Why Highly Sensitive People Feel Alienated: Understanding the 80/20 HSP Split.
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Discover the unique world of Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) and explore the profound 80/20 split that sets them apart from the majority. Delving into Dr. Elaine Aron's groundbreaking research, we uncover why HSPs often feel misunderstood and alienated in a society geared towards the non-sensitive. With an estimated 15-20% of the population experiencing the world with heightened sensitivity, the need for acceptance, understanding, and effective coping strategies has never been greater. We share practical tools and insightful strategies designed to help HSPs navigate their sensitivities, embrace their superpowers, and thrive in a world that can sometimes feel overwhelming. Join us on a journey of self-discovery, compassion, and empowerment as we illuminate the beauty and challenges of high sensitivity.
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00:00 🚫Being a Highly Sensitive Person is inherent and unchangeable, akin to physical characteristics.
01:06 🔢 HSPs are a minority, making up 15-20% of the population, experiencing the world distinctly.
02:53 💪 High Sensitivity is a superpower, with self-respect and management of its challenges crucial.
04:58 🧬 Highly Sensitive People are influenced by both nature and nurture, with environmental factors and trauma playing roles.
09:30 🔄 Sensory processing sensitivity demonstrates HSPs' deeper sensitivity to their environments.
13:08 ⚖️ Balancing sensitivity requires humility and an understanding to mitigate negative impacts.
32:46 ⏳ Downtime is essential for HSPs to recharge, with both introverted and extroverted HSPs needing breaks from stimulation.
35:23 🔄 Successful relationships for HSPs involve clear communication of their need for space to recharge.
38:29 🚦 Multitasking is challenging for HSPs, who excel in focused environments but may struggle with sensory overload.
41:20 📵 HSPs' engagement with media and activities is selective, balancing their sensitivity with interests like True Crime from a perspective of resilience.
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Highly sensitive people feel all emotions more deeply. They put their heart and soul into their relationships. They crave deep and meaningful connections, but finding those relationships are very difficult. Usually we attract narcissists and toxic people because we give so much… and We need a lots of time alone, that people just don’t get. We are over-thinkers and dreamers and most times feel like we just don’t fit in. 😞
Yes. And we can help ourselves remember we do, in fact, fit and the world needs our differences. Light and love to you and your depth.
@@EmotionalBadassI disagree. “They” are under-thinkers, slipping through life driven by half-understood impulses and instincts. Hell, a large portion of people can’t/don’t subvocalize.
Absolutely nailed it.
@@Vapourwearyes..well put
I screenshot your comment. I’m sure I’ll be reading it again……Many times.
What angers me is that the same people who judge and criticize me for being sensitive are the same people who come to me repeatedly for comfort and empathy, that is my sensitivity.
You have every right to name that and how that feels hypocritical. You can ask people, directly, to be more respecting of how you are different, deep, and thoughtful!
@@EmotionalBadassThank you so much. I appreciate you and just subscribed. All the best.
Lol, you are 100% right and I never thought about that. What they're really saying is "YOUR sensitivity is getting in the way of \MY intentions to have a one-way relationship with you!" Can definitely relate.
@@ultimateformulations Thanks so much.
Exactly! And…when you do step outside that ‘box’ (of your own accord) people complain about you changing or acting out of character. What!? When I was growing up I got told to stop being so sensitive- all the time. So, when I had kids, I never said it to them and backed them up when others said it to them. I would say : how dare you complain about a character trait that is caring, loving, empathetic to the needs of others when these are all positive. You wait for the day when you need people like us when you’re at your weakest and lowest. Grrr! Also agree about narcissistic types of sensitives. Their words seem empty and they don’t ‘really’ listen.
Sensitive people have trauma - just from the ‘state’ of being sensitive from picking up on other people’s trauma.
My report cards in elementary school frequently said " Bonnie is too sensitive". I am 68 yrs old and have tried to be less sensitive all my life. I hurt for others, I am "too affected" by tragic events, etc. Wonderful to finally accept my sensitivity. I recently quit a job because of the negativity. It is validating to know I did the right thing for myself because I am highly sensitive, I simply FEEL it and cannot block it. So, it is ok to take care of myself and not feel guilty because I cannot grow "thicker skin". So glad I found this channel!! I love to help others and animals. That is who I am, my purpose, and when I am the happiest. And, I am hypervigilant, startle easily too, lol!❤❤
I too am 68 and only 4 months ago started to think I may be HSP . I know I am now. It’s life changing.
I like your sensitivity Bonnie! I had a teacher insist one time that my real name was Nicole and it is not, I am a real Nikki--it was so hard to have a teacher telling me about myself while she was flat out WRONG. Your teachers were wrong! For the wrong people, we are too much. For the right people--we are the exact right amount! Light and love to you and I'm glad you found my work and HSP info! light and love!
Congratulations! Light and love to your sensitive self! Whoohooo!
I’m 68 years old too. I just found out I was highly sensitive about 9 years ago. Everybody thought there was something wrong with me or that I was acting like a baby or weak. I now stand up for myself.
Hey, I'm with all you guys. I'm HSP Empath. I've only just really understood and realized it.
I'm also INFJ, love and need plenty of quiet time. Don't like crowds. Love good company 2 or 3 people. Touch and hugs are best things. I don't suffer Alpha people really well. I've developed a Narco detector inside that works sometimes 😅.
I was born a HSP infj who grew up in a narcissistic household the scapegoat and didn't have access to the education I do now. I had to go through a lot before I was able to accept an love myself fully and unconditionally, I have boundaries and protect my energy.
Great job taking care of yourself!
Same here regarding growing up in a narcissistic household as the scapegoat. I am sorry to hear that it was also your experience. Happy to hear though that you are now able to accept and love yourself fully.
Same ❤
Infj….HSP ….
My autistic pattern recognition tells me = autism ….
Why am I wrong? May we all find peace& love one another with healthy boudaries 💜
Same story here. I wish I didn't have to go thru so much to get to this place of peace.
I wish I had known this in my child hood.I would have suuffered less but never too late to learn.I am a 63 year old dad and grand father,I grew up in an Amazigh fishing village in the south of Morocco .Nobody could understand me neither my family nor my surrounding. Whenever I saw injustice or violent actions,I just shed tears and my mates used to advise me ,saying "stop crying !You are a boy, not a girl!"
As you know ,in those tribes when a boy is called a girl it is an insult .....
