Well luckily her mother said something. Most cases they do check pulses and keep checking it. I wish I was working in those places to make sure I check all pulses for longer.
Mom said she hates her actions not her daughter so burning a house down is something im sure any of us would hate for our kid to do even if we still love them
Judge: “ she didn’t give u depression, that’s part of your condition” Me: WTF YES she did give her depression. That verbal abuse can mess up your mentality quick.
Words a powerful. They reinforce your reality. Negative and positive words. Judge needs more mental health training. Drug training and mental health training aren't the same.
You have to speak life into your babies life is already stuff and peer pressure etc.. So love them unconditionally I heard the pain in the daughter voice I pray for her and her mother relationship especially healing Blessings,
The judge kept dismissing the daughters pain from the things her mom put her through. Verbal abuse is so bad in our community and unfortunately it's dismissed in the name of 'well you're bad" or "you misbehave". The blk community is not patient nor compassionate to mental illness. We think we can either beat it out or verbally abuse it out and it's a damn shame.
I believe the daughter...the mom might be unbalanced as well due to her brain injuries. Being verbally abused by your mom, takes a toll on you like nothing of this world. If you're mom doesn't love you...like damn will anyone? They both need counseling and I wish them well.
I was thinking the same thing when the daughter started talking about how her mother would say she hates her. Mom may have said I hate your actions, yet the daughter may have heard I hate you by the way it came out. Sad case, this one hurt my heart.
She possibly said those things and I’m not picking sides, but you have to realize that the mom has some mental incapabilities from her incidents as well. When my mom had a massive stroke she said hateful things to me but I knew she wasn’t in a right head space. They both need counseling and probably medicine to help with their mental state. Prayers to them both.
She said “I hate your actions” which is not the same as “I hate you”. I would think that anyone who has a child involved in illegal activity would not be supportive of the behavior. You can still love the child, but hopefully you would want to see them make better choices.
My respect for Mathis went down when he blamed her insecurities and depression on her ADHD and refused to shadow the fact that the mother was verbally abusive because he was too sucked into the sob stories. Unacceptable
@@lelilola6359 of course I understand that, but he's ignoring how mentally abusive the mother is. I'm glad her daughter was held accountable for burning through house down etc. I'm not glad that the mother left without being held accountable for her abuse.
@@Scandalous_behavior The daughter is not responsible for her mother's toxic actions. She said that as an adult her mother would make a point to come to her home daily and call her all kinds of B's...that's a calculated attack on her already mentally disturbed daughter. And if she is willing to do that as an adult...there's no telling what kind of horror that girl endured as a minor.
Wow! Deadbeat mom, how so... She took (stole) her car, caused an accident and she doesn't have a license. She has not taken accountability for any of her actions. Her mom did the right thing suing her.
@@sassylady6883 Any fool could see the mother was lying about not accepting her daughter's sexuality. She spoke very briefly about it and she was fidgety and uncomfortable. You can look at the mother and tell she's religious and old fashioned. So if the daughter isn't accepting personal responsibility and the father was nowhere in the picture, who is at fault in this case? Where did she (the daughter) get it from?
Im so glad Judge Mathis saw through her Bs excuses for her bad behavior. It's clear she knows right from wrong. I pray she gets back on her meds and pray no one gets hurt because of her bad behavior. No excuses.
Mom might be a 'walking miracle but she cold blooded to the bone and Judge Mathis was mesmerized by her 'testimony'....I pray the daughter gets Help and Peace.
Maybe mom went through too much, that she's not going to take any more. I'd be cold blooded too if you wrecked my car, burned my house and stole my money. Daughter should be happy she only received an eviction at 19.
I was raised by a very verbally abusive mother. It broke me for years. Until I moved three plus hours away. Words from a mother will burn like no one else’s. Verbal abuse is a silent killer
Brooklyn if you ever see this comment. I hope you’re on your feet and healing! I cried while watching this. I am so sorry 😢. I LOVE YOU and praying for you! Keep your head up. YOU GOT THIS 💪
@@tracykelly7731 I was wondering if anyone else noticed!! Same heavy set blonde lady and dark skinned bald dude in EVERY episode since the pandemic! The people above me have good points! They could be staff, just put through hair and wardrobe after so many cases so they can split them up into different episodes
I think any mother would be frustrated and used the wrong words if you don’t know how to care for your child, but I believe she did the absolute best that she could.
Honestly, the daughter really needs to wake up. Wake up. Yes, mental illnesses abound however she doesn’t realize that those things are her actions only; not because of verbal abuse or if so then her actions are revengeful and therefore premeditated and as such proves that she realizes that blaming her actions on mental deficiencies will ease her punishments. This is just my opinion. It’s really hard to care for a child. The daughter has 2... I hope that she is a good mother to them because that might help her own mother to soften her heart towards her. It’s sad however someone has to make the change.
She thinks teats make u believe. If I cry I can get out of this. She told a few lies in this 13 minutes. I have a feeling she is self medicating with hard drugs. Them stories wasn't adding up.
You cannot take your mothers car, get involved in an accident, flee the scene and think everything is ok. The mother said due to her brain injuries she was under a lot of medications, the daughter took advantage of that. Taking her mothers car with no license and Wrecking her car is going to fall back on the mother which is why she had no choice but to sue.
I don't like how Mathis handled the daughter's testimony.. I really don't think that he was HEARING/SEEING her. The mom went through a lot, yes, but I truly believe that she projected her pain onto this child. The daughter's imbalance is very apparent and she obviously doesn't know how to evaluate her choices, nor does she understand herself (her mind, feelings, etc). Imagine being called an animal and crazy all your life, on top of being a gay black woman? Sheesh! I pray she gets help. Being labeled as a "problem child" is so frustrating for kids going through the medical system. I see kids who struggle like this all of the time! Prayers for this family🙏🏾
Exactly. Her mom decided it was something wrong with her at the age of 1. I don’t even know how you decide that and I work in behavioral therapy for children with special needs. I believe her when she said her moms been critiquing her her whole life ☹️🥺 literally her whole life.
@@tevans3862 i believe her as well.. her mom is TOXIC and wants to be the victim.. her actions affected her daughter growin up.. arghh Judge Mathis dropped the ball
Right, I’m very disappointed that he did not let the girl talk without cutting her off. I completely believe her when she described the actions of her mother and I do hope and pray that she gets the help that she needs.
I agree. I mean I do believe that she should be held accountable for the things that she’s done, but what about the mom? She can sit up there and paint the Phoenix out the ashes hero of herself all she wants, but she never ONCE admitted she’s been too hard on her daughter. Tough love is one thing, but a young lady with this many issues truly needs to be handled with kid gloves and REALLY loved up with encouragement vs. what she’s been getting...her whole..damn..life. I pray they BOTH get the help they need. So sad 😞
@Bella Luv On point! That part! If the child is constantly rebelling against the mother, burning down the house, stealing the car, how can the mother help her daughter, if she's disobedient! 🙏
I understand why the mom would say that she was acting crazy. But no need to call her a bitch. But the daughter did burn down the house. Also stole the car and did a hit and run. So I understand why the mom would say she is crazy
The judge is right. Nothing her mom may have done would make her steal a car with no license then get in a accident and keep going. She's a grown ass woman with kids.
Regardless of how horrible your parents may have been or the trauma you may have suffered, you can still have an amazing life. You have to fight hard for it. Sending mad love and light to the young lady.
