Felt the same as you lad. Was still at my mums at 29 yrs old in my box room. Thought nothing would ever chance. 5 yrs on I purchased a house, had a son and in a happy relationship. 29 yrs of no buses arriving then they all came at once for me. Chin up lad.
Well done I was living with my mam until I was 26 I was drinking everyday stuck wouldn’t go out the house wouldn’t go on public transport I shut all my mates out and basically living in my bedroom now I have a life I loving fiancé of 8 years and 3 beautiful kids i am also 41 months sober now and got a TH-cam channel fishing content called hooked on fishing this account am messaging on now come subscribe people ✅😊 thank you for this video mate keep being you and real and I hope you feel better soon 🙏❤️
just turned 25 here my man, I feel you - 2 biggest things that help me get through - 1. Never compare to anyone by coming off social media, no one is truly as happy as they seem, 2. Remember, so much can change in 1 month let alone 2 years - develop a routine and trust the process - routing for you mate - things will get better 👊
If 40 year old me could offer 27 year old me just one piece of advice, it would be ‘Don’t be in such a rush’ I think society has always tried to dictate to us that we should buy houses, have kids & marry when we are very young - This pressure to conform still exists in the modern world unfortunately. Most of my friends who did that in their early 20’s are on marriage number two already & have still never really had the chance to find themselves or be comfortable in their own skin. I have never been married & only have one son - I was nearly 29 when he was born. There have been times in my life when I have felt incredibly lonely, but as I have aged I have become more content with my own company & have realised that even now, it is not too late for me. I would have liked more kids admittedly, but I still hope that one day I will marry. Be grateful for the job that you love (not many can say that) & you’ve obviously got a Mom that adores you - Keep her close ❤ I do understand how you feel though, I’ve been there. Trust me when I say, the older you get the less it will bother you & the more comfortable you will feel with yourself 👌🏻
Social media is one big lie mate, people only upload the “best” moments or even fake them for likes. You’re a sound honest guy. Don’t ever compare yourself to other people especially when a lot of people ain’t living a genuine life. To talk about how you feel and everything, especially to the world of TH-cam is incredibly brave and it’s reaching out to so many people like myself. Keep being you, good things will happen. Big love brother
I am 40 next year and I can honestly say you’ve plenty of time. Time to carve your own path. We’re all screwed up and winging it in life. Nobody has all the answers but you’ll get there man! Good luck !
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I’m 32 and I guess I have a lot to feel thankful for in my life, but it doesn’t stop me from struggling with poor mental health. I’ve recently started a new job which I should be over the moon about, but I still feel ‘meh’, I still struggle getting out of bed in the morning and I don’t know if the job is for me. So yeah, you’re not alone buddy. Stay strong 💪🏻
I'm 34 just lost my fiance of 12 years, my beautiful home and I'm feeling like I'm completely past it trying to start again. I also feel pretty shit right now! You're not alone and you're gonna be ok 😊 x
your openness and honesty is refreshing, and so many of us are struggling and need to be embraced by a future partner so that life can actually advance like it should
I’m 73. I had many years of feeling bad. I would now tell my younger self: be thankful for all the tiny little things that happen every day. Make decisions that are the best for you. Surround yourself with beauty, meaning colours, things and even, eventually, people that you love. A happier mindset will come with time. And maybe listen to a podcast about people who have come through difficult times..
Life is a monotonous, tiring and lonely bore 99% of the time. I'm 31 and struggle every day. What's the point of it all?? It's so depressing waking up and doing the same thing everyday, and coming home to boring old suburbia where everyone is locked away every night. What happened to community? Why are there no third places anymore? The world has gone mad.
You know that song by Talk Talk, Life's what you make it. Absolute truth. Life is what YOU make it, and only you can change it.Leave the country for 6 months travel around the U.K change the scenery mate.
Almost twice your age,don't go looking for a Mrs it will happen.Start training,walk in nature stop telling yourself your depressed take up new hobbies your Physically healthy.Things will and do get better shit does happen .So sorry about your uncle hope things turn out ok. you'll get there my friend.God bless
This is a lie do not listen to this person it will not happen on it's own I'm 50 and still waiting this is was people told me at 24 just wait you will meet someone trust me
Bro you've got a purpose in life, these videos are so relatable to so many of us young men. Honestly so many people struggle to get these things off their chest but massive salute for doing so because this kind of thing can help so many people. Thank you bro 🙌
Mate I'm 50 and in the same position, I did loads in my 20s/30s but now I've not got anyone to do the things I enjoy with, it gets me down too. Hang in there mate, and don't believe everyone else is having a good a time as they claim it's really not true. Chin up, and if you live In the Berkshire area let me know and we'll go for a drink.
I feel you and you aren't alone. I'm 29 and my depression started at 17, it's a shock to the system when you begin to develop a depressed state of mind. I eventually found ways to feel much better by improving my focus with breathing exercises and visualising the person I really want to be in life (this took me years too), I found that I was imagining a future I didn't want in my head for years and it started turning out that way so instead I imagine what I want and somehow one way or another I'm managing to achieve these things little by little by repeatedly thinking about what I want into my brain... these things work for me and maybe not for others but there are also things that are totally out of your control like losing loved ones (which is also something that terrifies me!). I have had family members die and it is the most crushing feeling in the world but nobody lasts forever, but for the people I love I wish they would last forever. It's something nobody in the world can avoid so you gotta try and make those precious moments count. I think it's important to note that for me I tend to go over and over in my head about what the far future hold in ranges of like 5-10 years. So if you feel like this what helps is if you practice picturing the future in ranges of today or a week otherwise you can end up living 5 years in the future and when you arrive 5 years later you'll realise you wasted that time. I understand a lot of this is easier said than done though! Lastly I think we all have a unique personal experience and a lot of the time if someone asks you "Why do you feel like this?" you can't even answer it yourself. The answer is usually very personal and only you can really figure out how your brain works. I read a lot of self help books and reddit posts that think similarly to the way I do and I came to a mindset I am comfortable with, it took a lot of effort and I'm still working on it all but it's not impossible, you can get out of the rut mindset you have. I've probably babbled on far too much here so I do apologise but I hope you figure it out and remember you aren't alone. More people than you think are a total mess in their minds.
It's impossible to meet a wife or girlfriend these days I'll die alone as there is no physical way to meet people I'm twice this guys age been single since 23 because I've neve been able to meet anyone still got no friends at 50
I went to Australia 30 years ago and that was the start of me running away from my problems..I’m 54 now and have bee running for 30 years away from my problems..I realise now instead of running I should have spoke and opened up about my problems..I wished I could have been as brave as this guy..He is only young and is so brave for speaking online like this..Sending love to anyone going through a bad time in life ❤❤
Don't feel bad. Many people hate their lives. Just because it sucks now doesn't mean it always will. You may have to wait years, but things can change for the better in a moment. One chance turn of events can change your life. I saw it happen myself. For me, one tiny random event of walking into a print shop decades ago changed my life in ways I could not imagine. Look for opportunities, find interests, and people, and keep trying. Until that time arrives, just roll with whatever comes and accept it. Good or bad. The inventor of the light bulb Thomas Edison said "I failed my way to success".
Don't compare your life to others bro everyone's life path is designed to be different. You might not have an amazing life but just by being here you have a purpose and an effect on other people's lifes. Live in the moment and don't think about the past or future. Avoid sugar, caffeine and alcohol they're three of the worst things for anxiety and depression!!! Weight lifting and eating healthy will transform your life and your mental health bro!! Don't watch or read the news and get out in nature. Life begins out of your comfort zone. If you can provide an email address I can give you loads of help and advice mate?
I feel the same way mate I don't feel like Im living,I basically sit on games,barely sleep and barely eat that all over again 24/7 and I feel stuck tbh.
I'm 57 divorced,my children adults n have their own lives,I have depression/ anxiety,I love my own company,go n change your life,the only thing that's stopping you,is you,you are young go travel and you will learn a lot about yourself,I am going on my first ever solo trip abroad,I'm a bit nervous,but they say if you feel fear,that's when you do it,I haven't booked a return,I will come back when I'm ready,age is just a number go do what you have always wanted to do
Sorry to hear about how you feel mate, I'm 61 and feel the same!. I know that it's probably hard to imagine but in twenty years time you will still feel young and you will realise how young you are now. Hopefully your life will change for the better but the hardest thing to do is divorce yourself from anxiety ❤
Anyone feeling suicidal let me tell you that if you weren't important your existence would of never been created. We got told life was meant to be sweet from fairytales and movies but its the total opposite..life is just one journey of ups and downs..keep praying even if you don't believe in a higher creator just have faith man..remember most of our problems are in our head and not reality..love you guys peace
I am so sorry for what you're going through So many people are fighting their inner demons, and so many people don't even come out and won't speak about it Life is hard. If you're young or old, it can hit at any time. I know this is not much, but have an online hug **hugs**
I’m 43 and have 6 close friends, and it’s taken me until now to realise these are my people! Im a survivor of suicide and honestly it’s a lonely world out there ..however be gentle with yourself.. you are still young and you will start to live a little over time. Seek out groups of people in similar circumstances to yourself it definitely helps to talk. But most of all enjoy your own company! Chin up lovely sending lots of love 🤍
I don't know if this quote is out there already or not, but I have never met a single person who lacks motivation in life. It is clarity they lack. Whether it is a lack of clarity they are receiving from a parent or caregiver, or a boss at work, there is never a lack of motivation to me, for people who struggle. There is a lack of clarity about how they are going to achieve the goals that they wish to work towards. You come across like an incredibly caring lad and I truly wish you all the very best. I have Dyspraxia and Autism and Generalised Anxiety Disorder, and have blog pages where I discuss these things. You have shown great strength to discuss these things. I join a careers discussion group every Thursday morning at 9 AM if this would be of any interest. It's via an organisation called Amazing If, who do the Squiggly Careers Podcast. I believe you can get to a better place in your life. Sending you all my best wishes. Take care.
I can relate, I live with Complex-PTSD and I'm Autistic, was given my diagnosis of Autism when I was 36. Im 37 now. Growing up I followed my passion of football, played for a professional club for 6 years in my youth, semi-professionally for 5 years and Captained my county. I go to the gym 3 times a week, I play football at least twice a week, I eat healthily, I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol and I don't take drugs. I have hobbies that I enjoy and I always have a pet to look after. We live in a society in England which is very money-orientated unfortunately and there are only a handful of people who have talents, ideas and visions that can make a living out of their passions, I try to ground myself and as long as I focus on what I know and enjoy it does not matter what others think, ehat mayters is what I myself, other peoples opinions don't define me, remember you are not alone and do the things you enjoy, hope this helped!
