OP in story 1 is so damn strong for stepping up in a painfully traumatic situation. He very easily could’ve let child services care for the three kids, but he opened HIS home to them. While the kids are innocent, they are still a reminder of his SA and abuser. But he shoved that aside to help them. He’s a good man through and through.
and a good father,he's actually trying to be a father,he doesn't want them to suffer what he suffered instead of just saying "Oh screw them kids,I didn't want them to begin with",god bless him.
Just by the tiitle in the thumbnail, it made me sick to my stomach and I don't trust Op's wife, forcing reconciliation is one of the biggest red flag in my opinion even if they don't know the whole truth.
Therapist in story 1 was like : wow, that sounds worse than I ever expected, let me get you some drugs for this and teach you a technique to focus on something other than your justified rage.
This is a big reason why therapists have therapists. I feel bad for mine, my trauma isn’t nearly as bad as this (not even a little) but fuck … the poor guy has to deal with my military trauma and the additional trauma of my childhood (mom and her family were/are never kind to me)
One of the first big important things that we learned as foster parents in the parenting classes was that sexually abused children often turn around and act out on other children. At the time, I had a biological toddler son. If we had a sex abuse case (child) in the house, my son slept on a toddler bed in our bedroom on the side of the bed farthest from the door as a precaution. He was never left alone with other children even for a moment. If I had to use the restroom, I took him with me to the upstairs bathroom instead of using the one where the older foster kid was on the living area floor of the house. It never took long, and the kids were old enough to be left alone for a short while like a bathroom trip. I would pop in a movie and give a little snack/drink to that kid and then head upstairs while the kid was distracted. The doors were locked from inside while I was gone. I had one problem with one of the kids who was 13 at the time. She was allowed to go swimming for the day at the pool with friends and it was a couple blocks from our house so she was allowed to walk there (we live in a tiny country town where not much happens). At the pool closing time, she didn’t come back home. She snuck off with another girl to go fool around (kissing, groping) on a park bench and the parents caught them while I was out looking for her because they lived in that area. I was driving around looking for her on my side of town, and they were driving around looking for their daughter on their side. They found them first. BIG trouble on that one and she was no longer allowed to go anywhere alone after that. Everyone in this town grew up doing the same thing so this IS our normal. Everyone walked to the pool as older kids and went home when it was over. Up until that point we had never had a problem with her. Afterwards I blamed myself for allowing it because I probably should have known better with someone who was sexually abused. Innocence is like a door, once someone opens the door to sexuality there’s no closing that door again. You can’t ever be innocent again once it gets taken from you. In this poor child’s case-it was her own father. Disgusting horrible bast-rd.
I do want to ask if it the other girl consented to what was happening or not and if they were of similar ages, young teenagers do often explore their own sexuality at such ages. Unless of course there is something I'm not aware of when it comes to fostering abused children like that, like they are allowed no sexual contact of any kind as a precaution. It might be hard to distinguish between ingrained predatory behaviors from their own abuse and them exploring their own boundaries.
@@mauwus4322 yes there was consent, the other similar aged girl was an active participant in this, but unfortunately we live in a very conservative little country town (USA) where people still aren’t comfortable with exploring sexuality beyond what they deem normal boy/girl relationships and then not at that young of an age-so the other set of parents were irate about it and of course they blamed the foster child as being not raised right by her bio family-and their own little precious had been taken advantage of in their minds. It simply wasn’t safe for the foster child to be in a situation like this in our area because who knows what could happen if the other set of parents flipped out on her? She could even get hurt, so I had to be the one to limit her activity outside the house alone. For her own safety. If it had been with a boy, these parents would have likely been more ok with it, although not exactly pleased it happened at that age. As for me, I had no idea that she even liked girls so it didn’t occur to me that this would happen. It doesn’t matter to me an iota who anyone loves unlike most people here as I am not that way, but under these circumstances I had to keep her safe. Most people here, if they step outside the box of typical sexuality-they get the heck out of this area and go somewhere more accepting of relationships like these. It’s a tiny churchy country town so you can imagine how it goes.
