do you actually need a girlfriend right now?

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  • @kentjandra
    @kentjandra  24 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    share your story: www.skool.com/creatopia/about

    • @RetroLodge
      @RetroLodge 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      1ST

    • @itsMeezyTv
      @itsMeezyTv 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I feel like paying to be able to share your story and grow with god is counter-intuitive. Shouldn't we all be willing to grow? Shouldn't we all want to be together?

  • @dymoure
    @dymoure 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

    My whole life, I've been looking for the best option. But... once this year started, I started focusing on BEING the best option. This year, I had my first girlfriend. It didn't work out, and I miss her, but she was awesome about everything until the end. There were no hard feelings. Ironically, it kind of fixed my heart. It proved to me that being better (more mature, healthy, loving, social, kindhearted, outgoing, confident, committed) is the answer to having people find you instead of you chasing them and then breaking your own heart when you realize they never liked you as much as you liked them. In my experience, breaking up (as my best self) has been easier than being rejected.

  • @oliverrosol2706
    @oliverrosol2706 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +91

    I never thought about it that way; "The act of trusting God is really just surrendering". That's so powerful. I've been with my gf for almost 3 years now, and we met through shear luck during a lab in uni. I was hungover, and I wasn't meant to come in on that day, and she also came a day too early. I think the most amazing things can happen when you simply don't force them to. Keep working on yourself, but not to the point where you ostracise from others. That can hit you back in the future too. Good vid bro 👌

    • @kentjandra
      @kentjandra  24 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      bless you

  • @phazer_6469
    @phazer_6469 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +85

    Bro's answering the important questions.

  • @mixst1123
    @mixst1123 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    love the kendrick in the background

  • @60secondchange01
    @60secondchange01 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    This video is truly amazing, I related to it a lot and it is like a sign from God that I’m not alone in my struggles and that he is love.

  • @bentoroit
    @bentoroit ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    not even in the middle of the video and already amazed by the camerawork. nice job man 👍

  • @RgY_Taken
    @RgY_Taken 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I’ve wanted a girlfriend for years. I don’t know if that makes me desperate, but I’ve always craved the kind of love you see in movies, the kind where two people just connect. I think part of that desire comes from not receiving much love or attention as a kid. Even now, I feel like I’m not seen or valued, and it’s breaking me. I try so hard to be kind and genuine, but it often feels like it’s not enough. At one point, I did get a girlfriend, an online girlfriend. We lived in different countries, and for the first month, things were great. But then, I started acting differently. I became more and more sexual in our conversations, asking questions and saying things that clearly made her uncomfortable. Eventually, she broke up with me, saying she was falling for someone else. What hurt even more was how her friends treated me afterward. They kicked me out of their groups, blocked me, and spread rumors about me. One of her friends told someone I knew, “I don’t want to be near that freak who almost flashed my best friend.” And yeah, I did send inappropriate pictures of myself, because I felt like I had to. I felt worthless unless I was being sexualized, and it shattered me. For months, I was a wreck, completely broken by my own actions and their consequences. A year later, I’ve healed somewhat, but I still crave love and attention. It doesn’t even have to come from a girlfriend, just hearing kind words or receiving a little validation brightens my day. For instance, someone once told me my voice was “cute” in a game. My voice has always been something I’ve been insecure about, but that one comment gave me hope. It even inspired me to start singing, and for the first time in a long while, I felt confident. I like to think that one day, I’ll find someone special who will truly love and care for me. But for now, I know I’m not ready. My heart still struggles with lust, and I need time to grow and become the person I want to be, someone capable of giving and receiving love the right way.

  • @DaikonDev_
    @DaikonDev_ 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Great message, great camerawork

  • @economicblast
    @economicblast 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    If you don't love yourself, if you're not able to respect yourself and your health, and not able to be okay being by yourself, then why would God give you one his children? Draw strength from the one above, love others but most importantly love yourself. God bless.

  • @4pfdattu605
    @4pfdattu605 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is beautiful twin love this

  • @kyledan4555
    @kyledan4555 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

    Bought two chromakopia tickets, but right now in life I feel like I have no person I can call a best friend and they can call me their best friend. So my goal is to take someone very special to me to that concert. Whether that’s my best friend by then or even better my future girlfriend. I’ll update after the concert who I take, but right now it’s looking like no one😅

    • @kentjandra
      @kentjandra  25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      gettit bro

    • @nonsensicalwebby1663
      @nonsensicalwebby1663 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      How long is the deadline until the concert?

    • @kyledan4555
      @kyledan4555 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@nonsensicalwebby1663 the concert is in July. I believe this make it an achievable goal. But also if I don’t find someone I’ll just sell the other ticket and go by myself and I’ll find my special person in college.

