Unfortunately, you know a lot of these Blue-Pilled Chads, either super Christian or ex-military, will do it. They're some of the FIRST mf'ers to snag that hot blonde with the stetson hat and big blonde hair, and go into crippling debt because his wife wants a whole financed lifestyle and doesn't know the meaning of a dollar. They're some of the biggest suckers you've ever met. And when you see that dude with the $90k truck with nothing being hauled in it, you know whats up. They're all over the place in Tennessee.
Beat me to this fact. The more lavish the wedding, the more likely it will end in divorce. Who would think focusing on shallow things produces bad results.
Proud to have spent $1200 for my wife's wedding set. We are also debt free, have money invested, and are getting ready to build a house on one of our lots to sell and increase our cash for investing. My wife says she would feel fortunate if I gave her a plastic ring as long as she got me too.
My wife and I each have a ring that cost $200. We got married on a Friday morning at the local courthouse, there were no guests. We then had breakfast at a local Cracker Barrel and then went to work. The following week went to Rome for 10 days. That was just over 14 years ago. We now have no car payments, no mortgage, no debt besides credit cards which get paid off every month. That's what you call investing in a relationship and a future.
Fine....I want an engagement ring as well. Since 70% of divorces are female initiated.....then I want a ring that represents a 'significate' enough investment that the likelyhood of divorce is substantially reduced, say, $100,000 should be enough.
If we let ourselves be. Boy, would I hurt a lot of feelings with these THOTS. The sad truth really is, if a guy isn't smart enough to sniff this stuff out about these rambling, insecure, psycho women quickly - or worse, put up with it - he kind of deserves the misery 🤷♂
Sounds right. Egagement rings were not even a thing till recently. It was mostly a thing for ultra rich elite in the victorian age, and didn;t come to us peasants until after the wedding of Queen Victoria in 1860 (which also gave us the "traditional" white wedding dress). Some will claim it goes back to Rome, but they are conflating /wedding rings/ with egagment rings. Most average folks got a plain gold band when you married that was about it well up until the 1970s.
@@jakeroon marriage itself wasn't romanticized and about "love" until that time period as well. It used to be a means of binding families together in order to support each other in the hard times...sadly, this is no longer a thing and people are left to suffer while being ignored by their relatives on both sides these days.
How dare she insist that men must hurt financially in regard to a wedding ring? We're all hurting financially as is. And some men are literally climbing skyscrapers for what little money they earn.
So the logic she's using is if a man pays a lot for a ring, then he will work harder to preserve the marriage. However, the vast majority of divorces are filed by the wife, not the husband. Now, this argument may actually be on to something if you figure that the man invested in the marriage and the woman invested nothing since he bought the ring and odds are paid for the dates and probably paid household expenses as well. So by this logic, then men and women both need to pay and invest, so dating must be 50 50, and if he pays for a pricey ring, she must pay for the wedding and perhaps they go 50 50 on the honeymoon. So, fellas women by their own admission must pay half on everything or at least pay their fair share. He can pay for an expensive ring but she must pay for the wedding and they both should throw in on the honeymoon.
@Champaign268 Why? Because women are cheap? Is that what you're saying? I mean, if she wants that big, beautiful wedding and all the grand extravagant touches, then she'll have to put up the money for them. I mean, it's only fair.
@Champaign268 the funny thing is that since women are typically the ones who file for divorce and sometimes essentially because they got bored and they leave men who are good men. Furthermore they know that they're good men and leave anyway. Probably because they never invested in the guy. You know what that means? It's time for Drizzle Drizzle. If she isn't investing in you then she is more likely to leave you so make her pay.
Man - Retired now, but Years ago I went to work for a company that hired 115 new people. They put me with a female and the First thing she said to me was, are you married? I said no. Next, do you have a girlfriend? I said no. She said why not? I said their expensive. She asked,why do men associate women with 💰 money. I said, Because their EXPENSIVE. This really happened. No BS. ✔️ .
Should've retorted with "why do women associate expense with money? There's emotional expenses so you assuming I meant money says more about you. You're the one being transactional." Then watch her jaw hit the floor😂
Yeah, these days I wouldn't entertain any prying into my private life by a female co worker until I'd known them long enough that I'd seen that they are somewhat of a decent person and not just fishing for information to use against me. I've seen too many dramas play out in the workplace to just be acting like all my coworkers are trustworthy friends.
