even once did he acknowledge what he did to me, never apologized, always just blaming me for everything. He also tried to smear me, telling my father that I owed him some money (not true, quite the opposite actually). One day his sister, which I liked, wrote me two paragraphs: The first being genuinely her, sad that she couldn't properly say goodbye, the second being just his words through her message, how much I hurt him, how he would never be able to trust someone again, yada yada. I thought about explaining myself, but realized it was just another one of his attempts to somehow stay in contact with me. So I just blocked her as well. They probably hate me now and I don't care. I have his number blocked for months now and he doesn't try to contact me anymore, thankfully. Still think about him almost daily. I still grief the future he promised. Leaving a narcissist is heartbreaking. But it was so worth it.
I cannot remember how many times my second husband soon after we started experiencing more hardship like a lot of other people were at the time experiencing too had started threatening both divorce and death threats direct towards me too. To be honest both former husbands of mine were from the same kind of narcissistic toxic masculinity mindset. My first husband was the worst out of the 2. Now some people believe I should ask for his help and maybe go back to him too so I can have a romantic partner again after I left him and after he has divorced his second wife whom he began an affair with before I left him. On top of all of the horrible violence he perpetrated on me too while he was demanding that I see him as being someone to worship at the time too. So absurd.
Narcissists depend on hope and presenting a fake future they never intend to make happen. It wasn't real, and it's like there was never anything true to grieve. That's an even darker layer to their crap. Take care of yourself. Your story helped remind me to do the same today. One day, I'm sure we'll both look back and have trouble believing this was ever our life. ❤
Danish, I was discarded by my narc. Phase 1 is how I felt in the beginning and made me wonder if I was the narc. That was the smear campaign; they accused me of being the narc and alienated my kids and some of my extended family. The difference is I blamed myself initially and slowly had to learn to separate out what was my responsibility vs their responsibility and mourn the loss. I have since gained strength and moved on without bitterness.
I watched him flip through the stages in front of my eyes. and he is 73 years old. they do regress as well. so petty. so vengeful, so mean. and unstable. I almost laughed in his face when he was trying to "out victim me." my jaw fell open. and I saw how futile any argument with hime was. I would just WALK AWAY. I also love how you use the raw words. it speaks to the harsh pains I feel. no minimizing the pain. spitting it out and walking on with my life.
An aging narcissist is another beast entirely. Mine n-ex is 72. We had an on off relationship for only 2 years and it rocked me to my core. I didn’t know people like him existed in this world 😢
Omg! This is EXACTLY what I went through in the EXACT order! When he showed up unexpectedly after I blocked him and went no contact for 6 months. I thank God I had educated myself about NPD and didn’t fall for it. I called him out when he lied about the new supply. Told him he needed help or this relationship wouldn’t work either. He laughed and left. 5 minutes later he was smearing me and playing the victim saying I had abandoned him and he was trying to be my friend. It’s been !8 months since and no word from him. Heard the new supply left him too. Could have guessed that!
Hi Sir, Recently I found your channel randomly while surfing in TH-cam. Your each and every video about toxic relationships are really a great mind healer. I got married to a narcissist family. Entire family members are narcissists. I been in a relationship over 8 years and I got married. After marriage I been abused ,disrespected, devalued, cheated. Now I am struggling to get divorced. Please make a video about getting married to a“ NARCISSISTIC FAMILY”. It would be so helpfull. Thank you.😊
I walked your path. it took me a year and a big financial loss. yet when I was in the mediation I considered it a "life saving emergency surgery". which the cost of when in such circumstances we dont hesitate to pay. now I joke with my friends. we no longer say his name...INTENTIONALLY. and I refer to him as " the tumor". if I dont laugh I would cry. unfortunately we have to live and keep walking forward. I will give you some encouragement. every time my " tumor" did something mean.. and I chose to focus forward...do something positive for me. I was blessed beyond measure. OVER AND OVER. I felt God supporting my steps going forward.
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
I left my narcissist, it seems to me like you’re describing me… Only I put in the effort, only I can self reflect, there’s not much difference when you separate… Sometimes they make you exactly like they are, then you have to free yourself from that and find out who you really are… i’m not innocent in all of this, I reacted… That’s what they were looking for was my reaction. To get a negative reaction reinforces that they’re the good person
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
You don´t lie! The thing is because of their behavior in the end you simple want peace and yeah also get rid of them (they are exhausting). But I feel bad for those people who fall in their traps.
Thank you, Danish! It must have come as a huge and timely relief to you that ur new roommates were so kind, normal and supportive after living with that monster you had to contend with earlier! The smear campaign is the most unjust of all. Your story helps set us free one step at a time. Shukriya!
1000% correct and in that order. Expect the flying monkeys to help the narc in their endeavors. My grandparents were great people but produced 4 toxic narc children. Those 4 produced 9 children, 8 toxic narcs and me! I cannot understand how I escaped. Can you help us understand the family dynamic. I actually recall being 4-5 years old thinking "I will never be like them!" Is it karma?❤️
❤☯️💯 perfectly put!! Karma,on my experience sorts out the narcissistic people including those am related to as it's not easy to do on your own so ☯️ always has their address 😂😊
As a gift, power bars and motors have a lot of electromagnetic frequencies. Wishing your birds and fish health. Thanks for your own gift helping others.
Wow. This channel is amazing! I wish I had known all of this years ago. It's getting creepy how accurate you are. You are once again describing my experience with my ex-husband!! Crazy!!
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
The birds and the fish are very therapeutic ❤ Danish you’re the best explaining and supporting the journey to realization. Sometimes it takes time to find your way out of abuse. Leaving is the only answer and they will never change ! Your life is more important and you are enough ❤ May God bless the broken road that guides us to true peace and happiness 😊
The clip in the beginning is exactly what my husband did to me .... And so much more. For YEARS I was so confused and thought I was losing my mind. His half truths, lies, bad mouthing me, cheating, blaming me for ALL of his horrible behaviors ... amongst other toxic actions was so hurtful. Knowledge IS power because now that I know it was never me but him, I have started the healing process 😊
I went no contact with my mother after she went crazy when I talked about being molested by my brother. "What is everyone going to think of me?" she wailed. She had no consideration for me (or my brother, who had committed suicide) and what I went through. I told my father word-for-word what she told me, and he said, "Well, she has her own version of events." There are no versions. There is only the truth. I sound like Fox Mulder from the X-files, but there are no versions of the truth. My father then told me that my mental health medications caused my autism. 😑😑
I am so sorry you went through all of that, but I'm glad you have gone no contact. I am just learning that a few autism spectrum traits I have are actually caused by narcissist parental abuse: not liking being touched, having difficulty communicating. I am learning so much from Danish and others that I am starting a recovery playlist. Praying for complete healing for us all.