@macylouwho1187 Oh, that sucks. It's frustrating how ingrained these outdated ideas still are in conservative rural areas. I'm not even going to bother getting mad about their ignorance on same-sex attraction, but one of the most damaging lies conservatives tell themselves is that teenagers aren't actively engaged in exploring their feelings when it comes to romantic relationships. That's why comprehensive sex-ed is highly important, both to teach then what it is and how to safely prepare for it (and so they also have the words to explain what happened to them in the worst case situations), and to teach them all the different attractions they could possible experience. These people might have possibly denied that poor child (and possibly their own) a way to deal with her traumas. I'm sorry I had to ask in the first place, but I wanted to clarify. In your first comment, you talked about taking precautions around SA'ed children in case they picked up bad tendencies from their abuse and then immediately jumped into the situation surrounding that poor girl. I sincerely hope that she has healed from her past traumas and that she's doing better now.
The updates is messed up when op revealed that his pos father and brother are predators. Possibilities that his sister might be victim as well. Gotten worse that the twins were forced into those sickness.
S1: Emi didn't need the full story. She already knew that OP was abused and that should have been enough to keep them out! Glad she came around. S2: NTA. That entire family are doormats. Leave them to the monster they created. S3: Your parents failed you and everyone else by never setting Austin straight. There was no "happy family when you were kids." OP was abused and the parents ignored it!
I felt so bad for OP saying that her dad wasn’t abusive. This is also abuse. Knowing that one of your children is abusing the other and not doing anything about it is abuse. He’s just as bad as the brother IMO
story two is.... i'm not gonna lie that story is fucking disgusting. picking a fight with every single person you meet is gonna make you end up either in jail or dead
Honestly it's such a red flag that OPs wife was going behind his back to force reconciliation behind his back, even if she didn't know the full story. At least when she got the full picture she turned around and came back to his side, but honestly I think the impetus is on her going forward to prove OP can actually trust her
While bad from a trusting relationship side of thing it was probably a blessing in disguise here, otherwise he might have never opened up about it and those kids might have still been stuck in that situation.
You can suggest reconciliation...but don't force it or go behind people backs. Forcing it will just breed resentment and possibly reopen wounds your partner is not ready to face. I'm surprised OP is chilled about this. On the bright side this did open up a path to get the children away from their predator family. This is very much the important thing right now. Emi can wait
The title made me sick to my stomach and I regret listening to this. Story 1: Stop calling it SA because that was not what it was. Call it for what it is: grape.
Why is it that some spouses know that their partner was abused and still decide to try and play bridge mender? Abuse is abuse, end of story. If they don't want those people in their lives, leave them be!
Intervention is just bullying, and any spouse trying to force a reconciliation needs a reality check. If you don't trust your spouse enough to respect a NC decision, then leave.
The story sounds horrible Glenda was being abused which is horrible it doesn’t excuse this op is better than I would be I would’ve been I hope the kids will be alright as for op I hope he’s fine too Also story 2 I’m not German so I don’t know the treatment a black man would get there but 20 euros a hour is better he would get in the U.S if I’m missing my guess and wow that family sucks in general as another commenter said pos brother in law will get into a fight he can’t win and I wonder if sister in law couldn’t be charged with some crimes for what she did
I like to know what it is with these new spouse's coming into disfunctional families. Gung ho for reconciliations. When they know nothing of the full situations. I hate those assumptions that they know better than the people who is traumatized.
1st story......what a fking sht show ...... I pray this is one of those that is fake, this is revolting i was under the assumption people like ops dad had children removed from custody if such things happened in past
Double standard, lots and lots of double standard. Everything from a women being too weak to do it to men always being eager to people saying it should have happened to them instead.
@@65kasara And you wouldn't find it much easier to talk about it anonymously years later rather than talking about it with people close to you or bottling it in? I know I did. After keeping it to myself for years, I finally snapped and talked about it online. It was that which gave me the courage to seek help of my friends and family and to talk about it openly for the first time. You have to remember, everyone deals with trauma differently. Just because you wouldn't want to talk about it, doesn't mean the story is fake. I suffered horrific abuse but can now talk about it as though discussing the weather.