They are seriously expensive these days particularly with cost of living and rent prices, add one of them on top of it and poof no money. They say the juice isn't worth the squeeze, I say they made it so damn cheap it isn't worth paying a subscription for the juicer, particularly when it breaks down half the time and never does what its supposed too. If I'm going to pay for one, it better be brand new and that i own it. I'm not going to invest in a bad and sick model.
Actually, there is research on it that the more money spent on a ring and wedding, the less likely they are going to last. I am not implying zero effort on the ring and that the wedding must be good, but sometimes effort is more important than material things.
Gen X wife and I have been married for 29 years. We were so poor we couldn’t afford an elaborate wedding. It worked out okay for us. It’s the level of commitment that matters.
This reminds me when i talked about a ring with my former gf. I told her i would make a ring specially for her(i graduated art school and had 3 years of jewellery so this wouldn't be a problem and was planning something special). She told me that she doesn't want that just to buy her the one she choses at the shop. Well that was the last time we spoke...
I am an Englishman married to an American. I proposed to my wife Christmas 2015. We'd been exchanging emails and phone calls for almost a year before that, and met up at an international music school in person before she had to go back to the states. I flew out to spend Christmas with her. Had I paid thousands of dollars for our engagement rings (yes, I had one too), I would not have had the money for things like, mmm, return flights, UK visas, or setting up housekeeping together! we got nice rings, certainly, still have them in fact, but caring more about the price of the engagement ring not only shows a ridiculous level of avarice, but also a total lack of good financial sense!
What actually proves long term intentions: 1) Loyalty (not talking to, dating or entertaining the idea of dating anyone else while you are IN ANY WAY a couple or dating). 2) Being open to trying new things that they like so you develop shared interests. 3) Them wanting to spend time with you just to get to know you (without making moves towards sex). 4) Making long term plans together. 5) Just wanting to talk about random stuff so you learn more about them.
Ask any engineer or car mechanic who will attest that "more complex" does not equate to "better". It's just more prone to failure with higher maintenance costs. That's all.
After being shunned by all women for five decades that did not outweigh me or were a "1" in looks, I ain't even gonna spend money on a box of Cracker Jack® to get a ring to be put on a finger.
I invested in a 20+ year marriage to be told she wasn’t happy and wanted a divorce. I lost half of everything. I’m not sure there’s any decent women left due to social media and feminism!🤮
Ok... What's the women investing in? She brings nothing, she invest nothing and leaves as soon as she gets bored which is why men stopped investing in relationships.
Frankly if there's an engagement ring it should be inexpensive. Expensive jewelry should be reserved for the ten year anniversary at minimum when she's really earned it by proving she'll stick around.
What is this idea that only _one_ person gets a prize for them staying together? Either it's worth sticking together or it isn't. Seems a lot like a bribe to be just giving her jewellery for making it to a decade.
That certainly implies that she put in effort when she was bought. In fact it is the opposite. If you commit she stops to effort. That is the point from where everything goes down.
My girl and I bought $12 rings of Amazon. We both agreed it's better to put money into real investments like getting a house, paying off the truck we just got, putting money into savings so we have a future and a life and so much more.
Hi there Lady J, my son sent me a couple of your short videos and I must say that I’m fascinated watching you, absolutely beautiful, articulate, with a dry sense of humor and a head on your shoulders. I could watch you for hours. I’m sure you are making some man extremely happy. T.
My grandparents have been married for 62 years, and my grandmothers FIRST ring is pretty small; But over the years, it has EXPANDED into x4 interlocking rings, and from x1 small diamond into a dozen of various sizes. The longer they stayed married, the MORE my grandfather invested into their home, and HER ring across several anniversaries. HER ring has become so large that it spans from knuckle-to-knuckle; And HIS knuckles have become so big that he has NOT been able to take off his ring for the last 10-12 years. MANY women DEMAND to have the LARGE investment upfront, with ZERO certainty on his end, but will NEVER hesitate to complain. Nowadays, men should have a LEASE on their wedding rings, and she is ONLY allowed to wear it for the duration of their marriage. In that case, a BIG investment would be acceptable because it MAY appreciate in value, and he can SELL the ring once she inevitably decides to divorce.