@@gojiberry7201well, a body must protect it's health and well-being, so if the sensory input surrounding a person is negative, it is logical to expect the system to respond by turning the senses down, and gathering less information about the environment. If shutting down to the world around you is what that's like, I think I know the feeling.
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Excellent! After a period of abuse I thought I was going to confront them about their atrocious behavior and poor treatment with the words “You act like you’re the victim” shockingly they said “I am” which could not have been further from the truth and I could tell they really believed this 😢
8 months no contact and i find a recent smear campaign online. Its so sad hes holding onto that and causing himself so much pain and misery. Meanwhile im so happy and living my best life. 8 months!!!! 8 months and hes STILL talking shit to anyone that will listen. What a sorry existence
Every single thing you said has happened to me and my children down to even saying our dog is gonna die and he wasn’t able to say goodbye smh It’s eerie how you’ve just described my life since September of this year.
U described my ex husband. I found it hard to believe that it was so easy for him to abandon me n the children, felt no remorse, nor compassion, be so malicious n intending to harm me, a faithful wife n committed mother, during the seperation process.. he n his family n flying monkeys even took the trouble to smear campaign me to ppl who didnt know me. Now everything is clear--thanks to u for elaborating on narcissistic ppl.
My narcissist was a fiscally successful person, who became dominant and manipulative when she became close to me, Her victims give her continual supply through Facebook. She hid our relationship while talking to me about "our future". I ghosted her, thanks to your informative videos.
I went through that with my parents years ago when I lived apart from them, yet spoke on the phone with them and occasionally got together with them. My mom made an effort to let me know how they went out of their way to visit a certain friend and go out of the way to do many things for her. They would go months without seeing me or doing the simplest of things for me. Thanks, mom & dad. That helped me feel more isolated and unloved, but self-reliant, and helped me to realize that you never loved or wanted me. I am free and no longer want any attention.
Danish your channel does help people. Unfortunate for some other people who are not being educated by the same when they are being duped by some narcissist(s) who are over time gaining more resources as they go along while being the worst kind of hoarders of all when they are collecting weapons. Over time the narcissist become all the more clever at practising their addiction together in their communal narcissism when that narcissist is demanding one way loyalty from those they are duping. Like for example when a narcsissist like that is reminding you and everybody else about their wedding day with you in public long after you have divorced them only to make themselves look like the long suffering victim who marrried a quitter. When that does not help manage their image the lies about us which they spread only gets worse. While for example banning a flag or burning a flag or instead hiding behind a flag or maybe all 3 at the same time. Do not ever feel guilty after leaving a narcissist like that when that narcissist is in your place of work. Do not ever feel that you have become solely responsible for warning people about them after you have left that kind of narcissist for good.
Thank you for clarity. I thought I was going crazy. All the things I thought he liked about me now irritating him. He tells me off for laughing at comedians. Gives me a list to do, then changes it. Then questions why things arent finished.
My ex the narcissist says all the time he misses our 3 kids but yet has 3 weeks with out looking for them, calling them checking up one them KNOR helping me financially at all!!!!
100% well said!! In my experience,the narcissistic people believe their own lies. Me? The villain in the piece totally as I went no contact & broke free from their control & manipulation.
Mine sends me a substantial money gift every birthday after the divorce. Never gave me gifts, much less remembered my birthday, all those 20 plus years we were together. I send the money back to him year in, year out.
I'm in the situation where my husband's frequently changing these 4 stages according to my (constant and stabile!) decision and behaviour - that is, I'm gonna divorce him. It's so f.. wierd! 🥴 But by now I almost know exactly what I'll have to face in the future and that is sooo helpful. 🙏
Danish, who are you? You're on point all the time. I actually experienced that kind kind of facades the narc did over here but I didn't give a shit. I told him to move with that person if he thinks he's happy with her. I don't give a damn if he ever leaves. He's a pest in my life anyway. Anyone who takes over this guy. I will buy them a expensive gift. I have no time for a effing nut person in my house.
My wife, her parents, loved your video and shared enthusiastically with like-minded relatives and common friends. They are put through hell by one narcissistic person and his 2 truth seeking narcissistic sons.
I’m dealing with this now my ex fiance was caught cheating and he is so mad that he’s calling everyone he can think of including my doctors office saying I’m crazy lol …Unfortunately for him I’m a spiritually evolved and empowered sigma INFJ .
I don't know how to thank you for explaining & giving words to my buried feelings & doubts since childhood. No doubt you're a genius!!! Lots of love to you❤
I helped him bake and I made beautiful cookie trays for his friends for Christmas and he took all the credit. I did this for 4 years but I'm not there this year. I'm sure his friends will notice and he won't shine like he did before.
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SO MUCH!! Thank you so much for all you do. I’m also so very sorry that you have had to go through narcissistic abuse from your parents. Love, Light & Blessings to you 🙏🏻💫💜💫🙏🏻
I really like the ending "let the healing begin and continue". The narcissist's version was "I'm already healed. Everyone needs to catch up" It's true about the part with smear campaign, if those people are too gullible to fall for it then they're not worth it! Thanks narc for doing the filtration process.
What hurts the narcissist most is when you say “whoever sent you to me,tell them you couldn’t find me “. Omg this statement damages the entity inside of the narcissist which is lots of demons that can hear and understand and so they shake and run because they know you know. Just try that and you’ll see. In Jesus Name every knee shall bow and every tongue confess.
Wow, thank you 🙏🏼. I thought I was the crazy one during this ending of a 11+ year relationship and marriage. They moved on very quickly and I couldn’t imagine how bc I had an attachment that was deep and of course codependent. Healing is happening 😊❤
The floating through life comment is so true. They don't experience anything. The one I was with would live out our relationship in his head, process it and then give me the results as if it really happened. I was confused about his behaviour, was kind of funny because he would really live out something in his head then present me with some bullshit outcome that was not my reality. It's hurtful and confusing but better don't take it personally and run on a first sign of that. I should have left and ghosted him earlier but luckily it didn't last too long anyway, just a couple of months through which he had tried to already escape a few times.