Absolutely!!! It Disgust Me Watching This Mom . Her Facial Expressions Said It All But Not Once Did She Take Accountability For Her Actions And Say Sorry 😐. Judge Mathis Just Completely Ignored Her Pain . Always Defending People . Why Not Defend Her . What Happened Too Her Has Nothing Too Do With Mistreating Your Child 🤷♀️🙄
@@beautifulmind1834 facts I couldn’t even finish that video because it really piss me off how judge Mathis was even considering her feelings .Kept saying that your mother like that’s excuse for someone emotional abuse smh
Nobody caught how mom said " 40 years without evidence" i read the case and she reconciled with dude while he was in jail. Planned to marry him and even testified on his behalf at the trial saying she didnt know who shot her. The daughter is a product of her environment. Pray for em both
Yep his defense was that she had female enemies and her ex husband (the daughter father) might have did it to but the evidence was that he was the only one in the house with her, it was his gun that shot her and he claimed he heard a gun shot after they had an argument and after he walked out the bedroom. He called 911 twice. First time he hung up on em and the second was 45 mins later. She moved dude in with her kids after only dating him for a couple months so its hard for me to say the mother is trying to help the daughter who is troubled. Its more so that she is trying to clean up the mess she made in that girl's life. Many children act out because of what they see in the home and mom wasn't setting the best one
The mother’s story is sad but I don’t like how the judge dismissed everything the daughter said was done to her🥺she lit up when she said she wanted to write a book and how she was feeling about life and how her mom treated her and he blamed her and only chastised her
The daughter needs to get away from her mother, she may love her, but sometimes you just cant get along with someone, and that's ok, this is her life, and if her momma is making it miserable she needs to seperate.
@@Hotwingzlover84 No one is saying the judgement was wrong but listening to the moms sob stories on what she went through but dismissing the daughters is not okay. Anytime she spoke on the verbal or mental abuse she endured from her mother Judge Mathis either agreed with it or blamed it on the parents love and thats how it typically is in the BLK Community. Every time the daughter spoke on the mental abuse the mother looked guilty nor did she deny it. Mothers get to paint there mistakes on their children and abuse them physically and mentally but as long as they took care of the kids then it was seen as acceptable and that needs to stop. My mother was the same way, because of her short comings she would physically and verbally abused me but because i was well taken care of nobody stepped in. Your mother treating you and talking to you like a dog off the streets takes a toll on you especially when they are all you have in life.
I agree. I think they do love each other but they both went through things that are not allowing them to see eye to eye. When they are together, they hurt each other. Sometimes you have to love people from a distance
What the daughter was trying to say is... when you keep being told something, subconsciously you start to believe it, then it ends up showing. Smh it’s sad on both ends. I pray they both heal. Emotionally and physically in the mothers case.
when my older sister (she passed away this year) got caught stealing at walmart, my momma did NOT tell her that she's an animal and belongs behind bars. she was upset for sure, but she never used words to hurt my sister. i honestly feel bad for the daughter, damn..
Judge Mathis is incorrect. The mother can absolutely be the source of the mental issues the daughter is dealing with such as depression and conduct disorder. In fact, they teach in psychology that the mother is often the most critical piece in the mental health of a child. There have been major studies supporting this. And when the daughter spoke, she seemed to describe the type of parenting issues that can lead to some of the mental health problems the daughter is alleged to have. Mathis went into his typical "mama can do no wrong" mode b/c of his own upbringing. We always talk about daddy issues and deadbeats but never hold the mother accountable and that's a major problem. I hate that ppl like Mathis get on these platforms and spread misinformation instead of just admitting it's not his area of expertise.
Seem like they both went thru a lot.. I think its a lot not being said. I just hope the daughter don't take her own life cause she is broken in so many ways
Judge Mathis is not qualified to talk about these things on national tv I’m sorry. You have a daughter here who is saying “these things happened to me. These things were said to me. These things are still being done to me and it’s influencing my behavior, my mentality, my emotions, and my spirit.” Judge Mathis is minimizing and not acknowledging her struggles and pain and on national tv, embarrassing her. That’s not to say the mother hasn’t dealt with things or isn’t hurt by her daughters actions. I feel bad for both To the girl: I see you, I hear you, I understand you.
This case hit very home for me. I grew up with a very toxic father who was incredibly verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive to me from a young age. My father would call me bitches, fat, sloppy, say no man would ever want my sloppy ass, critique EVERYTHING I did right and wrong. He constantly told me how “mental” I was called me bipolar every chance he could and would say I need to get help but refused to get me this treatment I needed. I became rebellious as I grew older and had a lot of anger from how I was treated for so long. Even in my adult years I projected that anger towards others unconsciously and always blamed my upbringing for why I behaved and spoke recklessly all the time. It wasn’t until I got tired of living in constant turmoil with everyone I encountered that I made the change to stop blaming my past abuse from my father for my reckless decisions and the monster that I had become. I had to choose forgiveness. I made the decision as an adult to seek counseling and psychiatric treatment on my own so I could break that cycle of abuse towards myself, my children, and to others. I say all that to say this...yes I do believe this mother loved her daughter but she might have chose the wrong way to express that love or as in my father’s upbringing he could only give me what he was given as a child. That does not make it right and yes the black community has a way of perpetuating negative stigmas on how to raise children and negating the fact that mental health in our community is a serious issue that NO ONE wants to address. I’m not excusing the abuse she may have imposed on her child because I have personally lived it myself. However I do believe the daughter can get through this. When she’s tired of being sick and tired I hope and pray she makes the steps necessary to heal from this trauma, pain, and anger. It gonna take her doing the hard work for HERSELF. For so long I expected my father to be the one to heal me from the damage he caused me and it never happened. You can’t expect healing that way unfortunately. If this young lady ever sees this or anyone that can relate to this situation reads this please know and believe that you DO NOT have to stay a subject or victim to your past! You are NOT those negative things that were implanted in your mind that your abuser has told you that you are! YOU ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR!! ❤️❤️❤️ Do the work my loves to break that cycle, break those negative thoughts, and break yourself free from a unnecessary life sentence of HURT! I’m sorry you and anyone else were subjected to this kind of upbringing but I LOVE YOU and I BELIEVE IN YOU! ❤️❤️❤️
Parents should own up to their shortcomings. No one is perfect even if we tried our best. How many parents look back and think they could've done some things differently?? A child is Human first, not property. They feel pain too. Apologize to your children so the Healing can start💜 I hope they both get everything that is meant for them🌹
Unfortunately some people/parents are narcissists. Which is a personality disorder in which a person lacks empathy and accountability. With that being said some people willll never be accountable for their wrong doings and we cannot force them to have empathy and do the right thing because they’re incapable. ☹️ instead they will try to invalidate their victims experience through gaslighting and smear campaigns...
When you are an adult parents no longer take responsibility for your actions. She commited crimes and thats all on her. She needs to either help herself or will end up 6 feet under
She hasn’t liked her daughter since she was a 1 year old. How do you take her to the dr and say somethings off with her. A whole ONE YEAR OLD.. lmao the daughter was right, her mom has been overly critical of her her entire life.
@@tevans3862And that's what I am saying. The mother has had numerous major head injuries and it does not matter when. It is the impact these injuries have on ones mental state.
Shame on Judge Mathis for minimizing the daughter’s pain. He missed the signs that the mother is a narcissist. The mother was cunning. She lead with her life story with the motive to discredit the daughter from the start.
For me, the daughter's actions at the end confirms that the daughter does not want to take responsibility for her actions.. She didn't accept the ruling when Judge Mathis stated she was legally responsible for the car.. This young lady is now grown and is around small children without being under a psychiatrist or counselor's care and on medication.. She admitted she's depressed, where days she can't get out of bed.. She can admit she has a problem, but doesn't want the help cause she likes being the victim.. If she does go with the help that the Judge offered, that would be wonderful!
@KissKiss Tatum I'm glad she accepted the counseling, but the question is, is she currently in counseling.. Unfortunately her story was not heard due to her not being able to tell her story without smacking her lips, rolling her eyes and giving attitude.. If she acts like this with a Judge and in front of thousands of people, how does she really conduct herself around the children she takes care of?
I feel for the mother but I feel for the daughter too, even in the court the mom only said negative things about her, yea the daughter may have caused alot of trouble but I don't think she deserves to be teared down like that
People have to take responsibility for their actions. You cannot go through life blaming others for your lot in life. My father was a father in name only, but he did the best he knew. There comes a time when you have to decide and stand up for your self. This grown child has her issues, but enough is enough. If you are grown enough to have babies, than you are grown enough to take responsibility for your life.