By her logic, if she doesn't sign a prenup, she isn't invested in the marriage? Prenups are going to mitigate the incentive to divorce, thus she will work harder to keep the marriage going.
About the handbag, it's not realy the price, but the high quality of the material, the design, the craftmanship, (the purity of beeing the firt owner LOL), etc. Could we compare this to the woman?
Oh GAWD, I have such a treasure here with me right now... money, working for us, we live comfortably, she has hers, I have mine, we have ours, we have freedom to do what we each wish on our own or, together. I'm happy and I pretty sure she is if the passing by touches or the out of the blue "I love you" are any indication.
0:12 And if she does not want to be married anymore he lost his money on a useless ring nice, especially when someone cheats in the marriage than you probably regret everything.
32 years ago i proposed with no ring. We got Jcpenny rings the next week and i still wear mine that costs $30 and my wife srill wears hers that cost $50 as a band (no diamonds were on that first ring) today she has a set that cost 15k but she never complained once about that little $50 band she wore all by itself for the 1st 5 years if our now 32 year marriage. A woman like in this video is pure toxic and misery waiting to happen.
So let me get this straight, for her it would be more important that a man spends 15k $ on a wedding ring, rather than he gives her a 2k $ ring that he inherited from his grandmother and has sentimental value to him. It's strange how some women expect men to buy them expensive rings to show commitment, but the same women can't even pay their own check at the restaurant? If he is still with you after a long time and propose to you, he already spent a lot of his money and time on you, but instead of you being happy that he is willing to commit to you for life, you would be mad at him because the ring is not big and shini enough so you couldn't brag about it to your friends, family and on social media. This is simply disgusting
Genuine affection is built by trust. Not financial exchanges. "Don't you draw the Queen Of Diamonds, boy. She'll beat you if she's able. The Queen Of Hearts is always your best bet."
The happiest married couple I ever met - she had a small ring so they could put a down payment on a house - where they had many happy days - that was a couple with the right priorities
My wife bought a cheap Walmart bag, when we moved together after marriage. It was maybe a $20 bag... she still has that bag, and still uses it. So it is weird how much she cherishes it, even though it wasn't expensive. And that was years ago.
And the ring is a SYMBOL but not the marriage itself. (It's not even the wedding band but the engagement ring she's worked up over.) To carry on her metaphor: if you spend $2k on a handbag and keep $50k of cash in it, you probably shouldn't worry as much about the handbag if it gets stolen. Priorities!
I proposed using a ring she already had that I'd gotten her for her 21st birthday. She was so happy she cried. Then we went shopping together to find a matching 3-ring set we both liked. SHE set a $500 max limit, because we were poor college students. We found a great set we both loved at a jewelry store that was going out of business & was 75% off. 30+ years later & even though we did eventually get divorced, she still brags about what a great deal WE found for such great looking rings. The investment we made in the relationship was time and dedication to each other, not just me throwing money at things.
Giving her more money will not make her less annoying. Also no amount of investment will prevent her from becoming more sour and toxic, so her premise is way off. To wit, investments are made with the intention of yielding a larger return. The term here is 'sunk cost/ consumables".'
I have a haversack that I bought probably in either the late '00s or early '10s, for about 20 bucks. I have used it and 2 other haversacks for carrying my crap for the last 15 years. I can guarantee her $2000 handbag will be gone or in a dark pile in the corner of her closet in 2 years. Purchase price means nothing, intention means everything.
My wife and myself got married 40 years ago. Our wedding was at the JPs house. Our reception was our closest 10 friends at our apartment. Then the local legion,where my wife was a bartender,had us a get together. Honey moon was at her parents cabin in northern Saskatchewan. Still going strong in our 40th year together
"Hon, a chemical in my brain tells me based on apperance alone that our deep personal connection means I must present you with an expensive mineral to wear on your finger."
Okii i usaly dont writhe in coments but i had to . Im male 🤫 and damn thank you for showing me not all woman are lost❤️ its crazy really how you talk its the same things that bother me since years😢 nomater what we do its never good for them Determent on ther actions and not how much money they spend You made my day🎉 I wish you a greate day and thx again Ps:And sry for my bad grammer im from switzerland😂
Ten years chasing Chad -----> Three eggs in 'carton' -----> Even higher expectations -----> Alone -----> Cats -----> Cheap wine ----> Hate -----> Antidepressants -----> Done.