The narcissist I left smear my name with his family way before I got rid of him and he was cheating with a woman who knew I was his wife she can have him and he will treat her behind like the garbage she is ,I never check his social media don’t care when he does at all I a, no contact and Hoover isn’t just physical it’s phone call and sending mail as well which I have experienced the calls stopped for now the miserable creature sends mail to my address no response from me at all never ever again.
Omg love it can say my now ex husband did do all this until my family and friends who kno me saw who he is and they didn’t turn against me they all ganged up and made it counter attack to him. They saw what I saw and why I left and he tried so hard to destroy my life and all my friendships I have but it stopped him cuz now he leaves my family and friends alone knowing his mask came off and they saw the truth of who he really is. Now he doesn’t do much to be seen where I go and where some friends he met but not all and I keep eyes and ears out incase he tries to do something stupid. He has threatened to beat me and once he got where I was he backed down cuz he knew what I am capable of. And now he no longer tries to do anything to me or my kids and does it all online with strangers instead of the same town we live in. He found out what will happen and now he stopped.
Bashir you are so amazing 👏 and funny how you explain the narcissist abuse with humor 😆 🤣 and calmness at the same time 🤣 I recently stumbled across your channel and I subscribed right away ❤
Everyday I remember her, even not trying to..some situation especially when lonely pops up in my mind and makes me feel hopeless. Her banter and insults that I could not get a girl even at 40, and nobody will love me like her best. I even had a severe chest pain issues last year and she never even bothered, that's the definition of love! Always blaming, for not bowing to her independence. Lifelong trauma in my mind, an agent of depression permanently put inside my mind
Brilliant and so simply presented. I appreciate you -- and all those who have come before. Thank God for TH-cam and all you guys!! It is so nice to be out from under my mom and my bro, tag teaming me all of my life!! They had me down real bad, but I am finding out who I really am now that they are not hovering and assaulting me.
Timeline 4.35sec: what am I learning about NARCISSISTIC INJURY: just these 2 words...the world, those who speak "against" narcissists talk about "narcissistic injury". ... In the world of narcissists, in the perception of the Narcissist as he/she/it (an entity-whatever it may be) thinks totally differently. The Narcissist has "No Conscience", or does not use it, or does not utilise it... ... The abandonment issue for the narcissist is HUGE... ... is HUGE ... is HUGE ... when I empathise with the abandoned narcissist"... you will believe such a person... ... but please, please... ... DO-NOT-BE-ADDICTED-TO-CONTACT... ... one will realise only a bit to late when you "lost yourself (again) in the narcissistic web of LIES and DECEIT😢😮 ...
Since I've never been in love or liked him more than just a friend, I put absolutely intense energy into what he does in his life. I know he is sick and not a normal person
You hit the nail on the head my ex narcissist has a new girlfriend and tells me all the time how much in love he is with her but in the meantime he tells me how he still loves me and will look after me and tell this bs story to everyone else it's absolutely pathetic I've cut the chain with him now forever I wonder if I should warn his girlfriend what sort of evil person he really is she seems like a nice girl and I don't want him to hurt her feelings too unless she's a narcissist too but maybe not she's probably a empath like me and falls for his love bombing We were married for 28 years and didn't know about narcissism until a couple of years ago I always thought he was just a selfish person until the verbal abuse started 6 years ago and the controlling since I stopped working 😢
Please don’t warn her. It’ll only backfire as you being the jealous, bitter ex wife. Plus, I’m sure he has her mind screwed already. Trust, he’s already told her the worse lies about you but he’s really talking of himself.
@@LethalWeapon73 I would never worn her she can find out herself and of course he would tell her I'm the worse person on 2 legs only to make himself feel better do I really care I don't think so because I know how he works mister perfect and the biggest evil person as far as I'm concerned he'll get his Karma one day I told him don't come crying to me when she's had enough of you I blocked him anyway want nothing to do with him any more. Hope you have a Merry Christmas and prosperous New Year
You have just made sense of him all of a sudden talking to my sons. He has lately lost his hearing aids 10 days ago. First he told me he thought he lost them on a walk with his friend (hole in pocket) I popped a post on line fb to ask peeps to look out for them. I suggested he ordered new ones Next day he said hed thrown them in a box in our bedroom mid argument (my fault) So I had a coccyx injury and was recovering in bedroom, so hunted carefully in this box and around it, even in other boxes, including a tool box but I felt it was too dirty and might mark the carpet. So stopped and no joy. Then yesterday he announced he'd found them. I asked where and he said above the bed on his shelf??? He then went on to berate me saying how he believed I'd taken them hidden them suggested he got new ones Then moved them. I replied out of love I'd asked him to get hearing aids(took 2 yrs) as part of same team, no same side, in pain I hunted, couldn't sit on floor but knelt to look, why would I hide them, what would I gain. He said again so that he'd order another pair. I said but that would benefit not injure or hurt him Put out a post to say thanks to those locals who had looked. And had 72 comments back. He was so cross. He said I'd confused his friend he'd been out walking with. He said I'd lied. He had not lost his aids. I'd taken them I said I had too much pain. Too much other important things to consider. I'd never hide anything. He doesn't trust me. I baked. He started eating the baking. I said I thought you didn't trust me. How do you know that food is not going to hurt you ! U might have been plotting and scheming. Is your belly not important to you? Remember I'm not trustworthy, oh or am I lying now. He then said I never said you lied??? It went on. It went on today. I went quiet. Actually internally heart broken. I feel such a fool. I feel do unloved. I miss hugs cuddles hand holding, I miss friend and family and miss going out. I want to leave. And in my silence, he began being overly nice interested, questions and more questions not accusations. But I couldn't speak I came away. I'm in the bedroom, gutted. I know I have to get out.
When i left him, he was more concerned about the material things and sex. They are stupidly delusional. Glad i left and I refer to him as a sperm donor as he is my baby daddy and very much absent in the childs life or anything to do with the child. And of cause he smeared my name but didn't care as karma is a b.
narcissists would rather stare at the sun, than look at the mirror and self-reflect, and take any modicum of ownership for their actions. to think or hope that a narcissist would make meaningful, lasting change for the better, is like asking a fish to climb a tree. the irony is that narcissists will tell everyone that you are the cause of their problems. yet once you remove yourself from their life, they will continue with all of the same problems lol. 🤣 cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@caroleminke6116 funny how when i was 8 years old, many parents of my friends would comment on how "grown-up" i was, doing laundry and doing basic cooking for myself and the younger siblings. eventually the parents came to resent that i was doing more than their kids at such age, so i was not invited over for playtime at their houses anymore.
