What Do You Wish You'd Known Sooner in Life? - Part 2
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ต.ค. 2018
- We open up about with what we know now, if there is anything we wish we had learned sooner. Real fam, is there any decision you would have made differently knowing what you know now?
- บันเทิง
"Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost."
Sis.....I FELT that.
I feel that way now, but to scared to throw 19 years down the drain. To scared to leave.
So deep and yes goosebumps
Her Story
Please don’t let your fear overcome your true desires. I stayed in a relationship for TOO long and while I don’t regret the learning experience I regret the time I wasted on this undeserving person, time I can never get back. Each second you unhappily spend with this individual is a moment you can spend treasuring someone else. 19 years is a successful run at a relationship, don’t chalk it up to failure just because it’s ending. Some things are meant to be momentary and life has a way of showing us the expiration dates if we look with a strong mind + open heart.
Sending you love and light on this journey of yours.
@@herstory4738 trust your instincts
Courtni Lachelle I felt it too ccy
Something told Jeannie not to have children with him. That was her intuition
Boom. 🙌🏻
Look at god👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yep
adrienne young 🙏
So true .....
Wouldn’t it be great if she met someone n felt that peace n comfortable enough to want to have a kid (I’ve seen it happen many times) & god willing that relationship last forever
.....while Freddie’s falls apart with that gold digging husband stealing manipulative hussy baby momma he’s with now
--wow...sorry that last part just slipped out 🤨😉😜
Sometimes God breaks your heart to save your soul.
Amen
Soooo true
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Ooooh.thats deep
Wow 🙌
I have never seen Jeannie in so much pain. My heart breaks for her. She's such a strong woman. All of them are
Yeeeees i agree
She's getting better at acting. There's never just one side remember that
Ohmy gosh So because there is more than one side that means she can't be in pain? Why does she have to be acting?
She faking
@@jonnydavis6066 Exactly! Those tears are because "that ass" feels embarrassed, because "that ass" got embarrassed.🤦
Addrienne is killing it this season....damn. She is so REAL and honest. She gives great advice and is very opinionated. I love this new Addrienne.
Rikane Jose I can't wait hitting 30, you really know about stuff.
Ghariba yes you do it’s amazing lol
Her husband is sewing good seeds.
Yes!!
I think she’s always been like this, I always really liked Adrienne as one of my fave co-hosts/ panelists! 🤷🏽♀️☺️👌🏾
"She lost him but she found herself and somehow that was everything"- TS
Who is the author, TS?
TS----> Taylor Swift.
Out of the woods music video.
I read TS as Tony Stark, LOL! (thanks Spiderman homecoming for that)
but I love that quote! 💖
Jack Percy I thought she meant TS Madison too. I was like werkkk TS Madison
Jack Percy 😭😭😭😭
I love it when they talk about deep stuff
SO well said! They ARE amazing when they talk about deep stuff! They should do it more often!!!
I feel like thats when their most REAL side comes alive!
Sabrina Court yes this made me more interested in the show then before honestly. Let's really be REAL!
Tianna Miller agreed! Topics like this is when the show really shines, in my opinion.
Tanya B true
This episode is so therapeutic ✨
ELOHOOO! HIII
LO!! Love you sis! 💕🤗💕
Loni is always the voice that makes things better.
She’s positive and uplifting.
I wouldn´t say aaaaaalways
feel like she didn't support jeannie's divorce in the beginning though
Sarah I mean who WANTS to see their friends divorce!? She’s doesn’t live with them so of course she’s gonna be anti-divorce! But I’m sure once she found out the relationship wasn’t good she supported her friend divorcing
M. Sam’uel I was thinking the same thing lol. I think that’s why she’s right in the middle. She keeps it all leveled!
She cares 🙏🙏
“Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost”
love it 💕
That spoke to me. That's exactly where I am right now. Jeannie always got some truth to say.
It's not just the words. The way she said it Her voice cracked at the end. She really meant it
Truest words have never been said
E Bri this is a bit random but who is that in your dp??
Exactly
When you're wearing rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
Preach!!!!!!