OP in story 1 is so damn strong for stepping up in a painfully traumatic situation. He very easily could’ve let child services care for the three kids, but he opened HIS home to them. While the kids are innocent, they are still a reminder of his SA and abuser. But he shoved that aside to help them. He’s a good man through and through.
Meanwhile the father is the absolute most worthless pile of utter filthAnd I think we can all agree what he gonna get in prison is 100% deserved.
and a good father,he's actually trying to be a father,he doesn't want them to suffer what he suffered instead of just saying "Oh screw them kids,I didn't want them to begin with",god bless him.
Just by the tiitle in the thumbnail, it made me sick to my stomach and I don't trust Op's wife, forcing reconciliation is one of the biggest red flag in my opinion even if they don't know the whole truth.
Can't fully blame her, though
@@SecretVoices25 How not?
@@SecretVoices25 True and Op should be honest with her in the first place but trauma like that is hard to tell anyone about it
you will know after the video😅😅
Right now hé said hé didnt tell her about the abuse and she stated crying after she know@@timtompkins8774
Therapist in story 1: I aint paid enough for this shit
Therapist in story 1 was like : wow, that sounds worse than I ever expected, let me get you some drugs for this and teach you a technique to focus on something other than your justified rage.
The therapist in story 1 is calling their therapist for this one.
This is the reason why I can't be one....my response and face would of been out of pocket 😫
This is a big reason why therapists have therapists. I feel bad for mine, my trauma isn’t nearly as bad as this (not even a little) but fuck … the poor guy has to deal with my military trauma and the additional trauma of my childhood (mom and her family were/are never kind to me)
You know that whole joke about finding the final boss of therapists? Yeah, that guy/gal was the first step.
Man, when I hear stories like this. I realize my childhood wasn't as bad as others.
Same here. My childhood sucked but this is worse
Growing up I was told you may have it bad but somebody may have it worse... truth
We need the Punisher for 1st story
And the last one.
You read the comic of what he did to those parents but darker ending.
These stories are truly heartbreaking I'm so sorry you had to go through such awful experiences Sending you strength and support you're not alone.
One of the first big important things that we learned as foster parents in the parenting classes was that sexually abused children often turn around and act out on other children. At the time, I had a biological toddler son. If we had a sex abuse case (child) in the house, my son slept on a toddler bed in our bedroom on the side of the bed farthest from the door as a precaution. He was never left alone with other children even for a moment. If I had to use the restroom, I took him with me to the upstairs bathroom instead of using the one where the older foster kid was on the living area floor of the house. It never took long, and the kids were old enough to be left alone for a short while like a bathroom trip. I would pop in a movie and give a little snack/drink to that kid and then head upstairs while the kid was distracted. The doors were locked from inside while I was gone. I had one problem with one of the kids who was 13 at the time. She was allowed to go swimming for the day at the pool with friends and it was a couple blocks from our house so she was allowed to walk there (we live in a tiny country town where not much happens). At the pool closing time, she didn’t come back home. She snuck off with another girl to go fool around (kissing, groping) on a park bench and the parents caught them while I was out looking for her because they lived in that area. I was driving around looking for her on my side of town, and they were driving around looking for their daughter on their side. They found them first. BIG trouble on that one and she was no longer allowed to go anywhere alone after that. Everyone in this town grew up doing the same thing so this IS our normal. Everyone walked to the pool as older kids and went home when it was over. Up until that point we had never had a problem with her. Afterwards I blamed myself for allowing it because I probably should have known better with someone who was sexually abused. Innocence is like a door, once someone opens the door to sexuality there’s no closing that door again. You can’t ever be innocent again once it gets taken from you. In this poor child’s case-it was her own father. Disgusting horrible bast-rd.
I do want to ask if it the other girl consented to what was happening or not and if they were of similar ages, young teenagers do often explore their own sexuality at such ages.