I completely detached from a relationship & this X boyfriend called my former boss at work & lied & attempted to disgrace me; it didnt work because my boss at the time knew I was a good person & good employee. He made himself look crazy.
Danish, you are so brilliant in your skits to the max!!!!!!!!!!!! It is so amazing that you have such a great outstanding understanding of this bull!!!!!!!!! They all have the same play book for sure, unreal 😮😮😮😮😮😮 every thing you are saying is the absolute truth and it’s absolutely wonderful that someone else can see and understand and know, this is a God given relief 🥲!!!!!! You are a good and wonderful man, and you will be rewarded great blessings, because you have helped so many, many people, thank you 🙏 so very very much Danish Almighty God’s blessings be upon you and with you continuously 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 I forgot to say how funny you are too, this skit is hilarious 🤣 😂 and at the same time pathetic!!!!!!!!!!
Funnily, after my former church family found out how selfish and childish my ex was (their words) they still decided to support him instead of me. Smdh.
my husband of 30 yrs who used gas lighting on me and got my sons to follow his narcissistic ways and abandoned my christian faith divorced me when i was temporary ill. After divorce i ended in psych word but never left my faith in God above. I’m happier now living my new life and my ex husband got terminal cancer shortly after he called me psycho for my faith in God above. I would have cared for him in his time of need but he abandoned faith in God above and me. Now he’s suffering and i’m grating grateful for my gifts of love. End of story is Love in Hid above. It was hard but faith overcome evil.
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Hello thank you I agree with all the things you said two of my family members raped me when I was younger when I threaten to tell the other family even said I was going to spend 500 to get a professional lie detector test I was kicked out of the family and they have done all of these things I must admit one thing that makes me scared at the end you said when a narcissist gets rid of you they feel nothing to be honest for me I feel like it’s the other way around I am glad I will never see them again it makes me wonder if I myself have narcissistic traits I know it’s my family and I should feel something but I just don’t I don’t want to be a narcissist I don’t want to do to other people what these people did to me
Me!
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Sorry 😥
You are so wise on in your vids, this one is spot on. Thanks for posting these, you are helping more people than you can know!
👉👉👉👉🚨🚫Disney Beauty and the beast has a lot to do with this psycos acceptance in our lives. Disney have washed kids brains for a long time to move people to the society and problems they need to gov and control on them.
You're not fighting against the narcissist. You're fighting against the evil spirit inside of them. That's why you let go of fighting the battle yourself and let the Holy Spirit fight the battle for you.
So true!
Right
Amen
I have gotten there once or twice, but it still takes me back when he or his flying monkey wife try to get under my skin, because they will use their children and yours to try to undermine you and it does throw me off for months, but it does get less and less effective over time. Thank you for this, because it is validating on the positive side.❤
Yup
1) Play hero/victim (super convincingly)
2) Extreme and ludicrous smear campaign (which eveyone believes, surprisingly)
3) Jump right away onto a new supply, preferably half your age
4) Do with the new supply everything they never did with you
5) Keep treating you like 💩
6) Never, never, never take accountability for anything, past or present, grieve, or consider bettering themselves
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Yeah, i can clearly see, how i was blamed for all the bad things, my father did to me.
But over time, i realized something. My supposed "family" from his side was never my family. They were all just people, who were "there", who did not kick me out, when i visited them due to decency. The silence from them (and sheer ignorance of my existence, if i accidentally meet some of them) speaks volumes about their TRUE standing towards me.
And then later, i realized, most of the family from my mother´s side is the same. My mother´s sister is yet another narcissist, who took her time to fully isolate us from EVERYONE.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq It is a tough thing to go through as a child, and an experience that shapes you for life. It takes a smart, strong person to recognize the abuse for what it was and start the healing journey. Be kind to yourself. You are worthy. Find people who can see it. ❤️
This is exactly what my narc ex did. Especially with the "do everything with the new supply, they never did with you"
"you must not take any of that seriously IT"S SHIT and nothing else" lol I didn't see that coming but that was freaking awesome. your channel is very helpful.
I had a narcissist tell me in a rant that they destroy every relationship they have. I think they know
Very accurate!
There is also "parroting". The narcissist in my life admitted that he was taking all the spiritual things I used to say, and repeating them to other people (claiming my knowledge and wisdom as his own). He said that people thought he was so smart and aware... but he was just copying me to impress people! So creepy!!!!
Omg this. All the tools I gave him to make our life easier, like I looked online everywhere for a way to watch things simultaneously while he had to work (he worked double shifts) -I found out he used it to watch a whole bunch of series with his affair partner. It stung to learn that because it was our thing.
May Almighty punish these narcissists in this World and hereafter...for what they did...
Karma 💯☯️ will punish them!!
@@Karma-u2u 🤲
When I took my newborn baby and left my ex-husband, all he was concerned about was that he was not going to be able to go metal detecting that day... Lol! You are so good at exposing how these narcissists are! The skit you did was so funny because it is SO TRUE! I went through all that BS too.
Yes they have a sense generally too.my elder sis and I had a close bond. whenever we were together it wud bug my narc mum and she wud pick on me to put me down.
Same with a narc aunty and her eldest son.
That's so true! She reached to my friends a told them that I'd abandoned her and that I was sabotaging myself for having done so (this is so arrogant lol).
She kept posting "new beggings" with the new supply. And when I happen to be at the same place with the new supply (we are in the same community) she looks at me as If I had done something wrong to her, which is crazy because we used to say hi to each other in a friendly way before all of this happened.
The good part of it, is that I am totally out of the equation and enjoying my own life.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏🏼 💖 Blessings 🙌🏽
That's awful, and also right on brand. 😂 I can think of lots of times like that, something major happening and they can only think about how they wanted to go do xyz fun activity and this is messing that all up. Only drives home the point that you're doing yourself a huge favor by going on without them. ❤
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Well done, being brave enough to move out with a new born. I admire your strength, you saved your self a heap of heart break, as they get worse with age.
When you go though all that pain you wont ever look at them the same
My abusive ex cycled through trying to play the victim and threatening me, alternating between the two stages daily until I had to block him. Not even once did he acknowledge what he did to me, never apologized, always just blaming me for everything. He also tried to smear me, telling my father that I owed him some money (not true, quite the opposite actually). One day his sister, which I liked, wrote me two paragraphs: The first being genuinely her, sad that she couldn't properly say goodbye, the second being just his words through her message, how much I hurt him, how he would never be able to trust someone again, yada yada. I thought about explaining myself, but realized it was just another one of his attempts to somehow stay in contact with me. So I just blocked her as well. They probably hate me now and I don't care.