Hey, sorry to hear you're feeling like this. I went through something similar a number of years ago. Decided to go church one day. Sat at the back. For some reason, as the service went on I started to cry. Not uncontrollable or loudly, but quietly to myself. Felt weird. Hadn't cried for years up to that point. But it was a good kind of cry. A release of something. Hard to explain. But it felt like I was experiencing something profound. Something I needed. All of a sudden, I felt known. Understood. Felt like, suddenly I could see beyond the void, beyond the dead end. Since then, I haven't looked back. Would encourage you to look to Jesus. Bless you.
I became a Dad at 44 , my daughter is now 20 and I am 64 now so time is running out for me ! Fortunately I have had a varied and enjoyable life , you’re still very young and have plenty of time to turn things around , starting from now . Try not to think too much .
I’m 44 and 27 is still very young. That’s when I started my career. Don’t feel pressurised. Take things in your stride. Go down the gym, get big or biggish. That will give you confidence, go on a proper dating website where you pay. That way you’re likely to meet someone if they are paying too. Join some groups locally. Playing an instrument, walking, art, sports. Just go out there and do it. Once you’ve tried you’ll feel better for it. Only you can make the change.
It's because of your western upbringing and orientation. You're not taught to fear God or serve your society. You're taught to seek happiness through romance and the acquisition of material belongings. These things bring false happiness True joy comes from having a peaceful walk with God and serving one's fellow man Best wishes ❤
😂😂😂😂 God doesn't exist, only in your head and people's heads that have been brain washed. You don't need God to be happy. You can be kind and help your fellow man without believing in a man made myth.
Don't be harsh, I practice religion I believe in God I say my prayers I'm not materialistic yet I'm still unhappy and unfulfilled. We all have needs and wants in life there's nothing wrong with that. Being a person of God doesn't define how happy or sad you are going to be. It's a daily battle and everyone is different.
@@mrannonymous4822 Hello.. I'm sorry to hear that your prayers are not acknowledged by God and you can find no peace or fulfillment despite your cries to him.
My dad had me when he was 39. I'm 22 now and he's 62 later this year. I never noticed my dad being older than other dad's as a kid. He was still able to do everything other younger dads could do. Whether that was play football with me in the garden, pick me up and throw me around in the swimming pool or whatever. He was more than capable physically of getting involved and providing me with a childhood filled with happiness & laughter. At my age now, I do notice some things. I realise the majority of my friends' dads have just entered their 50's and are still physically in good shape whereas my dad is on the decline. He gets tired, is slower and weaker, and has constant aches and pains that tend to have become more chronic in the last few years. Most likely I'll be caring for my dad as I approach my 30's. It will hurt seeing my dad in undignified states because I know it will be painful for him as a man who is very proud. It will challenging looking at a man who I've looked up to my whole life relying on me to get dressed and bathed. But I know I'd be grateful to be able to do it for him. Of course I wish my dad was younger, who wouldn't?. He's looked after me so well that I'd be really grateful to be able to take care of him when he needs me. My point is don't be put off having kids later on in life if that's the situation you find yourself in.
I'm 29, at 21 i decided to resit my GCSE's and get 5 at C level, did that. Then i went to college to complete a diploma, did that. Then i went to university to complete a degree in psychology, did that, with a 2:1. I sacrificed my 20s to try and build some form of foundation to my life, during this time i moved back in with my mother and solely focused on academia. Without her i'd still be a kitchen porter. What i'm getting at is the feeling of "not having enough time" has been with me throughout, and only got worse as i progressed, its never left me no matter what i achieved, its why im not even going to bother with a masters degree because none of that was able to fix how i felt about myself, so i know how you feel when you talk about time. Friends are getting married having kids, sister and brother have kids, and all i have is a degree, too few trainee positions going up north, so im stuck feeling like i've wasted time. Which you'll know to be one of the worst feelings when you already felt like you didn't have any to begin with. But me mother (bless her) always says that i'm still so young, she explained to me once that my time isn't everybody else's time. That i'll eventually be able to use my degree to get a career in mental health work, that i'll get married and have kids, that things will fall in place, its just not on the same schedule as other people, and it doesnt have to be. Comparison really is the thief of joy, and when i analyse my thoughts that is where the dread of losing or not having enough time comes from. Comparing myself to others. Wondering why i dont have what other people have. Courage is a choice, but so is taking time out of my day to feed negative thoughts, holding myself up to a ridiculous standard i've invented in my head that other people must be living up to, and being dismayed when i fail to live up to it. Its strange how unkind we can be to ourselves, but courage in the face of that adversity always helps me change for the better and do the things i need to do in a healthier more grounded way. Ultimately, my hard work is going to pay off, and yours will too. Times have changed bud, and its okay to go at our own pace through life. We're all gonna make it brah.
If I had one suggestion for you it'd be to work on noticing the difference between your thoughts, your feelings and your mood. In this video I noticed a lot of 'thoughts', as in you listing the reasons you think you have to be unhappy. But you can't rely on thoughts, no matter how realistic and convincing they might seem, because they're always a reflection of our mood. If the mood is low, the thoughts will be more negative. If the mood is high, the thoughts will be positive. This influences our entire perception of how we think our life is going, the scale of the problems we have etc. You will learn eventually, as all people do, that "mood" is more a reflection of health and wellbeing than anything. No offense but I can tell from one look at you that you regularly overeat the wrong kinds of foods and don't get enough exercise. What would happen to your mood, and by proxy your thoughts, if as an experiment you spent the next 12 weeks eating a cleaner diet, avoiding takeaways and fast food, and going out for a brisk walk or doing some weightlifting each day? I won't tell you to take my word for that because I know how depression is, I had it for 2 decades earlier in my life. There's only one way for you to find out for yourself.
lucky, im 36 and think like this i think life is passing me by while im left behind doing nothing. one think i learnt in thailand is happiness is within thai monk taught me to be happy alone with yourself.
Firstly, good on you for your honesty buddy, people need to hear things like this. Right now you are in a storm, and storms are shit. They are scary, they are loud and its not obvious when they will end. One thing you can guarantee is that your going to get wet, and no one can tell you when it will end. But it will end, and take strength in knowing that you are one day, one hour, one minute closer to the end of this storm. Depression and anxiety consume the mind, but its a false feeling. I have been there by the way. I couldn't leave the house at one point, and people kept telling me "just go out and get some air and get some exercise" etc, but for a short period it would make me feel like I was going to vomit. But the storm passed. Personally I worked on understanding what caused and triggered it all and made sure to never let it happen again. in my job I have to be out a lot and talk to a lot of people, and sometimes the darkness edges in but I tell myself "I know this feeling, it will pass" and I try to focus my my mind on positive things. Not to sound like a bible basher either, but I started googling Bible verses for anxiety and it really helped. It made me realise that there is a bigger purpose and picture than me at work in this thing we call life. Keep going mate, you got this.
The sense that you're running out of time is not a bad thing. Use it as motivation to grow and evolve. The most basic thing you can do is start working out and embrace hardship. This process has a powerful effect on your sense of self-worth and self confidence and it will permeate every aspect of your life. Build a platform of success within your mind and body and everything else you need will come to pass in time.
I’m 19yrs old and am experiencing life like hell everyday for me feels like it’s the same day like im living life on a roundabout. Sometimes I genuinely look up to the sky and ask god the question why me? I was very social growing up and had lots of friends in school I never had any sort of issues, now I’m 19yrs old I have basically cut contact from all my friends since we all moved to different areas and over that time period during Covid I developed terrible social anxiety, to the point where I was scared to simply go out and be social or do simple tasks that I never had any problems with, of course I push myself but the anxiety I feel in the process is just ridiculous. When I tell my family i have social anxiety they laugh because they only remember how social I used to be, so I’m basically stuck alone I’m trying my hardest to overcome this shit and I hope soon I can conquer it in the process I used coping mechanisms like alcohol and smoking to just forget the mess my mind was in now I have quit smoking and cut down my alchol consumption I do feel a lot better but I still have a long way to go
You're a real one man, to be in the thick of it but still be willing to help others going through similar struggles says alot about your character. We need more men our age to speak about our mental struggles, i cant express how important a man like yourself is.
bro im 27 also, I feel the same way. I have no friends, never had a girlfriend, I just work.... talk to my mum, play some games, thats all I do. I dont know how to live a 'proper' life either. I hope one day I have friends and my own family, but maaaaan it feels impossible some days
Get a weekend job in a bar/club, instant social life.. the more grungy or alternative the bar the nicer the people. Just be chill with the partying so you don't risk your health
It's because all you do is talk to your mum and play games... if you never had a girlfriend you need to go outside and get some experience g computer games aren’t real... Stop levelling up in-game and level up yourself! Depression is your body's way of saying you need to make changes if you continue to do the same actions then it's your own fault you're depressed. Have you ever heard the definition of insanity? (I used to game too) but that is real talk.
You're always a few steps away from big change, brother. I'm 29 and last few years stopped drinking, put my health and family first. Put yourself first. Excercise and eat whole foods. Then you can truly build. And get that air fresher out, they fuck up your hormones. I spent 5 years on anti depressents, partying n drinking young till mid twenties. It was all a result of my lifestyle and decision making. Having adhd it's always a struggle, but I make it work with self care and purpose. You're making your uncle proud. Keep up the hard work. Love from Wales bro.
You will be depressed unless you travel. Life is a rut for many but work makes them too tired to realise this. You cannot expect others to improve your life! You will get let down if you rely on friends. Believe me many have the mentality of those who if they cannot use you they will lose you. My father was blind from aged twenty eight so think on that and count yourself lucky to have your eyesight. Ask yourself also what your loved ones would want for you and it would be happiness. Get a passport, get moving and motivate yourself man!
I'm 32 now, and for the most part I live a steady life and I'm fairly content at the moment, its not the most interesting life by any means, but from when i was very depressed 4 years ago, im doing okay I still have days when im burnt out and ive no idea what im doing, but i just take things day by day I'd say keep on with these videos, they can be a way to destress and can almost be used as a form of therapy.
