I was guilt tripped by emotional thinking and other family members who insisted that we had a ‘duty’ to ‘look after’ our ageing family narc if their spouse dies. The penny dropped when I realised that this was because none of them wanted to have to do so! Got out. Stayed out. Now listen to your material to maintain resolve.
I ended up being the empath to care for our narc father during the time he died, not aware that my other siblings were narcs. I did it by default because I was newly single after divorcing my narc husband of 25 years not knowing he was a narc, feeling emotionally spent, in dire need of therapy, but had no time to tend to myself as my Dad was thrown in my life! 😢😮😢I was guilted into it.
This is so relatable. I had this happen on a professional level earlier, where I was compelled to cancel a subscription service by filing a dispute through my bank. The platform did not deliver services during month 1 so I deleted my account and all information (including billing) as a way to cancel, since there was no contact email, and the website doesn’t have a cancellation feature. Well then today I got a call from the CEO asking me to cancel my dispute because it’s going to affect the company’s “5star ratings”. He demanded I should have called him to request cancellation and then I realized I was dealing with a narc. It’s like saying that it’s common knowledge to call Elon Musk’s personal cell if we want to cancel our Twitter account!! 🤣
Reality is that we are only responsible for our own health and life ( unless you have a under age child). • we are not responsible for the narcissist • we owe the narcissist and their enablers nothing
Hello, H.G. I'm a normal. My partner brutally discarded me but wanted to remain friends. Keep me on the shelf like a broken down toaster, but I said NO, and I walked away. Downgrading our relationship was in insult. I went no contact. He underestimated me. I said, okay to the break up. He desperately tried to back peddle, but he pushed me too far. He didn't just burn the bridge, he liquified it. You see, he thought I wouldn't be able to live without him. But I had boundaries. Surprise! I am an emotional thinker. Sometimes I really hate that about myself. I guess you can say I'm co-dependent in many ways. I put his needs before my own. I was a low hanging fruit, fresh and juicy for the picking. He knew it. The perfect caregiver, a people fixer. He loved it, what narcissist wouldn't? He hurt me so badly, but at least I now know what I am, thanks to you. I also know what he is. A narcissist, a liar and a cheat. I will never see him again. Now I can work on myself.
This is me right now. It hurt but you know it doesn’t get better. The narc i dealt with soda he believes everyone is pathetic without him and he told me so. Best to get out and stay out. It’s just hard thinking they’re good because you see some good. But it’s an illusion.
Within the first 60 seconds one must realize that this man knows more about himself than 99% of everyone else on Earth. His wisdom is priceless. He sounds like Lucifer, but he is a gift from God. I got my soul back from a narcissist because of the PhD I have earned over the last 3 years learning from him. 🙏
I've been listening to your videos for several years. When the X narcissistic husband died in December, I was so relieved. After the divorce, he moved in with his friend across the street from me! Talk about stalking! I owned my house outright, and moving wasn't an option. He wasn't bothering me or threatening me in a direct way. Legally, there was nothing I could do! It did put me on edge! So, when he kicked the bucket, I bought a bottle of champagne 🍾 and had a party! Now, I'm not fearful of leaving my house! Thank you, HG, for all of your hard work putting these videos together!
Thank you HG for the amount of content you put out at no cost. You are the only narcissist I want in my life! I wish I could operate on a daily basis with such logic like you. Must make life sooo much easier!
It took me 1 1/2 years, and now I am at a point where I can say my life has never been better. I am calm, happy, relaxed, I laugh a lot ... and cold hard logic is my best friend! I make smart decisions all the time :D The knowledge vault material has helped me tremendously, worth every penny. Thank you HG for helping me get my life back
Such a good reminder. I know that it's possible to underestimate the impact of emotional thinking and that many empaths convince themselves that they can manage low level contact with the narcissist - I have considered such an option myself in the past, but can see how much my mental and emotional well-being stabilizes in a situation of total no contact where possible.