@@gwendesuza-mercer5901 yes but she CONTRIBUTED TO THOSE ISSUE. Judge mathis could have easily acknowledged the mother CONTRIBUTED to her issues but she also has to take responsibility for her actions but judge Mathis didnt do that, instead he invalid her feelings and made excuses for the mother “well she was angry because u were put in jail” how does being angry because of that situation justify calling ur own child a monster and deserves to be locked up in a cage?? Especially to a child that is dealing with mental health issues?
This hurt me because the defendant reminds me of my sister. My mother criticized her daily and still in her 30s she has severe self esteem issues... the Judge is wrong.
Traumatic Brain Injury may cause damage to the frontal lobe and amygdala. Based on what this woman shared, there is damage at the centers which control emotional regulation, executive functioning and other areas that are considered -empathy based or feeling based. I'm not making excuses at all. Some relationships are irreconcilable, even parent to child. Parents were the vessel through which children have come. Children then have to live for their honor.
He didn’t dismiss the daughters feelings, he was expressing how fixing yourself first can lead you to fixing other relationships. You want to make sure when mending relationships that you are in your right mind first
I honestly do not believe that the plaintiff was verbally abusive to the defendant, and it clearly shows in the courtroom. When the case started, she mentioned her two close-to-death experiences before she talked about her daughter. Not once did she say that her daughter is evil, or that she hated her, and I could clearly see in her face how hurt she was. She said that her daughter had ADHD which involves behavioral problems, but not once did she say, "my daughter is a troublemaker" or "she's turned into someone that I don't like", etc. She even maintained her composure even after the verdict and said that she doesn't want to see her daughter dead or get a phone call informing her of anything like that. Meanwhile, the defendant comes off with those crocodile tears in the courtroom, followed by stating that she was verbally abused by her mother which is why she turned out the way she did. I gotta tell you how lame that answer is. I had a father who was tough with me, but I never used that as a reason to break the law or to steal things or to wreck my parents' car. It sounds to me that the reason why her mom was firm with her is because she hasn't done anything to continue with her treatments. She said that she stopped seeing her doctor and stopped taking her medicine once she turned 18; that was HER decision to make, not her mother. She also went and took her mother's car without her permission, drove it without having a license, then got into an accident and just drove away from the scene of the accident because she knew that she would get caught on account that she didn't have a license. She is FULLY AWARE of her actions, but it's convenient for her to point blame at her mother for her behavior, just like she pointed blame at the other driver for the accident. I'm glad the judge awarded the plaintiff her complete lawsuit.
I believe what the daughter said about the mom. The mom did cause her depression in a way. just because the mom went through all that doesn’t make her a saint maybe all that happened to was karma. I feel bad for the daughter smh judge didn’t listen to what she was really saying. The mom doesn’t care about her
the mother to be alive is truly a miracle and like the daughter said I'm sure she still loves her mom but you cannot disregard her claims that her mother was verbally abusive. Yes, depression and mental health is a struggle on their own but to have somebody constantly bringing you down and criticizing you makes things even worse. Especially when you say stuff as I hate you to your own kid that becomes a core memory in their mind
I’m confused though I’m glad she survived these tragedies and has a testimony it is very irrelevant to this case and it comes off narcissistic! One has to wonder what demons are chasing you? You do not abuse your children and use your tragedies as an excuse! Her accidents and shortcomings have absolutely nothing, nothing to do with the way she treats her daughter or this case!
Right, I see so many people here siding with the daughter because she feels like her mother hurt her feelings, and that's what wrong with these kids now all this damn coddling and babying and fighting the world to make the rest of the world excuse your kids bullshit
@@marimarielove There is a difference. You have to nurture your children and that's different from coddling. You build them up and not tear them down, you correct them when their wrong. Words can destroy a person and it's true when they say it isn't true when they say words hurt less than sticks and stones.
@@pamelabranch7438 I agree with you 100 percent, words can be very hurtful and I also agree with your point about caring for your children but in this particular case, I think this mother is very tired of cleaning up her daughter's messes and instead of turning her back on her daughter she's dealing in the only way she knows how, it's an all around sad situation
I don’t understand why he did not ask the mother, why are you going over to her house, calling her names, you need to stay away from her house if that is all your going to do 🤔🤔🤔
As children being raised by single parents, we look to our parent(s) as our support and savior when we are in trouble. This mother was so mean... I am crying for the daughter. This hurt to watch. I really just want to wholeheartedly pray for this mother and daughter. Sometimes distance and no contact is best when it’s this mentally toxic for both people
Hello why is Judge Mathis ignoring the elephant in the room. *** Daughter is trans and the mother does not accept her lifestyle, that's the real issue. The daughter is not crazy, she cannot pray the gay away. She just wants acceptance.
.....stealing her mom's car isn't going to help especially since the mom has no problems calling her an ANIMAL everyday....don't give mom anymore ammo for real....
Just because you survived all of that doesn't mean you can compare your kids to that standerd it will destroy their confidence and then you don't recognize your fault but just constantly blame it on their mental health
He lost all my respect at this point. Dismiss the abuse and blame it on a chemical imbalance. IVE DELT WITH EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE! Both have affected me mentally and permanently on how i deal with certain decisions and aspects going about my life. She got dismissed completely…
I can relate to the daughter's mental illness because the only man I ever loved was diagnosed with being Bi-Polar at a young age. As an adult, when he was taking his meds life was amazing but when he stopped my life became a living hell. He always blamed me and everyone else for his problems and everyday was a mind game. Needless to say I had to walk away from the relationship after 15 yrs of being on a rollercoaster of up' s and down's, because he couldn't commit to taking his meds and seeking counselling on a regular basis. I know it's tough but it's up to the daughter to make that commitment to get the help she needs.💜
God definetly blessed the mom with strength to survive all those obstacles but not the wisdom to help guide her lost daughter. That young lady deserved love , not criticism . I wanna hug her so bad , I’m a guy this made me she’d a tear I’ve been there before you’re not alone if your reading this
The daughter made poor choices, period. The law doesn’t care about your childhood trauma. Everybody has childhood trauma, but not everyone breaks the law. if you can sit there & articulate how that person’s actions affect your’s, you can move on. It means you are very aware of the problem & have done absolutely nothing about it. Blaming other people puts a call to action on the other person; meaning they have to fix YOUR problem by apologizing or whatever else you may THINK you need to move on. NEWS FLASH, you’re never going to get an apology. Let it go, move on, & find peace. Accept people for who they are & not who you want them to be. Accept what has happened & set boundaries. Go to therapy & take your power back. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk 😅
I believe the mother is emotionally abusive. Cause how you start crying from jump street. Cause she wanted to get crying points from the judge. That’s a tactic that people who are manipulating use to get there way.
I hope that girl gets help. She seems like she wants to break her mom after all she's been through. She needs to get help so she can be a better mother if that's the case.
Given the daughters diagnosis it appears that she doesn't have the capacity to understand her mother's strength, love and effort. Im glad she admitted she needs help.
Child boo that lady is an evil manipulator, alot of moms know how to work the system they will keeping fucking with their child mental to get a social security check... The fact she suing her while she homeless shows she ain't shit☠️
Why get mad at the results of your own parenting? When children aren’t nurtured properly, they are likely to act out as an adult. Why poke the bear and then throw the stick?
She's of age now...she gotta get help and change her life for herself. people can't spend the rest of their lives blaming the shortcomings of their upbringing.
@@NkechiChiedu Exactly. My mother was physically abusive to me and it did not stop me from receiving my Master's degree. My mom is now legally disabled and I assist her financially monthly. Forgiveness is for you and not the other person.
This case has been on my mind for a month or so . I had to re-watch and I am still shocked by the disregard for the abuse and the ending . I hope the daughter is well .
I love that I'm not the only one who sees how he dismissed the daughters emotions and trauma. The mom looked at her and you could tell the daughter was not lying
@@carolyncarter4513 the daughter actually hasn’t blamed anyone for anything. She would probably like her feelings to validated and be loved by her mother properly. Feeling like you’re never good enough for your own parents is damaging, now to throw your parent triggering you intentionally... mom sounds like a narcissist who uses her near death experiences for sympathy and justification. Note how she said her kids took advantage of her having poor memory due to her accidents but her memory was strong enough to remember everything her daughters done but nothing she has done to her daughter. Her daughter ADMITTED to everything she’s done. Mother kept looking at judge Mathis nervously when the daughter was speaking on her behaviors. Y’all gotta read between the lines and read peoples body language. She’s been criticizing her daughter since she was a one year old. No one caught that? How is a one year old, off?