I’m 23 and I feel exactly the same. I’m getting so bored and don’t know what to do anymore. The difference for me though is I have no idea what I want, I don’t even want a child or partner, just a sense of purpose
I struggled with mental abuse from my mother I missed lots of opportunities Some people are lucky I wasn't lucky Society has changed Your mental health is important
I’m 42 and have no kids, been single 10 years. I have no social life and still suffer from anxiety. My 20s felt like it was spent in job centres and on buses and was the most depressing times of my life. what keeps me focused is my goal. I enrolled in the open university and started to study for a degree in health and social care just so I can get a teaching job abroad in Thailand. I have been to Thailand three times and I was happy. You get the warmth of the sun and the people are more friendly. I think the uk is a depressing place with bad weather, it’s losing its identity with the amount of immigrants flooding in. And I don’t expect things to get any better under new labour. My advice is to find a goal and something to aim for. Because before I didn’t have one. Without a goal we become ghosts just floating around life and nobody notices us.
I’m struggling with depression and anxiety for the longest time. Last year I have a new boss - an abomination , an absolute tyrant who lies and doesn’t have staff wellbeing as a priority. Her reputation comes first! She is a devil I have had the misfortune of meeting and now I have severe anxiety about my job. The whole year has been a disaster and I dread going back but I have no choice as my family need to eat.
Here’s some tips that helped me get to a point I’m genuinely happy - do some form of exercise and or sign up for a race such as a 10k or half marathon etc. it gives you meaning and seriously the endorphins is an immediate boost of happiness - assume that people like you. People regularly assume people don’t like them because people don’t reach out, that’s most of the time not the case. People likely want to hang out with you but don’t reach out for the same reason as stated above for themselves - make small improvements. Large goals require small steps, start doing some home cooking or start on a small Hobby project - have a hobby project that isn’t digital! Learn an instrument - get out of your local area, hop on the train or go for a walk These seriously helped me get out of a very similar situation from you, I know it’s cliche but there’s a reason people recommend it, all the best
Hey man, I'm 27 and I have been watching your videos for a few days now, because the algorithm recommended the videos to me , and it seems strange how I'm voicing my complaints about my life just like you are and all of a sudden I see your videos, you have no idea how much I can relate to your words. If you ever wanna chat , and just talk about stuff with me id really appreciate it. I too am in the same boat as you in some respects, I am stuck on what to do with my life and where do I go now , but I wanna improve. Much love
Mate I’m 28 and thought the same and what you said is right it all falls into place… in a few years you’ll look back wondering why you ever felt the way you do now.. sometimes being at home is the best chilling playing video games… but also push yourself to go put your comfort zone to help get better
Hey I also hope you reach out to people if you aren't feeling great. You are still so young, and you have the power to design the majority of your life. 💪
This is your stage in life now. In 10 or 20 years’ time you could be the one with a great life and the others might have lost their jobs or relationships.
I’m 33 now. My friends all have their own lives. Mon-Fri I’m out of the house for work 9.30am-9.45pm. Weekend hits maybe I see friends once every 6-8 weeks cos they have busy lives, mostly I’m on my own at the weekend. I feel like life isn’t worth living. I wouldn’t harm myself as I have my mum and siblings to think about. I know there are people who have it a million times worse than anything I’ve ever known, in many ways I’m very lucky. However, for some reason I just can’t seem to feel genuine sustained happiness. Hopefully one day I will find my purpose it happens later for some people. I’ve seen life completely turn around for people who’ve been in really low places. I may feel lost now but I have hope that one day I will finally find my way. I wish you all the best !! I hope things get better for you soon.
Hey dude, I just stumbled across your video. Sorry you’re going through these difficulties, I can relate to them and I know it’s not easy at all. One thing I’d really recommend to help is exercise! You’ve probably heard it before, but it’s something that will really help. It’s hard to get the motivation when you’re feeling down, but just get out for a 20 min run or something, in a park if possible to be surrounded by nature. You’ll feel better and hopefully will have a knock on effect in the other areas of your life you want to improve! Wishing you all the best pal 👍
I never ever comment on videos usually but I really feel your sadness iv suffered with depression and other things in my life im 32 was late diagnosed with autism only 1 year back always felt like I didn't get the world or more the world didn't get me seen a few of your vids you seem a nice lad and social media for me ruined the world making us having this expectation of supposed to be married supposed to have kids supposed to have lots of friends etc seeing other people on Facebook etc with such happier busy lives made me feel depressed like what am I doing wrong but the truth is social media is fake and people post stuff but there life in reality is nothing like there social media there there is so many lads good lads like you where things don't come easy to us and seem to have to put in a extra effort it's ok to live with your parents and be single etc the social norms make us feel this pressure of having this and that focus on yourself and find something you are passionate about and focus on that and building up your happiness it's almost the more we try get something the further away from it we get you ate enough I relate alot with you and seriously wish you the best keep going and you would be great working in mental health as from my experience there is a serious lack of empathy in mental health services and you are just what they need keep going all the best to you 👍👍
My 20s were awful, my 30s were great and I’m happy going into my 40s. Get out there and do things to meet people, learn a language, go to yoga, go to gym, find things which make you happy. Good luck.
The fact you can video yourself talking openly about these thoughts shows you have a strong mind, reflective and capable! Hang in there mate, you are astute and that isn’t a freebie, those feelings are valid and will serve you well. The up curve is more gradual than you’d imagine and is probably not far off!
I think one's mind can run away with itself. You'll see the perfect life on Insta, but then they'll be out for a drink, and then tell you they regret having kids, or wish they hadn't settled for their partner (the amount of times I've been told that is..wow). They were terrified of not having it all together at a some arbitrary age, they found someone within a 20 mile radius, and chose "good enough", instead of finding their soulmate. Sure, we're all walking the 'same path', but some of us have boulders attached, and every limb feels broken. It's our own path, and no-one knows the difficulty but us. Getting out of bed & dressed might be someone's "shitty", but to another person it's huge and it took everything to do it. As long as you're judging yourself on your own standard, not anyone else's. Best of luck, bro, go easy on yourself! 🤘
Mate you have the best years of your life ahead of you I had my first child when I was 29. And had my youngest at 33. Your breathing and health enjoy life!!!!
Your so lucky that you were alloud to meet someone and have kids I'm 50 and never had the chance of meeting a wife or girlfriend been alone my whole life impossible to get a girlfriend going to nightclub dosnest work,online dating is a scam and works only for girls
You've got a true heart young man, very open and honest, look I went through the worst depression and anxiety still do, you have to try and fight it, why don't you do a fundraiser for your uncle, something to focus on. My mom always just used to tell me "life is what you make it" that used to hurt me but now i find it's true.
M8 im nearly 50, and just getting on with it best i can, your young still plenty of time yet, stay off social media, i agree with others its poisonous. Your doing the right thing by sharing, problem shared n all that. All the best to you and your family.
Im 30 and i dont go out I find peace in mtb riding or just going walking, get your diet good get walking get a hobby you will be sweet, life is a gift wake up and smile have a cold shower go for a walk eat good healthy food, avoid sugar, go to bed earlier honestly. Only you can help yourself no-one is coming to help you
Everyone thinks other people are happier than they are. We all think other people are more popular, or that they have more fun than we do. Sometimes it’s true, but most of the time it’s not. I bet lots of the people you think are happy and successful are secretly depressed and full of self-loathing. Believe me, there is so much going on behind the mask. You’d be amazed how desperate and unhappy so many people really are.
I’m 35 years old and have always felt exactly the same as you, maybe it’s more common than we both think? Stay strong and a good hobby always helped me keep focused, online gaming always helped me to socialise when maybe you can’t IRL 👍
I love you man. I’m 41, divorced, and never expected to have 2 kids when I was 27. Live your own story. I’m out of a new relationship recently, and worried time is running out! 😂 Keep an open heart, and you will meet someone without even looking. Always be yourself and someone will fall in love. God bless. ❤🙏
I have just discovered your channel now and subscribed straight away. Whilst it is sad to hear how you’re feeling, it’s so powerful using this platform to connect and talk as I don’t feel this is done enough, and I am so happy to have discovered your channel. I have struggled with my mental health throughout my 20’s (I am 29 now) and whilst it has been a rollercoaster (when all I wanted in life was to just feel happy), things have gotten better and improved. It has been tough for sure and still is but I found finding a purpose through my career and health and fitness were really key (everyone is different, this is my personal experience), in addition to building better habits for example quitting smoking, not indulging in processed junk food etc for a healthier mind. I also do not have social media and like living in my own bubble. Comparison is the thief of joy so do not ever compare. It’s only you against you and to go a step further, you against the version of you yesterday. I apologise for the long comment, but I hope this helps sharing my experience and even for anyone reading. Take care.
I'm the same way mate,just cant stop thinking about life and where I'm gonna end up one day as I struggle most of the time,I lost my mate at a young age and that's what made me worse I just hope one day I can take my mind off things and enjoy life again.
I struggled with alcohol dependence with low moods I got sober I joined a running club and gym the workouts lifted my spirits I felt like a new person I made new friends and found a new life
Yr 27 yrs old enjoy yr time now…you can have a relationship And a child at any age ….please stop stressing what will be will be ….as depressing as life can be you have a job a lovely mum who loves you beyond anything else …please try and stay strong …you remind me so much of my son but you are brave enough to talk to the world and the world is listening ❤ you stay strong son x
There’s depression in every age bracket. The UK seems tragically one of the most unequal societies in Europe. Many of us are in the wilderness of misery because of it. But inner courage to change is our own personal power, and when you make a firm stand and refuse to be comparing your life to anyone else’s. This your life. Your only one chance, It takes a mindset and a leap of faith to throw everything into the mix, up in the air, disinterestedly, not focussing on others obstructing your view. Those first small steps then very soon turn into leaps forward. It does mean owning a bit, even a lot of selfishness. But you will emerge a stronger being. The sooner you grasp your real urge for that change, that you so desire the faster you will learn who you really are and wanted to be all along. Good luck. You have that potential. No risk no gain.
Don't compare yourself to your parents. I'm 30 and my parents had me at 26, I'm nowhere near ready to have a child. Things take longer for our generation e.g. earning decent money, buying a house. I've been depressed since I was 10 but it's manageable because I've been in therapy for years. I highly recommended you give it a go. Don't settle for the first person, it takes time to find someone you click with. But it's actually allowed me to experience happiness. Good luck mate. Being aware of your situation/ feelings is half of it x
I struggled at 27. I suffered depression. I took to drinking alcohol. Things started spiraling down. Anyway , I'm 64 now, live a sober life . I have health issues but my life is so much better. Things change. Whatever you do don't start drinking. It won't HELP you. And if you are drinking STOP !.