YES! Can't stress this enough. I see mine, unfortunately, at work every once in a while. I blocked him on my phone and all social media. Yet when he hoovers (haven't experienced a malign one so far), my emotional thinking goes through the roof! No way I can ever let him contact me again and I will try to fire grenades as much as possible - he especially dislikes when someone is better than him, so I will invent men in my life. 🤣 Eternally grateful to HG Tudor for all his work!
Yes once you learn how to control your emotions and not react. I just ended a relationship..I thought he was a empath but after a few months and observing him I saw the signs and listened to my intuition. Trust your gut
I now observe my emotional thinking and then replace it with logical/critical thinking; I engage my emotional thinking for creative projects like song writing and writing.
It takes time to get off the high emotions after a toxic discard, only time can lessen. sometimes something you see or read triggers those feelings again, but its short-lived.
I've realized that this is at the heart of my problem when it comes to narcissists, as well as other people. I'm really diving into knowing all about this now thanks to H. G.
I can highly recommend your consultation HG, you are extremely professional, polite and approachable, it is with your support and expert advice that I was finally able to move forward positively and never look back. You have given me strength again and I cannot thank you enough. Sending you love and fuel ❤❤❤
I had the same thing happen to me. I was still technically “married” to the narcissist, who fooled a psychologist and when I googled his name, I found out he died. I literally did a happy dance and proceeded to let my daughter know. Karma at its finest 😅 I even get his old age pension for sacrifices rendered. Wish HG was available years ago. This was in the 90’s and I could have saved so much heartache but the world is blessed to have all this info HG freely provides us! The upcoming generations have this knowledge and it’s up to us to ensure they know where to turn, hopefully before ensnarement but better late than never. Thanks HG ❤️🇨🇦
She came back professing “healing.” I said “cool, what’s your strategy for conflict resolution.?” She gave all the right answers. Upon the first conflict nothing she has said came into play….she held a grudge over an elementarily simple issue, which was of course twisted into something it wasn’t (gaslighting) and of course she held onto it for the next 6 weeks.🤣 Well obviously she failed the test, and just as obvious the fact that there was no healing.
What am I? I have emotional thinking but I’m also fucking resolved to make shit make sense. My dad taught me that my emotions are a precursor to the main event, which is actually what he called thinking “straight” My emotions are not allowed 🚫 to override my logic. My emotions will not be used against me. My father the first narc in my life gave me my first lessons on how to shut them off. I cry at the drop of a hat but my tears are often a reminder of what not to do. My dad would let me cry, and then he’d talk to me, he’d ask me to talk about why I was crying. So when I was faced with the malignant Senator I didn’t know he was a narc, but I was repelled at first, it took him 2 years to get me😂but when he tried to implement the devaluation stage, and shelve me, something clicked! I was like this feels incorrect, no one gets to treat me this way, then I thought 💭 think Anne, what’s wrong with this picture? It wasn’t like I was being fooled, I teach this shit, I’m a counselor turned nurse recently sublimation! I see my thoughts, I analyze shit. It felt off AND IT DID NOT MAKE SENSE! Why was he shouting🤌🏽🤣I thought, ok Anne, he’s toxic AND CHEAP😂And so I broke it off and blocked him, he’s been blocked for weeks now. After all that, I figured this fatso is a narc, and I must be a special empath 🎉or narc myself🤣🤣🤣🤣 I told him I was seeing someone else bcuz he was inadequate, he immediately asked to “come see me” I actually LAUGHED. And asked him if I looked that dumb. I feel a certain immunity from the narc. I told him only enough to manipulate the narrative in my favor. Am I a dark empath, super empath, contagion, who knows? All I know is I’m not confused or weakened by his bullshit, I am actually amused. I have no desire to continue his charade, narcs are one ☝🏽 trick ponies! He’s no match for my box 📦 of delights! 😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉I’m ok 👍🏽
Imagine a Narcissist actually helping so many victims?...reading H.G.'s book "Escape the Narcissist" saved my daughter's life from an absolute monster...so thankful for all the information..it "broke the spell" ...