Unless of course there is something I'm not aware of when it comes to fostering abused children like that, like they are allowed no sexual contact of any kind as a precaution.
It might be hard to distinguish between ingrained predatory behaviors from their own abuse and them exploring their own boundaries.
@@mauwus4322 yes there was consent, the other similar aged girl was an active participant in this, but unfortunately we live in a very conservative little country town (USA) where people still aren’t comfortable with exploring sexuality beyond what they deem normal boy/girl relationships and then not at that young of an age-so the other set of parents were irate about it and of course they blamed the foster child as being not raised right by her bio family-and their own little precious had been taken advantage of in their minds. It simply wasn’t safe for the foster child to be in a situation like this in our area because who knows what could happen if the other set of parents flipped out on her? She could even get hurt, so I had to be the one to limit her activity outside the house alone. For her own safety. If it had been with a boy, these parents would have likely been more ok with it, although not exactly pleased it happened at that age. As for me, I had no idea that she even liked girls so it didn’t occur to me that this would happen. It doesn’t matter to me an iota who anyone loves unlike most people here as I am not that way, but under these circumstances I had to keep her safe. Most people here, if they step outside the box of typical sexuality-they get the heck out of this area and go somewhere more accepting of relationships like these. It’s a tiny churchy country town so you can imagine how it goes.
@macylouwho1187 Oh, that sucks. It's frustrating how ingrained these outdated ideas still are in conservative rural areas. I'm not even going to bother getting mad about their ignorance on same-sex attraction, but one of the most damaging lies conservatives tell themselves is that teenagers aren't actively engaged in exploring their feelings when it comes to romantic relationships. That's why comprehensive sex-ed is highly important, both to teach then what it is and how to safely prepare for it (and so they also have the words to explain what happened to them in the worst case situations), and to teach them all the different attractions they could possible experience.
These people might have possibly denied that poor child (and possibly their own) a way to deal with her traumas.
I'm sorry I had to ask in the first place, but I wanted to clarify. In your first comment, you talked about taking precautions around SA'ed children in case they picked up bad tendencies from their abuse and then immediately jumped into the situation surrounding that poor girl.
I sincerely hope that she has healed from her past traumas and that she's doing better now.
The updates is messed up when op revealed that his pos father and brother are predators. Possibilities that his sister might be victim as well. Gotten worse that the twins were forced into those sickness.
when the dad and brother and glenda got arrested i had never felt so satisfied in my life
S1: Emi didn't need the full story. She already knew that OP was abused and that should have been enough to keep them out! Glad she came around.
S2: NTA. That entire family are doormats. Leave them to the monster they created.
S3: Your parents failed you and everyone else by never setting Austin straight. There was no "happy family when you were kids." OP was abused and the parents ignored it!
Story 1: Sounds like Chipp the Woodchipper ordered a family meal
The Dad in story3 deserves loneliness for allowing the older brother's abuse.
I felt so bad for OP saying that her dad wasn’t abusive. This is also abuse. Knowing that one of your children is abusing the other and not doing anything about it is abuse. He’s just as bad as the brother IMO
I'd wouldn't be surprised no one in the comments noticed
Im not going to pre judge...but the title is horrifying.
Oh i'll judge
Even if she didn't know the full extent of abuse SHE KNEW THERE WAS ABUSE. Emi a POS and he needs to leave her A S S
Why don't all of you guys just say you hate women and get this charade over with.
story two is.... i'm not gonna lie that story is fucking disgusting. picking a fight with every single person you meet is gonna make you end up either in jail or dead
story1) leave her, she didnt listen to you after the info she was given
story2) go no contact
story3) leave her go NC
Honestly it's such a red flag that OPs wife was going behind his back to force reconciliation behind his back, even if she didn't know the full story.
At least when she got the full picture she turned around and came back to his side, but honestly I think the impetus is on her going forward to prove OP can actually trust her
While bad from a trusting relationship side of thing it was probably a blessing in disguise here, otherwise he might have never opened up about it and those kids might have still been stuck in that situation.