Financial investment equals to mental commitment? Where is the womans financial investment aka commitment? Does she buy me a ring too? Or she just spreads love and other things? I have better costing ways to get that (assuming I pay for it)
Handbags and engagement rings are not investments. They are two excellent examples of "not investments" in fact, as they are not bought for the hope of appreciating in dollar value. This lady's opinion about them is an excellent example of a "red flag".
I find it rather astonishing what certain individuals openly complain about on the interwebs nets, displaying their narrow mindedness out in the open...for all the world to see. The most frustrating thing to realize is, these people get to vote..."legally." [face-palm activated]
Why do you remind me so much of Guinan? (Whoopi Goldberg's character in Star Trek: Then Next Generation) I'm not sure if it's the face shape, the similar cadence, the vast intelligence and compassion, could be all 3.
The people who spent the most on their marriages and the wedding are actually the ones who divorce the earliest and most often. The couples who spent the least on their wedding and marriage are the ones who end up staying together much longer.
If a woman demands expensive engagement ring, that's a very good reason to review your plans and run away
You could walk slowly. The important part is to make clear that you don't want her. You want somebody who is interested in you as a person.
..run fast!!!
Unfortunately, you know a lot of these Blue-Pilled Chads, either super Christian or ex-military, will do it. They're some of the FIRST mf'ers to snag that hot blonde with the stetson hat and big blonde hair, and go into crippling debt because his wife wants a whole financed lifestyle and doesn't know the meaning of a dollar. They're some of the biggest suckers you've ever met. And when you see that dude with the $90k truck with nothing being hauled in it, you know whats up. They're all over the place in Tennessee.
I had one demand me to marry her, buy a house, and pay off her car. I walked away.
Mark Twain said it was better to be quiet, and suspected of being a fool, than to open one's mouth, and remove all doubt...
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It's a proven fact that the more you spend on a wedding the less time it lasts.
My wife and I spent 0, never had a wedding just got our marriage certificate notarized and have been together for 30 years.
Beat me to this fact. The more lavish the wedding, the more likely it will end in divorce. Who would think focusing on shallow things produces bad results.
Very well said. Notice to all dating men thinking about engagement.
Courthouse wedding, still going strong at 14 years!
Proud to have spent $1200 for my wife's wedding set. We are also debt free, have money invested, and are getting ready to build a house on one of our lots to sell and increase our cash for investing. My wife says she would feel fortunate if I gave her a plastic ring as long as she got me too.
My wife and I each have a ring that cost $200. We got married on a Friday morning at the local courthouse, there were no guests. We then had breakfast at a local Cracker Barrel and then went to work. The following week went to Rome for 10 days. That was just over 14 years ago. We now have no car payments, no mortgage, no debt besides credit cards which get paid off every month. That's what you call investing in a relationship and a future.
Congrats My parents are celebrating their 65 yr of marriage today. I hope you make it there too.
Well done sir!
Dream weddings for men do exist and you nailed it.
does she have a sister?
Asking for a friend
14 years is nothing. Female hypergamy has no expiration date.
I make enough to afford expensive handbags as gifts, but the last thing I want is a parasite who expects me to
well said!!!!
Same.
Never take relationship advice from someone who doesn't have a ring on themselves
In some cases, you can't take advice from those that do 😂
Fine....I want an engagement ring as well. Since 70% of divorces are female initiated.....then I want a ring that represents a 'significate' enough investment that the likelyhood of divorce is substantially reduced, say, $100,000 should be enough.
"Must hurt a man"! Abuse.
We’re still just an ATM.
Because the government allows it
@@samusaran7317 So you want the idiots in government to dictate how women should behave? Are you effing high?
If we let ourselves be. Boy, would I hurt a lot of feelings with these THOTS. The sad truth really is, if a guy isn't smart enough to sniff this stuff out about these rambling, insecure, psycho women quickly - or worse, put up with it - he kind of deserves the misery 🤷♂
These women are just encouraging men to go their own way. The divide will be visible for decades.
This is why the cycle must end. #EnoughisEnough!
If she's wife material. she'll want him to save THEIR money for THEIR future together.