It's nesecery for me to spilt between the emotional thinking , which has benifits when out in nature , as both birds and insects don't take fright when alighting on , or within touching distance . Then it's back to "lockdown" , on heading home , to be surrounded by narcs , all are lower lesser type B , cadre unknown , except all induldge in gossip , wether true or not , and the women who run the garden , appear to not know what they're doing , as one ( who had "aunt flo " visiting) went into the garden , and within 2 days all of the vines had to be pulled , as all got blighted with powdery mildew . This action took at least 2 crops off the vines , reduced the tomatoe crop by over 50% . This year's effort isn't any Better , as all seeds etc were planted late , by most of the Gardner's , one of whom will not tolerate flowers in the garden , even when the tubers are eadible , to help insects to pollinate the plants that do need them . Tried to help , but as the efforts were wasted , stopped having anything to do with the " women's vege garden" .
I need this right now. There's so much going on and I'm like a sponge mopping it all up. Sometimes I want to shut myself in a dark room away from everything. It's not relating to a narcissist this time, it's emotional thinking in general. Taking on others problems and feelings. It's not even asked of me, it's me that's the problem. It's exhausting.
The narcissist in my family doesn’t bother with gifts, but does say to everyone ‘you’re always going on what you feel like, it’s not about your feelings…’
Trust me they are all the same. When you realise this, you see the truth. That the narcissist is more or less just a computer/drone, acting to get control and supply. There is nothing more to them. They don’t have a personality. You are not alone
Listened a second time as there is an attempt to reeling me back in. A family member who at one point discarded me, my children & grandchildren like trash. My whole family then joined in; I was a pariah in my own family for many years for calling abuse abuse. I have reason to believe the fuel supply is diminished for this old NARC. I think the flying monkeys have become disenchanted. Because it is an elderly parent my emotions begin to override my logic & experience. I vowed to myself I would not be the adult child who suffers the abuses of an aging NARC parent & I won't. Just a few short years ago they were all having so much fun, devaluing, smearing, discarding. Now the head of the pack finds themselves old, alone, isolated feeling sorry for themselves & seeking more fuel. But we have created our own family w/o any of them & we are happier & healthier for it & they will not be allowed back in, especially the old one, everything we have built, all the healing that has taken place will be destroyed & for what. Thank you HG, I need the reminders.
The power went off on my phone momentarily. Yes, I'm emotional but so is most empaths. He is still trying to reach me, and it's hard, because I'm tempted to listen to his music. But then I would get sucked back in.
Lol. That's what I was thinking crack open the 🍾! That's happened to me, I have completely switched off. He is of my radar and thank god! He kept me through fear...wow, how that keeps you stuck and making stupid mistakes. You're ok HG and very right about alot of things abd I don't listen to many people...
I noticed in "Spare" that Haz refers to incessant texting with Hazwife2B. He actually sounds weary in the book. She was monopolizing his time and at the same cutting short her dates with him because she "has plans" to meet someone else later. Spider, clever web-spinning spider.
Most of my emotional thinking has been trained out of me. And my life has improved. Thank you for your content. It is very valuable and helpful 🙂 you have helped me feel better 😊
I really needed this today HG! I broke my no contact after 3 weeks with my Narcissist male. A BitterSweet deal that leaves me feeling elated and deflated !! ❤from Dallas TX
Excellent video, HG. Emotional thinking can be quite difficult to understand at the start of the journey of using and applying HG's work because of the unresolved past issues because of the narcissistic influences from various sources. I nearly gave up trying to understand ET because I found dealing with past traumas too painful but I forced myself through it. The returns of doing this journey far out-weigh staying stuck in the past. Thank you for that 💟💟
Great audio Mr Tudor. To add, I believe it's important to set early boundaries with whomever one is with..if it turns out you're with a narcissist, they HATE boundaries..the disengagement will come sooner rather than later. And the sooner you know, the sooner you can make the effort to escape and make no contact.