Love that!
KatiesCovers I’m lost
// bebita. Ohhh ok
Thank you
KatiesCovers that’s a good one!
Damn I wanna go to Paris and cry on the train
🤣🤣 Right! Lol!
😂😂😂
girl same
dance4life1208 Oh thats the life. Happiness in pain.
I've done that many times here in my city just take whatever train n ride it n cry😂💔
"Sometimes, you find yourself when you get lost." - So true.
Andeavor major facts
Andeavor hey my fellow simmer.
mkay about to travel anywhere then because i need to find myself
I completely get what Adrienne is saying she felt like “look at me he asked see?” Almost like validation
BritBrit Nicole so sad
Tay Boone yeah it is
Wedding rings are a symbol of worth in our society
This is a deep conversation. I love it! This is REAL! Please have more conversations like this.
Agreed
GiveMe ATaco: Yaaaaaassss!🤗
you lady's are talking about some real stuff ...loni I love you 🌸🌸🌸
Ladies, for those of you that are in relationships that aren’t going anywhere and you know it, GET OUT!
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Shima Amiri Hard after having children and building and entire life stretching across 15 years. Men are boring, but demand excitement 😧 I'm bored!
Let em know sis!
Do women loose themselves after marriage?
Amen sister
The bible says that God speaks in SILENCE. Its good to have silence when you need to think.
Book Bag scripture?
Well said!
Book Bag so profound! I needed this 🙏🏾
BusinessBox13 It’s mentioned in 1Kings 19:11-12
Book Bag I pray and pray until I get answers..it may take seconds to months , but prayer is a guarantee to get your answer from God
Jeannie looks so hurt☹️ she doesn’t deserve that
I agree she is so loving
but maybe she needed it to become the person she's supposed to be and to make her stronger/realize her worth. Bad things happen to undeserving people but they always come out stronger in the end.
life gives people things they dont deserve
Dreambelive07 they don’t always come out stronger. Life will beat the crap out of all us
I'm so happy that Adrienne is opening up about her life! Her and Jeannie seemed to be really bonding
Caitlin T so she was being played?
Shelly G by her ex yeah he was cheating
Hearing Ade and Jeannie voice crack at the end really broke my heart for them
Jeannie is so damn wise... I'm constantly in awe of her. She'll pull through 💕
IKR, her mama raised her well
Amen⚘
And she did‼️❤️💍 💰🤴🏾🧑🏻🍼
Key quotes from both parts:
"You really truly don't know a person until they don't get what they want"
"When someone shows you who they are believe them"
And "Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost"
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That goes for any relation, not just romantic relationships. In life.
Ooohhh I feel like Jeannie has been holding this cry in for so long I just want to give her a hug and let her know it'll be OK
If I'm gonna be honest... one thing I wish I would have known sooner is : Sometimes it's ok to realize that... just because I'm nice to everybody doesn't mean I have to be friends with everybody ! Because me being 17 now I'm looking back in hindsight and I'm just now realizing there were lot of moments where it didn't matter who the person was, they could be treating me like trash & I would STILL jump over the moon for them ! I think I HAD too much character to the point where I didn't let myself take a step back and be like : you deserve way better when it comes to these friendships , you know it , so act on it ! And not just friendships but in any relationship in life
Myronn Coleman Wise for someone your age :)
Yesssss I'm feel the same way
Myronn Coleman yessssss
yes, that's definitely how I felt...like I had to be nice to everyone and any indication that showed they noticed me, etc made me think "okay, this is good, we're friends" or like it was a point system.... I'm 25 and I still try to be courteous and kind, but I personally don't care about all of that anymore. idk if we're not friends or not...I'll be the best me I can be and keep it pushing. I don't have time to care about stuff I may or may not have done right or wrong to someone I don't know to have you see me in some certain light. Life becomes a lot less stress free that way :)
This is me 100% 😭
Full circle moment how Adrienne traveled to Paris by herself to figure out if her 1st engagement was the right decision but ended up marrying husband in the same city years later
Stoppp your comment made me tear up 🥺
Jeannie needs to write a book, like for real. She is beyond wise and emotionally intelligent. Such an inspiring and sincere person.