Judgments are based on facts, not between lines and body language. Daughter took the car illegally, didn't have a license, had a hit & run, wrecked it, arrested and stated she will pay her mother. Both histories don't change the facts. However the judge acknowledges the daughter has issues, and it's up to her to accept his offer for counseling.
@@janedough6410 I agree. Unfortunately most of the people criticizing the judge for a show he does NOT produce, and because of the "feelings" between the mother and daughter, missed the point of the show. The judge's job is to issue a verdict to the facts as you state, and to keep viewers interest. The stories surrounding the issues discussed on the show is for "entertainment." If people really want to see personal issues being resolved they are watching the wrong channel.
I don't have half of the struggles this young lady has and I don't know how I would handle my mother speaking to me that way, even if it was just in anger.
"When somebody just site there and talk down on you all day how do you expect to think how you expect to be positive about your self" i felt that hope they worked it out some how.
Omg her story 💛💛💛 The mom has passed on things to her daughter. The daughter speaks about verbal and emotional abuse... Now they are seeing the result of it. A lot of us are good providers but not so great parents. The mom was ill-equipped as well as having survived attacks and more. I can’t believe Judge Mathis justified and excused the mom’s behavior to deliberately hurt the daughter. I hope the daughter gets help for herself and her children. 😢😢😢😢😢😢 Your children aren’t your abusers. The daughter needed more guidance, grace, and connection. The mom noticed something, but unfortunately the lazy state wanted to put her on meds and ignore the root. I can show empathy for both of them.
I had 2 major childhood brain cancers the first one a minute from dying from no matter what I fought the school I started college 2015 had back slides 2018 from trauma effects to focus. I only have 3 glasses to graduate but turning it to bachelors, people say it’s taking me too long but not one of them felt the long wait I felt to walk again, the long lost I lost. They don’t truly know what long is... Thank you for giving me this leap of faith why to keep moving
So they put her in a body bag although she had a pulse....makes me wonder how many people they pronounce dead with a pulse.
That happens more often than we think.
Trust. Especially those who get buried on the same day 😢.
Well luckily her mother said something. Most cases they do check pulses and keep checking it. I wish I was working in those places to make sure I check all pulses for longer.
Ikr like are they stupid????
True true they do that alot in indianapolis and all she saying is true because im her little brother so i was their
God was not done with this woman
Still ain't done
In deed! God is so good.
He's absolutely not. May He continue to bless her 🙏 ❤.
God is good all the time- amen
Praise his HOLY name!
Her daughter was not lying about the verbal abuse her mother afflicted on her. They both hurt each other by their careless behavior.
With mental disorders you do not know if she was truthful
Mom said she hates her actions not her daughter so burning a house down is something im sure any of us would hate for our kid to do even if we still love them
@@kanamekiyru When did she say that
@@Kitkat.hvbbbb 8:27
@@kanamekiyru Couldn't have said it better 💅🏽
he probably made this girl feel just as crazy as her mother made her feel like she was, the way he keep dismissing her pain.
Absolutely 🤔
@James Stallworth absolutely right, she needs telling and needs discipline, and some truth in her life
It's irrelevant to the case.
This
Facts 😔
Judge: “ she didn’t give u depression, that’s part of your condition”
Me: WTF YES she did give her depression. That verbal abuse can mess up your mentality quick.
I agree the mom triggered it
She sure added to it.
Depression can be chronic and it can be situation-based. It depends on which she (the daughter) was diagnosed with.
Words a powerful. They reinforce your reality. Negative and positive words. Judge needs more mental health training. Drug training and mental health training aren't the same.
You have to speak life into your babies life is already stuff and peer pressure etc.. So love them unconditionally
I heard the pain in the daughter voice I pray for her and her mother relationship especially healing
Blessings,
The judge kept dismissing the daughters pain from the things her mom put her through. Verbal abuse is so bad in our community and unfortunately it's dismissed in the name of 'well you're bad" or "you misbehave". The blk community is not patient nor compassionate to mental illness. We think we can either beat it out or verbally abuse it out and it's a damn shame.
I agree! Children need empathy too ... child trauma can grow into adult issues
Too true however discipline is necessary. We need to distinguish the difference between discipline and abuse.
The realness.
I believe the daughter...the mom might be unbalanced as well due to her brain injuries. Being verbally abused by your mom, takes a toll on you like nothing of this world. If you're mom doesn't love you...like damn will anyone? They both need counseling and I wish them well.
No. Her daughter is worthless.
Somebody call Iyanla V. Fix my Life we Got a case over... They need her help
Ok! This is who life needs fixing! Not celebrities who can pay for private services lol
yep!
"NOT ON MY WATCH, NOT ON MY WATCH"
@je'suis Elle omg noooo! All those celebrities probably stressing her out
I was thinking the same thing when the daughter started talking about how her mother would say she hates her. Mom may have said I hate your actions, yet the daughter may have heard I hate you by the way it came out. Sad case, this one hurt my heart.
To say I HATE YOU to your daughter is very abusive. I believe her mom did these things.
She possibly said those things and I’m not picking sides, but you have to realize that the mom has some mental incapabilities from her incidents as well. When my mom had a massive stroke she said hateful things to me but I knew she wasn’t in a right head space. They both need counseling and probably medicine to help with their mental state. Prayers to them both.
@@popcorn526 she said all her life her mom wasn’t in a car accident all this girls life . She said when she was you
@@popcorn526 I agree when you have a BI you can say a lot of horrible things but the daughter said "all her life." That doesn't completely excuse her.
She said “I hate your actions” which is not the same as “I hate you”. I would think that anyone who has a child involved in illegal activity would not be supportive of the behavior. You can still love the child, but hopefully you would want to see them make better choices.
@@conniechoward True.
My respect for Mathis went down when he blamed her insecurities and depression on her ADHD and refused to shadow the fact that the mother was verbally abusive because he was too sucked into the sob stories. Unacceptable
She burned down a house and commited hit and run with a stolen vehicle. She needs to stop making excuses get some help and pay for her actions.
@@lelilola6359 of course I understand that, but he's ignoring how mentally abusive the mother is. I'm glad her daughter was held accountable for burning through house down etc. I'm not glad that the mother left without being held accountable for her abuse.
Agreed
@Tambria Williams ma'am your 46 relax you have your opinion i got mine
There is no such thing as ADHD in adults..just people who lack self control...
The mother is really milking the heck out of her situation
I absolutely believe the daughter when she said her mother is verbally and emotionally abusive to her.
So do I
I do too. I think much of this is her acting out.
Well because the daughter is acting out...
I do too, but the daughter is also manipulative and unaccountable for her actions.
@@Scandalous_behavior The daughter is not responsible for her mother's toxic actions. She said that as an adult her mother would make a point to come to her home daily and call her all kinds of B's...that's a calculated attack on her already mentally disturbed daughter. And if she is willing to do that as an adult...there's no telling what kind of horror that girl endured as a minor.
We talk about deadbeat dads but we need to talk about these toxic mothers. I feel for both of them, though.
For real obviously she is crying out from male attention
Wow! Deadbeat mom, how so... She took (stole) her car, caused an accident and she doesn't have a license. She has not taken accountability for any of her actions. Her mom did the right thing suing her.
@@sassylady6883 Where did I say "deadbeat mom"? I said "toxic mothers".
@@sassylady6883 Any fool could see the mother was lying about not accepting her daughter's sexuality. She spoke very briefly about it and she was fidgety and uncomfortable. You can look at the mother and tell she's religious and old fashioned. So if the daughter isn't accepting personal responsibility and the father was nowhere in the picture, who is at fault in this case? Where did she (the daughter) get it from?