Fortunately I have learnt english which realy opened my eyes and allowed me to see the world with my eyes wide open .Now ,I know the core of who I am and the platforms like this helps me grow learn more and suffer less
May God protect us all from all evil things/people especially from Pn and toxic people because we attrack them unwillingly...❤❤
You are a worthy man, a masculine man, and you also cry---don't ever let anyone make you feel like less of a man for your sensitivity. I hope you find the couple episodes of the podcast in the archives that are just for Highly Sensitive Men. Light and love to you and I'm glad you are you and I'm glad you are here
Yes me too (I wish I had known it in my childhood). Only now letting go of anger towards my mom for not helping me meet my (sensitive person/child) needs. She didn't mean to fail me but she did.
Ok. I’ll try to keep this short. I am a 58 year old man who never understood why I felt my emotions so strongly. Whether it be happiness, sadness or anger, I seemed to experience these emotions much stronger than other people. I hated it. I thought myself weak because I couldn’t (can’t) control it. I’ve only recently started to understand that this is who I am. I no longer feel ashamed about it but accept that it’s how I’m wired.
This video was exceptionally helpful to me. I kept waiting to hear something in it that I disagreed with but it never happened. I relate to 100% of everything you said. Thank you. ❤
I'm so glad you found my work! Thank you very very much for being here and for doing the work to love and accept yourself---you (and all of us) so very much deserve that. Light and love to you
I am HSP and I have just realized recently that my boyfriend is too (I think it is harder for men to acknowledge this and show) and that is why we connect so deeply. HE is very special, unfortunately he was also neglected in childhood as was I and became an alcoholic, thus we are separated while he is in treatment. I pray that no matter how this turns out, he is on the path to healing. I am in counseling and on the path of healing as well. (sorry if that is TMI)
This is so validating. It has taken me all of my adult life to figure these things out. I often try to imagine what pain I'd have avoided in my life if I'd known this stuff.
May presence bring you peace and ease. Thank you for being here
Yeahhhh.. it gives me some comfort to think it was for a reason. The pain suffering wasted time... gives us ability to help others? More appreciation of things once we are meeting our needs and living in alignment with our sensitivity?
I stopped fighting my sensitivity however I worked on truly embracing stoic philosophy of life which helps me a lot. Now, most of the time I care for the people and issues and animals but I don't let it stress me out or make me depressed. It's very difficult to learn such worldview for people like us tho, compared to most normal people I know.
Sensitivity and stoicism--like peanut butter and jelly! It is difficult but it does get easier and is key to not feeling victimized or bitter or create a too-small life, less than what we want or deserve. Good for you---keep going--it gets easier, promise!
As one who has also studied stoicism and worked on integrating those principles into my life and apply them to various situations, I agree-extremely challenging for HSPs. I’ve come far with accepting my high sensitivity but it’s hard. I get down on myself a lot; often feeling stupid and embarrassed by my reactions to people, including friends, etc. But I’m moving forward, and suppose that is the main thing.
Born hsp. I use to wish for “tougher skin” then I wouldn’t experience feelings so deeply but w/age comes wisdom. I embrace being an hsp today & understand myself better. Instead of wishing for tougher skin &/or wishing to numb my sensitivity I realize it’s a gift.
Cheers to the gifts!! Nice work on your part!
My momma said I came out of the womb as a highly sensitive child. Of course she tried to criticize it out of me. This was back in ‘78
I believe it! So many can say the same!
I'm a 70's baby too and mine used my sensitivity to make everyone go against me. She did an excellent job, I have no one now.
@@bumblebee_mrs oh sugar im so sorry 😞 Im still trying to find my tribe as well. Pretty lonely existence
@@Saritabanana Thank you so much and I'm so sorry to you as well. I'm in Australia and feel so isolated.
@@bumblebee_mrs I’m sending you a big ole virtual hug from Nashville! I hope to go to Australia one day. I love learning about fossils and geology and wildlife and wow you guys have some incredible species and fossils!
When I’m feeling really lonely I usually head out to nature. For fun I go to forests and walk in the creekbeds in my knee high rain boots (alone of course 😆 always alone) and search for fossils and rocks and take pictures of native plants. I feel less alone in nature and experience joy 🤩 A kind of joy i can’t find with other people. Oh! Also, I have bird feeders. I feed so many maybe 300 birds and a handful of squirrels! That also brings me joy. I just sit and take pictures of them and laugh at them doing funny things. I have the fattest squirrels in town 😆
Excellent, excellent podcast.
My family likes to shame me. Especially my alcoholic, narcissistic, bully, asshole sister.
And then some!
The best to you all!!!!!!!
Keep trying to survive everyone!!!!!!!
Thank you very much! Appreciate your kindness and positivity!!! Thank you for being here!
I told them same thing I can’t help it my parents made fun of me too
Don't give any reactions to your sister, that's the Narcissistic supply, from good or bad reactions. JazzyT, Scapegoat Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
@@bonnielizarraga7941I have learned alot about the Scapegoat child from Dr Jay Reid, it's interesting to see what was going on in the home,where I has memory loss from.JazzyT., Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
Imho assholes merit their own special code in the DSM-5. And then Big Pharma can find drugs that will turn them into HSP- just imagine the clever TV ads and drug names marketing could come up with :)
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Recently I had a memory come up of being a kid at my grandma's back in the 80's. She had cable with HBO, which was a big deal to me. I just remember the most overwhelming feeling of joy and excitement I had when the little HBO intro thing came on before the movie starts and wanting that moment to last forever. I always felt things so deeply, so simple things like that could absolutely fill me with joy, but the price I paid for that was the more stimulating things became overwhelming in a negative way. Hard to find the balance when you're living in a world that is built for less sensitive people.
Thank you so much for sharing! We have an old episode where we played sounds like that and the HBO sound was one of them but we were hit with all kinds of copyright issues and had to edit it heavily. I hope all of my content helps you find that balance--I call it finding the beauty over the burden in our sensitivity. Thank you very much for being here and sharing memories
I strongly recommend a book called, "The Spirituality of Imperfection".
Thank you--that sounds like a lovely book!
I am recovering from 16 years of narcissistic abuse. What you're saying resonates. Part of me has given up, another part wants to live. It is a struggle.
Ppl can get Ptsd after Narcissistic abuse,bcs it is so stressful, others even gets Fatigue and that's a total burn out,take your time to heal! There are many who helps survivors of Narcisstic abuse. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
@@user-jo9bt4gu5r Thank you
It may take a few years to clear your mind and gather strength. I was involved with someone for just four years and sometimes I feel I’m still processing their behavior. I continue seeking validation, I just found it so unfathomable that someone could be like that. It really woke me up also to realize my own true value. I hope the same works for you and I wish you the best of luck in recovering and getting your joy back! The little things in life that matter so much
I feel the world is a better place because of HSPs.