Yessss
“Say yes and think about it later”... that’s advice from Tamar, we saw it verbatim on the show!
Michelle A who is tamar?
@@virginia4766 used to host with the other 4. Was fired
Really?!! Yowzers
Has anyone else prolonged their relationship because your family really liked him and you didn’t want to disappoint them by breaking up with him? That happened to me, my mom was angry at me until I put her in her place 😂 “I’m not happy!!!!” Then she let me live!
Kim’s Gone Keto ugh! It really really sucks. I didn’t like the feeling. It’s worse when they ask “why did you break up with him?” 🤨
Edlyn_Lopez This is why I don't introduce anyone to my family EVER...because people will disappoint you and embarrass you. Good for you for standing up to your mom. It may not have been easy but it had be done. She was wrong for being angry at you. Your happiness should be her first priority.
Glad you were able to seek happiness for yourself. Always take care of You. No one else knows you better than you. Since no one can live life for another be careful to live for yourself.
Girl I was in a relationship for 6-ish years. It was only the last two years I realized it wasn’t gonna work out. Everything looked perfect on paper but I wasn’t happy. And my family adored the guy...it was really hard but I broke it off even though everyone thought we’d get married. And I ended up in a really great relationship and it was worth it!
Girl YES THIS! Was with a perfectly sweet guy for four years, we were engaged and everything and my family ADORED him. But I just knew it wasn't a fit for me. And I was mad at myself for that. Who says no to a man who treats them so well and is such a good friend? And my family was also frustrated with me.
But I just knew. I was wasting his time.
I held out and prayed for answers and tried to see it..but I couldn't. He will make some other woman feel like a queen one day and she will love him the way he deserves to be loved. But you can't marry somebody who only feels like a friend to you.
When I met the one for me it hit me like a lightning bolt. Don't settle.
This have got to be my Fav episode so far. I have to get tickets to see the real in person.
Divine World I was thinking the same thing
Literally on my bucket list!
It's totally different and takes all day
"just say yes, think about it later" 100% Tamar advised her that, she also said it in one of the episodes.
Now THIS is THE REAL! I love conversations like this. I also just had this wake up call. So true ladies. Thank you for allowing us into such a deep and painful authentic space. You are beautiful and deeply appreciated.❤❤❤
Adrienne spoke that damn truth
Dude that was very honest. I know I would have been too embarrassed to tell that story but she is strong and using her platform well. Someone will benefit from what she said.
Hands up Loni, thank you for saying that its normal its not being foolish, on my experience I hated that I wasted all the time & effort.. but yes its true that after giving ourselves room to breathe we see that it was important so that we learn & that we just also appreciate our own efforts to do right even if its just now
When Jeannie said sometimes you find yourself when you get lost, it reminded me of a Jhene Aiko song where she says "youve gotta lose your mind just to find your peace of mind".
"Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost."
Thank you God for never forsaking us, for still wanting us and leading us back to reality. Sorry but when Jeannie said those quoted words, it just took me back to my spiritual journey.
I just left a relationship. The guy kept making demands on me and wanting me to conform to his way of thinking. Every day I felt like he was chipping away at my total being. I cared for him at first but I was not willing to lose myself in him. I have to be true to myself and who I am. He would say you are a beautiful person but if you did this or that or said this another way. I was losing my voice. No relationship is worth that. I am already enough for the man that God has for me.
anet parks I can definitely relate .
Tamar and her misconstrued advice "say yes and think about it later"😒 that whole proposal was horrible!
Diva Den who said it was Tamar I missed that part?
@@tygadewayne When Tamar was on the show she gave that advice so that's why everyone is saying she's the girlfriend Adrienne is referring to
I don’t think Tamar was necessarily wrong. Saying yes to a proposal does NOT mean you have to say I do. The engagement period is a time to think and make sure that person you’re marrying is the right one for you.
Yep this is true. I'm glad Adrienne called off the engagement. Some women won't because they're either in denial thinking things will change or they're too shamed.
women love validation
"Some women get lost in the fire.