HG, I have been consuming all of your videos. Your books that are incredibly affordable and highly informative. I have been transformed mentally through study. Unfortunately, I am having a very hard time processing the fact someone can have NPD and become aware. I care about my ex wife very much to now have the knowledge she is living unaware of what she is dealing with, is crushing my progress. I am not sad for my lose of her, or the years I spent unaware of what I am and what she is. I just cant come to terms with how I feel I am letting her live unaware. I wont be taking any action and following your road map to healing. Thank you for your work. Keep lowering your emotional thinking people.
Mr Tudor! I am wondering if there are differences with the Narcissist or Psychopath noted on a CT scan or MRI? I’ve been listening to you for some time but I haven’t heard you mention medical imaging. Thank you for sharing your analysis. Kind regards. Alison.
I'm not a scientist but I was watching a UK criminal psychologist whose done a few series of his own on famous serial killers & been on dozens of True Crime shows . He said psych studies involving brain scans found Psychopaths need extreme stimuli to feel anything at all. The brain scans showed their reactions to images others find hugely upsetting are minimal if at all.
You can't get over a relationship with a narcissist and protect yourself going forward if you don't fully understand the concept of Emotional Thinking. It's critical to success. No other expert on narcissism provides this knowledge and understanding, only HG. Understanding narcissism is only 50% of the puzzle, people have to grasp the concept of ET too. Learn to spot it, learn to reduce it, achieve complete freedom from the narcissist.
Thank you HG. I think the lesser has psycopathy the hoovers lack empathy completely. Another totally useful video as I am ghosted and shelved yet again. The book fuel is amazing. I have to buy more books in future. I can vouch for HG. Last January when this happened through my birthday in February I felt I couldn't go on. Now it's much better and easier to avoid him.
Damn! Now I might have to chase off another one of my son's girlfriend hard to do when he's states away. I told him about that other girl that entrapped him when she got pregnant and his son which is 8 years old now, rather be with him than her got her out of the picture and now he's seeing someone else which he has been out of a relationship for a long time and he met this new girl and she's already wanting to move in and they've been seeing each other for 2 months. Then I tried telling him that the mother of his child is a narcissist but he not hearing that right now. When I told him that the mother of his child is a narcissist at first he agreed with me then when I explain what a narcissist and how they are with their children he second-guessing me. My son is an empath he has very deep emotions but a very strong-willed man. Help!
I’ve been told my emotional thinking was very low by my psychologist, hence why my exes used to think I had no feelings and would try to take advantage of this. Did bad stuff and were surprised if I reacted unfavorably. Isn’t it a risk too?
HG. Please answer my question. Can someone who is a family member who was very close and loving become a narcissist because of money?????? Please HG. I truly need your advice.
I was guilt tripped by emotional thinking and other family members who insisted that we had a ‘duty’ to ‘look after’ our ageing family narc if their spouse dies. The penny dropped when I realised that this was because none of them wanted to have to do so! Got out. Stayed out. Now listen to your material to maintain resolve.
I ended up being the empath to care for our narc father during the time he died, not aware that my other siblings were narcs. I did it by default because I was newly single after divorcing my narc husband of 25 years not knowing he was a narc, feeling emotionally spent, in dire need of therapy, but had no time to tend to myself as my Dad was thrown in my life! 😢😮😢I was guilted into it.
This is so relatable. I had this happen on a professional level earlier, where I was compelled to cancel a subscription service by filing a dispute through my bank. The platform did not deliver services during month 1 so I deleted my account and all information (including billing) as a way to cancel, since there was no contact email, and the website doesn’t have a cancellation feature. Well then today I got a call from the CEO asking me to cancel my dispute because it’s going to affect the company’s “5star ratings”. He demanded I should have called him to request cancellation and then I realized I was dealing with a narc. It’s like saying that it’s common knowledge to call Elon Musk’s personal cell if we want to cancel our Twitter account!! 🤣
Reality is that we are only responsible for our own health and life ( unless you have a under age child).
• we are not responsible for the narcissist
• we owe the narcissist and their enablers nothing
Sounds like other family members may have been narcissists as well.