Same! We are needed!
Many of us HSP also married Narcissistic toxic people, Causing more trauma and PTSD.
Ppl who grew up with a Narcissistic mother, walks straight into the arms of a Narcissist, several times, that's the energy they knows. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
Resonates deeply… ambivert (mostly introverted) hsp who cries when I’m happy and when I’m sad… the suffering of humanity breaks my heart and the compassion of strangers heals it… I’ve been misdiagnosed with bipolar 2, adhd on the spectrum and never helped by any prescription drugs. There are supplements that have supported me way more.
I require tremendous downtime in order to show up for my patients or anyone else for that matter. I definitely find it a challenge to thrive let alone maneuver in our society. This is why I would prefer to limit interaction and isolate. Thank you for this content ❤
So very welcome--glad you are here and sharing yourself! Tremendous down time--yep, me, too. So many sensitives fight this need, shame themselves, instead of allowing and working to balance, recharge, and do our best while prioritizing rest.
❤❤ I have a similar experience been misdiagnosed with bipolar and medication only made me sick! I think it's a beautiful thing to cry tears of joy and show emotions.
I would love to know what supplements helped you, take care
I don't know if i am aspbergers type autism, hsp, cptsd,borderline personality, or something else, maybe all of it. I know I developed the borderline personality symptoms by age 14 and was diagnosed at that age. I know I was highly abnormally nervous and anxious around everyone outside close relatives from birth throughout childhood. I was shaking my hands as a stimming method from about age 5, while using my imagination, creating stories or movies in my mind. I was so easily traumatized and repeatedly abandoned by multiple people in every way that were in every significant role in my life. I was just in constant emotional pain my whole life. It didn't start to get relief until my 30's. My emotions are more toned down now, but I have so much shame and hate myself so much.
No need for labels and acronyms. So sick of it. I’m just me.
DBT is great, have you tried?
I can't stand listening to you, it's so sad.There are help to get for Bpd,Dr Judy Rosenberg says Borderline's are daughters and Scapegoat of a Narcissistic mother. Dr Sage, Dr Fox and Dr Ramani has video's about Bpd, there's 4 types. Get knowledge,Bpd gets easily stressed,so avoids getting to much into your day.I'm a Bpd,Dr Jay Reid has good videos about the Scapegoat child. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
You know I'm a 70-year-old man where was an intelligent woman like you to talk to me about me when I was young when I was a teenager when I went into the military when I got out so much of what you're saying would have helped me out so much but nobody was talking about what you're talking about I'm proud of you n this is good stuff thank you thank you very much
Daaang, I cried like 4 times during this haha ❤. This helps me to say “yeah” when people say “omg why are you so sensitive, just chill out.”
I sometimes think my name is "Too", because Im always too this or too that! Too sensitive, too emotional, too animated, too dramatic. Every word or thought I express is either marginalized or ignored. I sometimes will throw odd or foul words in the middle of a sentence to see if people are actually listening...lol. they are not. I dont want to be human anymore.
I'm "extra" too. It's a dang roller coaster of a life for those of us who are like this. I'm trying to learn to be better balanced and more mellow. I'm female so I try to channel Kim Kardashian when I'm out and about. 😄 Watching that show is actually comforting to me because they have a mellowness to them and not much fazes them.
Maybe there's a male equivalent for you to try to copy.
I think ive finally given up on trying to "fit in" and have normal relationships. idc anymore, and that is nice but also scarey. Am I surrendering?@@websurfer5772
Oh you poor thing! I empathize with your being thought of as “TOO”. Sensitive, emotional, animated, dramatic and I’ll add intense and being told I don’t fit in. I have often felt “stop the world, I wanna get off”. I have found others that are HSP and we have given each other so much comfort. If you are HSP , look and you will find them too.
You may lives with a Narcissist,they blames others for being too much,or delucional,too sensitive etc.,they needs a person to projects their own shame on.But if there's your thoughts, your probably highly sensitive. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
@@websurfer5772Be yourself because an original is worth more than a copy. JazzyT, Heyoka Empath.
It's weird to be highly sensitive but everyone loves to make you feel the exact opposite. Never understood why the discrepancy : (
It's like operating on different frequencies.
@@EmotionalBadassSelfish vs Good
Like we live in a parallel universe where only a few of us get it.
Your little bee is so cute!🤍 JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
Wow, this is so on point right now. It’s 2:15 am and I’m wide awake, stressed out of my
mind because my boss keeps changing and overloading my schedule with things that are seriously dis-regulating me. I’ve told her numerous times, and when I push back, she tells me this is part of my job… I can’t do this anymore. It’s hurting me and my employer won’t seem to grasp that.
I'm so glad you found my content---light and love to you. Sometimes, just having an exit plan, or giving yourself permission to being to make one can greatly reduce the current work stressor. You get to be in self respect even, and especially when, a boss (or anyone) dismisses your concerns. Light and love!
I’m so sorry this is happening. I hope you find a way out, and wish you all the best.
Start looking for another job. Do not complain to your boss, it will work against you.
sounds like it's not a good fit. Time to start looking around for something else
Start prioritizing and doing what you have time for. Do not worry about the rest or her reaction to the rest. When she complains point to what you've done and say you tried. She will tell you to try harder so nod and ignore. You will either get to it next or you won't. Worrying won't change that.@@EmotionalBadass
'Being born with....' can be trauma-based, too. Pregnancy and birth traumas are still highly non-understood and underrated.
Not so fun fact: For man a common strategy is to apear aggressive.
Slight fear creates body tension, wich turns off the "radios"
Ever come across a man who seems agressive, but close friends discribes him as a man with a huge heart?
Ever heard of biker clubs showing up at schools in support of kids getting bullied?
For a lot of us men it is defnitly not a superpower , but a curse.
Only in close friendships can we express ourselfs.
Please continue your work.
That is definitely frustrating to be in such an environment with high pressure like that
For a male HSP, indeed, it is delusional to think of HSP as a "superpower" - HSP is a curse with small dimensions of it being a blessing. PLEASE don't try to spin it as such for a video that is intended for HSP's of both sexes. I don't (and can't) try to hide being an HSP. I'm nearly 60, so have, by necessity, accepted it. However, batting up against the wall of socialized expectations for males time and time again in terms of dating, work, and socializing is sheer hell, and is an utterly crippling handicap when dating. Its OK for women to be sensitive and have sensitivities seriously considered and accounted for when addressing partner needs within a relationship. For males to express HSP related needs within a relationship, it kills off attraction that women may otherwise have. I'm not unattractive (over 6', in shape, decent finances, etc), with lots of outside interests and like myself, but I get little opposite sex interest beyond friendship.