Im so glad Judge Mathis saw through her Bs excuses for her bad behavior. It's clear she knows right from wrong. I pray she gets back on her meds and pray no one gets hurt because of her bad behavior. No excuses.
Mom might be a 'walking miracle but she cold blooded to the bone and Judge Mathis was mesmerized by her 'testimony'....I pray the daughter gets Help and Peace.
Thank you.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You are correct.
Absolutely, I totally agree🙌🏽
Yessss i seen that!!
Maybe mom went through too much, that she's not going to take any more. I'd be cold blooded too if you wrecked my car, burned my house and stole my money. Daughter should be happy she only received an eviction at 19.
I was raised by a very verbally abusive mother. It broke me for years. Until I moved three plus hours away. Words from a mother will burn like no one else’s. Verbal abuse is a silent killer
Brooklyn if you ever see this comment. I hope you’re on your feet and healing! I cried while watching this. I am so sorry 😢. I LOVE YOU and praying for you! Keep your head up. YOU GOT THIS 💪
Thank you for understanding how hard it was for me to go On that show ❤❤ much love
@@brooklynparker I couldn't even watch it all. Judge Mathis was dead wrong for dismissing your pain.
The COVID audience (4 men & women) ain’t miss a day yet. Lmao they always at work 🥰
I was observing it, seems like the same audience members too! 😂
@@tracykelly7731 I think they are staff members
@@tracykelly7731 Multiple sessions are taped in a day.
@@tracykelly7731 I was wondering if anyone else noticed!! Same heavy set blonde lady and dark skinned bald dude in EVERY episode since the pandemic! The people above me have good points! They could be staff, just put through hair and wardrobe after so many cases so they can split them up into different episodes
Lol. I never miss an episode how does everyone know they are his staff?
Mathis let the abusive mother tell her irrelevant sob story, but harassed the daughter for speaking out about abuse. Disgusting
I agree. I definitely think the mother is a survivor, but I can tell she abused that girl.
The mothers whole opening statement was irrelevant to the case.
Girl I thought it was just me did that Mom just finesse the hell out of him that mom is a master manipulator
Ok. Remember the daughter was put of control too?
I think any mother would be frustrated and used the wrong words if you don’t know how to care for your child, but I believe she did the absolute best that she could.
I feel sorry for the daughter, she has not healed from that verbal abuse you can tell by her tears that hurt her deeply smh
Honestly, the daughter really needs to wake up. Wake up. Yes, mental illnesses abound however she doesn’t realize that those things are her actions only; not because of verbal abuse or if so then her actions are revengeful and therefore premeditated and as such proves that she realizes that blaming her actions on mental deficiencies will ease her punishments. This is just my opinion. It’s really hard to care for a child. The daughter has 2... I hope that she is a good mother to them because that might help her own mother to soften her heart towards her. It’s sad however someone has to make the change.
She thinks teats make u believe. If I cry I can get out of this. She told a few lies in this 13 minutes. I have a feeling she is self medicating with hard drugs. Them stories wasn't adding up.
@@traya27 yea I think she cries to make ppl feel sorry for her
I was her growing up..I feel her pain.
@@xaye24Ava’s
The daughter looks so torn and upset about how she's describing her, as if she's not there, or something severely wrong. She is toxic to her child.
You cannot take your mothers car, get involved in an accident, flee the scene and think everything is ok. The mother said due to her brain injuries she was under a lot of medications, the daughter took advantage of that. Taking her mothers car with no license and Wrecking her car is going to fall back on the mother which is why she had no choice but to sue.
I feel her pain. Sometimes our parents are toxic
Fact!
Most parents are toxic
Words do hurt wounds heal scars always remain from both ☹️
@@Mzzbeck That part
@@CurtisR1114 Not most. That’s a fallacy.
I don't like how Mathis handled the daughter's testimony.. I really don't think that he was HEARING/SEEING her.
The mom went through a lot, yes, but I truly believe that she projected her pain onto this child. The daughter's imbalance is very apparent and she obviously doesn't know how to evaluate her choices, nor does she understand herself (her mind, feelings, etc). Imagine being called an animal and crazy all your life, on top of being a gay black woman? Sheesh! I pray she gets help. Being labeled as a "problem child" is so frustrating for kids going through the medical system. I see kids who struggle like this all of the time! Prayers for this family🙏🏾
i agree.....
Exactly. Her mom decided it was something wrong with her at the age of 1. I don’t even know how you decide that and I work in behavioral therapy for children with special needs. I believe her when she said her moms been critiquing her her whole life ☹️🥺 literally her whole life.
@@tevans3862 i believe her as well.. her mom is TOXIC and wants to be the victim.. her actions affected her daughter growin up.. arghh Judge Mathis dropped the ball
Right, I’m very disappointed that he did not let the girl talk without cutting her off. I completely believe her when she described the actions of her mother and I do hope and pray that she gets the help that she needs.
I agree. I mean I do believe that she should be held accountable for the things that she’s done, but what about the mom? She can sit up there and paint the Phoenix out the ashes hero of herself all she wants, but she never ONCE admitted she’s been too hard on her daughter. Tough love is one thing, but a young lady with this many issues truly needs to be handled with kid gloves and REALLY loved up with encouragement vs. what she’s been getting...her whole..damn..life. I pray they BOTH get the help they need. So sad 😞
Judge, LISTEN!!! Stop blaming everything on her “mental illness” when this lady was mentally abusing her daughter!!!!
Exactly my thoughts!
Lady was the one naming all the mental illnesses not the judge. She the one said the doctor called her schizophrenic
@Bella Luv On point! That part! If the child is constantly rebelling against the mother, burning down the house, stealing the car, how can the mother help her daughter, if she's disobedient! 🙏
yea this judge is always pissing me off I'm not even going to lie.
I understand why the mom would say that she was acting crazy. But no need to call her a bitch. But the daughter did burn down the house. Also stole the car and did a hit and run. So I understand why the mom would say she is crazy
The judge is right. Nothing her mom may have done would make her steal a car with no license then get in a accident and keep going. She's a grown ass woman with kids.
Regardless of how horrible your parents may have been or the trauma you may have suffered, you can still have an amazing life.
You have to fight hard for it.
Sending mad love and light to the young lady.
I hope the daughter finds peace
YES, same here and she is so beautiful. You can see the beauty behind the pain sadly 😔
JM dropped the ball telling the daughter to excuse her mother’s abuse! “That’s your mom, she did her best.” Well clearly it wasn’t good enough.
Talk man! Talk!
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Absolutely!!! It Disgust Me Watching This Mom . Her Facial Expressions Said It All But Not Once Did She Take Accountability For Her Actions And Say Sorry 😐. Judge Mathis Just Completely Ignored Her Pain . Always Defending People . Why Not Defend Her . What Happened Too Her Has Nothing Too Do With Mistreating Your Child 🤷♀️🙄
I agree. Its not okay for the mother to say those things to her and that should have been addressed
@@beautifulmind1834 facts I couldn’t even finish that video because it really piss me off how judge Mathis was even considering her feelings .Kept saying that your mother like that’s excuse for someone emotional abuse smh
Nobody caught how mom said " 40 years without evidence" i read the case and she reconciled with dude while he was in jail. Planned to marry him and even testified on his behalf at the trial saying she didnt know who shot her. The daughter is a product of her environment. Pray for em both
Are u serious??👀
Woowwww
What the hell??? Smh
Yep his defense was that she had female enemies and her ex husband (the daughter father) might have did it to but the evidence was that he was the only one in the house with her, it was his gun that shot her and he claimed he heard a gun shot after they had an argument and after he walked out the bedroom. He called 911 twice. First time he hung up on em and the second was 45 mins later. She moved dude in with her kids after only dating him for a couple months so its hard for me to say the mother is trying to help the daughter who is troubled. Its more so that she is trying to clean up the mess she made in that girl's life. Many children act out because of what they see in the home and mom wasn't setting the best one
Omg 😱
The mother’s story is sad but I don’t like how the judge dismissed everything the daughter said was done to her🥺she lit up when she said she wanted to write a book and how she was feeling about life and how her mom treated her and he blamed her and only chastised her
That’s one woman with a whole lotta bad luck...if it wasn’t for bad luck she’d have no luck at all.