Sounds right. Egagement rings were not even a thing till recently. It was mostly a thing for ultra rich elite in the victorian age, and didn;t come to us peasants until after the wedding of Queen Victoria in 1860 (which also gave us the "traditional" white wedding dress). Some will claim it goes back to Rome, but they are conflating /wedding rings/ with egagment rings. Most average folks got a plain gold band when you married that was about it well up until the 1970s.
@@jakeroonCorrect. The engagement ring is a recent invention, much like most of the secular wedding ceremony.
EXACTLY
Same with the big splashy weddings costing megabucks... money that coud be put into a home... 🙄
@@jakeroon marriage itself wasn't romanticized and about "love" until that time period as well. It used to be a means of binding families together in order to support each other in the hard times...sadly, this is no longer a thing and people are left to suffer while being ignored by their relatives on both sides these days.
I’m not making that “investment” again. Poor ROI.
How dare she insist that men must hurt financially in regard to a wedding ring? We're all hurting financially as is. And some men are literally climbing skyscrapers for what little money they earn.
That handbag costs more than a mortgage payment....😠
I'm happily divorced and going to stay that way.
So the logic she's using is if a man pays a lot for a ring, then he will work harder to preserve the marriage. However, the vast majority of divorces are filed by the wife, not the husband.
Now, this argument may actually be on to something if you figure that the man invested in the marriage and the woman invested nothing since he bought the ring and odds are paid for the dates and probably paid household expenses as well. So by this logic, then men and women both need to pay and invest, so dating must be 50 50, and if he pays for a pricey ring, she must pay for the wedding and perhaps they go 50 50 on the honeymoon.
So, fellas women by their own admission must pay half on everything or at least pay their fair share. He can pay for an expensive ring but she must pay for the wedding and they both should throw in on the honeymoon.
Something tells me these couples will be getting married via the justice of the peace.
@Champaign268 Why? Because women are cheap? Is that what you're saying? I mean, if she wants that big, beautiful wedding and all the grand extravagant touches, then she'll have to put up the money for them. I mean, it's only fair.
@Champaign268 the funny thing is that since women are typically the ones who file for divorce and sometimes essentially because they got bored and they leave men who are good men. Furthermore they know that they're good men and leave anyway. Probably because they never invested in the guy. You know what that means? It's time for Drizzle Drizzle. If she isn't investing in you then she is more likely to leave you so make her pay.
Can confirm.
No paying for wedding and useless stuff. the logic is that she invests in you. Something you can keep. Drizzle drizzle.
Lady J's voice is S tier. We've gotta get her an XM radio show or something!!!
Video game narration! PlayStation, etc. I'd love to hear her talking in my ear to help me win in any game!!
I'm convinced she's related to Paul Harrell.
@lastannahme honestly that was a copy and past from an argument with a troll sent to the wrong person lol
@@lastannahme apologies for the stray shots
Man - Retired now, but Years ago I went to work for a company that hired 115 new people. They put me with a female and the First thing she said to me was, are you married? I said no.
Next, do you have a girlfriend? I said no.
She said why not? I said their expensive.
She asked,why do men associate women with 💰 money. I said, Because their EXPENSIVE.
This really happened. No BS. ✔️
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Should've retorted with "why do women associate expense with money? There's emotional expenses so you assuming I meant money says more about you. You're the one being transactional." Then watch her jaw hit the floor😂
Yeah, these days I wouldn't entertain any prying into my private life by a female co worker until I'd known them long enough that I'd seen that they are somewhat of a decent person and not just fishing for information to use against me. I've seen too many dramas play out in the workplace to just be acting like all my coworkers are trustworthy friends.
@@jimbobeire 👍
They are seriously expensive these days particularly with cost of living and rent prices, add one of them on top of it and poof no money. They say the juice isn't worth the squeeze, I say they made it so damn cheap it isn't worth paying a subscription for the juicer, particularly when it breaks down half the time and never does what its supposed too. If I'm going to pay for one, it better be brand new and that i own it. I'm not going to invest in a bad and sick model.
My mother didn't get an engagement ring at all, and her wedding ring cost $50. That wasn't much in the 60s. And my parents are still together.
Actually, there is research on it that the more money spent on a ring and wedding, the less likely they are going to last.