@@Paul-um1zw , i had similiar experiences. I understand were the strong words are coming from. Both male and female experiences are valid. But i think it is very difficult to express them at the same time.
@@ghibilibibili3080 i got the feeling you missed the point. Paul-um1zw comment explains it better, i think. There is room for female Hsp, for male Hsp not so much.
You're describing my life in the military. Looking back, I was a total prick.
I’m an indigo child and I’ve always known I was dropped off on the wrong planet
I have a Indigo Child daughter/ they are Starseed's as myself,a bumpy ride with a Scorpio daughter and Libra mom(Scorpio rising). JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
aren't we all :D
Finally, someone understands me. I’m in tears listening to this , it is like a healing balm to know I’m not crazy or worthless.
I'm so happy you found my content. If this resonated with you--I have so much more for you to dive into. Tons of free content and you are invited to the next Emotional Strength Training: 30 Days to Peace that starts in a few days on the 1st of the month. Code BADASS if you want to join and get a discount. No hassling emails or pressure sales. Just offerings for people who resonate. You are not crazy and you have never been worthless. So much healing is real and available. Light and love to you.
to me being an empath is about being affected by everything around us , is about picking up energies from other people, and earth energies !! geopathic stress EMFS , atmospheres and other dimensional beings , dead people .and being targeted as well!! I isolate myself to a great extant to have a more peaceful life
Yes! Like we are emotional weathervanes or finely gauging measuring instruments that sense everything there is to sense within an environment with the fauna and flora. I think mental health, as a field, has not done well to differentiate healthy withdrawal from stimuli with a hurtful or dysfunctional isolation when reaching out for support and connection would help. This is a glaring distinction for most HSPs but in the field of mental health it is often not seen as a coping strategy and made into a depression criteria.
Yes in my life I have suffered from depression and delibarate energtic interference it s to prevent people like us from reaching our true psychic potential. But I understood this was taking place . some people talk about implants and other narfarious instruments to energetically pin us down . . .
Ghost's are terribly cold... They thinks ppl with light are the light,and that they shall goes towards it.I lend it over to God when it shows up,of course it get removed. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
@@scuukumImplants are connected to Mind Control,as Gangstalkers uses in the Gangstalking harassment program, Joshua's Three Faces, is the Memoir of a guy who's Gangstalked, under mind control and has voice's to skull.The book is interesting and can be downloaded for free.I have been Gangstalked for 25 years in Europe. Targeted Justice helps TI's, goes to lawsuits etc.,I thinks they are going to shut down the No Toutch Torture program that 8 Million innocent people worldwide lives under, picked from the Terrorist Watch It's proven that FBI and CIA are involved in Gangstalking, and known that many cops is in it, too.Googles Targeted Individuals Handbook and Gangstalkers manual,it tells what Gangstalkers do to the target.Many of the ones who are Gangstalked has told they where the Scapegoat child in their household as a child,too. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's, Heyoka Empath.
It was the Terrorist Watch List,a word fell out,my phone are hacked. JazzyT.
I feel so understood and accepted right now, thank you so much, I really needed this today.
What riles me up is when something hits me deeply and I get an off the cuff " oh get Over it ! Quit being so Sensitive ! Quit beating yourself Up !" from some of the people around me
I just worked a system to flee my narcissistic ex husband without going to court … because somehow everything in me told me not to.. and you just gave me the relief to why .. because yes.. I am right.. the victim shouldn’t suffer .. the perpetrator should suffer .. or no one.. but you know.. why if I was abused.. have to be taken completely apart, when I have been taken all apart before ,, during the abuse .. I deserve healing and peace
Great post. The justice system abused me too. I was my honest, credible, good self. I was very helpful too. Maybe being myself, an empathetic HSP hurt me in my divorce from the narcissist who thinks he is the victim.
It’s only been very recently that I’ve learned anything about being HSP. I’m 64 years old and I’ve spent my whole life being judged and criticized for my being “too sensitive.” I’ve also had a ton of people coming to me for help in times of need. I had a quad bypass in 2007, a terrible work situation, my granddaughter died in 2020 from a drug overdose and my soul puppy died in his sleep at my feet in 2022. My ability to help others has been shattered and I’ve desperately needed help and support from those around me. Not one of them was willing to help. I’m dealing with deep depression anxiety and thoughts of suicide. My son and husband just look at me like I’m crazy and offer little to no help. I called a “friend” from work the day my granddaughter died and he said “your whining isn’t going to help anything.” I ask myself over and over why all the people I’ve bent over backwards helping won’t offer me any help now that I need it??? I get it but truly?? I don’t get it at all. These are ALL people that I’ve helped over and over. Seriously??? It’s such a terrifying realization that they just don’t care.
Sometimes we have to shake off life like a gazelle that barely escapes the lion. Sometimes we have to show up as our own white night. I hope you find my content on fighting victim mentality and lean into empowering your evolution away from hurt and depression and toward light, self love, forward motion, and thriving. Light and love to you
I understand how that feels. Iam sorry for your hurt.
Sending you a big hug ❤ I am sorry for your pain and loss .. you have an angel always With you 🙏🩵
I am so sorry to hear you are going through that. I haven't had as a tragic event, but I felt completely alone like you, and was belittled after I asked for help so much when my internal resilience was at it's lowest, as if I was entitled, and all I did before was just a fault, and I shouldn't have done it in the first place, and then I wouldn't be in this situation. Essentially, I shouldn't have given what I expected now in a much lesser form from people, because even that was asking too much, as if it was entitled.
Incredibly painful.
While this wont help your situation fully, what might help a little is knowing that you have to manage your forces and learn that, because your body has its limits, and that you need other people you can share with what your soul needs. Besides the intense pain these realizations cause, when you have recovered a bit, make it a priority to seek people who give you that emotional care you need, without telling yourself you have to compromise or be so tough until it reaches a breaking point again. It's really hard to overcome and feel lonely, and I don't really have the answer as I feel similar. But I wish you to not lose hope and learn to find ways to identify people who are more compatible.