I have really bad depression. I can relate to you . I met my partner on TH-cam. I have a daughter know. Keep positive. When the time is right you will meet that special person. You are not alone . It's important to speak about your feelings it's therapeutic. Try and find a hobby to keep yourself busy . Always say positive thoughts in your mind . Don't beat yourself up . I wish you all the best ❤
The hardest thing is to speak about how you feel inside, to me youve made the first steps in saying that sometimes that your not ok, but there is hope im dealing with similar things myself in my life but take each day as it comes massive love too you ❤️
You know you go through many changes in your life. I was about 27/ 28 when I hit a wall and became depressed. And sometimes, its just an adjustment, whether its a new job or end a crappy relationship. I came out of it, and now at 46 , I'm at a point where I question whats the point in all the the things I enjoy. What motivates me. I found out......nothing . Non of the things I've enjoyed the past 20 years floats my boat. So I'm now in a process of trying to to figure it out. Get councelling or therapy my friend. You'll be ok.
This video made me more depressed. I got a Scooter a few weeks ago. Today I had a small crash, hurt my pinky and ankle abit, but was more annoyed I scratch my mirror. I was standing in CEX and I just thought I cba anymore. I'm 32, live at home, no job. Mum has a chronic smokers cough all day, all night. Constant.Told it's my in imagination. Ive tinnitus 24/7 have had since I was 14. I went to therapists counsellors in my early 20s, but I had to sneak to my appointments or id get told off. Lifeline phoned my Mum once on my behalf and I got told off. What point.
I'm not even getting a dog yet till I can afford insurance and to find a someone to keep an eye of them when I'm at work, lots of people think kids and a partner will solve all their problems but it wont and if you get 2 insecure people with unresolved issues and you have kids you end up like a handful of my mates, miserable skint and barely see their kids.... Better to have a kid at 50 and properly ready than 25 and immature, struggling financially etc
As a slightly older guy (40) what you're feeling is pretty normal. I had my first son at 38 and we have a whale of a time, so don't worry about it. You probably have generalised anxiety disorder, I have it, it's a pain in the arse. My best advice to you is get out there at your speed and do things as you can. You have to keep your tolerance level up or you become too susceptible to anxiety inducing situations, it's like going from 0-100. If you can only manage 0-20, don't beat yourself up. Just make sure you're still hitting 20 regularly. I think the absolute biggest and best thing you could do at the moment is go out and volunteer somewhere, meet good people, meet people in need, meet people you can learn from, and gain some sense of worth from giving. Maybe a food bank?
Don't think you need to have kids in your 20s or early 30s man. The responsible decision to plan to have kids once you've found the person you want to raise them with, and then you can make a 2-3 year plan as it is much better to be ready for the responsibility of children. Raising kids especially in this digital era is a massive amount of work that takes both parents. You have a good head on your shoulders, and your memories sound like you had a good upbringing. Those foundations will be key in raising kids when you're ready for it. I am 37 and kids are still 3-5 years away for me as I know that is the time I need to financially prepare (and I am single as well, I had a rough 2 years and broke up with someone who I thought was going to be part of my life forever. Had to step back and realize we just weren't working and it couldn't be worked through ) Life finds a way, realizing these things matter to you is big for your age. Your life is still largely ahead of you, I promise you still have truck loads of time to handle the things you want, travelling, career changing if you are still seeking that, saving and getting sorted financially, etc. You're on the right track, it just takes time now that you've addressed you want these things sorted and then to travel. In roughly 3 years when you're 30 you're going to likely be thankful you were able to see some of the world, learn from it, and you will also see how much more time you have ahead of you to start the newer things you're realizing you want in life. Good vibes mate.
The worst thing that you can do is to give into fear, if you are out and you have anxiety and you want to run home try not to, its the easiest thing to do, but the wrong thing to do. Things will get better and easier, believe me, you can get through it.
Hope you're doing ok. The algorithm brought me to you. If it helps from a 37 y/o's perspective, I wish I was 27 again (with all my knowledge and experience now). You have so much time, honestly. You're good. But I share those time worries. Took me too long to want children and I've likely squandered that now. You can do this.
Chin up bro lost my mum 7.5 years ago when i was 22. She was 48. Embrace life andd just tell yourself theres nothing to worry about or fear because youll see them again one day and that should bring u peace
I get what your saying. It really does suck... i think my problem stems from not having enough funds to do some of the things i would like to do. I tried volunteering and stuff but i found it didn't help me... so i stopped when I gave it a fair try. Plus the place i went to was full of miserable people/volunteers who were just "volunteering" to deal with their own depression and misery... not really a good environment if you wanted a bit of escapism or pleasure in your life. Now Im trying to find a part time job so i can get some money. I still feel like being around people is horrible for me. I get anxiety some days, so if i were around people i would have panic attacks. I feel like most people are using certain things like money, jobs, exercise as a distraction away from their boring lives. It's hard to be in a society which always goes on about the same things. I have family issues too. I feel like we'll be ok ❤ You're not alone.
Loved the video. Wish more people would share their thoughts honestly. A few points that help me We are only here for a short period of time savior every moment. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. So quit worrying. If we think about the past we are depressed. If we think about the future we are anxious. Learn to live for the moment. It might also help learning how our brains actually work. You'd be surprised to learn that we are actually wired to think negative. Hope this has helped.
Sorry to hear about your state buddy. Hope you’re doing better today! It’s easy to get caught up in thinking you’re not where you wanna be in life and comparing yourselves to the 1% who are successful and scream about their lives online. Hit me up if you need a friend! I’m 28 and just moved to Manchester, you seem like a top lad 👌🏽
Its a good thing talking about your issues but do not let it consume you. Your making videos on how depressed you are or unhappy you are. Would be good to see some videos of your attempts to get out of the unhappy cycle. Your not the only one whos suffered with depression and at the end of the day if you dont change anything then nothing changes. I wish you the best of luck fella
Don’t Try and rush life, set time scale on when we should do things get married have kids your life will turn out for the best when the time is right, most of us don’t have many friends, learn to love yourself enjoy your own company, just wake up every day and have air in our lungs. He’s a massive bonus. That we survived yesterday if that makes sense. think of the people that are 1 million times worse than us then it kind of put your own life into perspective. I know it probably doesn’t make you feel better right now. Things will make sense as time goes on.
Sometimes our brain can be our own worst enemy mate! My biggest advice would be to not stress (easier said than done), look for group activities in your area ('Meet Up' is a fantastic website for finding people with similar interests), start something new or if you find going out too much to handle think of some ideas of stuff you can do from inside your own home. Video some: - Jigsaws - Lego - Video Games - Find some books about topics you're interested in - Start a fitness journey - Cook something you've never cooked before - Travel to a country you've never thought of I have found positive affirmations, meditation, breath work and listening to more relaxing music has really helped calm my mind and allowed me to focus on what is really important in everyday life. Don't ever think you are 'behind' or 'losing out' because there isn't any handbook on how to do life! Also if you are UK based we should do a collab of some sort, we should race at your local TeamSport or something, would be fun!🤙
Everyone I know has been having similar feelings. Have an dream outcome : Make a detailed realistic plan : Take those actions to become your outcome. Don't compare yourself to others. Try not to use the depression word. It only brings the feeling on. By saying I am happy, will make you happier. Especially when you start the day. Deep breathes "I can do this" . Affirmated & incantations to improve your mental state. Sounds like you got some trauma looming in your mind about your uncle 😢. We've all been there. Life goes on. You must too. Stay strong, improve aspects of your life. Start self help journey. None of those Gurus, genuinely reading , journalism, exercise, especially cardio , weights if your into that. Clean diet. Vegetables, fruit , water , fish 😅. Try to avoid processed sugar as much of possible. Each moment Try to get that slight improvement. Tidy your environment, declutter , trash the trashh (put in bin the rubbish) , sell any old clothes. Try a new style to figure out who you are as a person. Try to get out of the algorithm (matrix 😂)... only consume content that you search for. Rather than letting the algorithm find the content for you. Tiktok is terrible for this.. Become a better person & things will work out. You've got 3 years until your 30. You'll underestimate the amount you can achieve In those years. Stay active, less time being passive 😅. Good luck. Stay strong. Don't ever give up. ❤❤
Life is difficult I feel stuck in life and no matter how hard I try with working full time I feel like I'm not going nowhere, I'm very anti social by choice as I don't trust anyone fully as felt I've been taken advantage of and been treated like a mug in the past
hello dude broke up yesterday. I'm not feeling anything, and i think thats good for now. But life goes on u cant stop it, learn to live with emotions u cant control. Everything is alright
@@xladder3972 I never felt anything for awhile until we started speaking again then it all.kickdd in and I was down for a few months now I'm nearly out of it ... crazy how someone can ruin your head
Felt the same as you lad. Was still at my mums at 29 yrs old in my box room. Thought nothing would ever chance. 5 yrs on I purchased a house, had a son and in a happy relationship. 29 yrs of no buses arriving then they all came at once for me. Chin up lad.
Well done I was living with my mam until I was 26 I was drinking everyday stuck wouldn’t go out the house wouldn’t go on public transport I shut all my mates out and basically living in my bedroom now I have a life I loving fiancé of 8 years and 3 beautiful kids i am also 41 months sober now and got a TH-cam channel fishing content called hooked on fishing this account am messaging on now come subscribe people ✅😊 thank you for this video mate keep being you and real and I hope you feel better soon 🙏❤️
It's easy to compare yourself to people better off, but compare yourself to people worse off just as much. Perspective is everything
just turned 25 here my man, I feel you - 2 biggest things that help me get through - 1. Never compare to anyone by coming off social media, no one is truly as happy as they seem, 2. Remember, so much can change in 1 month let alone 2 years - develop a routine and trust the process - routing for you mate - things will get better 👊
If 40 year old me could offer 27 year old me just one piece of advice, it would be ‘Don’t be in such a rush’ I think society has always tried to dictate to us that we should buy houses, have kids & marry when we are very young - This pressure to conform still exists in the modern world unfortunately. Most of my friends who did that in their early 20’s are on marriage number two already & have still never really had the chance to find themselves or be comfortable in their own skin. I have never been married & only have one son - I was nearly 29 when he was born. There have been times in my life when I have felt incredibly lonely, but as I have aged I have become more content with my own company & have realised that even now, it is not too late for me. I would have liked more kids admittedly, but I still hope that one day I will marry. Be grateful for the job that you love (not many can say that) & you’ve obviously got a Mom that adores you - Keep her close ❤ I do understand how you feel though, I’ve been there. Trust me when I say, the older you get the less it will bother you & the more comfortable you will feel with yourself 👌🏻
Yes I agree 45 year old me ,and if I could give myself advice 😮lol
Your 40 with no mortgage, 3nd your lyf
Social media is one big lie mate, people only upload the “best” moments or even fake them for likes. You’re a sound honest guy. Don’t ever compare yourself to other people especially when a lot of people ain’t living a genuine life. To talk about how you feel and everything, especially to the world of TH-cam is incredibly brave and it’s reaching out to so many people like myself. Keep being you, good things will happen. Big love brother
Well said
I am 40 next year and I can honestly say you’ve plenty of time. Time to carve your own path. We’re all screwed up and winging it in life. Nobody has all the answers but you’ll get there man! Good luck !