Some women are built from it." ❤
Wishing you joy and healing, Jeannie.
Damn that's deep
Like a phoenix rising from the ashes reborn.
“Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost”
That’s so deep and sad because it’s true😭
I love Jeannie, i don't like seeing her hurt.
That my church would turn their backs on me because I slipped.
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Still in love with Jesus though🙌🏾❤
and Jesus still loves you too 😊
ShanDizzy 101-Vlogs awww sweetie -Jesus loves you too
Man may turn their backs on you but God never will
ShanDizzy 101-Vlogs Jesus is always with us.✨
also... find another church that embraces you spiritually and lovingly💜
This is great but I hope u do have/find a church home tho 🤗
I honestly think this video highlighted alot of thoughts woman have and excuses we give
ourselves to continuously take bad behaviour from a partner. Thanks ladies!
I think Freddie stayed in the game too long and then got frustrated with not getting what he wanted (a baby) . I think he waited too long and formed a resentment towards Jeannie and cheated. That’s why he doesn’t really care about her feelings now
accurate
She let him know before they got married that she didn't want kids.
@@crissoa however, as humans beings we are allowed to change our mind n we do that alot. He waited 10 years then he couldn't fantom it no more. Someone could say, well, she told him but honestly , how many women have said they don't want no kids n ended up changing their mind?. Kids are a big deal, even Adam said it, it can be a deal breaker in a relationship. Relationships are also about loads of compromises. Maybe they should have paid more attention on this aspect first before getting into marriage
@@judgeright2292 absolutely. People do change their minds. However, it was not his place to go into a marriage and stick it out with the hopes that she might change her mind and carry his baby. He had the luxury of getting forewarned which is more than most men do for women. He decided to be stupid. Who knows, she might change her mind and carry a black man's baby.
@@crissoa hmm. I guess. This is so messy
I feel Jeannie’s pain, and I have never seen Loni be so honest and pure. I’m loving this conversation and the atmosphere here. I love these types of conversations.
My parents got a divorce to at was so hard for me and my siblings
You find yourself when you get lost!! So powerful and true. Hang in there Jeanie I'm happily divorced too and regretted getting married from day one. Divorce really shows you what you married!!! Never again for me.
"Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost." Sooo true!
Wow so real Ade and Jean! I felt like I lost myself when I left for Ireland for study abroad but then I found myself. Nothing will ever take away how important those times were.
I ended up watching part 2 last.... sigh!! When I tell you I needed every bit of this conversation and real ness!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️. Y’all are my big sisters in my head.
Loni can sometimes be so vulgar, but real; I love it! 😂😂 I understand what Adrienne is saying. I think it's the same thing for some women who stays with men because of the money.
Yeah I believe she was trying to illustrate that the ring made all the s*** she went through worth while.. this is not football where you get pain inflicted on you in order to "win" a ring. Us women have to value ourselves more and stop this cycle it is ruining and destroying our children which is the new and next generation... hence the production of "millenials" that are the new generation of adults now.. we just have to do better😔
Love you Adrienne. And Jeannie, ”Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost” 💜
“You find yourself when you get lost!” 🙌🏽
One thing I wish I knew was that I’m different from everyone else and don’t think the same as everyone else and that is ok. I am valid and worth loving for exactly who I am.
Literally said these exact same words to my mother on Sunday. It is "ok" to be exactly who we are!!! Wishing you peace and strength!
Adrienne what you said helped me a lot! Cause a lot of us think that a ring is validation for not being cared for enough and it is not!
"You find yourself when you get lost." . That is so true. There is so much beauty in emptiness and alone time.
I wish I knew as a kid that what happened to me wasn't my fault
It wasn't your fault. Praying for continuing peace for you.
So_Heartless20
How do you know what they are talking about
KXMXRXA 😩
Sending you the warmest hugs
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I see what Adrienne’s saying, a lot of women push themselves deeper into situations they know are wrong for them cause they feel that validations comes with certain titles. Side bar: society also gives props to women with those titles that they don’t give to women without them, regardless of how they got there.