Hello, H.G. I'm a normal. My partner brutally discarded me but wanted to remain friends. Keep me on the shelf like a broken down toaster, but I said NO, and I walked away. Downgrading our relationship was in insult. I went no contact. He underestimated me. I said, okay to the break up. He desperately tried to back peddle, but he pushed me too far. He didn't just burn the bridge, he liquified it. You see, he thought I wouldn't be able to live without him. But I had boundaries. Surprise! I am an emotional thinker. Sometimes I really hate that about myself. I guess you can say I'm co-dependent in many ways. I put his needs before my own. I was a low hanging fruit, fresh and juicy for the picking. He knew it. The perfect caregiver, a people fixer. He loved it, what narcissist wouldn't? He hurt me so badly, but at least I now know what I am, thanks to you. I also know what he is. A narcissist, a liar and a cheat. I will never see him again. Now I can work on myself.
👏 I’m proud of you ❤
This is me right now. It hurt but you know it doesn’t get better. The narc i dealt with soda he believes everyone is pathetic without him and he told me so.
Best to get out and stay out. It’s just hard thinking they’re good because you see some good. But it’s an illusion.
Within the first 60 seconds one must realize that this man knows more about himself than 99% of everyone else on Earth. His wisdom is priceless. He sounds like Lucifer, but he is a gift from God. I got my soul back from a narcissist because of the PhD I have earned over the last 3 years learning from him. 🙏
I've been listening to your videos for several years. When the X narcissistic husband died in December, I was so relieved. After the divorce, he moved in with his friend across the street from me! Talk about stalking! I owned my house outright, and moving wasn't an option. He wasn't bothering me or threatening me in a direct way. Legally, there was nothing I could do! It did put me on edge! So, when he kicked the bucket, I bought a bottle of champagne 🍾 and had a party! Now, I'm not fearful of leaving my house! Thank you, HG, for all of your hard work putting these videos together!
Thank you HG for the amount of content you put out at no cost. You are the only narcissist I want in my life! I wish I could operate on a daily basis with such logic like you. Must make life sooo much easier!
I'm sure there are trade-offs in other areas.
Ah yes ; the RED FLAGS.
I wish I had know what they meant $65,000.00 dollars ago.
Thanks HG
I’ll recognize them now.
money comes and goes, you can earn that back but regaining and maintaining your physical and mental health is of paramount importance
Yep. $50,000 dollars ago.😢
His brother was a accomplice.
I see it now.
my strong logic defeated my emotional thinking and attachment to that narcissist I was ready to marry.
Out her dodging bullets like neo 🕴️
It’s like a reinforcement Tudor treatment- I need to hear these to remind me of where I was- and how far I have come!!! Thanks @HG Tudor
I had an emotional morning when I discovered some heartbreaking news about my narc ex. This video had incredible timing!
It took me 1 1/2 years, and now I am at a point where I can say my life has never been better. I am calm, happy, relaxed, I laugh a lot ... and cold hard logic is my best friend! I make smart decisions all the time :D
The knowledge vault material has helped me tremendously, worth every penny.
Thank you HG for helping me get my life back
Such a good reminder. I know that it's possible to underestimate the impact of emotional thinking and that many empaths convince themselves that they can manage low level contact with the narcissist - I have considered such an option myself in the past, but can see how much my mental and emotional well-being stabilizes in a situation of total no contact where possible.
YES! Can't stress this enough. I see mine, unfortunately, at work every once in a while. I blocked him on my phone and all social media. Yet when he hoovers (haven't experienced a malign one so far), my emotional thinking goes through the roof! No way I can ever let him contact me again and I will try to fire grenades as much as possible - he especially dislikes when someone is better than him, so I will invent men in my life. 🤣 Eternally grateful to HG Tudor for all his work!
Yes once you learn how to control your emotions and not react. I just ended a relationship..I thought he was a empath but after a few months and observing him I saw the signs and listened to my intuition. Trust your gut
I now observe my emotional thinking and then replace it with logical/critical thinking; I engage my emotional thinking for creative projects like song writing and writing.