Social media is fake and you are an absolute legend.
Best thing I done was get rid of that nonsense. Social media more like anti social media Horrible experience.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I’m 32 and I guess I have a lot to feel thankful for in my life, but it doesn’t stop me from struggling with poor mental health. I’ve recently started a new job which I should be over the moon about, but I still feel ‘meh’, I still struggle getting out of bed in the morning and I don’t know if the job is for me. So yeah, you’re not alone buddy. Stay strong 💪🏻
You're not alone, brother. I struggle too and it's a daily battle. Thank you for sharing with us all.
I'm 34 just lost my fiance of 12 years, my beautiful home and I'm feeling like I'm completely past it trying to start again. I also feel pretty shit right now! You're not alone and you're gonna be ok 😊 x
your openness and honesty is refreshing, and so many of us are struggling and need to be embraced by a future partner so that life can actually advance like it should
I’m 73. I had many years of feeling bad. I would now tell my younger self: be thankful for all the tiny little things that happen every day. Make decisions that are the best for you. Surround yourself with beauty, meaning colours, things and even, eventually, people that you love. A happier mindset will come with time. And maybe listen to a podcast about people who have come through difficult times..
Solid advice. Hope you are well!
Life is a monotonous, tiring and lonely bore 99% of the time. I'm 31 and struggle every day. What's the point of it all?? It's so depressing waking up and doing the same thing everyday, and coming home to boring old suburbia where everyone is locked away every night. What happened to community? Why are there no third places anymore? The world has gone mad.
Modern society has been created to destroy humans
Get a hobby meet new people get a bike get walking up mountains, a simple life is a better life!
Sounds like you have alot going on also..how long have you been feeling this way?
You know that song by Talk Talk, Life's what you make it. Absolute truth. Life is what YOU make it, and only you can change it.Leave the country for 6 months travel around the U.K change the scenery mate.
Yeah my life is crp too
Almost twice your age,don't go looking for a Mrs it will happen.Start training,walk in nature stop telling yourself your depressed take up new hobbies your Physically healthy.Things will and do get better shit does happen .So sorry about your uncle hope things turn out ok. you'll get there my friend.God bless
This is a lie do not listen to this person it will not happen on it's own I'm 50 and still waiting this is was people told me at 24 just wait you will meet someone trust me
@@paulsmith2823 things are diff now with social media my friend.
Bro you've got a purpose in life, these videos are so relatable to so many of us young men. Honestly so many people struggle to get these things off their chest but massive salute for doing so because this kind of thing can help so many people. Thank you bro 🙌
Mate I'm 50 and in the same position, I did loads in my 20s/30s but now I've not got anyone to do the things I enjoy with, it gets me down too. Hang in there mate, and don't believe everyone else is having a good a time as they claim it's really not true. Chin up, and if you live In the Berkshire area let me know and we'll go for a drink.
I feel you and you aren't alone.
I'm 29 and my depression started at 17, it's a shock to the system when you begin to develop a depressed state of mind. I eventually found ways to feel much better by improving my focus with breathing exercises and visualising the person I really want to be in life (this took me years too), I found that I was imagining a future I didn't want in my head for years and it started turning out that way so instead I imagine what I want and somehow one way or another I'm managing to achieve these things little by little by repeatedly thinking about what I want into my brain... these things work for me and maybe not for others but there are also things that are totally out of your control like losing loved ones (which is also something that terrifies me!).
I have had family members die and it is the most crushing feeling in the world but nobody lasts forever, but for the people I love I wish they would last forever. It's something nobody in the world can avoid so you gotta try and make those precious moments count.
I think it's important to note that for me I tend to go over and over in my head about what the far future hold in ranges of like 5-10 years. So if you feel like this what helps is if you practice picturing the future in ranges of today or a week otherwise you can end up living 5 years in the future and when you arrive 5 years later you'll realise you wasted that time. I understand a lot of this is easier said than done though!
Lastly I think we all have a unique personal experience and a lot of the time if someone asks you "Why do you feel like this?" you can't even answer it yourself. The answer is usually very personal and only you can really figure out how your brain works. I read a lot of self help books and reddit posts that think similarly to the way I do and I came to a mindset I am comfortable with, it took a lot of effort and I'm still working on it all but it's not impossible, you can get out of the rut mindset you have.
I've probably babbled on far too much here so I do apologise but I hope you figure it out and remember you aren't alone. More people than you think are a total mess in their minds.
Many many people in the exact same boat my friend, its life. Young or old it isn't an easy ride. Keep ya head up lad 💪
It's impossible to meet a wife or girlfriend these days I'll die alone as there is no physical way to meet people I'm twice this guys age been single since 23 because I've neve been able to meet anyone still got no friends at 50
Go travel mate. Go to Australia, plenty of opportunities out there for a lad like you. I went there at 27 and it changed my life. Trust
You can't do that when you're low.
Nathan?
Did the same. Went to New Zealand. Changed my life
@@margo.3466I did, was life changing. It can flick a switch. You still have to work on yourself and issues
I went to Australia 30 years ago and that was the start of me running away from my problems..I’m 54 now and have bee running for 30 years away from my problems..I realise now instead of running I should have spoke and opened up about my problems..I wished I could have been as brave as this guy..He is only young and is so brave for speaking online like this..Sending love to anyone going through a bad time in life ❤❤
Don't feel bad. Many people hate their lives. Just because it sucks now doesn't mean it always will. You may have to wait years, but things can change for the better in a moment. One chance turn of events can change your life. I saw it happen myself. For me, one tiny random event of walking into a print shop decades ago changed my life in ways I could not imagine. Look for opportunities, find interests, and people, and keep trying. Until that time arrives, just roll with whatever comes and accept it. Good or bad. The inventor of the light bulb Thomas Edison said "I failed my way to success".
Don't compare your life to others bro everyone's life path is designed to be different. You might not have an amazing life but just by being here you have a purpose and an effect on other people's lifes. Live in the moment and don't think about the past or future. Avoid sugar, caffeine and alcohol they're three of the worst things for anxiety and depression!!! Weight lifting and eating healthy will transform your life and your mental health bro!! Don't watch or read the news and get out in nature. Life begins out of your comfort zone. If you can provide an email address I can give you loads of help and advice mate?
I can relate man, feel like I’m just existing without a purpose… chin up lad, things with change and get better eventually!
I feel his pain as well cause am lost just existing nothing to look forward too.
I feel the same way mate I don't feel like Im living,I basically sit on games,barely sleep and barely eat that all over again 24/7 and I feel stuck tbh.
I'm 57 divorced,my children adults n have their own lives,I have depression/ anxiety,I love my own company,go n change your life,the only thing that's stopping you,is you,you are young go travel and you will learn a lot about yourself,I am going on my first ever solo trip abroad,I'm a bit nervous,but they say if you feel fear,that's when you do it,I haven't booked a return,I will come back when I'm ready,age is just a number go do what you have always wanted to do
Sorry to hear about how you feel mate, I'm 61 and feel the same!.
I know that it's probably hard to imagine but in twenty years time you will still feel young and you will realise how young you are now.
Hopefully your life will change for the better but the hardest thing to do is divorce yourself from anxiety ❤
Anyone feeling suicidal let me tell you that if you weren't important your existence would of never been created. We got told life was meant to be sweet from fairytales and movies but its the total opposite..life is just one journey of ups and downs..keep praying even if you don't believe in a higher creator just have faith man..remember most of our problems are in our head and not reality..love you guys peace
I am so sorry for what you're going through
So many people are fighting their inner demons, and so many people don't even come out and won't speak about it
Life is hard. If you're young or old, it can hit at any time.
I know this is not much, but have an online hug **hugs**
this isn’t going to help this man.
you are encouraging him to stay weak and pathetic...
online hug?
someone get a trans flag for this one lol
I’m 43 and have 6 close friends, and it’s taken me until now to realise these are my people!
Im a survivor of suicide and honestly it’s a lonely world out there ..however be gentle with yourself.. you are still young and you will start to live a little over time.
Seek out groups of people in similar circumstances to yourself it definitely helps to talk. But most of all enjoy your own company!
Chin up lovely sending lots of love 🤍
I don't know if this quote is out there already or not, but I have never met a single person who lacks motivation in life. It is clarity they lack. Whether it is a lack of clarity they are receiving from a parent or caregiver, or a boss at work, there is never a lack of motivation to me, for people who struggle. There is a lack of clarity about how they are going to achieve the goals that they wish to work towards.
You come across like an incredibly caring lad and I truly wish you all the very best.
I have Dyspraxia and Autism and Generalised Anxiety Disorder, and have blog pages where I discuss these things. You have shown great strength to discuss these things.
I join a careers discussion group every Thursday morning at 9 AM if this would be of any interest. It's via an organisation called Amazing If, who do the Squiggly Careers Podcast.
I believe you can get to a better place in your life. Sending you all my best wishes.
Take care.
I can relate, I live with Complex-PTSD and I'm Autistic, was given my diagnosis of Autism when I was 36. Im 37 now. Growing up I followed my passion of football, played for a professional club for 6 years in my youth, semi-professionally for 5 years and Captained my county. I go to the gym 3 times a week, I play football at least twice a week, I eat healthily, I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol and I don't take drugs. I have hobbies that I enjoy and I always have a pet to look after. We live in a society in England which is very money-orientated unfortunately and there are only a handful of people who have talents, ideas and visions that can make a living out of their passions, I try to ground myself and as long as I focus on what I know and enjoy it does not matter what others think, ehat mayters is what I myself, other peoples opinions don't define me, remember you are not alone and do the things you enjoy, hope this helped!