Facts
metimez300 that’s true
"Sometime you find yourself when you get lost" Jeannie Mai Pow 👊🏾 er 👊🏾 ful !!!
loovej FACTS
What I love about this show is not only how real these ladies are but how much they uplift and support each other. That’s so rare to find in talk shows with different personalities. Stay strong Jeannie ❤️
The fact this woman is still preaching inspirational quotes whilst was just in the middle of tears. It’s strength 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Jeanie is so fucking beautiful. Inside and out. ❤️🥺!! Sending her so much love.
I kind of know what Adrienne went through. I was with someone who I loved spending time with for the most part, but I started to realize that they were embarrassed to be seen with me in public. We could only go out during certain times and to certain places where there wouldn't be a lot of people we knew. I felt guilty for wanting to leave, I even told myself at least you guys have fun, at least you have someone. But then I realized I was starting to internalize it and believe that I should be "hidden" and I started to accommodate the fact that they didn't want to be seen with me. So I started to distance myself. I still feel bad now for distancing myself but I know it's for the better.
I feel so grateful when you ladies let us in and show us your vulnerable sides. I relate to it so much and feel better after I watch these type of videos!
Real truths, real emotions, real people. That is what makes this show so great! You girls are a light! Thank you for shining and for guiding the way for us women to feel empowered and get through whatever life has to throw at us!
ADRIENNE WHAT YOU DID IN PARIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WOULD DO! When going through a really hard time I like to be alone & just pray to God & seek His guidance. ♥️
No shade, but didn’t Tamar say and quote “ My mama said say yes and think about it later “ but a lot of people say that so it could be any girlfriend
Kez Star sip the tea sister
Lol shots fired😩😩😩😩
That's what I was thinking
Yes she did
Come on tea🗣️🗣️😂
Wow. Adrienne really get it 100% and open and deep. I LOVE The Real! I love when they talk about deep stuff and are vulnerable. They don't always have to be vulnerable, but its amazing!
When Jeannie said "sometimes you find yourself when you get lost"! This statement is so absolutely true and powerful 💖💖💖
I hate seeing my girl Jeanie cry....we love you hun!
Jeannie is such a blessing! That's a strong woman right there. She's going to get through this and the outcome is going to be amazing!! (Succes is the best revenge) she is a really sweet genuine kind person and she looks absolutely stunning and beautiful 🙏🏽
Loved this segment. The ladies are keeping it REAL and supporting each other! Beautiful!!
I love loni she keeps it real, sweet she's straight forward and she mad encouraging ❤
I can definitely relate to what Adrienne said about her first engagement because I just got out of a 4 year relationship and put up with a lot. I thought because he wanted to marry me and asked and gave me a ring that it overshadowed everything but she gives me hope that one day, somebody will come and be a better match for me,.
And NOW she’s pregnant and married to the love of her life!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
From someone who wasn’t raised religious and never really got the chance to develop a passion for scripture, I really love hearing them talk about their relationships with god.
This has been one of the deepest conversations ever,they were actually addressing me.For me I wish to have known that I don't need everyone's approval on whatever I do/would like to do;been really frustrated in life because of this and I do regret.
Jeannie definitely manifested the man she really wanted & I’m so happy for her. She deserves it
"You find yourself when you're lost" that's a quote from Kai Anderson😏
“Sometimes you find yourself when you get lost”
W O W!! Wise words from beautiful Jeannie!!
thank you for that!
For Adrienne I completely agree with her 1,0000 percent because wether you’re going, you NEED TO & HAVE TO be alone and spend time with yourself for you to get your thoughts together and say to yourself “is this what I really want for myself?” “Did I make the right decision” “will I be happy?” It’s those questions in your head you constantly have of reassurance that make you realize I made a terrible mistake, this is where God himself speaks to you and let’s you know that I GOT YOU and I will show you what you are deserving of and what is for you. And God really shows that to you and it may scare you but it’s that type of scare that becomes a realization.