It seems my reply is not showing, but I was trying to be supportive and saying how to not give up. Finding more people who will validate and reciprocate in the way you need, while at the same time not overextending yourself so you don't regret the energy you put into people while neglecting yourself.
What's considered "normal" is not actually well/sound/based and what is pathologized or stigmatized is actually what is needed
Not sure I understand the meaning of this comment. For sure what is now normal is not necessarily healthy
@@EmotionalBadassThe sane is considered insane or extreme because common people are extremely selfish.
Wow 😮 thank you!
59, cptsd and today this old learning this about myself 💕
My oldest client ever was 79! That's awesome you are open. If you resonate with my material, I often say that 'Seekers' are into my work, and it makes me wonder if you are? Light and love and thank you for commenting--it helps work the algorithms and gets us suggested to more and more people. Thank you so very much for being out there listening and continuing to grow!
You aren’t alone. I am 40 and have CPTSD, I’m in college for the first time and thankful for anyone that understands.
@@Rebecca0010 Good for you! & yes, so thankful for the understanding! 💕 Best of wishes for you on your journey! Rise Phoenix Rise ❤️
Do we all have cptsd as well?? I hate being highly sensitive 😢
@@hummingbird4934 I am no professional but have learned that repeated abusive relationships since childhood can cause cptsd. 💕
I will most definitely hire her as a therapist when I am financially able to do so. I feel like she'll be the only one who will be really able to understand me, I'll be free to be myself.
Feeling the environment around me is overwhelming, specially living and growing up in and highly aggressive and traumatic household.
Today I understand everything and I'm kinda 95% healed, which is great.
But having someone to really talk about these things freely would be incredible!
Thank you so much! And I hope you all have the most amazing day today!
Hi! I have a waiting list you can sign up for and you also don't have to wait to learn and grow with me. I intentionally make my courses cost effective. Use code BADASS to save 30% on my website to join next months Emotional Strength Training: 30 Days to Peace. Peace is the missing practice that helps us heal our nervous system, our overthinking minds, etc. We get to have big peace muscles for this life! Light and love to you and hope all my free content helps you out, too. Keep up the work and it will heal and grow you--it is inevitable! Thank you for sharing yourself here.
14:17 I hate when people say “you can’t lie to an empath.” Man you totally can! Just because you feel energy doesn’t always mean you understand it and when someone is trying to be deceptive, that can absolutely create a lot of confusion- especially if you’re a person who feels guilt or shame when believing negative things about others, even in your mind. Or when you *want* to believe what your being told or who is telling you. Empaths can totally be lied to, fooled, etc. idk if it’s just me but I also have ADHD and sometimes I’m completely oblivious rather than tuned in. Sometimes I project my own desires or feelings, one of the biggest issues I have is knowing who’s feelings belong to who. So it can depend on how invested I am. I might better be able to read someone that I don’t have a personal attachment to. Being an empath is much more complex than just being able to “read people’s minds,” or “know everything people are thinking or feeling.” With ADHD, sometimes it’s like 10 TVs on all at once, and with being an empath it can be another 10 TVs on.. or maybe more. Not everyone who is an empath is good at fine tuning it.
I"m not sure how to respond because it sounds like you are putting a stake in 'it's hard to fine tune' and that's just not a useful perspective to me? The task I've chosen for myself is to work on fine tuning--is there any good reason not to work on this no matter how hard it is?
I have tried to be vegan or vegetarian off and on for 20 years or so (since childhood). I am now on a high protein type diet and feeling much better. I loved this video and excited to hear more from you! ❤
Thanks for sharing!! Love high protein whooohooo! Thank you for being here and like the content
HSP Empath, INFJ, all of the above. Thats me.
Love you all. 😍
Whoooohooo let's hear it for all the INFJs (yep, me, too!)
Ozi Lady here, HSP and INFJ too.
@@bumblebee_mrs Do you sting much....😁
@@OziBlokeTimGI do to people who give me smart-ass comments...lol!!!
ozi here too.. same!
I feel intense positive and negative feelings. I'm highly sensitive insecure .fear of abandonment. alienated .I hate myself. I'm codependent with everyone around me, i get with narcissistic women that treat me like crap and on top of that, I'm a man, and all of these traits are stigmatised unless ure a woman.😅😮😢😢😢😢
You really can grow past all of that--hope you find the rest of my content and it helps you figure out what it is to love yourself.
Jesus Christ helps too
@@DaddyWarbucksunlimitedJesus Christ is king ❤
I have tried many times to take SSRIs, SNRIs, and other meds to help with my anxiety, depression, etc. Could never tolerate them. I have been exhausted all of my life. Probably from being in flight or fight all of my life and being overwhelmed by life and work and living in constant fear. I could sleep 18 hours a day.
I'm really not sure, in the end, if anyone tolerates them well, tbh. I think it's just the sensitive people who show an immediate struggle or strong bodily conflict. Hope my content and work help you have peace. If you are on my mailing list, an invitation to my course Emotional Strength Training: 30 Days to Peace is about to go out--another group moves through the course starting on the 1st of the month. We can practice peace after a lifetime of accidentally practicing stress or anxiety. Thank you for being out there listening
Have you tried a LOW dose Med ?
Do you workout ? The gym was always my church. I could do a lot of cardio, toning and stretching, sitting in the sauna for an hour and walk out feeling like a million dollars.
You are truly an emotional badass! ❤ All of us Empaths are! Thanks for being an authentic voice and a leader 💜 you are changing the world by raising awareness about Empaths / HSPs!! And inspiring me to do the same ❤❤ bless you
Such a kind and encouraging comment--thank you for being here! Blessing received!!
Been asking myself for a long time “ What’s wrong with me ? “ in regards to being so sensitive . Broke open all the way after my first dog died . It’s unraveled since then . There have been times I thought I might go insane from witnessing brutality.
Now at 53 I spend most my time learning to build and protect myself. But 5 decades of addiction coping , abusive relationships and human toxin intake has taken a deep toll . A four year relationship with a highly co dependent person ( I met her after she was with a narc for three years) .. My second dog died and she discarded me. I faced evil and I fell into a deep dark night . I looked for answers for 30 years … yet this understanding your talking about eluded me.
So now I work very hard in my HS and try , when I can help other “ bright lights “ understand what they are dealing with .
Onward Brave Hearts … we deserve kind and clear connections. We deserve each other and our own internal and eternal love .