Hey, sorry to hear you're feeling like this. I went through something similar a number of years ago.
Decided to go church one day. Sat at the back. For some reason, as the service went on I started to cry. Not uncontrollable or loudly, but quietly to myself. Felt weird. Hadn't cried for years up to that point. But it was a good kind of cry. A release of something. Hard to explain.
But it felt like I was experiencing something profound. Something I needed. All of a sudden, I felt known. Understood. Felt like, suddenly I could see beyond the void, beyond the dead end. Since then, I haven't looked back. Would encourage you to look to Jesus. Bless you.
I became a Dad at 44 , my daughter is now 20 and I am 64 now so time is running out for me ! Fortunately I have had a varied and enjoyable life , you’re still very young and have plenty of time to turn things around , starting from now . Try not to think too much .
I’m 44 and 27 is still very young. That’s when I started my career. Don’t feel pressurised. Take things in your stride. Go down the gym, get big or biggish. That will give you confidence, go on a proper dating website where you pay. That way you’re likely to meet someone if they are paying too. Join some groups locally. Playing an instrument, walking, art, sports. Just go out there and do it. Once you’ve tried you’ll feel better for it. Only you can make the change.
It's because of your western upbringing and orientation. You're not taught to fear God or serve your society. You're taught to seek happiness through romance and the acquisition of material belongings. These things bring false happiness
True joy comes from having a peaceful walk with God and serving one's fellow man
Best wishes ❤
😂😂😂😂 God doesn't exist, only in your head and people's heads that have been brain washed. You don't need God to be happy. You can be kind and help your fellow man without believing in a man made myth.
A peaceful walk with God? 😂 Spoken like a brainwashed person
Hubris is pride . Which always lead to a fall.
Don't be harsh, I practice religion I believe in God I say my prayers I'm not materialistic yet I'm still unhappy and unfulfilled. We all have needs and wants in life there's nothing wrong with that.
Being a person of God doesn't define how happy or sad you are going to be. It's a daily battle and everyone is different.
@@mrannonymous4822
Hello..
I'm sorry to hear that your prayers are not acknowledged by God and you can find no peace or fulfillment despite your cries to him.
My dad had me when he was 39. I'm 22 now and he's 62 later this year. I never noticed my dad being older than other dad's as a kid. He was still able to do everything other younger dads could do. Whether that was play football with me in the garden, pick me up and throw me around in the swimming pool or whatever. He was more than capable physically of getting involved and providing me with a childhood filled with happiness & laughter.
At my age now, I do notice some things. I realise the majority of my friends' dads have just entered their 50's and are still physically in good shape whereas my dad is on the decline. He gets tired, is slower and weaker, and has constant aches and pains that tend to have become more chronic in the last few years. Most likely I'll be caring for my dad as I approach my 30's. It will hurt seeing my dad in undignified states because I know it will be painful for him as a man who is very proud. It will challenging looking at a man who I've looked up to my whole life relying on me to get dressed and bathed. But I know I'd be grateful to be able to do it for him. Of course I wish my dad was younger, who wouldn't?. He's looked after me so well that I'd be really grateful to be able to take care of him when he needs me.
My point is don't be put off having kids later on in life if that's the situation you find yourself in.
So sorry to hear this. Depression is a hard illness to over come. Remember, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
I'm 29, at 21 i decided to resit my GCSE's and get 5 at C level, did that. Then i went to college to complete a diploma, did that. Then i went to university to complete a degree in psychology, did that, with a 2:1. I sacrificed my 20s to try and build some form of foundation to my life, during this time i moved back in with my mother and solely focused on academia. Without her i'd still be a kitchen porter. What i'm getting at is the feeling of "not having enough time" has been with me throughout, and only got worse as i progressed, its never left me no matter what i achieved, its why im not even going to bother with a masters degree because none of that was able to fix how i felt about myself, so i know how you feel when you talk about time.
Friends are getting married having kids, sister and brother have kids, and all i have is a degree, too few trainee positions going up north, so im stuck feeling like i've wasted time. Which you'll know to be one of the worst feelings when you already felt like you didn't have any to begin with.
But me mother (bless her) always says that i'm still so young, she explained to me once that my time isn't everybody else's time. That i'll eventually be able to use my degree to get a career in mental health work, that i'll get married and have kids, that things will fall in place, its just not on the same schedule as other people, and it doesnt have to be.
Comparison really is the thief of joy, and when i analyse my thoughts that is where the dread of losing or not having enough time comes from. Comparing myself to others. Wondering why i dont have what other people have. Courage is a choice, but so is taking time out of my day to feed negative thoughts, holding myself up to a ridiculous standard i've invented in my head that other people must be living up to, and being dismayed when i fail to live up to it. Its strange how unkind we can be to ourselves, but courage in the face of that adversity always helps me change for the better and do the things i need to do in a healthier more grounded way.
Ultimately, my hard work is going to pay off, and yours will too.
Times have changed bud, and its okay to go at our own pace through life.
We're all gonna make it brah.
If I had one suggestion for you it'd be to work on noticing the difference between your thoughts, your feelings and your mood. In this video I noticed a lot of 'thoughts', as in you listing the reasons you think you have to be unhappy. But you can't rely on thoughts, no matter how realistic and convincing they might seem, because they're always a reflection of our mood. If the mood is low, the thoughts will be more negative. If the mood is high, the thoughts will be positive. This influences our entire perception of how we think our life is going, the scale of the problems we have etc.
You will learn eventually, as all people do, that "mood" is more a reflection of health and wellbeing than anything. No offense but I can tell from one look at you that you regularly overeat the wrong kinds of foods and don't get enough exercise. What would happen to your mood, and by proxy your thoughts, if as an experiment you spent the next 12 weeks eating a cleaner diet, avoiding takeaways and fast food, and going out for a brisk walk or doing some weightlifting each day? I won't tell you to take my word for that because I know how depression is, I had it for 2 decades earlier in my life. There's only one way for you to find out for yourself.
you nailed it
Spot on mate, couldnt have said it better myself especially the lifestyle change part
Walk, spot on its an amazing help is walking
lucky, im 36 and think like this i think life is passing me by while im left behind doing nothing. one think i learnt in thailand is happiness is within thai monk taught me to be happy alone with yourself.
Firstly, good on you for your honesty buddy, people need to hear things like this. Right now you are in a storm, and storms are shit. They are scary, they are loud and its not obvious when they will end. One thing you can guarantee is that your going to get wet, and no one can tell you when it will end. But it will end, and take strength in knowing that you are one day, one hour, one minute closer to the end of this storm. Depression and anxiety consume the mind, but its a false feeling. I have been there by the way. I couldn't leave the house at one point, and people kept telling me "just go out and get some air and get some exercise" etc, but for a short period it would make me feel like I was going to vomit. But the storm passed. Personally I worked on understanding what caused and triggered it all and made sure to never let it happen again. in my job I have to be out a lot and talk to a lot of people, and sometimes the darkness edges in but I tell myself "I know this feeling, it will pass" and I try to focus my my mind on positive things. Not to sound like a bible basher either, but I started googling Bible verses for anxiety and it really helped. It made me realise that there is a bigger purpose and picture than me at work in this thing we call life. Keep going mate, you got this.
The sense that you're running out of time is not a bad thing. Use it as motivation to grow and evolve. The most basic thing you can do is start working out and embrace hardship. This process has a powerful effect on your sense of self-worth and self confidence and it will permeate every aspect of your life. Build a platform of success within your mind and body and everything else you need will come to pass in time.
I’m 19yrs old and am experiencing life like hell everyday for me feels like it’s the same day like im living life on a roundabout. Sometimes I genuinely look up to the sky and ask god the question why me? I was very social growing up and had lots of friends in school I never had any sort of issues, now I’m 19yrs old I have basically cut contact from all my friends since we all moved to different areas and over that time period during Covid I developed terrible social anxiety, to the point where I was scared to simply go out and be social or do simple tasks that I never had any problems with, of course I push myself but the anxiety I feel in the process is just ridiculous. When I tell my family i have social anxiety they laugh because they only remember how social I used to be, so I’m basically stuck alone I’m trying my hardest to overcome this shit and I hope soon I can conquer it in the process I used coping mechanisms like alcohol and smoking to just forget the mess my mind was in now I have quit smoking and cut down my alchol consumption I do feel a lot better but I still have a long way to go
You're a real one man, to be in the thick of it but still be willing to help others going through similar struggles says alot about your character. We need more men our age to speak about our mental struggles, i cant express how important a man like yourself is.
bro im 27 also, I feel the same way. I have no friends, never had a girlfriend, I just work.... talk to my mum, play some games, thats all I do. I dont know how to live a 'proper' life either. I hope one day I have friends and my own family, but maaaaan it feels impossible some days
Get a weekend job in a bar/club, instant social life.. the more grungy or alternative the bar the nicer the people. Just be chill with the partying so you don't risk your health
@@lostgleammedia I have social anxiety and a stutter. I appreciate the idea, but I find social settings so draining
@StutteringJourney-ic3sp fair enough, do you have interests where you could find some community
It's because all you do is talk to your mum and play games...
if you never had a girlfriend you need to go outside and get some experience g
computer games aren’t real...
Stop levelling up in-game and level up yourself!
Depression is your body's way of saying you need to make changes if you continue to do the same actions then it's your own fault you're depressed.
Have you ever heard the definition of insanity? (I used to game too)
but that is real talk.
You're always a few steps away from big change, brother. I'm 29 and last few years stopped drinking, put my health and family first. Put yourself first. Excercise and eat whole foods. Then you can truly build. And get that air fresher out, they fuck up your hormones.
I spent 5 years on anti depressents, partying n drinking young till mid twenties. It was all a result of my lifestyle and decision making. Having adhd it's always a struggle, but I make it work with self care and purpose. You're making your uncle proud. Keep up the hard work. Love from Wales bro.
You will be depressed unless you travel. Life is a rut for many but work makes them too tired to realise this. You cannot expect others to improve your life! You will get let down if you rely on friends. Believe me many have the mentality of those who if they cannot use you they will lose you. My father was blind from aged twenty eight so think on that and count yourself lucky to have your eyesight. Ask yourself also what your loved ones would want for you and it would be happiness. Get a passport, get moving and motivate yourself man!