I have his number blocked for months now and he doesn't try to contact me anymore, thankfully. Still think about him almost daily. I still grief the future he promised. Leaving a narcissist is heartbreaking. But it was so worth it.
I cannot remember how many times my second husband soon after we started experiencing more hardship like a lot of other people were at the time experiencing too had started threatening both divorce and death threats direct towards me too. To be honest both former husbands of mine were from the same kind of narcissistic toxic masculinity mindset. My first husband was the worst out of the 2. Now some people believe I should ask for his help and maybe go back to him too so I can have a romantic partner again after I left him and after he has divorced his second wife whom he began an affair with before I left him. On top of all of the horrible violence he perpetrated on me too while he was demanding that I see him as being someone to worship at the time too. So absurd.
Don't reconnect with hell. ⚔️🤝
A narcissist will never admit they did anything wrong . I've dealt with so many .... family members etc ..
Narcissists depend on hope and presenting a fake future they never intend to make happen. It wasn't real, and it's like there was never anything true to grieve. That's an even darker layer to their crap. Take care of yourself. Your story helped remind me to do the same today. One day, I'm sure we'll both look back and have trouble believing this was ever our life. ❤
Danish,
I was discarded by my narc. Phase 1 is how I felt in the beginning and made me wonder if I was the narc. That was the smear campaign; they accused me of being the narc and alienated my kids and some of my extended family. The difference is I blamed myself initially and slowly had to learn to separate out what was my responsibility vs their responsibility and mourn the loss. I have since gained strength and moved on without bitterness.
Nobody is a Bigger Victim, or a more Perpetual Victim than a Narcissist, never any Self Reflection on their part 😏🚩🏃♀️
They only know how to deflect and the only self reflection they're concerned about is how good they look in the mirror.
@@SharkE747 💯 spot on, well said.😏🚩🏃♀️
@@SharkE747soooooo true😢
Once again you are on point at least once a year I get a smear campaign.Don’t care I know who I am .Blessings to you.
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I watched him flip through the stages in front of my eyes. and he is 73 years old. they do regress as well. so petty. so vengeful, so mean. and unstable. I almost laughed in his face when he was trying to "out victim me." my jaw fell open. and I saw how futile any argument with hime was. I would just WALK AWAY.
I also love how you use the raw words. it speaks to the harsh pains I feel. no minimizing the pain. spitting it out and walking on with my life.
Hi, pitiful indeed! Love from Montreal!
An aging narcissist is another beast entirely. Mine n-ex is 72. We had an on off relationship for only 2 years and it rocked me to my core. I didn’t know people like him existed in this world 😢
amen. :). much love. hope you are doing well.@@vickit3124
Thank God. The narc is unofficially out of our life. I m having a good time with my adorable children
Oh my god is true ,is telling everyone that am crazy ,aggressive etc
@kathy. Yes - they are real Bast@rds.
Omg! This is EXACTLY what I went through in the EXACT order! When he showed up unexpectedly after I blocked him and went no contact for 6 months. I thank God I had educated myself about NPD and didn’t fall for it. I called him out when he lied about the new supply. Told him he needed help or this relationship wouldn’t work either. He laughed and left. 5 minutes later he was smearing me and playing the victim saying I had abandoned him and he was trying to be my friend. It’s been !8 months since and no word from him. Heard the new supply left him too. Could have guessed that!
Hi Sir,
Recently I found your channel randomly while surfing in TH-cam. Your each and every video about toxic relationships are really a great mind healer.
I got married to a narcissist family. Entire family members are narcissists. I been in a relationship over 8 years and I got married. After marriage I been abused ,disrespected, devalued, cheated. Now I am struggling to get divorced.
Please make a video about getting married to a“ NARCISSISTIC FAMILY”. It would be so helpfull. Thank you.😊
I feel so sorry for you dear.....😢😢😢
May Almighty help you...
I walked your path.
it took me a year and a big financial loss. yet when I was in the mediation I considered it a "life saving emergency surgery". which the cost of when in such circumstances we dont hesitate to pay. now I joke with my friends. we no longer say his name...INTENTIONALLY. and I refer to him as " the tumor".
if I dont laugh I would cry. unfortunately we have to live and keep walking forward.
I will give you some encouragement. every time my " tumor" did something mean.. and I chose to focus forward...do something positive for me. I was blessed beyond measure. OVER AND OVER. I felt God supporting my steps going forward.
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Well you’re found the best man to talk about narcissism. Danish really knows his stuff, he’s lived it.
@@life-rethoughtfor any good people in your life,as with yourself because god doesn't support you!! It's not how it works in this world.
I left my narcissist, it seems to me like you’re describing me… Only I put in the effort, only I can self reflect, there’s not much difference when you separate… Sometimes they make you exactly like they are, then you have to free yourself from that and find out who you really are… i’m not innocent in all of this, I reacted… That’s what they were looking for was my reaction. To get a negative reaction reinforces that they’re the good person
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Hi Danish im watching from Guyana and i have a child with a narcissist and thats exactly what he did when his ex dumped him
This one stung. I recall him doing these hints with his ex when we first started dating. Wow. So glad to be free of his abuse.
You have to get to the point where you Want them to find someone else.
You don´t lie! The thing is because of their behavior in the end you simple want peace and yeah also get rid of them (they are exhausting). But I feel bad for those people who fall in their traps.
Exactly....someone else out there needs to learn the hard lesson we learned....LET THEM !! Be Grateful to God it's not you...and that now you SEE.
Be on your own, in my experience after no contact with narcissistic people as taking care of yourself is best being on your own
@@jacquelinefroehle5868being appreciative within your self, you can take care of your life without anymore narcissistic issues!!
He just did... 🎉🎉
Thank you, Danish! It must have come as a huge and timely relief to you that ur new roommates were so kind, normal and supportive after living with that monster you had to contend with earlier! The smear campaign is the most unjust of all. Your story helps set us free one step at a time. Shukriya!