The daughter needs to get away from her mother, she may love her, but sometimes you just cant get along with someone, and that's ok, this is her life, and if her momma is making it miserable she needs to seperate.
@@Hotwingzlover84 No one is saying the judgement was wrong but listening to the moms sob stories on what she went through but dismissing the daughters is not okay. Anytime she spoke on the verbal or mental abuse she endured from her mother Judge Mathis either agreed with it or blamed it on the parents love and thats how it typically is in the BLK Community. Every time the daughter spoke on the mental abuse the mother looked guilty nor did she deny it. Mothers get to paint there mistakes on their children and abuse them physically and mentally but as long as they took care of the kids then it was seen as acceptable and that needs to stop. My mother was the same way, because of her short comings she would physically and verbally abused me but because i was well taken care of nobody stepped in. Your mother treating you and talking to you like a dog off the streets takes a toll on you especially when they are all you have in life.
I agree. I think they do love each other but they both went through things that are not allowing them to see eye to eye. When they are together, they hurt each other. Sometimes you have to love people from a distance
Period!
So it was ok that she burned her Mother house down?? I think they've both have deep seeded hurt caused by each of them
God Bless them both I pray for peace into both of their lives.
Amen
Yes Amen 🙏🏾
Amen🙏🏾
Bless you as well 🙏🏽
@@m.lorraineroberts5537 Thank you 🙏🙏
What the daughter was trying to say is... when you keep being told something, subconsciously you start to believe it, then it ends up showing. Smh it’s sad on both ends. I pray they both heal. Emotionally and physically in the mothers case.
Prayers for the daughter 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. You can tell she either has developmental or emotional issues & needs help, not jail.
Judge Mathis heard that sob story and it was over for the defendant. That testimony meant that everything wrong with the defendant was her own fault.
when my older sister (she passed away this year) got caught stealing at walmart, my momma did NOT tell her that she's an animal and belongs behind bars. she was upset for sure, but she never used words to hurt my sister. i honestly feel bad for the daughter, damn..
Sounds like she’s verbally abusive to her possibly hates her dad-hates her sexuality-hates her life style
We are 4 minutes in and she has YET to discuss the case. WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING?!
she was trying to get empathy. i mean i’m glad she’s alive but, this has nothing to do with her and the daughters behavior issues 🤨
Exactly 😂
I swear, I was watching this with my mom and she was like "Girl get to the POINT!" I was dead💀💀
Fr I wasn’t trying to be funny but fr get to the case
She just want everyone to feel sorry for her but she was the problem by the way her Daughter is.
He’s wrong for talking to the daughter like that! Period!
I agree
$5000 verdict for the plaintiff is like putting a bandaid on a gunshot wound...That was the least of both of their problems.
I want this woman to get the support she needs. Her mama is toxic af. She’s stuck in her abusive childhood.
Judge Mathis is incorrect. The mother can absolutely be the source of the mental issues the daughter is dealing with such as depression and conduct disorder. In fact, they teach in psychology that the mother is often the most critical piece in the mental health of a child. There have been major studies supporting this. And when the daughter spoke, she seemed to describe the type of parenting issues that can lead to some of the mental health problems the daughter is alleged to have.
Mathis went into his typical "mama can do no wrong" mode b/c of his own upbringing. We always talk about daddy issues and deadbeats but never hold the mother accountable and that's a major problem. I hate that ppl like Mathis get on these platforms and spread misinformation instead of just admitting it's not his area of expertise.
Seem like they both went thru a lot.. I think its a lot not being said. I just hope the daughter don't take her own life cause she is broken in so many ways
I don’t wanna hear no more smh
3rd case Iam very sad.
Time 4:56PM Tues 12/8/20
@@neddyconstant5816 what
Judge Mathis is not qualified to talk about these things on national tv I’m sorry. You have a daughter here who is saying “these things happened to me. These things were said to me. These things are still being done to me and it’s influencing my behavior, my mentality, my emotions, and my spirit.” Judge Mathis is minimizing and not acknowledging her struggles and pain and on national tv, embarrassing her.
That’s not to say the mother hasn’t dealt with things or isn’t hurt by her daughters actions. I feel bad for both
To the girl: I see you, I hear you, I understand you.
Judge was very dismissive of the young lady's feelings. Disappointed in him on this one
This case hit very home for me. I grew up with a very toxic father who was incredibly verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive to me from a young age. My father would call me bitches, fat, sloppy, say no man would ever want my sloppy ass, critique EVERYTHING I did right and wrong. He constantly told me how “mental” I was called me bipolar every chance he could and would say I need to get help but refused to get me this treatment I needed. I became rebellious as I grew older and had a lot of anger from how I was treated for so long. Even in my adult years I projected that anger towards others unconsciously and always blamed my upbringing for why I behaved and spoke recklessly all the time. It wasn’t until I got tired of living in constant turmoil with everyone I encountered that I made the change to stop blaming my past abuse from my father for my reckless decisions and the monster that I had become. I had to choose forgiveness. I made the decision as an adult to seek counseling and psychiatric treatment on my own so I could break that cycle of abuse towards myself, my children, and to others. I say all that to say this...yes I do believe this mother loved her daughter but she might have chose the wrong way to express that love or as in my father’s upbringing he could only give me what he was given as a child. That does not make it right and yes the black community has a way of perpetuating negative stigmas on how to raise children and negating the fact that mental health in our community is a serious issue that NO ONE wants to address. I’m not excusing the abuse she may have imposed on her child because I have personally lived it myself. However I do believe the daughter can get through this. When she’s tired of being sick and tired I hope and pray she makes the steps necessary to heal from this trauma, pain, and anger. It gonna take her doing the hard work for HERSELF. For so long I expected my father to be the one to heal me from the damage he caused me and it never happened. You can’t expect healing that way unfortunately. If this young lady ever sees this or anyone that can relate to this situation reads this please know and believe that you DO NOT have to stay a subject or victim to your past! You are NOT those negative things that were implanted in your mind that your abuser has told you that you are! YOU ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR!! ❤️❤️❤️ Do the work my loves to break that cycle, break those negative thoughts, and break yourself free from a unnecessary life sentence of HURT! I’m sorry you and anyone else were subjected to this kind of upbringing but I LOVE YOU and I BELIEVE IN YOU! ❤️❤️❤️
Brain injuries can change people’s personalities for the worst, because of the damage.
That lady is just fine!
Parents should own up to their shortcomings. No one is perfect even if we tried our best. How many parents look back and think they could've done some things differently?? A child is Human first, not property. They feel pain too. Apologize to your children so the Healing can start💜 I hope they both get everything that is meant for them🌹
Unfortunately some people/parents are narcissists. Which is a personality disorder in which a person lacks empathy and accountability. With that being said some people willll never be accountable for their wrong doings and we cannot force them to have empathy and do the right thing because they’re incapable. ☹️ instead they will try to invalidate their victims experience through gaslighting and smear campaigns...
Do you have kids?
@@lovegreen6679 3 daughters
@@ericablige9449 ignore them, they’re clearly probably offended because they are one of these parents who never accepts accountability lol
When you are an adult parents no longer take responsibility for your actions. She commited crimes and thats all on her. She needs to either help herself or will end up 6 feet under
I'm sorry but.. I don't like that mother.
And why is Mathis being so harsh on the daughter? Wouldn't even hear her out about the house fire.
She hasn’t liked her daughter since she was a 1 year old. How do you take her to the dr and say somethings off with her. A whole ONE YEAR OLD.. lmao the daughter was right, her mom has been overly critical of her her entire life.
Tanisha (sp) the mother has had numeros major head injuries. The brain is a fragile and complex organ.
@@drucella5581 her mom had the brain injuries long AFTER the daughter was one, if I’m not mistaken.
@@tevans3862And that's what I am saying. The mother has had numerous major head injuries and it does not matter when. It is the impact these injuries have on ones mental state.