This is GOLDEN. Self aware
It takes time to get off the high emotions after a toxic discard, only time can lessen. sometimes something you see or read triggers those feelings again, but its short-lived.
I've realized that this is at the heart of my problem when it comes to narcissists, as well as other people. I'm really diving into knowing all about this now thanks to H. G.
This is THE most important way to stop the pain but also the HARDEST.
Really helpful.
Thanks HG.
Thanks for this excellent and informative reminder, HG.
I can highly recommend your consultation HG, you are extremely professional, polite and approachable, it is with your support and expert advice that I was finally able to move forward positively and never look back. You have given me strength again and I cannot thank you enough. Sending you love and fuel ❤❤❤
Thank you Carole
Another one of your best you tube videos!!
I had the same thing happen to me. I was still technically “married” to the narcissist, who fooled a psychologist and when I googled his name, I found out he died. I literally did a happy dance and proceeded to let my daughter know. Karma at its finest 😅 I even get his old age pension for sacrifices rendered. Wish HG was available years ago. This was in the 90’s and I could have saved so much heartache but the world is blessed to have all this info HG freely provides us! The upcoming generations have this knowledge and it’s up to us to ensure they know where to turn, hopefully before ensnarement but better late than never. Thanks HG ❤️🇨🇦
She came back professing “healing.”
I said “cool, what’s your strategy for conflict resolution.?”
She gave all the right answers.
Upon the first conflict nothing she has said came into play….she held a grudge over an elementarily simple issue, which was of course twisted into something it wasn’t (gaslighting) and of course she held onto it for the next 6 weeks.🤣
Well obviously she failed the test, and just as obvious the fact that there was no healing.
What am I? I have emotional thinking but I’m also fucking resolved to make shit make sense. My dad taught me that my emotions are a precursor to the main event, which is actually what he called thinking “straight” My emotions are not allowed 🚫 to override my logic. My emotions will not be used against me. My father the first narc in my life gave me my first lessons on how to shut them off. I cry at the drop of a hat but my tears are often a reminder of what not to do. My dad would let me cry, and then he’d talk to me, he’d ask me to talk about why I was crying.
So when I was faced with the malignant Senator I didn’t know he was a narc, but I was repelled at first, it took him 2 years to get me😂but when he tried to implement the devaluation stage, and shelve me, something clicked! I was like this feels incorrect, no one gets to treat me this way, then I thought 💭 think Anne, what’s wrong with this picture? It wasn’t like I was being fooled, I teach this shit, I’m a counselor turned nurse recently sublimation! I see my thoughts, I analyze shit. It felt off AND IT DID NOT MAKE SENSE! Why was he shouting🤌🏽🤣I thought, ok Anne, he’s toxic AND CHEAP😂And so I broke it off and blocked him, he’s been blocked for weeks now. After all that, I figured this fatso is a narc, and I must be a special empath 🎉or narc myself🤣🤣🤣🤣 I told him I was seeing someone else bcuz he was inadequate, he immediately asked to “come see me” I actually LAUGHED. And asked him if I looked that dumb. I feel a certain immunity from the narc. I told him only enough to manipulate the narrative in my favor. Am I a dark empath, super empath, contagion, who knows? All I know is I’m not confused or weakened by his bullshit, I am actually amused. I have no desire to continue his charade, narcs are one ☝🏽 trick ponies! He’s no match for my box 📦 of delights! 😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉I’m ok 👍🏽
Imagine a Narcissist actually helping so many victims?...reading H.G.'s book "Escape the Narcissist" saved my daughter's life from an absolute monster...so thankful for all the information..it "broke the spell" ...
I can never be warned enough. 😅
Such clarity and knowledge keep up the good work HG
This is so Important to hear, how different life could have been if I had discovered your work long before I stumbled across it. Thankyou HG. ❤️🌻
It's nesecery for me to spilt between the emotional thinking , which has benifits when out in nature , as both birds and insects don't take fright when alighting on , or within touching distance .