This was EXCELLENT! Made me sob, in a good way. (Validation, understanding) You are an excellent speaker. No word whiskers, excellent use of pausing, giving your listener a moment to let it sink in. 3-4 months ago I found out about HSP through my therapist. I fought it at first feeling I was being haughty thinking I was HSP. (Very abusive childhood) Slowly I am getting past that. Learning about HSP is a life changer. Thank you for contributing to that. ❤
You are so very welcome! It's ok that it takes some time to take in---we've had a lifetime of almost opposite thinking. Light and love to you!
@@EmotionalBadass Back at ya my dear. 💖
Crikey woman! That is the best video on being highly sensitive that I've ever watched. Thank you so much... I now have even more dots joined and more confidence after listening to your grounded and empowering clarity on all of this. ❤
I don't regret my lessons. They have brought me to right here right now. I am grateful to have learned all I have learned. I now possess my own path and compass. I am the captain. I am if infinite worth and value in this world. So too are all of us.
I don't regret my lessons either. Wouldn't relive it, but don't wish to go back in time and change it---being at peace has taken a lot of work, and it really has been worth it. Thank you for commenting and being out there listening
This has been such an incredibly helpful set of framings. Thank you so much!
You're so welcome! And thank you for commenting--it helps our channel grow and get suggested to more people. Thank you, sincerely!
Thankyou for sharing your incredible insights.
I recently took an abusive institution an held them accountable .
Yes it was exhausting but I made it to the other side .
An I won
Don't give up it was the best thing I have ever done an the hardest.
I wish you all the strength in the world, love Louise 💙
Good for you, Louise!! Way to never give up!!! Thank you for being here and for the encouragement--greatly appreciated!
The biggest challenge is getting enough time alone. In my relationships my partners always feel rejected, in my friendships I find too much continuous companionship frazzles me, with social events and family gatherings I am often the first to want to escape. Sometimes I feel like a solitary life would be easier but I love company and am also a high sensation seeker. I feel like I am either off or on, my sensitivity makes me great at socialising but only for short bursts. I almost need to enter every situation with a badge staying 'I might disappear at any moment, don't be alarmed, it's not you it's me!'.
WOW! Thank you so much! I‘m sending you warm wishes from Germany 🙋🏼
Thank you too! Raised by my German Grandmother and it's where my work ethic comes from. Warm wishes very much received, thank you so very much! Light and love back to you
It makes me smile, that there is a little german blood running through your veins! …thanks to your grandma …and thank you for your kind words and wishes. Take good care! ❤&🕯 to you, too! Caro
I am definitely a highly sensitive individual that has a lot of problems trying to cope with this world as it relates to what you are highly sensitive individuals it can be very frustrating and very difficult for us
Coping doesn't really fall out of the sky--there is so much that we can learn in the realm of coping, resiliency, and thriving that can help us navigate what's wonky about life and relating to others. Hope my channel resonates and helps, light and love, N
Thank you for this. I wonder if HSP are better at working with occultism as a form of therapy than 'normies'. You mention 'superpower', but I would just extend that into 'supernatural powers'. Again thank you for the support here.
You are highly intelligent. Thank you for bringing things into perspective. You actually get this. keep doing what you do.. You are needed.
I appreciate that! Light and love to you!
I just want you to know how insightful I find you… and how important the self acceptance that you are talking about has been to my healing processes in my life. I appreciate you. Love and respect to you for all that you do and all that you are. ❤
You are so welcome--thank you for being out there listening, and working on yourself. I appreciate your kindness and seeing me--light and love
'Good day...I am the ambassador of my own sensitivity'.....I like it....
a lovely introduction
your delivery is stunning. I have never ever heard anyone bringing things up in the way you do. I also, just realized I am an HSP, this all makes so much sense. Thank you.
Thank you so much and welcome aboard the HSP train!
I can't believe that you had to go through that. I'm so sorry. It should not have happened. 😢
I was beat on until I went into shock. Then dragged into a shower and drowned with cold water.
😢
I really connected with your story ❤
You helped me so much by sharing your story.
Thanks for being vulnerable ❤
Bless you 🎉
I receive that blessing with great gratitude--thank you for listening and helping me make purpose and pay forward my hard earned wisdom. I'm sorry that happened to you and that this is what allowed for us to meet----may you, me, and all of us create the peace we have always been worthy of. Light and love to you
Hi, just found your channel today. Really needed to hear all of this even though I know most of it by now (did a crash course on YT).
I hated being the scapegoat, felt so isolating, discarded and disregarded. I am an ambivert as well.
Light and love to you! Glad to have you here! I just want to say to be kind to yourself--their is a mental 'knowing' and then their is a deeper knowing, a 'body/heart knowledge' or another way to think about it is we know things consciously and it takes a while before we know subconsciously. We are reprogramming and don't change because we hear something once, we change when we integrate that knowledge into our being. I've needed to hear certain things sometimes hundreds of times--repetition here is a win, not ever a fail.
This is me, my entire life, I needed this.
Amazing video. You speak so well on this topic and I love how you share personal disclosure. Thank you very much for putting so much work into this and sharing it with us for free. You got a new subscriber :) Love yall sensitive family.
You are so welcome! That was so sweet----very happy to have you here.
I always have thinking I was born with such keen intuition and observing skills or I was been made that way, and I think it's like both
I think that's right! I believe we are born and made, too!
Wow, I have watched this 3 times now! I have not found a site that has explained it quite as beautifully as you have! I am a self-taught introvert HSP, and you describe me to a T! I also commented on here recently. ❤
Thank you so so much--so glad my work is resonating with you! Thank you for being here
My husband was given this video to understand me better. He said it helped as he listened to it today!
I love that! Yay!
ahh the way her voice cracked at the end, the tears started falling from my eyes. THANK YOU FOR BEING A VOICE!! the world needs more health professionals like you who truly understand hsp. I am so grateful for my therapist who made me aware of it. this made me realize I in survival mode for years and now I truly step into my powers. ❤
Sending so much light and love your way. I think we cry when our innerchild feels seen and heard--they are tears of relief and relating--sometimes I am overcome with the beauty of relating. Thank you for witnessing my emotion and allowing the possibility of the ideas I present. Please send a thank you to your therapist. Light and love
Listen to yourself. That’s the way for everything in life. No need of anything else.
You know what it's like to be 70 years old and haven't lived through what I've lived through and listen to you it's so it's I can't even explain what it feels like you know I want to drop and kiss your feet and say thank you somebody finally understand
Hi. I am pleased to have found your channel today. I am an highly sensitive extrovert who is high sensation seeking, so basically 🦄. I believe that that particular combination is a really strong source of supply for narcissists, and because of the high sensation seeking element, I have found, that maybe people like me have a tendency to walk into it over and over and over again, especially if we have been shamed into thinking that there's something wrong with the internal responses that we're having to things. I have come to realize that over the course of my more than five decades of life.