I am not implying zero effort on the ring and that the wedding must be good, but sometimes effort is more important than material things.
And when we talk about a relationship, emotional investment are always more important than financial investment.
I never got an engagement ring. We are still together after almost 30 years.
@@cs281 Congrats, always love to hear lovely stories like this:)
Gen X wife and I have been married for 29 years. We were so poor we couldn’t afford an elaborate wedding. It worked out okay for us. It’s the level of commitment that matters.
Thank You Lady J for saying everything MOST men think... These chid-women are F*kin CRAZY!!!!!
This is the female variant of sexism.
This reminds me when i talked about a ring with my former gf. I told her i would make a ring specially for her(i graduated art school and had 3 years of jewellery so this wouldn't be a problem and was planning something special). She told me that she doesn't want that just to buy her the one she choses at the shop. Well that was the last time we spoke...
I am an Englishman married to an American. I proposed to my wife Christmas 2015.
We'd been exchanging emails and phone calls for almost a year before that, and met up at an international music school in person before she had to go back to the states.
I flew out to spend Christmas with her.
Had I paid thousands of dollars for our engagement rings (yes, I had one too), I would not have had the money for things like, mmm, return flights, UK visas, or setting up housekeeping together!
we got nice rings, certainly, still have them in fact, but caring more about the price of the engagement ring not only shows a ridiculous level of avarice, but also a total lack of good financial sense!
Thank You again Lady J for pointing out the obvious.
What actually proves long term intentions:
1) Loyalty (not talking to, dating or entertaining the idea of dating anyone else while you are IN ANY WAY a couple or dating).
2) Being open to trying new things that they like so you develop shared interests.
3) Them wanting to spend time with you just to get to know you (without making moves towards sex).
4) Making long term plans together.
5) Just wanting to talk about random stuff so you learn more about them.
Ask any engineer or car mechanic who will attest that "more complex" does not equate to "better".
It's just more prone to failure with higher maintenance costs.
That's all.
i finally found you! you are being clipped in a ton of the videos i watch. subscribed and notifications turned to ALL. peace.
Just found your channel, as an Englishman I approve of the dry wit. You'd fit in well here...
Good to see you on here and TikTok. ❤
After being shunned by all women for five decades that did not outweigh me or were a "1" in looks, I ain't even gonna spend money on a box of Cracker Jack® to get a ring to be put on a finger.
An engagement ring was to be a financial parachute for the woman. They changed the rules and no longer need it.
I invested in a 20+ year marriage to be told she wasn’t happy and wanted a divorce. I lost half of everything. I’m not sure there’s any decent women left due to social media and feminism!🤮
Ok... What's the women investing in? She brings nothing, she invest nothing and leaves as soon as she gets bored which is why men stopped investing in relationships.
😂😂😂Jinkies, I couldn't even follow her machine gun speech. Slow down, think a bit first .
Frankly if there's an engagement ring it should be inexpensive. Expensive jewelry should be reserved for the ten year anniversary at minimum when she's really earned it by proving she'll stick around.
What is this idea that only _one_ person gets a prize for them staying together? Either it's worth sticking together or it isn't. Seems a lot like a bribe to be just giving her jewellery for making it to a decade.
The contrast between Lady J and those she exposes is both stark and refreshing, my hero
Word salad, mental masterbation, verbal diaherra.😂
This is gold! No pun intended. 😂
If she's all about the expensive ring, expensive wedding, how much money you make, if you drive an expensive car, etc., run away and dont look back.
So, basically she is saying women are expensive objects to be purchased.
That certainly implies that she put in effort when she was bought. In fact it is the opposite. If you commit she stops to effort. That is the point from where everything goes down.
My girl and I bought $12 rings of Amazon. We both agreed it's better to put money into real investments like getting a house, paying off the truck we just got, putting money into savings so we have a future and a life and so much more.
Hi there Lady J, my son sent me a couple of your short videos and I must say that I’m fascinated watching you, absolutely beautiful, articulate, with a dry sense of humor and a head on your shoulders. I could watch you for hours. I’m sure you are making some man extremely happy. T.
My grandparents have been married for 62 years, and my grandmothers FIRST ring is pretty small;
But over the years, it has EXPANDED into x4 interlocking rings, and from x1 small diamond into a dozen of various sizes.