Then it's back to "lockdown" , on heading home , to be surrounded by narcs , all are lower lesser type B , cadre unknown , except all induldge in gossip , wether true or not , and the women who run the garden , appear to not know what they're doing , as one ( who had "aunt flo " visiting) went into the garden , and within 2 days all of the vines had to be pulled , as all got blighted with powdery mildew . This action took at least 2 crops off the vines , reduced the tomatoe crop by over 50% .
This year's effort isn't any Better , as all seeds etc were planted late , by most of the Gardner's , one of whom will not tolerate flowers in the garden , even when the tubers are eadible , to help insects to pollinate the plants that do need them .
Tried to help , but as the efforts were wasted , stopped having anything to do with the " women's vege garden" .
The enforced and required attendance of certain family events. “Don’t do it for x, but do it for y”.
No more.
It is a really good information HG!
Number 3 video liked.
I need this right now. There's so much going on and I'm like a sponge mopping it all up. Sometimes I want to shut myself in a dark room away from everything. It's not relating to a narcissist this time, it's emotional thinking in general. Taking on others problems and feelings. It's not even asked of me, it's me that's the problem. It's exhausting.
Fantastic and very important must watch video HG !!!✨✨✨✨✨✨
The narcissist in my family doesn’t bother with gifts, but does say to everyone ‘you’re always going on what you feel like, it’s not about your feelings…’
Trust me they are all the same. When you realise this, you see the truth.
That the narcissist is more or less just a computer/drone, acting to get control and supply. There is nothing more to them. They don’t have a personality.
You are not alone
Listened a second time as there is an attempt to reeling me back in. A family member who at one point discarded me, my children & grandchildren like trash. My whole family then joined in; I was a pariah in my own family for many years for calling abuse abuse. I have reason to believe the fuel supply is diminished for this old NARC. I think the flying monkeys have become disenchanted. Because it is an elderly parent my emotions begin to override my logic & experience. I vowed to myself I would not be the adult child who suffers the abuses of an aging NARC parent & I won't. Just a few short years ago they were all having so much fun, devaluing, smearing, discarding. Now the head of the pack finds themselves old, alone, isolated feeling sorry for themselves & seeking more fuel. But we have created our own family w/o any of them & we are happier & healthier for it & they will not be allowed back in, especially the old one, everything we have built, all the healing that has taken place will be destroyed & for what. Thank you HG, I need the reminders.
The power went off on my phone momentarily.
Yes, I'm emotional but so is most empaths.
He is still trying to reach me, and it's hard, because I'm tempted to listen to his music.
But then I would get sucked back in.
It's almost impossible for me to do the No Contact regime when he is also on the youtube all the time too.
Thank you HG
Brilliant advice, thank you
This is the pep talk, I needed. Thank you.
I only wish that he had done all those things for me.
Thankyou HG…life changing advice 😊
Lol. That's what I was thinking crack open the 🍾! That's happened to me, I have completely switched off. He is of my radar and thank god! He kept me through fear...wow, how that keeps you stuck and making stupid mistakes. You're ok HG and very right about alot of things abd I don't listen to many people...
Once again you set our priorities straight. Thank you for teaching us .
I noticed in "Spare" that Haz refers to incessant texting with Hazwife2B. He actually sounds weary in the book. She was monopolizing his time and at the same cutting short her dates with him because she "has plans" to meet someone else later. Spider, clever web-spinning spider.
Thanks for this. Lots of thoughts on several levels.
I needed to remember this
Most of my emotional thinking has been trained out of me. And my life has improved. Thank you for your content. It is very valuable and helpful 🙂 you have helped me feel better 😊
Thanks, HG. This is very helpful.
I really needed this today HG! I broke my no contact after 3 weeks with my Narcissist male.
A BitterSweet deal that leaves me feeling elated and deflated !!
❤from Dallas TX
Thank you . I needed to hear this today x
Excellent class
Excellent video, HG. Emotional thinking can be quite difficult to understand at the start of the journey of using and applying HG's work because of the unresolved past issues because of the narcissistic influences from various sources. I nearly gave up trying to understand ET because I found dealing with past traumas too painful but I forced myself through it. The returns of doing this journey far out-weigh staying stuck in the past. Thank you for that 💟💟
I wish the king wd read this!