1000% correct and in that order. Expect the flying monkeys to help the narc in their endeavors. My grandparents were great people but produced 4 toxic narc children. Those 4 produced 9 children, 8 toxic narcs and me! I cannot understand how I escaped. Can you help us understand the family dynamic. I actually recall being 4-5 years old thinking "I will never be like them!" Is it karma?❤️
😱You are not alone😳Hope you eskape safely, the narc is better left alone. And moust off mye famely is damaged 😪itts pain full to lokk att 🤕
Breaking generational trauma and curses!!! Fire keep it
Uh, your grandparents weren't that cool if everyone is a narc. And I bet you have something going on with you too.
❤☯️💯 perfectly put!! Karma,on my experience sorts out the narcissistic people including those am related to as it's not easy to do on your own so ☯️ always has their address 😂😊
Yup, that's exactly what they do. It's annoying, but that's what they you.
As a gift, power bars and motors have a lot of electromagnetic frequencies. Wishing your birds and fish health. Thanks for your own gift helping others.
Wow. This channel is amazing! I wish I had known all of this years ago. It's getting creepy how accurate you are. You are once again describing my experience with my ex-husband!! Crazy!!
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
The birds and the fish are very therapeutic ❤ Danish you’re the best explaining and supporting the journey to realization. Sometimes it takes time to find your way out of abuse. Leaving is the only answer and they will never change ! Your life is more important and you are enough ❤ May God bless the broken road that guides us to true peace and happiness 😊
When you said "IT'S SHIT! made my moans bones groans and stones lift for 3 seconds. Thanks for that
hahhaha I loved that part as well!!!! I genuinely lol'd
The clip in the beginning is exactly what my husband did to me .... And so much more. For YEARS I was so confused and thought I was losing my mind. His half truths, lies, bad mouthing me, cheating, blaming me for ALL of his horrible behaviors ... amongst other toxic actions was so hurtful. Knowledge IS power because now that I know it was never me but him, I have started the healing process 😊
I went no contact with my mother after she went crazy when I talked about being molested by my brother. "What is everyone going to think of me?" she wailed. She had no consideration for me (or my brother, who had committed suicide) and what I went through. I told my father word-for-word what she told me, and he said, "Well, she has her own version of events." There are no versions. There is only the truth. I sound like Fox Mulder from the X-files, but there are no versions of the truth.
My father then told me that my mental health medications caused my autism. 😑😑
I am so sorry you went through all of that, but I'm glad you have gone no contact. I am just learning that a few autism spectrum traits I have are actually caused by narcissist parental abuse: not liking being touched, having difficulty communicating. I am learning so much from Danish and others that I am starting a recovery playlist.
Praying for complete healing for us all.
@@nightnurse7777Amen 👍 I have also learned that symptoms of C-PTSD can be virtually similar to autism, just like what you said.
@@gojiberry7201well, a body must protect it's health and well-being, so if the sensory input surrounding a person is negative, it is logical to expect the system to respond by turning the senses down, and gathering less information about the environment. If shutting down to the world around you is what that's like, I think I know the feeling.
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Excellent! After a period of abuse I thought I was going to confront them about their atrocious behavior and poor treatment with the words “You act like you’re the victim” shockingly they said “I am” which could not have been further from the truth and I could tell they really believed this 😢
Kash ap mujhe 9 saal pahale mil jate... thankyou you validated my feelings..
I keep wondering if they have any common feelings like real people usually have.
Snakes masquerading as human.
No they don’t empty and void
Only the negative emotions are genuine
Very good question, how odd it all is!
Only when it benefits them.
I've learned not to ever look at his social media. That's what he wants. I've never been hoovered, thank God.
8 months no contact and i find a recent smear campaign online. Its so sad hes holding onto that and causing himself so much pain and misery. Meanwhile im so happy and living my best life. 8 months!!!! 8 months and hes STILL talking shit to anyone that will listen. What a sorry existence
Every single thing you said has happened to me and my children down to even saying our dog is gonna die and he wasn’t able to say goodbye smh It’s eerie how you’ve just described my life since September of this year.
U described my ex husband. I found it hard to believe that it was so easy for him to abandon me n the children, felt no remorse, nor compassion, be so malicious n intending to harm me, a faithful wife n committed mother, during the seperation process.. he n his family n flying monkeys even took the trouble to smear campaign me to ppl who didnt know me. Now everything is clear--thanks to u for elaborating on narcissistic ppl.
My narcissist was a fiscally successful person, who became dominant and manipulative when she became close to me, Her victims give her continual supply through Facebook. She hid our relationship while talking to me about "our future". I ghosted her, thanks to your informative videos.
I went through that with my parents years ago when I lived apart from them, yet spoke on the phone with them and occasionally got together with them. My mom made an effort to let me know how they went out of their way to visit a certain friend and go out of the way to do many things for her. They would go months without seeing me or doing the simplest of things for me. Thanks, mom & dad. That helped me feel more isolated and unloved, but self-reliant, and helped me to realize that you never loved or wanted me. I am free and no longer want any attention.
Danish your channel does help people. Unfortunate for some other people who are not being educated by the same when they are being duped by some narcissist(s) who are over time gaining more resources as they go along while being the worst kind of hoarders of all when they are collecting weapons. Over time the narcissist become all the more clever at practising their addiction together in their communal narcissism when that narcissist is demanding one way loyalty from those they are duping. Like for example when a narcsissist like that is reminding you and everybody else about their wedding day with you in public long after you have divorced them only to make themselves look like the long suffering victim who marrried a quitter. When that does not help manage their image the lies about us which they spread only gets worse. While for example banning a flag or burning a flag or instead hiding behind a flag or maybe all 3 at the same time. Do not ever feel guilty after leaving a narcissist like that when that narcissist is in your place of work. Do not ever feel that you have become solely responsible for warning people about them after you have left that kind of narcissist for good.
Thank you for clarity. I thought I was going crazy.
All the things I thought he liked about me now irritating him.
He tells me off for laughing at comedians.
Gives me a list to do, then changes it.
Then questions why things arent finished.
My ex the narcissist says all the time he misses our 3 kids but yet has 3 weeks with out looking for them, calling them checking up one them KNOR helping me financially at all!!!!
100% well said!! In my experience,the narcissistic people believe their own lies. Me? The villain in the piece totally as I went no contact & broke free from their control & manipulation.
Thank you for the education ❤
I never look back and never get jealous 👊🏾📱👂🏾
The n sending birthday wishes while we are going through an awful divorce!
How pathetic!
Yeah... I got the same. I was like huh?! 😅🤣
My ex narc has sent me a "Happy Birthday" text for 20 years now..