  • @azuxqueen
    @azuxqueen 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    congrats ken, your video finally seemed to hit the algorithm, i was happy when i was this on suggested with 14k views rather than the usual 3 digits.
    happy for you

  • @cr1pton1c
    @cr1pton1c 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    such beautiful message thanks mate it kinda made me feel slightly better

  • @brycewilson6942
    @brycewilson6942 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Fire vid bro!🔥 I wasn’t expecting this much wisdom and video quality 💎

  • @justindecelis5499
    @justindecelis5499 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Pretty much going through this right now and have had an errily similar reaction to the ending. I'm not religious but this video is still helpful for me. Thank you

  • @karimali9699
    @karimali9699 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    At end of the day we all need someone, I am dating and I have learned that these things just happen

  • @misterpotato4775
    @misterpotato4775 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Imo, it feels nice to know there's someone loving you but it isn't nice once you have that overthinking mindset and worried about them. I haven't watched the whole thing yet but this video feels like it's asking me deeply of I need a gf or not. I do have one atm but I feel like it's draining me mentally not physically. I can make time, I'll make 24 hour be 25 hour just for them. If I'm tired, I'll push myself even for a bit just to communicate with them. Maybe it's just a me problem. But at times I wish she could be with someone better cause I ain't better.
    This thinking might come to you. I'll rewatch it tomorrow whilst waiting for my car in the mechanic shop.

  • @PokemonFan123
    @PokemonFan123 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    God bless bro, love the vid

  • @torpedomeeuw5096
    @torpedomeeuw5096 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hey man, I've been thinking about the same thing lately. But I eventually found out that we should really just wait on God's timing. If you see 'the one', you will know for sure! That gave me a lot of peace of mind, hope it will for other people aswell

  • @_C.H.I.A
    @_C.H.I.A 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I also pray that the spirit of God fill every void in your heart causing loneliness

    • @kentjandra
      @kentjandra  29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      he is every day. I'm so grateful dawg.. the changes I've had in my heart this past month has been insane.

  • @LiamoLiamoLiamo
    @LiamoLiamoLiamo 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    short answer: nah

  • @jumber3251
    @jumber3251 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amazing video bro. It's not easy to admit what you have deep in your heart. Keep going man... sky is the limit. ❤️

  • @claygame1244
    @claygame1244 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you, just thank you.

  • @Abhi-wh3sy
    @Abhi-wh3sy 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    the background music is hard af

  • @DulVids
    @DulVids 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When I saw MAZUSHI I was like so suprised lol, Been following since late 2023 lol

  • @ilyasdas5406
    @ilyasdas5406 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    subhanallah, great video!

  • @taithanh258
    @taithanh258 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Bro pop out of no where and drop a fire vid 😭

  • @quaadii
    @quaadii 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks,
    I need this

  • @betolyimo9930
    @betolyimo9930 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    do you still do dropshipping?

  • @mudbain
    @mudbain 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    First.. man this hits hard

  • @mememos2246
    @mememos2246 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    damn so relatable

  • @Satyam.27
    @Satyam.27 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The aspect ratio of this video looks phenomenal on my iPad

    • @kentjandra
      @kentjandra  13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      4:3 is amazing

  • @jakobjoers7301
    @jakobjoers7301 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    At the first half you got me but lost me at the second half. But it is because i dont believe in god. But still very good video

    • @kentjandra
      @kentjandra  24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Jesus loves you more than you know

    • @axxel9626
      @axxel9626 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Romans 4:4-5❤

  • @pyroteknikk3127
    @pyroteknikk3127 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes

  • @economicblast
    @economicblast 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Subbed

  • @standleyyoung3865
    @standleyyoung3865 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    What the background at 2:40

    • @poleewag
      @poleewag 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      thats what im tryna find out im p sure its a kanye song idk

    • @Hirifx
      @Hirifx 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Count me out - kendrick lamar, im pretty sure

    • @Hirifx
      @Hirifx 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Beautiful song and video clip.

  • @Dredoc10
    @Dredoc10 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    comment for alg, good vid

  • @voidzmhm
    @voidzmhm 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    so lucky friend group

  • @justinlee4694
    @justinlee4694 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    this is really well made bro, i respect you a lot

  • @TheSupaLuna
    @TheSupaLuna 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Take a wife before you're 30 bro, but make sure you meet her in church. I wish you all the best.

  • @RetroLodge
    @RetroLodge 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    5:35

  • @ALRayaan-ALFahdi4353
    @ALRayaan-ALFahdi4353 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    try reading the Quran
    it worked for me

  • @Shaun_J
    @Shaun_J 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    At least you’ve lost your virginity. I turn 25 next year and I’m still a virgin

    • @kentjandra
      @kentjandra  20 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

      brother. it ain't a flex. i live in regret now. Jesus loves you.

    • @ShinyJarachi
      @ShinyJarachi 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Bro I'm 26 same as you

    • @meetverma4812
      @meetverma4812 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I don’t know how it matters ….?
      I am 21 and turning 22 in couple of months
      I believe it better it with your life partner rather than wasting energy with someone you know it won’t work out

    • @MagesitoYGO
      @MagesitoYGO 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I lost mine at 26 lol

    • @nonsensicalwebby1663
      @nonsensicalwebby1663 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kentjandrait’s not like any girl out here is a virgin. Imagine saving it, just so you can get some blown out, ran thru 304.
      W/0/men aren’t religious. They turn to God when they’re exhausted, and the devil no longer wants them.