Thanks for your enlightening wisdom. However alien to the core of my being.
FANTASTIC
Thanks HG.
One of his most important videos to watch.
For the algorithm as per your request .
Legit points and examples.
Loving and appreciating your body of work, HG.
Great audio Mr Tudor.
To add, I believe it's important to set early boundaries with whomever one is with..if it turns out you're with a narcissist, they HATE boundaries..the disengagement will come sooner rather than later.
And the sooner you know, the sooner you can make the effort to escape and make no contact.
Ahh to be free ......
Good video.
Thanks
HG is nothing short of a genius when it comes to the subject. His work works.
Thanks Q.
HG, I have been consuming all of your videos. Your books that are incredibly affordable and highly informative. I have been transformed mentally through study. Unfortunately, I am having a very hard time processing the fact someone can have NPD and become aware. I care about my ex wife very much to now have the knowledge she is living unaware of what she is dealing with, is crushing my progress. I am not sad for my lose of her, or the years I spent unaware of what I am and what she is. I just cant come to terms with how I feel I am letting her live unaware. I wont be taking any action and following your road map to healing. Thank you for your work. Keep lowering your emotional thinking people.
Very interesting.
Thank you HG, this has been very useful
Thanks for this HG. Really needed to hear it
What about sociopaths?
Mr Tudor! I am wondering if there are differences with the Narcissist or Psychopath noted on a CT scan or MRI? I’ve been listening to you for some time but I haven’t heard you mention medical imaging. Thank you for sharing your analysis. Kind regards. Alison.
I'm not a scientist but I was watching a UK criminal psychologist whose done a few series of his own on famous serial killers & been on dozens of True Crime shows . He said psych studies involving brain scans found Psychopaths need extreme stimuli to feel anything at all. The brain scans showed their reactions to images others find hugely upsetting are minimal if at all.
You can't get over a relationship with a narcissist and protect yourself going forward if you don't fully understand the concept of Emotional Thinking. It's critical to success. No other expert on narcissism provides this knowledge and understanding, only HG. Understanding narcissism is only 50% of the puzzle, people have to grasp the concept of ET too. Learn to spot it, learn to reduce it, achieve complete freedom from the narcissist.
Thank you again HG!
Thank you HG. I think the lesser has psycopathy the hoovers lack empathy completely. Another totally useful video as I am ghosted and shelved yet again. The book fuel is amazing. I have to buy more books in future. I can vouch for HG. Last January when this happened through my birthday in February I felt I couldn't go on. Now it's much better and easier to avoid him.
Thank You.
Very useful HG, thank you
Good job I only have you to think about XX
Cheers!
Damn! Now I might have to chase off another one of my son's girlfriend hard to do when he's states away. I told him about that other girl that entrapped him when she got pregnant and his son which is 8 years old now, rather be with him than her got her out of the picture and now he's seeing someone else which he has been out of a relationship for a long time and he met this new girl and she's already wanting to move in and they've been seeing each other for 2 months. Then I tried telling him that the mother of his child is a narcissist but he not hearing that right now. When I told him that the mother of his child is a narcissist at first he agreed with me then when I explain what a narcissist and how they are with their children he second-guessing me. My son is an empath he has very deep emotions but a very strong-willed man. Help!
I’ve been told my emotional thinking was very low by my psychologist, hence why my exes used to think I had no feelings and would try to take advantage of this. Did bad stuff and were surprised if I reacted unfavorably. Isn’t it a risk too?
But, once you spot the narcissist and rebuff him, won’t he be annoyed and try even harder to ensnare you?
HG.
Please answer my question.
Can someone who is a family member who was very close and loving become a narcissist because of money??????
Please HG. I truly need your advice.
They can’t.
Narcissism starts only in childhood
Eradication of ‘emotional thinking’ sounds like a ‘Dr Spock approach’.
Does this make you a Volcan?
Live long and prosper.
G1👍
Excellent video.
Thank you.