This is the first video of yours that I've watched and I'm looking forward to hearing more. Thanks.
Oh I'm so glad you found my channel. I hope you have fun listening--I'm not for everyone but may be for you! Take what works for you and leave the rest. I love helping people never ever fall into it again--you are exactly right! I've jokingly said our blood is sweeter for the energy vampires hahaha. thank you for commenting
❤ thank you so much for making this identified most of your message. Thank you for your content.
You are so welcome! Thank you for being out there watching!
Thank you so much. Everything you said I could relate with.
Great talk !!
glad you showed up on my page ❤ this helps me so much with understanding myself ❤😢😊
Self care is also realizing that what you feel, is not always yours. Best to go when you start to feel some overwhelming negativity…even just to check if it’s yours or not. Clairsentience can be very confusing.
Spot on! Thank you for sharing this!
Thankyou so much.I was feeling so low today as I get told off by people around me as I am so sensitive since childhood. They call it drama I create by over reacting, being happy on seeing a smiling baby, looking at the flowers and leaves,feeling others pain.I am resonating with you.
I feel most of us are smart enough, with enough life experience to recognize those who are unhealthy for us without requiring psychology to make a diagnoses and determination for us. Eventually we also have the wisdom to size up who to keep at bay and who to trust. I know psychology can be helpful especially for the power of recognition. Re-hashing our stories can only take us so far. I have a friend whose daughter is a psychologist. My friend often tells her what I share and then the psychologist daughter apparently knows all about me without ever having had a conversation beyond initial social hellos. Then i hear thru the grapevine from other friends how the daughter has basically diagnosed me as 'running away'. She has no idea about my rich inner worlds , how i conscientiously feel into my depths and the joys that have. It's very real and i dont require a healer or psychologist to tell me whether my path is beneficial. I feel there can be pretention to discern in psychology and it can take us a distance but can only take us so far. I now know that i can still have the friendship but to be more superficial about what i share.
It both seems like you are down on psychology and also here learning and listening to a mental health professional, a bit of mixed bag. No healthy mental health practitioner makes determinations for clients, rather, offers ideas, perspectives, options for a client to come to their own determinations and conclusions. Sorry if you have had run ins with with professionals who aren't very healthy, grounded, helpful, or wise
Thank you so much, after 45 years i think i just started to understand my self, so much appreciated ❤
You're so welcome! Thank you for being kind to yourself and for being here commenting--it really helps us grow. Light and love to you!
You articulate things very well. This is very helpful. Thank-you.
You're very welcome! Thank you for being out there listening
Wow! i so glad that i came across this channel ,another step forward in me overstaning my self instead of understanding my self as an HSP thank you ..
Sarcasm just reads as hurt fyi.
Wow, you are so beautiful inside and out. This is the first video I've watched of yours and you really made me feel so much understanding and compassion for myself. You almost made me cry a few times thinking of the baby's sweet eyes and you tearing up at the end for us to remember our perspective matters, my inner world and dreams are so rich and thanku for reminding me that is special. I get depressed easily and I'm learning alot about myself and I absolutely deserve so much happiness. I love u and sending love to all!
Love received!! Thank you so much for commenting, for being out there in the world listening to what I'm trying to put out there and working on loving yourself. You do deserve so much happiness! Love and light backatcha--Sincerely, N
Respect! You are really doing the work and helping others. Very inspiring 🙏🏾💚🍀
I appreciate that--thank you for seeing me. Light and love
I really struggle at work too learning new things and my coworkers get frustrated. I just get blocked. It's like all of the words blend together. You're amazing for talking about this. I'm sorry for the abuse you endured as a kid. Thanks for sharing. I felt very validated by your words.
You are so welcome--thank you for your kindness and acknowledgment. I hope my content continues to help you. Light and love
I like your backdrop.
Yes, it is lovely, uplifting, and soothing. 🌻😎🌻
Just found you. I think this was the most powerful and resonant video I have ever heard. Thank you. Absolutely amazing!
that is quite the compliment---I put my all into my work---thank you so much and I am thrilled to resonate!
Wow. Thank you. First time I've heard about this channel and just bawled my eyes out listening to you describe me to a "T". Like so many comments here - I'm just learning this at the age of 57 Years old and hating myself and deep sensitivity my entire life. So heartbreaking to spend a lifetime not wanting to be here and feeling alienated. Yeah - bubble baths are nice but hardly the sort of self-love my inner child needs. Side comment - just found the lion diet and boy has it helped ground and calm me down tremendously - quite a surprise. Going to find you on Patreon now. Huge gratitude to you 🙏
Sending you a huge hug! So glad you found my work and it's resonating!! Welcome, welcome--so happy to have you! Also--I love the lion diet!!! Good for you!
Thank you for your video. It explained so much about who I am. It validated my experiences as being normal and even desirable. I am a survivor of trauma; this happened when I was four-years-old. From that age onwards, I became a lover of Opera. I studied Italian to understand it and my appreciation for it only increased. I can’t stand noise or unpredictable sounds, which make me anxious and angry, at times. I believe that this is one of the reasons why I abhor dogs. Their shrill barking is especially annoying and menacing to me. I always thought I was uncontrollable when I jumped when they barked because some of my siblings would be very annoyed at me. After I watched your video, I gave myself the respect I didn’t have from them, and from others. I also allowed myself to respect this feeling. Thank you for your enlightenment. I needed that…
What a self respect win! I"m so glad you are here--thank you for sharing yourself!
You described me exactly. I have an inner knowing of when a person is authentic. I sense energy when negative or positive. I have a highly sensitive sense if smell. I hear words people say but deny saying. I see details others do not. I love deeply, hurt deeply, forgive when a person is remorseful. I am working on when they are not. I am artistic and love to be creative. I need solitude like a marathon runner needs water. It is life to me.
I have experienced betrayal that nearly took me out emotionally. Loss that left me numb for months. I listen to you and read other comments and take a deep breath knowing I am not alone. That in itself is so comforting. Being understood is empowering. Thank you!!!❤
The tools are what I am needing to navigate this person I was born. I am not ashamed of who I created to be. God does not make mistakes. It is the world that places our beauty and distinctive personalities a threat to deception ❤
Thank you for such a beautiful share!
I’m so appreciate you to put together this video, answering a lots of questions. 50 years waiting for this. God is blessing you !