The longer they stayed married, the MORE my grandfather invested into their home, and HER ring across several anniversaries.
HER ring has become so large that it spans from knuckle-to-knuckle;
And HIS knuckles have become so big that he has NOT been able to take off his ring for the last 10-12 years.
MANY women DEMAND to have the LARGE investment upfront, with ZERO certainty on his end, but will NEVER hesitate to complain.
Nowadays, men should have a LEASE on their wedding rings, and she is ONLY allowed to wear it for the duration of their marriage.
In that case, a BIG investment would be acceptable because it MAY appreciate in value, and he can SELL the ring once she inevitably decides to divorce.
I just discovered this channel and I love it!
By her logic, if she doesn't sign a prenup, she isn't invested in the marriage? Prenups are going to mitigate the incentive to divorce, thus she will work harder to keep the marriage going.
Golddigger! Run, Forest, run!
They say Marriage is a Three-Ring Circus:
(1) ENGAGEMENT RING
(2) WEDDING RING
(3) SUFFER-RING
I like Lady J's voice..
My new favorite channel Lady J
About the handbag, it's not realy the price, but the high quality of the material, the design, the craftmanship, (the purity of beeing the firt owner LOL), etc. Could we compare this to the woman?
My wife and I bought our gold marriage bands, two of them, on sale at Service Merchandise, for $80. That was 40 years ago, lol.
Dear Lady J.... Your logic prevails.
Glad I found this channel.
Have seen numerous snippets of Lady J used in other content creators videos…it’s good to find the source material.
Oh GAWD, I have such a treasure here with me right now... money, working for us, we live comfortably, she has hers, I have mine, we have ours, we have freedom to do what we each wish on our own or, together. I'm happy and I pretty sure she is if the passing by touches or the out of the blue "I love you" are any indication.
Well guys, you heard it... "It's gotta hurt!!"
The best investment I made with a women....is an excellent divorce lawyer.
Thank you. So much of society is sick with idiotic expectations like the one about the ring in this video.
You are correct, Lady J. Thank you.
Thanks for your content. Love it on IG and love it even more on youtube.
You do such a great job.
These women are nuts.
You are great, I really enjoy your channel, THANK YOU!!!
WE WENT TO THE JUSTICE IF THE PEACE.... IN 1985.... LOOKING GOOD SO FAR
0:12 And if she does not want to be married anymore he lost his money on a useless ring nice, especially when someone cheats in the marriage than you probably regret everything.
32 years ago i proposed with no ring. We got Jcpenny rings the next week and i still wear mine that costs $30 and my wife srill wears hers that cost $50 as a band (no diamonds were on that first ring) today she has a set that cost 15k but she never complained once about that little $50 band she wore all by itself for the 1st 5 years if our now 32 year marriage.
A woman like in this video is pure toxic and misery waiting to happen.
So dry, yet so funny and charming... As for the woman featured, red flags all over. Why would any guy or sane person wanna be treated like that?
So let me get this straight, for her it would be more important that a man spends 15k $ on a wedding ring, rather than he gives her a 2k $ ring that he inherited from his grandmother and has sentimental value to him. It's strange how some women expect men to buy them expensive rings to show commitment, but the same women can't even pay their own check at the restaurant? If he is still with you after a long time and propose to you, he already spent a lot of his money and time on you, but instead of you being happy that he is willing to commit to you for life, you would be mad at him because the ring is not big and shini enough so you couldn't brag about it to your friends, family and on social media. This is simply disgusting
I buy the ring, fine.She pays legal fees for the prenup. Both parties.
for every Lady J out there, there is 1000 of these crazy ladies! AND All the Lady J's seem to be taken!
Genuine affection is built by trust. Not financial exchanges. "Don't you draw the Queen Of Diamonds, boy. She'll beat you if she's able. The Queen Of Hearts is always your best bet."
The happiest married couple I ever met - she had a small ring so they could put a down payment on a house - where they had many happy days - that was a couple with the right priorities
So refreshing to here someone with common sense
run, don't walk, run.
If you will meet a woman like this asian girl on a first date better run as fast as you can !
Someone should have left that one in the rice paddy.
You’re the best!