This whole segment is really inspiring. Ugh thank you so much ladies ♥️
I wish I knew that those I thought were my friends, were never really my friends to begin with..I wish I knew that it's not necessary to try & please everyone all the time. I wish I knew that, not because we are related, that means that I have to trust you & have a relationship with you. I wish I knew that I don't have to settle for someone, just because I want a relationship even tho they don't really love me & I'm just good for right now until they meet the one they really want. I wish I knew how important your education is, & to take school seriously so you don't have to study later in life to try & get further. I wish I knew not to be wasteful with money & knew the importance of saving...
Mich 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Yeeesssss in that order!!!!
Lluvia Salas Thank you sweetie...
JessThi-One Gang Hehe in that order!! Thank you hun! :)
So true, i wish i knew this too
Ade and the transparency!!! Y'all went deep!!!! This is maturity and wisdom I had not heard from her b4.
I learn so much from and have gotten so much needed validation from watching this show. I’m going through a divorce as well, and Jeannie, everything you said is what I have felt, and to hear these positive sayings helps me feel more confident that I’m doing what I need to as I find myself again. Thank you ladies.
I'm currently lost and trying to find myself. No ticket to Paris, but I've noticed some changes in my life I didn't orchestrate and I'm wading in the water right now, waiting for Jesus to walk past.
This is so deep! Thank u Adrienne and Jeannie😘😘
This is the best panel!!! Tamara is so wholesome! They are all so real! Loni is amazing. Adrian and Jeanie, love! This helps me so much even though my breakup with a cheater was awhile ago. It's so traumatizing. Really hard to get back out there after that. I realize I hadn't really healed keeping it all inside until I see this. Thank you so much ladies!
These ladies truly are an inspiration! For being so wise & keeping us informed on things that need to be discussed!
The fact that she went to another country alone, here I am scared to go to another state alone , NEVER AGAIN, NY HERE I COME ALONE
Nurse Baee Its empowering when you travel alone. I went to Paris and Amsterdam and it was great but I dint mind traveling alone
Oasisfullfilled really?? I’m just scared to but I think next year I will try to step out my comfort zone
Necee Bash felt the same. Left work and everything and move to another country for a year to work on myself. Did my post grad, met new people and expanded my horizon and got back stronger. Do it sis, Europe is majorly safe.
Tamar definitely said “say yes and think about it later” 🤣🤣
Jeannie is such a light... so positive, some may find her energy annoying, but it’s actually really beautiful that she’s so loving if you look a little closer
the topics on the real have been so REAL lately and its so wonderful bc these girl chats are helping women all over the place dealing w similar issues
Jeannie l am praying God heals your heart. It will get better. Trust God.
I wish I would of known that not everyone is a true friend and that eventually people will turn on you so don't just give your trust or love to just anyone, there's a lot of people you think have your best interest at heart but end up finding out how much they envy you and it's sad specially when you been friends with these people over 10 years.
Or wake up next to that person everyday it hurts so damn bad!!!😞😞
Yup! No matter what they tell you or what kind of face they put on!! Prayer & the word of god is key. Ask God & he'll show you! Give him your all! It's so powerful how God works.
Watching this made me realize that all those times I was doing prayer walks (to get out of my parents house) was exactly what I was supposed to be doing. All those times I felt in my gut there was something more for me and it took believing in myself to actually trust that gut feelings...was for real.
I love this. Even though the ladies say stuff I disagree with sometimes, this is why I love watching them - at heart, they're GOOD. these stories that they share are so real. I'm thankful you ladies use your voices to tell people what you've been thru. Loni, Adrienne, Jeannie, Tamera- I love you!
Oh wow. I literally feel like I’m sat with my girls in my bedroom having an emotional talk. The real is really THE REAL. Literally. Love all 4 of the girls. Sending Jeanie lots of love and hope she feels better soon 💕
PSA! Tamar is not the first person to advise, “Say yes now and think about it later.” She may have been referring to someone else.
This is so true, I've personally made so many excuses as to why I should stay with someone, but you know when you know. And we should just use our intuition and make the best decisions for ourselve
Whew that's a word right there. I hope The Real stays on TV for years to come. I felt those quotes in my soul.