You are so welcome! Thank you for commenting and helping us grow!
That was really informative. Thank you 😊 🙏
You’re welcome 😊
I needed this . Thank you!
You're so welcome!
Thank you, this was so affirming and beautiful
You are so welcome! Thank you for commenting--it helps our channel grow. Glad you found us.
Thank you for describing the HSP perfectly and honestly. It gives me hope that one day others will better understand us.
So very welcome--I very much hope for that, too. Light and love to you and thank you for being out there watching and listening
❤I AM SO GRATEFUL TO HAVE FOUND YOU!!!!!!❤
Equally happy to connect! I"m not for everyone but when w click we click
Well, wow. I just came out of a relationship with a covert narcissist. I was caught off guard and then it was too late. I have been trying to inform myself as to what happened, and with whom. I am reeling from the experience. This video feels like it was made for me.
WoW, thank you. I have always been told by multiple people, not to be so sensitive. And the judgment,..... Now I know why,.. they aren't like us. WoW. Glad I found your channel.
Hey just found your channel, really good stuff, thank you
Hey, thanks! Very very welcome--thank you for being here and thank you for commenting!
I am TOTALLY BLOWN AWAY BY THIS INFORMATION!!!!! I won't be able to express in words the pandora of emotions( a flood gate) good, bad, sad, excited, grief, regret, freedom, anger....well I'm sure you understand. 61 years later all the answers to the questions I never could get through to anyone, ever( and it about killed me trying) but never more grateful, humbled and blessed that this won't cross over to my next life. Pretty sure you just saved my life!❤❤ thank you doesn't even come close. I have to do something, anything to help people like us!!!!! I'm overwhelmed with feeling of wanting to scream this info from the mountain tops. I can't believe I survived the horrible horrific life I was born into BUT I DID!!!!! YAY!!! I MADE IT. This episode was the cherry on top. I now know what to do. Get every bit of information from trained, licensed therapy from the correct professionals for my unique and complex, awesome and beautiful HIGHLY SENSITIVE SOUL THAT IM PROUD TO BE NOW THANKS TO YOU DEAR ONE! NAMASTE' ❤❤❤
Funny, said I wouldn't be able to express how I feel. See, right there is all telling....gotta love it. I do😊❤
Awwww! Light and love to you! Thank you so very much for being here and for sharing yourself. I am thrilled to know how much my work helped you--and yes, you are beautifully expressive! Seriously--thank you, commenting and sharing are helping our channel grow and find more people. You are helping me live my purpose--sending you a hug! Light and love!
I was born highly sensitive then was subjected to repeated trauma. My sensory disorder is Misophonia. ( noise disorder) Empath and retired massage therapist. Thank you fr this podcast that really hit home fr me ❤
So very welcome and may you have peace
This resonates!!!! Thank you! ♥️
You are so welcome!
Thank you for your wisdom, earnestness, kindness and empowering life message.
You are so welcome! Thank you for being out there listening and for being here
I signed up on patroon and for your 30 day Peace program yesterday ❤️
I am sensitive guy. I’ve tried not to be but I can’t seem to help it in the way I can with other behaviours.
I feel emotions intensely. The beauty or intensity of the world and peoples emotions around me. I get upset on other peoples behalf. As gentle as my soul may be, I also have an angry and aggressive side to me, which is founded on vulnerability, which I’ve made a lot of progress with. Never physical, but my verbal violence can slit people’s throats. Disproportionate reactions etc.
Feeling like you’re the only person who feels the way you do can be alienating and makes you question whether your stance/feelings/response is valid.
I’ve been more open about my sensitivity with people. I think it comes with plenty of benefits, despite the hardships. II have made efforts to accept that it is a part of who I am. I work in the music industry and use my acute ear as my primary toolset in my role. My sensitivity and ADHD aid my work.
I am learning all of this off the back of a devastating experience with a toxic, emotionally unavailable person who may not have been a narcissist, but had a laundry list of narcissistic tendencies and behaviours. It’s torn me up pretty good. 14 months later, I’ve made many positive changes. People around me are proud of my evolution, for digging deep and doing the work, but the rumination, circular thinking and the loss of someone I loved is something I’m struggling to shake. It’s incredibly difficult and people struggle to relate. I have psychotherapy every week but it doesn’t seem to be helping. I’m not sure if I need more guidance or structure but “trying to figure it out” and getting nowhere, week in, week out is getting me nowhere and I’m begging to grow increasingly concerned. I knew it would take a long time but I’d have hoped to be further along in this process than I am. It feels like it happened last week.
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I'm glad you are here. I want you to know it's a right thing to talk to your therapist that you don't feel like you are moving forward. Good therapists know they can't click with everyone or help everyone and either something can change in how you are working together or you might need a different therapist and that is super ok. It does get better but it certainly doesn't feel like it will til it does----never give up on you and you will get there, inevitably. Hope the rest of my work helps support you
I feel seen and understood - thank-you!
This is ONE OF THE BEST EXPLANATION I HAVE EVER HEARD! YOUR COMMUNICATION WAS PERFECT. EXPLAINING ALL THE DETAILS BUT IN A EASY TO UNDERSTAND WAY! I WILL SHARE THIS WITH AS MANY PEOPLE AS I CAN. I THINK YOU. Will HAVE A BIG IMPACT ON A LOT OF PEOPLE. Ty.😊 Another one of my favorite people who explains it so well is Imi Lo - Eggshell therapy. Thank you for taking the time to share this!
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So very welcome! Thank you for sharing my work--appreciate it to the moon and back! Light and love!
EMOTIONAL BADASS… that’s EPIC! 😅
I needed this. Thank you so much. ❤
I’m an INFJ - HSP with a good self-esteem. I am very empathetic and narcissists in my life (thankfully not living with me), hurt me deeply. Trying to find ways to cope with extended family members who I occasionally am with.
Hi fellow INFJ! You are so very welcome and I'm glad you are here! Thank you for sharing yourself!
Showing sensitivity has only ever got me attacked like the runt of the litter
You encapsulated it right here. I think the larger percentage is sensitive, not a smaller number as the video seems to imply. Anyway, it’s the fear of rejection by extending yourself that keeps people sensitive. It’s common as hell. Just walk out the door and see how a “hello” is all you’ll get from most neighbors, if that.
Yeah they attack because they confuse sensitivity with weakness. They believe that out of feelings is being strong . They mostly hold us as stupid . Never mind about . Just let them jailed with all of their believes, i am getting tired any way of all of their non senses.