I'm 32 now, and for the most part I live a steady life and I'm fairly content at the moment, its not the most interesting life by any means, but from when i was very depressed 4 years ago, im doing okay
I still have days when im burnt out and ive no idea what im doing, but i just take things day by day
I'd say keep on with these videos, they can be a way to destress and can almost be used as a form of therapy.
I’m 23 and I feel exactly the same. I’m getting so bored and don’t know what to do anymore. The difference for me though is I have no idea what I want, I don’t even want a child or partner, just a sense of purpose
I struggled with mental abuse from my mother
I missed lots of opportunities
Some people are lucky
I wasn't lucky
Society has changed
Your mental health is important
I’m 42 and have no kids, been single 10 years. I have no social life and still suffer from anxiety. My 20s felt like it was spent in job centres and on buses and was the most depressing times of my life. what keeps me focused is my goal. I enrolled in the open university and started to study for a degree in health and social care just so I can get a teaching job abroad in Thailand. I have been to Thailand three times and I was happy. You get the warmth of the sun and the people are more friendly. I think the uk is a depressing place with bad weather, it’s losing its identity with the amount of immigrants flooding in. And I don’t expect things to get any better under new labour. My advice is to find a goal and something to aim for. Because before I didn’t have one. Without a goal we become ghosts just floating around life and nobody notices us.
I’m struggling with depression and anxiety for the longest time. Last year I have a new boss - an abomination , an absolute tyrant who lies and doesn’t have staff wellbeing as a priority. Her reputation comes first! She is a devil I have had the misfortune of meeting and now I have severe anxiety about my job. The whole year has been a disaster and I dread going back but I have no choice as my family need to eat.
Here’s some tips that helped me get to a point I’m genuinely happy
- do some form of exercise and or sign up for a race such as a 10k or half marathon etc. it gives you meaning and seriously the endorphins is an immediate boost of happiness
- assume that people like you. People regularly assume people don’t like them because people don’t reach out, that’s most of the time not the case. People likely want to hang out with you but don’t reach out for the same reason as stated above for themselves
- make small improvements. Large goals require small steps, start doing some home cooking or start on a small
Hobby project
- have a hobby project that isn’t digital! Learn an instrument
- get out of your local area, hop on the train or go for a walk
These seriously helped me get out of a very similar situation from you, I know it’s cliche but there’s a reason people recommend it, all the best
Hey man, I'm 27 and I have been watching your videos for a few days now, because the algorithm recommended the videos to me , and it seems strange how I'm voicing my complaints about my life just like you are and all of a sudden I see your videos, you have no idea how much I can relate to your words.
If you ever wanna chat , and just talk about stuff with me id really appreciate it. I too am in the same boat as you in some respects, I am stuck on what to do with my life and where do I go now , but I wanna improve.
Much love
Mate I’m 28 and thought the same and what you said is right it all falls into place… in a few years you’ll look back wondering why you ever felt the way you do now.. sometimes being at home is the best chilling playing video games… but also push yourself to go put your comfort zone to help get better
Hey I also hope you reach out to people if you aren't feeling great. You are still so young, and you have the power to design the majority of your life. 💪
This is your stage in life now. In 10 or 20 years’ time you could be the one with a great life and the others might have lost their jobs or relationships.
I’m 33 now. My friends all have their own lives. Mon-Fri I’m out of the house for work 9.30am-9.45pm. Weekend hits maybe I see friends once every 6-8 weeks cos they have busy lives, mostly I’m on my own at the weekend. I feel like life isn’t worth living. I wouldn’t harm myself as I have my mum and siblings to think about. I know there are people who have it a million times worse than anything I’ve ever known, in many ways I’m very lucky. However, for some reason I just can’t seem to feel genuine sustained happiness. Hopefully one day I will find my purpose it happens later for some people. I’ve seen life completely turn around for people who’ve been in really low places. I may feel lost now but I have hope that one day I will finally find my way. I wish you all the best !! I hope things get better for you soon.
Hey dude, I just stumbled across your video. Sorry you’re going through these difficulties, I can relate to them and I know it’s not easy at all. One thing I’d really recommend to help is exercise! You’ve probably heard it before, but it’s something that will really help. It’s hard to get the motivation when you’re feeling down, but just get out for a 20 min run or something, in a park if possible to be surrounded by nature. You’ll feel better and hopefully will have a knock on effect in the other areas of your life you want to improve! Wishing you all the best pal 👍
100% correct. get out of your head and do something productive!
Someone with real advice, thank you.
I never ever comment on videos usually but I really feel your sadness iv suffered with depression and other things in my life im 32 was late diagnosed with autism only 1 year back always felt like I didn't get the world or more the world didn't get me seen a few of your vids you seem a nice lad and social media for me ruined the world making us having this expectation of supposed to be married supposed to have kids supposed to have lots of friends etc seeing other people on Facebook etc with such happier busy lives made me feel depressed like what am I doing wrong but the truth is social media is fake and people post stuff but there life in reality is nothing like there social media there there is so many lads good lads like you where things don't come easy to us and seem to have to put in a extra effort it's ok to live with your parents and be single etc the social norms make us feel this pressure of having this and that focus on yourself and find something you are passionate about and focus on that and building up your happiness it's almost the more we try get something the further away from it we get you ate enough I relate alot with you and seriously wish you the best keep going and you would be great working in mental health as from my experience there is a serious lack of empathy in mental health services and you are just what they need keep going all the best to you 👍👍
My 20s were awful, my 30s were great and I’m happy going into my 40s.
Get out there and do things to meet people, learn a language, go to yoga, go to gym, find things which make you happy.
Good luck.
The fact you can video yourself talking openly about these thoughts shows you have a strong mind, reflective and capable! Hang in there mate, you are astute and that isn’t a freebie, those feelings are valid and will serve you well. The up curve is more gradual than you’d imagine and is probably not far off!
I think one's mind can run away with itself.
You'll see the perfect life on Insta, but then they'll be out for a drink, and then tell you they regret having kids, or wish they hadn't settled for their partner (the amount of times I've been told that is..wow). They were terrified of not having it all together at a some arbitrary age, they found someone within a 20 mile radius, and chose "good enough", instead of finding their soulmate.
Sure, we're all walking the 'same path', but some of us have boulders attached, and every limb feels broken.
It's our own path, and no-one knows the difficulty but us.
Getting out of bed & dressed might be someone's "shitty", but to another person it's huge and it took everything to do it.
As long as you're judging yourself on your own standard, not anyone else's.
Best of luck, bro, go easy on yourself! 🤘
Mate you have the best years of your life ahead of you I had my first child when I was 29. And had my youngest at 33. Your breathing and health enjoy life!!!!
@@stevieryder2.0 facts brother
Your so lucky that you were alloud to meet someone and have kids I'm 50 and never had the chance of meeting a wife or girlfriend been alone my whole life impossible to get a girlfriend going to nightclub dosnest work,online dating is a scam and works only for girls
Scrolling through social media and comparing your life to others is one of the worst things you can do for your mental health.
You've got a true heart young man, very open and honest, look I went through the worst depression and anxiety still do, you have to try and fight it, why don't you do a fundraiser for your uncle, something to focus on. My mom always just used to tell me "life is what you make it" that used to hurt me but now i find it's true.
M8 im nearly 50, and just getting on with it best i can, your young still plenty of time yet, stay off social media, i agree with others its poisonous. Your doing the right thing by sharing, problem shared n all that. All the best to you and your family.
Im 30 and i dont go out I find peace in mtb riding or just going walking, get your diet good get walking get a hobby you will be sweet, life is a gift wake up and smile have a cold shower go for a walk eat good healthy food, avoid sugar, go to bed earlier honestly. Only you can help yourself no-one is coming to help you
Everyone thinks other people are happier than they are. We all think other people are more popular, or that they have more fun than we do. Sometimes it’s true, but most of the time it’s not. I bet lots of the people you think are happy and successful are secretly depressed and full of self-loathing. Believe me, there is so much going on behind the mask. You’d be amazed how desperate and unhappy so many people really are.
I’m 35 years old and have always felt exactly the same as you, maybe it’s more common than we both think? Stay strong and a good hobby always helped me keep focused, online gaming always helped me to socialise when maybe you can’t IRL 👍
I love you man. I’m 41, divorced, and never expected to have 2 kids when I was 27. Live your own story. I’m out of a new relationship recently, and worried time is running out! 😂 Keep an open heart, and you will meet someone without even looking. Always be yourself and someone will fall in love. God bless. ❤🙏
I have just discovered your channel now and subscribed straight away. Whilst it is sad to hear how you’re feeling, it’s so powerful using this platform to connect and talk as I don’t feel this is done enough, and I am so happy to have discovered your channel.
I have struggled with my mental health throughout my 20’s (I am 29 now) and whilst it has been a rollercoaster (when all I wanted in life was to just feel happy), things have gotten better and improved. It has been tough for sure and still is but I found finding a purpose through my career and health and fitness were really key (everyone is different, this is my personal experience), in addition to building better habits for example quitting smoking, not indulging in processed junk food etc for a healthier mind.
I also do not have social media and like living in my own bubble. Comparison is the thief of joy so do not ever compare.
It’s only you against you and to go a step further, you against the version of you yesterday.
I apologise for the long comment, but I hope this helps sharing my experience and even for anyone reading.
Take care.
I'm the same way mate,just cant stop thinking about life and where I'm gonna end up one day as I struggle most of the time,I lost my mate at a young age and that's what made me worse I just hope one day I can take my mind off things and enjoy life again.
I struggled with alcohol dependence with low moods I got sober I joined a running club and gym the workouts lifted my spirits I felt like a new person I made new friends and found a new life
Yr 27 yrs old enjoy yr time now…you can have a relationship And a child at any age ….please stop stressing what will be will be ….as depressing as life can be you have a job a lovely mum who loves you beyond anything else …please try and stay strong …you remind me so much of my son but you are brave enough to talk to the world and the world is listening ❤ you stay strong son x
There’s depression in every age bracket. The UK seems tragically one of the most unequal societies in Europe. Many of us are in the wilderness of misery because of it. But inner courage to change is our own personal power, and when you make a firm stand and refuse to be comparing your life to anyone else’s. This your life. Your only one chance, It takes a mindset and a leap of faith to throw everything into the mix, up in the air, disinterestedly, not focussing on others obstructing your view. Those first small steps then very soon turn into leaps forward. It does mean owning a bit, even a lot of selfishness. But you will emerge a stronger being. The sooner you grasp your real urge for that change, that you so desire the faster you will learn who you really are and wanted to be all along. Good luck. You have that potential. No risk no gain.