You can suggest reconciliation...but don't force it or go behind people backs. Forcing it will just breed resentment and possibly reopen wounds your partner is not ready to face.
I'm surprised OP is chilled about this.
On the bright side this did open up a path to get the children away from their predator family. This is very much the important thing right now.
Emi can wait
Lmao!! German version of A Pimp Named Slick Back Too funny
We all know there are families out there in the world who are sick enough to do this.
Don't worry about Glenda I doubt she will get out
The title made me sick to my stomach and I regret listening to this.
Story 1: Stop calling it SA because that was not what it was. Call it for what it is: grape.
Why is it that some spouses know that their partner was abused and still decide to try and play bridge mender? Abuse is abuse, end of story. If they don't want those people in their lives, leave them be!
Intervention is just bullying, and any spouse trying to force a reconciliation needs a reality check. If you don't trust your spouse enough to respect a NC decision, then leave.
Story 2. I lost it at A Pimp named Slick back. 😂😂😂
"I would do anything to protect my family - except get a fucking job and sort my shit out", indeed.
The story sounds horrible Glenda was being abused which is horrible it doesn’t excuse this op is better than I would be I would’ve been I hope the kids will be alright as for op I hope he’s fine too
Also story 2
I’m not German so I don’t know the treatment a black man would get there but 20 euros a hour is better he would get in the U.S if I’m missing my guess and wow that family sucks in general as another commenter said pos brother in law will get into a fight he can’t win and I wonder if sister in law couldn’t be charged with some crimes for what she did
Don't do bad things that look good nor good things that look bad.
Wifey should've known better
I like to know what it is with these new spouse's coming into disfunctional families. Gung ho for reconciliations. When they know nothing of the full situations. I hate those assumptions that they know better than the people who is traumatized.
I’m no stranger to sweet home Alabama stories on the internet, but wtaf
1st story......what a fking sht show ...... I pray this is one of those that is fake, this is revolting i was under the assumption people like ops dad had children removed from custody if such things happened in past
Is it just me or is OP's sister trying to be like the Targaryens with the incest thing? Oh and OP should divorce the wife as she is a total red flag
"a pimp named slickback" i miss that suow!
females can sa also why is it too hard to believe
Double standard, lots and lots of double standard.
Everything from a women being too weak to do it to men always being eager to people saying it should have happened to them instead.
His estranged kidphews
These AI are getting wilder every day.
Saw the title.
I singing 'Sweet Home Alabama '
Day 23 of telling secretvoices to have a good day
Day 23 of telling you to have a great day
Wouldnt Want Those Kids Near Me, They May Be Victims But Seeing Products Of Your SA Would Lots Of Memories, OP's Fiance Can Keep Them.
What type of Chat gbt fake story is this story 1? Honestly it is getting ridiculous how much these AI stories are out there.
Op sounds like a horrible excuse spot human being. Trying to force reconciliation.
Thats op’s wife
I misread. Thanks for clarifying.
Also she didn’t know about the SA at the time. When she found out her reaction was about what you would expect.
@@mantelumgamingloilol123 She's clearly naive, that's for sure.
Story2: the op is a clown
The sister is actually a victim. She didn't know any better
Dude..... No.....
Fr, the op is the victim, not the sister
Wtf
Op was a victim as well and he knew better
That's a joke, right?
hahahaha this is a bullshit story
Sounds hella fake tbh, but at the same time i know stuff like this happens. But let's be honest, no one would've posted this if it was true.
Have you ever been abused?
@@jenni5104 yep
@@65kasara And you wouldn't find it much easier to talk about it anonymously years later rather than talking about it with people close to you or bottling it in? I know I did. After keeping it to myself for years, I finally snapped and talked about it online. It was that which gave me the courage to seek help of my friends and family and to talk about it openly for the first time. You have to remember, everyone deals with trauma differently. Just because you wouldn't want to talk about it, doesn't mean the story is fake. I suffered horrific abuse but can now talk about it as though discussing the weather.