My wife bought a cheap Walmart bag, when we moved together after marriage. It was maybe a $20 bag... she still has that bag, and still uses it. So it is weird how much she cherishes it, even though it wasn't expensive. And that was years ago.
And the ring is a SYMBOL but not the marriage itself. (It's not even the wedding band but the engagement ring she's worked up over.)
To carry on her metaphor: if you spend $2k on a handbag and keep $50k of cash in it, you probably shouldn't worry as much about the handbag if it gets stolen. Priorities!
Engagement Ring, Wedding Ring, SuffeRing..
Pass.
I proposed using a ring she already had that I'd gotten her for her 21st birthday. She was so happy she cried. Then we went shopping together to find a matching 3-ring set we both liked. SHE set a $500 max limit, because we were poor college students. We found a great set we both loved at a jewelry store that was going out of business & was 75% off. 30+ years later & even though we did eventually get divorced, she still brags about what a great deal WE found for such great looking rings.
The investment we made in the relationship was time and dedication to each other, not just me throwing money at things.
A _handbag_? You didn't give a spoiler alert, and I'm going to see "The Importance of being Earnest" tomorrow!
So I guess she's just flat out admitting that she views herself as something to be bought? 🤦 But yes, it's only men that objectify women. 🙄
Giving her more money will not make her less annoying. Also no amount of investment will prevent her from becoming more sour and toxic, so her premise is way off.
To wit, investments are made with the intention of yielding a larger return. The term here is 'sunk cost/ consumables".'
I have a haversack that I bought probably in either the late '00s or early '10s, for about 20 bucks. I have used it and 2 other haversacks for carrying my crap for the last 15 years. I can guarantee her $2000 handbag will be gone or in a dark pile in the corner of her closet in 2 years. Purchase price means nothing, intention means everything.
My wife and myself got married 40 years ago. Our wedding was at the JPs house. Our reception was our closest 10 friends at our apartment. Then the local legion,where my wife was a bartender,had us a get together. Honey moon was at her parents cabin in northern Saskatchewan. Still going strong in our 40th year together
"Hon, a chemical in my brain tells me based on apperance alone that our deep personal connection means I must present you with an expensive mineral to wear on your finger."
Dowries was from the brides family to the groom. That's tradition. What is this woman giving the groom to show long term commitment ?
Lady j you are a breath of fresh air milady .
The wedding ring tradition was driven home by.. you guessed it, diamond sellers
I rather invest in good tools and quality equipment, than a fancy ring. It's a symbol, but hopefully for more than jsut money.
Okii i usaly dont writhe in coments but i had to . Im male 🤫 and damn thank you for showing me not all woman are lost❤️ its crazy really how you talk its the same things that bother me since years😢 nomater what we do its never good for them
Determent on ther actions and not how much money they spend
You made my day🎉
I wish you a greate day and thx again
Ps:And sry for my bad grammer im from switzerland😂
Ten years chasing Chad -----> Three eggs in 'carton' -----> Even higher expectations -----> Alone -----> Cats -----> Cheap wine ----> Hate -----> Antidepressants -----> Done.
Financial investment equals to mental commitment?
Where is the womans financial investment aka commitment?
Does she buy me a ring too?
Or she just spreads love and other things?
I have better costing ways to get that (assuming I pay for it)
Handbags and engagement rings are not investments. They are two excellent examples of "not investments" in fact, as they are not bought for the hope of appreciating in dollar value. This lady's opinion about them is an excellent example of a "red flag".
So, if expensive jewelry is the mans investment, what is the woman's investment?
Her body, we assume?
@@DonovanAenslaedsomething every woman has. Not exactly a rare commodity
I find it rather astonishing what certain individuals openly complain about on the interwebs nets, displaying their narrow mindedness out in the open...for all the world to see.
The most frustrating thing to realize is, these people get to vote..."legally."
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Strange that she’s not married. What a great attitude.
If a woman is so worried about how much I spend on a ring, she doesn't have her priorities in order.
Why do you remind me so much of Guinan? (Whoopi Goldberg's character in Star Trek: Then Next Generation)
I'm not sure if it's the face shape, the similar cadence, the vast intelligence and compassion, could be all 3.
The people who spent the most on their marriages and the wedding are actually the ones who divorce the earliest and most often.
The couples who spent the least on their wedding and marriage are the ones who end up staying together much longer.