@@kimberlymarie3651😂...it's crazy, right!
I was shocked when he begged to celebrate my birthday one last time during the divorce proceedings. It was beyond my understanding.😳😵💫
Mine sends me a substantial money gift every birthday after the divorce. Never gave me gifts, much less remembered my birthday, all those 20 plus years we were together.
I send the money back to him year in, year out.
Narcissist are so valueless,it is easy to discard them without thinking twice.
I'm in the situation where my husband's frequently changing these 4 stages according to my (constant and stabile!) decision and behaviour - that is, I'm gonna divorce him.
It's so f.. wierd! 🥴 But by now I almost know exactly what I'll have to face in the future and that is sooo helpful. 🙏
Danish, who are you? You're on point all the time. I actually experienced that kind kind of facades the narc did over here but I didn't give a shit. I told him to move with that person if he thinks he's happy with her. I don't give a damn if he ever leaves. He's a pest in my life anyway. Anyone who takes over this guy. I will buy them a expensive gift. I have no time for a effing nut person in my house.
Ya Danish what gives? Ha ha love from Montreal!
My wife, her parents, loved your video and shared enthusiastically with like-minded relatives and common friends.
They are put through hell by one narcissistic person and his 2 truth seeking narcissistic sons.
I’m dealing with this now my ex fiance was caught cheating and he is so mad that he’s calling everyone he can think of including my doctors office saying I’m crazy lol …Unfortunately for him I’m a spiritually evolved and empowered sigma INFJ .
Mine too
I don't know how to thank you for explaining & giving words to my buried feelings & doubts since childhood. No doubt you're a genius!!!
Lots of love to you❤
I helped him bake and I made beautiful cookie trays for his friends for Christmas and he took all the credit. I did this for 4 years but I'm not there this year. I'm sure his friends will notice and he won't shine like he did before.
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SO MUCH!!
Thank you so much for all you do. I’m also so very sorry that you have had to go through narcissistic abuse from your parents.
Love, Light & Blessings to you
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Thank you for everything you have said Danish. 😊 I really needed to hear it😊 God bless you❤
I really like the ending "let the healing begin and continue".
The narcissist's version was "I'm already healed. Everyone needs to catch up"
It's true about the part with smear campaign, if those people are too gullible to fall for it then they're not worth it!
Thanks narc for doing the filtration process.
What hurts the narcissist most is when you say “whoever sent you to me,tell them you couldn’t find me “. Omg this statement damages the entity inside of the narcissist which is lots of demons that can hear and understand and so they shake and run because they know you know. Just try that and you’ll see. In Jesus Name every knee shall bow and every tongue confess.
Love the skit! Please do more. Don't know what I would do without this channel. Thank you for being there for us!
10:48 it worked in mine. I am still heavily isolated by family. Getting used to it now
Wow, thank you 🙏🏼. I thought I was the crazy one during this ending of a 11+ year relationship and marriage. They moved on very quickly and I couldn’t imagine how bc I had an attachment that was deep and of course codependent. Healing is happening 😊❤
The floating through life comment is so true. They don't experience anything. The one I was with would live out our relationship in his head, process it and then give me the results as if it really happened. I was confused about his behaviour, was kind of funny because he would really live out something in his head then present me with some bullshit outcome that was not my reality. It's hurtful and confusing but better don't take it personally and run on a first sign of that. I should have left and ghosted him earlier but luckily it didn't last too long anyway, just a couple of months through which he had tried to already escape a few times.
this is my husband,left and went to her ex..ooh boi its painful,but watching this help me a lot..thank you
@danish bashir🙏
Love your budgies singing ❤ soooo coool!!!! 😊
I am so thankful for this channel! It helps me and gives me comfort.
Your birds sound so cheerful 😄
Omg this is sooo true
The narcissist I left smear my name with his family way before I got rid of him and he was cheating with a woman who knew I was his wife she can have him and he will treat her behind like the garbage she is ,I never check his social media don’t care when he does at all I a, no contact and Hoover isn’t just physical it’s phone call and sending mail as well which I have experienced the calls stopped for now the miserable creature sends mail to my address no response from me at all never ever again.
2:20 omgggg I am literally going through this!😂!!! Thank God I am on the other side and healing!!!
Omg love it can say my now ex husband did do all this until my family and friends who kno me saw who he is and they didn’t turn against me they all ganged up and made it counter attack to him. They saw what I saw and why I left and he tried so hard to destroy my life and all my friendships I have but it stopped him cuz now he leaves my family and friends alone knowing his mask came off and they saw the truth of who he really is. Now he doesn’t do much to be seen where I go and where some friends he met but not all and I keep eyes and ears out incase he tries to do something stupid. He has threatened to beat me and once he got where I was he backed down cuz he knew what I am capable of. And now he no longer tries to do anything to me or my kids and does it all online with strangers instead of the same town we live in. He found out what will happen and now he stopped.
Bashir you are so amazing 👏 and funny how you explain the narcissist abuse with humor 😆 🤣 and calmness at the same time 🤣 I recently stumbled across your channel and I subscribed right away ❤
Everyday I remember her, even not trying to..some situation especially when lonely pops up in my mind and makes me feel hopeless. Her banter and insults that I could not get a girl even at 40, and nobody will love me like her best. I even had a severe chest pain issues last year and she never even bothered, that's the definition of love! Always blaming, for not bowing to her independence. Lifelong trauma in my mind, an agent of depression permanently put inside my mind
Brilliant and so simply presented. I appreciate you -- and all those who have come before. Thank God for TH-cam and all you guys!! It is so nice to be out from under my mom and my bro, tag teaming me all of my life!! They had me down real bad, but I am finding out who I really am now that they are not hovering and assaulting me.
I love love love your birds in the background.
You are truly a great gift to the world
This was so on point!
They are in touch with familiar spirits that’s how they know things.
The meanest of it all is to use your kids against you.... alienating them emotionally... and instrumentalizing them against you...
Timeline 4.35sec: what am I learning about NARCISSISTIC INJURY: just these 2 words...the world, those who speak "against" narcissists talk about "narcissistic injury".
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In the world of narcissists, in the perception of the Narcissist as he/she/it (an entity-whatever it may be) thinks totally differently.
The Narcissist has "No Conscience", or does not use it, or does not utilise it...
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The abandonment issue for the narcissist is HUGE...
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when I empathise with the abandoned narcissist"...
you will believe such a person...