@@drucella5581 why try to justify her stupid behavior
Shame on Judge Mathis for minimizing the daughter’s pain. He missed the signs that the mother is a narcissist. The mother was cunning. She lead with her life story with the motive to discredit the daughter from the start.
For me, the daughter's actions at the end confirms that the daughter does not want to take responsibility for her actions.. She didn't accept the ruling when Judge Mathis stated she was legally responsible for the car.. This young lady is now grown and is around small children without being under a psychiatrist or counselor's care and on medication.. She admitted she's depressed, where days she can't get out of bed.. She can admit she has a problem, but doesn't want the help cause she likes being the victim.. If she does go with the help that the Judge offered, that would be wonderful!
@KissKiss Tatum I'm glad she accepted the counseling, but the question is, is she currently in counseling.. Unfortunately her story was not heard due to her not being able to tell her story without smacking her lips, rolling her eyes and giving attitude.. If she acts like this with a Judge and in front of thousands of people, how does she really conduct herself around the children she takes care of?
I feel for the mother but I feel for the daughter too, even in the court the mom only said negative things about her, yea the daughter may have caused alot of trouble but I don't think she deserves to be teared down like that
JM is trifling for not acknowledging how the mother contributed to her daughters issues.
E X A C T L Y
People have to take responsibility for their actions. You cannot go through life blaming others for your lot in life. My father was a father in name only, but he did the best he knew. There comes a time when you have to decide and stand up for your self. This grown child has her issues, but enough is enough. If you are grown enough to have babies, than you are grown enough to take responsibility for your life.
@@gwendesuza-mercer5901 yes but she CONTRIBUTED TO THOSE ISSUE. Judge mathis could have easily acknowledged the mother CONTRIBUTED to her issues but she also has to take responsibility for her actions but judge Mathis didnt do that, instead he invalid her feelings and made excuses for the mother “well she was angry because u were put in jail” how does being angry because of that situation justify calling ur own child a monster and deserves to be locked up in a cage?? Especially to a child that is dealing with mental health issues?
This hurt me because the defendant reminds me of my sister. My mother criticized her daily and still in her 30s she has severe self esteem issues... the Judge is wrong.
Yes totally utterly spiritually and religiously wrong in every way.
Traumatic Brain Injury may cause damage to the frontal lobe and amygdala. Based on what this woman shared, there is damage at the centers which control emotional regulation, executive functioning and other areas that are considered -empathy based or feeling based.
I'm not making excuses at all. Some relationships are irreconcilable, even parent to child. Parents were the vessel through which children have come. Children then have to live for their honor.
He didn’t dismiss the daughters feelings, he was expressing how fixing yourself first can lead you to fixing other relationships. You want to make sure when mending relationships that you are in your right mind first
wow she's suing her homeless daughter... yeah i believe the mother was/is abusive
Shes not homeless
@@zay540 that's what she said at the end
@@tt21223 I know. And she also said in the middle that her mom goes to her apartmdnt everyday and harrases her to this day.
@@zay540 Glad you caught that
she wrecked her car and did a hit and run who gives a fuck
The 2 kids caught me off guard !
Her girl friend had the kids. 😎
What caught me off gaurd was the gf having babies ... like by WHAT MAN 🤨😯🤦🏽♀️🧐
Causeeeeee ... nvm 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ smh
Me too lol
Facts
How? Never heard of people having babies?
I feel so bad for the daughter..
Me too. Especially when she said her mother calls her a “retarded B” and tells her she hates her.
@@BriBri82 mymom tells me the same thing but I ignored her insults cause I became a better person
@@rosaleisle8081 exactly like wtf,
I honestly do not believe that the plaintiff was verbally abusive to the defendant, and it clearly shows in the courtroom. When the case started, she mentioned her two close-to-death experiences before she talked about her daughter. Not once did she say that her daughter is evil, or that she hated her, and I could clearly see in her face how hurt she was. She said that her daughter had ADHD which involves behavioral problems, but not once did she say, "my daughter is a troublemaker" or "she's turned into someone that I don't like", etc. She even maintained her composure even after the verdict and said that she doesn't want to see her daughter dead or get a phone call informing her of anything like that.
Meanwhile, the defendant comes off with those crocodile tears in the courtroom, followed by stating that she was verbally abused by her mother which is why she turned out the way she did. I gotta tell you how lame that answer is. I had a father who was tough with me, but I never used that as a reason to break the law or to steal things or to wreck my parents' car. It sounds to me that the reason why her mom was firm with her is because she hasn't done anything to continue with her treatments. She said that she stopped seeing her doctor and stopped taking her medicine once she turned 18; that was HER decision to make, not her mother. She also went and took her mother's car without her permission, drove it without having a license, then got into an accident and just drove away from the scene of the accident because she knew that she would get caught on account that she didn't have a license. She is FULLY AWARE of her actions, but it's convenient for her to point blame at her mother for her behavior, just like she pointed blame at the other driver for the accident. I'm glad the judge awarded the plaintiff her complete lawsuit.
Why is judge matthis defending an abusive mother? Why is he downplaying abuse? Really?!
This case was too 😞. I feel for the daughter and mom is a living testimony to miracles
There is a reason why that daughter acts the way she does. The mother plays a big part!!!!
Probably was molested thats what im getting
sad sad sad there's a whole lot of healing that mother and daughter need to embark on
I believe what the daughter said about the mom. The mom did cause her depression in a way. just because the mom went through all that doesn’t make her a saint maybe all that happened to was karma. I feel bad for the daughter smh judge didn’t listen to what she was really saying. The mom doesn’t care about her
the mother to be alive is truly a miracle and like the daughter said I'm sure she still loves her mom but you cannot disregard her claims that her mother was verbally abusive. Yes, depression and mental health is a struggle on their own but to have somebody constantly bringing you down and criticizing you makes things even worse. Especially when you say stuff as I hate you to your own kid that becomes a core memory in their mind
I’m confused though I’m glad she survived these tragedies and has a testimony it is very irrelevant to this case and it comes off narcissistic! One has to wonder what demons are chasing you? You do not abuse your children and use your tragedies as an excuse! Her accidents and shortcomings have absolutely nothing, nothing to do with the way she treats her daughter or this case!
Big noob they don't know cause they never knew anyone with a brain 🤕
If I ended up in jail, my mom wouldn’t have used words to hurt me. I would be black and blue.
Preach..
😭
Right, I see so many people here siding with the daughter because she feels like her mother hurt her feelings, and that's what wrong with these kids now all this damn coddling and babying and fighting the world to make the rest of the world excuse your kids bullshit
@@marimarielove There is a difference. You have to nurture your children and that's different from coddling. You build them up and not tear them down, you correct them when their wrong. Words can destroy a person and it's true when they say it isn't true when they say words hurt less than sticks and stones.
@@pamelabranch7438 I agree with you 100 percent, words can be very hurtful and I also agree with your point about caring for your children but in this particular case, I think this mother is very tired of cleaning up her daughter's messes and instead of turning her back on her daughter she's dealing in the only way she knows how, it's an all around sad situation
I was degraded all the time growing up! It just motivated me to be what everyone expected me NOT to be.
Love to hear 🙏🏾❤️
I don’t understand why he did not ask the mother, why are you going over to her house, calling her names, you need to stay away from her house if that is all your going to do 🤔🤔🤔
As children being raised by single parents, we look to our parent(s) as our support and savior when we are in trouble. This mother was so mean... I am crying for the daughter. This hurt to watch. I really just want to wholeheartedly pray for this mother and daughter. Sometimes distance and no contact is best when it’s this mentally toxic for both people
Stop having kids without the commitment of marriage that'll help
Her daughter may have been s victim of lead poisoning, a known neurotoxin that can lead to behavioral problems later.
Yes a lot of poor kids have been poisoned all across this country. Flint, Michigan is only one incident.
@@StygianStilettosGamer yup, I’m from there.
She has a purpose...GOD wants her here for a reason 🙏
I totally agree
Yes, she does. We all do
Yessssss! That part!