27 too man, and I'm exactly the same. My 20s have been plagued with health issues and its ruined me life.
Same. Depression has just completely robbed me of my youth.
Don't compare yourself to your parents. I'm 30 and my parents had me at 26, I'm nowhere near ready to have a child. Things take longer for our generation e.g. earning decent money, buying a house. I've been depressed since I was 10 but it's manageable because I've been in therapy for years. I highly recommended you give it a go. Don't settle for the first person, it takes time to find someone you click with. But it's actually allowed me to experience happiness. Good luck mate. Being aware of your situation/ feelings is half of it x
I struggled at 27. I suffered depression. I took to drinking alcohol. Things started spiraling down. Anyway , I'm 64 now, live a sober life . I have health issues but my life is so much better. Things change. Whatever you do don't start drinking. It won't HELP you. And if you are drinking STOP !.
Good advice stay clear of alcohol.
@@Cracker-p9q Please don't drink. It almost ruined my life.
I have really bad depression. I can relate to you . I met my partner on TH-cam. I have a daughter know. Keep positive. When the time is right you will meet that special person. You are not alone . It's important to speak about your feelings it's therapeutic. Try and find a hobby to keep yourself busy . Always say positive thoughts in your mind . Don't beat yourself up . I wish you all the best ❤
The hardest thing is to speak about how you feel inside, to me youve made the first steps in saying that sometimes that your not ok, but there is hope im dealing with similar things myself in my life but take each day as it comes massive love too you ❤️
You know you go through many changes in your life. I was about 27/ 28 when I hit a wall and became depressed. And sometimes, its just an adjustment, whether its a new job or end a crappy relationship. I came out of it, and now at 46 , I'm at a point where I question whats the point in all the the things I enjoy. What motivates me. I found out......nothing . Non of the things I've enjoyed the past 20 years floats my boat. So I'm now in a process of trying to to figure it out.
Get councelling or therapy my friend. You'll be ok.
This video made me more depressed.
I got a Scooter a few weeks ago. Today I had a small crash, hurt my pinky and ankle abit, but was more annoyed I scratch my mirror.
I was standing in CEX and I just thought I cba anymore.
I'm 32, live at home, no job. Mum has a chronic smokers cough all day, all night. Constant.Told it's my in imagination. Ive tinnitus 24/7 have had since I was 14.
I went to therapists counsellors in my early 20s, but I had to sneak to my appointments or id get told off.
Lifeline phoned my Mum once on my behalf and I got told off.
What point.
I don't have any friends,
Do you really want to bring kids in this crazy world
I'm not even getting a dog yet till I can afford insurance and to find a someone to keep an eye of them when I'm at work, lots of people think kids and a partner will solve all their problems but it wont and if you get 2 insecure people with unresolved issues and you have kids you end up like a handful of my mates, miserable skint and barely see their kids.... Better to have a kid at 50 and properly ready than 25 and immature, struggling financially etc
As a slightly older guy (40) what you're feeling is pretty normal. I had my first son at 38 and we have a whale of a time, so don't worry about it. You probably have generalised anxiety disorder, I have it, it's a pain in the arse. My best advice to you is get out there at your speed and do things as you can. You have to keep your tolerance level up or you become too susceptible to anxiety inducing situations, it's like going from 0-100. If you can only manage 0-20, don't beat yourself up. Just make sure you're still hitting 20 regularly.
I think the absolute biggest and best thing you could do at the moment is go out and volunteer somewhere, meet good people, meet people in need, meet people you can learn from, and gain some sense of worth from giving. Maybe a food bank?
Don't think you need to have kids in your 20s or early 30s man. The responsible decision to plan to have kids once you've found the person you want to raise them with, and then you can make a 2-3 year plan as it is much better to be ready for the responsibility of children. Raising kids especially in this digital era is a massive amount of work that takes both parents. You have a good head on your shoulders, and your memories sound like you had a good upbringing. Those foundations will be key in raising kids when you're ready for it. I am 37 and kids are still 3-5 years away for me as I know that is the time I need to financially prepare (and I am single as well, I had a rough 2 years and broke up with someone who I thought was going to be part of my life forever. Had to step back and realize we just weren't working and it couldn't be worked through )
Life finds a way, realizing these things matter to you is big for your age. Your life is still largely ahead of you, I promise you still have truck loads of time to handle the things you want, travelling, career changing if you are still seeking that, saving and getting sorted financially, etc. You're on the right track, it just takes time now that you've addressed you want these things sorted and then to travel. In roughly 3 years when you're 30 you're going to likely be thankful you were able to see some of the world, learn from it, and you will also see how much more time you have ahead of you to start the newer things you're realizing you want in life. Good vibes mate.
The worst thing that you can do is to give into fear, if you are out and you have anxiety and you want to run home try not to, its the easiest thing to do, but the wrong thing to do. Things will get better and easier, believe me, you can get through it.
Hope you're doing ok. The algorithm brought me to you.
If it helps from a 37 y/o's perspective, I wish I was 27 again (with all my knowledge and experience now). You have so much time, honestly. You're good. But I share those time worries. Took me too long to want children and I've likely squandered that now. You can do this.
Chin up bro lost my mum 7.5 years ago when i was 22. She was 48. Embrace life andd just tell yourself theres nothing to worry about or fear because youll see them again one day and that should bring u peace
I can tell you’re a strong human being you’re gonna help a lot of people.
Keep sharing your story mate, it's such a great way to get people to relate and understand that they are not alone. YOU are not alone.
I get what your saying. It really does suck... i think my problem stems from not having enough funds to do some of the things i would like to do. I tried volunteering and stuff but i found it didn't help me... so i stopped when I gave it a fair try. Plus the place i went to was full of miserable people/volunteers who were just "volunteering" to deal with their own depression and misery... not really a good environment if you wanted a bit of escapism or pleasure in your life. Now Im trying to find a part time job so i can get some money. I still feel like being around people is horrible for me. I get anxiety some days, so if i were around people i would have panic attacks. I feel like most people are using certain things like money, jobs, exercise as a distraction away from their boring lives. It's hard to be in a society which always goes on about the same things. I have family issues too. I feel like we'll be ok ❤ You're not alone.
Don’t ever compare yourself to others. Don’t worry about fitting in. Just be you… a caring, empathetic soul and a good person to know. Keep going… ❤
Loved the video. Wish more people would share their thoughts honestly. A few points that help me
We are only here for a short period of time savior every moment. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. So quit worrying. If we think about the past we are depressed. If we think about the future we are anxious. Learn to live for the moment. It might also help learning how our brains actually work. You'd be surprised to learn that we are actually wired to think negative. Hope this has helped.
Sorry to hear about your state buddy. Hope you’re doing better today! It’s easy to get caught up in thinking you’re not where you wanna be in life and comparing yourselves to the 1% who are successful and scream about their lives online. Hit me up if you need a friend! I’m 28 and just moved to Manchester, you seem like a top lad 👌🏽
Majority of people don't like themselves, just they better at hiding it from others.
Its a good thing talking about your issues but do not let it consume you. Your making videos on how depressed you are or unhappy you are. Would be good to see some videos of your attempts to get out of the unhappy cycle. Your not the only one whos suffered with depression and at the end of the day if you dont change anything then nothing changes. I wish you the best of luck fella
Don’t Try and rush life, set time scale on when we should do things get married have kids your life will turn out for the best when the time is right, most of us don’t have many friends, learn to love yourself enjoy your own company, just wake up every day and have air in our lungs. He’s a massive bonus. That we survived yesterday if that makes sense. think of the people that are 1 million times worse than us then it kind of put your own life into perspective. I know it probably doesn’t make you feel better right now. Things will make sense as time goes on.
Sometimes our brain can be our own worst enemy mate! My biggest advice would be to not stress (easier said than done), look for group activities in your area ('Meet Up' is a fantastic website for finding people with similar interests), start something new or if you find going out too much to handle think of some ideas of stuff you can do from inside your own home.
Video some:
- Jigsaws
- Lego
- Video Games
- Find some books about topics you're interested in
- Start a fitness journey
- Cook something you've never cooked before
- Travel to a country you've never thought of
I have found positive affirmations, meditation, breath work and listening to more relaxing music has really helped calm my mind and allowed me to focus on what is really important in everyday life. Don't ever think you are 'behind' or 'losing out' because there isn't any handbook on how to do life!
Also if you are UK based we should do a collab of some sort, we should race at your local TeamSport or something, would be fun!🤙
Everyone I know has been having similar feelings.
Have an dream outcome :
Make a detailed realistic plan :
Take those actions to become your outcome.
Don't compare yourself to others.
Try not to use the depression word. It only brings the feeling on. By saying I am happy, will make you happier. Especially when you start the day. Deep breathes "I can do this" .
Affirmated & incantations to improve your mental state.
Sounds like you got some trauma looming in your mind about your uncle 😢. We've all been there.
Life goes on. You must too. Stay strong, improve aspects of your life. Start self help journey. None of those Gurus, genuinely reading , journalism, exercise, especially cardio , weights if your into that. Clean diet. Vegetables, fruit , water , fish 😅. Try to avoid processed sugar as much of possible. Each moment Try to get that slight improvement.
Tidy your environment, declutter , trash the trashh (put in bin the rubbish) , sell any old clothes. Try a new style to figure out who you are as a person.
Try to get out of the algorithm (matrix 😂)... only consume content that you search for. Rather than letting the algorithm find the content for you. Tiktok is terrible for this..
Become a better person & things will work out. You've got 3 years until your 30. You'll underestimate the amount you can achieve In those years. Stay active, less time being passive 😅. Good luck. Stay strong. Don't ever give up. ❤❤
Life is difficult I feel stuck in life and no matter how hard I try with working full time I feel like I'm not going nowhere, I'm very anti social by choice as I don't trust anyone fully as felt I've been taken advantage of and been treated like a mug in the past
I'm 22 me and my girlfriend of 4.5 years broke up about 2-3 months ago. I don't feel like I'm grieving but I'm definetly feeling lost.
Bro we are with you same with me 12 years now feel like apart of me is missing and will never find another woman
hello dude broke up yesterday. I'm not feeling anything, and i think thats good for now. But life goes on u cant stop it, learn to live with emotions u cant control. Everything is alright
@@xladder3972 I never felt anything for awhile until we started speaking again then it all.kickdd in and I was down for a few months now I'm nearly out of it ... crazy how someone can ruin your head