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one will realise only a bit to late when you "lost yourself (again) in the narcissistic web of LIES and DECEIT😢😮
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Since I've never been in love or liked him more than just a friend, I put absolutely intense energy into what he does in his life. I know he is sick and not a normal person
Going through that right now, he just told me he is going to make my life a living hell.
No contact
Good work
Love the skits. Good presentation.
You hit the nail on the head my ex narcissist has a new girlfriend and tells me all the time how much in love he is with her but in the meantime he tells me how he still loves me and will look after me and tell this bs story to everyone else it's absolutely pathetic I've cut the chain with him now forever I wonder if I should warn his girlfriend what sort of evil person he really is she seems like a nice girl and I don't want him to hurt her feelings too unless she's a narcissist too but maybe not she's probably a empath like me and falls for his love bombing We were married for 28 years and didn't know about narcissism until a couple of years ago I always thought he was just a selfish person until the verbal abuse started 6 years ago and the controlling since I stopped working 😢
Please don’t warn her. It’ll only backfire as you being the jealous, bitter ex wife. Plus, I’m sure he has her mind screwed already. Trust, he’s already told her the worse lies about you but he’s really talking of himself.
So sorry this happened to you. I pray she sees him for just what he is soon.
@@LethalWeapon73 I would never worn her she can find out herself and of course he would tell her I'm the worse person on 2 legs only to make himself feel better do I really care I don't think so because I know how he works mister perfect and the biggest evil person as far as I'm concerned he'll get his Karma one day I told him don't come crying to me when she's had enough of you I blocked him anyway want nothing to do with him any more. Hope you have a Merry Christmas and prosperous New Year
You have just made sense of him all of a sudden talking to my sons.
He has lately lost his hearing aids 10 days ago. First he told me he thought he lost them on a walk with his friend (hole in pocket) I popped a post on line fb to ask peeps to look out for them.
I suggested he ordered new ones
Next day he said hed thrown them in a box in our bedroom mid argument (my fault)
So I had a coccyx injury and was recovering in bedroom, so hunted carefully in this box and around it, even in other boxes, including a tool box but I felt it was too dirty and might mark the carpet. So stopped and no joy. Then yesterday he announced he'd found them. I asked where and he said above the bed on his shelf???
He then went on to berate me saying how he believed I'd taken them hidden them suggested he got new ones
Then moved them.
I replied out of love I'd asked him to get hearing aids(took 2 yrs) as part of same team, no same side, in pain I hunted, couldn't sit on floor but knelt to look, why would I hide them, what would I gain.
He said again so that he'd order another pair.
I said but that would benefit not injure or hurt him
Put out a post to say thanks to those locals who had looked.
And had 72 comments back.
He was so cross. He said I'd confused his friend he'd been out walking with. He said I'd lied. He had not lost his aids. I'd taken them
I said I had too much pain. Too much other important things to consider. I'd never hide anything. He doesn't trust me.
I baked.
He started eating the baking.
I said I thought you didn't trust me.
How do you know that food is not going to hurt you ! U might have been plotting and scheming.
Is your belly not important to you?
Remember I'm not trustworthy, oh or am I lying now.
He then said I never said you lied???
It went on. It went on today.
I went quiet. Actually internally heart broken. I feel such a fool.
I feel do unloved.
I miss hugs cuddles hand holding, I miss friend and family and miss going out.
I want to leave.
And in my silence, he began being overly nice interested, questions and more questions not accusations.
But I couldn't speak I came away.
I'm in the bedroom, gutted. I know I have to get out.
When i left him, he was more concerned about the material things and sex. They are stupidly delusional. Glad i left and I refer to him as a sperm donor as he is my baby daddy and very much absent in the childs life or anything to do with the child. And of cause he smeared my name but didn't care as karma is a b.
I downloaded the guide. Thank you Danesh.
Danish bhai your work here is commendable. Great presentation and knowledgeable content. More power to you.
~ from srinagar
So true…I’m going through it as we speak
narcissists would rather stare at the sun, than look at the mirror and self-reflect, and take any modicum of ownership for their actions.
to think or hope that a narcissist would make meaningful, lasting change for the better, is like asking a fish to climb a tree.
the irony is that narcissists will tell everyone that you are the cause of their problems.
yet once you remove yourself from their life, they will continue with all of the same problems lol. 🤣
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
the best description ever!!!!
@anitadanforth6995 thanks for your kind words, glad to be a bit of help.
-all the best, steven
@caroleminke6116 funny how when i was 8 years old, many parents of my friends would comment on how "grown-up" i was, doing laundry and doing basic cooking for myself and the younger siblings.
eventually the parents came to resent that i was doing more than their kids at such age, so i was not invited over for playtime at their houses anymore.
Thank you for the perfect information about the subject 👌🙏
I completely detached from a relationship & this X boyfriend called my former boss at work & lied & attempted to disgrace me; it didnt work because my boss at the time knew I was a good person & good employee. He made himself look crazy.
Very helpful. Thank you!!
Danish, you are so brilliant in your skits to the max!!!!!!!!!!!! It is so amazing that you have such a great outstanding understanding of this bull!!!!!!!!! They all have the same play book for sure, unreal 😮😮😮😮😮😮 every thing you are saying is the absolute truth and it’s absolutely wonderful that someone else can see and understand and know, this is a God given relief 🥲!!!!!! You are a good and wonderful man, and you will be rewarded great blessings, because you have helped so many, many people, thank you 🙏 so very very much Danish Almighty God’s blessings be upon you and with you continuously 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 I forgot to say how funny you are too, this skit is hilarious 🤣 😂 and at the same time pathetic!!!!!!!!!!
You are amazing
Funnily, after my former church family found out how selfish and childish my ex was (their words) they still decided to support him instead of me. Smdh.
😮 Until he’s mask slips with them. Unless, their narcs also.
He goes through 4 stages of wrath 😂😂😂😂
my husband of 30 yrs who used gas lighting on me and got my sons to follow his narcissistic ways and abandoned my christian faith divorced me when i was temporary ill. After divorce i ended in psych word but never left my faith in God above. I’m happier now living my new life and my ex husband got terminal cancer shortly after he called me psycho for my faith in God above. I would have cared for him in his time of need but he abandoned faith in God above and me. Now he’s suffering and i’m grating grateful for my gifts of love. End of story is Love in Hid above. It was hard but faith overcome evil.
Exactly you are absolutely right sir
I have distanced myself and blocked the narcissists in my family. Of course I'm the bad guy. But i don't care.