Hello why is Judge Mathis ignoring the elephant in the room. *** Daughter is trans and the mother does not accept her lifestyle, that's the real issue. The daughter is not crazy, she cannot pray the gay away. She just wants acceptance.
That’s what I’m thinking!
Why don’t the mom have a husband
Yep
Daughter appears to be a stud/butch lesbian.. not a transgender.
.....stealing her mom's car isn't going to help especially since the mom has no problems calling her an ANIMAL everyday....don't give mom anymore ammo for real....
Just because you survived all of that doesn't mean you can compare your kids to that standerd it will destroy their confidence and then you don't recognize your fault but just constantly blame it on their mental health
He lost all my respect at this point. Dismiss the abuse and blame it on a chemical imbalance. IVE DELT WITH EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE! Both have affected me mentally and permanently on how i deal with certain decisions and aspects going about my life. She got dismissed completely…
I can relate to the daughter's mental illness because the only man I ever loved was diagnosed with being Bi-Polar at a young age. As an adult, when he was taking his meds life was amazing but when he stopped my life became a living hell. He always blamed me and everyone else for his problems and everyday was a mind game. Needless to say I had to walk away from the relationship after 15 yrs of being on a rollercoaster of up' s and down's, because he couldn't commit to taking his meds and seeking counselling on a regular basis. I know it's tough but it's up to the daughter to make that commitment to get the help she needs.💜
This lady went through a lot of troubles in her life and still has a strong mind and heart to keep going.
She's such a inspiration 2 brain injuries and she's still going strong
But she still abused her daughter.
Inspirational people don’t abuse their children
How is that inspirational? She didn't die because her body wasn't ready to shut down. That doesn't make her an inspiration.
Toxic is toxic no matter who it is.
okay that daughter’s smile is beautiful tho
This is one of the most heartbreaking episodes of Judge Mathis ever.
Fact
God definetly blessed the mom with strength to survive all those obstacles but not the wisdom to help guide her lost daughter. That young lady deserved love , not criticism . I wanna hug her so bad , I’m a guy this made me she’d a tear I’ve been there before you’re not alone if your reading this
This ruling is probably going to set her back more. So sad
The daughter made poor choices, period. The law doesn’t care about your childhood trauma. Everybody has childhood trauma, but not everyone breaks the law.
if you can sit there & articulate how that person’s actions affect your’s, you can move on. It means you are very aware of the problem & have done absolutely nothing about it.
Blaming other people puts a call to action on the other person; meaning they have to fix YOUR problem by apologizing or whatever else you may THINK you need to move on. NEWS FLASH, you’re never going to get an apology. Let it go, move on, & find peace.
Accept people for who they are & not who you want them to be. Accept what has happened & set boundaries. Go to therapy & take your power back.
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk 😅
I believe the mother is emotionally abusive. Cause how you start crying from jump street. Cause she wanted to get crying points from the judge. That’s a tactic that people who are manipulating use to get there way.
I hope that girl gets help. She seems like she wants to break her mom after all she's been through. She needs to get help so she can be a better mother if that's the case.
This is crazy the mom went thru so much man and the daughter seem that not understand and be responsible enough it’s sad
Given the daughters diagnosis it appears that she doesn't have the capacity to understand her mother's strength, love and effort. Im glad she admitted she needs help.
@@teannasherrell1410 exactly. This is incredibly incredibly sad. They're both suffering and it's heartbreaking to see...Lord have mercy.
Child boo that lady is an evil manipulator, alot of moms know how to work the system they will keeping fucking with their child mental to get a social security check... The fact she suing her while she homeless shows she ain't shit☠️
@@Theworldismyoyster1000 say that shit again the mom dead ass wrong smh 🤦🏽♀️
@@Theworldismyoyster1000 thank you girl. These mothers are really the ones damaging these kids.
Why get mad at the results of your own parenting? When children aren’t nurtured properly, they are likely to act out as an adult. Why poke the bear and then throw the stick?
She's of age now...she gotta get help and change her life for herself. people can't spend the rest of their lives blaming the shortcomings of their upbringing.
@@NkechiChiedu Exactly. My mother was physically abusive to me and it did not stop me from receiving my Master's degree. My mom is now legally disabled and I assist her financially monthly. Forgiveness is for you and not the other person.
@KissKiss Tatum Forgiveness is really for self, my FATHER in heaven tells me that. GOD does not forgive those of us who don't forgive others.
This case has been on my mind for a month or so . I had to re-watch and I am still shocked by the disregard for the abuse and the ending
. I hope the daughter is well .
I love that I'm not the only one who sees how he dismissed the daughters emotions and trauma. The mom looked at her and you could tell the daughter was not lying
this sad asf
Very. Dysfunctional as hell.
Took the words right out of my mouth. Pray for them yall
The daughter needs counseling she seems to be so angry. I like how. Mom trying to get help for her
absolutely!
@@carolyncarter4513 the daughter actually hasn’t blamed anyone for anything. She would probably like her feelings to validated and be loved by her mother properly. Feeling like you’re never good enough for your own parents is damaging, now to throw your parent triggering you intentionally... mom sounds like a narcissist who uses her near death experiences for sympathy and justification. Note how she said her kids took advantage of her having poor memory due to her accidents but her memory was strong enough to remember everything her daughters done but nothing she has done to her daughter. Her daughter ADMITTED to everything she’s done. Mother kept looking at judge Mathis nervously when the daughter was speaking on her behaviors. Y’all gotta read between the lines and read peoples body language. She’s been criticizing her daughter since she was a one year old. No one caught that? How is a one year old, off?
Judgments are based on facts, not between lines and body language. Daughter took the car illegally, didn't have a license, had a hit & run, wrecked it, arrested and stated she will pay her mother. Both histories don't change the facts. However the judge acknowledges the daughter has issues, and it's up to her to accept his offer for counseling.
But the mom is part of the problem as well, causing her mental and emotional pain from abuse.
@@janedough6410 I agree. Unfortunately most of the people criticizing the judge for a show he does NOT produce, and because of the "feelings" between the mother and daughter, missed the point of the show. The judge's job is to issue a verdict to the facts as you state, and to keep viewers interest. The stories surrounding the issues discussed on the show is for "entertainment." If people really want to see personal issues being resolved they are watching the wrong channel.
Tha daughter ain’t realizing tht she’s tha one making tha bad decisions 🤦♂️it’s always tha other person fault huh? 😂
But why does she make bad decisions? Psych 101
@@blessedtobealive help her make correct decisions not why
@@andrejamal5438 how can you help properly if you don't know the 'why' ? 🤨
I don't have half of the struggles this young lady has and I don't know how I would handle my mother speaking to me that way, even if it was just in anger.
"When somebody just site there and talk down on you all day how do you expect to think how you expect to be positive about your self" i felt that hope they worked it out some how.
I’m glad she made it through the brain injuries. But I’m sure there are some severe emotional issues from that & her children had to endure it
Miracle in the midst. What an amazing testament to her personal strength and will. Ms. Parker is awesome. Wishing her daughter the best.
Omg her story 💛💛💛 The mom has passed on things to her daughter. The daughter speaks about verbal and emotional abuse... Now they are seeing the result of it. A lot of us are good providers but not so great parents. The mom was ill-equipped as well as having survived attacks and more. I can’t believe Judge Mathis justified and excused the mom’s behavior to deliberately hurt the daughter. I hope the daughter gets help for herself and her children. 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Your children aren’t your abusers. The daughter needed more guidance, grace, and connection. The mom noticed something, but unfortunately the lazy state wanted to put her on meds and ignore the root. I can show empathy for both of them.
@KissKiss Tatum there’s a lot of that too. Smh
The daughter not lying. The mom probably ratchet as hell and a horrible mom, regardless of what she been through you don’t say you hate your kids
I had 2 major childhood brain cancers the first one a minute from dying from no matter what I fought the school I started college 2015 had back slides 2018 from trauma effects to focus. I only have 3 glasses to graduate but turning it to bachelors, people say it’s taking me too long but not one of them felt the long wait I felt to walk again, the long lost I lost. They don’t truly know what long is... Thank you for giving me this leap of faith why to keep moving